Fullständig transkription av Parent Like a Leader

00:04:54.399 So, yeah. 00:04:54.399 --> 00:04:57.199 So I'm gonna let you just kind of take it from here. 00:04:57.439 --> 00:05:01.519 And that's a like that's a universal why, you know. 00:05:01.519 --> 00:05:06.079 Like, I have my personal whys, everybody it might be thinking now. 00:05:06.079 --> 00:05:10.240 Your listeners might be thinking, like, oh, why would I want to do that? 00:05:10.240 --> 00:05:23.920 But that really is like we are creating the future, and so we that would that should be a societal, and I you know, I dare I used the word should. 00:05:23.920 --> 00:05:35.519 I don't you I'm not usually a should girl, but that's our future, and we have to keep that part in the conversation, yeah. 00:05:35.519 --> 00:05:36.879 Yeah, we just do. 00:05:37.680 --> 00:05:52.319 Okay, so all right, so I think I think just making our first point that um you know, being intentional with how we lead at home, creating that culture, having a mission and vision, a common goal for the family is a good thing. 00:05:52.319 --> 00:05:54.000 So I think we've made our point with that. 00:05:54.000 --> 00:06:01.279 So um I can see the yeah buts because you know that's my job as a coach, like to deal with all the yeah buts. 00:06:01.279 --> 00:06:05.040 And one of the main yeah buts that might come out is is it too late? 00:06:05.040 --> 00:06:07.759 Is it too late to start? 00:06:07.759 --> 00:06:14.240 Um, especially like if your kids are a little bit older or maybe they're going through terrible teens, you know, or they're moved out already. 00:06:14.240 --> 00:06:16.000 Like, let's talk about that. 00:06:16.240 --> 00:06:18.399 Yeah, and that actually comes up a lot. 00:06:18.399 --> 00:06:20.079 So I'm glad you brought that up. 00:06:20.079 --> 00:06:22.480 I'm of the belief it's never too late. 00:06:22.480 --> 00:06:25.680 The conversation is a little bit different, right? 00:06:25.680 --> 00:06:31.600 So if you've got kids that have long gone, mine have long gone as well. 00:06:31.600 --> 00:06:36.319 We're just gonna have different kinds of conversations. 00:06:36.319 --> 00:06:38.800 Maybe it's more about boundaries. 00:06:38.800 --> 00:06:51.839 Like I'm not in their lives with time management or priority management anymore, but I certainly want to understand what my role is in this stage of life. 00:06:51.839 --> 00:06:57.040 So that's where I love courageous conversations, right? 00:06:57.040 --> 00:07:13.279 I have a daughter-in-law that will tell me, has on a number of occasions, I love you as a mother-in-law because I can say I can share boundaries with you, and you don't love me any less. 00:07:13.279 --> 00:07:15.920 That's my job, right? 00:07:15.920 --> 00:07:16.480 Right? 00:07:16.480 --> 00:07:19.920 Yeah, to respect them as the people that they are. 00:07:19.920 --> 00:07:22.639 So our jobs change all the time. 00:07:22.639 --> 00:07:33.199 They have to, but don't they also, when you've got young kids at home as well, you know, a five-year-old is not a 10-year-old, is not a 15-year-old, is not a 20, 30, 40. 00:07:33.199 --> 00:07:36.720 And so that's our job is to always be paying attention. 00:07:36.720 --> 00:07:38.800 We can't fall asleep at the wheel. 00:07:39.040 --> 00:07:39.360 Right. 00:07:39.360 --> 00:07:40.399 Absolutely. 00:07:40.399 --> 00:07:45.439 And, you know, also just to bring it back to the parallel of the organization. 00:07:45.439 --> 00:07:56.319 If any listener has ever worked in an organization and someone is like all on top of you and how you're supposed to do it and do it now, and do it this way, and you're like, give me some space, right? 00:07:56.319 --> 00:08:00.319 We can, you know, like trust me, let me figure it out. 00:08:00.319 --> 00:08:01.759 I'll get there, right? 00:08:01.759 --> 00:08:11.040 There's an element as a parent that and a leader in our own family that we need to be doing the same thing, even with the five-year-olds and the 10-year-olds and the 15-year-olds. 00:08:11.040 --> 00:08:15.680 And um Especially when, especially as they get Especially when. 00:08:15.680 --> 00:08:16.240 Yes. 00:08:16.240 --> 00:08:17.839 How else will they learn? 00:08:17.839 --> 00:08:19.120 How else will they learn? 00:08:19.120 --> 00:08:28.160 We need to let them fail and the stakes are small, or else they won't learn critical thinking and and natural consequences. 00:08:28.160 --> 00:08:31.040 You know, the grounding, grounding, grounding is not a natural consequence. 00:08:31.040 --> 00:08:32.559 That doesn't happen when you become an adult. 00:08:32.559 --> 00:08:33.919 Nobody grounds you, right? 00:08:34.000 --> 00:08:38.399 The natural consequences, independence really is an act of love. 00:08:38.399 --> 00:08:43.759 Not it, I mean, boundaries are an act of love. 00:08:43.759 --> 00:08:44.960 Yeah, yeah. 00:08:44.960 --> 00:08:47.360 Accountability is an act of love. 00:08:47.360 --> 00:08:49.600 You just said natural consequences. 00:08:49.600 --> 00:08:50.879 I'm a huge fan. 00:08:50.879 --> 00:09:06.559 They are an act of love, they create the structure, and then if you want to flip that back to organizations, frameworks, systems, like we've got all the vernacular in organizations and they are applicable at home. 00:09:06.559 --> 00:09:19.279 Those are the systems, those are the frameworks, which is you know, like it it sometimes the simplicity of it is it just blows me away. 00:09:19.279 --> 00:09:19.919 Yes. 00:09:19.919 --> 00:09:22.480 But we just don't think it's just a mindset. 00:09:22.480 --> 00:09:25.519 It just we just don't think in those terms. 00:09:25.519 --> 00:09:33.600 We I didn't for a while until I did, and then I couldn't unsee it, as they say. 00:09:33.759 --> 00:09:34.000 Right. 00:09:34.240 --> 00:09:35.279 For sure, for sure. 00:09:35.279 --> 00:09:35.600 Yeah. 00:09:35.600 --> 00:09:55.279 No, I get why, you know, I know parents, many parents, who are just so darn afraid that they are unable to allow the

natural consequences, unable to um be to give the independence, unable to let their children fail while the stakes are small. 00:09:55.279 --> 00:09:57.039 And it's really that fear. 00:09:57.039 --> 00:10:07.919 And what I think people don't recognize a lot is as much as we might want to manage 100% of our children's risk, the only time we can ever manage 100% is when they're infants. 00:10:07.919 --> 00:10:16.080 As soon as the they're six years old and we let them cross the street by themselves after we teach them, we're we're letting go of managing some risk. 00:10:16.080 --> 00:10:21.600 We're like, you gotta book look both ways because eventually I'm not gonna be looking out the window making sure you're doing that, right? 00:10:21.600 --> 00:10:22.799 And I'm gonna give it to you. 00:10:22.799 --> 00:10:26.480 So we're giving our children more risk to manage, right? 00:10:26.480 --> 00:10:34.559 But then when it's life seems scarier, like when they become teenagers, then we we naturally want to pull back the reins because now we know the scary stuff. 00:10:34.559 --> 00:10:44.320 Now we know this is when drugs, you know, are coming into their lives for the first time and where their need to fit in overrides anything we ever taught them, right? 00:10:44.320 --> 00:10:47.120 That that need to be belonging, right? 00:10:47.120 --> 00:10:52.399 So there's there's different dynamics that are happening in different parts of their lives, and it's gets scarier. 00:10:52.399 --> 00:10:56.320 I mean, it's really scary when they're tiny infants when they're first born. 00:10:56.320 --> 00:11:07.120 Can you you know you don't know what you're doing, but then you you get it, and then you're like, okay, I got this, I can manage these kids, or you know, and then all of a sudden they become teenagers and all of a sudden gets very scary again. 00:11:07.120 --> 00:11:25.840 And this is where I find that parents pull the reins back and really try to manage more risk than is actually possible to manage for these kids, and they create a rift in their family, and that's when the kids don't share what they're going through because they don't want to be judged, yelled at, told what to do. 00:11:28.000 --> 00:11:38.639 I can actually sum up that this whole conversation or a good portion of it in a quick story about when I was writing the book. 00:11:38.639 --> 00:11:42.879 Of course I was gonna, and so like, you know, it was like leadership and parenting. 00:11:42.879 --> 00:11:55.120 So I asked the kids, uh, my kids, and I was like, you know, what was the one thing from your childhood that you remember, good or bad, indifferent? 00:11:55.120 --> 00:12:04.080 And my daughter said, I could not stand you because you always made me figure things out. 00:12:04.080 --> 00:12:09.919 You oftentimes answered my questions with questions. 00:12:09.919 --> 00:12:14.960 I was very famous for, oh, I'll be so curious to see how you figure that out. 00:12:14.960 --> 00:12:17.120

She was like, I couldn't stand it, mom. 00:12:17.120 --> 00:12:29.440 She said, however, fast forward, one thing I knew for sure throughout my entire childhood and now as an adult, I can figure anything out. 00:12:29.440 --> 00:12:31.759 You taught me resourcefulness. 00:12:31.759 --> 00:12:36.879 If I want it, I can figure it out. 00:12:36.879 --> 00:12:37.519 Yeah. 00:12:37.519 --> 00:12:39.600 So you taught me resourcefulness. 00:12:39.600 --> 00:12:46.960 So while I couldn't stand it as a kid, which your listeners are probably like, oh my gosh, that's that's me. 00:12:46.960 --> 00:12:50.159 Like, they're gonna not like me, they're gonna be mad at me, you know. 00:12:50.159 --> 00:12:51.440 What happens if? 00:12:51.440 --> 00:12:59.039 But yeah, she might have been, I didn't even know she was irritated at me, but now she can articulate it, we laugh about it. 00:12:59.039 --> 00:12:59.440 Yeah. 00:12:59.440 --> 00:13:04.080 So who like that, and that was just beautiful for me. 00:13:04.159 --> 00:13:06.559 It was like, oh, well, then I guess it worked. 00:13:06.559 --> 00:13:09.759 Yeah, but and I'd like to point something out for the listener. 00:13:09.759 --> 00:13:16.480 If you're telling them what to do all the time instead of letting them figure it out, they also are mad at you. 00:13:16.480 --> 00:13:20.480 So they're gonna be annoyed with you no matter what you do. 00:13:20.480 --> 00:13:36.159 But what which way, helicopter versus letting them figure their own problems out and suffer consequences, which is going to set them up for the thing you really want most, which is for them to be independent, self-sufficient adults, happy adults. 00:13:36.159 --> 00:13:37.759 I have to put happy in there, right? 00:13:38.000 --> 00:13:46.639 Well, and there's and there's a little subliminal lesson lesson in there as well for the parents who are afraid of this. 00:13:46.639 --> 00:14:04.000 When we overmanage, when we overhelp, helicopter, whatever you want to call it, when we do too much for our people, our kids, maybe even spouses, we're telling them that we don't trust them enough to do it on their own. 00:14:04.000 --> 00:14:22.080 Yes, we don't believe in them, yes, and so it's like this counterintuitive lack of confidence that we're actually sharing rather than the lesson that I gave my daughter, which was like, I have confidence that you can figure this out. 00:14:22.080 --> 00:14:27.519 She didn't until she did have the confidence to figure it out. 00:14:27.519 --> 00:14:33.360 So it's just a mindset, it's an awareness, which is a big word right now. 00:14:33.360 --> 00:14:47.519 And I just I when we place that veil over our decisions, our behaviors, our actions of how we're interacting with the people in our family, it's an interesting lens. 00:14:47.519 --> 00:14:51.200 So I'm just inviting people to be thoughtful about the lens. 00:14:51.440 --> 00:14:59.440 Yeah, I've actually seen what you're saying in other families where they're they told the kid what to do the whole entire time. 00:14:59.440 --> 00:15:07.200 And so the kid gets the message, I'm not capable, but the parent says they're not capable because they never do it on their own. 00:15:07.200 --> 00:15:10.480 Then I say, but you never let them do it on their own. 00:15:10.480 --> 00:15:12.240 Well, I would, but they'll fail. 00:15:12.240 --> 00:15:13.200 What if they fail? 00:15:13.200 --> 00:15:14.559 I'm like, they are gonna fail. 00:15:14.559 --> 00:15:15.919 And yeah, it's unfortunate now. 00:15:15.919 --> 00:15:19.440 They're gonna fail at 24 years old because you didn't let them fail at 12. 00:15:19.440 --> 00:15:28.320 But um, you know, or you can, I mean, do you want to you you gave them this message that they're incapable and now they're not doing it because you always do it for them. 00:15:28.320 --> 00:15:29.840 They believe they're incapable. 00:15:29.840 --> 00:15:39.440 You're not, you didn't raise in an independent, you know, problem solver, critical thinker, because they never ever ever had to critically think. 00:15:39.440 --> 00:15:42.639 They never had a trial and error, they never had to do that. 00:15:42.639 --> 00:15:49.600 So, what do you tell someone who's an a a parent of an adult who that they don't even think their kids are capable? 00:15:49.600 --> 00:15:51.360 So they won't let go. 00:15:52.240 --> 00:15:54.720 You get so passionate about this. 00:15:54.720 --> 00:15:58.879 You really do. 00:15:58.879 --> 00:16:06.639 I hope the listeners catch it on YouTube where they can see you because you really come alive with this discussion. 00:16:06.639 --> 00:16:10.720 I tell them that the conversation just looks differently. 00:16:10.720 --> 00:16:34.399 So you may have missed the opportunity to have conversations in the carpool or driving to an activity or whatever it was, which by the way, to your listeners, cars are the best place because there's no eye contact, you're all staring in the same direction, and the kids really they share a lot when they don't have to stare you down, and they're captive. 00:16:35.039 --> 00:16:35.679 Right. 00:16:36.399 --> 00:16:46.559 Uh, I would say just recognize that the conversation's gonna look and a little bit differently, and the wear is gonna be different. 00:16:46.559 --> 00:17:03.600 So now it might be come over for dinner or have a cup of coffee or go grab a beer or whatever is your family culture again, and just meet them where they are and be like, look, and this is the humble pie. 00:17:03.600 --> 00:17:22.079 I may not have done you the you know the right thing, whatever it is, I may not have done you justice, it may be my that something that I didn't do that you're so let's come up with a strategy now. 00:17:22.079 --> 00:17:24.480 If you want my help, right? 00:17:24.480 --> 00:17:26.400 How can I help you? 00:17:26.400 --> 00:17:31.359 Because watching you struggle is really, really hard for me. 00:17:31.359 --> 00:17:37.440 And then if it's

a I got this, well, that you kind of like that's what you got. 00:17:37.440 --> 00:17:53.680 Yeah, yeah, you gotta let go, like, but I don't, it's never, you know, my kids will still they'll get angry with me now, you know, or I'll say something, they'll be like, you know, it's not the right thing, or I heard it differently. 00:17:53.680 --> 00:17:59.599 But now it's just kind of like I felt a little disrespected when you said that in that tone. 00:17:59.599 --> 00:18:01.680 And you're like, Yeah, you're right. 00:18:01.680 --> 00:18:03.119 I don't, you're my mother. 00:18:03.119 --> 00:18:05.279 I would know I don't ever want you to feel that way. 00:18:05.279 --> 00:18:08.480 So it's just a different conversation the older they get. 00:18:08.720 --> 00:18:09.039 Yeah. 00:18:09.039 --> 00:18:16.400 And I want to also point out that it doesn't mean that we're total hands off, we'll never get to guide them again. 00:18:16.400 --> 00:18:16.720 Right. 00:18:16.720 --> 00:18:18.799 That's not actually what happens. 00:18:18.799 --> 00:18:26.960 Sometimes they ask, they often ask, you know, as adults because they trust that you're not judging them because you've let them, right? 00:18:26.960 --> 00:18:48.960 But but sometimes, like, you know, um, I I had a child that was, you know, going through some big changes or whatever, and I saw some consequences that were happening, that I was letting him just deal with these consequences by himself, but it was kind of bothering me that I didn't know whether or not he was dealing with the concept, like I didn't know what he was doing, and he wasn't communicating with me. 00:18:48.960 --> 00:18:52.880 And so I said, I need you to come over because we need to have a conversation. 00:18:52.880 --> 00:18:54.160 He's like, What's wrong? 00:18:54.160 --> 00:18:55.839 I said, Nothing's wrong. 00:18:55.839 --> 00:19:03.680 I said, I've been kind of letting you do this, you know, like doing your thing, but because we're not we haven't communicated about it, I don't really know what's going on. 00:19:03.680 --> 00:19:08.720 And it's kind of like I feel I'm curious and I just want to be make sure everything's cool. 00:19:08.720 --> 00:19:12.319 I so said, so I'm gonna call this a mom up, you know, like man up, right? 00:19:12.319 --> 00:19:12.960 Mom up. 00:19:12.960 --> 00:19:14.319 It's time for me to mom up. 00:19:14.319 --> 00:19:17.039 Because I for two months I kind of was hands off with this whole thing. 00:19:17.039 --> 00:19:18.240 It's time for me to mom up. 00:19:18.240 --> 00:19:19.279 Let's see what's going on. 00:19:19.279 --> 00:19:21.440 What a positive conversation it was. 00:19:21.440 --> 00:19:26.240 Yeah, and and I he he's like, Oh, I already dealt with that thing a month ago, it was all done. 00:19:26.240 --> 00:19:27.440 I I figured it out. 00:19:27.440 --> 00:19:31.119 I'm like, Oh, well, I didn't know, you didn't tell me, you know. 00:19:31.119 --> 00:19:34.880 So we so like it was and ended up being positive. 00:19:34.880 --> 00:19:37.920 Like, he didn't feel at first he was like, What do you think? 00:19:37.920 --> 00:19:38.559 I'm dumb. 00:19:38.559 --> 00:19:39.279 I didn't figure it out. 00:19:39.279 --> 00:19:42.400 I'm like, that's a teenage thing to say, even though he's not a teenager. 00:19:42.400 --> 00:19:44.240 Like, no, I didn't say you were dumb. 00:19:44.240 --> 00:19:46.720 I said you didn't communicate, so how would I know? 00:19:46.720 --> 00:19:59.759 You know, um, and and now I'll trust him more to figure things out in the future because he did, he just didn't communicate, and now we had this nice conversation, and he's like, Okay, yeah, I can let you know more about what's going on in my life. 00:20:00.000 --> 00:20:00.640 Beautiful, yeah. 00:20:00.640 --> 00:20:16.000 And is it possible that you had already created that rel in your relationship with your kids that you know, and you could have very easily just said, Hey, am I allowed to check up? 00:20:16.000 --> 00:20:21.440 Like for a listener that's like, I don't know, I could I don't know that I could do the mom up thing. 00:20:21.440 --> 00:20:24.960 Like, that's not my it's like how about just a text? 00:20:24.960 --> 00:20:27.200 Like, am I allowed to check up with you? 00:20:27.200 --> 00:20:39.440 Because that felt like something really big and significant, and I love you enough that I want to check up, and then that gives them the permission to say either yes or no, you know. 00:20:39.440 --> 00:20:45.920 So, like, there's like you had a relationship, you have to at least acknowledge, Linda, that you had a relationship. 00:20:45.920 --> 00:21:01.599 Oh, yeah, that gave you the permission, the door was open for you to because that's but again, that's the culture, that's the culture of open communication, that's the culture of hey, you shared with me that you were struggling. 00:21:01.599 --> 00:21:06.319 We worked on some things together, and of course I want to now know. 00:21:06.319 --> 00:21:08.559 Yeah, you worked on that already. 00:21:08.880 --> 00:21:09.440 We did, we did. 00:21:09.440 --> 00:21:14.720 And matter of fact, my kids are so independent, I might not hear from them for three or four weeks at a time. 00:21:14.720 --> 00:21:15.599 Exactly. 00:21:15.599 --> 00:21:17.039 And you created that as well. 00:21:17.039 --> 00:21:18.400 I created that, right? 00:21:18.400 --> 00:21:19.759 Because they're so independent. 00:21:19.759 --> 00:21:20.720 They're like, I got this, yeah. 00:21:20.720 --> 00:21:25.519 I'm paying my bills, I'm doing my thing, I got my job, I'm gonna go to school, I'm doing my things, you know. 00:21:25.519 --> 00:21:28.160 And so and so now I'll be funny. 00:21:28.160 --> 00:21:33.039 I sent a text to the three of them, a group, and it was a two-sided text, you know. 00:21:33.039 --> 00:21:34.960 Um, hey mom, how you doing? 00:21:34.960 --> 00:21:35.839 Oh, I'm doing great. 00:21:35.839 --> 00:21:36.640 Thanks for asking.

00:21:36.640 --> 00:21:37.759 What's going on in your life? 00:21:37.759 --> 00:21:39.279 Oh, well, I got this, the other thing. 00:21:39.279 --> 00:21:40.480 Oh, so nice to talk to you. 00:21:40.480 --> 00:21:40.960 You too. 00:21:40.960 --> 00:21:42.079 All right, love you, bye. 00:21:42.079 --> 00:21:45.359 I made this all thought it was hilarious. 00:21:45.359 --> 00:21:47.440 And then they all reached out to me right away. 00:21:47.440 --> 00:21:48.960 Oh, hi, mom, you know. 00:21:48.960 --> 00:21:55.599 And I did it, I didn't do it as a guilt trip because guilt is the worst way to parent your children. 00:21:55.599 --> 00:21:59.119 I don't want them ever to do something out of guilt or shame. 00:21:59.119 --> 00:21:59.759 I want them. 00:21:59.759 --> 00:22:12.000 To be with me because it's they enjoy it and call me because they recognize me, and they really all do as a as a um a very useful guide when they want one and need one. 00:22:12.319 --> 00:22:20.720 So can I add that that's and because of the work that you do and conversations worth your while, right? 00:22:20.720 --> 00:22:25.519 Like you have that awareness that that's important to you. 00:22:25.519 --> 00:22:34.079 It's important for you to create and tighten up the fabric within your family, within your kids. 00:22:34.079 --> 00:22:36.960 So does it, I'll ask it as a question. 00:22:36.960 --> 00:22:40.160 Maybe your listeners can answer this for themselves. 00:22:40.160 --> 00:22:47.759 Does it start with an awareness, again, of the vision, of a goal, of a what do you want? 00:22:47.759 --> 00:22:50.559 What it what do you want your family to look like? 00:22:50.559 --> 00:22:52.799 You you have that awareness. 00:22:52.799 --> 00:22:56.799 Not everybody does, and yet it's available for everyone. 00:22:57.039 --> 00:22:57.599 It is. 00:22:57.599 --> 00:23:13.279 So that leads me to your turtle step, the smallest step that a listener can take before they hit play on the next podcast episode to help them be more intentional in stepping into a leadership role for their family. 00:23:14.160 --> 00:23:20.319 I'm I'm gonna back off of the awareness because that I could that's so cliche today, right? 00:23:20.319 --> 00:23:26.400 You know, just how about the turtle step is look in the mirror. 00:23:26.400 --> 00:23:49.519 Because when you look in the mirror, I promise you, you will find, and for men or women, I promise you, you will find the most capable leader that already has many of the skills, information required to do this. 00:23:49.519 --> 00:23:52.480 So look in the mirror is the turtle step. 00:23:52.480 --> 00:23:53.359 You've got that. 00:23:53.359 --> 00:23:56.000 It's all within you, right? 00:23:56.160 --> 00:24:04.640 And just to and find evidence of how you're already doing it in other aspects, because I'm a big proponent of emulate what already works, don't try to fix what's broken. 00:24:04.640 --> 00:24:19.279 So if you're be if you're a good leader in a certain aspect of your life, um then what what those are is that's proof that you're a good leader, and then you can bring those exact same things that work for you that are natural to you into your family. 00:24:19.279 --> 00:24:21.519 So, Janet, thank you so much. 00:24:21.519 --> 00:24:24.319 This has been such a great conversation. 00:24:24.319 --> 00:24:25.519 Oh my gosh. 00:24:25.519 --> 00:24:28.559 So you have something to share with our audience. 00:24:28.559 --> 00:24:35.839 I'd love if you tell us a little bit more about it, and then I will put the link to that and of and the links to how to contact you in the show notes. 00:24:35.839 --> 00:24:37.359 So, what do you have for everybody? 00:24:37.680 --> 00:24:40.720 Well, this is kind of this could be like turtle shell. 00:24:40.720 --> 00:24:43.440 I don't know what turtle step number two. 00:24:43.440 --> 00:24:46.400 Okay, because they're like, I don't even know where to start. 00:24:46.400 --> 00:24:50.559 Uh, they're at parentshifts.com, and this will be in the show notes. 00:24:50.559 --> 00:24:55.759 There's a it's just short eight parent shifts, kind of as a check-in. 00:24:55.759 --> 00:24:58.880 Like, how are you showing up for your family? 00:24:58.880 --> 00:25:02.720 Uh, that's a great, great place to start. 00:25:02.720 --> 00:25:18.240 And honestly, if uh if you reach out and you need, I have a great reflections audit too, that you can also just fill out and give yourself a ha, just some things to think about. 00:25:18.480 --> 00:25:19.440 Well, that's beautiful. 00:25:19.440 --> 00:25:20.000 Thank you. 00:25:20.000 --> 00:25:21.119 I have the link to that. 00:25:21.119 --> 00:25:23.359 I'll be sure to put it in our show notes. 00:25:23.359 --> 00:25:24.880 All right, so that's our show. 00:25:24.880 --> 00:25:31.599 I'm Linda Booker, guiding people to know their worth and reconnect to their gifts and create lives that are fully aligned and deeply impactful. 00:25:31.599 --> 00:25:33.839 So you can do the thing you're here to do. 00:25:33.839 --> 00:25:45.680 And if you're sensing it's time to bring your life into deeper alignment, you can explore what that looks like at lyndabooker.com where you'll find direction and a link to book a complimentary clarity call with me. 00:25:45.680 --> 00:25:51.920 And if today's episode sparked something for you, please like it and share it and subscribe because you don't want to miss what's next. 00:25:51.920 --> 00:25:58.079 And then join me next week for an up another uplifting conversation designed to support your growth. 00:25:58.079 --> 00:26:04.799 So until next time, make sure you've made this conversation worth your while by fueling the spark that it ignited.