Full Transcript for Rolling with the Curveballs

--> 00:02:46.080 out to me, you can send me email at Terryatweis's 36 00:02:46.120 --> 00:02:51.520 thoughts dot com. Sound good? All right? Sounds good? Anyhow, 37 00:02:52.120 --> 00:02:53.840 I mean, I'm just in one of those moods here 38 00:02:53.879 --> 00:02:57.400 today in this episode of the podcast. You know, there's 39 00:02:57.400 --> 00:02:59.000 a lot going on in the world. You know, people 40 00:02:59.000 --> 00:03:02.039 are complaining about prices, you know, there's a war still. 41 00:03:02.080 --> 00:03:05.319 I'm going with Iran or a police action, whichever you 42 00:03:05.439 --> 00:03:09.199 choose to call it. You know, the seasons are changing 43 00:03:09.240 --> 00:03:11.960 here in the northeastern half of the United States from 44 00:03:12.000 --> 00:03:15.240 whence the program cometh. The other day we had sixty 45 00:03:15.240 --> 00:03:18.840 five degrees and it was gorgeous out, gorgeous lights, just 46 00:03:18.879 --> 00:03:23.560 an ever slight breeze, but it was gorgeous out. And 47 00:03:23.599 --> 00:03:28.759 then literally literally the next day we were back down 48 00:03:28.800 --> 00:03:30.919 in the thirties. I'm like, and they wonder why everybody's 49 00:03:30.960 --> 00:03:35.759 hacking and coffining, you know, and my sinuses were going, 50 00:03:35.800 --> 00:03:38.319 and we had a little bit of that dry, irritated 51 00:03:38.680 --> 00:03:43.680 throat and stuff. It's but it's We've come to expect 52 00:03:43.680 --> 00:03:45.919 it here in the Northeast. Okay, that's just the way 53 00:03:45.960 --> 00:03:47.919 the cookie crumbles, as they say, that's the way the 54 00:03:47.960 --> 00:03:52.800 weather goes. And so you know, this is the rough 55 00:03:52.800 --> 00:03:55.120 part of the area. As we could dredge on into 56 00:03:55.159 --> 00:03:58.479 March here of twenty twenty six. If you're listening to 57 00:03:58.639 --> 00:04:01.960 this at a future date and time, wondering why why. 58 00:04:03.080 --> 00:04:05.159 So that's the reason why I'm talking about the weather. 59 00:04:05.199 --> 00:04:08.400 But we are heading towards spring. I believe the twentieth 60 00:04:08.439 --> 00:04:10.800 of this month starts the first day of spring here 61 00:04:10.919 --> 00:04:14.039 in the United States. So we're almost there. I mean, 62 00:04:14.159 --> 00:04:18.879 we are a mirror a few days away, as they say, 63 00:04:18.920 --> 00:04:21.600 so from spring. So hopefully you know, I'll get out 64 00:04:22.079 --> 00:04:25.560 because it's been it's been a long, cold, dreary winter. 65 00:04:26.199 --> 00:04:28.600 As the Beatles used to say in the song Here 66 00:04:28.600 --> 00:04:31.160 Comes the Sun, It's been a long, cold, dreary winter. 67 00:04:31.600 --> 00:04:33.560 That's a line from a Beatles song. Look it up. 68 00:04:34.040 --> 00:04:37.120 So anyway, Hey, how are you? I hope everyone is happy, healthy. 69 00:04:37.199 --> 00:04:38.839 And if you heard that chair squeak in the background, 70 00:04:38.920 --> 00:04:41.600 apologize for that. We got to oil these chairs in 71 00:04:41.600 --> 00:04:46.000 the studio, mister producer. We really do some of these chairs. 72 00:04:46.480 --> 00:04:49.120 I don't know. Maybe that's maybe we're not in here enough. 73 00:04:50.519 --> 00:04:54.000 I don't know anyhow, So as promised in the program, 74 00:04:54.079 --> 00:04:56.839 let's just dive right in, shall we. Oh? By the way, 75 00:04:56.839 --> 00:04:58.720 if you want to see me on Twitter or Twitter 76 00:04:58.839 --> 00:05:02.040 or x now as it's called, it's at Terry Weiss, 77 00:05:02.079 --> 00:05:05.120 Okay and Wieproductions dot com. There's the website if you 78 00:05:05.160 --> 00:05:07.839 need any voice over work audio production. All right, good, 79 00:05:07.879 --> 00:05:10.839 all right, I'm sick of promoting stuff. Shall we move on? 80 00:05:11.120 --> 00:05:16.240 Thank you. Stop holding up the cards. So, as talked 81 00:05:16.240 --> 00:05:20.519 about in the teaser in the opener, how to roll 82 00:05:20.560 --> 00:05:25.560 with unexpected things that happen in your life, unexpected changes, good, bad, 83 00:05:25.639 --> 00:05:30.720 or indifferent. And I got up to day before coming 84 00:05:30.759 --> 00:05:34.360 into the studio and didn't expect some things to happen. 85 00:05:35.319 --> 00:05:36.959 It was a good thing. It was a good thing. 86 00:05:37.000 --> 00:05:40.120 There was some additional income that came in which wasn't 87 00:05:40.199 --> 00:05:45.120 planned upon, and I'm like, okay, didn't expect that, do 88 00:05:45.279 --> 00:05:50.000 we do? You See, I'm a I like to, I'm 89 00:05:50.000 --> 00:05:54.120 a planner. I like to and I'm some some might 90 00:05:54.160 --> 00:05:56.480 even go as far as to say I'm a control freak. 91 00:05:57.680 --> 00:06:00.439 I like to know what's going on. I have that 92 00:06:01.519 --> 00:06:04.600 mild case of OCD where, you know, like a lot 93 00:06:04.680 --> 00:06:06.759 of us, I think like to be in control of 94 00:06:06.839 --> 00:06:11.040 things and know what's happening, know what's going on. And 95 00:06:11.079 --> 00:06:14.120 it's almost to the point where I think too many 96 00:06:14.160 --> 00:06:20.519 of us, to our detriment, try to control our environment 97 00:06:20.600 --> 00:06:24.560 and things around us, and it causes undue stress. And 98 00:06:24.600 --> 00:06:26.319 I know it does for me. I mean, I'll just 99 00:06:26.360 --> 00:06:28.480 share with you some things. It causes me some undue 100 00:06:28.519 --> 00:06:34.920 stress and being uncomfortable just you know, for lack of 101 00:06:34.920 --> 00:06:37.279 a better word, because I like to control what's going 102 00:06:37.319 --> 00:06:42.480 on around me. I really do. And you know it 103 00:06:43.360 --> 00:06:45.319 drives the wife crazy. You know, you always got it, 104 00:06:45.399 --> 00:06:49.199 just sometimes things happen, and I'm trying. I'm trying to 105

00:06:50.720 --> 00:06:58.000 change that response and be more accommodating. Dare I say 106 00:06:58.240 --> 00:07:02.199 of going with the flow? You know? I mean, because 107 00:07:02.360 --> 00:07:06.360 really think about it, there's really nothing guaranteed in life. 108 00:07:06.399 --> 00:07:09.000 I mean, your next breath isn't guaranteed. A sunny day 109 00:07:09.040 --> 00:07:12.920 isn't guaranteed, or rainy day isn't guaranteed. Your job isn't guaranteed. 110 00:07:13.199 --> 00:07:20.240 The length of your days aren't guaranteed, you know, And 111 00:07:21.480 --> 00:07:25.680 there's a lot of I believe it's Eastern philosophy. I'm 112 00:07:25.720 --> 00:07:29.600 not sure if it's Buddhism. It might be Buddhism that 113 00:07:30.399 --> 00:07:32.720 something to the effect that I'm paraphrasing. Of course, here 114 00:07:33.480 --> 00:07:38.639 just to let go. You know, one of the greatest, 115 00:07:38.680 --> 00:07:41.680 if not the greatest martial artists of all time, Bruce Leaves, 116 00:07:41.680 --> 00:07:46.120 to say, be like water. I'm sure you've heard that phrase, 117 00:07:46.160 --> 00:07:50.480 be like water, And what does that mean? For those 118 00:07:50.519 --> 00:07:54.759 who may not know? Water can basically go into any form. 119 00:07:54.800 --> 00:07:56.199 I mean You can pour it into a straw. You 120 00:07:56.199 --> 00:07:58.319 can pour it into a large cup, a small cup. 121 00:07:58.639 --> 00:08:01.279 You can pour it into a thimble. You can pour 122 00:08:01.360 --> 00:08:04.399 it through a small tube, a large tube around a corner. 123 00:08:04.920 --> 00:08:08.519 You know, Just be like water, be willing to bend 124 00:08:08.639 --> 00:08:12.480 and move and give and take. I guess I believe 125 00:08:12.519 --> 00:08:16.040 that's what Bruce Lee was trying to say. Just be 126 00:08:16.199 --> 00:08:22.399 like water, be malleable, be willing to go with the flow, 127 00:08:22.480 --> 00:08:26.079 as they say. And I think a lot of us 128 00:08:26.199 --> 00:08:29.720 really want to strive to do that now that you know, 129 00:08:30.639 --> 00:08:33.519 and I know, I know you're saying, Terry, Yeah, you're saying, 130 00:08:33.600 --> 00:08:36.399 do this, do that. It's not that easy, my friend, 131 00:08:36.799 --> 00:08:42.039 I get it. I'm with you. I understand absolutely. I 132 00:08:42.159 --> 00:08:46.600 understand because I'm the same way I really am. We 133 00:08:46.679 --> 00:08:50.919 all like to have that sense of comfortability that comes 134 00:08:50.960 --> 00:08:54.000 with control, knowing the outcome, knowing the answer, knowing what 135 00:08:54.080 --> 00:08:55.399 tomorrow is going to be, in the next day, in 136 00:08:55.440 --> 00:08:57.919 the next week, and the next month and the next year. 137 00:09:00.919 --> 00:09:05.039 But life is not like that, my friends. Life is 138 00:09:05.080 --> 00:09:10.240 going to throw you the occasional curveball, as they say, 139 00:09:10.360 --> 00:09:13.320 the ups, the downs, the lows, the highs, the lefts 140 00:09:13.360 --> 00:09:18.120 and rights, the to and froze, and some people really 141 00:09:18.159 --> 00:09:21.440 lose their lose their shit. As they say, when it happens, 142 00:09:21.480 --> 00:09:26.039 I've done it. Sometimes I still do it. It happens, 143 00:09:27.440 --> 00:09:32.519 I'm with you right there in the trenches. But that 144 00:09:32.679 --> 00:09:37.919 being said, however, we have to learn to adapt, and 145 00:09:38.480 --> 00:09:41.240 there's some things that we can do to try to 146 00:09:41.279 --> 00:09:45.399 adapt to being thrown the curveball, as they say, in life, 147 00:09:45.799 --> 00:09:49.960 the unexpected things that pop up. The first thing I 148 00:09:50.000 --> 00:09:56.679 would say is probably, hey, the old expression expression shit happens. 149 00:09:56.799 --> 00:10:01.840 Stuff happens. However, you know the PG version. Stuff happens. 150 00:10:03.080 --> 00:10:07.399 It happens to all of us. You're driving to work, 151 00:10:07.399 --> 00:10:10.279 you get that flat tire, the check engine light comes 152 00:10:10.279 --> 00:10:14.200 out in your car, what have you? The unexpected layoff 153 00:10:14.240 --> 00:10:19.600 at work, the unexpected firing at work. You know, you 154 00:10:19.679 --> 00:10:21.120 go to grab the milk out of the fridge, you 155 00:10:21.200 --> 00:10:23.639 drop it on the floor and the jug spills all 156 00:10:23.679 --> 00:10:26.240 over the floor. Whatever things are going to happen in 157 00:10:26.279 --> 00:10:29.320 your life. But the first thing I could say is 158 00:10:29.360 --> 00:10:35.519 just you know what, I would just shrug. First thing, 159 00:10:35.879 --> 00:10:41.320 just shrug, Well, you know, stuff happens. The second thing 160 00:10:41.360 --> 00:10:43.799 I would say, probably, and helping to cope with it, 161 00:10:43.879 --> 00:10:46.840 to say, all right, is what can I do about this? 162 00:10:46.960 --> 00:10:49.080 Is this something I have to do? And what can 163 00:10:49.120 --> 00:10:54.000 I do about it? And try and think about it logically, like, 164 00:10:54.360 --> 00:10:56.279 all right, I got a flat tire. All right, well 165 00:10:56.320 --> 00:10:58.159 I got triple A. I can call them or I 166 00:10:58.200 --> 00:10:59.639 know how to change a tire. I'll make sure I 167 00:10:59.720 --> 00:11:02.039 get to the side of the road, be safe, or 168 00:11:02.080 --> 00:11:07.279 call a friend or call somebody you know, try to 169 00:11:08.159 --> 00:11:10.799 what can you possibly do? And if there's nothing you 170 00:11:10.840 --> 00:11:13.360 can do about the situation, if you're it's something totally 171 00:11:13.360 --> 00:11:18.360 out of your control, then realize, hey, this situation is 172 00:11:18.399 --> 00:11:20.720 totally out of my control. There's nothing I can do 173 00:11:20.759 --> 00:11:27.080 about it. The third thing is just take a few 174 00:11:27.080 -->

00:11:30.799 deep breaths. Take four or five slow, deep breaths and 175 00:11:30.879 --> 00:11:33.000 heal through the nose. Count to four, hold it for 176 00:11:33.039 --> 00:11:35.200 one or two seconds, and let it out for five 177 00:11:35.279 --> 00:11:39.000 slow Do that four or five times. That'll calm you down, 178 00:11:42.639 --> 00:11:49.080 just that moment of pause. The next thing is just 179 00:11:49.240 --> 00:11:52.639 realize these things may happen in life, and sometimes they 180 00:11:52.679 --> 00:11:58.120 come in clusters. You may have three or four unexpected 181 00:11:58.159 --> 00:11:59.960 things happen out of the blue that are good, bad, 182 00:12:00.080 --> 00:12:02.000 are indifferent, And then after that it might be smooth 183 00:12:02.039 --> 00:12:08.480 sailing for a month or two. You never know. The 184 00:12:08.519 --> 00:12:11.720 next thing is to realize is everyone has this happened. 185 00:12:11.840 --> 00:12:15.799 It doesn't matter how rich you are, how poor you are, 186 00:12:15.879 --> 00:12:18.879 how well uh you know, how well adjusted you think 187 00:12:18.919 --> 00:12:25.200 you are, or how you know if you're fat, skinny, black, white, blue, green, purple, orange, pink. 188 00:12:26.159 --> 00:12:29.000 Everyone has things in their life that happens. You know, 189 00:12:29.120 --> 00:12:31.679 you can plan, you you know, the best laid plans 190 00:12:31.679 --> 00:12:33.960 of mice and men. Is another thing that pops into 191 00:12:34.000 --> 00:12:36.960 my mind as we're speaking today here in Whyte's thoughts 192 00:12:37.120 --> 00:12:41.200 about unexpected things that happen. You know, you can plan, 193 00:12:41.399 --> 00:12:43.519 you can try and plan for everything, but there's always 194 00:12:43.559 --> 00:12:47.879 going to be that possibility of the outlier coming in. 195 00:12:49.480 --> 00:12:53.960 Things happen, and sometimes for the good. You might look 196 00:12:53.960 --> 00:12:57.039 at a situation you get the double you get the 197 00:12:57.039 --> 00:12:58.919 double shot. I call it. I call it the double shot. 198 00:12:59.000 --> 00:13:01.159 Something bad happens, or you think you know that, you 199 00:13:01.200 --> 00:13:04.360 would think, uh, interpret it is bad, but then something 200 00:13:04.360 --> 00:13:11.559 good comes out of it. Right, you drop that milk 201 00:13:11.600 --> 00:13:14.200 on the floor. Oh and while you're cleaning up the floor, 202 00:13:14.799 --> 00:13:17.360 you look underneath the fridge and you find, oh my god, somebody. 203 00:13:17.399 --> 00:13:19.480 You know, there's a twenty dollars bill I forgot, I 204 00:13:19.559 --> 00:13:25.279 dropped and it went under the fridge. Right, something like that. 205 00:13:25.320 --> 00:13:27.879 I know something just I was just pulling something ridiculous 206 00:13:27.879 --> 00:13:32.759 scenario out of my head. But you know, you get 207 00:13:32.759 --> 00:13:35.039 the double shot. Sometimes life gives you the double shots 208 00:13:35.039 --> 00:13:38.320 for good. Something you think bad happens and something good 209 00:13:38.360 --> 00:13:40.639 comes out of it. You learn a lesson, you discover 210 00:13:40.759 --> 00:13:45.000 another path, you discover a better solution, you discover you 211 00:13:45.039 --> 00:13:49.039 make a new friend, you learn how to overcome adversity, 212 00:13:49.879 --> 00:13:55.320 what have you? You know, going back to that flat 213 00:13:55.360 --> 00:13:57.120 tire scenario, you get a flat tire and it's in 214 00:13:57.120 --> 00:13:58.919 front of a convenience store. So while you're waiting for 215 00:13:58.960 --> 00:14:01.120 the tow truck or trip, you go on and you 216 00:14:01.120 --> 00:14:02.679 buy a lotter ticket and you end up winning a 217 00:14:02.720 --> 00:14:07.519 thousand dollars. Right, something what you perceive as bad happened, 218 00:14:07.519 --> 00:14:09.320 but then something good came out of it, because if 219 00:14:09.360 --> 00:14:10.960 you wouldn't have had the flat tire or whatever, you 220 00:14:11.039 --> 00:14:13.000 might not have gone into the convenience store, you might 221 00:14:13.039 --> 00:14:16.000 not have plocked down a dollar for the scratch off ticket, 222 00:14:16.000 --> 00:14:22.480 and you might not want a thousand bucks. See, but 223 00:14:22.559 --> 00:14:25.000 I guess the last thing I'll say is that it's 224 00:14:25.080 --> 00:14:29.080 all about your mindset and your attitude. There's a lot 225 00:14:29.120 --> 00:14:31.440 in today's world. Friends, in the year twenty twenty six, 226 00:14:31.519 --> 00:14:34.559 there is so much negativity out there. It's easy to 227 00:14:34.679 --> 00:14:37.559 get negative. Just get out of bed, turn on the news, 228 00:14:37.600 --> 00:14:41.159 and you can be negative in a nanosecond. We can 229 00:14:41.200 --> 00:14:45.360 all fall prey for it, or flip on your phone 230 00:14:45.840 --> 00:14:47.879 or your tablet and go into social media. You can 231 00:14:47.879 --> 00:14:52.799 get negative in a nanosecond, especially with these algorithms and 232 00:14:52.840 --> 00:14:57.080 the garbage being pushed to us. But there's also a 233 00:14:57.120 --> 00:15:00.639 lot of good out there. So it's your mindset. I 234 00:15:00.639 --> 00:15:05.320 want to leave you with. It's your mindset that makes 235 00:15:05.919 --> 00:15:12.480 the most difference. And if you can learn how to 236 00:15:12.600 --> 00:15:18.320 tame your mindset and react in different different ways, that's 237 00:15:18.360 --> 00:15:21.879 going to go a long way to helping you handle 238 00:15:21.960 --> 00:15:36.080 life's unexpected challenges. Hey, thanks for listening to the program today. 239 00:15:36.759 --> 00:15:39.159 I truly appreciate each and every one of you out there, 240 00:15:39.600 --> 00:15:42.759 and remember to see a change in the world, you 241 00:15:42.919 --> 00:15:44.679 have to be the change in the world you want 242 00:15:44.720 --> 00:15:47.600 to see. It all starts with you, the person looking 243 00:15:47.600 --> 00:15:51.080 back at you in the mirror every morning. Remember to 244 00:15:51.120 --> 00:15:57.879 be kind to yourself, be kind to others. If you 245 00:15:57.919 --> 00:16:00.879 want to tweet at me on Twitter, it's at Harry Weiss. 246 00:16:01.159 --> 00:16:03.639 Stop by the website Wis's thoughts dot com just to 247 00:16:03.639 --> 00:16:07.559 make sure you spell my name right wy Wyss thoughts 248 00:16:07.600 --> 00:16:11.159 dot com, and hey, leave us a positive rating and 249 00:16:11.240 --> 00:16:14.279 review on your favorite podcast provider. Won't you tell your friends, 250 00:16:14.279 --> 00:16:20.159 tell your family, tell your pets about wife's thoughts? And 251 00:16:20.240 --> 00:16:23.519 I look forward to gathering yet again around the virtual 252 00:16:23.559 --> 00:16:45.440 campfire with you real soon. Take care,