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Kagami. 00:02:09.680 --> 00:02:13.759 He's the president of Rwanda, and she's the first lady of Rwanda. 00:02:14.159 --> 00:02:22.000 And uh I guess she's known for being a humanitarian, uh doing a lot of work with HIV AIDS in Rwanda. 00:02:22.159 --> 00:02:28.960 I think she holds an honorary doctorate from Oklahoma Christian University for her uh where her AIDS were. 00:02:29.039 --> 00:02:31.919 I guess she's been at it for about 25 years. 00:02:32.319 --> 00:02:33.919 Wow, that's very interesting. 00:02:34.080 --> 00:02:35.759 I didn't know anything about her. 00:02:35.919 --> 00:02:40.400 And you know, you and I always and only talk about education. 00:02:40.560 --> 00:02:45.280 That's how you and I became successful through education, and we pushed that. 00:02:45.439 --> 00:02:47.120 So I love that quote. 00:02:47.280 --> 00:02:50.400 All right, everybody, welcome back to the Wingman Show. 00:02:50.560 --> 00:02:54.800 Today we have a question everybody has wondered since middle school. 00:02:55.120 --> 00:02:57.759 What actually makes somebody cool? 00:02:58.000 --> 00:03:11.120 And the good news is researchers asked nearly 6,000 people across 12 countries, from the United States to Nigeria, China, Mexico, India, Germany, South Korea, and more. 00:03:11.280 --> 00:03:14.159 And the answer was surprisingly consistent. 00:03:14.400 --> 00:03:14.719 Dr. 00:03:14.960 --> 00:03:15.520 Paul? 00:03:15.759 --> 00:03:16.800 Yeah, Commander Drew. 00:03:17.039 --> 00:03:18.319 So it turns out cool. 00:03:18.400 --> 00:03:25.039 It's not just expensive sneakers or sunglasses indoors, or acting like you're too important to text somebody back. 00:03:25.199 --> 00:03:36.800 You know, across cultures, people tend to see cool people as more outgoing, adventurous, open-minded, independent, maybe influential, just willing to enjoy life. 00:03:37.759 --> 00:03:38.240 Wow. 00:03:38.400 --> 00:03:39.759 Let's break that down then. 00:03:40.000 --> 00:03:44.080 Extroverted does not mean you have to be the loudest person in the room. 00:03:44.319 --> 00:03:47.599 And powerful does not mean you have to push people around. 00:03:47.759 --> 00:03:55.680 It means people notice when you walk in because you are comfortable in your own skin and you carry yourself with purpose. 00:03:56.159 --> 00:03:58.800 Yeah, and being autonomous is a big one. 00:03:59.039 --> 00:04:02.879 Cool people are often seen as having their own mind about things. 00:04:03.120 --> 00:04:09.360 They don't let every trend, every opinion, or every loud person in the room tell them who they're supposed to be. 00:04:09.680 --> 00:04:10.080 Dr. 00:04:10.240 --> 00:04:17.439 Paul, one of my mentors was Brad Butler, who was the CEO and chairman of the board of Procter and Gamble. 00:04:17.759 --> 00:04:23.120 And I'll never forget him telling me that God's greatest gift to him was autonomy. 00:04:23.279 --> 00:04:24.800 Nobody knew who he was. 00:04:25.040 --> 00:04:28.079 You see, the research also found something important. 00:04:28.399 --> 00:04:32.000 Being cool and being good are not exactly the same thing. 00:04:32.319 --> 00:04:40.000 Good people were more often described as warm, calm, dependable, agreeable, conscientious, and secure. 00:04:40.240 --> 00:04:46.639 Qualities that might not get you applause at a party, but they sure matter when life gets real. 00:04:47.759 --> 00:04:49.439 Yeah, that's the part that I like. 00:04:49.600 --> 00:04:52.800 You can have adventure, some confidence in your own style. 00:04:53.040 --> 00:05:02.079 But if you're not kind, trustworthy, and solid when people really need you, maybe cool for a minute, but you're not somebody that people can count on. 00:05:03.040 --> 00:05:05.600 All right, so I guess here's the wingman takeaway. 00:05:05.839 --> 00:05:08.800 Do not spend your whole life trying to look cool. 00:05:09.120 --> 00:05:22.160 Be curious, try new things, travel when you can, speak up for yourself, build confidence through competence, and have enough fun that life does not become one long, boring checklist. 00:05:22.399 --> 00:05:22.800 Yeah. 00:05:22.959 --> 00:05:25.279 Well, Commander Drew, add some character to it. 00:05:25.519 --> 00:05:37.759 The strongest kind of cool is when people know you walk into any room, that you can be yourself, enjoy life, and still be the person who answers the phone at two in the morning when a friend really needs help. 00:05:38.240 --> 00:05:41.439 And also, cool is not pretending that you don't care. 00:05:41.759 --> 00:05:53.199 Cool is knowing who you are, having the courage to live your own life, enjoying the ride, and still being solid enough that people are proud to call you their wingman. 00:05:53.279 --> 00:05:53.839 And Dr. 00:05:54.000 --> 00:05:57.759 Paul, you are cool, and you are my wingman. 00:05:58.079 --> 00:05:59.519 We'll be right back. 00:06:07.040 --> 00:06:08.959 Welcome back to the Wingman Show. 00:06:09.040 --> 00:06:17.360 You know it's our good news segment, and we love good news because it seems like everybody just wants to tell you something bad, but not here at the Wingman Show. 00:06:17.519 --> 00:06:20.399 So stop paying too much for electricity. 00:06:20.560 --> 00:06:23.600 Here's some smart electrical gouge. 00:06:23.839 --> 00:06:25.439 Welcome back to the Wingman Show. 00:06:25.519 --> 00:06:32.480 I just learned something that made me look at my electric bill like it'd been taking flying lessons without even telling me. 00:06:32.720 --> 00:06:38.079 When you use electricity, it can matter just as much as how much you use, Dr. 00:06:38.240 --> 00:06:38.639 Paul. 00:06:38.879 --> 00:06:40.480 Yeah, that's right, Commander Drew. 00:06:40.800 --> 00:06:45.759 By the time of the use plan, your utility may charge different prices depending on the hour. 00:06:45.920 --> 00:07:04.240 In many places, your electricity is cheapest overnight and on the weekends, while weekday, late afternoons and evenings, often between 4 to 9

p.m., are the most expensive peak windows because everybody's home cooking, charging, cooling, and running appliances at once. 00:07:04.959 --> 00:07:11.360 Well, you know, for me, that means scheduling my cyber truck now to charge after 11 o'clock at night. 00:07:11.519 --> 00:07:17.519 Now it means me running my pool pump at 11 o'clock at night, not during the day. 00:07:17.680 --> 00:07:22.160 And now we're doing laundry on the weekends or after 11 o'clock. 00:07:22.240 --> 00:07:24.160 And those are the big power draws. 00:07:24.399 --> 00:07:34.720 So depending on your utility plan, that same electricity can cost dramatically less during off-peak hours than during the high demand window. 00:07:35.040 --> 00:07:36.160 Exactly right. 00:07:36.480 --> 00:07:50.639 But you don't have to copy somebody else's numbers blindly because one utility may have different off-peak rates, around 5 cents and peak rates at 28 cents per kilowatt hour, while another may have entirely different hours and different prices. 00:07:50.959 --> 00:08:06.000 Khan Edison, for example, that's up in New York, lists a summer peak rate of about 27.86 cents per kilowatt hour versus 5.22 cents off peak on one of the brake plants, Commander Drew. 00:08:06.639 --> 00:08:07.360 Well, Dr. 00:08:07.439 --> 00:08:16.399 Paul, so one of the things that everybody needs to do is call up your utility company or go online and find out what those times are. 00:08:16.639 --> 00:08:18.079 Because here's the big gouge. 00:08:18.399 --> 00:08:21.519 Do the heavy lifting when the grid is not crowded. 00:08:21.759 --> 00:08:35.440 Electric vehicle charging, pool pumps, dishwashers, dryers, and even some thermostat adjustments can be shifted with timers, smart plugs, appliance delay start buttons, or your vehicle's charging schedule. 00:08:35.519 --> 00:08:37.360 And that's what we did with the Cybertruck. 00:08:37.600 --> 00:08:40.240 We change when it will charge. 00:08:41.039 --> 00:08:42.879 Yeah, that's the benefit of a timer. 00:08:43.039 --> 00:08:44.879 You know, that's not just good for your wallet. 00:08:45.039 --> 00:08:46.720 It helps the electrical grid, too. 00:08:46.879 --> 00:08:56.240 So when millions of people avoid using their biggest lows during the peak demand, the system doesn't have to work as hard to meet that giant afterwork surge. 00:08:56.559 --> 00:09:01.519 So those off-peak hours commonly are late in the evening through the early morning. 00:09:01.679 --> 00:09:04.320 And many plans also make weekends cheaper too. 00:09:04.480 --> 00:09:08.720 But your exact schedule is set by your utility, so you need to check. 00:09:09.200 --> 00:09:16.320 So now I'm not saying sit in the dark, sweat all summer, or even make your family wait until midnight to eat dinner. 00:09:16.559 --> 00:09:25.279 I am saying find the big energy users you can move without changing your quality of life, because that is where the savings live. 00:09:26.080 --> 00:09:35.519 So you can start with

your bill, look for the words time of use or TOU or peak or off-peak or even demand charge. 00:09:35.840 --> 00:09:39.519 Then compare your current plan with the utilities alternatives. 00:09:39.840 --> 00:09:46.559 Because a time of use plan only helps if you can actually shift enough electricity out of that expensive window. 00:09:46.799 --> 00:09:55.679 No, consumer reports notes that utilities offer to offer these plans, but peak hours and the potential savings vary by provider and the season. 00:09:55.759 --> 00:09:57.279 So you got to check commandager. 00:09:58.559 --> 00:09:59.200 Well, Dr. 00:09:59.279 --> 00:10:02.000 Paul, here's the smart electricity gouged then. 00:10:02.399 --> 00:10:07.120 Do not just ask how much power am I using, ask when am I using it? 00:10:07.360 --> 00:10:16.320 Charge that truck at night, run the big appliances off peak, know your rate plan and stop paying first class prices for electricity. 00:10:16.480 --> 00:10:18.240 You could have bought on sale. 00:10:18.399 --> 00:10:22.159 It could bring down your electrical bill by at least a third. 00:10:22.399 --> 00:10:24.480 All right, how about some more good news, Dr. 00:10:24.720 --> 00:10:25.200 Paul? 00:10:25.519 --> 00:10:27.519 Sure, I'm always ready for good news. 00:10:27.759 --> 00:10:28.399 Well, good. 00:10:28.559 --> 00:10:34.480 Imagine being a teacher walking into a meeting with no idea why you've been called in. 00:10:34.639 --> 00:10:40.080 You're thinking about lesson plans, your students, and everything waiting for you back in the classroom. 00:10:40.240 --> 00:10:44.240 And then the principal begins handing out envelopes. 00:10:44.720 --> 00:10:48.799 Yeah, that's what happened in California's Ross Valley School District. 00:10:48.960 --> 00:10:56.080 A local resident named Marja Christin had learned that the district was among the lowest funded in the state. 00:10:56.320 --> 00:11:00.799 So she decided to give$1 million directly to his teachers. 00:11:01.120 --> 00:11:06.080 Inside each envelope was a check of more than$9,000, Commander Drew. 00:11:06.639 --> 00:11:08.000 More than$9,000? 00:11:08.399 --> 00:11:12.799 But Paul, what gets me is what that check could actually mean at home. 00:11:13.039 --> 00:11:21.200 One teacher, a mother of three, said it would let her say yes to activities for her kids that have salary, didn't always allow. 00:11:21.440 --> 00:11:27.519 See, they used to buy pencils and pens and paper for the students, and now they're getting paid back a little bit, Dr. 00:11:27.679 --> 00:11:28.240 Pete. 00:11:28.480 --> 00:11:31.519 Yeah, I couldn't believe that teachers have to buy their own supplies. 00:11:31.679 --> 00:11:34.320 That's that's I still think that's crazy. 00:11:34.480 --> 00:11:40.080 But another teacher said she never experienced such a beautiful gift from someone she didn't even know. 00:11:40.399 --> 00:11:42.480 This wasn't only a financial help. 00:11:42.639 --> 00:11:46.960 It was someone saying,

I see how hard you work, and it matters. 00:11:47.519 --> 00:11:48.480 Exactly. 00:11:48.720 --> 00:11:55.919 We hear plenty about what's going wrong, but kindness is happening every day too, and we're going to keep talking about it. 00:11:56.159 --> 00:12:00.000 Mogja saw a need, step forward, and did it. 00:12:00.159 --> 00:12:04.080 And to me, that's proof that good does overcome evil, Dr. 00:12:04.240 --> 00:12:04.559 P. 00:12:05.600 --> 00:12:08.000 And we have some more good news, Dr. 00:12:08.159 --> 00:12:08.639 Paul. 00:12:08.799 --> 00:12:11.679 Here's some good news I never expected to hear. 00:12:11.919 --> 00:12:16.960 The advice we grew up for sprain or strain may not be the whole story. 00:12:17.200 --> 00:12:18.240 You know the drill. 00:12:18.399 --> 00:12:28.320 You hurt yourself, get rest, ice, compression, elevation, but recovery isn't always about keeping an injury completely still until it feels perfect. 00:12:28.480 --> 00:12:35.279 I remember spraining my ankle, playing basketball, and all I had to do was wait for the next game and I could play again. 00:12:35.519 --> 00:12:36.320 Remember that? 00:12:36.559 --> 00:12:37.759 I remember that very well. 00:12:37.919 --> 00:12:42.080 That's uh that's the the benefit of being youth, being being young. 00:12:42.240 --> 00:12:44.320 Sometimes it might be a few minutes. 00:12:44.559 --> 00:12:46.480 But my most extreme was two days. 00:12:46.720 --> 00:12:49.360 The doctor said one time, you need to stay off for at least a couple weeks. 00:12:49.519 --> 00:12:52.559 I think I might have made it 48 hours and still here. 00:12:52.720 --> 00:12:54.080 But that's right, Commander Drew. 00:12:54.320 --> 00:13:06.399 You know, you need to protect an injury first, but the minor sprain or strain, a gradual return of gentle movement, when you can do it without worsening the pain can help you regain the function. 00:13:06.639 --> 00:13:12.480 So it's a change from the idea that you need to stay off of it totally as long as possible. 00:13:13.120 --> 00:13:13.519 Dr. 00:13:13.679 --> 00:13:15.840 Paul, we always heard about ice. 00:13:16.080 --> 00:13:16.879 What about ice? 00:13:17.200 --> 00:13:19.519 Have you been getting that wrong too? 00:13:20.480 --> 00:13:22.320 Well, that answer is more nuanced. 00:13:22.639 --> 00:13:26.960 Ice can ease the pain, and some medical guidance still recommends it early on. 00:13:27.440 --> 00:13:33.759 Researchers and clinicians are debating whether routinely trying to suppress inflammation helps the healing. 00:13:34.080 --> 00:13:36.480 So you don't hear throw out the ice bag. 00:13:36.799 --> 00:13:40.879 You hear there isn't just one rule for every injury. 00:13:42.000 --> 00:13:44.639 Medicine keeps changing and it's incredible. 00:13:44.799 --> 00:13:45.519 And you know what? 00:13:45.679 --> 00:13:48.480 No one should try to tough out a serious injury. 00:13:48.639 --> 00:13:56.240 If you can't put weight on it, the pain is severe, or the swelling's getting worse, go to a doctor, get some medical advice. 00:13:56.639 --> 00:13:57.200 Exactly. 00:13:57.440 --> 00:14:01.279 So the good news is that we keep learning how to take better care of ourselves. 00:14:01.440 --> 00:14:03.200 So pay attention. 00:14:03.519 --> 00:14:04.639 Exactly, Dr. 00:14:04.799 --> 00:14:05.279 Paul. 00:14:05.440 --> 00:14:07.679 Good information shared with a friend. 00:14:07.840 --> 00:14:09.519 That's a wingman move. 00:14:09.679 --> 00:14:13.759 Take care of each other out there, and we'll be right back. 00:14:21.200 --> 00:14:29.360 All right, everybody, it's our jet jolt time, and you know we love jet jolt because we are two badass Navy jet pilots. 00:14:29.519 --> 00:14:31.039 So here's your jet jolt. 00:14:31.279 --> 00:14:36.080 What if your next business trip moved at twice the speed of sound? 00:14:36.399 --> 00:14:45.840 China is building an experimental aircraft called the TMS-10 with an eventual goal of flying passengers at Mach II. 00:14:46.080 --> 00:14:47.519 That's a big promise. 00:14:47.759 --> 00:14:49.679 But first, it has to fly, Dr. 00:14:49.840 --> 00:14:50.480 Paul. 00:14:50.879 --> 00:14:56.720 Yeah, the plan is for a small business class aircraft carrying about 10 to 15 passengers. 00:14:56.879 --> 00:14:59.679 And Commander Drew speeding isn't the only challenge. 00:14:59.840 --> 00:15:05.519 You know, with supersonic speeds, shockwaves can combine into a loud sonic boom. 00:15:06.080 --> 00:15:07.120 It sure can. 00:15:07.279 --> 00:15:08.000 I've heard it. 00:15:08.159 --> 00:15:12.879 So how do you go fast without making everybody on the ground think thunder just rolled in? 00:15:13.039 --> 00:15:15.120 Because it will break windows. 00:15:15.440 --> 00:15:27.679 Yeah, this airplane, the TMS-10, uses that small forward wing called the Kenard and its tail, both, to help keep those shockwaves from stacking up into one louder boom. 00:15:27.919 --> 00:15:34.879 So the goal isn't to reduce the noise or not make it disappear, just to uh cut it down a lot. 00:15:35.519 --> 00:15:36.320 And guess what? 00:15:36.480 --> 00:15:45.679 If it works, the article suggests a Beijing to Shanghai flight that takes about two hours today could actually take somebody just about 30 minutes. 00:15:45.840 --> 00:15:48.720 Now that would put some zip in a travel day, Dr. 00:15:48.960 --> 00:15:49.200 P. 00:15:49.919 --> 00:15:51.200 But it's still early. 00:15:51.440 --> 00:16:00.399 A small-scale model is flown to low speed while the full-size demonstrator is being assembled for a test flight planned by the end of the year. 00:16:00.720 --> 00:16:04.799 Engineers still have to prove that the aircraft and the systems can deliver. 00:16:04.960 --> 00:16:08.000 And you know, Commander Drew, they're doing the same thing over here in the U.S. 00:16:08.240 --> 00:16:10.559 with a company called uh Overture. 00:16:11.679 --> 00:16:13.039 Wow, that's cool. 00:16:13.279 --> 00:16:16.960 So don't pack your

bags for a Mach 2 getaway just yet. 00:16:17.200 --> 00:16:21.519 It's a bold idea with a big test ahead, and we'll be watching. 00:16:21.759 --> 00:16:22.080 Dr. 00:16:22.240 --> 00:16:24.639 Paul, have you ever heard a Sonic Boom? 00:16:24.879 --> 00:16:25.919 Yeah, I'd heard a few. 00:16:26.000 --> 00:16:30.720 I heard a few growing up, didn't know what they were at the age of uh five and six. 00:16:30.960 --> 00:16:52.320 But uh I lived in Queens and not too far from really where Long Island begins, and there's a uh company called Grummin, very famous, it's uh Northrop Grummin now, and they would test airplanes uh off the uh off Long Island Sound, and they would break the sound barrier every once in a while, not too many times, and it would rattle everything. 00:16:52.480 --> 00:16:54.000 And uh I thought it was great. 00:16:54.240 --> 00:16:56.639 Again, adults were very, very upset. 00:16:57.120 --> 00:16:58.480 Wow, that's amazing. 00:16:58.559 --> 00:17:03.120 And the Grumman, you know, it made the A6 intruders, so I know a lot about Grumman. 00:17:03.440 --> 00:17:10.480 When I heard a sonic boom, it was on the USS Nimitz, and they were doing an air show for us out at sea. 00:17:10.640 --> 00:17:14.559 So there was no land around, there was really no people anywhere close. 00:17:14.799 --> 00:17:21.519 And this Tomcat came by so fast that it was silent. 00:17:21.680 --> 00:17:23.440 It looked like a cartoon, Dr. 00:17:23.519 --> 00:17:23.920 Paul. 00:17:24.079 --> 00:17:29.119 And about three or four seconds later, boom, it rattled the whole ship. 00:17:29.279 --> 00:17:32.079 It was an incredible, incredible noise. 00:17:32.319 --> 00:17:35.200 Well, you can check out our jets, everybody behind us. 00:17:35.359 --> 00:17:35.680 Dr. 00:17:35.920 --> 00:17:43.039 Paul has his A7 Corsair, well, not his, thank God, but going into a crash uh net. 00:17:43.119 --> 00:17:45.039 Why don't you talk about that a little bit, Dr. 00:17:45.119 --> 00:17:45.599 Paul? 00:17:45.920 --> 00:17:47.680 Yeah, it's called a barricade. 00:17:47.839 --> 00:17:50.240 Uh I'd never actually seen a barricade. 00:17:50.319 --> 00:17:54.799 I think we had an A621 one night, I'd heard I wasn't flying. 00:17:54.960 --> 00:17:59.440 But a barricade is used when uh conventional landing is not going to work. 00:17:59.680 --> 00:18:05.359 Maybe the tailhook doesn't work or there's a problem on the on the deck of the ship. 00:18:05.599 --> 00:18:08.640 But it's an unusual uh procedure. 00:18:08.880 --> 00:18:18.000 Most people have never had to do it, but it's uh it's a backup emergency just in case uh you can't get aboard uh the normal way. 00:18:18.960 --> 00:18:26.240 Yes, and I know very personally about this, because one night we were out there and I was the last night tanker. 00:18:26.319 --> 00:18:29.839 That means I was the last airplane up there to give anybody gas. 00:18:30.000 --> 00:18:36.400 And I had to give this nugget, meaning a new pilot, an A3 pilot at night. 00:18:36.559 --> 00:18:50.079 I had to give him all my gas and come down and land because he kept coming aboard, but always would go low inside, real close, and then give it too much power and then jump over all the wires. 00:18:50.319 --> 00:18:53.599 Here's the one thing about the barricade most people don't know. 00:18:53.839 --> 00:18:59.200 You have to fly a perfect pass to actually use that barricade. 00:18:59.359 --> 00:19:10.400 And I'm sorry to say this one did not end good because he did not fly a perfect pass, and that airplane winded up in the drink or in the ocean. 00:19:10.720 --> 00:19:12.160 Look at my jets. 00:19:12.319 --> 00:19:17.839 I got an A6 and an A7 behind me, and that's all AI. 00:19:17.920 --> 00:19:23.039 So when you see fire coming out of the tail, it's we didn't have afterburners. 00:19:23.440 --> 00:19:24.960 Thank you, everybody out there. 00:19:25.119 --> 00:19:32.400 Thank you so much for listening to us on Apple Podcasts, watching us on YouTube, TikTok, Instagram. 00:19:32.559 --> 00:19:34.720 Thank you so much for your letters. 00:19:34.880 --> 00:19:36.960 Thank you so much for your subscriptions. 00:19:37.200 --> 00:19:39.119 It really helps us out a lot. 00:19:39.440 --> 00:19:45.200 We have a website, and our website is wingmanshow.com. 00:19:45.440 --> 00:19:49.680 That's w-i-n-g-m-e-n show.com. 00:19:50.079 --> 00:19:54.400 And on that website, we have a couple of things, and one of them is a newsletter. 00:19:54.640 --> 00:20:00.160 And this week's newsletter, how to start a new life in a new location. 00:20:00.559 --> 00:20:05.519 And also on that website, we have our famous frequent flow line. 00:20:05.599 --> 00:20:07.839 And that's where you guys can write Dr. 00:20:07.920 --> 00:20:11.519 Paul, Ace, and myself any letter that you'd like. 00:20:11.599 --> 00:20:14.720 And if we have time, we'll try to put it on the air. 00:20:14.880 --> 00:20:16.640 And we'll be right back. 00:20:23.680 --> 00:20:28.160 All right, everybody, it's time for our frequent flow line, but check this out. 00:20:28.480 --> 00:20:30.960 We have a wingman named ASAP. 00:20:31.039 --> 00:20:32.799 He's just an AI chat box. 00:20:32.960 --> 00:20:34.559 He's not human at all. 00:20:34.799 --> 00:20:46.480 And also, you need to know in AI, not everything is 100% correct, but I will tell all of you out there, it is a must to use and know it will change your life. 00:20:46.720 --> 00:20:49.119 So here's our frequent flow line letter. 00:20:49.359 --> 00:20:51.440 Dear Commander Drew, Dr. 00:20:51.599 --> 00:20:54.799 Paul and Ace, your AI chat box. 00:20:54.960 --> 00:20:59.200 I'm a 57-year-old former Navy man living in Indiana. 00:20:59.440 --> 00:21:05.440 After serving my country, all I really want these days is a little peace and harmony at home. 00:21:05.680 --> 00:21:13.599 But I'm having trouble with a neighbor, and what should be a quiet place to be charged has become a source of real stress. 00:21:14.559 -->

00:21:22.079 Yeah, he goes on to say, I don't want to trade insults, hold a grudge, or start World War III over a property line. 00:21:22.240 --> 00:21:26.720 I'd rather find a way to talk things through and get back to being good neighbors. 00:21:26.880 --> 00:21:30.799 How do I stand up for myself without making the situation worse? 00:21:31.759 --> 00:21:36.720 And I also want you both, NA's, to know how much I enjoy your show. 00:21:36.880 --> 00:21:40.240 I'm impressed by the positive message you put out there. 00:21:40.480 --> 00:21:47.759 You remind us that good can overcome evil, and the way you treat people is proof that kindness still matters. 00:21:47.920 --> 00:21:54.640 So, wingman, what's your advice for an old sailor who wants calm seas right here at home? 00:21:54.880 --> 00:21:59.359 We love your podcast sincerely, a fellow wingman in Indiana. 00:22:00.000 --> 00:22:01.279 What do you think about that, Ace? 00:22:02.319 --> 00:22:03.920 Commander, I love this. 00:22:04.160 --> 00:22:06.079 First of all, it puts the loot to him. 00:22:06.400 --> 00:22:08.799 Service like that is a lifetime imprint. 00:22:08.960 --> 00:22:12.240 Wanting peace at home isn't just reasonable if it's necessary. 00:22:12.400 --> 00:22:17.200 And the fact that he doesn't want to blow things up, that's strength, not weakness. 00:22:17.759 --> 00:22:19.039 Thanks so much, Ace. 00:22:19.359 --> 00:22:21.119 It was a great answer. 00:22:21.440 --> 00:22:29.359 And to our fellow Navy men in Indiana, first, thank you for your service and for those kind words about our show. 00:22:29.680 --> 00:22:31.920 You've already made an important choice. 00:22:32.079 --> 00:22:33.680 You want peace, not a fight. 00:22:33.759 --> 00:22:36.640 And that gives you a really good place to start. 00:22:36.799 --> 00:22:37.839 What about you, Dr. 00:22:38.079 --> 00:22:38.559 Paul? 00:22:38.880 --> 00:22:49.119 Yeah, I'd tell our gentleman from Indiana to pick a calm moment to speak with your neighbor rather than trying to settle things when either of you is really upset. 00:22:49.279 --> 00:22:54.160 So be specific about what's bothering you, but leave room to hear their side. 00:22:54.319 --> 00:23:00.000 You don't have to agree on everything to find one practical change that makes life better for both of you. 00:23:00.720 --> 00:23:06.480 And if that conversation doesn't work, don't turn it into a contest of who can shout louder. 00:23:06.640 --> 00:23:07.920 Keep your cool. 00:23:08.240 --> 00:23:14.559 Make note of what's happening and consider asking a neutral person to help you work it out. 00:23:15.119 --> 00:23:19.279 Yeah, wanting harmony doesn't mean you have to accept behavior that troubles you. 00:23:19.519 --> 00:23:24.720 If it means you can set boundaries without losing kindness that matters to you. 00:23:25.519 --> 00:23:27.279 You know this from your Navy days. 00:23:27.359 --> 00:23:30.079 Steady hands can get a crew through rough water. 00:23:30.240 --> 00:23:32.960 We hope you and your neighbor find a way forward. 00:23:33.119 --> 00:23:36.559 And thank you for reminding us what this show is about. 00:23:36.799 --> 00:23:40.079 Good people looking out for one another. 00:23:40.319 --> 00:23:41.759 And we'll be right back. 00:23:42.000 --> 00:23:43.359 This is a Wingman PSA. 00:23:43.680 --> 00:23:45.279 In the sky, your partner has your back. 00:23:45.359 --> 00:23:46.720 Now let's get to it. 00:23:47.680 --> 00:23:49.920 Climbing in now, System Screen. 00:23:50.960 --> 00:23:53.119 All right, the 11 facts in life. 00:23:53.200 --> 00:23:54.960 This is a Wingman PSA. 00:23:55.359 --> 00:24:02.319 And from the 11 facts in life, under fact number two, live your life to the fullest. 00:24:02.559 --> 00:24:06.720 The goal is a long, healthy, and happy life. 00:24:06.880 --> 00:24:09.920 Once again, live your life to the fullest. 00:24:10.079 --> 00:24:13.759 The goal is a long, healthy and happy life. 00:24:14.000 --> 00:24:14.400 Dr. 00:24:14.480 --> 00:24:16.079 Paul, that says it all. 00:24:16.240 --> 00:24:18.480 You know, it's about being happy in your life. 00:24:18.640 --> 00:24:23.599 And it's also about being healthy and actually trying to be happy for a long time. 00:24:23.680 --> 00:24:24.799 What do you think, Paul? 00:24:25.119 --> 00:24:26.559 Long, healthy, and happy. 00:24:26.720 --> 00:24:29.359 That's a good three uh section break. 00:24:29.519 --> 00:24:31.119 It's the middle one that's really important. 00:24:31.200 --> 00:24:35.200 That's what you have probably the most control over, is the healthy part. 00:24:35.359 --> 00:24:36.960 So be good to yourself. 00:24:37.200 --> 00:24:44.079 Watch what you eat, don't go crazy, and uh have a good time, but do things in moderation. 00:24:44.400 --> 00:24:46.160 And we'll be right back. 00:24:53.119 --> 00:24:55.519 All right, everybody, it's time for the gouge. 00:24:55.599 --> 00:24:56.960 And you know what the gouge is. 00:24:57.200 --> 00:25:00.720 The gouge is shit you need to know, but sometimes nobody tells you. 00:25:00.880 --> 00:25:02.559 We learned that in the Navy. 00:25:02.720 --> 00:25:07.680 So I'm gonna go to Ace or ChatGPT and I'm gonna ask them this question. 00:25:07.920 --> 00:25:14.880 Ace, you're at the airport when your flight is delayed, and the line at the gate is getting longer by the second. 00:25:15.039 --> 00:25:23.759 What should you do right away to give yourself the best shot at getting where you're going, and what mistakes should you avoid? 00:25:24.079 --> 00:25:29.759 Get on the airline app immediately and see if you can rebook yourself, waiting too passively, right? 00:25:29.920 --> 00:25:32.960 Don't assume the gate agent will fix everything for you. 00:25:33.119 --> 00:25:39.200 And don't check the bag unless you absolutely have to, because that slows down your rebooking options. 00:25:39.519 --> 00:25:40.400 Be polite. 00:25:41.200 --> 00:25:43.599 Thanks very much for the Galc Ace. 00:25:43.680

--> 00:25:46.480 Let's break out, and we'll be right back. 00:25:54.960 --> 00:25:57.680 All right, everybody, welcome back to the Wingman Show. 00:25:57.839 --> 00:26:06.160 It is now time for our Wingman story, and we love to give Wingman stories because we love to highlight people taking care of other people. 00:26:06.559 --> 00:26:10.559 You see, Navy families learn to pack up their lives and start over. 00:26:10.720 --> 00:26:22.319 But when a 12-year-old Jeremy's family moved to Naples, Italy, he couldn't fit the thing he missed most into a moving box, and that was his friends back home. 00:26:22.880 --> 00:26:26.079 Yeah, at school, the words flew past him. 00:26:26.319 --> 00:26:29.279 In the neighborhood, he didn't know how to join in. 00:26:29.519 --> 00:26:38.000 So Jeremy spent his afternoons at the window, close enough to hear other kids laughing and feeling a world away himself. 00:26:39.039 --> 00:26:41.839 So a boy who lived nearby noticed that. 00:26:42.000 --> 00:26:43.440 His name was Mario. 00:26:43.759 --> 00:26:48.480 One afternoon, Mario walked over with a soccer ball tucked under his arm. 00:26:48.640 --> 00:26:51.119 He didn't have perfect English sentence ready. 00:26:51.359 --> 00:26:55.839 He just pointed towards the courtyard, smiled, and waited. 00:26:56.559 --> 00:26:58.240 So Jeremy followed him. 00:26:58.400 --> 00:27:02.079 When he missed a kick, Mario missed one on purpose, too. 00:27:02.319 --> 00:27:03.599 And they both laughed. 00:27:03.839 --> 00:27:07.920 Then Mario pointed to the ball and said, Paula, he said. 00:27:08.240 --> 00:27:09.759 Jeremy tried the word. 00:27:10.079 --> 00:27:13.680 Mario grinned like Jeremy had scored the winning goal. 00:27:14.960 --> 00:27:17.839 And after that, Mario kept showing up. 00:27:18.000 --> 00:27:23.440 He taught Jeremy words for little things they saw as they used to walk around the neighborhood. 00:27:23.599 --> 00:27:27.920 And when Jeremy got one wrong, Mario never made him feel small. 00:27:28.160 --> 00:27:31.680 He simply said it again and stayed beside him. 00:27:32.000 --> 00:27:32.400 Yeah. 00:27:32.640 --> 00:27:36.079 Weeks later, Jeremy called an old friend back home. 00:27:36.319 --> 00:27:38.319 Said, I still miss you, he said. 00:27:38.559 --> 00:27:46.319 Then he turned his phone to his friend who could see Mario waving beside him, then said, But I think I'm going to be okay. 00:27:47.200 --> 00:27:50.480 Mario couldn't give Jeremy his old life back. 00:27:50.720 --> 00:27:55.759 He gave him something he needed just as much: a friend in the new one. 00:27:55.920 --> 00:27:58.799 Sometimes a wingman doesn't know your language. 00:27:59.039 --> 00:28:02.960 He just sees you standing alone and makes room for you. 00:28:03.200 --> 00:28:07.599 And everybody, thank you so much for watching our show and listening to our show. 00:28:07.759 --> 00:28:20.319 And anybody out there who can hear my voice, whatever you think is important, whatever you think is beautiful, and most importantly, whatever makes you happy, may you have that today and forever. 00:28:20.559 --> 00:28:22.160 I pray for peace. 00:28:22.400 --> 00:28:24.319 I pray for peace too, Commander Drew. 00:28:24.480 --> 00:28:25.599 It's good to see you again. 00:28:25.759 --> 00:28:28.880 And we appreciate all those who listen, like, and share our message. 00:28:29.119 --> 00:28:31.359 Send this to someone else today. 00:28:31.599 --> 00:28:35.599 Or when you hear this, that really needs to hear something positive. 00:28:36.400 --> 00:28:39.599 Most of you are not subscribers, please become a subscriber. 00:28:39.680 --> 00:28:41.039 It helps the algorithm. 00:28:41.200 --> 00:28:48.079 And if you're watching this on YouTube, or particularly uh Apple Podcasts, you can actually see us on video also. 00:28:48.319 --> 00:28:49.359 You have that option. 00:28:49.599 --> 00:28:52.720 So, in any case, we look forward to talking to you again real soon. 00:28:53.039 --> 00:28:54.319 Thank you once again, Dr. 00:28:54.400 --> 00:28:56.079 Paul Thompson, my friend. 00:28:56.240 --> 00:28:58.400 Thank you for your love, your time. 00:28:58.640 --> 00:29:01.039 And that's something that we won't ever get back. 00:29:01.200 --> 00:29:03.279 I want to thank all the listeners too. 00:29:03.440 --> 00:29:05.519 Thank you so much for doing the show, Dr. 00:29:05.599 --> 00:29:06.960 Paul with Jamon. 00:29:07.119 --> 00:29:07.759 Well, thank you, Mr. 00:29:07.839 --> 00:29:09.200 Drew, for inviting me on. 00:29:09.440 --> 00:29:10.799 Always good to talk to you. 00:29:10.960 --> 00:29:17.200 And, ladies and gentlemen, please remember to like, share, and subscribe to this podcast or anything the podcast. 00:29:17.519 --> 00:29:21.359 If you're looking at YouTube, uh, they say smash the like button. 00:29:21.440 --> 00:29:26.400 Don't smash it, just press it gently and refer to use as a link to all your friends. 00:29:26.559 --> 00:29:39.119 You can also look at 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