Full Transcript for Moving Without Certainty Rewards You

making the choice. 00:05:13.519 --> 00:05:14.720 Is it a good fit for me? 00:05:14.879 --> 00:05:16.240 Is it a good fit for them? 00:05:16.480 --> 00:05:21.360 We won't know until that sort of first piece happens. 00:05:21.600 --> 00:05:24.639 And this is what I mean by moving before certainty, right? 00:05:24.959 --> 00:05:38.000 This morning I walked into a networking room, and I honestly did not know that I was gonna have to get up and speak about my business in a very quick way, not like, you know, this is my name, this is my business name. 00:05:38.240 --> 00:05:42.959 Thank you for Matt for bringing me, because that was the guy that um introduced me to this group. 00:05:43.120 --> 00:05:48.879 Little did I know that there was a guy who used to play basketball that I knew who was in the group, who has his own business. 00:05:49.040 --> 00:05:50.959 So that was a really nice reconnection. 00:05:51.120 --> 00:05:55.839 And I got to see what other people do in business in Newcastle. 00:05:57.439 --> 00:06:01.839 And I also got to choose would this be a room that I would want to be in? 00:06:02.079 --> 00:06:03.519 At this point, no. 00:06:03.839 --> 00:06:09.279 Um, not because I don't think it's a great room, but at this point it wouldn't serve me. 00:06:10.000 --> 00:06:12.639 And that's for a number of reasons, right? 00:06:12.800 --> 00:06:22.160 But it's the choice of walking in and being grateful, you know, they served breakfast and it was really lovely, but I wasn't expecting to get up and I don't think I addressed it really well. 00:06:22.240 --> 00:06:26.959 And I realized that I wasn't talking about my business enough. 00:06:27.120 --> 00:06:28.399 I actually haven't been. 00:06:28.560 --> 00:06:31.279 Um, I haven't had a lot of people that ask me about it all the time. 00:06:31.439 --> 00:06:38.399 I haven't had practice in talking about it in 30 seconds or 45 seconds and selling and then asking for what I need, right? 00:06:38.560 --> 00:06:42.959 And that was really powerful to be in the room for that reason alone. 00:06:43.199 --> 00:06:46.639 And that doesn't mean that this group wouldn't fit me in the future. 00:06:46.959 --> 00:06:52.000 It could very well be, even for the skill of just talking about my business every week. 00:06:52.240 --> 00:06:54.560 And I think that's really powerful too, right? 00:06:54.720 --> 00:07:07.199 There are lots of little skills in life that unless we're constantly using them, we're not actually allowing ourselves to become proficient and competent in them. 00:07:07.360 --> 00:07:12.560 And it was a really beautiful eye-opener for me because I haven't been using those skills. 00:07:12.639 --> 00:07:14.480 I haven't been getting up talking about movies as often. 00:07:14.639 --> 00:07:18.879 When people ask me the question, I would stumble over things and I wasn't clear. 00:07:19.199 --> 00:07:24.959 And I also had run two PT lessons, so my brain was not in the space for that. 00:07:25.040 --> 00:07:27.439 And then I'd raced home and I'd quickly gotten dressed. 00:07:27.600 --> 00:07:29.759 But the difference is I put myself in the room. 00:07:29.920 --> 00:07:31.680 And this is the powerful part, right? 00:07:31.759 --> 00:07:34.319 There's no certainty of that room giving me anything. 00:07:34.560 --> 00:07:36.000 Um, there never is. 00:07:36.079 --> 00:07:40.240 Whenever you join a room, there's actually no certainty in the room that anything will come of it. 00:07:40.639 --> 00:07:44.879 There is, however, conversations that help you understand and help you move forward quicker. 00:07:44.959 --> 00:07:49.759 And by the time I got to the last conversation, I was a lot clearer on what I was saying about my business. 00:07:49.839 --> 00:07:56.720 But it also made me realize there were parts of my business that were really hard to understand from someone who was not in my field. 00:07:57.279 --> 00:07:59.439 So I call myself a leadership and embodiment coach. 00:07:59.519 --> 00:08:02.000 And what I realized is everyone's like, what does embodiment mean? 00:08:02.240 --> 00:08:06.000 And then you've got to explain embodiment, which leadership everyone gets. 00:08:06.160 --> 00:08:09.360 And then I was like, well, I'm actually a life and leadership coach. 00:08:09.839 --> 00:08:23.600 And sometimes it has to be that simple of marketing, but you have to move to allow yourself to open up the fact that you didn't realize that you weren't actually marketing yourself in a simple way to anyone that then could take that away. 00:08:23.759 --> 00:08:32.399 They may not need it themselves, but if they want to refer you, they need to be able to say really quickly what you do and keep it in their mind and remember it, right? 00:08:32.559 --> 00:08:33.919 That's how referrals work. 00:08:34.080 --> 00:08:36.000 It's like if someone asked if they needed a plumber. 00:08:36.320 --> 00:08:37.919 Like, oh, I know a plumber. 00:08:38.080 --> 00:08:40.320 Um, so that's kind of the beautiful piece. 00:08:40.480 --> 00:08:44.559 And then I came home and did this beautiful podcast with this incredible woman. 00:08:44.879 --> 00:08:54.240 And again, all I did was it came up in a Facebook group and it said, like, if you'd like to be on the podcast, um, fill out this form. 00:08:54.399 --> 00:08:55.279 So I did. 00:08:55.440 --> 00:09:01.679 And I got to get on a beautiful podcast and meet a beautiful woman in the world in business. 00:09:02.240 --> 00:09:11.919 And I'm grateful for that because it also got me another opportunity to talk about my business and why I created what I created and what I've been through and my story. 00:09:12.639 --> 00:09:23.600 And here's the piece: the more I've moved and put myself in any situation, there's so many things I've actually applied for that nothing has come from it. 00:09:24.000 --> 00:09:33.039 And but I've moved anyway, in a way that things, if they seem aligned, or if I think, oh, that'd be a really cool

opportunity, I've moved towards them. 00:09:34.639 --> 00:09:36.720 And this is the piece. 00:09:36.879 --> 00:09:39.919 A lot of the time, what happens is we get an intuitive nudge, right? 00:09:40.080 --> 00:09:44.639 A thing that says, like, go try this out, or go talk to this person, or this has come up for a reason. 00:09:44.799 --> 00:09:51.519 So when I started to put out to the universe that I wanted a different job, randomly I met, you know, had a friend who I worked with at that job. 00:09:51.679 --> 00:09:53.919 They're like, Oh, I work here, you should go and talk to this person. 00:09:54.000 --> 00:09:56.080 And they knew them, so they put a good word in for me. 00:09:56.159 --> 00:09:59.519 And then I was like, oh, well, I go to this gym, so maybe I talk to them. 00:10:00.080 --> 00:10:04.559 And it's amazing how all these little movements, right? 00:10:04.720 --> 00:10:06.159 They might not mean anything right now. 00:10:06.320 --> 00:10:09.679 They guarantee no certainty in any aspect, right? 00:10:09.919 --> 00:10:11.600 None of this is certain. 00:10:11.919 --> 00:10:14.399 But the piece is that I'm moving anyway. 00:10:14.639 --> 00:10:37.679 And that allows you to open up your world and allows you to become clearer and allows you, and especially in business, because if you're not in rooms where you get to talk about your business often and you're not talking about your business all the time, you actually aren't always as clear. 00:10:37.919 --> 00:10:42.559 I find this, I find I'm not always as clear, even though I talk about it on social media. 00:10:42.879 --> 00:10:49.519 Because my business is so broad, I struggle to sometimes put it into a 30-second spiel. 00:10:49.840 --> 00:11:00.159 And so here's what I want you to know is whether it's business, whether it's your work, whether it's relationships, whether whatever it is, right? 00:11:00.399 --> 00:11:09.840 If you don't take the step and move forward towards it, you're not allowing the universe to open up and show you opportunities for that and how it can grow. 00:11:10.240 --> 00:11:14.559 And you're also not saying if it's actually the right choice for you. 00:11:14.799 --> 00:11:22.000 Because here's the thing: it's always about choosing opportunities, can come in and some of them aren't for you. 00:11:22.080 --> 00:11:24.399 And you can be like, oh, that's actually not for me. 00:11:24.559 --> 00:11:25.440 That doesn't work. 00:11:25.679 --> 00:11:26.799 No, thank you. 00:11:27.120 --> 00:11:41.519 But some we have to move to find out one, if it feels right for us, but two, sometimes we take the opportunity and it might tick some boxes, but we actually then find out, oh, it doesn't tick them all, right? 00:11:41.600 --> 00:11:42.639 With the job I took. 00:11:42.799 --> 00:11:45.120 There were some things I was like, yes, this is an alignment. 00:11:45.200 --> 00:11:46.639 I like this, I like this, I like this. 00:11:46.799 --> 00:11:50.559 And then I got to a point

where I was like, this does not serve me anymore. 00:11:51.519 --> 00:11:52.559 So I pivot. 00:11:52.639 --> 00:11:55.440 So I try something new, so I move towards something else. 00:11:55.600 --> 00:11:57.759 So I allow myself to open up. 00:11:57.919 --> 00:11:58.879 Same with business. 00:11:59.039 --> 00:12:04.639 There are now pieces in my business that I will absolutely kill because they don't serve anymore. 00:12:04.960 --> 00:12:14.399 And this is the beauty of it, because then some of my other pieces that I've been, you know, consistently running may then turn into something bigger. 00:12:15.120 --> 00:12:18.960 I had a beautiful download today, my beautiful She Remembers event that I run every month. 00:12:19.120 --> 00:12:25.440 I was like, oh, maybe it now gets to expand to be a full-day mini retreat. 00:12:25.840 --> 00:12:27.600 So here's the pieces, right? 00:12:27.759 --> 00:12:30.080 And every three months, not every month. 00:12:30.320 --> 00:12:35.919 So it's like we get to be with how does it evolve? 00:12:36.080 --> 00:12:37.200 How does it grow? 00:12:37.360 --> 00:12:38.960 What does that mean? 00:12:39.360 --> 00:12:47.440 And, you know, I even had to make some practical decisions, like cutting my VA's hours, because I was like, this isn't working right now. 00:12:47.840 --> 00:12:51.759 And you have to look at business in a strategic sense. 00:12:51.840 --> 00:12:57.840 And I think because I've seen a lot of people around me do the same thing, it's really opened my eyes to be like, okay, you also need to really look at this. 00:12:58.080 --> 00:13:02.080 You know, is that actually profitable right now? 00:13:02.240 --> 00:13:03.519 Is that working? 00:13:03.919 --> 00:13:08.480 You know, will this help if you do something to support yourself? 00:13:08.639 --> 00:13:13.519 Or, you know, looking into like, would I like to go to do psychology again? 00:13:13.759 --> 00:13:14.320 I don't know. 00:13:14.480 --> 00:13:22.000 Like, there's all of these different doors that you get to be curious about and you get to make movement towards, and if it feels right, keep going. 00:13:22.159 --> 00:13:24.080 If it doesn't, it'll redirect you. 00:13:24.399 --> 00:13:29.600 And that is powerful. 00:13:30.720 --> 00:13:34.639 And you have to allow yourself to be in a place where you choose, right? 00:13:34.720 --> 00:13:48.480 That's what gets us out of survival is making the choice instead of feeling like we have to stay or we have to do a certain thing because it keeps us externally safe, but not internally safe. 00:13:50.159 --> 00:14:05.840 And it's amazing how it aligns us with certain people and certain things that allow us to move to our next piece or maybe learn the skill that we needed, right? 00:14:05.919 --> 00:14:09.679 Today, of course, I had two beautiful, like had some beautiful connections. 00:14:09.840 --> 00:14:12.639 I didn't really go and talk to a lot of people, to be honest with you. 00:14:12.879 --> 00:14:17.279 I got up and I botched saying I was like, I'm an embodiment and leadership coach. 00:14:17.360 --> 00:14:29.919 Didn't say I was a woman's embodiment and leadership coach, but I reminded me that I need to keep learning the skill and keep talking about it and talking about it and talking about it and refining and being like, what do I do? 00:14:31.039 --> 00:14:37.679 And I recently changed my Instagram so it was more, so it was easier. 00:14:37.919 --> 00:14:40.320 Intuitive life and leadership coach, right? 00:14:40.399 --> 00:14:50.799 That is a lot more aligned with someone looking at it going, oh, I know what that is, than someone looking at embodiment and leadership or something else, right? 00:14:50.879 --> 00:15:07.840 It's allowing myself to be more concrete in what it looks like so someone can read it straight up and also allows people to connect deeper and want to look deeper because I then can talk about the rest of it in there. 00:15:08.000 --> 00:15:18.879 And I loved being able to talk about how I help women through their identity shift, through their changing, through their building self-trust when it's in the unknown and the uncertainty. 00:15:18.960 --> 00:15:24.879 Because when we make movement in the unknown and in the uncertainty, it's scary. 00:15:25.440 --> 00:15:31.279 And though, this is why I built Lead Your Life Collective. 00:15:31.360 --> 00:15:40.480 You can join the membership at any time, you can leave whenever you want, and you can be supported, celebrated, and held accountable in the things that maybe you're scared to do. 00:15:40.559 --> 00:15:50.159 There's something behind it, it might not be the actual action, but you actually get to be supported and loved in this membership. 00:15:50.320 --> 00:16:01.519 Get hot seat coaching on something that you need, and it's powerful because you're moving in the direction with support. 00:16:01.919 --> 00:16:14.879 But one of the biggest things is, you know, when you feel like other people are supporting you, and maybe you hear a woman say that she's scared to do something, you know, because that's fear is most of the things that hold us back. 00:16:15.840 --> 00:16:18.720 You actually get to realize you're not the only one. 00:16:19.039 --> 00:16:29.919 And this is what the collective is about: showing that we are a collective consciousness and that we all have collective fears, we all have things that we struggle with. 00:16:30.159 --> 00:16:34.799 It may not all be in the same area of our life, but that's what lead your life is about. 00:16:34.960 --> 00:16:40.960 It's about holding all of it, being with ourselves in all of it. 00:16:41.200 --> 00:16:45.120 There are going to be times where your health might be the thing that you want to work on. 00:16:45.200 --> 00:16:48.080 There are going to be times when your business is going to be the thing you want to work on. 00:16:48.240 --> 00:16:50.320 There's all these pieces, right? 00:16:51.200 --> 00:17:19.359 And when you

start to allow yourself to be held in a really safe space to express what you need to move through to actually get to where you want to go, that opens the door and should and allows you to step through it powerfully, do the thing that's going to move the needle instead of the thing that you need, think you need to do, but what's behind it? 00:17:20.079 --> 00:17:25.839 I had a beautiful woman and she was like, I'm going to start my coaching business in six months, right? 00:17:25.920 --> 00:17:27.359 And I was like, Why six months? 00:17:28.160 --> 00:17:30.720 My head, I'm like, that makes no sense. 00:17:32.319 --> 00:17:33.839 When you could start it right now. 00:17:34.160 --> 00:17:39.680 And I was like, what is it going to cost you if you start in six months' time instead of tomorrow? 00:17:40.319 --> 00:17:41.680 And she was like, Whoa. 00:17:42.559 --> 00:17:42.880 Right? 00:17:42.960 --> 00:17:45.039 Because coaching is about asking the right questions. 00:17:45.759 --> 00:17:46.799 I don't need the answers. 00:17:47.119 --> 00:17:50.319 I'm here to support you by asking you some powerful questions. 00:17:50.640 --> 00:17:52.480 So you know the answer. 00:17:52.640 --> 00:17:54.240 You know what you need. 00:17:55.279 --> 00:17:58.720 And we got to the nitty-gritty of the fact that she was scared to tell her mum. 00:17:58.960 --> 00:18:01.680 And I was like, okay, this is the piece. 00:18:01.759 --> 00:18:11.279 It's not about starting your business, it's about being seen or being about the fear of judgment, the fear of being seen, the fear of all of these pieces, right? 00:18:11.359 --> 00:18:12.799 Especially when it comes to our loved ones. 00:18:13.119 --> 00:18:13.920 I'm the same. 00:18:14.400 --> 00:18:15.359 We've all done it. 00:18:15.519 --> 00:18:17.680 We've all been like, I'll just stay small. 00:18:17.920 --> 00:18:20.880 I won't do the thing because people around me won't get it. 00:18:21.920 --> 00:18:22.319 Right? 00:18:23.119 --> 00:18:31.839 And so the piece to that is that if you keep doing that, you're the one that loses out. 00:18:32.400 --> 00:18:37.599 You're the one that gets disconnected from yourself because you're living a life that everyone else wants you to live. 00:18:38.880 --> 00:18:39.839 Fuck that. 00:18:40.799 --> 00:18:42.960 I did that for most of my life. 00:18:45.039 --> 00:18:46.240 Do you know what it did? 00:18:46.880 --> 00:18:53.440 It caused me burnout, it caused me to be unhappy, caused me all of these things, right? 00:18:54.319 --> 00:18:58.000 I'm not saying though that it wasn't part of my last purpose to do what I did. 00:18:58.319 --> 00:19:00.480 Absolutely great things came out of it as well. 00:19:00.799 --> 00:19:08.160 And though, if I hadn't chosen to leave the army, I would not be where I am now. 00:19:08.319 --> 00:19:25.039 I would not be have all the opportunities I have, and I would not have been through the uncomfortable season of the identity shift of being a PTI sergeant

to running a business by Marseille with my beautiful VA. 00:19:25.119 --> 00:19:31.200 I should acknowledge her incredible presence and the beautiful people that assist me on the podcast. 00:19:32.319 --> 00:19:44.720 But the piece here is that I had to make the move to create capacity, I could open the space, to call in the things that I truly wanted. 00:19:45.119 --> 00:19:47.599 And the same with this job. 00:19:47.839 --> 00:19:49.680 I was like, it's no longer serving me. 00:19:50.000 --> 00:19:57.440 I want to move into a space where I feel actually valued. 00:19:58.960 --> 00:20:00.400 And there's a piece here. 00:20:01.119 --> 00:20:04.480 I walked into this gym, and I have not met these people ever in my life. 00:20:04.559 --> 00:20:06.240 They'd never met me either. 00:20:06.799 --> 00:20:12.799 And when you come out of being in the army, you don't have a lot of qualifications technically in CV world, right? 00:20:12.880 --> 00:20:17.599 But you have all these skills and you're incredibly talented in a lot of areas. 00:20:18.640 --> 00:20:20.720 But people don't see that on paper. 00:20:20.960 --> 00:20:24.720 It's an interesting thing to go in and try and put a resume into a job. 00:20:25.599 --> 00:20:31.920 And this guy decided that he wanted me to come in and meet him and Sarah, um, his offsider. 00:20:32.400 --> 00:20:36.000 And um they sat me down and we had a conversation. 00:20:36.160 --> 00:20:40.319 We generally talked about like what I had done, what they had done. 00:20:40.640 --> 00:20:54.880 And if we hadn't have had the conversation where it opened up what we both knew, what we, you know, what I could bring to the table, what they could bring to the table for me, we would not be in a position where we're looking at what that looks like. 00:20:55.759 --> 00:21:05.440 And that's really powerful because unless you put yourself in the room, I would have never known if that opportunity was possible. 00:21:05.599 --> 00:21:17.200 And if they hadn't have opened, like decided to meet me anyway, when they knew that they didn't really have a lot to offer apart from covers, maybe every now and then, we wouldn't be in the position we're in. 00:21:17.359 --> 00:21:20.720 Now, something may come of it, something may not, right? 00:21:20.880 --> 00:21:22.160 We get to choose that still. 00:21:22.240 --> 00:21:26.240 We're still in the phase of learning if it is a right fit for both of us. 00:21:26.559 --> 00:21:37.359 But the point of it is if we didn't open the door and move and be open to the possibility, then we wouldn't be sitting where we are right now. 00:21:37.680 --> 00:21:46.000 And if I didn't open myself to move and get out of the defense force, I wouldn't have had the opportunities that I've had since leaving. 00:21:46.319 --> 00:21:59.680 I wouldn't have met certain people, I wouldn't have had certain experiences, I wouldn't have learnt, you know, new things and built a whole new level of self trust. 00:22:00.799 --> 00:22:19.359 In me to hold myself, even after a career that held me for so long, that I can do it for me, that I get to create safety, that I get to meet beautiful, incredible people, that I get to build something really powerful to help women lead their lives powerfully. 00:22:19.839 --> 00:22:35.519 Because I have gone through another identity shift and used all the tools and all the things that I have learned over my period, and there's plenty more to go to help me hold this on my own. 00:22:35.759 --> 00:22:40.559 I'm not saying I haven't needed help and been supported. 00:22:41.759 --> 00:22:52.720 And I haven't, I'm not going to say that I didn't white knuckle things because I've realized in my career in the army, we're really good at white knuckling and getting through it ourselves. 00:22:52.880 --> 00:23:00.720 And that is something that that can be a real thing that comes up that I didn't realize I was really good at. 00:23:02.079 --> 00:23:06.960 And though by allowing people to help me, it's been really powerful, right? 00:23:07.279 --> 00:23:11.680 Because I've then had all these other opportunities and things come up through their networks. 00:23:12.400 --> 00:23:20.480 And that's a beautiful thing because then you move into rooms that you don't really know what's going to happen, and you start to stop expecting things. 00:23:20.640 --> 00:23:24.480 You kind of open yourself up to move and let it go. 00:23:24.880 --> 00:23:30.400 And if it feels right, you do it again, or you don't, or you sign up, or you don't. 00:23:30.960 --> 00:23:42.400 And it means that it allows you to see the next step in the path, or it redirects you somewhere else. 00:23:43.200 --> 00:23:56.559 And that's a powerful thing because in a world where we want to control everything or we want to know every step until we get there, that would be bloody boring, by the way. 00:23:56.799 --> 00:24:01.839 I think it sounds attractive, but imagine if you knew the date you were gonna die. 00:24:02.000 --> 00:24:03.119 Like, do you know what I mean? 00:24:03.200 --> 00:24:04.079 Like all of these things. 00:24:04.240 --> 00:24:05.680 I don't think that would be very exciting. 00:24:05.759 --> 00:24:12.160 Some other people could probably argue that it is, but I like the mystery of life. 00:24:12.720 --> 00:24:15.200 And I enjoy that I don't know what's coming next. 00:24:15.359 --> 00:24:17.119 And I also don't enjoy it. 00:24:17.680 --> 00:24:20.079 But it gives that beautiful mystery. 00:24:20.240 --> 00:24:47.200 And the more I allow my intuition to guide me and I allow myself to trust the universe and honor the times that are tough for me to learn lessons, skills, all of these things, what I want, what aligns with me, what that looks like, um, the more it opens up my world to understanding how we get to operate in it. 00:24:47.519 --> 00:24:57.279 Because, you know, I see my patterns, I see how they play out, I see how I didn't value myself in that space either, even

though I didn't have the accreditations. 00:24:57.440 --> 00:25:01.279 Well, I did, but no one knew what that meant. 00:25:01.519 --> 00:25:10.880 Then I started to meet all these people that did trust me and did see how much I had grown and how much I knew and trusted me completely, right? 00:25:11.039 --> 00:25:14.079 But I relearned that self-trust in myself. 00:25:14.480 --> 00:25:21.279 So then it appeared on out into the world, and that's what made these opportunities possible. 00:25:21.680 --> 00:25:33.759 And so I want to ask you, where in your life are you not moving at all? 00:25:33.920 --> 00:25:36.079 Like where are you stagnant or stuck? 00:25:37.680 --> 00:25:44.880 Because even if you make one small move today, and I want you to allow yourself, you know exactly what that is. 00:25:45.039 --> 00:26:00.880 So if I ask you right now, what is that one small movement or thing to do or that you have been avoiding or not listening to, or deciding that no, that doesn't make any sense, what is it? 00:26:01.039 --> 00:26:02.640 What's that one thing? 00:26:03.359 --> 00:26:05.039 And we'll be honest with yourself. 00:26:05.519 --> 00:26:07.519 That's sometimes the hardest part. 00:26:09.119 --> 00:26:10.079 What is it? 00:26:10.319 --> 00:26:12.160 What is that one thing? 00:26:12.640 --> 00:26:15.920 I want you to move powerfully towards it. 00:26:16.000 --> 00:26:17.680 I want you to do that one thing. 00:26:17.920 --> 00:26:33.839 If that's all you do this week, that one thing you've been avoiding, that one thing that you know your intuition is telling you to move towards, that is going to get you out of being stuck or stagnant or a rut. 00:26:35.359 --> 00:26:36.240 Do it. 00:26:36.559 --> 00:27:00.640 Even if it seems ridiculous, even if it makes no fucking sense, even if it is like me running going on a run and randomly finding this beautiful track in the bush, even if it's walking into a networking event that you have no fucking idea about, after you've run two PT classes, been up since 4 a.m., and hope to dear god you don't fuck it up, right? 00:27:01.039 --> 00:27:02.319 Totally fine. 00:27:02.640 --> 00:27:05.279 And then fuck it up. 00:27:06.480 --> 00:27:12.720 Say a million things when you're like, I actually know how to say this, but for some reason my brain and my mouth are not connected. 00:27:13.039 --> 00:27:16.079 You know, go on a podcast where you've never met the person. 00:27:16.799 --> 00:27:20.000 Put your business out there in a way that you've never done it before. 00:27:20.960 --> 00:27:23.200 Allow yourself to move. 00:27:24.160 --> 00:27:24.799 One thing. 00:27:24.960 --> 00:27:26.079 Not a thousand. 00:27:27.839 --> 00:27:29.039 Cut your to-do list. 00:27:29.279 --> 00:27:30.960 Cut it up, fucking put it in the bin. 00:27:31.440 --> 00:27:32.160 One thing. 00:27:34.559 --> 00:27:40.319 Because that movement of that one thing will show you the next thing. 00:27:41.920 --> 00:27:45.039 Which when you do that thing, it'll show you the next thing. 00:27:46.240 --> 00:27:48.400 That's how movement works. 00:27:49.839 --> 00:27:50.160 Right? 00:27:50.240 --> 00:27:53.680 It's like progression in a movement in fitness. 00:27:54.960 --> 00:28:02.240 So before I do a pull-up, I'd like to learn how to retract my scapulars, right? 00:28:02.400 --> 00:28:04.319 Because I want to know the first part of the pull-up. 00:28:04.640 --> 00:28:06.640 You could even go even less than that, right? 00:28:06.720 --> 00:28:07.279 And not do it. 00:28:07.519 --> 00:28:08.960 You first you could just do it. 00:28:09.200 --> 00:28:11.440 How do you retract them by standing up? 00:28:11.839 --> 00:28:12.880 Arms over your head. 00:28:13.119 --> 00:28:14.480 Then can you do it with a bar? 00:28:14.559 --> 00:28:16.240 I mean, with a a band. 00:28:17.119 --> 00:28:20.319 Then can you do it holding onto a barbell? 00:28:20.400 --> 00:28:22.160 I mean, sorry, a rack. 00:28:23.039 --> 00:28:25.119 A bar and do it. 00:28:25.359 --> 00:28:36.640 Then can you start to use a band or do stand on a box and eccentric, like load on the way down slowly? 00:28:36.799 --> 00:28:38.880 Like there's so many ways, right? 00:28:39.039 --> 00:28:40.799 To regress and progress. 00:28:41.279 --> 00:28:43.599 A pull-up, a push-up, all the things. 00:28:44.319 --> 00:28:48.480 And so I guess what I'm saying is like you can't do one step. 00:28:48.880 --> 00:28:52.960 You can't go and do a pull-up before you can even retract your shoulders. 00:28:53.039 --> 00:28:55.279 Like that's not a thing. 00:28:55.599 --> 00:28:55.920 Right? 00:28:56.240 --> 00:29:01.119 If you've never done a pull-up and you have no strength, you can't just go do one magically. 00:29:03.519 --> 00:29:08.480 So it's building the progression and regression and progression and regression. 00:29:08.640 --> 00:29:12.000 It's taking the step to move to the next step. 00:29:12.720 --> 00:29:14.559 So you can show be shown the next step. 00:29:14.640 --> 00:29:20.160 And yes, I just told you all the steps in a pull-up, so of course you know the next one. 00:29:20.799 --> 00:29:22.640 But in life, it's not the same. 00:29:23.839 --> 00:29:30.319 You take it and then you see if the next step is what you think it is, or if it takes you a completely different direction. 00:29:32.000 --> 00:29:33.920 And that is powerful. 00:29:36.559 --> 00:29:38.559 And it's been happening for me all week. 00:29:39.119 --> 00:29:39.440 Right? 00:29:40.400 --> 00:29:44.480 So many doors have opened up because I kept showing up. 00:29:44.799 --> 00:29:45.839 I was consistent. 00:29:46.400 --> 00:29:48.480 I asked for what I wanted in the universe. 00:29:48.720 --> 00:29:51.519 And I kept moving one step at a time. 00:29:53.759 --> 00:29:54.400 That's it. 00:29:55.359 --> 00:29:58.960 We think that it's there's a magic elixir or formula for life. 00:29:59.440 --> 00:30:02.880 It is believe in yourself unlike delusionally. 00:30:04.400 --> 00:30:09.119

Because sometimes what we can do is we can write out our manifestations and I'm guilty of this. 00:30:10.000 --> 00:30:18.720 And then as soon as we don't see it in our external reality, oh we go into deep sadness. 00:30:18.880 --> 00:30:20.480 And like, it's never gonna happen. 00:30:20.559 --> 00:30:25.039 And this like thing where fear takes over again. 00:30:26.319 --> 00:30:31.680 What if you hold the vision, even if it isn't there, but you learn how to do that? 00:30:31.839 --> 00:30:33.519 And I'm doing that one step at a time. 00:30:33.759 --> 00:30:40.640 I'm trying to make sure I notice when I do go into oh my god, it's not happening, and be like, hang on a minute. 00:30:40.960 --> 00:30:45.519 Look at all this evidence around you that may not look the way you want it to look, right? 00:30:45.599 --> 00:30:51.920 Because that's some that's my big thing, is I'll look at it and be like, oh, it's not going the way I thought it would. 00:30:52.960 --> 00:30:57.759 Course story caddy maybe open up the opportunity for it to go away that you didn't think it would. 00:30:58.160 --> 00:31:10.559 But unless you hold the vision and you hold on to what that looks like, the bigger vision, the me on stage, like Tony Robbins, changing people's lives, right? 00:31:10.960 --> 00:31:35.839 Unless you hold that bigger vision and just and delusionally, no matter what shows up in your reality, if you keep going back and forth on your order, if you go to McDonald's and say, I want a burger and fries and a Coke, and then two minutes later you go, Oh, actually, I don't want the burger. 00:31:36.319 --> 00:31:39.440 Oh, two minutes later, actually, I don't want the fries. 00:31:39.680 --> 00:31:42.400 Oh, actually, now I want to soft serve. 00:31:42.880 --> 00:31:44.640 Right, make up your fucking mind. 00:31:44.799 --> 00:31:48.640 The universe is like, excuse me, what do you want? 00:31:49.119 --> 00:31:52.559 We haven't even made it now because it's not even worth it. 00:31:53.200 --> 00:31:58.400 Or hang on, can you let us give us you something better? 00:31:58.720 --> 00:32:02.480 Can you be open enough that you can hold the vision and the dream? 00:32:03.599 --> 00:32:24.720 Move, take a step, move towards it, allow it to not look like a straight path, but to be like the most random thing that you've never known, and it to take you off into these different ways so that you can gain the skills and meet the people and do all these things that are going to get you to wherever you want to go. 00:32:25.839 --> 00:32:27.759 Can you take the step? 00:32:28.000 --> 00:32:30.799 Can you move without certainty? 00:32:32.079 --> 00:32:46.799 Because the only way that you actually create a life that is what you're truly asking for unless you want to live inside the box, which nothing wrong with that. 00:32:47.039 --> 00:32:58.000 But if you have a box you want to live inside, and even then though, some people will still go to uni to go become a certain degree, and then maybe their life will change, right? 00:32:58.880 --> 00:33:02.000 Maybe it won't look the same as what they think it was gonna look like. 00:33:02.559 --> 00:33:04.000 So they go do something else. 00:33:04.640 --> 00:33:12.319 They have an identity shift and they start to trust or learn to trust or want to trust. 00:33:13.759 --> 00:33:19.200 So they have to take steps which put them into uncertainty, which is where all the fucking magic happens. 00:33:20.720 --> 00:33:21.440 Trust me. 00:33:24.880 --> 00:33:26.480 So, what is that step for you? 00:33:26.960 --> 00:33:28.799 I would love for you to share it in the comments. 00:33:28.960 --> 00:33:32.319 I would love for you to subscribe, I would love for you to like this. 00:33:32.799 --> 00:33:36.160 Share it with anyone who needs to make the step. 00:33:36.480 --> 00:33:39.039 Who's stuck, who is stagnant. 00:33:39.200 --> 00:33:49.839 If you want to build more self-trust, if you want to actually start moving towards your big dream, come and join us in Lead Your Life Collective, my monthly membership. 00:33:50.000 --> 00:33:53.119 Right now it's the Finder the Founders membership, which is$99. 00:33:53.759 --> 00:33:56.640 That will end in December. 00:33:56.960 --> 00:34:02.480 There's already a piece about navigating change in there from this month, next month. 00:34:02.720 --> 00:34:12.400 We will get into some deeper learnings, and you'll be supported and celebrated by all these other beautiful women in the space. 00:34:12.800 --> 00:34:21.199 And there'll actually be support for you to move forward in the thing that's behind the thing that you're not doing. 00:34:22.880 --> 00:34:25.519 Also, every episode is on Patreon. 00:34:25.599 --> 00:34:27.679 If you're not on there, go and check it out. 00:34:27.920 --> 00:34:32.239 I also have the Wild Insider, which is$5 a month, which you can absolutely join. 00:34:32.320 --> 00:34:34.159 There is behind the scenes in there. 00:34:34.239 --> 00:34:41.440 There's a whole nother episode about me leaving the Defense Force, what that looked like, navigating that whole transition. 00:34:42.480 --> 00:34:45.039 And yes, other bits and pieces. 00:34:45.280 --> 00:34:48.400 So if you'd love to be a part of that, I would love to have you in there. 00:34:49.440 --> 00:35:00.079 And I hope that you are unapologetically wild today in the movement that you make, and keep being unapologetically you. 00:35:00.320 --> 00:35:00.880 I love you. 00:35:01.039 --> 00:35:06.480 Have a wonderful, wonderful day or night, and I look forward to being in your ears next week. 00:35:07.440 --> 00:35:11.199 Thank you for tuning in to Unapologetically Wild with Katie Suntag. 00:35:11.840 --> 00:35:18.480 If you love this episode, don't forget to subscribe, leave a review, or share it with a friend who needs to hear this. 00:35:18.800 --> 00:35:24.079 Together, let's build a community of women who are ready to embrace their wild, unstoppable selves. 00:35:24.320 --> 00:35:33.280 If you don't already, follow me on Instagram or Facebook at Katie.suntag for more empowering content updates and behind the scenes buttons. 00:35:33.440 --> 00:35:35.599 I can't wait to connect with you. 00:35:35.760 --> 00:35:39.039 Until next time, stay wild and unapologetic.