Full Transcript for The Great Forgetting

become. 00:05:48.230 --> 00:05:51.670 It can even tell you how far you're allowed to dream. 00:05:52.390 --> 00:05:59.430 And if you hear that message long enough, you may begin to mistake your environment for your identity. 00:06:00.069 --> 00:06:03.990 But where you begin is not the same as who you are. 00:06:04.550 --> 00:06:09.030 What happened to you is not the same as what you're capable of becoming. 00:06:09.830 --> 00:06:12.470 You see, your story explains what happened. 00:06:13.110 --> 00:06:17.590 Your identity is what you decide those experiences meant about you. 00:06:18.230 --> 00:06:20.069 Those are not the same thing. 00:06:21.110 --> 00:06:25.670 A statement that says, This happened to me isn't about an event. 00:06:26.550 --> 00:06:31.030 A statement that says, This is who I am is about your identity. 00:06:31.430 --> 00:06:37.350 Yet many of us have taken painful events and turned them into permanent definitions. 00:06:37.990 --> 00:06:42.790 For example, a relationship ends and you decide I'm difficult to love. 00:06:43.430 --> 00:06:48.150 A business failed and you decide I'm not cut out for success. 00:06:48.870 --> 00:06:52.310 You struggle in school and you decide I'm not intelligent. 00:06:53.110 --> 00:06:57.350 Someone abandons you and you decide people always leave. 00:06:57.910 --> 00:07:01.830 You made mistakes in your past and you decide I'm broken. 00:07:02.470 --> 00:07:03.750 Do you see what happened? 00:07:04.230 --> 00:07:06.710 The experience became a conclusion. 00:07:07.030 --> 00:07:09.830 The chapter became the title of the entire book. 00:07:10.310 --> 00:07:13.350 The event passed, but the identity remained. 00:07:14.069 --> 00:07:21.590 You see, once an experience becomes part of your identity, you no longer need the original circumstances to keep it alive. 00:07:22.150 --> 00:07:23.990 You begin carrying it with you. 00:07:24.310 --> 00:07:25.830 You make decisions from it. 00:07:25.990 --> 00:07:28.550 You interpret new opportunities through it. 00:07:28.790 --> 00:07:32.310 You enter relationships expecting it to repeat itself. 00:07:33.189 --> 00:07:42.870 You may even unconsciously recreate familiar emotional patterns because although they're painful, they agree with the person you believe yourself to be. 00:07:43.830 --> 00:07:49.670 This is why two people can encounter the same opportunity and respond completely differently. 00:07:50.390 --> 00:07:54.310 One person sees possibility, the other sees danger. 00:07:55.110 --> 00:08:02.790 One person thinks, maybe this is my moment, but the other thinks people like me don't get opportunities like this. 00:08:03.830 --> 00:08:12.230 They are not simply responding to the opportunity, they are responding to who they believe they are in relationship to that opportunity. 00:08:13.189 --> 00:08:15.830 You see, identity shapes interpretation. 00:08:16.629 --> 00:08:26.230 Interpretation shapes decisions, decisions shape behavior, and behavior repeated consistently begins shaping destiny. 00:08:27.030 --> 00:08:31.670 That's why real transformation cannot stop at just changing what you do. 00:08:31.990 --> 00:08:36.309 It must eventually reach what you believe about who you are. 00:08:37.269 --> 00:08:50.230 In our last episode, we explored the difference between living as though life only happens to you and recognizing your ability to participate intentionally in what your life becomes. 00:08:50.549 --> 00:08:54.389 One of the deepest parts of that conversation is identity. 00:08:54.789 --> 00:09:01.990 You have a body, you have a personality, you have a history, you have roles that you play. 00:09:02.710 --> 00:09:06.230 But you are not limited to any one of those things. 00:09:06.789 --> 00:09:09.029 Think of your life as a vehicle. 00:09:09.590 --> 00:09:20.469 Your body, your personality, your background, your education, your career, and your social identity are all part of the vehicle you use to move through the world. 00:09:20.709 --> 00:09:23.509 But the vehicle is not the driver. 00:09:23.829 --> 00:09:28.229 You may drive an old car, but that doesn't mean you're old. 00:09:28.469 --> 00:09:33.509 You may drive through a storm, but that doesn't mean you are the storm. 00:09:33.909 --> 00:09:39.669 You may even find yourself on a difficult road, but the road doesn't define your destiny. 00:09:40.229 --> 00:09:49.349 The danger comes when the driver forgets that he is driving and begins believing that he is merely being carried wherever the vehicle happens to go. 00:09:50.149 --> 00:09:51.750 That is the great forgetting. 00:09:52.549 --> 00:09:54.709 You forget that you have an inner life. 00:09:55.189 --> 00:09:58.069 You forget that you can examine your beliefs. 00:09:58.309 --> 00:10:00.789 You forget that you can direct your attention. 00:10:01.189 --> 00:10:04.949 You forget that you can give new meaning to your experiences. 00:10:05.349 --> 00:10:12.069 You forget that you possess imagination, which is the ability to see beyond what currently exists. 00:10:13.189 --> 00:10:21.509 You forget that you can choose what you practice, what you will accept, and what you will no longer allow to define you. 00:10:22.389 --> 00:10:25.990 When you forget these things, you become reactive. 00:10:26.789 --> 00:10:29.669 You spend your life responding to appearances. 00:10:30.149 --> 00:10:34.949 For example, if the outer world looks promising, you feel hopeful. 00:10:35.589 --> 00:10:39.110 If the outer world looks uncertain, you become afraid. 00:10:39.750 --> 00:10:43.029 If people support your vision, you move forward. 00:10:43.589 --> 00:10:47.189 If they question you, you begin questioning yourself. 00:10:48.389 --> 00:10:53.110 But a creator cannot live entirely from the outside in. 00:10:53.750 --> 00:10:57.429 A creator must learn to live from the inside out. 00:10:57.990 --> 00:11:00.949 And that doesn't mean ignoring reality. 00:11:01.669 --> 00:11:08.629 It means refusing to allow

your present reality to become the only voice shaping your future. 00:11:08.870 --> 00:11:13.990 Now, most of us were given labels before we were old enough to question them. 00:11:14.549 --> 00:11:28.149 Labels like the quiet one, the difficult one, the smart one, the irresponsible one, the strong one, the sensitive one, the successful one, the one who always messes things up. 00:11:28.629 --> 00:11:34.469 Now sometimes a label sounds positive, but it can still become a prison. 00:11:35.189 --> 00:11:40.469 Maybe you were called the strong one, so you learned never to ask for help. 00:11:40.870 --> 00:11:47.990 Maybe you became the successful one, so you began believing your value dependent on always achieving more. 00:11:48.629 --> 00:11:53.990 Maybe you were the responsible one, and now you feel guilty whenever you rest. 00:11:54.389 --> 00:12:01.829 Maybe you were praised for taking care of everyone else, but somewhere along the way you forgot how to take care of yourself. 00:12:02.229 --> 00:12:10.309 You see, roles can help us understand our responsibility, but they become dangerous when we confuse them with our identity. 00:12:10.629 --> 00:12:15.429 You may be a parent, but parenthood is not the whole of you. 00:12:15.909 --> 00:12:21.750 You may be a spouse, but your relationship status doesn't contain your entire identity. 00:12:22.870 --> 00:12:27.589 You may be a leader, but the title is not the source of your value. 00:12:28.389 --> 00:12:33.429 You may be a caregiver, provider, employee, business owner, or coach. 00:12:34.069 --> 00:12:36.789 Those are all expressions of you. 00:12:37.110 --> 00:12:39.509 They are not the totality of you. 00:12:40.469 --> 00:12:42.709 What happens when the children grow up? 00:12:43.669 --> 00:12:45.909 What happens when the career changes? 00:12:46.549 --> 00:12:48.949 What happens when the relationship ends? 00:12:49.589 --> 00:12:54.389 What happens when the company reorganizes and the title disappears? 00:12:55.349 --> 00:13:03.189 You see, if your identity had been built entirely around a role, losing that role can feel like you're losing yourself. 00:13:04.149 --> 00:13:07.110 You look in the mirror and ask, who am I now? 00:13:07.909 --> 00:13:13.349 But perhaps a better question is, who have I always been beneath the role? 00:13:14.229 --> 00:13:31.269 You see, the role may change, the expression may change, the season may change, but the deeper awareness within you, the part capable of learning, imagining, choosing, loving, creating, and becoming, is still there. 00:13:31.589 --> 00:13:33.269 You did not disappear. 00:13:33.509 --> 00:13:36.870 You may simply need to be reacquainted with yourself. 00:13:37.110 --> 00:13:43.589 Now, when we come back, I want to give you three signs that an old story may still be shaping your identity. 00:13:43.829 --> 00:13:45.189 We'll be right back. 00:13:48.870 --> 00:13:52.469 Are you ready to take your life and your career to the next level? 00:13:52.789 --> 00:13:59.750 Andre Flax is a John Maxwell leadership certified coach who is committed to helping you turn your dreams into reality. 00:13:59.990 --> 00:14:07.589 With proven effective self-development principles, Andre will help you put a plan in place that grows you steadily toward your goal. 00:14:07.909 --> 00:14:15.029 Contact Andre for a complimentary coaching session by emailing him at Andre at Transformative LivingRadio.com. 00:14:19.909 --> 00:14:21.189 Hey, welcome back. 00:14:21.429 --> 00:14:26.309 Now let me give you three signs that an old story may still be shaping your identity. 00:14:26.549 --> 00:14:30.789 Now the first sign is that you keep predicting your future from your past. 00:14:31.189 --> 00:14:34.309 You say things like, This always happens to me. 00:14:34.469 --> 00:14:36.309 People like me never get ahead. 00:14:36.549 --> 00:14:38.870 I've tried before and it didn't work. 00:14:39.110 --> 00:14:41.669 My family has always struggled with this. 00:14:41.990 --> 00:14:46.069 I'm just not good at relationships and I've never been confident. 00:14:46.709 --> 00:14:48.149 Notice the language. 00:14:48.469 --> 00:14:51.509 Always, never, that's just who I am. 00:14:52.229 --> 00:14:56.549 Those words take a past pattern and turn it into permanent identity. 00:14:57.029 --> 00:15:03.189 You see, you're not merely remembering what happened, you're using what happened to predict what's possible. 00:15:03.429 --> 00:15:06.229 But the past is evidence of what has been. 00:15:06.870 --> 00:15:09.269 It is not proof of what must be. 00:15:10.149 --> 00:15:14.789 Now the second sign is you keep rejecting anything that contradicts the old story. 00:15:15.189 --> 00:15:16.229 What do I mean? 00:15:16.469 --> 00:15:19.269 Someone gives you a compliment and you dismiss it. 00:15:19.589 --> 00:15:23.509 An opportunity appears and you explain why you're not ready yet. 00:15:24.069 --> 00:15:27.990 Someone treats you with genuine love and you become suspicious. 00:15:28.629 --> 00:15:32.229 You experience a small success and you call it luck. 00:15:32.549 --> 00:15:33.110 Why? 00:15:33.509 --> 00:15:37.189 Because the experience doesn't fit the identity you have practiced. 00:15:37.669 --> 00:15:45.269 We often say we want a new life, but when evidence of a new life appears, we reject it because it feels unfamiliar. 00:15:45.509 --> 00:15:48.949 The old story may be painful, but it's known. 00:15:49.189 --> 00:15:53.189 The new identity may be freeing, but it's unfamiliar. 00:15:53.349 --> 00:15:56.709 And we often mistake familiarity for safety. 00:15:57.750 --> 00:16:02.309 The third sign is you keep shrinking to remain recognizable. 00:16:02.789 --> 00:16:08.789 You feel yourself changing, you have new ideas, you are beginning to think differently. 00:16:09.029 --> 00:16:11.990 You sense that there's more for your life. 00:16:12.309 --> 00:16:19.029 But then you enter an old environment and suddenly you become the

previous version of yourself again. 00:16:19.269 --> 00:16:23.429 You lower your voice, you hide your growth, you downplay your vision. 00:16:23.589 --> 00:16:28.069 You return to the old pattern because you don't want people to feel uncomfortable. 00:16:28.309 --> 00:16:33.909 You are trying to remain recognizable to people who only know an early version of yourself. 00:16:34.229 --> 00:16:37.110 But growth sometimes makes you unfamiliar. 00:16:37.349 --> 00:16:47.269 Not because you're being fake, not because you think you're better than anyone, but because you no longer organize your life around the same fears, wounds, and limitations. 00:16:47.589 --> 00:16:49.589 You are remembering yourself. 00:16:49.829 --> 00:16:53.990 Now, for some people, the old story is connected to trauma. 00:16:54.229 --> 00:16:56.870 And trauma can leave a deep imprint. 00:16:57.110 --> 00:17:01.589 It can teach the body to remain alert even after the danger has passed. 00:17:01.829 --> 00:17:07.110 It can cause a person to expect rejection, betrayal, conflict, or abandonment. 00:17:07.349 --> 00:17:14.150 And healing is not accomplished by simply repeating positive words over unprocessed pain. 00:17:14.390 --> 00:17:17.349 Sometimes healing requires support. 00:17:17.509 --> 00:17:19.589 Sometimes it requires therapy. 00:17:19.750 --> 00:17:26.549 Sometimes it requires grieving, setting boundaries, telling the truth, and learning how to feel safe again. 00:17:26.789 --> 00:17:32.470 But even while honoring the depth of what you experience, I want you to remember something. 00:17:32.710 --> 00:17:34.150 You are not the wound. 00:17:34.470 --> 00:17:37.269 You are the person who became aware of the wound. 00:17:37.829 --> 00:17:39.589 You are not the fear. 00:17:39.910 --> 00:17:42.950 You are the one capable of observing the fear. 00:17:43.670 --> 00:17:50.470 You see, there's a difference between saying I learned to protect myself and saying, I'm a closed-off person. 00:17:51.110 --> 00:17:56.710 There's a difference between saying I've experienced abandonment and saying I'm unwanted. 00:17:56.950 --> 00:18:02.870 One acknowledges the experience, the other turns the experience into a life sentence. 00:18:03.269 --> 00:18:08.230 You see, you're allowed to honor what happened to you without building a permanent home there. 00:18:08.470 --> 00:18:12.550 The past can be a window that helps you understand where you've been. 00:18:12.870 --> 00:18:17.029 But it was never meant to become the room you live in forever. 00:18:17.509 --> 00:18:21.990 Reflection creates wisdom, rumination creates repetition. 00:18:22.230 --> 00:18:29.029 One allows you to visit the past and retrieve the lessons, while the other keeps sending you back to relive the womb. 00:18:30.230 --> 00:18:32.310 You can remember without remaining. 00:18:32.950 --> 00:18:35.670 You can grieve without surrendering your future. 00:18:35.910 --> 00:18:40.070 You can acknowledge the scar without calling yourself the injury. 00:18:41.509 --> 00:18:44.070 Every meaningful creation begins in the unseen. 00:18:45.110 --> 00:18:48.710 Before the building exists, someone sees it in the mind. 00:18:49.350 --> 00:18:52.789 Before the book is written, someone senses the message. 00:18:53.029 --> 00:18:57.190 Before the business is built, someone recognizes possibility. 00:18:57.430 --> 00:19:03.110 Before life changes outwardly, someone begins seeing themselves differently inwardly. 00:19:03.269 --> 00:19:06.710 You see, your imagination is more than a place where you daydream. 00:19:07.190 --> 00:19:09.269 It's an inner projection booth. 00:19:09.590 --> 00:19:18.789 The images you repeatedly hold, the conversations you rehearse, and the outcomes you emotionally anticipate are shaping the way you experience life. 00:19:19.029 --> 00:19:22.550 Now many people use imagination unconsciously. 00:19:22.710 --> 00:19:25.670 They imagine rejection before the conversation. 00:19:25.910 --> 00:19:28.950 They imagine failure before taking the first step. 00:19:29.190 --> 00:19:31.190 They rehearse old arguments. 00:19:31.430 --> 00:19:33.910 They replay embarrassing moments. 00:19:34.550 --> 00:19:38.230 They see themselves falling short before they ever begin. 00:19:38.550 --> 00:19:41.750 Then they say, I'm just being realistic. 00:19:42.150 --> 00:19:47.190 But they are not only observing reality, they are rehearsing an identity. 00:19:47.509 --> 00:19:51.269 They are thinking from the person who already expects to lose. 00:19:51.509 --> 00:19:57.990 Yet to think like a person who creates, you must learn to think from the identity you are becoming. 00:19:58.789 --> 00:20:03.590 You see, there's a difference between thinking about confidence and thinking from confidence. 00:20:03.910 --> 00:20:07.910 Thinking about confidence says, I wish I had more confidence. 00:20:08.230 --> 00:20:13.830 Thinking from confidence asks, how would I enter the room if I trusted myself? 00:20:14.150 --> 00:20:19.110 Now thinking about peace says, I hope my circumstances calm down. 00:20:19.430 --> 00:20:27.430 But thinking from peace asks a question like, how would I respond if I refuse to let chaos take over my inner world? 00:20:27.750 --> 00:20:30.870 Now this is not pretending, it's rehearsal. 00:20:31.110 --> 00:20:44.950 Just like an athlete rehearsed every movement before competition, or a speaker rehearses his message before stepping on stage, in the same way you can begin rehearsing a new relationship with yourself. 00:20:45.190 --> 00:20:47.910 You can begin seeing yourself as capable. 00:20:48.070 --> 00:20:51.509 You can imagine yourself responding rather than reacting. 00:20:51.750 --> 00:20:55.830 You can practice the inner language of the person you intend to become. 00:20:56.070 --> 00:20:58.630 You see, identity precedes behavior. 00:20:58.789 --> 00:21:04.230 And when you change the place from which you think, you begin changing the way you move. 00:21:04.470

--> 00:21:09.029 Now I want to share a practical exercise which I call identity audit. 00:21:09.269 --> 00:21:21.670 So if you can take out a journal or an open blank page on your phone and write down this sentence, the story I've been telling myself is, then finish it honestly. 00:21:22.230 --> 00:21:25.830 Maybe your story is I'm always overlooked. 00:21:26.070 --> 00:21:37.350 Maybe it's I have to do everything alone, or it's too late for me, or I can never get ahead, or I always choose the wrong people, or I'm not ready. 00:21:37.590 --> 00:21:40.310 Now don't judge what comes up, just name it. 00:21:40.470 --> 00:21:46.470 Because I've always said you cannot consciously change a story you're unwilling to identify. 00:21:46.789 --> 00:21:50.550 Then I want you to ask, where did I learn this? 00:21:51.029 --> 00:21:53.029 Was it something a parent said? 00:21:53.269 --> 00:21:55.110 Did it come from a relationship? 00:21:55.269 --> 00:21:57.509 Was it formed during childhood? 00:21:57.830 --> 00:22:00.789 Did it grow from one painful experience? 00:22:01.029 --> 00:22:03.990 Or did you inherit it from family or environment? 00:22:04.230 --> 00:22:07.590 Now we're not looking for someone to put the blame on. 00:22:07.750 --> 00:22:13.670 We're tracing the origin so you stop confusing something you learned with something you are. 00:22:14.230 --> 00:22:19.029 Next, I want you to ask, how has this story shaped my decisions? 00:22:19.430 --> 00:22:21.990 What opportunities have I avoided? 00:22:22.230 --> 00:22:24.710 What relationships have I tolerated? 00:22:24.950 --> 00:22:27.670 What boundaries have I failed to set? 00:22:28.470 --> 00:22:30.630 Where have I remained silent? 00:22:31.509 --> 00:22:33.670 Where have I been playing it small? 00:22:34.870 --> 00:22:40.870 What have you refused to attempt because the old story told you it wasn't for you? 00:22:42.310 --> 00:22:46.550 Then I want you to ask, what has this story cost me? 00:22:47.110 --> 00:22:47.430 Be honest. 00:22:48.789 --> 00:22:55.350 Has it cost you peace, time, confidence, connection, creativity, opportunities? 00:22:56.310 --> 00:23:00.950 Has it kept you so focused on survival that you have forgotten how to live? 00:23:03.190 --> 00:23:04.630 Write this question down. 00:23:05.029 --> 00:23:07.430 Who would I be without this concluding? 00:23:08.789 --> 00:23:18.950 Without the memory, the concluding experience no longer meant that you were unworthy, incapable, unwanted, or powerless. 00:23:19.670 --> 00:23:20.710 Who might you become? 00:23:22.070 --> 00:23:22.789 Would you attempt? 00:23:24.789 --> 00:23:25.430 Would you speak? 00:23:28.630 --> 00:23:30.710 Would you finally allow yourself to receive? 00:23:32.310 --> 00:23:35.430 The question begins separating the event from the identity. 00:23:36.789 --> 00:23:41.110 The words I am are among the most powerful words you can ever speak. 00:23:41.350 --> 00:23:45.190 Because whatever follows them becomes a declaration of

identity. 00:23:46.230 --> 00:23:48.470 For example, not good enough. 00:23:49.910 --> 00:23:50.390 You hold. 00:23:51.750 --> 00:23:52.310 Behind. 00:23:53.110 --> 00:23:53.670 I'm damn. 00:23:55.269 --> 00:23:55.830 Unlucky. 00:23:57.509 --> 00:23:58.870 Leadership material. 00:23:59.190 --> 00:24:01.910 I am not the kind of person who can do that. 00:24:03.269 --> 00:24:10.870 Every time you repeat one of those statements, we're not simply describing a feeling, you are planting a seed. 00:24:11.029 --> 00:24:14.310 And your mind, like soil, doesn't argue with the seed. 00:24:14.550 --> 00:24:17.750 It begins looking for evidence that supports what has been planted. 00:24:18.390 --> 00:24:25.110 So if you plant I'm always overlooked, your attention begins finding every moment when someone failed to recognize you. 00:24:25.750 --> 00:24:30.550 If you plant, I'm bad with money, every financial mistake becomes proof. 00:24:31.750 --> 00:24:37.110 Plant I'm difficult to love, every disagreement begins feeling like a confirmation. 00:24:38.070 --> 00:24:42.470 You see, the soil produces according to what is repeatedly planted and nourished. 00:24:42.630 --> 00:24:47.110 That's why you must become intentional about the identity statement you rehearse. 00:24:47.350 --> 00:24:50.550 Now this does not mean repeating words that feel empty. 00:24:51.910 --> 00:24:54.789 Choosing language that opens the door for growth. 00:24:55.029 --> 00:25:01.029 For example, instead of I am broken, try, I am healing, learning, and becoming whole. 00:25:02.070 --> 00:25:05.029 Instead of I have no confidence, try. 00:25:12.870 --> 00:25:16.630 Try, I'm becoming someone who learns, adjusts, and keeps moving. 00:25:17.269 --> 00:25:22.710 Instead of it's too late, try, I'm still here, and this chapter is still being written. 00:25:22.950 --> 00:25:27.430 You see, a new identity is not established through one emotional moment. 00:25:28.390 --> 00:25:31.350 It's developed through repetition, evidence, and action. 00:25:32.550 --> 00:25:35.750 Each time you speak differently, you plant a seed. 00:25:35.990 --> 00:25:40.550 Each time you make a choice consistent with your new identity, you water it. 00:25:40.789 --> 00:25:45.509 And each time you refuse to return to an old pattern, you strengthen the roots. 00:25:46.150 --> 00:25:50.310 Eventually, what once felt unfamiliar begins to feel natural. 00:25:51.509 --> 00:25:54.789 So let me give you a simple practice you can begin tomorrow morning. 00:25:55.750 --> 00:26:00.789 Before you check your phone, read an email, or allow the world to tell you who you need to be. 00:26:02.150 --> 00:26:03.269 Five quiet minutes. 00:26:04.710 --> 00:26:05.750 First, remember. 00:26:06.870 --> 00:26:11.830 Say to yourself, I am more than my story, more than my roles. 00:26:12.630 --> 00:26:15.110 I am more than other people's opinions. 00:26:15.350 --> 00:26:25.910 I am the one who can observe, choose, imagine, and create second, see picture yourself moving through the day as the person you're becoming. 00:26:27.750 --> 00:26:31.590 Not only picture the outcome, picture the identity. 00:26:31.990 --> 00:26:33.990 See yourself speaking clearly. 00:26:34.150 --> 00:26:37.110 See yourself keeping the promise you made to yourself. 00:26:37.350 --> 00:26:40.630 See yourself responding to pressure with composure. 00:26:40.950 --> 00:26:43.029 See yourself setting boundaries. 00:26:43.269 --> 00:26:45.590 See yourself taking the next courageous dog. 00:26:47.190 --> 00:26:47.670 Choose. 00:26:48.150 --> 00:26:53.910 Ask yourself, what is one decision I can make today that agrees with the person I'm become? 00:26:55.509 --> 00:27:07.910 Yet sending the email, making the call, going for the walk, having the conversation, applying for the opportunity, saying no without guilt, saying yes without shrinking. 00:27:08.150 --> 00:27:13.350 You see, the actions may appear small, but identity is built through repeated evidence. 00:27:14.390 --> 00:27:20.789 As we bring this episode to a close, I want you to imagine yourself standing in front of a mirror. 00:27:21.269 --> 00:27:35.910 I want you to look beyond your face, beyond your age, beyond the role you play, beyond the title you carry, beyond the mistakes, beyond the accomplishments, and beyond the labels. 00:27:36.630 --> 00:27:38.870 Look into your own eyes and ask. 00:27:39.509 --> 00:27:41.990 Who is the one standing here right now? 00:27:45.590 --> 00:27:46.470 Who are you now? 00:27:47.830 --> 00:30:18.950 Who are you willing to do?com. 00:30:19.190 --> 00:30:24.310 If you enjoyed this episode, please leave a comment wherever you get your podcasts and subscribe.