Full Transcript for Rob McConnell Interviews - LINDSEY MORGAN - Believing That You Belong After Having a Mastectomy

Lindsey, you and I have to take a commercial break. 75 00:05:32.800 --> 00:05:35.680 Please stand by. We're going to be coming back in 76 00:05:35.759 --> 00:05:40.560 two minutes. Explanation. Lindsey Morgan is our special guest this hour. 77 00:05:40.639 --> 00:05:45.000 We're talking about Lindsey's book entitled Believing that You Belong 78 00:05:45.199 --> 00:05:49.560 After having a Mastectomy. Her website is beloved www dot 79 00:05:50.000 --> 00:05:54.839 Believing after Themastectomy dot com one eight six ten, seven 80 00:05:54.959 --> 00:05:58.560 zero three five worldwide, toll free email x owner x 81 00:05:58.600 --> 00:06:02.360 on Radio TV dot com, on MSN, messenger, X one 82 00:06:02.439 --> 00:06:06.959 Radio TV at hotmail dot com, and our website www 83 00:06:07.079 --> 00:06:09.519 dot x on Radio TV dot com and don't forget 84 00:06:09.519 --> 00:06:11.360 if you'd like to listen to the x oone Radio 85 00:06:11.399 --> 00:06:14.000 show seven days a week, twenty four hours a day, 86 00:06:14.000 --> 00:06:18.040 three hundred and sixty five days of the year. Www 87 00:06:18.079 --> 00:06:22.360 dot xzonetv dot com. We'll be back on the other 88 00:06:22.399 --> 00:06:24.120 side of this two minute break. Don't go away. 89 00:06:45.639 --> 00:06:51.879 You talk like Maliaditrick, and you dance like cz Garmer. 90 00:06:53.439 --> 00:06:57.839 Do your clus are or made by Burma? And there's 91 00:06:57.879 --> 00:07:03.879 diamonds and pearls in your Yes, I are. Do you 92 00:07:04.040 --> 00:07:10.120 live in a fancy apartment off the Boulevard Sa Michel 93 00:07:11.759 --> 00:07:16.040 where you keep mere rolling stones for records and a 94 00:07:16.120 --> 00:07:23.560 friend of such a style as you do extanation. 95 00:07:25.759 --> 00:07:27.839 Lindsay Morgan is are a special guest. We're talking about 96 00:07:27.920 --> 00:07:31.639 Lindsay's book. It's entitled Believing that You Belong After having 97 00:07:31.680 --> 00:07:36.680 a mastectomy. Or website is www dot Believing after themstectomy 98 00:07:36.759 --> 00:07:41.439 dot com. Lindsay, was it you who found the lump 99 00:07:41.439 --> 00:07:42.879 yourself or was it your doctor? 100 00:07:44.360 --> 00:07:48.360 It was myself. My doctor recommend that I do my 101 00:07:48.399 --> 00:07:54.000 own breast examination and when I found my lump myself. 102 00:07:54.839 --> 00:07:56.879 What was your first thought after you found the lump? 103 00:07:58.959 --> 00:08:01.759 I was scared and nervous because all I heard was 104 00:08:01.839 --> 00:08:04.920 bad things about if you find a lump. There was 105 00:08:04.959 --> 00:08:07.480 a lot of a lot of different emotions going through 106 00:08:07.519 --> 00:08:10.959 my head, but I didn't want to think negative at 107 00:08:10.959 --> 00:08:11.319 the time. 108 00:08:12.600 --> 00:08:13.720 So how old. 109 00:08:15.120 --> 00:08:17.319 I'm Srater? You kept a positiveout? 110 00:08:18.720 --> 00:08:21.800 Yes, I did. I was

thirty eight years old when 111 00:08:21.800 --> 00:08:22.680 I found my lump. 112 00:08:23.040 --> 00:08:25.639 Gosh, how did your family react? 113 00:08:27.839 --> 00:08:31.519 They were scared. They're nervous because we all you hear 114 00:08:31.680 --> 00:08:34.840 is negativity. You know, you find a lum, you automatically 115 00:08:34.879 --> 00:08:37.399 got cancer. So that was just going through all of 116 00:08:37.399 --> 00:08:38.279 our heads. 117 00:08:39.159 --> 00:08:41.720 So your your doctor told you to do these self 118 00:08:41.759 --> 00:08:46.039 breast examinations. You were giving yourself an examination. You found 119 00:08:46.039 --> 00:08:49.840 a lump, you told your family about it, You went 120 00:08:49.919 --> 00:08:53.039 to see your doctor, and you were you were told 121 00:08:53.080 --> 00:08:55.279 that you had breast cancer. How did you feel. 122 00:08:58.919 --> 00:09:02.960 When I went to the doctor and he checked my lump. First, 123 00:09:02.960 --> 00:09:07.200 he told me it was coffee and caffeine. To stop 124 00:09:07.279 --> 00:09:11.399 eating coffee and caffeine. So I did, but my lump 125 00:09:11.480 --> 00:09:15.919 kept getting bigger and bigger and sore. Yeah, and I said, well, 126 00:09:15.960 --> 00:09:19.639 something's not right. So what he did is he sent 127 00:09:19.679 --> 00:09:22.879 me to a surgeon, and a surgeon told me I 128 00:09:22.919 --> 00:09:23.840 had breast cancer. 129 00:09:27.759 --> 00:09:29.639 How did you feel? What at that moment when you 130 00:09:29.679 --> 00:09:32.120 were told do you have breast cancer? That your worst 131 00:09:32.159 --> 00:09:36.320 fears had you know I'd come true? 132 00:09:36.799 --> 00:09:39.320 What am I gonna do? Why did God pick me 133 00:09:40.200 --> 00:09:43.240 to get this disease? You know? Why do I deserve 134 00:09:43.360 --> 00:09:46.200 to be going through this. It's it's a lot of 135 00:09:46.240 --> 00:09:49.320 different emotions. You know, what's gonna happen to my kids? 136 00:09:49.600 --> 00:09:51.559 You know, it's a lot of different things that go 137 00:09:51.679 --> 00:09:55.399 through a woman's head when she told she has breast cancer. 138 00:09:55.600 --> 00:09:58.440 Because you're in for the fight of your life. So 139 00:09:58.519 --> 00:10:01.600 what are you gonna do? What? I mean, what's gonna 140 00:10:01.600 --> 00:10:02.279 happen to you? 141 00:10:03.519 --> 00:10:04.320 What did you do? 142 00:10:06.240 --> 00:10:09.799 I cried, I bought up in the ball and I cried, 143 00:10:10.519 --> 00:10:13.960 and I denied. I went into denial. I didn't believe 144 00:10:14.000 --> 00:10:16.519 I have breast cancer. No, this wasn't happening to me. 145 00:10:17.279 --> 00:10:20.320 I called my mom. I asked, my mom, has anybody 146 00:10:20.360 --> 00:10:22.919 in this family ever had breast cancer? She said no, 147 00:10:23.559 --> 00:10:26.320 I said, so, why is this happening to me? I mean, 148 00:10:26.360 --> 00:10:29.639 I went into a complete denial. I didn't want to 149 00:10:29.840 --> 00:10:31.679 believe I had breast cancer. 150 00:10:33.960 --> 00:10:37.240 How did the fact that you were diagnosed with breast 151 00:10:37.240 --> 00:10:41.759 cancer affect your spiritual beliefs? 152 00:10:42.519 --> 00:10:45.799 I didn't believe anymore. I didn't believe in God. I 153 00:10:46.360 --> 00:10:49.080 blamed God. I said, why are you putting me through this? 154 00:10:50.320 --> 00:10:53.120 I try to do good in my life, but why 155 00:10:53.120 --> 00:10:57.519 are you putting me through this? And then my mom 156 00:10:57.559 --> 00:11:00.559 and who told me that God puts you through certain 157 00:11:00.639 --> 00:11:05.399 tests to see if you can live through it. I 158 00:11:05.399 --> 00:11:09.080 don't want this test, you know, and I didn't believe 159 00:11:09.200 --> 00:11:12.240 in God anymore. I blamed him. 160 00:11:12.279 --> 00:11:17.720 Basically, did your family change after you told them that, yes, 161 00:11:17.759 --> 00:11:19.639 in fact, you did have breast cancer? 162 00:11:21.120 --> 00:11:26.440 Yes, they did. What anybody's walking on pins and needles. 163 00:11:26.919 --> 00:11:29.759 You know, it's bad that you have to deal with 164 00:11:29.799 --> 00:11:32.320 it yourself, but you have to sit there and try 165 00:11:32.360 --> 00:11:34.480 to be strong for your family because you don't want 166 00:11:34.519 --> 00:11:37.840 your family to see the fear that you're going through. 167 00:11:37.879 --> 00:11:42.279 So you're trying to hold back what you're feeling to 168 00:11:42.279 --> 00:11:46.399 protect your family. And that's what I did. I didn't 169 00:11:46.440 --> 00:11:50.559 want them to know how bad things God, so I 170 00:11:50.600 --> 00:11:55.240 try to keep them thinking positive. And it's hard when 171 00:11:55.240 --> 00:11:58.720 you're trying to keep your family in a good mood. 172 00:11:59.279 --> 00:12:04.200 But you know, deep down inside yourself you're dying and. 173 00:12:04.080 --> 00:12:09.320 You're very scared. Yes, very There's a lot of uncertainties. 174 00:12:09.360 --> 00:12:11.519 How did you find peace? How did you make peace 175 00:12:11.559 --> 00:12:12.320 within yourself? 176 00:12:14.039 --> 00:12:18.559 I found peace in myself because of my children, but 177 00:12:18.639 --> 00:12:21.360 I also found peace in myself that I came to 178 00:12:21.440 --> 00:12:27.000 the terms to realize that appreciate what God gave you, 179 00:12:27.559 --> 00:12:29.799 because you never know when it's gonna be taken away. 180 00:12:30.320 --> 00:12:34.279 And it was a reason why I was picked and 181 00:12:34.320 --> 00:12:36.399 why I had to go through this and why I 182 00:12:36.440 --> 00:12:39.000 had to go through the fight of my life. Maybe 183 00:12:39.039 --> 00:12:42.360 because it's to help other women out there realize that 184 00:12:42.639 --> 00:12:45.080 you can't go through this and there

is life after 185 00:12:45.200 --> 00:12:49.360 breast cancer. I don't know, but that was my thinking 186 00:12:49.759 --> 00:12:51.240 and that's what got me through this. 187 00:12:52.759 --> 00:12:55.639 It sounds that you made peace with your creator as well. 188 00:12:57.159 --> 00:13:02.320 Yeah, I had to, you know, It's it's like he 189 00:13:02.440 --> 00:13:08.279 was testing men, I can I fight this fight? And 190 00:13:08.399 --> 00:13:12.639 I did. You know. It was a long and hard journey, 191 00:13:13.480 --> 00:13:16.000 but I thought it. I mean, I still look at 192 00:13:16.039 --> 00:13:20.679 my scars and I still cry, but I'm alive. 193 00:13:22.840 --> 00:13:26.799 And you've got four beautiful children, Yes I do. How 194 00:13:26.840 --> 00:13:27.759 many grand babies? 195 00:13:29.320 --> 00:13:37.840 Too many? I have? No, I have, I have ten grandkids. 196 00:13:38.000 --> 00:13:43.039 God love you. Yeah, tell me what was the inspiration 197 00:13:43.200 --> 00:13:45.120 for writing your book? Why did you write your book? 198 00:13:46.679 --> 00:13:49.799 Because of everything that I've been through and everything I lost. 199 00:13:49.919 --> 00:13:53.360 You know, when you diagnose your breast cancer, you lose yourself, 200 00:13:54.039 --> 00:13:57.279 but that's not all that you lose. You lose everything 201 00:13:57.840 --> 00:14:00.919 and you got to and we're fighting cancer. You get 202 00:14:00.960 --> 00:14:04.240 to your lowest point in your life and you have 203 00:14:04.399 --> 00:14:09.840 to think about, okay, now, what's gonna make you get up, 204 00:14:10.399 --> 00:14:13.960 want to fight and want to live? And my children 205 00:14:14.840 --> 00:14:17.960 was that for me? I lost everything when I got sick, 206 00:14:18.559 --> 00:14:22.039 you know. And it's not just material things, but it 207 00:14:22.080 --> 00:14:26.360 affects your credit, it affects your job, it affects everything 208 00:14:26.759 --> 00:14:30.720 when you get sick, you know, and you have to 209 00:14:30.799 --> 00:14:34.840 basically start over. And that's that's what I'm doing. I'm 210 00:14:34.919 --> 00:14:39.000 trying to start over. But in the meantime, write in 211 00:14:39.080 --> 00:14:43.679 my book gives me peace because I can write down 212 00:14:43.879 --> 00:14:47.120 what I'm feeling and what I'm going through, and that 213 00:14:47.279 --> 00:14:49.679 I know that I can help somebody else out there 214 00:14:49.720 --> 00:14:52.240 that's going through the same thing or feeling the same thing. 215 00:14:54.360 --> 00:14:56.840 Was there ever a time when you just woke up 216 00:14:56.879 --> 00:14:59.759 and said I just can't do it anymore. 217 00:15:01.200 --> 00:15:04.120 I do that every day. Every day. When I look 218 00:15:04.120 --> 00:15:07.080 in the mirror and I look at my stars, I 219 00:15:07.600 --> 00:15:11.519 ask myself, why am I here? I mean, what do 220 00:15:11.639 --> 00:15:16.200 I have to look forward to? You know, nobody's gonna 221 00:15:16.200 --> 00:15:20.639 want me like this, So come on now, Society got 222 00:15:20.679 --> 00:15:26.679 people believing that you gotta be double d to be accepted, 223 00:15:28.440 --> 00:15:31.879 But when you get a mac sectomy, you don't feel 224 00:15:31.879 --> 00:15:36.320 like that. You feel alone and lost. So I feel 225 00:15:36.320 --> 00:15:37.200 like that every day. 226 00:15:38.159 --> 00:15:42.600 You know what, I was always raised and I truly 227 00:15:42.679 --> 00:15:45.159 believe that you never judge a book by a cover. 228 00:15:46.440 --> 00:15:49.480 That is the person you. You know what, There's a 229 00:15:49.480 --> 00:15:55.159 lot of people out there like that. Honey. Well, I'm 230 00:15:55.200 --> 00:15:57.200 listening to you, and I'm listening to a lady who 231 00:15:57.200 --> 00:15:59.720 has a lot of strength, who has a lot of compassion, 232 00:15:59.799 --> 00:16:05.360 who as four major reasons and ten little reasons to 233 00:16:05.360 --> 00:16:07.879 to keep going. You want to share your story because 234 00:16:07.879 --> 00:16:10.639 you want to help, and you know what, to me 235 00:16:10.759 --> 00:16:13.720 that that shows me that you're a very loving, wonderful lady. 236 00:16:15.519 --> 00:16:22.639 I am, but I'm also scared. You know, you gotta 237 00:16:22.720 --> 00:16:25.879 think about it. What's gonna happen? You know, it's hard. 238 00:16:26.399 --> 00:16:28.840 It's hard to try to pick up after you had 239 00:16:28.840 --> 00:16:31.120 a missectomy. It really is. 240 00:16:32.240 --> 00:16:35.519 What's the hardest part looking at your scars. 241 00:16:36.279 --> 00:16:40.960 Looking at my scars and being around people, because I 242 00:16:41.039 --> 00:16:44.080 feel like people are still staring at me, you. 243 00:16:44.000 --> 00:16:44.679 Know, and. 244 00:16:46.759 --> 00:16:48.879 It's my scars. 245 00:16:49.000 --> 00:16:51.840 Basically, how are you? 246 00:16:51.919 --> 00:16:55.679 How are your children? I would bet everything I have 247 00:16:55.799 --> 00:16:57.919 that they are so glad that their mom and their 248 00:16:57.960 --> 00:16:59.320 grandmother are still around. 249 00:17:00.679 --> 00:17:05.319 They are, they are and they see me cry. But 250 00:17:05.359 --> 00:17:08.519 my daughter, she tells you, Mom, you know it's gonna 251 00:17:08.559 --> 00:17:12.480 be okay. It's gonna be okay, you know, but it's 252 00:17:12.519 --> 00:17:14.279 hard hard to find. 253 00:17:14.519 --> 00:17:16.799 How long ago was it when you had your miss stectomy. 254 00:17:18.200 --> 00:17:19.319 It was a couple of years ago. 255 00:17:19.960 --> 00:17:24.119 Now, now, forgive me for asking. And if I ask 256 00:17:24.160 --> 00:17:29.119 you something that you feel uncomfortable with, please just tell me. Okay, okay. 257 00:17:29.680 --> 00:17:32.759 Is there any is there any psychological help for people 258 00:17:32.839 --> 00:17:35.960 who have

mistectomies? Is there any help at all? 259 00:17:38.119 --> 00:17:40.559 Yes? This help? I mean you you can talk to 260 00:17:40.640 --> 00:17:44.160 a counselor. I mean, there's there's help out there. But 261 00:17:44.240 --> 00:17:46.480 you're gonna have you have to want it. You're gonna 262 00:17:46.480 --> 00:17:50.319 you have to want to sit there and bear your 263 00:17:50.400 --> 00:17:53.400 soul to somebody that you don't even know. I mean, 264 00:17:53.400 --> 00:17:55.799 you have to do it. But it all depends on 265 00:17:55.839 --> 00:17:59.039 your insurance too. You know, you get what you pay for. 266 00:17:59.440 --> 00:18:02.440 That's what that's that's what I am. That's what I learned. 267 00:18:02.880 --> 00:18:07.759 Wow, you and I have to take a commercial break 268 00:18:07.839 --> 00:18:11.000 with the news at the bottom of the hour. Lindsay, 269 00:18:11.079 --> 00:18:13.680 please don't go wait, it's it's a pleasure talking to you, 270 00:18:13.759 --> 00:18:18.720 and I sincerely mean when I say that you have 271 00:18:18.880 --> 00:18:22.920 so much to give in your giving so much, I'm 272 00:18:22.920 --> 00:18:23.720 happy to know you. 273 00:18:25.319 --> 00:18:26.480 I'm happy to know you too. 274 00:18:27.000 --> 00:18:29.079 Lindsay, please stand by. We'll be back on the other 275 00:18:29.119 --> 00:18:33.200 side of this break. Okay, gosh x O nation. Lindsay 276 00:18:33.240 --> 00:18:36.920 Morgan's are a special guest. She's the author of Believing 277 00:18:36.960 --> 00:18:41.480 that You Belong after having a mestectomy. Her website is 278 00:18:41.640 --> 00:18:47.279 www dot Believing after themestectomy dot com. That's www dot 279 00:18:48.240 --> 00:18:53.200 Believing after themestectomy dot com. It is published by Publish America. 280 00:18:54.400 --> 00:18:56.759 Lindsey and I will be back on the other side 281 00:18:56.799 --> 00:18:59.680 of this commercial break as the exone continues from our 282 00:18:59.720 --> 00:19:04.680 student in Hamilton, Ontario, Canada, on the Talkstar Radio Network, 283 00:19:04.799 --> 00:19:09.160 xone Broadcast Network, UK High Definition Radio, euro High Definition Radio, 284 00:19:09.240 --> 00:19:14.240 Star Cable and of course Xzone TV. We'll be back 285 00:19:14.279 --> 00:19:16.079 on the other side of this break. My name is 286 00:19:16.160 --> 00:19:20.160 Rob McConnell. 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It's based 301 00:20:36.799 --> 00:20:40.279 on enough by a man name there, and I need job, 302 00:20:40.519 --> 00:20:43.240 so I want to be the back rides. 303 00:20:45.160 --> 00:20:46.000 Backrider. 304 00:20:48.200 --> 00:20:50.799 It's a story of the dirty man. 305 00:20:51.200 --> 00:20:55.799 Tis clean life doesn't understand the sun is working of 306 00:20:56.200 --> 00:20:56.880 dead man. 307 00:20:57.319 --> 00:20:58.599 It's steady job. 308 00:20:58.799 --> 00:21:08.799 Buddy wants to be at the back right. 309 00:21:14.480 --> 00:21:16.839 Welcome back everyone. Lindsay Morgan's are a special guest. Her 310 00:21:16.880 --> 00:21:21.880 website is www dot Believing after the Mestectomy dot com. 311 00:21:22.039 --> 00:21:26.319 Lindsay's the author of Believing that You Belong After having 312 00:21:26.559 --> 00:21:35.079 a mestectomy. How did your friends react? Were they supportive? 313 00:21:35.200 --> 00:21:37.160 Did you have your own support group? 314 00:21:38.759 --> 00:21:44.279 Yes? I did. They were scared. They was more scared 315 00:21:44.279 --> 00:21:47.839 than I was I believe And a lot of times 316 00:21:47.880 --> 00:21:49.839 I just want to be by myself. I mean, I 317 00:21:49.880 --> 00:21:55.680 know they was there, but there was more scared than myself. 318 00:21:56.119 --> 00:22:00.319 Really, m h. What kind of new strengths did you 319 00:22:00.400 --> 00:22:02.160 develop because of your disease? 320 00:22:06.119 --> 00:22:10.079 I got stronger and I believe in God? What did 321 00:22:10.079 --> 00:22:15.000 I believe in? That there is life after a mess sectomy? 322 00:22:15.160 --> 00:22:16.799 You just have to find it. You just have to 323 00:22:16.839 --> 00:22:22.279 find yourself. You have to believe in yourself again. You 324 00:22:22.359 --> 00:22:27.640 have to want to believe in yourself again to live 325 00:22:27.680 --> 00:22:31.799 with a mass sectomy. It's it's really hard. This is 326 00:22:31.799 --> 00:22:37.039 the hardest thing I ever had to do in my life. 327 00:22:37.519 --> 00:22:40.960 How would your book help others, Lindsey who are going 328 00:22:41.000 --> 00:22:43.960 through the same kind of hurt and pain that you did. 329 00:22:47.079 --> 00:22:49.400 My book will help them know that there is something 330 00:22:49.519 --> 00:22:54.480 better out there and not to give up, and to 331 00:22:54.559 --> 00:22:59.200

believe that they do belong after a mess sectomy and 332 00:22:59.200 --> 00:23:02.799 don't let nobody else tell them different, and that there 333 00:23:02.960 --> 00:23:05.440 is life after a mesterectomy. 334 00:23:07.759 --> 00:23:11.640 How's your family now is? Is everybody doing all right, 335 00:23:12.240 --> 00:23:15.240 including the ten little grand babies? 336 00:23:15.720 --> 00:23:20.279 Yes, everybody's doing fine. They be pushing me to go 337 00:23:20.359 --> 00:23:24.559 out and date, but I'm not to that point right now, 338 00:23:25.079 --> 00:23:30.160 because I don't let I don't want to get rejected 339 00:23:30.400 --> 00:23:31.319 if you want, if you. 340 00:23:31.240 --> 00:23:35.079 Want to call it that, how do you prepare yourself 341 00:23:35.119 --> 00:23:37.920 for that day when you finally decide that you know what, 342 00:23:38.880 --> 00:23:40.200 I'm going to go looking again? 343 00:23:43.119 --> 00:23:46.960 Oh that's a good question. I haven't found that answer yet, 344 00:23:49.160 --> 00:23:52.160 but it's a good question. I don't know. I just 345 00:23:52.240 --> 00:23:55.880 don't want to get rejected. You know, you go, you 346 00:23:56.000 --> 00:23:58.920 go through all this pain and hurt, and to have 347 00:23:59.079 --> 00:24:05.559 somebody tell you that you're not woman enough with them, 348 00:24:05.759 --> 00:24:08.000 that makes you go right back into the deepest hole 349 00:24:08.119 --> 00:24:10.200 that you went in when you were dealing with your cancer. 350 00:24:11.240 --> 00:24:13.759 So you have to be really sure that you're ready 351 00:24:14.039 --> 00:24:16.440 to get rejected. 352 00:24:18.759 --> 00:24:22.720 But what happens if that first date is a time 353 00:24:22.759 --> 00:24:28.240 when somebody understands that you know a book is you 354 00:24:28.319 --> 00:24:31.119 never judge the book by the cover, and they have 355 00:24:31.200 --> 00:24:34.160 the opportunity of getting to know the wonderful lady that's 356 00:24:34.160 --> 00:24:35.039 inside the cover. 357 00:24:36.799 --> 00:24:40.200 Well, if a person finds that, hold on to it 358 00:24:40.279 --> 00:24:44.079 and grab it and don't let it go, because then 359 00:24:44.119 --> 00:24:50.400 that's real. But you have to find somebody that that 360 00:24:50.599 --> 00:24:54.880 is that compassionate and Karen and doesn't care what you 361 00:24:54.960 --> 00:24:58.559 look like on the outside, but loves you for your inside. 362 00:24:59.440 --> 00:25:04.319 And if you find and that's good, is. 363 00:25:04.240 --> 00:25:05.680 Your cancer completely gonder? 364 00:25:07.359 --> 00:25:08.720 Yes, it is excellent. 365 00:25:09.839 --> 00:25:15.319 I am so happy to hear that me too. What 366 00:25:15.480 --> 00:25:18.640 was the hardest part? I might have asked you this before, 367 00:25:18.640 --> 00:25:21.839 but whenever I've talked to authors over the last number 368 00:25:21.839 --> 00:25:24.759 of years, there's always one part of a book that 369 00:25:24.880 --> 00:25:28.039 gives them the hardest time. Is that chapter they called 370 00:25:28.039 --> 00:25:32.079 the chapter from hell. What was the hardest chapter you 371 00:25:32.200 --> 00:25:34.240 had to write in your book or that you found 372 00:25:34.440 --> 00:25:36.160 was the hardest chapter for you to write? 373 00:25:38.200 --> 00:25:45.440 The hardest chapter in my book was looking in the 374 00:25:45.480 --> 00:25:52.400 mirror every day. You have to have that strength to 375 00:25:52.519 --> 00:25:55.039 walk and look into the mirror and look at yourself. 376 00:25:55.559 --> 00:25:59.279 That was the hardest part for me, to look at 377 00:25:59.359 --> 00:26:03.039 myself and to let anybody else see my scars. That's 378 00:26:03.079 --> 00:26:04.119 the hardest thing for me. 379 00:26:06.119 --> 00:26:09.160 Have you heard from other women who have had mastectomies 380 00:26:09.480 --> 00:26:11.759 since you've written your book and what kind of feedback 381 00:26:11.799 --> 00:26:15.319 are you getting from them? 382 00:26:15.519 --> 00:26:18.480 Well, I heard from a couple and they tell me 383 00:26:18.559 --> 00:26:24.720 I'm strong and that I'm doing a positive thing Because 384 00:26:24.720 --> 00:26:29.920 a lot of women wouldn't do that, wouldn't write what 385 00:26:29.960 --> 00:26:32.160 they went through for the world to know that they 386 00:26:32.160 --> 00:26:35.960 have a mes sectomy, you know, But to me to 387 00:26:36.039 --> 00:26:39.480 get my words out on a book on a page, 388 00:26:40.240 --> 00:26:44.240 that's what gave me my strength. I couldn't hold my 389 00:26:44.319 --> 00:26:47.920 feelings anymore. So I just took my pain and my 390 00:26:48.000 --> 00:26:50.799 hurt and I wrote it down in my book. That's 391 00:26:50.839 --> 00:26:51.880 what gave me the strength. 392 00:26:52.039 --> 00:26:55.319 Why do you think in today's society, lindsay, we can't 393 00:26:55.319 --> 00:26:59.119 be honest with other people and do what you did. 394 00:26:59.319 --> 00:27:03.440 Express your pain, express your feelings, let the world know that, hey, 395 00:27:03.559 --> 00:27:07.079 we're not okay, but we but we want to be okay, 396 00:27:07.119 --> 00:27:10.079 and we still have so much to offer through our 397 00:27:10.119 --> 00:27:14.240 own very experiences because society. 398 00:27:14.960 --> 00:27:17.480 Society got everybody thinking that you have to be a 399 00:27:17.519 --> 00:27:22.240 certain size to be accepted. And when somebody has a 400 00:27:22.240 --> 00:27:25.519 mess sectomy, you don't want to put yourself out there. 401 00:27:26.440 --> 00:27:30.720 You know, they want you to be to be glamorous 402 00:27:30.920 --> 00:27:34.039 or be accepted. Okay, let's go. You got to be 403 00:27:34.079 --> 00:27:36.920 a double D. But when you have a mess sectomy 404 00:27:37.240 --> 00:27:39.880 and you try to get out there and meet somebody, 405 00:27:40.119 -->

00:27:43.440 you're not that size anymore. You don't have that option 406 00:27:43.799 --> 00:27:47.319 to go up there and try to make yourself bigger 407 00:27:47.400 --> 00:27:50.720 or whatever anymore. That's what I said earlier, that you 408 00:27:50.839 --> 00:27:53.759 have to be you have to appreciate what God gives 409 00:27:53.799 --> 00:27:55.599 you because you never know when it's going to be 410 00:27:55.599 --> 00:28:00.680 taken away. So society has people believe that you have 411 00:28:00.759 --> 00:28:03.680 to be at certain size to be accepted. And that's 412 00:28:03.680 --> 00:28:05.920 why a lot of women would messect me just stay 413 00:28:05.920 --> 00:28:08.640 in the background, because why would you want to put 414 00:28:08.640 --> 00:28:14.839 yourself through the humiliation and being put down by somebody 415 00:28:14.880 --> 00:28:17.200 because you're not that certain size. 416 00:28:17.440 --> 00:28:20.480 But you didn't ask, you know what, Why should anyone 417 00:28:20.519 --> 00:28:26.759 who has a mastectomy or any other physical altering operation, 418 00:28:26.880 --> 00:28:30.559 why should they feels as if they should hide when 419 00:28:31.799 --> 00:28:35.000 they nobody asked for cancer, Nobody asks to lose a 420 00:28:35.039 --> 00:28:40.680 limb in a car accident. Society has a problem there, they. 421 00:28:40.559 --> 00:28:44.240 Do, and it's not gonna get any better until society 422 00:28:44.319 --> 00:28:48.599 changes their their outlook on how they treat people. You know. 423 00:28:48.920 --> 00:28:52.880 And there's a lot of times I want to hide. 424 00:28:53.000 --> 00:28:55.279 I want to go back into that hole, you know. 425 00:28:55.400 --> 00:28:56.880 I don't want to be alone for the rest of 426 00:28:56.920 --> 00:28:59.160 my life. But I'm scared to get out there and 427 00:28:59.240 --> 00:29:01.720 meet somebody because I don't want to get hurt again. 428 00:29:01.839 --> 00:29:03.839 I don't want to get rejected. I don't want to 429 00:29:03.880 --> 00:29:09.359 get turned away because I had a mess sector me 430 00:29:10.279 --> 00:29:14.160 or somebody see my scars. So it makes you want 431 00:29:14.200 --> 00:29:16.200 to stay in the back. It makes you don't want 432 00:29:16.200 --> 00:29:18.200 to it don't It makes you don't want to step 433 00:29:18.200 --> 00:29:21.319 out there. You know, I'm I'm normal. You know I'm 434 00:29:21.319 --> 00:29:27.960 a normal person. I have a good heart. But when 435 00:29:28.000 --> 00:29:33.200 you go out to meet somebody and eventually you tell 436 00:29:33.279 --> 00:29:34.920 him you had a mess sect to me, that's it. 437 00:29:37.519 --> 00:29:39.559 Why would anybody want to put their self through that? 438 00:29:39.680 --> 00:29:42.519 So that's why people that have assected me stays in 439 00:29:42.519 --> 00:29:42.920 the back. 440 00:29:45.119 --> 00:29:47.279 You said you don't want to put yourself through that. Again, 441 00:29:47.359 --> 00:29:50.440 has this happened dur in the past, Yes. 442 00:29:50.240 --> 00:29:53.680 It has. I put my I put myself out there 443 00:29:53.759 --> 00:29:56.599 one time, and the guy had another to tell me 444 00:29:56.680 --> 00:29:59.319 that sometimes he needs to be with a woman that 445 00:29:59.400 --> 00:30:03.839 has breast ouch. So that just makes you just want 446 00:30:03.880 --> 00:30:05.920 to go all the way back out and you just 447 00:30:05.960 --> 00:30:08.359 want to hide. You don't want to put yourself out 448 00:30:08.359 --> 00:30:09.000 there anymore. 449 00:30:12.720 --> 00:30:16.000 I'll tell you he is not whoever this man was, 450 00:30:16.119 --> 00:30:18.200 is not the rule. He's the exception. 451 00:30:22.240 --> 00:30:26.640 Yeah, but like that, it is. But a lot of 452 00:30:26.640 --> 00:30:30.000 people think the same way he does. So I don't 453 00:30:30.039 --> 00:30:33.160 put myself back out there anymore. I stay in the 454 00:30:33.240 --> 00:30:35.240 back for now. 455 00:30:36.759 --> 00:30:38.559 Nah. 456 00:30:38.720 --> 00:30:40.880 I just feel like that's what I'm supposed to be 457 00:30:40.960 --> 00:30:44.519 in the back because I don't want to put myself 458 00:30:44.559 --> 00:30:46.400 back out there like that. I mean, because it was 459 00:30:46.519 --> 00:30:50.160 like a knife going in my heart when that. 460 00:30:50.079 --> 00:30:56.920 Person told me that, what was your favorite part of 461 00:30:56.960 --> 00:30:58.319 writing your book? 462 00:31:02.920 --> 00:31:06.440 My kids? My kids, and they're straight. 463 00:31:08.240 --> 00:31:10.559 What did the kids think when they saw a mom's book. 464 00:31:11.960 --> 00:31:15.000 Oh, they loved it. They loved it, and they said, Mom, 465 00:31:15.039 --> 00:31:18.240 I'm glad you're out here trying to help other women 466 00:31:18.279 --> 00:31:18.720 out there. 467 00:31:20.759 --> 00:31:23.400 How did how did you? How did you feel when 468 00:31:23.440 --> 00:31:27.039 your publisher sent you the hard copy version and you 469 00:31:27.200 --> 00:31:32.000 had the book that you wrote in your hand. 470 00:31:33.039 --> 00:31:38.079 I was excited. I just hope that it reaches a 471 00:31:38.119 --> 00:31:41.720 lot of other women out there. I was excited because 472 00:31:42.400 --> 00:31:44.519 it's a big thing. It was a big thing to 473 00:31:44.599 --> 00:31:47.640 me to put down what I felt when I was 474 00:31:47.720 --> 00:31:48.720 fighting my cancer. 475 00:31:53.559 --> 00:31:56.599 Now that you've written your book, thank the Good Lord 476 00:31:56.960 --> 00:32:04.640 your cancer free. You've got fortune, children, ten grandchildren. What's 477 00:32:04.759 --> 00:32:06.000 next for Lindsay Morgan? 478 00:32:08.559 --> 00:32:12.000 My second part of my journey and what is that? Now? 479 00:32:14.119 --> 00:32:18.000 I have no idea. I have no idea right now. 480 00:32:19.680 --> 00:32:22.039 I'm not in the dating scene

right now, so I 481 00:32:22.240 --> 00:32:25.720 can't write about that. You know, it's basically trying to 482 00:32:25.759 --> 00:32:30.799 find yourself again. I mean after the cancer. I gotta 483 00:32:30.839 --> 00:32:35.519 try to find a job because when I have my cancer, 484 00:32:35.640 --> 00:32:37.559 I lost my job. So I gotta go out and 485 00:32:37.599 --> 00:32:41.200 try to find another job. I gotta find a place 486 00:32:41.279 --> 00:32:45.200 to live. I need another bar bolt because I lost 487 00:32:45.240 --> 00:32:49.720 all that. So it's hard. So it's trying to get 488 00:32:49.759 --> 00:32:53.160 myself back out back where I was at before I 489 00:32:53.200 --> 00:32:53.880 had cancer. 490 00:32:56.240 --> 00:32:57.920 So you're starting all over again. 491 00:32:59.119 --> 00:33:00.519 Yeah, I gotta start all over. 492 00:33:04.880 --> 00:33:09.160 It's it's it's it's hard for me to understand how 493 00:33:09.400 --> 00:33:14.880 once again, in the twenty first century, you didn't ask 494 00:33:14.920 --> 00:33:20.359 for the cancer, no idea, And it seems that society 495 00:33:20.480 --> 00:33:23.720 is punishing you for something that you had no control. 496 00:33:23.359 --> 00:33:30.240 Over exactly exactly, and you're not. 497 00:33:30.240 --> 00:33:33.200 The only person. And this is why you're writing your 498 00:33:33.200 --> 00:33:36.359 book to say, hey, society, something is desperately wrong, like 499 00:33:36.400 --> 00:33:40.279 not I where does the where does the fault lie? 500 00:33:40.279 --> 00:33:43.640 It is the fault lie with the marketing that puts 501 00:33:43.680 --> 00:33:48.119 these ten plus ten people on their ads, whether it's 502 00:33:48.160 --> 00:33:52.599 a male or a female instead of looking at people 503 00:33:52.680 --> 00:33:55.680 as they really are. Take off the rose colored glasses 504 00:33:55.720 --> 00:33:58.240 and you know, there's got to be something that can 505 00:33:58.279 --> 00:34:03.480 be done to change the image from the perfect to 506 00:34:03.880 --> 00:34:04.400 the real. 507 00:34:05.720 --> 00:34:10.280 Yeah, and once you get that real, that scares people, 508 00:34:11.199 --> 00:34:14.159 so they rather just have the people that they have 509 00:34:14.239 --> 00:34:17.480 out there now. They don't want anybody real. It's not 510 00:34:17.519 --> 00:34:21.519 about being real. It's about what they can sell. So 511 00:34:21.599 --> 00:34:26.519 if you like big, well, if you big size or whatever, 512 00:34:26.599 --> 00:34:29.079 yeah you can they take you. They sell you can 513 00:34:29.119 --> 00:34:35.519 sell anything. They don't want anybody real until society accepts that. 514 00:34:35.519 --> 00:34:38.519 That's what we have to go through, you know. And 515 00:34:38.559 --> 00:34:42.079 then when you diagnose your breast cancer, you're you're not 516 00:34:42.159 --> 00:34:46.000 just fighting for cancer in your life, you're fighting for 517 00:34:46.440 -->

00:34:48.920 to get everything back that you lost in your life. 518 00:34:49.280 --> 00:34:52.400 It's like you gotta start all over again. I lost everything, 519 00:34:52.920 --> 00:34:57.599 Rob when I got sick, I lost everything. I even 520 00:34:57.679 --> 00:35:00.159 lost my insurance through my job that I I had 521 00:35:00.199 --> 00:35:03.480 to go to the state so I can have surgery 522 00:35:03.559 --> 00:35:10.119 for my cancer. So it's hard. It's really hard, and 523 00:35:10.159 --> 00:35:13.599 trying to get your life back is even harder. 524 00:35:15.400 --> 00:35:17.480 Lindsey, you and I have to take our final break 525 00:35:17.519 --> 00:35:21.280 for this segment. Thank you for sharing your story. Thank 526 00:35:21.360 --> 00:35:25.519 you for your bravery, thank you for being you, and 527 00:35:25.559 --> 00:35:28.039 for the great wonderful thing that you've done by writing 528 00:35:28.039 --> 00:35:32.119 your book to help others see you are a wonderful person. 529 00:35:33.519 --> 00:35:35.760 Oh, thank you and thank you for having me. 530 00:35:35.840 --> 00:35:39.559 It's my great pleasure. Lindsay Morgan's our special guest Exton Nation. 531 00:35:40.800 --> 00:35:42.840 The name of her book is Believing that You Belong 532 00:35:42.920 --> 00:35:48.960 after having a mastectomy. Her website is www dot Believing 533 00:35:49.079 --> 00:35:54.320 after themstectomy dot com. That's www dot Believing after the 534 00:35:54.400 --> 00:35:57.039 mestectomy dot com. And Lindsey and I will be back 535 00:35:57.079 --> 00:35:59.400 on the other side of this commercial break as the 536 00:35:59.440 --> 00:36:03.199 excell can ten years from our studios in Hamilton, Ontario, Canada. 537 00:36:03.800 --> 00:36:07.880 My name is Rob McConnell. Don't go away, sir madam. 538 00:36:07.920 --> 00:36:10.800 Will you read my book? It's the Wes the Rite. 539 00:36:10.960 --> 00:36:12.119 Will you take a look? 540 00:36:12.880 --> 00:36:16.320 Based on Enough by a man Namlier and I need 541 00:36:16.320 --> 00:36:19.320 the job so I want to be a a back writer. 542 00:36:24.719 --> 00:36:28.960 It's a dead story of the dirty man has cleaning right, 543 00:36:29.239 --> 00:37:17.360 doesn't understand the sun and wait. 544 00:36:54.639 --> 00:36:58.039 A wake up in the morning. You see. 545 00:36:58.639 --> 00:36:59.519 Road said. 546 00:37:03.440 --> 00:37:05.000 Lucky you have a care. 547 00:37:07.079 --> 00:37:25.239 O love. I know you never. 548 00:37:30.880 --> 00:37:34.960 Excenation. Lindsay Morgan is my special guest. She's the author 549 00:37:35.000 --> 00:37:39.239 of Believing, Believing that You Belong after having a messectomy 550 00:37:40.039 --> 00:37:45.679 w w W dot Believing after themsseectomy dot com. Lindsey, Uh, 551 00:37:46.000 --> 00:37:49.679 what would you like to say to the ladies out 552 00:37:49.719 --> 00:37:54.239 there who are listening who you know they go to 553 00:37:54.280 --> 00:37:59.159 the doctor, they do the self examinations. What would you 554 00:37:59.239 --> 00:38:01.679 like to tell them if that day comes when they 555 00:38:01.719 --> 00:38:05.440 discover a lump or their doctor does. What words of 556 00:38:05.480 --> 00:38:06.480 wisdom do you have. 557 00:38:09.320 --> 00:38:13.119 Early detection? If you find a lump, please go to 558 00:38:13.159 --> 00:38:16.800 the doctors and listen to what your doctor tells you. 559 00:38:18.280 --> 00:38:23.760 But definitely, if your tumor is sore, go to the doctors. 560 00:38:24.039 --> 00:38:26.519 I know that saying if you if you find a 561 00:38:26.599 --> 00:38:30.400 lump and it's sore, it's not cancerous, don't believe it. 562 00:38:31.559 --> 00:38:34.760 Go to the doctor. If you find it early detection 563 00:38:36.119 --> 00:38:41.239 please please, That's all I can tell you, because please 564 00:38:41.280 --> 00:38:42.960 don't let it get to the point where you have 565 00:38:43.039 --> 00:38:48.719 to make a choice of losing your womanhood or keeping it. 566 00:38:51.000 --> 00:38:52.960 Get go as soon as you find your lump. 567 00:38:55.239 --> 00:38:57.440 Tell me, lindsay, is there another book in the offering 568 00:38:57.559 --> 00:38:57.800 for you? 569 00:38:59.280 --> 00:38:59.480 Yes? 570 00:38:59.559 --> 00:39:02.199 It is, And what's going to be about. 571 00:39:03.920 --> 00:39:06.840 My journey after part. 572 00:39:06.639 --> 00:39:11.400 Two, and I understand that you're going for your bachelor's 573 00:39:11.440 --> 00:39:14.199 degree in medical office management. How's that going. 574 00:39:15.360 --> 00:39:17.320 It's going good. I graduate this year. 575 00:39:18.239 --> 00:39:20.760 Congratulations, Thank you. 576 00:39:21.400 --> 00:39:27.159 So if my life is going towards a positive path, 577 00:39:28.199 --> 00:39:30.079 it takes a while, but it gets there. 578 00:39:34.519 --> 00:39:38.599 You've got the children, you've got your new career, You've 579 00:39:38.880 --> 00:39:42.840 you're you're going to be graduating this year. You've got 580 00:39:42.880 --> 00:39:46.800 your you've got your life, your cancer free, You've got 581 00:39:46.920 --> 00:39:52.079 a positive attitude, and you're out there helping ladies who 582 00:39:52.159 --> 00:39:54.440 may be faced with the same thing that you did. 583 00:39:54.880 --> 00:39:57.880 Hats off to you for that, my dear thank you, 584 00:39:58.320 --> 00:39:58.719 Thank you. 585 00:39:58.800 --> 00:40:01.599 I I I don't want nobody to go through what 586 00:40:01.679 --> 00:40:05.480 I went through, and if it can be prevented, and 587 00:40:05.519 --> 00:40:08.360 if I can help prevent it, then that's what I 588 00:40:08.400 --> 00:40:13.840 want to do. Because nobody should lose their self for 589 00:40:14.039 --> 00:40:16.400 everything they work for because they was told they have 590 00:40:16.519 --> 00:40:17.199 breast cancer. 591 00:40:18.519 --> 00:40:20.639 Lindsey, you and I have to say so long for now. 592 00:40:20.719 --> 00:40:22.760 How can our listeners get a copy of your book? 593 00:40:24.320 --> 00:40:26.079 You can get a copy. You can go to Amazon 594 00:40:26.159 --> 00:40:29.960 dot com. You can go to Barnsannoble dot com. You 595 00:40:30.000 --> 00:40:34.039 can go to publish America dot com. Those three places 596 00:40:34.079 --> 00:40:35.960 you can purchase my book, and of course we want 597 00:40:36.000 --> 00:40:38.559 people to go to your website as well at www 598 00:40:38.639 --> 00:40:41.280 dot Believing after Themstectomy dot com. 599 00:40:41.440 --> 00:40:43.679 Lindsey, take care of yourself. I look forward to speaking 600 00:40:43.719 --> 00:40:47.199 to you in the future about your second book. 601 00:40:47.519 --> 00:40:51.760 And just to say hi, thank you, thank you for 602 00:40:51.800 --> 00:40:55.840 having me Rob. You don't know how glad I am 603 00:40:56.400 --> 00:40:58.840 to be able to help others out there, and thanks 604 00:40:58.920 --> 00:41:00.719 to you for putting me on your radio show. 605 00:41:00.960 --> 00:41:03.519 You take care of yourself, my new friend. See hi 606 00:41:03.599 --> 00:41:06.559 to the kids for me. I will bye bye now. 607 00:41:06.599 --> 00:41:09.559 Lindsey Morgan has been my guest this hour explanation Believing 608 00:41:09.599 --> 00:41:13.079 after Themstectomy dot com. She is the author of Believing 609 00:41:13.119 --> 00:41:16.840 that You Belong After having a misectomy. We'll be back 610 00:41:16.880 --> 00:41:18.519 on the other side of this commercial break with the 611 00:41:18.559 --> 00:41:20.599 news at six and a half minutes past with mister 612 00:41:20.639 --> 00:41:26.920 Small claims court. As the excellone continues, don't go away.