Full Transcript for Rob McConnell Interviews - STEVE OLSHER - A Step-by-Step Guide to Becoming Who You Were Born to Be

who they are and have become clear on 73 00:05:22.839 --> 00:05:25.120 why they do what they do. And then you know, 74 00:05:25.240 --> 00:05:29.680 part lay these discoveries into assembling this this really powerful 75 00:05:29.720 --> 00:05:34.399 inventory of gifts and abilities that just focuses on where 76 00:05:34.399 --> 00:05:37.920 they're specifically wired to excel uh and live their lives 77 00:05:37.920 --> 00:05:41.399 in this full state of consciousness and focus on what 78 00:05:41.560 --> 00:05:45.439 it is that their DNA really is programmed to do. 79 00:05:45.560 --> 00:05:48.120 And so just that's one of the tips is really 80 00:05:48.160 --> 00:05:51.839 how can you become then more self aware in terms 81 00:05:51.879 --> 00:05:54.560 of not only what your strengths are, but of course 82 00:05:54.600 --> 00:05:57.240 what your your limitations are, and how you move towards 83 00:05:57.319 --> 00:06:00.160 focusing on that which you're you're really wired to do 84 00:06:00.240 --> 00:06:01.199 better than anybody else. 85 00:06:01.399 --> 00:06:03.199 All right, Steve standby you and I have to take 86 00:06:03.240 --> 00:06:05.279 a two minute commercial break. We'll be right back x 87 00:06:05.319 --> 00:06:08.160 O Nation. Steve Ulsher is our special guest. He is 88 00:06:08.160 --> 00:06:10.279 the author of Journey to You, A Step by step 89 00:06:10.319 --> 00:06:13.879 Guide to Becoming Who You Were Born to Be. Www 90 00:06:14.000 --> 00:06:16.519 dot Steve Oulsher dot com. That's s T E V 91 00:06:16.680 --> 00:06:20.560 e O L s h e R dot com. My 92 00:06:20.639 --> 00:06:22.879 name is Rob McConnell. This is the X one. We'll 93 00:06:22.879 --> 00:06:26.360 be back in two. Don't go away. 94 00:06:37.959 --> 00:06:43.480 Begging up the pieces of my sweet shadow dreams. I 95 00:06:43.600 --> 00:06:49.879 wonder how your folks are names. Her name was an 96 00:06:50.160 --> 00:06:53.319 An armydanf recores. 97 00:06:54.519 --> 00:06:57.360 She left me no knowing in the world to do. 98 00:06:58.199 --> 00:07:06.959 Every hardway. Let me slip away every heighway. You see 99 00:07:07.240 --> 00:07:11.199 that it is the mone and half the blue, from 100 00:07:11.240 --> 00:07:19.560 the head down to my shoes. Every highway. Let me 101 00:07:19.800 --> 00:07:20.480 slip away. 102 00:07:21.560 --> 00:07:25.800 Slip away explanation. Steve Ulsher's are a special guest this hour. 103 00:07:26.439 --> 00:07:28.639 We're talking about Journey to You, a step by step 104 00:07:28.680 --> 00:07:32.120 guy to Becoming who You Were Born to Be. Steve's 105 00:07:32.160 --> 00:07:35.519 website of Steve Ulsher dot com. Steve Bee Firm went 106 00:07:35.519 --> 00:07:39.319 to the commercial breakban. We're talking about the seven life 107 00:07:39.319 --> 00:07:40.120 altering tips. 108 00:07:40.160 --> 00:07:40.360 Now. 109 00:07:40.560 --> 00:07:43.199 One of the tips we talked about was self awareness 110 00:07:43.199 --> 00:07:45.639 and the importance of self awareness. Now, what else can 111 00:07:45.680 --> 00:07:46.199 people do? 112 00:07:47.920 --> 00:07:51.800 Well? Look get these These tips are based off of 113 00:07:52.279 --> 00:07:57.040 working with many, many, many successful people, right, and they 114 00:07:57.160 --> 00:08:00.199 seemed to be common traits. So just run through all 115 00:08:00.240 --> 00:08:02.480 of these folks and so you know, they just have 116 00:08:02.560 --> 00:08:06.279 this incredible sense of who they are. Number two, they 117 00:08:06.399 --> 00:08:10.199 live life as if it's a blank slate, and the 118 00:08:10.240 --> 00:08:14.240 success will really understand that the key to living in 119 00:08:14.279 --> 00:08:18.600 a powerful manner requires just experiencing life without this this 120 00:08:18.800 --> 00:08:23.720 filter of preconceived notions. And it's as if, you know, 121 00:08:23.879 --> 00:08:26.800 too many of us live our lives on rewind as 122 00:08:26.839 --> 00:08:31.160 opposed to record. The question is, you know, really, how 123 00:08:31.199 --> 00:08:35.279 do you experience life in a powerful way without always 124 00:08:35.320 --> 00:08:39.840 rehashing and just throwing in little comfortable categories things the 125 00:08:40.039 --> 00:08:42.480 experience and really try to look at it from the 126 00:08:42.519 --> 00:08:45.360 standpoint of you know, hey, this is a new type 127 00:08:45.399 --> 00:08:47.720 of opportunity, this is a new thing. Let me approach 128 00:08:47.759 --> 00:08:50.039 this as if I know nothing about it. And that's 129 00:08:50.080 --> 00:08:52.720 really what the success will do, is they look at 130 00:08:52.759 --> 00:08:54.519 life as a blank slate and they kind of treat 131 00:08:54.559 --> 00:08:57.320 that daily shower as a way in which to wash 132 00:08:57.360 --> 00:08:59.919 away those mental filters that might cloud their thinking. 133 00:09:01.919 --> 00:09:06.200 Now, it's no secret that twenty ten was, you know, 134 00:09:06.320 --> 00:09:09.799 really as bad as it could get. For so many. 135 00:09:09.919 --> 00:09:11.759 You know, we had the money situation, we had the 136 00:09:11.759 --> 00:09:16.559 autumnal situation, we had the folding of mortgage companies, savings 137 00:09:16.559 --> 00:09:20.440 and loans. How does our audience ensure that twenty eleven 138 00:09:20.600 --> 00:09:23.200 won't stink just as bad as twenty ten did? 139 00:09:24.919 --> 00:09:27.440 Yeah? Well, number one, you thank you lucky star that 140 00:09:27.840 --> 00:09:31.519 the calendar turned over that yes, sure, yeah, And assuming 141 00:09:31.559 --> 00:09:34.279 that you know, the mind prophecy doesn't come through and 142 00:09:34.279 --> 00:09:37.120 wipe us all off the map next year, you can 143 00:09:37.159 --> 00:09:40.000 definitely start putting some seeds in place right now to 144 00:09:40.480 --> 00:09:43.120 really make twenty eleven just as good as can possibly 145 00:09:43.200

--> 00:09:46.159 be a number one. You know, what I really encourage 146 00:09:46.200 --> 00:09:49.240 people to do is take some time to discover what 147 00:09:49.279 --> 00:09:52.519 I call your what and your what is the one 148 00:09:52.639 --> 00:09:55.279 thing that your soul is compelled to do? I mean, Rob, 149 00:09:55.320 --> 00:09:58.799 you know, as you sit here today, your what is? 150 00:09:58.840 --> 00:10:01.039 I mean, if somebody asks you, what is the one 151 00:10:01.120 --> 00:10:03.759 thing that you're really compelled to do? How how would 152 00:10:03.759 --> 00:10:04.879 you answer that question? 153 00:10:05.159 --> 00:10:06.600 The show each and every day? 154 00:10:07.639 --> 00:10:10.399 Yeah? And what what is it about the show that 155 00:10:10.399 --> 00:10:12.360 that inspires you? I mean, what'll gets you fired up 156 00:10:12.399 --> 00:10:14.360 out of that? What's the message, what's the you know, 157 00:10:14.360 --> 00:10:16.600 what's the crux of what you're doing, that that you're 158 00:10:16.600 --> 00:10:19.240 really focusing It's obviously it's not a political show in nature. 159 00:10:19.279 --> 00:10:21.840 I mean, there's the's a specific niche that you that 160 00:10:21.960 --> 00:10:24.600 you feel and you find fulfilling. So what is that. 161 00:10:25.399 --> 00:10:29.240 Making the difference in one person's life each and every 162 00:10:29.279 --> 00:10:30.720 day a positive difference? 163 00:10:31.840 --> 00:10:33.919 Yeah? And that's yeah. And it's so cool that you've 164 00:10:33.919 --> 00:10:35.960 got a platform to be able to do that. How 165 00:10:36.279 --> 00:10:38.120 long you've been doing radio now a long time. 166 00:10:38.000 --> 00:10:39.000 Right, twenty years? 167 00:10:39.480 --> 00:10:43.159 Yeah? So you I mean, so you know, obviously at 168 00:10:43.159 --> 00:10:45.159 some point in your life a click and you just said, 169 00:10:45.200 --> 00:10:47.159 you know, this is really something that I'm compelled to do, 170 00:10:47.200 --> 00:10:49.399 and I feel like I've been given a gift to 171 00:10:49.440 --> 00:10:51.919 do this. Yes, and and for And what I say 172 00:10:51.960 --> 00:10:54.159 to folks is, you know, if you really want to 173 00:10:54.360 --> 00:10:56.960 just just reinvent who you are and get clear on 174 00:10:57.200 --> 00:10:59.200 what you're supposed to be doing with your life and 175 00:10:59.279 --> 00:11:01.159 make twenty eleven and you know, just as good as 176 00:11:01.200 --> 00:11:03.919 can possibly be, that's got to be step one. Is 177 00:11:03.960 --> 00:11:06.120 you've got to just have that vision of where you're headed, 178 00:11:06.159 --> 00:11:10.639 because you know, look that the days of lifetime employment 179 00:11:10.759 --> 00:11:13.440 and really you know, the whole concept of job security 180 00:11:13.480 --> 00:11:15.240 really has become an oxen more on. I mean, it's 181 00:11:15.279 --> 00:11:19.080 just it doesn't exist. And so really the idea is, 182 00:11:19.240 --> 00:11:20.759 you know, again the only one you can count on 183 00:11:20.799 --> 00:11:23.159 in your life is you, So you've got to start 184 00:11:23.200 --> 00:11:27.399 taking some proactive measures to really bring that life to 185 00:11:27.399 --> 00:11:31.639 true fruition that that you neither envision or want to emulate. 186 00:11:32.200 --> 00:11:35.360 And so that's number two is, you know, look at 187 00:11:35.480 --> 00:11:39.759 those that you feel are successful and start studying those 188 00:11:39.759 --> 00:11:42.000 that are doing what it is that you feel you're 189 00:11:42.000 --> 00:11:44.799 compelled to do. And you know, there's lots of different 190 00:11:44.799 --> 00:11:46.720 ways to look at this. The Monckey Vellys said, you know, 191 00:11:46.759 --> 00:11:49.559 a prudent person shall always follow on the footsteps of 192 00:11:49.639 --> 00:11:52.639 greatness and imitate those who have been outstanding, and you know, 193 00:11:52.679 --> 00:11:54.679 there's certainly something to be said for that. But I 194 00:11:54.720 --> 00:11:57.879 certainly believe that, you know, embodying the character traits and 195 00:11:57.919 --> 00:12:01.679 replicating the actions of those you admire, I mean, that's 196 00:12:01.759 --> 00:12:04.360 simply brilliant. So there's folks out there who have already 197 00:12:04.399 --> 00:12:07.360 paid the road for you, and frankly, if you go online, 198 00:12:07.399 --> 00:12:09.720 they're probably giving away a DVD or have a blog 199 00:12:09.840 --> 00:12:12.320 or a book that will teach exactly how to get 200 00:12:12.360 --> 00:12:14.919 from you know where they are and you can follow 201 00:12:14.960 --> 00:12:19.039 those same steps. So that's definitely a big piece of 202 00:12:19.679 --> 00:12:21.600 what you got to be doing in twenty eleven years. 203 00:12:21.639 --> 00:12:24.759 Take a look at those that you admire and really 204 00:12:24.879 --> 00:12:27.720 just try to follow their lead and figure out how 205 00:12:27.759 --> 00:12:30.960 it is that you can leverage their experiences into something 206 00:12:30.960 --> 00:12:33.799 that you can turn around and do, you know, just 207 00:12:33.840 --> 00:12:34.960 as as soon as tomorrow. 208 00:12:35.159 --> 00:12:38.679 Sure, now, Steve, you believe there's only one thing standing 209 00:12:38.799 --> 00:12:43.159 between someone getting his the job that they want and 210 00:12:43.440 --> 00:12:46.000 living the life they dream of? What is that? 211 00:12:47.240 --> 00:12:47.440 Yeah? 212 00:12:47.480 --> 00:12:52.840 And that's really clarity. And so from my perspective, just 213 00:12:53.240 --> 00:12:58.320 far too many folks are unclear on what it is 214 00:12:58.440 --> 00:13:01.120 that they would really be hell to do and how 215 00:13:01.159 --> 00:13:02.799 it is that they can make in an order to 216 00:13:02.799 --> 00:13:06.559 difference both in their life and of course

the lives 217 00:13:06.679 --> 00:13:10.080 of so many others. But once you have that clarity, 218 00:13:10.159 --> 00:13:13.679 I mean, it's amazing how everything really does seem to 219 00:13:13.720 --> 00:13:16.440 fall into place. And don't get me wrong, I mean 220 00:13:16.480 --> 00:13:19.960 the transition from where you are now to where it 221 00:13:20.039 --> 00:13:23.159 is that you would like to be in some cases 222 00:13:23.200 --> 00:13:24.879 can take a very long time. I mean, if you 223 00:13:24.919 --> 00:13:27.120 turn around, you decide you want to be a brain surgeon, 224 00:13:27.480 --> 00:13:30.240 you know, I mean, not the sixteen year process. But 225 00:13:30.399 --> 00:13:33.200 at the same time, it doesn't mean that you can't 226 00:13:33.360 --> 00:13:37.559 begin taking some proactive measures, you know, to getting there. 227 00:13:37.600 --> 00:13:42.080 But ultimately you have to gain clarity on who you are, 228 00:13:42.720 --> 00:13:45.360 why you do what you do, and more importantly, who 229 00:13:45.360 --> 00:13:47.320 you were born to be, and start making an order 230 00:13:47.360 --> 00:13:52.159 to difference, leveraging what it is that I gave you, Steve. 231 00:13:51.799 --> 00:13:55.960 Do you think that people living in this world of 232 00:13:56.039 --> 00:13:59.519 instant gratification are expecting too much when it comes to 233 00:13:59.799 --> 00:14:02.320 the immediate change that they'd like to see in their life, 234 00:14:02.320 --> 00:14:03.720 and they're not willing to work for it. 235 00:14:04.759 --> 00:14:07.039 Yeah, I mean I think that the problem is that 236 00:14:07.039 --> 00:14:09.559 there's too many reality shows, you know, out there showing 237 00:14:09.639 --> 00:14:14.559 the glamorous lifestyle of of those quote unquote living the dream, 238 00:14:14.919 --> 00:14:20.919 and you know, the reality is that just these shows 239 00:14:20.960 --> 00:14:21.759 do us no good. 240 00:14:22.039 --> 00:14:25.600 That's right, because the reality is that these reality shows 241 00:14:25.600 --> 00:14:26.519 aren't real. 242 00:14:27.559 --> 00:14:29.639 And they're not real exactly. I mean that that's a 243 00:14:29.679 --> 00:14:32.120 really good point. I mean that that except going back 244 00:14:32.120 --> 00:14:34.720 to oxymoron, I mean that reality show is an oxymoron 245 00:14:34.919 --> 00:14:37.799 because you know, anytime you got the camera on you, 246 00:14:37.799 --> 00:14:40.519 you know, the odds are really good that even no 247 00:14:40.559 --> 00:14:43.360 matter how hard you try, you have a genda approach 248 00:14:43.399 --> 00:14:45.960 to what you present. And so too many people buy 249 00:14:46.039 --> 00:14:51.399 off on these reality shows as a fact when a fact, 250 00:14:51.440 --> 00:14:54.039 I mean they are largely fiction, script scripted or not, 251 00:14:54.639 --> 00:14:56.799 you know, I mean they're still based on entertainment. You 252 00:14:56.799 --> 00:14:58.480 don't entertain you don't have an audience. You don't have 253 00:14:58.480 --> 00:15:00.879 an audience, you don't have a show. So I mean 254 00:15:00.919 --> 00:15:04.399 that's that is really how people need to think about this, 255 00:15:04.559 --> 00:15:07.120 which is, you know, there are no overnight sensations. I 256 00:15:07.159 --> 00:15:09.720 mean you look at examples like Richard Branson and Sam 257 00:15:09.919 --> 00:15:12.639 Zell and Sean Combs and some of these guys that 258 00:15:12.720 --> 00:15:15.600 you know are really making just an incredible difference. They 259 00:15:15.639 --> 00:15:17.879 weren't born with silver spoons in their mouths, and they 260 00:15:18.039 --> 00:15:21.440 started taking their you know, their their their careers and 261 00:15:21.440 --> 00:15:24.279 the direction that to where they are now just by 262 00:15:24.480 --> 00:15:27.360 taking one very small step at a time. I mean 263 00:15:27.399 --> 00:15:30.919 most people don't recognize that Richard Branson, you started with 264 00:15:31.000 --> 00:15:34.480 a mail order catalog company, selling selling one record at 265 00:15:34.519 --> 00:15:37.639 a time. You know, Seawan Combs intern for years at 266 00:15:37.679 --> 00:15:39.960 Uptown Records before he got his first big break to 267 00:15:40.039 --> 00:15:42.960 move into an executive position and create his own records. 268 00:15:42.960 --> 00:15:46.559 I mean, mother Teresa, you know she she brought comfort 269 00:15:46.639 --> 00:15:49.840 to one person in need. That's how she started, That's 270 00:15:49.840 --> 00:15:53.279 how everyone gets started. And yet this whole instant gratification 271 00:15:53.559 --> 00:15:56.240 mentality of you know, giving what I want, give it 272 00:15:56.279 --> 00:15:59.519 to me now is it's it's totally convoluted and sets 273 00:15:59.519 --> 00:16:00.720 everyone up disappointment. 274 00:16:01.879 --> 00:16:04.840 Not only that, I think it's it is you know, 275 00:16:04.879 --> 00:16:08.200 it has to hold some responsibility for the situation that 276 00:16:08.240 --> 00:16:10.559 we find ourselves in these days, no matter whether it's 277 00:16:10.600 --> 00:16:15.919 in the financial arena, the stock market, or even in 278 00:16:16.360 --> 00:16:19.080 the industry. You know, we have to understand. But listen, 279 00:16:19.159 --> 00:16:21.960 nothing comes easy. There's no such thing as a quick fix. 280 00:16:22.159 --> 00:16:24.480 I you know, like what's the old saying, no pain, no. 281 00:16:24.559 --> 00:16:28.039 Gain, Yeah, or as Homer says, if it's too hard 282 00:16:28.039 --> 00:16:29.600 to do, it's find not worth doing. I mean, that's 283 00:16:29.679 --> 00:16:31.200 you know, that's that's the problem right now. I love 284 00:16:31.200 --> 00:16:32.960 the Simpsons, but you know, leave it to Homer to 285 00:16:33.039 --> 00:16:36.039 create the mentality of e if it takes too long 286 00:16:36.120 --> 00:16:39.120 or too

hard to do, then forget about it. Yeah, 287 00:16:39.600 --> 00:16:42.080 partly time we turn on a different show or turn 288 00:16:42.120 --> 00:16:42.919 it off all together. 289 00:16:44.039 --> 00:16:46.639 Do you really believe that until someone takes a look 290 00:16:46.639 --> 00:16:49.399 at themselves in the mirror and answers the question what 291 00:16:49.559 --> 00:16:53.080 is my want? That they can never be completely fulfilled. 292 00:16:54.840 --> 00:16:57.320 I got to tell you that that is absolutely how 293 00:16:57.360 --> 00:16:59.600 I feel about it. And you know, people can argue 294 00:17:00.240 --> 00:17:02.240 whether or not they can dance your life without really, 295 00:17:02.360 --> 00:17:04.039 you know, ever getting to where it is that they 296 00:17:04.039 --> 00:17:06.440 were destined to go and still be happy. And I mean, 297 00:17:06.480 --> 00:17:10.160 sure you can. You know, Look, you can be happy 298 00:17:10.160 --> 00:17:14.079 and have some degree of happiness having a nine to 299 00:17:14.119 --> 00:17:17.559 five and doing whatever it is that you do. But ultimately, 300 00:17:17.880 --> 00:17:19.480 the only one you're gonna have to answer to me 301 00:17:19.559 --> 00:17:22.720 is yourself. And when you're laying on your deathbed and 302 00:17:22.759 --> 00:17:24.680 you look yourself in the mirror, you've got to be 303 00:17:24.680 --> 00:17:26.880 able to answer the question in terms of whether or 304 00:17:26.920 --> 00:17:30.359 not you shared your greatest gift with the world. And 305 00:17:30.400 --> 00:17:33.079 if you didn't and you're comfortable with that, then who 306 00:17:33.119 --> 00:17:34.920 am I to tell you otherwise? But I got to 307 00:17:34.960 --> 00:17:36.319 tell you from the work that I do and the 308 00:17:36.359 --> 00:17:39.319 people that I've just just been following and working with 309 00:17:39.400 --> 00:17:41.599 and have a chance to coach and what not over 310 00:17:41.640 --> 00:17:45.799 the years. Now, once that that fire is sparked, their 311 00:17:45.799 --> 00:17:48.640 lives change, and so can you you know, can you 312 00:17:48.680 --> 00:17:50.880 get to the heat without the fire. Sure, I mean 313 00:17:50.880 --> 00:17:52.799 you can still have a passionate life and enjoy what 314 00:17:52.839 --> 00:17:55.359 you're doing, but it takes you to a whole different level. 315 00:17:55.359 --> 00:17:56.519 I mean it's you know, it's a difference between a 316 00:17:56.519 --> 00:17:58.519 windstorm and a hurricane. I mean, it's just it's it's 317 00:17:58.559 --> 00:17:59.519 a whole different level. 318 00:18:03.039 --> 00:18:05.640 What was your inspiration for writing your book? Why did 319 00:18:05.680 --> 00:18:08.720 you decide to write this book and share this information 320 00:18:08.799 --> 00:18:09.319 with the world. 321 00:18:10.359 --> 00:18:14.359 Sure, yeah, I'm you know, I'm a lifelong entrepreneur. As 322 00:18:14.400 --> 00:18:16.160 I was talking about earlier. I mean, we are each 323 00:18:16.240 --> 00:18:18.880 wired to excel in very specific ways, and you can 324 00:18:18.960 --> 00:18:20.519 try to deny it till you're blue in the face, 325 00:18:20.559 --> 00:18:22.960 but there are things that come naturally to you and 326 00:18:23.079 --> 00:18:25.279 things that you're just repelled by a period, and there's 327 00:18:25.279 --> 00:18:27.759 nothing you can do about it. For me, I've always 328 00:18:27.759 --> 00:18:30.000 been wired as an entrepreneur. I mean literally, since the 329 00:18:30.000 --> 00:18:31.519 time I could pick up a rake and try to 330 00:18:31.559 --> 00:18:33.480 move as leads around, I've always tried to make a 331 00:18:33.480 --> 00:18:36.400 few dollars, and so I've parlayed that over the years 332 00:18:36.440 --> 00:18:41.880 into nightclubs and radio and DJing and catalogs and dot 333 00:18:41.960 --> 00:18:44.880 coms and real estate. And you know, you need it, 334 00:18:44.960 --> 00:18:48.759 I've done it, but within within a short period of time, 335 00:18:48.880 --> 00:18:51.119 I mean, it did become very clear that although I 336 00:18:51.200 --> 00:18:54.319 was doing okay, they're just that fulfillment wasn't there. And 337 00:18:54.359 --> 00:18:57.000 I had a pretty profound experience with my stepfather who 338 00:18:57.039 --> 00:18:59.599 was actually in the hospital on his deathbed. 339 00:18:59.680 --> 00:19:02.200 I see you, all right, Let's talk about that when 340 00:19:02.200 --> 00:19:04.440 we come back from this newsbreak at the bottom of 341 00:19:04.440 --> 00:19:06.880 the hour. Steve, thanks very much for joining us. Steve 342 00:19:06.880 --> 00:19:10.240 Oulsher is our special guest this hour. Steve is in Chicago, Illinois. 343 00:19:10.480 --> 00:19:14.720 His website is www dot Steve Lscher dot com, and 344 00:19:14.920 --> 00:19:16.799 Steve is the author of Journey to You, a step 345 00:19:16.799 --> 00:19:19.920 by step guide to becoming who you were born to be. 346 00:19:20.599 --> 00:19:22.599 My name is Rob mconnell. This is the excellent Steve 347 00:19:22.680 --> 00:19:25.319 Ulsher and I return after the news break right here 348 00:19:25.559 --> 00:19:37.400 from our studios in Hamilton, Ontario, Canada. Don't go away. 349 00:19:39.160 --> 00:19:43.559 My name is Michael Costar, Canada's leading a mentalist from Toronto, Ontario. 350 00:19:46.359 --> 00:19:46.559 Hi. 351 00:19:46.720 --> 00:19:49.160 My name is Florida, and you're listening to my dad, 352 00:19:49.279 --> 00:19:50.799 Ron McConnell on the axen. 353 00:19:51.480 --> 00:19:55.039 This is psychic Dorothy from Saint Catherine's and you're listening 354 00:19:55.079 --> 00:19:58.000 to Rob McConnell. Hello, my name is Holly Reeves, an 355 00:19:58.039 --> 00:20:01.119 astrologer from Astro. For you and your listening to Canada's 356 00:20:01.240 --> 00:20:05.119 number one paranormal radio show, The X Zone. Rob mcconoughy. 357 00:20:05.279 -->

00:20:08.519 Welcome to the X Zone, a place where fact is 358 00:20:08.559 --> 00:20:13.799 fiction and fiction is reality. Now here's your host, Rob McConnell, 359 00:20:34.640 --> 00:20:35.920 for you all the time. 360 00:20:36.359 --> 00:20:43.799 Fit say, I don't feel the need to give sound 361 00:20:43.960 --> 00:20:51.640 secrets a way you think maybe I need help on 362 00:20:51.920 --> 00:20:52.960 the wide right? 363 00:20:54.400 --> 00:20:57.720 All right, don't bet a. 364 00:20:57.799 --> 00:20:59.640 Off, not on a sudden to. 365 00:21:23.160 --> 00:21:25.720 Explanation. Steve Ulsher is my special guest. Steve is the 366 00:21:25.759 --> 00:21:27.759 author of Journey to You, a step by step guide 367 00:21:27.799 --> 00:21:30.839 to becoming who you were born to be. His website 368 00:21:30.960 --> 00:21:35.559 is www dot Steve Lscher dot com. That's s T 369 00:21:35.839 --> 00:21:40.680 e v e O L s h e r dot com. 370 00:21:41.160 --> 00:21:43.880 So tell me, Steve, as well as the Excel Nation. 371 00:21:44.319 --> 00:21:47.160 How do you go about discovering your what? Now? You 372 00:21:47.200 --> 00:21:50.279 say there are three simple steps to discovering it? What 373 00:21:50.440 --> 00:21:50.839 are they? 374 00:21:52.000 --> 00:21:52.279 Sure? 375 00:21:53.000 --> 00:21:53.240 Well? 376 00:21:53.400 --> 00:21:58.359 You know the three steps involved? First identifying and let 377 00:21:58.400 --> 00:21:59.279 me just back up for two. 378 00:21:59.319 --> 00:22:00.480 Okay, I say so. 379 00:22:00.519 --> 00:22:04.319 This is actually from an exercise that I created and 380 00:22:04.400 --> 00:22:06.680 before the break we were talking about sort of the 381 00:22:06.680 --> 00:22:11.960 sinstant gratification society that we've perpetuated here, and the reality 382 00:22:12.079 --> 00:22:14.759 is that I actually did create this exercise for the 383 00:22:14.799 --> 00:22:18.079 instant gratification society because you can't fight what they know, 384 00:22:18.119 --> 00:22:22.160 what reality is, so realistically, you know, some of the 385 00:22:21.440 --> 00:22:24.640 old older modalities like Myers Briggs and what color is 386 00:22:24.680 --> 00:22:28.039 your parachute and whatnot, mean, they're very helpful tools, but 387 00:22:29.000 --> 00:22:32.279 they were really built for the twentieth century folk there. 388 00:22:32.440 --> 00:22:34.359 And so what I did is I create an exercise 389 00:22:34.400 --> 00:22:37.079 called the Seven Seeds of your Soul, which literally, in 390 00:22:37.119 --> 00:22:40.480 about fifteen minutes, will get you very clear on identifying 391 00:22:40.480 --> 00:22:42.079 the one thing you were born to do, which is 392 00:22:42.079 --> 00:22:44.599 what I call you what And so I'll take you 393 00:22:44.640 --> 00:22:47.079 to those three steps, and those three steps are as 394 00:22:47.079 --> 00:22:52.039 follow Number one, we first identify everything that you absolutely 395 00:22:52.079 -->

00:22:54.680 love to do. And now this can be something that 396 00:22:54.720 --> 00:22:57.400 you did when you were a kid, I mean toddler, 397 00:22:57.880 --> 00:22:59.599 can be something when you were a teenager. It doesn't 398 00:22:59.640 --> 00:23:02.359 matter if it would still bring you joy, you throw 399 00:23:02.400 --> 00:23:05.240 it on your list. And of course, you know that's 400 00:23:05.319 --> 00:23:07.839 some of the obvious things that come up, or you know, 401 00:23:08.039 --> 00:23:10.319 like make a love and you know, and playing bell 402 00:23:10.519 --> 00:23:12.160 or you know those some of those things. Of course, 403 00:23:12.160 --> 00:23:14.799 I mean, whatever it is, you throw it on your list. 404 00:23:15.079 --> 00:23:17.880 And so the first step is identifying absolutely everything that 405 00:23:17.920 --> 00:23:20.680 you love to do. The second step is you then 406 00:23:20.720 --> 00:23:23.079 go ahead and identify everything that you hate to do 407 00:23:23.160 --> 00:23:25.240 and they just couldn't pay you enough money in the 408 00:23:25.279 --> 00:23:28.079 world to do. And in the work that I do, 409 00:23:28.200 --> 00:23:31.400 it's often interesting how just those first two steps of 410 00:23:31.480 --> 00:23:34.200 putting pen of paper and identifying really what it is 411 00:23:34.240 --> 00:23:35.680 that you'd love to do and what it is that 412 00:23:35.759 --> 00:23:39.680 you just loathe doing. You know how that just brings 413 00:23:39.720 --> 00:23:42.920 people to to just the realization that, man, I'm spending 414 00:23:42.960 --> 00:23:45.920 so much of my time doing things that I hate 415 00:23:45.960 --> 00:23:48.119 to do, and not nearly enough time doing things that 416 00:23:48.160 --> 00:23:50.680 I love to do. And so in and of itself, 417 00:23:50.759 --> 00:23:53.599 that those two steps just really do open up some eyes. 418 00:23:53.680 --> 00:23:56.920 But the third step is really where your work pays off, 419 00:23:56.960 --> 00:23:59.799 which is there's a cross basically across pollination between the 420 00:23:59.799 --> 00:24:02.960 two columns where we run those two columns against the 421 00:24:03.000 --> 00:24:06.519 seven seeds of your soul, which are seven questions that 422 00:24:06.599 --> 00:24:10.000 I created. And once you run the two columns against 423 00:24:10.000 --> 00:24:13.359 each other and against these seven questions, it then really 424 00:24:13.440 --> 00:24:15.440 just floats to the surface. I mean, you're able to 425 00:24:15.480 --> 00:24:19.799 bring to the surface with pretty strong clarity what it 426 00:24:19.960 --> 00:24:22.119 is that you're really compelled to do and what you 427 00:24:22.160 --> 00:24:23.799 would do. I Mean, the idea here is how do 428 00:24:23.839 --> 00:24:25.359 you live like a thief? I mean, how do you 429 00:24:25.359 --> 00:24:28.119 get paid extraordinarily well for what it is that you 430 00:24:28.160 --> 00:24:31.279

would gladly do for free? And that's the purpose of 431 00:24:31.279 --> 00:24:34.200 this exercise is to bring that to the surface. And 432 00:24:34.680 --> 00:24:37.079 literally in about fifteen minutes we get to those answers. 433 00:24:39.200 --> 00:24:42.440 Why do people continuously do things that they hate doing? 434 00:24:42.519 --> 00:24:44.960 Like why do they keep going to a job that 435 00:24:45.000 --> 00:24:48.880 they they hate? They can't stand their job, And I'm 436 00:24:48.920 --> 00:24:52.440 sure that this attitude affects their productivity as well as 437 00:24:52.440 --> 00:24:54.559 their own mental health and physical health. So why do 438 00:24:54.599 --> 00:24:55.079 they do it? 439 00:24:55.920 --> 00:24:59.680 Yeah? Absolutely, and they do it because look, everybody's got 440 00:24:59.759 --> 00:25:02.279 you know, bills to pay, everybody's got miles to feed. 441 00:25:02.359 --> 00:25:06.160 We all have responsibilities. But what I encourage people to 442 00:25:06.240 --> 00:25:09.119 do is is first you have to create that awareness. 443 00:25:09.119 --> 00:25:13.400 See so many people just they they kind of just 444 00:25:13.640 --> 00:25:18.079 low themselves into this zone, maybe the X zone of 445 00:25:18.440 --> 00:25:20.759 you know, of just really saying, well, this is life, 446 00:25:20.839 --> 00:25:23.720 you know, and and I'm not happy but this is 447 00:25:23.759 --> 00:25:25.440 these are the cars I've been dealt, and this is 448 00:25:25.440 --> 00:25:26.440 the hand I'm going to play. 449 00:25:26.559 --> 00:25:30.200 But isn't that them taking the easy way out by 450 00:25:30.279 --> 00:25:33.920 not actually trying to get off their duffs and work 451 00:25:34.000 --> 00:25:37.680 towards a job that would give them the gratification that 452 00:25:37.720 --> 00:25:38.480 we're talking about. 453 00:25:39.319 --> 00:25:41.759 Well, I mean, hell, that's why we live vicariously through others. 454 00:25:41.759 --> 00:25:43.640 I mean, you look at these shows, you know, you 455 00:25:43.680 --> 00:25:47.119 look at the the entertainment tonights and the access hollywoods 456 00:25:47.119 --> 00:25:49.079 and the you know, why do people stand out in 457 00:25:49.119 --> 00:25:51.680 the rain for four hours just to catch a glimpse of, 458 00:25:52.160 --> 00:25:54.400 you know, of one of their favorite stars. You know, 459 00:25:54.480 --> 00:25:58.559 it's not because you know that they just want to 460 00:25:58.599 --> 00:26:00.000 see them up cloth and all you can do is 461 00:26:00.039 --> 00:26:02.079 from the TV and you can see anytime you want. 462 00:26:02.160 --> 00:26:03.960 I think it's because they hope that, you know, a 463 00:26:03.960 --> 00:26:06.559 little bit of their magic is going to rub off 464 00:26:06.559 --> 00:26:08.480 on them so they can then go ahead and pursue 465 00:26:08.519 --> 00:26:12.319 the life that they really are wanting to lead. And 466 00:26:12.400 --> 00:26:15.599

so yeah, I mean it's just it's a sad state 467 00:26:15.640 --> 00:26:19.119 of mind really, where people are just saying, you know, 468 00:26:19.240 --> 00:26:21.440 this is this is who I am, and there's nothing 469 00:26:21.480 --> 00:26:23.920 I can do about it. And what I challenge people 470 00:26:23.920 --> 00:26:25.880 to do is, you know, get out of that ninety 471 00:26:25.960 --> 00:26:28.480 nine point nine percent of the world and lives vicariously 472 00:26:28.519 --> 00:26:31.039 through others and become part of the you know, become 473 00:26:31.160 --> 00:26:32.839 part of the point one. I mean, that's really where 474 00:26:32.839 --> 00:26:33.319 you want to be. 475 00:26:34.960 --> 00:26:41.000 Where is it in society that we we find the 476 00:26:40.400 --> 00:26:43.799 the spur track that takes us away from reality to 477 00:26:43.960 --> 00:26:48.799 this world of fantasy that many people live through other people? 478 00:26:50.880 --> 00:26:52.200 Say it one more time. I want to make sure 479 00:26:52.200 --> 00:26:53.160 to answer your question correctly. 480 00:26:53.200 --> 00:26:57.319 All right, Where is it in the development of the 481 00:26:57.400 --> 00:27:00.200 human psyche where we take that spur track where we 482 00:27:00.319 --> 00:27:05.440 get sidetracked from that that dream that we have that 483 00:27:05.559 --> 00:27:08.240 as a child, that we work towards in our teams, 484 00:27:08.319 --> 00:27:10.680 we take all the courses, we do, all the work, 485 00:27:10.759 --> 00:27:13.599 we hang around the people that can give us the 486 00:27:13.640 --> 00:27:17.039 inspiration to the point where, oh, geez, let's watch this 487 00:27:17.119 --> 00:27:19.400 show and live through this person. And what I'll do 488 00:27:19.519 --> 00:27:23.359 is I'll just work at the local store, even though 489 00:27:23.400 --> 00:27:25.240 I hate it, just because I have bills today. 490 00:27:26.279 --> 00:27:28.559 Yeah, And I think that's exactly right. And at some 491 00:27:28.720 --> 00:27:31.119 point you get off track. It's and I call it 492 00:27:31.119 --> 00:27:34.359 the pinnacle and the idea here is that the pinnacle 493 00:27:35.000 --> 00:27:38.599 is really where your life meets with your exact expectations. 494 00:27:38.599 --> 00:27:40.480 It's the top of the mountain. I mean, it's that 495 00:27:40.759 --> 00:27:43.720 spot that you know only one person can really stand out, 496 00:27:43.720 --> 00:27:45.640 and hopefully that person is you. But what ends up 497 00:27:45.640 --> 00:27:48.960 happening is, at some point we start that downward slide. 498 00:27:48.960 --> 00:27:51.240 And it could be because you tried something and someone 499 00:27:51.279 --> 00:27:54.079 told you know, it could be because, you know, maybe 500 00:27:54.119 --> 00:27:57.359 you wanted to play the piano and you and you 501 00:27:57.400 --> 00:28:00.440 had your first recital and everybody laughed at you. I mean, 502 00:28:00.519 --> 00:28:03.079 who knows what the reasons are, But at some point 503 00:28:03.559 --> 00:28:05.920 you started putting the grease on your boots that started 504 00:28:05.960 --> 00:28:08.599 you down, you know, down the slide. And once you 505 00:28:08.680 --> 00:28:12.920 begin that downward slide, it's really hard to regain your traction. 506 00:28:13.079 --> 00:28:15.480 So the key is, you know, start looking back at 507 00:28:15.480 --> 00:28:19.000 really where you got into that that downward position there 508 00:28:19.319 --> 00:28:21.720 where you just started heading down the slope and you 509 00:28:21.720 --> 00:28:24.759 couldn't get back up. And for most people there's a 510 00:28:24.799 --> 00:28:27.920 definitive point in their lives where that happened. Maybe you 511 00:28:27.960 --> 00:28:30.000 came out of college and you wanted to live with 512 00:28:30.039 --> 00:28:32.599 your girlfriends, so you went and you got a job 513 00:28:32.640 --> 00:28:34.119 and you do whatever you got to do so you 514 00:28:34.119 --> 00:28:37.240 could pay rent. And of course once you start paying rent, well, 515 00:28:37.240 --> 00:28:40.440 now you've got monthly obligations. Once you get those monthly obligations, 516 00:28:40.799 --> 00:28:42.880 that whirlwind just kind of spirals you to you know, 517 00:28:42.920 --> 00:28:45.519 spirals you down there, and it just keeps growing and growing, 518 00:28:45.519 --> 00:28:48.079 I mean like a snowball. And so the idea is, 519 00:28:48.160 --> 00:28:50.960 take a look at where you really just got off course. 520 00:28:51.000 --> 00:28:53.039 But you know, do you have an opportunity now to 521 00:28:53.079 --> 00:28:55.680 correct that? Of course you do. At any point you 522 00:28:55.720 --> 00:28:58.160 can correct that. But you've got to enter into the transition, 523 00:28:58.279 --> 00:29:00.519 which is you know, you you face three reality of 524 00:29:00.519 --> 00:29:03.160 where you're at, the responsibilities that you have, and you 525 00:29:03.200 --> 00:29:05.200 don't quit your data out, but you use that to 526 00:29:05.319 --> 00:29:08.079 fund what it is that you really are compelled to do. 527 00:29:08.839 --> 00:29:11.200 So how come people cope with these changes that are 528 00:29:11.240 --> 00:29:14.160 going to be life altering to them at this point? 529 00:29:14.200 --> 00:29:15.559 You know, they're going to have to do things that 530 00:29:15.680 --> 00:29:17.799 they never thought that they'd have to do. I'm sure 531 00:29:17.839 --> 00:29:20.400 it's going to up the stress level and in many 532 00:29:20.440 --> 00:29:24.000 cases give them some sort of grief. So how does 533 00:29:24.079 --> 00:29:28.039 somebody who needs to make these changes, recognizes that they 534 00:29:28.079 --> 00:29:31.559 need to make these changes, cope with the psychological factors 535 00:29:31.559 --> 00:29:34.720 that are going to be present now that weren't before 536 00:29:34.799 -->

00:29:37.480 because of these changes that have to be made. 537 00:29:38.160 --> 00:29:40.240 Yeah, well, I mean number one, they have to be 538 00:29:40.400 --> 00:29:43.680 very cognizant of their circle of four and their circle 539 00:29:43.720 --> 00:29:46.359 of four. If you can picture a compass with the north, south, east, 540 00:29:46.400 --> 00:29:48.559 and west and you in the middle. Okay, at circle 541 00:29:48.599 --> 00:29:51.880 of four directly reflects your life. In other words, the 542 00:29:51.920 --> 00:29:54.319 four people that you consider yourself closest to, whether it 543 00:29:54.359 --> 00:29:58.599 be a friend or a spouse, or a parent or 544 00:29:58.640 --> 00:30:02.240 a relative, or a preacher or a spiritual leader or 545 00:30:02.279 --> 00:30:05.079 a teacher, whoever it might be. You know, whoever you 546 00:30:05.119 --> 00:30:07.319 consider yourself closest to. These are people that you know. 547 00:30:07.359 --> 00:30:09.000 It's not like you got Oprah on your circle and 548 00:30:09.279 --> 00:30:10.799 you know you don't know where. These are people that 549 00:30:10.839 --> 00:30:14.319 you actually surround yourself with, and your life is a 550 00:30:14.359 --> 00:30:17.480 summation of those four people. So, I mean, if you've 551 00:30:17.480 --> 00:30:19.519 got two people in your circle that are making minimum 552 00:30:19.599 --> 00:30:21.759 wage and you've got two people in your circle who 553 00:30:21.799 --> 00:30:24.319 are unemployed and trying to just really understand what's next, 554 00:30:24.359 --> 00:30:27.240 I mean, the odds are really good. You're concerned about 555 00:30:27.240 --> 00:30:30.240 where your next meal is coming from, and so you know, 556 00:30:30.279 --> 00:30:32.599 you just have to take a look at that circle 557 00:30:32.640 --> 00:30:36.640 and surround yourself with people that will actually support you 558 00:30:37.000 --> 00:30:39.559 as you make your way towards who it is that 559 00:30:39.640 --> 00:30:41.799 you were born to be. And then the idea here is, 560 00:30:41.839 --> 00:30:43.200 you know, at some point it's you know, it's nice 561 00:30:43.200 --> 00:30:46.119 to surround yourself with familiar faces, but at some point 562 00:30:46.119 --> 00:30:47.920 you got to cut that rope. As hard as it 563 00:30:48.000 --> 00:30:49.759 might be. You know, if they're weighing you down and 564 00:30:49.799 --> 00:30:52.319 you're trying to soar, you just got to you just 565 00:30:52.319 --> 00:30:54.920 got to let go. And so how you cope with 566 00:30:54.960 --> 00:30:57.599 it is you surround yourself with people who encourage you 567 00:30:58.039 --> 00:31:00.599 to get to that level. That's the best way. 568 00:31:00.799 --> 00:31:02.640 Reminds me of that old saying it's so hard to 569 00:31:02.680 --> 00:31:04.319 soar with the eagles when you work with a bunch 570 00:31:04.359 --> 00:31:10.480 of turkeys. You got that right explanation. Steve Ulschers are 571 00:31:10.480 --> 00:31:13.880 a special guest www dot Steve Ulscher dot com. He's 572 00:31:13.920 --> 00:31:16.920 the author of Journey to You, a step by step 573 00:31:16.960 --> 00:31:20.759 guide to becoming who you were born to be. Steve, 574 00:31:20.799 --> 00:31:22.960 can you provide us some examples of people who have 575 00:31:23.079 --> 00:31:27.440 discovered their want and who they're changing and how they're 576 00:31:27.519 --> 00:31:29.480 changing their world as a result. 577 00:31:30.160 --> 00:31:31.880 Sure. And you know, I think where a lot of 578 00:31:31.880 --> 00:31:35.839 people get sort of scared at this whole notion of 579 00:31:36.079 --> 00:31:38.599 you know, pursuing something so different is that they think 580 00:31:38.599 --> 00:31:41.880 they have to have this huge upheaval to really do 581 00:31:41.960 --> 00:31:45.039 something that is meaningful, both you know, for themselves and 582 00:31:45.079 --> 00:31:48.160 of course for others. And what I found in my 583 00:31:48.279 --> 00:31:51.880 work is that there's often just a subtle shift, a 584 00:31:52.039 --> 00:31:55.519 very subtle shift that needs to take place in order 585 00:31:55.519 --> 00:31:59.519 for people to you know, really find that fulfillment and happiness. 586 00:31:59.519 --> 00:32:01.880 It gets some fired up every day. And so what 587 00:32:01.960 --> 00:32:04.359 I ask people to do is is think about how 588 00:32:04.359 --> 00:32:07.119 can you leverage the experience you have and the interest 589 00:32:07.200 --> 00:32:11.000 that you have into something that's really gonna just just 590 00:32:11.079 --> 00:32:12.920 just get you fired out of bed every day? And 591 00:32:12.960 --> 00:32:14.880 so like, for instance, Susan is a woman that I 592 00:32:14.920 --> 00:32:20.559 worked with who's really just, I'm quite successful by all definitions. 593 00:32:20.599 --> 00:32:25.000 She's incredibly smart, a corporate banker, you know, really just 594 00:32:25.079 --> 00:32:27.480 just doing some amazing things. And she had been in 595 00:32:27.480 --> 00:32:30.400 corporate banking for about twenty five years. So this is 596 00:32:30.440 --> 00:32:32.880 a woman in her in her in her middle fifties, 597 00:32:33.279 --> 00:32:36.960 and she just wasn't really that happy. I mean, she 598 00:32:37.039 --> 00:32:38.640 was good at what she did, but just really not 599 00:32:38.720 --> 00:32:41.400 that happy. But after we worked together, it became clear 600 00:32:41.480 --> 00:32:45.680 that her what is really to use that expertise and 601 00:32:45.720 --> 00:32:51.200 that knowledge to bring financial literacy and education to our youth. 602 00:32:51.559 --> 00:32:55.200 And so she was able to leverage her business success 603 00:32:55.319 --> 00:32:59.200 and her knowledge of finance and corporate America and what 604 00:32:59.359 --> 00:33:04.720 not to create a nonprofit that just literally teaches financial 605 00:33:04.720 -->

00:33:08.519 literacy to inner city youth. And so so again this 606 00:33:08.640 --> 00:33:10.920 is not a huge shift, I mean, it's pretty close 607 00:33:10.960 --> 00:33:14.640 to what she was doing, but that subtle shift has 608 00:33:14.680 --> 00:33:17.960 made all the difference for her. And so that's what 609 00:33:18.000 --> 00:33:19.839 I asked people to think about too. It's how can 610 00:33:19.880 --> 00:33:23.079 you just reapply what it is that you're naturally compelled 611 00:33:23.079 --> 00:33:25.680 to do in a way that's much more meaningful. And ultimately, 612 00:33:26.079 --> 00:33:30.039 it's all about identifying that one niche, that one specific group. 613 00:33:30.319 --> 00:33:33.200 Add the noun to the equation. I mean, who are 614 00:33:33.240 --> 00:33:36.720 the people that if you could serve every single day, 615 00:33:37.359 --> 00:33:39.640 who would they be? You know, and where are they 616 00:33:39.680 --> 00:33:41.519 and what do they look like? Put a picture up 617 00:33:41.839 --> 00:33:44.759 of what that person looks like, and that'll help you 618 00:33:44.839 --> 00:33:47.839 get focused on, you know, on really just doing something 619 00:33:47.880 --> 00:33:48.799 that's extraordinary. 620 00:33:50.279 --> 00:33:53.680 So the entire key to this process is finding out 621 00:33:53.720 --> 00:33:58.000 who we are, what are goals about, what would where 622 00:33:58.039 --> 00:34:00.519 we want to be, what makes us happy? And we 623 00:34:00.599 --> 00:34:02.400 all have to be willing to make the changes. 624 00:34:03.440 --> 00:34:06.599 Yeah, absolutely, because you know, ultimately, look, if you're just 625 00:34:06.680 --> 00:34:08.920 if you're just scraping by and you're in a job 626 00:34:08.920 --> 00:34:11.719 that you hate, why don't you just scrape by and 627 00:34:11.800 --> 00:34:13.599 being a job that you love? I mean, you know 628 00:34:13.599 --> 00:34:15.639 what I'm saying. It's like, if you're making minimum wage 629 00:34:15.679 --> 00:34:18.239 and making tenups doing something that you loath, I mean, 630 00:34:18.280 --> 00:34:20.960 you might as well just you're not. It's like how 631 00:34:21.000 --> 00:34:22.639 far do you have to fall? You know, I mean 632 00:34:22.679 --> 00:34:25.360 you're at a point where you can go ahead and 633 00:34:25.519 --> 00:34:27.000 just do what you got to do. I mean hack 634 00:34:27.079 --> 00:34:30.039 lay tables during the day and there's a lot of hours, 635 00:34:30.119 --> 00:34:31.719 you know, or wait tables at night and do this 636 00:34:31.760 --> 00:34:32.719 stuff during the day. 637 00:34:32.800 --> 00:34:32.960 You know. 638 00:34:33.079 --> 00:34:34.960 It's like there's so many hours, and we make so 639 00:34:34.960 --> 00:34:37.760 many excuses about how there's not enough time and this that, 640 00:34:37.840 --> 00:34:39.599 and you know they're and ultimately, look at your time. 641 00:34:39.639 --> 00:34:41.960 You know, are you spending your time or are you 642 00:34:42.039 --> 00:34:44.360 investing your time? Because those are the only two ways 643 00:34:44.360 --> 00:34:47.480 to use your time. And I really challenge folks to say, hey, 644 00:34:47.880 --> 00:34:51.400 I'm investing more of my time then I'm spending it, 645 00:34:51.440 --> 00:34:55.360 because once you get to that ratio, oh man, everything changes. 646 00:34:56.519 --> 00:34:56.719 You know. 647 00:34:56.840 --> 00:35:00.639 I've always been a believer in a is saying that 648 00:35:00.719 --> 00:35:03.199 my dad taught me the only difference between a dream 649 00:35:03.280 --> 00:35:07.599 and reality is making it happen. And anything can happen 650 00:35:07.719 --> 00:35:09.440 if you work at it. But I think a lot 651 00:35:09.440 --> 00:35:12.039 of people today and I look at the kids that 652 00:35:12.079 --> 00:35:16.320 I get the opportunity of meeting, and the younger people 653 00:35:16.440 --> 00:35:19.719 in society, and you know, you're talking to them and 654 00:35:19.719 --> 00:35:21.239 they'll say, just a second, I've got to take this 655 00:35:21.360 --> 00:35:23.159 text message, or just a second, I've got to take 656 00:35:23.199 --> 00:35:28.880 this call. And it seems that society is is at 657 00:35:28.920 --> 00:35:36.960 such a speed. Everything besides the self gratification is is fast, fast, fast, fast. 658 00:35:38.119 --> 00:35:40.960 Why don't we just slow down a little bit and 659 00:35:41.000 --> 00:35:41.519 make things sense? 660 00:35:41.719 --> 00:35:43.000 And don't get me wrong, I mean I don't have 661 00:35:43.039 --> 00:35:46.480 any problem with the speed necessarily. I just have a 662 00:35:46.519 --> 00:35:49.360 problem with the focus. Yeah, And so you know the 663 00:35:49.719 --> 00:35:52.960 problem is that people get thrown off base, they get 664 00:35:53.000 --> 00:35:57.159 thrown just out of stride by these interruptions, and so 665 00:35:57.400 --> 00:35:59.599 that's that's where it becomes a concern to me. I'm 666 00:35:59.639 --> 00:36:03.280 all or technology. I'm all for communication, I'm all for 667 00:36:03.800 --> 00:36:07.039 leveraging the tools that are available to us. But when 668 00:36:07.079 --> 00:36:13.039 those tools end up basically becoming distractions, that's when there's 669 00:36:13.079 --> 00:36:17.239 an issue with how technology is being utilized. And so 670 00:36:17.360 --> 00:36:20.199 too many kids right now they can't focus to save 671 00:36:20.239 --> 00:36:22.400 their life because everything you know on TV happened so 672 00:36:22.440 --> 00:36:23.000 fast back. 673 00:36:22.840 --> 00:36:25.000 To see steine by. We've got to take our final break. 674 00:36:25.000 --> 00:36:27.800 Steve Oulsher is our special guest, Steve Ulsher dot com. 675 00:36:27.840 --> 00:36:30.079 My name is Rob McConnell. This is the excellent We'll 676 00:36:30.119 --> 00:37:26.880 be back. Don't go away. 677 00:37:00.239 --> 00:37:14.119

Down and come chair down? What's going on? 678 00:37:15.039 --> 00:37:23.400 Hip the be square. 679 00:37:26.800 --> 00:37:27.679 To mon TV? 680 00:37:29.760 --> 00:37:33.079 I'm looking up step every day and what. 681 00:37:41.360 --> 00:37:43.760 Welcome back everyone. Steve Ulsher's our special guest. He's the 682 00:37:43.840 --> 00:37:46.119 author of Journey to You, a step by step guide 683 00:37:46.159 --> 00:37:49.079 to becoming who you were born to be. His website 684 00:37:49.159 --> 00:37:53.400 is www dot Steve Ulsher dot com. That's Steve O. L. 685 00:37:53.639 --> 00:37:57.239 S H E R dot com. 686 00:37:57.280 --> 00:37:57.559 Steve. 687 00:37:57.599 --> 00:38:00.920 What about those listeners who simply an't quit their day 688 00:38:01.000 --> 00:38:03.239 job and have bills to pay and melts to feed? 689 00:38:03.320 --> 00:38:08.280 How do we get them to have enough faith in 690 00:38:08.320 --> 00:38:10.920 themselves to make the changes that are necessary in order 691 00:38:10.960 --> 00:38:14.119 that they can have the life that they were actually 692 00:38:14.159 --> 00:38:14.880 born to live. 693 00:38:16.039 --> 00:38:18.800 Yeah, and of course this is just a huge concern 694 00:38:18.920 --> 00:38:23.559 for most and it's really hard to get folks to 695 00:38:23.679 --> 00:38:25.920 embrace change. I mean, that's just the nature of the 696 00:38:27.119 --> 00:38:30.159 human condition. But what I have come to find and 697 00:38:30.239 --> 00:38:32.559 working with so many people now over the years, is 698 00:38:32.559 --> 00:38:35.000 that when you when you look back on your life, 699 00:38:35.639 --> 00:38:40.559 you will absolutely regret failing to act every time. Then 700 00:38:40.639 --> 00:38:44.039 you will taking action and realizing what other people call failure, 701 00:38:44.719 --> 00:38:47.360 because frankly, there is no such thing as failure. I mean, 702 00:38:47.400 --> 00:38:50.719 it's just one of those terms that weak minded people 703 00:38:50.920 --> 00:38:53.920 throw at those you know who dare to soar, and 704 00:38:53.960 --> 00:38:56.840 an attempt to bring them down. And so what you 705 00:38:57.000 --> 00:38:58.920 really got to do is you got to say, look, 706 00:38:59.519 --> 00:39:02.599 I have options. They may not be the best options, 707 00:39:02.639 --> 00:39:06.039 but I have options. And the key here, as I've 708 00:39:06.039 --> 00:39:08.440 said before, is really you got to keep your day job. 709 00:39:08.760 --> 00:39:11.559 And I will never be one to tell people to 710 00:39:11.679 --> 00:39:14.119 quit that day job. What I say is, you know, 711 00:39:14.239 --> 00:39:17.599 let your day job fund your transition, and your transition 712 00:39:17.719 --> 00:39:20.159 is like a recipe mixture. I mean, right now, one 713 00:39:20.239 --> 00:39:22.360 hundred parts in your life is comprised of that that 714 00:39:22.440 --> 00:39:24.679 you don't want to do and zero parts of your 715 00:39:24.679 --> 00:39:26.639 life is what you do want to do. But as 716 00:39:26.679 --> 00:39:29.039 soon as you identify what it is that you're really 717 00:39:29.079 --> 00:39:31.599 compelled to do and what you want to pursue, and 718 00:39:31.679 --> 00:39:34.039 you start taking that very first step by maybe just 719 00:39:34.119 --> 00:39:37.280 googling the search term, you know you have now shifted 720 00:39:37.280 --> 00:39:40.000 that recipe mixture to ninety nine point nine parts what 721 00:39:40.039 --> 00:39:41.800 you don't want to do in point one parts what 722 00:39:41.880 --> 00:39:45.280 you do. And obviously, as you continue down your path, 723 00:39:45.320 --> 00:39:48.800 that recipe mixture continues to shift because more and more 724 00:39:48.840 --> 00:39:51.440 of your income is derived from what it is that 725 00:39:51.559 --> 00:39:54.519 you absolutely want to do. And you get to the 726 00:39:54.559 --> 00:39:56.519 point where you can quit that day job, whether it's 727 00:39:56.559 --> 00:39:58.519 a sixty or seventy or eighty percent of the income 728 00:39:58.679 --> 00:40:01.679 you've got now, well, then you've completed that transition. And 729 00:40:01.760 --> 00:40:04.400 again for some people that'll take a long time. But 730 00:40:04.440 --> 00:40:06.639 you have to be continually moving and you have to 731 00:40:06.679 --> 00:40:10.800 be continually growing because if you're not growing, you're dying. Period. 732 00:40:10.840 --> 00:40:14.239 There's no other choice. And I'm serious about helping folks, 733 00:40:14.280 --> 00:40:16.360 and if I may, you know, i'd love to offer 734 00:40:16.400 --> 00:40:18.760 your listeners a copy of the free of my book 735 00:40:18.800 --> 00:40:21.719 for free, because I want people to get to where 736 00:40:21.719 --> 00:40:23.840 it is that they were, that they are really destined 737 00:40:23.840 --> 00:40:25.119 to go? Can can I make that offer? 738 00:40:25.280 --> 00:40:25.480 Sure? 739 00:40:25.519 --> 00:40:27.760 You've got fifty seconds. 740 00:40:27.599 --> 00:40:29.800 Okay, So if you send me an email to Steve 741 00:40:29.800 --> 00:40:32.159 at Steve Olscher dot com It's st e ve e 742 00:40:32.199 --> 00:40:34.599 at S T e ve E O L s h 743 00:40:34.679 --> 00:40:37.239 e R dot com Steven Steve Olscher dot com. The 744 00:40:37.280 --> 00:40:39.639 first five will send me an email. I'll send you 745 00:40:39.679 --> 00:40:41.719 a free copy of the book. I really want you 746 00:40:41.760 --> 00:40:42.159 to have it. 747 00:40:42.280 --> 00:40:44.360 Hey, Steve, it's been great talking to you. Thanks very 748 00:40:44.400 --> 00:40:46.159 much for joining us today. To you and yours the 749 00:40:46.239 --> 00:40:48.039 very best of the new year, and I look forward 750 00:40:48.079 --> 00:40:49.519 to the next time you and I meet here in 751 00:40:49.559 --> 00:40:50.239 the X zone. 752 00:40:50.920 --> 00:40:52.519 Sounds great. Thanks so much for having me on. 753 00:40:52.639 --> 00:40:55.239 Nice talking to you. Steve Vaccination. Steve Oulsher has been 754 00:40:55.280 --> 00:40:58.400 my guest this hour. He's the author of Journey to You, 755 00:40:58.599 --> 00:41:01.039 step by step guide to become who you were born 756 00:41:01.159 --> 00:41:03.280 to be. I'll be back on the other side of 757 00:41:03.320 --> 00:41:05.320 this news break on the other side of the top 758 00:41:05.360 --> 00:41:07.440 of the hour at six and a half minutes past. 759 00:41:07.599 --> 00:41:10.880 As the exone continues with yours truly, Rob McConnell right 760 00:41:10.920 --> 00:41:14.400 here from our studios in Hamilton, Ontario, Canada. Don't go 761 00:41:14.400 --> 00:41:14.840 away now,