Full Transcript for The Abundance Trap That Keeps You Broke: Why Healing Hasn't Changed Your Life

00:02:36.800 And it and it wasn't just gratitude I felt, but mostly I felt full of love, love for those people. 00:02:36.960 --> 00:02:42.479 But also I felt loved, like so supported, so cared for. 00:02:42.639 --> 00:02:46.560 And I had never felt so full in my life. 00:02:46.800 --> 00:02:50.719 I mean, I literally wrote that exact sentence in my journal later that day. 00:02:50.960 --> 00:02:53.919 I had never felt so full before in my life. 00:02:54.080 --> 00:02:55.360 It was overwhelming. 00:02:55.520 --> 00:02:57.840 I was sobbing for literally an hour. 00:02:58.080 --> 00:03:05.919 The fullness was so moving because it was love that I was full of, unconditional love, to be precise. 00:03:06.240 --> 00:03:13.439 Getting even a little emotional thinking about it now because I just remember how profound that fullness was. 00:03:13.840 --> 00:03:18.080 And I realized then and I said to myself, this is abundance. 00:03:18.240 --> 00:03:23.280 You can be whole and not feel full because they are not the same thing. 00:03:23.439 --> 00:03:30.960 Your wholeness is never fragile or temporary because you your existence by nature is already whole. 00:03:31.120 --> 00:03:35.199 You are complete as you are and thus perfect as you are. 00:03:35.360 --> 00:03:43.199 I wrote a whole book about being perfect as you are that explains why that's true, even if you got a little cringy there when I said that. 00:03:43.360 --> 00:03:46.479 But being whole is not the same thing as being full. 00:03:46.639 --> 00:03:53.039 They are different states, and abundance is the state of both, not just one or the other. 00:03:53.280 --> 00:04:24.639 That's why you can know that you're whole, you can feel whole, you can understand that you're not broken, that you don't need anyone to complete you, and yet feel broke when you look at your bank account and feel depleted on a soul level when you get home from work, or feel hollow when you sign off social media, or feel lonely after spending time with that certain friend, or feel unfulfilled when you're with your family, or feel numb when you're watching television, or just like eating lunch. 00:04:24.800 --> 00:04:46.000 So today I'm going to explain why you can be whole every moment of your life and still feel empty, and what fullness actually is, and why fullness as a coherent embodied state plays a large role in whether abundance is something you keep waiting for or something you live in full. 00:04:46.160 --> 00:04:47.519 I'm Linda Villines. 00:04:47.759 --> 00:04:55.199 Welcome to the simple source, where we liberate your highest and source self by going beyond surface level self-help. 00:04:55.360 --> 00:05:06.560 So let's get into the difference between being whole and being full and what changes when you feel both by correctly defining what abundance is, because we got to be on the same page for all of this to make sense. 00:05:06.720 --> 00:05:15.040 Now, if you missed the intro to my unconditionality, the architecture of abundance framework episode, here's just a little recap for you. 00:05:15.199 --> 00:05:18.800 So abundance has two scales, just like everything in existence. 00:05:18.959 --> 00:05:23.519 You probably understand this best through the quantum scale and Newtonian scale. 00:05:23.680 --> 00:05:28.000 But both are real, both are true at the same time in the same existence. 00:05:28.160 --> 00:05:31.199 Abundance is not separate from existence. 00:05:31.360 --> 00:05:35.279 Now, at the field scale, this is the truth about what abundance is. 00:05:35.439 --> 00:05:44.000 Abundance is a field of constant, unmoving, and inherent, unconditional love that sustains everything in existence. 00:05:44.160 --> 00:05:48.000 That's the truth about what abundance is at the root foundational level. 00:05:48.160 --> 00:05:59.439 Now, at the human scale, where you have a body, a job, a bank account, people you schmooze with, abundance is an exchange of that love because everything is energy. 00:05:59.600 --> 00:06:04.000 And energy is always interacting with other energy. 00:06:04.240 --> 00:06:11.920 And every interaction is innately a give and a take, because every interaction innately affects the other. 00:06:12.079 --> 00:06:21.040 So you are giving and you are receiving with everything in your life all day, all the time, and at the same time, because there is no real before or after, right? 00:06:21.120 --> 00:06:22.720 We live in the present moment. 00:06:22.879 --> 00:06:24.480 Life happens in the now. 00:06:24.639 --> 00:06:51.680 And when the love in those exchanges, which is abundance and form at the human scale, when that love is distorted by how you were conditioned to understand and embody and relate with love by what I call receiving wounds and giving wounds, then the inherent exchanges you engage in by simply being alive as a human are not coherent with the field of abundance, even though abundance is everywhere and everything all the time. 00:06:51.839 --> 00:06:53.439 But that's why there's a disconnect. 00:06:53.519 --> 00:06:57.759 And it's not a real disconnection because you can't be separate from what you are. 00:06:58.000 --> 00:07:04.160 But what it is is a distortion of abundance in the exchange at the human scale. 00:07:04.319 --> 00:07:16.480 Now, to be clear, because distortion can occur at the human scale, that doesn't mean that the human scale is a lesser version of the field scale, or that being abundant means bypassing the human layer. 00:07:16.720 --> 00:07:23.759 Absolutely not, even though that's what many abundance and manifestation teachings will tell you and tell you incorrectly. 00:07:24.000 --> 00:07:26.079 Both scales operate at the same time. 00:07:26.240 --> 00:07:30.000 They are folded into each other, and you are part of each. 00:07:30.160 --> 00:07:34.480 So the field scale is part of the human scale, the human scale is part of the field scale. 00:07:34.560 --> 00:07:36.000 There is no hierarchy.

00:07:36.240 --> 00:07:46.240 So let me explain this through physics, because physics does explain this, and I love science, and we also do science here in this little spiritual corner corner of the world. 00:07:46.480 --> 00:07:55.120 So in 1972, Philip Anderson, a Nobel Prize-winning physicist, wrote a famous paper called More is Different. 00:07:55.199 --> 00:08:01.040 And his point was that each scale of nature has its own real laws. 00:08:01.279 --> 00:08:06.560 And knowing the smallest pieces doesn't actually give you the rules of the bigger ones, right? 00:08:06.639 --> 00:08:12.000 You can know every particle in a cell and still not be able to predict how that cell will divide. 00:08:12.160 --> 00:08:17.920 Chemistry has laws that particle physics doesn't, and biology has laws that chemistry doesn't. 00:08:18.000 --> 00:08:27.680 And quantum physics and classic Newtonian physics have been looking at each other on opposite sides of the same street, going, well, we're on the same street, but are we? 00:08:27.920 --> 00:08:29.199 For a long ass time. 00:08:29.360 --> 00:08:31.759 But each scale is valid at its own size. 00:08:31.839 --> 00:08:36.320 And at your size, the human size, physics is an exchange. 00:08:36.480 --> 00:08:42.399 That's why the teachings that say that if you're like truly awake, then you shouldn't need anything from anyone, right? 00:08:42.480 --> 00:08:47.840 That wanting money or wanting a luxury home or a car, or it's six figures is low vibe. 00:08:48.000 --> 00:08:58.639 That's why those teachings are importing an element of the field scale, which is a totally different scale, and then shaming you for being a valid, normal human in your human scale. 00:08:58.799 --> 00:09:01.600 We can be whole and still want and need things. 00:09:01.759 --> 00:09:09.039 But people feel guilty or ashamed for needing or wanting because they may think that being whole means you're abundant. 00:09:09.279 --> 00:09:12.320 So then you must feel like you don't need anything. 00:09:12.480 --> 00:09:15.759 Otherwise, you're not in flow and alignment with abundance. 00:09:15.919 --> 00:09:21.519 Those are the teachings that either directly say or imply that being abundant is the same thing as being whole. 00:09:21.679 --> 00:09:27.519 But again, that is importing a truth about the feel that doesn't translate at the human scale. 00:09:27.679 --> 00:09:31.840 Being whole means that nothing is missing from what you are. 00:09:32.159 --> 00:09:37.360 Now, just because you have giving and receiving wounds doesn't like not make you whole. 00:09:37.600 --> 00:09:39.120 Doesn't mean that you are missing something. 00:09:39.279 --> 00:09:45.120 I explained what giving and receiving wounds are in the previous episode when I explained the exchange. 00:09:45.279 --> 00:09:49.039 So you should go back and listen to that if you haven't listened to that one yet. 00:09:49.200 --> 00:09:57.840 And I'll give you a little refresher in a moment, but you're not broken, you're not incomplete because you have trauma or wounds or pains or issues. 00:09:58.080 --> 00:10:00.480 You were born whole, you will die whole. 00:10:00.720 --> 00:10:03.759 Every single moment of your life is spent being whole. 00:10:04.000 --> 00:10:05.919 You are also made of the field. 00:10:06.080 --> 00:10:09.759 You are made of source, as everything is in existence. 00:10:10.000 --> 00:10:13.600 So not only are you whole, but you are infinite. 00:10:13.759 --> 00:10:16.399 Whether or not you feel that way is another thing. 00:10:16.480 --> 00:10:21.679 But I wanted to throw that in there, remind you of that in case you haven't remembered yet, because it's true. 00:10:21.840 --> 00:10:24.399 And that is eventually where unconditionality leads. 00:10:24.639 --> 00:10:36.080 Now, let's get specific about why being whole isn't the same thing as being abundant, which was one of many realizations I had last year when I channeled unconditionality from my highest source self. 00:10:36.159 --> 00:10:41.279 So the field of abundance is whole because it's complete as it is, just like you. 00:10:41.440 --> 00:10:46.720 It's not partial in pieces, it's not distorted or broken in certain dimensions. 00:10:46.879 --> 00:10:52.320 It's actually beyond distortion because it's an extension of the source field of source itself. 00:10:52.480 --> 00:10:53.759 So it's inherently whole. 00:10:53.919 --> 00:10:55.120 You're also whole, right? 00:10:55.200 --> 00:10:56.159 We've established that. 00:10:56.320 --> 00:10:57.039 Okay, great. 00:10:57.200 --> 00:11:03.360 Now, the field is also full because it's never in a deficit of unconditional love. 00:11:03.519 --> 00:11:04.240 It's infinite. 00:11:04.399 --> 00:11:17.440 That's why it's a field of constant, omnipresent, unconditional love that provides support, sustenance, and infinite possibility for all of existence to exist everywhere all the time. 00:11:17.759 --> 00:11:23.200 But being full as a human is not an innate state or feeling. 00:11:23.360 --> 00:11:28.480 It's not a constant, it's not a given aspect of embodiment for many people. 00:11:28.639 --> 00:11:35.360 That's why so many people have unhealthy relationships with food, with money, with shopping, with sex, with vanity, with love. 00:11:35.519 --> 00:11:41.759 They feel a sense or like a layer of emptiness and or like something is missing or lacking. 00:11:41.840 --> 00:11:47.360 And then they try to fill that emptiness or feeling of lack with sugar, with stuff, right? 00:11:47.600 --> 00:11:49.759 Dopamine, external validation. 00:11:49.919 --> 00:12:00.960 That's why you can know, like all the way down to your bones, that you're whole and that you are part of the field of abundance that's also whole, and you can feel whole in yourself, right? 00:12:01.120 --> 00:12:07.759 I don't need anybody to complete me, but you still arrive home where no one asks you how you're doing. 00:12:07.919 --> 00:12:13.120 You can still give it

your job until there's nothing left but like total exhaustion by Friday. 00:12:13.200 --> 00:12:21.679 You can still lie awake at night adding and subtracting mentally to see if you're gonna make rent, all while feeling and knowing that you are whole. 00:12:21.840 --> 00:12:35.120 You can be whole every moment of your life, which you are, and still not feel full of life, full of energy, full of connection, full of love, which is really being full of abundance. 00:12:35.279 --> 00:12:39.679 Because wholeness and fullness are two different states of being. 00:12:39.919 --> 00:12:43.039 Wholeness is inherent for the field and for you. 00:12:43.200 --> 00:12:52.799 But fullness at the human scale depends on the distortion or lack of distortion of unconditional love in the exchanges in your human life. 00:12:52.960 --> 00:12:55.440 So, what is this thing that I that I call the exchange? 00:12:55.600 --> 00:13:00.240 All right, here's this little definition for those of you who didn't catch the last episode. 00:13:00.399 --> 00:13:05.360 So at the human scale, everything in your life is something that you are in relationship with, right? 00:13:05.519 --> 00:13:14.159 The air you breathe, your hygiene routine, your job, your checking account, your past, your fears, the water you drink, the people that fill your days. 00:13:14.320 --> 00:13:26.159 And every relationship is inherently an exchange of give and take, because energy cannot interact with other energy without both being affected simultaneously at once. 00:13:26.320 --> 00:13:41.279 And the exchange, the giving and receiving, the interaction, the connecting of the energy in the relationship that happens all at the same time because on an energetic level, and you are energy, you can't receive without giving, and you can't give without receiving. 00:13:41.440 --> 00:13:55.279 Now, what's being given and received in all of those exchanges is love, because that is what existence is made of, because existence is created from source, and that is what abundance is, unconditional love. 00:13:55.440 --> 00:14:02.960 And that is what sustains your existence, all existence in all forms, in whatever form that relationship takes. 00:14:03.200 --> 00:14:12.399 The exchanges in your life, in your reality, are crucial to whether or not you feel full or empty, abundant or lacking. 00:14:12.639 --> 00:14:20.559 And how full you are is determined by the coherence and the quality of love you are in exchange with. 00:14:20.639 --> 00:14:29.200 And that is, of course, determined by your relationship with love, which is rooted in how you experienced love in your attachment years. 00:14:29.360 --> 00:14:30.879 This is all the human scale. 00:14:31.039 --> 00:14:39.600 Now, if love wasn't safe or consistent during that time, then you subconsciously concluded that you were cut off or disconnected from love. 00:14:39.840 --> 00:14:42.480 So you felt that as loneliness, as abandonment. 00:14:42.559 --> 00:14:48.159 And then that loneliness and abandonment formed a subconscious belief that you're empty of love. 00:14:48.320 --> 00:14:51.679 That's what creates what I call a receiving wound. 00:14:51.919 --> 00:14:59.840 The result of that is now you, the adult, uh receiving love in various forms and not feeling safe, right? 00:14:59.919 --> 00:15:03.440 Some part of you resists it, fears it, rejects it. 00:15:03.679 --> 00:15:15.679 If you've been doing the work but still feel stuck, like no matter how much healing, manifesting, or personal growth you invest in, or spiritual practices you try, something just isn't clicking. 00:15:15.840 --> 00:15:18.799 You're not alone and you're not failing. 00:15:19.039 --> 00:15:24.879 The truth is, most teachings and approaches are outdated and only scratch the surface. 00:15:25.120 --> 00:15:34.960 My book, Unconditional, You Are Perfect As You Are, helps you understand exactly why things haven't been clicking and how to resolve the root of why you're struggling. 00:15:35.120 --> 00:15:40.159 Unconditional self-love isn't just a nice idea if you truly want to be free. 00:15:40.399 --> 00:15:44.960 It's the missing piece and the foundation for everything you desire. 00:15:45.120 --> 00:15:48.879 And you don't have to do or figure everything out on your own. 00:15:49.120 --> 00:15:58.080 You deserve clear, comprehensive, and empowering step-by-step guidance in self-love, self-healing, and spiritual growth. 00:15:58.320 --> 00:16:07.759 The Source membership gives you daily support and transformative tools to actually start living your healthiest and happiest life today and every day. 00:16:08.000 --> 00:16:17.279 100% of members who follow the program improve their mental, emotional, and physical health by over 50% in one year alone. 00:16:17.440 --> 00:16:25.440 Real mind, body, soul transformation is possible and you can achieve it with joy and ease instead of stress and struggle. 00:16:25.600 --> 00:16:33.200 So, as a thank you for being a listener, you can get 75% off your first month of membership with the code podcast promo. 00:16:33.440 --> 00:16:35.120 Your links are in the show notes. 00:16:35.360 --> 00:16:37.679 Now, let's get back to the episode. 00:16:37.919 --> 00:16:50.480 Now, if you believed you were empty of love, then that led you to subconsciously believe that you had no love to give, or no love of any value, because you can't give what you feel empty of. 00:16:50.639 --> 00:16:53.840 And that forms what I call a giving wound. 00:16:54.000 --> 00:16:56.480 And that's actually the root of low self-worth. 00:16:56.639 --> 00:17:06.480 That giving wound distorts giving in the exchange by turning giving into proving yourself, people pleasing, overgiving, sacrificing yourself. 00:17:06.640 --> 00:17:09.599 And so you end up seeking when you think that you are giving. 00:17:09.759 --> 00:17:22.799 Now, both wounds distort the exchange, and a distorted exchange will never result in you feeling full, however,

whole you may feel or know you are, because you're not receiving and giving coherently. 00:17:22.880 --> 00:17:24.799 So then fullness is never achieved. 00:17:24.880 --> 00:17:28.319 You remain feeling empty or lacking in some way. 00:17:28.559 --> 00:17:36.400 That means, unfortunately or fortunately, wholeness alone is not sufficient to be coherent in abundance. 00:17:36.559 --> 00:17:42.640 Wholeness is foundational for abundance, but it's not what abundance is in full. 00:17:42.799 --> 00:17:43.920 No pun intended. 00:17:44.079 --> 00:17:50.480 So you can understand it like this your wholeness is a foundation of your reality because being whole is innate to you. 00:17:50.640 --> 00:17:53.440 But fullness is not inherent to existence. 00:17:53.599 --> 00:17:59.119 That's why some life thrives and some life withers in the same environment. 00:17:59.359 --> 00:18:02.160 Every expression of source and form is different. 00:18:02.319 --> 00:18:16.480 And that means different capacity, different levels of coherence in each form, depending on how abundance, which is the sustenance, support, and possibility for all of existence, is being exchanged in the field of that form. 00:18:16.720 --> 00:18:21.440 Abundance is unconditional, but the human world that we live in has conditions. 00:18:21.599 --> 00:18:22.640 That's the two scales. 00:18:22.880 --> 00:18:29.359 And my framework, unconditionality, is the bridge, which you're gonna learn and I'm gonna live this season for you. 00:18:29.519 --> 00:18:32.480 Now, abundance isn't just a field that's already whole. 00:18:32.640 --> 00:18:38.640 It's a field that's full, infinitely full of unconditional love at all times, at every place. 00:18:38.880 --> 00:18:46.000 So if you want to become coherent with the field, you can't just believe your wholeness is what makes you abundant. 00:18:46.160 --> 00:18:56.640 You have to resolve the exchange of love in your receiving and giving wounds, which then resolves why you don't feel full of love in your life as a human. 00:18:56.799 --> 00:19:18.720 Because not feeling full is essentially a result of the exchanges in your life not giving you the unconditional love that you need and want, or you not having the capacity to receive that love fully, or you not believing that the love you have to give is unconditional and thus worth anything of any real value. 00:19:18.880 --> 00:19:23.440 So being whole isn't part of the exchange because wholeness is a constant state. 00:19:23.599 --> 00:19:30.319 And the exchange of love at the human scale is fluctuating interaction, movement in different states of being. 00:19:30.480 --> 00:19:36.240 This is why resolving the giving and receiving wounds I introduced in the previous episode. 00:19:36.400 --> 00:19:47.200 Why that's so essential, understanding the exchange, resolving the distortions and your exchanges in love is so essential to the unconditionality of your abundance and form. 00:19:47.359 --> 00:19:49.200 You can't

give when you are empty. 00:19:49.359 --> 00:20:00.880 And when you are empty, receiving is already distorted because your receiving is fueled by depletion, by a desperation, which makes what you give and exchange unequal to what you receive. 00:20:01.039 --> 00:20:13.119 Now, equality isn't what abundance is about, but on the human level, where abundance is experienced relationally through exchanges, and then balance creates a distortion in the exchange itself. 00:20:13.279 --> 00:20:17.279 And when you aren't full, you're exhausted, right, in yourself. 00:20:17.359 --> 00:20:21.680 Your energy is exhausted, the love you have is exhausted. 00:20:21.839 --> 00:20:35.359 But then the people around you may think that that's generosity, but you never get to feel full, which means you remain disconnected from the field of abundance because your exchanges of love are always out of harmony with your true source self. 00:20:35.599 --> 00:20:54.000 Also, thinking you're abundant because you're already whole can convince you to stay in exchanges and in relationships that starve you, that leave you empty, no matter how already whole you understand yourself to be, where giving remains depleting and receiving remains unsafe. 00:20:54.160 --> 00:21:08.640 And the other issue with believing wholeness and abundance are the same thing is that belief can put you onto a healing path where you endeavor to become whole again or return to wholeness, thinking that you're also going to find abundance on the way there. 00:21:08.799 --> 00:21:10.720 And then you get to that reclamation. 00:21:10.880 --> 00:21:14.799 And yet, like me, your reality largely remains the same. 00:21:14.960 --> 00:21:29.599 You may feel different internally, but externally, your bank account balance is the same, your career is still plateaued or not where you want, or you're missing the comfort or success or love that your soul is screaming that you deserve. 00:21:29.680 --> 00:21:42.240 So then you keep healing, you keep going deeper, you keep doing more, and then you spend years and years being the person who has improved themselves inside a reality that hasn't evolved equally, been there. 00:21:42.400 --> 00:21:45.920 We've been told that who we are is what our reality reflects. 00:21:46.079 --> 00:21:48.720 And that is true on one level. 00:21:48.960 --> 00:21:53.200 Yes, my reality is whole because I am whole, and my reality is me. 00:21:53.359 --> 00:21:59.759 And yes, my reality is abundant because it's part of the field of abundance, and I am part of the field, which means I am the field. 00:22:00.319 --> 00:22:02.160 Which means I am abundance. 00:22:02.319 --> 00:22:11.759 So then why isn't my reality experientially, physically, materially abundant when I know my reality is whole and abundant? 00:22:11.920 --> 00:22:14.400 Because reality isn't one-dimensional. 00:22:14.559 --> 00:22:24.160 Yet many spiritual teachers speak to us as if every dimension operates the same way if you just like become one with your spiritual self. 00:22:24.480 --> 00:22:29.680 But in a body, you are not just spiritual, you are also human. 00:22:29.920 --> 00:22:31.759 But that doesn't make your human inferior. 00:22:31.920 --> 00:22:37.519 And at the human scale, your wholeness is not what distorts your experience of abundance. 00:22:37.680 --> 00:22:43.440 The exchange is because the exchange is what exists at the human scale. 00:22:43.599 --> 00:22:51.279 And so if you don't feel full in that exchange, you can be sure the exchange won't result in full abundance. 00:22:51.599 --> 00:22:56.160 So then when do you know you're full like the field, like your source of? 00:22:56.559 --> 00:23:01.759 It's gonna be different for everyone because everyone's relationship with their reality is their own. 00:23:02.000 --> 00:23:04.160 This is important to understand. 00:23:04.480 --> 00:23:06.319 Each exchange is unique. 00:23:06.480 --> 00:23:10.640 That's why spiritual bypassing doesn't result in the life that you want. 00:23:10.799 --> 00:23:12.799 We're all snowflakes, remember? 00:23:12.960 --> 00:23:28.079 Every exchange is unique, and you have to be so present in your life in unconditional love when you receive and give and be in order to understand how to resolve that exchange, how to feel full in that exchange. 00:23:28.319 --> 00:23:32.400 Because feeling full is not just like this feeling you can pretend and perform. 00:23:32.559 --> 00:23:34.160 Again, that's spiritual bypassing. 00:23:34.240 --> 00:23:39.440 And that's why abundance has not become like this material constant in this life. 00:23:39.599 --> 00:23:42.640 So fullness can be measured then by capacity. 00:23:42.799 --> 00:23:57.119 How much unconditional love you can give and how much you can receive right now in your body, in your relationships, safely, authentically, as your true self without distortion from your true value, your true worth. 00:23:57.279 --> 00:24:07.839 And your capacity is determined by your coherence, by how much of the distortion and how you give and receive love has been resolved, mind, body, and soul. 00:24:08.000 --> 00:24:12.160 Now on the giving side, your capacity shows up as your self-worth, what I just said. 00:24:12.319 --> 00:24:15.119 Are you connected to the true value of what you can give? 00:24:15.359 --> 00:24:22.960 Because you were always giving, not just like as a concept mentally, but you are giving mind, body, and soul all the time. 00:24:23.200 --> 00:24:31.200 Are you connected to how pure and infinite and brilliant and beautiful the unconditional love you have to give is? 00:24:31.440 --> 00:24:34.799 And can you give from that in truth and in full? 00:24:34.960 --> 00:24:40.079 And then on the receiving side, capacity shows up as mind, body, soul, safety. 00:24:40.240 --> 00:24:50.240 Can you receive unconditional love in all its forms and expressions without resistance, without bracing, deflecting, denying, feeling shame, guilt,

fear, judgment? 00:24:50.400 --> 00:24:54.799 Now you might be wondering, okay, so then which one do I resolve first? 00:24:54.960 --> 00:24:57.680 Receiving, giving, self-worth, safety? 00:24:57.920 --> 00:25:00.160 How do I resolve this in order to feel full? 00:25:00.319 --> 00:25:03.680 Do you resolve giving before you resolve receiving? 00:25:03.920 --> 00:25:04.720 Vice versa? 00:25:04.880 --> 00:25:18.240 So I'm going to teach the answer to that in a specific sequence and structure that I will share in those episodes about giving and receiving later this season, because as humans, our nervous systems operate a certain way. 00:25:18.480 --> 00:25:21.519 But both parts of the exchange happen all at once. 00:25:21.680 --> 00:25:25.519 Like I said before, giving and receiving happen simultaneously. 00:25:25.680 --> 00:25:30.640 That's the most important thing to remember right now as you follow unconditionality. 00:25:30.799 --> 00:25:34.319 Because for now, the answer is both are important for everyone. 00:25:34.559 --> 00:25:44.000 And you don't have to choose while you're like still processing what the exchange even is, what giving and receiving wounds actually mean in your own life. 00:25:44.160 --> 00:25:47.759 You can't start healing a thing that you haven't fully understood yet. 00:25:47.920 --> 00:25:49.920 That's part of what your nervous system needs. 00:25:50.079 --> 00:25:55.920 And also like the idea of give and then it will come back to you puts this condition on receiving. 00:25:56.160 --> 00:26:01.440 And the idea of learn to receive before you can truly give, that puts a condition on giving. 00:26:01.519 --> 00:26:04.799 But you're beyond conditions because you are your sore self. 00:26:04.960 --> 00:26:08.480 And even in your human self, you're not separate from your source self. 00:26:08.559 --> 00:26:10.640 So that means that you are unconditional. 00:26:10.799 --> 00:26:18.559 There's no like waiting for one part of you to be abundant in unconditional love before some other part becomes worthy or whole or full. 00:26:18.720 --> 00:26:20.720 And the field works the same way. 00:26:20.880 --> 00:26:29.839 It gives to everything in existence to sustain existence, all the support, sustenance, all the infinite possibility, every second, everywhere. 00:26:30.000 --> 00:26:31.440 And yet it's never depleted. 00:26:31.599 --> 00:26:42.240 And it also receives the unconditional love that you give it and from source, not because it needs it, not because it's dependent on it, but because the field isn't dead. 00:26:42.480 --> 00:26:44.640 It's an extension of the source field. 00:26:44.799 --> 00:26:47.519 It's consciousness, just like source is consciousness. 00:26:47.680 --> 00:26:51.599 So of course it receives your love, your awareness, your recognition. 00:26:51.759 --> 00:26:59.440 But you're not making it bigger by loving it, and you're not shrinking it by not believing in it or not feeling it or perceiving it. 00:26:59.599 --> 00:27:09.119 So the other thing to understand is that the exchange is complete in and of itself, because giving cannot be giving without receiving, and vice versa. 00:27:09.359 --> 00:27:10.960 That's its wholeness. 00:27:11.119 --> 00:27:15.279 The exchange of abundance is whole because the field of abundance is whole. 00:27:15.440 --> 00:27:24.960 But that doesn't mean the exchange can't be distorted, because wholeness is not the same thing as coherence or purity or harmony or fullness. 00:27:25.119 --> 00:27:27.519 My husband passed 10 years ago. 00:27:27.759 --> 00:27:39.119 His death and the end of our physical relationship didn't make me less whole because that form of physical love changed and evolved into the non-physical as primary. 00:27:39.279 --> 00:27:44.799 And when we met and we fell in love, his love didn't make me more whole. 00:27:45.039 --> 00:27:48.240 Contrary to those people who think codependency is romantic. 00:27:48.400 --> 00:27:54.079 I was whole before his love and I remained whole when his love changed its form. 00:27:54.319 --> 00:27:58.400 And that wholeness also didn't mean I stopped receiving love. 00:27:58.559 --> 00:28:00.319 I still received love. 00:28:00.480 --> 00:28:02.400 I continue to receive love from him. 00:28:02.559 --> 00:28:04.799 And I continue to give him love. 00:28:04.960 --> 00:28:14.000 That's why our relationship, why the exchanges in our relationship as it is now feel full beyond already being whole. 00:28:14.160 --> 00:28:22.400 That's how the field gives and receives despite already being whole and needing nothing and never expanding, never shrinking. 00:28:22.559 --> 00:28:26.720 Infinite wholeness cannot be subtracted from or added to. 00:28:26.880 --> 00:28:44.240 And when you resolve an exchange of love in your life at the human scale, when you give unconditional love as your true value and receive unconditional love, thus abundance in all of its forms, in safety, you become a fractal of the field. 00:28:44.400 --> 00:28:48.720 A fractal is a pattern that repeats at every size layer. 00:28:48.880 --> 00:28:54.480 So the same shape of the smallest piece is the same, identical, to the larger whole. 00:28:54.640 --> 00:29:03.759 So you don't evolve to become the field or to attract the field or flow with the field because you are already the field. 00:29:04.000 --> 00:29:09.279 You never have to become or evolve to be what you already are. 00:29:09.519 --> 00:29:24.960 You simply exchange love at the human scale, like the field, and that's when abundance at the human scale, in form, in matter, in various densities becomes coherent with the infinite abundance at the field scale. 00:29:25.119 --> 00:29:40.480 And that is what you are going to be witnessing me live in public through unconditionality, unfolding in form, through this, my unique architecture and framework of abundance, layer by layer, exchange by exchange. 00:29:40.720 --> 00:29:46.319 You've lived your whole life inside a field of unconditional love, as a part of that field. 00:29:46.400 --> 00:29:56.880 And you have been exchanging that same love with everything and everyone in your life every single day, by nature of being alive in this human energetic form. 00:29:57.039 --> 00:30:04.319 The loneliness, the waiting, the giving until you are exhausted, the feeling of lack, of not being full. 00:30:04.559 --> 00:30:07.119 All of that is in the exchange. 00:30:07.279 --> 00:30:08.799 It's not a part of the field. 00:30:08.960 --> 00:30:10.319 But this is the good news. 00:30:10.480 --> 00:30:14.880 The exchange is a part that only you have the power to change. 00:30:15.119 --> 00:30:19.839 Thank you so much for being here with me today and in this unfolding. 00:30:20.000 --> 00:30:30.160 Next time I'm gonna get deep and specific about why one million is the same as one cent, which I said that before in the introduction episode. 00:30:30.319 --> 00:30:33.440 But this time I'm gonna really unpack it for realsies. 00:30:33.599 --> 00:30:41.200 So you want to tune in for that so you can learn why five dollars is the same as five million in your everyday life and in your bank account. 00:30:41.359 --> 00:30:53.680 So make sure to subscribe if you haven't yet, so that you don't miss out on how unconditionality transforms my six figures of debt into my seven figures of income at the speed of unconditional love. 00:30:53.839 --> 00:30:56.559 Thank you again for being here and for staying a while. 00:30:56.720 --> 00:30:58.400 I will see you in the field.