Full Transcript for High Praise

00:05:18.040 --> 00:05:23.879 or create anything around the house. I don't have that innate skill. And 60 00:05:23.959 --> 00:05:30.680 I remember he was helping helping us at this house we live in. And 61 00:05:30.639 --> 00:05:33.639 I want to talk about that house we live in for after I finished this, 62 00:05:33.800 --> 00:05:40.720 But you know, my dad came over and we were about to do 63 00:05:40.800 --> 00:05:44.600 something and I said, Dad, hold on a minute, are we sure 64 00:05:44.600 --> 00:05:48.199 we're doing it right? Let's think about it for a moment and he looked 65 00:05:48.240 --> 00:05:51.959 at me and said, come on, Stephen, you don't need a PhD 66 00:05:53.079 --> 00:05:58.319 to do this stuff. And I looked at him and said, but Dad, 67 00:05:58.360 --> 00:06:02.519 I have a PhD. Right, so um, And I thought more 68 00:06:02.519 --> 00:06:06.680 about that because I was riding riding my bike earlier today and I was thinking 69 00:06:06.680 --> 00:06:13.000 about that moment with my dad, And the answer is, you don't need 70 00:06:13.360 --> 00:06:17.720 a PhD. And you don't necessarily need a need ability. Right. You 71 00:06:17.839 --> 00:06:25.600 need two things. You need confidence and my dad has so much confidence that 72 00:06:25.839 --> 00:06:30.879 he was going to get the job done. And you need practice. So 73 00:06:30.040 --> 00:06:38.120 as you see these problems with a toilet or the fawcet over and over again 74 00:06:38.240 --> 00:06:43.279 over a period of thirty years, you begin to learn how they work. 75 00:06:44.680 --> 00:06:49.800 And if you're you, if you're Steve, Nye Stacy and I doesn't do 76 00:06:49.920 --> 00:06:55.360 that, well, you have to pay attention. Yeah right, and so 77 00:06:56.120 --> 00:07:00.480 um, and I don't. I don't think I have that in need ability, 78 00:07:00.560 --> 00:07:04.120 but I pay attention, and I'm I'll be honest with you, dear, 79 00:07:04.439 --> 00:07:11.439 and you know this. I'm afraid of electricity and I'm afraid of plumbing 80 00:07:11.879 --> 00:07:16.639 because if you don't do the plumbing correctly, you get a flood. The 81 00:07:16.680 --> 00:07:26.720 floods are bad and electricity you can get a shock badly, you can get 82 00:07:26.720 --> 00:07:30.120 a fire. All these bad things can happen. And how my dad was 83 00:07:30.199 --> 00:07:34.319 fearless. My dad was fearless with electricity. I remember in the first version 84 00:07:34.399 --> 00:07:41.560 of our rec room, we put in these fluorescent lights and he was he 85 00:07:41.680 --> 00:07:46.920 was connecting one of the lights and I said, Dad, should we turn 86 00:07:46.959 --> 00:07:50.720 off the electricity? Perhaps we should do that, and he said, no, 87 00:07:50.800 --> 00:07:54.279 it will be okay. And then I went in the other room and 88 00:07:54.360 --> 00:07:59.399 I called my brother and I said, recum, you know we're installing this 89 00:07:59.399 --> 00:08:03.399 this fixture. Should we have the electricity off? And he's like, why 90 00:08:03.720 --> 00:08:07.639 why is Dad not turning electricity off? And I said no, he says, 91 00:08:07.680 --> 00:08:09.720 we don't need to. He says, of course you have to. 92 00:08:09.439 --> 00:08:13.319 Then I went back into the other room and my dad had this strange look 93 00:08:13.439 --> 00:08:16.480 on his face, and I'm like, Dad, everything okay. He goes, 94 00:08:16.600 --> 00:08:18.920 oh, I just melted my screwdriver, you know. But he had 95 00:08:20.720 --> 00:08:24.560 this confidence. He was so confident that he was going to get the job 96 00:08:24.879 --> 00:08:33.440 done. And so was that confidence just like not not turning the electricity off, 97 00:08:33.480 --> 00:08:35.879 Like, didn't he shock himself more than once. Oh yeah, he 98 00:08:37.000 --> 00:08:41.080 used to. He used to shock himself and he go he was saying things 99 00:08:41.120 --> 00:08:46.559 like, oh boy, that's that's that's really smart. Smarts. Yea smart 100 00:08:46.720 --> 00:08:52.240 smart. You know. He had confidence and an ability and that's very powerful. 101 00:08:52.279 --> 00:08:56.559 So I don't have that. But there are things around the eyes I 102 00:08:56.919 --> 00:09:03.919 enjoyed doing. You know that I enjoy doing landscaping, and if I have 103 00:09:05.039 --> 00:09:09.080 to self praise myself, I have a green thumb that I inherited from my 104 00:09:09.240 --> 00:09:15.200 maternal grandmother. It just seems to make sense to me. And mostly everything 105 00:09:15.240 --> 00:09:22.919 grows around the house, inside and outside, and I enjoy that. I 106 00:09:22.080 --> 00:09:28.399 enjoy fixing drywall because the boys have smashed up the drywall and I really started 107 00:09:28.399 --> 00:09:35.480 to enjoy drywall after my drywall Svengali, the Great Tommy Skiba actually showed me 108 00:09:35.519 --> 00:09:41.879 the art and the thing is drywall. It's artistry. Okay, it's not 109 00:09:41.919 --> 00:09:48.440 really work, it's it's it's art and that's why I enjoy that. But 110 00:09:48.559 --> 00:09:56.000 I feel like you wanted this house, and you fell in love with this 111 00:09:56.080 --> 00:10:00.679 house, and it's taken us twenty five years to fix up the house. 112 00:10:00.679 --> 00:10:05.159 It's pretty nice now, but it was a real it was a real nightmare. 113 00:10:05.399 --> 00:10:07.279 And we didn't have a lot of money back then, so we became 114 00:10:07.320 --> 00:10:15.759 do it yourselfers, and a lot of it fell onto me. And I 115 00:10:15.879 --> 00:10:18.679 remember, remember we had that old shot in the backyard. So I was 116 00:10:18.720 --> 00:10:24.399 trying to remember the first moments where I thought I was worthy of some praise 117 00:10:24.440 --> 00:10:30.360 that I never really got. And we had that shut in the backyard that 118 00:10:30.399 --> 00:10:35.360 was falling apart, and there was a spruce tree next to it. That 119 00:10:35.519 --> 00:10:41.120 was

when the first owners planted this. They planted it too close to the 120 00:10:41.120 --> 00:10:43.080 shed, so of course it didn't grow. It was a dwarf spruce tree. 121 00:10:45.240 --> 00:10:48.440 And I said, that has to be removed. And you said, 122 00:10:48.639 --> 00:10:52.720 well, we have to call some landscaping guy. And I said, well, 123 00:10:52.799 --> 00:10:54.799 let me get the saw. You said to me, oh, you 124 00:10:54.840 --> 00:11:01.559 will never be able to do that. And so I cut down this little 125 00:11:01.600 --> 00:11:05.600 spruce tree and I dragged it over to the kitchen window where you were, 126 00:11:05.759 --> 00:11:11.679 and I bench pressed it over my head, and I think you gave me 127 00:11:11.679 --> 00:11:18.559 a thumbs up the second moment. Wait wait wait, wait wait wait wait 128 00:11:18.559 --> 00:11:28.240 wait, I am I am in shock that you have remembered this event twenty 129 00:11:28.440 --> 00:11:35.000 seven years ago that I didn't give you this praise. You've been keeping track? 130 00:11:35.240 --> 00:11:41.200 Is there a notebook of all of the times that you've you've accomplished these 131 00:11:41.200 --> 00:11:45.679 tasks, and I haven't given you enough praise. It's burned in right here. 132 00:11:46.559 --> 00:11:52.120 So but but it's not it's not just you, okay, it's this 133 00:11:52.159 --> 00:11:56.799 experience that we had in the Sherman Williams store with my mother. And I'm 134 00:11:56.840 --> 00:12:01.279 not just going to sure why my mom was in the show of Williams store 135 00:12:01.320 --> 00:12:05.960 with us to buy paint our first our house, our first paint that we 136 00:12:05.960 --> 00:12:09.559 were ever going to buy for this house. Is it badly needed to be 137 00:12:09.559 --> 00:12:16.039 painted? And I remember you picked out a collar and my mom said, 138 00:12:16.039 --> 00:12:20.559 to God, the guy, can you can you give him the smallest possible 139 00:12:20.600 --> 00:12:24.360 amount, maybe a quart, because he'll never be able to do it. 140 00:12:24.879 --> 00:12:31.279 And that really, Dad burned inside of me so much some of that, 141 00:12:33.039 --> 00:12:37.879 and I've almost become what I would consider to be an expert at at painting. 142 00:12:37.919 --> 00:12:41.720 I painted this house many times, and every time I know, just 143 00:12:41.799 --> 00:12:46.679 before that first brushstroke on the wall, I hear my mother's words, He'll 144 00:12:46.720 --> 00:12:50.960 never be able to do it. Okay. So she's been a crusade to 145 00:12:52.360 --> 00:12:58.320 prove that you can can be accomplished at these things. Well, it's it's 146 00:12:58.360 --> 00:13:05.360 a it's a crusade. It's a challenge. Okay. And but here is 147 00:13:05.519 --> 00:13:13.240 myne the reason why I said to you, I need you to offer me 148 00:13:13.360 --> 00:13:18.720 a high prance because it keeps me going. You know that this morning when 149 00:13:18.720 --> 00:13:22.480 I went and harvested the most beautiful dozen radishes from our garden, they were 150 00:13:22.480 --> 00:13:28.600 beautiful and they are absolutely delicious. And I sent I text you a photograph 151 00:13:28.759 --> 00:13:33.039 of the bunch of radishes to you and the boys, and you wrote back 152 00:13:33.200 --> 00:13:37.159 the whole family. You texted it to the whole family. Yeah, family, 153 00:13:37.399 --> 00:13:41.879 you text back right away. Eya, yeah that little yea. I'm 154 00:13:41.879 --> 00:13:43.840 honey, I want to run out to that garden and plant a whole nother 155 00:13:43.919 --> 00:13:48.440 row of radishes. Because that's what that high praise gets you, is you 156 00:13:48.480 --> 00:13:56.799 get more Steve doing things Steve. Conversely, we had I think I would 157 00:13:56.840 --> 00:14:01.879 call it a difficult moment in a kitchen um the other day. So it 158 00:14:01.879 --> 00:14:13.039 turned out which one this is the the where the remember I had install new 159 00:14:13.080 --> 00:14:20.000 kitchen faucet and everything's going well until of a sudden it starting to slow down, 160 00:14:20.639 --> 00:14:26.960 m right, and the water flow down, the waterflow is slowing down 161 00:14:26.000 --> 00:14:31.240 and slowing down, and you know, I you know, because I installed 162 00:14:31.279 --> 00:14:35.120 it. I have a thought on why this was happening, which is the 163 00:14:35.200 --> 00:14:39.240 fun part of doing things when you when you can sit back and go, 164 00:14:39.519 --> 00:14:43.360 oh, I think I know why this is going bad, which happens often 165 00:14:43.360 --> 00:14:48.919 at this house. Um. And your comment to me was, as you 166 00:14:48.919 --> 00:14:52.440 were by the faucet, you said, well, now, what are we 167 00:14:52.480 --> 00:14:56.360 going to do about this? And I said, what do you mean? 168 00:14:56.960 --> 00:15:03.240 And you said, let's call plumber. WHOA I haven't learned. I haven't 169 00:15:03.320 --> 00:15:09.519 learned to say that. I feel like I was at the Olympic Games and 170 00:15:09.759 --> 00:15:13.600 a javelin thrower, you know, through the spear, and it impaled me 171 00:15:13.720 --> 00:15:20.440 at that moment, you know, dramatic at all because because what I what 172 00:15:20.480 --> 00:15:28.120 I thought was happening is that this faucet had a check valve in it. 173 00:15:28.639 --> 00:15:31.960 And I thought to myself, you know, and well, let's have our 174 00:15:33.039 --> 00:15:37.759 whole separate podcast on check valves. A very interesting time. But I'm about 175 00:15:37.799 --> 00:15:41.879 to fall asleep. But there's a check valve in there, and it does 176 00:15:41.960 --> 00:15:50.240 two things that it prevents the water from going backwards right, and it also 177 00:15:50.320 --> 00:15:54.080 helps regulate the flow. So if we lived in California, where they minimize 178 00:15:54.120 --> 00:15:58.399 the amount of water that you can use. That's one of the reasons. 179

00:15:58.440 --> 00:16:08.639 Apparently came from California. So what I did was I constructed a rudimentary tool 180 00:16:08.759 --> 00:16:17.200 out of a out of a paper clip in order to take the check valve 181 00:16:17.279 --> 00:16:22.639 out of the faucet. I think, didn't Alice construct that rudimentary to it? 182 00:16:23.080 --> 00:16:29.639 I did instructed that tool. Sorry. After trying several you know, 183 00:16:29.759 --> 00:16:34.240 already made products that we have tools that didn't work, I realized I had 184 00:16:34.279 --> 00:16:38.799 to construct my own tool. I got it out and when I tapped it, 185 00:16:38.840 --> 00:16:41.320 a whole bunch of jump came out of the check valve. I was 186 00:16:41.360 --> 00:16:45.200 like, oh, this is what's happening. The check valve is clocked. 187 00:16:45.799 --> 00:16:49.480 So what did I do next? I made a fifty percent solution of distilled 188 00:16:49.559 --> 00:16:55.440 vinegar soaked in in that, and then I blew that out with my mouth. 189 00:16:56.519 --> 00:17:00.919 See this is who are you married? You married a guy dedicated enough 190 00:17:00.960 --> 00:17:04.400 to blow vinegar out of a check belve with his mouth. Yeah, all 191 00:17:04.480 --> 00:17:08.440 kinds of stuff came out. And when I reconnected everything, now the water 192 00:17:08.559 --> 00:17:15.599 is flowing as it should. Yes, it works really great now, Yay, 193 00:17:15.759 --> 00:17:22.559 exactly. That's what all right? Crazy? And so I feel that 194 00:17:23.119 --> 00:17:30.839 after thirty years, when catastrophic events happen and it's like, oh Dad, 195 00:17:30.960 --> 00:17:36.119 this isn't working. Oh Steve, this isn't working. You know, it's 196 00:17:36.119 --> 00:17:44.119 just become commonplace for Oh Steve will fix it. You know. The bathroom 197 00:17:45.000 --> 00:17:49.799 handle comes off of the of the bathroom the shower that Zach is using. 198 00:17:51.160 --> 00:17:55.960 Oh Dad, this isn't working, you know. And and so I have 199 00:17:56.039 --> 00:18:00.920 to run to home depot and I put it on and I didn't even tell 200 00:18:00.160 --> 00:18:04.960 your son that I had fixed it. And days go by, he's using 201 00:18:06.000 --> 00:18:08.559 the shower. I'm like, how's the new handleworking. That's what I mean. 202 00:18:08.640 --> 00:18:12.880 Let's go to high praise, really high praise, you know, that's 203 00:18:12.880 --> 00:18:18.319 what That's what drives me. Yeah, And and the reason is, you 204 00:18:18.359 --> 00:18:23.079 want to know why I need high praise because your mother said you want to 205 00:18:23.200 --> 00:18:30.039 be able to do it because I don't self praise. But you have already 206 00:18:30.119 --> 00:18:34.000 self praised in this episode like five minutes ago, because the episode is about 207 00:18:34.079 --> 00:18:38.720 high praise. But I normally, in my civilian life, I do not 208 00:18:38.920 --> 00:18:44.480 walk around self praising. I just do it, gets done, and I 209 00:18:44.559 --> 00:18:52.799 move on and hopefully somebody will notice that I've done something tremendous around the property. 210 00:18:53.640 --> 00:18:57.319 I don't. I don't self praise except for one thing. Do you 211 00:18:57.359 --> 00:19:06.799 know what one thing I self praise O drywall painting pickles. I s because 212 00:19:07.160 --> 00:19:11.559 the twenty twenty one nine pickles were the best ever, and I walked all 213 00:19:11.599 --> 00:19:15.400 around mek One. I'm telling everybody I've just made the best pickles ever, 214 00:19:17.039 --> 00:19:21.400 the twenty six people that live in mek One. But I don't self praise, 215 00:19:21.440 --> 00:19:23.799 so I need high praise you. On the other hand, I've discovered 216 00:19:23.839 --> 00:19:30.640 that you thought you self praise. Do I know? Yes, you do 217 00:19:32.799 --> 00:19:40.720 most recently, and it's mostly about cooking. You made the dplant meatballs. 218 00:19:41.319 --> 00:19:44.440 Yeah, I had a banner week in cooking this week. Oh well, 219 00:19:44.559 --> 00:19:48.240 you're not praising my cooking. I mean, let's turn it around for a 220 00:19:48.319 --> 00:19:52.160 minute. Like I had a banner week of cooking, which goes back to 221 00:19:52.400 --> 00:19:56.359 since Dak and Alis have been living with us and they're vegetarians, I've had 222 00:19:56.400 --> 00:20:04.039 to really adapt kind of meals I make. And I made both curry. 223 00:20:04.079 --> 00:20:07.960 I made vegetable curry, which I didn't even know I liked, and turns 224 00:20:07.000 --> 00:20:11.200 out it was so delicious. I wanted to take a bath in it. 225 00:20:11.960 --> 00:20:18.759 And I made eggplants, meatballs, meatless meatballs, which were like, we're 226 00:20:18.799 --> 00:20:23.039 a lot of putsing and were amazing, and I'm I'm serving these meals and 227 00:20:23.119 --> 00:20:26.680 everyone's just like eating it. In fact, you didn't even eat the curry. 228 00:20:26.799 --> 00:20:32.000 You never even dipped a fork in the garden. I wasn't in a 229 00:20:32.039 --> 00:20:37.559 curry mood at that moment. But a lot of times, before we can 230 00:20:37.680 --> 00:20:42.759 high praise you, you've already self praise the entire moment, which is it's 231 00:20:42.759 --> 00:20:48.720 okay, So you need you need to kind of you need to wait a 232 00:20:48.759 --> 00:20:52.400 little bit so that you can let the high praise come in. How long 233 00:20:52.440 --> 00:20:56.079 should I be waiting, like you mean minutes or hours or days? Like 234 00:20:56.240 --> 00:21:00.240 days later, someone might say to me, well that you made you know, 235 00:21:00.319 --> 00:21:07.279 like last week Monday was great. I think that after we eat, 236 00:21:07.440 --> 00:21:12.759 before dessert, before all the dishes are cleared as appropriate with people, can 237 00:21:12.880 --> 00:21:15.200 I praise you. But you know, I just want to say one thing 238 00:21:17.799 --> 00:21:22.359 I

want to I do want to high praise you for for the effort that 239 00:21:22.440 --> 00:21:33.640 you make to explore these new foods for Zach and Alice. I you've done 240 00:21:33.039 --> 00:21:38.799 a great job, but I want, I want you to know I missed 241 00:21:38.839 --> 00:21:47.079 my old favorite foods. You miss chicken breasts with now on them, dried 242 00:21:47.079 --> 00:21:53.759 out chickens, chicken breasts. I missed the well done you know, destroyed 243 00:21:53.759 --> 00:21:57.720 broccoli and oh wait, I never made that. I didn't make that. 244 00:21:57.839 --> 00:22:03.200 Your mother made that. When I make at it, it doesn't come out 245 00:22:03.279 --> 00:22:08.079 right. And I missed the burned French fries. You know that I can 246 00:22:08.160 --> 00:22:12.640 make those again. Yes, pretty soon, they're gonna move out. They're 247 00:22:12.680 --> 00:22:18.000 moving out August first, and I'm thinking, oh my god, I mean, 248 00:22:18.039 --> 00:22:21.400 I'm looking forward to eating chicken and beef again. I just you know, 249 00:22:21.519 --> 00:22:25.480 haven't wanted to make it in front of them. But yeah, I 250 00:22:25.519 --> 00:22:29.079 won't be able to eat dried out chicken breasts anymore. So we'll see what 251 00:22:29.119 --> 00:22:34.240 the what the new kind of what I start making? None, but so 252 00:22:34.839 --> 00:22:41.319 realizing that. You know, my dad was incredible and I never heard my 253 00:22:41.400 --> 00:22:47.839 mom really high praise. I mean, he installed an air conditioner in our 254 00:22:47.839 --> 00:22:52.759 house, he installed himself. He would change back then. You know, 255 00:22:52.799 --> 00:22:57.720 they had winter tires with studs in them. My dad would change the tires 256 00:22:59.480 --> 00:23:03.039 himself. He'd be in the garage, you know, like in late fall, 257 00:23:03.160 --> 00:23:06.559 early winter, changing the tires. He did all this stuff. I 258 00:23:06.640 --> 00:23:12.880 never heard my mom say, you know wow, And so I'm not sure. 259 00:23:12.960 --> 00:23:19.160 Like with with your mom and dad, like like Irwin, he was 260 00:23:19.200 --> 00:23:26.039 pretty handy at some things. Did your mom high praise earth? You know, 261 00:23:26.119 --> 00:23:32.799 I don't remember that? Um, I mean he my dad dabbled in 262 00:23:32.920 --> 00:23:37.680 electricity, and if you if you ask Evan, our brother in law, 263 00:23:37.200 --> 00:23:41.960 he will tell you that my dad did some dangerous things with electricity, like 264 00:23:42.200 --> 00:23:49.799 just like use multiple electric core like what extension chords. And I'm sure there 265 00:23:49.839 --> 00:23:53.960 were many code violations. I'm sure there were many code violations. My dad 266 00:23:53.960 --> 00:23:57.559 did other quirky things. He used to smoke and for whatever reason, he 267 00:23:57.599 --> 00:24:03.240 saved all the matchbook covers and then he took them all and we had like 268 00:24:03.279 --> 00:24:08.440 this crosspace in the basement. He stapled them all together and like while papered 269 00:24:08.559 --> 00:24:15.000 the cross space with these matchbook covers, which was kind of amazing to see. 270 00:24:15.079 --> 00:24:21.440 So didn't he also wallpaper at TV? I he got me this TV 271 00:24:22.000 --> 00:24:25.000 from the bank. It was like one of those free giveaways we used to 272 00:24:25.000 --> 00:24:27.200 give you things when he opened a bank account, and this TV was like 273 00:24:27.319 --> 00:24:33.200 p green. It was so ugly, and so he had extra wallpaper from 274 00:24:33.240 --> 00:24:37.440 my room, which I didn't like in the first place, and he wallpapered 275 00:24:37.519 --> 00:24:41.720 the TV so that I wouldn't be able to see the green. And you 276 00:24:41.759 --> 00:24:45.720 know, this was an example of him like really trying to meet my needs. 277 00:24:45.079 --> 00:24:52.480 And I probably wasn't very appreciative because I probably was a brat. But 278 00:24:52.680 --> 00:24:59.400 well, so I realized, sure enough, maybe you and some of your 279 00:24:59.519 --> 00:25:08.839 listeners needs some education. So I have a list of six catchphrases for everybody 280 00:25:08.880 --> 00:25:18.599 when and these are for when when somebody there with yes their partner does something 281 00:25:19.920 --> 00:25:26.559 that might seem ordinary, but I guarantee you it isn't. Oh and by 282 00:25:26.599 --> 00:25:32.559 the way, by the way, I have a new rule, Steven's rule, 283 00:25:33.160 --> 00:25:42.119 and it's a calculation based on the difference between a weekend warrior like myself 284 00:25:42.720 --> 00:25:49.720 and a professional. So let's say you asked the plumber to come to the 285 00:25:49.759 --> 00:25:56.079 house, which one just walking in the door. Hello, that's one hundred 286 00:25:56.079 --> 00:25:59.400 and sixty dollars right there. They haven't even done anything, one hundred and 287 00:25:59.400 --> 00:26:06.279 sixty. And then let's say it takes the plumber fifteen minutes to fix the 288 00:26:06.279 --> 00:26:12.519 faucet. My rule is you have to multiply by sixteen. So if a 289 00:26:12.599 --> 00:26:18.640 plumber or electrician, a landscape architect can do it in fifteen minutes, it 290 00:26:18.720 --> 00:26:25.720 takes me four hours. Okay. So you saw me last week in the 291 00:26:25.799 --> 00:26:33.400 garage at ten pm, right on the ground with a chainsaw. Okay, 292 00:26:33.839 --> 00:26:40.480 and now once again, what am I doing with a chainsaw? That's a 293 00:26:40.519 --> 00:26:44.799 good question. What were you doing with the chainsaw? I understand cell biology. 294 00:26:45.279 --> 00:26:48.839 I don't cut down trees, but now I do. I cut down 295 00:26:48.960 --> 00:26:52.920 trees. Now you got down trees. No, I cut down the trees 296 00:26:52.960 --> 00:27:00.880 because of the Lilac restoration project, and which in conjunction with that is what's 297 00:27:00.920 -->

00:27:10.599 the stuff for trying the buckthorn removal. So now I have a chainsaw and 298 00:27:10.720 --> 00:27:14.920 the chainsaw I didn't know this. The chain gets dull. I had to 299 00:27:14.960 --> 00:27:21.240 replace it. So I'm laying in the garage learning how to change change the 300 00:27:21.319 --> 00:27:26.200 chain on a chainsaw. Now, the first time I did this three hours 301 00:27:26.279 --> 00:27:32.960 okay, And then you know I actually readjusted the one we have. That 302 00:27:33.039 --> 00:27:34.759 was three hours. Then I decided id better just go get a new one? 303 00:27:36.240 --> 00:27:38.839 And that was only like an hour. The next time will be fifteen 304 00:27:38.839 --> 00:27:41.160 minutes, which is what I was trying to tell you. Like my dad 305 00:27:41.160 --> 00:27:45.119 said, you don't need a PhD. You just need experience because once you 306 00:27:45.279 --> 00:27:48.720 kind of trying to do these things and figure it out, right, then 307 00:27:48.839 --> 00:27:52.839 it goes much much quicker. But getting back to catch phrases and some education, 308 00:27:55.400 --> 00:28:00.359 and the key of this is don't don't think anything is or mary right. 309 00:28:00.759 --> 00:28:10.039 Assume that the finished project had layers of problems underneath it, like in 310 00:28:10.119 --> 00:28:15.119 the lilac restoration project. Right, simple thing. Hey, honey, let's 311 00:28:15.160 --> 00:28:18.720 take away the invasive buckthorne. Isn't that a great idea? So when I 312 00:28:18.759 --> 00:28:25.079 took away all the invasive buckthorne, right, which was killing our lilac, 313 00:28:25.160 --> 00:28:30.720 what happened the wind down the lilac? Right, But that's okay. I 314 00:28:30.799 --> 00:28:33.720 have a chainsaw, so I could deal with that anyhow. Here are the 315 00:28:33.720 --> 00:28:42.160 catch phrases. Wow, okay, yeah, here's another one great job. 316 00:28:45.640 --> 00:28:52.799 Number three, that's amazing. And here's when you should use often. Your 317 00:28:52.920 --> 00:28:59.720 dad would be proud. Oh okay, here's the one best work you've ever 318 00:28:59.759 --> 00:29:07.519 done. M which is kind of like uh an off offshoot of and France. 319 00:29:07.880 --> 00:29:10.720 You know, this is the best you know, chicken soup. I've 320 00:29:10.720 --> 00:29:15.720 ever made. And then here's the ultimate one. You have a gift, 321 00:29:18.039 --> 00:29:23.720 okay, And what happens is you throw any of those six and your personal 322 00:29:23.880 --> 00:29:30.000 handy man, handy person, personal handy person, you you, you, 323 00:29:30.000 --> 00:29:34.440 you get more done. It just lights a fire, you know, because 324 00:29:37.039 --> 00:29:44.359 the the root of all of this, the basic core element of all of 325 00:29:44.359 --> 00:29:51.480 this is I'm trying to impress you. M m. That is the root 326 00:29:51.519 --> 00:29:56.880 of it all. M hmm. The Ship that Happens to Me podcast is 327 00:29:56.920 --> 00:30:03.039 now sponsored by Costs, the leading manufacturer of high quality headphones and speakers in 328 00:30:03.119 --> 00:30:07.000 Milwaukee, Wisconsin. I just love my news headphones and you will too. 329 00:30:07.279 --> 00:30:11.039 Whether you're in a zoom meeting, listening to music, or recording a podcast, 330 00:30:11.279 --> 00:30:14.559 They're sure to have something to meet your needs. Follow them on social 331 00:30:14.599 --> 00:30:18.680 media for info and new product launches, and follow the Ship that Happens to 332 00:30:18.720 --> 00:30:22.640 Me podcasts on social media for your chance to win some amazing cost of products. 333 00:30:25.559 --> 00:30:30.200 And what have I said back to you? I mean, you know 334 00:30:32.000 --> 00:30:37.039 that if it was me that I would have just called the plumber or the 335 00:30:37.119 --> 00:30:40.759 electrician. I thought of that today because I sent you a text today. 336 00:30:41.319 --> 00:30:45.440 The toilet in the basement is not flushing. And I thought about what I 337 00:30:45.440 --> 00:30:49.799 would do, like if you weren't here, I'd probably call a plumber. 338 00:30:51.039 --> 00:30:55.160 Now five minutes later, the toilets blushed and everything was fine. But I 339 00:30:55.279 --> 00:31:03.400 would have spent thousands of dollars by now on the plumbers and handy people, 340 00:31:03.000 --> 00:31:12.279 you know, to get these things done and so and it never it never 341 00:31:14.000 --> 00:31:19.720 occurs to me to try to fix it myself. Now wait, wait, 342 00:31:19.799 --> 00:31:23.160 let me say what other thing. To be fair, I fix other things, 343 00:31:23.799 --> 00:31:29.599 like if something goes wrong electronically, then I will spend countless hours trying 344 00:31:29.599 --> 00:31:33.079 to figure that out. But um things around the house, No, I 345 00:31:34.119 --> 00:31:38.359 well, that's just not my gift. So well, you do have a 346 00:31:38.359 --> 00:31:45.200 gift with all of the teams and remote and all of that, you know, 347 00:31:45.559 --> 00:31:49.119 WiFi, you do have a gift for that. And you could work 348 00:31:49.279 --> 00:31:56.000 at Best Buy on the keek squad. I don't think if after you retire 349 00:31:56.119 --> 00:32:06.480 you could do that. So uh, all all good on that. There 350 00:32:06.559 --> 00:32:10.200 is one other, one other point of praise that you need to be careful 351 00:32:10.240 --> 00:32:17.640 about. And you ran into a little problem this week with in sincere praise. 352 00:32:19.119 --> 00:32:23.920 Yes, right, and so I don't know what I did. Something 353 00:32:23.960 --> 00:32:30.160 happened that I did, but you started praising in a way that didn't come 354 00:32:30.200 --> 00:32:36.960 off as sincere. And for me, you know, most of that's just 355 00:32:37.039 --> 00:32:40.200 white noise. It goes right past me. Oh okay, Stacy, whatever 356 00:32:42.319 --> 00:32:49.160 you know, blah blah. But Zach

Zach stopped the conversation immediately, Hold 357 00:32:49.200 --> 00:32:53.039 on time out. Mom. You're not being sincere with the high praise you're 358 00:32:53.039 --> 00:32:58.279 giving. Dad. I don't remember what it was about you. I don't 359 00:32:58.519 --> 00:33:01.400 either, No, I don't remember. So I think as part of the 360 00:33:01.599 --> 00:33:08.440 education, uh you know, the sixth great catch phrases to use, they 361 00:33:08.480 --> 00:33:13.200 have to be they have to be said in a way that is sincere. 362 00:33:13.960 --> 00:33:20.680 Yeah, okay, yeah, I agree that they that they do. I 363 00:33:20.720 --> 00:33:25.839 mean, um, So one of the things that you overheard me talking to 364 00:33:25.920 --> 00:33:30.400 Martin about was the was the toilet upstairs and how I gave it a B 365 00:33:30.680 --> 00:33:37.000 plus? So how are you feeling about that these days? So at first 366 00:33:37.039 --> 00:33:45.319 I was I was repulsed that you had a scoring system at my expense. 367 00:33:45.880 --> 00:34:01.279 They are now grading great different grading the different projects that you're handy person that 368 00:34:01.440 --> 00:34:07.360 you married, you know, you're grading his work. I thought to myself, 369 00:34:07.639 --> 00:34:14.119 how dare how dare her? I thought, she's crossed the line. 370 00:34:14.280 --> 00:34:19.800 I thought. I thought, I am now demotivated, because how can I 371 00:34:19.800 --> 00:34:27.440 ever earn an a right? But then then I started to embrace it, 372 00:34:28.199 --> 00:34:30.079 you know, because you usually are right about most things. I thought to 373 00:34:30.159 --> 00:34:37.920 myself, we do need a scoring system. I don't have a scoring system. 374 00:34:37.960 --> 00:34:42.320 It was just for that one thing, because I think you were looking 375 00:34:43.480 --> 00:34:45.840 so you were really looking for high praise on that toilet, and I wasn't 376 00:34:45.880 --> 00:34:52.239 really happy with the I'm still not happy with that toilet. In fact, 377 00:34:52.280 --> 00:34:54.519 I think it's getting worse. I have something to say about the toilet. 378 00:34:54.519 --> 00:34:58.079 But wait, wait, wait, So it was just about that that. 379 00:34:58.159 --> 00:35:01.079 I was like, that's a B plus that that I didn't feel like that. 380 00:35:01.199 --> 00:35:07.239 Now I could have praised your efforts a for efforts, but you know 381 00:35:07.280 --> 00:35:12.280 that doesn't sound great either, but I just I didn't. That thing wasn't 382 00:35:12.320 --> 00:35:15.400 perfect. So it's not like I have a scoring system for every project you 383 00:35:15.440 --> 00:35:25.079 do. So I recollect that you scored it and it was not a work 384 00:35:25.280 --> 00:35:31.119 by any means. And let's tell your listeners. It was a I had 385 00:35:31.119 --> 00:35:37.880 to replace the handle mechanism that flush is the toilet. It was the handle, 386 00:35:37.559 --> 00:35:43.280 and as you know, everybody out there in Stacy podcast Land. When 387 00:35:43.320 --> 00:35:47.119 you replace a part, if it's not the OE and if it's not the 388 00:35:47.199 --> 00:35:55.280 original Engineered Manact part, you know, good luck. Start to pray that 389 00:35:55.320 --> 00:36:00.719 it's going to work. So what I ended up having to do was, 390 00:36:01.280 --> 00:36:04.960 and you don't you don't know this because I do this stuff. You're asleep. 391 00:36:05.079 --> 00:36:08.679 Usually there's like an elf that goes around our house, you know, 392 00:36:08.719 --> 00:36:14.480 when everybody else goes asleep. There's an elf who goes around and and fixes 393 00:36:14.519 --> 00:36:19.639 all the things that I've broken during the day. And he's the same elf 394 00:36:19.679 --> 00:36:23.559 who shampoos the carpet at midnight, you know, so that everybody wakes up 395 00:36:23.559 --> 00:36:30.480 in the morning, Oh wonderful carpet and the great big beard. But you 396 00:36:30.519 --> 00:36:34.000 know the thing is, and I don't want to go we could do a 397 00:36:34.039 --> 00:36:37.519 whole podcast on carpet as well. That's sounds interesting. I don't, I 398 00:36:37.519 --> 00:36:40.639 don't. I don't mind doing that carpet. I love doing the carpet, 399 00:36:40.679 --> 00:36:45.960 which you know, when I was a kid, my emper niece would actually 400 00:36:45.000 --> 00:36:52.199 pay me to vacuum her carpet and that's how it all started. But but 401 00:36:52.480 --> 00:36:58.800 um, you know what I had to do was super Blue. This part 402 00:36:58.920 --> 00:37:04.159 of the parts of this altogether right, And I recollect that you had it 403 00:37:04.320 --> 00:37:07.679 scored as like a C plus B minus. Oh that's not true. It 404 00:37:07.800 --> 00:37:12.719 was a B plus originally, but there was there was something that you had. 405 00:37:13.000 --> 00:37:16.360 You had to relearn how to flush that toilet. Yes, you have 406 00:37:16.400 --> 00:37:21.679 to flush and hold for a second. I count to A thousand and three 407 00:37:21.719 --> 00:37:23.760 thousand, one thousand and two thousand and three, and I think that kind 408 00:37:23.800 --> 00:37:28.960 of turned the corner for you on maybe scoring at a B plus. I 409 00:37:29.000 --> 00:37:30.880 do not think it's a B plus. I think it's a B. So 410 00:37:31.000 --> 00:37:37.039 how have I embraced your scoring system? Stacy scoring system for the handy person. 411 00:37:37.760 --> 00:37:44.360 We had this siding project done at at the house and it was more 412 00:37:44.400 --> 00:37:49.440 than siding, you know, it was a complex project. And when our 413 00:37:50.079 --> 00:37:54.800 project manager would come over, I would go through each part of the project 414 00:37:54.840 --> 00:38:00.920 and I would say, oh, this siding here, that's a work. 415 00:38:01.960 --> 00:38:07.800 And then in the front by the hentranceway it just happened the other day, 416 00:38:07.320 --> 00:38:14.199 I said, look

at that sloppy that's B minus right there. So that 417 00:38:14.280 --> 00:38:19.320 actually was C minus work that they did in the no's they improved it to 418 00:38:19.360 --> 00:38:23.320 be minus. Yeah, But then handy person Steve will go out there and 419 00:38:23.400 --> 00:38:28.800 bring it up to a minus. So so I need to go back to 420 00:38:28.840 --> 00:38:35.360 the toilet for just a minute, which is that I think I think it's 421 00:38:35.559 --> 00:38:39.679 getting worse the toilet, like you might have to count to one thousand and 422 00:38:39.719 --> 00:38:45.440 five. But here's the problem. So this is what happened with the toilet 423 00:38:45.440 --> 00:38:51.159 in the basement is I forgot which toilet I was at, and I held 424 00:38:51.280 --> 00:38:57.519 that toilet flush her down for more than a second, and that's why it 425 00:38:57.559 --> 00:39:00.679 wouldn't flush at first. So that's the prob I'm all the toilet should flush 426 00:39:00.760 --> 00:39:07.519 the same because you might forget which toilet you're sitting on and flush it the 427 00:39:07.639 --> 00:39:09.840 wrong way. Like that's ridiculous. This is this is where we've come to 428 00:39:09.960 --> 00:39:15.480 on the podcast. We're talking about how to flush the toilet, right, 429 00:39:15.400 --> 00:39:22.320 that's very interesting and note that and I will come up with some kind of 430 00:39:22.400 --> 00:39:29.119 manual for you. I wanna can we go back to electricity for a minute, 431 00:39:29.719 --> 00:39:35.639 because we actually had one brilliant success story in this house. Do you 432 00:39:35.639 --> 00:39:40.480 know what that is? Which we've had many brilliant success story with electricity. 433 00:39:42.480 --> 00:39:46.719 Yeah, the chandelier. Oh yeah, remember we go to downtown Milwaukee, 434 00:39:46.760 --> 00:39:58.000 to BBC Lighting and Stacy falls in love with the chandelier right and says to 435 00:39:58.119 --> 00:40:02.400 me, can you install that? And I said, probably not right, 436 00:40:04.400 --> 00:40:12.679 So we we we we get this thing home and it turns out you had 437 00:40:12.760 --> 00:40:19.679 to one by one put all of the crystals on this rod, which was 438 00:40:19.719 --> 00:40:22.039 not an easy task. By the way, he did a beautiful job on 439 00:40:22.119 --> 00:40:28.679 that. And so I hooked the whole thing up and I'm nervous, you 440 00:40:28.760 --> 00:40:31.559 know, sweat stripping off of me. And you remember what I said to 441 00:40:31.599 --> 00:40:36.519 you, Yeah, I said, it'll be a miracle if fist goes on 442 00:40:37.719 --> 00:40:42.280 right, And then you flipped the switch and it went on and it was 443 00:40:42.320 --> 00:40:45.760 like, oh my god, we just had a miracle happened at our in 444 00:40:45.920 --> 00:40:49.599 our in our dining room. Yeah. So I'm really I'm really proud of 445 00:40:49.679 --> 00:40:53.079 that moment. That was many years ago. It was years ago, probably 446 00:40:53.119 -->

00:41:02.639 more twenty years ago. More recently, I consultation with my friend Gary. 447 00:41:04.159 --> 00:41:12.000 He gave me the confidence I needed to change the battery backup on our some 448 00:41:12.239 --> 00:41:17.920 pump. So we have a battery backup for our some pumblicase electricity goes off 449 00:41:19.360 --> 00:41:22.039 and it's raining, and then this thing will kick in it's basically our marine 450 00:41:22.039 --> 00:41:29.639 battery. It's really interesting about marine batteries that are relatively small, that they 451 00:41:29.679 --> 00:41:35.199 are so dense, they are so heavy, and this little marine battery actually 452 00:41:35.320 --> 00:41:44.760 weighs fifty seven pounds. It's really impressive that this material. So I find 453 00:41:45.599 --> 00:41:52.559 I find a place Reamy Battery by American Family Field on the south side. 454 00:41:52.960 --> 00:41:58.000 Right, find this place that I buy a new marine battery. Right, 455 00:41:58.000 --> 00:42:01.559 so I have to disconnect the old one, reconnect the new one, and 456 00:42:04.280 --> 00:42:07.000 so you know, I got I got a little bit worried about it because 457 00:42:07.039 --> 00:42:12.000 as you're reconnecting, this thing is live and it's time to get electrocuted. 458 00:42:13.199 --> 00:42:19.079 Right. So I'm now wearing Rubbert gloves and once again sweat pouring off of 459 00:42:19.119 --> 00:42:23.440 me. We're doing electricity, and I connect the thing and luckily I was 460 00:42:23.440 --> 00:42:28.000 wearing Rubbert gloves. There were some sparks. I got something connected and it 461 00:42:28.039 --> 00:42:34.239 works. Saved a fortune because our plumber who did this eight years ago, 462 00:42:35.000 --> 00:42:43.239 way overcharged on this. So what it's about is is is having the chance 463 00:42:43.239 --> 00:42:49.800 to understand how things work in your house and then you know, try and 464 00:42:50.039 --> 00:42:52.840 try. You know, I have the confidence to try and do it, 465 00:42:53.400 --> 00:43:00.119 and it's not always about the money either, right, I mean, for 466 00:43:00.119 --> 00:43:05.679 for me, it's it's interesting to learn how things work. And I think 467 00:43:05.719 --> 00:43:12.960 the biggest thing help and helping the Weekend Warrior home maintenance person is YouTube videos. 468 00:43:13.199 --> 00:43:17.639 You could find almost anything in a YouTube video how how they fix things, 469 00:43:17.639 --> 00:43:25.480 which I'm actually considering making, you know, YouTube video series on some 470 00:43:25.559 --> 00:43:30.719 of the things I've done. It's I think you should call it, you 471 00:43:30.719 --> 00:43:37.679 know, Steve the cell biologist, you know, fix it man. You 472 00:43:37.679 --> 00:43:43.639 could you could make a video with the like toilet handles, and you could 473 00:43:43.639 --> 00:43:47.119 make a video of you blowing out the check valve. I remember the name 474 00:43:47.199 --> 00:43:52.480

of the thing, but I think, isn't it all? I mean, 475 00:43:52.519 --> 00:44:00.639 you insisted on carrying that battery down the stairs all by yourself, so that 476 00:44:00.760 --> 00:44:05.800 was really heavy. You probably had to go see the chiropractor the next day 477 00:44:06.000 --> 00:44:09.519 after that, So there are some there's also a little point of like you 478 00:44:09.599 --> 00:44:14.239 get mad when people don't help. You expect people to just know to help 479 00:44:14.320 --> 00:44:19.039 you. But it's not like you would have let me do any of those 480 00:44:19.079 --> 00:44:22.280 things by myself. Like you won't even let me paint. You won't let 481 00:44:22.280 --> 00:44:28.679 me paint, you won't give me a brush because it has to be your 482 00:44:28.800 --> 00:44:32.159 way. This is true, isn't it. You know you couldn't do some 483 00:44:32.320 --> 00:44:37.599 painting on the next ground, which will be upstairs in your office. We'll 484 00:44:37.639 --> 00:44:42.559 see how that goes. I'm all for that, But let's go back to 485 00:44:42.599 --> 00:44:50.199 the asking for help. Yeah, our parents' generation and some of our generation, 486 00:44:51.199 --> 00:44:55.719 you know, did a lot on their own, right, our children's 487 00:44:55.800 --> 00:45:04.719 generation, I'm not sure how motivated they are to do things. And you're 488 00:45:04.719 --> 00:45:07.679 exactly right. There are things that I need help with, Like when we 489 00:45:07.800 --> 00:45:13.360 planted the jack Pear a couple of years ago in the front to jack Pear 490 00:45:13.519 --> 00:45:16.519 trees, and Jesse, our younger son, he came over and dine the 491 00:45:16.519 --> 00:45:22.199 holes. He's an expert hole digger. I would recommend him to anybody. 492 00:45:22.000 --> 00:45:29.079 Beautiful holes. So the idea is you dig these holes and then the nursery 493 00:45:29.159 --> 00:45:31.280 delivers the trees and they pop them in the hole, and then it's up 494 00:45:31.320 --> 00:45:36.320 to the homeowner to then fill in the hole. Right, But you know, 495 00:45:36.320 --> 00:45:40.039 these holes are are relatively large if you get a decent Scien tree. 496 00:45:40.119 --> 00:45:44.760 So on the driveway, we now have a mountain of dirt which is mostly 497 00:45:44.880 --> 00:45:50.159 clay because in our area the soil turns to clay, so you have to 498 00:45:50.199 --> 00:45:53.000 take the clay and mix it with top soil and peat and you know, 499 00:45:53.159 --> 00:45:59.360 compost and mix it all up, which which means that you end up being 500 00:45:59.400 --> 00:46:02.960 full of dirt, mud, you're you're, you're, you're black with mud 501 00:46:04.000 --> 00:46:08.199 doing all this. I just remember filling in these trees and our older son, 502 00:46:08.320 --> 00:46:14.320 Zach looked at me and goes, Dad, want to be great some 503 00:46:14.679 --> 00:46:19.960 day when we could afford to have people do this for us. And I 504 00:46:19.960 --> 00:46:22.559 said, well, well, Zach, we could do that now, and 505 00:46:22.639 --> 00:46:27.360 he just gave me the oddest look like I was some kind of Martian or 506 00:46:27.400 --> 00:46:31.159 something like that. But he missed the whole point of the amazing wonder of 507 00:46:31.239 --> 00:46:37.119 planting your tree and then watching it grow through all the years. And so 508 00:46:37.360 --> 00:46:43.719 I'm hoping that some of that is we'll rub off on him rubbing off on 509 00:46:43.840 --> 00:46:49.920 them. So anyhow, how much time do we have left in this amazing 510 00:46:50.000 --> 00:46:54.280 episode because kind of winding down, why how many more stories did you have? 511 00:46:54.480 --> 00:46:59.000 Dear? You know, I've been wanting to tell this story on your 512 00:46:59.079 --> 00:47:04.400 podcast of an embarrassing moment. Okay, do you can you can tell that 513 00:47:04.599 --> 00:47:07.920 you can tell that story before we end tonight the story that I haven't let 514 00:47:07.920 --> 00:47:13.440 you tell. So, uh, this is the this is the moment to 515 00:47:13.599 --> 00:47:20.320 do with high praise or yeah, this is this is embarrassing moments which I 516 00:47:20.400 --> 00:47:27.320 know that you growing up, uh you know, in your awkward teen years 517 00:47:27.320 --> 00:47:35.159 more so than most people. You have many stories. But I want to 518 00:47:35.159 --> 00:47:39.480 first thank you for allowing me to open up the kimono and tell this story. 519 00:47:39.960 --> 00:47:44.599 So what it is, and I'm sure everybody has done this, but 520 00:47:45.400 --> 00:47:52.880 for some reason, I walk into the girls or women's bathroom, It's like 521 00:47:52.920 --> 00:47:57.320 I'm not paying attention or something like that. Wait when was this? So 522 00:47:57.679 --> 00:48:01.559 the first of all has happened many times, but but what many times I'm 523 00:48:01.599 --> 00:48:08.880 not paying attention? Yeah, you know what happens is, you know, 524 00:48:09.119 --> 00:48:16.599 you you realize immediately you're in the wrong place because the women's bathroom is usually 525 00:48:17.440 --> 00:48:22.519 well there's no urinals, but they have you know, they might be pink 526 00:48:22.559 --> 00:48:27.840 colors and it smells nice and like you walk in, it's like, oh, 527 00:48:27.920 --> 00:48:30.880 I'm not in the right place. Anyhow, I'm fifteen years old, 528 00:48:31.840 --> 00:48:42.360 right, and for some reason, our Spanish class decided to go see a 529 00:48:42.480 --> 00:48:46.719 movie and the movie was the other side of the mountain, right, it 530 00:48:46.760 --> 00:48:52.559 was the kim On storage, you know, because you followed these things. 531 00:48:52.039 --> 00:49:00.440 Jill Kinmatt was about to become an Olympic skier. This is like a story 532 00:49:00.519 --> 00:49:04.440 and it happened like in nineteen fifty five. And what happened was she was 533 00:49:04.480 --> 00:49:09.039 in a race before the

Olympic trial. She was in a race and actually 534 00:49:09.199 --> 00:49:15.079 like went off course and went off became paralyzed. So we went to see 535 00:49:15.119 --> 00:49:22.719 this movie the Other side of the Mountain with Joe Kinmott, and then afterwards 536 00:49:23.639 --> 00:49:28.239 we went to a Spanish restaurant. Okay, I get that part. And 537 00:49:28.400 --> 00:49:30.320 that's sure why the Spanish class had to go to the movie. The movie 538 00:49:30.360 --> 00:49:37.039 wasn't in Spanish, which wouldn't matter because I could never I could I could 539 00:49:37.119 --> 00:49:40.360 never speak languages anyhow. Okay, I can't learn language, Like some people 540 00:49:40.400 --> 00:49:44.719 are really good at languages, you know, and I can't learn languages. 541 00:49:45.800 --> 00:49:51.679 So I'm in this Mexican restaurant and I have to go to the bathroom. 542 00:49:52.559 --> 00:49:59.119 And in that once again Steven moment of confusion, I took a light into 543 00:49:59.159 --> 00:50:02.280 the ladies rooms, a left into the men's room, and I know I'm 544 00:50:02.360 --> 00:50:07.400 in a foreign lamp. I'm like, whoa I'm in the wrong place. 545 00:50:07.639 --> 00:50:14.400 But now what do I do because twenty five teenagers are sitting in the restaurant 546 00:50:14.400 --> 00:50:19.719 and they've seen me do this, right, so i'd very carefully open the 547 00:50:19.760 --> 00:50:25.239 door, and you know, I look around the corner and they are holding 548 00:50:27.039 --> 00:50:30.719 just holding with laughter. I am dying inside, right, And I just 549 00:50:30.800 --> 00:50:37.760 remember seeing Tammy Hugo, who's now Dammy Sodo And I should ask her if 550 00:50:37.760 --> 00:50:44.000 she remembers this. Tammy was just like this, like, oh my gosh, 551 00:50:44.039 --> 00:50:47.679 what is he doing? So that was a horrifying moment when you're fifteen, 552 00:50:49.239 --> 00:50:51.719 I mean, that's everything. It's like, how could I even go 553 00:50:51.760 --> 00:50:55.360 back to school? Right? Right? So embarrassing, and I'm sure that 554 00:50:55.840 --> 00:51:00.679 you've done these before. But it turned out this was a life chel event 555 00:51:00.800 --> 00:51:06.280 for me because not too long ago, within the last five years, I'm 556 00:51:06.360 --> 00:51:13.960 driving to O'Hare and I'm smartly drinking bottles of perry A water. You know, 557 00:51:14.119 --> 00:51:16.719 that's just what two hours from our house to get to a hair, 558 00:51:17.079 --> 00:51:22.800 I'm driving a drinking the Perrya. By the time I get to I have 559 00:51:22.840 --> 00:51:28.559 to get to oher. I have to I have to go, like you 560 00:51:28.599 --> 00:51:35.000 know, it's an emergency and I'm dancing. I'm dancing through the parking lot 561 00:51:35.039 --> 00:51:37.880 and I'm running. I'm not running, looking inside the terminal, looking for 562 00:51:37.920 --> 00:51:45.519 a bathroom. First side, I see restrooms might flying in there. I 563 00:51:45.599 --> 00:51:49.119 was in a foreign land once again. There were no urinals. And as 564 00:51:49.360 --> 00:51:52.320 as I'm in a stone and I'm going to the bathroom, I realized, 565 00:51:52.360 --> 00:51:58.880 oh my god, I mean the women's room again. So I don't know 566 00:51:59.039 --> 00:52:02.320 what great to do. Although I felt much better and I when you were 567 00:52:02.360 --> 00:52:07.880 done, I opened up the stall, take a look and think nobody's there. 568 00:52:08.400 --> 00:52:12.400 Quick, I go to the faster. I'm washing my hands and a 569 00:52:12.480 --> 00:52:15.360 woman comes out of one of the stalls, and I don't quite know what 570 00:52:15.400 --> 00:52:20.440 to do. And I look at her and I say, is it in 571 00:52:20.480 --> 00:52:27.039 a nice day to fly? And she looks at me it goes yes. 572 00:52:27.159 --> 00:52:30.840 And then I just went out on running away. But you know I was 573 00:52:30.320 --> 00:52:35.719 I wasn't really that embarrassed like I was when I was fifteen. That was 574 00:52:35.800 --> 00:52:39.000 horrifying. I really I need to I need to call Tammy and ask her 575 00:52:39.079 --> 00:52:45.360 show members. I'm sure it's burned in her memory. I've never walked into 576 00:52:45.360 --> 00:52:52.039 the men's bathroom. I don't think so. Sometimes I might choose to go 577 00:52:52.079 --> 00:52:55.639 into the men's bathroom because there's always a huge line outside the women's bathroom. 578 00:52:55.719 --> 00:53:01.760 But yeah, I don't think I've ever like made the mistake and just run 579 00:53:01.800 --> 00:53:07.119 into the wrong bathroom. Yeah, it's a very odd feeling. Yeah, 580 00:53:07.159 --> 00:53:13.880 I wonder if Glenn Garfinkel has done that. Sure i'll year from him after 581 00:53:13.920 --> 00:53:16.599 the episode airs. He'll I'm sure he'll let me know. Glenn, feel 582 00:53:16.639 --> 00:53:21.079 free to let us know and we'll share it in the next episode. So 583 00:53:21.599 --> 00:53:25.840 I want to thank you for giving me that extra time to share that. 584 00:53:29.559 --> 00:53:32.639 Yeah, I really opened the kimono piled onion. Nobody. Now the whole 585 00:53:32.679 --> 00:53:36.920 world will know. Now the whole world will know and feel. I feel 586 00:53:36.960 --> 00:53:38.880 so much better. We's been lifted off my shoulder. We're glad. I'm 587 00:53:38.920 --> 00:53:44.800 glad. Dear well, thanks for coming on the show and everyone trying to 588 00:53:44.840 --> 00:53:51.320 remember those six pieces of advice on you know, how to praise whatever a 589 00:53:51.480 --> 00:53:55.599 handy person helps you out. And I will try to make an effort to 590 00:53:57.199 --> 00:54:08.199 um, you know, up up my praise thanks to here. Okay, 591 00:54:08.519 --> 00:54:16.559 bye, Well, I have personally walked into women's bathrooms, but I haven't 592 00:54:16.599 --> 00:54:21.519 gone as far to be in the stall, and I realized, okay, 593 00:54:21.599 -->

00:54:24.639 you know, I've realized I've walked in and turned around. But wait, 594 00:54:24.639 --> 00:54:28.760 this is this is part of our outro, now you know. Yeah that's 595 00:54:28.800 --> 00:54:31.199 fine. Yeah, yeah, okay, Well so let me ask you, 596 00:54:31.760 --> 00:54:35.400 like I also wanted to ask you, like, you've been married. You 597 00:54:35.440 --> 00:54:38.519 just celebrated your third year anniversary, right, yeah? Yeah, yes, 598 00:54:39.239 --> 00:54:44.639 a couple days ago. Yeah, so I think that was yesterday, no, 599 00:54:44.719 --> 00:54:50.119 two days ago. So do you have similar conversations with your wife about 600 00:54:50.239 --> 00:54:53.360 like do you fix things around the house? Does she acknowledge that, like 601 00:54:53.559 --> 00:54:57.480 how does that work? Well? Yeah, I mean most of I'm not 602 00:54:57.519 --> 00:55:01.719 a handy person, but I'm learning, so thank god we have a YouTube 603 00:55:01.719 --> 00:55:07.320 and things like that. Yeah, especially during the lockdown, I learned some 604 00:55:07.400 --> 00:55:12.760 new skills because we didn't want anyone coming in and out or over and things 605 00:55:12.800 --> 00:55:15.960 like that. So she it's not a can you fix this, it's can 606 00:55:16.039 --> 00:55:21.480 you figure out how how to get this fixed? More of a conversation. 607 00:55:21.519 --> 00:55:23.440 And sometimes like our dryer broke and I didn't know how to fix it. 608 00:55:24.760 --> 00:55:30.639 So I wish I knew more about appliances and things like that, because yesterday 609 00:55:30.239 --> 00:55:34.639 a guy came over and I paid him seventy five bucks to tell me that 610 00:55:34.679 --> 00:55:38.760 I just need a new dryer. So that was a waste of money. 611 00:55:38.840 --> 00:55:42.880 But yeah, I should have just assumed that it was busted, but I 612 00:55:42.880 --> 00:55:45.119 thought maybe you know, it cost one hundred bucks for him to replace a 613 00:55:45.119 --> 00:55:49.400 little part or something like that. Right, But so things like that, 614 00:55:49.480 --> 00:55:53.679 you know, I feel a little um helpless within the marriage of but I'll 615 00:55:53.760 --> 00:56:00.000 learn and um, well, maybe you can watch some of Steve's YouTube videos, 616 00:56:00.360 --> 00:56:02.280 yeah, how to fix things. Yeah, so, I mean it's 617 00:56:02.360 --> 00:56:06.920 it's there's so many great plumbing ones on YouTube. I've I've learned, and 618 00:56:07.360 --> 00:56:09.079 um, it's helped us with a lot of sinks and things like that. 619 00:56:09.199 --> 00:56:13.639 The dryer was a little bit more complicated because it was a piece that I 620 00:56:13.639 --> 00:56:16.079 couldn't get to. And yeah, I'm not sure Steve could fix the dryer. 621 00:56:16.280 --> 00:56:22.119 Yeah yeah, but um yeah, and I've done the bathroom thing, 622 00:56:22.199 --> 00:56:25.400 but I've I thought it was very interesting that Steve has gone as far to 623 00:56:27.079 --> 00:56:30.360 finish using the bathroom, wash his hands and have a conversation with I mean, 624 00:56:30.400 --> 00:56:36.599 I guess, once you're there, what are you gonna do? Yeah, 625 00:56:36.719 --> 00:56:45.719 yeah, yeah, but um yeah, okay, great, Well we 626 00:56:45.719 --> 00:56:47.760 started that episode. It won't be in the episode, but Steve and I 627 00:56:47.800 --> 00:56:53.800 annoyed um Stacy by talking about baseball for about fifteen minutes before before the episode 628 00:56:53.840 --> 00:57:00.599 started. Yeah that's okay. I mean, I when we go to these 629 00:57:00.639 --> 00:57:05.559 baseball games, he says things that I have no idea what he's talking about, 630 00:57:05.599 --> 00:57:08.760 and you know, like, well look at his ra and I'm like, 631 00:57:08.960 --> 00:57:12.800 oh, what is that? You know? Can't you see how low 632 00:57:12.800 --> 00:57:15.159 it is or high it is or yeah, a lot? And I'm like, 633 00:57:15.239 --> 00:57:19.000 no, what I don't know? Yeah, so I know he needs 634 00:57:19.000 --> 00:57:23.320 to have those conversations. Sometimes my wife just judges their looks now, so 635 00:57:23.480 --> 00:57:27.719 you know, we you know which players she finds to be the most attractive. 636 00:57:27.800 --> 00:57:30.639 I have to tell you we've always done that time. But we have 637 00:57:30.719 --> 00:57:34.559 the conversation now, I'm sure that. Yeah, it can entertain her. 638 00:57:34.639 --> 00:57:37.039 When when I when I join in, like like who I think she would 639 00:57:37.039 --> 00:57:43.280 think would be the most attractive? And sometimes I'm way off um, But 640 00:57:43.719 --> 00:57:46.000 usually those the pictures don't do them justice. No, Yeah, it's always 641 00:57:46.039 --> 00:57:51.760 in person, like mug shots yeah, or the Instagram feed. Yeah. 642 00:57:50.920 --> 00:57:55.760 Yeah, like Christian Yalich's Instagram feed. He's like, you know, buying 643 00:57:55.920 --> 00:58:00.519 suits and he looks real. I mean he's probably like my kids age. 644 00:58:00.960 --> 00:58:06.199 Yeah. Yeah, he's a he's a tall, he's a tall drink of 645 00:58:06.239 --> 00:58:10.280 water. Yeah he is. All right. Well, great episode. Thanks 646 00:58:10.360 --> 00:58:14.519 yeah, thanks for thanks to Steve. What are you guys having for dinner? 647 00:58:15.679 --> 00:58:20.480 I don't know because I'm because I had such a banner week last week 648 00:58:21.119 --> 00:58:27.159 and didn't get much praise. I rebelled and haven't signed I actually made a 649 00:58:27.199 --> 00:58:30.360 sign up every week for people to sign up and make meals. And guess 650 00:58:30.400 --> 00:58:35.559 who does all the signing up? Me? So I rebelled and I didn't. 651 00:58:35.599 --> 00:58:37.760 I didn't sign up for any meals this week. But you know what 652 00:58:37.800 --> 00:58:40.960 happens then? Then I don't eat? Yeah? Yeah, so no one 653 00:58:42.039 --> 00:58:45.679 signed up, no one signed up. So what you guys gonna do in 654 00:58:45.719 --> 00:58:49.039 the kitchen? You're gonna just go through the covers. There might be some 655 00:58:49.119 --> 00:58:52.400 extra like I made it. So I ended up making a salad last night 656 00:58:52.440 --> 00:58:55.119 and growed some vegetables that we had like around the house. So I don't 657 00:58:55.119 --> 00:58:59.519 know me that's usually, yeah, that's what we make, a makeshift salad 658 00:58:59.599 --> 00:59:04.320 or something. If we forget there's some dried up chicken breast hanging around awesome. 659 00:59:04.679 --> 00:59:08.840 Yeah yeah, you gotta move over to those thighs now or some drumsticks. 660 00:59:09.280 --> 00:59:13.079 Yeah all right, Well you have a nice night and I'll leave to 661 00:59:13.199 --> 00:59:17.880 it you too, Thanks Tyler, no problem. Thanks for listening to my 662 00:59:17.920 --> 00:59:22.840 ship. I really appreciate it. Come back and hear more shit next time 663 00:59:22.880 --> 00:59:24.400 on the Ship that Happens to Me podcast. Do you think I've said shit 664 00:59:24.599 --> 00:59:30.400 enough for one podcast episode? Tune in next time to the Ship that Happens 665 00:59:30.440 --> 00:59:38.000 to Me podcasts. You gotta, baby,