Full Transcript for Why You Snap: The Somatic Truth Behind Parental Rage

myself. 00:04:22.720 --> 00:04:25.360 And so you can never change how people treat you. 00:04:25.519 --> 00:04:30.800 You can't change the way people live life and you know, look at their potential. 00:04:30.959 --> 00:04:32.240 It's like they are who they are. 00:04:32.399 --> 00:04:35.920 You can only change how you perceive and how you react. 00:04:36.079 --> 00:04:37.600 And so that's where you go back to you. 00:04:37.759 --> 00:04:44.959 Okay, if this person hurt me and they did this and this and this, what do I need to change within myself so that never happens again? 00:04:45.120 --> 00:04:52.800 And so, because the same lessons will come and repeat just with a different face and a different, different situation until you learn the lesson. 00:04:53.120 --> 00:04:53.360 Totally. 00:04:53.519 --> 00:04:54.480 Yeah, yeah, totally. 00:04:54.639 --> 00:05:02.560 And so going through the the the childhood that you just described, you know, you probably had repress repressed emotions, right, as a survival mechanism. 00:05:02.720 --> 00:05:05.439 I I think a lot of parents probably do do that, you know. 00:05:05.519 --> 00:05:08.160 But we have that, and but we just we're going through the daily grind. 00:05:08.240 --> 00:05:11.680 We're just like, right, we don't have time to deal with this, so we just repress it. 00:05:11.839 --> 00:05:14.800 But how does like what's the effects of of all that? 00:05:14.879 --> 00:05:21.120 And like what's the solution to to because like regression, repressed emotions can't be good, right? 00:05:21.199 --> 00:05:22.800 Like eventually we have to get it out. 00:05:23.120 --> 00:05:24.639 Is that what you would recommend? 00:05:24.879 --> 00:05:31.439 Yeah, so repressed emotions, so everything's energy, our whole universe is energy, tone, and vibration. 00:05:31.600 --> 00:05:39.120 And so when something happens, even a thought, even a thought that you had that you didn't even verbalize is still energy and it gets embedded somewhere. 00:05:39.439 --> 00:05:46.399 And so you have to just remember like everything's energy, and if it doesn't get expressed, it will be somatically caught in your body. 00:05:46.639 --> 00:05:51.120 So sometimes you can't react, you can't like express the emotion that you want. 00:05:51.279 --> 00:05:57.360 So my oldest son, he's 26 now, but when he was little, like boy, was he a tough kid. 00:05:57.680 --> 00:05:59.519 You don't have a 26-year-old. 00:05:59.839 --> 00:06:01.759 I do, I do, yeah. 00:06:02.000 --> 00:06:04.319 You're meant, you know, it's so sad. 00:06:04.480 --> 00:06:07.439 And uh, but it's neat at the same time, like seeing them grow into. 00:06:09.120 --> 00:06:11.680 But I'm like, I still picture both as these little boys. 00:06:11.839 --> 00:06:17.600 I will always see them as these little boys, and no matter even if they're like 80, I'm like, you're still my little boy. 00:06:18.000 --> 00:06:27.120 So, okay, so I just came back from a 10-day meditation silent retreat up in the mountains, and it's called Vipassana meditation. 00:06:27.360 --> 00:06:35.759 And so um, there's many Buddhas, but this one Buddha came up with this meditation, and when you sit there in meditation, you scan your body for sensations. 00:06:35.920 --> 00:06:48.240 So I was like, oh my gosh, this is the same, this is the same type thing I do with somatic energy healing because in somatic energy healing, I can tell by your body when I put you on my table, I'll do certain checks. 00:06:48.480 --> 00:06:51.680 So there's active, passive neural checks that I do on your body. 00:06:51.759 --> 00:06:56.399 I'll take your legs and put them together for the adduction and pull them apart for abduction. 00:06:56.560 --> 00:07:00.319 I'll do heel traction, heal aversion, la palpate your body up and down. 00:07:00.399 --> 00:07:07.199 It tells me what pattern you're in, what energy is held within the vertebrae and your spine, in your in your tailbone, in your coccycks. 00:07:07.279 --> 00:07:08.560 And so it tells me where to start. 00:07:08.720 --> 00:07:11.120 This meditation kind of does the same thing. 00:07:11.279 --> 00:07:13.680 And so you scan your body for sensations. 00:07:13.839 --> 00:07:19.839 So every sensation in your body that comes up is in a motion that is trying to come up. 00:07:20.000 --> 00:07:27.439 So think about if you like have a chronic knee pain, or sometimes I'll feel like electric shocks in my feet or my legs. 00:07:27.600 --> 00:07:34.079 Sometimes I have good sensations, like I can feel energy running down like the inside of my thigh and my my calf. 00:07:34.240 --> 00:07:41.759 Like I can feel the energy, I can feel the bottoms of my feet, the root chakras, or the earth chakras are connecting with the core of the earth. 00:07:41.920 --> 00:07:43.120 I can feel it, it's vibrating. 00:07:43.199 --> 00:07:47.600 So not everything's bad, but every single sensation is telling you something. 00:07:47.759 --> 00:07:51.759 It's telling you is it's an emotion embedded in that part of your body. 00:07:51.839 --> 00:07:53.040 And so it'll just pick. 00:07:53.120 --> 00:08:01.439 Like if you don't extract, if you're like so frustrated and you're just like, oh, but I can't let it out right now, and you repress that emotion, it gets stuck somewhere in your body. 00:08:01.600 --> 00:08:16.079 So when you're meditating and you scan your body for sensations, you have to meet that sensation with awareness, like, okay, I recognize you, and equanimity, which means an equal of balance of emotion. 00:08:16.240 --> 00:08:18.000 So it's you don't put a label on it. 00:08:18.079 --> 00:08:19.519 It's not good nor bad. 00:08:19.680 --> 00:08:20.720 It's just it is. 00:08:20.879 --> 00:08:24.639 And so putting your awareness tells your brain, oh, this is something here. 00:08:24.800 --> 00:08:26.240 I'm not gonna put a story on it. 00:08:26.319 --> 00:08:27.279 I don't even know what it is. 00:08:27.360 --> 00:08:28.639 I don't have to

know what it is. 00:08:28.800 --> 00:08:31.279 But I'm aware it's not good nor bad. 00:08:31.439 --> 00:08:38.399 It's not an aversion or craving, they call it, because you're not gonna crave the good sensation, you're not gonna have an aversion to the bad sensation. 00:08:38.480 --> 00:08:42.320 It needs to be a balance of just like it is, it is what it is. 00:08:42.480 --> 00:08:50.799 And so when you put your awareness with equanimity, equanimity, balance of emotions, then it gets recognized and it's able to release from your body. 00:08:50.960 --> 00:08:57.360 And so just having this tool when you go back to how am I feeling today? 00:08:57.679 --> 00:09:03.759 Okay, my kid is acting out so bad, and there's, you know, we're in public and I can't be like, stop it. 00:09:03.919 --> 00:09:05.279 Have that emotion, feel it. 00:09:05.360 --> 00:09:13.279 You're like, okay, I feel like want to scream and I feel rage, like he's embarrassing me and I don't know what to do, and everybody's staring at me. 00:09:13.440 --> 00:09:20.320 Just take a second, take a breath, notice what's doing in your body, and just meet it with, there's nothing I can do right now. 00:09:20.480 --> 00:09:21.279 He's a kid. 00:09:21.440 --> 00:09:23.919 Kids can't regulate their emotions a lot of the times. 00:09:24.000 --> 00:09:29.440 They're looking to you for you and your reaction on how, you know, what are you reacting for? 00:09:29.519 --> 00:09:33.679 You know how kids when they fall down and then they look at you and they're like, Should I be crying? 00:09:34.159 --> 00:09:35.279 Should I be laughing? 00:09:35.519 --> 00:09:37.679 Because they don't know how to regulate their emotions yet. 00:09:37.759 --> 00:09:38.639 They're looking to you. 00:09:39.120 --> 00:09:53.360 And so it's a good example also of not losing your shit in in public, but just recognizing where it is in your body and meeting it with it's not good nor bad, it's just it is what it is, and then that energy will not get bound in your body. 00:09:53.600 --> 00:10:02.000 So you can do those, yeah, these tools on your own without a healer and uh to minimize the energy getting stuck in your body. 00:10:02.159 --> 00:10:05.440 But a lot of parents come to me, yeah, and they'll come to me. 00:10:05.519 --> 00:10:10.559 So I guess a theme as you were asking, low life force, they feel tired all the time. 00:10:10.720 --> 00:10:25.039 They're just like, I am chronically tired, and my kid is three, and he's jumping off the walls and just like going, going, going, and they have a full-time job, and my wife has a full-time job, and I have chronic pain in my back. 00:10:26.080 --> 00:10:26.480 Yeah. 00:10:26.720 --> 00:10:29.360 So yeah, so I'll get that a lot from parents. 00:10:30.159 --> 00:10:31.120 Yeah, right. 00:10:31.360 --> 00:10:33.759 It's just chronic that chronic stuff. 00:10:33.840 --> 00:10:36.240 Like, I know I was I was a parent of young kids too. 00:10:36.320 --> 00:10:47.919 It's just like you're running on fumes, and so life force energy is scarce, and it's like you're always tired, you're always filling up your kid's cup, and you're not filling up your own, and it's just chronic depletion. 00:10:48.080 --> 00:10:51.759 So they come to me for like even laying on the table for an hour. 00:10:51.919 --> 00:10:54.080 There's like just for that hour apiece. 00:10:54.240 --> 00:10:59.039 It doesn't matter what I do, I can just like leave the room and play music, and they'll be happy. 00:11:00.159 --> 00:11:00.879 Yeah, totally. 00:11:01.200 --> 00:11:03.039 So I'm there, yeah. 00:11:03.279 --> 00:11:05.600 Yeah, sometimes it's like anything, anything. 00:11:05.679 --> 00:11:06.639 I'll go get a haircut. 00:11:06.879 --> 00:11:13.679 Or I don't get very many, but when I do, I'm like, yeah, like do the works because like I want to be here longer and I want to relax and I want to not be at home. 00:11:13.919 --> 00:11:14.320 Kind of thing. 00:11:14.480 --> 00:11:19.679 Like I love my kids, but they're two and five, and sometimes it gets to the point where it's like, yeah, I just I need to get out. 00:11:19.919 --> 00:11:28.879 I need to like yeah, I need to get out and and I work, you know, I was working from home too, and I'm still working from home, so it's like sometimes I just don't get out, you know. 00:11:28.960 --> 00:11:30.320 Like sometimes I'm just stuck here. 00:11:30.399 --> 00:11:32.320 I'll I wouldn't say stuck here, but you know what I mean. 00:11:32.480 --> 00:11:41.679 Like I like being at home, but it's also a certain point where it's like, okay, it's nice to go to the store, it's nice to go to the yeah, to kind of see people interact and and all that. 00:11:41.759 --> 00:11:43.600 But luckily I get to do that on the podcast. 00:11:43.679 --> 00:11:53.360 Uh Shannon, are you able to heal me through through like chakras or read read my chakras, or I don't know how you phrase it, but is there yeah, is there a quick okay? 00:11:53.919 --> 00:11:57.679 Yeah, you can do energy healing besides somatic energy healing. 00:11:57.759 --> 00:12:00.879 You you need to be in person because you have to do checks on their body. 00:12:00.960 --> 00:12:08.080 But Reiki and I do another one called Pure Bioenergy, it it can be from a distance because energy is not linear, linear. 00:12:08.159 --> 00:12:09.759 You don't have to be right in front of the person. 00:12:10.000 --> 00:12:12.960 You could be in China and I could just set the intention. 00:12:13.039 --> 00:12:16.799 I'm gonna work on Ryan and you'll lay on your bed and then you'll feel it. 00:12:16.960 --> 00:12:18.879 And so, yeah, you can do it from a distance. 00:12:18.960 --> 00:12:24.480 It's almost more powerful sometimes when the person isn't in front of you because they're not staring at you. 00:12:24.639 --> 00:12:26.240 They're just like, what's happening? 00:12:26.399 --> 00:12:29.200 It's just like silence, and you can totally concentrate. 00:12:29.360 --> 00:12:32.799

And uh, yeah, we can work on your chakra system. 00:12:32.960 --> 00:12:53.200 We can yeah, we can open up your chakras and give you some healing golden light from the divine and just make you feel healed and whole and complete, and just a remembering of who you actually are without the suit that we wear every day and this avatar of Ryan, this avatar of Shannon. 00:12:53.279 --> 00:13:04.559 It's just like we are divine light beings and we just forget who we are, but we're here in this lifetime incarnated to remember who we are, and so that's the beautiful thing about energy healing. 00:13:04.639 --> 00:13:10.159 Like Jesus healed with his hands, and we all have this innate ability, we just have forgotten about it. 00:13:10.559 --> 00:13:11.679 Yeah, yeah. 00:13:12.399 --> 00:13:13.039 I love that. 00:13:13.200 --> 00:13:14.159 Yeah, that's so great. 00:13:14.320 --> 00:13:24.399 And so, could you tell the audience listening right now where to connect with you on the internet and like how they can get uh you know set up with a healing session and all the stuff that you have to offer? 00:13:24.639 --> 00:13:25.440 Yes, of course. 00:13:25.519 --> 00:13:32.720 So my Instagram is thegraceful underscore healer, and my website is thegracefulhealer.com. 00:13:33.039 --> 00:13:35.039 So you can contact me through either way. 00:13:35.120 --> 00:13:40.879 You can DM me on Insta or you can uh also my email is Shannon at thegracefulhealer.com. 00:13:41.120 --> 00:13:41.679 That's so cool. 00:13:41.840 --> 00:13:46.000 And then you like you said, you you use your service not just like in person, right? 00:13:46.159 --> 00:13:48.559 So you don't have to be local necessarily. 00:13:48.639 --> 00:13:48.799 Okay. 00:13:49.120 --> 00:13:51.200 So it could just be good distance as well. 00:13:51.440 --> 00:13:52.879 We could work, we could work, okay. 00:13:53.519 --> 00:13:54.879 So like I might need some work. 00:13:55.360 --> 00:13:57.519 I've had a hell of a year, Shannon. 00:13:57.759 --> 00:14:00.240 I know, but sounds like you're going through it, Ryan. 00:14:00.480 --> 00:14:05.039 But sometimes endings are for beautiful beginnings, and we have two solar eclipse. 00:14:05.120 --> 00:14:10.879 No, we have two eclipses this month, which the solar just happened on the 12th, and then on the 28th, we have a lunar. 00:14:11.039 --> 00:14:18.720 And so there's a lot of change going on right now, and stuff is being eclipsed out of your life that no longer serves to make room for the new stuff. 00:14:18.879 --> 00:14:22.720 And so uh you'll figure out the YouTube and something new will come. 00:14:22.879 --> 00:14:23.120 Yeah. 00:14:23.279 --> 00:14:23.440 Yeah. 00:14:23.600 --> 00:14:26.960 So just we're gonna get this on the we're gonna get this on the channel this month. 00:14:27.039 --> 00:14:27.840 It's gonna happen. 00:14:27.919 --> 00:14:37.279 And I appreciate you coming on the show because like I I just feel like your energy has gotten me in a better place, and so I know that like you'll do that for the audience too, and the viewers and and all that. 00:14:37.440 --> 00:14:39.440 And I'm so glad that we were able to connect. 00:14:39.519 --> 00:14:42.320 And you know, I'd love to love to have you back sometime. 00:14:42.799 --> 00:14:44.159 Yeah, I would love to come back. 00:14:44.320 --> 00:14:45.039 Thank you, Brian. 00:14:45.279 --> 00:14:45.440 Sweet. 00:14:45.519 --> 00:14:46.960 Yeah, no, thank you so much, Shannon. 00:14:47.039 --> 00:14:50.799 I appreciate your time and I hope you have a good weekend, even though you're not jetting out anywhere. 00:14:50.879 --> 00:14:52.399 Uh but that's okay, right? 00:14:52.480 --> 00:14:56.480 Maybe you can have some lucid dreams, and maybe you can do that, you know, in your dreams. 00:14:56.559 --> 00:14:57.039 I don't know. 00:14:57.120 --> 00:15:01.759 Like maybe there's some destination you're you're meaning to go to, and you just haven't. 00:15:01.840 --> 00:15:02.720 And so Yeah. 00:15:02.879 --> 00:15:04.159 No, I think you read my future. 00:15:04.240 --> 00:15:05.679 I'm going somewhere, I'm jetting off somewhere. 00:15:05.919 --> 00:15:06.240 There you go. 00:15:06.879 --> 00:15:07.200 There you go. 00:15:07.279 --> 00:15:09.759 Maybe, maybe I could be a uh healer in training. 00:15:09.840 --> 00:15:10.240 I don't know. 00:15:10.320 --> 00:15:11.039 Like, I'm I'm sorry. 00:15:11.120 --> 00:15:12.000 I'm I'm an idiot. 00:15:12.159 --> 00:15:12.480 I'm not. 00:15:13.039 --> 00:15:13.600 No, you're not. 00:15:14.000 --> 00:15:15.279 Like we're all healers. 00:15:15.440 --> 00:15:19.039 We all have this innate ability, we all have psychic abilities. 00:15:19.120 --> 00:15:22.639 We're just they're dormant and they're becoming awake right now. 00:15:22.799 --> 00:15:26.639 So, like, the more you tap into it, the more you own it, the more they will open up. 00:15:26.799 --> 00:15:27.919 So I'll let you know. 00:15:28.000 --> 00:15:29.279 I'm like, hey, I'm jetting off. 00:15:29.679 --> 00:15:30.240 It was true. 00:15:30.480 --> 00:15:30.960 Yeah, right? 00:15:31.039 --> 00:15:32.240 And be like, I knew it. 00:15:32.320 --> 00:15:34.080 I just I didn't know how to tell you. 00:15:36.399 --> 00:15:37.200 Oh, I love it. 00:15:37.360 --> 00:15:39.120 Well, Shannon, uh, this is great, so great. 00:15:39.200 --> 00:15:40.399 I'm I'm so glad I met you. 00:15:40.480 --> 00:15:48.240 And yeah, like I said, I'll get this episode out this month and I'll let you know when it when it's uh when it's there, and that way you can put it and promote it however you want. 00:15:48.480 --> 00:15:54.639 Well, it's so weird for me because it's like YouTube is my main baby, and so like I'm like YouTube is like it's kind of a YouTube first channel. 00:15:54.720 --> 00:16:17.759 Uh but then like obviously we put it out on the podcast platforms as well, and I'll put everything in the notes so people can connect with you and hopefully utilize your services and and and

get healed because I know that there's an importance, an importance to it, because like I'm I'm just feeling like I'm I'm somebody that once I get myself kind of back on my feet, like I'm gonna need some sort of like some sort of like this this thing would work for me. 00:16:17.840 --> 00:16:20.480 Because again, I'm I'm go like you said, I'm going through it as a parent. 00:16:20.639 --> 00:16:33.360 Our our audience is pretty much predominantly parents, and so like I I know people can relate to what I'm going through too when life is kicking you in the nuts and you know it's gotten you down or whatever, like it's going on, and you just feel like I need some I need a release. 00:16:33.440 --> 00:16:37.759 I need that hour of sitting on the table and whatever, you know. 00:16:38.240 --> 00:16:38.960 Totally. 00:16:39.200 --> 00:16:39.600 Yeah. 00:16:39.759 --> 00:16:40.159 Yeah. 00:16:40.320 --> 00:16:43.039 We we all do, but you you're going through it right now. 00:16:43.120 --> 00:16:46.320 Just just keep in mind that it's this too shall pass. 00:16:46.480 --> 00:16:51.200 I used to write that and put in my fridge when my kids were little, and like this too shall pass. 00:16:51.360 --> 00:16:53.679 Like nothing is nothing stays the same. 00:16:53.840 --> 00:17:02.559 Everything is always changing, just like the weather, just like politics, just like you know, things stay static, uh everything changes. 00:17:02.720 --> 00:17:05.759 So yeah, the winds of change will blow when it's time. 00:17:05.920 --> 00:17:13.039 And whenever these lessons that you need to learn right now are learned, then you know, the winds of change will blow for you. 00:17:13.200 --> 00:17:19.839 But just go in and be like, okay, ask, ask spirit, what are the lessons that I need to learn right now through all of this? 00:17:20.160 --> 00:17:43.279 And maybe it's going within and trusting yourself more, believing in yourself more, knowing that your higher self has your back, spirit has your back, whatever you want to call it, God, universe, Jesus, like I mean, your higher self is an aspect of your soul still up in the ethers, giving you breadcrumbs and feeding you whispers, and you find them within the wind, within the water. 00:17:43.440 --> 00:17:47.920 Like when you take a shower every day, imagine the water, because the water is a messenger. 00:17:48.000 --> 00:17:49.119 She she's a messenger. 00:17:49.279 --> 00:17:56.559 Just imagine it clearing you and asking her, please clear any stagnant energy that's holding me back right now that does not serve me. 00:17:56.720 --> 00:18:05.359 So imagine water just washing away all this gunky, gray, dark brown energy and visualize it going down your body and into the drain. 00:18:05.519 --> 00:18:15.680 And then imagine this golden healing light coming from above and coming in through your crown chakra and going down and down your body and just filling you up with this golden healing energy. 00:18:15.839 --> 00:18:19.359 So you can use the elements to heal yourself too, and water and then the wind. 00:18:19.440 --> 00:18:22.559 When the wind blows, like mess what messages are you giving me? 00:18:22.640 --> 00:18:25.440 And just sit there and be open and clear your mind. 00:18:25.599 --> 00:18:27.920 And then stuff will just come to you like that. 00:18:28.000 --> 00:18:28.880 And you're like, what? 00:18:29.119 --> 00:18:30.079 That that actually works. 00:18:30.480 --> 00:18:32.960 You can use the inner the element of fire. 00:18:33.119 --> 00:18:38.720 You can write down in your journal, like that person did that to me, and I'm gonna forgive you. 00:18:38.960 --> 00:18:47.920 But I'm going to write this down, which makes it very powerful, and burn it, and then release that to the to the universe too, and have them take that energy. 00:18:48.079 --> 00:18:48.880 Um, yeah. 00:18:48.960 --> 00:18:51.759 So they're just little tools you you can do for yourself as well. 00:18:52.000 --> 00:18:52.480 I love that. 00:18:52.640 --> 00:18:58.079 Yeah, I could listen to you talk all day about just whatever because it's you have a very calming presence, very calming voice. 00:18:58.160 --> 00:19:00.160 And so, yeah, I mean that's just another plug. 00:19:00.240 --> 00:19:04.240 Like, like go go utilize for services, shannongracehealer.com. 00:19:04.400 --> 00:19:06.880 Shannon Grace, thank you so much for being on the show.