Full Transcript for Your Sensitivity is your Superpower. Hypnotherapy and Your Subconcious with Sherris Courtier Shank

feeling, right? 00:07:11.279 --> 00:07:25.199 And second of all, they don't have your value system, and third of all, expecting them to see what you see is really a big mistake, yeah. 00:07:25.759 --> 00:07:31.120 Yeah, you're only really hurting yourself when you do that, yeah. 00:07:31.519 --> 00:07:33.920 And that's where boundary setting comes in. 00:07:34.160 --> 00:07:36.800 Yes, I'm working on that too. 00:07:37.360 --> 00:07:39.360 I think it's a lifelong project. 00:07:39.600 --> 00:07:40.560 Oh, yeah, good. 00:07:40.639 --> 00:07:44.800 I'm glad you say that because at 52 I'm still there. 00:07:45.199 --> 00:07:48.079 Oh I've had 80-year-olds. 00:07:48.399 --> 00:07:51.680 We you know, we all start somewhere, it's never too late. 00:07:51.920 --> 00:07:59.519 Yeah, but um and boundaries, I love this description. 00:07:59.839 --> 00:08:07.680 I look at boundaries as if you're giving the person a book that says, here's how to get along with me. 00:08:08.000 --> 00:08:08.639 Right. 00:08:10.879 --> 00:08:13.600 That's a gift, yes, right? 00:08:14.079 --> 00:08:19.600 You're actually giving somebody the manual that says, if you want to get along with me, here's how you do it. 00:08:19.920 --> 00:08:20.560 Right. 00:08:21.680 --> 00:08:32.080 Yeah, and that that the initial thing is, you know, it can be a little bit uncomfortable for people like me to set those boundaries. 00:08:32.159 --> 00:08:39.919 So the more and more, you know, okay, I just have to get through this little and some people you have to set boundaries over and over again. 00:08:40.080 --> 00:08:42.879 Um well, then it's not a real boundary. 00:08:43.440 --> 00:08:47.279 Okay, because boundaries have consequences. 00:08:49.519 --> 00:08:56.639 If you're having to set them over and over again, they're constantly challenging your boundary and there's no consequence. 00:08:57.360 --> 00:08:57.679 Okay. 00:08:58.480 --> 00:09:03.759 Yeah, I let's say here's a real simple one. 00:09:04.000 --> 00:09:07.840 If you touch my dog again, we're not friends anymore. 00:09:08.799 --> 00:09:10.720 That's the consequence. 00:09:12.879 --> 00:09:25.519 But if it's somebody at work or someplace you have to be, then what would be the consequence you would like them to feel? 00:09:27.360 --> 00:09:29.440 Yeah, that's a hard one. 00:09:30.879 --> 00:09:34.960 Especially for somebody that wants to, you know, get along with people. 00:09:37.120 --> 00:09:38.799 So I can imagine. 00:09:39.120 --> 00:09:40.879 So let's make something up. 00:09:41.039 --> 00:09:42.879 I I'm great at making shit up. 00:09:44.240 --> 00:09:49.039 Um let's say I'm gonna completely make this up. 00:09:49.120 --> 00:09:55.759 You're sitting at a desk, you're doing your work, and an associate comes along and starts ragging on you. 00:09:57.120 --> 00:10:00.960 I mean, that does that sound reasonable as something to me. 00:10:01.360 --> 00:10:02.320 Yeah, that probably happens. 00:10:02.399 --> 00:10:02.879 Yeah. 00:10:03.200 --> 00:10:03.519 Okay. 00:10:04.720 --> 00:10:15.200 In that instance, I think I would stand up, because they're standing, you're seated, they're in the power position. 00:10:15.360 --> 00:10:16.639 Yeah, you're not. 00:10:16.879 --> 00:10:25.840 So I would stand up and say, it's really important to me that I get this work done right now. 00:10:26.399 --> 00:10:29.440 Could you meet me for coffee after work? 00:10:31.840 --> 00:10:33.759 Right now, I'm busy. 00:10:34.080 --> 00:10:34.720 Yeah. 00:10:35.360 --> 00:10:37.519 But you gotta say it right to their face. 00:10:37.759 --> 00:10:40.720 Yes, and you gotta be completely okay with it. 00:10:40.960 --> 00:10:41.600 Yep. 00:10:43.440 --> 00:10:48.879 Whereas many sensitives feel like that's rude. 00:10:50.000 --> 00:10:51.279 That's being rude. 00:10:53.200 --> 00:10:58.159 And it's not, it's giving them that instruction book. 00:10:58.399 --> 00:10:58.799 Yeah. 00:10:59.039 --> 00:11:02.159 If you want to talk to me, let's have coffee after work. 00:11:02.559 --> 00:11:02.960 Right. 00:11:03.120 --> 00:11:14.399 Yeah, it's probably in the way you deliver it too, you know, you you could say it in a rude way, but you could also say it in just a non-confrontational way. 00:11:14.559 --> 00:11:16.480 And absolutely, yeah. 00:11:16.720 --> 00:11:18.879 You could say, you know what, I get it. 00:11:18.960 --> 00:11:25.679 I uh this is really important, but right now I'm really involved in this project and I have to get it done. 00:11:25.919 --> 00:11:26.559 Yeah. 00:11:27.759 --> 00:11:30.159 And I always put my hand up. 00:11:30.399 --> 00:11:31.039 Yeah. 00:11:32.639 --> 00:11:33.759 Talk to the hand. 00:11:34.159 --> 00:11:36.559 It's it's like it's like a stop sign. 00:11:37.120 --> 00:11:37.759 Yeah. 00:11:38.639 --> 00:11:39.279 Yeah. 00:11:40.080 --> 00:11:43.360 Before we get let's say you have a parent. 00:11:45.200 --> 00:11:46.159 That's a big one. 00:11:46.320 --> 00:11:50.720 A parent that criticizes you continuously. 00:11:51.759 --> 00:11:57.039 I've had so many people who have had that situation. 00:11:59.919 --> 00:12:02.320 Now, some people just want to blow the parent off. 00:12:02.480 --> 00:12:03.519 That's up to them. 00:12:03.679 --> 00:12:04.000 Yeah. 00:12:04.240 --> 00:12:08.799 And I always stand for let's let's keep things as reasonable as possible. 00:12:09.039 --> 00:12:09.679 Yeah. 00:12:10.159 --> 00:12:12.559 And say, you know what, mom? 00:12:13.120 --> 00:12:18.639 You may not be meaning to criticize me, but I'm feeling really criticized, so I'm going home. 00:12:20.000 --> 00:12:21.600 I'll see you later. 00:12:23.360 --> 00:12:29.679 You've delivered the message, you've delivered the consequence, and you leave. 00:12:29.919 --> 00:12:33.039 You don't wait and argue, you leave. 00:12:34.720 --> 00:12:36.799 There was nothing rude about that. 00:12:37.120 --> 00:12:37.440 No. 00:12:40.080 --> 00:12:40.720 Yeah. 00:12:40.960 --> 00:12:45.840 Before we

get too much further, I want you to just kind of talk about your story real quick. 00:12:46.159 --> 00:12:57.120 Um, however much you want to share, but how you, I don't know, your spiritual awakening or what whatever you you're you were overcome something. 00:12:58.639 --> 00:13:20.159 Well, um, I've always been very spiritually inclined, but I always had to hide it because unlike many, many people, I grew up in a home where anything that could be even vaguely attached to religion was forbidden. 00:13:20.480 --> 00:13:24.159 Oh, just absolutely forbidden. 00:13:24.480 --> 00:13:39.200 My father had a rage against religion, okay, and my mother was disappointed in religion, but they didn't make a distinction between spirituality and religion, right? 00:13:40.159 --> 00:13:43.919 So I always had to hide it, huh? 00:13:44.799 --> 00:13:50.720 And then I married my husband, who was a damaged Catholic. 00:13:50.960 --> 00:13:52.559 Yeah, and he felt the same. 00:13:52.639 --> 00:13:55.440 It's like, don't bring that shit in this house, yeah. 00:13:55.759 --> 00:14:02.000 You know, so my husband and I were very close. 00:14:02.159 --> 00:14:11.120 He was also an empath, we were very tight, and when he died in 2008, my world collapsed. 00:14:11.519 --> 00:14:22.799 Yeah, but it was the beginning of a much more dedicated spiritual life, okay, because it's all I had to draw on, yeah. 00:14:23.440 --> 00:14:26.639 And it had been inside you, yeah, probably. 00:14:28.399 --> 00:14:32.320 So it blossomed, it yeah, it came out in the open. 00:14:32.559 --> 00:14:33.919 I see that, yeah. 00:14:34.240 --> 00:14:40.720 And I realized, okay, the rest of the world isn't telling me not to bring this into the house, you know. 00:14:42.000 --> 00:14:45.279 And oh, by the way, it's my house now, right? 00:14:46.000 --> 00:14:58.320 So that was when I had my biggest spiritual opening because I could not imagine life without my husband. 00:14:59.440 --> 00:15:04.799 I went to bed every night for a year and a half begging him to come and get me. 00:15:09.039 --> 00:15:18.639 And it was only very gradually that I came out of that and realized, well, I I'm not dead. 00:15:18.960 --> 00:15:19.519 Yeah. 00:15:21.279 --> 00:15:22.960 So I guess I better get up. 00:15:23.440 --> 00:15:24.080 Right. 00:15:26.159 --> 00:15:48.720 But then the biggest opening happened many years later when I had a series of really bad medical events, and I was in the hospital staring at the ceiling, thinking, what's the spiritual reason that my body is falling apart? 00:15:50.000 --> 00:15:53.440 And the answer that came was you asked for it. 00:15:56.320 --> 00:16:00.480 Because I went to bed every night asking to die for a year and a half. 00:16:00.960 --> 00:16:01.279 Yeah. 00:16:02.000 --> 00:16:03.360 Here was my opportunity. 00:16:03.919 --> 00:16:04.399 Right. 00:16:05.679 --> 00:16:14.000 And at that point I realized I wasn't really asking for death, I was asking for peace. 00:16:15.440 --> 00:16:20.080 And death was the only thing, the only route I saw at that moment. 00:16:20.399 --> 00:16:20.960 Right. 00:16:22.080 --> 00:16:31.200 So, in terms of my spirituality, every trauma, and oh my god, there's been so many, every trauma opened it up another step. 00:16:31.679 --> 00:16:32.000 Okay. 00:16:34.159 --> 00:16:39.200 And I find this is true with clients too. 00:16:39.759 --> 00:16:43.200 You know that their spirituality is an asset. 00:16:44.080 --> 00:16:44.480 Yeah. 00:16:44.960 --> 00:16:46.639 It's a support system. 00:16:48.000 --> 00:16:50.879 It's information. 00:16:52.639 --> 00:16:53.279 Yeah. 00:16:54.480 --> 00:16:56.720 And I've just never looked back. 00:16:57.759 --> 00:16:58.399 Oh, good. 00:16:58.480 --> 00:17:02.879 And so that was Yeah, you've about 16 years. 00:17:03.600 --> 00:17:04.880 18 to be exact. 00:17:05.680 --> 00:17:08.480 18, since he'd passed, right? 00:17:09.440 --> 00:17:16.400 But it did it take you a little it took you a little bit to Yeah, it took my body a while to manufacture a heart attack. 00:17:16.720 --> 00:17:17.119 Yeah. 00:17:17.359 --> 00:17:18.240 Oh gosh. 00:17:18.559 --> 00:17:26.160 You know, and and and as I looked back on it, I thought, what was I thinking? 00:17:26.319 --> 00:17:28.160 Well, I wasn't thinking. 00:17:29.359 --> 00:17:31.440 You were in pain and I was grieving. 00:17:31.759 --> 00:17:33.759 Grieving, grieving, yeah. 00:17:34.640 --> 00:17:35.279 Yeah. 00:17:37.039 --> 00:17:47.759 So and actually, it was all the medical issues that created the opening for spirit to show me hypnosis. 00:17:48.160 --> 00:17:48.480 Okay. 00:17:49.119 --> 00:17:52.000 Because I really feel like I was led to it. 00:17:52.240 --> 00:17:52.559 Yeah. 00:17:52.799 --> 00:17:59.599 So during my recuperation, which took 18 months, all I could do was sleep and read. 00:17:59.680 --> 00:18:00.640 That's all I could do. 00:18:00.880 --> 00:18:01.119 Okay. 00:18:01.440 --> 00:18:05.279 I could barely even make food and feed the dog. 00:18:05.359 --> 00:18:18.799 It just sleep and read was what I and one day I was surfing the internet and I stumbled on an article in psychology today on hypnosis. 00:18:20.559 --> 00:18:27.359 I don't know if you've had this experience, but I started reading this article and everything in my body started to vibrate. 00:18:27.680 --> 00:18:28.079 Wow. 00:18:28.160 --> 00:18:28.480 Yeah. 00:18:28.640 --> 00:18:29.920 It was like, oh my god. 00:18:30.240 --> 00:18:31.279 It resonated. 00:18:31.599 --> 00:18:34.160 Oh my God, I have to know more about this. 00:18:34.640 --> 00:18:37.680 So I followed links, I purchased books. 00:18:38.160 --> 00:18:46.880 Eventually I realized that the only state licensed school that teaches hypnotherapy was 45 minutes from my house. 00:18:47.039 --> 00:18:47.359 Wow. 00:18:47.599 --> 00:18:49.599 Which was practically nothing. 00:18:49.920 --> 00:18:50.559 Yes. 00:18:51.519 --> 00:18:54.559 And I never looked back. 00:18:54.720

--> 00:18:58.160 I went, I interviewed them, I decided they were legit. 00:18:58.319 --> 00:19:01.680 And I thought, yes, I want to do this. 00:19:01.839 --> 00:19:04.559 You know, my whole being just said yes. 00:19:04.799 --> 00:19:05.119 Yeah. 00:19:05.440 --> 00:19:11.119 Because I had tried every kind of therapy and energetic treatment there was. 00:19:12.319 --> 00:19:14.319 If if it's out there, I've tried it. 00:19:14.480 --> 00:19:15.119 Yeah. 00:19:15.759 --> 00:19:21.200 And I still suffered from depression. 00:19:23.680 --> 00:19:27.519 And with hypnosis, I found out why. 00:19:27.839 --> 00:19:30.640 Because it was buried in my subconscious mind. 00:19:30.960 --> 00:19:31.599 Yeah. 00:19:32.160 --> 00:19:34.480 And now I had the tool to reach it. 00:19:34.799 --> 00:19:36.240 Yeah, how cool. 00:19:36.640 --> 00:19:45.440 Did you have somebody hypnotize you, or how did you well in the class we were hypnotized constantly by each other? 00:19:45.680 --> 00:19:46.720 Oh, yeah, okay. 00:19:47.039 --> 00:19:49.279 And by the instructor. 00:19:49.839 --> 00:19:56.240 And then I, of course, hired her to do some extra ones because I just couldn't get enough of it. 00:19:56.480 --> 00:19:57.119 Yeah. 00:19:57.839 --> 00:20:12.559 And then I have over time reached out to other hypnotherapists because although I teach self-hypnosis, it's really easier when you're guided. 00:20:12.799 --> 00:20:13.440 Yeah. 00:20:13.920 --> 00:20:20.240 Because in self-hypnosis, you have to have enough of your conscious mind active to keep guiding you. 00:20:20.559 --> 00:20:21.200 Right. 00:20:21.599 --> 00:20:26.000 Whereas when somebody else is guiding you, you can just let go into it. 00:20:26.559 --> 00:20:27.039 Yeah. 00:20:27.279 --> 00:20:27.920 Yeah. 00:20:28.720 --> 00:20:31.599 What does a session with you look like? 00:20:33.119 --> 00:20:36.079 A session with me is 90 minutes. 00:20:36.400 --> 00:20:36.720 Okay. 00:20:36.960 --> 00:20:40.240 So we do 45 minutes of coaching. 00:20:41.279 --> 00:20:45.119 Um I'm gathering information. 00:20:46.480 --> 00:20:52.960 And the the client is expressing as best they can what is happening right now. 00:20:53.359 --> 00:20:53.680 Okay. 00:20:55.279 --> 00:20:59.119 Then in the last half of the session, we do the hypnosis. 00:20:59.279 --> 00:21:01.279 So it's about 45 minutes. 00:21:01.519 --> 00:21:01.759 Okay. 00:21:02.000 --> 00:21:04.799 I record all of the hypnosis. 00:21:05.039 --> 00:21:05.359 Okay. 00:21:05.920 --> 00:21:09.119 Ask them to listen to it between sessions. 00:21:09.599 --> 00:21:09.920 Okay. 00:21:11.759 --> 00:21:17.119 And then, of course, I do email support in between because my sessions are every other week. 00:21:17.359 --> 00:21:27.279 But so I really want to get to the core wound. 00:21:27.519 --> 00:21:28.000 Mm-hmm. 00:21:29.279 --> 00:21:38.160 You know, if somebody comes in with a symptom, there is just no point in trying to get rid of a symptom because another symptom will come

up. 00:21:38.559 --> 00:21:40.160 Symptom will pop up, yeah. 00:21:41.039 --> 00:21:52.400 So, you know, if somebody comes in and they're raging angry at something, I have to say something like, Well, when is the first time you felt this kind of anger? 00:21:54.640 --> 00:21:54.960 Okay. 00:21:55.920 --> 00:21:58.880 When do you remember feeling this before? 00:22:00.079 --> 00:22:01.519 This is in the interview part. 00:22:01.839 --> 00:22:03.599 This is in the first coaching part. 00:22:03.839 --> 00:22:04.079 Okay. 00:22:04.160 --> 00:22:04.400 Yeah. 00:22:04.559 --> 00:22:05.200 Yeah. 00:22:05.519 --> 00:22:05.920 Yeah. 00:22:06.079 --> 00:22:09.519 So we do a lot of excavating in that section. 00:22:09.839 --> 00:22:10.240 Mm-hmm. 00:22:10.640 --> 00:22:15.839 And then whatever we have learned, that's what we focus on in the hypnosis. 00:22:16.240 --> 00:22:16.559 Okay. 00:22:17.279 --> 00:22:24.000 Do people generally remember what goes on in the subconscious um session part? 00:22:24.160 --> 00:22:29.200 Or do they are they surprised when they're listening to the recording? 00:22:29.680 --> 00:22:34.240 So going into hypnosis simply means you change your brainwave state. 00:22:34.559 --> 00:22:34.880 Okay. 00:22:35.279 --> 00:22:38.160 And we change our brainwave state all day long. 00:22:38.319 --> 00:22:39.759 We just aren't aware of it. 00:22:40.000 --> 00:22:40.319 Yeah. 00:22:40.559 --> 00:22:43.680 Right now, you and I are in our conscious minds. 00:22:43.839 --> 00:22:44.160 Yes. 00:22:44.319 --> 00:22:48.319 And that is a beta brainwave that is short and fast. 00:22:48.400 --> 00:22:49.839 That's conscious thinking. 00:22:50.000 --> 00:22:50.160 Okay. 00:22:50.480 --> 00:22:52.319 Short, fast wave. 00:22:53.440 --> 00:23:04.960 As you relax, your brain waves get longer and slower, and you move closer and closer to your subconscious mind. 00:23:05.519 --> 00:23:13.920 So from a beta wave, you'll go to an alpha wave, which is the bridge between subconscious and conscious. 00:23:14.319 --> 00:23:21.039 And then you can also go into a theta wave, which is full-on subconscious mind. 00:23:21.680 --> 00:23:22.000 Okay. 00:23:23.359 --> 00:23:26.880 An alpha wave, we're in an alpha wave. 00:23:27.519 --> 00:23:31.839 Have you ever gotten so involved in something that you've forgotten about time? 00:23:32.240 --> 00:23:32.720 Yeah. 00:23:32.960 --> 00:23:34.400 That's an alpha wave. 00:23:34.640 --> 00:23:34.960 Okay. 00:23:35.920 --> 00:23:44.799 Um, or every time I take a long hot shower and my body goes, oh, that's an alpha wave. 00:23:45.279 --> 00:23:54.799 And what you'll find in an alpha wave is you'll start to get really good ideas, or you'll you'll suddenly think, Oh, that's the answer to that problem. 00:23:55.680 --> 00:24:00.079 Because your subconscious mind suddenly has access to you. 00:24:00.319 --> 00:24:00.799 Mm-hmm. 00:24:01.200 --> 00:24:06.000 I think that's like what I do breath work is alpha mostly. 00:24:06.720 -->

00:24:13.440 And that's opening into an alpha wave that is you're right in the bridge. 00:24:14.720 --> 00:24:23.920 So your subconscious mind can talk to you, and things will start to pop up, images will start to pop up, ideas will start to pop up. 00:24:25.519 --> 00:24:32.160 In a theta wave, that's the wave we are all in just before we go to sleep. 00:24:32.400 --> 00:24:33.119 Yes, okay. 00:24:33.519 --> 00:24:35.279 Just as we wake up. 00:24:35.599 --> 00:24:38.240 So it's that it's that magical. 00:24:38.400 --> 00:24:42.480 I'm not really asleep, I'm not really awake, please don't bother me. 00:24:42.559 --> 00:24:44.160 It's really nice here, place. 00:24:44.880 --> 00:24:55.119 Like you almost think you're still in like your dream is like if you're if you happen to be dreaming, you're still you still think that's happening. 00:24:55.359 --> 00:24:56.400 I have that a lot. 00:24:56.559 --> 00:24:57.200 Yeah. 00:24:57.519 --> 00:25:02.480 Well, and and interestingly enough, sleep is delta. 00:25:03.039 --> 00:25:07.920 Okay, so there's beta, alpha, theta, delta. 00:25:08.559 --> 00:25:13.680 So in delta, your conscious mind is completely out of the way. 00:25:14.400 --> 00:25:18.960 But when you dream, you come back to theta, theta, okay. 00:25:19.200 --> 00:25:22.559 And then when the dream is done, you go down to delta. 00:25:22.720 --> 00:25:24.799 So theta is the powerhouse. 00:25:25.039 --> 00:25:25.359 Yeah. 00:25:25.599 --> 00:25:26.240 Theta is deep. 00:25:26.400 --> 00:25:28.240 And delta is deep sleep. 00:25:28.480 --> 00:25:30.240 Delta is deep sleep. 00:25:30.480 --> 00:25:30.799 Okay. 00:25:31.119 --> 00:25:33.119 You can change anything in theta. 00:25:33.839 --> 00:25:34.559 Anything. 00:25:34.880 --> 00:25:35.200 Yeah. 00:25:35.359 --> 00:25:36.400 How cool. 00:25:36.720 --> 00:25:37.680 Anything. 00:25:38.400 --> 00:25:41.119 Because that is where all the programming lives. 00:25:41.200 --> 00:25:42.480 That's where your memories are. 00:25:42.640 --> 00:25:44.079 That's where your pain is. 00:25:44.240 --> 00:25:45.920 That's where your traumas are. 00:25:46.079 --> 00:25:48.160 That's where your beliefs are. 00:25:50.079 --> 00:25:59.039 In hypnosis, to go back and answer your question from a long time ago, in hypnosis, people are generally floating theta, alpha, theta, alpha. 00:25:59.200 --> 00:25:59.359 Okay. 00:25:59.599 --> 00:26:00.559 Theta alpha. 00:26:00.799 --> 00:26:03.519 So when they're in alpha, they remember more. 00:26:04.000 --> 00:26:04.480 Yes. 00:26:04.720 --> 00:26:07.519 When they're in theta, they remember less. 00:26:08.000 --> 00:26:09.920 But I give them a recording. 00:26:10.160 --> 00:26:10.799 Yeah. 00:26:11.039 --> 00:26:11.359 Yeah. 00:26:11.680 --> 00:26:19.599 So, you know, I've had recordings I listen to completely with my conscious mind because I just wanted to know what happened. 00:26:19.920 --> 00:26:20.319 Yeah. 00:26:20.480 --> 00:26:21.119 Yeah. 00:26:22.079 --> 00:26:28.319 Or you can listen to the recording, go right back into hypnosis, and you might even have a new experience. 00:26:28.720 --> 00:26:29.039 Okay. 00:26:30.160 --> 00:26:36.319 As a practitioner, how how can you tell once they're once they're in? 00:26:36.480 --> 00:26:45.359 Because I'm assuming it takes a little bit of time to get from alpha wait from beta to alpha. 00:26:45.759 --> 00:26:46.240 It does. 00:26:47.039 --> 00:26:47.359 Yeah. 00:26:47.680 --> 00:26:48.160 It does. 00:26:48.319 --> 00:26:50.079 And some people never get past that. 00:26:50.319 --> 00:26:51.039 And that's fine. 00:26:51.119 --> 00:26:52.480 I can work in alpha. 00:26:52.799 --> 00:26:53.119 Okay. 00:26:53.519 --> 00:26:58.480 As long as we have access to the subconscious mind, we can work. 00:26:58.799 --> 00:26:59.440 Yeah. 00:27:00.400 --> 00:27:05.279 Um, how can I tell when people are going into hypnosis? 00:27:05.839 --> 00:27:06.880 Yeah, I'm just curious. 00:27:07.039 --> 00:27:07.680 Yeah. 00:27:10.000 --> 00:27:14.319 It's hard to describe, but something about their whole body changes. 00:27:14.640 --> 00:27:14.960 Okay. 00:27:15.519 --> 00:27:18.720 Their facial expression definitely changes. 00:27:18.799 --> 00:27:21.519 Their their face is very relaxed. 00:27:21.759 --> 00:27:22.240 Uh-huh. 00:27:23.039 --> 00:27:32.400 Um there's nothing intense looking at all. 00:27:32.799 --> 00:27:33.759 Oh, okay. 00:27:34.319 --> 00:27:36.880 But I also know when people are asleep. 00:27:37.200 --> 00:27:38.480 Yeah, that's what I was wondering. 00:27:38.559 --> 00:27:45.759 Do people lay down or do they sit, or do is it preference or well, if they come to my office, they sit in my big recliner. 00:27:46.079 --> 00:27:46.400 Okay. 00:27:47.119 --> 00:27:58.400 But if I'm working online, which is most of my work, I ask people to just be um gently reclined so that their head and neck are supported. 00:27:58.640 --> 00:27:58.799 Okay. 00:27:59.519 --> 00:28:01.839 I don't want anyone to fall out of a chair. 00:28:02.160 --> 00:28:02.480 Right. 00:28:02.640 --> 00:28:04.000 That's with breath work too. 00:28:04.079 --> 00:28:05.200 I always make sure. 00:28:05.440 --> 00:28:08.880 Be in a safe space with sides on your chair or yeah. 00:28:09.279 --> 00:28:09.599 Yeah. 00:28:09.759 --> 00:28:16.480 So propped up on a bed, propped up on a couch, in a recliner, anything like that. 00:28:16.880 --> 00:28:17.200 Okay. 00:28:18.480 --> 00:28:35.119 Is there a story you'd like to share about a um, you know, some transformations that clients have had or well, I could bore you with many stories. 00:28:36.160 --> 00:28:38.720 Well, I I doubt they're boring. 00:28:39.599 --> 00:28:48.640 Well, let's talk about um the lady who I had been working with for quite a while. 00:28:49.519 --> 00:28:52.240 She was a professional woman. 00:28:52.480 --> 00:29:01.599 She had two kind of, I think 12, 13, 14-year-olds somewhere in there. 00:29:01.920 --> 00:29:02.240 Okay. 00:29:03.359 -->

00:29:14.319 And she came to me because she was being taken advantage of at work. 00:29:14.880 --> 00:29:15.200 Okay. 00:29:16.240 --> 00:29:17.519 So we worked on that. 00:29:17.680 --> 00:29:19.279 We worked on boundary setting. 00:29:19.440 --> 00:29:28.079 We worked on her holding her confidence and self-respect and self-trust. 00:29:28.559 --> 00:29:28.960 Uh-huh. 00:29:29.680 --> 00:29:32.720 And then one day she walked into my office. 00:29:33.359 --> 00:29:37.039 She sat in a chair and she looked right at me and said, I'm bad. 00:29:38.880 --> 00:29:41.839 And I looked at her and I was really surprised. 00:29:42.079 --> 00:29:42.559 Yeah. 00:29:43.200 --> 00:29:49.119 Because we'd done all this work and that was such a big judgment. 00:29:49.359 --> 00:29:50.000 Yeah. 00:29:50.480 --> 00:29:53.200 And I said, Well, why are you bad? 00:29:53.680 --> 00:29:55.839 She said, I had an abortion. 00:29:56.880 --> 00:29:57.200 Oh. 00:29:58.400 --> 00:30:03.119 And I said, Well, can you tell me the circumstances? 00:30:04.240 --> 00:30:04.720 Yeah. 00:30:04.960 --> 00:30:19.680 And it she had um immigrated from a Middle Eastern country when she was in her very young twenties, maybe just 20 even, I don't know. 00:30:19.920 --> 00:30:20.240 Okay. 00:30:20.960 --> 00:30:25.680 And she was married and she got pregnant right before they left. 00:30:26.000 --> 00:30:26.319 Okay. 00:30:26.559 --> 00:30:34.079 And her husband, who was very authoritarian, refused to take her with him if she was pregnant. 00:30:34.480 --> 00:30:38.559 I don't know why, but that was he was absolutely not. 00:30:38.799 --> 00:30:41.519 Nope, we're not doing that. 00:30:41.839 --> 00:30:44.000 If you're if you're pregnant, you can't come. 00:30:44.559 --> 00:30:45.200 Oh my god. 00:30:45.440 --> 00:30:50.880 And so she looked for support from her family, which was very patriarchal culture. 00:30:51.119 --> 00:30:51.759 Yes. 00:30:52.000 --> 00:30:54.000 And they did not back her up. 00:30:54.480 --> 00:30:54.799 Oh. 00:30:55.599 --> 00:30:57.839 So she had the abortion. 00:30:58.400 --> 00:31:01.200 And she'd regretted it for 20 years. 00:31:02.000 --> 00:31:02.640 Wow. 00:31:03.279 --> 00:31:06.480 And so this happens to me sometimes. 00:31:06.640 --> 00:31:12.000 All of a sudden, the idea just popped into my mind, we need to talk to the baby. 00:31:13.680 --> 00:31:17.200 And so I said to her, Would you like to talk to the baby? 00:31:17.519 --> 00:31:17.839 Yeah. 00:31:18.000 --> 00:31:19.599 And she said, Yes. 00:31:21.039 --> 00:31:23.920 So we we did a very deep hypnosis. 00:31:24.000 --> 00:31:27.119 I made sure that we did a long relaxation. 00:31:27.200 --> 00:31:28.799 She was very deep. 00:31:29.440 --> 00:31:34.079 And I said, just invite the baby to come and be with you. 00:31:34.319 --> 00:31:34.960 Yeah. 00:31:35.680 --> 00:31:42.960 And it you might you might feel it, you might see it, you might just know it's there. 00:31:43.359 --> 00:31:47.440 Just just invite the child to come and be with you. 00:31:48.400 --> 00:31:49.680 And she did. 00:31:50.559 --> 00:31:52.400 And she saw her. 00:31:52.640 --> 00:31:53.839 And it was her. 00:31:54.240 --> 00:31:54.559 Oh. 00:31:56.079 --> 00:32:00.720 And so she I I gave her a lot of time. 00:32:00.880 --> 00:32:06.799 I said, you take the time, you need to explain to the child what happened. 00:32:07.200 --> 00:32:07.519 Yeah. 00:32:07.839 --> 00:32:09.599 Why you aborted her. 00:32:10.559 --> 00:32:11.759 Which she did. 00:32:12.720 --> 00:32:21.200 And then I said, Would you be willing to ask her for forgiveness? 00:32:23.359 --> 00:32:26.000 And she was like, Yes. 00:32:27.920 --> 00:32:40.960 And so she asked for forgiveness, and the baby just showered her with love and forgiveness and understanding and compassion. 00:32:41.279 --> 00:32:46.880 And there was no blame or judgment on that soul's part. 00:32:47.359 --> 00:32:47.680 Oh. 00:32:48.960 --> 00:32:58.000 And it was so freeing to her when she can't imagine. 00:32:58.079 --> 00:32:58.240 Yeah. 00:32:58.480 --> 00:33:02.079 When she came in for her next appointment, she was a changed woman. 00:33:02.319 --> 00:33:03.359 Oh, I bet. 00:33:04.400 --> 00:33:08.480 You know, she had shared the name she had picked for her. 00:33:08.799 --> 00:33:09.440 Yeah. 00:33:09.759 --> 00:33:13.920 And what a beautiful story. 00:33:14.640 --> 00:33:25.440 Yeah, so she, you know, those kinds of things are resolvable if we're willing if we're willing to ask. 00:33:25.839 --> 00:33:26.480 Yeah. 00:33:26.960 --> 00:33:30.240 Yeah, and that's the thing with the spiritual work. 00:33:31.599 --> 00:33:37.599 The person has to be open and wanting. 00:33:39.359 --> 00:33:44.240 You know, it's it's you have to be a willing participant, let's say. 00:33:44.559 --> 00:33:45.200 Absolutely. 00:33:45.359 --> 00:33:46.720 You have to want the change. 00:33:46.880 --> 00:33:48.960 First of all, you have to want the change. 00:33:49.200 --> 00:33:54.720 And second of all, you you have to be willing to go into territory that might feel a little weird to you. 00:33:54.880 --> 00:33:55.519 Yeah. 00:33:56.079 --> 00:34:00.480 But we had done spiritual work before, and I knew this wouldn't be a problem for her. 00:34:00.799 --> 00:34:01.440 Yeah. 00:34:01.680 --> 00:34:05.759 Well, and it wasn't the first time I sprang it on her or anything. 00:34:06.000 --> 00:34:06.400 Yeah. 00:34:06.559 --> 00:34:11.280 Well, and obviously she had some deep pain there, you know. 00:34:11.920 --> 00:34:12.320 Yeah. 00:34:12.559 --> 00:34:15.599 And I've known people who have similar. 00:34:15.760 --> 00:34:16.159 Yeah. 00:34:16.480 --> 00:34:17.519 It was a loss. 00:34:17.679 --> 00:34:19.199 It was a oh yeah. 00:34:19.599 --> 00:34:21.199 Huge loss to her. 00:34:21.440 --> 00:34:21.760 Yeah. 00:34:21.920 --> 00:34:26.880 And she had two sons, so she didn't have another daughter. 00:34:27.119 --> 00:34:27.760 Yeah. 00:34:29.199 --> 00:34:30.719

That's beautiful. 00:34:32.880 --> 00:34:37.199 Um, can you tell us a little bit about your book? 00:34:37.519 --> 00:34:41.119 Oh, I can't piece of mine blueprint. 00:34:41.280 --> 00:34:43.199 It's a beautiful cover. 00:34:43.599 --> 00:34:44.159 Thank you. 00:34:44.719 --> 00:34:46.960 Oh, and I just noticed that's your Facebook cover. 00:34:47.119 --> 00:34:52.719 I was yeah, I um I was like, that's a beautiful painting or watercolor. 00:34:53.360 --> 00:34:54.000 Yeah. 00:34:54.480 --> 00:34:56.000 Actually, you're right. 00:34:56.400 --> 00:35:00.880 Because I asked my niece to do the painting for it. 00:35:01.199 --> 00:35:02.000 She did. 00:35:02.159 --> 00:35:02.480 Oh. 00:35:02.800 --> 00:35:03.119 Yes. 00:35:03.280 --> 00:35:08.559 I described what I wanted and she got it right out of the gate. 00:35:08.880 --> 00:35:10.639 Yeah, it's beautiful. 00:35:10.960 --> 00:35:16.320 And I love the way she did it because there's it looks like there's little gems on the beach. 00:35:16.559 --> 00:35:17.280 Oh, yeah. 00:35:17.519 --> 00:35:19.119 It's just really pretty. 00:35:19.440 --> 00:35:19.920 Yeah. 00:35:20.159 --> 00:35:28.159 Well, the Peace of Mind Blueprint is sort of my introduction to what is hypnotherapy all about. 00:35:28.559 --> 00:35:28.880 Okay. 00:35:29.519 --> 00:35:42.400 So um the first section of the book is devoted to myth busting and all the famous people who have used hip hypnosis and every question you might have about hypnosis. 00:35:42.800 --> 00:35:52.079 And the second part of the book is introducing all the work in the subconscious mind through stories about either my clients or myself. 00:35:52.400 --> 00:35:52.719 Okay. 00:35:53.760 --> 00:36:02.239 And so that by the end of the book, you have a really sound idea about what happens in hypnosis. 00:36:02.480 --> 00:36:02.800 Okay. 00:36:03.360 --> 00:36:07.760 Or actually, to be more of correct hypnotherapy. 00:36:08.079 --> 00:36:08.719 Yeah. 00:36:09.039 --> 00:36:11.519 Did you feel like oh, sorry, go ahead. 00:36:14.559 --> 00:36:14.880 Yeah. 00:36:15.119 --> 00:36:26.960 And that's completely justified, but most of my work is about let's just find the reason you're so triggered. 00:36:27.280 --> 00:36:27.920 Right. 00:36:28.800 --> 00:36:29.119 Okay. 00:36:29.840 --> 00:36:30.800 Did you write it? 00:36:30.880 --> 00:36:35.119 Because when you were, did you feel like you wished there was a book like that? 00:36:35.760 --> 00:36:36.800 When you were? 00:36:38.480 --> 00:36:44.800 Or did you just wish that I had an easy way to tell people this is what it's like. 00:36:45.119 --> 00:36:45.679 Yeah. 00:36:45.920 --> 00:36:46.480 Yeah. 00:36:46.960 --> 00:36:48.239 So you wrote it down. 00:36:48.320 --> 00:36:51.280 And then you tell it all over again. 00:36:51.920 --> 00:36:54.239 And and it was a great experience. 00:36:54.400 --> 00:36:55.280 I had a coach. 00:36:55.360 --> 00:36:57.280 I'm a big believer in coaches. 00:36:57.519 --> 00:36:58.079 Oh, yes. 00:36:58.400 --> 00:37:00.079 Big believer in coaches. 00:37:00.239 --> 00:37:02.159 So I had a book coach. 00:37:02.880 --> 00:37:03.199 Okay. 00:37:04.000 --> 00:37:08.960 And that was invaluable because he gave me constant feedback. 00:37:09.280 --> 00:37:09.599 Yeah. 00:37:09.840 --> 00:37:14.320 And and he he also said 25,000 words. 00:37:14.400 --> 00:37:16.960 You are cut off at 25,000 words. 00:37:17.199 --> 00:37:17.519 Okay. 00:37:17.679 --> 00:37:20.320 Which means it's a very accessible book. 00:37:20.400 --> 00:37:22.639 It's like 170 pages. 00:37:22.880 --> 00:37:23.199 Okay. 00:37:23.360 --> 00:37:23.840 Yeah. 00:37:24.079 --> 00:37:27.360 You know, you could read this book in a day if you really wanted to. 00:37:27.440 --> 00:37:28.079 Yeah. 00:37:28.719 --> 00:37:32.000 And and that was also a goal of mine. 00:37:32.159 --> 00:37:34.400 I didn't want it to be a big heavy read. 00:37:34.639 --> 00:37:35.039 Right. 00:37:35.199 --> 00:37:35.599 Yeah. 00:37:35.840 --> 00:37:39.280 Just more accessible for people who are curious about it. 00:37:39.519 --> 00:37:39.840 Yeah. 00:37:40.079 --> 00:37:40.400 Yeah. 00:37:40.559 --> 00:37:40.800 Yeah. 00:37:41.039 --> 00:37:42.559 So when is that available? 00:37:42.639 --> 00:37:43.360 Is it out now? 00:37:43.440 --> 00:37:45.760 Or oh, it's available on Amazon. 00:37:46.000 --> 00:37:46.559 Oh, okay. 00:37:46.719 --> 00:37:47.360 On Amazon. 00:37:48.000 --> 00:37:49.119 It's available on Amazon. 00:37:49.199 --> 00:37:52.880 It's probably available lots of other places too, but I know for a fact it's on Amazon. 00:37:53.119 --> 00:37:53.280 Yeah. 00:37:53.360 --> 00:37:54.239 Good old Amazon. 00:37:54.480 --> 00:37:56.400 And it's also on my website. 00:37:56.800 --> 00:37:57.119 Okay. 00:37:58.239 --> 00:37:59.039 Well, great. 00:37:59.199 --> 00:38:04.400 Is there anything else you want to share with the people? 00:38:07.199 --> 00:38:11.519 You know, I have a very spiritual outlook on life. 00:38:13.440 --> 00:38:17.280 And I believe we are all here to shine our light. 00:38:18.000 --> 00:38:19.920 I I'd agree, yeah. 00:38:20.320 --> 00:38:33.039 And you know, when we get started in life, we run into all these obstacles, and sometimes we feel like our light is so dim that it's disappeared. 00:38:33.360 --> 00:38:34.000 Yeah. 00:38:34.639 --> 00:38:36.719 But it never disappears. 00:38:37.440 --> 00:38:40.639 I know this for a fact from my own experience. 00:38:40.960 --> 00:38:41.360 Yeah. 00:38:41.519 --> 00:38:47.360 I mean, yeah, your testimony alone of asking for a year and a half to die. 00:38:47.599 --> 00:38:50.719 I mean, that's that's a deep dark place. 00:38:51.119 --> 00:38:55.599 Yeah, it's a deep dark place, but you know, my light, my light was still there. 00:38:55.840 --> 00:38:56.480 Yeah. 00:38:57.119 --> 00:39:03.519 And um, and actually, I believe it was because my light was still there that I didn't die. 00:39:03.840 --> 00:39:04.400 Yeah. 00:39:04.800 --> 00:39:15.039 Um so we s we come in, we're all light, we're we're all purity, we're all goodness. 00:39:15.440 --> 00:39:20.559 Yeah, we go through light life and we all get damaged. 00:39:20.800 --> 00:39:21.199 Yeah. 00:39:21.440 --> 00:39:23.360 I mean, that's just the course of life. 00:39:23.519 --> 00:39:25.039 We all get damaged. 00:39:25.280 --> 00:39:25.920 Yeah. 00:39:26.320 --> 00:39:31.679 But the damage are is just lessons to learn. 00:39:32.000 --> 00:39:32.639 Right. 00:39:32.880 --> 00:39:40.159 And I feel like an opportunity to even brighten your light. 00:39:40.480 --> 00:39:41.119 Yes. 00:39:41.519 --> 00:39:54.000 Or become, you know, like I often talk about that we're vessels, and as we go through challenges, which I like to call them, um, it's an opportunity for us to become even brighter. 00:39:54.239 --> 00:39:56.239 And I think you're helping with that work. 00:39:56.320 --> 00:39:57.920 And that's I thank you. 00:39:58.079 --> 00:39:58.239 Yeah. 00:39:58.559 --> 00:40:00.159 That is my heart's work. 00:40:00.400 --> 00:40:00.880 Yeah. 00:40:01.119 --> 00:40:02.719 That is my heart's work. 00:40:02.880 --> 00:40:12.000 And I don't know if you've experienced this, but when somebody comes in and they are just blossoming after all the work we've done, yeah. 00:40:12.159 --> 00:40:15.280 I I mean my heart almost explodes from happiness. 00:40:15.360 --> 00:40:19.840 It's just there is nothing like it. 00:40:20.159 --> 00:40:20.800 Right. 00:40:21.519 --> 00:40:22.480 I agree. 00:40:22.880 --> 00:40:23.280 Yeah. 00:40:23.519 --> 00:40:27.519 So everybody be brave. 00:40:28.079 --> 00:40:28.480 Yes. 00:40:28.800 --> 00:40:30.000 Really brave. 00:40:30.480 --> 00:40:32.079 It's so worth it. 00:40:32.400 --> 00:40:35.920 And there's so many tools out there to help with this. 00:40:36.159 --> 00:40:40.719 I feel like it's just getting bigger and bigger, and I think that is wonderful. 00:40:41.199 --> 00:40:45.840 So hey, thank you for your work that you do and for coming on. 00:40:46.480 --> 00:40:47.119 My pleasure. 00:40:47.440 --> 00:40:48.239 For sharing. 00:40:48.400 --> 00:40:48.960 Yeah. 00:40:49.440 --> 00:40:50.400 Pleasure. 00:40:51.920 --> 00:40:55.119 Thank you, Sharis, and we'll see you next time.