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One of the greatest awards I feel like in in life is when you find your purpose, why you're put on this earth.
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And for me, I felt like I was put on this earth to push where we are in terms of our behavioral health and where we are in terms of our ability to make sure human beings have a good quality of life.
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You ever wonder about that person you admire, that person that you follow, how they got there, and you feel like I can't get there.
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But how they got there is always the same.
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It's one person, one conversation, one connection, one moment that changed everything for them.
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The entire direction of their life.
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Every episode, we sit down with that person, and you hear that story.
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Uncut, unscripted, the good, the bad, the ugly.
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To learn more about our guest and their story, go to sitdownforthis.com.
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I'm David Chernobyl.
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And sit down for this.
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Welcome everybody to another episode of Sit Down for This.
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I'm David Chernobyl, your host for the show.
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And today we have a very, very special guest, Dr.
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Bruni Canu.
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And uh Bruni and I did a podcast on February 27th, it was 2024.
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And uh this is an update to that.
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And I get to call Bruni, Dr.
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Canoe, for the first time.
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Uh she's just graduated from medical school, and we're gonna find out the details shortly.
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And um Bruni, she's actually from uh Togo, West Africa, raised in New Jersey.
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And uh she has a very, very interesting background.
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And and Dr.
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Canu she graduated from Duke, majoring in neuroscience, essentially a distinction in neuroscience, with minors in psychology and chemistry.
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She later went on to medical school at George Washington, University School of Medicine Health Sciences, and she's currently a psychiatry, resident physician.
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Bruni has an amazing background.
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She's a mental health advocate, a researcher, and a builder, and as she says it, focused on improving how we understand and deliver mental health.
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Bruni describes her work as this, and this really sums it up.
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My work sits at the intersection of psychiatry, mental health innovation, health policy, research, and community advocacy.
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I can't imagine what we're going to talk about ten years from now.
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Bruni's research, she does quite a bit of research.
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It spans neuroscience, neuroimaging, behavioral health, mental health services, and health policy.
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Bruni also worked with the NIH, contributing to neuroimaging research, potential therapeutics for non-psychiatric conditions, and Bruni will do a much better job than I describing some of her research there.
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Also, on a public health advocacy work, Bruni has been developing initiatives for medical education, contributing to health equity programs, and that's when we met and we did our show on health equity.
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And I'm going to put a selfless plug-in for our podcast that we did a couple years ago.
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All that will be available on our website.
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And Bruni advises on mental health, engaging with policy health policymakers and mental health issues.
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In fact, she's in D.C.
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for a conference that hopefully we'll we'll talk about uh later.
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Bruni is also involved with an organization called the Social Mission Alliance, and we'll talk about details.
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And they it's a national movement focused on health equity and training health professionals.
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She's also the founder and director of lay mental health advocates, where she set up, I believe, over a hundred mental health advocates, also involved with an organization called Hope Lab, which helps young people have uh equitable opportunities to live joyful and purposeful lives.
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While she was at Duke, this is fascinating, uh Bruni set up an organization called Duke Line, which was a peer-to-peer mental health service line.
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That was set up while she was there at Duke, and I want to hear about that as well.
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Also involved with the Kennedy Krieger Institute here in Baltimore, and that's dedicated to helping children and young adults with diseases.
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She's also involved with NAMI as a next-gen advisor.
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And NAMI is, for those of you that don't know, we'll have all this information by the way in the show notes.
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You can find out details about these opportunities in Bruni's role.
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But NAMI is the largest grassroots mental health organization.
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And lastly, as I mentioned earlier, well probably not lastly, I'm going to ask you to fill in the details here.
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Bruni is involved with the NIH Innovates Research Services, a clinical research assistant at the PET Neuroimaging Sciences Unit.
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So a very lengthy introduction in your very how can I put this uh early life.
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What did I skip of of all of those things?
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What do you want to highlight?
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Tell me uh catch me up from our last discussion, please.
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Wow, yeah, that's that's quite a quite a lot.
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Um thank you for that introduction.
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Um I have been uh involved in so many things, um, and I think early because I think I got one of the greatest awards, I feel like, in in life is when you find your purpose, why you're put on this earth.
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And for me, I felt like I was put on this earth to push where we are in terms of our behavioral health and where we are in terms of our ability to make sure human beings have a good quality of life.
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Um uh in terms of things I'd like to emphasize, I would say right now I am currently a psychiatry resident.
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Um I have spent much of my life honestly being on the patient side.
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Um, I have lived experience with mental illness.
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Um I have family members who dealt with this.
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And you know, in my last episode, in the last episode, we talked about, you know, my my brother dealing with mental health issues and kind of the struggles in my family, which, you know, coming from my backgrounds being of African descent, being an immigrant, it wasn't really taken seriously.
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Um but now, fast forward multiple years, um now with medication, right?
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My brother's able to go to college and be work in the field that he's always wanted to work in, which is computers.
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Um, and I even see you know my parents kind of like embracing mental health themselves when they at first were very against it.
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Um and so now being on the physician side of it, I'm really seeing like a whole 360 of the system.
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Um, and it's really showing how, you know, one of the programs that I I have founded is the Lay Mental Health Advocates Program, which is a patient navigation um program where we get young people to help those who have mental illness kind of stay on top of their medications and help them find resources in the community.
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Um, because we know how hard it is just taking care of your health when you are when you have no diagnosis and you're just getting your checkups.
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Now imagine you put a mental illness on top of that and you know you're just a 16-year-old who is, you know, in high school dealing with all these things.
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So I think this is kind
of my way to really turn this compassion that has been in my heart into action.
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And, you know, now that I'm I am a psychiatrist, I am seeing how important it is to make sure people stay connected.
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Yeah.
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Yeah, and we're gonna we're gonna talk about that.
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You know what you said to me in the episode I've thought about for a long time.
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You and I want to quote you on the last episode we did on the podcast a number of years ago.
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You said, I never thought I would make it this far.
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And that was before you even achieved where you are right now as a as a physician.
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Why why did you say that?
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And how do you feel about those comments that you said three, four years ago?
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Yeah.
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You know, it's interesting when I think about me saying like I didn't think I'd ever make it this far.
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I I really did kind of grow up like in a matriarchy, right?
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Like it was my mom, my grandma who were really the powerhouses in the house, right?
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I like I saw my mom single-handedly start her own business, like give us a way to um support our lives, and I saw my grandma kind of like supporting us in the house and and teaching me kindness.
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And but along the way, right, we I also grew up low income and had all these like financial struggles on top of at a certain point I was undocumented.
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And so, really, I had I had a lot of things stacked against me.
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Um, and I think the history of race in this country as well, being in the kind of environment I was, I really didn't feel like I deserved certain things, right?
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And I think for a lot of people who maybe are listening and have ever experienced being in an environment where you feel like your voice doesn't matter, or um your life doesn't matter just because of how you look like, or you know, because your parents don't have enough money, um, that really does affect your self-esteem and affect how you move through the world.
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Um, and so the fact that I was able to be in school and like find that I had these gifts in um math and science, and I I was always curious and I loved reading, um, and then to then be able to get a full ride to Duke University, which I never in a million years would have expected, and then be in a point where now I'm a physician.
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Like, I I don't think a lot of young black immigrant women who you know are undocumented have the abilities to do the things that I've been able to do.
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Um, even people who have everything set in place for them haven't been able to do some of the things that I have been blessed to do.
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And I think it's also kind of the people who have been in my life too.
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So, yeah, I never thought I'd get this far.
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But there's there's the other side of it, right?
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I never thought I would get this far.
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And so I am going to move as if, you know, I don't want to make any regrets.
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And so that really affects the way I move.
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It affects the way I present in certain spaces, and I do speak up when I am in spaces that maybe people like me shouldn't be, right?
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I've been in rooms with senators, I've been in rooms with CEOs, I've been in rooms with funders, people who have access to millions of dollars that they can just give away to any cause.
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Um and I think in those environments, someone like me um might want to shrink down.
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Um, but I have learned that it is, you know, there there is no amount of small that I can shrink where I will disappear.
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So I might as well be big.
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And so I do speak up and I do speak about my experiences, and I do, you know, kind of encourage people to think about the invisible people.
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And so I think that's the other side of it.
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Yeah.
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Do you does that thought ever cross your mind, or do you feel completely untethered now?
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And nothing's gonna stop you, or do you sometimes think, wow, you know, I don't know.
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Yeah, I honestly I am gonna go as far as I can get.
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So you're untethered, you're free.
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Yeah, I do.
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You're gonna fly, you're flying.
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I'm gonna fly, yeah.
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And it's so funny because I got this this like feedback um from one of my supervising doctors a couple days ago, or he was like, You are very confident, you know, and I I was talking to you know, people about it.
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I was like, was that was that a compliment?
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And my friend was like, you know, whether it's a compliment or not, it's true.
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We're gonna come we're gonna come back to the Bruni uh in middle school, and you've been very open.
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This is one of the reasons uh I love speaking with you, you've been very open about your lived experiences around mental health, and we're gonna talk about the Bruni in in elementary school and and middle school.
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Um, you mentioned earlier that you speak
up, and boy, do you speak up.
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I I wanna I want to share something with you, and you're gonna think I have completely lost it.
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But take a look at this first slide and tell me why you think I'm even showing this slide.
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Ah, because uh I wrote an op ed about Megan Stallion, who is honestly one of one of like the role models I would say in in my life, and some of them that I really look up to, and her now ex um partner, um Clay Thompson.
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Clay Thompson, yeah.
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Yeah.
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And uh I r that piece that you wrote was just fascinating.
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And for listeners, what we have here is a slide of of Megan uh the or Megan the Stallion and Clay Thompson, a famous basketball player.
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I saw a piece on um Megan Stallion years ago where uh she's from Houston and she's a very accomplished woman.
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People think, oh, she's this she no, she's a very accomplished person.
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And uh not only is she a wonderful musician, she's an actress.
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She also went back to school and got her bachelor's degree after all the fame.
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Her mother played a huge role in her life.
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She she's also I believe it or not, I'm one of her fans as well.
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Her story is beautiful.
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She really is.
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And um Clay Thompson, of course, he won four four rings, four national champions, four uh NBA championships.
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Uh very there's about less than twenty people won four.
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So he's he's also I'm a big fan of him, and I did like the Warriors.
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I do like the Warriors.
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So they were a power couple, and as you alluded to, they did they did break up recently.
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And what caught my attention, what caught your attention as well, and the piece you wrote was uh called When Cheating Earns Applause, would Megan Thee Stallion and Clay Thompson reveal about loneliness epidemic.
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And um this is a very interesting and you wrote this in a a place called the Opinion Pages, which is a great uh great outlet.
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I did some research about that, run by two folks, Gary Meltz, Democrat-leaning, and another gentleman, Ike Brann, who's Republican leaning.
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And so their their whole thing is we're apolitical.
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We don't push either way.
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In fact, they're one of each, and I like that.
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This show is not political.
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And so I love the outlet that you wrote this piece in.
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And you talk about the lone loneliness epidemic, and what really got you I don't want to use the re word angry unless you want to, but the public's response to this breakup, and so a lot of weird things came out of it.
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Um and and so tell me, there were memes, there were all kinds of things I had to look up.
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They were calling her a 304.
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Yeah, yeah.
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And I had to look that I had to look that up.
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Yeah.
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And it's a derogatory term for a woman, and there was all this press that went on that was really bad.
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So tell me what lit you up and and what made you so emotional about this, about this breakup.
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Yeah, um, I think, you know, part of it is just like being being a woman in this current era where, you know, I think I I call myself a lover girl, like trying to find connection, community, um, love, stability is something that, you know, I think we're always like working towards, even as we're also working towards our careers.
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And we I feel like seeing this play out, like this relationship was kind of like a pinnacle for a lot of girls who kind of can feel um that they relate to Magda Stallion in a way, right?
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Either it's um the fact that they too are black women, or they too started at one place and then are persevering to get to um where they want to be, or they just see the the fact that like, you know, and we've seen throughout the time Meg Distallion having kind of this like hard um hard trajectory with different relationships, and then have finally getting this relationship where we felt like, you know, this was this is like two people who are supporting each other, they're in the public eye um and have different careers, but they find this way to come together and then it kind of exploding in what it was kind of pointed to kind of where the state of relationships are, I feel, right now.
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Um, particularly the fact that like after the breakup is when a lot of people who at first saw Clay Thompson as what people call a quote unquote simp, um, where it's like another word I had to look up, by the way, a simp, which is a man that um he does everything he can for a woman's attention, even though she put him in the friend box, right?
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Is that is that exactly um and we all know Clay Thompson was not in the friend box, but you know the the black male community or other just like males in general calling him a simp until this happened, and it seemed like then it was like, oh, exactly, we knew it, like exactly Meg the Stallion should be cheated on, and him kind of getting this applause for it.
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Um, and then seeing the reaction in the comments where
women are like, oh, like if Meg the Stallion can't even um, you know, have someone who d is faithful to them, who am I?
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This like average Joe, like to be able to find someone who is faithful for for them.
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And you see this movement, people being like, Well, I'll just not have a man or I'll just not have a partner.
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All the time.
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Yeah.
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I hear that all the time.
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And you kind of see on the other side too, like men being like, Oh, well, I'll I'll also not have a partner because there is no good women out here, and like all these things.
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Um, and so the the leads to this like isolation and this like like divide instead of this community that we're we're trying to build it, particularly in the black community.
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Yeah.
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I I do have to ask you, you know, you've been very transparent on your life, and this situation, the article, you referenced a very specific incident in your life at five years old.
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And if you'd like, uh I I want to talk to you about that.
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This triggered something in you, and it felt like it hit a nerve to you.
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Can you describe what you felt at what this triggered?
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And yeah.
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Yeah, so I again like growing up with a single mother, you know, at a certain point my mom was married to my father, and you know, there was a similar instance where there was this infidelity that was then brought up, and kind of like um a choice that was like made, right?
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Where my mom basically said, you know, I'm willing to forgive this infidelity, um, but you have to stay here, take accountability for your actions, um, and raise your kids with me.
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Because at the time, you know, my father was um in Africa and going back and forth, and I think my mom really wanted him to stay in America and really like take care of his kids here.
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Um, and he decided that he didn't want to do that, right?
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And you were right in the middle of that, from what I understand.
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You were there was a scene where you were right in the middle of that decision, yes?
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Yeah, where I I kind of like, and and not that I knew everything going on, I just have this this feeling, and I remember he was.
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Well, you're five years old, right?
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Yeah.
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And I say, You you know, like, dad, I think you should stay.
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And and he tells me, Oh, you're a kid, you don't know what you're talking about.
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And did not see him again for a very, very long time.
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Fifteen years.
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Yeah.
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So what happened 15 years later?
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You reached out to him 15 years, so you're 20 years old now, right?
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Uh yeah.
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I'm I'm 20 years old.
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I'm, you know, I think I was like a junior at Duke, and I I realized like I was I had only heard one side of the story, right?
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I had only heard my mom's side of the story, which was, you know, your your father wanted to leave you.
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And I think for some people who might experience this where their parent, their mom maybe becomes a single mother, they might relate to this feeling that, you know, it's the narrative is, oh, they chose to leave.
00:19:49.440 --> 00:19:59.599
And so me just being a curious person, um, I was able to like reach out to my half-sister, who we also hadn't talked in a long time, because you know, that whole side of the family was kind of cut off.
00:20:00.000 --> 00:20:01.279
The half-sister's in Africa still?
00:20:01.519 --> 00:20:03.279
Uh no, the half-sister is in the US.
00:20:03.519 --> 00:20:03.759
Okay.
00:20:03.920 --> 00:20:06.880
Um was he in the US when you reached out to him?
00:20:07.599 --> 00:20:08.799
She was he was not in the US.
00:20:08.960 --> 00:20:09.759
Okay, so no.
00:20:09.920 --> 00:20:17.680
But um, she was a lot closer to him, and she was able to connect us, and I was able actually able to visit him while he came to Africa.
00:20:18.319 --> 00:20:21.759
No, no, he came to the visit him, you're 20 years old.
00:20:21.839 --> 00:20:22.640
Do you confront him?
00:20:22.880 --> 00:20:26.079
Yeah, it's it's not necessarily a confrontation though.
00:20:26.160 --> 00:20:29.440
Um, it's more so like, you know, dad, like I miss you.
00:20:29.599 --> 00:20:30.799
How have you been?
00:20:31.279 --> 00:20:34.960
Um, you know, I'm in college, um, I'm helping people.
00:20:35.519 --> 00:20:39.440
Um, how have you, you know, what has life been for you?
00:20:39.599 --> 00:20:45.279
And I think at first it was very happy to see me, right?
00:20:45.440 --> 00:20:53.839
Um, but then it became a whole like, oh, if only your mom hadn't XYZ and oh, she's this horrible person.
00:20:54.000 --> 00:21:05.039
Um, and I had spent 15 years hearing my mom's side of like he's this horrible person, and now hearing this side when all I wanted to do was just like grow this relationship that I hadn't had.
00:21:05.279 --> 00:21:09.039
Um and he was just so fixated on this pain, right?
00:21:09.200 --> 00:21:11.119
That no one had ever um addressed.
00:21:11.200 --> 00:21:13.039
And I knew my mom was also fixated.
00:21:13.119 --> 00:21:16.559
But then I kind of asked, you know, what what is your side of this?
00:21:16.640 --> 00:21:17.440
You
know, what we're doing.
00:21:20.319 --> 00:21:24.799
Well, at this point, I'm just a neuroscience major in college, you know.
00:21:24.960 --> 00:21:28.640
But but you minored in psychology, so you knew something about psychology, right?
00:21:28.880 --> 00:21:29.359
For sure, yeah.
00:21:29.599 --> 00:21:30.319
Okay, so go ahead.
00:21:30.400 --> 00:21:33.279
So you're are you trying to analyze him or what what goes through your mind?
00:21:33.680 --> 00:21:40.720
Yeah, not necessarily analyze him, but I think I think often when like people are, you know, this word perseverating.
00:21:40.799 --> 00:21:41.839
Um I'm sorry, what's that?
00:21:42.079 --> 00:21:42.799
Perseverating.
00:21:42.880 --> 00:21:48.960
You know, they're they continue to come back to the same thing over and over again when you're trying to change a question.
00:21:49.200 --> 00:21:55.599
Um it's it's one thing you do where you try to like, all right, let let's change the way you're thinking about things.
00:21:55.680 --> 00:21:56.319
Maybe there's something too.
00:21:56.799 --> 00:21:57.599
You try that on your dad.
00:21:57.920 --> 00:21:58.319
Yeah, yeah.
00:21:58.480 --> 00:21:59.759
And so the question is, okay.
00:22:00.480 --> 00:22:03.039
What part do you think you played in this, right?
00:22:03.119 --> 00:22:09.279
Um, because it takes multiple people to have a cause and effect, right?
00:22:09.519 --> 00:22:14.160
And um, I think at that point he was very much like, oh, like, what do you mean?
00:22:14.240 --> 00:22:15.200
What part did I play?
00:22:15.279 --> 00:22:16.720
Like, I'm the victim here, right?
00:22:16.799 --> 00:22:21.759
She kept me away from you for all these years, and I don't think he knew that I knew the whole story.
00:22:22.000 --> 00:22:26.559
Um, and so when I brought it up, like, hey, like, I know you cheated on mom.
00:22:27.119 --> 00:22:28.240
You actually said that to him.
00:22:28.480 --> 00:22:28.720
Yeah.
00:22:29.839 --> 00:22:34.079
Did he know that you knew, or was that the first time he knew that you knew?
00:22:34.400 --> 00:22:40.000
I think that's the first time he I think he was taken aback that I knew.
00:22:40.240 --> 00:22:52.160
Um But also, you know, it's it's the truth, and it I don't think he was expecting for him to be in the himself to be in the spotlight.
00:22:53.039 --> 00:23:05.279
Wow, so what happens next is Yeah, and so from there it that is kind of where it explodes, and it's like, oh, how dare you! You are my child, you shouldn't talk to me like that.
00:23:05.440 --> 00:23:11.359
Oh, you're on her side, and suddenly, and it's this full-on like lack of responsibility.
00:23:11.759 --> 00:23:13.599
You know, it's this whole scene.
00:23:13.759 --> 00:23:21.119
Um, and then it's kind of like, you know, like I I feel like if I all I just want to do is build this relationship, right?
00:23:21.359 --> 00:23:27.519
And in order to move past things, you have to, I think accountability set it's sets us free, right?
00:23:27.680 --> 00:23:38.799
It means that we understand that place that we play in our actions, and so that we are less likely to repeat these actions to cause the same reactions.
00:23:38.960 --> 00:23:44.400
But when you don't take responsibility, when you don't take accountability, things continue in a cycle.
00:23:44.559 --> 00:23:53.920
And so from there, he kind of was like, you know, you're on her side, X, Y, Z, and then the conversation ended.
00:23:54.160 --> 00:24:07.279
You know, and so thinking back to this like Clay, Clay Thompson, Medestallion kind of drama, it kind of triggered this in me because it was the idea of the lack of accountability, right?
00:24:07.759 --> 00:24:08.640
On the male's part.
00:24:08.880 --> 00:24:18.000
On on the male's part, of like, you know, and I think what was put in on the Instagram was kind of like he didn't feel like monogamy was for him.
00:24:18.160 --> 00:24:31.119
Um and so I think the accountability would have been like understanding monogamy isn't for you, being open about that, and then not be in a monogamous relationship instead of you know breaking someone's trust.
00:24:31.279 --> 00:24:33.599
And um that was the trigger for you.
00:24:33.680 --> 00:24:34.400
Yeah, okay.
00:24:35.200 --> 00:24:36.400
Um interesting.
00:24:36.559 --> 00:24:40.400
And and then you go on to say that this is an issue you're seeing everywhere.
00:24:40.559 --> 00:24:45.519
And um I I do have to ask you, um I've been looking for the source of your your fire.
00:24:46.240 --> 00:25:01.599
And uh we've spoken quite a few times, and um I have to ask you, uh this scene that you just and this whole surrounding setup is this what may have motivated you all these years?
00:25:01.839 --> 00:25:14.640
In other words, had had you used this for positive energy to maybe prove something to yourself or maybe even to him to say, you know, well, I know what put words in your mouth, but has that been a source of your power?
00:25:15.680 --> 00:25:19.279
Like um you mean when you say this, what do you mean?
00:25:19.359 --> 00:25:20.240
Like kind of like the call.
00:25:28.559 --> 00:25:30.799
Well, you do say you did say how you felt.
00:25:31.599 --> 00:25:39.359
Was that something that you used to motivate you to say, you know, I'm gonna show him and I'm gonna show everybody what I can do?
00:25:39.759 --> 00:25:40.160
Wow.
00:25:41.039 --> 00:25:49.680
You know, now that now I think about it, it is it has interestingly not been like, oh, let me show him.
00:25:50.000 --> 00:26:03.759
Because I think throughout my life I have been I think more focused on this idea, and don't get me wrong, like I have been told so many times that I couldn't do something.
00:26:03.920 --> 00:26:10.640
Oh, you'll never make it to college, oh you'll never be a doctor, oh you'll never go to the NIH, oh you'll never do this.
00:26:10.799 --> 00:26:17.440
And every single time someone has told me that I can't do something, I remember someone
once told me I couldn't even get into Duke.
00:26:17.839 --> 00:26:24.480
Every time someone has told me I couldn't do something and I put my mind to it and I believe I can, I do.
00:26:24.799 --> 00:26:31.119
But I don't think my dad has necessarily or trying to prove something to him has been motivation.
00:26:31.279 --> 00:26:41.119
I think it has been more so proving something to myself and also the idea of trying to lessen suffering.
00:26:41.440 --> 00:26:50.240
Because I feel like I have done a lot of suffering in my life, and everyone suffers in some way, shape, or form.
00:26:50.400 --> 00:26:56.000
Even people with the best life has some form of suffering, even if it's the smallest thing.
00:26:56.240 --> 00:27:09.119
But I I feel like my my unique experience of suffering has in combination with what I feel like is my empathy, has pushed me into the directions that I have gone into, right?
00:27:09.279 --> 00:27:12.720
Like even majoring in neuroscience, right?
00:27:12.880 --> 00:27:30.160
Part of that has been my my experience suffering with my depression, and then finding that there is actually a way to treat myself through medicine, through psychotherapy, and doing that research and realizing that, hey, like I got all these gifts to not suffer.
00:27:30.240 --> 00:27:32.400
How can I translate that to other people?
00:27:32.640 --> 00:27:36.559
Let me be in a research lab where I can learn more so I can help other people.
00:27:36.720 --> 00:27:41.680
Um, how can I make it so that people can actually get help and they don't end up dropping out of college?
00:27:41.839 --> 00:27:49.039
Oh, let me team up with a mentor, let me create this program so that people can get their foot in the door and get help quicker, right?
00:27:49.119 --> 00:27:59.839
Um, and so like all of this has been, in my opinion, like trying to reduce suffering because I know what that feels like.
00:28:00.000 --> 00:28:04.000
I know what it feels like to wish that someone believed in you.
00:28:04.079 --> 00:28:09.759
I know what it feels like to wish that someone saw what you were going through.
00:28:09.920 --> 00:28:15.119
And I think that has been part of my motivation, that has been part of my fire.
00:28:15.200 --> 00:28:23.359
Um, and I think the more that I find my voice, the more I remember the times where I didn't have a voice or where I feel like I was worth nothing.
00:28:23.599 --> 00:28:45.200
And when I see people who I feel like may be worth nothing, like I I've volunteered in jails for years, and I have seen how much people forget that the people we have sitting in jails are our mothers, fathers, sisters, brothers, neighbors, friends, like to somebody, right?
00:28:45.440 --> 00:28:51.680
And and those people are not nothing, even if they have done horrible things, right?
00:28:51.920 --> 00:28:57.920
I'm sure with throughout their lives they have done something, and there's something good, right?
00:28:58.000 --> 00:28:59.839
And there's space
to redeem themselves.
00:28:59.920 --> 00:29:21.359
And so I think that is my motivation, not to prove to my dad, oh, here I mean, there is a level of like proven to people who say I can't do something that I am someone who can do whatever they put their mind to, but also because I I know what it feels like to feel like you are nothing when the truth is that you have everything in you.
00:29:21.839 --> 00:29:32.720
You mentioned to me that um I think it was middle school, correct me if I'm wrong, middle school or early high school, and you felt it was pretty bad, and you didn't know who to talk to.
00:29:32.880 --> 00:29:34.240
You didn't even know what was going on.
00:29:34.319 --> 00:29:36.640
You described to me something that didn't feel right.
00:29:36.799 --> 00:29:36.960
Yeah.
00:29:37.279 --> 00:29:38.319
And you didn't know what it was.
00:29:38.400 --> 00:29:39.279
You didn't have a name for it.
00:29:39.359 --> 00:29:41.279
You said I didn't have a term to it.
00:29:41.519 --> 00:29:45.039
And there was uh an institution that saved your life.
00:29:45.279 --> 00:29:50.720
And could you take our viewers and listeners through what you said saved your life at this?
00:29:51.119 --> 00:29:51.839
Was it middle school?
00:29:51.920 --> 00:29:53.039
Where did it be?
00:29:53.200 --> 00:30:10.000
Yeah, I would say I would say things kind of started in middle school and transition into high school, like this feeling of just like deep hopelessness, like and sorrow and feeling as if like you weren't meant to be in this world.
00:30:10.160 --> 00:30:11.519
Maybe it was a mistake.
00:30:11.759 --> 00:30:24.240
Um and it's something that kind of like carried itself into high school where you know, even though I was like interacting, um I just, you know, I felt like I was in this hole.
00:30:24.720 --> 00:30:26.079
This hole of the way you were feeling.
00:30:26.240 --> 00:30:26.319
Yeah.
00:30:26.720 --> 00:30:27.839
Did you talk to anybody about it?
00:30:27.920 --> 00:30:31.440
I mean, did you who did you speak to when you were feeling this way?
00:30:31.759 --> 00:30:32.079
Yeah.
00:30:32.319 --> 00:30:40.000
Um I think as we know, like teachers in our schools are also first-line therapists for our kids.
00:30:40.160 --> 00:30:46.400
Um, but I was one of the I one of the lucky people to actually have guidance counselors in my high school.
00:30:46.480 --> 00:30:52.640
Um, and really like my guidance counselors really were the people who were like, hey, like you are worth something.
00:30:52.799 --> 00:30:58.880
And what you're going through, um, you know, we wish you weren't going through it, um, and really talk to me.
00:30:58.960 --> 00:31:06.400
Um, and it wasn't really until I was taking my psychology class, um, just a regular level psychology class that I was able to put a name to it.
00:31:06.480 --> 00:31:13.200
You know, when they're going through the checklist of, oh, if you have this, if you have that, and I was like, oh, this this sounds kind of like me, right?
00:31:13.279 --> 00:31:19.519
And if this is a disease, right, maybe there's a way to get help about it.
00:31:19.680 --> 00:31:26.000
Um and so like going and talking to like my parents about it is what do they say is like the first thing.
00:31:26.319 --> 00:31:30.240
Yeah, when when you came to them and said, This is what I think I'm I read about this in school.
00:31:30.319 --> 00:31:32.799
I think I'm what did what was your parents' reaction to that?
00:31:33.200 --> 00:31:48.559
Yeah, you know, and looking back now, I see how my parents, like my mom particularly, was going through her own thing, but she was she was very much like, oh, like you're a kid, you don't know what suffering is, you don't know what sad depression is, right?
00:31:48.640 --> 00:31:51.359
If if you feel so depressed, right, go kill yourself.
00:31:52.000 --> 00:31:54.079
Your mom actually Yeah.
00:31:54.240 --> 00:32:08.880
Um and I I think I think you know, again, like looking back now and seeing how much she was going through and being a single mom, an immigrant in the US, she she was in her own depressive episode too.
00:32:09.039 --> 00:32:13.920
Um and we all know how when you're hurt, you know, you can hurt people.
00:32:14.160 --> 00:32:25.200
Um and even even now, like as I grow up and she's more in a better place, she can recognize her own depression, recognize, like, hey, like I I needed help back then.
00:32:25.440 --> 00:32:27.440
Um and she can say it now.
00:32:27.519 --> 00:32:30.000
Like I she even says she needs help now.
00:32:30.160 --> 00:32:37.200
Um and so like he being at that age and hearing that really just really hits you hard, right?
00:32:37.279 --> 00:32:42.720
When you go and you ask your person, the person who you is supposed to keep you safe for help.
00:32:42.960 --> 00:32:46.160
Um luckily I did not kill myself.
00:32:46.400 --> 00:32:50.400
Um and I instead was like, you know what?
00:32:51.359 --> 00:32:53.519
Maybe I just need a new environment.
00:32:53.759 --> 00:32:59.039
That was that was a way called like I cannot be here for the rest of my life.
00:32:59.519 --> 00:33:00.240
You mean your family?
00:33:00.400 --> 00:33:00.880
Your family?
00:33:01.200 --> 00:33:01.839
So what did you do?
00:33:01.920 --> 00:33:04.240
Did you leave the Yeah?
00:33:04.400 --> 00:33:13.519
So I mean, um at that time I was what I was 16 years old, um, and I I realized like I needed to get out of there.
00:33:13.599 --> 00:33:21.039
But again, I was low income, like there were times we didn't even have water in our house, um, undocumented at that time.
00:33:21.200 --> 00:33:24.880
Like, how was I going to get out of that environment?
00:33:25.039 --> 00:33:33.759
Um, and so I set my mind to that I was going to graduate and I was going to go to college, and that was going to be the thing that changed things, right?
00:33:33.920 --> 00:33:38.400
Um, and so when I was applying for colleges, I applied to 40 schools.
00:33:38.559 --> 00:33:43.920
And, you know, of course, I I took all the AP classes I could, all the college courses I could.
00:33:44.000 --> 00:33:50.720
Um, even when I was like working in my mom's braiding shop, two in the morning, still had all this homework to do.
00:33:50.880 --> 00:33:51.440
I I didn't.
00:33:51.599 --> 00:33:52.400
I woke up at 6 a.m.
00:33:52.559 --> 00:33:53.119
and I went to school.
00:33:53.359 --> 00:33:54.000
Because you wanted out.
00:33:54.319 --> 00:33:58.559
Because I knew that education was going to be my way out.
00:33:58.720 --> 00:34:00.799
And education was is very important.
00:34:00.880 --> 00:34:11.679
Um, and I think a lot of like, you know, immigrant families and people who are immigrants in the US might like um resonate with that, that education was the way out.
00:34:11.760 --> 00:34:17.199
Um, and luckily for me, that is how I was able to go and into a new environment.
00:34:17.360 --> 00:34:23.199
Um but things did not change all that much in this new environment.
00:34:23.280 --> 00:34:24.960
Um I think the way it's college.
00:34:25.199 --> 00:34:31.280
You're speaking of so now you're at college and you're are you saying you still have some of these feelings of being uncomfortable?
00:34:31.679 --> 00:34:36.719
Yeah, these feelings of I would say, you know, the depression.
00:34:36.880 --> 00:34:45.199
Like I I feel like even going to college, no longer being in the environment, I was put in a new environment now where I was in this very wealthy environment.
00:34:45.280 --> 00:34:46.480
Like everyone was intelligent.
00:34:47.119 --> 00:34:49.039
Duke is top notch, I can imagine.
00:34:49.679 --> 00:34:50.960
Which is which is great, right?
00:34:51.039 --> 00:35:03.280
It was like this intellectual, like um basically like steampot where you would just like go down the go down the street, you could talk about anything, you you know, um you could bounce ideas off each other.
00:35:03.360 --> 00:35:07.199
There was so much access um that I had never experienced before.
00:35:07.280 --> 00:35:10.480
Um, but on top of that was the imposter syndrome was overwhelming.
00:35:10.880 --> 00:35:12.320
Meaning you felt like I didn't belong here.
00:35:12.400 --> 00:35:13.119
Is that what you're feeling?
00:35:13.599 --> 00:35:13.920
Yeah.
00:35:14.239 --> 00:35:27.519
You know, um, and being first generation, um being in a predominantly white institution and being low income, where I had like classmates who were going to like their second homes in Mexico, you know, for vacation.
00:35:27.599 --> 00:35:36.559
Um, and people were traveling abroad to study, and again, like being an undocumented student, I didn't have access to those things.
00:35:36.719 --> 00:35:45.039
Um and also during that time is when, you know, the administration at that time was even more like dangerous for someone who was undocumented.
00:35:45.199 --> 00:35:48.000
And so there was always a fear, you know, what could happen.
00:35:48.159 --> 00:35:53.679
I could end up being shipped off to a country that I have I don't remember because I left there when I was so young.
00:35:53.840 --> 00:35:58.800
So there is all these things that were still on top that contributed.
00:35:58.960 --> 00:36:03.199
So I was naive to think a different environment would just magically solve things.
00:36:03.280 --> 00:36:16.880
Um, but I was lucky in that I was able to find people who saw me and saw that I was still struggling and really opened the doors to say, hey, what you're going through is real and there is treatment.
00:36:17.039 --> 00:36:21.039
And not only is there treatment, but we'll we're willing to pay for it.
00:36:21.119 --> 00:36:24.000
We're willing to make sure you're connected to it.
00:36:24.239 --> 00:36:26.480
Um, and that completely changed my life.
00:36:27.039 --> 00:36:29.840
Which motivates you to start your own organizations for people.
00:36:30.079 --> 00:36:33.599
So it's interesting with you when when there's pain, you do something about it.
00:36:33.840 --> 00:36:34.000
Yeah.
00:36:34.400 --> 00:36:38.159
You don't seem the kind of to be the person that sits around feeling sorry for herself.
00:36:38.239 --> 00:36:41.360
You you you're motivated, okay, I'm gonna do something about this.
00:36:41.679 --> 00:36:43.199
That's your superpower, right?
00:36:43.440 --> 00:36:48.719
Yeah, and I think that's that's like the distinguishing thing about like I see myself as this empath, right?
00:36:48.880 --> 00:36:55.679
This person who can put themselves in other people's shoes and feel it, feel what other people might be feeling.
00:36:55.760 --> 00:37:09.679
But I I think when you're an empath who's not in their power, right, you are this like people pleaser who's willing to bend and fold and drain themselves dry for other people, not realizing that in the process, you are actually doing a disservice to other people.
00:37:09.920 --> 00:37:18.559
And so I think as I'm going and becoming this empath in her power, is when I'm like, oh, like I can both protect myself and make sure my cup is full.
00:37:18.639 --> 00:37:22.960
And when it is full, I can even pour more into other people's cup.
00:37:23.039 --> 00:37:25.920
And and what I'm pouring is not diluted, it's rich.
00:37:26.159 --> 00:37:30.239
And those things can then cause other people to pour into other people's cups.
00:37:30.400 --> 00:37:44.719
And so I think I have been walking more into being uh an empath in her power, who can really um protect themselves simultaneously as moving with compassion and putting um that empathy into action.
00:37:45.440 --> 00:37:54.239
I I can just imagine that college interview, which by the way, you were advised, as I recall, don't talk about your struggles and avoid all that.
00:37:54.320 --> 00:37:58.480
And you said, Well, what what did you say when you were advised not to even talk about it?
00:37:58.559 --> 00:37:59.519
What was your response to that?
00:37:59.840 --> 00:38:03.119
Yeah, I told I told them that this was part of my story.
00:38:03.280 --> 00:38:06.000
This is part of who I am and what motivates me.
00:38:06.159 --> 00:38:20.000
And if someone reads that and sees thinks that maybe I am not good enough for their institution and where they're where they are, then then I probably am not good enough for them.
00:38:20.159 --> 00:38:23.119
Um, but maybe they're not good enough for me, right?
00:38:23.199 --> 00:38:32.320
And maybe I I shouldn't be there because I have seen how you know being open, talking about what you've gone through has impacted people.
00:38:32.400 --> 00:38:41.519
Uh, you know, for me, right, I have other people have influenced and inspired me to be able to sit and talk about these things um without shame.
00:38:41.760 --> 00:38:58.320
And so, yeah, if someone sees that and is like, oh, she is a liability, then they are not fully seeing the asset that comes with being able to speak about what you're going through and being able to inspire people and be that catalyst for for change, right?
00:38:58.559 --> 00:39:05.760
Um, what what is that saying about like good girls rarely get things done or something along those lines?
00:39:06.159 --> 00:39:07.519
It's not a Billy Joel song, is it?
00:39:07.840 --> 00:39:09.519
No, it's not a Billy Joel song.
00:39:09.840 --> 00:39:21.199
But yeah, it's just like if if you sit and if you're quiet, right, like you can get things done quietly, but I I think where I'm trying to go and with the things I'm trying to do, I I need to be a bit more vocal.
00:39:21.760 --> 00:39:26.079
You said earlier in this in this discussion that you found your meaning in life.
00:39:26.239 --> 00:39:33.360
And and uh we usually spend an hour to get there with people, and I sometimes have to point blank ask them.
00:39:33.599 --> 00:39:33.760
No.
00:39:34.159 --> 00:39:35.679
But yet you volunteered that.
00:39:35.840 --> 00:39:37.760
You said that you have found your meaning in life.
00:39:37.920 --> 00:39:44.719
When when did you know what was the moment, what was the instance that you said, you know something, this is it?
00:39:45.039 --> 00:39:45.679
Hmm.
00:39:46.400 --> 00:39:47.199
Um it's funny.
00:39:47.280 --> 00:39:53.039
I was I was looking through my my camera yesterday, um, and I found this this photo.
00:39:53.119 --> 00:39:59.679
So this was basically the first time I was asked to speak um in front of legislators.
00:39:59.760 --> 00:40:13.199
Um I was invited to the Council of State governments to, as this like um um expert in youth mental health, to talk about my experience and my lived experience with mental illness and also the work I've done in policy.
00:40:13.440 --> 00:40:25.679
Um and I started the talk basically giving a trigger warning, letting people know that what I'm about to talk about, you know, has some things that might be harmful or triggering to other people, right?
00:40:25.840 --> 00:40:31.519
Talking about suicidality and mental health and poverty and all those things.
00:40:31.679 --> 00:40:38.800
But on top of this, we talk about um resilience and perseverance and um and really love.
00:40:38.960 --> 00:40:49.760
And, you know, throughout my time, I I tell the story, my lived experience, um, from growing up and being an immigrant to then um going to college to then becoming a mental health advocate.
00:40:49.920 --> 00:40:57.119
Um, and I remember at the end of it, I just like leave some time for silence.
00:40:57.440 --> 00:41:00.159
And instead of silence during my talk, right?
00:41:00.320 --> 00:41:06.480
Um, and instead of silence, every single one of those legislators gets up and get gives me a standing ovation.
00:41:06.719 --> 00:41:08.719
Oh my goodness, you're giving me goosebumps.
00:41:08.960 --> 00:41:12.960
And I never would have expected that ever.
00:41:13.360 --> 00:41:19.599
Um and you know, and and I tell this pretty like intense like story about my life.
00:41:19.760 --> 00:41:25.360
Um and it was like the I felt like so seen, right?
00:41:25.440 --> 00:41:37.920
And I was like, oh my goodness, these people who have powers to like use their pen and use their voice to change the way we operate as citizens, see me and hear my story and felt something.
00:41:38.239 --> 00:41:38.800
That was the moment.
00:41:38.960 --> 00:41:40.000
Yeah, is that what you're saying?
00:41:40.159 --> 00:41:50.400
That was a moment, and I was like, this in finding my voice, in going away from being afraid to talk about these things.
00:41:51.360 --> 00:41:58.880
I was able to, even if it was just one person who heard my story and went back to their state that day and was like There was a room full of people, you know, yeah.
00:41:59.039 --> 00:41:59.360
Right?
00:41:59.599 --> 00:42:23.280
It was a room full of people who might put maybe 10,000 extra dollars into funding mental health, or might make a law that allows people to have quicker access to someone who will evaluate them and get them into healthcare, or make it so that even people who don't go to college can find a way to get access to mental health how I could, they were impacted by how I spoke.
00:42:23.360 --> 00:42:28.000
And I think it it was that moment where I was like, oh my goodness, like this is it, this is what I'm gonna do.
00:42:28.239 --> 00:42:31.280
Yeah, like doing something, you know?
00:42:31.360 --> 00:42:35.679
Like Bruni, what do you tell people that have yet to have that moment?
00:42:35.840 --> 00:42:44.719
They don't have an opportunity like yourself in front of a bunch of legislatures where they can have this aha moment and they're just wandering and they're they're trying to figure it out.
00:42:44.800 --> 00:42:47.119
What do you tell people to find their moment?
00:42:47.360 --> 00:42:47.840
Hmm.
00:42:48.239 --> 00:42:51.119
I say be brave.
00:42:51.440 --> 00:42:53.199
Put yourself out there.
00:42:53.440 --> 00:42:59.840
Um go and do something that you maybe
wouldn't imagine yourself doing.
00:43:00.159 --> 00:43:09.440
Go into a space that maybe you don't think you deserve to be in, but if you can find your way in, even just sitting there will ignite something.
00:43:09.840 --> 00:43:12.159
So physically place yourself in that environment.
00:43:12.480 --> 00:43:12.719
Yes.
00:43:12.880 --> 00:43:24.000
Physically physically place yourself in that environment, find the things that maybe um spark something in you, and also follow the things that make you angry, make you sad, right?
00:43:24.159 --> 00:43:30.800
Like I I would tell myself, and you know, when we first start medical school, we all write ourselves letters when we you're at George Washington.
00:43:30.960 --> 00:43:40.719
You write yourself a letter to yourself in the future that you don't open until the day you do your match, where you find out where you're going to be a physician for the next few years.
00:43:40.880 --> 00:43:48.000
Um, and in my letter, I wrote myself like if you ever find that you are losing your light, go and volunteer.
00:43:48.239 --> 00:43:52.239
Go and watch a vice video that makes you cry or makes you angry.
00:43:52.400 --> 00:43:59.199
And whatever that topic is, research and put yourself yourself in that space where you are around other people who can ignite you.
00:43:59.360 --> 00:43:59.760
Like it is.
00:44:00.480 --> 00:44:02.159
I did not get here alone.
00:44:02.320 --> 00:44:12.480
There is a bunch of people, mentors, teachers, just like people I found on the streets who I talked to and was like, hey, like, I really like what you're doing.
00:44:12.559 --> 00:44:13.440
I want to be a part of that.
00:44:13.519 --> 00:44:14.800
How can we do it together?
00:44:15.360 --> 00:44:27.519
Even the nonprofit that I've been running, it was fellow NIH postbacks that were like, oh, like I really love that idea, and I want to help you, Bruni, who are my co-founders who helped me do this.
00:44:27.840 --> 00:44:36.079
And actually, one of my co-founders actually was in George Washington medical school and followed behind me in being a medical student.
00:44:36.239 --> 00:44:41.280
So like it is you don't and you can't do this alone, right?
00:44:41.519 --> 00:44:43.519
Can one person change the world?
00:44:44.000 --> 00:44:48.320
Yes, but they can't change the world isolated, right?
00:44:48.400 --> 00:44:51.440
They have to ripple across other people.
00:44:51.679 --> 00:44:54.559
And so that's kind of the the advice I I give.
00:44:54.880 --> 00:44:56.480
So the message is get out of the house.
00:44:56.639 --> 00:44:56.800
Yeah.
00:44:57.119 --> 00:44:57.599
Do something.
00:44:57.840 --> 00:44:58.079
Do something.
00:44:58.320 --> 00:45:03.679
And coming back to the piece you wrote uh earlier that we talked about, you talk about the loneliness epidemic.
00:45:03.840 --> 00:45:04.000
Yeah.
00:45:04.239 --> 00:45:08.320
And the Surgeon General came out and said, what it's like smoking 16 cigarettes a day.
00:45:08.400 --> 00:45:11.440
So we're coming back to this issue of loneliness.
00:45:11.760 --> 00:45:13.920
So get out of the house, you're saying volunteer.
00:45:14.159 --> 00:45:15.360
Yeah, find your community.
00:45:15.599 --> 00:45:16.880
Find your community.
00:45:17.119 --> 00:45:20.800
And that's the secret, you think, to finding finding the meaning.
00:45:21.199 --> 00:45:22.239
Build your connections, right?
00:45:22.559 --> 00:45:23.039
Build your connections.
00:45:23.519 --> 00:45:24.960
That's how you keep the fire, the fire.
00:45:25.280 --> 00:45:26.719
Because sometimes the fire goes down.
00:45:27.119 --> 00:45:28.320
Yeah, I want to ask you about that.
00:45:28.639 --> 00:45:30.719
You know, you you you give me energy.
00:45:30.880 --> 00:45:33.039
I mean you you've got quite a bit of energy.
00:45:33.199 --> 00:45:37.599
Um, when you were going through medical school and and and through all this, it's not a straight uphill path.
00:45:37.679 --> 00:45:46.639
So what did you do for yourself when, or maybe you just answered the question, but did you ever feel like you were hitting against hit up against a wall and said, Oh, I'm never gonna get through this.
00:45:47.039 --> 00:45:48.159
Yeah, yeah.
00:45:48.320 --> 00:45:53.519
And you know, with every big transition in our lives, we're always trying to scramble to get back.
00:45:53.679 --> 00:46:00.320
And I I remember when I first started medical school, I was just like, you know, at first I think, oh, I'm I'm doing it.
00:46:01.599 --> 00:46:02.320
Yeah, I've made it.
00:46:02.400 --> 00:46:05.920
Like, oh, I'm about to about to change the world, about to be a doctor.
00:46:06.159 --> 00:46:14.159
And really, like what we do and how the structure of medical school is, is that in the first two years, you're it's your non-clinical year.
00:46:14.239 --> 00:46:19.679
So you're spending a majority of your time reading the textbooks, learning the materials, right?
00:46:19.760 --> 00:46:24.960
And I was in front of the computer, I was doing my Anki, reading, and I was just like, I was finding myself so burnt out.
00:46:25.039 --> 00:46:27.599
I was like, man, like where are the patients?
00:46:27.760 --> 00:46:29.280
Like, I came here for patients.
00:46:29.519 --> 00:46:34.239
I came here to connect to people, and I'm and I'm reading the textbooks, and which is great, right?
00:46:34.320 --> 00:46:39.440
I was getting so much medical knowledge, but I wasn't practicing like I wasn't applying it, right?
00:46:39.519 --> 00:46:45.920
And we we all know, like for me, like it's one thing for me to absorb the information, another thing for me to do it, right?
00:46:46.239 --> 00:47:08.480
And so I I didn't really find um where I was supposed to be until I started volunteering in the student-run clinic, um, actually as a patient navigator, where there's these student-run clinics where like medical students would be able to give health care to people who are undocumented or couldn't
afford to go to a regular doctor.
00:47:08.639 --> 00:47:12.880
Um, and so I found that like through this connection, I was able to do all these things.
00:47:12.960 --> 00:47:23.679
Um I joined the Social Mission Alliance, which is an organization that basically is trying to get healthcare institutions to uphold their promise of health equity, right?
00:47:23.840 --> 00:47:30.559
And so they they even made a whole like social mission metric that you know how US News has like, oh, 10 best med schools.
00:47:30.800 --> 00:47:42.000
They changed the criteria from it being like, oh, how much money these schools are able to bring into, you know, how much of their medical students go on and actually become primary care physicians?
00:47:42.079 --> 00:47:50.800
Um, how much of their curriculum is focused on health equity so that their students are actually learning how to, you know, be physicians for the people.
00:47:50.880 --> 00:47:56.719
Um, and so in joining all these things, I started volunteering at jails, teaching about medicine and teaching about mental health.
00:47:56.880 --> 00:47:59.599
And that is where I really got the the fire back in me.
00:47:59.679 --> 00:48:07.760
I was like, okay, I can do these textbook stuff if I also can do these things and I can be in these environments and learn from people.
00:48:07.920 --> 00:48:14.559
And then we start our third year, our clinical years, just to find out the the patients don't even read the textbook.
00:48:14.719 --> 00:48:19.760
So I was reading the textbooks this whole time just for them to be like, okay, you remember all these things you learned those two years?
00:48:20.159 --> 00:48:25.119
Keep them, but forget them, because the patient didn't read the textbook and it'll be completely different.
00:48:25.440 --> 00:48:40.559
Um, and of course, it wasn't completely different, but again, like the words the patient doesn't read the textbook means that the treatment that you think or the presentation that you read about in the textbook might be actually completely different from what the patient does, because everyone is different, right?
00:48:40.719 --> 00:48:49.679
Like people might have their heart in the opposite place where it's supposed to be, and that is right too, because sometimes that happens, right?
00:48:49.840 --> 00:48:51.119
Um, and you need to be ready.
00:48:51.280 --> 00:48:56.000
And that is why it's called the art of medicine, because it is an art, right?
00:48:56.159 --> 00:49:00.880
People come with different things, and you you can't just do exactly what the book says.
00:49:00.960 --> 00:49:04.480
You need to think outside the box sometimes to solve people's issues.
00:49:04.800 --> 00:49:06.639
And so back to my question about the wall.
00:49:06.719 --> 00:49:11.039
So there you are again, you hit this wall in the second year, and what do you do?
00:49:11.199 --> 00:49:15.920
You go out there and you volunteer, you go in the if they're not gonna bring the clinic to me, right?
00:49:16.159 --> 00:49:18.000
I'm I'm going to the clinic and that's what you do.
00:49:18.800 --> 00:49:20.880
So that's that's what you do when you hit the wall.
00:49:21.199 --> 00:49:21.920
Yeah, yeah.
00:49:22.000 --> 00:49:31.199
And you know, you're you're told a lot, like, oh, like you you you should focus on the medicine, you should you should focus on the textbook and reading and all those things.
00:49:31.360 --> 00:49:41.679
And I I was like, I actually felt like I was doing better when I found myself like finding taking some time to do this, this like advocacy and other work.
00:49:41.840 --> 00:49:46.159
Um it kind of kind of fueled me and gave me fuel to continue doing the other things.
00:49:46.239 --> 00:49:55.679
Like some people can just spend the four years doing exactly that, two years focused completely on the books, and then two years doing the clinical things, and then they go to the residency.
00:49:55.760 --> 00:49:58.239
Um, but that just isn't my story.
00:49:58.880 --> 00:49:59.840
Your story's action.
00:50:00.079 --> 00:50:01.199
Yeah, my story is action.
00:50:01.360 --> 00:50:01.440
Yeah.
00:50:01.840 --> 00:50:07.119
Bruni, what is going on with the state of um finding a therapist and counselors?
00:50:07.280 --> 00:50:09.440
What what do we tell these these kids?
00:50:09.840 --> 00:50:11.360
It presents early in life.
00:50:11.679 --> 00:50:15.920
For some most people, middle school, early high school, as it did with you.
00:50:16.079 --> 00:50:21.440
And you were you used the word lucky, but I don't when I think of you, I don't think of that word.
00:50:21.519 --> 00:50:22.559
I think of action.
00:50:23.119 --> 00:50:23.360
Right?
00:50:23.440 --> 00:50:26.960
Luck comes to people that that do things and have action.
00:50:27.199 --> 00:50:33.920
So um what do we tell these kids that have they're in that place and they don't know what to do?
00:50:34.079 --> 00:50:42.159
Uh the student counselor situation that you referred to, uh the research indicates over the last 30 years it hasn't gotten any better.
00:50:42.400 --> 00:50:42.559
Yeah.
00:50:42.960 --> 00:50:49.039
You know, there's about uh what uh 400 to 1 ratio, yeah, 372 to 1.
00:50:49.280 --> 00:50:50.559
They're not in the schools.
00:50:51.360 --> 00:50:53.360
It hasn't changed over the last 30 years.
00:50:53.440 --> 00:50:58.480
The recommendations are 250 at once, so we're going to it's getting a little bit better.
00:50:58.559 --> 00:51:01.760
It's improved about 25 percent in in the last 30 years.
00:51:01.920 --> 00:51:03.280
But what do we tell these kids?
00:51:03.440 --> 00:51:04.480
How do they get the help?
00:51:04.559 --> 00:51:06.480
And maybe their parents aren't so open to it.
00:51:06.639 --> 00:51:07.360
What do they do?
00:51:07.679 --> 00:51:14.800
Yeah, and it's like sometimes some school districts have more police officers than even counselors in their school, right?
00:51:15.039 --> 00:51:26.719
And so, like, you
know, ki kids, young people are going through these like environments more than ever before where it feels like they're trying to catch up, right?
00:51:26.800 --> 00:51:33.119
They're trying to catch up with where they're they feel like they're supposed to be or where their internet is telling them they're supposed to be at.
00:51:33.360 --> 00:51:42.320
Um and I think I think the these days, because we have the information and it's so available, it's like a double-edged sword, right?
00:51:42.400 --> 00:51:53.039
And so the the downside to it is that kids are being inundated by all this information and maybe um their brain hasn't fully gotten to the place it's supposed to to be able to fully process it.
00:51:53.199 --> 00:52:01.119
Um or they also don't have the tools to be able to process it emotionally, psychologically, um, spiritually.
00:52:01.280 --> 00:52:07.360
And so they're looking for help, they're looking for um a way to process all these things.
00:52:07.440 --> 00:52:16.159
Um, and that's kind of where people are kind of falling into these like things like the manosphere, where they're finding things like the red pill and their Let's talk about that.
00:52:16.239 --> 00:52:17.920
You you said the manosphere.
00:52:18.159 --> 00:52:18.320
Yeah.
00:52:18.719 --> 00:52:20.800
Okay, talk about that and talk about the red pill.
00:52:21.119 --> 00:52:21.519
Yeah.
00:52:21.760 --> 00:52:49.679
Um, and so like the manosphere is basically um this like space where men go to talk about what they're going through um in as a male gender and kind of the struggles that they go through, but it also kind of has become more of a space to um also talk about kind of the the bad things that men are experiencing as as a result of women.
00:52:49.760 --> 00:52:51.599
And they're blaming it on women, you're saying.
00:52:51.920 --> 00:52:53.280
Some some parts of it, right?
00:52:53.360 --> 00:53:06.559
Like what it means to be a man and like hypermasculinity and you know how what it means to be a woman and how like women aren't being the quote unquote the pinnacle of women these days, and all of this talk.
00:53:06.719 --> 00:53:17.519
And I think it's really distracting from this idea that, you know, men just like every other people are just trying to find a place to belong and feel like they matter, right?
00:53:17.599 --> 00:53:31.519
And I feel like some places and some platforms are kind of like taking advantage of that and kind of um perverting that and causing people to believe that they're not man enough if they don't do a certain thing or a different thing.
00:53:33.360 --> 00:53:37.039
They teased him about being soft and calling him a simp.
00:53:37.119 --> 00:53:39.039
Is that what you're oh my goodness, yes.
00:53:39.199 --> 00:53:52.639
And you you would not believe how many times I talk to patients who are just like in tears and they're like, I feel so trapped because I can't express sorrow.
00:53:53.119 --> 00:53:54.400
I can't express
anger.
00:53:54.800 --> 00:54:00.480
These are men, yeah, because I'm told, like, oh, I just need a man up, or I'm a man, I'll be okay.
00:54:00.639 --> 00:54:05.119
And I feel like, you know, they're in this like like prison, right?
00:54:05.280 --> 00:54:08.400
And is the society that put them in that prison?
00:54:08.719 --> 00:54:09.679
Maybe, right?
00:54:09.760 --> 00:54:31.360
And how we like socialize men, but I think um starting this movement where we are encouraging our young men to have this emotional intelligence, to feel emotions, but also to learn how to process those emotions well and in a healthy way that allows them to have good relationships, not only with the women, but also amongst each other, right?
00:54:31.760 --> 00:54:37.840
Yeah, let's talk about that each other part, yeah, representing the male species, um male gender.
00:54:38.239 --> 00:54:39.920
Uh it it is hard.
00:54:40.079 --> 00:54:44.559
And uh you and I grew up in different generations, but uh it doesn't seem like much has changed.
00:54:45.119 --> 00:54:45.760
Unfortunately, yeah.
00:54:46.159 --> 00:54:48.079
Yeah, so we we just weren't given the tools.
00:54:48.239 --> 00:54:52.159
I'm not making excuses, I'm just representing uh it it's hard.
00:54:52.400 --> 00:54:52.960
It's hard.
00:54:53.119 --> 00:55:05.119
You write about African American American men having even more of a challenge in talking to each other, and um uh you used some words that I didn't quite understand how to look up.
00:55:05.199 --> 00:55:11.360
One has a French ending to it that describe what African American men why is it unique in that community?
00:55:11.760 --> 00:55:37.760
Yeah, um I think whenever you add additional like isms or additional identities to it, like being a male, right, being a black male, and adding the history in our country of um racism and all that brings, right, and what it means to be black in this country, on top of what it means to be a male, um there is that like again, like this double-edged sword of like, oh, I need to be like this textbook man, right?
00:55:37.840 --> 00:55:43.760
But also I need to prove myself and that I am the right kind of black man, right?
00:55:43.920 --> 00:56:05.199
And I think that puts so much pressure on men, and that you know, it puts pressure on black men to again be this right kind of black men when on top of that they are dealing with the traumas that come with the isms in our country and not being able to fully process that because again, the socialization, you're a man, toughen up, you can't feel sorrow, you can't feel these certain things.
00:56:05.360 --> 00:56:11.519
All you're allowed to feel is maybe anger, and even that, don't you dare be an angry black man, right?
00:56:11.679 --> 00:56:17.119
Um, it's it's scary and it's it feels like there's this like imprisonment.
00:56:17.280 --> 00:56:26.400
And I really feel like especially our black males um are even more vulnerable to falling into these like manospheres
and and that word you're talking about, right?
00:56:26.559 --> 00:56:52.960
Massage noir, which is this like um sexism towards black women, um, where it's especially when it's perpet perpetuated by our own black men, it's even more painful because black men are the first men we look to to protect us um when we're dealing with um sexism, when we're dealing with racism, because I feel like they know more than other people what we're going through, being the other side of our um race.
00:56:53.119 --> 00:57:18.559
Um and so it's kind of like, you know, this like cycle where we're trying to strengthen a community and have good relationships within each other, um, falling into these pitfalls of these like, again, this like red pill, massage noir, this like manosphere of like, oh, you're not a man if you treat a woman um nice right, nice nice, you know, which is so crazy.
00:57:18.800 --> 00:57:32.719
Um because who who doesn't want to be in a loving relationship that isn't abusive, that is full of um cooperation, it's full of, you know, just like doing things together um and making decisions that feel healthy.
00:57:32.960 --> 00:57:47.760
Instead, we have this like in order to prove you're a man, you need to be, you know, um, you need to kind of show your power in a certain way, or not allow your woman to make more money than you, or not allow your woman to speak to you or uh do these things.
00:57:47.840 --> 00:57:50.960
It's just like it feels so backwards from where we were going.
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You know, it occurs to me, you know, if if I'm a man in that environment and all the men are acting this way, if I act the opposite way, I would be able to date anybody I wanted to.
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Right?
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I mean they're doing the opposite.
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Yeah.
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Instead of getting involved with this negativity, be a positive force and their problems will go away.
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Right?
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Well, maybe maybe not completely.
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There but it will help.
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It will help.
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We'll have more dates, certainly than sitting home online posting this evilness.
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Because like I think nowadays, especially as women are getting more access to capital, now women can have their own bank accounts, and now you know there are women in the C-suite, and there are women doctors, and how can that be bad?
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I just can't figure out how can that be bad?
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Well, well, that's what I'm saying.
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It's it's like now that the criteria for being a man who gets a woman and is in a relationship, it goes more than financial, right?
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Like I feel like back when women couldn't have bank accounts, like you needed a man to be able to live,
right?
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Because how else were you going to be able to pay for things?
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And you know, when you you are a single person, it's harder.
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But now that women can have access to capital, can have access to um um a better career trajectory, that means that men need to bring more to the table than just finances, right?
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They they have to have character, they have to have emotional intelligence because in terms of the finances, like a woman can now like buy a house by herself, right?
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They don't need a man to like co-sign it like it used to be back in the day.
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And so that means that partnership, now there is more criteria where it's like, okay, like you need to also come with the ability to communicate and to talk and compromise.
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Um, and so um I think that puts men in a very particular spot because it doesn't money is not what makes a quote unquote high value man, at least at least to me.
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But this is how we were brought up.
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I gotta tell you, this is how we were brought up.
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That's what the women want.
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Yeah.
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Get a get a nice car, get a bunch of money.
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But here you are saying bad advice.
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I mean, yeah, I mean, it it's not just money.
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Like, who doesn't want to be financially stable, right?
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But there are men who are middle income, are making fifty thousand dollars a year that have um character, that have loyalty, that have um, you know, um discipline, that have more character, and I feel like that is more high value than the man who is making a million dollars but lacks discipline, lacks the ability to have their words mean something, right?
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Where if they say they're gonna do things, they're going to do it because to them, right, their words means something.
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Um, and so this like kind of thing from that, where now there's just even like looks maxing, where like men are like hitting themselves in the let's back up here.
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So say this.
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What is this?
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Looks um looks maxing.
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Um looks masking, okay.
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Describe that.
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It's like it's basically this this idea that like um in order to see yourself as valuable, you need to do everything you can to be as tr as attractive as possible.
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This is what men are doing?
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It's like one of those like trends.
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Let me do a quick public service announcement if you don't mind.
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Guys, listen, get off the computer, get out of the house, and learn how to talk to a woman properly.
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Yeah.
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You don't have to pay a lot of money to do an online dating service and the secrets to getting all the dates you want.
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I just gave it to you.
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Learn how to be nice to a woman.
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That's it.
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Yeah.
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Sorry, go back to the way trying to do the opposite.
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Yeah, how do I look the best, right?
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And you know, command a room.
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And I'm like, who is focusing on how to be a good human being?
01:01:44.320 --> 01:01:46.320
How to learn kindness, right?
01:01:46.719 --> 01:01:47.440
That's what they should be doing.
01:01:47.679 --> 01:01:52.400
And because there's that whole thing of like, good men, you know, good guys always finish last.
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And I'm like, no, I feel like And the guys that are finishing last are saying that.
01:01:57.599 --> 01:01:57.920
Yeah.
01:01:58.159 --> 01:01:59.760
Not the guys that are finishing first.
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I feel like the ones finishing first are quiet.
01:02:02.559 --> 01:02:03.760
Where do we go from here, Bruni?
01:02:03.920 --> 01:02:04.639
What are we gonna do?
01:02:04.800 --> 01:02:10.079
What's what are these what are we to do in in this particular situation?
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What's the call to action here for folks listening and watching?
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What can we do collectively?
01:02:15.039 --> 01:02:15.360
Collectively.
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Or individually, even.
01:02:16.639 --> 01:02:16.880
Yeah.
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Um, I think individually we can one understands that men's mental health matter, right?
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And that the things that men are going through, especially all the pressures, this like pressure cooker of, oh, you have to be this certain way.
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It it is real.
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And and women are going through a similar thing where it's like, hey, you have to be a certain way, right?
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We we are all going through this thing, but I think there is freedom and understanding that when we acknowledge that there is more we can do to be better humans for ourselves, and there is more we can do for our communities instead of kind of sitting down and just waiting for things to magically fix themselves, that is where we actually have the power.
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So, like if you are um a man who has ever gone to therapy, speaking about it and being brave and being open about it will go such a long way, especially if you're amongst other men and just like dropping in a
conversation.
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And I know it it's scary, like, oh, you won't believe what my therapist said the other day.
01:03:17.280 --> 01:03:19.440
You know, someone's like, oh, you have a therapist?
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And maybe they might be like at first, like, oh, this guy, but the way that you speak about it and it's open, and you know, being non-judgmental, that might spark in someone their ability to be like, oh, maybe I should talk to someone.
01:03:32.400 --> 01:03:35.039
Going to a therapist is not weakness, it's strength.
01:03:35.280 --> 01:03:35.519
Yeah.
01:03:35.760 --> 01:03:36.320
I've been.
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It's scary, it's hard.
01:03:38.079 --> 01:03:38.239
Yeah.
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It takes a bold man to go sit in front of a complete stranger and open yourself up.
01:03:43.760 --> 01:03:46.719
So we need to change the whole the look of that.
01:03:46.960 --> 01:03:47.519
Absolutely.
01:03:47.760 --> 01:03:52.719
I'm gonna put you on the spot, as if I haven't already for the last hour, but I want to put you on the spot.
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Tell me, where do you go from here?
01:03:54.559 --> 01:03:55.599
What are some of the goals?
01:03:55.760 --> 01:03:57.840
What are the some of your aspirations?
01:03:58.000 --> 01:04:00.239
You've accomplished so much at such an early point.
01:04:00.960 --> 01:04:01.920
What what are you thinking about?
01:04:02.320 --> 01:04:03.679
Well, what kind of practice do you want to have?
01:04:03.760 --> 01:04:04.880
Do you want to stay in the hospital?
01:04:05.039 --> 01:04:07.599
Do you want to hang up a shingle that we used to say?
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What would you like to do?
01:04:09.039 --> 01:04:11.039
Yeah, super, super huge question.
01:04:11.280 --> 01:04:16.880
Well, I think I'm just in the beginning of this psychiatry doctorship.
01:04:16.960 --> 01:04:22.239
Um, and so where where I go, there's like so many different places I would go.
01:04:22.559 --> 01:04:29.199
Um right now I'm I'm really interested in child and adolescent um psychiatry and seeing and exploring that.
01:04:29.280 --> 01:04:35.119
Um, because right now you get trained in adult psychiatry before you can go and do fellowship and do the sub-specialties.
01:04:35.440 --> 01:04:39.599
So as far as I know, that's that's been my um my look.
01:04:39.679 --> 01:04:45.679
But honestly, um I'm really focused on learning how to be a great doctor, learning the system.
01:04:46.000 --> 01:04:48.079
Turns out, like, it's not just being a doctor.
01:04:48.480 --> 01:04:49.599
But the system, you gotta look at the system.
01:04:50.159 --> 01:04:52.719
You gotta learn about insurance, um, prior authorization.
01:04:53.199 --> 01:04:54.639
It's not fair for me to ask you that question.
01:04:55.119 --> 01:04:55.599
It's too early.
01:04:55.760 --> 01:04:56.239
Is it too early?
01:04:56.639 --> 01:05:00.239
It's too early, but I do have some sense of where I'm going, right?
01:05:00.320 --> 01:05:10.320
I'm understanding more as I am learning that there is all the system, how much more important like all this advocacy skills I've developed, how it's important, right?
01:05:10.400 --> 01:05:19.920
And even more how policy is impacting what I can do and how I can practice, and really how much of you know, um, a barrier certain things can be.
01:05:20.079 --> 01:05:31.280
So I I want to continue building and growing my skills and advocacy and policy while I'm doing this like training and learning how to be a good doctor and learning how the systems work.
01:05:31.360 --> 01:05:48.400
Um and I also want to continue like growing my nonprofit, being able to connect people to advocates that will help them navigate the system so that when I am a full-fledged board certified physician, um, I have this program that you know can support my patients as I'm doing the doctoring.
01:05:48.559 --> 01:05:59.119
Um when I send them out with my treatment plan, I feel like there is a safety net in place for them that if they do need help, um, they can get that help and so that I can be a support.
01:05:59.440 --> 01:06:02.079
We will have all the details in the show notes, everything.
01:06:02.239 --> 01:06:05.360
We want to help you on the show, we want to help you in any way we can.
01:06:05.840 --> 01:06:08.480
So I appreciate you coming on the show.
01:06:09.280 --> 01:06:17.679
And uh I hope that we can get an update and all the organizations you talked about today and where folks can go to get some help will be very clear in the show notes.
01:06:17.760 --> 01:06:20.239
And you know, you you motivate me.
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Uh you really do, even at this later stage of my life to see somebody with so much energy and and to talk to somebody that just you know has her meaning at such an early point in her life, it's just it's extremely touching.
01:06:33.519 --> 01:06:37.599
And I want to do everything I can to share you with the world.
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And so if you ever feel like there's something you want to be talking about, you think there's some initiative, reach out to us and would like to have you back on.
01:06:45.920 --> 01:06:47.039
So I want to thank you again.
01:06:47.119 --> 01:06:55.599
Uh hopefully it won't be another two or three years that we that we talk again, but uh keep up the great work and folks, all the information will be in the show notes, as I mentioned.
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