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Are you a coach who's tired of drowning in complex
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marketing strategies? Welcome to Simple Client
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Attraction for Coaches, the bite -sized podcast
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that transforms how women coaches attract their
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ideal clients without the complicated systems
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or endless marketing tasks. I'm your host, Sandra
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Fidelis, and each episode I bring you straight
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talking conversations with successful coaches
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and industry experts. who share their most effective
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and simple client attraction strategies. Subscribe
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now and discover how to fill your practice with
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dream clients in less time than it takes to enjoy
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your morning coffee. Jill Giddings has four decades
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of dedicated experience in education in the health
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and wellness industry, and she brings extensive
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expertise in specialized programs for aging strong,
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holistic health and lifestyle. bloodies and full
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spectrum wellness. She has a comprehensive approach
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to health and life balance that encompasses renewed
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life trajectory guidance supported by multiple
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certifications and ongoing education. And today
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Jill is going to be talking to us about a topic
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that I'm very very interested in, which is how
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to go from overwhelmed to unstoppable, how successful
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women can transform their relationship with food
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and stress. So welcome, Jill. Thank you so much.
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I'm glad to be here. This is a topic that I am
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feeling like there's not enough people talking
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about out there, and that is what women, us women
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entrepreneurs do to ourselves. in the ups and
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downs of running a business. So can you share
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a little bit about what you see causes overwhelm
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in a busy entrepreneur's life? Yes, I would love
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to share my perspective on that. So I know as
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women in general, and I can speak for myself,
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the women closest to me, my sisters, my clients,
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I have found that most people are very eager
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to take on as much as possible, get as done as
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much as possible, produce, produce, produce.
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Some of us are a little bit attached to approval
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and validation and we are driven to take on even
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more. And I've also noticed that those of us
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that give a lot find people that love to put
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more on us. So the takers love to put more on
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the givers. And that whole system seems to perpetuate
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itself. And the next thing we know, we've kind
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of forgotten about us, because we're so tied
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into productivity, accomplishment, and getting
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the next thing done sooner than later, as well
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as we could possibly do it. Absolutely. Well,
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I know that for myself and other colleagues that
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I've spoken to about this, what happens is that
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with those ups and downs and with feeling like
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you are taking care of everybody else, and then
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also being an entrepreneur and knowing that there
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are ebbs and flows as an entrepreneur, what happens
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is we tend to I want to call it self -medicate
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but you know maybe grab something that's a little
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bit sugary when something's happened that makes
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us feel overwhelmed or grab a bag of chips or
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you know like there's different ways that we
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do that and it could be that it's not even just
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food right there's there's other ways that we
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self -suit so Can you speak to what is going
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on there when we're like reaching for that thing
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to give us comfort? So I like to use the word
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buffering. I am from a lifetime of not understanding
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my own buffering and a lot of it. is the conditioning,
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at least the way I was raised and I know many
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people that I know were raised. It's kind of
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a cultural thing to be validated for either getting
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good grades when you're a little kid or getting
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the job done at home and doing your chores or
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finishing the food on your plate where food is
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programmed into our mind as a reward and especially
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with emphasis on sweets. So when I'm in over
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my head and
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I'm exhausted and I'm just producing
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and getting stuff done, in my mind on some level,
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and maybe it's an eight year old just saying,
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I just want something sweet because it's getting
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really hard. And the hardest part about that
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is to realize that it's sabotaging the beautiful
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woman that's doing all this hard work in multiple
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ways. So part of what I've experienced and what
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I've learned is the deceptiveness of buffering
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with food because the cost is so high. Because
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after that happens habitually for an ongoing
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amount of time maybe months years, maybe a decade
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maybe a lifetime until we stop and realize that
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We're actually contaminating another part of
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our lives without realizing it and harming ourselves
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on some level that we're not and not meaning
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to ever Yeah, but really coming out of unconsciousness
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and realizing the choices and the cost Yeah so
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when you say like there's that eight -year -old
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inside of you that wants a little candy or something
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to be comforted how do you suggest we we deal
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with how do you suggest we what do you suggest
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we do with her so the eight -year -old the ten
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-year -old the seventeen -year -old they're all
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alive and well inside of each one of us beautiful
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individuals right and My experience is that when
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you plug into how incredibly valuable you are
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and stay conscious with your amazing value, then
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strategize. We need to have a strategy. We need
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to have a tool belt. We need to have alternative
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behaviors available that will comfort us and
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soothe us, but not cause our pants to get tight
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and our clothes size to change. It takes the
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willingness to be aware because Most problematic
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eating is unconscious in my experience. It's
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just autopilot who cares I'm just in that space
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and I just want to check out give me something
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Pleasurable for my brain so I could just detach
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from the task at hand. That's just knocking me
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out So I really believe strongly in the critical
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nature of some positive productive Some kind
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of strategy some kind of tool belt that is available
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for an easy and quick fix. There's even options
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to eat things that are good for us that can be
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quite satisfying that won't take us down that
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guilt road and chunky feeling road. Can you give
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us some examples for oh sure so you know I am
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a big proponent of I love first of all I love
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sweets but I've learned myself that if I have
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a beautiful nectarine or fresh grapes or watermelon
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It's just not anywhere near as damaging and it
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can be quite satisfying. But I have to, you know,
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have a chat with myself and over the years I
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have learned so much about foods and brain and
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how it affects my personality and how it affects
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your pancreas and then it leads to hormone imbalance
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and that's a whole other rabbit hole to the point
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now where I can't really do much of it anymore
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because I'm too aware of the price and I think
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the awareness Well, I'm sure of it. Awareness
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is the first tool and the first key to managing
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this and moving down a different path because
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the unconscious thing and the autopilot thing
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is very common, very easy and very sabotaging.
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So the first piece is recognizing that you are
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in this unconscious pattern. Yeah. And that we
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just reach for something that feels good at the
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time and Part of it's our conditioning and part
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of it's our belief system too if we're still
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living in the belief that Not that it's never
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gonna happen. Okay, so that's something I need
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to say it's it's never gonna not happen It's
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gonna happen once in a while and in the times
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that it does happen I think it's really important
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to give ourselves permission to enjoy it and
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be conscious like I'm gonna eat these little
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pieces of English toffee and I'm gonna enjoy
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them and it's a brief encounter
and I'm gonna
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get right back on track but overall being aware
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of it and not eating more things ongoing because
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I don't know about a lot of other people but
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I do know for myself and multiple women and clients
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I've spoken to in my life usually the guilt and
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the shame around indulging in something super
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carby and sugary leads to it something else a
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little more sugary and carby and because I feel
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bad that I did it and you know I've got a lot
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of guilt around it so if I can set that aside
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and allow myself time throughout my week, wherever,
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maybe on the weekend, to have something special
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and enjoy it without all that drama, without
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all the guilt and the head trip, you know. And
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even if I slip because I'm not totally on track
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all the time and triggerless if I get triggered,
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even if I slip, the ticket is always forgiving
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yourself and getting back on track. That way
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there's not that rabbit hole of going down and
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having more of the same and then it gets worse
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from there. The slippery slope is spiral. Yes.
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Yeah. So you talk about being unstoppable in
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business and in life. So what are some of the
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ways that you teach women to reorganize and to
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strategize to being unstoppable even though we
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have all this stuff on us and you know entrepreneurship
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brings even more on top of that so once again
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it's it's a sitting down with yourself and making
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a decision that's something you really want and
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when you really want something bad you get it
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in your nervous system like close your eyes and
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see yourself because your brain doesn't know
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what to do with negatives Your brain does not
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know what to do with negatives. So if you keep
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saying, I'm this, I'm that, and I'm not that,
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and I'm not this, it's like, okay, let's just
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keep doing the same thing. It doesn't change.
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But if you can sit tight, close your eyes and
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see yourself just crushing it and being unstoppable
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and you want that and you see it, then when these
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moments come up, we can go right to that movie.
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That is the movie I want. That is the trip I'm
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going on. That is the goal I want to attain.
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She's who I want to become. And when she's who
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I want to become, become so real and electric
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in our mind and in our body, that whole thought
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process will dominate and renew the path. It's
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when we stay in the old patterns, the old belief
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systems and the old fears that we repeat them.
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Because it's the software. The software always
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wins. software always wins. And if we don't change
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it up here, chances are pretty darn slim that
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we won't change it anywhere else. The behavior.
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Yeah. Yeah. So we always end every episode with
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a little nugget. So if you were to share a nugget
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that you want us to take away from all of this,
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what would that be? I would want to say to you,
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dear woman, whoever you are and whoever's listening,
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You are amazing. You are beautiful. There is
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only one you. And you deserve to be healthy,
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vibrant, focused, and successful. And we all
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struggle with those internal beliefs. And if
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we have them, where did they come from? Let's
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knock them out of the park and stick with the
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ones that are gonna get us where we wanna go.
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But it's the truth. You are very valuable and
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you are very precious. And there's only one you.
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So let's go for it. Beautiful. Can you share
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with everyone where they can get hold of you,
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learn more about you? And I know that you have
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a complimentary clarity call to share with everyone.
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Where can they go to get that? Well, for now,
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you can access me through the link. And I also
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have I'm in the process of becoming more available
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online. But right now, The paper bell link is
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the ticket and I'm happy to connect with people,
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do a consultation, complimentary and get to know
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you and see what's on your mind and what you
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might want to do for transition in your life.
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And I will also give you more personal information
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about how to contact me and go forward from that
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link. So we can start with that if that works.
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Excellent. Thank you so much, Jill. I love that.
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Thank you, Sandra. It's always a pleasure. Thank
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you so much for joining us on another episode
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