Full Transcript for Purpose Partners Part 3

cultural person. 00:04:35.519 --> 00:04:37.600 So personally, I don't have a religion. 00:04:38.160 --> 00:04:43.759 I I am, I do represent a culture called the Five Percent Nation or the Nation of Gods and Earths, right? 00:04:43.839 --> 00:04:45.839 Um, Alicia Christian. 00:04:45.920 --> 00:04:47.759 Um, and I so let me say this. 00:04:48.000 --> 00:04:51.519 Prior to me um going to prison, I was raised Baptist. 00:04:51.680 --> 00:04:56.720 I was a junior deacon in the church, and you know, it was it was I was I was involved in the church in the church. 00:04:56.800 --> 00:04:57.120 You know what I mean? 00:04:57.439 --> 00:04:58.399 The foundation was set, yeah. 00:04:58.560 --> 00:04:58.720 Absolutely. 00:05:00.560 --> 00:05:18.079 So I was able to definitely communicate and relate to Alicia um and her views spirit from a real religious perspective, spiritual, just as a person, we were able to dialogue, and that platform was never um you know uh challenged in any type of way because we both had our viewpoints and we respected them. 00:05:19.279 --> 00:05:20.720 That's what I'm trying to learn. 00:05:22.000 --> 00:05:23.439 Alicia gave me so much hope. 00:05:23.519 --> 00:05:24.959 I'll be like, girl, I don't know. 00:05:26.879 --> 00:05:29.439 I'm like, oh we we can't deal with the ones. 00:05:30.560 --> 00:05:33.920 Let me jump back into this because Alicia's gonna be really, really modest with this. 00:05:34.240 --> 00:05:38.879 And even though she says, like, you know, yeah, we we wrote children's books, and we did and we did. 00:05:38.959 --> 00:05:41.199 I I take no nothing away from that. 00:05:41.279 --> 00:05:42.160 We did that, right? 00:05:42.319 --> 00:05:45.920 But at the same time, Alicia put a lot of work in with regards to helping come home. 00:05:46.000 --> 00:05:48.000 I had it not been for Alicia, I wouldn't be that's what I was asking. 00:05:48.959 --> 00:05:49.519 Right into it. 00:05:49.600 --> 00:06:03.040 No, I mean I'm just I'm just being real, like you know, so just as much as I studied on the various varying degrees of you know religion and disciplines and things of that nature, I also studied my case because I was actually incarcerated for a crime that I didn't commit. 00:06:03.360 --> 00:06:21.920 I just had to come to terms with the fact that although I was in a in a situation that I personally felt like I shouldn't have been in, I had to come to terms with the fact that I did make some mistakes and I wasn't a perfect angel, and I was involved in activities that ultimately placed me in a situation to where I could even be wrongfully convicted, right? 00:06:22.079 --> 00:06:28.240 So after I got past that phase, then it moved it moved to okay, well, let's figure out how what we're gonna do to get out of here. 00:06:28.399 --> 00:06:37.839 So I fought for years and years and years to, you know, get out, and it just fell on my my my words and my motions and everything kind of like fell on deaf ears. 00:06:37.920 -->

00:06:41.759 I was I was taken by for so much money by attorneys, it was a lot. 00:06:41.920 --> 00:06:51.920 But long story short, when Alicia and I connected, um, and she she and I built the type of bond that we had, and she saw that I was serious because I know that's what it was predicated on. 00:06:52.000 --> 00:06:53.120 She just wanted to know I was serious. 00:06:53.600 --> 00:07:07.519 Because kind of what you were talking about a little bit earlier, in our culture, to a great degree, oftentimes when some of um they come back, they make all these promises that they're gonna be a certain way, and then when they come home, they do just the opposite. 00:07:07.600 --> 00:07:10.480 And I refuse to fall under that type of a statistic. 00:07:10.560 --> 00:07:14.639 I knew what I was standing on, but I just wanted to make sure that she understood what was going on. 00:07:14.720 --> 00:07:22.560 And I'm gonna be honest, at certain points, I think Alicia had more faith um in me getting the way I needed to than I did in my own self. 00:07:22.720 --> 00:07:40.879 Not that I didn't feel like I was worthy or anything like that, it's just that I had been through so much and and I had gone through so many different layers of you know recourse before she even came into my life at that time that I was kind of like uh but nevertheless, um, we we build it and Alicia saw what I saw. 00:07:41.040 --> 00:07:42.160 We bonded together. 00:07:42.319 --> 00:07:45.519 Alicia Alicia is a the let me tell you something. 00:07:45.839 --> 00:07:49.839 This woman, this woman, right? 00:07:50.720 --> 00:07:55.199 Her patience is she so her she'll tell you about her education. 00:07:55.439 --> 00:08:14.000 Yes, I I knew it at this time, but to even take it a next step further, she went back to learn criminal justice so that she can assist me with following the emotions because I had to no longer rely on attorneys because I had been took for so long. 00:08:14.079 --> 00:08:15.199 So I said I'm gonna do it myself. 00:08:15.360 --> 00:08:16.480 She said I'm gonna help you. 00:08:16.639 --> 00:08:16.879 Right. 00:08:17.199 --> 00:08:20.480 She did the footwork and made sure that those motions and things got turned in. 00:08:21.360 --> 00:08:30.000 Yeah, because it was a lot of um one thing about the system is once you get in there, it's easy to get in and hard to get out. 00:08:30.160 --> 00:08:30.319 Right. 00:08:30.399 --> 00:08:34.559 Yes, and they can know that you're innocent, that still holds you. 00:08:34.879 --> 00:08:35.279 Absolutely. 00:08:35.440 --> 00:08:44.159 And because we were fighting the way that we were fighting, the system noticed it, and it was and then he was very smart too, and they knew it. 00:08:44.320 --> 00:08:52.320 So they would do things, say they lost his file, they would send him 10, 11, 12 hours away from me, so I couldn't visit him. 00:08:52.559 --> 00:08:56.960 Yeah, um, they would just do a lot of backhanded stuff. 00:08:57.679 --> 00:09:04.000 And um I was like, I'll go downtown to Frank Murphy, we're gonna get this stamped. 00:09:04.080 --> 00:09:07.679 We I mean I had to do a lot, but it was worth it at the end of the day, right? 00:09:07.840 --> 00:09:14.399 Um even when he got his sentence overturned, they made him sit in the county almost another year. 00:09:14.559 --> 00:09:15.279 Yeah, really? 00:09:15.840 --> 00:09:17.519 Just just just sit for it. 00:09:17.919 --> 00:09:18.480 That's right. 00:09:18.639 --> 00:09:19.919 Oh it's a very real thing. 00:09:20.720 --> 00:09:28.159 I was I was one of the first people, and I don't think I've even heard of one after this, that not even on the soldier boy stuff, right? 00:09:28.399 --> 00:09:29.039 I was the first one. 00:09:29.360 --> 00:09:30.399 No, seriously, I was the first one. 00:09:30.559 --> 00:09:32.559 They they made me go back to see the parole board three times. 00:09:32.799 --> 00:09:33.440 Three times. 00:09:33.759 --> 00:09:35.039 Because I just couldn't believe it. 00:09:35.120 --> 00:09:38.080 It was just like, and sometimes go here back. 00:09:40.080 --> 00:09:41.440 I I thank you. 00:09:41.519 --> 00:09:51.360 I think I think what it was was most times, you know, a lot of people who may know and understand how the system goes, when you go for the parole board, it's one of two things. 00:09:51.519 --> 00:09:56.080 If you're going to admit that you did this crime or you're not coming home, right? 00:09:56.240 --> 00:09:57.120 I didn't admit it. 00:09:57.200 --> 00:09:57.440 Right. 00:09:57.519 --> 00:09:58.480 Because it just didn't happen. 00:10:00.240 --> 00:10:08.559 Listen, I I accept full responsibility for the life that I was living, for the circumstances around it, but I could not in good faith. 00:10:08.799 --> 00:10:09.200 Right. 00:10:09.360 --> 00:10:10.480 That's not your truth. 00:10:10.720 --> 00:10:12.399 I can't, yeah, you can't do that. 00:10:12.480 --> 00:10:13.919 So they made me go back a few times. 00:10:14.080 --> 00:10:14.399 Wow. 00:10:14.720 --> 00:10:22.399 To see if he would change those stories, see if they could be and I was there, I was his representative, like how we sit now, like how we were sitting in front of the parole board. 00:10:22.480 --> 00:10:24.240 So it was me, him, and my dad. 00:10:25.840 --> 00:10:28.159 Yeah, pops came in there at the last minute. 00:10:28.399 --> 00:10:30.960 He was there, and then they were just asking us questions. 00:10:31.440 --> 00:10:34.320 And because we had fought for so long, everything was together. 00:10:34.480 --> 00:10:35.759 Church support. 00:10:36.000 --> 00:10:37.360 I had letters wrote. 00:10:37.600 --> 00:10:39.440 I mean, I mean, it was just like, what's up? 00:10:39.519 --> 00:10:40.320 Let him out, right? 00:10:40.480 --> 00:10:46.000 You know, I couldn't believe that he had this much support, you know. 00:10:46.320 --> 00:10:50.480 And y'all had not been married yet, ladies. 00:10:50.639 --> 00:10:52.159 I need y'all

to pay attention. 00:10:52.320 --> 00:10:54.480 This is what I need y'all to hear from this story. 00:10:55.039 --> 00:10:57.360 Stop listening to your bitter little friend sometimes. 00:10:58.879 --> 00:11:03.120 Trust who you are in God, know what you are doing. 00:11:03.360 --> 00:11:10.879 Nobody a connection is a connection, and we can sometimes get in our own way with how things look. 00:11:11.519 --> 00:11:13.919 How this naughty girl, he's using you, he's doing it. 00:11:14.000 --> 00:11:15.840 I'm quite sure you heard all kinds of things. 00:11:17.360 --> 00:11:19.919 You no, okay, let's fast forward to today. 00:11:20.159 --> 00:11:27.919 Now, the accomplishments, it's not even about the accomplishments, how they are as a couple, y'all would have to know these two. 00:11:28.240 --> 00:11:38.240 And see, the thing they are so just in sync with each other, genuine, motivational, educated, fun. 00:11:38.879 --> 00:11:45.200 I mean, at least you don't drink, but I feel my friends, we hang out. 00:11:45.440 --> 00:11:47.440 But she'd be like, Shirley Temple. 00:11:47.600 --> 00:11:48.480 I'm like, all right. 00:11:51.759 --> 00:11:55.360 What a lot of people don't understand is is the respect. 00:11:55.679 --> 00:11:56.080 Yes. 00:11:56.320 --> 00:11:56.720 Absolutely. 00:11:57.120 --> 00:11:59.039 Respect goes a long way. 00:11:59.440 --> 00:11:59.919 Absolutely. 00:12:00.080 --> 00:12:08.000 And just how you just said that in the middle of you talking, and she you you thank her for letting you you know what I'm saying? 00:12:08.080 --> 00:12:20.159 Like it's little things, the little smallest things, as you can see, and and that's something from somebody from the outside looking in, like the respect is there, and it's not passive aggressive, it's not oh no, we had to shut her up. 00:12:20.879 --> 00:12:21.440 It's none of that. 00:12:21.600 --> 00:12:29.120 You guys are just very down to earth, and the accomplishments, the fact that you sat down all that time. 00:12:29.279 --> 00:12:32.720 Let me okay, I'm gonna segue into it because I told him I always forget his titles. 00:12:32.960 --> 00:12:46.240 Vic got a lot of titles off, but he is the first African-American journeyman, iron worker, iron worker, instructor in the state of Michigan. 00:12:46.799 --> 00:12:47.440 Do it again. 00:12:47.519 --> 00:12:48.320 Yes, Lord. 00:12:49.279 --> 00:12:54.559 Y'all understand how huge that is, how iconic that is. 00:12:54.799 --> 00:12:57.840 Also, a spirit of Detroit recipient. 00:12:59.279 --> 00:13:00.639 So that's his stuff. 00:13:00.960 --> 00:13:04.960 You're gonna go to the leash in a second, but iron sharpens iron. 00:13:05.039 --> 00:13:06.159 I say it all the time. 00:13:06.240 --> 00:13:08.399 It's the word, it's it's the word. 00:13:08.639 --> 00:13:09.919 Iron sharpened iron. 00:13:10.320 --> 00:13:12.879 You definitely found your rib. 00:13:12.960 --> 00:13:18.559 I don't see too many people that I can say through all they've been through. 00:13:19.120 --> 00:13:20.799 Well, I'm gonna be honest, like good. 00:13:21.120 --> 00:13:25.440 And to be honest, this might sound crazy, but it's honestly not true. 00:13:25.679 --> 00:13:31.759 We've never broken up, we've never talked about separating, even when you're on the inside. 00:13:32.399 --> 00:13:35.279 It's never been, oh, I need some space, it's not working out. 00:13:35.440 --> 00:13:38.480 It's never been never, and not no cut. 00:13:38.559 --> 00:13:39.679 Oh, the baby in the ear, y'all. 00:13:39.759 --> 00:13:40.879 I can't say what I really want to say. 00:13:41.120 --> 00:13:41.840 Hey boom. 00:13:43.440 --> 00:13:45.120 The baby girl in here, true boo. 00:13:45.279 --> 00:13:48.399 That's the true baby in here, but close your ears, true. 00:13:54.320 --> 00:14:03.519 I'm just saying the physical things in life that have to occur. 00:14:03.679 --> 00:14:06.639 Yeah, but you know, and that's the honesty, that's that's the truth. 00:14:06.799 --> 00:14:09.919 And um what you see really is what you get. 00:14:10.320 --> 00:14:12.799 You know, um, nothing is perfect. 00:14:12.879 --> 00:14:13.759 Do he get on my nerve? 00:14:13.840 --> 00:14:14.000 Yes. 00:14:14.080 --> 00:14:14.879 Do I get on his nerve? 00:14:14.960 --> 00:14:15.120 Yes. 00:14:15.440 --> 00:14:16.480 I mean, that's just what it is. 00:14:16.879 --> 00:14:25.519 But for sure, he's not beating, he not cheating, he not um not coming home at night, he not um cussing me out, calling me out my name behind closed doors. 00:14:25.600 --> 00:14:27.120 It's it's it's none of that. 00:14:27.279 --> 00:14:29.919 You know, um, we communicate well. 00:14:30.080 --> 00:14:31.440 When I'm mad, got an attitude. 00:14:31.519 --> 00:14:32.080 I don't even talk. 00:14:32.159 --> 00:14:32.960 I'll be like, whatever. 00:14:33.679 --> 00:14:35.039 I can't even see her being mad. 00:14:35.440 --> 00:14:42.000 That's just me, you know, and vice versa with him, but we we communicate well and we you know get through it. 00:14:42.240 --> 00:14:49.440 Um also I think with our marriage too, that's that helps us a lot is that we ourselves. 00:14:50.080 --> 00:14:50.480 Exactly. 00:14:50.639 --> 00:14:52.000 Um, we don't play roles. 00:14:52.480 --> 00:14:59.120 And what I mean by, you know, sometimes people get caught up, I'm married, I have to act a certain way because I'm a married woman or a married man. 00:14:59.440 --> 00:15:01.200 No, you act yourself like me. 00:15:01.279 --> 00:15:02.000 I talk back. 00:15:02.240 --> 00:15:02.559 Hella. 00:15:02.879 --> 00:15:07.200 If something don't, and he understands if something's stupid to me, um, that's stupid. 00:15:07.759 --> 00:15:10.000 I mean, you know, and he knows that I'm like that. 00:15:10.240 --> 00:15:15.200 And if we disagree on something, we're gonna disagree on it, we're gonna get past it and we're gonna keep it moving. 00:15:15.279 --> 00:15:16.639 I don't have to play a role. 00:15:16.879 --> 00:15:18.639 No, I

don't cook five times a week. 00:15:18.799 --> 00:15:18.879 Right. 00:15:19.039 --> 00:15:20.720 I work and grind just like he does. 00:15:20.799 --> 00:15:21.039 Yep. 00:15:21.200 --> 00:15:23.039 So whoever called first, what is it, baby? 00:15:23.120 --> 00:15:23.840 What we eating today? 00:15:24.080 --> 00:15:26.720 Oh, I'm over here on um in Southfield, I'm passing the subject. 00:15:26.799 --> 00:15:28.159 So all right, bring me a corned beef home. 00:15:28.639 --> 00:15:29.360 Or vice versa. 00:15:29.519 --> 00:15:30.720 We just do what works for us. 00:15:30.879 --> 00:15:38.000 That is very important to say, and that's what I that's why I wanted to do these segments and do things speaking with married couples. 00:15:38.080 --> 00:15:39.279 And I always forget my questions. 00:15:39.440 --> 00:15:41.919 My producer, co-producer on Kid Cole gets on me. 00:15:42.000 --> 00:15:44.320 But she was like, Really, you forgot to ask the question. 00:15:44.559 --> 00:15:45.840 So give me the question, Nicole. 00:15:48.320 --> 00:15:50.799 How do you uh as far as anger? 00:15:50.879 --> 00:15:54.320 How do you handle your anger when you actually are mad with one another? 00:15:54.480 --> 00:15:55.200 I don't talk to them. 00:15:55.360 --> 00:15:56.720 She just don't I just get quiet. 00:15:56.879 --> 00:15:57.840 Now, how do you value it? 00:15:58.320 --> 00:15:59.440 Even when he wants to talk. 00:15:59.600 --> 00:16:01.039 No, when he wants to talk, we talk. 00:16:01.519 --> 00:16:03.039 But he knows when I'm either type of people. 00:16:03.279 --> 00:16:06.559 So so I'll be so there's three points I'll I'll go back to. 00:16:06.799 --> 00:16:12.000 Like one of the first ones is I come from a family of dominant women. 00:16:12.240 --> 00:16:14.799 All the women in my family are dominant, right? 00:16:14.960 --> 00:16:17.279 My mother ran the household, right? 00:16:17.600 --> 00:16:19.840 That's not to say that my dad was weak, right? 00:16:19.919 --> 00:16:23.679 That's just to say that he played his role, my mother played her role, and that's just what it was. 00:16:23.840 --> 00:16:24.240 Exactly. 00:16:24.399 --> 00:16:24.720 Right? 00:16:24.960 --> 00:16:26.639 We strong black women. 00:16:26.720 --> 00:16:28.320 Yes, that's what I came from, right? 00:16:28.480 --> 00:16:33.840 And to be quite honest, I don't even think that I would feel comfortable being with a woman who didn't have that type of personality or character. 00:16:34.000 --> 00:16:36.399 It wouldn't make sense to me because I'm a dominant dude. 00:16:36.559 --> 00:16:37.120 Yes, right. 00:16:37.600 --> 00:16:48.639 I I I wouldn't, I'm not the type of person that's gonna like mess over you, but in my mind, I do understand that I need somebody who has you gotta sharpen me. 00:16:48.799 --> 00:16:54.720 Yes, you know, if I'm always the one that's initiating something and you're just going alone, that's not helping me, right? 00:16:54.799 --> 00:16:55.120 Right? 00:16:55.200 --> 00:16:56.399 That that's the first thing, right? 00:16:56.480 --> 00:16:58.399 So I respect my wife. 00:16:58.559 --> 00:17:01.360 Yeah, I love my wife, I don't want to lose my wife. 00:17:01.600 --> 00:17:02.159 That's right. 00:17:02.399 --> 00:17:03.440 You understand what I'm saying? 00:17:03.519 --> 00:17:07.759 So it's not a situation where it's not a difficult decision for me. 00:17:07.839 --> 00:17:21.119 I mean, we go through our things, but my thing is we knew coming to our union even before we got married, that I'm not she's not me, I'm not her, I'm not gonna always see things her way, she's not gonna always see things my way. 00:17:21.279 --> 00:17:28.960 And to be quite honest, for like what the first eight, maybe like eight or nine years, we didn't even have a disagreement. 00:17:29.440 --> 00:17:34.160 It's possible, it's possible, and I have a friend, like I I believe it. 00:17:34.240 --> 00:17:38.960 I just it wasn't when he married, but I'm saying I have a friend I never argue with to this day. 00:17:39.359 --> 00:17:51.119 We don't argue, it's a it was almost as if we understood one another, we we um again we respected one another to the extent. 00:17:51.200 --> 00:18:03.279 Um, and the other the other thing I think more importantly than I like I came equipped with with various various qualities on my end. 00:18:03.359 --> 00:18:12.720 Like this, like you said, sometimes she might not cook, um she might not like I cook, I clean, I sew, I do everything. 00:18:13.359 --> 00:18:14.400 My mother raised me. 00:18:14.480 --> 00:18:18.559 Like, you don't really need nobody unless you just want to deal with them, right? 00:18:18.720 --> 00:18:21.920 Right, but I also understand that it's a give and take. 00:18:22.000 --> 00:18:25.359 She might she her job is probably more difficult than mine. 00:18:25.599 --> 00:18:34.960 Whether I'm out in the field on walking in 120 feet in the air, she got babies she's raising on top of her going to work, dealing with thousands of other people's babies. 00:18:35.039 --> 00:18:40.079 Yeah, so mentally and emotionally being trained, I have to consider that as well. 00:18:40.160 --> 00:18:41.519 It's not just all physical. 00:18:41.599 --> 00:18:43.839 Yeah, so I know she needs to break too. 00:18:44.160 --> 00:18:44.720 You know what I'm saying? 00:18:44.799 --> 00:18:49.920 She comes on, she might want to just go out and ride for a minute or go hang out with one of her girls, whatever. 00:18:50.079 --> 00:18:50.880 She might baby go. 00:18:51.039 --> 00:18:51.839 Um, you watch truth. 00:18:52.319 --> 00:18:53.279 Yes, yeah, yeah. 00:18:53.440 --> 00:18:54.400 You always have truth. 00:18:54.640 --> 00:18:56.799 You know, I mean, you always have your daughter. 00:18:56.960 --> 00:18:58.480 That's I mean, there's nothing wrong with that. 00:18:58.559 --> 00:18:59.440 And that's his daughter. 00:18:59.599 --> 00:19:01.200 And it's not a control thing. 00:19:01.599 --> 00:19:05.680 Um, if I want to go

somewhere or do something, hey baby, I got this to do. 00:19:05.839 --> 00:19:07.839 I'm going to brush with the lake or whatever. 00:19:07.920 --> 00:19:08.079 Okay. 00:19:08.400 --> 00:19:09.039 It's what it is. 00:19:09.119 --> 00:19:09.920 We're going to make it work. 00:19:10.319 --> 00:19:11.119 And vice versa. 00:19:11.279 --> 00:19:13.759 And if he got something to do, true, you're going with mommy. 00:19:13.920 --> 00:19:16.720 You know, that's just like I take her to get her nails done when I go. 00:19:16.960 --> 00:19:20.079 He took her just the other day. 00:19:20.319 --> 00:19:21.759 And so he ended up getting this feedback. 00:19:21.920 --> 00:19:24.000 I got my foot, my foot, like my rookie thing. 00:19:25.440 --> 00:19:29.759 You know, just to be honest, um, he makes my life easy. 00:19:29.839 --> 00:19:32.799 Like with grocery shopping, I don't have to run home and say, I got a grocery shopper. 00:19:33.119 --> 00:19:33.200 Yeah. 00:19:34.319 --> 00:19:34.960 Some partnership. 00:19:35.200 --> 00:19:39.440 He's gonna come home, put the groceries up, he's gonna wash the clothes. 00:19:39.680 --> 00:19:42.480 Um, even at night, I like to drink water at night. 00:19:42.720 --> 00:19:48.640 He always makes sure if I fall asleep, I'm gonna wake up, it's gonna be ice water by the bed because he just knows that's my routine. 00:19:49.200 --> 00:19:57.839 Um I love them, they give me and it's crazy because people now they think they're perfect. 00:19:57.920 --> 00:20:06.000 No, no, perfect, no, no things be perfect, but we just we do have a less healthy memory, and it's okay, and and don't downplay that. 00:20:06.079 --> 00:20:11.200 No, no, no, no, I tell people no, leave they are perfect, they're perfect for each other, leave them alone. 00:20:11.440 --> 00:20:17.119 Like even when we got married, like for real, like we just being straight up and uh I we've had this conversation before. 00:20:17.200 --> 00:20:20.640 I know if I had to actually be married while I was in prison, yeah. 00:20:20.880 --> 00:20:24.319 I just felt like she deserved way more than that, you know. 00:20:24.480 --> 00:20:28.960 I knew that my goal was to come home, and that's what I want us to accomplish together. 00:20:29.119 --> 00:20:29.839 We did that. 00:20:30.000 --> 00:20:31.279 How did you ask? 00:20:31.680 --> 00:20:34.799 Oh, okay, so it's crazy, right? 00:20:34.960 --> 00:20:41.440 So I already knew in my mind that I wanted to, and by this time, she was already pregnant with truth. 00:20:41.680 --> 00:20:43.279 That was like seven, eight months pregnant, right? 00:20:43.519 --> 00:20:45.440 Yeah, his birthday party that I planned. 00:20:47.119 --> 00:20:55.519 So so I I went to her dad, I mean her dad like super tight, and you know, I did things the way that I would want someone to do that with my daughter. 00:20:55.599 --> 00:21:11.599 I went to her dad, explained to him, you know, he me and him had already developed a relationship and stuff, and I told him, I said, listen, man, um uh at you know, after this baby shower, I'm going to uh propose to Alicia and him, but I just want to talk to you face to face and let you know that that's what it was, man. 00:21:11.680 --> 00:21:13.519 You know, get your blessing, so on and so forth. 00:21:13.599 --> 00:21:16.799 And he was like, Oh man, I yeah, you know, yeah, we we release tight, right? 00:21:17.119 --> 00:21:17.920 And I already knew it. 00:21:18.079 --> 00:21:21.759 So I don't really celebrate birthdays like that. 00:21:21.839 --> 00:21:24.559 It's just it ain't really nothing over the top. 00:21:24.640 --> 00:21:26.559 But Alicia always wanted to celebrate, which is cool. 00:21:26.640 --> 00:21:27.279 And I'm I'm with you. 00:21:27.440 --> 00:21:29.519 She wanted me to do it, I'm gonna do it, I'm doing right. 00:21:29.759 --> 00:21:32.160 So she did all of this planning and all this other stuff. 00:21:32.240 --> 00:21:33.680 She didn't even know I already went and had a ring. 00:21:33.759 --> 00:21:37.759 I had a ring made, I wouldn't have had a ring made, everything all together and stuff. 00:21:37.920 --> 00:21:43.119 And so during the party, everybody was over there, you know, talking about my birthday and stuff like that. 00:21:43.200 --> 00:21:45.279 And I already talked to the DJ and stuff. 00:21:45.440 --> 00:21:50.559 And I went over there, I played it off like I had left one of the gifts off the car because I had her something. 00:21:51.039 --> 00:21:52.640 I went over there and I had the registry. 00:21:57.440 --> 00:21:58.160 I didn't cry. 00:21:58.319 --> 00:21:59.279 She said, I ain't crying. 00:22:00.400 --> 00:22:01.519 I'm like, yeah. 00:22:06.559 --> 00:22:06.720 Okay. 00:22:11.279 --> 00:22:12.640 Let's push this baby out. 00:22:16.319 --> 00:22:20.799 But um, you know, it's it's a little bit it's a blessing. 00:22:21.039 --> 00:22:23.119 Um, it's a blessing. 00:22:23.359 --> 00:22:26.000 We don't like in our we don't even talk about infidelity. 00:22:26.640 --> 00:22:28.319 But that was gonna be you read my mind. 00:22:28.400 --> 00:22:29.839 You already know the questions that's about to come up. 00:22:29.920 --> 00:22:31.920 Yeah, we don't even talk about infidelity. 00:22:32.079 --> 00:22:37.279 Um, we don't, for instance, he didn't dealt with people before me, I didn't dealt with people before him. 00:22:37.359 --> 00:22:37.519 Right. 00:22:37.839 --> 00:22:41.920 And our motto is if you dealt with somebody, let me know what's up. 00:22:42.000 --> 00:22:44.640 Because I don't never want to be in a room with somebody and look crazy. 00:22:44.960 --> 00:22:53.599 That part, and it's funny because it's so many people that I've known he didn't dealt with in the past before me, and they don't even know that I know, right? 00:22:53.839 --> 00:22:56.480 But I know that I know, you know, but it doesn't matter. 00:22:56.559 --> 00:23:01.680 I'm the wife, so what we're talking before, but um vice versa with him. 00:23:02.240

--> 00:23:04.079 Um, and I'm nice to everybody. 00:23:04.240 --> 00:23:09.759 You are um absolutely, and um, this is like my role, you know. 00:23:09.920 --> 00:23:15.680 We he's the one, let's go out of town, let's go eat, let's go, like we went to the concert the other night, you know. 00:23:15.759 --> 00:23:17.599 Let's go, we this is my role, you know. 00:23:17.839 --> 00:23:19.759 True older now, so she hangs with us, of course. 00:23:19.839 --> 00:23:21.599 Ray, he getting Ray to graduate. 00:23:21.680 --> 00:23:25.519 Yes, and then you know, my son, he's very um instrumental in my son's life. 00:23:26.079 --> 00:23:27.359 Um, they're like this. 00:23:27.519 --> 00:23:29.119 He's really hands-on with my son. 00:23:29.200 --> 00:23:31.039 My son is doing really, really, really well. 00:23:31.279 --> 00:23:38.799 So I'm thankful for that, you know, because you know, oftentimes you could be with somebody and your kids don't have a relationship with them, right? 00:23:39.039 --> 00:23:40.079 That becomes a problem. 00:23:40.240 --> 00:23:42.480 Yes, we don't have that issue in our home. 00:23:42.640 --> 00:23:46.720 Um, and we're on the same page about a lot of stuff. 00:23:47.039 --> 00:23:47.920 That's the key right there. 00:23:48.079 --> 00:23:50.880 Like literally, when he go places, I can't wait till he gets home. 00:23:50.960 --> 00:23:51.519 What happens? 00:23:58.079 --> 00:23:59.519 Right, but it's like get home. 00:23:59.599 --> 00:24:01.599 I'll be like, all right, I'm gonna try to stay up. 00:24:02.559 --> 00:24:11.599 And it's like I think, and I think that's what makes it better because we're not trying to look a certain way, exactly. 00:24:11.759 --> 00:24:25.200 So, and another thing too, while while while we like on that, like seriously, and I'm not about to say this to try to act like I'm a perfect person, because I could have just as easily been different, it's just the way that I was raised. 00:24:25.440 --> 00:24:33.519 I never cheated on a woman in my life ever, and people would think contrary to because I was very familiar with women, right? 00:24:33.759 --> 00:24:48.240 Yes, but the way that my mother raised me, my mother was real wrong, she just rob a real she just told me, like, you know, I remember growing up, and she just be telling me, like, you don't have to lie to no woman. 00:24:48.880 --> 00:24:51.680 You pick who you want to pick, and if you want to deal with them, cool. 00:24:51.759 --> 00:24:53.279 If they want to deal with you, they're gonna deal with them. 00:24:54.319 --> 00:24:55.759 This is my mom, real talk. 00:24:55.920 --> 00:24:58.160 You can have as many women as you want to. 00:24:58.799 --> 00:25:00.079 That is her, right? 00:25:00.319 --> 00:25:01.359 Just don't lie to them. 00:25:01.680 --> 00:25:13.680 Don't try to you love them if you don't, don't do none of that because they're gonna make the decision as to whether don't trick them, don't try to don't do that because what you do then, now you put blemishes on your record. 00:25:13.759 --> 00:25:15.839 She used to always say that to me, right? 00:25:15.920 --> 00:25:23.599 And so I always just said in my mind, I would just tell them straight up, look, now if we're dealing with each other, this is what it is, you know, on that tip, and that's just what it was. 00:25:23.680 --> 00:25:28.319 So I never had to like, oh my whole life, I've only had maybe five girlfriends. 00:25:29.359 --> 00:25:30.799 Y'all are just so darn cute. 00:25:30.960 --> 00:25:31.920 No, I'm serious though. 00:25:32.000 --> 00:25:33.200 Like, you know, it's it's it's what it is. 00:25:33.359 --> 00:25:36.559 I'm washed up out because of the aginess. 00:25:37.279 --> 00:25:45.599 Well, it's funny because when he was locked up, I thought it was no pressure because in my mind, I'm like, okay, you've been gone 18 years. 00:25:45.839 --> 00:25:49.839 Oh man, yeah, you might want to come home and do your thing, and I'm cool with that. 00:25:50.319 --> 00:25:52.160 I remember when I first met you, you you said that. 00:25:52.319 --> 00:25:53.440 Yeah, I was like, You told me that. 00:25:53.599 --> 00:25:55.039 But if you want to do this, we can do this. 00:25:55.119 --> 00:25:58.400 But I ain't stressing, I ain't tripping because I know you've been gone for 18 years. 00:26:00.720 --> 00:26:02.559 Let me you can tell that part of the story. 00:26:02.640 --> 00:26:05.440 But and even when I would visit him, I'm just being real. 00:26:05.839 --> 00:26:08.720 Um, I will go visit him. 00:26:08.960 --> 00:26:15.839 I will hope I'll be at the uh vending machine eating the food, looking back, let me make sure them niggas ain't talking to itself. 00:26:19.359 --> 00:26:23.599 And then at the time, that's when them uh police was cutting women up with little children. 00:26:23.920 --> 00:26:27.039 So I asked him, I said, Do you think you need to go to bed? 00:26:28.240 --> 00:26:33.759 Right, I didn't think you know because these people out here is you and all, but that don't mean you ain't crazy, you know. 00:26:33.839 --> 00:26:34.799 He's like, I'm good, I'm good. 00:26:34.880 --> 00:26:35.680 I'm like, You sure? 00:26:35.759 --> 00:26:38.400 Because I I support you 100% if you need that, you know. 00:26:38.559 --> 00:26:39.359 I'm just being real. 00:26:39.599 --> 00:26:41.200 We got quite a few comments coming in. 00:26:41.279 --> 00:26:43.200 Let me go back and try to catch some of these comments. 00:26:43.279 --> 00:26:44.240 Y'all I'm not ignoring y'all. 00:26:44.319 --> 00:26:44.559 We're just gonna go. 00:26:50.240 --> 00:26:55.039 She was like, Now, if you come when you come home, now you you make the decision what you want to do. 00:26:55.359 --> 00:26:56.079 Right, right. 00:26:56.400 --> 00:27:02.480 I know you've been gone for a while, but when you come home, you make the decision what you're gonna do because I'm not gonna be looking crazy. 00:27:02.720 --> 00:27:02.960 That's right. 00:27:03.279 --> 00:27:05.119

You are gonna do what you're gonna do, don't do it. 00:27:05.279 --> 00:27:07.039 What you're not gonna do with me that's right. 00:27:08.960 --> 00:27:11.440 I mean, that's the it's an ultimatum, but it's not, it's it's the truth. 00:27:12.079 --> 00:27:12.960 I hope you get off. 00:27:14.160 --> 00:27:15.279 All right, so yes. 00:27:15.519 --> 00:27:16.319 Oh, you wanna read it? 00:27:16.400 --> 00:27:17.359 Yeah, I'm gonna ask okay. 00:27:17.440 --> 00:27:18.079 She's gonna ask the question. 00:27:18.240 --> 00:27:19.759 I'm gonna read the comments in the second job. 00:27:20.000 --> 00:27:24.559 The in-laws and while he was, you know, locked up and then he came out. 00:27:24.640 --> 00:27:26.640 How did how do you all deal with in-laws? 00:27:26.799 --> 00:27:27.599 I'll just leave it. 00:27:29.039 --> 00:27:34.160 Oh, well when his his mom was sick, I helped take care of his mom while he was locked up. 00:27:34.799 --> 00:27:38.640 Um I met his mom while he was locked up and I was by her dead side. 00:27:39.200 --> 00:27:40.400 His mom is she passed on. 00:27:43.839 --> 00:27:44.160 Yeah. 00:27:44.400 --> 00:27:53.519 And um right now, even right now, it's all good, but we have a close sanctuary in our home. 00:27:53.920 --> 00:27:57.200 And it's not that uh we're acting funny or anything like that. 00:27:57.279 --> 00:28:00.319 But before he came home, I had already built a life. 00:28:00.640 --> 00:28:01.119 Exactly. 00:28:01.359 --> 00:28:03.599 So I'm very big on protecting my peace. 00:28:04.480 --> 00:28:08.559 So not to be funny, everybody can't come to my house. 00:28:09.119 --> 00:28:12.480 Um, uh my kids can't stay at everybody's house. 00:28:12.640 --> 00:28:14.799 Okay, and it's nothing personal, it's just me. 00:28:14.880 --> 00:28:15.680 And he respects us. 00:28:16.880 --> 00:28:20.640 Um it's all love, it's all respect, but I have boundaries. 00:28:20.799 --> 00:28:38.079 Yes, and um I marry him, you know, and I love my in-laws, not nothing, you know, negative or anything of that nature, but you have and I I work so hard for what I have prior to him coming home. 00:28:38.319 --> 00:28:43.359 So they never interfered, is what like they never interfered as far as like, are you sure you want to do this? 00:28:43.440 --> 00:28:45.359 Or no, it's the long side of business. 00:28:45.920 --> 00:28:49.039 I mean, don't get me wrong, like my father, I'm a daddy's girl. 00:28:49.440 --> 00:28:55.039 So quite naturally, he was my dad's talk every day, two or three times a day, even to this day. 00:28:55.279 --> 00:28:56.799 Um, he on here now, I think. 00:28:58.160 --> 00:28:58.960 My mom is on here too. 00:28:59.200 --> 00:28:59.920 That's all I'm about to see. 00:29:00.880 --> 00:29:06.000 Um my dad was a little concerned, but I mean, rightfully so, I'm the only girl. 00:29:06.400 --> 00:29:10.960 I done went to college, got all these degrees, and now I'm telling you, uh, he's in prison, but I love him. 00:29:11.039 --> 00:29:11.759 You like what? 00:29:13.200 --> 00:29:16.960 He's so smart, but she's like a little tough. 00:29:18.880 --> 00:29:20.960 You know, you give some of the money back. 00:29:22.000 --> 00:29:31.039 You were just saying already, you know, but um turning out to be a great thing, and you know, my daddy to this day family, like he that's really, yeah. 00:29:31.359 --> 00:29:36.799 And then you know, like back to what you were saying, I lost I ain't gonna say I lost a lot of friends, but I had to leave people alone. 00:29:36.880 --> 00:29:39.839 Yeah, because the negative with negativity was on a all time high. 00:29:40.079 --> 00:29:44.480 Oh, yeah, but you think you know, and sometimes it's funny because I'll be like, what if I would have listened to the Nate Sayers? 00:29:44.559 --> 00:29:45.440 I'm gonna even have my good old hood. 00:29:45.599 --> 00:29:47.200 You wouldn't have your good old hood for now, you know. 00:29:49.599 --> 00:29:56.720 You know, I can attest to that in in a form she know her in the world know. 00:29:57.200 --> 00:30:03.680 Um because I you get people who be like, Well, what can he do for you? 00:30:04.319 --> 00:30:11.200 And the f the first thing I can say is that he loves like that love is unmatched. 00:30:11.519 --> 00:30:17.599 I've never had that, and it's crazy, but a lot of people are like, Well, that's that can fade. 00:30:17.839 --> 00:30:29.759 So can money, absolutely, you know, money can pay, your life can fade, you can lose a limb, you can lose an organ, you can lose a whole lot of stuff, but that love it can fade, but it's not gonna go away. 00:30:30.480 --> 00:30:31.599 If that makes sense. 00:30:32.000 --> 00:30:35.920 Well, I mean, you're talking about it for a relationship or you're talking about your dad? 00:30:36.079 --> 00:30:36.720 Who are you talking about? 00:30:37.039 --> 00:30:39.119 No, I'm talking about no, my dad's gone. 00:30:39.279 --> 00:30:40.000 I know dad's gone. 00:30:40.079 --> 00:30:40.400 I'm sorry. 00:30:40.559 --> 00:30:41.839 No, I'm talking about this person. 00:30:42.000 --> 00:30:44.319 Okay, because that's what I was like, uh, we're gonna we talk about today. 00:30:44.799 --> 00:30:50.640 We talk about the No, I only said that because of what you guys are saying. 00:30:50.720 --> 00:30:52.720 It's like I get questioned about it all the time. 00:30:53.119 --> 00:30:55.279 Yeah, what why is it that? 00:30:55.519 --> 00:30:57.680 And that's your relationship though, right? 00:30:57.839 --> 00:30:58.960 That's what I tell her all the time. 00:30:59.039 --> 00:31:00.799 If if it if you like it, I love it. 00:31:01.119 --> 00:31:09.039 Now long as you're not crying, sad and all of that, and I don't, then you be happy, be happy. 00:31:09.200 --> 00:31:10.799 Because that's what I'm learning from this. 00:31:10.960 --> 00:31:15.200 I am I've always been, y'all say, I'm too rigid, I'm too, he gotta be this. 00:31:15.359 --> 00:31:23.680 I've got this checklist in my mind, and I'm like,

I'm too old for this, and he needs to be, he should be this way by this time, and this is that. 00:31:24.000 --> 00:31:26.160 And that's not everybody's story. 00:31:26.640 --> 00:31:29.759 If you would have thought like that, you wouldn't have your good old luck. 00:31:30.480 --> 00:31:33.759 If you'd have thought, like, oh well, no, he's got this situation. 00:31:33.920 --> 00:31:46.799 Even if he wasn't incarcerated, even if that never happened, just the fact of dating, just the fact of having premarital sex, just the fact of getting pregnant before you get married, those are all things like how I grew up. 00:31:46.960 --> 00:31:48.720 I'm like, oh no, I can't do that. 00:31:49.039 --> 00:31:52.000 But that led you to everything happened for a reason. 00:31:52.880 --> 00:31:53.839 That led you to who you with. 00:31:54.240 --> 00:31:57.759 Like we so tight, like, like you said, yeah, you found your person. 00:31:58.160 --> 00:32:07.200 You know how some individuals in relationships, like you know how a guy or a girl could have a they got sitting around the table, right? 00:32:07.599 --> 00:32:08.400 Having dinner. 00:32:08.640 --> 00:32:10.799 When I got to go to the bathroom, they gotta grab their phone. 00:32:11.119 --> 00:32:12.559 Can I see the phone on it? 00:32:12.640 --> 00:32:15.680 Like not, I got two phones. 00:32:15.920 --> 00:32:18.000 Yeah, like I don't understand and stuff like that. 00:32:19.599 --> 00:32:20.559 I be playing games. 00:32:20.640 --> 00:32:21.279 That's why I take it. 00:32:22.880 --> 00:32:26.000 Like, you know, I got a third phone at home that I keep securely. 00:32:26.480 --> 00:32:27.680 I be playing solitaire though. 00:32:27.759 --> 00:32:29.359 I ain't trying to hide the phone when I go in the bathroom. 00:32:29.440 --> 00:32:30.240 I'll be playing the games. 00:32:30.400 --> 00:32:32.079 But all my passwords. 00:32:32.799 --> 00:32:34.160 When he's the direct deposit here. 00:32:34.400 --> 00:32:34.880 And she should. 00:32:35.119 --> 00:32:36.960 And she's the right deposit here every week. 00:32:37.039 --> 00:32:37.519 I know. 00:32:40.559 --> 00:32:47.440 And just and I'm just being honest, like, even when it comes to finances, I'm an educator, I got a career. 00:32:47.839 --> 00:32:48.799 I make salary. 00:32:49.200 --> 00:32:50.480 And let's tap into that real quick. 00:32:50.559 --> 00:32:55.920 I'm sorry, because I still hear his accolades, but Alicia has her book, she has Vicky Mac, she has lipstick. 00:32:56.079 --> 00:32:57.279 We gotta talk about the lipstick. 00:32:57.519 --> 00:33:02.079 Yeah, I got two, I got two master's degrees' degrees that I got when I was 31. 00:33:02.160 --> 00:33:03.119 I'm 44 now. 00:33:03.759 --> 00:33:07.680 Um, I'm into public speaking, so you be seeing me soon. 00:33:07.920 --> 00:33:09.279 He's into public speaking. 00:33:09.440 --> 00:33:10.319 They're both actors. 00:33:10.400 --> 00:33:11.599 They we forgot about that part. 00:33:11.680 --> 00:33:12.559 Yeah,

we do a couple of things. 00:33:12.640 --> 00:33:14.880 They do a couple, and the baby too. 00:33:15.119 --> 00:33:16.400 The baby in the movie, too. 00:33:16.640 --> 00:33:18.079 They the acting family. 00:33:18.319 --> 00:33:19.279 But go ahead, I'm sorry. 00:33:20.319 --> 00:33:25.599 And um, just being honest, my husband, you haven't even known my salary yet. 00:33:25.920 --> 00:33:29.279 Oh no, he don't finance myself, he don't know when I get it. 00:33:29.359 --> 00:33:30.480 She has her own bank account. 00:33:30.559 --> 00:33:31.680 I have my own bank account. 00:33:31.759 --> 00:33:34.000 We have a joint account, and that's it, and that's it. 00:33:34.160 --> 00:33:40.880 Like, I don't so when it comes to my finances, if I wake up and be like, I want to go buy me a new truck tomorrow, he'd be like, All right, what time you want to go? 00:33:41.920 --> 00:33:47.119 Oh, baby, I need you to help me do like and done it, and and the thing about it is that I love it that way. 00:33:47.279 --> 00:33:51.680 Like when Christmas and holidays come around, if I want to go out and buy him something, I got my own bread. 00:33:51.920 --> 00:33:52.160 Exactly. 00:33:52.400 --> 00:33:52.799 I can do that. 00:33:52.880 --> 00:33:57.440 You know, I don't have to go to him and say, True knee shoes, true knee lex key needs to be paid. 00:33:57.599 --> 00:33:59.759 Every week when he gets paid, he comes to me, baby. 00:33:59.839 --> 00:34:00.880 What you need this week? 00:34:01.039 --> 00:34:01.200 Right. 00:34:01.599 --> 00:34:08.880 I could have just got paid the same day he did, he don't even ask because he knows that he knows that I'm gonna take care of business, exactly. 00:34:09.039 --> 00:34:14.000 You know, and the thing about it is if I hit a lick or I got some money coming, he's gonna make he gonna hit the hood. 00:34:14.159 --> 00:34:15.280 I heard the hood come out. 00:34:27.360 --> 00:34:28.400 I'm here, baby girl. 00:34:29.519 --> 00:34:33.039 So the thing about it is it's like if I win, he wins, and vice versa. 00:34:33.280 --> 00:34:35.280 That's how we gone, you know. 00:34:35.360 --> 00:34:37.840 Um, he supports me, I support him. 00:34:38.000 --> 00:34:44.480 I be geeked about his accolades and what he's doing, like as y'all should, but I'm saying it's just natural, yeah. 00:34:44.719 --> 00:34:50.800 How you guys are with each other and how you let me say, we all go out, we shout out to Tom Hopkins. 00:34:50.880 --> 00:34:57.119 That's where we're usually hanging out at his summertime parties, that's where we're gonna be hanging out at shout out to Southwest, Southwest, dropping a day on Tube. 00:34:57.760 --> 00:35:00.239 Check out Southwest, Southwest on Tube today, y'all. 00:35:01.119 --> 00:35:03.920 So we'll hang out, we go. 00:35:04.400 --> 00:35:11.920 Dick is a gentleman first, he's a husband, but he's also a gentleman to anybody that's around you. 00:35:12.159 --> 00:35:19.519 So that's the respectful part with how he treats women, how he it's just natural, and that's how men should. 00:35:19.679 --> 00:35:20.880 And a lot of women can't get it. 00:35:21.119 --> 00:35:22.719 Oh, here's he flirting. 00:35:22.800 --> 00:35:23.760 Who is he flirting with? 00:35:23.920 --> 00:35:25.920 He's being a gentleman, his wife is right here. 00:35:26.079 --> 00:35:32.239 I don't even like it's just the asinine things that you see when you go out is unreal. 00:35:32.559 --> 00:35:37.360 So, but when you think, I always tell people when you think a certain way, you attract certain things. 00:35:37.440 --> 00:35:42.880 So if you always think somebody wants you, maybe that's you putting your negative in you thinking that way. 00:35:43.039 --> 00:35:47.840 So, no, sometimes people are just being polite, and it's okay, guys. 00:35:48.000 --> 00:35:54.559 Every man is not flirting, and ladies calm down if your husband is being polite to another woman, he's not flirting. 00:35:54.880 --> 00:35:55.840 That's that's just my culture. 00:35:56.480 --> 00:35:59.760 Yes, I think unless you know something else about your hood, that's something different, right? 00:36:00.559 --> 00:36:12.559 Open doors, like I mean, I'm oh ladies gonna open all that she's gonna always walk on the right side and the left side of me when we're walking on the street, like those are things that my parents raised me, you know, to to to employ. 00:36:12.719 --> 00:36:22.480 But even as I got older, certain things like I pick up on my own, like I respect all women, period, right? 00:36:22.960 --> 00:36:30.639 But I know that the black woman is the most powerful and greatest resource on this planet, and so I treat them like that. 00:36:31.360 --> 00:36:32.000 That's just period. 00:36:32.159 --> 00:36:32.880 Whether she's my woman. 00:36:33.199 --> 00:36:34.559 And you have how many brothers? 00:36:34.800 --> 00:36:41.599 Um cousins, uncles, nephews. 00:36:45.440 --> 00:36:46.559 Lord have mercy. 00:36:46.719 --> 00:36:49.280 Wow, she's not gonna old, she's not gonna grow old. 00:36:57.840 --> 00:37:02.559 You gotta be ready for that type of don't come inquiring about nothing y'all ain't ready for. 00:37:03.920 --> 00:37:07.199 If you ain't ready for that grown type of man, don't come after it. 00:37:07.760 --> 00:37:09.760 Because that's what we don't attract sometimes. 00:37:09.920 --> 00:37:11.440 We think we ready, but we really not. 00:37:11.840 --> 00:37:13.599 Because what it takes is balance. 00:37:14.639 --> 00:37:17.679 I always have somebody that's equally young, they gotta be on your speed, like for real. 00:37:17.840 --> 00:37:20.480 Like I'm I'm very ambitious just by nature. 00:37:20.639 --> 00:37:21.599 I like to do stuff. 00:37:21.679 --> 00:37:25.360 I'm always creating and I'm always trying to elevate and move forward. 00:37:28.320 --> 00:37:28.960 You know what I mean? 00:37:29.119 --> 00:37:35.280 So we we we work really, really well together, and she supports me just as much as I support her.

00:37:35.360 --> 00:37:38.079 And I think that's like that's like the the thing. 00:37:38.159 --> 00:37:40.559 It still all stems from respect. 00:37:40.639 --> 00:37:42.320 You've got the respect who you're with, man. 00:37:43.119 --> 00:37:46.719 And our marriage isn't stressful, marriage should not be stressful. 00:37:46.960 --> 00:37:52.719 It's like we married, legally married, but it's like he my best friend. 00:37:52.880 --> 00:37:53.760 That's your friend, yeah. 00:37:53.920 --> 00:37:55.039 I didn't change the game. 00:37:55.199 --> 00:37:56.960 It's like, okay, we married now, yay. 00:37:57.039 --> 00:37:58.639 I can get some good old benefits. 00:37:59.760 --> 00:38:02.880 You know, far as me just like acting different, I'm just me. 00:38:03.039 --> 00:38:04.639 Like what you see is what you get with it. 00:38:04.880 --> 00:38:05.280 Right, yeah. 00:38:05.440 --> 00:38:15.599 We like this all the time, and let's irritate it if I'm gonna hear it, but for the most part, this is really what it is, and it's not that it's not no front, and other people see it too. 00:38:15.920 --> 00:38:18.880 Me and Vick can be out somewhere and people come to it's something special. 00:38:19.519 --> 00:38:20.400 No, look, just a lot. 00:38:23.840 --> 00:38:27.840 Sometimes you hot tall, like sometimes he he be in around the house acting. 00:38:28.239 --> 00:38:30.480 I'll be like, you tell me the truth. 00:38:32.239 --> 00:38:35.440 You touch it, you touch, you know, and he be laughing. 00:38:35.840 --> 00:38:43.840 But we have fun, you know, and uh he, you know, sometimes I and it's I mean he be like, I got this, I'm straight. 00:38:44.079 --> 00:38:54.480 But it's one of them situations like we so close, yeah that I just you know I meditate and I pray a lot and just ask for covering. 00:38:55.199 --> 00:38:59.039 What advice would you give to a young couple starting out? 00:38:59.199 --> 00:39:02.320 Maybe in maybe someone going through that similar situation. 00:39:03.119 --> 00:39:06.159 Could you see would you advise someone to do what you did? 00:39:07.679 --> 00:39:10.960 I mean, I can't say not to do it because everybody is different. 00:39:11.199 --> 00:39:13.840 I do honestly think that me and Victor is rare. 00:39:14.079 --> 00:39:16.159 I do, I think y'all are very rare. 00:39:16.400 --> 00:39:21.679 Um, because I was celibate for those years, those well, I'm just gonna go. 00:39:21.760 --> 00:39:22.239 No, no, okay. 00:39:22.400 --> 00:39:24.320 It wasn't 18 years old, it wasn't 18. 00:39:24.559 --> 00:39:27.519 The last four the last four, four and a half is where we was fighting. 00:39:27.679 --> 00:39:29.760 So, yeah, so Alicia actually met our friendship. 00:39:30.159 --> 00:39:31.519 It's 927, 14. 00:39:31.920 --> 00:39:32.639 Yeah, 14. 00:39:32.800 --> 00:39:42.239 So from the time from you know, of course, when we first first met, I had guys I was talking to okay, right, and then he had little chicks he was talking to, but all that ceased when it got real. 00:39:42.400 --> 00:39:45.840 Okay, no, because if we literally make that agreement like this, that's what it's gonna be. 00:39:45.920 --> 00:39:54.320 She's like but it wasn't no sex popping off, no dating, it was taking care of my son, Ray, working, and just we're fighting his case, and I would go visit him. 00:39:54.480 --> 00:40:05.199 Our Valentine's Days was in the visiting room, you know, where everybody out with their booze, I'm posting a prison picture like ever. 00:40:05.360 --> 00:40:16.800 But um, I just feel like you know, with any woman when it comes to marriage or just being with I ain't no relationship specialist, but get with somebody that's gonna love you for you. 00:40:17.599 --> 00:40:21.440 If you got to change yourself to be with a man, that ain't it. 00:40:21.599 --> 00:40:22.800 And yeah, that's not it. 00:40:23.199 --> 00:40:27.599 Because let me look a little ugly to that, you know, and you better tell me I'm cute. 00:40:27.920 --> 00:40:30.800 And that's like for real, and it happens, you know. 00:40:30.960 --> 00:40:34.000 Um that sit down, sometimes. 00:40:34.159 --> 00:40:40.239 Like, I don't I don't even think I think this is the most you really call me by my name because he called me Queen. 00:40:40.400 --> 00:40:40.880 Like, I don't know. 00:40:41.039 --> 00:40:43.440 I was gonna say, I always hear him say um Queen. 00:40:43.519 --> 00:40:45.199 Yeah, he never really called me by my name. 00:40:45.280 --> 00:40:50.480 And like we're trying to be fooled, or I say that arguably about that when I get home. 00:40:55.280 --> 00:40:57.760 I'd be like, you call me Dick, like like what's up? 00:41:03.679 --> 00:41:11.679 Yeah, but you know, I just think what's I would just say get with somebody that is on the same mental because you can want somebody so bad. 00:41:12.480 --> 00:41:15.920 Oftentimes, you know, we always want what we shouldn't want. 00:41:16.079 --> 00:41:16.239 Right. 00:41:16.400 --> 00:41:20.800 And we in our minds we feel like we're gonna get them, we're gonna change them, we're gonna get them to be this way. 00:41:20.960 --> 00:41:23.360 Even if you marry them, you can still marry a clown. 00:41:24.079 --> 00:41:29.760 Only thing is it's gonna be harder for you to get away from him because now you gotta go through the divorce court and do this, that, and the third. 00:41:30.000 --> 00:41:34.880 And don't get caught up in the getting married just to say you're married. 00:41:35.039 --> 00:41:42.880 That's all I be that because you can smile and laugh and all that on social media, but when them doors are closed, how how happy are you? 00:41:43.519 --> 00:41:47.440 And I can honestly say that I'm happy in real life, so it's I that's a flex for me. 00:41:48.000 --> 00:41:48.719 You know what I'm saying? 00:41:48.800 --> 00:41:51.280 I don't have no problem with saying, Babe, let's go to Applebee's today. 00:41:51.360 --> 00:41:53.119 I want some uh chicken cakes to be right.

00:41:53.199 --> 00:41:53.760 Because what's wrong with that? 00:41:53.920 --> 00:41:55.599 And the egg rolls stop with egg rolls. 00:41:56.400 --> 00:42:03.199 You do have certain people there that say, My husband can't take me there or my thing. 00:42:03.440 --> 00:42:07.760 I am that doesn't mean you can have all the money in the world, but if you're not happy, that means nothing. 00:42:08.000 --> 00:42:14.800 It means absolutely because on my birthday, my two took us, we went, got a little room and all that. 00:42:14.880 --> 00:42:16.400 He's like, All right, we made reservations. 00:42:16.559 --> 00:42:17.519 I said, you know what? 00:42:17.679 --> 00:42:18.719 I want August. 00:42:18.960 --> 00:42:20.320 Yeah, and we went to Ogus. 00:42:20.400 --> 00:42:21.280 Yeah, see, this one with you. 00:42:21.519 --> 00:42:24.320 We got an orange cream cooler, we got a palette, we got an ogre. 00:42:24.559 --> 00:42:27.119 I got a full wanna go to dinner after passing. 00:42:27.280 --> 00:42:31.199 You know, I want to go back to the and I was cool with it. 00:42:31.360 --> 00:42:33.840 And that's and that's you gotta be real with yourself, you know. 00:42:34.000 --> 00:42:37.280 All of this trying to play roles and act like this, that, and the third. 00:42:37.519 --> 00:42:40.079 It's not because half of the people they don't care either. 00:42:40.239 --> 00:42:41.119 Who are you doing it for? 00:42:41.280 --> 00:42:42.320 Who are you doing it for? 00:42:42.480 --> 00:42:44.639 Right, do something that's gonna make you happy. 00:42:44.880 --> 00:42:50.000 You have to deal with the behind the scenes, you know. 00:42:50.159 --> 00:42:54.880 Um, he's y'all smiling on social media, but he caught cussing you out at home. 00:42:55.119 --> 00:42:55.920 Right, right. 00:42:56.159 --> 00:42:57.840 Or you know what I'm saying, he's cheating. 00:42:58.000 --> 00:43:00.159 You gotta worry about if he's with somebody, but he my husband. 00:43:01.440 --> 00:43:03.119 Yeah, like that's my husband. 00:43:03.280 --> 00:43:03.840 That's crazy. 00:43:04.400 --> 00:43:05.199 I'ma stick beside. 00:43:05.679 --> 00:43:06.559 Yeah, other things too. 00:43:06.719 --> 00:43:17.039 Like, you know, I I would never place Alicia in a situation where she feels like bad or like she looks crazy to some outside source. 00:43:17.119 --> 00:43:22.960 Like, for instance, there's been occasions where we walk into a restaurant or a grocery store, whatever. 00:43:23.039 --> 00:43:28.719 You know, I may not say like right there that moment we walk around like, yeah, so you know, we just passed on the aisle. 00:43:28.800 --> 00:43:30.800 Yeah, that was old girl from you know what I'm saying. 00:43:30.880 --> 00:43:36.800 I always want her to be aware of what's what he even go as far as tell me if he had sex with him before. 00:43:38.239 --> 00:43:39.599 You need to I don't get it. 00:43:40.639 --> 00:43:45.840 They may act you know how you know how some dudes can't stand to hear their woman

talk about us too much. 00:43:46.079 --> 00:43:47.199 I don't care about that. 00:43:47.360 --> 00:43:49.280 This means I one up. 00:43:49.360 --> 00:43:50.880 I don't want nobody have one up on me. 00:43:50.960 --> 00:43:51.760 So come on, man. 00:43:52.000 --> 00:43:52.400 I get that. 00:43:52.480 --> 00:43:57.440 That's the worst thing in the world to be in a room full of people and somebody got one up on me. 00:44:00.480 --> 00:44:01.599 Yeah, that's that's one thing. 00:44:01.679 --> 00:44:03.840 I've that's one rule I've always had. 00:44:04.079 --> 00:44:06.320 Yeah, don't I'm that person in that room. 00:44:06.480 --> 00:44:08.880 Don't let I don't allow nobody had no one up on me. 00:44:09.039 --> 00:44:11.920 It's nothing somebody can come and say to me that I don't already know. 00:44:12.719 --> 00:44:19.440 If I were to give a young dude a dude some advice, seriously, I would just number one, I would just say be yourself. 00:44:20.079 --> 00:44:20.239 Right. 00:44:20.320 --> 00:44:26.159 I agree with everything that Alicia said because that's those are the hallmarks of a person being straightforward. 00:44:26.400 --> 00:44:26.719 Right. 00:44:27.760 --> 00:44:28.800 That's your foundation. 00:44:28.960 --> 00:44:31.599 Nothing can stand on a foundation that isn't solid. 00:44:31.760 --> 00:44:32.079 Period. 00:44:32.480 --> 00:44:32.800 Right. 00:44:32.960 --> 00:44:37.280 I would also say is again, respect, respect your woman, man. 00:44:37.599 --> 00:44:40.159 Don't do nothing to her that you wouldn't want her to do to you. 00:44:40.239 --> 00:44:40.400 Right. 00:44:40.480 --> 00:44:44.079 I'm sorry, say that respect your woman, not your bees, not your home. 00:44:44.559 --> 00:44:46.239 Your woman, not your you know what I'm saying. 00:44:46.400 --> 00:44:48.159 This is what we gotta teach the young men all that. 00:44:48.320 --> 00:44:52.000 This is and women stop allowing men to it's not a term of endearment. 00:44:52.079 --> 00:44:52.239 Absolutely. 00:44:52.480 --> 00:45:03.199 I'm tired of the B's and the knees, and it's I'm tired of people here so much, and it's just like to a person, especially for a person from the outside, they hear that it's like it's just so harsh, yeah. 00:45:03.280 --> 00:45:11.039 And and and we've gotten so comfortable with it to the point, like now you turn on the radio, like me and Lisa just talking about this. 00:45:11.119 --> 00:45:11.679 Is this song? 00:45:11.760 --> 00:45:20.880 I don't even really promote it like that, but it says something like, Um, bounce it like your friend, bounce that's kill your mama to watch. 00:45:22.400 --> 00:45:24.320 Go tell your mama to watch the mother kid. 00:45:24.480 --> 00:45:26.480 It's like like this is what we put out there. 00:45:27.280 --> 00:45:28.239 This is a it was on the radio. 00:45:28.400 --> 00:45:31.519 This is a number one song on the radio. 00:45:31.840 --> 00:45:34.880 And what I'm saying is this is what our babies are hearing. 00:45:34.960

--> 00:45:38.320 Yeah, but we have it's on the you know what I mean. 00:45:38.400 --> 00:45:39.280 Yeah, I don't want to go through that. 00:45:39.440 --> 00:45:40.719 The the the babies is hearing it. 00:45:40.960 --> 00:45:41.519 I don't want to go. 00:45:41.599 --> 00:45:43.760 I mean, I you might do in your own private. 00:45:44.000 --> 00:45:45.039 I just don't do it. 00:45:47.280 --> 00:45:56.400 But I'm saying, like, you know, we're going through that was something that would be listened to on your own private, whether it was a CD or it was on your Pandora. 00:45:56.719 --> 00:45:58.239 Yeah, that's a radio. 00:45:58.400 --> 00:46:06.880 Yeah, that's over like with albums, like you got people who got albums that got the number one hit, and but then then you listen to the album those songs that shouldn't be played on the radio. 00:46:08.159 --> 00:46:09.360 That's just like I'm gonna say this. 00:46:09.519 --> 00:46:11.599 He had got an opportunity to do a lead role. 00:46:12.079 --> 00:46:15.760 Oh yeah, I mean, and listen, when you so in the movie, in the movie world, let's say so. 00:46:17.280 --> 00:46:26.400 Context in the movie world, in the film industry, especially independent film industry, yes, a person getting a lead role may not come for years. 00:46:27.199 --> 00:46:30.159 This is a high profile good friend of mine, director. 00:46:31.280 --> 00:46:36.800 He's that right the brother offered me and he hit me up one day like Vicman. 00:46:36.960 --> 00:46:38.000 I got this role for you, bro. 00:46:38.079 --> 00:46:39.280 I know you will kill it. 00:46:39.440 --> 00:46:41.679 He said, I wrote we wrote this role just for you. 00:46:42.159 --> 00:46:49.199 If the network that we expect him to pick it up is gonna be six episodes, a series. 00:46:50.800 --> 00:46:51.599 So what's the name of it? 00:46:51.679 --> 00:46:53.119 He said it's called Hurt Souls. 00:46:54.159 --> 00:46:56.880 I said, Okay, so I read, I get the script, I read it. 00:46:57.760 --> 00:47:01.519 I'm like, Do I got any latitude or leverage to kind of like switch it up a little bit? 00:47:01.599 --> 00:47:08.639 Because I know I'm I'm not gonna feel comfortable with this, but if I can work with it a little bit, oh man, do you you can make it work? 00:47:08.960 --> 00:47:10.559 So, anyways, we're going over it. 00:47:10.880 --> 00:47:14.320 I'm rehearsing some of the lines and I'm reading, he switched it up a little bit. 00:47:14.800 --> 00:47:16.559 At least you heard them go ahead. 00:47:16.800 --> 00:47:34.400 He was so he was doing his table read on Zoom, and it was just being real, it was a part on there that a female would have to be giving him oral sex, but you can't see but he in the car, but it's like it's supposed to be cut short. 00:47:34.639 --> 00:47:55.679 And I came in a liberal, it was explicit, and Vic looked at me like it was just like he already knew right, like if I can't have to call and say, I appreciate the opportunity, but me and my wife, we

don't do that, and respect, and that would he would have made some nice money, but it's not the money, it ain't worth it, you know. 00:47:55.840 --> 00:47:57.360 It's not worth it, it's not worth it. 00:47:57.519 --> 00:48:03.440 So then you got the people that say, Well, it's just acting, is that's everything is attached to something. 00:48:03.679 --> 00:48:05.920 My I'm not about to see my do that. 00:48:06.320 --> 00:48:12.639 If you wouldn't be comfortable watching it, yeah, and with that person next to you, then it's a sign you don't need to do something, and everybody is different. 00:48:12.719 --> 00:48:17.599 I'm not knocking nobody like that, but that's something that me and him I already spoke about. 00:48:18.000 --> 00:48:21.599 Discuss that even before either one of us ever even took a role, took anything. 00:48:22.880 --> 00:48:24.480 We don't we're not doing that, yeah. 00:48:24.960 --> 00:48:30.079 It's not we not kissing on nobody, hicking on nobody, sex, sink. 00:48:30.239 --> 00:48:30.960 We're not doing that. 00:48:31.119 --> 00:48:32.719 Yeah, it's all different roles out there. 00:48:32.800 --> 00:48:44.639 It's that it don't always have to be a sexual role, and you know, so he had to, and and you know, it was one of those situations that he had to tell the guy, and it was so now I was like, I really gotta find somebody else. 00:48:44.800 --> 00:48:46.239 Yeah, how you do yeah. 00:48:46.480 --> 00:48:50.000 Sorry, but we not change your script, like was it just that part? 00:48:50.079 --> 00:48:50.639 No, it wasn't. 00:48:50.719 --> 00:48:51.679 No, it was the series. 00:48:51.760 --> 00:48:54.159 So you would have to keep saying that scene. 00:48:54.239 --> 00:48:54.800 It was a narcissist. 00:48:54.960 --> 00:48:55.360 No, no, no. 00:48:55.519 --> 00:49:06.960 I would have a narcissist, I was playing a narcissist character, and you wouldn't really know that I had a problem until later on down the line because the outbursts and stuff, you was like, This dude just mean, but then you realize I had split first, you know, it was a problem. 00:49:07.199 --> 00:49:08.800 And it was a lot of sex scenes, yeah. 00:49:08.960 --> 00:49:11.599 And we had to just be like, okay, you know, yeah. 00:49:12.159 --> 00:49:20.239 Um I gotta respected that because it's like man, I I I would know I wouldn't want to say this is our this is our you know, our marriage. 00:49:20.320 --> 00:49:23.920 We're not about to, you know, mess up what we got going on for that. 00:49:24.800 --> 00:49:28.159 What they talk about on there is the comments. 00:49:28.320 --> 00:49:30.480 I was yelling at them telling them to be quiet. 00:49:30.639 --> 00:49:34.800 But um, we have quite a few comments on you see the call got quite a few on there. 00:49:35.039 --> 00:49:35.519 Oh, nice. 00:49:35.679 --> 00:49:41.119 Um, yeah, because normally we come in and try to but y'all just been we've been hype. 00:49:41.920 --> 00:49:43.519 We have you have to come out and come

back in. 00:49:43.679 --> 00:49:46.639 Wait till wait, you guys do have a movie that you want to talk about, right? 00:49:47.119 --> 00:49:47.440 Who? 00:49:50.239 --> 00:49:52.400 They was in one, but that's not out yet, right? 00:49:52.639 --> 00:50:02.159 So we got me got one that we did a little cameo in, but um Dangerously in love, shout out shoe lady productions, Tanja. 00:50:02.320 --> 00:50:03.599 The shoe lady's so sweet. 00:50:03.840 --> 00:50:05.440 Tanja is the whole amazing. 00:50:05.760 --> 00:50:10.639 They are every time they go. 00:50:12.480 --> 00:50:14.079 Yeah, I'm I'm I love it over there. 00:50:14.159 --> 00:50:15.440 The energy is amazing. 00:50:15.920 --> 00:50:17.760 Amar Smith energy is amazing. 00:50:17.920 --> 00:50:19.039 That's at collector, right? 00:50:19.119 --> 00:50:20.400 Don't they have a collector studio? 00:50:20.559 --> 00:50:27.440 Okay, shout out to collector, shout out to Tia Matthews, her movie premiere was yesterday in all the wrong places. 00:50:27.679 --> 00:50:29.280 Um, I think I got a picture of Tia. 00:50:29.760 --> 00:50:32.079 Uh I think I loaded it right, Nicole. 00:50:32.800 --> 00:50:35.519 Um, I think I labeled them and say Tia or Black. 00:50:35.840 --> 00:50:36.880 Just a quick little picture. 00:50:37.039 --> 00:50:39.840 Her and Shan, they was doing shout out to podcasting. 00:50:40.000 --> 00:50:42.880 They had the red carpet yesterday at Bel Air. 00:50:43.119 --> 00:50:47.360 So they did a live podcast yesterday, um, premiering the show. 00:50:47.599 --> 00:50:49.199 I premiering the movie, I'm sorry. 00:50:49.360 --> 00:50:52.000 But that's what I is a part of the movie. 00:50:52.239 --> 00:50:52.960 Shout out to Juju. 00:50:53.280 --> 00:50:56.800 It was it's it's great, but it's like it's a lot of cuts. 00:50:57.280 --> 00:50:58.079 A lot of cussing. 00:50:58.400 --> 00:50:59.199 A lot of cussing. 00:50:59.599 --> 00:51:01.119 I mean, it is what it is. 00:51:01.440 --> 00:51:02.719 I'm just proud of Tia. 00:51:02.880 --> 00:51:03.679 This is her baby. 00:51:03.760 --> 00:51:08.800 It's to see your people protect that craft and elevate how they want. 00:51:08.880 --> 00:51:10.159 I'm always gonna support that. 00:51:10.320 --> 00:51:14.880 I don't have to agree with everything, but I'm learning, I know how to support people. 00:51:15.119 --> 00:51:18.960 You don't have to knock it like that's just it, it's it's a genre for everybody. 00:51:19.280 --> 00:51:21.360 So they did their thing, they showed out. 00:51:21.440 --> 00:51:23.599 She was in there after the food all yesterday. 00:51:23.679 --> 00:51:24.800 So shout out to Tia. 00:51:25.679 --> 00:51:26.639 She had a good time. 00:51:26.800 --> 00:51:28.400 Shout out to Shani, Chantilly Mosley. 00:51:28.559 --> 00:51:30.800 We had a part in the movie, Todd. 00:51:31.119 --> 00:51:34.480 Like, so I wanted to shout them, make sure I shouted them out. 00:51:34.719 --> 00:51:37.280 But some of these comments, Laura, I ain't gonna get

to all of them, y'all. 00:51:37.360 --> 00:51:43.440 Hey, Red, Chey, mama, Ray Bank, my boy Ray and his wife, Antonette, they live in Dallas. 00:51:43.519 --> 00:51:50.159 So I wouldn't, I got to have them Skype in to be on the show because they got they, he was like, Man, my wife don't cry either. 00:51:50.320 --> 00:51:52.239 She's he's like, she didn't cry when I proposed either. 00:51:54.559 --> 00:51:56.079 So I don't feel bad though. 00:51:56.320 --> 00:51:58.639 No, I know Antonette like no, she ain't gonna cry. 00:51:58.719 --> 00:52:00.800 He's like, Yeah, they sound like us, laugh all out. 00:52:00.960 --> 00:52:04.000 So he's vibing with the whole conversation. 00:52:04.159 --> 00:52:11.679 Um, my cousin said, My husband had had been with one other person before me, and I have been only been with my husband. 00:52:12.639 --> 00:52:13.679 For real, cousin. 00:52:13.840 --> 00:52:16.000 I ain't know that wait, hold on, we gotta talk. 00:52:16.480 --> 00:52:19.599 All right, uh, Richard, he said, good evening, Robert. 00:52:19.679 --> 00:52:21.440 Real good show and couple. 00:52:21.599 --> 00:52:26.559 Um, my husband was there when I came out of my coma after my aortic dissection. 00:52:26.639 --> 00:52:28.719 Y'all, my cousin had aortic dissection. 00:52:29.039 --> 00:52:33.840 He told me he wasn't sure what he was gonna do if I had died. 00:52:34.239 --> 00:52:36.960 But that and those are things that we have to discuss as a couple. 00:52:37.119 --> 00:52:38.559 Like, do you guys have that set up? 00:52:38.639 --> 00:52:40.159 Y'all know I do legal shield as well. 00:52:42.320 --> 00:52:42.719 That's right. 00:52:42.880 --> 00:52:43.679 Legal shield. 00:52:44.239 --> 00:52:45.119 I'm your girlfriend. 00:52:45.599 --> 00:52:49.280 So so we we do have um several insurance policies. 00:52:49.519 --> 00:52:52.719 Um, we have our wills, you know, set in place. 00:52:52.960 --> 00:52:53.840 Good, that's good. 00:52:54.000 --> 00:52:56.239 I need y'all to really make sure we have that, yes. 00:52:56.719 --> 00:52:57.519 Set to the side. 00:52:57.599 --> 00:53:02.880 We know in the event that anything takes place, we know where to go get information. 00:53:03.199 --> 00:53:11.119 Um I think that's one of those those things where it it can be a difficult conversation, yeah. 00:53:11.360 --> 00:53:16.480 If you don't you have it's a it's a mature conversation that you have to have, right? 00:53:16.559 --> 00:53:27.760 And you have to be secure enough in yourself to know, like, look, we're not putting this out into the universe as if it's gonna happen, but at the same time, we know that this is real. 00:53:27.920 --> 00:53:30.239 We don't know what may or may not happen. 00:53:30.480 --> 00:53:32.239 Do you think it's a personal conversation? 00:53:32.400 --> 00:53:37.280 Like how people say, Well, when if I go before my husband, I don't want him to marry. 00:53:37.360 --> 00:53:40.320 Like, have y'all talked like that, or is that personal? 00:53:40.480 --> 00:53:42.480 It's certain things in marriage, I think, are off limits. 00:53:42.639 --> 00:53:45.679 I know I never even I never even thought about nothing like that. 00:53:45.840 --> 00:53:48.639 Like, it just I just I just never okay. 00:53:48.880 --> 00:53:49.840 I never thought about that. 00:53:49.920 --> 00:53:52.400 It's just like, I mean, because of course not thinking about it. 00:53:52.559 --> 00:53:55.280 I think that would be that's gonna be I think it helps. 00:53:55.360 --> 00:53:55.760 It's possible. 00:53:55.920 --> 00:54:03.119 I'll put it like that with with my sister losing her fiance, just the not knowing how a person feels about it. 00:54:03.199 --> 00:54:05.920 Like my mom or her husband passed, she was like, I ain't marrying nobody else. 00:54:06.000 --> 00:54:06.800 I said, Well, you old. 00:54:06.880 --> 00:54:08.079 He wasn't y'all was older. 00:54:08.159 --> 00:54:10.880 I mean he ain't thinking about that. 00:54:11.039 --> 00:54:13.199 I just want my wife to be happy, right? 00:54:13.440 --> 00:54:13.760 Period. 00:54:13.840 --> 00:54:32.559 Yeah, so whatever that encompasses because you gotta watch these little, little like it's usually when if a woman passes before the little church babies always in the house trying to help Uncle, like get up off of her, she is real, it's a real thing. 00:54:32.719 --> 00:54:35.440 Simply, simply they be out hot boxing it. 00:54:35.519 --> 00:54:38.000 So I'm just thinking, I gotta make it clear. 00:54:40.639 --> 00:54:42.000 I don't see myself reading it. 00:54:42.880 --> 00:54:45.199 Yeah, a lot of people won't. 00:54:45.519 --> 00:54:50.320 Like we we just we've been through so much, like even with the video I had sent you. 00:54:51.440 --> 00:54:51.599 Thank you. 00:54:51.679 --> 00:54:52.880 You always say so. 00:54:52.960 --> 00:54:59.360 What happened with the video was we're gonna play it later because I couldn't upload it. 00:54:59.519 --> 00:55:01.920 Okay, but I have it and I added some music to it. 00:55:02.159 --> 00:55:06.800 So by the time I put this on, it'll be at the end of this when I upload it to you too. 00:55:07.599 --> 00:55:08.719 No, y'all I love it. 00:55:08.960 --> 00:55:09.599 That's cool. 00:55:09.920 --> 00:55:11.760 Well, yeah, y'all got the cue. 00:55:11.920 --> 00:55:12.960 Well, thanks for having us. 00:55:13.119 --> 00:55:18.000 Yeah, I mean, you know, we we y'all know I've uh we sit here and talk about it. 00:55:18.159 --> 00:55:25.840 You know what's funny is crazy because I actually have a union meeting, I need to begin to, but he's that first African American. 00:55:26.159 --> 00:55:34.159 Hey, listen, I from your news to God You gotta get some more in there in a in a journeyman. 00:55:34.719 --> 00:55:35.920 I might have to put Jade in there. 00:55:36.239 --> 00:55:38.000 I'm like, so that's another thing too. 00:55:38.079 --> 00:55:46.000 Like, if you you guys know some young people, men, young men, young men, women who are interested in getting into the trades, you can always reach out to me. 00:55:46.480 --> 00:55:50.320 Um, so you have to be 18 to actually get into the trades. 00:55:50.480 --> 00:55:56.400 Um, but like as far as like preparing them and getting involved, getting information to prepare them for, I'd say 17-ish. 00:55:56.880 --> 00:55:57.599 You know what I mean? 00:55:57.760 --> 00:56:00.239 Um, but but definitely I definitely a great career. 00:56:00.880 --> 00:56:01.119 It is. 00:56:01.360 --> 00:56:01.920 I got two. 00:56:02.079 --> 00:56:02.960 Now it's dangerous. 00:56:03.039 --> 00:56:04.000 I'm not gonna act like it's not. 00:56:04.079 --> 00:56:04.719 You have a very dangerous job. 00:56:04.880 --> 00:56:08.239 There's multiple choice, and I'm affiliate, even though I'm more favorable to the iron worker. 00:56:08.639 --> 00:56:09.599 You have a dangerous job. 00:56:09.679 --> 00:56:16.480 Um, but but I um concrete, like I'm I'm affiliated with carpenters and you are rights and yeah, my son is going for my other, yeah. 00:56:16.559 --> 00:56:17.760 So my son didn't want to do it out. 00:56:18.159 --> 00:56:21.519 Yes, yes, I hate I gotta wrap it up. 00:56:21.599 --> 00:56:22.480 I hate I gotta wrap it up. 00:56:23.119 --> 00:56:25.280 But we have a great it's been a long time coming. 00:56:25.360 --> 00:56:29.119 Yes, yes, this is our fifth year this year, and we've been trying to get get together. 00:56:29.440 --> 00:56:30.880 We've been on everybody podcast. 00:56:31.119 --> 00:56:31.519 I know, right? 00:56:31.679 --> 00:56:38.079 But now you're here, true boo over there in the corner, true is awake now, true as baby girl. 00:56:38.639 --> 00:56:42.559 Those that don't know, you see them if y'all know this should be y'all know true, okay? 00:56:45.280 --> 00:56:49.119 But I appreciate you coming out until next week, next Monday. 00:56:49.199 --> 00:56:51.760 We have a compound come on in the shot. 00:56:51.840 --> 00:56:52.400 Come on, baby. 00:56:52.800 --> 00:56:54.239 Come in, so come on in. 00:56:54.800 --> 00:56:56.320 She's like, Yes, I'm here. 00:56:57.039 --> 00:57:03.280 Yes, she is true, beautiful, beautiful family. 00:57:03.440 --> 00:57:04.320 I love you guys. 00:57:04.400 --> 00:57:06.400 Thank you for coming until next week. 00:57:06.480 --> 00:57:10.719 You guys make sure, check us out, Robert Real, every Monday, 6 p.m. 00:57:11.360 --> 00:57:13.440 Live life on purpose in your purpose. 00:57:13.519 --> 00:57:14.480 We'll catch you next week. 00:57:14.639 --> 00:57:14.800 Bye. 00:57:16.239 --> 00:57:16.880 See you next. 00:57:16.960 --> 00:57:17.360 Bye bye. 00:57:20.480 --> 00:57:21.199 I appreciate it.