Full Transcript for This Is Why Men Create All the Chaos in Your Life

and women find this guy attractive. 00:02:06.400 --> 00:02:08.080 Now there's two types of Mr. 00:02:08.159 --> 00:02:08.639 Goodbar. 00:02:09.120 --> 00:02:12.080 There's the one with the really nice, handsome face and the average body. 00:02:12.240 --> 00:02:14.080 I want you to think of Jeremy Meeks. 00:02:14.319 --> 00:02:18.159 He was the guy that got arrested a few years back and his image went viral. 00:02:18.800 --> 00:02:23.199 Next, you have the guy that has the average face but the phenomenal body. 00:02:23.439 --> 00:02:26.159 The body that even makes men wish that they had. 00:02:26.319 --> 00:02:31.919 The two men that women go crazy for is the man that has a pretty handsome face and the nice body. 00:02:32.159 --> 00:02:37.520 Now, there are plenty of men out there who have handsome faces and nice bodies who don't get women. 00:02:37.599 --> 00:02:39.120 But the thing that separates Mr. 00:02:39.280 --> 00:02:42.639 Goodbar from other men is that he has charisma. 00:02:42.800 --> 00:02:48.080 He knows exactly what to do, how to look at a woman, what to say to drive a woman crazy. 00:02:48.240 --> 00:02:50.159 He knows how to push all of her buttons. 00:02:50.400 --> 00:02:50.719 Mr. 00:02:50.800 --> 00:02:57.439 Goodbar is well aware that women choose the man, and he is fully aware of when she's going to make that decision. 00:02:57.680 --> 00:02:57.919 Mr. 00:02:58.000 --> 00:02:59.840 Goodbar doesn't chase women. 00:03:00.080 --> 00:03:01.360 Women chase him. 00:03:01.599 --> 00:03:06.560 When women say they want a nice guy, what they're really saying is that they want a nice Mr. 00:03:06.719 --> 00:03:07.199 Goodbar. 00:03:07.680 --> 00:03:12.400 A woman will step over a hundred nice guys just to get to one Mr. 00:03:12.479 --> 00:03:12.960 Goodbar. 00:03:13.199 --> 00:03:19.680 And if a woman does get married and she gets married to a non-select man, the man that she would cheat on her husband with is most likely a Mr. 00:03:19.759 --> 00:03:20.319 Goodbar. 00:03:20.479 --> 00:03:23.360 Now the next man in the select category is the masked man. 00:03:23.439 --> 00:03:24.400 Now, compared to Mr. 00:03:24.479 --> 00:03:30.000 Goodbar, the masked man, he wasn't born with great looks, an amazing body. 00:03:30.159 --> 00:03:31.199 He's just an average guy. 00:03:31.360 --> 00:03:33.919 He had to work hard to get to his position in life. 00:03:34.080 --> 00:03:39.120 So he will invest a lot of time into his money, his looks, his presentation. 00:03:39.360 --> 00:03:40.000 You see, Mr. 00:03:40.159 --> 00:03:44.719 Goodbar can step out of the house in a tank top and some sweats and drive women crazy. 00:03:44.879 --> 00:03:49.120 But the masked man, he's the guy that's going to go to the barber shop every week. 00:03:49.280 --> 00:03:54.800 He's going to be wearing fancy, nice suits, nice clothes, have the best car, go to the best parties. 00:03:54.960 --> 00:03:58.719 His popularity and his fame is what's going to help him get women. 00:03:58.879 --> 00:04:03.199 When you think of the masked man, I want you to think of guys in high status positions. 00:04:03.439 --> 00:04:14.879 That is the professional athlete, the CEO, the actor, the musician, anybody that's in the spotlight, those are your masked men. 00:04:15.039 --> 00:04:18.800 They're dependent on their popularity to draw in women. 00:04:18.959 --> 00:04:20.480 They didn't get it in grade school. 00:04:20.639 --> 00:04:24.319 They didn't get this degree of attention in high school, and so on. 00:04:24.639 --> 00:04:32.720 These men, they had to earn their position in society to open up the opportunity for them to get access to more women. 00:04:32.879 --> 00:04:38.480 Now, for the masked men, outside of the women in his family, he may have not gotten a lot of attention growing up. 00:04:38.639 --> 00:04:50.160 In the article, The Male Loneliness Epidemic, Why Men Feel More Isolated More Than Ever, it describes a growing pattern where men feel disconnected, unsupported, and short on close relationships. 00:04:50.399 --> 00:04:56.240 This disconnection leads men to questioning their own value and wonder whether the disconnection says something about them. 00:04:56.399 --> 00:04:59.519 This is how that high-value male narrative was birthed. 00:04:59.680 --> 00:05:05.279 A few years back, and Kevin Samuels made this popular, but there was a label called the High Value Man. 00:05:05.360 --> 00:05:08.639 And what that man represented was essentially success and money. 00:05:08.800 --> 00:05:16.399 He dressed really nice, wore suits, he had fancy cars, he lived in a nice house, he went on vacations, etc. 00:05:16.720 --> 00:05:22.160 What this community of men communicated was that in order to get a woman, you must have money. 00:05:22.319 --> 00:05:30.560 So whenever you hear a man talking about being a high status male or using money to get women, there's a very good chance that you're dealing with the masked man. 00:05:30.720 --> 00:05:35.040 Now for the non-select category, the first guy we're going to cover is the nice guy. 00:05:35.279 --> 00:05:37.600 The nice guy is the most famous of them all. 00:05:37.759 --> 00:05:41.439 You can find countless videos on YouTube that discuss the nice guy. 00:05:41.600 --> 00:05:45.839 Books and articles, they discuss the experience that the nice guy has with women. 00:05:46.000 --> 00:05:47.920 These guys are polite, dependable. 00:05:48.000 --> 00:05:50.160 They believe in putting a woman on a pedestal. 00:05:50.319 --> 00:05:54.480 Nice guys see women as a god, and they don't feel like they're good enough just by themselves. 00:05:54.639 --> 00:06:00.079 So in order to get love, to get access to women, they feel like they have to do things for a woman. 00:06:00.240 --> 00:06:04.160 They have to earn her love, earn her attention, earn her favor. 00:06:04.399 --> 00:06:08.160 Ironically, the nice guy is what you would describe as the perfect man. 00:06:08.399 --> 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He goes to church, he helps in the community. 00:06:10.720 --> 00:06:13.360 He's always available to deliver a helping hand. 00:06:13.519 --> 00:06:16.560 The problem with the nice guy is that he just doesn't stand out. 00:06:16.800 --> 00:06:19.279 He lacks sexual magnetism. 00:06:19.439 --> 00:06:21.199 He doesn't know how to draw a woman to him. 00:06:21.360 --> 00:06:25.439 He has an average face, an average body, and lacks a sense of style. 00:06:25.600 --> 00:06:27.680 Women don't give this guy the time or day. 00:06:27.759 --> 00:06:32.560 And unfortunately, there's a lot of women out there who will take advantage of this type of guy. 00:06:32.720 --> 00:06:34.959 And lastly, we're going to discuss the gangs man. 00:06:35.120 --> 00:06:37.920 Now, the gangsman is the former nice guy. 00:06:38.160 --> 00:06:41.680 This is the nice guy that has decided that enough is enough. 00:06:41.839 --> 00:06:47.759 And he's going to do whatever he has to do to bed as many women as he can. 00:06:47.920 --> 00:06:51.839 Ironically, you would think that the masked man and Mr. 00:06:51.920 --> 00:06:55.120 Goodbar are the ones that get the most women or sleep with the most women. 00:06:55.279 --> 00:06:55.839 It's not. 00:06:56.000 --> 00:06:57.360 It's the gangsmen. 00:06:57.600 --> 00:07:01.279 A lot of the men that women are complaining about is the gangsman. 00:07:01.519 --> 00:07:16.959 He knows exactly what voids women have in their life, and he will be the one that will fill that void, giving her constant attention, text messages, phone calls, you name it, the gangsman will do whatever it takes to get the women that he wants. 00:07:17.199 --> 00:07:23.600 Now the gangsman, he knows in the modern dating age, he just doesn't have what it takes to compete against most men. 00:07:23.759 --> 00:07:27.439 He has an average face, he has average looks, and an average job. 00:07:27.519 --> 00:07:32.560 And this is exactly what makes the gangsmen the most ruthless of all the men on this list. 00:07:32.720 --> 00:07:36.399 He will lie, he will cheat, he will do whatever it takes to sleep with women. 00:07:36.560 --> 00:07:44.160 I've heard stories from women of men who will chase them for years, and she finally makes a decision that hey, I'll give him a shot. 00:07:44.319 --> 00:07:56.000 Then after three, five years of chasing this woman, once he gets what he wants, after a few months, he gets rude, disrespectful, becomes more distant, and the relationship ultimately falls apart. 00:07:56.240 --> 00:07:57.759 You're dealing with the games man. 00:07:57.920 --> 00:08:02.240 Love bombing and constant attention are his main weapons. 00:08:02.399 --> 00:08:07.680 The gangsmen will buy clothes and cloths that he cannot afford just to look like he select. 00:08:07.759 --> 00:08:08.879 So why does this matter? 00:08:09.120 --> 00:08:14.000 You see, each of these men have their issues with women, and the root of their issue is the same. 00:08:14.240 --> 00:08:15.759

They don't like themselves. 00:08:16.000 --> 00:08:22.399 And when a man doesn't like and love himself, there's no way that he can love you and respect the relationship. 00:08:22.560 --> 00:08:28.319 His insecurities and habits will lead you and the relationship into the depths of hell. 00:08:28.560 --> 00:08:31.120 There's a psychologist by the name of John Bowby. 00:08:31.360 --> 00:08:33.600 He is the creator of attachment styles. 00:08:33.679 --> 00:08:44.480 And based on that child's relationship with their caretaker, that child will have an insecure or secure attachment style that will have a direct impact on their romantic relationships in their adult life. 00:08:44.639 --> 00:08:53.759 A child who grows up with their needs being inconsistently met may grow up to believe that their needs are not important and that they do not deserve love. 00:08:53.919 --> 00:08:59.600 And because he believes he does not deserve love, he feels like he has to do something to earn love. 00:08:59.759 --> 00:09:05.919 In adulthood, this shows up with the nice guy, the guy that is always available to meet someone else's needs. 00:09:06.080 --> 00:09:09.759 Or you can see this with the man that always has short-term relationships. 00:09:10.320 --> 00:09:13.440 Growing up, he may have felt that love was not safe. 00:09:13.679 --> 00:09:17.360 So as soon as things get serious, he becomes afraid. 00:09:17.679 --> 00:09:32.000 And then he'll do self-destructive things to ruin the relationship, such as creating distance between the two of you, gaslighting you, becoming abusive, anything that increases the distance between you two. 00:09:32.320 --> 00:09:34.639 Whatever the reason, just know this. 00:09:35.279 --> 00:09:45.120 When a man has not made the decision to destroy his own personal demons, his demons will destroy you and your relationship. 00:09:45.360 --> 00:09:52.960 The best way to know that a man is attacking his demons and is on the road to becoming his highest self is a man who has purpose. 00:09:53.600 --> 00:10:00.799 When a man does not have purpose in his life, he doesn't have a reason to get up in the morning with excitement and vigor. 00:10:01.440 --> 00:10:06.799 A man who likes purpose, he will make women his purpose in life. 00:10:07.039 --> 00:10:10.399 This is the main reason men will have multiple women in their life. 00:10:10.639 --> 00:10:14.559 Maybe they're dating multiple women or they have a lot of female friends. 00:10:14.879 --> 00:10:22.159 Men who lack direction in their life, they find purpose and they find their value through the opposite sex. 00:10:22.559 --> 00:10:29.519 They feel like if they're getting a lot of attention from women, or if they can bed X amount of women, then they must be valuable. 00:10:29.759 --> 00:10:34.080 These kind of men, they lack the confidence to really go for the things that they want in life. 00:10:34.320 --> 00:10:41.919 And because they don't like themselves for not having that confidence, they

try to find a distorted way of confidence through women. 00:10:42.159 --> 00:10:43.279 Women and sex. 00:10:43.440 --> 00:10:46.159 You see, most men are lost in life. 00:10:46.399 --> 00:10:48.240 They have no five-year plan. 00:10:48.399 --> 00:10:52.639 They don't know where they're going to be five months from now, five days from now. 00:10:52.799 --> 00:10:55.919 They don't even know what they're going to do five hours from now. 00:10:56.399 --> 00:10:58.159 Most men are just winging it. 00:10:58.320 --> 00:11:00.480 I've met many men who are like this. 00:11:00.960 --> 00:11:04.399 These men are constantly comparing themselves to other men. 00:11:04.639 --> 00:11:07.120 They feel like they're behind in life. 00:11:07.360 --> 00:11:17.120 And because they don't have the confidence to really make that decision to go for it, this is why these men will try to mimic a man that is successful. 00:11:17.440 --> 00:11:20.720 If they have that nice car, those fancy clothes. 00:11:20.960 --> 00:11:24.639 You used to see this more with like the go chain and the cars with the rim. 00:11:24.720 --> 00:11:32.480 Or sometimes you'll see it with these guys on the internet that are taking pictures all over Instagram of them doing vacations and things like that. 00:11:32.720 --> 00:11:38.639 These men, when they really don't like a clear mission, clear goals, somewhere that they're trying to go. 00:11:38.799 --> 00:11:45.759 They'll try to imitate the idea of what they see of a man on the internet and will try to mirror that into their own life just to attract women. 00:11:45.919 --> 00:11:55.039 If you pay attention to the core narrative of high value man, the main thing about being a high value man is the number of women that he can sleep with. 00:11:55.279 --> 00:11:57.679 The amount of women he has in his life. 00:11:58.240 --> 00:12:02.159 High value has nothing to do with the opposite sex. 00:12:02.320 --> 00:12:05.120 Being a high value man has everything to do with your character. 00:12:05.279 --> 00:12:13.039 But in order to develop those characteristics, you have to have the confidence and the bravery to actually go for the things that you really want in life. 00:12:13.200 --> 00:12:19.039 That's why they say it's not really about the goal, it's about the person you become in the pursuit of the goal. 00:12:19.279 --> 00:12:27.600 And when these men are not pursuing any goals, they are developing and growing in life, which leads to their immaturity that shows up within your relationship. 00:12:27.759 --> 00:12:36.159 I have a masterclass coming up soon where I'm going to discuss the four types of men that women deal with that we covered, as well as the four archetypes of men. 00:12:36.240 --> 00:12:42.080 And the purpose of the masterclass is to help you understand who you are and why you attract certain types of men. 00:12:42.240 --> 00:12:45.440 If you're interested in that, check out the link in the description. 00:12:45.600 --> 00:12:47.440 Anyways, I'll catch you next time. 00:12:47.679 --> 00:12:48.240 Peace.