ABOUT THIS EPISODE

Yes, most of you CAN do it, and some of you will really, really want to. Like, all of the time. Bonnie Petrie spoke with the sexologist who co-authored Your Orgasmic Pregnancy: Little Sex Secrets Every Hot Mama Should Know about how to really enjoy this time with your partner.
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00:00:00welcome to your key in the podcast I'm Bonnie Petrie with everything you know about your body your baby and the big changes that had in your life and your journey to becoming a mommy hello hot mama could be sexy from the way you look going to have bigger breasts especially going into the second and third trimester feel she's going to experience more blood flow to the genitals mom's to be confessed and the size of congestion going on in the den adult ravenous for sex ravenous tologist Yvonne Fulbright about how you two can have an orgasmic pregnancy after which you say I never knew that
00:00:59that kind of potential energy that you're pregnant
00:01:11well you got your positive pregnancy test that's the end of your sex life right not on your life trimesters of the spike in estrogen and what this actually want to talk to you as a woman's going somewhere else that's cool he's going to have more sense more blood flow to the way throughout pregnancy going to make for Volvo Penta tivity and this is going to make her feel the Christians and all of this can heal really amazing or can be really annoying F-16 ologist dr. Yvonne Fulbright who co-wrote your orgasmic pregnancy little sex Secrets every hot mama should know if that's not the case for you
00:02:11everyone responds to pregnancy differently some of you will be a wash in Sexual Energy nauseous than anything I'm so fortunately a lot of these women and you feel more sexual going into their second trimester and their Partners even in realizing how I am with child there's this guilt or the fact that they still feels that's all that they're becoming increasingly Central and that's because we don't hear enough about hot mamas in our society and the fact that pregnant women can be very sexy women in very sexually responsive underestimate the effect of the surge of progesterone for the mom-to-be feel flat-out exhausted and that makes their interest in sex disappear this is true for Alicia my experiences that I have absolutely zero interest
00:03:11you know hopefully by the second trimester there will be some interest back but for me right now all I can think about is sleeping and when my next step will be is a time when women feel more and more beautiful than ever going to the second and third trimester and a lot of pregnant women have confessed to me and and Michael author that you know between increase erotic dreams and the days of congestion going on in the genitals today were ravenous for sex they were taking matters into their own hands and they were wanting to pot their Partners more and there was a sexual frustrations at the partner wasn't being responsive because it was like nobody ever told you that this is this is part of the experience for someone that has it it's okay and just kind of suspected of using I want it kind of seems like I never knew I had
00:04:11over here that I had that kind of potential in this is a problem many their Partners seem to lose interest in sex the moment they find out their lover is also their baby's mother how to speak positive imagery on the lot of them are looking at her as a mother instead of a sexual partner and a lot of them also have a Sears around things like maybe harming the fetus a lot of couples are not informed a lot of them are not communicating with their positions about how do you have no risk factors for example that both Partners do not have a sexually transmitted infection and sex during pregnancy does not harm the fetus to bed right now sex during pregnancy does not harm the baby dr. Fulbright said so
00:05:11hang up against the baby I'm during intercourse I think people need to realize that because oxytocin is released during the orgasmic respond the babies and end up feeling really good in this whole process is like a little bit of a natural drug that the fetus guess I'm guessing you might notice text in a little bit of a reaction that this is a good thing of the babies having a good time to say tell some of you not to put anything in your vagina during your pregnancy that's called pelvic rest when you get advice like that follow it but other than that much are developing baby enjoy the happy hormone the text and closeness provide some Partners they still have a problem making love to their pregnant Partners even if your desire for them has never been greater sometimes it can hurt a lot what do you do about that there is no easy answer quite honestly I mean I think a really good thing for a couple of you is to seek counseling during this time and that's awesome because
00:06:11for example 100 we interviewed for the book said her husband had a really hard time with things are the cycle being because of his Catholic upbringing and that's the kind of thing with somebody really needs to go to counseling to kind of get over the negative messages that they've gotten around being a sexual being growing up are there is no you know quick fix but I think I'm more of a woman can pick up into her sexual essential size for example in the way that he dresses or in her attitude or in the morning lingerie during pregnancy I love you can't expect those to be magical Solutions you may not react the way she want at least making the effort to help him react to the sexual energy that he's putting out there he might find that he enjoys your full of rest your rounded your softness and the extra lubrication actual active
00:07:11forcefield rent in a good way Dr Sprite explains why a lot of women preparing for vaginal childbirth a lot of them are Kegel exercises which is where they're exercising their packages for PC pelvic floor muscles and with this are going to be able to better grip the penis are going to experience more sensation they're going to have a better and a lot of women don't start these exercises until they know they're expecting and there are a lot of benefits to be gained from that extra PC muscle control. You may find that you're the one having trouble feeling sexy you made us feel huge in Clumsy and unattractive dr. Fulbright said that's not at all unusual and your partner can help you through that weird I think the one thing that the partner can use acid to keep saying you know you're very beautiful you need a lot to me your body looks amazing she is carrying your child
00:08:11the human body is amazing in that respect I think you really need some goddess worship during this time even if it's a different kind of God that you're worth nothing because you're creating a miracle and there's nothing else there's no other way to everybody can go about it remember that when you look in the mirror and your face looks like a moon to you think you look more like a Weeble then a fertility God I know I'm not the only one to look in the mirror and think about how I might wobble but I won't fall down you are growing a person in there a real little human being and it's a special kind of magic you're performing that is beautiful
00:08:54okay so you're losing a lot of this podcast going no fair what did I miss I'd rather be run over by a Mac Truck and even consider making love to my baby's father well first job dr. Phil Wright says give yourself a break I think it's very variable very individual I don't want women to get caught up and I am I compared to the other women specially you know your mother your sister your best friend anybody else has been pregnant never try to do that comparing yourself to everybody else is just not really healthy no matter where you and your partner on relation to text and your pregnancy as with most things communication is key to communicate throughout the pregnancy and thereafter as far as you know where they're at if they are suffering from his ralo desire disorder
00:09:53it's personally know I know it's really hard not to do that but both Partners can take matters into their own hands chicken have intimacy that doesn't necessarily have to involve sex will intercourse activities especially in the third trimester did they will not be able to do for example certain test the better that they will successfully navigating this time. And intimacy without intercourse is wonderful and I Quizlet the wonderful option if it is where you're just doing bonded like in a bath or here watching romantic movies and things like that um it's more about just spending the time together and sealing the psychological support more than you know confusing in a certain activities which of course if a woman on bed rest that's really going to limit the kind of physical affection that can take place beyond
00:10:53no hugging cuddling and kissing but don't underestimate the value of hugging cuddling and kissing tribute by Daughter study nature to the almost nightly belly and often full body rubs my husband gave me complete with cocoa butter they were so relaxing and don't touch intimacy between the two of us love those massages to I know that happy hormones were coursing through me at that time and and I know they were really really good for the baby also pregnancy and the time postpartum well it's a very vulnerable time for many relationships some start to feel strained as the partners rolls stressful. Postpartum some even break apart physical closeness won't stop that but dr. Fulbright says it may help extremely important
00:11:53how to tell a meeting to be taxable item in the sexual component as a bonus but I think a lot of times couples get mental strength from each other and maintaining that touch and it's a couple to do the best job of maintaining the physical sexual intimacy able to reconnect in the time after birth and you know a lot of couples will report that after they be there I heard that they are experiencing World sexual drive or quick tips for any I was just painful sex moderate satisfaction if they are able to stay physically intimate in any kind of way physically intimate and communicate now as your pregnancy progresses you may find you need to get a little creative in your love life the heck is that part of the fun what kind of things can you do
00:12:44what you did before you got pregnant I'm going to T3 the third trimester will limit some of your position and of course you don't the woman doesn't want to be on her back for more than 5 minutes and you don't want to put any kind of pressure on her abdomen from University of the first trimester but basically still anything goes you can still enjoy erotica you can still use sex toys as long as you know keeping them clean it still anything goes I think the more couples give himself to keep up there same activities as your baby grows and therefore belly some people begin to suffer pregnancy 11 sex though. Is the way to go it is specially with the hip issue so that that works out okay and was pressing my daughter came more
00:13:44sensitivity so I actually enjoy sex more now go figure who does this count as her belly grows really really convention missionary of courses like not not really possible if it's big bump in the way but you have to be creative with positioning by the time she and her husband were having intercourse merely for its benefits as a possible labor Starter by 41 weeks it was no longer fun for her and after her baby dropped well it hurt but touching kissing and cuddling right up to and including labor and physical affection really helped through contractions
00:14:44we touched it all by anyone when you're having contractions but some of you will find caresses and kisses your lover it really makes labor bearable some of you have to go back and forth between labor the roller coaster like that
00:15:01and tell him you may be wondering about sex after the baby. Fulbright says you should talk about that with your partner to that is one way they have trouble than kind of knowing what to expect and what the other is going to be in the mood for it of course you can't really plan anything can happen on delivery day I think the people could have a good sense as far as we want to maybe the Internet by the around this week and your this is really important to me and then these are the concerns I have as long as I get that out there it makes it easier to say internet without intercourse and then to transition into that kind of intimacy again I think I'm people also need to be open to finding ways to you love their bodies and love each other be on the whole week we just function sexual anywhere sexual beings that the genitals and is in that kind of responsiveness
00:16:01art of the game because delivery is coming and that baby is going to be born almost all Daddy's attend the birth of their babies these days some men have absolutely no problem watching their baby mothers give birth to seven pounds of human being and still see them as sexual beings later others who have a problem with that if you think your partner might fit into the latter category I had some advice for him to stay up by her head is crazy you're in the room it's great that your support but most men really can't handle seeing the child come out of the woman and of course that can definitely do Brandon image and their mind if they're not going to want to remember later when they try to be intimate I think that's the first thing I'm couples need to be aware of the other thing is to her having a c-section or an episiotomy or severe staring at that time is going to also impact on what kind of acting they can have it or more specifically how soon after child
00:17:01they can get busy again she will take a longer time to recover from a C-section or Segura caring and definitely listen to your doctor during that time but that doesn't mean that you can't do things like hug kiss cuddle you know pet each other you sexual enhancement products just basically redefine your texts like that this time as far as what does it take you to stay connected and show your love for each other some people and some essential way so their partner will no longer enjoy sex with them at all that is silly there may be some change in tone but you do have some control over the tone of your vagina. Brightside dresses again Eagles are great for this
00:18:01or the book reported that they having stronger vagina post-birth and what they had before because they were so good about keeping up these exercises self a lot of sex is pretty slack and at that vagina need some conditioning but if a woman diligent enough drinking it then it's going to make her better check the flow of urine try that muscle to exercise and it makes it easier for labor and it makes for better sex some women are so afraid of losing town in vagina they opted for an elective C-section dr. Fulbright is not a fan of that plan that I consider that a very reason very selfish reason I think they're more couples and women realize that they do have power over there people packages muscle strength training program are they don't need to go to these extremes
00:19:01high risk of going through a C-section what will your body be like after baby comes alive I wouldn't bounce back a lot of them actually look better after giving birth in before because they're more in tune with their bodies are taking care of them a lot of them are breastfeeding and a lot of them are realizing it was a healthy diet and regular on breastfeeding for up to a year that actually takes off anyway to save game and then some weight as always been an issue for me and I did lose weight while nursing it's hard for sure to find time to exercise and and Body Image may be a struggle for you your stomach will surely be different for instance mine is now a map of stretch marks but you know what that's okay I remember woman I interviewed for my dissertation study said he would see her mother's check mark and just be amazed that
00:20:01body went through that you could have life and I think is when you look at the woman body in that way that in a lot of ways we go to World War I pretty phenomenal I think it needs to be respected and revered instead of Tina something ugly we just need to scan done intelity around that and I really have grown to love mine I really love the way they feel under my fingertips I do I love the way they look I love showing them to my baby and talking to her about when she lived in my belly and she left talking about it too I'm not a big fan of my mommy apron that lower belly pooch that can stack a little particularly after a c-section I found it being a hot mama has really little to do with stretch marks the weight dr. Fulbright agrees with me what makes you feel good you know what messages are you giving yourself in the mirror how are you dressing I want it all come down
00:21:01New York physical activity because that does give you energy that does make you feel better about yourself even if you don't reclaim your pre-pregnancy body to feel one way that you just feel better you have more energy and in your healthier overall entire podcast and you are still saying to yourself where's my orgasms pregnancy and I would hope that everyone has a really orgasmic sensual sexual pregnancy but if that's not what you find it or you don't beat yourself up but know that we're just all very variable and actually every pregnancy is as well I've had women say that they felt he sensual and wonderful and sexual with one child and then nothing than that so it's whatever Mother Nature's going to ditch out for you and no matter what kind of the kind Where You Are
00:22:01hot expecting to the time you delivered really is about your attitude is that the way you're taking care of yourself that you're staying Physically Active you know walking moving watching how you're eating a dressing sexy and by this I don't mean that you're letting it all hang out and if it's early but that you're not afraid to show your form and I think mostly that you are allowing yourself to embrace central time that you're allowing yourself to feel sexual and I'm to look at yourself as the beautiful person that you are just only happened once or a few times in a woman's life and a lot of people are really attacked in playground and I think the more we can break that through the more we can all benefit from this experience so go you're working miracles after all you're making a baby
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