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0:03 You're listening to Rabbi Aryeh Wolbe of Torch in Houston, Texas. This is the Jewish Inspiration Podcast.
0:11 My dear friends, welcome back to day number 13. We're on page 53 in the Arts Girl edition of the Shara B'Tochon of the Chobos Halvavos. We mentioned previously the four criteria. If you wanted to trust somebody in somebody completely, they need to have these qualities.
0:31 Number one, they have to have compassion and pity on the person who has trust in them. They have to have great attentiveness, paying, noticing every need. that the person who trusts them has. They have to have unlimited ability and they have to have knowledge of every possibility and every benefit that the person might need.
0:56 So what is the fifth of the seven qualities? The fifth quality that a provider must possess in order for someone to place complete trust and reliance in them is,
1:15 over the fears of the one who places trust in him for his entire life. Why? Because, we'll see in a second,
1:51 bestowing his trust has ascertained all this about the provider and he realizes that the provider has been faithfully carrying caring for him until this point in his life and will be there for the rest of his life it surely follows that he will feel secure in him and will rely
2:26 based on his recognition of the abundant good things and constant benefits that the provider has already bestowed upon him.
2:38 Thus, the presence of this fifth quality is consistent dedication to one's needs, combined with the previous four qualities we mentioned. This dictates that one should rely strongly on the provider. Okay, so we have now a fifth, almost impossible, almost impossible, because what type of, I mean, right now, probably the only human that can have such power is the mother, maybe the father, probably not, probably only the mother. Why? Because as we know, who's feeding that baby in the womb?
3:19 Who's helping that fetus grow? Who's giving that fetus oxygen, right? So now we're basically limited to one. Aside from Hashem, we're limited just to the mother.
3:32 Doctors don't feed the baby. The mother does, right? So who's the constant in this baby's life? Who is the constant?
3:42 And again, the mother has to be there also if she's the person that this individual relies on. She has to be there throughout their lifetime because you don't hand over the ball to somebody else who may not have that power, who may not have that understanding, who may not have that compassion, who may not have that strength. So what's the sixth criterion?
4:05 The sixth quality needed to bring forth absolute trust in a provider is that the fortune of the person bestowing his trust is entirely under the control of the provider.
4:34 Other than that provider. That he's in the dungeon under the exclusive control of his master so that no one can do anything for him without the master's consent.
5:01 When the person bestowing his trust is under the control of the one in whom he has placed his
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trust, his provider, in this comprehensive way,
5:17 It is even more befitting for him to place trust in that provider since no one else has any influence over anything that happens to him. So nobody else can influence the decisions. Nobody else can have any impact except for that provider. Okay? It's getting even more complicated now.
5:41 And finally, the seventh. criterion, the seventh quality needed for someone to place absolute and unqualified trust.
5:56 That the one in whom he places his trust is absolutely generous and kind. So that the goodness flows to one who deserves it as well as to one who does not deserve it.
6:15 And furthermore, his generosity is constant and his kindness continual.
6:25 never being cut off due to any external factor and never causing on its own, never seizing on its own. When the individual who controls one's destiny is unfailingly generous and kind in all circumstances, and he also has the other six qualities listed above, one can rely on him absolutely to fulfill one's needs. So in short, the seven qualities that we mentioned that a provider must have in order for someone to place absolute trust in him are being compassionate and pitying and having love for the one.
7:04 bestowing trust, being attentive to the needs and energetic in addressing them, having supreme power. having perfect knowledge and insight into what's good for the person. Number five, being the one consistently dedicated to the person's needs at every point of his existence. Number six, having absolute control over everything that happens to the person.
7:29 And number seven, being unfailingly good-hearted and kind even to the undeserving. Chovas Havavos describes the absolute trust one should have in an individual who possesses these seven qualities. If there is someone in whom all of these qualities come together, along with all that was mentioned earlier in the introduction and chapter one,
8:01 then the conditions needed for placing unreserved trust, In him have all have been met in full. In that case, reason dictates that one who knows this about him is obligated to place his trust in him. And he can be confident and he can rely on him. 100%. In his public conduct and in his private thoughts.
8:36 In the feeling in his heart and the action he does with his limbs. Furthermore, he is obligated to completely submit himself to that trusted one, allowing him to control all of his affairs.
8:54 And he is to willfully accept the decrees of the one who he trusts.
9:05 not merely in a sense of tolerating them even when they are seemingly to his detriment but to judge the one he trusts favorably in all his judgments and actions that is to firmly believe that they are all in fact to one's benefit so no matter what happens you're gonna be judging this This one who we have trust in favorably, because he always
9:35 has our best intentions
9:37 in mind. Having established the seven qualities that someone must possess in order for bitachan in him to be warranted, Chobas Alvavis returns to the matter of who actually possesses these qualities. And this, my dear friends, concludes day number 13.
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