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it out. 00:02:45.360 --> 00:02:46.000 She's gone tonight. 00:02:46.080 --> 00:02:47.120 No, no edits tonight. 00:02:47.280 --> 00:02:48.000 I'm raw. 00:02:48.479 --> 00:02:50.159 This is Tuesday night, raw. 00:02:50.639 --> 00:02:53.840 So she left early Monday morning. 00:02:54.080 --> 00:02:55.199 She got up. 00:02:57.280 --> 00:03:00.000 And let me first start off by saying this. 00:03:00.159 --> 00:03:01.919 We always say this for every episode. 00:03:02.080 --> 00:03:04.479 We do not feel like we have all the answers. 00:03:04.719 --> 00:03:15.919 I need to give the framework for this conversation first because I want to give some observations that I've made in these last few days of being a single dad. 00:03:17.360 --> 00:03:21.039 Shout out to all of the single parents. 00:03:21.680 --> 00:03:24.319 Shout out to all of the singles that are watching this. 00:03:24.479 --> 00:03:26.000 I get it, okay? 00:03:26.560 --> 00:03:33.280 I was already an advocate, but even after this time away, you got my full support. 00:03:33.439 --> 00:03:38.560 If I had brushed my hair before I put this hat on, I'd take my hat off to you because it's off, okay? 00:03:38.800 --> 00:03:43.680 Y'all of the MVPs, yeah, y'all got you get all the praise. 00:03:43.840 --> 00:03:47.120 Praise looks good on you because I don't know how y'all do it. 00:03:47.199 --> 00:03:49.199 I don't let's talk about it. 00:03:49.439 --> 00:04:07.280 So I don't feel like we don't feel like Brittany and I don't feel like we have all of the answers, but I think that when we experience changes in life, when we learn new information, as we are evolving in our mistakes, our pitfalls, she was saying, that's true. 00:04:07.599 --> 00:04:14.400 Our pitfalls and our errors and the things that we um made mistakes concerning. 00:04:14.639 --> 00:04:16.720 I think that we should share those with you. 00:04:16.800 --> 00:04:32.319 I think that our relationship is in a place where as we're continuing to build it and we're continuing to evolve, evolve, and um stumble through the dark, I think that people benefit. 00:04:32.560 --> 00:04:48.160 We believe that people benefit from people sharing lessons that they've learned so that you could potentially avoid unnecessary trouble, unnecessary uh pitfalls in your relationship or and or in your life. 00:04:48.319 --> 00:04:49.519 So let's get into it tonight. 00:04:49.680 --> 00:04:56.959 First of all, I want to let you know if this is your first time tuning in to the podcast, this is season three. 00:04:57.120 --> 00:04:59.360 Now, why are we starting season three when I'm by myself? 00:04:59.439 --> 00:05:00.959 Ain't that about a blimp? 00:05:01.600 --> 00:05:03.759 Season three starts now. 00:05:04.000 --> 00:05:05.759 I'm gonna be the foundation tonight. 00:05:05.920 --> 00:05:21.040 So I think we're well over 50 episodes, and so if something that I say tonight resonates with you, if you haven't already subscribe, hit that like button, share this with somebody that this might um might pique their interest. 00:05:21.360 --> 00:05:22.560 We've been married. 00:05:22.800 --> 00:05:28.560 June was 19 years in the game. 00:05:29.120 --> 00:05:36.720 Before I get ready to tell you about this, this I'm about to get on my soapbox about this time away that she's that she's had. 00:05:36.800 --> 00:05:43.680 And I'm gonna tell you some stuff that I have observed and I'm like, I'm not cut out. 00:05:44.560 --> 00:05:49.040 But anyway, we've been married 19 years straight. 00:05:49.680 --> 00:05:51.519 What do you mean by straight? 00:05:52.079 --> 00:05:58.720 Well, besides that time, we got in our first major argument, and I went and slept down at the church for three days and three nights. 00:05:58.879 --> 00:06:08.959 I had had enough of the bullshit, and I packed my overnight bag, and I was sitting up at that church sleeping in my office at the time, like something's gotta change. 00:06:09.040 --> 00:06:10.639 I'm I'm not with the bull. 00:06:10.879 --> 00:06:19.680 Anyway, so other than those three days that I protested and left the house and told her, you deal with it um straight. 00:06:20.240 --> 00:06:26.000 19 years, married 19 years, we've got two teenage children. 00:06:26.240 --> 00:06:36.240 Our oldest is McKenzie, our youngest is Jonathan, and I got some observations. 00:06:36.959 --> 00:06:43.279 It ain't even been a week yet, and I'm already like, we got a problem. 00:06:43.600 --> 00:06:55.439 So I see some pros, but I'm also seeing some disadvantages, disadvantages of being a single dad for a week. 00:06:55.759 --> 00:06:56.959 Are we ready to talk about it? 00:06:57.040 --> 00:06:58.160 Marcus, are we ready? 00:06:58.560 --> 00:06:59.439 I can't hear no. 00:07:00.879 --> 00:07:10.160 Number one, I told you when we did the episode about what happens in this house, stays in this house when we were in the kitchen. 00:07:10.480 --> 00:07:11.839 First of all, let me back up. 00:07:12.000 --> 00:07:19.120 This is the first time that we've been apart from each other for five days. 00:07:20.959 --> 00:07:30.000 Now, when they were doing the work, when they were doing the the travel, uh, the nursing travel contract, that was three days tops. 00:07:34.000 --> 00:07:46.879 Marcus's wife did a nurse contract with Brittany as well, and my other sister, and they did a traveling nurse contract, and it was three, three days, two nights tops. 00:07:47.519 --> 00:07:49.439 That was manageable. 00:07:49.920 --> 00:07:56.560 A week and she's on the east coast, so it's not like I can drive to see her. 00:07:56.720 --> 00:08:01.519 It's not a road trip, it's a couple of planes to get as far as she is. 00:08:02.319 --> 00:08:04.160 And your boy's out here doing bad. 00:08:04.240 --> 00:08:05.920 I'm just gonna I'm gonna tell you the truth. 00:08:06.079 --> 00:08:07.360 Your boy is down bad. 00:08:07.519 --> 00:08:08.800 Drop everything, come quick. 00:08:08.959 --> 00:08:10.000 Craig's in trouble.

00:08:10.079 --> 00:08:11.920 I'm doing bad tonight. 00:08:12.079 --> 00:08:13.519 Let me tell you why I'm doing bad. 00:08:13.600 --> 00:08:14.560 These are the cons. 00:08:15.360 --> 00:08:17.360 A nigga can't sleep. 00:08:18.000 --> 00:08:21.680 Man, I told y'all that episode where we did in the kitchen about what happens in this house. 00:08:21.759 --> 00:08:29.839 Stays and I do not, I'm not used to going to bed by myself. 00:08:30.079 --> 00:08:32.960 Shout out to all of the singles, especially you religious folk. 00:08:33.360 --> 00:08:39.039 Shout out to all of the singles who go to bed. 00:08:39.120 --> 00:08:44.480 Now, for those of you who enjoy your space, who enjoy, I that say religious folk, Lord. 00:08:45.039 --> 00:08:58.559 Those who enjoy your solitude, those of you, and there are many of you that watch this, those of you who who enjoy your, and I I I grew up predominantly alone, so I get it. 00:08:58.639 --> 00:09:05.840 There are some positives to this week away, but I'm not used to sleeping in an empty bed. 00:09:08.799 --> 00:09:13.519 I probably went to sleep about 1:30 last night, and that's not my flow. 00:09:15.360 --> 00:09:18.559 Man, I was I text Marcus like I had some ideas about the show. 00:09:18.639 --> 00:09:20.000 Like, hey, I got these ideas. 00:09:20.399 --> 00:09:23.919 I'm seeing Marcus, you probably was looking at your phone, like, what is this nigga? 00:09:24.240 --> 00:09:36.080 I can't sleep, can't sleep at night, and you wonder why maybe your wife is on a work trip for a week and it gets hard sometime. 00:09:36.559 --> 00:09:39.600 Literally, I'm not used to sleeping alone. 00:09:40.480 --> 00:09:55.679 So, one of the cons, one of the one of the downsides to me of this time away from her, is I need my medicine. 00:09:56.159 --> 00:09:58.720 I need something to help me sleep tonight. 00:09:59.279 --> 00:10:04.159 I'm not used to sleeping in no cold bed with some clothes that need to be folded up on the other side. 00:10:04.240 --> 00:10:08.960 I'm used to sleeping next to some thighs and some tail and a warm touch. 00:10:09.120 --> 00:10:11.279 Come on, so I have no help in here tonight. 00:10:11.440 --> 00:10:12.159 Where's my life? 00:10:12.399 --> 00:10:15.279 I'm used to sleeping next to some thighs. 00:10:15.840 --> 00:10:18.000 Ask me again, and I'll tell you this. 00:10:19.919 --> 00:10:21.679 I don't do well. 00:10:21.840 --> 00:10:24.159 Now, listen, we've been married 19 years. 00:10:24.399 --> 00:10:30.879 My nervous system for five praises is wired to sleep next to my wife. 00:10:30.960 --> 00:10:33.519 I believe our heartbeat has synchronized. 00:10:33.679 --> 00:10:35.200 This is grown folks talk. 00:10:35.279 --> 00:10:38.960 Now, for those of you who don't like who you're married to, just cut this out. 00:10:39.039 --> 00:10:39.679 This ain't for you. 00:10:39.840 --> 00:10:44.399 But for those of you who like who you're with, that's your person. 00:10:45.039 --> 00:10:46.720 You understand what I mean. 00:10:46.960 --> 00:10:56.080 Now, I used to really like make fun of her, like, man, you kind of clean, like you doing too much, but like it's me too. 00:10:56.320 --> 00:10:58.480 I got to have my woman. 00:10:58.799 --> 00:11:02.320 I've been nowhere to preach. 00:11:02.799 --> 00:11:04.799 I've been nowhere for vacation. 00:11:04.960 --> 00:11:08.720 I have, I don't think we've even been on a guy's trip yet. 00:11:09.200 --> 00:11:18.240 With I I have not traveled in double digit years without my wife with me. 00:11:18.399 --> 00:11:19.360 And she would say the same. 00:11:19.440 --> 00:11:21.840 She was in the airport, like, who's gonna who's gonna carry my bags? 00:11:21.919 --> 00:11:22.639 Like, who's gonna? 00:11:23.200 --> 00:11:30.879 So, like 19 years, 15 years of traveling together, and this is the first time that we've been this far this long. 00:11:31.600 --> 00:11:33.120 I'm feeling it. 00:11:33.519 --> 00:11:34.879 Okay, that's what that's number one. 00:11:34.960 --> 00:11:36.159 I can't sleep at night. 00:11:36.960 --> 00:11:50.639 So I think that for people who, and this is not just about sex, but I think that one of the downsides, especially to those of you who desire it, living alone can be lonely. 00:11:52.159 --> 00:12:07.120 Living alone without intimacy, especially if I'm speaking for me, but catch what what part fits for you, especially if you've grown used to it, especially if it's become a habit, especially if it's become your routine. 00:12:07.360 --> 00:12:14.480 When I get home, I know that there's going to be my spouse there, my partner there, waiting on me. 00:12:15.039 --> 00:12:17.919 And I get to unwind and decompress from my day. 00:12:18.080 --> 00:12:19.919 Let me tell you what this did at work today. 00:12:20.000 --> 00:12:46.799 This Sabrina, she you get to debrief about your day, and I think that for me, what one of the things that I'm appreciating in our absence of one another is I'm seeing the routine that we've developed and how important it is, and how it regulates my nervous system, just being afraid having a decreed and declared close to you. 00:12:49.039 --> 00:13:01.840 Now, I'm not the clingiest guy, like I grew up alone, so I know I do like my solitude, but I'm noticing that I feel the absence of my wife. 00:13:02.399 --> 00:13:13.679 I feel, and she ain't dead, but it feels like you know, you you know, I feel the gaps that she fills during my day. 00:13:13.919 --> 00:13:34.799 I feel those, you know, when somebody passes away and you they've been becoming part of your routine and they pass away and you the funeral is a week, or you know, the funeral is a week past, and you pick up the phone to get ready to text them, or some good news or bad news happens, and you get ready to text them or call them and you remember, damn, they gone. 00:13:34.879 --> 00:13:36.080 That's how I feel. 00:13:36.320 --> 00:13:37.679 Now she ain't dead. 00:13:37.840 --> 00:13:47.360 The

situation is not that, it's not traumatic, but I reach for my phone, like I have to remind myself, like, oh, here goes another one. 00:13:47.519 --> 00:13:49.600 Nigga, you gotta take the meat out. 00:13:50.240 --> 00:13:51.679 I don't cook. 00:13:52.559 --> 00:13:54.080 Now, I'm gonna get you by. 00:13:54.320 --> 00:13:55.759 We're not gonna starve the kids. 00:13:55.840 --> 00:14:10.320 Like, I gotta, I gotta, I either gotta get on this grill, we gotta go to the store, I gotta go to Sprouts, and I'm gonna be doo-doo, dilly dally in the aisles, trying to remember what Brittany, because Britney does the predominant amount of the grocery shopping, and she's the cook. 00:14:10.480 --> 00:14:11.279 I can't cook. 00:14:11.360 --> 00:14:14.559 Now, I'm like an organist who can only play in like three keys. 00:14:15.200 --> 00:14:19.360 I can get you through a service, I can get you through. 00:14:19.519 --> 00:14:26.240 I uh I can hold you down, but I'm probably not gonna be your main choice if if John P. 00:14:26.399 --> 00:14:27.919 Key comes to town and he needs a band. 00:14:28.000 --> 00:14:33.919 If if Durinda Clark is coming to town and she needs an or I I'm probably not gonna be your first choice. 00:14:34.080 --> 00:14:35.919 I don't, I'm not that guy. 00:14:36.159 --> 00:14:44.159 But if I'm in a situation and I and there's not someone that can play, I can get you through in the kitchen. 00:14:44.399 --> 00:14:50.000 She would totally disagree with what I'm saying, but because you ain't here, you can't you can't stop me. 00:14:50.240 --> 00:14:52.559 You can't you can't stop me, Shmee. 00:14:52.960 --> 00:14:54.159 I can get you through. 00:14:54.240 --> 00:14:55.759 I told the kids, listen. 00:14:56.000 --> 00:15:04.159 So Brittany's telling them, like, hey y'all, I'm gonna be gone in August for about a week. 00:15:04.879 --> 00:15:06.240 We're riding in the car. 00:15:06.559 --> 00:15:07.360 This is some bull. 00:15:07.600 --> 00:15:09.759 It'd be your own kids, man. 00:15:10.720 --> 00:15:12.480 It it be your own. 00:15:12.879 --> 00:15:16.399 My daughter says, God help us all. 00:15:16.720 --> 00:15:19.759 I said, I'm driving and I turn around looking at it back. 00:15:19.919 --> 00:15:22.399 She's like, what is that supposed to mean? 00:15:22.639 --> 00:15:24.320 She said, No offense, dad. 00:15:24.480 --> 00:15:27.279 Like, but we're gonna miss mom. 00:15:27.600 --> 00:15:31.440 And I said, Man, what is who are you talking to? 00:15:31.759 --> 00:15:32.960 I raised you. 00:15:33.200 --> 00:15:37.200 Yeah, but you've never been, we've never been away from mom for this long. 00:15:37.360 --> 00:15:48.799 And like, you don't cook, and you know, mom, you know, is here when we get when when we get out of school, and it's summertime now, so like their mom works a job where she has some flexibility. 00:15:48.879 --> 00:15:49.919 I have a set schedule. 00:15:50.000 --> 00:15:52.159 She was like, we're really gonna miss you. 00:15:52.320 --> 00:15:57.120 And I'm looking like, you know, I started, God is my witness. 00:15:57.200 --> 00:15:59.279 I started feeling some job away. 00:15:59.440 --> 00:16:02.159 Like, I ain't good enough. 00:16:02.399 --> 00:16:04.720 Like, is it rage or is it hurt? 00:16:04.879 --> 00:16:06.000 Yeah, both of them. 00:16:06.080 --> 00:16:07.360 It's rage and hurt. 00:16:07.519 --> 00:16:09.840 I said, listen, like, y'all, we good. 00:16:11.200 --> 00:16:15.759 I'm talking like like we're in a war. 00:16:15.840 --> 00:16:18.240 Like, hey, y'all, listen, I got a plan. 00:16:18.639 --> 00:16:21.120 I said, I'm gonna bring, I'm gonna be on that grill. 00:16:21.200 --> 00:16:24.720 So John looks at me like, Dad, we can't eat barbecue for five days. 00:16:24.879 --> 00:16:27.440 Listen, listen, I got y'all. 00:16:27.600 --> 00:16:32.320 I know how to drop some meat in that grease, I know how to brown some meat, like we good. 00:16:32.399 --> 00:16:34.080 It's it's we're gonna have a good time. 00:16:34.320 --> 00:16:36.240 But they had me feeling some type of way. 00:16:36.480 --> 00:16:44.799 So Bree was like, Do you need do you need me to like prepare some meals? 00:16:45.039 --> 00:16:53.679 No, no, so I'm getting calls this week from my brothers and my sisters, like, y'all good over there? 00:16:53.840 --> 00:16:57.039 And I'm like, I'm looking at the phone. 00:16:57.759 --> 00:17:00.480 I'm looking at the phone, like, why are y'all checking on me? 00:17:00.559 --> 00:17:01.600 Like, I'm not growing out. 00:17:02.000 --> 00:17:04.000 I'm I'm holding down over here. 00:17:04.079 --> 00:17:05.680 I cut my own grass. 00:17:05.920 --> 00:17:07.119 We just checking on you. 00:17:07.200 --> 00:17:11.519 I said, Did she tell y'all to be checking in on me? 00:17:11.680 --> 00:17:18.160 Like, I don't need to be checked on, like, we good over here, but I'm not doing, I'm not doing good. 00:17:18.240 --> 00:17:20.400 I'm not, I'm I'm just telling y'all. 00:17:20.559 --> 00:17:21.839 No one's gonna see this. 00:17:21.920 --> 00:17:23.119 I'm not doing good. 00:17:23.359 --> 00:17:24.319 Can't sleep. 00:17:24.480 --> 00:17:26.079 I woke up tired. 00:17:26.960 --> 00:17:28.720 Uh last one, let me move it. 00:17:28.799 --> 00:17:30.720 I forgot to take out the meat. 00:17:32.799 --> 00:17:37.279 I'm driving home, like, man, I'm gonna I'm gonna do some brown that meat. 00:17:37.519 --> 00:17:39.359 I'm gonna put these steaks on the grill. 00:17:39.440 --> 00:17:40.720 And I I said, no. 00:17:42.559 --> 00:17:58.400 So those of you um parents, those of you who um did not understand the importance in the family structure about taking out the meat, we thought that they was just complaining. 00:17:58.559 --> 00:18:03.359 We thought that they was just calling the house phone to have something to be upset about. 00:18:03.599 --> 00:18:08.880 You just always the failure if you're not vegan. 00:18:08.960 --> 00:18:11.920 Now, even the vegans take them uh pinto beans out.

00:18:12.000 --> 00:18:13.440 Is that right, the pinto beans? 00:18:13.759 --> 00:18:15.839 I've heard them vegans, you gotta soak them beans. 00:18:15.920 --> 00:18:27.519 So whether you vegan, whether you eat meat or you don't eat meat, um the end of the night meal preparation is key. 00:18:28.160 --> 00:18:29.279 How you start. 00:18:30.240 --> 00:18:37.519 If you start your day off wrong, you could feel the effects of that bad start. 00:18:38.640 --> 00:18:39.920 I'm coming home tonight. 00:18:40.000 --> 00:18:46.079 I'm like, man, I'm gonna get that grill fired up, do, do, doo, and I said, I forgot to take the meat out. 00:18:47.680 --> 00:18:48.559 So I get it. 00:18:48.720 --> 00:19:04.079 So shout out to the single dads, shout out to the single mothers that are here's my list that you have children, that you work a full-time job, you might have a part-time hustle. 00:19:05.119 --> 00:19:33.359 Those children might be in sports: soccer, track, pickleball practice, football practice, basketball practice, the regular season, AAU league, uh games, tournaments, church, uh papers to write if you're in school, uh, presentations to get ready for, the protection of your edges, drinking water, counting your calories, getting your steps in, working out. 00:19:35.200 --> 00:19:36.720 How do you do it? 00:19:37.200 --> 00:19:38.480 How do you do it? 00:19:39.119 --> 00:19:51.119 How do you how do you study, work, uh uh, unwind, decompress, wash clothes, here it is for five praises, fold them. 00:19:54.799 --> 00:20:08.079 Woo! Now, someone made a post, and I can't remember the exact quote, but the statement was shout out to all the people who are making it in this economy that was designed for a two-income household. 00:20:09.519 --> 00:20:14.079 Living in this day and time in this economy with one income. 00:20:14.720 --> 00:20:22.880 I'm not talking to the ballers right now, I'm talking to the regular folks who punch a clock, who got a little side hustle, and you making ends meet. 00:20:22.960 --> 00:20:30.799 You got you got a little chain set aside, but you ain't where you want to be at, but you thank God that you're not where you used to be. 00:20:31.599 --> 00:20:33.920 Gas is everything is going up. 00:20:34.640 --> 00:20:36.640 I was gonna say everything is going down with the word of God. 00:20:36.720 --> 00:20:37.599 That's my that's the church. 00:20:37.680 --> 00:20:39.519 That's the other except for the pain. 00:20:39.599 --> 00:20:47.839 Uh um uh uh tragedies are commonplace, all kinds of diseases, people are slipping away, economies down, people can't get enough pay. 00:20:47.920 --> 00:20:49.519 That's what we're living at right now. 00:20:49.680 --> 00:20:50.880 Walter, we thank you. 00:20:51.039 --> 00:20:52.799 It was a prophetic word. 00:20:53.279 --> 00:20:56.160 We're living in those times right now, sir. 00:20:56.799 --> 00:20:58.799 And I don't know how y'all do it. 00:20:59.039 --> 00:21:09.119 I really I'm I'm not, and I know

it's easy to say you're not cut out for something when you've been used to not having to deal with it. 00:21:10.240 --> 00:21:14.880 If something happened to Brittany tomorrow, I know I'm and we've talked about this, so this ain't new. 00:21:14.960 --> 00:21:21.279 If you reel this part, just know for y'all who watching this, we've already discussed this is a known fact in my house. 00:21:21.359 --> 00:21:23.200 I'm not gonna be single. 00:21:24.480 --> 00:21:29.279 I'm not getting married, you know, quick, quick, but I'm gonna have a special friend. 00:21:30.640 --> 00:21:32.160 I'm not sleeping alone. 00:21:32.480 --> 00:21:34.319 So when you're preaching, this is a sidebar. 00:21:34.559 --> 00:21:55.119 When you're preaching and teaching to folks about um abstaining, Lord, and they've been and they're in their 30s, their 40s, their 50s, and they've had a wife or a husband, and they're used to knocking boots, you need to get on with that. 00:21:55.519 --> 00:21:58.400 Cause you no one can preach. 00:21:58.559 --> 00:21:59.839 Okay, I'm not I'm gonna give you my. 00:22:00.160 --> 00:22:01.200 My position yet. 00:22:01.599 --> 00:22:02.960 Somebody gonna try to talk to me. 00:22:03.119 --> 00:22:10.319 You need to man, you don't get your somebody, something happened to my wife, and I'm out here single. 00:22:11.519 --> 00:22:13.279 Listen to me, smiles. 00:22:14.400 --> 00:22:16.640 I'm not gonna be around here for okay. 00:22:16.799 --> 00:22:18.480 I'm just telling you right now. 00:22:20.160 --> 00:22:21.519 I don't do well. 00:22:21.759 --> 00:22:26.640 You see them people on your job that's crabby, snappy. 00:22:26.880 --> 00:22:31.039 Some of that all is all some, not all of that is the lack of therapy. 00:22:31.279 --> 00:22:33.119 Some people just backed up. 00:22:33.839 --> 00:22:35.680 Some people ain't had a release. 00:22:36.079 --> 00:22:38.720 And I'm not talking about the presence of the Lord either. 00:22:39.119 --> 00:22:39.839 So mm-mm. 00:22:40.400 --> 00:22:45.440 I I got to, my body is used to a certain routine. 00:22:45.839 --> 00:22:47.200 You take me out of that certain route. 00:22:47.440 --> 00:22:49.039 I'm a guy, I'm a man of routine. 00:22:49.200 --> 00:22:50.720 I'm just trying to tell you tonight. 00:22:50.880 --> 00:22:52.079 We had to make some addicts. 00:22:52.240 --> 00:22:54.480 No, giving you you raw. 00:22:54.960 --> 00:22:55.279 Okay. 00:22:55.759 --> 00:23:05.039 So if you have children, all of the responsibilities in this life without anybody to help you share that load. 00:23:09.839 --> 00:23:11.279 It's a job. 00:23:12.240 --> 00:23:24.799 And I was thinking about these last couple of days, like I really empathize with the people who are in relationships and you're with somebody, but you ain't got no help. 00:23:26.880 --> 00:23:30.480 I'm with him, I'm with her, I'm with her, I'm with him. 00:23:30.799 --> 00:23:33.200 But I don't feel like this nigga got my back. 00:23:35.519 --> 00:23:39.119 We together on paper, but I can't count on you. 00:23:39.759 --> 00:23:45.200 I I feel you like I haven't lived that for an extended period of time. 00:23:45.279 --> 00:23:52.640 We've had portions and times and little phases in our relationship where, you know, I don't like you, you don't like me. 00:23:52.960 --> 00:24:05.279 But to live in a household with an individual that you feel like, for whatever reason, justified or unjustified, informed or uninformed, the feeling is still real. 00:24:05.440 --> 00:24:08.960 I don't feel like the person who I'm sleeping next to got my back. 00:24:10.400 --> 00:24:21.200 I don't feel like when I go home, I can decompress, that I can get away from the pressures of this world and breathe and exhale. 00:24:22.319 --> 00:24:26.880 I I my I empathize, my heart goes out. 00:24:26.960 --> 00:24:56.319 That's a real I know people who have experienced that, and it's not, I've seen the pain on people's faces, people that I that I have sat with, people that I know near and far, like so for real, Brittany and I um empathize, it's the best way that I can put it, that that is a real reality for some people. 00:24:56.799 --> 00:25:04.880 And there are people wrestling right now that are in relationships trying to figure out what to do. 00:25:05.039 --> 00:25:11.440 Like there was an old play that came out way when I was younger that decreed and declared I can do bad all by myself. 00:25:11.599 --> 00:25:14.799 Like if this is what it's gonna be forever, let me. 00:25:16.000 --> 00:25:17.519 I heard somebody say, that's right. 00:25:18.319 --> 00:25:20.319 Oh, you're gonna get up and get a share on that. 00:25:20.559 --> 00:25:22.799 I can do bad all by myself. 00:25:22.960 --> 00:25:30.400 Like, if I'm in this alone and I'm in this alone for an extended period of time, what are we doing? 00:25:30.559 --> 00:25:32.160 So, okay, so that's my point. 00:25:32.480 --> 00:25:42.559 Um, this economy really requires two incomes, or a lot of one income. 00:25:43.440 --> 00:25:51.359 And for many Americans, it's it takes a second income. 00:25:51.599 --> 00:25:54.400 It takes two streams, three streams. 00:25:54.799 --> 00:26:04.240 So that's one thing, that's one that's one thing that I've noticed as a con, as a negative to being a divorced dad for a week. 00:26:04.480 --> 00:26:21.039 Another thing is if you get sick, I'm saying these points to empathize with those and to express the fact that if you're with someone, appreciate them. 00:26:21.519 --> 00:26:41.440 If you're with someone and they're quality, if you're with someone and they're a stand-up guy, they're a stand-up woman, they handle business, they they're consistent, they are um, they love you, they love their children, they come through, they're doing their best, appreciate that. 00:26:41.920 --> 00:27:05.759 And I think that during this time away, I'm really, really, really looking at my appreciation for my marriage, for my wife, and all that she does is sometimes

you can take what a person does, big things, small things, and we can verbalize, I really appreciate you because you do XYZ. 00:27:05.920 --> 00:27:22.799 But I think that it's another, it's an it's another thing to not have that thing that they do, to not have that presence, to miss it because it's not there to say I appreciate it. 00:27:23.039 --> 00:27:42.160 So I want to encourage those of you who are with someone who is quality, or for those of you who are aspiring or desire to be with someone that is quality, appreciate them, appreciate what they are, who they are, what they represent, that you appreciate. 00:27:42.319 --> 00:27:43.599 Don't miss what is it? 00:27:43.680 --> 00:27:46.960 You don't miss your well until your water runs dry. 00:27:47.279 --> 00:27:51.359 Don't don't miss that person after they're gone. 00:27:51.519 --> 00:27:52.880 I'm old school church. 00:27:52.960 --> 00:28:00.319 They used to say, give me my flowers while I'm still living, so I can smell the brief, I can see the beauty. 00:28:00.480 --> 00:28:12.240 I'm gonna say booty, so I can smell, see the beauty, touch up no bad, so that I can see the beauty that they bring. 00:28:12.640 --> 00:28:55.039 If you're with someone and you know that you'll never find if you know the person that you're with puts up with your and you know you're not sure if there's somebody else out here that will sign up for your, you should appreciate the woman that you with that knows your scent, that will help you clean up your because it's harming out here, and I'm only telling you this from a from a five-day, I got a five-day single stint, and I'm telling you it's harming out here, it's harming out, it's harming out here from a single day, it's hard out here. 00:28:55.599 --> 00:29:04.559 Okay, I'm going to the school tomorrow or Thursday for the schedule pickup. 00:29:05.519 --> 00:29:07.279 Now, for some of y'all, this is second nature. 00:29:07.359 --> 00:29:08.960 My brother called me, he was like, Bro, how you doing? 00:29:09.039 --> 00:29:10.400 I was like, Man, this is for the bird. 00:29:10.559 --> 00:29:13.279 He was like, Yeah, well, yeah. 00:29:13.599 --> 00:29:15.200 He was like, I didn't live this. 00:29:15.519 --> 00:29:17.359 I said, Man, I'm sorry. 00:29:17.440 --> 00:29:18.480 I didn't know. 00:29:20.160 --> 00:29:37.119 When you live alone, especially if you don't have community, something hurts your feelings, and you get even don't don't be in a bad mental, don't be in a state where you you're going through some mental stuff and you need a hug. 00:29:38.319 --> 00:29:55.039 I'm good, I ain't there, but I cannot imagine being depressed, being beat down, and coming home and needing a hug and can get one. 00:29:57.279 --> 00:30:09.200 So people who I'm spitting, people who I just I already have um a large range of grace with the human experience. 00:30:09.759 --> 00:30:22.319 I pastored for over 15 years, so I understand humanity, I understand why people are are finding

themselves in some of the situations that they find themselves in. 00:30:22.400 --> 00:30:23.920 So I'm not lost on it. 00:30:24.079 --> 00:30:28.319 Like I'm one of the most progressive folks that I know. 00:30:29.200 --> 00:30:36.319 But I I see even from a better perspective now, like why some people get down the way they get down. 00:30:36.559 --> 00:30:52.079 And I think that here it goes, that especially within the church and and those of us, those who have the tendency to cast judgment on people's decision making and what people are doing or what people are not doing. 00:30:52.319 --> 00:31:00.400 I think that we must be very careful without judging a thing without understanding the choices that that individual had available to them. 00:31:00.640 --> 00:31:07.440 You you can't um judge something without understanding the context. 00:31:07.599 --> 00:31:12.319 And I'm finding out that loneliness, now it's been a minute since I've been alone. 00:31:12.559 --> 00:31:33.039 I'm temporarily alone, but it I it's a feeling that loneliness can produce that if you don't have a discipline, if you don't have some sense, if you don't, if you're not in touch with what you feel, if you haven't done some soul work, loneliness will have you out here doing some crazy stuff. 00:31:34.559 --> 00:31:41.440 Loneliness will have you out here finding company in places that are aren't safe. 00:31:41.920 --> 00:31:44.559 Loneliness, I think it's in Genesis, where is it? 00:31:44.720 --> 00:31:50.160 It's not good for humanity to be alone. 00:31:50.319 --> 00:31:52.160 You and I are wired for connection. 00:31:52.240 --> 00:31:57.039 So listen, I'm gonna say this movie, but my heart really, really, really goes out. 00:31:57.200 --> 00:32:05.599 I I have a burden for people, even now more than ever, for people who are alone or who feel alone. 00:32:05.680 --> 00:32:17.519 Like it's it's just not, it's not, it's it's not, it ain't it's one thing to decide to be alone, to make a decision to be alone. 00:32:17.759 --> 00:32:22.000 That still comes with its own consequences and experiences. 00:32:22.400 --> 00:32:26.559 But to want somebody, who is that is that is that Janet Jackson? 00:32:26.640 --> 00:32:27.839 Oh, that's Aaliyah. 00:32:28.079 --> 00:32:29.680 Tell me if you're that somebody. 00:32:29.839 --> 00:32:42.880 If anybody needs somebody, tell me to want somebody, to want a friend, to want someone to fully see you and to fully accept you and to fully love you, and can't find it. 00:32:44.799 --> 00:32:51.119 So I'm speaking from a temporary other side of our relationship, and I'm I'm sure she would say the same as well. 00:32:51.200 --> 00:32:55.759 She we was texting each other today, and her schedule is so busy during this work trip. 00:32:55.839 --> 00:33:01.920 So we usually during my lunch, I might call her or text her, she might call me and we chop it up or catch up or whatever. 00:33:02.400 --> 00:33:04.880 So, like, yeah, I'm missing my girl. 00:33:05.039 --> 00:33:10.480 But so we got kids, we got intimacy, the schedule, this economy. 00:33:11.039 --> 00:33:13.200 If you get sick, this is where I left off at. 00:33:13.359 --> 00:33:24.880 If you get sick and you live alone, especially if you don't have family or close friends or community in the city or the town that you live in, you and some of you have, um I haven't been there. 00:33:25.759 --> 00:33:30.160 Thankfully, I turn into a baby when I get sick. 00:33:30.319 --> 00:33:35.599 Like, I don't get sick often, but when I do, I I'm not good. 00:33:35.920 --> 00:33:41.119 When my body says, okay, I've had enough, my body says, I've had enough. 00:33:41.839 --> 00:33:46.319 I can't imagine being sick and not having somebody there. 00:33:46.400 --> 00:33:53.279 And Britney's a nurse, so her caretaking, her her come through, her attention to detail, you need to take this. 00:33:53.359 --> 00:33:54.319 Like, that's my nurse. 00:33:54.400 --> 00:33:58.240 That's not only my lover, that's not only my girlfriend, that's my nurse. 00:34:00.480 --> 00:34:03.119 Nurse, I need my sponge back. 00:34:04.640 --> 00:34:06.400 She said, I'm really gonna miss you. 00:34:06.559 --> 00:34:12.159 I said, You want you want me to start an argument so that it makes it a little bit easier to manage? 00:34:12.239 --> 00:34:14.559 She was like, No, let's go make it worse. 00:34:14.639 --> 00:34:18.000 I was like, I'm just trying to come up with some solutions that we can get through this. 00:34:18.800 --> 00:34:25.760 Uh um, so I think I think I'm done. 00:34:25.840 --> 00:34:28.960 Let me see, let me make sure I gotta make sure I'm complete tonight. 00:34:30.079 --> 00:34:41.280 And then also, last point, if you're with somebody that you don't like, to go through everything that I just listed lack of intimacy, I can't trust you. 00:34:41.840 --> 00:34:52.159 The kids are in sports, the baby is sick, I'm not getting enough pay, I'm being passed up for promotions on my job, um, car trouble. 00:34:53.280 --> 00:34:56.000 We haven't even talked about safety. 00:34:56.239 --> 00:35:07.440 If I I know people who have in times past lived alone and were scared, were afraid to be home alone. 00:35:08.480 --> 00:35:20.800 That ain't me, because but I'm just thinking about scenarios and circumstances that I know that if you your body has been used to, I know that this individual will take care of it. 00:35:20.880 --> 00:35:56.079 If that individual is your protector, if that individual, if you know that nothing's going to happen to you from a protection standpoint, from a physical harm perspective, because my man or my man, whatever your dynamic is, I know that so-and-so is here, and they're going to, if something, if someone was to to try to attack me, if someone was trying to grab my purse or whatever, I know I got a strong, you know, it could be uh, yeah, I'm really who whoever whoever in the relationship represents that physical strength. 00:35:57.679 -->

00:36:12.960 Being used to that, and because of death, because of divorce, because of sickness, because of a job, uh, a work trip, being used to that and then not having it, you miss it. 00:36:14.559 --> 00:36:22.400 So I'm thinking about people who are in that situation where you can be an adult and be afraid to live alone. 00:36:23.840 --> 00:36:27.920 I know people who are not used to paying bills. 00:36:28.400 --> 00:36:33.440 There's a guy who comes into my job um consistently. 00:36:33.679 --> 00:36:40.559 His wife just recently passed, and he's asking me, How do you fill out this paperwork? 00:36:41.119 --> 00:36:42.239 Simple paperwork. 00:36:42.800 --> 00:36:44.159 I don't know I've never done it before. 00:36:44.320 --> 00:36:46.559 I'm trying to mail this paperwork off. 00:36:46.960 --> 00:36:48.880 And is this the right form? 00:36:48.960 --> 00:36:51.760 Like, and I'm like, Yeah, you know, he's older gentlemen. 00:36:51.840 --> 00:36:59.599 He was like, Man, I've never had to do this before because my wife was the one that always took care of this area. 00:37:00.079 --> 00:37:01.679 And I'm like, damn. 00:37:03.280 --> 00:37:19.039 This man is in his 50s, having to relearn a basic component to the upkeep of his life because his wife just held it down, and out of sight, out of mind, I know she got it. 00:37:19.280 --> 00:37:30.800 Well, now she's no longer living, and he's coming in and his hair is all on the side of his head, and he's got on, he's looking like something in his life is missing. 00:37:30.960 --> 00:37:33.679 Okay, someone in his life is missing. 00:37:33.840 --> 00:37:38.320 I'm looking at this man like he looks, he looks the shelf. 00:37:38.559 --> 00:37:50.800 It looked like somebody just got him up out of bed and rubbed his hair like this and and threw some clothes on him from from from underneath the bed and said, hey, you gotta go to John's job and get this paperwork mailed off. 00:37:50.880 --> 00:37:59.440 And and I'm like, and I said, God, I hope that ain't I'm looking at him being selfish, like I hope I'm not gonna ever be you. 00:38:06.320 --> 00:38:46.639 You look like you're unprepared, but I get it, like, so I'm I'm making light of it, but you know, when someone who has been a staple in your life, even if they weren't providing anything monetarily or protecting you physically or giving you money, all of us have felt the love of somebody who was there, who we knew that if we needed them, we could call them and then they transitioned and they've left this earth and it takes time to adjust. 00:38:46.800 --> 00:39:06.800 Sometimes we never come to it's a new normal because that that old normal is no longer in existence, and so learning how to embrace a new normal can take some time. 00:39:10.159 --> 00:39:19.440 Love that was there, uh you can feel it being removed from the earth and just being left with the memory of that individual. 00:39:21.280 --> 00:39:28.079 Somebody crying right now, because it's a real

it's a real thing to know that if I need you, I know I can call you. 00:39:28.480 --> 00:39:37.840 And when that person is no longer available because of divorce, because of uh death, because of whatever, because they just you've decided to move on, they've decided to move on. 00:39:38.639 --> 00:39:39.760 It's a real adjustment. 00:39:40.400 --> 00:39:42.960 And I'm only feeling it for a week. 00:39:43.840 --> 00:40:11.519 And I'm hopping on this because if I'm feeling the absence of my routine, of the woman that I love, the woman that I'm building with, the kids are I'm like, man, like when she gets back, it's really helping me even the more for us to appreciate nobody has to do anything. 00:40:11.760 --> 00:40:14.079 Like we're adults. 00:40:14.320 --> 00:40:18.400 That person that you're with can wake up tomorrow and say, you know what, sick of the shit. 00:40:19.519 --> 00:40:26.480 Someone could have a life-changing stroke and lose their that lose their cognition. 00:40:26.960 --> 00:40:28.559 Someone could get dementia. 00:40:28.719 --> 00:40:56.639 Those of you who work in the nursing field or who have had loved ones or parents or grandparents or people that you love that have had Alzheimer's or dementia, to see a person that you recognize a memory, a memory of a consistency of of uh of uh a normality, to see their bodies there, but their brain is gone, that's that can be traumatizing. 00:40:57.360 --> 00:41:10.159 So so I think that for me, and I hope that this lands with you, appreciate what's quality, appreciate whose quality. 00:41:10.880 --> 00:41:23.440 I think that we can rush through this thing called life so quickly that we just take it for granted that so and so will always do XYZ, that so-and-so will always what if they get sick? 00:41:24.320 --> 00:41:27.199 What if they don't want to do it anymore? 00:41:27.599 --> 00:41:28.639 What if they get tired? 00:41:28.800 --> 00:41:30.800 What if they evolve and say, you know what? 00:41:31.360 --> 00:41:33.280 I want to change the way we do it. 00:41:34.079 --> 00:41:47.119 So even though I know that you do all of these things consistently out of the love in your heart for me and for our family, I still want to stop and appreciate it. 00:41:47.599 --> 00:41:48.800 Because you don't have to. 00:41:49.360 --> 00:41:51.679 It doesn't have to be a part of your constitution. 00:41:52.159 --> 00:42:01.199 There are some people that don't have the automatic come through, the provision, the provider, the caretaker, the respect. 00:42:01.440 --> 00:42:03.519 Some people, it has to be added in. 00:42:03.599 --> 00:42:04.880 So I just want to thank you. 00:42:05.199 --> 00:42:06.559 But let me be myself. 00:42:06.880 --> 00:42:07.760 I want to thank you. 00:42:07.920 --> 00:42:14.000 This is something that I think that we should implement if we don't already do it, and or do it more often. 00:42:14.320 --> 00:42:24.639 I want to stop and appreciate that that you do, that you do it often, because I would feel it if you did it, and I appreciate it. 00:42:24.800 --> 00:42:28.000 And I don't want to wait until you get tired. 00:42:28.159 --> 00:42:33.679 I don't want to wait until something monumental happens and we're separate. 00:42:33.840 --> 00:42:38.880 I want to tell you right in this moment, you would be surprised how far that goes. 00:42:39.039 --> 00:42:41.920 For those of you who have implemented that, you already know. 00:42:42.079 --> 00:42:48.639 I've seen grown men cry, grown women cry with just the acknowledgement. 00:42:48.880 --> 00:42:57.840 Because there are people who do the thing that they do and they do it on autopilot, they do it so consistently that it can feel like, man, is it seen? 00:42:58.079 --> 00:42:59.920 Am I getting any credit? 00:43:00.159 --> 00:43:01.599 Does it count? 00:43:02.079 --> 00:43:19.920 Especially if there is a leak in your relationship, those things that go unappreciated, unappreciated, can really do quick damage in your relationship if they're not spoken to and acknowledged by the receiver. 00:43:20.400 --> 00:43:22.159 So I hope this helped tonight. 00:43:22.320 --> 00:43:30.800 I just wanted to share some things that I'm feeling, things that I'm learning, things that I'm processing through during this short time that Britney's away. 00:43:30.960 --> 00:43:32.960 Uh when we get back, it'll be revival. 00:43:33.039 --> 00:43:35.039 We gotta go out of town, we got to catch up. 00:43:35.280 --> 00:43:48.480 But 19 years being married to somebody that you were with in your early 20s, moving into your 40s, like man, it's it's crazy. 00:43:49.119 --> 00:43:56.880 So love yourself, take take care of yourself, love others, be kind to yourself. 00:43:58.480 --> 00:43:59.760 We are moving through this. 00:44:00.159 --> 00:44:03.519 Thing called life, and we're not designed to do it alone. 00:44:03.599 --> 00:44:09.599 Whether it's romantic or platonic, we're not wired to be alone. 00:44:10.480 --> 00:44:14.159 So if you're with someone, do all that you can to work it out. 00:44:14.320 --> 00:44:25.119 Do all that you can to show that person that you appreciate what they are, who they are, the good that they bring, the quality that they bring, because it's not promised forever. 00:44:26.000 --> 00:44:29.360 You can be here today and gone today. 00:44:31.119 --> 00:44:36.719 So I think that we should just take a moment sometimes to stop and appreciate the moments. 00:44:36.800 --> 00:44:45.760 Let me say this last point in my close that what you're living right now in the future, one day, it's going to be a memory. 00:44:46.800 --> 00:44:52.960 Where you live, who you're with, what you have on, what your hair is like, where you work at, etc. 00:44:53.519 --> 00:44:56.079 One day that's going to be the good old days. 00:44:56.239 --> 00:44:57.920 One day that's going to be a memory. 00:44:58.079 --> 00:44:59.280 Do you remember when? 00:45:00.000 --> 00:45:01.360 So appreciate it now.

00:45:01.920 --> 00:45:09.599 Don't be so in a rush to get to wherever your destination is that you st you ignore the journey. 00:45:10.480 --> 00:45:11.119 The journey. 00:45:11.679 --> 00:45:13.360 Appreciate who you who's in your life. 00:45:14.079 --> 00:45:16.559 Friends, family, your lover. 00:45:17.360 --> 00:45:18.320 Appreciate them. 00:45:18.800 --> 00:45:24.159 I want to stop and tell you thank you because I couldn't imagine what it would be like without you. 00:45:25.360 --> 00:45:28.880 That's if you if you like the person that you with now, you you know. 00:45:34.159 --> 00:45:35.519 Adjust that accordingly. 00:45:35.679 --> 00:45:36.880 Oh, at a brave part. 00:45:37.360 --> 00:45:41.760 So um this is really what you anything you got you want to say? 00:45:42.400 --> 00:45:43.599 I've been doing all this talking. 00:45:43.760 --> 00:45:45.360 You ain't gonna say nothing tonight. 00:45:46.320 --> 00:45:46.960 All right. 00:45:47.360 --> 00:45:50.559 So, yeah, uh, I'm gonna find something to do. 00:45:50.719 --> 00:45:52.079 I'm gonna find some work to do. 00:45:52.320 --> 00:45:54.480 I gotta go, I gotta go to the grocery store and cook tonight. 00:45:54.559 --> 00:45:55.679 We're gonna brown some meat. 00:45:55.760 --> 00:45:58.239 We're probably gonna do some taco, some real light work. 00:45:58.719 --> 00:46:00.719 Do you need taco seasoning, right? 00:46:00.960 --> 00:46:01.760 Yeah, yeah, yeah. 00:46:01.920 --> 00:46:02.960 I know what all that's on. 00:46:03.199 --> 00:46:10.239 Some of you know, put some cilantro, you know, some some chives, you know, some green onions, I mean, some henna lime chips. 00:46:10.320 --> 00:46:13.519 You know, I'm a oh, that's right. 00:46:13.679 --> 00:46:16.159 We still been eating good anyway. 00:46:17.119 --> 00:46:19.519 Yeah, I got clothes to fold. 00:46:21.519 --> 00:46:22.159 Yeah. 00:46:24.159 --> 00:46:29.440 Woo! Boy, so I'll be up tonight. 00:46:30.239 --> 00:46:31.440 I'll be up. 00:46:32.639 --> 00:46:34.159 Ain't nothing like the real thing. 00:46:34.239 --> 00:46:38.960 I mean, ain't nothing like the real thing, baby, man. 00:46:40.079 --> 00:46:42.159 Ain't nothing like the real thing. 00:46:43.280 --> 00:46:46.079 How I know that we are not wired to be alone. 00:46:46.159 --> 00:46:47.519 I can't sleep at night. 00:46:48.800 --> 00:46:50.960 I'm used to having company. 00:46:51.679 --> 00:46:53.760 Who's gonna hear all my jokes before I go to sleep? 00:46:54.079 --> 00:46:57.920 Marcus McCall, you before I go to sleep and tell y'all all everything that's on my mind today. 00:46:59.679 --> 00:47:02.400 I FaceTime Britain, but it ain't the same. 00:47:03.199 --> 00:47:04.800 I don't like that long distance stuff. 00:47:04.880 --> 00:47:05.199 I don't know. 00:47:05.360 --> 00:47:08.719 Those of y'all who do the long distance thing, I need to touch you. 00:47:08.880 --> 00:47:11.280 I need to feel on you. 00:47:12.079 --> 00:47:13.599 Y'all know what my love language is. 00:47:13.760 --> 00:47:16.079 If you love me, touch me. 00:47:16.320 --> 00:47:18.159 Because if I love you, I'm gonna touch on you. 00:47:18.239 --> 00:47:20.239 I need to touch on my woman. 00:47:20.800 --> 00:47:22.480 Let me touch you. 00:47:23.039 --> 00:47:23.760 Where's my mic? 00:47:23.840 --> 00:47:27.119 At see if you are real. 00:47:30.079 --> 00:47:33.119 That's how my wife knows I didn't miss you. 00:47:33.199 --> 00:47:36.159 Outside of my words, I need to feel on you. 00:47:36.320 --> 00:47:40.880 I need to, I need to feel from the crown of your head to the soles of your feet. 00:47:41.199 --> 00:47:42.480 Fill you up. 00:47:43.280 --> 00:47:44.800 I need to feel on you. 00:47:45.039 --> 00:47:47.360 That's how I express love, that's how I give love. 00:47:47.519 --> 00:47:48.880 I got to touch you. 00:47:49.519 --> 00:47:51.360 I need to know that it's real. 00:47:51.840 --> 00:47:53.440 All right, I got to go. 00:47:53.840 --> 00:47:58.079 I'm gonna start uh saying stuff that Marco's gonna have to cut off of this video. 00:47:59.039 --> 00:48:00.960 I'm sorry what I said about religious folk. 00:48:01.360 --> 00:48:02.719 You know what I meant. 00:48:05.360 --> 00:48:06.800 All right, until next time. 00:48:06.960 --> 00:48:11.440 We always say before we end every episode, but what we always say, Brittany, come on on three. 00:48:11.599 --> 00:48:12.719 No, on three. 00:48:12.880 --> 00:48:14.320 One, two, three. 00:48:14.639 --> 00:48:18.639 Marriage is for so is singleness. 00:48:19.119 --> 00:48:40.239 You got to be grown, you got to be mature to be out here with children, with a career, with edges, trying to unbig your back, trying to get your credit right, trying to get your side hustle off the ground, trying to get these papers done, to take these kids to practice, picking them up from daycare, filling up the gas tank, going to the gun range. 00:48:40.480 --> 00:48:41.360 This is grown. 00:48:42.000 --> 00:48:45.199 Not only is marriages for grown, but we didn't scratch through marriages later. 00:48:45.519 --> 00:48:49.039 Adulting is for grown folks. 00:48:49.280 --> 00:48:51.280 This is grown folks talk. 00:48:51.599 --> 00:48:55.440 This uh life is for grown folks. 00:48:55.760 --> 00:48:56.480 All right, I'm done. 00:48:56.559 --> 00:48:58.000 That's my subboxing. 00:48:58.239 --> 00:48:59.039 God bless you. 00:48:59.199 --> 00:49:00.239 We'll see you. 00:49:02.480 --> 00:49:03.840 There's no one to stop me. 00:49:03.920 --> 00:49:04.880 Somebody stop me. 00:49:05.039 --> 00:49:05.679 All right, y'all. 00:49:05.760 --> 00:49:06.719 I hope this helped you. 00:49:06.880 --> 00:49:08.639 I hope you got something out of this. 00:49:08.960 --> 00:49:09.920 See you later. 00:49:10.079 --> 00:49:11.039 I'll be up.