Full Transcript for Dream Big, Start Small

time for ourselves, it's like, can feel a little bit intimidating. 00:02:25.889 --> 00:02:40.346 So some people totally come in and just play with skincare and makeup but also I just love how it's so much more than, than skincare and makeup, and- Um, I, I started my business and was not expecting, um... 00:02:40.455 --> 00:02:48.836 You know, I, I was a gal who didn't like the color pink, asked if the pink Cadillac came in another color, took my eye makeup off with lotion. 00:02:49.756 --> 00:02:54.605 So I was a very unlikely gal to be- Yeah driving a pink Cadillac. 00:02:54.626 --> 00:03:01.126 And I just love how it, it's so i- intertwined with personal development and my faith and everything. 00:03:01.126 --> 00:03:16.936 And then aside from business, I'm an awesome auntie, and I spend a lot of time with my mom, and I'm married to a really awesome guy, which is totally part of God's blessing and just following His will and not my own. 00:03:16.955 --> 00:03:22.795 And I'm, um, yeah, just blessed to love my life every day, so most days. 00:03:22.836 --> 00:03:25.256 Yes, you're very multifaceted, and- Most days. 00:03:25.445 --> 00:03:26.475 Yes you're fabulous. 00:03:26.475 --> 00:03:28.496 I love learning from you, and that's why I reached out. 00:03:28.496 --> 00:03:43.355 You had put onto Instagram one of those get ready with me videos, and I was like,"Yes, there's so much overlap between what you do and what I do." But when I went and spent some time with you, the big idea was like,"Let's get camera ready." And I left that night feeling like, yeah, this is what confidence looks like. 00:03:43.355 --> 00:03:49.015 It's not like I'm wearing a ton of makeup, but I'm my best version of me- Yeah and that's what I learn every time I go to your Instagram. 00:03:49.015 --> 00:03:50.066 I, I love how you show up. 00:03:50.316 --> 00:03:51.466 I love your authenticity. 00:03:51.506 --> 00:03:52.526 And then we're just gonna give a shout-out. 00:03:52.526 --> 00:03:53.445 I loved your dad. 00:03:53.545 --> 00:03:54.705 I loved being able to work with him. 00:03:54.876 --> 00:03:55.545 Love your mom. 00:03:55.556 --> 00:03:55.586 Yes. 00:03:55.866 --> 00:03:58.135 Um, and so fun to get to hang out today. 00:03:58.395 --> 00:04:02.975 So my program was created f- again, sort of a download, I think, from God. 00:04:03.066 --> 00:04:04.735 Our faith system connects us as well. 00:04:05.015 --> 00:04:08.036 Um, that every single person was created to live an abundant life. 00:04:08.036 --> 00:04:21.776 That's literally what Jesus says,"I came that you would have a life and a life more abundant." And all my years in the nonprofit world, in church work, I saw a lot of exhausted, overwhelmed, depleted people who forgot there was ever a dream dropped into their heart. 00:04:21.776 --> 00:04:35.156 And so I think just having examples like you of you might not even know that dream is possible,'cause nobody dropped it in front of you yet, but when you take one

brave step, all of a sudden you get more excited about what's possible in the future. 00:04:35.295 --> 00:04:42.446 So tell us a little bit more about what are some of the dreams you've accomplished, and then maybe we'll talk a little bit about dreams you still have in your heart. 00:04:42.896 --> 00:04:43.326 Yeah. 00:04:43.365 --> 00:04:52.596 I mean, you're getting me emotional right now already like a few minutes into this podcast, which is probably a good sign because it's, it's something that is... 00:04:52.636 --> 00:04:54.326 I'm so passionate about. 00:04:54.656 --> 00:05:02.415 God made us to be big, and how often do we shrink ourselves or make ourselves small or apologize for taking up space? 00:05:02.935 --> 00:05:07.755 And my biggest goal that I've accomplished is loving the skin I'm in. 00:05:08.636 --> 00:05:12.136 And I am so grateful for that because I'm somebody who... 00:05:12.146 --> 00:05:16.776 You know, I grew up with a great house, and there was no necessarily, you know, reason for this. 00:05:16.776 --> 00:05:17.815 Had great parents. 00:05:17.826 --> 00:05:21.255 Anybody who knew my dad, Alan Peterson, yes, the best. 00:05:21.625 --> 00:05:25.245 And so I just hated the skin I was in. 00:05:26.146 --> 00:05:30.565 Y- I, um, and I m- um, masked that with alcohol. 00:05:30.646 --> 00:05:30.995 Mm. 00:05:31.065 --> 00:05:36.232 You know, I just- drinking was the way that I felt comfortable in my skin. 00:05:36.391 --> 00:05:36.791 Mm-hmm. 00:05:36.882 --> 00:05:43.891 And so when I was in my early 20s, I got sober, and, um, have just worked on myself since then. 00:05:43.891 --> 00:05:48.672 The last, um, 20 years almost has been a personal development journey. 00:05:48.682 --> 00:05:55.512 So my biggest accomplishment is loving the skin I'm in and not wanting to be different than who I am. 00:05:55.512 --> 00:06:08.132 I mean, some days I'm like,"I wish I could smooth this out a little bit more." Um, but besides that, as far as prof- professionally, uh, you know, earned the pink Cadillac, which is a big accomplishment in, in Mary Kay. 00:06:08.132 --> 00:06:11.872 I've actually earned two of them, and I'm on my way to earning my third right now. 00:06:11.872 --> 00:06:14.362 We trade them in every two years and get a brand-new one. 00:06:14.362 --> 00:06:16.932 So I haven't had a car payment in a while. 00:06:16.932 --> 00:06:18.502 So that's pretty nice. 00:06:18.862 --> 00:06:23.072 Um, but I also love empowering women to be their best selves. 00:06:23.081 --> 00:06:23.101 Yeah. 00:06:23.112 --> 00:06:32.262 Like, watching people on my team, watching my customers grow and becoming who they wanna be, that's some of my biggest successes for sure. 00:06:32.422 --> 00:06:33.752 And that's what I'm seeing from the outside. 00:06:33.752 --> 00:06:35.512 Like, I love the authenticity you show up with. 00:06:35.512 --> 00:06:36.612 And we have a very similar story. 00:06:36.612 --> 00:06:40.872 I had acne when I was younger, and so I don't think I ever really loved the skin I was in for a long time. 00:06:40.872 --> 00:06:46.622 And finding my way into the coaching world, that was one of the most powerful coaches that I worked with who helped me to say like,"Hey, you know what? 00:06:46.872 --> 00:06:49.882 This body might not look exactly what I want it to, but it birthed three children. 00:06:49.882 --> 00:06:53.411 And hey, could I just love that I have a body that works?" And I agree with you. 00:06:53.411 --> 00:06:56.062 I'm 57 years old, and I'm like,"I love the skin I'm in." Okay. 00:06:56.062 --> 00:07:02.692 I've never been happier about who I am, and I love that the outside noise isn't what's getting in anymore. 00:07:02.692 --> 00:07:07.502 It's like an internal belief of, you know- Right our, our belovedness and our goodness. 00:07:07.502 --> 00:07:09.812 And so what are some of the dreams you're still dreaming about? 00:07:09.812 --> 00:07:10.161 Because I... 00:07:10.201 --> 00:07:13.612 another thing that I loved is that you went really hard for a goal. 00:07:13.841 --> 00:07:15.052 It didn't quite happen. 00:07:15.062 --> 00:07:15.081 Yeah. 00:07:15.192 --> 00:07:17.932 And you cheered on everybody who got it, and I love that. 00:07:17.942 --> 00:07:25.471 I love women who can just support other women and know that, like, what we want, that idea of, like, desire isn't a bad thing. 00:07:25.471 --> 00:07:31.651 It's t- a motivating way to, like, say,"I, I can want things." Like, there's nothing un-Christian- Yeah about dreams. 00:07:31.661 --> 00:07:32.052 So yeah. 00:07:32.052 --> 00:07:32.211 Yeah. 00:07:32.211 --> 00:07:33.641 Tell me some of the things you're dreaming about. 00:07:33.711 --> 00:07:39.252 Well, and how often when, when we're achieving, we inspire others- Yes to think bigger too. 00:07:39.632 --> 00:07:42.762 And like I, like I said, God, God wants us to be big. 00:07:42.762 --> 00:07:46.041 And when we have more for ourselves, we're able to give more. 00:07:46.182 --> 00:07:46.581 Mm-hmm. 00:07:46.721 --> 00:07:51.851 And I try to stay grounded in that, um, being of service- Yeah attitude and mindset. 00:07:51.851 --> 00:08:01.992 And I was just, uh, meditating and praying prior to this, jumping on this podcast, and I was realizing, you know, like right now, this month, it's n- it hasn't been, like, a great month in my business. 00:08:01.992 --> 00:08:02.232 Yeah. 00:08:02.651 --> 00:08:07.192 And I'm like,"Okay, let me pause." And I was actually pausing for this. 00:08:07.192 --> 00:08:07.291 Mm-hmm. 00:08:07.291 --> 00:08:10.822 Like, we don't know the different things that God puts in our path and why. 00:08:10.831 --> 00:08:10.851 Yeah. 00:08:11.192 --> 00:08:19.692 And I was pausing and getting my mind right for, for this, and that act of taking that time out made me realize other things. 00:08:20.492 --> 00:08:22.122 Yeah, it's all in alignment. 00:08:22.201 --> 00:08:22.442 Yeah. 00:08:22.521 --> 00:08:28.211 And made me

realize that- I haven't been in that, like, service mindset. 00:08:28.211 --> 00:08:30.682 I've felt more of a pressure mindset. 00:08:31.172 --> 00:08:34.692 And so this is allowing me to stop and pause and... 00:08:34.961 --> 00:08:40.022 So one of my biggest goals, and it's all about who we become in the process of achieving- Right that goal. 00:08:40.101 --> 00:08:40.312 Yep. 00:08:40.341 --> 00:08:57.269 Like you said, some people think it can be self-serving or whenever I go for a big goal, I watch other people on my team reach bigger for themselves and give- Yeah them, give themselves that permission And so a big goal I've had since I started was to go on these top director trips Yeah at Mary Kay. 00:08:57.269 --> 00:08:59.549 They are five-star, all-expense paid. 00:08:59.759 --> 00:08:59.860 Yeah. 00:08:59.860 --> 00:09:01.379 Plus they give you spending money. 00:09:01.389 --> 00:09:02.529 It's insane. 00:09:02.840 --> 00:09:04.120 And so I was reaching for that. 00:09:04.120 --> 00:09:14.240 Our fiscal year ended June 30th, and I was reaching for the top trip to Switzerland, and I very publicly fell on my face and did not earn the goal. 00:09:14.240 --> 00:09:16.990 But I think that's really powerful to share, too. 00:09:17.279 --> 00:09:23.029 Showing people that you can have, quote-unquote,"failures,"'cause nothing about that- Yeah was a failure. 00:09:23.279 --> 00:09:27.480 But you can have, quote-unquote,"failures" and it's okay. 00:09:27.490 --> 00:09:28.649 It's okay to try. 00:09:28.669 --> 00:09:30.350 It's okay to keep going. 00:09:30.350 --> 00:09:32.429 It's a, it's okay to fall down and get back up. 00:09:32.429 --> 00:09:36.059 And, and like I've said all along, it's, it's about who we become in the process. 00:09:36.070 --> 00:09:39.750 So this next year, the top trip is to Rome. 00:09:39.759 --> 00:09:40.159 Yes. 00:09:40.210 --> 00:09:42.149 And so I have until June 30th to earn that. 00:09:42.149 --> 00:09:44.450 I'm getting the chills, so we're, we're just manifesting this with you. 00:09:44.450 --> 00:09:49.070 And I want to say, as someone who's standing beside you while you were doing it, all I saw was inspiration, right? 00:09:49.080 --> 00:09:51.720 The breath of God coming out into the world of you. 00:09:51.720 --> 00:10:02.519 Like, let's just decide to be these big women and say,"I want something huge." And, you know, I just believe for you, like, you're still gonna get to Switzerland someday, but yes, let's just decide now. 00:10:02.519 --> 00:10:05.610 Everybody who's listening, we're all gonna send our energy to Lindsay- And- and get her to Rome. 00:10:06.070 --> 00:10:13.389 And thank you for saying that, too, because as I'm making these reels or talking about it, like, there's a big part of me that feels silly. 00:10:13.529 --> 00:10:14.110 Of course. 00:10:14.350 --> 00:10:14.850 You know? 00:10:14.850 --> 00:10:15.059 The... 00:10:15.110 --> 00:10:21.960 I'm like,"Okay, are we gonna be cringe right now?" And sure, some people probably saw them and thought,"Oh, she's cringey," or whatever. 00:10:21.960 --> 00:10:23.149 People have their opinions. 00:10:23.429 --> 00:10:27.730 But then there's this whole other side of it, of, of these women just cheering each other on, so. 00:10:27.809 --> 00:10:29.149 And reminding each other. 00:10:29.299 --> 00:10:35.669 Like, what I l- found the coaching world, what I loved is, like, wow, these are all examples to me of what's possible. 00:10:35.679 --> 00:10:35.700 Yeah. 00:10:35.899 --> 00:10:40.000 And I didn't have pictures of successful, powerful women growing up. 00:10:40.000 --> 00:10:40.629 I just didn't. 00:10:40.809 --> 00:10:45.809 I was surrounded by them, but they kept making themselves small- Yes and not wanting too much, and not being too much. 00:10:45.809 --> 00:10:56.490 So one of the things that I wanted to talk to you about is, on one of your reels you were talking about accepting that the challenge of new things, like learning new things, doing new things, is that it's not easy. 00:10:56.490 --> 00:10:58.779 So this is my fifth career pivot. 00:10:58.809 --> 00:11:08.519 I've gone from being a teacher, to a children's pastor, to a lead pastor, to a life coach, still a life coach, and now I'm a director of an organization, and starting something new again. 00:11:08.919 --> 00:11:11.399 Man, it's hard to just learn new things. 00:11:11.399 --> 00:11:14.370 Even a different website than I use, having to learn how to do that. 00:11:15.039 --> 00:11:15.159 Mm. 00:11:15.289 --> 00:11:24.980 A lot of us, without people inspiring us, forget that the price we pay to become our full, big self is we have to learn new things, and it's not easy. 00:11:25.250 --> 00:11:34.980 So can you remember one of the things you've recently done where it just was challenging, it was hard, you had to learn how to do something new, and kinda made through it enough to say,"Well, that was worth it"? 00:11:35.029 --> 00:11:36.070 Anything come to mind? 00:11:37.392 --> 00:11:37.731 Yeah. 00:11:37.831 --> 00:11:42.101 I mean, I had an experience recently. 00:11:42.101 --> 00:11:51.172 I think I This is what I was talking about in one of those reels where it's, I went on a trip, and then I came back, and my momentum just wasn't there. 00:11:51.182 --> 00:11:51.302 Right. 00:11:51.302 --> 00:11:55.772 I just was not feeling like working. 00:11:55.772 --> 00:11:58.142 I wasn't feeling in flow. 00:11:58.172 --> 00:12:00.081 It just felt like a trudge. 00:12:00.091 --> 00:12:01.312 It felt hard. 00:12:01.741 --> 00:12:10.331 And I'm also learning new now how to really build leaders in my business in a way that's basically giving away my job. 00:12:10.341 --> 00:12:10.361 Mm-hmm. 00:12:10.371 --> 00:12:16.782 Like, allowing women to stand in the position I have now, and that's something I love is there's, like, no ceiling. 00:12:16.831 --> 00:12:18.111 Everybody can rise to the top. 00:12:18.211 --> 00:12:18.601 Yes.

00:12:18.601 --> 00:12:19.451 And- And that is life. 00:12:19.491 --> 00:12:20.121 That's true. 00:12:20.581 --> 00:12:20.642 Yes. 00:12:20.721 --> 00:12:21.162 Yeah. 00:12:21.831 --> 00:12:30.532 And how often, when we're kids learning something new, and we fall off the bike, we are not worried about looking stupid or- Right looking dumb. 00:12:30.751 --> 00:12:34.192 We just get back on- Absolutely the bike and don't give up. 00:12:34.241 --> 00:12:34.481 Right. 00:12:34.481 --> 00:12:40.011 And as adults, for whatever reason, we Like, our brains are designed to keep us safe. 00:12:40.081 --> 00:12:40.591 Mm-hmm. 00:12:40.591 --> 00:12:45.741 And so your brain can sometimes be your worst enemy- Right and will just fight you. 00:12:46.231 --> 00:12:55.581 And so I really work to keep myself right in prayer, meditation, working out, um, reading positive things, affirmations. 00:12:56.081 --> 00:13:02.211 And it's all things that I've learned over time and added to my routine here and there. 00:13:02.211 --> 00:13:06.081 It wasn't like I jumped into it and was like,"Okay, I'm gonna do affirmations. 00:13:06.081 --> 00:13:07.272 I'm gonna go to the gym three times a week. 00:13:07.272 --> 00:13:11.402 I'm gonna, you know, wake up at- Right at 6:00 AM." Like, it wasn't like I did it all at once. 00:13:11.412 --> 00:13:13.152 It's learning, falling down. 00:13:13.152 --> 00:13:14.142 Okay, let's add this. 00:13:14.142 --> 00:13:14.822 Let's try this. 00:13:14.822 --> 00:13:14.861 Yeah. 00:13:14.861 --> 00:13:15.532 Let's do that. 00:13:15.751 --> 00:13:18.412 And it just created success over time. 00:13:18.782 --> 00:13:29.851 And you're a fan of the saying I've been seeing a lot on TikTok and Instagram of, like,"The hard part about discipline is kind of every day looks the same, but if you don't have any discipline, every year looks the same." Yeah. 00:13:30.062 --> 00:13:31.642 That has kind of spoken to you as well? 00:13:32.072 --> 00:13:32.871 Definitely. 00:13:32.922 --> 00:13:33.591 Definitely. 00:13:33.601 --> 00:13:39.881 And i- if you follow me, my life might look sexy and cool and fun and everything, and it is. 00:13:39.932 --> 00:13:42.741 I've been able to build- a life that's so beautiful. 00:13:42.751 --> 00:13:42.782 Yes. 00:13:42.782 --> 00:13:51.672 And I get to travel and have a man I'm madly in love with, and get to spend Monday afternoons with my mom on our Monday afternoons. 00:13:51.782 --> 00:13:51.812 Yes. 00:13:52.152 --> 00:13:52.451 Right. 00:13:52.481 --> 00:13:56.142 And not have to get up at 7:30 and- Right rush to work and e- everything. 00:13:56.442 --> 00:14:02.381 But I love that saying because the day-to-day of my life is quite boring. 00:14:02.442 --> 00:14:04.761 It's the same day in, day out. 00:14:04.782 --> 00:14:06.951 It feels a little bit like Groundhog Day. 00:14:07.221 --> 00:14:20.961 But I know by sticking to that routine, sticking to the promise and what God has put on my heart, and- Yeah having a little bit of that grind, it allows me to have that life that's beyond my wildest dreams. 00:14:20.971 --> 00:14:22.481 And that's what discipline does for us, right? 00:14:22.481 --> 00:14:24.302 It, like, helps us to create sort of those boundaries. 00:14:24.302 --> 00:14:40.998 So, um- Sometimes the opposite of that is this belief that the right thing is just gonna feel easy, and I appreciate people like you that show up and you're like,"Didn't really wanna do it- but I did it." So you talk about 10-minute actions can move you out of a rut. 00:14:40.998 --> 00:14:44.168 So you get back from the event, all the adrenaline's gone, you're kinda tired. 00:14:44.778 --> 00:14:47.957 How did you decide to start doing 10-minute small actions? 00:14:47.957 --> 00:14:50.168 And you used a metaphor of like it's like a train. 00:14:50.168 --> 00:14:52.248 It has to start, and it's going kinda slow. 00:14:52.807 --> 00:14:52.837 Yeah. 00:14:52.908 --> 00:14:58.868 What even inspired you to try taking 10-minute actions, and where have you seen it show up as something of value? 00:14:58.868 --> 00:15:02.067 'Cause 10 minutes can feel like- Yeah well, that's not even worth doing, but it obviously is. 00:15:02.874 --> 00:15:05.553 Yeah, and nothing's ever my idea. 00:15:05.644 --> 00:15:06.214 Like Same. 00:15:06.354 --> 00:15:08.043 There are no- nothing new under the sun. 00:15:08.053 --> 00:15:10.063 We're just interpreting it- Oh through our lens. 00:15:10.083 --> 00:15:10.734 Absolutely. 00:15:10.774 --> 00:15:13.573 Uh, I don't know if you're familiar with Chris- Clifton StrengthsFinder's test. 00:15:13.594 --> 00:15:14.163 Oh, yes. 00:15:14.214 --> 00:15:14.464 Yes. 00:15:14.634 --> 00:15:17.673 Um, but ideation is number 34 on my list. 00:15:17.683 --> 00:15:18.543 It is last. 00:15:18.553 --> 00:15:20.173 Ideation- I think it might be my last, too. 00:15:20.663 --> 00:15:22.083 I do not have any ideas. 00:15:22.083 --> 00:15:22.724 I- I don't either. 00:15:22.724 --> 00:15:23.604 I'm all input. 00:15:23.624 --> 00:15:26.484 How can I take from you and make my own little baby out of this idea and that idea? 00:15:26.484 --> 00:15:27.104 So I love that. 00:15:27.104 --> 00:15:27.354 Yeah. 00:15:27.354 --> 00:15:27.604 Do... 00:15:27.604 --> 00:15:29.144 I- we'll have to talk about your StrengthsFinders in a minute. 00:15:29.144 --> 00:15:36.413 So someone else said it- Mm-hmm but you took it and you applied it to your own life of this train doesn't start off going- No 70, 100 miles an hour. 00:15:36.423 --> 00:15:36.524 Exactly. 00:15:36.524 --> 00:15:37.844 It takes a little- Yeah little step. 00:15:38.344 --> 00:15:52.903 And I remember when I was on the couch grieving after the loss of my dad, and I had a national sales director say to me,"Lindsay, I am so glad- Mm I continued to work during those tough seasons of my life." Yeah. 00:15:52.974 --> 00:15:58.464 And she said it, it didn't look perfect- Mm-hmm but I still got in the office and I did a

little. 00:15:58.474 --> 00:15:58.494 Yeah. 00:15:58.504 --> 00:16:00.063 I did what I could for that day. 00:16:00.333 --> 00:16:08.453 So something that I implement regularly, uh, because the things that are gonna move the me- needle the most, I never feel like doing them. 00:16:08.524 --> 00:16:09.063 Absolutely. 00:16:10.894 --> 00:16:11.214 Ever. 00:16:11.254 --> 00:16:14.364 They are often the hardest things to do- Yeah in my business. 00:16:14.453 --> 00:16:14.634 Yeah. 00:16:14.714 --> 00:16:16.484 But I know that I need to do it. 00:16:16.494 --> 00:16:26.563 So on days that I feel like the momentum just isn't th- there, the train's been parked at the station, I will say to myself,"I'm just gonna go in my office for 10 minutes. 00:16:26.563 --> 00:16:39.673 I'm gonna sit there, and I'm gonna do this income-producing activity for 10 minutes," and then give myself permission that if after 10 minutes- Yeah I do not feel like working anymore, I have the permission, I can leave my office. 00:16:39.994 --> 00:16:44.663 And what always happens is after 10 minutes, I'm in flow. 00:16:44.813 --> 00:16:45.134 Yeah. 00:16:45.224 --> 00:16:48.854 So it's just about getting there, sitting down, and starting to take action. 00:16:49.053 --> 00:16:53.313 Yep, and the starting is the hardest part, and that's where that discipline of, like, you write it down, you schedule it. 00:16:53.313 --> 00:16:55.543 You know I'm gonna sit in this chair at this time. 00:16:55.543 --> 00:16:58.673 And that's why people tend to do a little better when they have a partner at a gym. 00:16:58.703 --> 00:17:03.573 You go to the place, your brain knows why you're there, and someone else is there to co-cheer you on. 00:17:03.573 --> 00:17:10.173 So some of these little disciplines I've seen show up in your life are things like you're working out, the business actions like you said, and eating healthy. 00:17:10.173 --> 00:17:13.413 And what I loved about the day that you showed us, like,"Hey, you don't even have to buy a veggie tray. 00:17:13.413 --> 00:17:14.993 You can make it yourself," and then you came back on. 00:17:15.003 --> 00:17:15.923 I love your authenticity. 00:17:15.953 --> 00:17:19.124 And you're like-"People didn't really even eat it." But I bet you did. 00:17:19.223 --> 00:17:23.144 I bet having your fresh cut up vegetables the rest of the week was, like, massively a gift. 00:17:23.384 --> 00:17:26.064 So if someone's listening to us and they're like,"You know what? 00:17:26.084 --> 00:17:29.723 Right now I don't feel inspired to move towards that dream. 00:17:29.743 --> 00:17:39.403 Everything else in my life feels urgent, and it's sucking the energy of my life, and I don't have a day or a week, a month that I could do this, but I might have 10 minutes." Mm-hmm. 00:17:39.844 --> 00:17:48.703 What would be, and I wanna just, like, shout you out for this, you teaching me to do 10 minutes of get camera ready changed a lot for how I show up in life. 00:17:48.713 --> 00:17:48.723 Mm. 00:17:49.173 --> 00:17:53.163 Because it didn't take two hours, but I felt different when I was done. 00:17:53.183 --> 00:17:54.054 You're like, you know. 00:17:54.094 --> 00:17:56.604 So I encourage everybody, call Lindsay, get camera ready. 00:17:56.614 --> 00:17:56.634 Yeah. 00:17:56.804 --> 00:18:02.604 But what's like a, you know this woman who is sitting on the, on the couch, and her kids went off to college, and now she doesn't know what to do. 00:18:02.963 --> 00:18:12.193 Or she's been working in this non-profit, and people pay her in praise, but she doesn't have enough money, and she doesn't have enough time,'cause she doesn't put boundaries around her life to keep her home time her home time. 00:18:12.673 --> 00:18:17.473 Is there a simple 10-minute skill that you've ever done that you're like,"Well, that paid off. 00:18:17.493 --> 00:18:19.453 Those 10 minutes moved me forward"? 00:18:19.473 --> 00:18:23.233 Anything come to mind of just a small action step you'd inspire somebody to try? 00:18:23.894 --> 00:18:26.203 If something's been placed on your heart, it's for a reason. 00:18:26.243 --> 00:18:26.554 Yeah. 00:18:26.614 --> 00:18:35.443 And I love how you talk about just do that 10 minutes, because if we wanna start a business or do It, it is overwhelming- Yeah and you cannot do it. 00:18:35.443 --> 00:18:37.473 You have to break it into bite-sized chunks. 00:18:37.614 --> 00:18:37.824 Right. 00:18:37.844 --> 00:18:46.314 So if you are wanting to get more fit, literally set a timer on your phone for five minutes, walk five minutes away from your house. 00:18:46.324 --> 00:18:50.243 When the timer goes off, walk five minutes back to your house. 00:18:50.284 --> 00:18:50.503 Yeah. 00:18:50.503 --> 00:18:53.614 And then you've taken action towards getting fit. 00:18:53.894 --> 00:18:54.554 100%. 00:18:54.713 --> 00:18:56.273 And that is the whole thing, isn't it? 00:18:56.273 --> 00:18:59.874 And I have yet to meet somebody who was like,"Didn't appreciate my walk," right? 00:18:59.913 --> 00:19:02.483 Like- Yeah it's good for your mental health, it's good for your physical health. 00:19:02.673 --> 00:19:02.703 Mm-hmm. 00:19:02.713 --> 00:19:06.584 So we've talked a little bit about, you know, you inspired me to get camera ready. 00:19:06.584 --> 00:19:10.604 The other day you were saying you were beginning to picture future Lindsay. 00:19:10.844 --> 00:19:11.344 Mm. 00:19:11.763 --> 00:19:13.753 And you're like,"How does she show up? 00:19:14.003 --> 00:19:14.433 I know. 00:19:14.433 --> 00:19:16.104 I'm gonna add a little something. 00:19:16.104 --> 00:19:17.933 I'm gonna add these earrings." Mm-hmm. 00:19:17.933 --> 00:19:19.673 And remind me of who she is. 00:19:19.884 --> 00:19:21.903 How does it feel when you do something like that? 00:19:22.384 --> 00:19:25.544 Well, there's the saying,"Dress for the job you want." Yes. 00:19:26.044 --> 00:19:26.673 Yes. 00:19:26.703 --> 00:19:31.763 And I

know that I, I'm gonna be a million-dollar sales director one day. 00:19:31.763 --> 00:19:32.064 Yes, you are. 00:19:32.624 --> 00:19:37.463 And million-dollar sales directors show up looking sharp. 00:19:37.483 --> 00:19:41.064 They got the outfit, makeup's always on point, hair's always done. 00:19:41.334 --> 00:19:51.903 And I was just going to a girls' afternoon on a rainy day, crafting, and so it wouldn't have been appropriate to show up in dress pants or anything like that. 00:19:52.144 --> 00:19:57.183 But instead of just going in my sweats or just going in joggers, let's wear some cute pants. 00:19:57.183 --> 00:19:59.693 Let's wear, like, a sweatshirt that's elevated. 00:19:59.693 --> 00:20:04.673 Let's put some hoop earrings on, because I wanna dress for the job I want. 00:20:05.013 --> 00:20:09.903 And I saw some statistics recently, and I don't really like these, this statistic. 00:20:09.933 --> 00:20:10.203 Okay? 00:20:10.203 --> 00:20:11.534 This, like, isn't cute. 00:20:11.574 --> 00:20:16.784 I'm not saying women are, are, you know, you need makeup to be beautiful at all. 00:20:17.074 --> 00:20:27.243 But women who wear makeup make 20% to 30% more- And women who wear makeup, um, people trust them 20 to 30% more. 00:20:27.253 --> 00:20:27.513 Okay? 00:20:27.513 --> 00:20:32.374 It's, like, not a, like, cute statistic, but like you said, even if you can just take... 00:20:32.374 --> 00:20:34.413 I love teaching women a five-minute look. 00:20:34.503 --> 00:20:34.733 Yeah. 00:20:34.794 --> 00:20:38.203 It doesn't have to be a full glam, you know. 00:20:38.273 --> 00:20:41.763 And taking that five minutes for yourself also does something for you internally. 00:20:41.903 --> 00:20:43.304 And I think that's what it did for me, too. 00:20:43.304 --> 00:20:46.334 It helped me to elevate taking care of myself in this small way. 00:20:46.334 --> 00:20:50.144 And I know a few years ago, I have three amazing daughters, they're all adults, they're killing it in the world. 00:20:50.473 --> 00:20:53.074 They would all agree with you, like, good hair, good makeup, it does... 00:20:53.114 --> 00:20:57.413 You know, you get that little tiny bit of, like, forward movement,'cause you feel good about yourself. 00:20:57.473 --> 00:21:03.923 And so having a space in my bathroom that I'm like,"This is all for me." And I have just made my life about me right now. 00:21:03.923 --> 00:21:10.253 Like, I take a bath almost every single night with Epsom salts and battery-operated candles- Oh and just make the evening about me and my skincare. 00:21:10.483 --> 00:21:15.233 And then in the morning- I like it it's like just this little bit of my morning routine that elevates my day for me. 00:21:15.263 --> 00:21:20.584 And one of my favorite things I learned a few years ago is many of us have closets that are not our friends. 00:21:20.773 --> 00:21:28.523 So you put on these pants and this cute sweatshirt, and you liked Lindsay in it, versus putting it on and then the whole time you're kind of judging yourself. 00:21:28.523 --> 00:21:29.203 It's too tight. 00:21:29.203 --> 00:21:30.534 I shouldn't have bought it, blah, blah, blah. 00:21:30.534 --> 00:21:37.493 So what would it look like to take 10 minutes this weekend and say,"If something is in my closet, I like me when I'm wearing it. 00:21:37.564 --> 00:21:48.364 And if not, I can just bless it and let it go." Because we deserve lives where our makeup is in a place where we enjoy putting it on, our clothes reflect the life we want to live and that future version of us. 00:21:48.403 --> 00:21:52.213 And I just think we did not hear enough messages about this, at least I didn't. 00:21:52.243 --> 00:21:56.173 I grew up really Jesus first and yourself last and everyone else in between. 00:21:56.173 --> 00:21:58.453 Well, that's the opposite of what Jesus himself said. 00:21:59.094 --> 00:22:02.104 When he said,"Love the Lord your God with your heart, soul, mind, and strength. 00:22:02.124 --> 00:22:07.084 Love your neighbor as yourself," if you take that sentence apart, it all begins with loving yourself. 00:22:07.817 --> 00:22:14.347 And I think that's what you do really well when you show up, is you remind us, one, we're worth loving ourselves, but no one else can do that for us. 00:22:14.387 --> 00:22:17.327 Like, we have to show up and do that work ourselves. 00:22:17.337 --> 00:22:19.407 So- Gotta put the oxygen mask on first. 00:22:19.678 --> 00:22:20.157 100%. 00:22:20.198 --> 00:22:26.887 So you're saying there is a way to align with future her, and the job you want might be a job you create. 00:22:26.887 --> 00:22:29.897 A lot of people who listen to me, they're actually entrepreneurial like you and I are. 00:22:29.897 --> 00:22:32.938 We're creating that future version of ourselves. 00:22:33.137 --> 00:22:41.147 So anything else, whether it's journaling or these, like, intentional coffees you have with people, like, how do you stay aligned to the energy of future Lindsay? 00:22:41.627 --> 00:22:50.627 I have a sign on my computer right here that says,"Act like a Circle of Excellence director." And when I'm a Circle of Excellence director, I will have earned the top director trip. 00:22:50.978 --> 00:23:03.897 And so every day I'm like,"Okay, what would it take to act like a Circle of Excellence director?" If I'm at TJ Maxx on a Tuesday afternoon, I'm like,"Would th- this top person be at TJ Maxx on a Tuesday afternoon? 00:23:03.988 --> 00:23:04.367 No. 00:23:04.428 --> 00:23:24.268 Like, let's go to the coffee shop." You know, sometimes when I have a very busy day and I haven't gotten my list done'cause I've had a meeting or had to drive an hour or whatever, before I go home, I will pull over to a coffee shop and get my list done, even if it's just one or two things off my list so that I'm working on those income-producing activities. 00:23:24.288 --> 00:23:32.268 Or I'll pull over at the park before I go home and just crank on some things

before I step in the house,'cause we know there's so many distractions at home. 00:23:32.488 --> 00:23:32.518 Right. 00:23:32.607 --> 00:23:37.948 And you actually get home, and it's hard to then maybe focus on what's important to you- Yeah because there's all these urgent things. 00:23:37.948 --> 00:23:42.708 That's one of the things we talk about a lot in my coaching company, is the difference between what's important and what's urgent. 00:23:42.897 --> 00:23:45.117 And when something's important, it's because it's important to us. 00:23:45.298 --> 00:23:46.738 And I did not know that my whole life. 00:23:46.738 --> 00:23:50.498 I made urgency the deciding factor, not it's important to me. 00:23:50.498 --> 00:23:58.018 So if something's important but it's not urgent, you know, you need to go to the dentist, but you don't have a cavity, you need to bring the car in for the oil change, but the tire isn't deflated. 00:23:58.157 --> 00:24:02.647 If it's important and non-urgent, it has to be scheduled, and part of the schedule is the time and the place. 00:24:02.678 --> 00:24:08.167 And you just clearly said for so many women that space might not be in your house. 00:24:08.657 --> 00:24:08.778 Yes. 00:24:08.817 --> 00:24:13.488 You might need to go to a park or to a coffee shop in order to achieve that goal. 00:24:13.748 --> 00:24:16.748 And then just sometimes once we see it, we can't unsee it. 00:24:17.440 --> 00:24:20.809 There's no space in my home where that future version of me lives. 00:24:20.859 --> 00:24:23.920 I need to get outside of this house to reconnect with her. 00:24:24.240 --> 00:24:32.950 Um, so another sentence you said, and this'll be one of our last conversational topics, but you are building a life that you don't need a vacation from. 00:24:32.990 --> 00:24:37.869 And I don't know if you're surrounded with people like I am that work so hard for that two-week vacation. 00:24:38.509 --> 00:24:41.430 Sometimes they get sick at the beginning of it'cause they ran too hard. 00:24:41.440 --> 00:24:41.450 Mm. 00:24:41.740 --> 00:24:46.180 And again, going back to our faith, what God says is like,"Rest first." Mm. 00:24:46.250 --> 00:24:48.410 And then find the things that bring you joy. 00:24:48.420 --> 00:24:49.880 Get into that aligned energy. 00:24:49.910 --> 00:24:58.759 And the ease of working from aligned energy is so different than trying to work exhausted, depleted, overwhelmed. 00:24:58.769 --> 00:25:01.359 Like, take the coffee break, take the walk at the park. 00:25:01.609 --> 00:25:08.769 So h- what specific things have you done to create a life that you don't need a vacation from, you love waking up and being in this version of life? 00:25:09.809 --> 00:25:11.180 No is a complete sentence. 00:25:11.210 --> 00:25:12.289 Yes, yes. 00:25:12.299 --> 00:25:12.920 Say it again. 00:25:13.740 --> 00:25:15.960 Yes, no is a complete sentence. 00:25:16.250 --> 00:25:20.440 So I had to make some s- short-term sacrifices for some long-term gain. 00:25:20.450 --> 00:25:20.750 Yes. 00:25:20.819 --> 00:25:22.259 I was working in corporate America. 00:25:22.279 --> 00:25:27.509 I was working at an ad agency prior to Mary Kay, and I wanted to do something where I had more freedom. 00:25:27.859 --> 00:25:31.869 And so it cost me my freedom initially. 00:25:31.920 --> 00:25:32.019 Right. 00:25:32.140 --> 00:25:44.759 I was saying no to certain, you know, parties or dinners with girlfriends, and I was choosing to work on this business that was unexpectedly exactly where I'm supposed to be. 00:25:45.109 --> 00:25:52.529 And I had to say no to the pretty, shiny things, the things I wanted to do, so I could ultimately create the life I, I love. 00:25:52.529 --> 00:25:54.940 So short-term sacrifice for long-term gain. 00:25:55.150 --> 00:25:55.789 100%. 00:25:55.829 --> 00:25:58.500 And then what kind of makes you smile about your current life? 00:26:01.875 --> 00:26:02.965 L- l- like everything. 00:26:03.256 --> 00:26:09.375 Yeah, tell me some of the things And w- as I say that- Yeah I'm wanting to make myself small so I don't make other women feel bad. 00:26:09.375 --> 00:26:09.395 No. 00:26:09.395 --> 00:26:09.816 You know? 00:26:09.826 --> 00:26:11.066 Let's be inspiring. 00:26:11.185 --> 00:26:11.215 I know. 00:26:11.306 --> 00:26:13.925 Exactly, it's ingrained in us to do that. 00:26:14.205 --> 00:26:16.486 But I think about my husband, you know? 00:26:16.496 --> 00:26:16.516 Yeah. 00:26:16.526 --> 00:26:19.675 I was in a, toxic marriage before. 00:26:19.685 --> 00:26:28.269 I got on my knees one, one morning and- gave my marriage to God, and he showed me very clearly and, unequivocally you can leave- Leave. 00:26:28.269 --> 00:26:29.512 Yay Keep preaching that. 00:26:29.512 --> 00:26:29.813 Yes. 00:26:29.813 --> 00:26:29.823 Yes. 00:26:29.823 --> 00:26:30.153 Yes. 00:26:30.153 --> 00:26:31.522 That is sometimes the answer, leave. 00:26:31.782 --> 00:26:32.702 Exactly. 00:26:32.712 --> 00:26:36.492 And I did, and it was really hard, and the, the last few years were hard. 00:26:36.492 --> 00:26:39.143 And we don't know how God is aligning our lives. 00:26:39.502 --> 00:26:48.522 Because I left that marriage and I was 35 years old sitting in my childhood bedroom- Yeah upset and feeling like,"Why am I here? 00:26:48.522 --> 00:26:49.173 What is happening? 00:26:49.173 --> 00:27:02.163 I'm 35 in my childhood bedroom." And then COVID hit, and I got to spend beautiful, uninterrupted, fabulous lockdown time with my dad- Yeah and with my parents. 00:27:02.192 --> 00:27:02.403 Yeah. 00:27:02.762 --> 00:27:09.393 And I got to have that time with them, and had no idea- Right that my dad would pass away nine months later. 00:27:09.452 --> 00:27:09.682 Yeah. 00:27:09.732 --> 00:27:18.313 And so we don't know what God has planned for us, and if we can just trust it, follow our gut even though it doesn't necessarily make sense, and trust it'll make sense in his timing. 00:27:18.742 -->

00:27:27.692 But hopefully listening to people like you, I just saw Paige DeSorbo from Giggly Squad and Summer House, she was accepting an award and she's like,"I was in an unhealthy relationship in college, and I just want to admit it. 00:27:27.692 --> 00:27:28.452 There's no shame. 00:27:28.712 --> 00:27:34.472 But if I, if it can happen to me, it can happen to you." We need to be women who stand up and say,"We totally believe- Yeah in the love of God. 00:27:34.712 --> 00:27:40.222 And because I'm so beloved, I don't stay in relationships- Facts where the light in me is not honored," right? 00:27:40.413 --> 00:27:43.573 Like, if someone has these issues, they can go and work them out. 00:27:43.573 --> 00:27:45.083 We don't have to take on every project. 00:27:45.303 --> 00:27:47.173 So you love your husband, you love waking up. 00:27:47.173 --> 00:27:50.292 I love the video of you and your mom, your mornings with, Monday mornings with Mom. 00:27:50.303 --> 00:27:50.333 Yes. 00:27:50.492 --> 00:27:51.972 But, like, what else is making you smile? 00:27:51.972 --> 00:27:55.353 'Cause you are just, like, brightness and sunshine. 00:27:55.353 --> 00:27:57.792 El- It could be the smallest little thing, like you said, like the hoop earrings. 00:27:57.792 --> 00:28:04.843 But anything else that you're like,"This is really, truly something that's making me smile these days." I mean, coffee on an afternoon. 00:28:06.232 --> 00:28:07.532 Being able to go for a walk. 00:28:07.542 --> 00:28:07.563 Yeah. 00:28:07.573 --> 00:28:09.742 Walking 10,000 steps a day. 00:28:09.742 --> 00:28:15.093 I've committed to walking 10,000 steps a day, and I'm noticing a difference in my body as a result. 00:28:15.103 --> 00:28:15.123 Yeah. 00:28:15.153 --> 00:28:18.182 Talking about those, like, small steps that we're, we're taking. 00:28:18.192 --> 00:28:18.212 Yeah. 00:28:18.532 --> 00:28:22.053 Um, which 10,000 steps for some people might sound, like, impossible and huge. 00:28:22.303 --> 00:28:22.393 Right. 00:28:22.393 --> 00:28:23.512 But, but, like, start where you're at. 00:28:23.583 --> 00:28:23.952 Yes. 00:28:24.053 --> 00:28:26.643 You know, it might be 5,000, might be 6,000, 7,000. 00:28:26.643 --> 00:28:30.303 But it's, it's changed my body in a way that I feel more confident. 00:28:30.313 --> 00:28:34.643 And- I love that I'm feeling excited for my trip to Florida next month, so. 00:28:34.653 --> 00:28:35.113 I love that. 00:28:35.353 --> 00:28:38.423 And so having something ahead to be excited about. 00:28:38.452 --> 00:28:40.752 My three daughters, as I said, they don't live in New Hampshire anymore. 00:28:40.752 --> 00:28:41.772 They live outside of... 00:28:42.063 --> 00:28:45.153 They live in really fun, fantastic places to visit, but they don't live here. 00:28:45.423 --> 00:28:51.333 And so having something on the calendar of, like, we're gonna get together, or for all of them to have these really fun lives where here's the next thing. 00:28:51.853 -->

00:28:59.932 I think having women keep saying things like this on repeat, if you're hearing us and right now you're feeling exhausted, depleted, we understand. 00:28:59.932 --> 00:29:00.563 We were there. 00:29:00.904 --> 00:29:06.954 both of us, like overgave, had no more energy but kept pushing, and we're like,"Here's another way to do it." Yes. 00:29:08.075 --> 00:29:14.055 Get excited about something, take small steps in that direction, and then love yourself enough to say,"You know what? 00:29:14.055 --> 00:29:15.005 I did the 10 minutes. 00:29:15.045 --> 00:29:15.684 I'm tired. 00:29:15.684 --> 00:29:20.434 I c- I deserve rest and joy, and I'll come back to it." So any final thoughts for us? 00:29:20.454 --> 00:29:22.545 And tell people how they can connect with you. 00:29:22.595 --> 00:29:24.585 What they could do to get camera ready. 00:29:24.595 --> 00:29:26.494 How can people get camera ready with Lyndsey? 00:29:27.454 --> 00:29:29.654 Camera ready with Lyndsey, yes, exactly. 00:29:29.654 --> 00:29:33.345 Yeah, so I love being able to give women that time for themselves. 00:29:33.394 --> 00:29:35.325 I offer in-person pampering sessions. 00:29:35.325 --> 00:29:36.134 I also love... 00:29:36.714 --> 00:29:44.454 Thank you for technology and virtual options- Yes too- Yes because I offer 15-minute skincare consultations, and there's so much. 00:29:44.484 --> 00:29:47.144 I like to take beauty and simplify it for people. 00:29:47.144 --> 00:29:47.505 Yes. 00:29:48.015 --> 00:30:02.555 There's so many options out there, and I like to take that mental load off of skincare and makeup, provide a custom, solution and skincare routine that might be simple or might be all the things so you can have the results that you want, or that five-minute face. 00:30:02.555 --> 00:30:05.884 Or glam look you're going to a wedding, you wanna look- Right best. 00:30:06.125 --> 00:30:10.755 Being able to provide that as a service for people that's really attainable for you. 00:30:10.775 --> 00:30:13.575 And all of our products, we follow European standards. 00:30:13.855 --> 00:30:14.984 And you know, grandma. 00:30:15.025 --> 00:30:17.404 I used to think Mary Kay was like grandma's makeup. 00:30:17.414 --> 00:30:17.444 Right. 00:30:17.454 --> 00:30:19.625 Well, we really trust Grandma. 00:30:19.684 --> 00:30:19.894 Yeah. 00:30:20.214 --> 00:30:20.255 You know? 00:30:20.795 --> 00:30:21.815 Grandma gives great advice. 00:30:23.464 --> 00:30:25.634 You can connect with me on Instagram. 00:30:25.644 --> 00:30:26.795 That's probably the best place. 00:30:26.805 --> 00:30:28.805 Lyndsey Joy Joy is my handle. 00:30:28.805 --> 00:30:29.944 My middle name is Joy. 00:30:30.325 --> 00:30:31.535 So Lyndsey Joy Joy. 00:30:31.535 --> 00:30:35.634 Lyndsey is spelled L-Y-N-D-S-E-Y. 00:30:35.644 --> 00:30:36.055 Lyndsey Joy Joy. 00:30:36.055 --> 00:30:37.454 And we will link that in the notes. 00:30:37.464 --> 00:30:39.575 Lyndsey, thank you so much for being here today. 00:30:39.585 --> 00:30:39.615 Yes. 00:30:39.615 --> 00:30:44.115 I hope our time together helps you live a brave, creative, purpose-filled life. 00:30:45.224 --> 00:30:45.805 Thank you. 00:30:46.211 --> 00:30:48.681 Thank you for joining the Live a Vibrant Life podcast. 00:30:49.101 --> 00:30:55.550 I hope our time together encouraged you and will equip you with the tools you need to move into the vibrant life you desire. 00:30:56.230 --> 00:30:59.790 I'm here to help you live a brave, creative, purpose-filled life. 00:31:00.171 --> 00:31:08.080 And if you'd like to learn more, you can follow me on Instagram or Facebook, Kelly Tibbits Life Coach, or visit my website, kellytibbitts.com. 00:31:08.611 --> 00:31:10.290 I look forward to connecting again soon