Full Transcript for Secure dad offers disater Prepardeness ideas for families

the worst uh social media. 00:04:41.120 --> 00:04:49.040 I would think like Instagram and Facebook would be something where people are scrolling all the time and you're getting like messages. 00:04:49.199 --> 00:04:52.560 I that's something that just kind of blows me away. 00:04:52.879 --> 00:04:55.519 But the other if we sorry, go ahead. 00:04:55.839 --> 00:05:10.319 Oh, I think for Snapchat it is um the snaps go away, you know, so they think it's temporary, but I mean it's all logged on a server, like everything you've ever done on Snapchat, every comment, every like, every scroll, it's documented on a server. 00:05:10.480 --> 00:05:13.360 So law enforcement can't go back and find it if they need to. 00:05:13.519 --> 00:05:18.240 Hopefully, it doesn't ever come to that, but like it's there, it's all there, it can all be seen again. 00:05:18.399 --> 00:05:28.639 Um, but yeah, I think a lot of people think they can get away with it because it doesn't last forever, so they they kind of feel emboldened to do things that they wouldn't do face to face. 00:05:29.439 --> 00:05:30.240 Okay, okay. 00:05:30.480 --> 00:05:31.839 Wow, that's good to know. 00:05:32.079 --> 00:05:50.959 So if we're gonna kind of backtrack a little bit, like especially like talking to the child, like I know I was really um in my child, my children's life, but there was a time, even though I was open-minded and I knew that I told the kids, like, you know, this is could happen, you know, make sure you reach out to me. 00:05:51.199 --> 00:05:59.279 But part of them still was wanting to hold back and not let me know anything because they're scared. 00:05:59.519 --> 00:06:19.680 And even though I said, you know, like come to me right away, because then we can fix the problem instead of holding it on and then it's getting too late, and then we can't fix it because you got you've kind of lied and lied and lied, and now it's like I don't know what to do anymore, right? 00:06:20.399 --> 00:06:24.240 So that's yeah, that's a very human thing. 00:06:24.399 --> 00:06:25.920 I mean, we do that as an adult. 00:06:26.000 --> 00:06:30.079 Like, I mean, how many times have you messed up at work and you don't immediately go tell your boss, right? 00:06:30.160 --> 00:06:31.839 Yeah, same thing, you know. 00:06:32.000 --> 00:06:34.879 It's um that's a it's a very human thing. 00:06:35.199 --> 00:06:47.680 So when you do have the opportunity to talk to them about it, like whether you're sitting in the car, just say, Hey, I just want to remind you, like, if there's something that's going on that you don't know how to deal with it, I'm here for you. 00:06:48.079 --> 00:07:02.160 And and and just keep saying that to eventually they will come around, you know that there will be a moment, it may be after a lot of things have built up, but as soon as they can come to you and talk to you about it, yeah, then that's wonderful. 00:07:02.319 --> 00:07:05.839 And that's a moment where you you stop everything

and you help them. 00:07:06.079 --> 00:07:20.240 Um, if you feel like your child is being threatened, if you are the parent, you're the owner of the phone, you have every legal right to search that phone and find out what's going on. 00:07:20.399 --> 00:07:34.720 If you're concerned that your kid is getting bullied to the point that they may take their own life, you absolutely get in there, you look at those messages, um, and you you do have the right to take the phone away as a protective measure. 00:07:34.800 --> 00:07:36.800 That shouldn't be a knee-jerk reaction. 00:07:36.959 --> 00:07:46.160 That should be something you sit down and you talk to your kid and say, Hey, this person is continually, let's say it's just uh a Snapchat account that you don't know who it is. 00:07:46.319 --> 00:07:51.439 Yeah, you you you you're not sure who it is, and you're just gonna say, Hey, as your parent, I love you. 00:07:51.600 --> 00:07:53.040 We're gonna delete this app. 00:07:53.199 --> 00:08:04.160 I still want you to have your phone, I still want you to be able to talk to me and your friends, but we're gonna block this person, and then we're all because the chances are the person's just gonna create another account and come after your kid again. 00:08:04.319 --> 00:08:34.399 Yeah, um, so we're just gonna delete the app, and this is really what's best for you, and make this a slow process that you discuss and that they know and that they're on board with before you ever do it, and just let them know that hey, this is coming from a place of love, you know, like also explain it to your kid, you know, like, hey, if you were to walk down the street every day and you get bit by the same dog in front of the same house every day, I'm gonna come pick you up in the car and bring you home. 00:08:34.480 --> 00:08:48.000 You know, I'm not gonna let this continuously happen, and just kind of bring the ridiculous comparison in, maybe laugh about it a little bit, and just be like, oh yeah, of course, I wouldn't want that to happen to me. 00:08:48.159 --> 00:08:51.360 I would want somebody to pick me up in the car and come take me home, that sort of thing. 00:08:51.600 --> 00:09:04.480 So just try to explain it to them, tell them that you're on the same page and um just tell them, like, hey, I see what this is doing to you, and I and this is not what should be happening to you at this point in your life. 00:09:04.639 --> 00:09:08.480 I love you, I'm with you, and we're gonna get through this together. 00:09:08.799 --> 00:09:09.919 Okay, awesome. 00:09:10.080 --> 00:09:24.639 So if a kid is being bullied, but they don't really want to say and let the parent know because they're scared that the person has threatened them if you tell your parents, I'm gonna expose this, so they're now very vulnerable, they're scared. 00:09:24.879 --> 00:09:27.679 Is there signs that parents can look out for? 00:09:28.080 --> 00:09:29.679 Absolutely, great question. 00:09:29.840 --> 00:09:40.159 So um, this happens a lot in extortion, um, where um you know, maybe somebody pretends to be like if you got it, we'll just take it from a teenage boy's point of view. 00:09:40.320 --> 00:10:02.720 You've got a teenage boy, they have Snapchat, and so this person uh pretends to be a girl about their age, and they're sending, you know, all sorts of messages with each other, and then um this predator pretending to be a uh a girl says, Hey, uh send me a picture that is uh explicit, you know, like you know, use your imagination. 00:10:03.200 --> 00:10:12.960 And so at that point, the you know the the teenage boy would probably feel compelled to do it, you know, because like, hey, I think this is a person that this is gonna be good. 00:10:13.200 --> 00:10:15.919 Um, and so they send the picture, yeah. 00:10:16.240 --> 00:10:34.240 And then all of a sudden, this person that they thought was this other teenage girl that they had a relationship with turns out to be a man in another country and who is saying, I'm going to send this picture to your mom, your dad, your friends, it's gonna be posted all around your school if you don't send me money. 00:10:34.720 --> 00:10:39.679 And so that is gonna have a huge psychological effect on your child. 00:10:39.840 --> 00:10:44.320 They're going to start to act differently, they're gonna be sleeping less. 00:10:44.480 --> 00:10:51.679 Yeah, um, they may be afraid to let go of the phone, like they may actually want to sleep with the phone under their pillow, something like that. 00:10:51.840 --> 00:10:54.399 Um, they're probably not gonna want to eat. 00:10:54.639 --> 00:10:59.679 Um, they're just gonna they're this is gonna consume them in a very negative way. 00:11:00.159 --> 00:11:02.960 And they may try to keep that from you. 00:11:03.039 --> 00:11:05.360 And by the way, this is all typical human behavior. 00:11:05.519 --> 00:11:10.399 This is all something that would happen if even if this were a letter correspondence. 00:11:10.480 --> 00:11:12.320 It doesn't necessarily mean that it's the phone. 00:11:12.480 --> 00:11:14.639 This is all typical human behavior. 00:11:14.879 --> 00:11:26.879 Um, and since they have this young developing teenage mind, they're gonna want to say, I don't want to bring my parents into this, I'm too embarrassed, or they're gonna want to try to say, Hey, I'm 17 years old, I should be able to figure this out, that sort of thing. 00:11:27.039 --> 00:11:31.679 And they can't, like, you know, even as an adult, this is a really bad situation. 00:11:31.919 --> 00:11:37.279 So you just look for the behaviors uh they're not sleeping, they don't want to let go of their phone, they're not eating. 00:11:37.519 --> 00:11:43.279 Um, they may they just don't experience joy at the same level. 00:11:43.440 --> 00:11:46.320 That one's actually kind of vague because that can happen a lot for a teenager. 00:11:46.480 --> 00:11:56.000 But the eating, the sleeping, not wanting to let go of

the phone, and then like so maybe maybe they talk to you about this person, um, and we'll say that the fake account was named Jennifer. 00:11:56.159 --> 00:12:01.279 They're like, Oh yeah, Jennifer and I were talking or whatever, and all of a sudden they stop talking about that person. 00:12:01.600 --> 00:12:19.200 That's when you need to investigate what's going on because it could be a number of things, um, but those those things all together cluster, those behaviors cluster together can really indicate that something bad has happened and you need to sit down and have a one-on-one with your kid to try to figure out what's going on from a loving point of view. 00:12:19.679 --> 00:12:21.440 Okay, that's good to know. 00:12:21.759 --> 00:12:31.840 So the other thing too is like say you're on Snapchat and then or you're on Facebook, whatever, somebody sends you a message and you think, you know what, it's all legit. 00:12:32.080 --> 00:12:37.440 I just want to have more friends because you know you're kind of sure by yourself, right? 00:12:37.519 --> 00:12:40.080 Like you think, okay, maybe I'll I can make a friend. 00:12:40.320 --> 00:12:44.799 Is there clues to watch out for, like for making friends online? 00:12:45.039 --> 00:12:49.759 Because you don't know until it's too late that you know what, I shouldn't have even added them. 00:12:50.159 --> 00:12:50.639 Right. 00:12:50.879 --> 00:12:58.879 I would tell your kids, just generally speaking, um, while they're young and they are on social media, you've made that decision as a family. 00:12:59.039 --> 00:13:03.440 Um, don't friend anybody that you don't know in real life. 00:13:03.600 --> 00:13:03.759 Okay. 00:13:04.080 --> 00:13:09.519 You know, so if it's somebody from school, if it's somebody from church, it's from a sports team, whatever. 00:13:09.759 --> 00:13:18.159 Like I have seen this person, I can actually go to this person and have a one-on-one face-to-face conversation with them, then that's the people that I can friend. 00:13:18.320 --> 00:13:25.039 Now, there will be these people who will try to pretend to be somebody who's in your school or have enough friends. 00:13:25.200 --> 00:13:32.799 Um, so a lot of times kids will look at like a profile and be like, oh, well, they're friends with two other people that I know, so this must be legit. 00:13:33.039 --> 00:13:34.639 And so they'll go ahead and add them. 00:13:34.879 --> 00:13:38.480 And even if you add them, that's not terribly a big deal. 00:13:38.720 --> 00:13:59.200 It's just when those um, excuse me, when those conversations begin, that's when you kind of need to investigate, check out who they're friends with, where they say they are, do their snaps match people who live in your community in your area and your age, and tell them, like, if something feels off, yeah, just unfriend them. 00:13:59.360 --> 00:14:02.639 That's all you got to do before even things get weird. 00:14:02.879 --> 00:14:28.639 Um, so you can kind of tell bot accounts, um, even though AI is helping uh create more convincing looking accounts because you can generate images, you can uh if there's a language barrier, um, Chat GPT will help kind of bring that together, but you can still tell like this person doesn't quite act like a teenage kid that I know. 00:14:28.799 --> 00:14:31.679 You know, this this this feels kind of weird, this feels off. 00:14:31.919 --> 00:14:35.039 So, yeah, just tell them to follow their intuition. 00:14:35.679 --> 00:15:16.240 Yeah, I know especially with social media, there's a lot of fake accounts where they'll kind of impersonate even like a famous person or a celebrity and pretend, oh yeah, let's reach out to them, and then but it's actually somebody really fake, and being kids not knowing anything, it's kind of hard because I've had this a few years ago where there was a celebrity reaching out, and me being an adult and have my own kids, and I thought, oh wow, like this person's reached out to me because of this, and then my mom's my actually sorry, my daughter, my youngest, she goes, Mom, that's a fake account. 00:15:16.799 --> 00:15:18.080 And I'm going, Really? 00:15:18.320 --> 00:15:22.320 She goes, Yeah, she goes, Why would they they don't have time for this? 00:15:22.480 --> 00:15:24.080 Why would they be reaching out to you? 00:15:24.240 --> 00:15:25.600 And I thought, you know what? 00:15:26.000 --> 00:15:32.559 That's probably true because they're too busy in their life, they don't have like time, so that's good for you. 00:15:32.720 --> 00:15:42.159 Yeah, that is a great deduction on the part of your daughter, like you know, to be able to say, and number one, glad you talk to her about it, glad you listen to her. 00:15:42.240 --> 00:15:45.759 That's that's that's great communication, that's what you're looking for right there. 00:15:45.919 --> 00:15:48.240 Yeah, yeah, that's exactly true. 00:15:48.480 --> 00:16:00.720 Because sometimes kids know these things and they're too scared to let parents know, or even parents make the the mistakes because you're so vulnerable, you got some so much stress on your mind that you can't even think of. 00:16:01.120 --> 00:16:01.919 Sure, yeah. 00:16:02.080 --> 00:16:11.200 And I hate to say that's a little bit what happens with scammers who try to reach out to like your adult parents, so parents in their 60s, 70s, and 80s, yeah. 00:16:11.360 --> 00:16:14.320 Um, and and they try to kind of hijack your brain. 00:16:14.399 --> 00:16:16.080 That's what they are trying to do. 00:16:16.320 --> 00:16:25.200 They're trying to get you out of your normal reasoning skills, so that's why having a backup like your daughter there backing you up was awesome, really is. 00:16:25.519 --> 00:16:28.879 Yeah, yeah, that was actually that's just one incident. 00:16:29.039 --> 00:16:39.279 And then I had another incident where I had something wrong with my phone, so I reached out to Apple, but it was actually fraudsters, and I had no

idea. 00:16:39.519 --> 00:16:46.399 And they said, Oh, can you go to your local store and grab us um gift cards? 00:16:46.559 --> 00:16:49.600 And I was like, Why would they want gift cards? 00:16:49.759 --> 00:17:01.039 But me being innocent and naive that I didn't even think of it, and then my kids weren't around, and then so they're like, Oh, can you go? 00:17:01.120 --> 00:17:06.720 I go, Okay, I'm back, and they're like, it's like 50 bucks or whatever, and then they're like, Can you go back to the store and grab more? 00:17:06.799 --> 00:17:09.119 And I'm like, Why would you want to do that? 00:17:09.279 --> 00:17:24.240 Because you're an apple, but they got me so convinced that I did purchase it, and I got frauded, and then my kids are like, Mom, like, that's not it, like you're being frauded. 00:17:24.319 --> 00:17:28.480 And my husband was like, Oh, sh uh, shut the phone, shut the phone. 00:17:28.559 --> 00:17:29.920 And I go, There's something wrong with my phone. 00:17:30.079 --> 00:17:32.480 And they're he goes, Well, they're trying to fraud you. 00:17:32.720 --> 00:17:37.440 So the three of them were like, Get off the phone, they're trying to fraud you. 00:17:37.680 --> 00:17:43.519 So, yeah, well, no, that that's great that you have that support system, it really is. 00:17:43.680 --> 00:17:46.880 And like, you know, you've had this experience, you know what it's like. 00:17:46.960 --> 00:18:03.839 So it would be you take that as experience as an adult and you share that with your kids of like, hey, I thought this was going on, and I didn't, you know, I thought it was weird that they asked for me to go back for more cards, and that should have, you know, but that's a yellow flag that you need to look for in your relationships and as you go forward. 00:18:04.000 --> 00:18:14.319 So, like, don't take that information and make it to where you can use it to help your kids make better decisions for themselves. 00:18:14.480 --> 00:18:21.440 So, like, yeah, absolutely talk to them about it, share that experience, and just say, like, hey, learn from what happened to me, you know. 00:18:21.599 --> 00:18:22.240 That's awesome. 00:18:22.480 --> 00:18:26.559 And also for like senior parents that are in their 80s, right? 00:18:26.640 --> 00:18:36.319 Because they'll phone up and they'll say, Oh, I'm your long-lost child, you know, or your long-lost relative, and I need some money because I'm behind bars. 00:18:36.480 --> 00:18:47.440 And you know, people, seniors that are vulnerable, they'll go ahead and send it, and then all of a sudden they're out in thousands and thousands of dollars, and you're like, How could you have done that, right? 00:18:47.599 --> 00:18:51.680 But you know, these con artists are getting smarter day by day. 00:18:52.000 --> 00:18:53.359 Yes, yes, they are. 00:18:53.440 --> 00:19:01.119 And so, like, whether it's your parent facing this or it is your teenager who is facing this, it's not a fair fight. 00:19:01.359 --> 00:19:02.240 It's really not. 00:19:02.480 --> 00:19:14.000 These people are part of a criminal network, they're part of an organization that does this day in, day out, and they have honed their skills, they have practiced their craft. 00:19:14.160 --> 00:19:23.759 And so, no one, you should never make anybody feel embarrassed to come to you about this because it it's an industry, they're going up against an industry. 00:19:23.920 --> 00:19:27.839 So, like, yeah, if if somebody comes to you with this, don't make them feel bad about it. 00:19:27.920 --> 00:19:29.839 Just be like, hey, thank you so much for telling me. 00:19:30.079 --> 00:19:32.480 We're gonna work through this together, we'll figure it out. 00:19:32.720 --> 00:19:50.559 Um, so yeah, this is no one should ever feel bad for being scammed in 2026 because it's just so unfair what is happening, and like these scammers hijack your brain into thinking that you need to do these things, and they're very good at what they do. 00:19:50.799 --> 00:19:54.079 So, like, yeah, it it's it's hard, it really is. 00:19:54.480 --> 00:20:08.240 Well, even like with large companies, like these hackers are all day spending their time on computers to make somebody money, and if big corporations and companies can get hacked, who are you and me? 00:20:08.319 --> 00:20:11.599 You know, like so exactly good point, yeah. 00:20:11.759 --> 00:20:32.400 Because with all of these data breaches that happen, they'll call up and they'll, you know, like for your teenager, they'll be like, Hey, well, teenagers is a little different because they're minors, they don't have as much information, but for an adult, it would be like, Oh, you know, your your data was breached, we bought it on the dark web, so we know your name, address, where you went to school, all that sort of stuff. 00:20:32.559 --> 00:20:34.799 Yeah, and yeah, it can be very hard. 00:20:35.119 --> 00:20:38.319 Yeah, especially for even identity theft, right? 00:20:38.480 --> 00:20:44.079 So, and then they're like, Well, you guys are such a large corporation, you know, you should have protection. 00:20:44.640 --> 00:20:56.160 But the thing is, these hackers are so sophisticated and scamming people that there's really they're one step ahead than you, so they're really smart, I guess, in a way. 00:20:56.480 --> 00:20:57.119 Yeah. 00:20:58.480 --> 00:21:05.279 So the book, uh, so you're on the podcast, um, The Secure Family. 00:21:05.440 --> 00:21:08.720 Is that available for uh Apple and Spotify? 00:21:08.799 --> 00:21:10.559 And I guess yeah, that is everywhere. 00:21:10.720 --> 00:21:13.440 Everywhere you want to listen to a podcast, I'm there. 00:21:13.680 --> 00:21:15.680 Apple Podcasts, Spotify, YouTube. 00:21:16.240 --> 00:21:18.400 So my my show has like two different formats. 00:21:18.480 --> 00:21:22.240 I'll do a solo show where I'll tackle a topic and then I'll do an interview. 00:21:22.400 --> 00:21:26.319 Uh well, I'll I'll bring in an expert who

knows way more about something than I do. 00:21:26.480 --> 00:21:30.400 And so I'll put that full interview up on YouTube and you can watch it there. 00:21:30.559 --> 00:21:35.920 So yeah, I I try to be everywhere that uh parents are to try to help as best I can. 00:21:36.240 --> 00:21:37.039 Oh, awesome. 00:21:37.279 --> 00:21:39.119 And then you're an author as well. 00:21:39.200 --> 00:21:41.839 So is it the secure dad that's the book, then? 00:21:42.400 --> 00:21:42.640 Yeah. 00:21:42.799 --> 00:21:45.839 So my my brand, my LLC is the secure dad. 00:21:45.920 --> 00:21:51.680 And uh two years ago now, I decided to change it from the secure dad podcast to the secure family podcast. 00:21:51.759 --> 00:21:53.440 Just one word change there. 00:21:53.599 --> 00:21:57.200 And so my book is uh home security, the secure dad's guide. 00:21:57.359 --> 00:22:00.720 And if you go to Amazon, you type in the secure dad, you Find me. 00:22:00.880 --> 00:22:12.000 Um, you'll see the book there, and it's just a breakdown of what families need to know in order to protect their house and order to protect themselves, and it's super simple. 00:22:12.079 --> 00:22:13.680 Uh, it's less than a hundred pages. 00:22:13.759 --> 00:22:16.000 You can sit down because I wrote it for busy parents. 00:22:16.079 --> 00:22:19.039 You know, we don't have you know days to sit down or read a book. 00:22:19.119 --> 00:22:23.920 It's like, okay, dude, like I will I will read this for like three days in the pickup line. 00:22:24.000 --> 00:22:26.960 And it's like, yes, you can read this book for three days in the pickup line. 00:22:27.119 --> 00:22:31.279 So, yeah, if you want to find it there, uh it's Amazon, just search for the secure dad. 00:22:31.759 --> 00:22:32.400 Okay, okay. 00:22:32.559 --> 00:22:36.960 And if that somebody wanted to reach out to you, uh, how can they do that? 00:22:37.279 --> 00:22:37.599 Sure. 00:22:37.680 --> 00:22:40.960 The best way to do that is I'm very active on Instagram. 00:22:41.200 --> 00:22:46.000 So if you follow me at the secure dad, you send me a message, um, I'll reply to it. 00:22:46.160 --> 00:22:50.559 Um, there's also if you go to my my website, you can subscribe to my emails. 00:22:50.640 --> 00:22:53.759 You can reply to any of those emails because it's just it's me. 00:22:53.839 --> 00:22:54.480 It's just me. 00:22:54.720 --> 00:23:00.000 So, like if you try to message me on Instagram or you know, reply to an email that I've sent you, it's me. 00:23:00.160 --> 00:23:01.759 So I will I'll I'll hear you. 00:23:02.000 --> 00:23:03.039 Okay, awesome. 00:23:03.200 --> 00:23:04.079 Awesome. 00:23:04.319 --> 00:23:10.079 So, any last words to let our audience know about anything before we close up? 00:23:10.480 --> 00:23:11.039 Sure. 00:23:11.279 --> 00:23:16.400 I I tell families all the time that your safety is your own responsibility. 00:23:16.880 --> 00:23:21.279 You know, um, our brave first responders will be there um when somebody

calls them. 00:23:21.599 --> 00:23:23.279 But until then, it's up to you. 00:23:23.440 --> 00:23:34.000 So you need to take you know responsibility for the safety of your home, the digital safety of your family, uh, your safety when you're you're out in public, those sorts of things. 00:23:34.319 --> 00:23:41.839 So that's why you really just need to just shift your mindset to understand that this starts with me. 00:23:42.079 --> 00:23:43.680 You can absolutely get help. 00:23:43.759 --> 00:23:45.039 There will be people to help you. 00:23:45.119 --> 00:23:51.599 There'll be people like me who can offer you information to make better decisions, and then there will be, you know, doctors to help you when you're sick. 00:23:51.680 --> 00:23:54.720 There will be the police who will come and help you if that's what you need. 00:23:54.880 --> 00:23:57.440 So don't be scared about that. 00:23:57.680 --> 00:24:04.319 Just own it first and just say, okay, what do I need to do to make my family safer and happier? 00:24:04.559 --> 00:24:06.559 And you'll be off to the races. 00:24:06.880 --> 00:24:07.519 Awesome. 00:24:07.759 --> 00:24:18.960 So if somebody is like right now overwhelmed because this is happening to them and they just can't think straight, who could they reach out to first so that maybe they can got be guided? 00:24:19.039 --> 00:24:26.319 I know besides notifying the police that this has happened, but anybody else on like anybody that can else help them? 00:24:26.640 --> 00:24:28.960 So for like uh for like a scam or whatever? 00:24:29.119 --> 00:24:36.319 Yeah, uh like a scam or even like your child, you know, you're trying to do your best, but you're just like, what do I do now? 00:24:37.119 --> 00:24:47.920 So there are plenty of resources that your kids can go to if they are being uh if they're being bullied or if there's extortion that's happening. 00:24:48.160 --> 00:24:52.720 If it's a scam, you can go to believe it or not, to the FTC, the Federal Trade Commission, they handle that. 00:24:52.880 --> 00:24:56.640 Um, but there are a lot of resources that are available online for kids. 00:24:56.880 --> 00:25:00.319 Unfortunately, I am blanking on any of them right now. 00:25:00.559 --> 00:25:00.880 That's good. 00:25:01.200 --> 00:25:08.480 But um, if you just look up the like cyberbullying help, those those results will get you in the right place that you need to be. 00:25:08.880 --> 00:25:10.880 Okay, okay, awesome. 00:25:11.839 --> 00:25:25.599 That's good to know because sometimes, you know, when you're like just got so many issues happening that you just can't think straight, and then you're like, oh god, like especially being a solo parent, um, like the mom or the dad, it's like, okay, what do I do now? 00:25:25.759 --> 00:25:28.559 It's like, who do I tell or who do I ask? 00:25:28.640 --> 00:25:29.920 It's just right. 00:25:30.319 --> 00:25:34.880 I mean, you can even start by talking to a trusted friend, you know, just to kind of get it out. 00:25:35.039 --> 00:25:38.319 Because, like, if you're on your own, if you're a solo parent, that's a lot of pressure. 00:25:38.480 --> 00:25:42.880 And so it may just be sitting down and talking to somebody and saying the problem out loud. 00:25:43.119 --> 00:25:46.480 Sometimes in that the solution kind of presents itself. 00:25:46.720 --> 00:25:55.039 So, yeah, I think it's just being bold enough to to reach out to the right person and talk to them is is is the first step. 00:25:55.359 --> 00:25:57.440 Okay, awesome, awesome. 00:25:57.680 --> 00:26:00.480 So, thank you for coming on to the show. 00:26:00.720 --> 00:26:06.559 Um, so I guess I will be reaching out to you again through email. 00:26:06.640 --> 00:26:08.319 So for yeah, absolutely. 00:26:08.640 --> 00:26:17.119 For coming back on for preparedness, because I know I was watching the news this morning, and Florida is getting another hurricane or something. 00:26:17.440 --> 00:26:18.960 Yeah, there's one in the Gulf right now. 00:26:19.039 --> 00:26:19.680 Yeah, yeah. 00:26:19.759 --> 00:26:30.079 So, because we don't know what kind of damage they're saying could be pooling a lot of water, so yeah, yeah, fingers crossed that it kind of dies down a little bit before it hits the shore, but you never know, right? 00:26:30.559 --> 00:26:32.559 Right, and you gotta be prepared. 00:26:32.799 --> 00:26:36.240 Yes, well, all right, thank you so much, Andy. 00:26:36.400 --> 00:26:41.119 Um, glad to have you and looking forward to our next podcast. 00:26:41.599 --> 00:26:43.680 Until then, thank you. 00:26:44.240 --> 00:26:45.119 Thank you, Jennifer. 00:26:45.279 --> 00:26:46.240 Appreciate it. 00:26:49.759 --> 00:26:50.960 All right, everyone. 00:26:51.119 --> 00:26:53.039 That was my guest, Andy. 00:26:53.519 --> 00:26:57.440 So I will put his information down in the show notes. 00:26:57.519 --> 00:27:05.200 And if you want to reach out to me, uh, you can reach out to me through email, jenenfergle68 at gmail.com. 00:27:06.160 --> 00:27:19.920 I also you can reach out to me through my stand store, and I'll put the link in the show notes where you can also purchase my book, or you can go to Amazon and put and purchase the solo parenting guidebook that's available. 00:27:20.160 --> 00:27:25.359 And until the next time for the next podcast, I will see you then and have a great day. 00:27:25.519 --> 00:27:26.640 Bye for now.