Full Transcript for September Insights with Christina Slaback

feeling because I think that sometimes I can feel like isolated or like these are only the issues that are going on with me. and I think that for a lot of people that can kind of come in where when you get a little bit insulated and you just think, I just have all this going on or I need to even maybe just change where I'm at in order to like reenter community and be able to to have that, but to be able to have what I think that we're able to do is have these really frank, honest discussions where there's not this need to like pretty things up, but then still the ability to find those threads and find that motivation and find that compassion for each other and for ourselves and just K. Margaret Solorio: That's true. Christina Slaback: that that point of like reference again to feel like, okay, yeah, this is totally normal and everything's great. Are K. Margaret Solorio: Here we go. Christina Slaback: you really K. Margaret Solorio: Yeah. So any reflections from August that you want to share? Christina Slaback: Yeah, you know, I have really felt like this past year I have just had all of this like momentum and push. And sometimes it makes things really chaotic, and sometimes it just has been like giving this extra energy to things, and I think that over the past couple of months, like moving into having more things going on in my business and having more clients and having that at the same time where sometimes I take that step back over the summer period and being able to bring both of it in. And I've really just been noticing how much there is of like where I am putting my effort in, where I'm looking for those intentions, like that is what starts to move. And It doesn't always look like what I think it's going to, but I have been so and the beginning of the year I do a vision board and have all the things that I want to do. And then each of the seasons I do kind of like a mood board of just the feelings that I want to have. K. Margaret Solorio: I love this. Christina Slaback: And one of the things that I had noticed was that like, I just have been really missing having like the energy that I get from like summer outdoor concerts and hanging out with friends and doing all that stuff. And I feel like I really hadn't done that in a while. And I think probably because ticket prices are going up all the time and ticket master fees and all of it. And I just hadn't been putting a focus on it. But I realized that that was something that I was missing. So I threw it on my board. And this past summer, like it is just I've started to take because I think that that was an intention and because I just have it kind of in my face all the time of like, hey, remember you wanted to do this. I am noticing more opportunities for that. My husband and I just like randomly in the beginning of August, I was like, hey, so you could take our kid to her last track practice tomorrow night. I said, or we could see if your sister can and then we could go to this concert that

I saw that's over a little ways and then like I can see if my parents can meet us up for the weekend because we're heading up to my brother's anyway, and they can just bring the kids with them and we could just kind of go and and have a little night. And there was a lot of little pieces that I had to get into place, but just putting it out there and being like, Okay, instead of thinking, okay, this is too hard, it's too much, or not even noticing that it was available, we're just like, How can we do this? And it wound up working out like Absolutely perfectly. Everything went into play. Like he wound up having to work later than we thought and we weren't sure. But it just everything was just perfectly timed and perfectly on time. And we had a wonderful experience. We had a wonderful weekend. And that is just kind of what I keep looking for. I've been one of my mantras for this like past couple months has just been like, universe, give me opportunities to practice receiving. And give me opportunities to just practice allowing things to come in. And that was an uptime. And there's definitely been times where afterwards I'm like, hmm, that was an opportunity for me to practice receiving. And I did not take that. I I shut it down. I tried to take control or just like cut it off. but I think that I am just learning so much more about how where I intentionally put my energy and how I look at things and what I view. Changes my actual life experience. K. Margaret Solorio: I love that. It's amazing. And it reminds me actually of a mantra that's come up for me in the last month that I am open to miracles. So, Christina Slaback: Yeah. K. Margaret Solorio: same idea. Being open to receiving, changing your perspective so that you can see things as opportunities, being available for that. It really just it physically sometimes feels like my heart is opening and softening a little bit, which is really cool. I this summer read and finished in August Tina Turner's book. Happiness becomes you. One, I didn't know she wrote books. Hello. Two, you it's so awesome to get wisdom directly from such wise women. And three, she taught me a lot. she introduced me to Buddhism. So I've been trying this month with my meditate daily meditations, some Buddhist chants. And just learning more again, it feels like a different perspective on the same conversations we have and and a little more insight. And and I've really turned Inward this month. there have been like you said, energy this year has been all over the place. And I have not been keeping or feels like I haven't been keeping up and just trying to take care of myself and and stay grounded when I feel really confused. so that's meant picking up an exercise practice again. It's meant still continuing with daily meditation, but like I said, I've shifted and and started reading about Buddhism and And just making that more of a non-negotiable. And it's so when I can't sometimes some days I struggle a lot and I feel like I'm not

enough for everything. Then if I show up for the exercise, even if I don't like it or I'm really angry while I'm doing it, I'm still like, look, I did that one thing done. Thank you. Like at the end of the day. I have a new I got a new wellness journal too. And it says at the top, For the like the end of the day. What went well today? And what am I thankful for? And what are my thoughts? And I was like, it's just sometimes it's helpful. And our kids have gone back to school this August. So that bringing back a little more structure and leaning onto the the infrastructure of process, you know, how I think is helpful for me right now. Christina Slaback: Well, and I think that that is a lot of the kind of end of summer, chaotic, hectic, like moving into getting more of that structure, having these things change. And I think that you being able to look at and notice like things are feeling off. I need to intentionally look at these things that I know are going to be beneficial for me, even if in the moment I don't want to do it. Even K. Margaret Solorio: Yeah yeah. Christina Slaback: if like I have been putting it off or whatever, like Bringing in some of that and even like the Buddhism, whatever, like bringing in things that I feel like could affect me positively. And looking at those and allowing that, like that's a different state of allowing, of allowing your yourself to be open to things that may resonate with you in different ways. And K. Margaret Solorio: That's a really good point. I'm gonna interrupt because I might lose the thought bubble. Christina Slaback: Yeah. K. Margaret Solorio: So the name of the book was Happiness Becomes You, which in itself took me a lot to wrap my head around because I feel like we always talk about becoming happy, you Christina Slaback: Mm-hmm. K. Margaret Solorio: know, or or what do we have to do to be happy? And not happiness becomes you. So that in itself like sp I and I feel like that's exactly what you were saying in this becoming the making the choices of who do I want to be? Like I don't understand like my ego's fighting me or I don't understand like how it's all gonna like you can't mentally work yourself through it. And then you think, okay, well, I wanna be the kind of person that does this. I'm just gonna go show up and assume it's gonna do me good. It is really helpful. Christina Slaback: Yeah. And showing up imperfectly. I feel like also is part of that. Like showing up even if my energy doesn't feel like it's going to want to do this. Showing up even if I'm not giving what I think that I should be giving to this and being okay with that and just having that it's like the putting in the reps of like I'm just doing this. I'm not seeing the immediate effect because it doesn't always come immediately, but I do know that it's going to make a positive difference because I have proof in history that it has in the past, and I know that things like this do. So bringing in more of that, I think is is really

just another opportunity to like, I am going to allow for those things that do me well. K. Margaret Solorio: Yeah. Christina Slaback: And that I I may have neglected to come back in. K. Margaret Solorio: Well, and I think that brings us back around to what we first started talking about, that it opens up this field of possibility because you're not banking on expectation. You're not saying, Okay, I'm doing this for this outcome. Watch me do it. You're saying, Okay, I don't I I know kind of who I wanna be. I'm gonna point in that direction. But because you're n like not I'll speak for myself, because I don't like ha hold on tightly to the expectation of what I know what I would like. But I've noticed, thanks to others who reflected back to me, that good things are coming in, not necessarily the way I expect. That I f I really feel that I'm creating those ripple of energetic ripples through my world by, like you said, just d making that choice that's good for me. Christina Slaback: Yeah. Yeah. And doing the things that we need to do. I mean, we have we have had so many conversations over the years. And I think that one of the things that I had gotten stuck on multiple times was all this like meal planning, blah blah blah, with all those things and like just struggling with it for so long and going into perimenopause and doing all of these things and like feeling like All right, I guess this is just what it is now. Like I exercise, I work out and whatever, and I feel like I eat well and this is just what I'm gonna feel like in my body. This is what my body is going to feel like, like all of this ideas of it. And what I started to do is question some of that of like, okay, well, maybe what I need to do is these things that sometimes I think are simple, but we just don't do it because it seems like it's too easy and just annoying. Like for me, it was just annoying. Like, okay, I'm gonna track all my stuff. It like I eat pretty well and I get all these vegetables and I get all these fruit and I do all this stuff and like I don't eat a lot of meat. So I have all these vegetarian options, but like I feel like I'm getting in all the protein or I mean doing decent at it. And I started tracking my things and doing it in a way that made sense to me. I couldn't do it on the apps. I couldn't do the things but I was like how can I make myself do this in a way that feels better. So I'll just go in and put in into like an AI of like, this is what I had. How many grams of protein did I have? What do I need to be K. Margaret Solorio: wow. Christina Slaback: able to do? Because I couldn't go in and be like, I have to go in and find these meals in this specific app and count my macros. K. Margaret Solorio: Yeah. Christina Slaback: Like it's it was too overwhelming and I knew I wasn't going to be able to do it. But finding a way to be able to do it where it seemed easy for me and To look at it from a different perspective of okay, this is the thing that I've been putting off. Now, how can I remove the barriers to be able to do it and change my expectation? Because I could feel like I'm just gonna be stuck and I'm gonna feel like this, or I could be like, you know what? There are tons of people that feel great and that are going through this. And there are so many other things that let's just see. Let's just see what happens if I actually again like focus. on this and for the past few months like focusing on doing it, I realized that what my idea of of what was the protein that I thought that I was getting in was absolutely not what I was getting in. And just changing that relationship and making it be easier and more seamless and being able to consistently do something that I had previously not been able to consistently do, which is tracking it and just kind of like keeping that. And I feel like my energy is better. I feel like when I'm working out, like it feels like my muscles are getting stronger. Like it doesn't feel K. Margaret Solorio: Hey Sparkles, quick interruption for a story share. So this is one for anyone who's moved recently. I had a client of mine who wanted her new home to actually feel like peace, prosperity, and stability, not just look nice on a tour. So we did a full home reset together. I walked her through clear, simple steps, performed the clearing, and shared what came up room by room, plus ways to keep that energy going. She told me she left with Total confidence in her home's good energy, and she called the whole thing wonderful. If your space needs that kind of welcome, head to deliciouse.com forward slash services and let's get your home's frequency reset. All right, let's get back to the episode. Christina Slaback: like that plateau that I felt like I was in before. And it's not that I'm like having all these dramatic, crazy results or anything, but this gradual move and just way of looking at it differently and putting that intention to something that I knew I could have done this five years ago. I could have done this ten years ago. Like I knew that I've heard that this is what you have to do and you have to track and you have to look at what you're actually doing. But I just didn't want to. And so I didn't do it. And now, like coming to it and allowing myself to look at it differently to change my expectation about how I'm doing it and remove those barriers or barriers. And now like, okay, well, it's been a few months and this is something that I previously thought was impossible for me or just wasn't gonna work for me, is because I found a way to do it. K. Margaret Solorio: I love that. So whoa, congratulations. That's awesome. But I th I love especially this idea of not What's there are so many different ways to express that. Energetically we talk about like not resisting the flow, but I feel like physically it feels like not being, you know, we are body, mind, and soul. And this idea that if all those parts work together, we're we're whole and we're just helping

ourselves. But I that's not the way I was taught. You know, I was taught ignore the body and ignore, you know, and don't listen to the mind, do your own thing and definitely don't listen to your heart. So like everything was always in up not not in opposition, but like against each other. And so I agree. Some of these things where I felt stuck and I didn't know the answer and I couldn't find the answer or I s or I read conflicting research tuning in and going, okay, just on a basic, I'm gonna give myself grace and so say I have the ability to try something different. And then I'm gonna pay attention. Like, yeah, if I eat something and I don't feel well afterwards, I actually hear that and go, Okay, maybe I'll try a different choice tomorrow. And then, or I need a little more rest, and maybe the kids are gonna get a little more TV today. And I used to beat myself up over that. I go, you know what? Figure it out. So allowing actually, I interviewed somebody, the episode will come out in a couple of months, but she she taught me that too. That as humans, it's moment by moment. A lot of times we put these time blocks or time. expectations on our life like, you know, I'll do this in a month or I'll do this in a quarter or a year or five years and ten years and all these set amount of times, but really the decisions come moment by moment. And that's where the truth is. Christina Slaback: Yeah. Yeah. And I think that again, like having what I thought it was gonna look like or what I thought it had to be, or I like I just consider myself somebody who cannot keep up on maintenance and tracking and like sure. But also it was the way that I was trying to do it. So just like reframing it, talking to myself, I mean like what would it look like? And it didn't have to be perfect and it didn't have to be anything. It was just like what happens if I try it? What happens if I try it and I just test it out and I just see and I let it be whatever it's gonna be. Like I don't have an expectation of what it's going to look like. I am just open. I am open to things being different than what I had previously thought. And I think that that actually, and I didn't intend for it, but I think that that was a little bit of like what we had in our July conversations, is like, how am I different? How do I look at things differently? And being open to things being different than what I had preconceived it to be and how it looked, what it was supposed to do, what I thought that I was already doing, and being able to get curious about it and and just open up my mind to what I thought that this time of life was gonna look like, what I think that yeah. K. Margaret Solorio: I was just about to ask, do you think that's from this time of life? Do you think that's from years of personal development work? Or do you think that's from this perimenopause menopause business throwing it in our faces that when Christina Slaback: Yeah. K. Margaret Solorio: we show up today, there's like you know

how when you have little kids and they're delightful young, like babyish toddlers? And Christina Slaback: Mm-hmm. K. Margaret Solorio: one day they're like, Peaches are the best thing. So you go out and you buy a bunch of peaches and the next day like, peaches are disgusting. Don't get near don't bring them near me. And you're like, What? I thought I knew you and good for you for like every day is new. And now that's what kind of sometimes menopause feels like, except for I'm not quite on the positive chain. I wake up and I'm like, okay, what are we working with today? I started doing a daily yoga thing, just like YouTube. And she uses this phrase, if it's available to you when you're stretching. Christina Slaback: Yes. K. Margaret Solorio: And I'm like, that's a good one. Cause not every Christina Slaback: Yeah. K. Margaret Solorio: day is it available to me to do that. Christina Slaback: Yeah. my goodness. I love that. And I think that like reframing that into like, yeah, this is in general. And I wonder if that is not such a bigger thing that we could incorporate into so much more of our lives. Like, all right, I'm gonna do this this way that this is gonna look like this what my day and my schedule is gonna look like, and I'm gonna fit all of these things things in if it's available to me. And also maybe it's not. Maybe it's this day is not the day that I check off twenty things on my to-do list, or maybe today is not the day that I come home and make dinner and we order out, or you know, like K. Margaret Solorio: And also, I am the creator. Like this was my expectation of what a day looks like, but technically it's my day and I can make it look a little different. Christina Slaback: Actually I have free will here and I can change. K. Margaret Solorio: I think we forget. I do. I like my schedules too. No, that's limiting yourself, Christina Slaback: Yeah. K. Margaret Solorio: isn't it, a little bit? Christina Slaback: It you know what? And it could be. And this is like this is what a previous version of me thought that would look like, but that's not the one that showed up today. K. Margaret Solorio: That's a really good point too. What served me then doesn't necessarily serve me now. Christina Slaback: Yeah, even if it's last night's me, like you're saying. Maybe I woke up today and I was like, nope, this is K. Margaret Solorio: Even if it's left over. Christina Slaback: no longer available to me. K. Margaret Solorio: That's fantastic. Yes. good stuff. It just isn't it fascinating. This is why I another reason why I love talking to you so much. How it some in some instances, it almost feels like we're walking in a circle and talking about the same thing, but it's all these different facets. And we are ourselves like diamonds, aren't we? That we have all these different roles and all these different facets of our personality and things we like to do and things we're good at. And how. How do we allow for all that glory in one package? Because it does feel like sometimes whether it's our day or whether it's ourself, we like dissect it and we go, well, this is the time for this, and I can only be this way. And I just love how this conversation sparks so many ideas, but at the same time feels like it's centered and we're kind of rotating around this same idea that we're more, we're meant for more, we're allowed to ask for more. We're allowed to create more. It's allowed to be different. Good can look a different w you know, like all these little shifts on kind of the same idea and and all of it's so good. Christina Slaback: Yeah. Well, and when you were talking in like that that image of like all the different facets of the diamond and kind of like coming around in the circle, but it got me thinking too that we do have all these different facets, but we are all part of this overall oneness. And this is all it. So K. Margaret Solorio: Amen. Christina Slaback: obviously the conversations are going to if you're starting to look and you're starting to pull those threads and find those those patterns, those themes, the the connecting. thing beforehand, like we talk about grounding and centering, and that's like getting us into that middle of the circle. So it makes sense that these conversations kind of flow around and and and have similar themes because it's all just individual pieces of this overall oneness that we have. And it's just Having conversations like this, being able to look at it is an ability to be bringing in and getting back to more of the this is what it really is, this is what it's really about. We can open ourselves for abundance, we can have all these different facets, we can have growth that feels really great and sometimes is really trying and dreaming. And we can be like moving through all of these different layers. all at the same time, and that's what is so For me, that's just what's so beautiful about all of it is that it is all part of this overall oneness. K. Margaret Solorio: But it is really nice, and this is me appreciating you, to have someone who gets it. Cause sometimes I spew all of this lovely stuff and people in my family look at me like, mm-hmm, mm-hmm, not and smile. I don't get it. But you seem happy. We're gonna go with it. Thanks. So I'll put it out to Christina Slaback: Sure, sure, sure. K. Margaret Solorio: our listeners. They're welcome to reach out. my email is support at deliciouse.com, but also to find somebody that there you know that you can talk like this with because it's just Fuel for the good fire at the heart. It's really I appreciate you. Christina Slaback: It sure is. And bringing in more of that, for sure. Like, yes. our our dishwasher is no longer working and this is just an opportunity for us to and they're like, no, what? And I'm like, I'm I'm not trying to paint roses, but also I'm just trying to get my mind better. K. Margaret Solorio: you know what? I learned a good trick for that. what's her name? Leone Dawson. Have you ever

followed any of her work? She's in Australia, Christina Slaback: I don't think so. K. Margaret Solorio: but she taught me a trick that you think of it as a level thing. So if something comes up like that, you say, okay, this is a level two problem, and I'm a level six person or whatever level you want to pick. So I can figure this out. Like it's not the end of the world. You know, because sometimes we position this problem ahead of ourselves or above ourselves and not, ooh. Sorry, I'm gonna interrupt myself, but I kind of made my point. Christina Slaback: Peace. K. Margaret Solorio: I also I'm lately into finding well, it's been a while actually, trivia facts every day to just we at at the dinner table we often ask each other, what did you learn today? And my goal was to kind of get the kids to talk about school or teach me something that they learned or keep the conversation flowing. But now I have to contribute. so I've been looking up trivia facts and today's had to do with well, Nemo, the name Nemo. First of all, it means nobody. So it came up in the Odyssey. when they tricked the Cyclops, it came up Captain Nemo and Jules Verns' 20,000 Leagues Fantasy, and obviously finding Nemo, but this idea of being nobody or being detached, I thought was interesting. And then named after Captain Nemo is a point in the South Pacific called Point Nemo, which is the farthest point from any land. And actually, if you were to get the fastest way to get to a human. would be good to go to the International Space Station from there. Cause it's like s don't quote me, but sixteen hundred miles in any direction to find land and like 250 miles to go up to the space station. But it just made me think of what we just talked about, that it's just that fresh perspective of w you know, we're land blocked and we love our 2D and we think, okay, we can only go, you know, sideways, but you can go up, you can go down, you can go all the decoration directions. Christina Slaback: You can go anyway. Wow. What it really does because and that K. Margaret Solorio: Makes you think, doesn't it? All that silly trivia. Christina Slaback: is like so much of like we have a view on what it's supposed to look like and this is our problem and now we have to get this far. But honestly, if we just shook check a different dimension, just look into a different view view, there's other opportunities that might be more accessible or more available or even closer than we think. And even in a part where We feel like we are completely isolated, where there is nobody around us, where we are on our own. How maybe that's just our physical environment. Maybe there are other opportunities to be able to have that connection that you're craving and you just need to look somewhere else. K. Margaret Solorio: Exactly. Amen. Do you have cards? Did you pull one? I'm so curious. Christina Slaback: goodness. I do, I do. I honestly, because we didn't do it last month, I almost forgot, but I I did. All right. So this month we have transformation. And we've had this K. Margaret Solorio: it's a butterfly. Christina Slaback: butterfly. Yeah. and the symbol for it is blue butterfly butterfly. It says, It's no accident that the butterfly represents transformation, rebirth, and resurrection. Remarkably, when the caterpillar becomes a chrysalis, it doesn't just instantly become a butterfly. It actually dissolves into a kind of soup. In other words, it liquefies itself. And out K. Margaret Solorio: Goodness. Christina Slaback: of that emerges something completely different. It is a true transformation, and in some cultures blue butterflies are considered very good luck and even wish granters. In Native American tribes it is believed that a wish whispered to a butterfly will be granted when it flies to the heavens. The Native American shawl dance, which celebrates renewal, is derived from the butterfly dance. Also, the color blue represents a calmness, peace, and spiritual attunement. And the blue butterfly is thought to carry all these meanings. This is the time for change, reinvention, or a rebirth into a new way of being. If you've been plotting along, this card suggests that you take measures to shift everything. Don't resist change. The blue color suggests a spiritual renewal or initiation. Transformation doesn't mean taking something old and remodeling it or rearranging a few things. It means becoming something completely different or doing something completely different. Change is often uncomfortable, but it is usually for the highest good. This is a very lucky card, and drawing this card means that a wish May be about to come true. K. Margaret Solorio: Yay. my goodness. I mean, Christina Slaback: Yeah. K. Margaret Solorio: I shouldn't be surprised, but every month I've survived I have spot on that is. Christina Slaback: Yeah. K. Margaret Solorio: And how just what a beautiful in illustration of everything we talked about today. Christina Slaback: Yes. And if you're in the goo right now it's okay because maybe you're just becoming your butterfly. K. Margaret Solorio: Lord, what an image. The goo. It definitely is goo, isn't it? but what a hopeful like the blue butterfly. I never thought of blue butterfly. I mean I love butterflies, and I always think of the Maya Angelo quote that is something to the regards of like everyone marvels at the butterfly, but nobody talks about the transformation that it took to got to get there. The same kind of idea. how exciting is that. Thank you. Christina Slaback: Thank you. Well, as always, it's been lovely. K. Margaret Solorio: It has happy September and yeah, I'm excited to see what this br month brings now. Christina Slaback: Yeah.