Full Transcript for Sensitivity Is a Superpower

her head. 00:04:29.759 --> 00:04:31.759 It's not a disorder. 00:04:32.319 --> 00:04:45.680 You know, it used to be shelved as you have some disorder because you may feel or see things or be affected differently than a lot of other people. 00:04:46.319 --> 00:04:47.759 She discovered that. 00:04:48.000 --> 00:04:48.160 No. 00:04:48.959 --> 00:04:49.759 It's a trait. 00:04:49.920 --> 00:04:55.120 So they she came up with the term sensory processing sensitivity. 00:04:55.839 --> 00:05:08.160 And it can occur or it shows up some people in different ways, but her the film is is really beautiful and it's on Gaia.com. 00:05:08.480 --> 00:05:12.000 Again, it's called Sensitive, The Untold Story. 00:05:12.240 --> 00:05:14.959 It may be streaming on other platforms. 00:05:15.600 --> 00:05:38.959 Really wonderful, and it does highlight um singer, songwriter, beautiful artist Alanis Morissette, who also went through life many times and had deep depression that maybe people weren't aware of because no one understood her why she didn't want to be in crowds or certain things affected her more. 00:05:39.439 --> 00:05:53.360 Things like being in restaurants or in crowds or in grocery shopping, certain noises really affected her and bothered her more than her family and friends and many people just didn't understand. 00:05:53.519 --> 00:05:59.120 Just kind of poo-pooed it like you're just you have a breakdown or you're weird or you're this or you're that. 00:05:59.360 --> 00:06:09.519 And she just knew that she always felt better when she was able to be in solitude and do her writing and came up with her most beautiful pieces. 00:06:09.920 --> 00:06:20.480 She went on to become, as we know, very successful and and has, you know, millions of followers and fans and anyways, very beautiful. 00:06:20.560 --> 00:06:25.600 She she speaks in the um shares part of her story in this documentary. 00:06:25.839 --> 00:06:32.000 She struggled, and she's still learning about herself to this day, which is great, with the help of Dr. 00:06:32.240 --> 00:06:33.439 Aaron and others. 00:06:33.600 --> 00:06:39.680 I thought it was just beautiful for her to share her story, and I was like, Oh, okay. 00:06:39.920 --> 00:06:41.680 I definitely have that treat. 00:06:42.160 --> 00:06:58.639 It resonated with me because I know many times in my life, you know, people may like me, but they may not understand, and they may try to, and it's okay if you you know, it's like somebody speaking a whole different language, they just they just they may do not have the capacity to understand where I'm at. 00:06:59.120 --> 00:07:07.199 Even though I can see a lot of things that maybe they can't see, and there's probably things that maybe they notice or see that I can't. 00:07:07.519 --> 00:07:16.319 But when you have this trait, it really is something where other people have it and I say, Oh, okay, I hear you, I get you. 00:07:16.560 --> 00:07:27.279 For me, it was just so refreshing to happen upon this documentary and realize, yeah, this is a beautiful, a beautiful thing. 00:07:27.519 --> 00:07:35.120 It's not something to put somebody in a room, lock them up, and say you're there's something highly wrong with you. 00:07:35.279 --> 00:07:43.120 And in fact, when you get to know yourself and really appreciate these traits, they are beautiful. 00:07:43.279 --> 00:07:46.480 And I say, Oh, these are my superpowers. 00:07:46.639 --> 00:07:53.920 And I probably like Elaine, Ilanis, and these many of these other people out there in the world, I can remember. 00:07:54.240 --> 00:08:09.360 Way back, even as a child, just being happy speaking on my microphone in my room, playing with whatever scientific toys my parents had gotten me, and I was just so happy in my solitude. 00:08:09.519 --> 00:08:15.360 I'd also was great with them and if we had company, but I was fine with that. 00:08:15.680 --> 00:08:31.680 As I we evolved and became an adult, I can make friends, but then I'm also I'm able to be in my my own space for days and days and days and days and enjoy my own company, and I've been able to do that pretty much all my life, I guess. 00:08:31.839 --> 00:08:36.799 And I I know that there were people in my family just thought, oh she's strange. 00:08:37.039 --> 00:08:44.080 Or even the whispers, it's just comes with the territory and other people. 00:08:44.639 --> 00:09:04.399 So I'm sure I still get that to this day, but and I already knew that I w I looked at it as a positive, like, okay, yeah, I'm sensitive, but insensitive in a way where I notice some things or feel things at such a deep level that I put it into my my creative work. 00:09:04.720 --> 00:09:09.440 And when that flow comes, wow, there's some beautiful things. 00:09:09.679 --> 00:09:21.360 And the beautiful thing that is when not only being creative, but when you create something that you yourself are like, Yes, I love it. 00:09:22.000 --> 00:09:25.759 And can't wait to share this. 00:09:26.320 --> 00:09:38.799 It not only raises your own vi vibration and when you feel really good about something, but when you want to share it with others and you know that it's just a whole different frequency. 00:09:39.039 --> 00:09:41.279 So I say thank you. 00:09:41.840 --> 00:09:46.960 I am happy to have whatever this trait is and dive even deeper into it. 00:09:47.120 --> 00:09:59.279 I'm always reading and trying to learn more about all aspects of sensitivities and creativity and creative energy and the ups and the downs and the flows. 00:09:59.519 --> 00:10:05.679 And there's so many creative people who go through these levels, and maybe some share their story, some don't. 00:10:05.919 --> 00:10:09.120 But there's also I feel like there's a tie between that. 00:10:09.440 --> 00:10:26.320 You know, they can get into hear a lot of some super successful people who have gone into some deep, deep, deep depressions and they'll talk about it and then or you hear about it, and then all of a sudden

they come out of it and they've put out some amazing work. 00:10:26.799 --> 00:10:50.080 I think maybe that's the shadow side where you know if they can't get out of it, or maybe when they they get so off track that they have to find a vice, whether it's the smoking, sleeping around, taking different types of drugs, whatever it is, and they just lose themselves. 00:10:50.399 --> 00:10:57.120 When it's handled in a healthy way, I feel that it's a person may get down, okay? 00:10:57.679 --> 00:11:20.879 They really tune into themselves, really want to feel into the emotions, let it process, let it flow, let it go, however, through meditation, through exercise, however it works for them, but in a healthy way, with support of, you know, good nutrition, water, good rest, and then start writing and getting back to whatever it is, or the painting or whatever, the art. 00:11:21.120 --> 00:11:30.320 So today's episode I just really wanted to talk a little bit more about what if sensitivity isn't something that needs to be eliminated? 00:11:30.879 --> 00:11:43.919 And and many people will say, well, yeah, at one point somebody tried to eliminate it, you know, or tell me I'm too too sensitive, I'm too why do you care so much, why do you think so much, all these things. 00:11:44.159 --> 00:11:49.440 Instead of trying to understand or accept it and support it. 00:11:49.600 --> 00:11:53.840 What if it's something that that needs to be understood and learned to work with? 00:11:54.080 --> 00:11:57.679 I think this would help many more relationships. 00:11:58.000 --> 00:12:15.840 You know, many people, HSPs, have had problems in marriages or outing having relationships because their partner may not understand them or take the time to understand them, or their children are sensitive, then they just don't know what to do. 00:12:15.919 --> 00:12:18.080 So one of them walks away. 00:12:18.399 --> 00:12:27.039 And it's it's too bad, but more people more people tuned in and really tried to understand this is not a disorder. 00:12:27.360 --> 00:12:31.519 As a lot of the population had labeled it. 00:12:31.840 --> 00:12:38.559 Now I think it's starting to come out as, oh, that's really wonderful that you have these heightened senses. 00:12:38.799 --> 00:12:40.799 It's not weakness. 00:12:41.279 --> 00:12:58.639 And a sensitive person may notice other things like a subtle change in someone's tone, or the atmosphere when entering a room, or the beauty in something seemingly ordinary, or nuances in music, the art, language, or nature. 00:12:59.120 --> 00:13:02.799 They may notice emotional undercurrents in a relationship. 00:13:03.039 --> 00:13:10.960 Often I notice people's very, very, very subtle micro expressions. 00:13:11.200 --> 00:13:16.000 They may have a smile and look calm, look great. 00:13:16.240 --> 00:13:24.240 So someone who's really not as tuned in might just say, Oh wow, they're oh, they're not upset, they're okay. 00:13:24.480 --> 00:13:29.759 Whereas I'll

be able to pick up behind that smile, there's a microaggression here. 00:13:30.000 --> 00:13:31.200 Very, very subtle. 00:13:31.279 --> 00:13:36.480 Some are really wonderful at masking it because that's what they've wanted to do their whole life. 00:13:36.799 --> 00:13:41.919 But I'm able to s sense it or even see behind that mask. 00:13:42.080 --> 00:13:52.720 Now, if I'm comfortable with the person enough or if working with someone and it's affecting what we're doing, I may simply ask, are is everything okay? 00:13:52.799 --> 00:14:00.639 Or you you seem you know anxious or worried, and even though they'd be smiling and but I can just you can just tell. 00:14:00.960 --> 00:14:04.559 And I've had people say, No, no, everything's fine. 00:14:04.639 --> 00:14:06.320 Why would why would you say that? 00:14:06.799 --> 00:14:14.159 And they think they're to other people that maybe they're able to mask it and the people be like, Oh, okay, I just wanted to check. 00:14:14.320 --> 00:14:17.039 But my stomach will hurt, I can pick it up. 00:14:17.360 --> 00:14:28.320 Some it's obvious, but others who are really, really, really good at masking, a a highly sensitive person will be able to pick these these things up. 00:14:28.559 --> 00:14:32.960 Or even the sarcastic notes, you know. 00:14:33.200 --> 00:14:44.320 Now it's easy to pick up if somebody's being super sarcastic, but some people they're just they might laugh and just be like, ha ha ha ha ha you've seen that, right? 00:14:44.639 --> 00:14:59.440 And it's subtle, but you know that there's definitely angst, resentment, something behind that, and they may just sit there laughing and have their drink, but you you know, they're gonna go, no, no, they're fine, they're just joking. 00:14:59.679 --> 00:15:08.399 I will in my mind say, nah, they're very bothered, they're hurt, there's some kind of something going on there. 00:15:08.559 --> 00:15:19.600 And sometimes, you know, people will never come out with it, but these are the things that highly sensitive people and so much more can maybe pick up. 00:15:20.000 --> 00:15:44.559 There's the other side of it where it can be overwhelming, you know, to have this trait because often highly sensitive individuals what cumbers them is either solitude or needing to be away from big crowds or loud people, or maybe they just need to be near just just go to nature or be alone. 00:15:44.879 --> 00:15:48.480 Especially if people are dating or they're trying to date. 00:15:48.720 --> 00:16:05.039 So there's a balance and it's really important for people to be able to share that they may have these traits and find people who want to learn, want to be supportive, want to understand, and can deal with that. 00:16:05.120 --> 00:16:11.039 And some, if they can't, well then they may just not be part of part of your life. 00:16:11.279 --> 00:16:12.240 And that's okay. 00:16:12.720 --> 00:16:16.399 You tell them, this is what works for me. 00:16:16.559 --> 00:16:31.919 These

are some of the traits that I really need alone time to recharge, or crowds really, really bother me, or loud noises really pierce my ears, things like uh someone dropping a fork. 00:16:32.080 --> 00:16:36.799 Maybe it doesn't bother somebody else, but it really can bother a a highly sensitive person. 00:16:37.120 --> 00:16:39.360 I can't stand it when people are slamming doors. 00:16:39.519 --> 00:16:42.000 For some people they're like, Well, whatever. 00:16:42.320 --> 00:16:43.600 We slam doors. 00:16:43.919 --> 00:16:47.200 But that is like no. 00:16:47.840 --> 00:16:52.480 I'm sure it bothers a lot of people, but there are people that what's the what's the big deal? 00:16:52.720 --> 00:16:58.240 We all have something, and I think my point is it's important for us. 00:16:58.399 --> 00:17:11.119 I think that's why it's so great when we tap in and try to learn more about ourselves so that we can then share it with others who may want to learn more and may want to be supportive and loving. 00:17:11.680 --> 00:17:13.759 And maybe they learn more about themselves too. 00:17:14.000 --> 00:17:26.000 But when you're sensitive and you're taking in a lot, y that means that you're also super cre and you can be super creative, which is amazing. 00:17:26.720 --> 00:17:40.160 So creative people creative sensitive people really notice the more the connections, the images, the feelings, the sounds, ideas, conversations, symbols, possibilities. 00:17:40.559 --> 00:17:52.400 But sometimes the creative mind doesn't know when to stop receiving, which is why creative people need solitude and quiet nature sleep. 00:17:52.640 --> 00:17:59.359 They simply put less stimulation after a period of intense inspiration. 00:17:59.599 --> 00:18:22.559 So if you are partnered with someone or friends with someone who does start to you know pull away, or but it's probably harder if you're living with someone who's like that, and then they just need to go rest, or they just hopefully they communicate and say, Hey, I need to go away for a few days, but they just disappear and they that's not that's not healthy. 00:18:22.960 --> 00:18:31.119 But it's almost like they have to go back into their they just have to find their peace. 00:18:31.359 --> 00:18:39.279 Again, the shadow side is that they they become very overwhelmed and often people can't control that. 00:18:39.680 --> 00:18:45.039 They know that certain things will overwhelm them, but it there's different degrees of it. 00:18:45.119 --> 00:18:56.240 So some people really, really, really will get so overwhelmed and agitated and moody and they just want everything to just go away, stop, just want to rest. 00:18:56.880 --> 00:19:04.480 And some people will say they can feel everything, and they can't take anything else in. 00:19:04.880 --> 00:19:06.559 Not even going to the grocery store. 00:19:06.799 --> 00:19:07.039 No. 00:19:07.759 --> 00:19:19.359 So that's wonderful, but then there's yet that side where, yes, they're not

gonna want to be out and about all the time. 00:19:20.000 --> 00:19:25.759 And so that expansion needs contraction and receiving needs integration. 00:19:26.079 --> 00:19:35.680 There's definitely a difference between I'm affected by everything and I notice a lot, and I'm learning what deserves my attention. 00:19:35.920 --> 00:19:46.559 And that's where difference between I'm affected by everything and I notice a lot, and I'm learning what deserves my attention. 00:19:46.720 --> 00:19:48.799 And that's a huge developmental shift. 00:19:48.960 --> 00:19:59.359 So being sensitive, it doesn't mean you have to absorb everyone else's emotions, fix everybody's problems, or respond to every stimulus. 00:19:59.680 --> 00:20:05.119 Perhaps you know the most mature expression of sensitivity is discernment. 00:20:05.839 --> 00:20:29.599 Like for me, I know that my creative mind is highly receptive, and you know, I've was really was started wondering whether some of the things that I've been criticized about or I could criticize myself about are being affected by things deeply, needing quiet, noticing details, having lots of ideas, feeling overwhelmed by too much input. 00:20:30.079 --> 00:20:33.359 But it all is possibly connected. 00:20:33.519 --> 00:20:38.559 I feel it is connected to my creativity and my creative process. 00:20:38.880 --> 00:20:53.359 It's a beautiful thing, and I think that we all have some beautiful, unique traits and that we need to appreciate rather than rather than shoving them away or putting them down. 00:20:53.680 --> 00:20:57.759 So maybe the question isn't how do I become less sensitive? 00:20:57.920 --> 00:21:02.720 Maybe the question is how do I become wise with what I sense? 00:21:03.119 --> 00:21:09.519 I invite all of you to think about this. 00:21:10.000 --> 00:21:28.160 How do we become wise with what we sense, especially for people who feel they are extra sensitive, feeling deeply, feeling everybody's picking up everybody's emotions and noticing a lot. 00:21:28.559 --> 00:21:29.759 That's beautiful. 00:21:30.079 --> 00:21:32.880 But then there's also the wisdom portion. 00:21:33.920 --> 00:21:40.319 If you want to know more about Doctor Aaron's work, she has books out. 00:21:40.640 --> 00:21:43.680 I'll leave some information in the show notes about Dr. 00:21:43.920 --> 00:21:49.920 Aaron's information and share the name of her of this documentary. 00:21:50.160 --> 00:21:53.119 It's all about learning. 00:21:53.599 --> 00:22:00.799 Learning about ourselves, learning about others so we can show up better each and every day for each other. 00:22:01.039 --> 00:22:02.559 That's how I see it. 00:22:03.359 --> 00:22:04.720 Well, thank you for tuning in. 00:22:04.880 --> 00:22:09.839 We hope that you got a little bit of some insights from this episode. 00:22:10.480 --> 00:22:11.359 Thank you. 00:22:12.000 --> 00:22:14.240 Happy Equinox. 00:22:14.720 --> 00:22:25.359 What extra support do you want to ask the cosmos, universe, source, your guides, your angels, share it during this beautiful time? 00:22:25.839 --> 00:22:30.319 Peace, love, and lots of gratitude.