Full Transcript for The Surprise Debate: Why Some People Love Them and Others Can’t Stand Them

messing up my plans. 40 00:01:41.519 --> 00:01:45.459 I am not a fan of surprises. Like, ever. I just... 41 00:01:47.390 --> 00:01:49.250 I shouldn't say ever. Well, okay. Let's go back to 42 00:01:49.290 --> 00:01:51.459 like when I was pregnant with you guys, I needed 43 00:01:51.500 --> 00:01:55.459 to know your sex so I could be prepared, have 44 00:01:55.500 --> 00:01:58.180 the clothes. I don't know. I'm just telling you, this 45 00:01:58.239 --> 00:02:02.219 is how I am. Your dad wanted- You guys. 46 00:02:02.099 --> 00:02:03.400 Are infants in the same thing. 47 00:02:03.620 --> 00:02:05.480 They all wear onesies. Okay. 48 00:02:05.549 --> 00:02:08.289 It's a little valid, but still like- Okay. Do I 49 00:02:08.310 --> 00:02:10.330 do the pink room? Do I do the yellow room? 50 00:02:11.030 --> 00:02:11.830 Or do the blue room? 51 00:02:11.849 --> 00:02:13.449 Okay. 52 00:02:13.490 --> 00:02:15.710 I'm not saying it's rational. I'm just telling you this 53 00:02:15.770 --> 00:02:20.849 is how I am. And then your dad wanted to 54 00:02:21.669 --> 00:02:25.849 throw me a 40th surprise birthday party. I was like, no, 55 00:02:25.870 --> 00:02:29.069 thank you. Don't want that. Oh, I love that. He 56 00:02:29.129 --> 00:02:32.889 told me like kind of after the fact. He was like, 57 00:02:33.629 --> 00:02:35.530 because I was like, I don't want anything for my birthday. 58 00:02:35.560 --> 00:02:38.580 I would definitely never want a surprise party. And he's like, well, 59 00:02:38.620 --> 00:02:40.340 I was planning it. I already talked to some of 60 00:02:40.379 --> 00:02:43.180 your friends. And I was like, no, thank you. I 61 00:02:43.219 --> 00:02:43.759 don't like that. 62 00:02:43.780 --> 00:02:44.539 Yeah, that's funny. 63 00:02:45.189 --> 00:02:46.990 And I don't know if that's just because I'm controlling 64 00:02:47.050 --> 00:02:47.729 or what it is. 65 00:02:48.870 --> 00:02:51.310 Maybe, yeah, type A versus type B. I like being 66 00:02:51.349 --> 00:02:54.229 surprised because I don't have to do anything. Heck yeah. 67 00:02:55.370 --> 00:02:57.469 I also, I mean, I love surprising people, which is, 68 00:02:57.590 --> 00:02:59.889 I mean, so I obviously still like putting in the work, 69 00:03:00.409 --> 00:03:03.610 but like, I don't know. Maybe it's like one of 70 00:03:03.650 --> 00:03:05.830 the ways, because I think my love language in general 71 00:03:05.909 --> 00:03:09.789 is like giving and receiving both like gifts, but also 72 00:03:09.849 --> 00:03:13.990 like acts of service. So I think surprising like that, like, 73 00:03:14.389 --> 00:03:16.689 it's always a shock to me when people don't like it. 74 00:03:16.710 --> 00:03:19.750 Like even coming home from the store, I'll always make 75 00:03:19.770 --> 00:03:21.689 sure I get Jack like a little treat as a surprise. 76 00:03:22.629 --> 00:03:23.729 Oh, that's so sweet. 77 00:03:23.990 --> 00:03:25.770 So silly, but yeah. 78 00:03:26.270 --> 00:03:29.250 I'm hoping

your dad brings me stuff from the cafeteria today. 79 00:03:29.270 --> 00:03:30.229 Yeah, me too, bro. 80 00:03:30.270 --> 00:03:31.810 I don't think it's going to happen, right? 81 00:03:32.210 --> 00:03:33.169 No. 82 00:03:33.750 --> 00:03:39.509 Their doctor's lunchroom reopened. It was closed for a while. 83 00:03:39.610 --> 00:03:41.689 And so they had like a grand reopening with like, 84 00:03:42.330 --> 00:03:45.009 filet and crap and they don't eat that on a 85 00:03:45.050 --> 00:03:47.229 regular trust me they don't get that they get like 86 00:03:47.250 --> 00:03:49.310 salads and sandwiches he. 87 00:03:49.229 --> 00:03:51.189 Sent me pictures he was like does this convince you 88 00:03:51.210 --> 00:03:53.030 to move back home and i was like no first 89 00:03:53.050 --> 00:03:56.949 of all but also like my response was like don't 90 00:03:56.969 --> 00:03:58.710 you think you get paid enough buddy you really need 91 00:03:58.750 --> 00:03:59.750 lobster for lunch. 92 00:03:59.530 --> 00:04:03.530 Yeah i was like can you pack some to-go containers 93 00:04:04.310 --> 00:04:06.009 i don't know if he got the hint i guarantee 94 00:04:06.030 --> 00:04:08.039 he didn't get the hint But it's so funny. 95 00:04:08.219 --> 00:04:10.560 Dad and I are very similar because you were talking about, 96 00:04:10.580 --> 00:04:12.639 I didn't go to his birthday and he spent the 97 00:04:12.680 --> 00:04:14.340 whole weekend thinking I was going to surprise him. 98 00:04:14.379 --> 00:04:14.680 Yes. 99 00:04:14.759 --> 00:04:18.360 I do that stuff. I do it. Like when I went, 100 00:04:18.579 --> 00:04:20.439 when I was in Charlotte and I knew Jack had 101 00:04:20.459 --> 00:04:22.250 like a long weekend, I was like, oh, waiting for 102 00:04:22.259 --> 00:04:24.670 him to show up the entire weekend. Yeah. 103 00:04:25.029 --> 00:04:29.970 No, I mean, again, I am not a surprise person. 104 00:04:30.129 --> 00:04:33.269 I like to have things planned out and I get, 105 00:04:33.290 --> 00:04:35.589 you know, it's just different personalities. But the reason we're 106 00:04:35.629 --> 00:04:39.459 talking about this is because Olivia is pulling off a 107 00:04:39.500 --> 00:04:40.839 big surprise for her sister. 108 00:04:40.860 --> 00:04:41.819 I know. 109 00:04:42.360 --> 00:04:44.879 It's actually lit. I'm thinking through everything. 110 00:04:45.500 --> 00:04:48.300 And she won't, obviously, this will come out after the 111 00:04:48.319 --> 00:04:51.199 surprise happens, so we can talk about it later, what 112 00:04:51.240 --> 00:04:58.680 actually happened with the surprise. But she loves Olivia Rodrigo. 113 00:04:59.060 --> 00:05:01.879 And I was like, she kept asking me, her sister 114 00:05:01.899 --> 00:05:04.709 kept asking me for tickets to the concert. And I'm like, girl, 115 00:05:04.750 --> 00:05:07.959 the resale tickets are like $ 1, 200. I'm not doing it. 116 00:05:08.500 --> 00:05:11.740 Like for like nosebleeds, like not anything reasonable. 117 00:05:11.779 --> 00:05:13.579 I saw tickets today online just to like look to 118 00:05:13.620 --> 00:05:14.319 see how much they were. 119 00:05:14.360 --> 00:05:17.399 And I was like, oh, $ 47. That was lounge access. 120 00:05:17.620 --> 00:05:19.060 Doesn't get you entry into. 121 00:05:19.620 --> 00:05:21.680 It's an additional fee on top of your ticket. 122 00:05:21.959 --> 00:05:24.250 No, you have to get a ticket and then get the, 123 00:05:24.300 --> 00:05:26.560 I'm sorry if you can hear the train in the background. It's, 124 00:05:27.060 --> 00:05:27.439 it's early. 125 00:05:27.459 --> 00:05:29.839 It's your train. So you should apologize for it. Why 126 00:05:29.939 --> 00:05:30.959 are you apologizing for a train? 127 00:05:30.990 --> 00:05:34.490 I'm apologizing for my apartment building not being more like sounded. 128 00:05:35.170 --> 00:05:36.930 Okay, because you built the apartment building. 129 00:05:38.089 --> 00:05:40.350 At this point, oh my God, they've been doing renovations 130 00:05:40.410 --> 00:05:43.300 and it's driving me up the wall. Wait, this is 131 00:05:43.310 --> 00:05:46.399 such not on the surprise note. They're redoing the floors 132 00:05:46.439 --> 00:05:49.300 in my apartment building. So at one point they said, 133 00:05:49.420 --> 00:05:51.019 you will not have floors in front of your building, 134 00:05:51.259 --> 00:05:53.620 but they will be glued down. So please try your. 135 00:05:53.540 --> 00:05:57.250 Best to not exit or enter into your apartment. what 136 00:05:57.649 --> 00:06:00.660 during the work week like what do you want. 137 00:06:00.459 --> 00:06:02.220 From me don't step on the glue. 138 00:06:02.579 --> 00:06:04.639 Yeah it was like well how am i supposed to 139 00:06:05.720 --> 00:06:07.519 and they don't give you a specific day or time 140 00:06:07.560 --> 00:06:09.040 so it's not like oh i can just take work 141 00:06:09.180 --> 00:06:10.839 off or like plan to be out of the house 142 00:06:10.879 --> 00:06:13.629 the entire day no it's just a show up the 143 00:06:13.649 --> 00:06:14.509 floors are gone. 144 00:06:14.649 --> 00:06:17.029 That's pretty funny it was it's. 145 00:06:16.990 --> 00:06:20.410 Over now partially and it doesn't whatever. 146 00:06:20.569 --> 00:06:23.430 Okay go back to the surprise so anyways so. 147 00:06:23.329 --> 00:06:27.610 I'm surprising millie with olivia rodrigo tickets um Yeah. 148 00:06:28.120 --> 00:06:32.389 It's she's getting them at face value. So it's not, yeah, yeah, yeah. 149 00:06:32.470 --> 00:06:35.089 It's not like she's paying, but I have connects. She 150 00:06:35.110 --> 00:06:38.750 has connections. And so, um, Millie has been asking me 151 00:06:38.930 --> 00:06:39.850 for the, you know, can. 152 00:06:39.769 --> 00:06:42.100 You, and she's been asking me to like, we have an, 153 00:06:42.129 --> 00:06:44.350 our sister's group chat with our older sister as well. 154 00:06:44.949 --> 00:06:47.689 It's every

other text message in there is like, but 155 00:06:47.709 --> 00:06:49.980 I really want to go to Olivia Rodrigo. Why don't 156 00:06:50.000 --> 00:06:52.339 you take me to Olivia Rodrigo? Olivia, are you really 157 00:06:52.379 --> 00:06:54.100 not going to come up this weekend for Olivia Rodrigo? 158 00:06:54.120 --> 00:06:56.480 I was like, So I said that today, I like 159 00:06:56.540 --> 00:06:58.019 was baiting her a little bit today. And I was like, 160 00:06:58.120 --> 00:07:00.300 I really want to see Olivia Rodrigo. And I really 161 00:07:00.319 --> 00:07:03.199 want to see Sienna Spiro. Sienna Spiro is completely sold 162 00:07:03.259 --> 00:07:06.050 out in Nashville and I can't ask for two favors. 163 00:07:06.189 --> 00:07:09.069 So I'm sticking with the Olivia Rodrigo favor for, for 164 00:07:09.089 --> 00:07:10.689 the first, for the first one. 165 00:07:10.949 --> 00:07:11.670 For the first favor. 166 00:07:12.370 --> 00:07:12.629 Yeah. 167 00:07:12.970 --> 00:07:16.009 And she was like, well, I want to go so bad. 168 00:07:16.050 --> 00:07:17.250 Why can't you just like get tickets? 169 00:07:17.290 --> 00:07:19.189 Can you please tell mommy when to go to, Oh 170 00:07:19.230 --> 00:07:21.250 my God. Like, will you? And I was like, Oh, no, like, 171 00:07:21.569 --> 00:07:23.310 And she was like, will you come up like on Saturday? 172 00:07:23.329 --> 00:07:24.870 And I was like, I, I can't like, I have 173 00:07:24.889 --> 00:07:27.629 the busiest weekend, which I do. I'm actually, I like, 174 00:07:27.649 --> 00:07:30.439 I such a dizzy weekend, but this is going to 175 00:07:30.449 --> 00:07:32.279 be so much fun that I I'm fitting her in. 176 00:07:32.319 --> 00:07:33.100 I'm penciling her in. 177 00:07:33.120 --> 00:07:35.360 She's penciling in her sister. 178 00:07:35.399 --> 00:07:38.120 Yeah. Yeah. It is. It like, it is a very, 179 00:07:38.139 --> 00:07:40.800 I have a lot of things happening this weekend and 180 00:07:40.959 --> 00:07:42.819 I've completely, I think thrown her off the case. 181 00:07:42.839 --> 00:07:44.019 She has no idea what's happening. 182 00:07:45.149 --> 00:07:46.569 And I'm going to be up there. Cause I'm going 183 00:07:46.589 --> 00:07:47.670 to be up there for a month. 184 00:07:47.910 --> 00:07:49.810 I just have to make sure I turn my location off, 185 00:07:49.850 --> 00:07:52.100 but I don't know if she checks locations. So would 186 00:07:52.120 --> 00:07:54.240 it be more sus if my location was on or off? 187 00:07:54.740 --> 00:07:55.139 I don't know. 188 00:07:55.720 --> 00:07:58.250 I don't know either. I just have to pause it. 189 00:07:58.680 --> 00:08:00.680 Sometimes you can like pause it so it like doesn't. 190 00:08:01.240 --> 00:08:04.300 She's not going to be up when you land. So 191 00:08:04.420 --> 00:08:08.259 one of the thought processes is to go to her place. 192 00:08:08.620 --> 00:08:09.870 I'm wondering if we should do that. 193 00:08:10.149 --> 00:08:16.290 Like right when we land and have her. But we 194 00:08:16.310 --> 00:08:19.009 can't get into her room. And I don't have her 195 00:08:19.050 --> 00:08:19.810 roommate's phone number. 196 00:08:19.829 --> 00:08:19.889 So. 197 00:08:20.620 --> 00:08:22.399 Like, and the people at the front desk are not 198 00:08:22.420 --> 00:08:24.420 going to let us in. So they would have to 199 00:08:24.480 --> 00:08:28.160 call her down, which she ain't going to wake up. 200 00:08:28.240 --> 00:08:30.259 So I don't know. Like we got to, we got 201 00:08:30.279 --> 00:08:33.110 to plan that out, but yeah. She will be out 202 00:08:33.120 --> 00:08:34.309 of her mind. Yeah. 203 00:08:34.429 --> 00:08:37.090 I literally bought outfits for her because I know that. 204 00:08:37.149 --> 00:08:39.029 And I know her well, she's my younger sister. I 205 00:08:39.070 --> 00:08:41.009 know that she would be upset that I'm surprising her 206 00:08:41.049 --> 00:08:43.049 and not getting her an outfit. I actually still think 207 00:08:43.070 --> 00:08:45.029 she might be upset that I'm surprising her because it's 208 00:08:45.070 --> 00:08:47.860 a surprise. Like she's the type that does not like surprises, 209 00:08:47.899 --> 00:08:48.659 but she's going to like me. 210 00:08:48.659 --> 00:08:49.440 She's a bit more like me. 211 00:08:49.440 --> 00:08:51.700 And the result of this, so much that she's not 212 00:08:51.720 --> 00:08:52.860 going to care that it's a surprise. 213 00:08:53.179 --> 00:08:57.299 Yeah. So one of the, yeah, we'll have to figure 214 00:08:57.340 --> 00:09:01.340 out how that day is going to go because maybe 215 00:09:01.379 --> 00:09:04.440 it's that we say we're, I'm picking her up at 216 00:09:04.460 --> 00:09:07.299 like 1030, you know, I'll make the plan to pick 217 00:09:07.320 --> 00:09:10.519 her up at 1030 on Sunday. And then, you know. 218 00:09:10.559 --> 00:09:12.120 I don't have it all written out because I haven't 219 00:09:12.139 --> 00:09:14.649 given her her birthday card yet. So I have her 220 00:09:14.669 --> 00:09:16.250 birthday card and like in it, it is going to 221 00:09:16.269 --> 00:09:18.049 be like, guess what we're doing tonight or like something 222 00:09:18.110 --> 00:09:18.470 like that. 223 00:09:18.490 --> 00:09:20.549 Yeah, but she's going to see you and she's going 224 00:09:20.570 --> 00:09:21.070 to know. 225 00:09:22.330 --> 00:09:23.169 Oh, well, yeah. 226 00:09:24.149 --> 00:09:25.509 So unless you don't come with me. 227 00:09:26.090 --> 00:09:27.909 Also, we could just say, oh, like Millie, I'm passing 228 00:09:27.960 --> 00:09:31.200 through DC last minute because I have my appointment. But 229 00:09:31.220 --> 00:09:32.259 I would have told her by now. I don't know. 230 00:09:32.279 --> 00:09:32.779 That's not the point. 231 00:09:32.799 --> 00:09:35.799 The point of the matter is whatever. Okay, we'll figure 232 00:09:35.820 --> 00:09:36.240 it all out. 233 00:09:36.320 --> 00:09:37.500 I'm super excited

for it. 234 00:09:37.580 --> 00:09:39.960 I actually have been grinning all day. Like I've told 235 00:09:40.019 --> 00:09:41.860 as many people as I can tell because I'm so 236 00:09:41.919 --> 00:09:42.970 horrible at keeping secrets. 237 00:09:43.269 --> 00:09:45.789 That I have to tell other people. Like, don't tell 238 00:09:45.830 --> 00:09:47.409 me a secret if you don't want the world to know. 239 00:09:47.870 --> 00:09:51.200 But I'm so curious if, like, what percentage of people 240 00:09:51.279 --> 00:09:54.379 actually like surprises versus don't like surprises. 241 00:09:54.759 --> 00:09:57.070 I think very few people actually like surprises. 242 00:09:57.090 --> 00:10:01.240 I think people, like... the whole idea of a surprise 243 00:10:01.269 --> 00:10:04.059 party ends up being nice. Cause it's like, Oh, like 244 00:10:04.100 --> 00:10:06.399 how sweet is this? But like, then you see, Oh 245 00:10:06.419 --> 00:10:08.220 my God, my partner was ignored. Or like my friends 246 00:10:08.240 --> 00:10:10.360 were ignoring me all day on my birthday. And like 247 00:10:10.399 --> 00:10:11.779 that anxiety surrounding that. 248 00:10:11.940 --> 00:10:14.870 And then it's like, But also in the moment, like 249 00:10:14.909 --> 00:10:17.070 you're not dressed for it and you're like, you know, 250 00:10:17.090 --> 00:10:18.830 like all those things where, yeah. 251 00:10:18.950 --> 00:10:19.909 You got to build up your mindset. 252 00:10:19.929 --> 00:10:22.509 You're like exhausted after work or whatever. And you don't 253 00:10:22.610 --> 00:10:23.710 feel like, yeah. 254 00:10:23.789 --> 00:10:26.220 Right. You don't feel like, or like, you know, like 255 00:10:26.250 --> 00:10:28.039 for a lot of people, including me, like if I'm 256 00:10:28.100 --> 00:10:31.080 leaving the house, I have to like mentally plan for this. 257 00:10:31.320 --> 00:10:32.740 I was talking to a friend, like I do not 258 00:10:32.840 --> 00:10:36.340 do well with last minute weeknight plans. Weekend a bit better, 259 00:10:36.759 --> 00:10:41.639 but weeknight plans I cannot handle. So I understand that 260 00:10:41.720 --> 00:10:45.450 aspect of it. I also like, I know my best 261 00:10:45.490 --> 00:10:47.570 friends from college have talked about surprising me as a 262 00:10:47.590 --> 00:10:50.250 trip to Nashville and coming down to visit me. But 263 00:10:50.289 --> 00:10:53.179 don't do that because I have my work schedule so 264 00:10:53.220 --> 00:10:54.860 meticulously planned out. 265 00:10:55.120 --> 00:10:56.580 And a lot of the weekends, they were like, oh, 266 00:10:56.600 --> 00:10:57.059 we were going to come. 267 00:10:57.100 --> 00:10:58.620 I was like, great. Thank God you didn't because I 268 00:10:58.639 --> 00:11:01.360 had a major assignment due that weekend that I procrastinated. 269 00:11:01.419 --> 00:11:03.409 I needed the entire weekend to work on it. 270 00:11:03.610 --> 00:11:05.269 That's the only thing I was worried about because when 271 00:11:05.309 --> 00:11:07.649 I said, okay, I'm going to be up there. Um, 272 00:11:07.889 --> 00:11:10.629 so let's have brunch on Sunday. She goes, well, I'll 273 00:11:10.690 --> 00:11:12.620 let you know. I'm like, well, what do you mean? 274 00:11:12.629 --> 00:11:14.559 I'll let you know. And she's like, well, I don't 275 00:11:14.580 --> 00:11:15.899 know how much work I'm going to have. And I 276 00:11:15.899 --> 00:11:18.519 was like, well, okay, you have, first of all, you 277 00:11:18.559 --> 00:11:21.500 have to eat. So she goes, yeah. I said, so 278 00:11:21.519 --> 00:11:23.340 get your work done on Saturday so we can hang 279 00:11:23.399 --> 00:11:27.070 out on Sunday. And she was like, okay. Like, so 280 00:11:27.120 --> 00:11:29.750 who knows what she's actually really going to do. Hopefully 281 00:11:29.809 --> 00:11:31.870 she does. Cause then, you know, she's. 282 00:11:31.730 --> 00:11:33.909 Such a, Yeah, she'll be so. 283 00:11:33.769 --> 00:11:35.250 Stressed out the entire time. 284 00:11:35.269 --> 00:11:36.289 But also, like, I don't know. 285 00:11:36.409 --> 00:11:37.429 She would never skip class. 286 00:11:37.570 --> 00:11:39.970 I stay skipping class if I don't have things done. 287 00:11:41.169 --> 00:11:44.720 Yeah, no, she's not going to skip class. But, you know, whatever. 288 00:11:44.779 --> 00:11:47.289 It's like an opportunity of a lifetime, right? Like, come on. 289 00:11:47.299 --> 00:11:49.100 Yeah, and I think you need the first one of 290 00:11:49.139 --> 00:11:52.990 those to realize how little, like, things matter. Like, my 291 00:11:53.009 --> 00:11:54.610 best friend and I, we talk about this all the time. 292 00:11:54.990 --> 00:11:57.169 We skipped a week of school in college to go 293 00:11:57.190 --> 00:11:59.480 to India for her cousin's wedding. Cannot tell you what 294 00:11:59.659 --> 00:12:00.019 I even know. 295 00:12:00.039 --> 00:12:01.000 I was going to say, I don't even know what 296 00:12:01.019 --> 00:12:02.039 classes I was in, but I. 297 00:12:02.019 --> 00:12:05.879 Do remember that wedding. And then like, you know, and 298 00:12:05.919 --> 00:12:08.480 when she was in high school, her parents had her 299 00:12:08.519 --> 00:12:10.580 come late to the first portion of one of their 300 00:12:10.639 --> 00:12:14.320 like cousins trips. It was another cousin's wedding in India, 301 00:12:14.360 --> 00:12:16.279 but they were doing like a trip to Nepal beforehand. 302 00:12:16.299 --> 00:12:18.529 And so she missed the Nepal part over like a 303 00:12:18.570 --> 00:12:20.110 math exam. Like a high school math. 304 00:12:20.190 --> 00:12:22.370 And she's going to remember that forever that she had 305 00:12:22.389 --> 00:12:24.070 to miss that. Yeah. A hundred percent. 306 00:12:24.090 --> 00:12:26.210 You only remember the things that you miss out on. Yeah. 307 00:12:26.230 --> 00:12:28.210 Why is my biggest regret not going to Tom Brady's 308 00:12:28.230 -->

00:12:30.830 football game? Cause like I should have gone. I had no, 309 00:12:30.889 --> 00:12:32.649 I don't know what classes I was even registered in. 310 00:12:32.730 --> 00:12:33.110 I know. 311 00:12:33.370 --> 00:12:35.490 That's why I always say that stuff doesn't matter. No 312 00:12:35.509 --> 00:12:38.200 offense to the teachers out there, but you know, I mean, 313 00:12:38.240 --> 00:12:41.460 at the end of the day, missing something for a 314 00:12:41.600 --> 00:12:44.450 once in a lifetime opportunity is absolutely worth it. 315 00:12:44.500 --> 00:12:46.600 Like, yeah, I'm not saying you should skip class to 316 00:12:46.639 --> 00:12:47.679 go raw on your couch. 317 00:12:48.019 --> 00:12:51.139 Right. Like don't do that. Yeah. But, like, yeah, if you, like, 318 00:12:51.240 --> 00:12:54.730 you know, really have something that's, like, huge and major, yeah. 319 00:12:55.129 --> 00:12:57.210 You're going to learn more from that experience than you 320 00:12:57.230 --> 00:12:58.269 probably will in the classroom. 321 00:12:58.950 --> 00:13:01.330 So it'll be very interesting to see how we pull 322 00:13:01.350 --> 00:13:04.860 this off and how she feels about it. I mean, 323 00:13:04.940 --> 00:13:06.639 in the end, she's going to love it, but in 324 00:13:06.659 --> 00:13:07.000 the middle. 325 00:13:07.919 --> 00:13:08.220 Yeah. 326 00:13:08.440 --> 00:13:09.700 She might be like, wait, that's not the. 327 00:13:09.710 --> 00:13:10.330 Outfit I wanted. 328 00:13:10.379 --> 00:13:11.929 I'm actually so excited. 329 00:13:12.169 --> 00:13:15.289 Now that everything is finalized, I'm giving myself permission to 330 00:13:15.330 --> 00:13:18.269 be excited about it. I have avoided watching any clip 331 00:13:18.289 --> 00:13:20.990 from the concert, so I'm completely surprised. 332 00:13:20.769 --> 00:13:22.029 By what happened. Oh, I watched something. 333 00:13:22.250 --> 00:13:23.500 And people were trying to tell me about it. I 334 00:13:23.500 --> 00:13:25.279 won't tell you about it. I was like, la, la, la, la, la, la, please, guys. 335 00:13:25.299 --> 00:13:26.200 That looks pretty cool. 336 00:13:26.460 --> 00:13:26.799 I know. 337 00:13:26.820 --> 00:13:28.460 Emma was like, oh, my God, have you seen this? 338 00:13:28.500 --> 00:13:29.720 I was like, no, Emma, stop. 339 00:13:30.700 --> 00:13:32.679 And she's like, oh, I'm so jealous you guys are going. 340 00:13:32.700 --> 00:13:34.899 I was like, as if you haven't seen it. this 341 00:13:34.940 --> 00:13:36.919 concert without me as if you're not going to see 342 00:13:36.980 --> 00:13:38.820 no con without me as if you guys aren't doing 343 00:13:38.860 --> 00:13:40.990 like a sister trip to Scotland together, please. 344 00:13:41.490 --> 00:13:41.730 I know. 345 00:13:42.450 --> 00:13:42.669 Yeah. 346 00:13:42.970 --> 00:13:46.529 The, but the, the pulling it off part, I think 347 00:13:46.549 --> 00:13:48.950 that's always like the hardest part. Like how often do 348

00:13:48.990 --> 00:13:51.889 people actually not really know that there's a surprise happening? 349 00:13:52.730 --> 00:13:54.649 Well, my worry is, did you tell dad? 350 00:13:54.669 --> 00:13:58.409 I did tell dad, but he's not talking to her. 351 00:13:58.429 --> 00:14:01.009 So, okay. Well, good. Because like, I feel like he 352 00:14:01.029 --> 00:14:02.399 would find his way to be like, Oh, are you 353 00:14:02.460 --> 00:14:05.649 excited to see your mom and sister this weekend? You're right. 354 00:14:06.309 --> 00:14:08.370 I'll have to remind him. Yeah. 355 00:14:08.629 --> 00:14:10.529 Thank you. Thank you. Yeah. 356 00:14:10.570 --> 00:14:12.429 That's why I'm telling people that, like, have no stake 357 00:14:12.450 --> 00:14:12.870 in the game. 358 00:14:12.889 --> 00:14:14.389 Yeah. 359 00:14:14.620 --> 00:14:16.460 He's a blabbermouth. He does not keep a secret. 360 00:14:16.500 --> 00:14:17.980 He doesn't mean to. 361 00:14:18.120 --> 00:14:20.580 No, but, like, you guys are all, like, you're not. 362 00:14:20.799 --> 00:14:23.259 If I tell you don't actually tell anybody something, you won't. 363 00:14:23.679 --> 00:14:25.419 But I have to make sure don't tell anybody. 364 00:14:26.200 --> 00:14:27.679 Most of the time I won't even remember that you 365 00:14:27.700 --> 00:14:28.639 told me, just so you know. 366 00:14:28.779 --> 00:14:32.039 Well, that's not true. Hello. This family gossips to each 367 00:14:32.080 --> 00:14:33.159 other like wildfire. 368 00:14:34.429 --> 00:14:35.029 Yeah, that's true. 369 00:14:35.090 --> 00:14:37.090 I'll tell you something or I'll tell dad something. And 370 00:14:37.110 --> 00:14:38.629 then Emma will text me a couple of weeks later. 371 00:14:38.649 --> 00:14:40.850 She goes, so I heard from mom. I was like, well, 372 00:14:40.870 --> 00:14:43.470 how does mom know? Yeah. 373 00:14:43.690 --> 00:14:44.070 True point. 374 00:14:45.250 --> 00:14:45.690 Okay. 375 00:14:45.870 --> 00:14:48.149 And then your sister group chat is like deathly, just 376 00:14:48.169 --> 00:14:52.100 so you know, it's like three girls together. 377 00:14:52.120 --> 00:14:55.179 Yeah. I mean, you know, the boys don't have one either. We, 378 00:14:55.320 --> 00:14:58.409 we stay gossiping in there, but a lot of, you know, Today, 379 00:14:58.429 --> 00:15:00.480 Amelia was just yelling at me. She goes, can you 380 00:15:00.500 --> 00:15:02.679 just like tell the people that you have obligations with 381 00:15:02.700 --> 00:15:04.639 this weekend that your sister is super depressed and you 382 00:15:04.679 --> 00:15:07.340 need to come and see Olivia Rodrigo with her? Yeah. 383 00:15:07.460 --> 00:15:08.799 And where does she think she's going to get the 384 00:15:08.840 --> 00:15:09.299 tickets from? 385 00:15:09.320 --> 00:15:11.299 I don't know. I don't, I don't, I don't even 386 00:15:11.340 --> 00:15:12.440 think she's looked at the prices. 387 00:15:13.059 --> 00:15:15.539 No, I looked at them with her. I said, the 388 00:15:15.570 --> 00:15:17.269 tickets are $ 1, 200 for nosebleeds. 389 00:15:17.289 --> 00:15:17.889 We're not doing it. 390 00:15:17.970 --> 00:15:21.690 I have money, which that's not true. I don't actually. 391 00:15:22.129 --> 00:15:23.970 The other day you, she did. 392 00:15:24.009 --> 00:15:25.690 My mom texted me. I put $ 200 in your account. 393 00:15:26.870 --> 00:15:28.269 And I was like, I called her later the day. 394 00:15:28.289 --> 00:15:30.129 I was like, oh, is it because it's National Daughters Day? 395 00:15:30.169 --> 00:15:31.490 And she was like, oh, I didn't even know that 396 00:15:31.509 --> 00:15:33.049 was today. You just had $ 6 in your account. 397 00:15:33.090 --> 00:15:34.590 You had $ 6 left. So I felt. 398 00:15:34.429 --> 00:15:35.149 Bad for you. 399 00:15:35.529 --> 00:15:37.129 I was like, thanks. Thank you. 400 00:15:37.230 --> 00:15:39.799 Yeah. That was awesome. Yeah. 401 00:15:39.980 --> 00:15:41.440 Nothing to do with National Daughters Day. 402 00:15:41.460 --> 00:15:42.460 I mean, yeah, sure. 403 00:15:42.519 --> 00:15:45.200 I can make it like poetic and say, what's National 404 00:15:45.220 --> 00:15:47.279 Daughters Day? I sent each of you money. No, I 405 00:15:47.320 --> 00:15:50.970 looked at how bad your balance was and said, you 406 00:15:50.990 --> 00:15:52.250 can't even buy McDonald's. 407 00:15:52.889 --> 00:15:55.450 Not that you would eat that, but you know. I, well, 408 00:15:55.470 --> 00:15:58.129 more importantly, I couldn't fill my gas up because I 409 00:15:58.149 --> 00:15:59.230 get all my gas on debit. 410 00:15:59.809 --> 00:16:00.269 There we go. 411 00:16:00.789 --> 00:16:01.669 Yeah. Okay. 412 00:16:02.169 --> 00:16:02.799 Well, now you have it. 413 00:16:03.370 --> 00:16:04.169 I'm so excited. 414 00:16:04.200 --> 00:16:05.940 We'll let you guys know how this goes. 415 00:16:05.980 --> 00:16:07.120 I'm sure it's going to go great. 416 00:16:07.200 --> 00:16:08.419 Like there's no worry in my head. 417 00:16:08.440 --> 00:16:11.460 Yeah. I'm so curious to like plan it out and 418 00:16:11.500 --> 00:16:17.740 like see, see what her thoughts are afterwards. Actually, I 419 00:16:17.740 --> 00:16:19.330 just want to see her face. It was like, you know, 420 00:16:19.350 --> 00:16:21.889 when I found out I was having a grand baby, 421 00:16:22.769 --> 00:16:26.840 you know, Kind of losing my mind. So now I 422 00:16:26.879 --> 00:16:28.080 would say that's the equivalent of her. 423 00:16:28.100 --> 00:16:30.460 Am I going to meet my nephew this weekend? Yes, 424 00:16:30.500 --> 00:16:32.799 you do. I know. I was going to go to 425 00:16:32.820 --> 00:16:35.840 the Belmont bookstore today to buy him a little Belmont onesie. 426 00:16:37.159 --> 00:16:39.620 Good idea. Six to 12 months or 12 to 18 months. 427 00:16:40.919 --> 00:16:43.460 He's like six months. I don't think he's 12 to 18, dude. 428 00:16:43.500 --> 00:16:45.779 Well, he's wearing six to 12 right

now. But I'm 429 00:16:45.799 --> 00:16:47.200 just saying if you want him to wear it now. 430 00:16:47.759 --> 00:16:49.460 Oh, yeah. I mean, I just care for a little 431 00:16:49.480 --> 00:16:50.019 photo in it. 432 00:16:50.639 --> 00:16:50.879 Okay. 433 00:16:51.159 --> 00:16:55.370 Yeah. Do that. Okay. I have a good quote. That's it. 434 00:16:55.370 --> 00:16:55.970 Tell me your quote. 435 00:16:56.110 --> 00:16:57.250 Yes, if I will. 436 00:16:57.809 --> 00:17:00.419 When you stop searching for certainty, when you quit trying 437 00:17:00.440 --> 00:17:02.399 to make sense of everything, a lot of your stress 438 00:17:02.419 --> 00:17:03.440 will simply melt away. 439 00:17:03.460 --> 00:17:04.920 Okay, that's pretty crazy, actually. 440 00:17:04.980 --> 00:17:07.859 And that's why surprise parties don't bother me. Yeah. Because 441 00:17:07.880 --> 00:17:08.940 I stop searching for certainty. 442 00:17:11.329 --> 00:17:12.509 I got a lot of work to do there. 443 00:17:13.329 --> 00:17:14.950 Yeah. You got to let go of control. 444 00:17:15.569 --> 00:17:17.250 It's really hard though. It's sometimes really hard. 445 00:17:17.609 --> 00:17:18.369 Really hard. 446 00:17:18.650 --> 00:17:18.950 Yeah. 447 00:17:18.990 --> 00:17:21.109 Yeah. And then I have a really hard, I actually, 448 00:17:21.130 --> 00:17:23.069 I don't have a hard time letting go. I have 449 00:17:23.109 --> 00:17:26.390 a hard time like leaving it there. Because the minute 450 00:17:26.490 --> 00:17:28.950 someone like starts doing something that not the way that 451 00:17:28.990 --> 00:17:30.470 I like it, I'm like, I don't know. I just, 452 00:17:30.559 --> 00:17:31.119 I'll just do it. 453 00:17:31.410 --> 00:17:33.410 I'll just take it over. Yeah. I do that too. 454 00:17:33.490 --> 00:17:38.900 It's horrible. Oh, there's so much work to do. Every 455 00:17:38.920 --> 00:17:39.740 day on myself. 456 00:17:39.839 --> 00:17:40.140 Every day. 457 00:17:40.180 --> 00:17:43.720 But wouldn't life be boring if you were already born perfect? 458 00:17:44.950 --> 00:17:49.329 There is no such thing as perfection. But yes, and 459 00:17:49.349 --> 00:17:53.299 it would be nice if like certain days were just like, oh, 460 00:17:53.700 --> 00:17:54.259 that was easy. 461 00:17:54.980 --> 00:17:58.740 Yeah. Yeah, I would agree. But, you know, it is 462 00:17:58.759 --> 00:17:59.720 what it is. Yeah. 463 00:18:01.319 --> 00:18:03.299 Thank you for joining us on this week's episode of 464 00:18:03.420 --> 00:18:07.400 Her Unshakable Confidence. Always remember, you are unshakable. 465 00:18:08.019 --> 00:18:08.960 Bye, guys. Bye. 466 00:18:10.619 --> 00:18:13.140 Thank you for listening to Her Unshakable Confidence. 467 00:18:13.990 --> 00:18:17.680 If this conversation resonated with you, be sure to subscribe 468 00:18:17.759 --> 00:18:20.039 and leave a review so more women can find the show. 469 00:18:20.440 --> 00:18:21.559 Keep trusting yourself. 470 00:18:22.220 --> 00:18:23.640 You are stronger than you think. 471 00:18:24.039 --> 00:18:25.660 You are unshakable. 472 00:18:26.619 --> 00:18:27.339 See you next week.