Full Transcript for A Toast. . .

I I got terrible views, you know. 00:06:24.879 --> 00:06:29.120 Uh average watch time is a few seconds, and you know, I don't have a lot of views. 00:06:29.280 --> 00:06:34.560 I got comments, you know, and people that uh support me, shout out to the people that comment and the people that support me. 00:06:34.639 --> 00:06:38.639 I'm not sure if they watch the whole thing or if they grasp what I'm saying. 00:06:38.879 --> 00:06:43.600 A lot of time people pull out, you know, like the funny parts and they kind of miss the message. 00:06:43.680 --> 00:06:45.360 And um, maybe that's on me. 00:06:45.439 --> 00:06:55.680 My approach is to try to put the medicine in the candy to make digestible content where you know people can enjoy it, but sometimes, you know, I guess you gotta come straight forward and hit niggas in the head with it. 00:06:55.759 --> 00:06:58.000 But um, anyway, it's neither here nor there. 00:06:58.160 --> 00:07:01.040 So I'm looking and I'm looking and I'm like, damn, YouTube is trash. 00:07:01.120 --> 00:07:03.600 Like, you know, three months ago I had five followers. 00:07:03.680 --> 00:07:08.000 Now I got 356 with no visual, uh, because I'm audio only. 00:07:08.160 --> 00:07:09.920 Um, visual is coming soon though. 00:07:10.160 --> 00:07:13.680 But you know, it got me questioning a little bit. 00:07:13.759 --> 00:07:18.400 So then being the inquisitive K-Way that I am, I went on Buzz. 00:07:18.879 --> 00:07:25.759 Um, uh that that is the platform that hosts my podcast and they push it out to everybody. 00:07:25.920 --> 00:07:30.720 So if you're thinking about starting a podcast, um, that's something you got to look look up. 00:07:30.800 --> 00:07:41.360 So I use Buzz Sprout, and you create an RSS feed and they push it out to um all of the podcast platforms, and me, I'm pretty much everywhere. 00:07:41.519 --> 00:07:56.720 I'm uh uh Audible, series satellite radio, Amazon Music, Spotify, Apple, YouTube, um man, uh even some overseas apps like iVox, uh, your good old-fashioned web browser. 00:07:56.879 --> 00:08:08.240 So there are so many different avenues to get your content out there, and don't let YouTube be the end all be all, because lo and behold, what did I discover? 00:08:08.560 --> 00:08:16.959 Pulled back that RSS feed curtain, and I have been in over 25 distinct countries and uh territories, uh 65 global cities. 00:08:17.120 --> 00:08:34.799 My benchmarks are those of the standard, meaning I'm averaging between um 75 and 100 downloads per per episode, and um it's incredible, it's it's incredible the reach that I have um in the countries that they are coming from. 00:08:34.959 --> 00:08:36.799 I mean, I'm looking at this shit now. 00:08:36.959 --> 00:08:42.319 You've got Australia, South Africa, Guyana, Japan, Algeria, Brazil, Russian. 00:08:42.399 --> 00:08:49.120 I don't want no smoke with nobody in Russia, Congo, South Korea don't want no smoke with anybody in South Korea. 00:08:49.359 --> 00:08:52.079 Um uh oh, I'm sorry, South Korea cool. 00:08:52.159 --> 00:08:53.439 That's yeah, y'all cool, my bad. 00:08:53.519 --> 00:08:55.359 Uh that's North Korea we got an issue with. 00:08:55.519 --> 00:09:11.039 Um, but Hong Kong, I mean, and then you know, the cities from Bordman, Oregon to uh Fort Lauderdale, Florida, Johannesburg, uh, Brisbane, Queensland, that's Australia, Columbus, Ohio, Dallas, like Brooklyn, everywhere, man. 00:09:11.120 --> 00:09:16.719 So I appreciate y'all, and I appreciate everybody that is rocking with me week in and week out. 00:09:16.799 --> 00:09:24.239 And you guys come here for my authentic content about the rhythms and blues of my life centered around RB. 00:09:24.559 --> 00:09:26.799 So, shout out to y'all. 00:09:27.599 --> 00:09:29.839 Round of applause, round of applause for y'all. 00:09:29.919 --> 00:09:30.719 Thank you so much. 00:09:30.959 --> 00:09:49.199 Really appreciate, really appreciate you guys, and everybody that is on YouTube or Instagram, and you know, you kind of just go through the story and you don't ever click a link, or um you see it on uh YouTube, and you know, you you might like it, like it, but you're not digesting it and listening to it, eat a dick. 00:09:50.479 --> 00:09:52.319 That's the way I'm feeling, man. 00:09:52.479 --> 00:09:54.799 So uh shout out to y'all, man. 00:09:54.879 --> 00:09:56.479 But anyways, moving right along. 00:09:56.559 --> 00:10:02.159 So I told you we're gonna get into some some uh some underrated facts and historical context today. 00:10:02.399 --> 00:10:06.159 And uh excuse me, I had to cough. 00:10:06.799 --> 00:10:10.719 Um, so I want to talk about some deep history real quick. 00:10:10.959 --> 00:10:19.039 I want to talk about the the toast, you know, like when you pour a glass, whatever you drink in, and um, you know, you toast for me. 00:10:19.279 --> 00:10:32.799 My toast is uh I raise my glass and I say I'm never above you, and I put I put my hand above and I say I'm never below you, I put my hand underneath that person's glass, uh, right on the side of you, and then we toast, we cheers, whatever. 00:10:33.279 --> 00:10:43.279 But me being the um inquisitive person that I am, um, you good for y'all, for those of you that don't know, I trace my lineage back. 00:10:43.359 --> 00:10:44.719 So I did African ancestry. 00:10:44.879 --> 00:10:48.479 I encourage anybody of uh the diaspora to do that. 00:10:48.639 --> 00:10:51.919 This is it, it breaks down, goes back over 2,000 years, you know what I'm saying? 00:10:52.000 --> 00:10:54.159 I like my people was over there with Jesus. 00:10:54.479 --> 00:11:00.079 So my mother, uh, on my mother's side, God rest her so shout out to my mom. 00:11:00.159 --> 00:11:02.000 Um, looking forward to speaking to you later on. 00:11:02.079 --> 00:11:07.120 She's been kind of visiting me a little bit um as of late as it as we get closer to the wedding. 00:11:07.279 --> 00:11:11.519 It could be the way the wind blows or uh a dream or a

thought or a song. 00:11:11.679 --> 00:11:14.719 So uh yeah, I look forward to our next encounter, mama. 00:11:15.759 --> 00:11:25.519 Um, but no, she is 100% Sierra Leonean on her side from the Mindy tribe, and my father is 100% Nigerian um from the Yoruba tribe. 00:11:25.679 --> 00:11:30.319 So, you know, if I ever want to scam, I guess I'll ask my dad. 00:11:30.479 --> 00:11:36.079 Um, you know, um, I guess that's another way of hustling, but no shot, no, no shots to them. 00:11:37.199 --> 00:11:38.319 No shots to them. 00:11:38.559 --> 00:11:46.079 Uh see, yeah, so so going back to the toast, and and I'm I'm looking at this stuff and I dig a little further. 00:11:46.319 --> 00:11:54.479 And the the ancient West African village historians and praise singers and and the walking libraries that they were who preserved our tribal history through spoke. 00:11:54.639 --> 00:12:00.639 They I found out they preserved our history through spoken word and rhythm, um, like most people uh from the diaspora. 00:12:00.959 --> 00:12:07.839 And um, you know, they even have what you call the post-slavery street corner, and and we we grew up seeing that. 00:12:07.919 --> 00:12:19.679 If you around my age, we know what doo-wop groups are on the side of the corner, you know, over the trash can singing, trying to get a record deal, um, you know, tall tease and and you know, and snap dancing. 00:12:19.759 --> 00:12:23.120 That that all derives from you know the toast. 00:12:23.279 --> 00:12:40.719 Black men gathered on their porches, shooting the shit on their street corners, inside the neighborhood barbershop, uh, black men and women, and engaging in highly competitive conversations that sometimes was theatrical or they rhyming, you know, a cipher, uh, or or going back and forth, you know. 00:12:40.959 --> 00:12:45.120 That's that that poetic thing was called toasting. 00:12:45.279 --> 00:12:57.839 Um, toasting has another aspect, it's the mythological anti-heroes, it's the uh stackole's and the signifying monkey, where um these characters are folkloric folklore characters, they're passed down across generations. 00:12:57.919 --> 00:12:59.439 If you haven't heard of them, look them up. 00:12:59.519 --> 00:13:01.039 That's stackle uh stackoli. 00:13:01.519 --> 00:13:02.479 I hope I'm saying that right. 00:13:02.719 --> 00:13:06.399 Stack O L E E in the signifying monkey. 00:13:06.559 --> 00:13:15.039 Uh Stackoli was uh basically a clever um uh bad man, he was like the ultimate fearless dude, you know. 00:13:15.120 --> 00:13:16.639 Uh he's gonna beat up Debo. 00:13:16.719 --> 00:13:20.479 He he would be Craig and Friday, you know, uh beating up Debo. 00:13:20.719 --> 00:13:27.439 And the signifying monkey was the underdog, uh, quick witted, you know, saying double meanings, a lot of wordplay. 00:13:27.679 --> 00:13:35.279 Uh wasn't the biggest, but you know, he physically, he was physically superior to a lion because he was mentally uh adequate. 00:13:35.439 --> 00:13:48.000 That would be somebody like your Kendrick Lamar, um, where he went up against the whole rap industry in the machine, and everybody counted him out before you know the fight even started, and he went in there and and KO'd and washed old boy. 00:13:48.239 --> 00:13:52.319 Um, and and you know, the rest is history, you know how that goes. 00:13:52.559 --> 00:13:53.599 You could tie all that. 00:13:53.679 --> 00:13:54.479 This is all toasting. 00:13:54.559 --> 00:13:55.279 I'm still on toasting. 00:13:55.519 --> 00:13:58.639 Follow me, and you tie that in, that's the blueprint of rap. 00:13:58.719 --> 00:14:04.959 That's how you connect the hood, like we're connecting historical, uh modern day lines right here. 00:14:05.039 --> 00:14:13.919 You know, when a Jamaican sound system was brought to the Bronx in New York, and and the DJ um he made his version of toasting in the 70s. 00:14:14.000 --> 00:14:24.639 That's hip-hop, you know, if you seamlessly with the foundations of black American oral traditions, you know, rhyming, dancing, uh, wordsmith. 00:14:24.879 --> 00:14:29.599 It's the exact genetic blueprint of the hip-hop universe. 00:14:29.839 --> 00:14:31.599 Toasting, ladies and gentlemen. 00:14:31.919 --> 00:14:32.719 Think about it. 00:14:35.039 --> 00:14:40.239 So I'm I'm doing more research, I'm going through it. 00:14:40.319 --> 00:14:43.359 You know, I'm I'm really trying to just learn things, man. 00:14:43.519 --> 00:14:47.599 In my spare time, uh, side note, I put up a post on YouTube. 00:14:47.919 --> 00:14:51.839 Uh, I have gone through 23 audio books so far. 00:14:52.159 --> 00:14:56.079 Um uh Nephew by MK Asante. 00:14:56.719 --> 00:15:00.079 Um, that that's I'm I'm like hooked on that book, man. 00:15:00.159 --> 00:15:03.759 But I'm gonna I'm gonna give y'all a few books that uh that I recommend. 00:15:04.000 --> 00:15:09.919 So if you ain't doing nothing and you want to feed your mind, man, get grab nephew by mk asante. 00:15:10.079 --> 00:15:19.120 Mk Asante is a um professor at Morgan State University, and he um man, he's from Philly. 00:15:19.279 --> 00:15:21.919 His stories, his first book, book, is amazing. 00:15:22.000 --> 00:15:24.079 It is it's like a memoir of what he's been through, man. 00:15:24.479 --> 00:15:26.079 That brother has been through a lot. 00:15:26.159 --> 00:15:28.879 So shout out to him, shout out to Morgan State. 00:15:28.959 --> 00:15:34.399 That's where the brothers of Iodified Theta Fraternity Incorporated were founded on the fifth steps of Hearst Gymnasium, man. 00:15:34.559 --> 00:15:35.839 So 1963. 00:15:35.919 --> 00:15:37.599 Do go do your Googles. 00:15:37.679 --> 00:15:41.519 Uh, another book is Skyfiller Elephants by SIBO Campbell. 00:15:41.679 --> 00:15:45.039 Another book is Living Wis Living in Wisdom by Debbie Brown, right? 00:15:45.120 --> 00:15:50.479 Out of you know, Southern California, Debbie Brown is is legendary in the industry and just in general population. 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--> 00:15:54.879 So start off with them books, but anyways, I say all that to say. 00:15:55.120 --> 00:16:03.599 So um I'm doing more research and I'm trying to connect this whole toasting thing. 00:16:03.919 --> 00:16:14.639 Um, and uh I learned that the structural language, like our mechanics, they were built by the communities that enslaved us to navigate dangerous environments. 00:16:14.879 --> 00:16:21.359 You like take this for instance, you got a positive code right now, like we got positive slang language slang language. 00:16:21.679 --> 00:16:28.719 So enslaved individuals relied heavily on double meanings to safely pass through those underground passages. 00:16:28.799 --> 00:16:33.599 Um, you know, back in the day, and it was a lot of survival tactics that they had to use today. 00:16:33.679 --> 00:16:38.159 These same things manifest as modern cultural shorthand and rhythm efficiency. 00:16:38.319 --> 00:16:47.439 Like, I'm fixing to go to or I'm finna go to the store, like um, you know, like uh that's tight, that's hard, that's bad, you know. 00:16:47.519 --> 00:16:52.319 Like, we got our own uh linguing linguistics. 00:16:52.479 --> 00:16:54.319 Damn, why can't I talk today? 00:16:54.399 --> 00:16:55.599 I've probably been talking too much. 00:16:55.759 --> 00:16:57.199 Linguistics, there we go. 00:16:58.239 --> 00:17:14.400 So uh, you know, those things manifest in our culture today, and um, it's just like structurally compressing what we've had to endure, and it's it goes back to them serving us slop, and we turn it into um chitlins, caught collard greens, and candy yams, you know. 00:17:14.560 --> 00:17:20.160 I mean, um, it goes deep, but uh along with the positive, there's also negative code. 00:17:20.240 --> 00:17:22.080 There's a street underground, you know. 00:17:22.240 --> 00:17:45.759 Um, there's a there's a generational of muscle memory, you know, using that language to to navigate hostile environments that it translated into um uh I would say highly advanced but constantly evolving coded terminologies utilized in the street culture, you know, trying to play it safe, basically selling drugs. 00:17:46.080 --> 00:17:49.920 You talking in code, you talking in Morris code on the next tail chirp, you know what I'm saying? 00:17:50.000 --> 00:18:00.480 So that's that's the flip side of how uh we've had to navigate our language, but you know, it all goes back to that toast and and and where it derived from. 00:18:00.720 --> 00:18:02.799 Um, you also got a defensive code. 00:18:02.880 --> 00:18:08.080 So we we covered the positive code, the negative code, then you got a defensive code, like playing the dozens. 00:18:08.240 --> 00:18:09.440 A lot of people don't know. 00:18:09.680 --> 00:18:11.840 There's two stories of how the dozen started. 00:18:12.000 --> 00:18:15.200 One was there was a there was a psychological conditioning. 00:18:15.440 --> 00:18:30.480 Um uh it was a tool it was a psychological conditioning tool, and it was it was born on the slave plantations, so to survive the severe psychological abuse, sometimes even physical abuse from the overseers, the slave master, the white folk. 00:18:32.000 --> 00:18:34.560 I was trying to hit the the five button, but it didn't work. 00:18:36.320 --> 00:18:45.519 The white folk, they basically had to um they they had to keep them laughing, almost kind of like jokers and jesters. 00:18:45.920 --> 00:19:02.480 Um and and and a lot of um a lot of slave masters would get would make just crazy gamma gamified insults, and this became the foundation of modern roasting, as you know it today, your mama jokes, and they would practice these things back in the slave days. 00:19:02.640 --> 00:19:16.799 Other slaves would joke on each other and talk about their mama because it was a measure of how much you can can keep your emotions in check because this is what your overseer, your slave master, the white folk, are going to do. 00:19:17.600 --> 00:19:20.560 Um, so that's one aspect of it, you know. 00:19:20.640 --> 00:19:27.039 Now I'll get into the other one um um a little bit later, but you could tie all that into the battle rap connection. 00:19:27.120 --> 00:19:28.160 I'm a fan of URL. 00:19:28.240 --> 00:19:37.279 Well, I used to be, um, it ain't what it used to be to me, and they've made it kind of like very hard to uh to access and digest. 00:19:37.360 --> 00:19:43.440 Um, but shout out to I think the last time I was on battle rap was when Briz Briz Ross team was going. 00:19:43.920 --> 00:19:46.720 Um, he was he was he was climbing the ranks, you know. 00:19:46.799 --> 00:19:48.640 He was he was I thought he was gonna be the next one. 00:19:48.720 --> 00:19:49.920 I'm not sure what happened. 00:19:50.160 --> 00:20:16.960 Um, but basically, you gotta um and battle rap, it expands the legacy of the dozens, like it's connecting to modern day your mama jokes, and how much can you keep your emotions in check when you got Arsenal in front of you saying the most disrespectful things in the world about your mother and your wife, and can you keep your emotions in check, or are you gonna be like a math hoff and punch somebody on stage and you know turn into whatever he's turned into? 00:20:17.360 --> 00:20:19.120 So, yeah, man. 00:20:19.279 --> 00:20:25.200 Um, the dozens, uh, it's you know, it goes back to a lot, man. 00:20:25.360 --> 00:20:32.400 All goes back to that toasting and how we celebrate each other, but also the dozens was basically open-air slave markets. 00:20:32.640 --> 00:20:40.320 And if you was disabled, if you was elderly, if you was injured, like the slave masters was joking on you, and they tried to keep you in check. 00:20:40.480 --> 00:20:47.600 The other your other slave counterparts tried to keep you in check by you know playing the dozens, and that's just how it was. 00:20:48.000 --> 00:20:54.960 And that's how we we are, you know, we well, not we are, but we have a lot of the things that we have today, you

know. 00:20:55.039 --> 00:20:58.000 We took shit and made it to sugar, unfortunately, man. 00:20:58.160 --> 00:21:00.160 So shout out to toasting, man. 00:21:00.240 --> 00:21:07.279 That is the history lesson that I wanted to uh deliver today, you know. 00:21:08.400 --> 00:21:11.840 Um I ain't gonna be before y'all long, man. 00:21:11.920 --> 00:21:36.400 You know, I I try to make the content ingestible, um, but also short because I noticed when I first started out, I had a lot to say because I was pretty much going through um how I got here and and the divorce and my mother passing, and my grandparents, and auntie overdosing, and me almost having a um um, well, not having, but I did have a failed suicide attempt. 00:21:36.560 --> 00:21:41.759 So if you're interested in those stories, go back to episodes one, two, three, and you can hear all about that. 00:21:42.000 --> 00:21:46.320 But today, before we get out of here, I got some gripes. 00:21:46.480 --> 00:21:48.880 And uh, we're gonna get them off my chest. 00:21:49.519 --> 00:21:53.840 All I can all I know that works in the world is a relationship. 00:21:54.160 --> 00:21:54.400 Yes. 00:21:54.640 --> 00:21:54.880 All right. 00:21:55.039 --> 00:21:56.799 Okay, that that's all that's gonna work. 00:21:56.960 --> 00:21:58.640 It takes two people to have a relationship. 00:21:58.880 --> 00:21:59.920 Yeah, but but it but the relationship. 00:22:00.160 --> 00:22:01.279 If you don't have a dream, fake it. 00:22:01.440 --> 00:22:02.720 But the relationship, you can't fake a dream. 00:22:03.039 --> 00:22:06.160 You got to fake it because we don't have dreams these days. 00:22:06.400 --> 00:22:08.320 How the hell can you have a dream? 00:22:08.720 --> 00:22:09.279 For what? 00:22:09.759 --> 00:22:14.160 Well, this is so everybody's everybody's jiving, but let's jive on that level. 00:22:15.759 --> 00:22:17.680 If I love you, I can't lie to you. 00:22:18.000 --> 00:22:19.279 Of course you can lie to me. 00:22:19.360 --> 00:22:19.920 And you will. 00:22:20.000 --> 00:22:23.440 If you love me and you're going off with Maddie someplace, you're lying to me. 00:22:23.519 --> 00:22:25.200 Because what the hell do I care about the truth? 00:22:25.279 --> 00:22:26.000 I care if you're there. 00:22:26.240 --> 00:22:28.799 But Billy Holidays say, hush now, don't explain. 00:22:29.039 --> 00:22:30.080 All right, I accept that. 00:22:30.400 --> 00:22:30.720 Of course. 00:22:30.880 --> 00:22:31.680 Of course you'll lie to me. 00:22:31.759 --> 00:22:32.400 Because I don't even want to care. 00:22:32.880 --> 00:22:33.840 What does the truth matter? 00:22:33.920 --> 00:22:37.120 And why are you gonna be truthful with me when you lie to everybody else? 00:22:38.000 --> 00:22:40.720 You lied when you smiled at that cracker down the job, right? 00:22:40.960 --> 00:22:42.160 Lie to me, smile. 00:22:42.400 --> 00:22:44.320 Treat me the same way you would treat him. 00:22:44.560 --> 00:22:45.279 I can't treat you. 00:22:45.519 --> 00:22:46.400 You must treat you. 00:22:46.799 --> 00:22:47.440 You must. 00:22:48.320 --> 00:22:51.680 Because I've caught the frowns and the anger. 00:22:52.240 --> 00:22:53.279 He's happy with you. 00:22:53.360 --> 00:22:54.799 Of course he doesn't know you weren't happy. 00:22:54.880 --> 00:22:56.320 You grin at him all day long. 00:22:56.480 --> 00:22:58.799 You come home and I catch up because I love you. 00:22:58.880 --> 00:23:00.080 I get least of you. 00:23:00.160 --> 00:23:02.160 I get the I get the very minimum. 00:23:02.720 --> 00:23:04.960 And I'm saying, you know, fake it with me. 00:23:05.200 --> 00:23:08.080 Is that too much of the black woman to ask of the black man? 00:23:08.400 --> 00:23:14.240 For 10 years, so that we can get a child on his feet that says, yeah, father smiled at mother. 00:23:14.400 --> 00:23:16.640 He talked to me about school today. 00:23:16.799 --> 00:23:18.320 Who cares that you can read or can't read? 00:23:18.480 --> 00:23:19.519 Most Americans can't read. 00:23:19.600 --> 00:23:20.640 Most people can't read. 00:23:21.600 --> 00:23:25.840 That was Nikki Giovanni and James Ballway, man. 00:23:25.920 --> 00:23:28.640 That is uh that's such an important conversation. 00:23:28.720 --> 00:23:30.960 And that's that's my gripe today. 00:23:31.279 --> 00:23:37.120 Um, like I said, we've turned connection into a spectator sport. 00:23:37.680 --> 00:23:45.200 So it's like the the heavy thing that she said was as I was re-roaching, that's a legendary clip, man. 00:23:45.360 --> 00:23:47.920 Once again, Nikki Giovanni and James Baldwin. 00:23:48.080 --> 00:23:50.000 And Nikki said something that hit me in the chest. 00:23:50.080 --> 00:23:55.440 He said, You lied, you lied when you smile at them crackers down at the job. 00:23:55.519 --> 00:23:57.840 And you come home and I get the least of you. 00:23:58.080 --> 00:24:01.120 Um, at the very minimum, fake it with me. 00:24:01.279 --> 00:24:04.560 And I think that's just where we are in society right now. 00:24:04.799 --> 00:24:17.600 When you think about the weight of that, we spend all day performing for the outside world, man, giving our best smiles to these corporate spaces and these digital feeds, and then we bring the emotional leftovers home to the people who actually love us. 00:24:18.400 --> 00:24:24.080 But today, the modern data scene has flipped into something even crazier. 00:24:24.240 --> 00:24:33.200 Like, it feels like men have become completely obsessed with other men, and I've said this many a times, and I'm gonna stand on it because I truly believe this. 00:24:33.279 --> 00:24:36.400 It's I think I've done enough research to back this up. 00:24:36.960 --> 00:24:54.720 And it's weird because it's like instead of focusing on the women that are supposed to be loving, we are supposed to be loving, and like we are worried about what the guy is gonna say or sharing a hookah stick with this nigga and you know, and going to the club

together. 00:24:54.960 --> 00:24:58.799 And if you want any further proof, just look at today's modern RB. 00:24:59.120 --> 00:25:01.120 Look at the songs that's popular. 00:25:01.600 --> 00:25:04.480 Think about what RB sounds like right now. 00:25:04.799 --> 00:25:10.160 We have completely lost the sight of male artists making pure non-toxic music for women. 00:25:10.240 --> 00:25:16.080 And I'm not saying toxicity didn't exist with RB acts back in the day, but you know what I'm saying. 00:25:16.160 --> 00:25:35.840 For for every let's see, for for every uh for every boyfriend number two by Pleasure P, or for every Mokin Steph, um, he's mine, or for every escape secret, you know, uh you had Usher and Alicia Key's Maboo. 00:25:36.640 --> 00:25:46.640 Um you had Tamia so into you, you had SWV anything, the original version. 00:25:46.960 --> 00:25:48.320 You had Mary J. 00:25:48.400 --> 00:25:50.080 Blige be without you. 00:25:50.320 --> 00:25:58.320 The lack of parity is killing it, and I think it's all a reflex reflection in how bad our human connections are today. 00:25:58.640 --> 00:26:04.960 But speaking purely to the men, nearly every every track on the radio from a male RB artist is rooted rooted in pure toxicity. 00:26:05.120 --> 00:26:06.799 It's all about hitting and quitting it. 00:26:06.960 --> 00:26:15.039 Um, it's all about manipulating women, trying to get her to cheat, or trying to take her away from her husband, which is adultery, dumb nigga. 00:26:15.120 --> 00:26:32.080 Like it killed me when these these same RB artists want to have uh want to have um scriptures in their bio on Instagram or you know, whatever social media platform, but make music that is breaking like one of the most important commandments. 00:26:32.240 --> 00:26:40.720 And we laugh at it, we vibe to the beat, we ignore the fallout, but that kind of toxicity does it don't it don't just stay in the headphones, man. 00:26:40.880 --> 00:26:54.080 Like you, it's a it's it's a generation of of individuals right now that don't respect the union of marriage, don't respect the loyalty of a relationship or serious dating. 00:26:54.240 --> 00:27:02.240 And when you manipulate a woman into making destructive choices, you not only alter her entire life, but if she has children, you alter that children's lives. 00:27:02.880 --> 00:27:05.840 Like the family too, the in-laws. 00:27:05.920 --> 00:27:09.120 The music used to be a sanctuary that honored women, you know. 00:27:09.440 --> 00:27:11.600 I'm not saying all, but most of it. 00:27:12.160 --> 00:27:18.320 And now it's just a masterclass into how dismant how to how to uh dismantle a woman's peace. 00:27:18.560 --> 00:27:22.240 That's why I wanted to drop what I dropped, the hinge video. 00:27:22.320 --> 00:27:24.320 You know, it's it's it's me and my fiance. 00:27:24.640 --> 00:27:27.360 We met on the on a dating app called Hinge. 00:27:27.600 --> 00:27:31.200 And if you want to know the story, go back and listen to the to the prior uh podcast. 00:27:31.279 --> 00:27:37.360 I talked about it, and I broke all the way dating apps work from hinge to bumble, all of that. 00:27:37.440 --> 00:27:39.120 So, yeah, it's go look at it. 00:27:39.360 --> 00:27:51.680 But I dropped, I dropped that not for me per se, because you know, I chose her, she chose me, but it's motivation, and you know, the song is is something I wrote and I arranged. 00:27:51.759 --> 00:27:55.440 Yeah, it's AI voice, but AI voice aside, the song is a fucking banger. 00:27:55.519 --> 00:28:04.799 And I know this because I before I released music, I asked women, the women that I know, the women in my life, like the women that I'm cool with, like, how does this sound? 00:28:05.200 --> 00:28:08.320 Like, what what aspect of RB is missing? 00:28:08.720 --> 00:28:11.120 And overwhelmingly, it's it's a lot of toxicity. 00:28:11.200 --> 00:28:14.560 So go check out the video on my YouTube page, it's called Hin Just a Song. 00:28:14.640 --> 00:28:18.880 And um, shout out to uh Janet Jackson and Michael Jackson for inspiring me to mash up those beats. 00:28:19.039 --> 00:28:25.039 But, anyways, amid all the digital noise, the performative lurking, and the toxic music, real love still matters. 00:28:25.200 --> 00:28:38.640 Real love isn't about scrolling through an algorithm or giving someone your emotional leftovers, it's about ensuring that that person is building um a life with you and y'all choose each other, and y'all are the absolute best versions of yourselves together. 00:28:38.880 --> 00:28:43.440 The realest part about the pure is love is having a pure heart. 00:28:43.759 --> 00:29:00.720 So, to the spectators out there, you can keep watching the stories, you could keep not clicking the links, you could keep missing out on all the goodness, you could keep attracting yourselves to the toxicity, you could be in every live chat hearing the same shit, the same stories, time and time again. 00:29:00.880 --> 00:29:03.039 But I know one thing for certain, two things for sure. 00:29:03.120 --> 00:29:12.480 The only thing that's constant it constant in this life is change, and either you're gonna change with it, or you're gonna get left. 00:29:12.799 --> 00:29:13.600 You know what? 00:29:13.759 --> 00:29:16.880 I'll I'll I'll revise that statement. 00:29:17.039 --> 00:29:21.759 The two things that are constant in this life are time and change, and you can't get time back. 00:29:22.000 --> 00:29:33.519 So the more you are attracted to the mess, and the more fellas keep making music that is in rooted in mess, we just gonna have a messy ass society. 00:29:33.680 --> 00:29:34.640 Not me though, man. 00:29:34.720 --> 00:29:37.200 I know how to unplug, I know how to ignore all of that. 00:29:37.440 --> 00:29:48.400 Um, and you know, I'm gonna just keep on doing what I'm doing because I know there are about 65 countries that support me globally, and I appreciate you guys for doing that. 00:29:48.720 --> 00:29:49.840 That's today's games. 00:29:54.880 --> 00:29:57.200 Well, that was today's episode, man. 00:29:57.279 --> 00:29:58.960 Y'all told you I wasn't gonna be before y'all long. 00:29:59.279 --> 00:30:00.960 You know what I say week in and week out. 00:30:01.039 --> 00:30:05.600 Please put value in yourself, put value in each other, and we'll have a value society. 00:30:06.160 --> 00:30:06.480 Peace.