Full Transcript for Do They Make You Better?

most of your time with ambitious, growth-oriented individuals, you will naturally be pushed to grow. 00:03:05.199 --> 00:03:14.719 But on the flip side, if you surround yourself with negativity, laziness, and a toxic energy, it can drag you down without you even realizing it. 00:03:15.280 --> 00:03:25.520 You ever notice that when we hang around highly motivated people, you start thinking bigger, or how negativity can spread like wildfire in a toxic environment? 00:03:25.759 --> 00:03:29.599 That's because our emotions, habits, and perspectives are contagious. 00:03:29.919 --> 00:03:39.919 If the people in our inner circle prioritize personal growth, hard work, and positivity, you're more likely to embody those same qualities. 00:03:40.479 --> 00:03:49.039 Remember, your closer relationships influence your daily habits, how you handle challenges and even your standards for success. 00:03:49.520 --> 00:03:57.280 If your friends are constantly talking about business ideas, fitness goals, or self-improvement, those conversations become the new normal. 00:03:57.439 --> 00:04:04.639 But if the main topic in your circle are complaints, gossip, or excuses, that becomes your reality. 00:04:05.439 --> 00:04:07.439 But here's another one for you. 00:04:08.159 --> 00:04:10.879 Water seeks its own level. 00:04:11.680 --> 00:04:18.160 The meaning is that we all naturally rise or sink to the level of the people that are around us. 00:04:18.399 --> 00:04:25.680 If you surround yourself with people who think big, work hard, and chase and pursue their dreams, guess what? 00:04:25.920 --> 00:04:28.720 That energy is contagious and it rubs off. 00:04:28.959 --> 00:04:36.959 But if you're constantly around negativity, excuses, and stagnation, that will pull you down again before you realize this. 00:04:37.920 --> 00:04:39.040 So let's take a moment. 00:04:39.199 --> 00:04:41.360 I want you to do this little exercise. 00:04:41.600 --> 00:04:45.279 I want you to think about the five people you spend the most time with. 00:04:46.319 --> 00:04:48.720 Do they push you towards your goals? 00:04:49.040 --> 00:04:52.639 Do they inspire you to grow, learn, and evolve? 00:04:52.879 --> 00:04:58.879 Or do they drain your energy and keep you stuck in the same old repetitive cycle? 00:05:01.199 --> 00:05:03.839 Now you see, the people around us are like the wind. 00:05:04.079 --> 00:05:06.959 They either push us forward or they hold us back. 00:05:07.120 --> 00:05:13.759 And sometimes we don't even notice the impact until we take a step back and evaluate them. 00:05:14.319 --> 00:05:21.040 You know, I had this friend, let's call him Mike, who's a funny guy, always down for a good time. 00:05:21.279 --> 00:05:27.360 But he had this energy about him, negative, always doubting himself, making excuses. 00:05:27.839 --> 00:05:32.800 And after a while, I noticed I was picking up those same thoughts and habits. 00:05:33.120 --> 00:05:42.079 Instead of being optimistic about my future,

I became pessimistic, doubting my own value to the world, but more importantly, to myself. 00:05:42.319 --> 00:05:46.079 And it took me years to understand that our friendship was toxic. 00:05:46.480 --> 00:05:51.839 If you want to grow, you need to be around people who are growing too. 00:05:52.000 --> 00:05:59.120 And sometimes that means making tough decisions or choices about who gets access to your energy. 00:06:08.800 --> 00:06:16.160 So go check out www.d-re-i-s-s-i-g apparel.com and place your order today. 00:06:16.319 --> 00:06:21.120 As a customer myself, I can say that quality customer service is their specialty. 00:06:21.439 --> 00:06:23.680 Now it's time to get real deep. 00:06:24.240 --> 00:06:25.600 So get ready. 00:06:26.560 --> 00:06:33.120 Now, whether you realize it or not, every person in your life is either assigned or allowed. 00:06:33.759 --> 00:06:35.600 Let me say that again. 00:06:36.160 --> 00:06:41.439 Every person in your life is either a sign or allowed. 00:06:42.639 --> 00:06:44.240 Can I go deeper? 00:06:45.360 --> 00:06:52.959 Assigned people are the ones in your life you didn't necessarily choose, but they're in your life for a reason. 00:06:53.199 --> 00:07:00.399 We have no say so in the family we're born into, but we do have say in how we navigate those relationships. 00:07:00.879 --> 00:07:07.279 Through our life, we'll encounter friends, acquaintances, and even strangers who will cross our paths unexpectedly. 00:07:07.519 --> 00:07:12.079 Everybody in your life is there for a reason or a season. 00:07:12.480 --> 00:07:21.680 Some will teach us valuable lessons, others will challenge us, and few will push us towards growth that we didn't know that we needed. 00:07:22.399 --> 00:07:24.720 These connections are not random. 00:07:24.959 --> 00:07:26.879 They are assignments. 00:07:27.199 --> 00:07:33.439 They're meant to shape us, refine us, and sometimes even redirect our journey. 00:07:33.680 --> 00:07:40.319 Now, whether they offer support or bring challenges, each assigned person serves a purpose in our story. 00:07:40.959 --> 00:07:49.920 Yet the key is discerning their role and learning from every interaction so that you can continue to grow into the person that you are truly meant to be. 00:07:51.040 --> 00:07:55.199 These relationships are not always easy, but they are necessary. 00:07:55.920 --> 00:08:01.279 A tough mentor, a demanding boss, or even a family member who holds you accountable. 00:08:01.600 --> 00:08:07.040 These are the people who force you to grow, especially when it's uncomfortable. 00:08:07.360 --> 00:08:09.519 Let me give you a real life example. 00:08:09.680 --> 00:08:12.319 Let's think about Joseph from the Bible. 00:08:13.839 --> 00:08:19.199 He didn't choose his brothers, yet they played a very critical role in his journey. 00:08:19.439 --> 00:08:23.360 Out of jealousy, they sold him into slavery, which led him to Egypt. 00:08:23.839 --> 00:08:27.680 That wasn't an accident, it was an assignment. 00:08:28.319 --> 00:08:41.279 Through portrayal and hardships from unexpected connections, Joseph ended up in a position of power that allowed him to save an entire nation, including their very brothers who wronged him. 00:08:41.919 --> 00:08:45.039 Okay, let me break it down just a little bit more. 00:08:45.600 --> 00:08:48.559 Have you ever had someone who constantly challenged you? 00:08:48.799 --> 00:08:50.559 For me, it was Coach Majors. 00:08:50.720 --> 00:08:54.080 I mean, from the day I stepped foot on campus, he challenged me. 00:08:54.240 --> 00:08:56.320 He was a very demanding person. 00:08:56.879 --> 00:09:03.120 He would tell us that practice don't make perfect, but perfect practice makes you better. 00:09:03.440 --> 00:09:04.799 I couldn't stand a man. 00:09:04.879 --> 00:09:09.120 For years, I harbored so much animosity towards him. 00:09:09.360 --> 00:09:14.240 But over time I started to appreciate him because of his high demands and standards. 00:09:14.480 --> 00:09:19.679 I learned discipline, resilience, and how to pay attention to detail. 00:09:20.080 --> 00:09:22.879 All of these skills made me a better person. 00:09:23.440 --> 00:09:28.080 Beating Coach Majors wasn't random, it was assigned. 00:09:28.639 --> 00:09:36.000 Now, the problem that we have with assigned relationships is that they are not always comfortable, but they are purposeful. 00:09:36.399 --> 00:09:41.919 Some people are placed in our lives to teach you, to sharpen you, and even push you into your destiny. 00:09:42.320 --> 00:09:51.519 And the key is to recognize a difference between an assignment that promotes growth and a situation that simply drains you. 00:09:52.559 --> 00:09:57.039 Now, a lot of people are the ones that you invite into your life. 00:09:57.279 --> 00:10:05.919 These are the relationships that you create and you choose: friends, partners, or anyone that you let into your personal space. 00:10:06.320 --> 00:10:12.399 Pastor Wesley said, most of the relationships we have, they are not intentional. 00:10:12.639 --> 00:10:13.919 They're random. 00:10:14.159 --> 00:10:17.279 They happen by accident, not by purpose. 00:10:17.600 --> 00:10:23.759 We connect with people based upon emotions, what's familiar, or even sometimes what is convenient. 00:10:24.000 --> 00:10:26.399 We vibe with who we vibe with. 00:10:26.799 --> 00:10:28.399 But here's the danger. 00:10:28.639 --> 00:10:34.080 Not everyone you connect to or with deserves access to you. 00:10:34.559 --> 00:10:39.919 Look at it this way: let's say you're throwing a house part and you leave the front door wide open. 00:10:40.240 --> 00:10:47.600 Anyone walking by can just stroll in, grab a plate, sit on your couch, use your restroom, take up space in your home. 00:10:47.840 --> 00:10:55.600 Now, some guests were in good energy, meaningful conversation and encouragement, but others, they show up empty-handed. 00:10:55.759 --> 00:10:59.840 They drain their room's energy

and they leave a mess behind. 00:11:00.399 --> 00:11:05.200 The problem is that we often entertain people in our lives in the same way. 00:11:05.840 --> 00:11:13.440 Some of the people we allow into our space don't have the concern or the capacity to build us up because they're too consumed with training us. 00:11:13.759 --> 00:11:18.240 Yet we keep them around because they make us feel good temporarily. 00:11:18.480 --> 00:11:20.240 They stroke our ego. 00:11:20.559 --> 00:11:24.960 Or they might help us escape an insecurity that we have about ourselves. 00:11:25.279 --> 00:11:28.559 And they distract us from things that we don't want to face. 00:11:29.120 --> 00:11:31.440 And then you have some that'll fill a void. 00:11:31.759 --> 00:11:35.840 We only tolerate them because we fear loneliness. 00:11:36.399 --> 00:11:46.080 But here's the truth: whether a person is assigned to you by circumstances or allowed to you by choice, not everyone is meant to stay forever. 00:11:46.320 --> 00:11:48.080 Relationships have seasons. 00:11:48.159 --> 00:11:54.480 And when they stop serving your growth, you have to take responsibility for who remains in your life. 00:11:54.799 --> 00:11:58.879 The question is: who are you allowing to your space? 00:11:59.039 --> 00:12:01.519 And are they helping you become better? 00:12:03.039 --> 00:12:04.799 So here's a truth moment. 00:12:05.600 --> 00:12:10.720 Just because someone has been in your life for years, doesn't mean they stay forever. 00:12:10.960 --> 00:12:18.399 And just because someone is family doesn't mean they automatically deserve access to your energy, your dreams, or your time. 00:12:19.120 --> 00:12:21.200 Growth requires discernment. 00:12:21.519 --> 00:12:25.519 You have a choice in who you allow access into your world. 00:12:25.840 --> 00:12:32.159 And if you are truly committed to becoming a better person, you must be intentional about that choice. 00:12:32.720 --> 00:12:37.200 Because not everyone is meant to go where you're going. 00:12:54.879 --> 00:12:59.440 So how do you know who's making us better and who's holding us back? 00:12:59.919 --> 00:13:03.600 Here are three key traits of people who elevate you. 00:13:04.399 --> 00:13:05.919 They challenge you. 00:13:06.159 --> 00:13:08.240 They push you to be your best. 00:13:08.720 --> 00:13:10.240 They don't let you settle. 00:13:10.480 --> 00:13:14.240 They call you out when you're slipping, but they do it with love. 00:13:14.960 --> 00:13:19.039 These are the people who see your potential even at the times when you don't. 00:13:19.279 --> 00:13:24.159 They won't let you stay too comfortable in a given situation because they know what you are capable of. 00:13:24.480 --> 00:13:30.720 Think about that one friend or family member who constantly reminds you of your goals when you start making excuses. 00:13:31.200 --> 00:13:35.200 Or maybe the mentor who holds you accountable when you're not putting the work in. 00:13:35.519 --> 00:13:40.000 Or that family member who encourages you to keep going when you feel like giving up. 00:13:40.480 --> 00:13:44.960 Their challenges are not meant to break you, they're meant to build you up. 00:13:45.120 --> 00:13:53.440 Remember, Solomon said iron sharpeners iron, and the right people will sharpen you into the best version of yourself. 00:13:54.159 --> 00:13:56.879 People who elevate you, they also inspire you. 00:13:57.120 --> 00:14:02.080 Their energy, their mindset, and their work ethic make you want to level up to their point. 00:14:02.559 --> 00:14:08.879 Being around them sparks something in you, whether it's ambition, creativity, or just simply discipline. 00:14:09.039 --> 00:14:11.919 They don't just talk about goals, they take action. 00:14:12.159 --> 00:14:15.600 They don't complain about obstacles, they just find solutions. 00:14:15.840 --> 00:14:22.159 And because you see them pushing forward, grinding, you start believing that you can do the same. 00:14:22.720 --> 00:14:33.039 These are the people whose presence challenges you to be better, to think bigger, to work harder, and to dream beyond your current reality. 00:14:33.519 --> 00:14:46.480 Now, whether there is their dedication or personal growth or their resilience in tough times, or maybe their ability to turn setbacks into comebacks, they set a standard that makes you want to rise higher. 00:14:46.879 --> 00:14:48.799 Their grind motivates you. 00:14:49.039 --> 00:14:52.639 Their belief in themselves strengthen your belief in yourself. 00:14:53.120 --> 00:14:56.639 Their success reminds you that greatness is possible. 00:14:56.960 --> 00:15:03.759 Surrounding yourself with people like that doesn't just change your mindset. 00:15:04.240 --> 00:15:06.000 It changes your future. 00:15:06.879 --> 00:15:11.919 And the third thing that people who elevate you do is they support your growth. 00:15:12.240 --> 00:15:14.639 There's no jealousy, no competition. 00:15:14.960 --> 00:15:18.240 It's just genuine encouragement and celebration of your wins. 00:15:18.639 --> 00:15:25.679 These are the people who clap for you when you succeed, not because they have to, because they really want to see you win. 00:15:26.320 --> 00:15:28.320 They don't feel threatened by your progress. 00:15:28.480 --> 00:15:30.000 They feel inspired. 00:15:30.240 --> 00:15:39.120 They constantly remind you that your potential, even at the points where you doubt yourself, they offer their guidance when you need direction. 00:15:39.279 --> 00:15:44.320 And they stand beside you through both the victories as well as the setbacks. 00:15:44.639 --> 00:15:46.480 Their support isn't conditional. 00:15:46.960 --> 00:15:51.759 It's deeply rooted in love and respect and a shared belief of their success. 00:15:52.080 --> 00:15:56.080 With them, you don't have to shrink yourself to make them comfortable. 00:15:56.399 --> 00:15:59.759 You don't have to downplay your dreams or second guess your ambitions. 00:16:00.000 -->

00:16:08.240 Instead, they push you to even go further, cheering you on the way one step at a time. 00:16:09.039 --> 00:16:14.080 Real friends, real mentors, and real supporters don't compete with you. 00:16:14.320 --> 00:16:15.840 They grow with you. 00:16:17.840 --> 00:16:19.840 And here's another real talk moment. 00:16:20.639 --> 00:16:25.759 But let's be honest, sometimes people holding us back are the ones that are closest to us. 00:16:26.080 --> 00:16:28.000 And that's where it begets tough. 00:16:28.320 --> 00:16:30.080 Because loyalty is real. 00:16:30.559 --> 00:16:31.679 Love is real. 00:16:32.240 --> 00:16:33.759 But so is growth. 00:16:34.000 --> 00:16:40.240 And if someone is in your life isn't growing with you, then you have to make that decision. 00:16:40.559 --> 00:16:42.879 Are they still part of this journey? 00:16:43.200 --> 00:16:44.799 Are they part of the past? 00:16:45.360 --> 00:16:49.200 Is your athletic team, fundraising organization, or corporate company in need of apparel? 00:16:49.360 --> 00:16:53.039 Then gear up with the real deal and let DrySick Apparel take care of your needs. 00:16:53.200 --> 00:17:01.440 Check out www.dreisig apparel.com and place your order today. 00:17:03.120 --> 00:17:05.440 Now, let's not get it twisted. 00:17:05.680 --> 00:17:10.640 This episode is not meant for you to go all willy-nilly and start dismissing people from your life. 00:17:10.960 --> 00:17:17.519 It means to be intentional about who gets the most access to your time, energy, and mindset. 00:17:18.240 --> 00:17:21.920 The first thing you should do is audit your inner circle. 00:17:22.160 --> 00:17:25.440 Write down the five people you spend the most time with. 00:17:25.920 --> 00:17:29.599 Are they challenging, inspiring, and supporting you? 00:17:29.920 --> 00:17:32.559 Now your list might look something like this. 00:17:33.359 --> 00:17:36.720 You have Mike, your best friend since high school. 00:17:36.960 --> 00:17:41.039 Always fun to be around, but never seem to have any type of real ambition. 00:17:41.359 --> 00:17:46.000 He complains about life, but never take any actions to change it. 00:17:46.319 --> 00:17:48.000 Or you might have a Jessica. 00:17:48.240 --> 00:17:50.799 She could be a coworker that you hang out with often. 00:17:51.279 --> 00:17:52.720 Now she's motivated. 00:17:52.880 --> 00:17:57.599 She's always reading self-development books and actively working towards her goals. 00:17:57.920 --> 00:18:02.720 Every time you talk to her, you leave feeling inspired. 00:18:03.440 --> 00:18:07.119 Or better yet, you might have a David, your gym partner. 00:18:07.519 --> 00:18:11.440 Now, David is disciplined, focused, and constantly pushing himself. 00:18:11.680 --> 00:18:15.839 If you skip a workout, he'll call you out on it. 00:18:16.640 --> 00:18:18.480 Then you might have Sarah. 00:18:18.799 --> 00:18:23.039 Sarah's a close friend who's supportive but tends to bring a lot of drama. 00:18:23.440 --> 00:18:26.720

Now she's always there to listen to you when it's time to vent. 00:18:26.960 --> 00:18:32.240 But she also drains your energy with her negativity and her gossip. 00:18:33.119 --> 00:18:35.519 Or maybe you have a cousin named Chris. 00:18:35.920 --> 00:18:37.119 He's family. 00:18:37.359 --> 00:18:40.000 So you feel obligated to spend time with him. 00:18:40.240 --> 00:18:44.000 But let the truth be told, he discourages more than he encourages you. 00:18:44.240 --> 00:18:48.880 He doesn't believe in chasing big dreams, and he often makes fun of your goals. 00:18:50.319 --> 00:18:53.440 Now, let's take a look at this list. 00:18:55.279 --> 00:18:58.319 Jessica and David challenge and inspire you. 00:18:58.640 --> 00:19:01.119 So you should spend more time with them. 00:19:01.599 --> 00:19:04.319 Mike and Sarah, they really don't push you to be better. 00:19:04.480 --> 00:19:08.000 While they're fun, they may not be helping you grow. 00:19:08.240 --> 00:19:12.799 Now your cousin Chris, he actively discourages you. 00:19:12.960 --> 00:19:19.519 So you might need to set boundaries on how much access that he has time to your time and your energy. 00:19:21.119 --> 00:19:25.039 The second thing you need to do is seek out growth-minded people. 00:19:25.440 --> 00:19:32.160 Join communities, support groups, take classes, network with people who think bigger. 00:19:32.880 --> 00:19:35.599 Remember, energy is contagious. 00:19:36.400 --> 00:19:39.519 And the third thing you need to do is you need to set boundaries. 00:19:39.920 --> 00:19:45.279 If someone's energy is dreaming, it's okay to love them from a distance. 00:19:46.079 --> 00:19:48.720 Remember, you have to protect your peace. 00:19:49.920 --> 00:19:57.759 I remember when I started shifting my inner circle, I started playing small, I started thinking bigger, taking more risk. 00:19:58.079 --> 00:19:59.200 And guess what? 00:19:59.839 --> 00:20:02.160 Life rewarded that mindset. 00:20:03.279 --> 00:20:08.880 That's that's the power about being intentional about your relationships. 00:20:39.119 --> 00:20:43.200 Do the people in your life push you forward or hold you back? 00:20:43.839 --> 00:20:52.400 Inspired by a powerful sermon by Pastor Wesley, we broke down the difference between being assigned and being allowed. 00:20:52.799 --> 00:20:58.319 Those that are given to us by circumstances versus the ones that we actively choose. 00:20:59.680 --> 00:21:08.400 We also explored how to how the people around us shape our mindset, our habits, and even our ideas of success. 00:21:08.880 --> 00:21:24.559 We use real-life examples to unpack the importance of auditing your circle, recognizing relationships that challenge, inspire, and support you, and setting boundaries for those who drain your energy. 00:21:25.519 --> 00:21:32.240 For remember, at the end of the day, not everyone is meant to stay in your life forever. 00:21:32.799 --> 00:21:40.160 Growth requires making intentional choices about who has access to your time, your energy, and your dreams. 00:21:42.240 --> 00:21:46.400 So, here's my challenge for you this week. 00:21:46.880 --> 00:21:49.519 Take a hard look at your inner circle. 00:21:49.839 --> 00:21:57.680 Step back, evaluate your relationship, and ask yourself: are the people around me making me better? 00:21:58.640 --> 00:22:05.519 Now, it's not about cutting people off, it's about understanding the roles that they play in your life. 00:22:06.160 --> 00:22:15.839 Some people are meant to challenge and push you, some of their support and uplift you, and others serve as lessons rather than lifelong companions. 00:22:16.160 --> 00:22:18.799 Not everyone is meant to walk with you forever. 00:22:19.039 --> 00:22:19.920 And you know what? 00:22:20.079 --> 00:22:21.279 That's okay. 00:22:21.599 --> 00:22:26.640 The key is to being intentional about who has access to your time, energy, and growth. 00:22:26.880 --> 00:22:34.000 So surround yourself with those who align with your purpose and watch how your life begins to elevate. 00:22:34.559 --> 00:22:39.920 So hit me up on Instagram at FlowWithFloyd and let me know what changes you're making. 00:22:40.160 --> 00:22:50.559 And if this episode hits home for you, do me a favor like, subscribe, comment, and share with a friend who needs to hear it. 00:22:50.880 --> 00:22:58.559 Until next time, keep flowing, keep growing, and always follow the flow. 00:23:02.799 --> 00:23:05.839 Let the noise just fade away. 00:23:08.480 --> 00:23:11.519 Find your peace and start today. 00:23:13.279 --> 00:23:21.920 Just breathe in this quiet space with a gentle, steady pace. 00:23:22.799 --> 00:23:25.759 Growth will bloom here in its time. 00:23:28.480 --> 00:23:31.440 Growth will bloom here in its time.