Full Transcript for Navigating Careers, Parenting, and Perspectives in Alberta

00:03:50,750 --> 00:03:54,805 But, you know, we had talked about a couple of different things. 77 00:03:54,805 --> 00:03:59,925 I will tell you it is a nice break because I went off on a tangent last week about what's 78 00:03:59,925 --> 00:04:03,205 going on in our education system in Alberta. 79 00:04:03,525 --> 00:04:08,120 And I know that healthcare is not far behind for doing something similar or, you know, 80 00:04:08,120 --> 00:04:12,120 getting pissed off here because I mean, healthcare has always been that. 81 00:04:12,120 --> 00:04:13,879 I don't even know what you would call it. 82 00:04:13,879 --> 00:04:17,319 It's always been like a thorn in like the UPC side. 83 00:04:17,319 --> 00:04:19,080 Like they want everything to go fucking private. 84 00:04:19,574 --> 00:04:21,735 And I'm just, I'm not in that headspace. 85 00:04:21,735 --> 00:04:23,254 Like to me, we're in Canada. 86 00:04:23,254 --> 00:04:28,854 I am so grateful for all of the frontline workers in Canada, like inside the hospitals, 87 00:04:28,854 --> 00:04:32,810 whether you're doctors or nurses or clerical or whatever, we need all of you. 88 00:04:32,810 --> 00:04:37,050 And so I mean, like I grew up as a, I call it a hospital brat, You know, you got an army brat. 89 00:04:37,050 --> 00:04:38,009 I was a hospital brat. 90 00:04:38,009 --> 00:04:39,610 Both my parents worked in the hospital. 91 00:04:39,610 --> 00:04:43,129 My mom was in the hospital for like forty years or some craziness like that. 92 00:04:43,129 --> 00:04:47,794 She retired a while back and she did diagnostic imaging, but I got 93 00:04:47,794 --> 00:04:49,555 to see, I mean, like, you know, I got 94 00:04:49,555 --> 00:04:50,595 to see all those things. 95 00:04:50,595 --> 00:04:55,954 So it's, you know, and so I have a different respect for like hospitals. 96 00:04:55,954 --> 00:05:00,115 And, you know, when you, when, when you are a kid that grows up with a family member that 97 00:05:00,115 --> 00:05:04,970 works in the hospital system, my parents were always like, unless something's broken, 98 00:05:04,970 --> 00:05:06,649 bleeding, you don't go. 99 00:05:06,730 --> 00:05:07,930 And I was like, oh. 100 00:05:09,050 --> 00:05:10,889 That's kind of how I feel, right? 101 00:05:10,889 --> 00:05:15,129 I just, you very see me in the hospital. 102 00:05:15,504 --> 00:05:15,985 Yeah. 103 00:05:15,985 --> 00:05:17,584 They're like, you don't need to go. 104 00:05:17,584 --> 00:05:18,625 Like you don't. 105 00:05:18,625 --> 00:05:23,185 And I remember they used to always grill me about going to the hospital for reasons that 106 00:05:23,185 --> 00:05:28,785 were like minor or minute or, you know, just not like, it needs to be worth it. 107 00:05:28,785 --> 00:05:33,550 If you need a cast, if you need stitches, otherwise you don't come here. 108 00:05:33,550 --> 00:05:37,069 Like if you're throwing up, stay home, call the doctor, get them to call on a prescription. 109 00:05:37,069 --> 00:05:37,709 You know what I mean? 110 00:05:37,709 --> 00:05:38,189 So 111 00:05:38,829 --> 00:05:43,550 on that note with healthcare, and I'll flip back to the teachers because my son's actually 112 00:05:43,550 --> 00:05:45,714 a teacher and his wife. 113 00:05:45,714 --> 00:05:47,794 So this is looking pretty daunting for them. 114 00:05:47,794 --> 00:05:53,474 But part of our challenge in healthcare is it does need to be overhauled and people go to 115 00:05:53,474 --> 00:05:58,959 hospitals for things that they shouldn't be there for, which causes all that backlog and 116 00:05:58,959 --> 00:06:02,720 extra work because everybody has to be seen, everybody has to be dealt with. 117 00:06:02,720 --> 00:06:06,639 If you get into an emergency department, people are there for things that maybe don't belong in 118 00:06:06,639 --> 00:06:07,519 an emergency department. 119 00:06:07,519 --> 00:06:08,319 It's just cyclic. 120 00:06:08,319 --> 00:06:10,879 They don't have a family doctor, so where do they go? 121 00:06:10,879 --> 00:06:13,975 And that backs it up and the people are getting angry. 122 00:06:13,975 --> 00:06:15,574 And so that needs to change. 123 00:06:15,574 --> 00:06:20,375 And the teacher stuff, I mean, this is the last time we went through a teacher strike. 124 00:06:20,375 --> 00:06:24,455 My kid was in middle school and now he's a high school teacher at 31 years old. 125 00:06:25,360 --> 00:06:27,839 And I think about the issues at the time. 126 00:06:28,160 --> 00:06:34,160 So what's that fifteen years ago, sixteen years ago, maybe that he was there in middle school. 127 00:06:34,639 --> 00:06:38,800 All those years later, the issues that are on the table are the exact same ones, Lisa, that 128 00:06:38,800 --> 00:06:43,735 were on the table when his teachers went on strike when he was in middle school, like a 129 00:06:43,735 --> 00:06:44,375 little guy. 130 00:06:44,855 --> 00:06:49,574 So I think between the healthcare system and the education system as a taxpayer, as a person 131 00:06:49,574 --> 00:06:56,020 that worked in it, as a person who's the mom of a son and daughter-in-law who are in the 132 00:06:56,020 --> 00:06:56,980 teaching business. 133 00:06:57,860 --> 00:07:04,020 It's very frustrating because I'm 61, I don't mind saying that. 134 00:07:04,020 --> 00:07:09,495 And the conversations that we're having today are the same conversations in healthcare that 135 00:07:09,495 --> 00:07:11,655 we were having when I was in nursing school. 136 00:07:11,655 --> 00:07:16,535 The discussions we're having about education are the same discussions we've been having 137 00:07:16,935 --> 00:07:18,615 since I was in high school. 138 00:07:19,495 --> 00:07:21,655 And not that I wanna be this person. 139 00:07:21,814 --> 00:07:22,134 Yeah. 140 00:07:22,134 --> 00:07:22,615 I know. 141 00:07:22,615 --> 00:07:22,775 Right? 142 00:07:23,970 --> 00:07:24,449 Don't want to 143 00:07:26,129 --> 00:07:30,850 that I want to be this person, but what's

the one thing that hasn't changed in those 144 00:07:30,850 --> 00:07:31,490 situations? 145 00:07:31,490 --> 00:07:32,850 What's the one thing that hasn't changed? 146 00:07:32,850 --> 00:07:38,365 In healthcare, the one thing, the big one that frustrates me, I guess, both as a previous 147 00:07:38,365 --> 00:07:45,564 nurse and a taxpayer, is when I was a young 18, 19 year old in nursing school, on the table, 148 00:07:45,564 --> 00:07:52,729 the conversation was our population is getting older and we don't have the capacity and we're 149 00:07:52,729 --> 00:07:59,769 not prepared for when all those boomers come to an age that they require, or they're going to 150 00:07:59,769 --> 00:08:01,209 be depending more on healthcare. 151 00:08:01,529 --> 00:08:04,729 So that's something years ago plus. 152 00:08:05,514 --> 00:08:11,354 I'm sitting here as one of those, well, 61 year old looking forward and going, so we've done 153 00:08:11,354 --> 00:08:11,995 nothing. 154 00:08:12,074 --> 00:08:12,634 Right? 155 00:08:12,954 --> 00:08:15,915 So what's the one thing that has not changed? 156 00:08:16,154 --> 00:08:21,050 The one thing, if all the changes that we're asking for, what's the one, the deciding people 157 00:08:21,050 --> 00:08:22,810 that be, which is UPC. 158 00:08:23,129 --> 00:08:27,050 It has always been a conservative government and they are all about not doing that. 159 00:08:27,050 --> 00:08:28,810 And I hate to say that I'm, I'm Albertan. 160 00:08:28,810 --> 00:08:33,129 There's a lot of conservatives in Alberta- in Alberta, but there's also a lot of very smart, 161 00:08:33,129 --> 00:08:34,889 centered thinking conservatives. 162 00:08:34,889 --> 00:08:37,264 I'm a smart, centered thinking liberal. 163 00:08:37,504 --> 00:08:41,904 So I'm not going all the way to the left side screaming shit, and I'm not going all the way 164 00:08:41,904 --> 00:08:43,264 to the right side screaming shit. 165 00:08:43,264 --> 00:08:44,945 And the majority of us aren't. 166 00:08:44,945 --> 00:08:49,825 The majority of us can coexist quite happily without throwing out a political aspect. 167 00:08:49,825 --> 00:08:55,309 But those are the people that, unfortunately, it is the Conservative Party that dictates and 168 00:08:55,309 --> 00:09:00,429 oversees the Alberta Health Region and the Alberta Teachers Association. 169 00:09:00,590 --> 00:09:01,710 So it's them. 170 00:09:01,710 --> 00:09:04,910 And to me, it's it is so frustrating 171 00:09:05,024 --> 00:09:11,345 that as a government entity has the power to change things and help put in implement more 172 00:09:11,345 --> 00:09:16,625 systems, implement more people, and they have the funding to do it, but choose not to. 173 00:09:16,625 --> 00:09:17,665 Choose to fight. 174 00:09:17,665 --> 00:09:18,945 Choose to Band Aid. 175 00:09:18,945 --> 00:09:19,904 It is You know? 176 00:09:19,904 --> 00:09:20,465 It's frustrating. 177 00:09:20,809 --> 00:09:23,289 It's very frustrating because it's like you guys have the power. 178 00:09:23,289 --> 00:09:27,529 The fact that you can find $30 a fucking day to pay parents is a slap in the face to teachers. 179 00:09:27,529 --> 00:09:29,049 They are we need teachers. 180 00:09:29,049 --> 00:09:30,329 Parents don't wanna be at home. 181 00:09:30,329 --> 00:09:31,370 To me, it is a 182 00:09:31,449 --> 00:09:33,049 What's $30 a day? 183 00:09:33,129 --> 00:09:34,329 What's it gonna do for people? 184 00:09:34,329 --> 00:09:35,370 What is $30 a day? 185 00:09:35,565 --> 00:09:40,284 Well, people who have two kids, that's $60 and that might just pay for the day home they need 186 00:09:40,284 --> 00:09:41,004 to go to. 187 00:09:41,804 --> 00:09:43,965 My question is like, where do they find the day home? 188 00:09:43,965 --> 00:09:46,845 So like it's all, like I said, all of this stuff is very cyclic. 189 00:09:46,845 --> 00:09:47,804 Where do you find the day home? 190 00:09:48,410 --> 00:09:49,370 It doesn't matter. 191 00:09:49,610 --> 00:09:53,610 If people are smart, they won't take it because what I was looking at online, they had posted a 192 00:09:53,610 --> 00:09:58,330 thing that had said something along the lines of, if you choose to homeschool your children, 193 00:09:59,049 --> 00:10:03,610 then you are automatically, unlisting them from the, from the school that they're currently 194 00:10:03,610 --> 00:10:03,769 with. 195 00:10:04,125 --> 00:10:07,965 And I was like, and that was in order to get the money and the funding and then register 196 00:10:07,965 --> 00:10:14,044 them with like, so, excuse me, if you take the, like the $30 a day, don't quote me, but I 197 00:10:14,044 --> 00:10:17,965 believe that it said something along the lines of you take $30 a day plus you choose to do 198 00:10:17,965 --> 00:10:22,379 homeschooling, then you are choosing not to have that then you're choosing to unregister 199 00:10:22,379 --> 00:10:24,060 them at their their school. 200 00:10:24,139 --> 00:10:26,379 And I was like, are you fucking kidding? 201 00:10:26,379 --> 00:10:26,700 That's 202 00:10:26,700 --> 00:10:26,940 weird. 203 00:10:26,940 --> 00:10:31,740 So I'm so frustrated by this whole thing, and I'm just like, I hope nobody takes it. 204 00:10:31,820 --> 00:10:36,504 But then to me, it's almost like a it's like the it's like the typical the current UPC 205 00:10:36,504 --> 00:10:38,024 government that's in play right now. 206 00:10:38,024 --> 00:10:43,144 It's like it's it's right out of their fucking handbook because she's like, she's got her, 207 00:10:43,144 --> 00:10:47,750 like, her head so far up Donald Trump's ass that she's like, you know, in my in my opinion, 208 00:10:47,750 --> 00:10:51,590 it's my opinion, but I I just feel like it's they're trying to create the new the the 209 00:10:51,590 --> 00:10:56,149 nuclear family where the woman stays home and raises the kids and teaches them and everything 210 00:10:56,149 --> 00:10:57,590 kinda goes back to this and that.

211 00:10:57,590 --> 00:10:59,590 And it's like nobody can do that anymore. 212 00:10:59,835 --> 00:11:03,514 Well, sort of attitude is it defies my entire life. 213 00:11:03,514 --> 00:11:05,514 Like it means that Me too. 214 00:11:05,514 --> 00:11:06,634 Me too. 215 00:11:06,634 --> 00:11:07,195 Yeah. 216 00:11:07,514 --> 00:11:08,955 I own my own home. 217 00:11:08,955 --> 00:11:10,475 I'm raising my children. 218 00:11:11,035 --> 00:11:12,394 I don't have help from their dad. 219 00:11:12,539 --> 00:11:14,220 He's not here every other day. 220 00:11:14,220 --> 00:11:16,620 He's not picking them up from practice every day. 221 00:11:16,620 --> 00:11:17,659 He's not driving them. 222 00:11:17,659 --> 00:11:20,220 He's not making sure all their gear is washed and dealt with. 223 00:11:20,220 --> 00:11:21,419 He's not doing all the shit. 224 00:11:21,419 --> 00:11:23,179 He's not sitting with them and doing homework. 225 00:11:23,179 --> 00:11:23,980 That's me. 226 00:11:24,539 --> 00:11:25,579 I'm doing all of that. 227 00:11:26,215 --> 00:11:27,654 Plus I'm running a business. 228 00:11:27,654 --> 00:11:29,815 Plus I have a wonderful podcast, you know? 229 00:11:29,815 --> 00:11:32,375 But I mean, these are things, As women. 230 00:11:32,534 --> 00:11:36,615 And that's why I like whenever I have, whenever I have women that come on and they're like, Oh, 231 00:11:36,615 --> 00:11:37,575 blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. 232 00:11:37,575 --> 00:11:40,054 You know, you don't understand conservative this, conservative that. 233 00:11:40,054 --> 00:11:44,850 And they're right wing, not conservative centered, conservative right wing. 234 00:11:44,850 --> 00:11:48,129 And they come on and I'm like, you know, you can't, you shouldn't even be talking this shit 235 00:11:48,129 --> 00:11:52,850 because technically liberals are the ones that put you in a position to have a voice. 236 00:11:52,850 --> 00:11:54,370 You need to shut the fuck 237 00:11:54,434 --> 00:11:59,475 Oh, but people, people take their news from like the social media, from social media and 238 00:11:59,475 --> 00:12:01,315 they can't sift through what's real. 239 00:12:01,315 --> 00:12:05,315 What's not, like you said, centered, you read it, you kind of laugh sometimes because you go, 240 00:12:05,315 --> 00:12:05,955 oh, come off it. 241 00:12:05,955 --> 00:12:06,674 That can't be true. 242 00:12:07,330 --> 00:12:11,490 Do you know what I, so I see these things online and you know, somewhat like I'll watch 243 00:12:11,490 --> 00:12:12,610 like TikTok or something. 244 00:12:12,610 --> 00:12:16,210 It'll just kind of be like mind numbed for a minute, hour. 245 00:12:16,210 --> 00:12:19,570 And so, and this person will come on and they'll be like, oh my God, do you know who's 246 00:12:19,570 --> 00:12:22,294 now funding the masks for ice? 247 00:12:22,294 --> 00:12:22,694 Nike. 248 00:12:22,694 --> 00:12:24,534 And I'm like, I have to look into this. 249 00:12:24,774 --> 00:12:26,615 I can't take your word for it. 250 00:12:27,495 --> 00:12:27,975 I have 251 00:12:27,975 --> 00:12:29,735 to actually see if that's a thing. 252 00:12:30,134 --> 00:12:33,735 So I haven't I haven't looked into it, but I'm like, oh, please Lord God. 253 00:12:33,735 --> 00:12:37,600 Because I remember growing up, I loved everything Nike. 254 00:12:37,600 --> 00:12:39,360 My son loves everything Nike. 255 00:12:39,360 --> 00:12:42,320 My son and I are like two peas in a pod about stuff. 256 00:12:42,320 --> 00:12:46,000 So if that, if that is actually the case, I don't know if it is or not. 257 00:12:46,000 --> 00:12:49,680 If that is actually the case, I'd be so sad because I'd to look at my son and be like, 258 00:12:49,680 --> 00:12:50,320 listen, bud. 259 00:12:50,804 --> 00:12:52,245 No more Nike. 260 00:12:52,725 --> 00:12:53,605 No more Nike. 261 00:12:53,605 --> 00:12:54,325 We ain't doing that. 262 00:12:54,325 --> 00:12:58,644 But then, you know, if we, I mean, it's, it gets harder and harder because, know, like I 263 00:12:58,644 --> 00:13:03,470 was talking to some friends of mine, and I have a girlfriend that lives out in Bonnyville and I 264 00:13:03,470 --> 00:13:04,190 love her to death. 265 00:13:04,190 --> 00:13:06,350 And she, she was talking to me and she says, you know what? 266 00:13:06,350 --> 00:13:07,629 I decided I wanted to go out 267 00:13:07,629 --> 00:13:08,590 to eat the other night. 268 00:13:08,590 --> 00:13:10,830 And she says, and it's local, it's not a franchise. 269 00:13:10,830 --> 00:13:12,190 It's a local little place. 270 00:13:12,190 --> 00:13:16,910 But she said what they fucking charged me and how there was like 500 little ding, ding, ding, 271 00:13:16,910 --> 00:13:22,855 ding, ding extra charges, extra charges for cheese, but not like, you know, like 50, like a 272 00:13:22,855 --> 00:13:23,495 buck 50. 273 00:13:23,495 --> 00:13:25,095 It was like $3 more. 274 00:13:25,174 --> 00:13:29,814 To wait for the dinner to take home, she had to wait. 275 00:13:29,814 --> 00:13:33,894 So she wanted, so she got us a club soda with lime, four. 276 00:13:34,649 --> 00:13:40,250 I was like, okay, well, like, is it like premium? 277 00:13:40,250 --> 00:13:41,929 And she's like, no, it's out of the gun. 278 00:13:42,089 --> 00:13:46,089 And I'm like, so it's fountain and fountain is usually a little cheaper. 279 00:13:46,089 --> 00:13:46,649 Cheaper. 280 00:13:46,809 --> 00:13:50,754 So I'm like $4 is more than if you bought a big, a big two gallon bottle. 281 00:13:50,754 --> 00:13:50,995 Right? 282 00:13:50,995 --> 00:13:52,195 You could buy a freaking case. 283 00:13:53,154 --> 00:13:54,115 Like So I was 284 00:13:54,115 --> 00:13:55,235 sitting there and I was talking to her about 285 00:13:55,235 --> 00:13:59,075 it and I was like, you know, because she was talking to me about it 286 00:13:59,075 --> 00:14:00,754 and she said, you know, I don't know if I wanna put 287 00:14:00,754 --> 00:14:01,715 them on blast.

288 00:14:01,794 --> 00:14:02,835 And I said, you know what? 289 00:14:02,835 --> 00:14:03,794 I said, do you know the owner? 290 00:14:04,169 --> 00:14:05,769 I said Bonneville's small. 291 00:14:05,929 --> 00:14:07,610 She goes, yeah, you know what? 292 00:14:07,610 --> 00:14:08,570 She goes, I do know him. 293 00:14:08,570 --> 00:14:10,970 She's like, we're not close, but we're acquaintances. 294 00:14:10,970 --> 00:14:12,169 I said, you pull them aside. 295 00:14:12,329 --> 00:14:15,610 You hand them the receipt and you say, I really like eating here. 296 00:14:15,610 --> 00:14:18,889 I really like X, Y, and Z, but this has me perplexed. 297 00:14:18,965 --> 00:14:21,285 Help me understand what I'm missing here. 298 00:14:21,924 --> 00:14:27,365 Because everybody screams shop local, but what you're charging me for, I could go to Tim 299 00:14:27,365 --> 00:14:29,125 Hortons and pay far less. 300 00:14:29,125 --> 00:14:31,845 I could go to Walmart and get a case of this. 301 00:14:32,090 --> 00:14:35,129 I could do all the things and say, and it's not about convenience. 302 00:14:35,129 --> 00:14:37,370 It was about bringing myself out for a treat. 303 00:14:37,370 --> 00:14:44,009 So I expected to pay a little bit more, but for one person to eat and she's tiny 40, like over 304 00:14:44,009 --> 00:14:47,625 $40 She's like, is unacceptable. 305 00:14:47,865 --> 00:14:48,504 Oh, it's but that 306 00:14:48,664 --> 00:14:51,384 I'm like, Jesus, I'm like, I can go to the cactus club. 307 00:14:51,384 --> 00:14:57,480 It costs me $46 for a plate of food, which is steak, prawns, mashed potatoes, seasoned 308 00:14:57,480 --> 00:15:05,080 vegetables, and a water would cost me $46 and you're getting like pizza and some pasta and 309 00:15:05,080 --> 00:15:06,600 it's costing you the same. 310 00:15:06,919 --> 00:15:08,360 I'm like, you need to go talk to them. 311 00:15:08,360 --> 00:15:09,960 You might not know what they're charging. 312 00:15:09,960 --> 00:15:10,519 Do know mean? 313 00:15:10,519 --> 00:15:15,284 Oh, I hope he does, but I, yeah, I very rarely go out to restaurants because of the price. 314 00:15:15,764 --> 00:15:19,524 And you don't know if you're going to get food that you like. 315 00:15:19,524 --> 00:15:24,404 You order it sounds good and it may come to your table and then you're disappointed in it. 316 00:15:24,600 --> 00:15:29,480 So I was in Canmore recently for a well deserved girls weekend with a bunch of close 317 00:15:29,480 --> 00:15:30,039 friends. 318 00:15:30,679 --> 00:15:36,120 And we went to a couple of restaurants that are highly rated on TripAdvisor and all the, all 319 00:15:36,120 --> 00:15:36,600 the places. 320 00:15:37,815 --> 00:15:39,654 So we were, yeah, we're going to treat ourselves. 321 00:15:39,654 --> 00:15:40,774 That was the intent. 322 00:15:41,095 --> 00:15:45,815 I can't sit here and tell you honestly that I think I enjoyed one of the three meals we went 323 00:15:45,815 --> 00:15:46,294 for. 324 00:15:46,934 --> 00:15:48,294 Especially when you're paying that 325 00:15:48,294 --> 00:15:52,819 and you're paying all this money and you're going, it's so disappointing to your point. 326 00:15:52,819 --> 00:15:53,940 I could go to Tim Hortons. 327 00:15:53,940 --> 00:15:57,940 I know what I'm getting in the cheese and a focaccia melted cheese sandwich, and I'm going 328 00:15:57,940 --> 00:15:58,579 to like it. 329 00:15:59,220 --> 00:16:00,740 It's a staple in my house. 330 00:16:00,740 --> 00:16:01,620 I know what it tastes like. 331 00:16:01,620 --> 00:16:02,419 Do you ever notice that? 332 00:16:02,694 --> 00:16:03,495 You ever notice that? 333 00:16:03,495 --> 00:16:07,894 Then I always make this, okay, I love that you said what you just did because I'm one of those 334 00:16:07,894 --> 00:16:12,694 people that if I'm really hungry and I'm going to a restaurant I know, I order what I know 335 00:16:12,694 --> 00:16:13,735 I've always ordered. 336 00:16:14,134 --> 00:16:15,495 I will not divert from it. 337 00:16:15,740 --> 00:16:20,459 And I, the reason I do that is because it's almost like Murphy's Law because the minute I'm 338 00:16:20,459 --> 00:16:22,539 like, Oh, you know, I've never had the teriyaki bowl. 339 00:16:22,539 --> 00:16:25,980 Maybe I'll try the teriyaki bowl and it's shit and I'm starving. 340 00:16:25,980 --> 00:16:28,779 And I'm like, so I'm always like the same order. 341 00:16:28,779 --> 00:16:30,779 So I'll like, I'll just be like, I want this. 342 00:16:30,779 --> 00:16:35,245 And then some people, they give me a hard time because I've sent plates back before because 343 00:16:35,245 --> 00:16:38,924 they didn't scrape the grill properly when they cooked the steak. 344 00:16:39,565 --> 00:16:44,284 So you can taste that like, I don't know, six layers of burnt when I eat my meat like medium 345 00:16:44,284 --> 00:16:45,085 rare to rare. 346 00:16:45,379 --> 00:16:49,059 So all it's doing is getting the lines on it and a little bit of like a little bit of a 347 00:16:49,059 --> 00:16:49,539 cook. 348 00:16:49,539 --> 00:16:52,899 So if I can taste your grill, the steak goes back. 349 00:16:53,220 --> 00:16:56,820 And I'm like, listen, tell the guys that, you know, like they cooked it good and it was 350 00:16:56,820 --> 00:16:59,355 great, but I can taste the grill. 351 00:16:59,355 --> 00:17:00,634 So they gotta scrape the grill. 352 00:17:00,634 --> 00:17:02,794 And a lot of people are like, you've done that back. 353 00:17:02,794 --> 00:17:04,075 And I'm like, yeah, I'm not mean about it. 354 00:17:04,075 --> 00:17:06,315 I'm not like, this is shit, blah, blah, blah. 355 00:17:06,315 --> 00:17:09,674 I give them a compliment, tell them what they did well and just say, but unfortunately it 356 00:17:09,674 --> 00:17:10,394 tastes like this. 357 00:17:10,394 --> 00:17:15,660 And I, and I always tell them, I'm like, please know, please understand that if I'm spending 358 00:17:15,660 --> 00:17:18,779 this

much money in your restaurant, I want to enjoy my food. 359 00:17:18,779 --> 00:17:21,180 People get upset and uncomfortable with that. 360 00:17:21,180 --> 00:17:26,585 I feel if I just paid $45 for an entree, it's gotta be good. 361 00:17:26,585 --> 00:17:29,544 Or why am I paying $45 for it? 362 00:17:29,865 --> 00:17:31,864 It's he said, you don't need to be mean. 363 00:17:32,184 --> 00:17:38,730 You can be gracious about it, but they shouldn't like anything people do in the world, 364 00:17:38,970 --> 00:17:41,210 you should have some pride in doing it well. 365 00:17:42,809 --> 00:17:43,210 A 100%. 366 00:17:43,210 --> 00:17:44,250 And I I get it. 367 00:17:44,650 --> 00:17:47,369 You're doing, do it to the best of your ability. 368 00:17:47,529 --> 00:17:48,409 Exactly. 369 00:17:48,410 --> 00:17:54,414 I get that there's lunch rush and dinner rush and, you know, you you might have a bad day, 370 00:17:54,414 --> 00:17:58,255 but don't be the customer that's like, what is this? 371 00:17:58,255 --> 00:17:59,134 This is garbage. 372 00:17:59,134 --> 00:17:59,934 I asked for this. 373 00:17:59,934 --> 00:18:00,414 I'm not 374 00:18:00,414 --> 00:18:01,134 paying for this. 375 00:18:01,134 --> 00:18:02,494 Like, be an asshole. 376 00:18:02,494 --> 00:18:03,295 You know I mean? 377 00:18:03,295 --> 00:18:04,654 Like, just say, you know what? 378 00:18:04,654 --> 00:18:04,815 Hey. 379 00:18:05,320 --> 00:18:07,960 Because they come by and ask you, how is it tasting? 380 00:18:07,960 --> 00:18:09,480 They're not doing that for their health. 381 00:18:09,480 --> 00:18:10,279 What stops them? 382 00:18:10,279 --> 00:18:11,400 Because I was a server. 383 00:18:11,480 --> 00:18:14,200 I was a server for years and I would always say, how is it? 384 00:18:14,200 --> 00:18:14,840 Is it okay? 385 00:18:14,840 --> 00:18:15,640 Everything good? 386 00:18:15,640 --> 00:18:18,119 And I'd stand there and they were like, yeah, yeah. 387 00:18:18,119 --> 00:18:21,125 And I'm like, and I'd look and I'd watch their facial expressions. 388 00:18:21,125 --> 00:18:22,484 And I was like, are you sure? 389 00:18:22,484 --> 00:18:25,765 Cause the minute I walk away and you take another bite, it's going to be harder to sell 390 00:18:25,765 --> 00:18:26,404 at me. 391 00:18:26,404 --> 00:18:29,365 And then the girl, the guy would just look at me or the girl would just look at me and they 392 00:18:29,365 --> 00:18:30,325 were like, you know what? 393 00:18:30,325 --> 00:18:34,005 Actually, when I did ask, I didn't realize that you guys would, I'm like, okay, let's make it 394 00:18:34,005 --> 00:18:34,484 right for you. 395 00:18:34,789 --> 00:18:35,429 Oh, okay. 396 00:18:35,429 --> 00:18:35,829 Thank you. 397 00:18:35,829 --> 00:18:39,349 Most people are pretty timid about it because they hear the horror stories that go on. 398 00:18:39,269 --> 00:18:40,869 You send the food back, they might smell it. 399 00:18:40,869 --> 00:18:43,109 And I have a lot of respect for

people in the service industry. 400 00:18:43,109 --> 00:18:47,109 I think that's really hard work, but one of them, and I believe they deserve to be tipped. 401 00:18:47,535 --> 00:18:52,015 But one of the things I don't like is these mandatory tippings. 402 00:18:52,015 --> 00:18:53,775 Like I should be able to choose. 403 00:18:55,134 --> 00:18:58,974 One of the waitresses that while I was on my trip was not the greatest. 404 00:18:59,535 --> 00:19:02,335 She chose to be rude and kind of nonchalant. 405 00:19:03,240 --> 00:19:06,119 So in that place, I was able to reflect that in my tip. 406 00:19:06,119 --> 00:19:10,440 So I gave her a tip because she had to work and she deserves it, but she doesn't automatically 407 00:19:10,440 --> 00:19:12,440 get 18% for that. 408 00:19:13,799 --> 00:19:14,519 Oh my God. 409 00:19:14,519 --> 00:19:14,920 You know what? 410 00:19:14,920 --> 00:19:15,799 You're so cute. 411 00:19:15,880 --> 00:19:20,014 I'm So I worked in the service industry for years when I was younger. 412 00:19:20,095 --> 00:19:24,095 And I'm going to tell you right now, some pe- most people that have worked with the service 413 00:19:24,095 --> 00:19:26,014 industry, we are the worst critics. 414 00:19:26,255 --> 00:19:28,654 Some of us are kind of like everybody deserves a tip. 415 00:19:28,654 --> 00:19:30,654 And then some of us are like, did you work for your tip? 416 00:19:31,000 --> 00:19:34,999 For me, minimum wage, there are people making minimum wage without tips. 417 00:19:35,400 --> 00:19:35,880 Okay. 418 00:19:35,880 --> 00:19:37,240 So that is an added bonus. 419 00:19:37,240 --> 00:19:41,960 That is, that is a reflection of how you treat your client, of how you treat the person that 420 00:19:41,960 --> 00:19:43,400 comes in your table. 421 00:19:43,400 --> 00:19:46,424 That is a reflection Cause a gratuity is exactly that. 422 00:19:46,424 --> 00:19:50,744 It is up to us whether or not you deserve to have something more because you've gone above 423 00:19:50,744 --> 00:19:54,184 and beyond, or because you were very pleasant and made the experience better. 424 00:19:54,184 --> 00:19:56,184 Then we say, yes, we're going to tip you. 425 00:19:56,184 --> 00:19:58,825 But I'm one of those assholes that will not tip people. 426 00:19:59,089 --> 00:20:01,570 Like I will I'll like if someone is 427 00:20:01,650 --> 00:20:02,769 very, very much. 428 00:20:02,769 --> 00:20:03,409 Me too. 429 00:20:03,890 --> 00:20:04,450 Yeah. 430 00:20:04,450 --> 00:20:04,769 Yeah. 431 00:20:04,769 --> 00:20:09,009 Like if you do if I don't get it, if you don't take my water or like, if you don't come to the 432 00:20:09,009 --> 00:20:11,890 table with water within the first two minutes, it's a point down. 433 00:20:12,244 --> 00:20:15,765 If you don't get my drinks within the first five minutes, it's a point down. 434 00:20:15,765 --> 00:20:19,285 If you don't take my order within the first ten minutes, it's a point down. 435 00:20:19,285 --> 00:20:20,725 So if there is no- 436 00:20:20,725 --> 00:20:24,565 If you didn't come to say hello for ten minutes, when we're sitting at the table. 437 00:20:24,565 --> 00:20:27,125 I've had it happen where someone's like, we're really busy. 438 00:20:27,125 --> 00:20:28,740 And I said, I understand. 439 00:20:29,859 --> 00:20:33,299 But is there something you can do to help you? 440 00:20:33,380 --> 00:20:37,140 Because I'm looking around and I've seen there's play like, there's places where I'll 441 00:20:37,140 --> 00:20:39,859 feel bad for them, where it is fucking packed. 442 00:20:39,859 --> 00:20:44,605 Two people have called in sick and it is a big space and this person is running and you can 443 00:20:44,605 --> 00:20:46,125 tell like they're, they want to cry. 444 00:20:46,125 --> 00:20:46,845 You can tell. 445 00:20:46,845 --> 00:20:48,525 And you're just like, no problem. 446 00:20:48,765 --> 00:20:49,565 Let me help. 447 00:20:49,565 --> 00:20:50,445 Let me help you. 448 00:20:50,445 --> 00:20:54,765 I'm going to go put my order in at the bar and I'm going to get, I'm going to get the drinks 449 00:20:54,765 --> 00:20:56,845 to come to me and I'm going to bring them to the table. 450 00:20:56,845 --> 00:20:57,565 Here's my order. 451 00:20:57,890 --> 00:21:01,809 Just get it put in and, and you know, and I'll go and see if I can, can to help you to help 452 00:21:01,809 --> 00:21:02,529 get myself. 453 00:21:02,529 --> 00:21:04,049 Cause I, I want to eat here. 454 00:21:04,049 --> 00:21:04,850 I don't want to cook. 455 00:21:04,850 --> 00:21:07,730 So that's where Brett and there's some people that will do that, especially if you've been in 456 00:21:07,730 --> 00:21:10,875 service industry, you understand what it's like to have that happen to you. 457 00:21:10,875 --> 00:21:16,475 But when there's like six tables and you're supposed to be a seasoned waitress or waiter 458 00:21:16,475 --> 00:21:20,234 and you or server, because that's maybe more gender neutral. 459 00:21:20,234 --> 00:21:26,609 If you're a server, then, you know, and you come out and you're looking frazzled, but 460 00:21:26,609 --> 00:21:27,809 there's six tables. 461 00:21:27,809 --> 00:21:31,570 But out of those six tables, there's no tables that have more than two to four, no more than 462 00:21:31,570 --> 00:21:32,369 four people. 463 00:21:32,690 --> 00:21:37,525 I don't, I kind of struggle because most of the time, if you've got maybe 20 people in there 464 00:21:37,525 --> 00:21:40,724 and they've kind of come in if they all come in at once, it can get a little frustrating. 465 00:21:40,724 --> 00:21:41,365 Absolutely. 466 00:21:41,365 --> 00:21:45,125 But if they're staggered, which we kind of all were, we were like, there's probably like two 467 00:21:45,125 --> 00:21:48,565 tables that came in and then five minutes later, another two tables and then ten minutes, 468 00:21:48,565 --> 00:21:49,125 another two tables. 469 00:21:49,125 --> 00:21:49,605 You

know what I mean? 470 00:21:49,605 --> 00:21:50,805 So there was some staggered. 471 00:21:51,000 --> 00:21:53,559 So then I struggle when they're like, oh, I'm just so busy. 472 00:21:53,559 --> 00:21:55,319 I'm like, you have six fucking tables, bro. 473 00:21:56,119 --> 00:21:57,559 Like it's not that bad. 474 00:21:57,559 --> 00:22:02,200 Like comparing it to kind of the jobs, the work I did over the years, I was in the service 475 00:22:02,200 --> 00:22:05,480 industry, just different services than servers in restaurants. 476 00:22:06,335 --> 00:22:11,615 And in my pay structure along the way, once I joined industry, in nursing, that's a union 477 00:22:11,615 --> 00:22:12,174 driven thing. 478 00:22:12,174 --> 00:22:15,534 So you get paid what you get paid based on the collective agreement. 479 00:22:16,095 --> 00:22:22,730 But I did well within that because I took care of the people, my coworkers, my patients with a 480 00:22:22,730 --> 00:22:23,930 big smile on my face. 481 00:22:23,930 --> 00:22:27,529 I didn't complain in front of them about how busy we were or anything. 482 00:22:27,529 --> 00:22:28,970 I just smiled and got on with it. 483 00:22:29,049 --> 00:22:34,855 And the reward or the tip I got from there is that I didn't, like never had any trouble with 484 00:22:34,855 --> 00:22:37,174 patients being angry with me because I was always pleasant. 485 00:22:37,174 --> 00:22:40,855 No matter what shit show was going on around me, I was always pleasant. 486 00:22:41,095 --> 00:22:46,054 Then I moved into industry, and industry was a commission bonus based system. 487 00:22:47,130 --> 00:22:54,330 So I get paid my salary, but once a year I get my tip, which is a bonus or a commission. 488 00:22:54,330 --> 00:22:58,330 And I get as much there as how much work I put in. 489 00:22:58,585 --> 00:23:03,384 So if I did a really good job, then I maxed out with what I was able to make over and above. 490 00:23:03,545 --> 00:23:04,825 And so that was a bonus system. 491 00:23:04,825 --> 00:23:06,904 But now I work with a commission system. 492 00:23:07,384 --> 00:23:08,825 So it's the same thing. 493 00:23:08,825 --> 00:23:12,424 That's the tip in the worlds that I've been in. 494 00:23:12,424 --> 00:23:16,319 And you reap what you get, right? 495 00:23:16,720 --> 00:23:17,200 Yeah. 496 00:23:17,200 --> 00:23:17,680 Well, that's it. 497 00:23:17,680 --> 00:23:18,400 You reap what you sow. 498 00:23:18,400 --> 00:23:18,640 Absolutely. 499 00:23:18,640 --> 00:23:21,440 So if you're not going to put in, if you're not going 500 00:23:21,440 --> 00:23:26,000 to put in the effort, because I've had some pretty fucking amazing servers. 501 00:23:26,240 --> 00:23:26,880 Yeah, me too. 502 00:23:27,015 --> 00:23:33,494 Even in like little dive places, high end, I've had some really amazing servers and I make damn 503 00:23:33,494 --> 00:23:36,214 sure they're like 25% tip. 504 00:23:36,214 --> 00:23:37,734 Like I make sure they're higher. 505 00:23:37,734 --> 00:23:39,974 Sometimes I'll, I won't even do the percentage. 506 00:23:39,974 --> 00:23:42,880 I'll just throw down like actual cash on the table. 507 00:23:42,880 --> 00:23:47,279 That was in the industry, Lisa, and you take 40 or 50 people out for dinner at a conference. 508 00:23:47,600 --> 00:23:48,240 Yep. 509 00:23:48,240 --> 00:23:53,440 I always admired the really good servers because I have this group with some colleagues 510 00:23:53,440 --> 00:23:56,799 accompanying me and we're there to make an impression on them. 511 00:23:57,335 --> 00:24:04,375 So if the server adds to that experience and they're working with me to make sure that my 512 00:24:04,375 --> 00:24:08,375 customers have a really positive experience and the food is awesome and the service is awesome, 513 00:24:08,375 --> 00:24:13,309 same thing, just throw her down because you helped make my evening successful by being that 514 00:24:13,309 --> 00:24:13,950 awesome. 515 00:24:15,230 --> 00:24:15,470 Right? 516 00:24:15,470 --> 00:24:16,190 A 100%. 517 00:24:16,190 --> 00:24:17,390 And people are willing to do it. 518 00:24:17,390 --> 00:24:20,429 And you know, some of them are willing to do it because they know they're going to get a, you 519 00:24:20,429 --> 00:24:22,589 know, a decent tip and they're like, yeah, no problem. 520 00:24:22,974 --> 00:24:27,054 And, and they go above and beyond knowing that there's gonna, there's a tip coming regardless. 521 00:24:27,134 --> 00:24:31,214 But when they get that extra, you know, like, I mean, I, there's been a time where I've done 522 00:24:31,214 --> 00:24:38,450 something like that and thrown down a $100 on like a $70 or $70 like tab and thrown down an 523 00:24:38,450 --> 00:24:39,250 additional 100. 524 00:24:39,250 --> 00:24:41,730 And they're like, do you want some change? 525 00:24:41,730 --> 00:24:42,769 And I'm like, no. 526 00:24:43,250 --> 00:24:45,890 And they're like, but the tip is more than the bill. 527 00:24:45,890 --> 00:24:49,250 And I'm like, well, the waiter did a really great job. 528 00:24:49,250 --> 00:24:53,654 So and that, but I make sure that if I'm gonna do that, if I'm gonna throw down an actual 529 00:24:53,654 --> 00:24:57,894 amount of money, I make sure that the, actually, so I don't actually put it on the 530 00:24:57,894 --> 00:24:58,215 table. 531 00:24:58,215 --> 00:25:00,214 I'll actually go to the server and give it to them. 532 00:25:00,295 --> 00:25:03,730 Well, it comes back to reward you over time. 533 00:25:03,730 --> 00:25:07,009 So we were in Newfoundland two years ago, for my mom's celebration of life. 534 00:25:07,009 --> 00:25:10,529 My dad wanted to take everybody out for dinner and we're like a group of 20. 535 00:25:11,250 --> 00:25:13,089 We're calling around trying to get reservations. 536 00:25:13,089 --> 00:25:16,134 And of course we're doing this at last minute and blah, blah, blah. 537 00:25:16,134 --> 00:25:17,015 So we weren't having any luck. 538

00:25:17,015 --> 00:25:18,054 I go, you know what? 539 00:25:18,214 --> 00:25:21,734 I'm going to take advantage of the relationship I built with this restaurant in St. 540 00:25:21,734 --> 00:25:24,454 John's, Newfoundland through all my years of taking customers out. 541 00:25:24,694 --> 00:25:26,134 And I'm going to call the manager. 542 00:25:26,615 --> 00:25:30,450 So I called the manager, told him, oh, he's all happy to hear from me. 543 00:25:30,450 --> 00:25:34,930 He remembers, they remember how good I was to them on the numerous occasions. 544 00:25:34,930 --> 00:25:37,490 I brought groups there and repeat business. 545 00:25:38,369 --> 00:25:39,490 And he said, you know what? 546 00:25:41,505 --> 00:25:43,825 We're down a staff member, but you know what I'm going do? 547 00:25:43,825 --> 00:25:47,345 I'm going to open downstairs for you guys, like the whole bottom floor. 548 00:25:47,904 --> 00:25:53,585 And he brought a friend in, two friends in, just to take care of us because he didn't have 549 00:25:53,585 --> 00:25:54,384 enough staff upstairs. 550 00:25:54,559 --> 00:25:57,440 So he accommodated us with less than an hour's notice. 551 00:25:57,440 --> 00:26:02,799 And that's because of how well I treated him in dealings with them in the past. 552 00:26:02,799 --> 00:26:03,759 They remember. 553 00:26:03,759 --> 00:26:05,119 And they remember, right? 554 00:26:05,279 --> 00:26:12,524 So, you know, a shout out to those businesses, you know, in all industries that don't forget 555 00:26:12,605 --> 00:26:18,765 who had their back when, when no one else did and was faithful and loyal and came all the 556 00:26:18,765 --> 00:26:23,565 time and did the repeat business and made a point of, of bringing you the business you 557 00:26:23,565 --> 00:26:24,285 needed in that time. 558 00:26:24,679 --> 00:26:25,480 You know what I mean? 559 00:26:25,480 --> 00:26:29,720 And they don't forget who you are and they will go above and beyond for you and they will help 560 00:26:29,720 --> 00:26:34,759 you and they will try and juggle and be flexible when you, when you call in that favor. 561 00:26:34,839 --> 00:26:39,240 And not that you expect the favor, but you're calling it in to see if they can do something. 562 00:26:39,240 --> 00:26:40,494 If they can, hey, great. 563 00:26:40,494 --> 00:26:41,775 If they can't, it is what it is. 564 00:26:41,775 --> 00:26:42,894 It was a hail Mary. 565 00:26:42,894 --> 00:26:46,654 Like, it's kinda like, if this doesn't work, we'll go back to my aunt's house and we'll whip 566 00:26:46,654 --> 00:26:47,375 something up. 567 00:26:47,535 --> 00:26:48,255 But let's Yeah. 568 00:26:48,255 --> 00:26:48,414 Give 569 00:26:48,414 --> 00:26:49,295 it That's the thing is that 570 00:26:49,295 --> 00:26:52,750 because you're this loyal person that has, you 571 00:26:52,750 --> 00:26:56,269 know, this loyal patron that's come in all the time and you've got nothing but good things to 572 00:26:56,269 --> 00:26:56,509 say, 573 00:26:56,509 --> 00:26:57,150 and you're you know what 574 00:26:57,150 --> 00:26:57,390 I mean? 575 00:26:57,390 --> 00:27:00,990 And you're always bringing business, of course, you know, the owner's like, hey. 576 00:27:00,990 --> 00:27:03,150 Or the, you know, manager's like, apps freaking lutely. 577 00:27:03,150 --> 00:27:03,789 We're gonna get this. 578 00:27:03,789 --> 00:27:05,549 We're gonna figure it out one way or another. 579 00:27:05,549 --> 00:27:06,190 We're gonna get it done. 580 00:27:06,484 --> 00:27:10,404 But that's someone who remembers who you are because a lot of people be like, that's can't I 581 00:27:10,404 --> 00:27:13,045 mean, how many times have people been told that can't be done? 582 00:27:13,045 --> 00:27:14,244 There's not enough time. 583 00:27:14,484 --> 00:27:17,045 I apologize if I had had, you know, a day's notice. 584 00:27:17,045 --> 00:27:18,965 I probably could have worked something out for you. 585 00:27:18,965 --> 00:27:20,244 And that's a fair statement. 586 00:27:20,710 --> 00:27:24,630 But the ones that jump are the ones that are, they're just grateful that you were there and 587 00:27:24,630 --> 00:27:28,309 that you, you know, so it's like, it's almost, it's like reciprocity. 588 00:27:28,309 --> 00:27:31,990 You know I what brought them repeat business because many of my family members, the people 589 00:27:31,990 --> 00:27:36,144 we had at dinner that evening had never been there and have total plans of making that a 590 00:27:36,144 --> 00:27:36,944 regular stop. 591 00:27:37,025 --> 00:27:38,384 So now it's repeat business. 592 00:27:38,384 --> 00:27:39,825 And that's the other part of it. 593 00:27:39,825 --> 00:27:40,144 Right? 594 00:27:40,144 --> 00:27:43,505 So, I mean, like, gotta, I gotta always give a shout out to those businesses that do stuff 595 00:27:43,505 --> 00:27:43,904 like that. 596 00:27:43,904 --> 00:27:48,759 Like whether you're a restaurant or, you know, a computer repair shop or whatever you are, but 597 00:27:48,759 --> 00:27:51,720 if you're someone who remembers where you come and that's something that I always, I get 598 00:27:51,720 --> 00:27:55,880 pissed off about, you know, people start to get too big for their britches and then the loyal 599 00:27:55,880 --> 00:28:00,119 customers that were there from Go all of a sudden are treated like shit. 600 00:28:00,119 --> 00:28:00,679 And you're like, 601 00:28:01,964 --> 00:28:05,724 So when I was doing marketing courses, Lisa, one of the biggest lessons I heard, and this is 602 00:28:05,724 --> 00:28:07,085 really all on this theme. 603 00:28:07,085 --> 00:28:08,045 It's it doesn't matter. 604 00:28:08,045 --> 00:28:09,724 This can be applied to any industry. 605 00:28:09,724 --> 00:28:13,164 People make mistakes and that's okay. 606 00:28:13,325 --> 00:28:16,710 How you handle it is what makes the difference. 607 00:28:16,710 --> 00:28:20,869 So the example they use, the case study they use, it was a maple

leaf had a listeria 608 00:28:20,869 --> 00:28:21,589 outbreak. 609 00:28:22,470 --> 00:28:23,670 A long time ago now. 610 00:28:23,910 --> 00:28:28,654 And they said in this case study, don't want to be me, or you do want to be them Because of a 611 00:28:28,654 --> 00:28:31,214 listeria outbreak, a certain number of people died. 612 00:28:31,855 --> 00:28:37,294 And before any of us had a chance to blink, the president of Maple Leaf at that time got on TV 613 00:28:37,294 --> 00:28:38,494 and said, it's my fault. 614 00:28:38,494 --> 00:28:40,414 Like he just took complete accountability. 615 00:28:41,170 --> 00:28:42,769 It happened under my watch. 616 00:28:43,330 --> 00:28:46,849 If you follow that, because I was doing marketing, had to, because we had to do a study 617 00:28:47,009 --> 00:28:47,730 on it. 618 00:28:48,049 --> 00:28:50,369 They lost business for about a second. 619 00:28:51,250 --> 00:28:52,130 That's it. 620 00:28:52,289 --> 00:28:58,434 It did not impact their business and their sales at all because he stood up and said, 621 00:28:58,434 --> 00:29:00,515 Yeah, it was a mistake. 622 00:29:00,515 --> 00:29:01,075 It's my fault. 623 00:29:01,075 --> 00:29:02,194 It was under my watch. 624 00:29:02,194 --> 00:29:05,394 Instead of, Let's find a bugger that did that. 625 00:29:05,394 --> 00:29:06,835 Or, Let's find a person. 626 00:29:06,835 --> 00:29:07,634 Let's find someone 627 00:29:07,634 --> 00:29:08,355 to point a Right? Finger 628 00:29:08,115 --> 00:29:10,919 Finger It's what I say to everybody. 629 00:29:10,919 --> 00:29:14,599 And it's funny because it's exactly I've said it once on my pod I've said it probably a few 630 00:29:14,599 --> 00:29:19,480 times on my podcast where I've made this comment of it's not as everybody makes mistake. 631 00:29:19,480 --> 00:29:20,359 It's not how you fall. 632 00:29:20,359 --> 00:29:21,319 It's how you recover. 633 00:29:21,720 --> 00:29:23,000 That's what I pay attention to. 634 00:29:23,000 --> 00:29:23,799 Everybody makes a mistake. 635 00:29:25,454 --> 00:29:25,774 Construction. 636 00:29:25,774 --> 00:29:27,534 There's always problems inside of companies. 637 00:29:27,534 --> 00:29:28,575 How are you recovering? 638 00:29:28,575 --> 00:29:29,774 Are you passing the buck? 639 00:29:29,774 --> 00:29:30,734 Are you finger pointing? 640 00:29:30,734 --> 00:29:32,014 Are you blame shaming? 641 00:29:32,015 --> 00:29:32,974 What are you doing? 642 00:29:33,054 --> 00:29:35,375 Are you a leader that's gonna stand up and say, holy shit. 643 00:29:35,375 --> 00:29:36,095 This is my fault. 644 00:29:36,095 --> 00:29:36,894 This is my team. 645 00:29:36,894 --> 00:29:37,534 I didn't do this. 646 00:29:37,534 --> 00:29:38,095 I didn't do that. 647 00:29:38,095 --> 00:29:39,374 There was an oversight here. 648 00:29:39,534 --> 00:29:41,134 And regardless, we're gonna fix it. 649 00:29:41,529 --> 00:29:41,930 Yeah. 650 00:29:41,930 --> 00:29:42,410 Period. 651 00:29:42,410 --> 00:29:42,970

And that's all 652 00:29:42,970 --> 00:29:44,250 people want to fucking hear. 653 00:29:44,250 --> 00:29:45,289 They don't care. 654 00:29:45,369 --> 00:29:46,009 You know what I mean? 655 00:29:46,009 --> 00:29:50,009 Like they care for, you know, they care in that moment, but the minute you're like, absolutely, 656 00:29:50,089 --> 00:29:51,129 let me fix it. 657 00:29:51,849 --> 00:29:52,730 Then they're going to fix it. 658 00:29:52,730 --> 00:29:53,450 But then you know what? 659 00:29:53,450 --> 00:29:57,974 It always takes that one asshole that pulls like other than because there's two different 660 00:29:57,974 --> 00:29:58,615 types of assholes. 661 00:29:58,615 --> 00:30:01,654 There's the one on the side that's like the blame shifts and says, oh, well, you know, this 662 00:30:01,654 --> 00:30:03,974 person did this and this person did that, and it's not my fault. 663 00:30:03,974 --> 00:30:06,534 And I don't know what you want me to do, but, you know, whatever. 664 00:30:06,534 --> 00:30:10,570 But then you've also got the people that wanna try and play for all the free shit and 665 00:30:10,570 --> 00:30:12,410 constantly goddamn complain. 666 00:30:12,410 --> 00:30:14,250 And it doesn't matter how good a company does. 667 00:30:14,250 --> 00:30:17,130 They just keep coming back and saying, oh, there's hair in my food or there's this or 668 00:30:17,130 --> 00:30:17,450 there's that. 669 00:30:17,450 --> 00:30:19,529 And I just I just wanna choke those assholes. 670 00:30:19,529 --> 00:30:24,345 But even if what I'm doing, I mean, I started my my job this job earlier in the season and I 671 00:30:24,345 --> 00:30:27,144 literally would show up to people's make jokes, tell stories. 672 00:30:27,144 --> 00:30:31,224 And literally my first thing coming out of my mouth, I am brand new at this. 673 00:30:31,224 --> 00:30:32,664 My background is this. 674 00:30:32,984 --> 00:30:34,265 Please bear with me. 675 00:30:34,664 --> 00:30:41,039 There's likelihood I might make a mistake or two while I'm learning, but I promise you I 676 00:30:41,039 --> 00:30:43,119 will fix any mistakes that I make. 677 00:30:43,519 --> 00:30:46,240 And that has gone over so well. 678 00:30:46,240 --> 00:30:51,634 I've come along and we're this time of year And I've been here long enough now, and I do know, 679 00:30:51,634 --> 00:30:52,914 and I'm not making the mistakes. 680 00:30:52,914 --> 00:30:54,195 So now but I've set myself up. 681 00:30:54,195 --> 00:30:58,755 I thought that was a way for me to kinda make a couple of mistakes, not on purpose, and they 682 00:30:58,755 --> 00:30:59,954 were gonna be good about it. 683 00:31:00,674 --> 00:31:04,434 But they were so good that now they expect perfection from me. 684 00:31:04,529 --> 00:31:05,410 So it's a catchph 685 00:31:07,009 --> 00:31:07,970 It can be. 686 00:31:07,970 --> 00:31:08,450 Yeah. 687 00:31:08,450 --> 00:31:11,970 But then you could just like, you know but if you wanna make them laugh again, be like, hey. 688 00:31:11,970 --> 00:31:12,769 My name's Sandy. 689 00:31:12,769 --> 00:31:13,490 Just bear with me. 690 00:31:13,490 --> 00:31:14,049 I'm new. 691 00:31:14,049 --> 00:31:15,009 And then they'll write. 692 00:31:15,009 --> 00:31:17,730 My vibe should start next season with that same line again. 693 00:31:17,730 --> 00:31:17,970 Hi. 694 00:31:18,644 --> 00:31:21,125 I just got here, which is not a lie. 695 00:31:22,164 --> 00:31:24,724 I mean, you know, it just, I mean, but it's true though. 696 00:31:24,724 --> 00:31:29,765 I mean, like, and sometimes I'm also, cause I'm a very, I mean, obviously I'm a very vocal 697 00:31:29,765 --> 00:31:32,460 person, but I mean, I think there's ways of saying things. 698 00:31:32,460 --> 00:31:36,940 So, you know, like if I'm dealing with something and I'm at an escalated state and 699 00:31:36,940 --> 00:31:42,940 someone says to me, I'm new, I'm like, I either have to take like 10 deep breaths because I'm 700 00:31:42,940 --> 00:31:47,744 probably going to lose my fucking marbles or I'm going to be like, you know what? 701 00:31:47,744 --> 00:31:49,025 That's totally cool. 702 00:31:49,184 --> 00:31:53,424 I need someone senior with you because I'm already at this state and I don't want to yell 703 00:31:53,424 --> 00:31:53,825 at you. 704 00:31:53,825 --> 00:31:55,025 That's, it's not your problem. 705 00:31:55,025 --> 00:31:58,705 I'm already upset about this, with your product or this with your company. 706 00:31:59,000 --> 00:32:03,160 And the last thing I want to do is take any of it out on you with you being new. 707 00:32:03,160 --> 00:32:06,440 So stay because then you can listen to my problems so you know how to fix somebody 708 00:32:06,440 --> 00:32:08,680 else's, but please find someone more senior. 709 00:32:08,680 --> 00:32:08,920 Yeah. 710 00:32:08,920 --> 00:32:11,160 And so I'll probably not frame it. 711 00:32:11,160 --> 00:32:15,294 I mean, this was new, new, new to me after thirty five years of health care of, you know, 712 00:32:15,294 --> 00:32:19,615 being able to I had to get out of bed, but just to frame it, not having to get out of bed and 713 00:32:19,615 --> 00:32:22,734 do my job because I knew it so well, to brand new information. 714 00:32:22,734 --> 00:32:27,420 So I would stand there because sometimes physically, my senior person cannot physically 715 00:32:27,420 --> 00:32:28,700 be somewhere with me. 716 00:32:29,099 --> 00:32:32,299 They're on call like they know. 717 00:32:32,380 --> 00:32:34,220 And I've stood at sites and go, you know what? 718 00:32:34,220 --> 00:32:36,700 So don't pretend you know stuff you don't know. 719 00:32:36,940 --> 00:32:39,494 So I stood on sites and gone, you know what? 720 00:32:39,494 --> 00:32:41,174 I am not sure what to do with this. 721 00:32:41,174 --> 00:32:42,454 Let me FaceTime the boss. 722 00:32:42,934 --> 00:32:47,174 And just write on the spot, WhatsApp or whatever, whatever methodology is in play that

723 00:32:47,174 --> 00:32:49,095 day, and just go, I don't know what to do with this. 724 00:32:49,589 --> 00:32:50,630 Like, I just don't know. 725 00:32:50,630 --> 00:32:55,190 But that's you showing your resourcefulness, that your team is willing to have your back, 726 00:32:55,190 --> 00:32:58,069 that if you don't have the answer to something, you're going to get it and you're going to get 727 00:32:58,069 --> 00:32:59,509 it now in real time. 728 00:32:59,669 --> 00:33:00,549 Not let me get back to you. 729 00:33:00,549 --> 00:33:02,230 A lot of times I have to do that with my clients. 730 00:33:02,230 --> 00:33:03,134 I'll say, you know what? 731 00:33:03,134 --> 00:33:03,855 That's a great question. 732 00:33:03,855 --> 00:33:04,974 Let me get back to you on it. 733 00:33:04,974 --> 00:33:05,295 Yeah. 734 00:33:05,295 --> 00:33:06,494 And I've done, I don't know. 735 00:33:06,494 --> 00:33:10,255 I've done things like, going to take some pictures now. 736 00:33:10,575 --> 00:33:15,375 You probably won't get your estimate tomorrow because I need to consult my team members. 737 00:33:16,670 --> 00:33:20,589 So I tell them upfront, this is going to take a little bit longer than usual just in case I 738 00:33:20,589 --> 00:33:23,869 can't get them today because I know where they are and I know I may not get them today. 739 00:33:24,750 --> 00:33:26,029 But then I just put it upfront. 740 00:33:26,029 --> 00:33:29,309 It may take a little longer because I'm not absolutely sure what I need to do here, so I 741 00:33:29,309 --> 00:33:32,734 need to do a consult and I will get back to you with the right solution for you. 742 00:33:32,734 --> 00:33:35,054 And I always talk that way, the right solution for you. 743 00:33:35,134 --> 00:33:37,934 My job is to find the best solution for you. 744 00:33:37,934 --> 00:33:39,774 And I'm not sure what that is right now. 745 00:33:40,575 --> 00:33:41,934 And wear it proudly, Lisa. 746 00:33:41,934 --> 00:33:44,095 Like I don't, I'm not embarrassed by that. 747 00:33:44,095 --> 00:33:44,575 I don't know. 748 00:33:44,970 --> 00:33:47,450 I'm not gonna try run through it and screw it up. 749 00:33:47,849 --> 00:33:48,730 I don't know everything. 750 00:33:48,730 --> 00:33:51,690 I mean, I'm I'm a construction consultant, and I don't know everything. 751 00:33:51,690 --> 00:33:53,210 I don't claim to know everything. 752 00:33:53,369 --> 00:33:56,169 People ask me, like, do you specialize in construction? 753 00:33:56,169 --> 00:33:57,609 And I'm like, condo. 754 00:33:58,414 --> 00:34:01,694 Anything condo, exterior, interior, anything condo. 755 00:34:01,694 --> 00:34:06,015 If I don't have the answer when I'm on-site, I will get it and you will have it within twenty 756 00:34:06,015 --> 00:34:07,855 four hours, if not sooner. 757 00:34:07,855 --> 00:34:11,054 Because I have so many people at my fingertips that I can call. 758 00:34:11,054 --> 00:34:17,779 I've got people from condo calling me about insurance, about drywall, about remodels, about 759 00:34:17,779 --> 00:34:18,500 siding. 760 00:34:18,659 --> 00:34:21,779 And if I don't have the answer, I've got all those people on- 761 00:34:21,779 --> 00:34:22,579 All those resources. 762 00:34:22,579 --> 00:34:24,099 It just absolutely fabulous. 763 00:34:24,099 --> 00:34:24,579 Right? 764 00:34:24,579 --> 00:34:26,659 And that was the same in my prior job. 765 00:34:26,659 --> 00:34:28,795 I'm part of a wonderful team. 766 00:34:28,795 --> 00:34:31,355 Like our management team are so supportive. 767 00:34:31,355 --> 00:34:33,675 It's not in their best interest if I trip up. 768 00:34:33,675 --> 00:34:34,715 It really is not. 769 00:34:34,954 --> 00:34:35,114 Right? 770 00:34:35,114 --> 00:34:38,715 It's in their best interest that I and everybody else on the team succeeds. 771 00:34:39,594 --> 00:34:41,195 If we don't, the company looks bad. 772 00:34:42,000 --> 00:34:42,719 Well, that's it. 773 00:34:42,719 --> 00:34:43,760 And then it's funny because then 774 00:34:43,760 --> 00:34:45,840 you get the people that are like, well, do you get kickbacks? 775 00:34:45,840 --> 00:34:46,640 I'm like, 776 00:34:47,039 --> 00:34:47,599 no. 777 00:34:48,239 --> 00:34:51,039 And they're like, so they just, they, they just answer the question for you. 778 00:34:51,039 --> 00:34:52,000 And I'm like, yeah. 779 00:34:52,000 --> 00:34:52,800 And they're like, why? 780 00:34:52,800 --> 00:34:58,894 And I'm like, because everybody has this little tiny person inside them that wants to genuinely 781 00:34:58,894 --> 00:35:00,414 help teach and train. 782 00:35:01,454 --> 00:35:07,775 And if I, you know, and if I say the right things, which is, hey, I really need your help 783 00:35:07,139 --> 00:35:08,659 on this, and this is what it is. 784 00:35:08,659 --> 00:35:09,299 And it's true. 785 00:35:09,299 --> 00:35:10,420 I really need your help on this. 786 00:35:10,420 --> 00:35:12,019 I have a client that's asking me about this. 787 00:35:12,019 --> 00:35:13,059 It's a great question. 788 00:35:13,219 --> 00:35:16,500 I don't know if I can answer it from this perspective of what they're asking of me. 789 00:35:16,500 --> 00:35:17,619 Can you help me understand? 790 00:35:17,619 --> 00:35:18,820 And they'll say, sure. 791 00:35:18,900 --> 00:35:21,380 Can you throw me on FaceTime so I can see what you're looking at? 792 00:35:21,380 --> 00:35:22,579 Or sure, send me a picture. 793 00:35:22,775 --> 00:35:24,055 And then we'll do that. 794 00:35:24,055 --> 00:35:28,535 And then sometimes I'll have the client right there and say, can you ask him or her what you 795 00:35:28,535 --> 00:35:33,094 asked me so that I don't get the so we can just take the middleman out and they 796 00:35:33,094 --> 00:35:35,094 can The game of telephone doesn't get all messed up. 797 00:35:35,550 --> 00:35:36,430 That's right. 798 00:35:36,430 --> 00:35:37,949 I'm like, we're not playing telephone here. 799 00:35:37,949 -->

00:35:38,829 And they will. 800 00:35:38,829 --> 00:35:42,829 They'll ask them the question and the person will be like, okay, well, yeah, absolutely. 801 00:35:42,829 --> 00:35:43,469 You can do that. 802 00:35:43,469 --> 00:35:46,269 But these are the things you need to pay attention to X, Y, and Z. 803 00:35:46,269 --> 00:35:49,710 So if these are the things that are in the way or these are the things that could, you know, 804 00:35:49,875 --> 00:35:51,554 stifle this, then that's what's going to happen. 805 00:35:51,554 --> 00:35:56,594 But I appreciate all of those people that are in my little repertoire, my little Rolodex that 806 00:35:56,594 --> 00:35:57,315 I can call. 807 00:35:57,315 --> 00:36:02,434 But then it also shows that I'm going to bring people who are knowledgeable in those areas. 808 00:36:02,519 --> 00:36:04,760 I'm not just going to call my friends. 809 00:36:04,760 --> 00:36:09,800 I'm going to call the people that I know are tried, true and trusted to be able to answer 810 00:36:09,800 --> 00:36:10,440 those questions. 811 00:36:10,440 --> 00:36:11,159 And I love that. 812 00:36:11,159 --> 00:36:16,039 But before we get any further into this, because I know us women, we can just give gab 813 00:36:16,039 --> 00:36:19,724 all day because that's just because we're lovely and we love but we're both salesy. 814 00:36:19,724 --> 00:36:21,164 But you did, you had a really good point. 815 00:36:21,164 --> 00:36:25,644 You wanted to talk about women in trades and how we get here and how we go through 816 00:36:25,644 --> 00:36:26,204 everything. 817 00:36:26,284 --> 00:36:32,364 So help me understand from your perspective, if you, if you could look at your younger self 818 00:36:32,364 --> 00:36:35,539 right now, what would you tell her knowing what you know? 819 00:36:35,539 --> 00:36:41,619 Gosh, I grew up in a generation where, women, I'm talking after high school and I was going 820 00:36:41,619 --> 00:36:42,980 to go post secondary, right? 821 00:36:42,980 --> 00:36:43,860 Do I go into trades? 822 00:36:43,860 --> 00:36:45,300 Do I go to university? 823 00:36:45,300 --> 00:36:45,780 What do I do? 824 00:36:45,780 --> 00:36:46,179 What do I do? 825 00:36:46,179 --> 00:36:46,579 What do I do? 826 00:36:46,579 --> 00:36:52,445 And basically the way life was going that at that time, a young woman, you are either going 827 00:36:52,445 --> 00:36:55,804 to be a nurse, a teacher, or a secretary. 828 00:36:57,005 --> 00:37:02,690 Neither of which I was interested in, but I was more like, I'd like to do law or not law, 829 00:37:02,690 --> 00:37:03,890 sorry, engineering. 830 00:37:04,289 --> 00:37:07,969 When women in engineering at that time were like non heard of. 831 00:37:07,969 --> 00:37:12,369 And it was also, my parents were wonderful, but it was kind of like, if we're going to pay for 832 00:37:12,369 --> 00:37:13,489 this, this is what you're going to do. 833 00:37:14,514 --> 00:37:17,635 So I decided nursing was the least

of those evils. 834 00:37:17,635 --> 00:37:18,914 That's a good place to get a start. 835 00:37:18,914 --> 00:37:21,795 And then once I got in there, I found what I really loved. 836 00:37:21,795 --> 00:37:25,075 What I was doing in nursing was very technically driven. 837 00:37:25,715 --> 00:37:27,769 So it was equipment. 838 00:37:27,769 --> 00:37:30,570 It was life saving equipment, life sustaining equipment. 839 00:37:30,730 --> 00:37:35,050 I believe that I have to understand this inside out, upside down and backwards for me to do the 840 00:37:35,050 --> 00:37:40,825 best job that I could, which tells me, I don't know if I could have pushed back, Lisa, but 841 00:37:40,825 --> 00:37:47,625 where I belonged was in an engineering or bioengineering, biomedical tech type of role 842 00:37:47,625 --> 00:37:49,305 because that's what I love. 843 00:37:49,305 --> 00:37:50,025 I love learning. 844 00:37:50,025 --> 00:37:50,664 I love stuff. 845 00:37:50,664 --> 00:37:51,465 I love poking. 846 00:37:51,465 --> 00:37:55,929 So I guess I would tell myself I should have pushed back harder in that area. 847 00:37:56,730 --> 00:37:58,089 I don't know about this question. 848 00:37:58,089 --> 00:37:59,690 If you could change anything, would you? 849 00:37:59,690 --> 00:38:06,650 Well, I'm not sure because it molded who I am and who I became and the life that I've lived. 850 00:38:07,025 --> 00:38:07,985 And I'm pretty happy. 851 00:38:07,985 --> 00:38:12,704 It had some bumps along the way and maybe I made some bad decisions along the way, but the 852 00:38:12,704 --> 00:38:17,905 bad decision led to learning, led to a better decision, led to a next step. 853 00:38:17,985 --> 00:38:24,889 And my entire life has progressed rather well because I've had that attitude that, you know, 854 00:38:24,889 --> 00:38:25,690 you can't change it. 855 00:38:25,690 --> 00:38:27,849 So what's the use in sitting and pondering on it? 856 00:38:27,849 --> 00:38:28,489 It happened. 857 00:38:28,489 --> 00:38:29,289 It's done. 858 00:38:29,769 --> 00:38:30,889 What are you going do from here? 859 00:38:30,889 --> 00:38:34,574 Is basically how I roll in my life because I can't change what happened. 860 00:38:34,574 --> 00:38:36,335 I can't change anything in the rear. 861 00:38:36,414 --> 00:38:37,135 It's done. 862 00:38:37,135 --> 00:38:38,494 Maybe we could jump to him. 863 00:38:38,494 --> 00:38:39,135 I'm just kidding. 864 00:38:39,135 --> 00:38:40,815 Anyway, I love your answer. 865 00:38:41,054 --> 00:38:42,414 Thank you for telling me that. 866 00:38:42,414 --> 00:38:43,855 And I say the same thing. 867 00:38:43,855 --> 00:38:47,429 Like my kids ask me if you could have changed who dad was, would you no. 868 00:38:47,429 --> 00:38:48,630 Because then you guys wouldn't exist. 869 00:38:48,630 --> 00:38:51,670 They wouldn't be here or there's be maybe somebody here, but it'd a different human. 870 00:38:51,670 --> 00:38:51,989 Yeah. 871 00:38:51,989 --> 00:38:52,710 And

that's what I said. 872 00:38:52,710 --> 00:38:54,710 I'm like, I'm like, would I have had kids? 873 00:38:54,710 --> 00:38:56,390 Probably, but then they wouldn't be you. 874 00:38:56,390 --> 00:38:57,349 And I like you. 875 00:38:57,945 --> 00:38:58,744 I love you. 876 00:38:58,744 --> 00:38:59,465 I want you. 877 00:38:59,465 --> 00:39:00,585 That's Or is that nature? 878 00:39:00,905 --> 00:39:01,305 What I know. 879 00:39:01,305 --> 00:39:02,265 This is what I'm comfortable with. 880 00:39:02,265 --> 00:39:02,825 So is it nature 881 00:39:02,744 --> 00:39:09,465 Well, or you always get the if you could take the red pill and go back 45 or go back to, 882 00:39:09,465 --> 00:39:14,140 like, the age of, like, 20 or go back to like the age of 10 or whatever the fucking case may 883 00:39:14,140 --> 00:39:14,380 be. 884 00:39:14,380 --> 00:39:15,180 Would you do it? 885 00:39:15,180 --> 00:39:18,220 And I'm like, live that fucking hell all over again? 886 00:39:18,220 --> 00:39:19,099 Hell no. 887 00:39:19,099 --> 00:39:20,220 Once is enough. 888 00:39:21,099 --> 00:39:27,724 Because I feel like even if you changed three things and your path might've been different, 889 00:39:27,724 --> 00:39:28,204 would it have 890 00:39:28,204 --> 00:39:29,244 been different good? 891 00:39:29,644 --> 00:39:31,325 Or would it have been different bad? 892 00:39:31,325 --> 00:39:32,525 And you don't know. 893 00:39:32,605 --> 00:39:35,565 The unknown is what is terrifying to all of us. 894 00:39:35,965 --> 00:39:39,805 So the majority of us are like, well, maybe we just don't poke the bear. 895 00:39:39,805 --> 00:39:41,005 Maybe we just don't do this. 896 00:39:41,150 --> 00:39:42,430 Maybe, you know what I mean? 897 00:39:42,430 --> 00:39:44,349 So for me, I agree with you. 898 00:39:44,349 --> 00:39:51,390 If you have regrets in your life, then you know, then at some level you have to sit there 899 00:39:51,390 --> 00:39:55,765 and say, then you're not happy and you need to find out why you're not happy. 900 00:39:55,765 --> 00:39:58,805 Do I regret having children with the man that I chose? 901 00:39:58,805 --> 00:40:00,325 No, I don't. 902 00:40:00,644 --> 00:40:02,164 I'm not with him anymore. 903 00:40:02,164 --> 00:40:04,085 I don't want to be with him anymore. 904 00:40:04,085 --> 00:40:05,844 I don't want anything to really do with him. 905 00:40:05,844 --> 00:40:08,644 Unfortunately, I have two kids with him, so I kind of got to see him. 906 00:40:09,030 --> 00:40:09,989 Do I hate him? 907 00:40:09,989 --> 00:40:11,110 No, I don't hate him. 908 00:40:11,110 --> 00:40:13,030 I hate who I hate what he does. 909 00:40:13,030 --> 00:40:15,349 I hate who's he sometimes becomes. 910 00:40:15,510 --> 00:40:18,550 But as a person, no, I don't hate him. 911 00:40:18,869 --> 00:40:19,750 He's a human. 912 00:40:19,750 --> 00:40:21,429 Sometimes, you know, sometimes people suck. 913 00:40:21,429 --> 00:40:22,390 It just is what it is. 914 00:40:22,390 --> 00:40:23,349 You know, life goes on. 915 00:40:23,349 --> 00:40:23,829 Sound like me. 916 00:40:24,344 --> 00:40:27,304 But you know, do I, would I have changed my major? 917 00:40:27,304 --> 00:40:28,744 Should I have gone to law school? 918 00:40:28,744 --> 00:40:29,304 Maybe. 919 00:40:29,304 --> 00:40:31,465 I had the opportunity to go to law school. 920 00:40:31,704 --> 00:40:36,824 You know, there's like, there's so many things that, you know, like, should I have been, was a 921 00:40:36,824 --> 00:40:37,864 tomboy growing up. 922 00:40:38,269 --> 00:40:39,309 I love sports. 923 00:40:39,309 --> 00:40:40,510 I was very athletic. 924 00:40:40,750 --> 00:40:42,510 I like to fight with the guys. 925 00:40:42,750 --> 00:40:45,309 You know, I didn't date a lot when I was younger. 926 00:40:45,309 --> 00:40:48,030 I wasn't, it wasn't a thing for me, right? 927 00:40:48,030 --> 00:40:49,309 I was more of a scrapper. 928 00:40:49,309 --> 00:40:50,909 I was, I was a mouthpiece. 929 00:40:50,909 --> 00:40:54,664 I, but I love doing sports and I love dance and I loved hanging out. 930 00:40:54,664 --> 00:40:57,945 I had more guy friends than I do girlfriends when I was younger. 931 00:40:57,945 --> 00:40:58,985 Now that's reversed now. 932 00:40:58,985 --> 00:41:01,545 Now I have more girlfriends than I do guy friends. 933 00:41:01,545 --> 00:41:06,960 But I will tell you, it's, it's, it's hard being a woman in a woman's scenario, like being 934 00:41:06,960 --> 00:41:08,239 surrounded by other women. 935 00:41:08,239 --> 00:41:10,720 There are, there, there are different types of women. 936 00:41:10,720 --> 00:41:13,519 I can't, I don't know how many types there are because there's lots of us. 937 00:41:13,519 --> 00:41:18,744 But I mean, I will tell you there's the women who are empowering of other women. 938 00:41:19,704 --> 00:41:24,105 There are the women who want to step on everybody they can to get above. 939 00:41:24,105 --> 00:41:28,824 There are women who will comply and be complacent to those around her, which people 940 00:41:28,824 --> 00:41:30,265 will say, well, she's people pleaser. 941 00:41:30,549 --> 00:41:34,469 But all, all of those types of women can be people pleasers in their own way, different 942 00:41:34,469 --> 00:41:35,429 parts of their life. 943 00:41:35,429 --> 00:41:36,549 Different ways you can do it. 944 00:41:36,549 --> 00:41:40,710 But I went to see a feminist speaking long time ago in my early twenties. 945 00:41:40,710 --> 00:41:46,309 And the one line of everything she said that evening, the one line was women need to stop 946 00:41:47,054 --> 00:41:49,454 pulling on each other's skirt tails. 947 00:41:49,775 --> 00:41:51,375 Need to be uplifting everybody. 948 00:41:51,375 --> 00:41:54,735 And I walked away as that young 20 year old going, that's right. 949 00:41:54,894 --> 00:41:56,655 And I just made it that's right. 950 00:41:56,655 --> 00:41:57,775 Just end of story. 951 00:41:57,775 --> 00:41:58,574 That's

right. 952 00:41:58,655 --> 00:42:04,980 And be your best version of you and make the best of any situation you find yourself in. 953 00:42:05,300 --> 00:42:05,619 Yes. 954 00:42:05,619 --> 00:42:10,420 And if you find yourself in a situation that is not making you happy and you you're not being 955 00:42:10,420 --> 00:42:12,464 the best version of you, get out. 956 00:42:12,464 --> 00:42:17,105 Don't be that person that does the same thing for forty five years as miserable as hell 957 00:42:17,344 --> 00:42:18,304 because guess what? 958 00:42:18,304 --> 00:42:19,344 You're gonna die early. 959 00:42:19,824 --> 00:42:21,984 Just wake up and make a change. 960 00:42:21,984 --> 00:42:23,264 This is not working for you. 961 00:42:23,264 --> 00:42:24,320 Like, not working. 962 00:42:24,320 --> 00:42:27,680 If you're waking up every morning and you're dreading going to work for forty five years, 963 00:42:28,320 --> 00:42:29,360 that didn't work for you. 964 00:42:29,360 --> 00:42:31,680 Like you should have stopped that shit a long time ago. 965 00:42:32,000 --> 00:42:32,320 Right? 966 00:42:32,320 --> 00:42:32,719 Right. 967 00:42:32,719 --> 00:42:35,119 If you find yourself unhappy in a situation or 968 00:42:35,360 --> 00:42:35,760 Change it. 969 00:42:35,835 --> 00:42:36,474 Change it. 970 00:42:36,474 --> 00:42:38,714 Or you finally, you like, so it's not a regret. 971 00:42:38,714 --> 00:42:40,315 You found you made a decision where you're going. 972 00:42:40,315 --> 00:42:41,835 That didn't work out so great. 973 00:42:41,835 --> 00:42:44,554 I guess I got to do something different tomorrow, but it's not a regret. 974 00:42:44,554 --> 00:42:46,155 It's like, well, that didn't work out so great. 975 00:42:46,155 --> 00:42:50,489 And hopefully I don't do that ever again because it's if it didn't work out this time, 976 00:42:50,489 --> 00:42:52,170 it's not gonna work out the next 10 times. 977 00:42:52,730 --> 00:42:54,730 And that's what I try and teach my kids. 978 00:42:54,730 --> 00:42:56,650 I'm like, hey, okay, there's mistakes and then 979 00:42:56,650 --> 00:42:57,449 there's patterns. 980 00:42:57,449 --> 00:42:58,969 You gotta ask yourself which one it is. 981 00:42:58,969 --> 00:43:00,969 If it's a mistake, it's a lesson you learn, you do better. 982 00:43:01,625 --> 00:43:02,664 Or you don't do that. 983 00:43:02,664 --> 00:43:04,264 Or, you know, that's not what to do. 984 00:43:04,264 --> 00:43:04,744 You learn. 985 00:43:04,744 --> 00:43:09,465 It's a learning aspect, but if you continuously repeat the same shit, it's now a pattern. 986 00:43:10,184 --> 00:43:11,945 Einstein would say it's insanity. 987 00:43:12,505 --> 00:43:13,224 I mean, 988 00:43:13,385 --> 00:43:15,784 Doing the same thing over and over again, expecting different results. 989 00:43:15,960 --> 00:43:17,079 That's, that's what he says. 990 00:43:17,079 --> 00:43:18,679 The definition of insanity is. 991 00:43:18,839 --> 00:43:22,840 Well, frigging is, but I mean, most of us women do it with our relationships, right? 992 00:43:23,239 --> 00:43:23,960 Lots of us do. 993 00:43:23,960 --> 00:43:25,079 That's a very truthful. 994 00:43:25,079 --> 00:43:27,480 It's like, what am I doing? 995 00:43:27,480 --> 00:43:28,440 But the other thing 996 00:43:28,440 --> 00:43:32,945 with relationships, and again, this goes, this is both personal and professional, depending on 997 00:43:32,945 --> 00:43:33,585 what you're doing. 998 00:43:33,585 --> 00:43:40,625 It's really key to know your audience, whether that's a girlfriend or it's a friend or it's 999 00:43:40,625 --> 00:43:42,864 whoever, your customer. 1000 00:43:43,510 --> 00:43:48,789 Knowing your audience, try to figure out what makes them tick so that that'll help grow the 1001 00:43:48,789 --> 00:43:51,190 relationship with them. 1002 00:43:51,190 --> 00:43:54,950 So, and lots of people don't take time to try and do that. 1003 00:43:54,950 --> 00:43:56,070 Like what makes this person tick? 1004 00:43:56,070 --> 00:43:59,804 And it doesn't need to be a great big conversation, but like, I know you have two 1005 00:43:59,804 --> 00:44:00,204 children. 1006 00:44:00,204 --> 00:44:02,925 So next time I meet you, I'm going to ask you, how are your kids? 1007 00:44:02,925 --> 00:44:04,684 I might not remember their names anymore. 1008 00:44:04,684 --> 00:44:05,724 It's fixed at my age. 1009 00:44:05,724 --> 00:44:10,445 It's too much thing, but I do remember you have two and I can ask you how they are. 1010 00:44:10,445 --> 00:44:11,965 And that means you make it personal. 1011 00:44:13,630 --> 00:44:17,550 And our customer, I knew they were going to the island for the weekend. 1012 00:44:18,590 --> 00:44:22,349 So first thing I say when I meet them on the Tuesday is, how was your trip? 1013 00:44:23,230 --> 00:44:27,389 And then I twenty minutes later, he's still telling me about his trip, but it's okay. 1014 00:44:27,525 --> 00:44:28,085 Yeah. 1015 00:44:28,085 --> 00:44:28,644 It's okay. 1016 00:44:28,644 --> 00:44:29,284 But it's true. 1017 00:44:29,284 --> 00:44:33,605 It's taking a genuine interest in the person. 1018 00:44:34,005 --> 00:44:38,404 And my dad says, as a result of that, Lisa, that same day he approved the job that I'm 1019 00:44:38,404 --> 00:44:39,204 quoting him on. 1020 00:44:39,204 --> 00:44:43,150 So I believe it doesn't happen all the time as you're back to you talking about our souls. 1021 00:44:43,150 --> 00:44:47,230 There's some people that are just our souls, but this is a really nice man and you know 1022 00:44:47,230 --> 00:44:48,510 that's what makes him tick. 1023 00:44:48,910 --> 00:44:50,910 So you play that card. 1024 00:44:50,989 --> 00:44:53,390 You know what's gonna make him happy because you're mad at 1025 00:44:53,390 --> 00:44:53,950 Well, that's it. 1026 00:44:54,335 --> 00:45:00,255 And people, people want to buy and do business with people who understand them or feel like 1027 00:45:00,255 --> 00:45:01,454

they're being understood. 1028 00:45:01,454 --> 00:45:02,494 You know what I mean? 1029 00:45:02,494 --> 00:45:04,094 So, and that's, and that's a thing. 1030 00:45:04,094 --> 00:45:10,170 Like, I mean, like when I do, so it was funny cause I was, whenever I'm giving baskets to my 1031 00:45:10,170 --> 00:45:15,769 property managers that I do work with or the boards, cause I will give, I'll give gifts to 1032 00:45:15,769 --> 00:45:16,409 the boards. 1033 00:45:16,409 --> 00:45:18,489 So everything is done is handpicked. 1034 00:45:18,489 --> 00:45:19,369 It's hand tailored. 1035 00:45:19,369 --> 00:45:22,570 It's not, it's not just a gift basket from Costco. 1036 00:45:22,570 --> 00:45:24,250 I bought these in bulk. 1037 00:45:24,735 --> 00:45:25,454 It's not that. 1038 00:45:25,454 --> 00:45:27,695 And I'm not I'm not giving shit to anybody that does that. 1039 00:45:27,695 --> 00:45:29,055 That's just an easy thing to say. 1040 00:45:29,055 --> 00:45:29,775 We're thinking about you. 1041 00:45:29,775 --> 00:45:30,175 Here you go. 1042 00:45:30,175 --> 00:45:31,135 It's Christmas season. 1043 00:45:31,135 --> 00:45:31,454 Whatever. 1044 00:45:31,454 --> 00:45:31,934 Me? 1045 00:45:31,934 --> 00:45:32,494 No. 1046 00:45:32,735 --> 00:45:34,655 I'm like, he has two dogs. 1047 00:45:34,655 --> 00:45:35,775 He has two boys. 1048 00:45:35,775 --> 00:45:37,055 She has two kitties. 1049 00:45:37,055 --> 00:45:39,934 She I I'm making sure everything is picked. 1050 00:45:40,210 --> 00:45:41,570 She has knee problems. 1051 00:45:41,570 --> 00:45:43,010 He has anxiety problems. 1052 00:45:43,010 --> 00:45:45,410 I'm gonna make sure that I have because I make oils for that. 1053 00:45:45,410 --> 00:45:49,570 I make like salves for the dog's paws when they walk or for the cats if they go outside. 1054 00:45:49,570 --> 00:45:50,050 That's cool. 1055 00:45:50,050 --> 00:45:51,809 You know, I make all these really cool things. 1056 00:45:51,809 --> 00:45:56,414 I'm really big on wellness, so I will make sure that those baskets have a whole bunch of stuff. 1057 00:45:56,414 --> 00:45:59,215 There was a year where I handed out cannabis bath bombs. 1058 00:45:59,215 --> 00:46:03,454 Let me tell you those things were freaking, they went like crazy and people were like, oh 1059 00:46:03,454 --> 00:46:05,775 my God, are you the lady that gives out the cannabis bath bombs? 1060 00:46:05,775 --> 00:46:06,974 And I'm like, depends. 1061 00:46:06,974 --> 00:46:08,575 Are you a property management firm? 1062 00:46:08,575 --> 00:46:11,859 Because you probably need a cannabis bomb to chill 1063 00:46:11,859 --> 00:46:13,460 the That's fuck funny. 1064 00:46:13,460 --> 00:46:14,179 And they loved them. 1065 00:46:14,179 --> 00:46:18,019 They, they went like super fast and I mean, and yes, cannabis was legal. 1066 00:46:18,739 --> 00:46:20,579 So, you know, imagine. 1067 00:46:20,980 --> 00:46:24,019 I know, but I want to make sure because you know, this gets broadcast. 1068 00:46:24,164 --> 00:46:27,844 I'm just, I'm not telling you, I'm telling all the, you know, all the authorities that be it 1069 00:46:27,844 --> 00:46:29,765 was legal at the time. 1070 00:46:29,765 --> 00:46:31,125 It's still, because it's still legal. 1071 00:46:31,364 --> 00:46:36,085 But you know, I love doing that where you pay attention to people because I want to be paid. 1072 00:46:36,739 --> 00:46:39,780 Technically you treat people the way you want to be treated, but also if you're good at 1073 00:46:39,780 --> 00:46:41,380 sales, you pay attention to that. 1074 00:46:41,539 --> 00:46:45,539 But it's not just the sales aspect where I want to get to know three, four things about you 1075 00:46:45,539 --> 00:46:46,900 that I can fucking penetrate. 1076 00:46:46,900 --> 00:46:47,859 And then that's it. 1077 00:46:47,859 --> 00:46:51,219 I want that relationship to continue and I want us to get to know each other. 1078 00:46:51,405 --> 00:46:51,965 But yeah, 1079 00:46:51,965 --> 00:46:52,525 I wanna know 1080 00:46:52,684 --> 00:46:53,405 It becomes that. 1081 00:46:53,405 --> 00:46:56,605 It works for your work, but then you look forward to seeing them and you look forward to 1082 00:46:56,605 --> 00:46:57,485 talking to them. 1083 00:46:57,965 --> 00:46:58,445 Right? 1084 00:46:58,445 --> 00:47:00,284 Because you're not just talking about that. 1085 00:47:00,284 --> 00:47:04,525 You're talking about them and they're asking about you and it becomes the relationship. 1086 00:47:04,525 --> 00:47:06,925 It's not somebody you're out for dinner with or to the movies with. 1087 00:47:06,925 --> 00:47:07,164 Right. 1088 00:47:07,139 --> 00:47:07,779 Yeah. 1089 00:47:07,779 --> 00:47:11,940 You develop that wonderful rapport with people, male, female, whatever. 1090 00:47:12,019 --> 00:47:16,260 And you know, like so many of my clients, I will know their coffee order or their tea 1091 00:47:16,260 --> 00:47:17,940 order, and I will just bring it. 1092 00:47:18,179 --> 00:47:20,179 And they're so happy with life about that. 1093 00:47:20,179 --> 00:47:21,155 So my battery 1094 00:47:21,155 --> 00:47:21,954 is dying. 1095 00:47:21,954 --> 00:47:22,114 Sorry. 1096 00:47:22,114 --> 00:47:22,835 Have to move. 1097 00:47:23,554 --> 00:47:24,275 Your what? 1098 00:47:24,275 --> 00:47:25,795 The battery is dying on my laptop. 1099 00:47:25,795 --> 00:47:26,195 So I need, 1100 00:47:26,195 --> 00:47:27,875 I'm just mobile for a moment. 1101 00:47:28,514 --> 00:47:29,474 We're moving. 1102 00:47:30,195 --> 00:47:31,554 We're doing what we gotta do. 1103 00:47:31,554 --> 00:47:32,275 We're doing good. 1104 00:47:32,275 --> 00:47:32,594 Gotta do. 1105 00:47:33,150 --> 00:47:33,869 Plug her in. 1106 00:47:33,869 --> 00:47:35,230 Get out on the highway. 1107 00:47:35,230 --> 00:47:38,510 I'm just gonna close my door anyways, because my kids are on their way home speaking of 1108 00:47:38,510 --> 00:47:39,070 children. 1109 00:47:39,230 --> 00:47:41,710

And then they're gonna be loud and I'm gonna be like, there we go. 1110 00:47:41,710 --> 00:47:42,829 We both had to move. 1111 00:47:42,829 --> 00:47:43,710 Life happens. 1112 00:47:43,710 --> 00:47:45,949 Gotta tell you the story about this helmet up here. 1113 00:47:46,429 --> 00:47:47,469 Think a funny story. 1114 00:47:48,264 --> 00:47:50,425 Women embracing women and lifting women up. 1115 00:47:50,425 --> 00:47:55,625 So I worked for a small company in healthcare and we got bought out by a power company, like 1116 00:47:55,625 --> 00:47:57,385 a big, big, big, big, big company. 1117 00:47:58,505 --> 00:48:03,970 There's a difference between a company of 150 total in the country to a company of 10,000 1118 00:48:03,970 --> 00:48:04,690 employees. 1119 00:48:06,050 --> 00:48:09,329 So it's pretty intimidating and I don't get intimidated, but it is intimidating. 1120 00:48:09,489 --> 00:48:14,130 Anyway, this wonderful woman, her name is Sandy as well, coincidentally, her husband was a 1121 00:48:14,130 --> 00:48:14,849 football coach. 1122 00:48:15,734 --> 00:48:20,934 So she came into the office one day with this helmet for me because she wanted me to have 1123 00:48:20,934 --> 00:48:25,414 protection as I took on this great big monster of a company. 1124 00:48:25,414 --> 00:48:27,174 And I just thought it was the funniest thing ever. 1125 00:48:27,174 --> 00:48:31,750 I thought it was so, cause as part of the smaller team coming in, it's intimidating 1126 00:48:31,750 --> 00:48:33,190 because am I going to have a job? 1127 00:48:33,429 --> 00:48:34,469 Am I not going to have a job? 1128 00:48:34,469 --> 00:48:35,510 Is anybody going to have a job? 1129 00:48:35,510 --> 00:48:39,590 So I just thought that was a really sweet thing for her to do to provide encouragement. 1130 00:48:39,590 --> 00:48:40,230 She didn't know me. 1131 00:48:40,230 --> 00:48:44,885 She only met me three days ago, but it's another woman providing that woman support. 1132 00:48:44,965 --> 00:48:45,844 You're going to be okay. 1133 00:48:45,844 --> 00:48:46,565 Here's a helmet. 1134 00:48:46,565 --> 00:48:47,925 Put it on whenever you need to. 1135 00:48:48,885 --> 00:48:49,925 I've never had it on. 1136 00:48:49,925 --> 00:48:50,565 I did one. 1137 00:48:50,565 --> 00:48:54,164 You know, and I like when I go out to places and I meet people, because I do a lot of 1138 00:48:54,164 --> 00:48:58,119 networking stuff, and I say that to women, I'm like, oh my God, you're killing it. 1139 00:48:58,119 --> 00:49:02,360 Now, I also don't have a problem chastising women who are bitches. 1140 00:49:02,599 --> 00:49:04,039 I also don't have that problem either. 1141 00:49:04,039 --> 00:49:07,559 So, because some people are like, oh, Lisa, they're like, like, I don't know. 1142 00:49:07,559 --> 00:49:09,405 There's there's so much chatter that goes on. 1143 00:49:09,405 --> 00:49:09,565 Right? 1144 00:49:09,565 --> 00:49:12,285 And they're like, oh, they're like, don't piss Lisa

off because she'll just tell you straight 1145 00:49:12,285 --> 00:49:12,925 to your face. 1146 00:49:12,925 --> 00:49:15,244 Because I've I've had people who are like, hey, how's it going? 1147 00:49:15,244 --> 00:49:16,605 And I'm like, no, we're not friends. 1148 00:49:16,925 --> 00:49:19,565 Well, I I just, like, just point blank. 1149 00:49:19,565 --> 00:49:20,684 I'm like, we're not hugging. 1150 00:49:20,684 --> 00:49:22,340 Like, we're not like, don't fucking me. 1151 00:49:22,340 --> 00:49:23,700 Keep your energy on your side. 1152 00:49:23,699 --> 00:49:25,380 Appreciate honesty. 1153 00:49:25,380 --> 00:49:27,780 I appreciate honesty, like in a nice way. 1154 00:49:27,780 --> 00:49:29,460 It's just be honest. 1155 00:49:29,460 --> 00:49:32,420 If you're a good person, we don't have to always get along. 1156 00:49:32,420 --> 00:49:36,019 I don't have to agree with everything, but if you're ethical, you've got integrity, you've 1157 00:49:36,019 --> 00:49:41,655 got dignity and you are, and you, and you are someone who is about uplifting other people as 1158 00:49:41,655 --> 00:49:42,135 well. 1159 00:49:42,295 --> 00:49:43,574 You've got my support. 1160 00:49:43,574 --> 00:49:44,694 I don't have to like you. 1161 00:49:44,694 --> 00:49:46,214 Don't get angry with me too. 1162 00:49:46,214 --> 00:49:50,614 If my, if my opinion is not the same as yours, why is there such a level of anger around that? 1163 00:49:50,775 --> 00:49:55,250 What's wrong with me just simply saying, I don't know if I agree with you or, and I really 1164 00:49:55,250 --> 00:49:59,090 don't want to have the conversation because I don't want this to become an argument because 1165 00:49:59,329 --> 00:50:02,769 it's a topic that I'm probably never going to agree with you on. 1166 00:50:02,769 --> 00:50:04,369 That doesn't mean that we're not friends. 1167 00:50:04,369 --> 00:50:05,730 That doesn't mean I don't love you. 1168 00:50:05,730 --> 00:50:08,130 It means nothing except I don't agree with that. 1169 00:50:08,130 --> 00:50:08,289 Period. 1170 00:50:08,534 --> 00:50:09,494 Hard stop. 1171 00:50:09,494 --> 00:50:10,375 A 100%. 1172 00:50:10,375 --> 00:50:11,414 Let's leave it off the table. 1173 00:50:11,414 --> 00:50:12,454 We don't even need to talk about it. 1174 00:50:12,454 --> 00:50:13,335 It's irrelevant. 1175 00:50:13,894 --> 00:50:14,454 Right. 1176 00:50:14,694 --> 00:50:15,894 So, well, that's it. 1177 00:50:15,894 --> 00:50:16,295 Right? 1178 00:50:16,534 --> 00:50:18,775 So that's also frustrating in today's world. 1179 00:50:18,934 --> 00:50:24,359 How some of the stuff that's going on around us, wreaking such havoc on relationships 1180 00:50:24,359 --> 00:50:28,679 generally within families, within marriages, within friendships. 1181 00:50:28,679 --> 00:50:31,960 And it's just makes me incredibly sad. 1182 00:50:33,000 --> 00:50:33,400 Right? 1183 00:50:33,400 --> 00:50:34,920 Like, come on you guys. 1184 00:50:34,920 --> 00:50:41,215 I mean, laugh at it, learn from it, keep moving forward, keep a smile on your face. 1185 00:50:41,215 --> 00:50:45,775 So last night with a bunch of women, we went to see, menopause, the musical. 1186 00:50:46,414 --> 00:50:47,614 It's coming your way. 1187 00:50:47,614 --> 00:50:49,615 It is hilarious. 1188 00:50:50,175 --> 00:50:57,590 And women, so it's all singing, but they changed the lyrics to talk So about very 1189 00:50:57,590 --> 00:51:02,949 uplifting to being, be in a room with however many women were there, all with smiles on their 1190 00:51:02,949 --> 00:51:08,845 faces, all supporting each other, all laughing and smiling at each other, high fiving. 1191 00:51:09,005 --> 00:51:10,285 Just, it was wonderful. 1192 00:51:11,005 --> 00:51:12,125 So it's called Menopause? 1193 00:51:12,125 --> 00:51:13,485 Menopause the Musical. 1194 00:51:13,724 --> 00:51:15,164 I think it's on its way to Calgary. 1195 00:51:15,164 --> 00:51:16,845 Menopause the Musical. 1196 00:51:16,925 --> 00:51:18,285 I love that. 1197 00:51:18,765 --> 00:51:23,519 So I went to the first one in Vegas, kinda, I was in Vegas with a friend and we didn't have 1198 00:51:23,519 --> 00:51:24,239 anywhere to go. 1199 00:51:24,239 --> 00:51:26,000 So we thought, oh, let's pop in and check this out. 1200 00:51:26,000 --> 00:51:27,200 It's only $60. 1201 00:51:28,079 --> 00:51:32,079 And we came out of there going, well, we stumble on that was something wonderful. 1202 00:51:32,640 --> 00:51:33,280 Holy moly. 1203 00:51:33,755 --> 00:51:37,195 And then we saw that the second one was coming to Edmonton. 1204 00:51:37,275 --> 00:51:40,235 So my girlfriend organized 25 of us went crazy. 1205 00:51:40,235 --> 00:51:42,155 So all my girlfriends are in that age range. 1206 00:51:42,155 --> 00:51:45,035 So I mean, like it's not going be hard to get a whole bunch of us together. 1207 00:51:45,035 --> 00:51:46,474 Maybe we'll just get a limo and go. 1208 00:51:46,590 --> 00:51:47,230 It was fun. 1209 00:51:47,230 --> 00:51:50,590 I mean, in our age group, our group ranges from, I think the youngest is 50. 1210 00:51:51,070 --> 00:51:54,910 And then I think we're at the 72 mark at the other end. 1211 00:51:54,910 --> 00:51:55,309 Yeah. 1212 00:51:55,309 --> 00:51:55,869 And every age 1213 00:51:55,869 --> 00:52:01,309 is nice when you get like, yeah, when you get a nice mix, a blend of women and ages and stuff, 1214 00:52:01,309 --> 00:52:01,914 and that's fun. 1215 00:52:01,914 --> 00:52:03,355 You know, I mean, we all go through it. 1216 00:52:03,355 --> 00:52:04,394 You know what I mean? 1217 00:52:04,394 --> 00:52:07,594 Like, that's the other, that's the other part of me that really struggles with like some of 1218 00:52:07,594 --> 00:52:12,315 the, like the extreme left rhetoric when they're like, when they talk about, you know, 1219 00:52:12,315 --> 00:52:14,234 like, oh, well, we all go through this. 1220 00:52:14,234 --> 00:52:19,250 It doesn't matter whether like, I'm a really big

trans supporter, but I'm also not 1221 00:52:19,250 --> 00:52:22,210 completely crazy when it comes to a woman. 1222 00:52:22,210 --> 00:52:28,369 If you are a trans male, there's a chance if you haven't gone through all of the post or all 1223 00:52:28,369 --> 00:52:33,494 the surgeries that you're going to go through what women go through, which is menopause all 1224 00:52:33,494 --> 00:52:34,214 of that, right? 1225 00:52:34,214 --> 00:52:35,574 And you still have a uterus. 1226 00:52:35,574 --> 00:52:38,934 You still have all of those things where you can get cancers from them, but you can be a 1227 00:52:38,934 --> 00:52:40,934 trans male and that that happens. 1228 00:52:40,934 --> 00:52:43,174 And I'm, I'm supportive of that idea, right? 1229 00:52:43,174 --> 00:52:45,094 That that happens and that people can be trans. 1230 00:52:45,094 --> 00:52:47,335 I'm not like, Oh, everyone's like, Oh, that's a mental health issue. 1231 00:52:47,335 --> 00:52:52,179 And I'm like, maybe to you, but to me, you know, they were born and this is how they feel 1232 00:52:52,179 --> 00:52:53,780 and I'm not going to dog them for it. 1233 00:52:53,780 --> 00:52:55,300 I'm not going to tell them what they have. 1234 00:52:55,300 --> 00:52:57,699 I don't want them to tell me what I have to do. 1235 00:52:57,859 --> 00:53:00,019 So I'm not going to tell them what they have to do. 1236 00:53:00,260 --> 00:53:05,264 If they are a nice person and respectful and sweet and kind, you're welcome in my circle. 1237 00:53:05,264 --> 00:53:08,304 You're welcome anywhere in and around me and my family at any time. I 1238 00:53:08,224 --> 00:53:10,545 I don't have to understand it. 1239 00:53:10,864 --> 00:53:12,065 Just have to be kind. 1240 00:53:12,625 --> 00:53:14,625 I just need to be kind and respectful. 1241 00:53:15,105 --> 00:53:15,824 Well, that's it. 1242 00:53:15,824 --> 00:53:15,905 Right? 1243 00:53:16,839 --> 00:53:18,920 I mean, many straight people do you know are assholes? 1244 00:53:18,920 --> 00:53:19,800 There's a whole bunch of them. 1245 00:53:19,800 --> 00:53:20,679 Jesus Christ. 1246 00:53:20,679 --> 00:53:21,079 No. 1247 00:53:21,079 --> 00:53:23,079 And I think we're getting better at those topics. 1248 00:53:23,159 --> 00:53:23,640 Right? 1249 00:53:24,280 --> 00:53:24,679 Right. 1250 00:53:24,679 --> 00:53:25,719 I think so too. 1251 00:53:26,039 --> 00:53:30,199 Having an adult child has really opened up my world to beliefs and systems. 1252 00:53:30,199 --> 00:53:35,594 Like I listened to him because he's got things that he believes in or views differently than 1253 00:53:35,594 --> 00:53:36,074 me. 1254 00:53:36,074 --> 00:53:40,554 And it's so much fun to talk to him as an adult now and listen to him and go, I use this line a 1255 00:53:40,554 --> 00:53:40,875 lot. 1256 00:53:40,875 --> 00:53:42,875 You know, I've never thought of it that way. 1257 00:53:42,875 --> 00:53:48,139 You just changed my thinking because I never ever thought of that before, because you live 1258 00:53:48,139 --> 00:53:50,300 in a world that's different than mine. 1259 00:53:50,300 --> 00:53:52,059 It's thirty years behind mine. 1260 00:53:52,059 --> 00:53:53,500 And that's really interesting. 1261 00:53:53,500 --> 00:53:54,860 Thank you for telling me that. 1262 00:53:55,019 --> 00:53:56,539 I'm going to think on that now. 1263 00:53:56,539 --> 00:53:56,780 Right. 1264 00:53:57,695 --> 00:54:01,934 And so I love hearing new, like I'm, I'm a person who does embrace change. 1265 00:54:01,934 --> 00:54:06,175 Getting worse, but generally at this point I'm getting more stuck in my ways, but generally I 1266 00:54:06,175 --> 00:54:06,815 embrace change. 1267 00:54:06,815 --> 00:54:07,695 I like to listen to it. 1268 00:54:07,695 --> 00:54:08,894 I like to try to understand it. 1269 00:54:08,894 --> 00:54:11,389 If it doesn't make sense to me, it doesn't make sense to me. 1270 00:54:11,389 --> 00:54:15,389 I don't need to do what you said, like be a left wing and scream about it. 1271 00:54:15,389 --> 00:54:19,789 Go, you know, that doesn't make any sense to me, but let's, let's, let's wait and see how it 1272 00:54:19,789 --> 00:54:20,429 plays out. 1273 00:54:21,549 --> 00:54:22,989 Always speak out of mind too. 1274 00:54:23,655 --> 00:54:24,934 Yeah, I agree with you. 1275 00:54:24,934 --> 00:54:26,215 Like, let's see how it's going to play out. 1276 00:54:26,215 --> 00:54:30,855 Know, like I, I always find it interesting, you know, so I had a friend of mine on Facebook and 1277 00:54:30,855 --> 00:54:35,815 he put a post up about the UPC rhetoric of what's going on and that he's very upset about 1278 00:54:36,030 --> 00:54:38,590 But he's that he wants he doesn't want all this hate. 1279 00:54:38,590 --> 00:54:42,269 He doesn't want all this division that he wants, you know, he wants that the UPC 1280 00:54:42,269 --> 00:54:46,510 government is more supportive and inclusive and stop doing all this crazy shit. 1281 00:54:46,750 --> 00:54:48,750 And there's a lot of conservatives that agree. 1282 00:54:49,085 --> 00:54:50,764 It's not just liberals. 1283 00:54:50,764 --> 00:54:54,684 There's lots of conservatives that say the same thing, but he happens to be liberal. 1284 00:54:54,684 --> 00:55:00,125 And so right away someone comes into his post and says classic liberal. 1285 00:55:00,204 --> 00:55:02,045 And I'm like, you know, and even if 1286 00:55:02,045 --> 00:55:06,599 you don't agree with the politics, why are we attacking the person? 1287 00:55:06,599 --> 00:55:08,840 So I'll, I'll use Justin Trudeau as an example. 1288 00:55:08,840 --> 00:55:12,440 I wasn't necessarily in his court, but he is a human being. 1289 00:55:13,159 --> 00:55:18,519 The way he was personally attacked on social media is totally unjust, unfair behavior. 1290 00:55:19,844 --> 00:55:22,965 It's just absolutely behavior you don't want to put out there. 1291 00:55:22,965 --> 00:55:27,204 Like the man, the man would probably be

quite interesting to go sit down, have a beer with 1292 00:55:27,204 --> 00:55:27,764 and a chat with. 1293 00:55:27,764 --> 00:55:29,445 He's probably a really nice guy. 1294 00:55:29,844 --> 00:55:30,164 Yeah. 1295 00:55:30,164 --> 00:55:32,085 I just don't, I didn't agree with his politics, 1296 00:55:32,085 --> 00:55:33,525 but that doesn't mean he's a bad human. 1297 00:55:34,190 --> 00:55:35,070 Means I disagree 1298 00:55:36,269 --> 00:55:36,829 with him. 1299 00:55:37,950 --> 00:55:38,990 But here's the thing. 1300 00:55:38,990 --> 00:55:43,710 When I say centered thinking on both sides of the aisle, that it's very much centered 1301 00:55:43,710 --> 00:55:49,684 thinking, which means that when I I voted for Justin the first round, I was so excited. 1302 00:55:49,684 --> 00:55:52,565 I was like somebody who's not like a fucking 100 years old. 1303 00:55:52,565 --> 00:55:55,445 Like I hate to say it, but all of our politicians tend to be a lot older. 1304 00:55:55,445 --> 00:55:59,925 And so I was excited that there was a younger person coming in, that they were going to 1305 00:55:59,925 --> 00:56:01,045 understand more stuff. 1306 00:56:01,045 --> 00:56:05,610 They were going to be more, you know, more inclusive and more understanding and, you know, 1307 00:56:05,610 --> 00:56:07,210 be a little bit more fucking hip. 1308 00:56:07,210 --> 00:56:08,489 And I love that. 1309 00:56:08,489 --> 00:56:11,610 And, you know, and I like the whole idea of it. 1310 00:56:11,610 --> 00:56:15,929 Now, the first couple of years, I was like, Jesus Christ, Justin, what are you doing? 1311 00:56:16,554 --> 00:56:21,994 And then, you know, and then I watched this shit show play out and I was like, oh God. 1312 00:56:22,155 --> 00:56:25,835 And that, but I'll tell you, he started, he was okay. 1313 00:56:26,235 --> 00:56:33,119 He ended strong, but everything in between, I was not I really wasn't. 1314 00:56:33,119 --> 00:56:38,400 I was very disappointed, especially someone who was, you know, a very, a very big Justin 1315 00:56:38,400 --> 00:56:40,320 Trudeau supporter in the beginning. 1316 00:56:40,320 --> 00:56:44,719 I was really quite upset that that's because I'm centered and Justin went too far left. 1317 00:56:45,704 --> 00:56:46,744 And I'm very centered. 1318 00:56:46,744 --> 00:56:48,425 Where people are like, Oh, you sound conservative. 1319 00:56:48,425 --> 00:56:50,184 I'm like, no, I sound like a person with a brain in my head. 1320 00:56:50,184 --> 00:56:55,625 He did some kind of questionable things as well along the way, which you kind of go. 1321 00:56:56,184 --> 00:56:56,905 Questionable? 1322 00:56:56,905 --> 00:56:57,545 Are you ethical? 1323 00:56:57,545 --> 00:56:57,945 Polite. 1324 00:56:57,945 --> 00:56:59,945 So that's the whole ethical thing, right? 1325 00:56:59,945 --> 00:57:02,070 You go on, okay, turn off. 1326 00:57:02,389 --> 00:57:06,069 But again, then as he's a political leader, do not attack the personal man. 1327 00:57:06,069 --> 00:57:07,269 Leave his family alone. 1328 00:57:07,429 --> 00:57:10,069 Leave his You wife know, it's happening. 1329 00:57:10,069 --> 00:57:14,789 This is not as a Justin Trudeau, but leave Keith Urban and Nicole alone. 1330 00:57:15,385 --> 00:57:16,825 Divorces are hard. 1331 00:57:16,985 --> 00:57:19,625 Why is all this crap coming on Facebook? 1332 00:57:19,625 --> 00:57:23,785 If you go and look at my social media, I only do Facebook unless it's just like little funny 1333 00:57:23,785 --> 00:57:24,425 clips. 1334 00:57:24,905 --> 00:57:29,224 Very rarely do I make any statements on Facebook about anything that's not light. 1335 00:57:30,599 --> 00:57:33,880 You'll go, if you went on there right now, you'd find out I made a really strong posting 1336 00:57:33,880 --> 00:57:36,119 about how I feel about what's going on with the teachers. 1337 00:57:36,440 --> 00:57:38,920 But yeah, it's not hateful speech. 1338 00:57:38,920 --> 00:57:39,960 It's I don't understand. 1339 00:57:39,960 --> 00:57:41,320 Here's why this is important. 1340 00:57:41,480 --> 00:57:42,440 Blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. 1341 00:57:43,324 --> 00:57:44,684 I was an asshole on my podcast. 1342 00:57:44,684 --> 00:57:45,404 I'm not even going lie. 1343 00:57:45,404 --> 00:57:46,284 I screamed face off. 1344 00:57:46,284 --> 00:57:47,644 I was like, you motherfucker. 1345 00:57:47,644 --> 00:57:48,844 I was so mad. 1346 00:57:49,164 --> 00:57:50,125 I was so mad. 1347 00:57:50,125 --> 00:57:53,484 I don't like the, the, the Alberta Next panel. 1348 00:57:53,484 --> 00:57:54,844 I think it's an absolute waste of money. 1349 00:57:55,179 --> 00:57:57,019 I think it's an absolute waste of time. 1350 00:57:57,019 --> 00:58:00,460 Their moderator, I still don't know his name. 1351 00:58:00,460 --> 00:58:02,059 I've heard his name a thousand times, 1352 00:58:02,059 --> 00:58:04,059 but I'm someone that I get in there. 1353 00:58:04,860 --> 00:58:05,820 Do you want and you know what? 1354 00:58:05,820 --> 00:58:10,460 I said it on my last, I said it on my last podcast and it's, it is so, it is so true. 1355 00:58:11,445 --> 00:58:16,244 If I don't remember your name, there is a good, there's a good chance. 1356 00:58:16,244 --> 00:58:17,765 I don't think you're important enough. 1357 00:58:17,765 --> 00:58:19,925 That's, I, you don't do that on purpose. 1358 00:58:19,925 --> 00:58:23,525 I'm sure I don't do it on purpose either, but yeah, it really is. 1359 00:58:23,525 --> 00:58:24,805 I've never thought of it. 1360 00:58:24,805 --> 00:58:26,005 I do it on purpose. 1361 00:58:26,400 --> 00:58:31,280 My brain says you're not important enough to remember, so I don't know your name. 1362 00:58:31,599 --> 00:58:33,119 So will I remember your face? 1363 00:58:33,119 --> 00:58:33,359 Yes. 1364 00:58:33,359 --> 00:58:34,559 I have a photographic memory. 1365 00:58:34,559 --> 00:58:35,679 I'll remember your face. 1366 00:58:35,760 --> 00:58:40,204 But if I had an

interaction with you that I didn't like, I if don't like your energy, if 1367 00:58:40,204 --> 00:58:44,365 something happens that I don't find you where my brain is like, you're not important. 1368 00:58:44,844 --> 00:58:47,005 And that sounds really shitty and people are like, that's really shitty. 1369 00:58:47,005 --> 00:58:48,125 I'm like, but that's how I am. 1370 00:58:48,125 --> 00:58:49,405 That's who I am. 1371 00:58:49,405 --> 00:58:52,364 People are probably like, I think people probably like that. 1372 00:58:53,130 --> 00:58:53,449 Right? 1373 00:58:53,449 --> 00:58:57,130 Some people probably do, but then, but then if I do remember your name and I don't like you, 1374 00:58:57,130 --> 00:59:01,769 and you come and try and like talk to me and it's not civil, like a cordial, Hey, nice to 1375 00:59:01,769 --> 00:59:02,329 see you, Lisa. 1376 00:59:02,329 --> 00:59:06,650 Hope you're doing well kind of conversation, which is just like the quick formalities of not 1377 00:59:06,650 --> 00:59:07,210 being an asshole. 1378 00:59:07,505 --> 00:59:08,625 And I'll say the same back. 1379 00:59:08,625 --> 00:59:09,744 I'll be like, oh, I'm doing great. 1380 00:59:09,744 --> 00:59:10,385 Thanks for asking. 1381 00:59:10,385 --> 00:59:11,585 I trust you're doing well too. 1382 00:59:11,585 --> 00:59:12,704 Nice to see you as well. 1383 00:59:12,704 --> 00:59:14,465 And carry on and you go your separate ways. 1384 00:59:14,465 --> 00:59:15,744 Cause I mean, we're all adults. 1385 00:59:15,744 --> 00:59:18,625 We don't need to all be assholes all the time, but every once in a while, you know, assholes 1386 00:59:18,625 --> 00:59:20,224 are liked because they tell the truth. 1387 00:59:20,224 --> 00:59:20,625 Right? 1388 00:59:20,625 --> 00:59:25,090 So, I mean, every once in a while, I gotta be that person that kinda, you know, when someone 1389 00:59:25,090 --> 00:59:27,010 says, Oh, you know what, I hope you're having a great day. 1390 00:59:27,010 --> 00:59:27,730 I'm like, do you? 1391 00:59:27,730 --> 00:59:32,289 Cause I hope you're having the day you deserve, you know, you know, because of something 1392 00:59:32,289 --> 00:59:38,055 they've said or done, that's really, it's for me, it comes down to being, you know, like the, 1393 00:59:38,055 --> 00:59:41,175 it's a justice inside of when I'm getting angry with someone. 1394 00:59:41,175 --> 00:59:43,015 You're being unjust to someone. 1395 00:59:43,015 --> 00:59:44,295 You're being unfair. 1396 00:59:44,295 --> 00:59:46,775 You're being a wolf in sheep's clothing. 1397 00:59:46,855 --> 00:59:48,135 I'm not going to be very nice to you. 1398 00:59:48,135 --> 00:59:49,735 And then, you know, there's men and women. 1399 00:59:50,070 --> 00:59:53,190 So it's like, I'm not like when people are like, Oh, well, is it mostly men? 1400 00:59:53,190 --> 01:00:01,110 No, it's both because you know, being a, being a shitty person doesn't just, isn't just gender 1401 01:00:01,110 --> 01:00:03,030 fucking side on one side or the other. 1402 01:00:03,030 --> 01:00:05,324 Many of these conversations are not specific. 1403 01:00:05,324 --> 01:00:05,885 They're just not. 1404 01:00:05,885 --> 01:00:10,525 Mean, the end of the day too, though, we have to acknowledge and proudly men and women are 1405 01:00:10,525 --> 01:00:11,085 different. 1406 01:00:11,085 --> 01:00:12,045 We are different. 1407 01:00:12,045 --> 01:00:15,085 And I embrace my being a woman. 1408 01:00:15,085 --> 01:00:16,364 I'm happy I'm a woman. 1409 01:00:16,605 --> 01:00:18,125 And I embrace all that comes with that. 1410 01:00:18,125 --> 01:00:22,420 And the older you get, the more of a community women, well, cause the kids are gone and blah, 1411 01:00:22,420 --> 01:00:23,139 blah, blah, blah, blah. 1412 01:00:23,139 --> 01:00:26,019 And oftentimes at my age, the spouses are gone. 1413 01:00:26,579 --> 01:00:30,260 So it just becomes a stronger and stronger and stronger community. 1414 01:00:30,500 --> 01:00:35,775 And I think as women, we're at an advantage that all comes to us naturally because it 1415 01:00:35,775 --> 01:00:37,375 doesn't come to men naturally. 1416 01:00:38,014 --> 01:00:39,454 I agree. 1417 01:00:39,934 --> 01:00:40,255 Agree. 1418 01:00:40,255 --> 01:00:41,695 I need men. 1419 01:00:41,695 --> 01:00:43,775 Like I know never get married again. 1420 01:00:43,775 --> 01:00:44,734 It's just a choice I've made. 1421 01:00:44,734 --> 01:00:49,449 But when I say I need men, it's a good balance to have male friends because it's a different 1422 01:00:49,449 --> 01:00:50,329 perspective. 1423 01:00:50,969 --> 01:00:51,130 Right? 1424 01:00:51,130 --> 01:00:51,610 Love that. 1425 01:00:51,610 --> 01:00:52,329 It's true. 1426 01:00:52,329 --> 01:00:53,690 So I don't need a man. 1427 01:00:53,690 --> 01:00:57,369 Most women who get to that point though, Sandy, it's so hard for a lot of people. 1428 01:00:57,530 --> 01:01:00,090 I don't need a man or I don't need a woman or I don't need a person. 1429 01:01:00,090 --> 01:01:02,329 It's very hard for people, but I agree with you. 1430 01:01:02,329 --> 01:01:03,769 I need the opposite sex. 1431 01:01:04,045 --> 01:01:05,724 I need gay men in my life. 1432 01:01:05,724 --> 01:01:07,244 I need gay women in my life. 1433 01:01:07,244 --> 01:01:08,045 I need all of it. 1434 01:01:08,045 --> 01:01:08,605 You know why? 1435 01:01:08,605 --> 01:01:11,325 Because they all bring something different and they're so different. 1436 01:01:11,485 --> 01:01:15,965 Not just as people, but just as the different trials and tribulations they've gone through 1437 01:01:15,965 --> 01:01:20,699 because of the organizations or because of how they identify, but they bring something rich to 1438 01:01:20,699 --> 01:01:21,260 all of it. 1439 01:01:21,260 --> 01:01:23,420 I don't want people who discriminate though. 1440 01:01:23,420 --> 01:01:23,980 Those people. 1441 01:01:23,980 --> 01:01:28,059 So that's probably the people, people who

discriminate, discriminate period. 1442 01:01:28,059 --> 01:01:29,739 You don't pick a topic. 1443 01:01:29,739 --> 01:01:31,900 People who are discriminating, discriminate period. 1444 01:01:31,900 --> 01:01:33,179 End of story, hard stop. 1445 01:01:33,179 --> 01:01:34,140 That I don't need in my life. 1446 01:01:35,065 --> 01:01:36,025 I don't want it. 1447 01:01:36,025 --> 01:01:36,344 I don't 1448 01:01:36,344 --> 01:01:37,545 need discriminate sometimes. 1449 01:01:37,545 --> 01:01:38,105 I'm sorry. 1450 01:01:38,105 --> 01:01:39,385 But you know, I agree with you. 1451 01:01:39,385 --> 01:01:41,224 I agree with you when there's when it's hateful. 1452 01:01:41,224 --> 01:01:41,465 Yeah. 1453 01:01:41,465 --> 01:01:42,585 So when it's hateful. 1454 01:01:42,585 --> 01:01:44,425 For me, probably discriminate to it. 1455 01:01:44,425 --> 01:01:45,704 Mean, hateful. 1456 01:01:46,184 --> 01:01:50,050 I have friends in so many different cultures, background organizations, whatever. 1457 01:01:50,050 --> 01:01:52,449 Like, and they all make fun of whatever they're going through. 1458 01:01:52,449 --> 01:01:55,170 I have an Asian friend that tells me, like, I'll say, are you driving? 1459 01:01:55,170 --> 01:01:56,289 And he'll be like, is that smart? 1460 01:01:56,289 --> 01:01:58,449 And I'm like, I'm like, what did you just say? 1461 01:01:58,449 --> 01:01:59,090 I love people who 1462 01:01:59,090 --> 01:01:59,889 laugh at themselves. 1463 01:02:00,545 --> 01:02:01,025 You know? 1464 01:02:01,025 --> 01:02:01,744 And I just, yeah. 1465 01:02:01,744 --> 01:02:05,664 And then I think it's funny, you know, or I'm like, you know, if I say, Oh my God, you know, 1466 01:02:05,664 --> 01:02:08,545 like I'll say something to like some of my gay friends and some of the stuff that they're 1467 01:02:08,545 --> 01:02:09,905 like, Oh my God, are you serious? 1468 01:02:09,905 --> 01:02:10,864 You want me to do that? 1469 01:02:10,864 --> 01:02:11,905 Me of all people? 1470 01:02:11,905 --> 01:02:12,864 Like, did you think that through? 1471 01:02:12,864 --> 01:02:17,320 And I'm like, I'm like, I love you guys, but I'm, I'm the same way. 1472 01:02:17,320 --> 01:02:17,800 Right? 1473 01:02:17,800 --> 01:02:19,880 You know, like I'm, so I'm part Caribbean. 1474 01:02:19,880 --> 01:02:21,800 My dad was, is, was from Guyana. 1475 01:02:21,800 --> 01:02:23,079 My mom's from Quebec. 1476 01:02:23,239 --> 01:02:27,400 And I, everyone always tells me like a lot of my friends, even my like Caucasian friends are 1477 01:02:27,400 --> 01:02:29,105 like, you are such a coconut. 1478 01:02:29,105 --> 01:02:30,545 You're whiter than we are. 1479 01:02:30,545 --> 01:02:31,824 And I'm like, I know. 1480 01:02:32,464 --> 01:02:33,264 But you're also very, 1481 01:02:33,264 --> 01:02:33,824 it's on your green screen. 1482 01:02:33,824 --> 01:02:35,824 You're also very Quebecois. 1483 01:02:37,105 --> 01:02:39,264 Outspokeness is very Quebecois. 1484 01:02:39,264 --> 01:02:40,144 That's a Quebec name. 1485 01:02:40,880 --> 01:02:43,519 And keeping my maiden name very Quebecois. 1486 01:02:43,519 --> 01:02:46,400 I kept my maiden name too, but I lived on the border of Quebec growing up. 1487 01:02:46,400 --> 01:02:46,640 Right. 1488 01:02:46,640 --> 01:02:51,440 So, and you can't tell in Quebec by surnames if people are married, right? 1489 01:02:51,440 --> 01:02:53,360 Because they keep their own names. 1490 01:02:53,360 --> 01:02:54,079 They keep their own names. 1491 01:02:54,079 --> 01:02:56,079 Actually, you have to pay to change your name. 1492 01:02:56,534 --> 01:03:02,135 In Alberta, I could go change my name tomorrow for nominal fee, but they paid dearly to change 1493 01:03:02,135 --> 01:03:02,775 their names. 1494 01:03:03,494 --> 01:03:04,454 But I kept mine. 1495 01:03:04,454 --> 01:03:09,655 I always told my children, I'm always like, you, you as well, especially my daughter. 1496 01:03:09,829 --> 01:03:11,269 I'm like, don't take anyone's name. 1497 01:03:11,269 --> 01:03:14,710 If you're gonna, I said, if you're going to get married, which I'm going to advise against. 1498 01:03:14,710 --> 01:03:17,510 And I tell both my kids that I'm like, I don't advise you to get married. 1499 01:03:17,909 --> 01:03:23,974 I'm like, be in a relationship, live together, love each other, embrace each other, be 1500 01:03:23,974 --> 01:03:27,735 together, get each other some rings, but don't put it on paper. 1501 01:03:27,894 --> 01:03:28,855 Keep your own names. 1502 01:03:28,855 --> 01:03:30,295 Keep your own bank accounts. 1503 01:03:30,295 --> 01:03:30,614 Yeah. 1504 01:03:30,614 --> 01:03:30,775 Have 1505 01:03:30,775 --> 01:03:32,775 be still be individuals. 1506 01:03:32,775 --> 01:03:35,414 You guys can have a joint account, but have your own accounts. 1507 01:03:35,414 --> 01:03:38,295 I had the same like, I didn't care if Taylor got married or didn't get married. 1508 01:03:38,295 --> 01:03:40,969 If he's happy with his wife, they're happy. 1509 01:03:40,969 --> 01:03:45,289 They opted to do the wedding and go down the wedding path, but they also opted when they got 1510 01:03:45,289 --> 01:03:45,929 introduced. 1511 01:03:45,929 --> 01:03:47,289 Cause my dad did their wedding. 1512 01:03:47,449 --> 01:03:49,449 When they got introduced, they got introduced as Mr. 1513 01:03:49,449 --> 01:03:50,570 Taylor Polkock and Mrs. 1514 01:03:50,570 --> 01:03:51,210 Susan Evans. 1515 01:03:52,335 --> 01:03:53,054 So Mr. 1516 01:03:53,054 --> 01:03:53,534 And Mrs. 1517 01:03:53,534 --> 01:03:55,614 But it wasn't like the traditional Mr. 1518 01:03:55,614 --> 01:03:56,014 And Mrs. 1519 01:03:56,014 --> 01:03:56,735 Pocock. 1520 01:03:56,815 --> 01:04:00,735 She looked at me along the way and she goes, he wants me to take his name. 1521 01:04:00,974 --> 01:04:02,494 And I'm going, it's a terrible name. 1522 01:04:05,360 --> 01:04:06,320 I love it. 1523 01:04:06,320 --> 01:04:09,200 And he sat at the table looking

at me going, aren't you my mother? 1524 01:04:09,200 --> 01:04:10,880 Yeah, but that's a terrible last name. 1525 01:04:11,200 --> 01:04:15,119 And you've gone through it with your buddies in high school and how many different ways they 1526 01:04:15,119 --> 01:04:18,614 messed around with his name, making fun of him. 1527 01:04:18,614 --> 01:04:20,375 I said, do you want to do that to your kids? 1528 01:04:21,255 --> 01:04:21,655 Yeah. 1529 01:04:21,655 --> 01:04:23,414 Like it's a terrible name. 1530 01:04:23,735 --> 01:04:24,215 Yeah. 1531 01:04:24,215 --> 01:04:25,735 My kids have hyphenated last names. 1532 01:04:25,735 --> 01:04:27,015 They have mine and their dad's. 1533 01:04:27,015 --> 01:04:29,414 My daughter's pretty much already dropped her father's name. 1534 01:04:29,414 --> 01:04:30,550 She wants something to do with it. 1535 01:04:30,550 --> 01:04:31,909 So she only goes by McGrath. 1536 01:04:31,909 --> 01:04:33,510 My son goes by both. 1537 01:04:33,510 --> 01:04:33,989 Okay. 1538 01:04:33,989 --> 01:04:35,829 But he doesn't, it doesn't bother him. 1539 01:04:35,829 --> 01:04:38,789 It bothers him when people just call him by his father's last name. 1540 01:04:38,789 --> 01:04:42,469 It's like either it's my whole last name or my mom's last name because it's the first, right? 1541 01:04:42,469 --> 01:04:46,465 So it's, it's, it's McGrath and then their father's last name, right? 1542 01:04:46,465 --> 01:04:51,505 So they, they get really quite upset if you just call them directly their father's last 1543 01:04:51,505 --> 01:04:52,945 name, because that's not how they're named. 1544 01:04:52,945 --> 01:04:55,664 But then my daughter, she's like, well, I don't like the last name. 1545 01:04:55,664 --> 01:04:56,785 I'm like, I named you. 1546 01:04:56,864 --> 01:04:57,905 I named you both names. 1547 01:04:58,750 --> 01:05:00,590 So you can be upset about it. 1548 01:05:00,590 --> 01:05:01,710 You can be upset with him. 1549 01:05:01,710 --> 01:05:02,430 That's fine. 1550 01:05:02,430 --> 01:05:04,590 But I named you, not him. 1551 01:05:04,590 --> 01:05:06,670 My guys, you know, so my guys first 1552 01:05:06,670 --> 01:05:07,869 name Taylor. 1553 01:05:07,869 --> 01:05:12,030 So his name, he's got my, his, my son's first name is Taylor, my surname. 1554 01:05:12,030 --> 01:05:14,655 And he's got his father's surname as his surname. 1555 01:05:15,215 --> 01:05:19,055 And the reason for that, it was a family of four girls and it was the end of the family 1556 01:05:19,055 --> 01:05:19,535 line. 1557 01:05:19,614 --> 01:05:24,414 So myself and my sister said, whoever has the first child was going to name them Taylor. 1558 01:05:24,494 --> 01:05:25,454 It happened to be me. 1559 01:05:25,695 --> 01:05:27,614 But he is so secure within that. 1560 01:05:27,614 --> 01:05:28,980 He doesn't care if you call him Taylor. 1561 01:05:28,980 --> 01:05:30,340 He doesn't care if you call him Tay. 1562 01:05:30,340 --> 01:05:32,180 He doesn't care if you call him Polcock. 1563 01:05:32,260 --> 01:05:34,820 He doesn't care when people would say, are you Taylor Taylor? 1564 01:05:34,820 --> 01:05:36,739 Because my last name is Taylor. 1565 01:05:36,820 --> 01:05:38,820 He'd go, no man, I'm Taylor. 1566 01:05:38,820 --> 01:05:42,204 You know, like Cher pink print. 1567 01:05:43,484 --> 01:05:44,045 Yeah. 1568 01:05:44,605 --> 01:05:45,085 Love that. 1569 01:05:45,085 --> 01:05:49,085 And I go, it's so wonderful that he's so secure within that space, that whatever. 1570 01:05:49,085 --> 01:05:49,485 Right. 1571 01:05:52,284 --> 01:05:53,085 That's amazing. 1572 01:05:53,570 --> 01:05:54,050 Okay. 1573 01:05:54,050 --> 01:05:55,010 We're the top of the hour. 1574 01:05:55,010 --> 01:05:56,849 So we're going to wrap up my dear. 1575 01:05:56,849 --> 01:06:02,530 So hang tight and I will, I will come back in a second here, but thank you so much for being on 1576 01:06:02,530 --> 01:06:03,329 with me, Sandy. 1577 01:06:03,329 --> 01:06:06,849 I hope you will come back and have some more chats about all of these wonderful things. 1578 01:06:06,849 --> 01:06:08,130 It was awesome to have you here. 1579 01:06:08,130 --> 01:06:08,610 Thank you. 1580 01:06:08,610 --> 01:06:09,090 Thank you. 1581 01:06:09,195 --> 01:06:09,914 Right. 1582 01:06:10,155 --> 01:06:10,635 Okay. 1583 01:06:10,635 --> 01:06:11,515 So thanks everybody. 1584 01:06:11,515 --> 01:06:12,555 Thanks for listening. 1585 01:06:13,035 --> 01:06:13,675 Let's see here. 1586 01:06:13,675 --> 01:06:16,235 You guys will hear from me next week again. 1587 01:06:16,474 --> 01:06:17,835 Every Wednesday we drop. 1588 01:06:17,835 --> 01:06:19,914 We have a few more new people coming on. 1589 01:06:19,914 --> 01:06:22,635 I'm interested because this is gonna be the first, you're meeting them for the first time. 1590 01:06:22,635 --> 01:06:24,155 I'm meeting them for the first time. 1591 01:06:24,155 --> 01:06:28,862 So we'll catch you on the flip side and, don't do anything crazy. 1592 01:06:28,862 --> 01:06:29,502 Try not to.