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00:03:31.840 Expresso. 00:03:32.000 --> 00:03:33.120 Give it to me expressly. 00:03:33.280 --> 00:03:34.960 No, yeah, that's how you piss me off. 00:03:36.479 --> 00:03:37.120 Wow. 00:03:37.439 --> 00:03:40.080 I didn't know it was so easy to piss Lena on. 00:03:41.919 --> 00:03:44.000 I'm serious about my coffee, folks. 00:03:45.520 --> 00:03:46.000 I guess. 00:03:47.759 --> 00:03:57.039 I was just trying to trying to think of a way, and my mind would completely blank on how to use the next word in a sentence in relation to pissing you off, but um, supposedly. 00:03:57.280 --> 00:03:59.039 Oh no. 00:04:00.800 --> 00:04:03.120 Dear listeners, it's supposedly. 00:04:03.280 --> 00:04:03.520 Yeah. 00:04:03.840 --> 00:04:05.759 B is the worst alphabet. 00:04:06.400 --> 00:04:08.080 Is the worst letter in the alphabet? 00:04:08.879 --> 00:04:09.919 The letter in the alphabet. 00:04:10.240 --> 00:04:11.759 B is the absolute worst alphabet. 00:04:13.439 --> 00:04:13.759 Letter. 00:04:14.000 --> 00:04:14.800 Letter in the bell alphabet. 00:04:15.039 --> 00:04:16.560 Why is it the worst letter in the alphabet, Lena? 00:04:16.959 --> 00:04:17.920 It just sounds bad. 00:04:18.240 --> 00:04:18.560 B? 00:04:18.800 --> 00:04:18.959 B. 00:04:19.279 --> 00:04:19.759 Bad. 00:04:20.079 --> 00:04:21.120 B sounds bad. 00:04:21.680 --> 00:04:22.879 Bad. 00:04:23.120 --> 00:04:23.439 Hmm. 00:04:24.000 --> 00:04:24.800 I didn't know that. 00:04:25.040 --> 00:04:25.839 I don't like it. 00:04:26.000 --> 00:04:26.240 Um. 00:04:26.639 --> 00:04:28.000 Personal opinion. 00:04:29.519 --> 00:04:32.800 I think we have successfully come to the end of it later. 00:04:33.920 --> 00:04:34.560 No, no, no. 00:04:34.879 --> 00:04:37.439 I knew someone who said that instead of success, it was success. 00:04:37.839 --> 00:04:38.319 Success. 00:04:38.560 --> 00:04:42.000 Like the two C's were made it a soft S sound. 00:04:42.160 --> 00:04:42.720 Success. 00:04:43.279 --> 00:04:47.920 Well, I will say that I say the word oven incorrectly. 00:04:48.079 --> 00:04:50.160 At home, I always have said oven. 00:04:50.399 --> 00:04:51.680 My mom said oven. 00:04:52.000 --> 00:04:53.519 So I say that wrong. 00:04:53.920 --> 00:04:59.439 So people always, when I well, in the kitchen or something and they say that, then they're like, they're always like, what did you say? 00:04:59.759 --> 00:05:00.800 Put it in the oven. 00:05:01.120 --> 00:05:02.160 Put it in the oven, please. 00:05:02.399 --> 00:05:03.279 Or take it out of the oven. 00:05:03.680 --> 00:05:10.879 I will say that every I that's I I give it maybe a specially way to people whose language is not English. 00:05:11.040 --> 00:05:12.079 Their first language is not English. 00:05:12.560 --> 00:05:13.279 That's me, that's me. 00:05:14.560 --> 00:05:15.040 That's me not. 00:05:15.120 --> 00:05:15.360 That's me. 00:05:15.680 --> 00:05:16.399 Lina, that's me. 00:05:17.199 --> 00:05:17.519 That's me. 00:05:17.759 --> 00:05:19.920 I get forgiven for everything I say wrong. 00:05:20.399 --> 00:05:22.160 I'm amazing and I'm perfect. 00:05:23.519 --> 00:05:26.399 But Gabriela, you too, you spoke a Spanish as a child. 00:05:26.560 --> 00:05:28.319 So yeah, you're hearing different. 00:05:28.639 --> 00:05:36.800 But I'm talking about people like myself who were only ever spoke English in their homes and are still speaking it incorrectly. 00:05:36.879 --> 00:05:39.439 But I'm being um intolerant. 00:05:39.759 --> 00:05:47.920 No, but no, but I think you can always laugh like when people say Washington and they've been here their whole life and it's and there's no R in Washington folks. 00:05:48.319 --> 00:05:49.279 Or Oregon. 00:05:49.439 --> 00:05:50.240 Or Oregon. 00:05:50.560 --> 00:05:52.079 But that's usually not people from Oregon. 00:05:52.160 --> 00:05:54.240 That's people who move here or talk about Oregon. 00:05:54.319 --> 00:05:55.360 They say Oregon. 00:05:55.680 --> 00:05:57.120 Yeah, I don't say that. 00:05:57.759 --> 00:05:58.319 You never did? 00:05:58.399 --> 00:05:59.360 You never called it Oregon. 00:06:00.560 --> 00:06:01.279 That's weird. 00:06:01.439 --> 00:06:02.160 It just sounds weird. 00:06:02.560 --> 00:06:03.279 How about Salmon? 00:06:04.000 --> 00:06:04.639 Salmon. 00:06:05.439 --> 00:06:16.399 See, in my head, salmon can't be salmon because when I say it in Japanese, there is no L. 00:06:16.879 --> 00:06:17.839 It's salmon. 00:06:18.319 --> 00:06:19.600 And it's salmon. 00:06:20.560 --> 00:06:22.160 It's not salmon. 00:06:23.040 --> 00:06:24.399 You know what I mean? 00:06:25.040 --> 00:06:30.639 Well, there is no L found in uh the English language either in that word. 00:06:30.879 --> 00:06:31.839 It's salmon. 00:06:32.079 --> 00:06:32.560 Yeah. 00:06:32.800 --> 00:06:33.120 Yeah. 00:06:33.279 --> 00:06:38.240 Have you seen, I don't know if any of you watched the um the show King of the Hill. 00:06:39.199 --> 00:06:39.360 No. 00:06:39.839 --> 00:06:44.160 It's an animated uh cartoon for not for children. 00:06:44.560 --> 00:06:51.279 And um it's you know, like this little rural pick town. 00:06:51.519 --> 00:06:58.959 And uh they're talking about the hipsters moving in, and one of the hipsters took over the um local taco shop. 00:06:59.439 --> 00:07:08.800 And this uh Hispanic individual comes up to Hank and says, Hank, they put salmon in my tacos, Hank! Salmon! 00:07:09.279 --> 00:07:09.839 Salmon! 00:07:11.279 --> 00:07:12.240 I've always loved that. 00:07:12.319 --> 00:07:17.600 So whenever I see fish tacos anywhere, I say, they're putting salmon in the tacos! Salmon! 00:07:18.800 --> 00:07:21.439 What about that what about epitome? 00:07:21.759 --> 00:07:23.439 I mean, that's the correct way of saying it's epitome. 00:07:23.680 --> 00:07:24.720 That was the correct way of saying it. 00:07:24.800 --> 00:07:28.160 But on Love Island recently they said Epitome. 00:07:28.319 --> 00:07:28.879 Epitome. 00:07:29.120 --> 00:07:29.839 One of the characters.

00:07:29.920 --> 00:07:31.759 No, I guess they're not characters, they're real life people. 00:07:32.079 --> 00:07:32.560 One of the characters. 00:07:32.959 --> 00:07:35.680 Well, I mean, one could argue that they're characters, right? 00:07:35.759 --> 00:07:39.120 They're playing characters, but yeah, he said epitome. 00:07:39.199 --> 00:07:41.680 And I couldn't help but think, was he reading it off or something? 00:07:42.160 --> 00:07:42.959 That's what I thought too. 00:07:43.199 --> 00:07:46.240 Who has ever used that word as say epitome? 00:07:46.560 --> 00:07:47.199 Epitome. 00:07:47.439 --> 00:07:48.800 Epitome, yeah. 00:07:49.040 --> 00:07:50.240 Uh Gabriella. 00:07:50.800 --> 00:07:53.600 One of the words that people mispronounce a lot is your name. 00:07:53.839 --> 00:07:54.560 Oh my goodness. 00:07:54.720 --> 00:07:55.600 Oh my god, all the time. 00:07:55.920 --> 00:07:56.480 Do they? 00:07:56.720 --> 00:07:58.000 And people don't even know. 00:07:58.160 --> 00:07:59.360 No, but you mean they don't know? 00:07:59.439 --> 00:08:00.319 They don't know that they're not. 00:08:00.480 --> 00:08:06.160 Because I mean they they think that they look at your name and they think, oh, I know how to pronounce Gabriela. 00:08:06.319 --> 00:08:06.639 Yeah. 00:08:06.879 --> 00:08:07.439 But they don't. 00:08:07.680 --> 00:08:09.439 I mean, I get Gabriel. 00:08:09.920 --> 00:08:12.160 I mean, there's an A at the end of my name, but they're reading it. 00:08:12.399 --> 00:08:13.199 It's a silent A. 00:08:13.360 --> 00:08:13.439 Okay. 00:08:13.759 --> 00:08:15.120 It's just there for looks. 00:08:15.680 --> 00:08:16.879 Or Gabrielle. 00:08:17.199 --> 00:08:18.720 Gabrielle with a soft A. 00:08:18.800 --> 00:08:19.600 That one really gets you. 00:08:19.680 --> 00:08:20.240 You don't like that soft. 00:08:20.639 --> 00:08:23.120 Well, I don't, I mean, and it doesn't have an A at the end either. 00:08:23.279 --> 00:08:28.160 So Gabrielle, Gabriel, um, Gabriella. 00:08:28.319 --> 00:08:28.720 Gabriella. 00:08:28.959 --> 00:08:29.519 Gabriella. 00:08:29.920 --> 00:08:31.279 Who in the world? 00:08:31.680 --> 00:08:33.200 Yeah, I've heard that one quite a bit. 00:08:33.440 --> 00:08:33.600 Oh. 00:08:34.240 --> 00:08:35.039 Gabby. 00:08:35.200 --> 00:08:35.279 Yeah. 00:08:35.440 --> 00:08:36.799 I'm not a big fan of Gabby. 00:08:36.960 --> 00:08:38.000 Don't call her Gabby. 00:08:38.159 --> 00:08:38.559 It's really. 00:08:39.679 --> 00:08:42.799 Do you not like Gabby because it insinuates that you're Gabby? 00:08:43.200 --> 00:08:47.679 No, I think it's just well, to pronounce my name, it's Gabriella. 00:08:47.759 --> 00:08:47.840 Yeah. 00:08:48.080 --> 00:08:48.320 Right? 00:08:48.559 --> 00:08:52.960 So I don't know if it just doesn't sound right. 00:08:53.279 --> 00:08:56.879 Like as a nickname, you always want to have it shorten your name of something. 00:08:57.039 --> 00:09:02.159 So but I don't know if Gabby just doesn't, I feel doesn't fit me. 00:09:02.559 --> 00:09:03.120 I don't know. 00:09:03.440 --> 00:09:04.240 Maybe it's just me. 00:09:04.320 --> 00:09:06.720 Or my mom has ingrained it in my head that Right. 00:09:06.799 --> 00:09:09.120 Your mom did not like Gabriela. 00:09:09.919 --> 00:09:10.720 I remember that. 00:09:10.879 --> 00:09:11.440 I remember that. 00:09:11.840 --> 00:09:12.480 Say it three times. 00:09:12.639 --> 00:09:12.960 Three times. 00:09:13.279 --> 00:09:15.600 If you ever shortened your name, your mom was like, um. 00:09:16.960 --> 00:09:18.480 Her name is so beautiful. 00:09:18.720 --> 00:09:19.360 Yeah. 00:09:19.840 --> 00:09:20.879 Gabriella. 00:09:21.279 --> 00:09:23.200 It is, but none of us can pronounce it like that. 00:09:23.600 --> 00:09:25.360 So Gabriella. 00:09:25.519 --> 00:09:25.840 Yeah. 00:09:26.639 --> 00:09:28.000 I don't have any nicknames. 00:09:28.480 --> 00:09:29.919 It's really hard to shorten Amy. 00:09:30.240 --> 00:09:30.799 That is true. 00:09:30.960 --> 00:09:38.559 I do remember in high school there was a couple of friends that would scream my name in the in the song format. 00:09:38.720 --> 00:09:41.519 Like I can't remember the name of the song, but it's Gabriella. 00:09:42.080 --> 00:09:45.759 You know, like they would scream that in the middle of the hallway. 00:09:46.000 --> 00:09:47.679 But that was always fun. 00:09:48.480 --> 00:09:49.759 To hear my name screamed. 00:09:50.399 --> 00:09:51.600 Lena, do you have any names? 00:09:52.159 --> 00:09:53.600 I just want to shorten Lena. 00:09:54.080 --> 00:09:54.480 You don't. 00:09:54.879 --> 00:09:55.200 Yeah, see. 00:09:56.080 --> 00:09:57.120 Yeah, you don't really shorten it. 00:09:57.440 --> 00:09:59.600 I mean yours three letters, mine's four letters. 00:09:59.679 --> 00:10:01.759 I don't think it could get any shorter than that. 00:10:02.080 --> 00:10:05.840 But um some of my friends call me Lena Beana. 00:10:06.320 --> 00:10:06.960 Lena Bean. 00:10:07.519 --> 00:10:08.080 Make it longer. 00:10:08.320 --> 00:10:09.039 Yeah, like that. 00:10:09.919 --> 00:10:15.039 I remember one person in elementary school uh called me Aim the toothpaste. 00:10:16.639 --> 00:10:16.799 Yeah. 00:10:17.360 --> 00:10:18.399 Because Aim, I guess. 00:10:18.559 --> 00:10:20.799 Yeah, because Aim is a type of toothpaste. 00:10:20.960 --> 00:10:24.879 So not a very creative name, and thankfully it did not stick. 00:10:25.759 --> 00:10:27.440 Is it type of toothpaste? 00:10:28.000 --> 00:10:28.080 Yeah. 00:10:28.639 --> 00:10:29.200 AIM, yeah. 00:10:29.279 --> 00:10:30.799 Next time you're at the store, look, it's aim. 00:10:31.039 --> 00:10:32.000 There's aim toothpaste. 00:10:32.240 --> 00:10:33.679 I'll only look for Colgate. 00:10:33.840 --> 00:10:33.919 Oh. 00:10:34.320 --> 00:10:35.600 Not sponsored. 00:10:39.679 --> 00:10:40.639 Aim the toothpaste. 00:10:40.720 --> 00:10:42.399 If you'd like to sponsor it, please reach out. 00:10:42.639 --> 00:10:45.039 Yeah, we're looking for sponsors,

guys. 00:10:45.600 --> 00:10:49.279 I will happily take on that nickname for a sponsorship. 00:10:49.519 --> 00:10:51.440 I'll go by whatever you want to call me. 00:10:51.679 --> 00:10:57.279 I just think that's really funny that your names are both like short and they make your name longer than it's not. 00:10:58.399 --> 00:11:00.720 And then mine they try and like make it shorter. 00:11:00.960 --> 00:11:01.120 Yeah. 00:11:01.200 --> 00:11:04.000 I mean I go by G, which can't get much shorter than that. 00:11:04.159 --> 00:11:04.559 That's true. 00:11:05.519 --> 00:11:07.120 For those who can't pronounce your name correctly. 00:11:07.279 --> 00:11:08.480 Yeah, I'd rather be called G. 00:11:08.559 --> 00:11:10.879 I feel like G is a cool letter though. 00:11:11.279 --> 00:11:12.720 You know, opposed to B. 00:11:13.919 --> 00:11:14.320 Yeah. 00:11:14.639 --> 00:11:20.720 B is the worst letter in the alphabet, and A is or G is pretty damn cool. 00:11:21.360 --> 00:11:27.440 I'm gonna say, like, if you call someone G, that sounds cool, but then you wouldn't call me like, hey, L. 00:11:27.840 --> 00:11:29.840 You know, it doesn't sound like a cool short letter. 00:11:30.159 --> 00:11:31.440 Unless your name is L. 00:11:31.600 --> 00:11:35.440 Like, uh, isn't that the main character in um Legally Blonde? 00:11:35.679 --> 00:11:37.360 Legally Blonde, that's the one I was thinking of. 00:11:37.440 --> 00:11:40.000 Yeah, but E-L-L-E, right, not just the letter L. 00:11:40.240 --> 00:11:40.799 Well shit. 00:11:40.960 --> 00:11:42.879 So Well shit. 00:11:43.039 --> 00:11:43.519 You're right. 00:11:43.600 --> 00:11:44.080 You're right. 00:11:44.159 --> 00:11:46.000 That actually is a pretty cool name. 00:11:46.320 --> 00:11:47.840 But not just back. 00:11:48.320 --> 00:11:48.960 I love that movie. 00:11:49.200 --> 00:11:51.279 I literally just watched that movie weeks last week. 00:11:51.360 --> 00:11:51.679 I love that. 00:11:52.000 --> 00:11:53.519 But it's funny how you don't think about that one. 00:11:53.840 --> 00:11:58.080 Like you don't think about that because you were just thinking on the specific letter, not the not the name. 00:11:58.159 --> 00:11:59.440 That's hilarious. 00:12:00.799 --> 00:12:02.399 I will take on any nickname. 00:12:02.639 --> 00:12:04.799 I uh dated a guy who called me Ami. 00:12:04.960 --> 00:12:06.879 I'm like, I'll take that anytime. 00:12:07.200 --> 00:12:07.919 That's cute. 00:12:08.080 --> 00:12:08.480 Yeah. 00:12:09.519 --> 00:12:13.679 Accents are a wonderful thing when you grow up not having one or hearing one. 00:12:13.840 --> 00:12:17.120 So only accents I heard as a kid was your family, your mom's. 00:12:18.399 --> 00:12:20.240 So I'm sorry. 00:12:21.279 --> 00:12:22.960 I loved it, you know. 00:12:23.519 --> 00:12:31.200 Um, I grew up across the street from Carilla, and her grandmother lived with her and who spoke very little, if any, English. 00:12:32.000 --> 00:12:37.440 And so I could not communicate with her very well, but she was a wonderful woman and provided us all sorts of delicious food. 00:12:37.679 --> 00:12:38.000 She did. 00:12:38.320 --> 00:12:42.720 And yeah, I heard the Spanish language a lot, but never picked it up. 00:12:42.879 --> 00:12:43.840 So nope. 00:12:44.159 --> 00:12:46.000 No, it didn't happen. 00:12:46.879 --> 00:12:47.679 It didn't happen. 00:12:48.480 --> 00:12:50.399 She chose French in high school. 00:12:50.799 --> 00:12:51.759 Um why? 00:12:52.000 --> 00:12:52.240 I did. 00:12:52.480 --> 00:12:55.759 Well, okay, so at our high school there was only two languages offered French and Spanish. 00:12:56.399 --> 00:12:57.200 And German. 00:12:57.840 --> 00:12:59.919 Well, okay, I meant excuse me. 00:13:00.000 --> 00:13:00.960 I think I meant middle school. 00:13:01.360 --> 00:13:02.720 I started language in middle school. 00:13:03.279 --> 00:13:04.399 It was French or Spanish. 00:13:04.720 --> 00:13:05.039 That's correct. 00:13:05.600 --> 00:13:09.200 Um, I mean, who's gonna switch once you get to high school after you started a language? 00:13:09.279 --> 00:13:10.639 But I mean, I could have, I should have. 00:13:10.720 --> 00:13:12.799 You're right, because I do not use French. 00:13:13.039 --> 00:13:17.360 But um, I don't know, I I thought French sounded it's the love language. 00:13:18.080 --> 00:13:19.039 It sounded fancy. 00:13:19.919 --> 00:13:20.480 I don't know. 00:13:20.639 --> 00:13:22.000 I just I don't know, I liked it. 00:13:22.080 --> 00:13:27.360 And then I took it 7th, 8th, 9th, 10th, 11th, 12th, and then freshman year at college, too. 00:13:27.440 --> 00:13:28.639 So I took seven years of French. 00:13:29.200 --> 00:13:30.240 So you're like a pro. 00:13:30.399 --> 00:13:31.440 Oh yeah, I know nothing. 00:13:32.879 --> 00:13:34.000 Oh yeah, I know nothing. 00:13:34.240 --> 00:13:34.960 I know nothing. 00:13:35.120 --> 00:13:37.360 Because I'm now 50 and it's all gone. 00:13:37.679 --> 00:13:40.720 Because where where would one use French, right? 00:13:40.960 --> 00:13:42.559 In the Pacific Northwest. 00:13:42.720 --> 00:13:47.200 So in the specific in the specific northwest. 00:13:48.720 --> 00:13:52.720 Um one would not use the language of Francais. 00:13:53.200 --> 00:13:55.600 So I want to learn Spanish. 00:13:55.840 --> 00:14:00.240 I think if I could choose a language to learn, I would choose Spanish. 00:14:00.480 --> 00:14:01.919 Spanish and Chinese. 00:14:02.240 --> 00:14:04.960 Gabriella and I used to write notes back and forth in high school. 00:14:05.120 --> 00:14:10.320 I would write in French and she would write in Spanish, and we could almost understand each other because the languages are so similar. 00:14:10.799 --> 00:14:10.960 Wow. 00:14:11.279 --> 00:14:17.279 They're pronounced obviously differently, but spelling, like reading it, yeah, you can figure it out most of the words. 00:14:17.519 --> 00:14:17.840 So yeah. 00:14:18.399 --> 00:14:19.200 I forgot that we did that. 00:14:19.360 -->

00:14:19.840 We did, yeah. 00:14:20.000 --> 00:14:20.639 You guys are so cool. 00:14:20.879 --> 00:14:21.840 We were pretty clever. 00:14:22.080 --> 00:14:29.120 I mean passing notes in another language, two other languages, nobody would be able to read those. 00:14:30.559 --> 00:14:31.200 You know. 00:14:31.679 --> 00:14:32.799 We were cool, Lena. 00:14:33.039 --> 00:14:36.000 Do you think I would have been your friend if I was in high school with you guys? 00:14:36.240 --> 00:14:37.440 Of course. 00:14:37.759 --> 00:14:41.919 Um, Lena, you would. 00:14:42.240 --> 00:14:43.039 Oh, the hesitation. 00:14:43.279 --> 00:14:43.759 You're pretty damn. 00:14:46.240 --> 00:14:47.759 They're too cool for me. 00:14:48.000 --> 00:14:50.080 Um, I said yes, of course. 00:14:50.399 --> 00:14:54.159 She did say that right away, and I was just teasing you because that is what I do. 00:14:55.039 --> 00:14:59.200 Um, Lena, what's your name spelled backwards? 00:15:01.200 --> 00:15:03.120 She almost spit out her drink, I didn't. 00:15:03.600 --> 00:15:11.279 She did because she mentioned this before we started recording, and I told her she needed to share it, but alas, she has not shared, so I will ask her about it again soon. 00:15:11.519 --> 00:15:15.279 Lena, what is what is your nickname if one were to spell it backwards? 00:15:15.519 --> 00:15:19.679 Um so my name spelled is L-E-N-A. 00:15:20.799 --> 00:15:25.039 Backwards is A-N-E-L, which technically it's spelled wrong. 00:15:25.200 --> 00:15:26.159 You're right, you're right. 00:15:26.399 --> 00:15:27.039 But it's anal. 00:15:27.840 --> 00:15:28.240 An L. 00:15:28.399 --> 00:15:29.039 We'll say Anel. 00:15:29.360 --> 00:15:29.759 An L. 00:15:30.240 --> 00:15:31.360 Annel, that's better. 00:15:31.840 --> 00:15:33.279 Because no one wants the nickname of anal. 00:15:33.759 --> 00:15:38.879 I learned that in middle school when it would be the you know, the most fun time to learn that. 00:15:39.120 --> 00:15:43.440 Yeah, I I think I had more nicknames related to my last name than I did my first name. 00:15:43.679 --> 00:15:44.080 That's true. 00:15:44.320 --> 00:15:46.159 Yeah, so yeah. 00:15:46.720 --> 00:15:46.960 Yeah. 00:15:47.200 --> 00:15:49.840 Well, thankfully I didn't know what that was when I learned. 00:15:50.879 --> 00:15:57.519 When people told me, yeah, when people told me, oh, your your name backwards spells something bad, and I'm like, oh cool. 00:15:58.799 --> 00:15:59.759 I didn't know what it was. 00:15:59.919 --> 00:16:04.559 So you're like, what kind of lives were they living that they knew what anal was at that age? 00:16:04.720 --> 00:16:05.519 Hey, I don't know. 00:16:05.600 --> 00:16:09.600 I'm pure and perfect, so pure and perfect. 00:16:10.799 --> 00:16:12.320 Mom and dad, are you listening? 00:16:12.559 --> 00:16:13.919 She's still pure and perfect. 00:16:14.240 --> 00:16:15.919 Pure and perfect. 00:16:17.440 --> 00:16:23.279 So Lena uh has some what are we calling them? 00:16:23.440 --> 00:16:23.919 Advice? 00:16:24.080 --> 00:16:25.840 People asking for advice or things. 00:16:26.320 --> 00:16:27.600 Some awkward situations. 00:16:28.480 --> 00:16:36.639 Um not necessarily awkward situations, but you know, with all the life experiences we have combined. 00:16:36.879 --> 00:16:43.279 Um, together we are 229, 28 years old. 00:16:43.519 --> 00:16:44.960 I'm almost 50. 00:16:45.279 --> 00:16:45.919 Oh, that's right. 00:16:46.080 --> 00:16:46.480 Oh, sorry. 00:16:48.159 --> 00:16:50.080 I'm 28 there. 00:16:50.559 --> 00:16:50.799 Thank you. 00:16:51.039 --> 00:16:53.120 I am the eldest and I'm okay with that. 00:16:53.440 --> 00:16:55.360 I am older and wiser, you guys. 00:16:55.440 --> 00:17:00.879 So let me let me provide some advice to those people because I have lived a life, Lena. 00:17:03.759 --> 00:17:04.559 I haven't. 00:17:04.880 --> 00:17:06.400 No, no, she she really hasn't. 00:17:07.119 --> 00:17:07.519 Apparently. 00:17:07.839 --> 00:17:12.640 I just want to say that Gabriela is always giv is always on the daily giving me dating advice. 00:17:12.720 --> 00:17:16.480 Now I want you all to know she has not dated in 30 years. 00:17:17.039 --> 00:17:17.680 Years. 00:17:18.000 --> 00:17:18.559 That's true. 00:17:18.799 --> 00:17:20.400 When she was a child. 00:17:20.720 --> 00:17:22.000 Some of it's good. 00:17:22.400 --> 00:17:24.480 And she gives me dating advice. 00:17:24.799 --> 00:17:26.640 Some of it's good because I trust you blindly. 00:17:26.799 --> 00:17:27.759 But some of it's good. 00:17:27.920 --> 00:17:29.039 Some of it, some of it is good. 00:17:29.279 --> 00:17:31.440 Some of it, some of it, some of it is not so good. 00:17:31.599 --> 00:17:36.880 Some of it is not so good, and I say, I will say, this isn't probably the best advice. 00:17:37.200 --> 00:17:40.400 I don't have a clue what I'm talking about, but this is what I would do. 00:17:40.720 --> 00:17:45.759 Don't discourage people that are trying to get people to send us questions to give advice on. 00:17:46.240 --> 00:17:50.799 Also, coming from the woman who says if anything were to ever happen to her husband or she were to get divorced, she would never date anyone. 00:17:51.039 --> 00:17:51.759 I don't think I would. 00:17:51.920 --> 00:17:53.279 Because I don't think I can handle this. 00:17:53.359 --> 00:17:55.920 I don't think I can handle the world of dating in today's support. 00:17:56.160 --> 00:18:04.160 If we were on video right now, you would all see just she she she put her hand up and waved in my general direction and she said, I don't think I can handle all of this. 00:18:04.400 --> 00:18:12.799 I don't think so, because honestly, dating, from what I hear from my friends who are dating, dating today sounds like a nightmare. 00:18:13.039 --> 00:18:13.839 Well, and I don't know. 00:18:13.920 --> 00:18:19.599 I mean, I think part of it might be because it's dating today, but part of it also is dating in general? 00:18:19.839

--> 00:18:24.640 In general, and as a woman of my age, in the second half of your life, right? 00:18:24.799 --> 00:18:25.039 Yeah. 00:18:25.200 --> 00:18:28.160 I mean, that's just, well, I should say second half, like I'm gonna live someone. 00:18:28.960 --> 00:18:31.039 You are, you're gonna live until you're a hundred. 00:18:32.240 --> 00:18:33.519 Lord help me. 00:18:34.319 --> 00:18:36.319 But I'm still dating at ABS. 00:18:37.839 --> 00:18:41.759 I might, I mean, just might need to stop taking Gabriela's advice at that point. 00:18:42.319 --> 00:18:45.839 But by that point, Pachel probably have some cool updates. 00:18:46.240 --> 00:18:49.119 At that point, they will create me a boyfriend. 00:18:49.440 --> 00:18:49.839 AI. 00:18:50.079 --> 00:18:55.599 I will have an AI boyfriend that I can upload into a robot of some sorts. 00:18:55.839 --> 00:19:00.480 I I prefer robot versus the wicker, like that movie The Wicker Man. 00:19:01.039 --> 00:19:01.839 Like a hologram? 00:19:02.240 --> 00:19:03.200 Like a hologram? 00:19:03.359 --> 00:19:03.599 Yeah. 00:19:03.759 --> 00:19:05.519 Oh no, the hologram can't touch you. 00:19:05.920 --> 00:19:07.359 You need to kiss somebody. 00:19:07.680 --> 00:19:08.160 Sorry. 00:19:08.480 --> 00:19:09.759 Somebody, something. 00:19:10.319 --> 00:19:10.799 Sorry. 00:19:11.119 --> 00:19:13.039 Alright, Lena, who needs advice from this? 00:19:13.279 --> 00:19:13.839 Alrighty. 00:19:14.240 --> 00:19:16.640 Um, okay, so I have three stories. 00:19:16.720 --> 00:19:18.160 I'm gonna start with the first one. 00:19:18.319 --> 00:19:22.319 It says, Women, would it be creepy to do this? 00:19:22.559 --> 00:19:23.119 Yes. 00:19:23.279 --> 00:19:25.839 So if you have to ask them, probably yes. 00:19:26.079 --> 00:19:26.400 Sorry. 00:19:26.559 --> 00:19:28.720 So he says, 27 male here. 00:19:28.799 --> 00:19:32.000 Um, I I have some bad bad anxiety. 00:19:32.160 --> 00:19:35.279 I want to start dating, but I have no idea how to approach women. 00:19:35.440 --> 00:19:37.680 I'm always nervous that I'm bothering them. 00:19:37.839 --> 00:19:39.680 I'm trying to put myself out there more. 00:19:39.920 --> 00:19:48.000 What I'm planning to do is go to an ice cream place I like, and if there's a woman ahead of me in line, try to strike up a conversation and maybe pay for her ice cream. 00:19:48.160 --> 00:19:50.559 I'm not trying to get laid or even get her number. 00:19:50.799 --> 00:19:57.440 Just talking and maybe paying for ice cream, but I hate to ruin her night like, ugh, I wanted a milkshake and this weirdo bugged me. 00:19:57.680 --> 00:19:58.960 Would I be creepy? 00:19:59.920 --> 00:20:09.200 Before anyone says anything, his uh ug, I wanted a milkshake and this weirdo bugged me, is 1000% what I always think. 00:20:09.599 --> 00:20:11.440 Whenever anyone talks to me. 00:20:14.079 --> 00:20:21.119 If I'm out and like even if it's not like a guy, just like somebody talks to me, I'm like, I just wanted ice cream. 00:20:21.440 --> 00:20:21.759 Okay. 00:20:23.440 --> 00:20:27.519 First of all, I that is not what my reaction would be when people talk to me. 00:20:27.759 --> 00:20:31.359 I on I've never had a random stranger offer to buy me anything. 00:20:31.519 --> 00:20:35.200 Um, but I want to know why he is going to an ice cream shop. 00:20:35.599 --> 00:20:36.160 That was my thought. 00:20:36.799 --> 00:20:37.680 That's my thought too. 00:20:37.920 --> 00:20:45.200 Because I, I don't know how old this person is, but I, as a single woman at 50, probably not going to the ice cream shop. 00:20:45.440 --> 00:20:46.640 Yeah, he said he was 27. 00:20:46.880 --> 00:20:47.759 Okay, he's 27. 00:20:47.839 --> 00:20:51.359 So, Lena, are you going to the ice cream shop frequently by yourself? 00:20:51.440 --> 00:20:53.599 Just to if you're at the ice cream shop. 00:20:54.000 --> 00:20:57.279 Not by myself, but I'll go with my friend pretty often. 00:20:57.519 --> 00:20:57.839 Really? 00:20:58.079 --> 00:20:58.319 Yeah. 00:20:58.559 --> 00:21:00.000 This is a thing people are doing. 00:21:00.559 --> 00:21:01.839 Amy, this is why. 00:21:02.000 --> 00:21:03.200 You need to go to the ice cream shop. 00:21:03.440 --> 00:21:04.400 Go to the ice cream shop. 00:21:04.559 --> 00:21:04.880 It isn't. 00:21:05.119 --> 00:21:14.640 I'm the everybody my age at the ice cream shop is taking their kids or their grandkids to get ice cream because I'm at the age where people either still have kids or they have grandkids. 00:21:14.880 --> 00:21:15.359 That's true. 00:21:15.519 --> 00:21:18.319 And I'm just not going to the ice cream shop. 00:21:18.480 --> 00:21:19.839 I didn't realize that was a weird thing. 00:21:20.160 --> 00:21:28.079 It is a weird thing at my age because there are people who had children in their late 30s, sometimes even 40s, especially men. 00:21:28.240 --> 00:21:28.799 Yeah. 00:21:29.119 --> 00:21:32.640 And yet there are also people who are having grandkids. 00:21:32.720 --> 00:21:35.680 I know lots of people my age or younger that have grandkids already. 00:21:35.920 --> 00:21:39.279 But like, wouldn't you go on like a date to an ice cream shop? 00:21:39.519 --> 00:21:41.759 I would, but then no man's gonna approach me. 00:21:42.079 --> 00:21:42.400 Well, yeah. 00:21:42.640 --> 00:21:43.680 Because I'm just a man. 00:21:44.160 --> 00:21:45.359 I mean, they might. 00:21:45.599 --> 00:21:46.400 I mean, bring it off. 00:21:47.599 --> 00:21:48.559 The more the merrier. 00:21:48.880 --> 00:21:54.880 But um, yeah, so that's my number one question is the ice cream shop. 00:21:54.960 --> 00:22:01.599 But I don't know, something like I mean if I'm all alone and someone goes, I'd love to buy your milkshake. 00:22:01.839 --> 00:22:02.960 I would be like Elliot. 00:22:03.119 --> 00:22:05.440 I would maybe say, yeah, that's why I bring it to the yard. 00:22:05.839 --> 00:22:06.079 Exactly. 00:22:06.160 --> 00:22:06.960 That's what I was thinking of. 00:22:10.720 -->

00:22:13.440 Uh yeah, no, I don't think it would be creepy. 00:22:13.680 --> 00:22:16.480 What would be a more appropriate place in your mind? 00:22:16.559 --> 00:22:18.799 Besides like a bar, because that's too cliche. 00:22:19.119 --> 00:22:20.400 It's too basic. 00:22:21.440 --> 00:22:22.480 Taco stand. 00:22:24.799 --> 00:22:25.359 Grocery store. 00:22:25.680 --> 00:22:26.079 By my sale. 00:22:26.480 --> 00:22:29.519 Like the 10 and under grocery, like you self-scan. 00:22:29.759 --> 00:22:32.240 You don't want them to buy your cart full of groceries for the colour. 00:22:32.400 --> 00:22:35.359 I mean, a wire for that, but like, oh my gosh, can you imagine? 00:22:36.640 --> 00:22:38.240 You got 10 bottles of wine in there. 00:22:39.759 --> 00:22:42.079 Um, I don't know what would be more appropriate. 00:22:42.319 --> 00:22:47.599 I guess it's just honestly so odd for people to approach you in public like that anymore. 00:22:47.920 --> 00:22:48.799 Maybe at a coffee shop. 00:22:48.880 --> 00:22:50.000 I could see someone buy me a coffee. 00:22:50.240 --> 00:22:51.039 Oh coffee shop. 00:22:51.359 --> 00:22:51.680 That's a good one. 00:22:51.839 --> 00:22:52.319 That's a very good one. 00:22:52.400 --> 00:22:53.599 That's a really good country. 00:22:53.759 --> 00:22:58.960 Here I am talking about taco stands, and you're talking about coffee, but you don't even drink coffee. 00:22:59.200 --> 00:23:01.519 So yeah, they could buy your chai. 00:23:01.599 --> 00:23:02.079 Mm-hmm. 00:23:02.720 --> 00:23:03.039 Yeah. 00:23:03.359 --> 00:23:06.319 Yeah, miss, I don't like coffee in the coffee shop. 00:23:06.640 --> 00:23:10.559 It's funny because off so off topic, I know I do this a lot, ladies. 00:23:10.640 --> 00:23:11.279 I'm sorry. 00:23:11.519 --> 00:23:21.759 But um, someone the other day, we were I I suggested that we go out, not a date, just a friend, to this new bakery and coffee shop, and they're like, Oh, can we go to a restaurant instead? 00:23:21.839 --> 00:23:22.720 I don't like coffee. 00:23:23.039 --> 00:23:27.680 I'm like, do you not know that they sell things other than coffee at coffee shops? 00:23:28.240 --> 00:23:28.720 Seriously. 00:23:29.039 --> 00:23:30.319 I just thought that was like okay. 00:23:30.559 --> 00:23:32.400 Maybe they don't like tea either. 00:23:32.720 --> 00:23:33.920 But I mean, there's water. 00:23:34.400 --> 00:23:35.680 There's always water. 00:23:36.240 --> 00:23:36.640 Something though. 00:23:36.720 --> 00:23:39.759 I mean, I feel like it's a different kind of plan. 00:23:39.839 --> 00:23:46.079 When you're trying to plan some with something with someone where you're going to get a coffee shop, shop versus a restaurant restaurant. 00:23:46.160 --> 00:23:48.799 Yeah, it's like a drink versus a meal. 00:23:49.039 --> 00:23:53.839 It's a difference in time that you're spending together and like the atmosphere. 00:23:54.240 --> 00:23:56.400 It's just a whole different kind of plan, I feel like. 00:23:56.799 --> 00:23:59.920 It is because coffee shop, you go, you order at the counter, you both pay separately. 00:24:03.279 --> 00:24:04.960 Easier to get in and not for me. 00:24:05.039 --> 00:24:10.079 I swear I'm at that coffee shop for like hours on end, and I'm like, Well, when you want to be, but it's easier to leave. 00:24:10.319 --> 00:24:10.640 I guess. 00:24:10.880 --> 00:24:17.039 Whereas a restaurant, you're stuck waiting for waitresses and checking out and all that kind of stuff. 00:24:17.200 --> 00:24:18.480 Yeah, I completely agree with you. 00:24:18.640 --> 00:24:18.960 Yeah. 00:24:19.200 --> 00:24:21.839 But um, but good answer to his uh taste. 00:24:22.160 --> 00:24:22.400 Thank you. 00:24:22.640 --> 00:24:24.960 Would you think it was weird if he offered to buy your coffee? 00:24:25.279 --> 00:24:25.759 Not at all. 00:24:25.920 --> 00:24:27.680 I mean, Lena just doesn't like people talking to her. 00:24:27.920 --> 00:24:28.240 That's true. 00:24:28.480 --> 00:24:31.279 I still would be like, why is he talking to me? 00:24:32.160 --> 00:24:36.319 So it literally I'd be scared to come up and talk to you, Lena. 00:24:36.559 --> 00:24:38.319 Yeah, that's why I'm single. 00:24:38.720 --> 00:24:42.160 You have you would have that like look of like you don't want to be disturbed. 00:24:42.240 --> 00:24:47.759 Maybe even like I feel like you would be in a sweatshirt with your hoodie up and like not wanting to talk to anybody. 00:24:47.920 --> 00:24:50.960 So if anybody did come up to you, you've got your hoodie up right now, you guys. 00:24:51.279 --> 00:24:51.920 Yeah, exactly. 00:24:52.000 --> 00:24:57.279 So if someone were to come up to you like and say offer, I would be like, well, obviously, she doesn't want to be talked to. 00:24:57.359 --> 00:24:58.799 Look at the way she's got her hoodie up. 00:24:58.880 --> 00:25:02.319 Like, there's some social cues that you would need to like pay attention to. 00:25:02.640 --> 00:25:04.160 For those who pick up on social cues. 00:25:04.400 --> 00:25:04.880 That is true. 00:25:05.039 --> 00:25:16.000 But if you're just standing around looking around and you know, seeing who's around the the coffee shop or something, then that would be someone I would be more apt to go talk to. 00:25:16.160 --> 00:25:16.799 Yeah. 00:25:17.920 --> 00:25:22.480 But what if I'm looking around and I'm not sure what you're doing. 00:25:22.640 --> 00:25:23.839 If you're still intact. 00:25:24.319 --> 00:25:32.240 If you right now are sitting somewhere looking around and you have your hoodie up like that, and you're looking around, I'm looking at you going, is she on something? 00:25:32.799 --> 00:25:33.200 100%. 00:25:33.599 --> 00:25:36.319 She's like looking around to see who's here, what's going on? 00:25:36.559 --> 00:25:36.960 Yeah, with her. 00:25:37.440 --> 00:25:38.480 Are they off looking for her? 00:25:38.640 --> 00:25:39.599 Is that drug dealing? 00:25:39.920 --> 00:25:41.039 What crime did she just commit?

00:25:41.119 --> 00:25:41.920 Is what I'm looking at. 00:25:42.160 --> 00:25:43.200 She about her on the channel. 00:25:43.599 --> 00:25:46.079 Some sort of uh she's got her laptop on the counter there. 00:25:46.240 --> 00:25:49.599 She's some sort of uh hacker terrorist. 00:25:51.599 --> 00:25:53.039 That's what Lima looks like, guys. 00:25:53.119 --> 00:25:53.680 Just so you know. 00:25:53.920 --> 00:25:56.960 She looks nothing like her little animated character on the YouTube page. 00:25:57.119 --> 00:26:00.799 So if you want to see a real picture, you can go to our website. 00:26:00.960 --> 00:26:02.000 It is on there. 00:26:03.119 --> 00:26:05.039 Certifiably awkward.com. 00:26:05.920 --> 00:26:08.079 I have to throw that in there a public service announcement. 00:26:08.319 --> 00:26:09.680 If you need a visual. 00:26:12.720 --> 00:26:16.640 It'll be my year-end goal to look more friendly. 00:26:16.880 --> 00:26:18.400 Well, okay, so September. 00:26:18.480 --> 00:26:19.119 I haven't done it yet. 00:26:19.200 --> 00:26:20.480 September is almost over. 00:26:20.640 --> 00:26:23.039 And September is sit up for women. 00:26:23.200 --> 00:26:25.279 Single women, sit at a bar September. 00:26:25.519 --> 00:26:31.279 You're supposed to go to a bar, sit by myself, go to a restaurant, sit by yourself, that's crazy, pants. 00:26:31.599 --> 00:26:34.160 Put your phone down and talk to people. 00:26:35.200 --> 00:26:36.799 And like can you do it? 00:26:37.119 --> 00:26:38.000 Look at people. 00:26:38.240 --> 00:26:38.799 Uh-huh. 00:26:39.440 --> 00:26:40.079 Yeah. 00:26:42.240 --> 00:26:42.720 Yeah. 00:26:42.880 --> 00:26:46.880 Like eye contact, actual conversations, initiate conversations. 00:26:47.039 --> 00:26:47.839 Can you do it, Lena? 00:26:48.000 --> 00:26:48.480 Oh no. 00:26:48.640 --> 00:26:49.920 Initiate is crazy. 00:26:50.720 --> 00:26:54.799 So Lena would be sitting at the bar, getting the drink, drinking it and out. 00:26:55.920 --> 00:26:57.359 She'd only talk to the bartender. 00:26:57.440 --> 00:26:58.079 She'd get a drink to the city. 00:26:58.160 --> 00:26:58.880 She's just gonna turn around. 00:26:58.960 --> 00:27:00.319 I would talk to the bartender. 00:27:02.720 --> 00:27:04.240 Oh, that's awesome. 00:27:04.559 --> 00:27:08.000 I just have to get a few drinks in me, and then I'm more talking friendly. 00:27:08.240 --> 00:27:10.720 Talk to the bartender more, get a few more drinks. 00:27:10.960 --> 00:27:12.799 But here's here's Lena's problem. 00:27:12.960 --> 00:27:15.279 She makes herself unapproachable by wearing her hoodie. 00:27:15.440 --> 00:27:15.759 Exactly. 00:27:16.000 --> 00:27:17.279 And giving resting bitch face. 00:27:17.519 --> 00:27:17.759 Exactly. 00:27:18.000 --> 00:27:19.440 But then she also won't talk to anybody. 00:27:19.759 --> 00:27:20.079 I know. 00:27:20.160 --> 00:27:20.319 Yeah. 00:27:20.480 --> 00:27:23.279 You're not gonna date unless you let me start swiping for you again. 00:27:23.599 --> 00:27:26.000 Well, that didn't go well last time. 00:27:26.559 --> 00:27:27.680 Give me another chance. 00:27:27.920 --> 00:27:31.200 Yeah, I mean that was just the first opportunity that we had. 00:27:32.079 --> 00:27:35.119 Alright, read another uh advice request to us. 00:27:35.680 --> 00:27:40.000 Um I'll do one that's not dating related. 00:27:40.240 --> 00:27:40.559 Okay. 00:27:41.119 --> 00:27:42.480 This one's for you, Gabriella. 00:27:44.240 --> 00:27:45.200 This is a girl. 00:27:45.359 --> 00:27:48.079 She said, I don't have friends to do stuff with. 00:27:48.480 --> 00:27:51.440 She's 24, turning 25 this Thursday. 00:27:51.759 --> 00:27:56.559 She has some friends, but she feels like I just I need to start over with the the she. 00:27:57.119 --> 00:28:01.680 She says, I have some friends, but I feel like I have a bunch of separate friends, not like a group. 00:28:01.920 --> 00:28:04.079 I guess I would like to have more friends in general. 00:28:05.440 --> 00:28:07.119 I know I could do more on my end. 00:28:07.279 --> 00:28:08.720 Checking in, making plans. 00:28:08.799 --> 00:28:16.319 I can be outgoing and a good conversationalist, but I think it's only first encounters, and then after that, it's kind of hard for me to keep up. 00:28:16.559 --> 00:28:19.599 What can I do to make more friends and more genuine connections? 00:28:21.039 --> 00:28:23.200 Well, it sounds like she has friends already. 00:28:23.440 --> 00:28:28.960 She just isn't good at bringing them together and or making plans. 00:28:30.720 --> 00:28:42.640 So I guess my suggestion would be to like once a month host an event or just schedule something like hey, I'm let's go to and pick a bar, pick a location, and pick a something, invite them all and see who comes. 00:28:42.799 --> 00:28:47.039 I mean, I don't also know how many people were talking here, but or she could host like something at her house. 00:28:48.000 --> 00:28:49.200 You're giving me a weird little thing. 00:28:49.359 --> 00:28:50.880 No, I'm just thinking, I'm just thinking. 00:28:51.200 --> 00:28:58.240 I think she was asking, like, she has friends, but they're all like sp how I understood it is like they're specific. 00:28:58.319 --> 00:28:59.039 Like maybe she does yoga. 00:28:59.440 --> 00:28:59.680 Specific? 00:28:59.839 --> 00:29:00.000 Yeah. 00:29:01.920 --> 00:29:02.559 Yes. 00:29:03.119 --> 00:29:12.240 Like maybe they have she has friends that only do like yoga or they do crafting or they do something that she doesn't high have a versatile friend that's like like a bestie. 00:29:12.960 --> 00:29:17.279 That's how I interpreted it, but um I'm not sure. 00:29:17.599 --> 00:29:24.000 I guess you would just continue to like do stuff, maybe try and do stuff like you said, try and do something outside of that. 00:29:24.400 --> 00:29:34.480 Yeah, I was gonna say I would interpret it as like she's got all these friends from different arenas in her life, but they don't all like like she's not doing

anything with like I only do yoga with this person and this person here, and this person and that. 00:29:34.559 --> 00:29:53.440 Um I also will say, as a socially anxious person myself, sometimes when I have friends from different groups or different activities, different parts of my life, it feels really weird to bring them together in one social setting. 00:29:53.839 --> 00:30:03.039 It does 100% like I don't a part of me would feel like I have to entertain everybody at once, I don't really know how to do that. 00:30:03.119 --> 00:30:04.319 What if people don't get along? 00:30:04.480 --> 00:30:06.640 What if somebody feels like neglected? 00:30:07.119 --> 00:30:09.279 You know, it's a lot to have to worry about. 00:30:09.599 --> 00:30:16.000 So I guess in a sense, it would be easier to just find a big group of friends in one single setting. 00:30:16.559 --> 00:30:23.279 But if you don't have that, then how do you figure out the bringing people together and making a big group of friends? 00:30:23.359 --> 00:30:25.599 You know, I think I think that's hard to do as an adult. 00:30:26.079 --> 00:30:27.440 It is, it's very hard to do as a adult. 00:30:27.680 --> 00:30:31.039 Making friends as an adult is very difficult. 00:30:31.599 --> 00:30:32.720 I would agree. 00:30:33.839 --> 00:30:35.279 I disagree. 00:30:36.079 --> 00:30:38.799 Well, okay, you make friends very easily. 00:30:39.200 --> 00:30:45.759 I think if I were to like transplant myself, like if I were to move to Maine, Portland, Maine, and I don't know a single soul. 00:30:45.920 --> 00:30:48.160 Uh putting yourself out is hard. 00:30:48.640 --> 00:30:49.119 Absolutely. 00:30:49.440 --> 00:30:51.599 Like doesn't I would totally do that. 00:30:52.240 --> 00:30:53.279 Why Portland, Maine? 00:30:53.519 --> 00:30:55.440 Because it's just some random place that I've never been to. 00:30:56.319 --> 00:30:57.519 Out of all the places in the world. 00:30:57.759 --> 00:30:59.119 Portland, Oregon, Portland, Maine. 00:30:59.599 --> 00:31:01.119 Just something like I I've never been there. 00:31:01.519 --> 00:31:03.680 Yeah, I've never been there in my life, so why not? 00:31:03.759 --> 00:31:04.640 Like, I'm totally going to be. 00:31:06.960 --> 00:31:07.519 A Pacific? 00:31:07.759 --> 00:31:08.480 A Pacific reason. 00:31:08.720 --> 00:31:09.519 Pacific reason. 00:31:10.240 --> 00:31:18.079 Um, but I mean it would be hard because you don't obviously know anybody, they don't know any of your history but or what you were like growing up or anything like that. 00:31:18.400 --> 00:31:23.359 But that's kind of a nice thing too, because nobody knows you can like reinvent yourself. 00:31:23.519 --> 00:31:23.759 Yeah. 00:31:23.920 --> 00:31:30.079 And being able to put yourself out there is obviously hard to do, but you do that because you want to connect with somebody. 00:31:30.240 --> 00:31:30.559 Yeah. 00:31:30.720 --> 00:31:30.960 Yeah. 00:31:31.200 --> 00:31:41.759 I I just feel like it's not as difficult because I am used to putting myself out there, and I've made a lot of friends in the last few years putting myself out there in the dating world, right? 00:31:41.920 --> 00:31:47.599 Um, both and I've made both women and men friends that way because of the speed dating events. 00:31:47.680 --> 00:31:48.960 I talked to all the ladies too. 00:31:49.119 --> 00:31:49.519 Oh yeah. 00:31:49.759 --> 00:31:52.559 So yeah, you I still gotta try that one day. 00:31:52.799 --> 00:31:53.440 You do. 00:31:56.720 --> 00:31:57.200 We should go together. 00:31:57.279 --> 00:31:58.720 Our age groups aren't the same though. 00:31:58.799 --> 00:32:00.720 We'd have to find one where it was a very wise. 00:32:01.039 --> 00:32:03.920 I'd be like over the age gap and she'd be under the age gap. 00:32:04.000 --> 00:32:04.960 But yeah, it's okay. 00:32:05.200 --> 00:32:05.920 It's okay. 00:32:06.160 --> 00:32:08.480 Everybody like and we I'd go to the younger ones, right? 00:32:08.640 --> 00:32:10.160 Because you know, I could be a cougar too. 00:32:10.240 --> 00:32:12.960 And uh and they'd be like, Who is this old lady? 00:32:13.119 --> 00:32:14.480 And why is she here? 00:32:14.880 --> 00:32:16.960 I'm here to hook you up with my friend Lena. 00:32:18.400 --> 00:32:20.720 Or I can go to like an older one. 00:32:20.960 --> 00:32:21.680 Oh, that's true. 00:32:23.599 --> 00:32:24.160 How old? 00:32:24.319 --> 00:32:24.960 Yeah, right. 00:32:25.119 --> 00:32:27.599 Yeah, because you're 29. 00:32:27.920 --> 00:32:34.880 Yeah, yeah, um, but yeah, I mean, absolutely you have to put yourself out there, but yeah, it's worth it, in my opinion. 00:32:35.200 --> 00:32:35.519 100%. 00:32:35.920 --> 00:32:37.119 Yeah, but you just have to do it. 00:32:37.359 --> 00:32:38.000 Yeah, I would agree with that. 00:32:38.079 --> 00:32:53.839 And I think that is like the hardest part for people as adults, is because you don't have that nucleus of like friends that knew you all along and know how you act and react to certain things, and so having to do that from scratch is really hard to do for a lot of people. 00:32:54.240 --> 00:32:55.680 I also think it's exhausting sometimes. 00:32:57.920 --> 00:33:08.880 And just having friends and maintaining friends in general, because I am the person in uh in my like work friend group, I am the one who has to organize everything. 00:33:09.039 --> 00:33:18.400 If I don't plan something, like it never happens, and and it's it's exhausting sometimes being the only one doing that, and then you kind of stop doing it, and then you realize no one else is gonna do it. 00:33:18.720 --> 00:33:21.440 So do you want to see these people or not? 00:33:21.839 --> 00:33:22.960 You gotta make that decision. 00:33:23.039 --> 00:33:24.160 Sometimes I don't feel like it. 00:33:24.400 --> 00:33:47.519 So yeah, because I realize growing up that like I mean, when you're in school and you're you know young, it's very easy to make friends make friends, meet new

people because you're in school, you're with the same people all the time, like you just become friends with the people you see every day, and then all of a sudden you get thrown into the adult world, and you realize oh, it's not like that when you're an adult. 00:33:47.839 --> 00:33:49.680 Unless it's work friends and sometimes, yeah. 00:33:50.240 --> 00:33:50.640 Exactly. 00:33:50.880 --> 00:33:59.440 And I guess I realized kind of early on in adulthood that oh, a lot of my friends that I have are people that I've met through other friends. 00:34:00.000 --> 00:34:05.759 So once I moved here, because I moved here about five years ago, and I knew nobody, not a single soul. 00:34:06.000 --> 00:34:08.079 And so I kind of she did that. 00:34:08.159 --> 00:34:10.159 She she transplanted to Portland, Maine. 00:34:10.320 --> 00:34:12.719 Yeah, to Portland, yeah, to Portland, Maine. 00:34:12.880 --> 00:34:14.239 My own version of Portland Maine. 00:34:14.559 --> 00:34:15.039 Exactly. 00:34:15.440 --> 00:34:21.119 And I had to kind of build that up from scratch, and it's it was difficult. 00:34:21.280 --> 00:34:25.920 Like I finally, five years later now, feel comfortable where I'm at. 00:34:26.000 --> 00:34:37.840 I like I love my friends, I feel like I have a good group of friends, but it took a little while to find my people and like realize who was for me and who wasn't. 00:34:38.400 --> 00:34:40.480 And I mean, I tried all the different things. 00:34:40.559 --> 00:34:42.159 I've tried Bumble BFF. 00:34:42.880 --> 00:34:43.760 I've never done that. 00:34:44.239 --> 00:34:46.320 It's it's interesting. 00:34:46.559 --> 00:34:47.920 None of them stuck. 00:34:48.719 --> 00:34:52.320 Um but it's a good you know, experience. 00:34:52.719 --> 00:34:55.119 Yeah, you just kind of have to put yourself out there, I think. 00:34:59.039 --> 00:35:00.000 Any more words? 00:35:00.239 --> 00:35:01.760 Um, I have one left. 00:35:05.119 --> 00:35:06.000 Oh, okay. 00:35:07.360 --> 00:35:07.679 Okay. 00:35:08.079 --> 00:35:11.199 What does it mean when a guy high-fives you at a bar? 00:35:12.239 --> 00:35:20.559 She says, I have experienced this on a I have experienced this on a few different occasions while out at the bars. 00:35:20.800 --> 00:35:26.480 I'll just be standing there and a guy passing by will put his hand up initiating a high five. 00:35:26.800 --> 00:35:30.639 They will rarely ever say anything but smile before walking off. 00:35:30.960 --> 00:35:34.239 It's very strange, and this has happened to me a few times now. 00:35:34.800 --> 00:35:36.880 Has anyone else experienced this? 00:35:37.039 --> 00:35:39.119 I'm trying to understand the point of it. 00:35:39.679 --> 00:35:43.119 I chose this one because it sounds like something that would happen to you, Damiana. 00:35:44.079 --> 00:35:44.639 Thanks. 00:35:46.480 --> 00:35:52.559 Uh I have been I've given high fives at a bar, but I just keep on walking. 00:35:52.719 --> 00:35:57.840 Like I don't like stop

and like what if somebody just like comes up to you and high-fives you. 00:35:58.159 --> 00:36:05.119 I think it's just like a hey, and I just was like, hey, and just keep on walking, but I don't ever initiate a conversation with them. 00:36:05.440 --> 00:36:20.559 But like if I'm just talking with my friends, it's usually like we're passing by each other, like and you like no interact, no interaction, it's just like one's going one way, I'm going, like, we're going opposite directions, and it's like, hey, high five, and I'm like, hey, whatever, right? 00:36:20.719 --> 00:36:25.840 But never when I'm with my friends, would has someone come up to me and given me a high five. 00:36:26.079 --> 00:36:27.119 You're so nice. 00:36:27.360 --> 00:36:31.519 If somebody came up to me to give you a high five, we'd be like, Don't fucking touch me. 00:36:34.079 --> 00:36:36.400 Ladies and gentlemen, this is Lena. 00:36:37.119 --> 00:36:38.800 Do not approach her in public. 00:36:39.039 --> 00:36:44.159 If the resting bitch face and the hoodie are not enough, don't worry, she will tell you. 00:36:44.320 --> 00:36:45.039 Don't touch her. 00:36:45.199 --> 00:36:46.159 Don't touch me. 00:36:46.320 --> 00:36:47.679 Don't touch Lena. 00:36:47.920 --> 00:36:51.840 I have never been high-fived, but um, I could see it happening. 00:36:51.920 --> 00:36:54.480 But yeah, I know you don't know that I would ever do it. 00:36:54.559 --> 00:37:05.119 My the first thing that came to mind was kind of wondering to know how old she was because I'm like, is it sort of a like, you know, frat guy thing in a bar going, hey, how many women can you get to high five you or something like that? 00:37:05.440 --> 00:37:06.400 But I don't know. 00:37:06.559 --> 00:37:09.199 Um, that was just what immediately came to mind. 00:37:09.280 --> 00:37:10.800 But I I don't know. 00:37:10.960 --> 00:37:14.239 Maybe they just, you know, want to touch you. 00:37:14.880 --> 00:37:16.239 Yeah, don't you can't touch me. 00:37:16.320 --> 00:37:17.599 I don't think just your hand. 00:37:18.000 --> 00:37:20.400 I was just gonna say, I don't think I don't know where that hand's been. 00:37:21.039 --> 00:37:24.559 Right, but I mean, I carry hand sanitizer. 00:37:24.800 --> 00:37:26.559 We're humans, they don't know where my hands been. 00:37:26.719 --> 00:37:28.559 Humans need contact, Lena. 00:37:28.880 --> 00:37:30.639 Human contact, hi five me, Lena. 00:37:32.159 --> 00:37:34.719 Um she's like, that's it for the day. 00:37:34.800 --> 00:37:36.719 I've had enough human contact now. 00:37:37.039 --> 00:37:38.000 I'm tapped out. 00:37:38.239 --> 00:37:39.280 All tapped out. 00:37:39.519 --> 00:37:43.199 Yeah, I don't know if there's like anything that there's any hidden meaning behind it. 00:37:43.280 --> 00:37:44.239 I'm like, I don't know. 00:37:45.280 --> 00:37:47.599 But isn't it weird that it's happened to her multiple times? 00:37:47.760 --> 00:37:51.440 Maybe she just has that kind of energy, like she

looks like a fun person. 00:37:51.760 --> 00:37:52.239 A high five. 00:37:52.639 --> 00:37:53.039 Yeah, yeah. 00:37:53.360 --> 00:37:59.199 But is she like sitting at a bar drinking and then like like come up to her, tap her and be like, hi five? 00:37:59.440 --> 00:38:02.719 Or is she like walking or playing pool and they're like, oh hey, hi. 00:38:03.280 --> 00:38:05.760 Like there's different, like I think it'd be more weird. 00:38:06.000 --> 00:38:06.639 That's the context. 00:38:06.719 --> 00:38:12.960 Yeah, I think it'd be more weird if you were like out with your group of friends having a conversation like we're doing, and someone comes, taps me on the shoulder and be like, hi five. 00:38:13.920 --> 00:38:14.639 That'd be weird. 00:38:14.800 --> 00:38:15.840 I'd be like, right, right. 00:38:16.400 --> 00:38:18.400 Don't tap me on the shoulder. 00:38:20.320 --> 00:38:24.159 Yeah, that's don't don't touch me on the shoulder. 00:38:26.000 --> 00:38:29.119 What is a personal space, people? 00:38:29.760 --> 00:38:31.599 I don't care if you can touch me. 00:38:31.760 --> 00:38:32.800 I just can't. 00:38:34.400 --> 00:38:36.639 Why are people touching each other? 00:38:36.960 --> 00:38:41.199 I hardly call human contact in kindergarten. 00:38:41.280 --> 00:38:43.840 We learn to keep our hands and feet to ourselves. 00:38:44.000 --> 00:38:48.400 I hardly think like tapping someone on the shoulder is like invasion of space. 00:38:48.639 --> 00:38:51.280 Yeah, like I think I you can do arm's length and tap someone on the shoulder. 00:38:51.440 --> 00:38:55.760 I mean, it's not like it's not like you remember when you were in elementary school and the boys would snap your bra. 00:38:56.000 --> 00:38:57.599 Like, that's invasion of space. 00:38:57.840 --> 00:38:58.719 That didn't happen to you. 00:38:59.440 --> 00:39:01.840 Oh, that was such a thing at my my elementary school. 00:39:02.320 --> 00:39:03.760 Boys were getting in trouble, let me tell you. 00:39:04.559 --> 00:39:06.159 Boys used to pants each other. 00:39:06.559 --> 00:39:08.320 No, pantsing, that's not okay. 00:39:08.480 --> 00:39:08.880 Yeah. 00:39:09.119 --> 00:39:10.000 Yeah, one on the board. 00:39:10.320 --> 00:39:11.119 I don't need to see that. 00:39:11.840 --> 00:39:12.559 Only one? 00:39:12.800 --> 00:39:15.519 Yeah, because he pulled all the layers down. 00:39:15.760 --> 00:39:17.440 Oh, that happened once to us. 00:39:18.320 --> 00:39:19.440 That was in high school. 00:39:19.599 --> 00:39:21.760 Oh my god! Different situation. 00:39:23.920 --> 00:39:25.280 We won't talk about that one. 00:39:25.760 --> 00:39:26.880 Maybe on another episode. 00:39:27.039 --> 00:39:28.000 On another episode, maybe. 00:39:28.239 --> 00:39:34.880 Gabriela's uh Gabriella and Amy's adventures senior year at high school were quite interesting. 00:39:35.039 --> 00:39:38.559 One of the fru one of the very few times I ever had to talk to a principal. 00:39:38.800 --> 00:39:44.639 So goodness. 00:39:44.880 --> 00:39:46.239 Well, thank you, Lena. 00:39:46.639 --> 00:39:51.519 And uh listeners, if you would like our advice on anything, please reach out to us. 00:39:51.599 --> 00:39:53.440 Gavrilla gives the best dating advice. 00:39:53.599 --> 00:39:54.719 She is dying. 00:39:55.199 --> 00:39:58.639 She is dying to help you with your situation. 00:39:58.960 --> 00:40:02.639 Um actually, I think Amy's wanting to get dating advice. 00:40:03.039 --> 00:40:12.239 I will commiserate with all of y'all because I'm sure we all have the same stories, similar situations, both men and women, because dating out here is tough, peoples. 00:40:12.480 --> 00:40:16.320 If you're out there putting yourself out there, bless you. 00:40:16.480 --> 00:40:17.280 Kudos to you. 00:40:17.840 --> 00:40:23.360 And folks, if anyone touches you, remember, tell them to stop fucking touching you. 00:40:26.559 --> 00:40:27.360 Or not. 00:40:27.519 --> 00:40:29.039 Um, Amy says, or not. 00:40:29.280 --> 00:40:34.639 Um so yes, certifiably awkward.com is our website. 00:40:34.800 --> 00:40:40.960 You can contact us through there or our social media, Instagram or Facebook, Certifiably Awkward. 00:40:41.440 --> 00:40:45.039 And uh yeah, we will see you next time. 00:40:45.760 --> 00:40:46.239 Bye. 00:40:46.800 --> 00:40:47.440 Bye.