Full Transcript for Bitching About Unexplained RAGE

has a doozy of one. 00:02:26.400 --> 00:02:32.879 I yeah, I yeah, oh, and Hottie's crowdsourcing recommendations here. 00:02:33.280 --> 00:02:35.520 She wants me to start taking some supplements. 00:02:35.599 --> 00:02:39.120 She wants me on magnesium, calcium, and vitamin D. 00:02:39.360 --> 00:02:41.919 I can't remember the last time I bought a supplement for myself. 00:02:42.000 --> 00:02:54.319 So if anybody has any brands for those that you really like, I do, I do, and my um my uh nutritionist who I found through Nourish, uh, who is amazing. 00:02:54.400 --> 00:03:07.439 And I just talked with her this morning, uh, Marie, Christina Marie Rogers, she um recommended a calcium and a vitamin D for me um that is a liquid. 00:03:08.000 --> 00:03:08.240 Yeah. 00:03:08.479 --> 00:03:09.680 Wait, what's it taste like? 00:03:09.919 --> 00:03:11.759 Uh it's not great, but okay. 00:03:11.919 --> 00:03:21.199 I mean, I'm sure I've had worse things in my mouth, but uh hashtag I'm sure I've had worse things in my mouth. 00:03:21.360 --> 00:03:27.039 Uh but it's like you hold it like under your tongue for a little bit. 00:03:27.199 --> 00:03:27.439 Okay. 00:03:27.599 --> 00:03:34.639 And so like I I was on the floor with a foot cramp in Safeway for 20 minutes the other day. 00:03:34.800 --> 00:03:36.319 It was so embarrassing. 00:03:37.439 --> 00:03:42.960 And I went home and like I took the uh the magnesium immediately and it helped so much. 00:03:43.039 --> 00:03:45.599 So really, yeah, it's awful. 00:03:45.759 --> 00:03:53.280 Like the it the lack of estrogen leaches out the all of the good stuff out of our bodies, and and uh magnesium is one of those things. 00:03:53.360 --> 00:03:55.680 So yeah, please let us in general. 00:03:56.000 --> 00:03:58.719 I'm gonna want that link for that liquid. 00:03:59.280 --> 00:04:00.560 I'll link it in the show notes. 00:04:00.800 --> 00:04:05.599 It is I think like the name, the brand name is like Quicksilver or something. 00:04:05.840 --> 00:04:12.159 Uh I don't remember because brain fog, but I will um find it. 00:04:12.400 --> 00:04:14.560 We'll find it, and I'll link it in the show notes. 00:04:14.800 --> 00:04:15.199 We'll find it. 00:04:15.360 --> 00:04:18.720 Looks like you've already answered Lindsay's question. 00:04:18.879 --> 00:04:23.360 Any magnesium supplements that are not giant pills and not sugary gummies? 00:04:23.519 --> 00:04:28.079 Look like Lindsay, it looks like we're gonna put some nasty tasting shit under our tongues instead. 00:04:28.800 --> 00:04:29.519 But you know what? 00:04:29.600 --> 00:04:35.040 You can have like a brownie ready to go and like you swallowed the nasty shit and eat the brownie and you're good to go. 00:04:35.279 --> 00:04:38.319 But then am I gonna start associating brownies with that? 00:04:38.560 --> 00:04:42.000 Uh change it to something that is that you like to drink. 00:04:42.240 --> 00:04:43.519 Maybe some coke. 00:04:43.680 --> 00:04:46.959 Coke is a shot of whiskey after a shot of whiskey. 00:04:47.040 --> 00:04:47.600 There you go. 00:04:47.759 --> 00:04:51.680 I mean, it's you know, it's it's uh, you know, micronutrients, right? 00:04:53.040 --> 00:04:54.399 I mean, I can't have sugar. 00:04:54.560 --> 00:05:05.040 So if anybody needs anything that doesn't have sugar in it, like I I am the person to ask because I cannot eat anything derived from cane sugar, I get a bad reaction to it. 00:05:05.120 --> 00:05:08.959 So it's good to have a brownie ready to go in any event, says Kate. 00:05:09.199 --> 00:05:09.519 Agree. 00:05:09.839 --> 00:05:10.639 Thank you, Kate. 00:05:11.120 --> 00:05:12.800 100% agree. 00:05:13.040 --> 00:05:17.120 And I know that Kate is a very good baker too, so I bet her brownies are killers. 00:05:18.160 --> 00:05:20.480 Kate, Kate, do you ship brownies? 00:05:22.560 --> 00:05:23.439 Amazing. 00:05:24.000 --> 00:05:24.720 Oh my gosh. 00:05:24.800 --> 00:05:27.839 So, Dom, who are we and what are we drinking? 00:05:28.079 --> 00:05:29.759 Who are we and what are we drinking? 00:05:30.000 --> 00:05:32.879 And listeners, we're also adding a fun fact. 00:05:34.000 --> 00:05:42.160 You know, like the dreaded, the dreaded uh, was it icebreaker uh at meetings, but we're gonna make it fun. 00:05:42.399 --> 00:05:42.720 Yes. 00:05:42.959 --> 00:05:45.519 So, Marnie, Marnie, you go first. 00:05:45.759 --> 00:05:45.920 Okay. 00:05:46.800 --> 00:05:47.519 So let's see. 00:05:47.680 --> 00:05:49.600 Um, my name is Marnie. 00:05:50.399 --> 00:05:54.319 I am a uh I am in post-menopause. 00:05:54.399 --> 00:05:56.399 I have been post-menopausal for eight years. 00:05:56.560 --> 00:05:58.399 I earned my white pants eight years ago. 00:05:59.920 --> 00:06:08.000 And today I am I'm in the DC area, and today I am drinking out of my little happy reader vibes that is losing some stickers. 00:06:08.240 --> 00:06:12.399 Um, I am drinking uh spiced rum and pineapple juice. 00:06:12.720 --> 00:06:13.600 Oh no. 00:06:14.399 --> 00:06:15.439 I'm missing the beach. 00:06:15.680 --> 00:06:16.800 I miss the beach a lot. 00:06:16.959 --> 00:06:32.639 So, and my fun fact is um I have a tattoo on my lower right hip that you can't see if I'm wearing any type of clothing whatsoever, but it is a collection of symbols that mean a lot to me. 00:06:32.879 --> 00:06:35.600 And so the face of it is a diamond. 00:06:35.680 --> 00:06:47.759 And fun fact is when women were first allowed their own coats of arms, um, they were given a diamond, but a diamond within a diamond meant that a woman was independent or divorced. 00:06:48.240 --> 00:06:54.079 And I got this tattoo on what would have been my fourth anniversary after my after my my divorce. 00:06:54.319 --> 00:06:56.079 I am remarried to a wonderful guy. 00:06:56.879 --> 00:07:05.279 That said, um, in the center of that double diamond is uh a dot to symbolize the present moment and being present in the moment. 00:07:05.439 --> 00:07:17.040 Um, but a dot with a

circle around it is the symbol for the sun and a and it in ancient like hobo symbols in England and France and meant here they give you food and money. 00:07:18.000 --> 00:07:19.600 So that's inside the diamonds. 00:07:19.759 --> 00:07:28.319 And then on the outside are uh it looks like Celtic knot work, um, but it's a modified letter B to remind me to be bold. 00:07:29.120 --> 00:07:35.040 And then around the outside of it in white, in white ink, it says to thine own self be true. 00:07:35.439 --> 00:07:41.600 And then underneath it it says H B S E, which stands for happiness, boldness, strength, and endurance. 00:07:41.839 --> 00:07:43.040 Oh my god. 00:07:43.360 --> 00:07:52.720 I'll put a picture of it in the show notes, but it it means the world to me, and I figure, you know, if you're gonna have something on your body, you want it to mean something, right? 00:07:53.040 --> 00:07:54.160 That is gorgeous. 00:07:54.319 --> 00:07:56.160 I love that so much. 00:07:56.480 --> 00:07:56.879 Thank you. 00:07:57.040 --> 00:07:59.759 So power symbols on my body all the time. 00:08:00.079 --> 00:08:00.720 Yes. 00:08:01.759 --> 00:08:02.879 How about you, Dom? 00:08:03.040 --> 00:08:05.759 Who are you and what are you drinking, and what's a fun fact about you? 00:08:06.079 --> 00:08:09.360 Okay, so I am Dom. 00:08:10.000 --> 00:08:11.839 I am located in Maine. 00:08:12.079 --> 00:08:16.480 I am 44 years old and I am in perimenopause. 00:08:16.639 --> 00:08:23.680 So all of the things are happening now, and they've been happening for almost four years that I know of. 00:08:24.800 --> 00:08:30.240 But if I was to really dig back into my history, I probably would see some signs even before 40. 00:08:31.120 --> 00:08:45.200 Um, and my fun fact, well, since we're talking about the stuff that's on our bodies, yeah, I have four tattoos, but one of my tattoos is only visible if I take my pants off. 00:08:46.159 --> 00:09:01.840 Um, I got the Xavier Roberts signature on my right butt cheek about 10 years ago because I decided I wanted to be the first Filipino Italian cabbage patch kid. 00:09:02.080 --> 00:09:03.919 Oh my god, I love that. 00:09:04.159 --> 00:09:06.080 I love that so much. 00:09:07.039 --> 00:09:13.360 That I can't wait to see that because I'm gonna see you in person in a few weeks, and I can't wait to see that. 00:09:13.519 --> 00:09:14.159 Oh, you'll see. 00:09:14.480 --> 00:09:19.519 I I will I readily show that butt cheek to anyone who wants to see it. 00:09:19.759 --> 00:09:20.080 Yes. 00:09:20.320 --> 00:09:20.960 Oh my god. 00:09:21.120 --> 00:09:22.159 Is it online somewhere? 00:09:22.320 --> 00:09:24.240 Is it on your like your Instagram or something? 00:09:24.559 --> 00:09:28.639 It might be, and if it's not, we might need to remedy that. 00:09:29.600 --> 00:09:30.320 Okay, okay. 00:09:30.399 --> 00:09:34.559 So on our Instagram and on our TikTok, we need to put uh both of our tattoos. 00:09:34.720 --> 00:09:36.639 Did you want to talk

about your other tattoos as well? 00:09:36.879 --> 00:09:37.679 Okay, well, maybe. 00:09:37.840 --> 00:09:38.879 We'll leave those for another one. 00:09:39.039 --> 00:09:40.639 We'll leave those for for another. 00:09:40.879 --> 00:09:41.039 Okay. 00:09:41.279 --> 00:09:42.320 Another one, we'll leave it. 00:09:42.399 --> 00:09:46.639 I feel as though Xavier is that is that is pretty awesome. 00:09:46.799 --> 00:09:47.519 And what are you drinking? 00:09:47.679 --> 00:09:48.240 You forgot to tell me. 00:09:48.799 --> 00:09:50.720 Oh, Rose Alday, baby. 00:09:51.440 --> 00:09:52.320 Rose all day. 00:09:52.480 --> 00:09:54.960 Is it from the same rose from the corner? 00:09:55.360 --> 00:10:04.399 It is from the corner market, but today I paid extra for more expensive rose from the corner market because it's been a fucking week already. 00:10:04.639 --> 00:10:05.600 Oh my god, tell me. 00:10:05.840 --> 00:10:07.679 And I decided to be bougie. 00:10:09.200 --> 00:10:10.320 Here's the bougie. 00:10:10.559 --> 00:10:12.799 And can I just toast to us? 00:10:13.039 --> 00:10:15.279 We just hit 100 downloads. 00:10:15.679 --> 00:10:17.679 And I clear, click on that. 00:10:17.919 --> 00:10:19.279 We hit 100 downloads. 00:10:19.440 --> 00:10:25.919 So we we do record a little in advance, but we we hit 100 downloads on our fourth episode. 00:10:26.159 --> 00:10:32.960 Yay us! Yay, us, and yay to everybody else who is loving having these conversations with us because we need them. 00:10:33.519 --> 00:10:37.519 Thank you for your support, for listening, for sharing. 00:10:37.919 --> 00:10:50.960 It means the world to us to have you here with us because this is this is this is for all of you, it's for us and for all of our friends that and family and friends we haven't met who have ovaries and deal with this. 00:10:51.200 --> 00:10:52.240 Yeah, 100%. 00:10:52.879 --> 00:10:57.600 So we actually, oh uh uh Marguerite Gavin said, Did you design your tattoo, Marnie? 00:10:57.759 --> 00:10:58.320 I did. 00:10:58.559 --> 00:10:59.120 I did. 00:10:59.279 --> 00:11:04.480 I was like, you know, my my ex hated tattoos, and so I was like, I'm gonna fucking that too. 00:11:04.720 --> 00:11:06.720 And so like I designed it myself. 00:11:06.879 --> 00:11:10.639 I I I do actually have a degree in graphic design, which you can see on our merch. 00:11:11.519 --> 00:11:20.159 Like our little our little bitch with the little lightning coming at, burking the lightning out, and then BIH and Hottie on the back. 00:11:20.240 --> 00:11:22.159 And I'm wearing the hottie on the back. 00:11:22.320 --> 00:11:24.080 I'm wearing the t-shirt today, too. 00:11:24.240 --> 00:11:27.440 Yeah, you are, and I'll show my boobs too. 00:11:29.200 --> 00:11:35.039 Dom's wearing our hottie t-shirt, and you can find all that at shop.bitchesandheat.com. 00:11:35.279 --> 00:11:38.159 Um, so yes, I did design my tattoo. 00:11:38.399 --> 00:11:41.279 Um, and I it means it means a lot to me. 00:11:41.360 --> 00:11:42.799 Maybe I should put that on a t-shirt. 00:11:43.840 --> 00:11:46.320 I'll send you guys the stuff and see what you think. 00:11:46.559 --> 00:11:48.320 Um, earned my white pants. 00:11:48.399 --> 00:11:50.960 Marguerite says, I love earned my white pants. 00:11:51.279 --> 00:11:52.399 Um, so yeah. 00:11:53.039 --> 00:11:55.120 Stay tuned, Marguerite and Hotes. 00:11:55.279 --> 00:11:58.879 We're gonna have some other things going on as it relates to white pants. 00:12:00.399 --> 00:12:06.320 So, on that note, why don't we move on to our bitch sesh? 00:12:06.480 --> 00:12:08.240 And what are we talking about today, Dom? 00:12:08.799 --> 00:12:11.120 Perry Menopausal rage. 00:12:11.600 --> 00:12:12.080 Oh, yeah. 00:12:12.399 --> 00:12:14.879 Yeah, it is the worst. 00:12:15.120 --> 00:12:21.279 So, so Miss Marnie, yes, tell me, tell me your rage stories. 00:12:22.480 --> 00:12:24.399 So, my rage stories. 00:12:24.720 --> 00:12:38.159 Um my again, in our uh origin stories episode, I noted that uh I my perimetopausal journey coincided with weaning my child, who is about to turn 14, by the way. 00:12:38.240 --> 00:12:40.960 Oh, by the time this comes out, we'll have turned 14. 00:12:41.840 --> 00:12:46.960 So my child just turned 14, and this coincided with weaning them. 00:12:47.360 --> 00:12:55.919 And and I did not know this, but when you wean your child, um, your hormones go, oh, okay, well, back to business. 00:12:56.000 --> 00:12:57.919 I guess you don't need those hormones anymore. 00:12:58.159 --> 00:13:05.519 But at the same time, I was 44, and so I it was like, whoa, okay, hang on, wait a minute. 00:13:05.679 --> 00:13:12.159 So, like with menopause, uh perimenopause and weaning my child, my hormones went into overdrive. 00:13:13.440 --> 00:13:18.320 And so I was so angry all the time. 00:13:18.720 --> 00:13:21.919 Everything, everything pissed me off. 00:13:22.639 --> 00:13:28.080 And I and my my besties wouldn't tell will tell you, anybody who knows me really will tell you. 00:13:28.159 --> 00:13:30.960 I'm like, I'm like so happy all the time. 00:13:31.279 --> 00:13:33.600 And this was just out of nowhere. 00:13:33.679 --> 00:13:35.519 I would bite people's heads off. 00:13:35.840 --> 00:13:49.120 And I was, you know, I was so so angry and and so sad, and just like the sadness led to anger, and everything, everything just like it was a perfect storm. 00:13:49.279 --> 00:13:49.840 Yeah. 00:13:50.080 --> 00:14:04.559 There was one one in particular one day that um I we had I had my child and um I had just put them down for a nap, or maybe it's bedtime, I think. 00:14:04.720 --> 00:14:09.200 And all day I had been waiting to put this um this alpha. 00:14:09.440 --> 00:14:12.799 I don't know if you know who what alpha shelving is, it's from the container store. 00:14:12.960 --> 00:14:14.720 Um oh yes, yes, yes. 00:14:14.960 --> 00:14:20.559 Yeah, so it's it's modular shelving, and I had been waiting all day to put up this

modular shelving. 00:14:20.879 --> 00:14:29.679 And I my husband came home from work, I had just gotten the kid uh to bed, and I was like, I'm ready to go put up the shelving now. 00:14:29.840 --> 00:14:32.000 And my husband said, Oh, honey, it's kind of late. 00:14:32.080 --> 00:14:33.600 Why don't you save that till tomorrow? 00:14:33.759 --> 00:14:42.159 And I burst into tears and screamed at him, I've been waiting all day to put up and like, oh my god. 00:14:42.320 --> 00:14:44.799 I think about it now, and I'm like, my poor husband. 00:14:45.039 --> 00:14:57.679 Um, but at the time, I'm sure I was like, um, but like it was just it was like, it was like this, you know, dog with the lighting and the fire around the microphone. 00:14:57.759 --> 00:15:05.519 It was like it was out of nowhere, and I would just start bawling, crying, and screaming. 00:15:05.840 --> 00:15:14.159 Um, and that's when I finally went and saw my doctor and I said, I don't know who this person is that that I have become. 00:15:14.399 --> 00:15:17.519 Um, and that's when she told me what was going on. 00:15:17.759 --> 00:15:31.759 Um so it was we would have friends over and my husband would serve like a round of drinks or something, and I would just see red, and I'd be like, You're cursing under my mind right now. 00:15:33.600 --> 00:15:43.120 Um and then I remembered that I had seen this Oprah special that was like um about perimenopausal rage. 00:15:43.200 --> 00:15:50.320 And I was like, I I was like, I remember this phrase, perimenopausal rage, because of course I had no idea what was happening. 00:15:50.720 --> 00:15:59.200 Um and and so I just googled perimenopausal rage, and this Oprah special came up, and I was like, I remember this. 00:15:59.919 --> 00:16:12.080 She had taken hidden cameras and put them throughout um different women's houses and and filmed them constantly until they had gotten used to it, right? 00:16:13.600 --> 00:16:23.759 And then she would get uh this you know uh the footage of them blowing up at their families over the littlest thing. 00:16:24.080 --> 00:16:55.519 Like you you put your dish in the left side of the sink instead of the right side of the sink and just seeing red, um, and just seemingly for no re no reason, and I'm using air quotes if you're not watching the video of this, and come to find out it's a totally normal thing when your body is going, okay, there are you know saber-toothed tigers everywhere, and you need to take them down when your your estrogen is all wonky. 00:16:55.840 --> 00:16:56.240 Oh my god. 00:16:56.559 --> 00:17:00.559 So I highly recommend Googling Perimenopausal Rage Oprah. 00:17:01.039 --> 00:17:12.079 Um and then like I would notice like in cinema, like every so often you'll see somebody famous is going through it. 00:17:12.160 --> 00:17:20.880 And like Salma Hayek, she just had um, and I can't remember the name of the of the movie, um, but I'll I'll try and remember it and put it in the show notes. 00:17:21.119 --> 00:17:52.960 Um, but her character is a middle-aged woman, and but she's you know, hot, like we are, and so she she put into her character that she was having hot flashes and she was having rage out of nowhere, and she was yeah, so it it does creep into the zeitgeist, and it's getting more and more prevalent as more people talk about it, like like us, and there are like 30 menopause podcasts out there, and um, it is so important that we all talk about this. 00:17:53.119 --> 00:18:20.000 So on my TikTok, my perimenopause, P A W S TikTok, I have a series of perimenopausal rage in cinema, and I have the uh the Rita Wilson monologue from the story of us about like um about how she doesn't have sex with her husband anymore because it's hard to French kiss someone who doesn't who takes the empty toilet paper roll and puts it on the you know and puts a new roll on top of the empty toilet paper roll. 00:18:20.160 --> 00:18:21.440 Does he not see it? 00:18:21.759 --> 00:18:29.359 It's like it's one of my favorite monologues in all of film. 00:18:29.599 --> 00:18:36.160 And then I put up Tawanda from um uh uh Fried Green Tomatoes. 00:18:37.599 --> 00:18:39.440 Oh, do I remember that? 00:18:39.599 --> 00:18:49.920 Yes, and speaking of Kathy Bates, um, from Misery, the monologue about oh, how nice you don't appreciate anything that I'm doing. 00:18:50.000 --> 00:18:52.000 And it's right before she hobbles him. 00:18:52.640 --> 00:18:55.680 And yeah, and so I shouldn't have laughed that. 00:18:56.240 --> 00:18:57.839 I mean, but come on. 00:18:58.640 --> 00:19:02.079 And then the other ones I have up are Everything Everywhere All at Once. 00:19:02.480 --> 00:19:12.000 Amazing movie, amazing, and so in like such such a metaphor for perimetopause, just like everything everywhere all at once. 00:19:12.240 --> 00:19:21.759 And um, and the other one was Hella from the the um from the oh gosh Thor movies. 00:19:22.079 --> 00:19:25.599 Hell it Hella is like, isn't she Thor's sister? 00:19:25.839 --> 00:19:30.480 And she like just it's um please help me in the chat. 00:19:30.559 --> 00:19:34.799 It it is uh Oh Night Bitch! Night Bitch is another one. 00:19:34.960 --> 00:19:37.839 Lindsay just mentioned Night Bitch with Amy Adams. 00:19:38.240 --> 00:19:39.440 It's such a good movie. 00:19:39.599 --> 00:19:41.279 Oh my gosh, it's so good. 00:19:41.519 --> 00:19:47.440 Um, so uh, but Hella, um god damn it. 00:19:47.519 --> 00:19:48.960 Anyway, Kate Blanchett, that's her name. 00:19:49.039 --> 00:20:07.279 Kate Blanchette plays Hella, and so she is uh she's like she gets mad, and then this guy's like, we're supposed to be you know scared of a little girl, and she's like, oh man, and then she like go does this, and like all her spikes come out, and she proceeds to kill everyone. 00:20:07.759 --> 00:20:10.400 And I was like, that's perimenopausal. 00:20:15.680 --> 00:20:18.559 Just brilliant representation in Marvel, right? 00:20:19.279 --> 00:20:19.759

Exactly. 00:20:20.000 --> 00:20:21.279 So what about you, you don't? 00:20:21.440 --> 00:20:26.559 Like, what what is your what are your stories about menopausal paramenopausal rage? 00:20:26.640 --> 00:20:27.599 What has happened to you? 00:20:28.160 --> 00:20:29.440 Whoa, whoa. 00:20:30.400 --> 00:20:37.279 So it kind of snuck up on me because here's the thing I am half Italian, half Filipino. 00:20:37.519 --> 00:20:40.319 Okay, which means I've got a temper. 00:20:43.680 --> 00:20:44.880 I love it. 00:20:45.680 --> 00:20:46.319 I love it. 00:20:46.480 --> 00:20:58.400 So like me increasing rage, but actually it did start to my husband I I do have a marker for where I do know it turned into rage because I think it was like a year ago. 00:20:58.559 --> 00:20:58.640 Okay. 00:20:58.960 --> 00:21:07.519 Ian looked at me and he was like, You're not you and he was like scared of me. 00:21:07.680 --> 00:21:09.279 And I was like, what are you talking about? 00:21:09.519 --> 00:21:12.720 As I am yelling at him for oh, here's the thing. 00:21:12.799 --> 00:21:14.079 Okay, actually, hang on. 00:21:14.319 --> 00:21:19.200 All right, yes, it was probably perimenopause of rage that got me to this level. 00:21:19.599 --> 00:21:21.920 Hottie's Hottie's helped me. 00:21:23.039 --> 00:21:33.680 He washed one of my cardigans on warm water with towels and put it in the dryer. 00:21:34.000 --> 00:21:35.920 Oh, and it was wool? 00:21:36.319 --> 00:21:38.880 It was like a cotton cotton cashmere. 00:21:39.359 --> 00:21:40.799 Oh my god. 00:21:41.440 --> 00:21:42.160 Oh, right. 00:21:42.720 --> 00:21:43.839 Your rage was justified. 00:21:44.079 --> 00:21:44.880 Help a girl out here. 00:21:45.039 --> 00:21:45.839 Help a girl out. 00:21:46.160 --> 00:21:47.039 I got your bail money. 00:21:47.119 --> 00:21:47.839 You're good. 00:21:49.519 --> 00:21:55.519 So I consistently, I I consistently text friends and say, get my bail money ready. 00:21:57.039 --> 00:21:58.880 Get like like get it ready. 00:21:59.039 --> 00:21:59.519 There were two. 00:22:00.079 --> 00:22:04.640 There are two reasons that my oldest friends know that they need to have bail money for. 00:22:04.799 --> 00:22:06.640 One, Ian, Ian's my husband. 00:22:06.799 --> 00:22:08.400 Ian did the fucking laundry again. 00:22:08.480 --> 00:22:13.200 Even though I tell him he thinks he's being helpful, I tell him every time, please don't dear. 00:22:13.359 --> 00:22:15.359 I know you're thinking you're being helpful. 00:22:15.519 --> 00:22:17.599 I appreciate that from the bottom of my heart. 00:22:17.759 --> 00:22:19.440 Please don't do the fucking laundry. 00:22:21.440 --> 00:22:24.960 The other time I need bail money is when I go to the grocery store. 00:22:25.119 --> 00:22:27.839 And that is also a rage trigger for me. 00:22:28.079 --> 00:22:28.960 Tell me. 00:22:29.839 --> 00:22:30.640 Let's see. 00:22:30.880 --> 00:22:51.759 I mean people in the grocery store, people walking in the grocery store, people blocking the entire aisle of the grocery store, people standing in lines up my butt too close in the grocery store, people using self-checkout that don't have never used self-checkout before and take a million years, or do a grocery cart full of fucking shit in the self-checkout line. 00:22:51.920 --> 00:22:55.200 People who go to the 12 items and under with 20 items. 00:23:08.559 --> 00:23:12.240 However, those little things. 00:23:34.720 --> 00:23:36.960 Or is something else happening? 00:23:37.200 --> 00:23:37.599 Yeah. 00:23:38.160 --> 00:23:48.240 I will say my last doctor did put me on a low dose, back on a low dose of acetalipriam, which is the generic form of lexaprobe to help me with sleeping. 00:23:48.559 --> 00:23:53.440 And that seems to be calming me down a little bit. 00:23:53.680 --> 00:23:54.079 Yes. 00:23:54.960 --> 00:24:01.599 Along with boxing on a weekly basis with my boxing coach who sometimes listens to the podcast. 00:24:01.680 --> 00:24:02.559 She was here last time. 00:24:02.640 --> 00:24:04.000 So she will probably hear this. 00:24:04.079 --> 00:24:07.599 But yeah, that also going and hitting things hard. 00:24:07.920 --> 00:24:08.400 Yes. 00:24:08.640 --> 00:24:11.039 Here that another good thing. 00:24:11.200 --> 00:24:13.359 Yeah, another recommendation for hitting things. 00:24:13.440 --> 00:24:15.599 I want to go to one of those rec rooms. 00:24:16.720 --> 00:24:18.880 I actually have a gift card for a rec room. 00:24:19.039 --> 00:24:19.759 Oh my gosh. 00:24:19.920 --> 00:24:21.359 Up there, up there in Maine? 00:24:21.519 --> 00:24:22.559 In New Hampshire. 00:24:22.799 --> 00:24:23.680 Oh my gosh. 00:24:23.839 --> 00:24:28.000 I want to find one and like go and destroy some stuff. 00:24:28.079 --> 00:24:33.279 Like that's meant to be destroyed and nobody gets hurt, but like it it oh, just so excited. 00:24:33.440 --> 00:24:35.759 Port Fun Fun says it is the little thing. 00:24:35.920 --> 00:24:36.880 It is, thank you. 00:24:37.039 --> 00:24:40.640 Like Ian leaving the I fucking told you this. 00:24:40.880 --> 00:24:50.160 He fucking he eats granola out of the granola bag and he puts his grubby fingers in there and then he leaves the bag open on the counter or on the dining room table. 00:24:50.319 --> 00:24:54.559 Or sometimes he eats it on the couch with his hands and then gets crumbs on the couch. 00:24:54.799 --> 00:24:55.440 Oh my god. 00:24:55.599 --> 00:24:57.279 Good thing you have dogs though. 00:24:59.920 --> 00:25:06.960 It's perimenopausal rage combined with my Italian Filipiness. 00:25:07.519 --> 00:25:08.319 Not good. 00:25:09.599 --> 00:25:10.480 Not good. 00:25:11.119 --> 00:25:12.160 Oh my god, I love it. 00:25:12.240 --> 00:25:14.079 Oh, Port Fun Fun says fantastic podcast. 00:25:14.160 --> 00:25:16.319 Break bottles at the recycling center. 00:25:17.519 --> 00:25:19.200 It's very satisfying. 00:25:19.519 --> 00:25:26.240 We do have like a recycling thing, and it's got a separate thing for glass,

and like shove it in there, and here you go. 00:25:27.519 --> 00:25:28.799 That's wonderful. 00:25:28.960 --> 00:25:29.440 I like it. 00:25:29.759 --> 00:25:32.319 She also says, Men listen to your bitches. 00:25:32.559 --> 00:25:35.920 Yes, men listen to your bitches. 00:25:37.440 --> 00:25:38.160 I love it. 00:25:38.240 --> 00:25:38.799 Oh my god. 00:25:38.960 --> 00:25:44.799 Lindsay says, Did Oprah's cameras pick up the 10 things that happened before that dish blow up? 00:25:44.960 --> 00:25:49.039 I Lindsay, that is an excellent fucking point, actually, because it's never just one. 00:25:49.279 --> 00:25:50.960 Some just it builds up. 00:25:51.200 --> 00:25:52.400 It builds up. 00:25:53.279 --> 00:25:54.799 It's never just the dishes. 00:25:57.119 --> 00:25:58.079 We have long memories. 00:25:58.240 --> 00:26:05.279 We might not be able to remember why we walked in the room, but we do remember why we blew up over those dishes. 00:26:05.440 --> 00:26:06.079 Oh my gosh. 00:26:06.799 --> 00:26:11.759 That that cardigan incident that was five years ago. 00:26:12.000 --> 00:26:13.680 Oh I still remember it. 00:26:14.000 --> 00:26:16.079 He is still not allowed to do laundry. 00:26:16.319 --> 00:26:18.480 He's still oh no, because he still fucks it up. 00:26:20.319 --> 00:26:21.279 Ian, we love you. 00:26:22.960 --> 00:26:23.519 Don't do the laundry. 00:26:23.680 --> 00:26:24.960 You should give him an alternative. 00:26:25.200 --> 00:26:30.160 Every time you think that you want to do the laundry, why don't you come give me a back rub? 00:26:30.319 --> 00:26:31.599 I was yeah. 00:26:32.079 --> 00:26:34.400 Except for if I'm having a hot flesh, don't touch me. 00:26:34.559 --> 00:26:34.960 That's true. 00:26:35.119 --> 00:26:36.240 You can give me a foot rub. 00:26:36.400 --> 00:26:37.039 Oh, there you go. 00:26:37.200 --> 00:26:37.599 There you go. 00:26:37.920 --> 00:26:41.200 Run your hands, put your hands in the freezer for 10 minutes and then give me a foot rub. 00:26:41.599 --> 00:26:42.160 Yes. 00:26:42.319 --> 00:26:44.000 Bring some ice cubes. 00:26:45.440 --> 00:26:46.720 Like run the ice cubes. 00:26:47.119 --> 00:26:48.559 Oh, that's amazing. 00:26:49.039 --> 00:26:49.119 Oh. 00:26:49.440 --> 00:26:54.799 So well, I mean, we we want to introduce something new to the podcast. 00:26:55.680 --> 00:26:58.720 And that is hormone horror stories. 00:26:59.680 --> 00:27:12.799 Because since we have started this podcast, people have been sending us emails and text messages and just stopping us like when we're together and telling us stories about what has happened to them. 00:27:13.119 --> 00:27:22.000 And I think every time we every time we do a new episode, we have heard a new swath of hormone horror stories. 00:27:22.160 --> 00:27:24.720 So Hottie Tour here with us for Hottie Happy Hour. 00:27:24.880 --> 00:27:29.039 Cheers you if you want to put your hormone horror stories in the chat. 00:27:29.359 --> 00:27:33.920 Um I have some that my friends sent to me via text. 00:27:34.400 --> 00:27:37.920 Um I will bring this all up. 00:27:38.160 --> 00:27:40.880 So um my friend Colleen. 00:27:41.359 --> 00:27:49.039 Um, so she's had to deal with bone loss and height loss because it's and she's my age. 00:27:49.119 --> 00:27:51.680 Like she we're not old. 00:27:51.839 --> 00:27:55.680 Like my my mother-in-law has gone from 4'10 to 4'8, right? 00:27:55.759 --> 00:28:01.920 She's she's but she's 80 what is she, 82, 82, I think. 00:28:02.160 --> 00:28:11.119 Um and she's you know, she's she's had some life experience to put into that crushing of the bones. 00:28:11.440 --> 00:28:25.440 But like um m Colleen is dealing with the this bone loss and height loss not being believed by her doctor at 40 that she was experiencing this stuff, very similar to what you went through, Dom. 00:28:26.480 --> 00:28:27.839 But poor posture. 00:28:28.720 --> 00:28:37.359 So like I have osteopenia on my lower back, which I found out from a DEXA scan, which her doctor will not cover. 00:28:38.079 --> 00:28:45.759 Even though you're supposed to be able to not doctor, her insurance will not cover, even though you're supposed to get your first DEXA scan at 50. 00:28:46.799 --> 00:28:52.079 And if if I had had a DEXA scan earlier, maybe we would have caught the osteopenia earlier. 00:28:52.400 --> 00:28:58.240 But like I have to do strength train uh strengthening strength training exercises now. 00:28:58.799 --> 00:29:03.680 Um but dental problems because teeth are bones, right? 00:29:04.480 --> 00:29:10.000 Um brittle fingernails, back and neck neck pain. 00:29:10.720 --> 00:29:14.160 So yeah, so it's yeah. 00:29:14.480 --> 00:29:21.920 So ask your doctor when you're supposed to get your DEXA scan, and if if you are already 50, ask them for a DEXA scan. 00:29:22.160 --> 00:29:23.680 So, what is a DEXA scan? 00:29:24.160 --> 00:29:24.640 Good question. 00:29:24.799 --> 00:29:32.079 A DEXA scan is a an X-ray, but it's sort of like an MRI almost, um, of your hip bones. 00:29:32.720 --> 00:29:33.039 Oh. 00:29:33.519 --> 00:29:39.039 And it can tell the uh the the thickness of the bones, like the porousness of the bones. 00:29:39.119 --> 00:29:44.720 I'm not explaining this well, but it's it's to find out what your bone dense bone density is. 00:29:45.039 --> 00:29:45.279 Okay. 00:29:45.680 --> 00:29:48.640 And and it gives you like a scoring. 00:29:48.880 --> 00:29:52.559 And if your scoring is thus and such, then it's osteopenia. 00:29:52.960 --> 00:29:55.440 If it's gone farther than that, it's osteoporosis. 00:29:55.680 --> 00:30:00.319 Another home run horror story, my friend Bridget is dealing with this right now. 00:30:00.559 --> 00:30:03.119 She has osteoporosis in her spine. 00:30:03.279 --> 00:30:06.400 She is my age or a year younger. 00:30:06.799 --> 00:30:20.960 Um, and the person that her primary doctor sent her to to get you know checked out for osteoporosis said that they don't treat postmenopausal women.

00:30:24.000 --> 00:30:29.759 Osteoporosis most affects postmenopausal women. 00:30:30.079 --> 00:30:36.799 But this particular provider is saying that they will not, they don't see postmenopausal women. 00:30:37.039 --> 00:30:37.519 What? 00:30:37.680 --> 00:30:39.440 I'm like, what the actual fuck are you doing? 00:30:39.680 --> 00:30:41.359 What the fuck is there a reason for that? 00:30:41.599 --> 00:30:42.880 Yeah, I have no idea. 00:30:43.039 --> 00:30:43.680 So yeah. 00:30:44.000 --> 00:30:45.599 They need to get throat punched. 00:30:45.839 --> 00:30:47.680 Yeah, they need to get throat punched. 00:30:47.759 --> 00:30:48.880 They do need to get throat punched. 00:30:49.039 --> 00:30:50.319 Like, what is the point? 00:30:50.559 --> 00:30:56.720 What is the point of seeing people for osteoporosis if you're not going to treat postmenopausal women? 00:30:56.880 --> 00:31:07.680 Oh fuck or postmenopausal people with over ovaries, which we always always quick to mention that trans men and non-binary people with ovaries also do go through perimenopause and menopause. 00:31:07.839 --> 00:31:09.680 But yeah, horror stories, right? 00:31:09.839 --> 00:31:10.799 This is awful. 00:31:11.039 --> 00:31:12.319 Awful, awful, awful. 00:31:12.559 --> 00:31:13.200 Fuck that. 00:31:13.359 --> 00:31:14.720 Fuck that indeed. 00:31:15.119 --> 00:31:24.480 Um, Emily wrote in to say, uh she she even typed it all out for me, so I want to make sure that this is exactly what she said. 00:31:24.720 --> 00:31:28.880 She said, I'm not sure if any of my bad experiences are hormonal yet. 00:31:29.119 --> 00:31:30.720 This is just the way I am. 00:31:32.319 --> 00:31:39.119 Like I really wanted to be perimenopause because it's all the same symptoms, but it's the way I've always been. 00:31:39.200 --> 00:31:44.319 And y'all, fellow neurodivergents saying it only gets worse is terrifying. 00:31:44.640 --> 00:31:47.839 I'm 40 and I feel like I'm in it for any day now. 00:31:48.000 --> 00:31:51.359 And and I just saw this amazing um video. 00:31:51.920 --> 00:32:00.720 It is a very concise um explanation of penopause and perimenopause that is um it's on YouTube. 00:32:00.799 --> 00:32:02.319 I'll link to it in the show notes. 00:32:02.480 --> 00:32:05.039 Um, but it's it is very basic. 00:32:05.200 --> 00:32:08.720 This is what happens, here's what's happening with your body. 00:32:08.960 --> 00:32:19.759 Um, you and they think that it actually starts earlier than we even thought because you know how fertility, um, advanced maternal age is after 35, right? 00:32:20.079 --> 00:32:32.000 So they think that because we're all born with all the eggs we're ever gonna have, like everyone with ovaries who's born with ovaries has all the eggs that they will ever have when they're born. 00:32:32.240 --> 00:32:36.960 And then as we get to puberty, that comes down to about, I think she said half. 00:32:37.039 --> 00:32:43.119 I'll look at it again, but the eggs there, you know, then you

start, you start to shed them with your periods. 00:32:43.440 --> 00:32:53.359 Um, but like the follicles start to m mature, and then like the one that gets there the fastest lets the egg go, and then all the other ones go, oh, okay, I guess it's not my turn yet. 00:32:53.519 --> 00:32:57.519 And then that follicle gets absorbed back in, and then the next egg comes up. 00:32:57.680 --> 00:33:08.640 Um, so by the time you get to 35, most of the eggs, the viable eggs, are gone, which is why it's harder to get pregnant after 35. 00:33:09.039 --> 00:33:14.799 But you still can, it's just that your your ovulation becomes less predictable. 00:33:16.400 --> 00:33:21.839 So they were positing that perimenopause actually starts around 35. 00:33:22.319 --> 00:33:22.559 Sure. 00:33:23.119 --> 00:33:36.799 But we just don't see the more um the bigger things like night sweats and hot flashes and um the brain fog until later when the estrogen starts to really take a dive. 00:33:37.599 --> 00:33:40.319 And it is unusual, but people do start in their 20s. 00:33:40.799 --> 00:33:41.759 It's very unusual. 00:33:43.279 --> 00:33:44.960 Yeah, but it happens. 00:33:45.200 --> 00:33:46.640 So thank you for that. 00:33:46.799 --> 00:33:49.839 Thank you for sharing those, Colleen and Emily and Bridget. 00:33:49.920 --> 00:33:52.319 Thank you for sharing your stories with my friend. 00:33:52.480 --> 00:33:56.400 Um, and I I've got a couple more that I'll I'll save for another episode. 00:33:56.480 --> 00:33:57.519 But what about you, Dom? 00:33:57.599 --> 00:34:00.240 Do you have some hormone horror stories to share with us? 00:34:00.720 --> 00:34:07.680 So I wouldn't call I mean, I guess they could fall under hormone horror stories, but I enjoy Reddit. 00:34:09.119 --> 00:34:16.639 And so today I was like, I wonder what Reddit says about perimenopausal rage. 00:34:17.440 --> 00:34:27.280 So I found a post in Reddit where somebody asked, what is the most unreasonable thing that has triggered your perimenopause rage? 00:34:27.440 --> 00:34:28.000 Oh my gosh. 00:34:28.159 --> 00:34:31.039 And Hoddies, please take part, put it in the chat for me. 00:34:31.280 --> 00:34:32.320 Yes, yes, yes, yes. 00:34:32.559 --> 00:34:36.320 So here are some of the so here there was a there was a lot. 00:34:36.559 --> 00:34:38.079 There were a lot of answers. 00:34:38.320 --> 00:34:43.039 What I loved most was like people responding to each other's answers, going, yes, me too, me too. 00:34:43.119 --> 00:34:44.639 It was like such a great space to be in. 00:34:44.800 --> 00:34:46.000 Everybody was like, Yeah, fuck that. 00:34:46.079 --> 00:34:48.159 And it was things like your husband blowing his nose. 00:34:48.400 --> 00:34:52.559 Um, so here's here's here's here's some of the of the gems. 00:34:52.960 --> 00:34:57.280 One person just said, My mom threw a shoe at me once. 00:34:57.519 --> 00:35:00.079 I was 13, she was 40. 00:35:00.320 --> 00:35:01.760 Now I understand. 00:35:03.760 --> 00:35:07.440 Someone wrote, hearing my husband breathe. 00:35:08.559 --> 00:35:17.280 Um the new thing my husband is doing is quietly laughing to himself while on his phone with earbuds. 00:35:17.679 --> 00:35:21.039 He opens his mouth to prevent a loud laugh. 00:35:21.280 --> 00:35:27.760 He's doing this to be considerate, but all I hear is mouth breathing, mouth breathing, huffy laughter. 00:35:27.920 --> 00:35:30.480 And I want to hold a pillow over his face. 00:35:31.280 --> 00:35:34.800 And somebody responded, does he also chew? 00:35:35.039 --> 00:35:39.199 Because my husband does, and I swear he ruins every meal. 00:35:39.519 --> 00:35:42.320 Chewing, Kate's chewing, yes. 00:35:42.480 --> 00:35:50.800 Uh, this one was a fun one where people responded, tried a new recipe, turned out shit, turned out like shit, which sent me into an instant rage. 00:35:50.880 --> 00:36:00.079 And in my moments of rage, I started drinking mango flavored wine, cheapest shit from Wally World, and started adding more crap to the recipe because it's already shit. 00:36:00.159 --> 00:36:02.000 How cut, how bad could it get? 00:36:02.239 --> 00:36:03.440 Turned out to be a hit. 00:36:03.519 --> 00:36:07.119 So now I'm drunk and full and no more rage. 00:36:08.239 --> 00:36:11.119 Oh, this is the this next one is the one that people responded to. 00:36:11.280 --> 00:36:12.639 Back on the laundry topic. 00:36:12.880 --> 00:36:16.559 My sweet husband did my laundry, probably never will again. 00:36:16.800 --> 00:36:18.880 Someone responded, Cheers, my friend. 00:36:19.039 --> 00:36:22.000 Mine threw my comfy jeans in the dryer on high. 00:36:22.239 --> 00:36:27.199 And someone responded to that, oh no, that's nearly war crime level. 00:36:28.159 --> 00:36:34.719 Uh, we've got humming and whistling, uh, husband wearing workout pants and making the swooshing sound. 00:36:34.960 --> 00:36:35.679 Oh no. 00:36:36.000 --> 00:36:55.280 Uh, the sound of my husband existing, my pants didn't feel right on my body, uh, people in my house talking to me, partner shuffling his feet on the carpet when he's walking barefoot, husband trying to explain a card game to me and taking too long, so I threw the box at him. 00:36:57.920 --> 00:37:00.000 And overly loud commercials. 00:37:00.239 --> 00:37:00.960 Oh, God. 00:37:01.199 --> 00:37:15.039 Point being, I mean, I found it very, very nice to see other people feeling rage over the little things. 00:37:15.360 --> 00:37:16.559 It's totally affirming. 00:37:16.639 --> 00:37:17.840 It's a it is affirming. 00:37:18.239 --> 00:37:19.679 It's a so affirming. 00:37:19.920 --> 00:37:28.800 Um, Kate also said from her hormone horror stories, recurring UTIs, which when I asked my OBGYN, she said, Oh, yes, that's definitely a thing that happens. 00:37:29.039 --> 00:37:30.239 Could they not warn us? 00:37:30.480 --> 00:37:32.079 Seriously, right? 00:37:32.400 --> 00:37:33.119 Oh my gosh. 00:37:33.360 --> 00:37:34.960 And Lindsay would be great.

00:37:35.119 --> 00:37:36.320 Uh yeah, right. 00:37:36.480 --> 00:37:41.599 And Lindsay said period flu and menstrual migraines for over a year. 00:37:42.000 --> 00:37:45.599 No, over a year. 00:37:46.320 --> 00:37:47.679 I'm sorry, Lindsay. 00:37:47.840 --> 00:37:48.960 That's awful. 00:37:49.199 --> 00:37:50.239 That's awful. 00:37:50.559 --> 00:37:52.800 Poor Elise Myers. 00:37:53.440 --> 00:37:54.880 Um, is that Elise Myers? 00:37:55.039 --> 00:38:00.480 I think Elise Myers, uh, the one that's the viral person on on Instagram or whatever. 00:38:00.639 --> 00:38:18.960 She said that she had um uh she had bleeding, constant bleeding, so bad that she had to have um like a tampon and a nightpad and period underwear and sitting on a towel wherever she went. 00:38:19.440 --> 00:38:20.480 Oh my god. 00:38:21.199 --> 00:38:24.320 And she's like, I didn't realize that wasn't normal. 00:38:27.679 --> 00:38:28.960 And like, yeah. 00:38:30.000 --> 00:38:38.719 And I guess like whatever her doctors would say would probab was probably like, oh yeah, no, you just have heavy periods. 00:38:38.800 --> 00:38:39.440 It's just your body. 00:38:39.599 --> 00:38:41.360 It's just your body, that's just your period. 00:38:41.599 --> 00:38:42.239 I know, right? 00:38:42.400 --> 00:38:43.519 Oh my god, the worst. 00:38:43.920 --> 00:38:49.599 Um Lindsay said, I didn't really know I had misophonia until Perry, but it might have always been there. 00:38:50.079 --> 00:38:50.400 Yeah. 00:38:50.639 --> 00:38:51.599 Oh god, oh god. 00:38:51.760 --> 00:38:53.199 Bright lights for me, too. 00:38:53.440 --> 00:38:55.840 Like, I cannot stand bright lights anymore. 00:38:56.159 --> 00:38:56.800 No more big lights. 00:38:57.280 --> 00:39:00.800 Like a, you know, as we both sweat under our big lights and our lights. 00:39:00.960 --> 00:39:01.360 I know, right? 00:39:01.840 --> 00:39:04.239 I'm I'm constantly like, Ian, turn the big light off. 00:39:04.320 --> 00:39:05.199 Turn the big light off. 00:39:05.599 --> 00:39:06.719 Light off, no big light. 00:39:06.960 --> 00:39:11.360 And I I heard that's also an ADHD thing, so it's probably just worse. 00:39:11.760 --> 00:39:16.000 Like when you're in Perry and or when you're in menopause, and like, yeah. 00:39:16.320 --> 00:39:20.880 So what do you do to help with your rage, Dom? 00:39:27.039 --> 00:39:30.320 I mean, you gotta snort. 00:39:30.400 --> 00:39:31.440 We gotta snort. 00:39:32.480 --> 00:39:33.360 Oh my gosh. 00:39:33.599 --> 00:39:37.280 I mean, you already said hitting things, but yeah, I I hit things. 00:39:37.519 --> 00:39:40.559 I I hit heavy punching bags. 00:39:40.880 --> 00:39:43.519 Um what else? 00:39:43.679 --> 00:39:44.400 What else do I do? 00:39:44.559 --> 00:39:49.360 So I do I did some reading and it's like, have you ever seen those things? 00:39:49.519 --> 00:39:57.039 And it's not just for perimenopause, but it's like sort of that like check-in with yourself when you're starting to feel like sad or frustrated or angry. 00:39:57.119 --> 00:39:59.760 And it's like, have you once last time you ate? 00:39:59.920 --> 00:40:01.840 How how did you sleep last night? 00:40:02.079 --> 00:40:16.000 Once how much water have you, like the checklist of things of like of your needs before you kind of allow the big emotion that you're feeling to take up more space within your day. 00:40:16.320 --> 00:40:29.599 Yeah and I have found that while it doesn't always alleviate the perimenopausal rage, sometimes, sometimes if those needs are met, the rage isn't so bad. 00:40:29.840 --> 00:40:30.480 Yeah, yeah. 00:40:30.719 --> 00:40:45.360 So, like, because here's the thing too, it's like when you're in perimenopause like myself, and your sleep is fucked, like myself, then like it's it, it just makes me eat all the more spicy. 00:40:45.599 --> 00:40:46.320 Yeah, 100%. 00:40:46.880 --> 00:40:57.119 So it's right now, I have not unlocked this yet, but right now I am trying to figure out a way to unlock my sleep. 00:40:58.239 --> 00:41:00.639 I I am trying to do that too. 00:41:00.800 --> 00:41:04.880 I have been sleeping so badly in the last month. 00:41:05.039 --> 00:41:10.719 Like, I've been going to bed at three and four in the morning every night for a month. 00:41:11.039 --> 00:41:12.480 I know because you text me. 00:41:12.880 --> 00:41:17.280 I I wake, I wake up at six in the morning and I see your text from 2 a.m. 00:41:17.519 --> 00:41:19.840 I'm like, Jesus, did you go to bed? 00:41:20.079 --> 00:41:20.719 I'm sorry. 00:41:20.880 --> 00:41:23.519 But like if I don't write it, my phone goes on sleep. 00:41:23.599 --> 00:41:24.880 I don't think I can hear it. 00:41:25.039 --> 00:41:25.599 Okay, good. 00:41:26.559 --> 00:41:29.199 No, I I if I don't write it down, I'm gonna forget it. 00:41:29.280 --> 00:41:31.599 So if I don't say it right then, it won't happen. 00:41:31.760 --> 00:41:36.079 And so yeah, no, I definitely have to I have to text you as soon as I know. 00:41:36.400 --> 00:41:38.000 It it's it's so bad. 00:41:38.159 --> 00:41:49.679 I actually um nourish has uh uh that I've mentioned before, my my uh nutritionist app has um had one of the things was uh sleep hygiene. 00:41:50.239 --> 00:41:56.800 And it was like click, you know, I clicked on sleep hygiene and it's an AI assistant. 00:41:57.039 --> 00:42:04.719 And I was like, but I was like, as soon as it popped up, it was like, have you tried putting your phone in the other room? 00:42:04.880 --> 00:42:06.800 Have a little bedtime routine, blah, blah, blah. 00:42:06.960 --> 00:42:13.599 It was like all the things that you tell generic people, like um, here's what you do if you want to go to bed on time. 00:42:13.760 --> 00:42:15.039 And I was like, fuck you. 00:42:15.360 --> 00:42:17.440 So but I'm not putting my phone in the other room. 00:42:17.519 --> 00:42:18.559 What if there's an emergency? 00:42:18.719 --> 00:42:19.119 I know. 00:42:19.280 --> 00:42:22.639 So I we have aging parents, I

gotta be able to answer the fucking phone. 00:42:22.880 --> 00:42:23.599 Yeah, for sure. 00:42:23.840 --> 00:42:32.719 But but I was actually impressed because I wrote back, I have ADHD and I know all those things, but I can't make myself do it. 00:42:32.960 --> 00:42:36.559 And the AI said, Oh, that's good information to have. 00:42:36.719 --> 00:42:41.760 Here are some out-of-the-box ideas, yes, that that you might try. 00:42:42.000 --> 00:42:46.400 And they were like, uh, they they the AI said, What time did you go to bed? 00:42:46.480 --> 00:42:47.440 What time do you normally go to bed? 00:42:47.519 --> 00:42:49.360 And it's like three or four in the morning. 00:42:49.599 --> 00:42:53.280 And they said, Okay, so we're not gonna get you to go to bed at 10 anytime soon. 00:42:53.440 --> 00:42:54.880 I was like, Oh, there you go. 00:42:55.119 --> 00:42:56.800 All right, all right, I'm listening. 00:42:56.960 --> 00:42:58.719 And then it said Skynet. 00:42:58.960 --> 00:42:59.760 I know, right? 00:42:59.920 --> 00:43:18.159 Why don't you try setting a uh close closing closing down alarm um like at 2 30 to like close it down and write in the alarm um bathroom, meds, water, sleep. 00:43:18.880 --> 00:43:23.519 Bathroom, beds, water, uh, bed, bathroom, meds, water bed, or something like that. 00:43:23.679 --> 00:43:26.400 Like, these are your only things that you need to do. 00:43:26.719 --> 00:43:32.079 And if things come up, like one more thing and one more thing, if it's still important tomorrow, you can do it. 00:43:32.639 --> 00:43:35.360 And keep I oh, I got this thing. 00:43:36.400 --> 00:43:41.920 I got a little um a little like it's a light up one. 00:43:42.079 --> 00:43:44.480 And I don't know if you can tell that it lights up on here. 00:43:46.159 --> 00:43:47.679 I have to like put the thing on. 00:43:47.760 --> 00:43:48.400 Oh, there it goes. 00:43:48.480 --> 00:43:48.800 Okay. 00:43:49.920 --> 00:43:50.639 There it goes. 00:43:51.920 --> 00:43:53.840 It lights up, and you can get it to stop. 00:43:53.920 --> 00:43:56.639 Like right now, it's cycling through all the uh all the colors. 00:43:56.880 --> 00:43:57.679 It's like Christmas. 00:43:57.840 --> 00:43:59.760 It's like Christmas, but I I thought. 00:44:00.320 --> 00:44:05.760 About the idea of ooh, and it you can make a go, ooh, um breathing. 00:44:06.320 --> 00:44:14.400 Um but I I thought about the idea of having um a pad of paper next to me, but then I would want to turn on the light to see what I was writing. 00:44:14.800 --> 00:44:21.679 This is just a pane of plexiglass and it lights up and you can turn it on, write write something on it. 00:44:21.760 --> 00:44:24.079 You can see what you're writing and turn it off right away. 00:44:24.239 --> 00:44:25.199 It's not bright. 00:44:25.679 --> 00:44:37.920 Um so yeah, so that so that uh plus the alarm, the shut it down alarm, but a warning alarm 15 minutes ahead of time. 00:44:38.079 --> 00:44:44.400 That's like wrap wrap up what you're doing, and then like maybe I I do three alarms. 00:44:44.480 --> 00:44:47.519 I do 15 minutes before, then five minutes before, then the time. 00:44:48.159 --> 00:44:51.360 Um and last night I went to bed at 2:30. 00:44:53.039 --> 00:44:53.679 I know. 00:44:54.159 --> 00:44:54.719 Yay! 00:44:55.440 --> 00:44:56.960 Now that's one night. 00:44:57.119 --> 00:45:02.719 One night does not a complete life change make, but um, it's progress in the right direction. 00:45:02.800 --> 00:45:04.960 So that is progress, that's amazing. 00:45:05.280 --> 00:45:09.440 Yeah, and you listened to your alarms, you didn't snooze them or anything because that's what I usually do. 00:45:09.760 --> 00:45:10.719 I didn't snooze them. 00:45:10.800 --> 00:45:17.679 Like I I I set multiple alarms because if if I snooze them, they're on an odd time and I don't like them. 00:45:19.119 --> 00:45:20.719 It drives me crazy. 00:45:21.360 --> 00:45:23.280 So, okay, so is there anything else? 00:45:23.360 --> 00:45:28.719 So that's what you do for sleep, which is what for me I think is what's gonna help me with my rage besides hitting things. 00:45:28.960 --> 00:45:33.519 Um but uh what else do you do for to help with your rage? 00:45:33.760 --> 00:45:36.719 So um my meds help a lot. 00:45:37.280 --> 00:45:53.360 Um I when I first had those like deep sadness and like the feeling of like something sitting on my chest, I um went to my OBGYN and she who had been through menopause herself at 40, um, put me on Certraline right away. 00:45:53.440 --> 00:45:57.440 And I am currently weaning myself, titrating myself off Certraline. 00:45:58.159 --> 00:46:03.119 I had been at the highest dose because and I was like, nothing can make me cry, ha ha ha. 00:46:04.000 --> 00:46:05.119 But it was helping. 00:46:05.280 --> 00:46:06.320 It was helping a great deal. 00:46:06.480 --> 00:46:09.760 Yeah, but um but I'm I'm weaning myself off. 00:46:09.920 --> 00:46:20.480 So I have started listening to um uh breathing exercises that are very, very, very slow. 00:46:20.639 --> 00:46:26.079 So like it's a like four and a half breaths a minute, or four breaths a minute. 00:46:26.320 --> 00:46:29.679 So it's like an inhale and an exhale for 15 seconds. 00:46:30.239 --> 00:46:36.480 Um and that is sort of a biofeedback exercise that that calms your heart rate. 00:46:36.800 --> 00:46:37.119 Okay. 00:46:37.519 --> 00:46:40.320 Um I also leave the room a lot. 00:46:41.199 --> 00:46:49.679 I the last time I got really, really mad was when when we were about ready to leave for I think it was vacation. 00:46:49.840 --> 00:47:02.480 We were leaving for vacation, and I had been given a time to leave, and I set my schedule so that I did this, and then I did this and I did this, and then the set time to leave was this. 00:47:03.039 --> 00:47:06.719 And my husband's like, oh well, why don't we leave a few minutes earlier? 00:47:07.039 --> 00:47:09.119 I hit the fucking ceiling. 00:47:09.440 -->

00:47:22.400 Oh no, I was like, no, like I try I you don't know how hard I worked to get this to all fit in, and I am doing exactly what I need to do in the time frame that you gave me. 00:47:22.800 --> 00:47:23.599 It's okay. 00:47:23.840 --> 00:47:25.760 Like, yeah, yeah. 00:47:28.559 --> 00:47:30.239 Do not move our cheese right now. 00:47:30.719 --> 00:47:32.000 Do not move our cheese. 00:47:32.320 --> 00:47:33.280 Oh my God. 00:47:33.519 --> 00:47:38.480 Um, so alone time helps, meds help, um, and somatic exercises. 00:47:38.639 --> 00:47:46.559 Um, our friend Meg Renin um is a somatic exercise practitioner, and I'm actually gonna go take one of her glasses tonight after this. 00:47:46.800 --> 00:47:47.119 Nice. 00:47:47.360 --> 00:48:03.039 Um, they're they're nervous system exercises that um teach you how to recognize when you're either in fight, flight, or freeze, or if you're like um you're like getting really head up. 00:48:03.280 --> 00:48:12.000 Um and you can do any of these exercises, and some can be done like in front of other people, and they will never know. 00:48:12.239 --> 00:48:25.119 Like one of them is is pinching your your fingers and your your thumb on the knuckles, and it's like it's like grounding your body to say you are safe, you are here. 00:48:25.840 --> 00:48:27.440 It's it's really amazing. 00:48:27.519 --> 00:48:35.039 So, Meg Runyon, I don't know if she does like um check out W-I-M Wim Hof, Wim Hof for breathing. 00:48:35.199 --> 00:48:36.639 Megan McCall is in the chat. 00:48:36.800 --> 00:48:38.719 Megan! Check out Wim Hof for breathing. 00:48:38.880 --> 00:48:40.400 The body doesn't lie, Colleen says. 00:48:40.559 --> 00:48:43.119 Pranayama, baby, says Colleen. 00:48:43.519 --> 00:48:44.880 Pranayama breathing. 00:48:44.960 --> 00:48:46.559 Yeah, the body does not lie. 00:48:46.800 --> 00:48:52.480 It's we can like try and psych ourselves up as much as we want, but the body doesn't lie. 00:48:52.559 --> 00:48:53.679 The body is gonna know. 00:48:54.480 --> 00:48:57.440 So, like this, I I've done this my whole life. 00:48:57.679 --> 00:49:08.079 What you can't see if you're just listening to this, is I'm taking my flat palm and putting it um uh just below my collarbone, above my like right above my breastbone, just below my collarbone. 00:49:08.320 --> 00:49:19.360 And just that it that grounding lets my body know that I'm safe and I'm here and and everything's gonna be okay. 00:49:19.599 --> 00:49:19.920 Amazing. 00:49:20.159 --> 00:49:21.039 And I've always done this. 00:49:21.119 --> 00:49:24.719 I didn't know that that was like an actual somatic exercise, but it is. 00:49:25.679 --> 00:49:29.199 I'm sure there are tons of somatic exercises on YouTube too, but check it out. 00:49:29.519 --> 00:49:30.719 Like somatic exercises. 00:49:30.880 --> 00:49:40.079 And if you know Meg Runyon, hit her up because she does these for like she is so so inexpensive and like does them once a month. 00:49:40.159 --> 00:49:40.960 She's amazing. 00:49:41.280 --> 00:49:42.800 Uh amazing. 00:49:43.440 --> 00:49:45.280 So that's that's what I tend to do. 00:49:45.519 --> 00:49:46.000 I love it. 00:49:46.079 --> 00:49:52.159 And you just remind me, something else I do just to like whether I'm anxious or if I need to just calm myself down. 00:49:52.400 --> 00:50:11.679 Obviously, not everybody can do this, but I've got two pit bulls who are very sweet and love their mama, and I will just go shove my face into their necks and like breathe in their sweet puppy smell and like match my breathing to theirs. 00:50:11.920 --> 00:50:24.800 Yes, and like it always, and there is, I think there, you know, I have seen articles and things about how having a pet or petting a dog or even a cat is some very good for the nervous system. 00:50:25.039 --> 00:50:26.320 Yeah, it is, absolutely. 00:50:26.639 --> 00:50:40.639 So, and if you're allergic to things like a big fluffy pillow, yeah, you know, or or if you can go to a cat cafe if you can't have a pet yourself, or like go um go visit the dogs in the shelter or the cats in the shelter, you know. 00:50:40.719 --> 00:50:45.519 Like if you just need to calm your rage, go get covered by some kittens. 00:50:46.239 --> 00:50:47.760 Yes, except for me, I can't do that. 00:50:47.840 --> 00:50:48.639 I'm so allergic. 00:50:48.880 --> 00:50:54.079 I'm wicked allergic to cats too, but I will bury myself in a pile of dogs. 00:50:54.320 --> 00:50:54.719 Yes. 00:50:54.960 --> 00:50:55.760 Oh, 100%. 00:50:56.159 --> 00:50:56.880 I love that. 00:50:57.119 --> 00:50:59.679 Um, well, let's see what we got in the chat. 00:51:00.639 --> 00:51:02.800 We have our hottie happy hour going on. 00:51:02.960 --> 00:51:06.480 Um and what are you all drinking like while you're with us, by the way? 00:51:06.639 --> 00:51:08.960 And Megan says that's why hugs are so great. 00:51:09.119 --> 00:51:10.559 Yeah, because of that, exactly. 00:51:10.639 --> 00:51:23.039 That is actually a somatic exercise to put one hand on your shoulder and and cross your arms, one hand on the side of your of your belly, and like just like hold yourself. 00:51:23.199 --> 00:51:29.519 And if you close your eyes and do some deep breathing, your body doesn't know that that's not someone else hugging you. 00:51:30.000 --> 00:51:34.960 Yeah, it feels just as sticky and uncomfortable as it does when someone else hugs me. 00:51:36.559 --> 00:51:41.119 Well, maybe with your ice vest you can do hug your ice vest. 00:51:41.280 --> 00:51:43.280 Actually, I do love a good, I do love a good hug. 00:51:43.360 --> 00:51:44.880 I'm just really hot right now. 00:51:45.039 --> 00:51:46.800 I know, I know, you poor thing. 00:51:47.039 --> 00:51:50.480 Um, but yeah, animal centering for the win, Colleen says. 00:51:50.639 --> 00:51:52.960 So I'm going back to check the the chat. 00:51:53.119 --> 00:51:59.599 Um at the very beginning, right before we started, said, we'll be with you in a hot flash.

00:52:02.480 --> 00:52:03.920 Oh my gosh, we love it. 00:52:04.559 --> 00:52:07.119 Sometimes I know it's awesome. 00:52:07.280 --> 00:52:09.599 Susan Susudio is in the chat. 00:52:09.760 --> 00:52:11.039 We've got Lindsay. 00:52:11.280 --> 00:52:13.840 Susan said baby steps, hashtag baby steps. 00:52:14.000 --> 00:52:16.320 Um, Babs Wired is here. 00:52:16.480 --> 00:52:21.119 Uh so Babs Wired and I go way back. 00:52:21.679 --> 00:52:26.400 Um, I played her daughter when I was 23 and she was 35. 00:52:27.519 --> 00:52:28.880 How is that real? 00:52:29.199 --> 00:52:31.599 But she's tall and I'm short, so that works. 00:52:32.400 --> 00:52:34.400 But I love you, Babs. 00:52:34.480 --> 00:52:34.880 I love you. 00:52:34.960 --> 00:52:36.480 I'm so happy you're here. 00:52:36.639 --> 00:52:37.840 Um, Lindsay's here. 00:52:38.000 --> 00:52:39.599 ADHD and new doctor's appointments. 00:52:39.679 --> 00:52:42.079 Are there any magnesium supplements that are not giant pills? 00:52:42.159 --> 00:52:43.119 We talked about that. 00:52:43.360 --> 00:52:47.199 Um, Kate says it's good to have a brownie ready to go in any event. 00:52:47.360 --> 00:52:50.159 I think we've covered most of the brownies. 00:52:50.559 --> 00:52:50.800 Yes. 00:52:50.960 --> 00:52:51.920 Oh, Kate. 00:52:52.320 --> 00:52:53.519 Oh my gosh, Kate. 00:52:53.599 --> 00:52:57.519 If you have a good brownie recipe, I know she's got good soup recipes. 00:52:57.679 --> 00:52:59.679 She's like the soup maker. 00:52:59.920 --> 00:53:03.840 Um, but uh she has uh Kate, can I give you a shout-out? 00:53:04.000 --> 00:53:07.599 She's got um uh a Substack called Scratch. 00:53:08.159 --> 00:53:11.920 And um, yeah, and Kate used to write for the Washington Post when it was good. 00:53:12.159 --> 00:53:17.440 And uh now she has her own um her own uh Substack called Scratch. 00:53:17.519 --> 00:53:24.960 So everybody go follow Kate Cohen on Substack uh and follow her um her her Substack called Scratch. 00:53:25.360 --> 00:53:36.719 Um and it's uh it's all about Kate, you can tell talk about more, but as I understand it, it's all about like you know, making how the human experience is all about creating stuff. 00:53:36.880 --> 00:53:45.920 And we are in an increasingly AI world, and and it's important to to create things from nothing. 00:53:46.239 --> 00:53:57.119 Um Jennifer McCool says, and smells, everything smells horrible to me now, including myself and especially my husband, dude. 00:53:57.760 --> 00:54:02.960 Jennifer, the amount of times I've curled into bed with my husband and I've been like, your pizza ripe. 00:54:03.039 --> 00:54:04.000 Did you shower today? 00:54:04.079 --> 00:54:04.800 Oh my god. 00:54:04.960 --> 00:54:07.039 And he's like, they really don't smell, Dominique. 00:54:07.119 --> 00:54:10.159 And I'm like, Well, uh, I beg to differ. 00:54:10.400 --> 00:54:11.920 That's debatable, friend. 00:54:12.239 --> 00:54:14.079 You're just nose blind to yourself. 00:54:14.239 --> 00:54:16.320 Yeah, I'm like, yeah, but I agree. 00:54:16.480 --> 00:54:22.800 My my sense of smell has heightened in a way, but it's like everything smells bad. 00:54:23.039 --> 00:54:23.360 Yeah. 00:54:23.599 --> 00:54:26.400 And it adds to making me feel nauseous as well. 00:54:26.559 --> 00:54:27.840 Oh, that's the worst. 00:54:28.079 --> 00:54:29.519 Oh man, Jennifer. 00:54:30.079 --> 00:54:37.280 My husband says, by the way, that women make better somolies because we have a better sense of, we have a better scent palette to begin with. 00:54:37.679 --> 00:54:48.400 So once we get to menopause and perimenopause, we it's just, you know, it started off good and now it's extra good for bad stuff. 00:54:48.480 --> 00:54:53.519 That's so does that mean we should all also get certified as somoliers as like an alternative? 00:54:54.320 --> 00:54:55.199 I think we should. 00:54:55.679 --> 00:54:59.760 I'd be okay with getting paid to sip, sniff, and sip wine. 00:55:00.000 --> 00:55:00.559 Yeah, right. 00:55:01.119 --> 00:55:04.400 The waistline's already expanding, might as well have some fun. 00:55:04.719 --> 00:55:05.599 The thickening. 00:55:05.840 --> 00:55:08.480 The thickening, the thickening's happening. 00:55:08.800 --> 00:55:09.519 Oh my god. 00:55:09.599 --> 00:55:18.800 You talked about like how how uh somebody said my pants not fitting right was like the uh the the thing that did it for her rage. 00:55:19.039 --> 00:55:25.599 I swear to god, if I have to buy any more new pants because my old ones don't fit, I am going to punch something. 00:55:25.760 --> 00:55:27.280 Like, yeah, yeah. 00:55:27.840 --> 00:55:28.639 So frustrating. 00:55:28.880 --> 00:55:29.519 It's awful. 00:55:29.760 --> 00:55:30.880 It's real, it's real. 00:55:31.119 --> 00:55:31.440 Yeah. 00:55:31.519 --> 00:55:35.039 Uh Lindsay says, for what it's worth, my doctors have been really great. 00:55:35.199 --> 00:55:39.039 It just seems like no one knows jack about perimenopause, and that's true. 00:55:39.280 --> 00:55:52.800 Because as we've said on the podcast before, women were not allowed to be involved, women of of potential childbearing age were not allowed to participate in uh clinical trials until 1993. 00:55:53.599 --> 00:55:54.480 93. 00:55:55.280 --> 00:55:56.559 That's so fucked. 00:55:56.719 --> 00:55:57.119 Yeah. 00:55:57.760 --> 00:55:58.960 So yeah. 00:55:59.280 --> 00:56:00.800 Um let's see here. 00:56:00.960 --> 00:56:02.320 Uh, yeah, so that's it. 00:56:02.719 --> 00:56:08.960 Hotties, do you do any of you have any um any questions uh for anything? 00:56:09.199 --> 00:56:10.639 We can uh move on. 00:56:10.800 --> 00:56:13.599 Do you have any books, by the way, Dom? 00:56:13.679 --> 00:56:16.480 Uh or articles or blogs we want to recommend? 00:56:16.639 --> 00:56:22.480 Um, I I talked about that amazing YouTube video that I will go ahead and uh and add. 00:56:23.199 --> 00:56:31.519 I'm wondering, Marnie, if there is a particular podcast that perhaps we

want to recommend as a preview. 00:56:32.719 --> 00:56:33.280 Yes. 00:56:34.000 --> 00:56:36.800 As I think preview. 00:56:37.280 --> 00:56:38.880 I think we should. 00:56:39.519 --> 00:56:43.199 So um one of the we'll go back to the Hodis and Chief recommendations. 00:56:43.519 --> 00:57:01.280 One of the things that has helped me a lot is uh vaginal estrogen and estradiol, like a um a bio, like a bioidentical hormone estradiol cream made by a company that is called Parlor Games. 00:57:01.440 --> 00:57:10.639 And their um their founder, Kate Wells, is going to be joining us on the podcast on episode eight. 00:57:10.960 --> 00:57:11.920 I am so excited. 00:57:12.000 --> 00:57:14.159 We're gonna be talking about dryness everywhere. 00:57:14.320 --> 00:57:17.199 And thank you to Parlor Games and Kate Wells. 00:57:17.280 --> 00:57:22.880 Um, we will try to get you all a discount code for Parlor Games so that you can try it. 00:57:23.039 --> 00:57:30.480 I I love um that one of their creams that I use, and it's like it's like happy peach. 00:57:30.639 --> 00:57:33.599 Oh my god, I've got a uh happy peach. 00:57:34.880 --> 00:57:35.760 It's peachy something. 00:57:36.000 --> 00:57:36.480 Peachy. 00:57:36.960 --> 00:57:37.920 Yeah, thank you. 00:57:38.000 --> 00:57:41.199 Uh, by the way, this episode sponsored by Brainfog. 00:57:41.519 --> 00:57:45.840 Um show notes are for. 00:57:46.000 --> 00:57:50.960 Yeah, it's Parlergames.com. 00:57:51.280 --> 00:57:52.159 Peachy Cream? 00:57:52.800 --> 00:57:53.760 Peachy Cream. 00:57:53.840 --> 00:57:54.800 Oh, god damn it. 00:57:55.039 --> 00:58:05.119 Um, I uh if anybody else is faster at Googling than I am when we're on this podcast, but uh um we need an assistant. 00:58:05.280 --> 00:58:08.000 It's like anyone who wants to enter with us and be an assistant. 00:58:08.159 --> 00:58:08.639 Oh my god. 00:58:08.800 --> 00:58:09.599 And do the Googling. 00:58:09.840 --> 00:58:14.559 We can really like we need a neurodivergent, a neurotypical assistant is what we need. 00:58:15.119 --> 00:58:16.880 A neurodivergent whisperer. 00:58:19.039 --> 00:58:19.920 Oh my god. 00:58:20.079 --> 00:58:20.960 Um, all right. 00:58:21.119 --> 00:58:24.400 It's it's like happy peach, happy peach, or something like that. 00:58:25.840 --> 00:58:26.960 It's gonna be in the short show notes. 00:58:27.199 --> 00:58:29.039 It's gonna be in the shorts. 00:58:29.360 --> 00:58:35.280 In preparation for also silky peach! Silky Peach, silky peach. 00:58:35.360 --> 00:59:04.800 I'm like, I I know it's like peach cream, silky peach cream, and she is uh she is a scientist, and she you know saw that there wasn't an a really great um there there wasn't a good uh nobody knew anything out there, and so she created this uh company called Parlor Games and the silky peach cream I saw on Instagram and that was how I found it. 00:59:04.960 --> 00:59:08.239 Um so silky peach cream, you gotta go check it out. 00:59:08.559 --> 00:59:18.000 Yes, check it out, and also in preparation for uh when we get to interview her and have her on the podcast. 00:59:18.320 --> 00:59:20.320 Check out her podcast. 00:59:20.559 --> 00:59:21.920 Modern menopause. 00:59:22.320 --> 00:59:23.599 Modern menopause. 00:59:23.679 --> 00:59:26.320 Check out Modern Menopause and Hotties in the chat. 00:59:26.400 --> 00:59:27.840 You are OG Hotties. 00:59:28.159 --> 00:59:31.119 You're going to be invited to be part of that conversation. 00:59:31.280 --> 00:59:37.920 We're gonna be recording and live streaming like we are right now, next Thursday at five o'clock Eastern. 00:59:38.400 --> 00:59:46.079 So mark your calendars so you can join us for that conversation and also get to chat live um in the chat with Kate. 00:59:46.239 --> 00:59:46.639 Yes. 00:59:46.800 --> 01:00:12.159 And and with the, you know, if you have any questions for how somebody comes up with this, like what what she had to learn to come up with with her own like creams and um and how she went about marketing it and find I I think this it was very similar where where she and her friends were going through it and they just you know they needed they needed help and they found their own help. 01:00:12.400 --> 01:00:15.039 So hat tip to Kate Wells. 01:00:15.280 --> 01:00:16.559 Hat tip to Kate Wells. 01:00:16.960 --> 01:00:23.119 Oh, so we were gonna talk aside from so we said books, blogs, podcasts and articles. 01:00:23.360 --> 01:00:24.239 Articles. 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