Full Transcript for The Truth About Burnout & Women's Health | FT Janeisha Mays | EP27

regulation and what it looks like, 73 00:04:16.560 --> 00:04:20.680 I was like, oh, yeah, more people need to especially 74 00:04:20.759 --> 00:04:24.800 high achieving women. More women need to understand what this 75 00:04:24.879 --> 00:04:27.240 looks like, what does it mean, and what they can 76 00:04:27.319 --> 00:04:30.879 do so that they can live in a regulated state. 77 00:04:31.639 --> 00:04:36.240 Wow, it sounds like, again, we don't really even know 78 00:04:36.720 --> 00:04:40.319 that our nervous systm is so jactive. Like literally, no, 79 00:04:40.759 --> 00:04:45.279 I working in PR, we put the responsibility were not 80 00:04:45.319 --> 00:04:48.040 necessary responsibility, Like the fate of a lot of the 81 00:04:48.079 --> 00:04:50.600 success of the campaign is on other end of somebody 82 00:04:50.600 --> 00:04:54.879 else's yes, And so our minds are like all over 83 00:04:55.079 --> 00:04:57.279 the place, and so listening to you, I'm like, ooh, 84 00:04:58.040 --> 00:05:01.120 our our nervous system is probably jacked up to oh yeah, 85 00:05:01.160 --> 00:05:03.720 through stress and for sure for sure, and it impacts 86 00:05:03.720 --> 00:05:05.399 your daily routine for sure. 87 00:05:06.240 --> 00:05:09.600 So what I really like I am in my season 88 00:05:09.639 --> 00:05:13.759 of regulation. So my season came because I'm not a 89 00:05:13.800 --> 00:05:17.480 mom yet, but I'm preparing for motherhood. So preparing for 90 00:05:17.519 --> 00:05:20.879 motherhood looks different for other people. So I decided, I 91 00:05:20.959 --> 00:05:23.360 get to decide what type of mother I want to 92 00:05:23.399 --> 00:05:25.920 be for my children. So what does that look like 93 00:05:26.040 --> 00:05:28.759 for me to prepare now before they're here. This is 94 00:05:28.800 --> 00:05:32.319 not something that my mother, my grandmother like. They didn't 95 00:05:32.360 --> 00:05:35.600 get that opportunity to prepare. I get that, So what 96 00:05:35.639 --> 00:05:37.879 does that look like for me to do that? So 97 00:05:37.959 --> 00:05:40.879 it really made me start to have to dig into 98 00:05:41.439 --> 00:05:44.199 why genishes the way she is, the things that she 99 00:05:44.360 --> 00:05:48.240 enjoyed or doesn't enjoy, and where did that come from? 100 00:05:49.040 --> 00:05:52.480 And so when I really started to dig deep, I 101 00:05:52.600 --> 00:05:56.519 was like, oh, I don't like none of that. And 102 00:05:56.600 --> 00:05:59.720 so I had the conversation with on. So I talked 103 00:05:59.759 --> 00:06:01.639 to him, I'm about this a lot because I feel 104 00:06:01.680 --> 00:06:04.959 like a lot of women have a lot of unhealed 105 00:06:04.959 --> 00:06:11.199 mother wounds. Thankfully I'm not one of those, but my 106 00:06:11.279 --> 00:06:14.720 mom has mother wounds. And so for me to be 107 00:06:14.759 --> 00:06:17.920 able to connect to why and where things come from, 108 00:06:18.000 --> 00:06:21.480 we have to have these conversations. And so once I 109 00:06:21.560 --> 00:06:25.720 really started to dig, I was like, I feel like, 110 00:06:25.759 --> 00:06:28.839 I have probably been chronically disregulated since a little girl, 111 00:06:30.079 --> 00:06:36.040 because I've always been high achieving, high functioning, hyper independent, 112 00:06:37.279 --> 00:06:42.040 very ambitious, and to me, that was just who I was. 113 00:06:42.519 --> 00:06:44.920 My mom always made sure, like, you know, you need 114 00:06:44.959 --> 00:06:47.680 to seize the things that you want to do, and 115 00:06:47.680 --> 00:06:49.519 how else are you going to figure this out if 116 00:06:49.519 --> 00:06:53.199 you don't explore things. So I played multiple sports instruments 117 00:06:53.199 --> 00:06:56.199 like it was always something. So my tabs started being 118 00:06:56.279 --> 00:07:00.360 open from a very young age and so that so 119 00:07:00.480 --> 00:07:03.600 I just thought that's just always how I was. Until 120 00:07:03.639 --> 00:07:05.879 I realized I was just like, but this doesn't have 121 00:07:05.959 --> 00:07:10.120 to be how I have to be. And so that's 122 00:07:10.199 --> 00:07:12.480 really what made me start to be like, well, dang, 123 00:07:13.399 --> 00:07:17.800 where did this come from? So the more in depth 124 00:07:17.839 --> 00:07:20.439 I started to go, I started to uncover a lot 125 00:07:20.519 --> 00:07:23.480 more things that I was just like, Wow, some of 126 00:07:23.519 --> 00:07:25.600 these I like and some of the things I don't. 127 00:07:25.839 --> 00:07:28.240 So how do we get rid of the things that 128 00:07:28.279 --> 00:07:31.399 we've always done and create a new And that's kind 129 00:07:31.439 --> 00:07:32.360 of where I am right now. 130 00:07:32.519 --> 00:07:36.560 Okay that says a lot. So for one someone listening, 131 00:07:36.680 --> 00:07:39.480 how can they say, you know, I really need to 132 00:07:39.519 --> 00:07:41.879 regulate my nervous system. That's been my life and I 133 00:07:41.879 --> 00:07:43.680 feel like that's a lot of our lives, especially as 134 00:07:43.720 --> 00:07:47.360 black women. We're always onto the next doing multiple things, 135 00:07:47.439 --> 00:07:49.680 pointing everybody else, pointing to ourselves, still not hitting the 136 00:07:49.680 --> 00:07:52.480 glass ceilings, et cetera, et cetera, et cetera. How do 137 00:07:52.560 --> 00:07:54.399 we just like recalibrate our nervous system? 138 00:07:54.519 --> 00:07:58.399 Like, so I get this question a lot, and I 139 00:07:58.439 --> 00:08:01.519 will say, there's not one thing that's gonna make you 140 00:08:01.560 --> 00:08:06.120 be like this is gonna switch. It takes time to 141 00:08:06.319 --> 00:08:09.360 actually reregulate because when you think about it, it's the 142 00:08:09.360 --> 00:08:11.759 same like with weight, Like when people say, oh, I 143 00:08:11.800 --> 00:08:13.959 want to lose weight, and I tell people all

the time, 144 00:08:14.879 --> 00:08:16.920 you didn't gain the weight overnight, so you're not going 145 00:08:16.959 --> 00:08:20.920 to lose it overnight. It's time that it took. So 146 00:08:21.079 --> 00:08:22.920 you have to think of the nervous system the same 147 00:08:22.959 --> 00:08:26.600 exact way. If you have been in a chronic disregulated 148 00:08:26.720 --> 00:08:30.000 state for years, some people have been in this state 149 00:08:30.079 --> 00:08:33.360 for decades, it is going to take a lot of 150 00:08:33.399 --> 00:08:36.480 time to unlearn a lot of bad habits that you 151 00:08:36.519 --> 00:08:40.440 have learned over the years. So the easiest way to 152 00:08:40.679 --> 00:08:43.799 start is an assessment of your life. So what does 153 00:08:43.840 --> 00:08:46.919 that look like? So for me, I've been on night 154 00:08:46.960 --> 00:08:51.120 shift for about fourteen years, so that in itself has 155 00:08:51.200 --> 00:08:56.120 disrupted my whole life because my circadian rhythm has been switched. 156 00:08:57.000 --> 00:09:00.200 So now you take into that effect of just the 157 00:09:00.200 --> 00:09:04.399 sleep component. So my quartersol levels, which cortisol is the 158 00:09:04.399 --> 00:09:09.480 stress hormone, and so the natural quartersol hormone is supposed 159 00:09:09.519 --> 00:09:12.559 to fluctuate throughout the day. But since I'm a person 160 00:09:12.559 --> 00:09:14.960 that's been on nights for so long, my cortsol and 161 00:09:15.000 --> 00:09:18.600 my circadian rhythm are kind of at an inverse effect. 162 00:09:19.320 --> 00:09:22.519 So when my quartersol is supposed to be high, which 163 00:09:22.519 --> 00:09:26.039 would be like in the mornings, mine is lower because 164 00:09:26.039 --> 00:09:29.159 I'm sleep And at night time, when it's supposed to 165 00:09:29.200 --> 00:09:33.080 be lower, mine is high because I'm awake. So it 166 00:09:33.159 --> 00:09:38.480 goes back to regulating that system. So regulating your sleep, 167 00:09:38.480 --> 00:09:40.000 what does that look like? There are a lot of 168 00:09:40.000 --> 00:09:41.840 people who'll be like, oh, I just need a few 169 00:09:41.840 --> 00:09:45.840 hours and I can recalibrate, But really, the destruction of 170 00:09:45.879 --> 00:09:48.679 you not sleeping is doing so much damage to your 171 00:09:48.720 --> 00:09:52.600 body because you're not able to have any mental recovery. 172 00:09:53.000 --> 00:09:55.279 You're not getting into deep sleep enough, so you're not 173 00:09:55.320 --> 00:09:58.840 getting the physical recovery that comes with sleep. Sleep alone 174 00:09:59.120 --> 00:10:02.360 is like the number one thing to focus on. Then 175 00:10:02.519 --> 00:10:05.159 once you decide that you're going to regulate your sleep, 176 00:10:05.320 --> 00:10:07.720 now you have to look at your physical activity. A 177 00:10:07.759 --> 00:10:10.759 lot of people think that regulation is a top down thing. 178 00:10:10.799 --> 00:10:14.360 It is really a bottom up because your vegus nerve 179 00:10:14.519 --> 00:10:18.879 that helps to keep this system going really is eighty 180 00:10:18.960 --> 00:10:24.000 percent body to brain. So people think that I just 181 00:10:24.080 --> 00:10:27.360 need to just think happy thoughts and do breath work, 182 00:10:27.440 --> 00:10:31.559 and that is great, but if we're not physically active, 183 00:10:31.840 --> 00:10:34.879 working out, making sure we're eating properly. Because you have 184 00:10:35.039 --> 00:10:38.279 so many neurons in your gut alone, that's why they 185 00:10:38.279 --> 00:10:41.279 call it the second brain. You have five hundred million 186 00:10:41.279 --> 00:10:44.960 neurons in your gut by itself, so when you start 187 00:10:45.039 --> 00:10:49.360 to look at that piece of it, people don't move enough. 188 00:10:50.679 --> 00:10:54.799 So if you're not physically active, you're not sleeping that 189 00:10:54.919 --> 00:11:00.759 in itself, you're gonna be chronically disregulated. Every day. 190 00:11:01.399 --> 00:11:05.519 Girl, I'm just looking at you like woow yeah, because girl, 191 00:11:06.360 --> 00:11:08.919 I've been missing sleep for like five days. 192 00:11:09.039 --> 00:11:11.960 Yeah, that was my life. I used to sleep ten 193 00:11:12.000 --> 00:11:12.960 hours a week. 194 00:11:14.480 --> 00:11:18.159 A week what yeah, yeah, and you. 195 00:11:18.240 --> 00:11:22.919 Just I conditioned myself so when I started my business, 196 00:11:23.120 --> 00:11:26.120 I was still working nights, and so I would have 197 00:11:26.279 --> 00:11:29.600 to work at night, see clients during the day, and 198 00:11:29.639 --> 00:11:32.519 then go back to work sometimes so I would only 199 00:11:32.600 --> 00:11:36.759 sleep maybe two or three hours a day, drink two 200 00:11:36.799 --> 00:11:40.240 bangs a shift, power through, take a nap, and my 201 00:11:40.360 --> 00:11:42.559 thing was I would catch up on the weekend, so 202 00:11:42.600 --> 00:11:46.000 then I would sleep for ten twelve hours straight. I 203 00:11:46.000 --> 00:11:48.600 would do that for weeks. 204 00:11:49.919 --> 00:11:51.039 That don't even sound. 205 00:11:51.120 --> 00:11:55.639 No, it's definitely not. It was definitely terrible. So when 206 00:11:55.679 --> 00:11:59.120 I started to evaluate, the weight was the first thing 207 00:11:59.159 --> 00:12:03.639 that I was evaluated because I said to myself, you're 208 00:12:03.679 --> 00:12:06.080 in a health and wellness industry, but you don't even 209 00:12:06.120 --> 00:12:09.759 fit your own brand, because how do you expect people 210 00:12:09.759 --> 00:12:12.519 to take you serious and educate them on weight loss 211 00:12:13.000 --> 00:12:17.960 when you're overweight girl? So I had to look in 212 00:12:18.000 --> 00:12:22.720 the mirror and be like, Okay, that's cool. So that 213 00:12:22.879 --> 00:12:27.080 means if I wanted to fix, if I wanted to 214 00:12:27.120

--> 00:12:28.960 grow my brand, this was my thought process. If I 215 00:12:29.000 --> 00:12:31.279 wanted to grow a brand, I had to be my 216 00:12:31.360 --> 00:12:35.600 first client. So I was already overweight. I wasn't sleeping, 217 00:12:36.120 --> 00:12:39.080 my cholesterol levels were through the roof. I did not 218 00:12:39.240 --> 00:12:42.000 like how I look, how I felt, and I was 219 00:12:42.240 --> 00:12:46.000 two steps from burnout. Realistically, I probably was already in it, 220 00:12:46.799 --> 00:12:51.000 but it took someone saying I don't think it's stress 221 00:12:51.080 --> 00:12:54.799 that's your problem. I think you're burnt out. I didn't 222 00:12:54.799 --> 00:12:57.000 even evaluate myself to even think that was a thing, 223 00:12:57.240 --> 00:13:00.600 because I'm like, no, I work in highest stressful inns. 224 00:13:00.679 --> 00:13:02.759 I know how to reregulate myself. I'm a nurse, Like, 225 00:13:02.799 --> 00:13:05.559 what do you mean? And then for me to evaluate that, 226 00:13:05.679 --> 00:13:08.440 and I had to actually look at the definition of 227 00:13:08.440 --> 00:13:12.080 what burnout was and to understand the difference between stress 228 00:13:12.200 --> 00:13:14.480 and burnout because people think it's synonymous and it's not. 229 00:13:15.360 --> 00:13:17.879 And so once I started looking at the definition, I 230 00:13:17.960 --> 00:13:20.480 was like, oh, yeah. 231 00:13:20.240 --> 00:13:23.080 You probably are what the definition of burnout? 232 00:13:23.320 --> 00:13:26.399 So people think that when you're stressed, this is just 233 00:13:26.480 --> 00:13:29.000 your body just saying like you have stressful situations. And 234 00:13:29.080 --> 00:13:31.559 this is the analogy I give people all the time 235 00:13:31.840 --> 00:13:36.840 when it comes to your cortisol and your HPA access 236 00:13:36.840 --> 00:13:39.200 and your nervous system. Your body does not know the 237 00:13:39.240 --> 00:13:42.440 difference between you being chased by a bear and somebody 238 00:13:42.440 --> 00:13:45.039 cutting you off in traffic. You're going to get the 239 00:13:45.080 --> 00:13:50.360 same response to your nervous system. The burnout comes when 240 00:13:50.399 --> 00:13:55.759 it's a deeper level beneath that, so it looks different 241 00:13:55.799 --> 00:14:00.240 for everybody. I was a very high functioning individual. Nobody 242 00:14:00.279 --> 00:14:02.480 and my circle knew that I was burnt out. There 243 00:14:02.519 --> 00:14:04.320 was one person that knew that I was burnt out, 244 00:14:04.480 --> 00:14:06.120 and that was my boyfriend. And he was the only 245 00:14:06.200 --> 00:14:09.759 person who said, something is wrong. I don't know what 246 00:14:09.840 --> 00:14:12.639 it is, and I know I can't fix it, but 247 00:14:12.799 --> 00:14:15.679 something's not right with you, and I don't know what 248 00:14:15.720 --> 00:14:21.000 that is. And I was like, no, I'm fine, but 249

00:14:21.080 --> 00:14:25.240 I wasn't. Because the month of Janey, this is twenty 250 00:14:25.440 --> 00:14:30.080 twenty four, twenty three, one of those years, the month 251 00:14:30.080 --> 00:14:33.559 of January, there's thirty one days. I worked twenty six 252 00:14:33.679 --> 00:14:36.759 of those thirty one days that month, and mind you, 253 00:14:36.799 --> 00:14:39.919 I worked twelve hour shifts. Oh so I worked twenty 254 00:14:40.039 --> 00:14:45.919 six of those thirty one days. My body had it 255 00:14:45.960 --> 00:14:48.879 had already shut down, but I was just you know, 256 00:14:49.000 --> 00:14:52.480 patching it up, patching it up, and I would go 257 00:14:52.600 --> 00:14:54.720 home some nights I couldn't get out of bed, or 258 00:14:54.759 --> 00:14:57.120 some mornings I couldn't get out of bed. I was 259 00:14:57.159 --> 00:15:02.879 eating just crazy sugar. Everything was just like crazy everything. 260 00:15:03.799 --> 00:15:06.080 And then that's when I was just like, no, your 261 00:15:06.080 --> 00:15:09.320 weight really is a problem. Because why are your cholesterol 262 00:15:09.399 --> 00:15:13.080 levels so high? And I started evaluating I had a 263 00:15:13.120 --> 00:15:17.960 lot of abdominal fat, and so I was just like, 264 00:15:18.000 --> 00:15:21.440 you gotta lose the weight. Later on, I realized it 265 00:15:21.480 --> 00:15:23.639 was a lot of quartisol and stress that was sitting 266 00:15:23.639 --> 00:15:27.279 in my body as well, and it looked like it 267 00:15:27.519 --> 00:15:30.679 was weight, which it was. Now not saying that wasn't 268 00:15:30.679 --> 00:15:32.879 the thing that definitely was Okay, I definitely had to 269 00:15:32.879 --> 00:15:36.039 shed those forty pounds. But once I was able to 270 00:15:36.120 --> 00:15:39.039 do that, then it became, oh, the fibroids was a thing. 271 00:15:39.600 --> 00:15:41.840 But then I'm like, the gut is still there, Like 272 00:15:41.879 --> 00:15:44.039 if fibirds are gone, the weight is gone, but why 273 00:15:44.120 --> 00:15:47.440 you still have this lower abdominal fat. And that's when 274 00:15:47.480 --> 00:15:50.639 I was like, it's your quartisol issue. 275 00:15:50.799 --> 00:15:57.200 What Yeah, so okay, and you fix that and fixing 276 00:15:57.320 --> 00:16:01.279 you're fixing and fixing currently, yes, okay, and what are 277 00:16:01.279 --> 00:16:03.519 your steps to doing that? 278 00:16:03.759 --> 00:16:07.200 So now that I'm in a season of regulation, the 279 00:16:07.320 --> 00:16:08.919 very first thing and me and my friend have this 280 00:16:09.039 --> 00:16:12.919 running joke of quarter saw spikers. So there are people 281 00:16:13.200 --> 00:16:17.320 around you that will spike your quartersaw like they absolutely 282 00:16:17.360 --> 00:16:23.799 stretch you out and they make you just irritated. Let's 283 00:16:23.799 --> 00:16:27.320 just say that word. And so it's really a lot 284 00:16:27.440 --> 00:16:30.720 of mirror reflecting and a lot of exercises to see, 285 00:16:30.759 --> 00:16:34.480 like what that looks like. And so I started seeing 286 00:16:34.639 --> 00:16:37.120 the quarter saw spikers in my life. I was my 287 00:16:37.159 --> 00:16:40.360 own quarter Saw Spiker because I was always feeling like 288 00:16:40.440 --> 00:16:42.759 I was always having to be in rush. And a 289 00:16:43.120 --> 00:16:45.440 huge thing that a lot of women don't realize is 290 00:16:45.600 --> 00:16:50.799 urgency is chronic disregulation, because we're always hurting to do 291 00:16:50.840 --> 00:16:52.480 the next thing. I gotta do this, I gotta do this, 292 00:16:52.559 --> 00:16:55.519 like we never allow ourselves to just slow down and rest. 293 00:16:56.080 --> 00:16:58.279 So the very first thing I had to do for 294 00:16:58.399 --> 00:17:01.679 me was to give myself permission to rest without guilt. 295 00:17:02.360 --> 00:17:06.559 And that was the most uncomfortable thing that I had 296 00:17:06.599 --> 00:17:09.160 to do. And I remember the very first time that 297 00:17:09.200 --> 00:17:11.400 I was just like Judicia, you have to just sit 298 00:17:11.480 --> 00:17:13.000 here and just rest. 299 00:17:13.359 --> 00:17:13.839 I cried. 300 00:17:14.240 --> 00:17:16.119 I sat on my couch and I cried because I 301 00:17:16.160 --> 00:17:20.559 felt so guilty that you have this running list of 302 00:17:20.720 --> 00:17:23.079 tasks that you need to do, but you just sitting 303 00:17:23.079 --> 00:17:26.319 here doing it. Made me feel like I was being lazy. Yeah, 304 00:17:26.599 --> 00:17:30.519 and my issue with my weight was that reality was 305 00:17:30.559 --> 00:17:33.319 you're very lazy. You're not physically active like that was 306 00:17:33.319 --> 00:17:35.200 a thing that I had to have that come to 307 00:17:35.279 --> 00:17:39.880 Jesus with myself, and so giving myself that permission to 308 00:17:40.119 --> 00:17:42.960 rest without guilt was the very first thing I had 309 00:17:42.960 --> 00:17:46.680 to learn, and honestly, that was probably the hardest thing 310 00:17:46.759 --> 00:17:50.759 I had to do for me because we're so used 311 00:17:50.799 --> 00:17:53.880 to always going to the next thing, always doing the 312 00:17:53.880 --> 00:17:56.839 next thing, always making sure we have fifty million things 313 00:17:56.880 --> 00:17:59.319 to go on, and we don't even give ourself the 314 00:17:59.319 --> 00:18:05.279 permission to just rest. So once I mastered that, I 315 00:18:05.319 --> 00:18:09.559 still struggle because I always feel like you're supposed to 316 00:18:09.599 --> 00:18:12.960 be doing something. But now I have to tell myself, Jenisia, 317 00:18:13.000 --> 00:18:15.720 you have to listen to your body. And a lot 318 00:18:15.799 --> 00:18:18.759 of times we ignore the body gives all the signals. Yeah, 319 00:18:19.640 --> 00:18:24.400 we ignore every single one. And so once I decided 320 00:18:24.880 --> 00:18:27.000

that I had to give myself the permission to do that, 321 00:18:27.680 --> 00:18:30.519 everything else started to kind of fall in line. So 322 00:18:30.599 --> 00:18:32.880 then I was like, well, what type of person do 323 00:18:32.960 --> 00:18:34.759 you want to be? What do you want to be? 324 00:18:35.119 --> 00:18:37.240 What type of woman do you want to be for 325 00:18:37.400 --> 00:18:39.759 your husband? What type of mother do you want to 326 00:18:39.799 --> 00:18:42.440 be for your kids? Like what does that look like 327 00:18:43.240 --> 00:18:45.920 for you? Because in order for you to achieve it, 328 00:18:45.960 --> 00:18:48.359 you first have to see it, and I had to 329 00:18:48.440 --> 00:18:50.920 see who it is that I wanted to become before 330 00:18:50.960 --> 00:18:54.319 I could work towards becoming her. And that's where I 331 00:18:54.319 --> 00:18:58.240 am now, and that's just kind of where I started. 332 00:18:58.759 --> 00:19:01.119 Yeah, I mean, I think what you're saying is speaking 333 00:19:01.119 --> 00:19:05.000 to a lot of high achieving women. I think, you know, 334 00:19:05.480 --> 00:19:09.599 we can become as a high achieving woman myself, addicted 335 00:19:09.640 --> 00:19:12.279 to success and trying to go into the next level 336 00:19:12.279 --> 00:19:15.519 and to the next level, and we completely forget about 337 00:19:15.519 --> 00:19:18.720 ourselves and then we're complaining. We're at home and we 338 00:19:18.839 --> 00:19:20.960 know something is off, but we're like, well, I got 339 00:19:20.960 --> 00:19:22.480 to do this and I got to do that. And 340 00:19:22.519 --> 00:19:25.279 I think it's just a snowball effect to really like 341 00:19:25.400 --> 00:19:27.759 your body making you shut down. My mom always says, 342 00:19:27.759 --> 00:19:29.680 it's like, you don't want your body to make you 343 00:19:30.039 --> 00:19:33.119 sit down, because it will definitely. And that's what you 344 00:19:33.240 --> 00:19:37.240 are speaking to. So to the people that are like, Okay, 345 00:19:37.279 --> 00:19:40.920 I hear what she's saying, but I can't stop. I 346 00:19:40.960 --> 00:19:42.839 won't stop. I gotta get this money, I gotta get 347 00:19:42.839 --> 00:19:45.519 this bag. You know, that's the topic, that's the conversation 348 00:19:46.559 --> 00:19:49.480 from being in your field, What would you say to them? 349 00:19:50.200 --> 00:19:53.880 So The beauty of where I love this space I'm 350 00:19:53.920 --> 00:19:55.640 in right now is because I get to have these 351 00:19:55.640 --> 00:19:57.720 conversations with a lot of high achieving women and they 352 00:19:57.759 --> 00:20:00.640 get to hit them on both sides. So Regulated Woman 353 00:20:00.720 --> 00:20:05.119 is my nervous system brand, but I also have Unimonia 354 00:20:05.160 --> 00:20:08.079 Wellness and Beauty, which is my preventive wellness brand. So 355 00:20:08.279 --> 00:20:13.039 with me focusing on prevention and my wellness

brand, now 356 00:20:13.079 --> 00:20:15.599 I get to hit the women on both sides because 357 00:20:15.599 --> 00:20:17.759 a lot of women come to me that they're like, 358 00:20:18.680 --> 00:20:21.960 I know something's not right, but I'm not sure what 359 00:20:22.039 --> 00:20:26.559 it is. I know I feel off, but I don't 360 00:20:26.599 --> 00:20:29.119 know what that looks like to feel on, you know. 361 00:20:29.880 --> 00:20:36.400 So I always take the approach of prevention and moving 362 00:20:36.599 --> 00:20:39.640 into integrative and functional medicine, which is kind of like 363 00:20:39.680 --> 00:20:43.440 the in between of conventional society that we know and 364 00:20:43.640 --> 00:20:47.599 completely holistic medication. I'm right in the middle, and so 365 00:20:48.119 --> 00:20:53.640 I always start with lab work first because, believe it 366 00:20:53.759 --> 00:20:56.920 or not, a lot of women neglect their health when 367 00:20:56.920 --> 00:21:01.519 it comes to lab testing, probably more than anybody I've 368 00:21:01.559 --> 00:21:05.920 known black men two. But we don't take into account 369 00:21:06.000 --> 00:21:09.359 the simplicity of just checking your blood work because a 370 00:21:09.359 --> 00:21:11.920 lot of times you can feel tired and off because 371 00:21:11.920 --> 00:21:15.359 your vitamin D levels are in the single digits. So 372 00:21:15.720 --> 00:21:19.119 a lot of people don't know that sometimes your body 373 00:21:19.200 --> 00:21:21.839 is fighting against you because there is something that's actually 374 00:21:21.839 --> 00:21:24.640 going on. And so that's always the first place I 375 00:21:24.680 --> 00:21:27.960 want to start. So the beauty is people can come 376 00:21:27.960 --> 00:21:30.519 to me and we have a full lab at our SPA, 377 00:21:31.039 --> 00:21:34.680 so we're gonna check labs first, so we do preventive 378 00:21:34.720 --> 00:21:39.599 wellness assessments, so it's not just a regular intake for like, yes, 379 00:21:39.680 --> 00:21:42.240 I want to know when what's your medical history, what's 380 00:21:42.240 --> 00:21:45.079 your surgical history, you know, what's your family history. But 381 00:21:45.160 --> 00:21:48.000 I also want to know what is your stress levels, 382 00:21:48.079 --> 00:21:51.279 like how much do you sleep, what are your triggers, 383 00:21:51.880 --> 00:21:54.240 you know, what are your cycles looking like? Because this 384 00:21:54.400 --> 00:21:58.359 is giving me a full picture of what your body 385 00:21:58.440 --> 00:22:00.559 is saying that you might not take say to me 386 00:22:01.079 --> 00:22:04.000 because I tell people all the time your body tells 387 00:22:04.000 --> 00:22:07.119 a story that your mouth does not, and the number 388 00:22:07.240 --> 00:22:10.799 one truth that's always going to give the one hundred 389 00:22:10.799 --> 00:22:15.039 percent facts of those blow work. Yeah, So even if 390 00:22:15.079 --> 00:22:16.960 you tell me, oh yeah, girl, I do this, and 391 00:22:17.119 --> 00:22:19.160 I work out five times a week and I have 392 00:22:19.200 --> 00:22:22.119 a clean diet, I just be like, oh, okay, one, 393 00:22:22.559 --> 00:22:24.799 I'm gonna look at you and I no, no, that's 394 00:22:24.839 --> 00:22:26.640 not the case. But as soon as I check those 395 00:22:26.720 --> 00:22:28.960 labs and be like, I absolutely know that that's not 396 00:22:29.039 --> 00:22:33.119 the case. So it's always a place that I start 397 00:22:33.640 --> 00:22:37.599 because I need I'm a science girly, so a lot 398 00:22:37.640 --> 00:22:40.839 of people don't believe I could tell you a lot 399 00:22:40.880 --> 00:22:44.000 of things. But once you see the data, then you're 400 00:22:44.039 --> 00:22:46.200 looking at me like, okay, now I need to Now 401 00:22:46.200 --> 00:22:49.039 I need to work on some things. So I make 402 00:22:49.119 --> 00:22:52.839 sure that we do comprehensive assessments, but we also do 403 00:22:52.880 --> 00:22:56.039 comprehensive lab tests. And I also do lab tests. They're 404 00:22:56.079 --> 00:22:59.880 not always checked by your primary care and so that 405 00:23:00.039 --> 00:23:03.319 that's the beauty on why I love it because one 406 00:23:03.960 --> 00:23:08.039 primary care, I love that they have such a very 407 00:23:08.440 --> 00:23:11.759 intricate job, but because they do a lot of times 408 00:23:11.839 --> 00:23:15.240 there are things because of our healthcare system that certain 409 00:23:15.240 --> 00:23:17.599 tests are not going to be covered. Vitamin D is 410 00:23:17.599 --> 00:23:19.759 one of those things. There was an article that came 411 00:23:19.759 --> 00:23:23.240 out a couple of years ago and interocrinologists basically said 412 00:23:23.279 --> 00:23:27.319 that running a routine vitamin D level is not necessary 413 00:23:27.400 --> 00:23:33.039 in a healthy individual. And so because of this, health 414 00:23:33.079 --> 00:23:37.200 insurance stopped covering the lab test. So even if you 415 00:23:37.240 --> 00:23:39.759 would want to get the lab test done, if you 416 00:23:39.799 --> 00:23:43.400 don't have any indicators that says yes, we should check it, 417 00:23:43.799 --> 00:23:48.960 They're not going to routinely check. And ninety five percent 418 00:23:49.000 --> 00:23:51.160 of my clients that come through my door are vitamin 419 00:23:51.240 --> 00:23:56.240 D deficient, every single one. And I'm like, okay, I 420 00:23:56.279 --> 00:24:00.920 was vitamin D deficient. Yeah, so exactly. So majority of 421 00:24:00.920 --> 00:24:04.240 my clients are African American, so majority of my clients 422 00:24:04.319 --> 00:24:06.240 come in and their vitamin D levels are in the 423 00:24:06.279 --> 00:24:11.559 single digits. So then now when you add that on 424 00:24:11.680 --> 00:24:16.920 top of the food industry, the foods are more and 425 00:24:16.960 --> 00:24:22.119 more full of chemicals and

antibiotics and hormones. So when 426 00:24:22.160 --> 00:24:27.920 you add that on top of the physical inactivity, now 427 00:24:28.000 --> 00:24:30.039 your body is telling a whole different story as well. 428 00:24:30.400 --> 00:24:33.920 So it's always me starting with just the basis of 429 00:24:34.200 --> 00:24:37.240 checking labs. So then we can get a full clinical 430 00:24:37.240 --> 00:24:40.680 picture so that I can see what is your blood 431 00:24:40.680 --> 00:24:43.559 work showing, what are you saying, and then let's put 432 00:24:43.559 --> 00:24:44.240 the picture together. 433 00:24:44.759 --> 00:24:46.839 Wow, No, you definitely hit on something with the vitamin 434 00:24:46.920 --> 00:24:49.000 D because I actually went to the doctor, I say, 435 00:24:49.079 --> 00:24:52.160 may and I just knew my energy was off again. 436 00:24:52.319 --> 00:24:54.960 Holly stress in a Holly trust field and they told 437 00:24:54.960 --> 00:24:56.880 me they was like not looked at the dosage for 438 00:24:56.880 --> 00:24:58.680 the vitamin D. I can't even remember. And it was 439 00:24:58.759 --> 00:25:01.279 so hot, like, hey, did y'all write the right prescription? 440 00:25:01.359 --> 00:25:04.640 It's like your vitamin D is extremely low. Like it 441 00:25:04.680 --> 00:25:07.000 was like, you got to be super aggressive with taking 442 00:25:07.000 --> 00:25:10.240 this medication multi. You gotta take a multi vitamin and 443 00:25:10.279 --> 00:25:13.039 I just couldn't. I was shocked. I'm like, because no 444 00:25:13.039 --> 00:25:15.240 one talks about that. I'm just like, oh, I just 445 00:25:15.240 --> 00:25:16.400 need some iron supplements. 446 00:25:16.480 --> 00:25:17.759 That's what everybody thinks. 447 00:25:18.200 --> 00:25:20.400 They're like, no, your vitamin D is bad, Like I said, well, 448 00:25:20.400 --> 00:25:22.559 don't go to get out in the sun and something. 449 00:25:22.680 --> 00:25:25.119 Yes, but that's usually what a lot of people think. 450 00:25:25.400 --> 00:25:30.000 But the thing is, for us melanated individuals, we don't 451 00:25:30.039 --> 00:25:33.359 absorb the vitamin D from the sun like our non 452 00:25:33.400 --> 00:25:37.359 melanated counterparts because the melanin in our skin actually prevents 453 00:25:37.440 --> 00:25:41.000 us from absorbing it like we need to. So you 454 00:25:41.119 --> 00:25:44.960 put that aspect on top, and then you add a 455 00:25:44.960 --> 00:25:46.599 lot of black people don't like being in the sun 456 00:25:46.640 --> 00:25:50.000 in general. We don't like being hot, and so when 457 00:25:50.039 --> 00:25:54.440 you add those two things, you're just like, what are 458 00:25:54.440 --> 00:25:58.160 you going to do so you're just chronically vitamin D 459 00:25:58.240 --> 00:26:02.000 deficient all the time. So it took me. Vitamin D 460 00:26:02.160 --> 00:26:04.400 your number should be in between like thirty and fifty. 461 00:26:04.640 --> 00:26:11.720 That's optimal. As a integrative provider, I want your numbers 462 00:26:11.759 --> 00:26:15.759 to really between like fifty and seventy. So my vitamin 463 00:26:15.839 --> 00:26:21.680 D levels were a nine and I was like, girl, like, 464 00:26:21.759 --> 00:26:25.359 you ain't got nothing circulating. So it took time. But 465 00:26:25.400 --> 00:26:27.799 that's another thing. It took time. So yes, I was 466 00:26:27.839 --> 00:26:29.559 on a high dose of vitamin D. But the thing 467 00:26:29.759 --> 00:26:32.119 is the doctor will give you your dose of your 468 00:26:32.160 --> 00:26:36.960 vitamin D for three months. Once you finish taking it, 469 00:26:37.160 --> 00:26:40.319 they don't recheck your levels. So how do you know 470 00:26:40.400 --> 00:26:42.160 do I need to continue on this high dose for 471 00:26:42.200 --> 00:26:44.839 a while or do I just need to go to 472 00:26:44.880 --> 00:26:48.720 a daily supplement. These are the things that I've seen 473 00:26:48.799 --> 00:26:51.480 in our system where I'm like, no, genishu, we have 474 00:26:51.599 --> 00:26:54.119 to fix these things. This is where the prevention comes 475 00:26:54.160 --> 00:26:58.079 in because you come to me now after those three 476 00:26:58.079 --> 00:27:00.400 months of that high dose, We're definitely going to recheck 477 00:27:00.440 --> 00:27:05.119 that number. A vitamin dtest is twenty two dollars. What 478 00:27:05.480 --> 00:27:06.559 twenty two dollars. 479 00:27:07.200 --> 00:27:09.680 You spend that at the drive Okay. 480 00:27:09.920 --> 00:27:12.319 So these are just the things that are in our 481 00:27:12.400 --> 00:27:14.680 system that I'm just like, I don't love it. 482 00:27:15.240 --> 00:27:22.000 Yeah. Oh wow, so you offered like with ivy hydration treatment. 483 00:27:22.519 --> 00:27:25.960 So you know, social media has us like on this 484 00:27:26.000 --> 00:27:29.200 whole self care thing, like we need massages. And what 485 00:27:29.240 --> 00:27:31.359 would you say, as a high achieving woman to the 486 00:27:31.359 --> 00:27:35.319 business entrepreneur professional, what are some in your practice that 487 00:27:35.400 --> 00:27:37.240 you think, like on a regular basis, they really need 488 00:27:37.279 --> 00:27:39.519 to be putting into their self. 489 00:27:39.279 --> 00:27:43.680 Self care routine. So the conversation of the suffware, I 490 00:27:43.720 --> 00:27:47.519 absolutely feel like you should definitely do things that are relaxing, right, 491 00:27:47.640 --> 00:27:49.839 But it also makes me think like why is it 492 00:27:49.839 --> 00:27:51.920 as a society we feel like we always have to 493 00:27:51.960 --> 00:27:55.400 do we always have to escape our reality. There are 494 00:27:55.440 --> 00:27:58.000 so many people that I only go on vacation so 495 00:27:58.039 --> 00:27:59.920 I can relax. But I only go on vacation. What time, 496 00:28:01.480 --> 00:28:03.160 Oh I have to do a self care thing? Like, yes, 497

00:28:03.200 --> 00:28:05.680 you should take care of your body, absolutely, but in 498 00:28:05.759 --> 00:28:07.240 order for you to take care of your body, that 499 00:28:07.440 --> 00:28:09.799 means you actually have to do the things to take 500 00:28:09.839 --> 00:28:14.359 care of your body. And because a massage is great, Okay, 501 00:28:14.480 --> 00:28:17.680 an aqua massage recess my nervous sys and like nothing 502 00:28:17.720 --> 00:28:20.519 I've ever experienced in my life. So when we're getting 503 00:28:20.519 --> 00:28:22.799 to that level, that's the type of self care that 504 00:28:22.799 --> 00:28:26.799 that is doing. But for me, my self care comes 505 00:28:26.799 --> 00:28:29.880 with resting like I need you to, and that means 506 00:28:29.920 --> 00:28:34.799 resting with nothing else, just you and your own thoughts 507 00:28:35.160 --> 00:28:39.880 and resting. And for me, doing the things that take 508 00:28:39.920 --> 00:28:41.960 care of your body means making sure you're good in 509 00:28:42.000 --> 00:28:45.240 your labs done on a routine basis. So if you 510 00:28:45.279 --> 00:28:48.519 are a healthy individual, once a year it's great. If 511 00:28:48.519 --> 00:28:50.440 you know you got some things in your labs that 512 00:28:51.160 --> 00:28:54.440 ain't really sitting well or you're on medication, you may 513 00:28:54.480 --> 00:28:56.319 need to follow up more often. It may be every 514 00:28:56.359 --> 00:28:59.480 three to six months instead of every year. Doing those 515 00:28:59.519 --> 00:29:02.880 things is the real self care. Making sure you're sleeping, 516 00:29:03.319 --> 00:29:06.720 that's the real self care. Making sure that you are exercising, 517 00:29:07.240 --> 00:29:09.559 that's the real self care. There's a reason why the 518 00:29:09.599 --> 00:29:12.839 American Heart Association says one hundred and fifty minutes a week. 519 00:29:13.359 --> 00:29:15.799 So many people think that that is just so unattainable. 520 00:29:16.279 --> 00:29:18.960 That's not I tell my clients. It breaks down into 521 00:29:19.000 --> 00:29:22.880 thirty minutes five days a week, or fifty minutes three 522 00:29:22.960 --> 00:29:26.599 days a week. Like however, we want to pick your struggle, 523 00:29:27.079 --> 00:29:29.000 but one hundred and fifty minutes a week, that's all 524 00:29:29.000 --> 00:29:32.960 we need. You have to do those things to really 525 00:29:33.000 --> 00:29:35.799 take care of your body, because the massage is cute, 526 00:29:37.039 --> 00:29:40.319 but if you're not really taking care of the temple, 527 00:29:41.319 --> 00:29:44.880 everything else is really just gonna roll off. So in 528 00:29:44.960 --> 00:29:48.079 my spot, the things that we do ivyhydration is amazing. 529 00:29:48.440 --> 00:29:54.079 I'm giving you concentrated dosaging of vitamins, minerals, and aminos 530 00:29:54.079 --> 00:29:57.039 directly into your bloodstream so you get one hundred percent 531 00:29:57.039 --> 00:30:01.599 availability right away. So for me, I'm gonna get me 532 00:30:01.640 --> 00:30:05.640 a drip. I am now optimizing my supplements and what 533 00:30:05.680 --> 00:30:09.359 does that look like? Because I want to make sure 534 00:30:09.400 --> 00:30:13.160 that my body can perform at its highest peak for 535 00:30:13.240 --> 00:30:16.240 as long as possible. So that's why we now do 536 00:30:16.319 --> 00:30:19.119 a lot of longevity stuff in our SPA. So we're 537 00:30:19.160 --> 00:30:23.119 doing things like NAD infusions and NAD injections and getting 538 00:30:23.119 --> 00:30:26.200 born to other peptides that we're looking at the longevity 539 00:30:26.759 --> 00:30:29.720 because ultimately, like I want to be here for as 540 00:30:29.799 --> 00:30:32.240 long as possible, but in order for me to do that, 541 00:30:32.480 --> 00:30:35.279 I have to take care of the only thing that 542 00:30:35.319 --> 00:30:37.240 I don't get another thing. 543 00:30:37.160 --> 00:30:42.359 Of Yeah wow. So listening to that for those that say, 544 00:30:42.400 --> 00:30:44.240 man like I would love to come to her spa, 545 00:30:44.400 --> 00:30:47.759 but what are some supplements? Cause that's what I'm learning 546 00:30:47.759 --> 00:30:51.480 to in my early thirties. Maybe my kitchen counter has 547 00:30:51.559 --> 00:30:55.480 so many supplements, but I'm being honest, like, what supplements 548 00:30:55.519 --> 00:30:57.240 do we really need to take every day? 549 00:30:57.400 --> 00:31:00.240 So this is a thing. So this is we actually 550 00:31:00.279 --> 00:31:03.880 started a supplement optimization part of the business because I 551 00:31:03.960 --> 00:31:07.440 was starting to get this question. A lot people think 552 00:31:07.440 --> 00:31:09.599 that their supplements are just like a one size fit all, 553 00:31:09.839 --> 00:31:14.680 and they're not. I recommend supplements that you need for 554 00:31:14.720 --> 00:31:17.880 your body. So every one of my clients that get 555 00:31:17.920 --> 00:31:21.839 supplement recommendations, I know what their labs look like because 556 00:31:21.920 --> 00:31:24.400 I need to know what you're deficient in so I 557 00:31:24.440 --> 00:31:28.559 can know if we need to replace that or if 558 00:31:28.559 --> 00:31:32.000 we're just needing to just optimize these things. So I 559 00:31:32.039 --> 00:31:34.880 do feel like every individual should have a good multivitamin. 560 00:31:35.440 --> 00:31:37.759 But I do understand, and my mom helped me understand 561 00:31:37.759 --> 00:31:39.039 that because my mom was like, well, I do take 562 00:31:39.039 --> 00:31:41.559 a multivitamin, and I'm like, there's no way you take 563 00:31:41.559 --> 00:31:44.240 a multivitamin because your labs are told me you're not. 564 00:31:44.720 --> 00:31:48.200 But a multi vitamin just definitely just means multiple vitamins 565 00:31:48.200 --> 00:31:51.200 and appeal. Yeah, and her vitamin

literally had three things 566 00:31:51.240 --> 00:31:53.200 in it. I'm like, girl, that's not doing anything for you. 567 00:31:53.319 --> 00:31:55.240 She was like, well, it is a multivitamin. It is. 568 00:31:56.160 --> 00:32:01.759 But the way that marketing of supplements and everything is 569 00:32:01.799 --> 00:32:07.079 all a gimmick. Okay, it's all propaganda if you ask me. So, 570 00:32:07.759 --> 00:32:11.119 everyone needs a multivitamin, for sure, but not every multivitamin 571 00:32:11.240 --> 00:32:15.839 is made the same. I understand that. So, because of 572 00:32:16.440 --> 00:32:19.079 the way our foods are, we're not getting the right 573 00:32:19.119 --> 00:32:22.559 amount of nutrients from our foods like we should. Unless 574 00:32:22.599 --> 00:32:25.480 you're intentional about what you're eating and making sure you're 575 00:32:25.480 --> 00:32:29.359 getting the right amount of fiber and minerals, you're going 576 00:32:29.400 --> 00:32:33.920 to need to supplement. And so that's always top of line. 577 00:32:34.519 --> 00:32:37.319 At least have a multivitamin. If there are things that 578 00:32:37.400 --> 00:32:39.519 you know you're deficient in, then we may need to 579 00:32:39.559 --> 00:32:42.480 look to see do we need to add an iron supplement? 580 00:32:43.000 --> 00:32:44.759 Is this something that we need to do to add 581 00:32:44.839 --> 00:32:49.240 other minerals onto your brand. I am in a pre 582 00:32:49.359 --> 00:32:53.359 motherhood season, so my stack looks very different than somebody 583 00:32:53.359 --> 00:32:57.799 else's because my goal is to optimize eg quality to 584 00:32:57.880 --> 00:33:01.319 make sure that I'm having the right vitamins to so 585 00:33:01.359 --> 00:33:04.720 that I can have a healthy pregnancy. So my stack 586 00:33:04.839 --> 00:33:08.039 includes I take twelve supplements a day and people be like, 587 00:33:08.240 --> 00:33:11.559 that's a lot I do, But because they all are 588 00:33:11.559 --> 00:33:14.480 doing my optimization and what I'm looking for is very different. 589 00:33:14.880 --> 00:33:19.319 So I do twelve vitamins a day plus two shots 590 00:33:19.359 --> 00:33:23.599 every week. And that's because my goals are different. So 591 00:33:23.640 --> 00:33:25.839 it's never like a one size fits all, and I 592 00:33:25.839 --> 00:33:27.920 feel like the industry has made it like, oh, you 593 00:33:27.960 --> 00:33:29.599 just need to take this, this, this and this and 594 00:33:29.640 --> 00:33:32.119 that'll be great. I can't say that because I don't 595 00:33:32.160 --> 00:33:34.960 know what you will need nutritionally. I don't know what 596 00:33:35.039 --> 00:33:38.559 you need. But a multivitamin definitely top of the line. 597 00:33:38.720 --> 00:33:39.519 Definitely top of line. 598 00:33:39.640 --> 00:33:39.960 Definitely. 599 00:33:40.160 --> 00:33:41.839 I love it. I love it. I love it. Now 600 00:33:42.000 --> 00:33:44.359 we talk about the regulated

woman, but you're actually having 601 00:33:44.440 --> 00:33:45.000 an event. 602 00:33:45.440 --> 00:33:51.119 Yeah, at them. So I had a miomexomy, which is 603 00:33:51.160 --> 00:33:55.799 a removal of fibroids from the uterus last year. So 604 00:33:55.960 --> 00:33:59.920 I had twenty two fibroids removed from my uterus, one ovarian, 605 00:34:00.400 --> 00:34:05.319 and I also had Grade two endometriosis, and so fivebroids 606 00:34:05.400 --> 00:34:08.719 run very heavy in my family. Every single woman in 607 00:34:08.760 --> 00:34:11.719 my family except for maybe two has had fibroids at 608 00:34:11.760 --> 00:34:17.199 some point, and so I knew that it would probably 609 00:34:17.199 --> 00:34:19.559 be something that was that would be a thing for me, 610 00:34:20.840 --> 00:34:26.039 But I did not realize my unhealthy habits were definitely 611 00:34:26.039 --> 00:34:31.000 making the fibroids worse. So before I decided to get 612 00:34:31.000 --> 00:34:34.239 my fibers removed. When I got I switched birth control 613 00:34:34.360 --> 00:34:38.960 to an IUD, and when my ID was placed, I 614 00:34:39.039 --> 00:34:44.360 had four fibroids at the time. Four years later, when 615 00:34:44.360 --> 00:34:47.960 I got my IUD out, I had twenty two in 616 00:34:48.320 --> 00:34:52.400 four years now the caveat I could have had more 617 00:34:52.440 --> 00:34:54.800 than four fibroids when I first put my IOD in place, 618 00:34:54.840 --> 00:34:56.280 but that's just what was able to be shown on 619 00:34:56.320 --> 00:34:59.559 the ultrasound, So it could have been more because at 620 00:34:59.599 --> 00:35:04.559 the time it surgery, we thought that there were fifteen 621 00:35:05.320 --> 00:35:08.239 or maybe twelve, and when she removed twenty two. So 622 00:35:08.280 --> 00:35:09.760 there were a lot of small ones that had been 623 00:35:09.800 --> 00:35:15.000 hidden behind some of the larger ones. And so when 624 00:35:15.039 --> 00:35:19.320 I decided to do the mile mext me because it 625 00:35:19.360 --> 00:35:24.480 wasn't an easy decision for me. I have always wanted 626 00:35:24.480 --> 00:35:26.039 to have like a natural birth, and I want to 627 00:35:26.039 --> 00:35:28.159 go to a birthing center, and all of these things 628 00:35:28.400 --> 00:35:30.000 and my doctor is like, yeah, no, you'll be c 629 00:35:30.159 --> 00:35:33.280 section only after we take these off. So for me, 630 00:35:33.360 --> 00:35:37.119 that was just like oh Jesus, like, that's a very 631 00:35:37.159 --> 00:35:41.360 hard decision for me to make. But shout out to 632 00:35:41.360 --> 00:35:44.480 my doctor, doctor Craible, She's most amazing. She said, the 633 00:35:44.480 --> 00:35:47.239 goal is a healthy baby, no matter how they get here, 634 00:35:47.480 --> 00:35:50.599 that's the goal. So before I decided to do the surgery, 635 00:35:50.599 --> 00:35:53.039 I went to my own holistic journey of removing my 636 00:35:53.079 --> 00:36:00.239 fiber OIDs and that included acupuncture. Acupuncture change my life. 637 00:36:01.280 --> 00:36:05.440 When I tell you, my acupunctures is hands down the 638 00:36:05.480 --> 00:36:08.079 best acupunctures. Now, granted I ain't never been to nobody else, 639 00:36:08.119 --> 00:36:10.360 but there's nobody else that I feel like is so 640 00:36:10.440 --> 00:36:12.960 in tune with the body. So shout out to doctor 641 00:36:13.079 --> 00:36:18.599 Nancy Catto with Connection on Wellness. She is hands down 642 00:36:19.320 --> 00:36:23.599 the most amazing acupuncturist I've ever experienced. And so I 643 00:36:23.679 --> 00:36:27.960 started going to acupuncture weekly. That's when I really started 644 00:36:27.960 --> 00:36:30.760 to realize my nervous system was really out of whack 645 00:36:31.800 --> 00:36:37.119 because the emotions that came out of acupuncture, the feelings, 646 00:36:37.199 --> 00:36:40.559 and that was the smallest my gut had ever been. 647 00:36:41.239 --> 00:36:43.800 And this was before I had my surgery. That's how 648 00:36:43.840 --> 00:36:46.039 I knew something was wrong with my cortisol because I 649 00:36:46.079 --> 00:36:48.079 was just like, well, man, I lost this way. I 650 00:36:48.119 --> 00:36:50.800 still have five birds in and now my stomach is 651 00:36:50.880 --> 00:36:54.760 like she almost on flat, so I ain't. So that 652 00:36:54.840 --> 00:36:58.280 was the first inclination. So then I did that, and 653 00:36:58.320 --> 00:37:00.599 then it still came down to girl, we gotta get 654 00:37:00.599 --> 00:37:05.119 these firebirds out, and so I decided to record the process. 655 00:37:05.519 --> 00:37:07.119 I didn't know what I was gonna do with that. 656 00:37:07.320 --> 00:37:09.039 I didn't know how it was gonna come about, but 657 00:37:09.079 --> 00:37:12.880 I was just like, we're going to I'm gonna share it. 658 00:37:13.480 --> 00:37:17.480 So I started sharing the journey. My dms were flooded 659 00:37:17.880 --> 00:37:21.400 with women who were I've gone through the same thing. 660 00:37:21.559 --> 00:37:24.599 I have fiberds too, Like so many women were sending 661 00:37:24.599 --> 00:37:28.760 me messages that I was just like, Wow, we don't 662 00:37:28.800 --> 00:37:32.920 have a space for women to talk about these things. 663 00:37:33.400 --> 00:37:35.679 We don't have a space for women to be comfortable 664 00:37:35.719 --> 00:37:38.519 with talking to experts about what's going on for them 665 00:37:38.559 --> 00:37:41.639 to understand what their options are. So many women were like, 666 00:37:41.760 --> 00:37:43.800 I have these fibers and they've been here for years. 667 00:37:43.840 --> 00:37:47.920 I'm having heavy cycles and nobody addresses it. So that's 668 00:37:47.960 --> 00:37:51.000 where the fiber room came from So it came from 669 00:37:51.000 --> 00:37:53.760 me sharing my own experience. And so I say my 670 00:37:54.079 --> 00:37:58.800 story birthed the room because it was

allowing other women 671 00:37:58.840 --> 00:38:02.199 the opportunity to have the conversations that we weren't ever 672 00:38:02.239 --> 00:38:06.039 meant to have, to really understand what it means for 673 00:38:06.519 --> 00:38:10.079 your body, your warmb health, hormonal issues, and for us 674 00:38:10.119 --> 00:38:13.360 to have an intimate conversation about it. So this is 675 00:38:13.400 --> 00:38:19.079 actually our second year doing it, and the panelists thankfully 676 00:38:19.119 --> 00:38:22.239 that they loved me so much. So my obgen who 677 00:38:22.280 --> 00:38:25.079 performed my milemectomy, is our keynote again. So doctor Quanne 678 00:38:25.159 --> 00:38:28.079 de Craible, she's also the keynote for the second year 679 00:38:28.159 --> 00:38:31.440 this year, and then my acupuncturists she's also on the 680 00:38:31.440 --> 00:38:35.440 panel two. And so I bring together the things that 681 00:38:35.480 --> 00:38:39.079 I feel like people are missing. When I found out 682 00:38:39.079 --> 00:38:41.440 that I had the fibroids, we just watch and wait, 683 00:38:42.159 --> 00:38:44.599 but I didn't know what that meant in order to 684 00:38:44.639 --> 00:38:47.599 watch and wait. So my stress levels were extremely high, 685 00:38:47.639 --> 00:38:51.519 which contribute to the fibroids. My eating habits were not great, 686 00:38:51.519 --> 00:38:56.440 which were contributing to the fibroids. My physical inactivity was 687 00:38:56.480 --> 00:38:58.800 not very well, which was contributing to my fibroids. So 688 00:38:58.800 --> 00:39:00.480 there were so many things that I I was doing 689 00:39:00.519 --> 00:39:04.159 in my life that were probably making my fiber I 690 00:39:04.199 --> 00:39:06.480 created a breeding or Oh, and my caffeine levels were 691 00:39:06.480 --> 00:39:10.639 crazy because I was drinking two bangs a shift, So 692 00:39:10.800 --> 00:39:14.719 my caffeine levels were so high they were contributing to 693 00:39:14.719 --> 00:39:17.559 my fibroids too. So there were so many things that 694 00:39:17.800 --> 00:39:23.559 I learned that we can't say what causes the fibroids, 695 00:39:24.000 --> 00:39:27.519 but we know what makes worse. And so creating that 696 00:39:27.679 --> 00:39:30.519 space for women to be able to have the conversations 697 00:39:30.519 --> 00:39:33.800 with experts, having the conversations about what that means to 698 00:39:33.840 --> 00:39:36.840 really heal your womb. So we have a therapist there 699 00:39:36.880 --> 00:39:39.599 because those are conversations that women don't realize that there 700 00:39:39.679 --> 00:39:44.760 is a connection between your womb and how you move 701 00:39:44.880 --> 00:39:48.599 throughout the throughout your life, and a lot of women 702 00:39:48.840 --> 00:39:53.480 have traumas to their wombs and that contributes to your 703 00:39:53.519 --> 00:39:57.840 fibroids too, And so it's creating the space. This year, 704 00:39:57.880 --> 00:40:01.039 we're also doing a dietician because having the types of 705 00:40:01.079 --> 00:40:04.400 foods that you eat also contributes to them too, So 706 00:40:04.480 --> 00:40:06.599 I try to make sure that I'm hitting all of 707 00:40:06.639 --> 00:40:11.000 the things that people need in this space. So we're 708 00:40:11.000 --> 00:40:13.440 doing the Fibril Room again this year July twenty six 709 00:40:13.599 --> 00:40:17.760 here in Dallas, but we're adding some key components this year. 710 00:40:18.559 --> 00:40:21.679 So we're doing four activation stations this year, which is 711 00:40:21.719 --> 00:40:25.079 basically things that you get to have that can contribute. 712 00:40:25.119 --> 00:40:27.800 So we're going to have iron panels being ran this year, 713 00:40:28.199 --> 00:40:31.079 so because a lot of women don't realize low iron 714 00:40:31.400 --> 00:40:35.559 contribute to your fibrils. And we're doing hormone assessments, so 715 00:40:35.599 --> 00:40:37.679 we'll have a Women's Health nurse pectitioner that's going to 716 00:40:37.679 --> 00:40:39.800 be sitting there doing a hormone assessment to kind of 717 00:40:39.800 --> 00:40:43.360 figure out where you are. We're doing ear seats, our 718 00:40:43.400 --> 00:40:46.079 acupuncture is going to be doing the ear seats. So 719 00:40:46.159 --> 00:40:51.119 it's really going to be an amazing immersive experience while 720 00:40:51.159 --> 00:40:55.760 you still get the opportunity to ask your questions, get information, 721 00:40:55.920 --> 00:40:57.960 and kind of figure out what your options are because 722 00:40:58.000 --> 00:41:00.960 I realized last year a lot of women didn't even 723 00:41:01.039 --> 00:41:03.400 know what options they had when it came to their 724 00:41:03.400 --> 00:41:06.159 fibroids because the only thing they've ever been told is 725 00:41:06.199 --> 00:41:07.119 have a hysterectomy. 726 00:41:08.079 --> 00:41:10.599 Yeah, yeah, that is one of the most common. 727 00:41:10.360 --> 00:41:13.480 Yeah, which if that is the thing that needs to happen, 728 00:41:13.519 --> 00:41:16.599 then for sure, like do that. But so many the 729 00:41:16.639 --> 00:41:19.920 women didn't even know a mile makes me existed. They 730 00:41:19.960 --> 00:41:22.199 had no clue. When I told them, they were like, 731 00:41:22.239 --> 00:41:24.800 what's that. They're like, oh, you still have a uterus? 732 00:41:25.039 --> 00:41:27.000 Like yeah, girl, I haven't had kids here and I 733 00:41:27.079 --> 00:41:29.000 want kids. And they're like, oh, I didn't even know 734 00:41:29.000 --> 00:41:29.679 that was an option. 735 00:41:30.599 --> 00:41:32.280 It's not even being told no. 736 00:41:32.800 --> 00:41:35.840 And that is the blows my mind. And so more 737 00:41:35.920 --> 00:41:38.360 women need to have And a lot of women think 738 00:41:38.400 --> 00:41:40.199 that because it's called the fibreroom, that we're only talking 739 00:41:40.199 --> 00:41:42.960

about fibroids, Like, yes, we are talking about fibers. When 740 00:41:42.960 --> 00:41:47.800 we're talking about hormonal imbalances, we're talking about womb wellness 741 00:41:47.840 --> 00:41:51.480 like all women need. Even if you don't haven't experienced it, 742 00:41:51.760 --> 00:41:54.400 you may have had somebody that has, or you have 743 00:41:54.480 --> 00:41:57.880 questions about womb health, you have questions about hormonal issues, 744 00:41:58.199 --> 00:42:00.639 like it's all going to be covered within this Oh 745 00:42:00.719 --> 00:42:01.599 wow wow. 746 00:42:02.000 --> 00:42:05.079 And you up hit something earlier on about the different 747 00:42:05.079 --> 00:42:07.639 types of food that we eat, So it has to 748 00:42:07.679 --> 00:42:10.840 be some foods that we are eating normally, especially as 749 00:42:10.840 --> 00:42:13.199 black women, that are like one of the top triggers 750 00:42:13.239 --> 00:42:16.840 in body weight hormones. What have you seen as the 751 00:42:16.840 --> 00:42:18.400 most common foods that we need to stay away from. 752 00:42:20.320 --> 00:42:23.079 I will say this, I love being black, and every 753 00:42:23.079 --> 00:42:25.920 lifetime I'm gonna choose black. Okay, but a lot of 754 00:42:25.920 --> 00:42:28.119 times how we cook and prepare our foods is not 755 00:42:28.159 --> 00:42:31.960 the healthiest, even if like I love greens, Okay, greens 756 00:42:31.960 --> 00:42:35.239 are great for us, but sometimes we always putting them 757 00:42:35.239 --> 00:42:37.639 hamhocks in there, and that ain't that's not the thing 758 00:42:37.719 --> 00:42:39.480 that we need to do, like throw a little turkey 759 00:42:39.519 --> 00:42:42.559 neck in there or something like a lot of the times, 760 00:42:42.559 --> 00:42:46.480 it's how we prepare our foods. We douse it in butter, 761 00:42:46.840 --> 00:42:50.360 and we want to add all the sugar to sweet potatoes. Like, 762 00:42:50.639 --> 00:42:54.920 there are healthier alternatives that we can use so that 763 00:42:55.000 --> 00:42:57.199 we can still have the foods. I'm gonna saying you 764 00:42:57.199 --> 00:43:00.880 can't have it at all, But there's moderation. And that's 765 00:43:00.920 --> 00:43:05.639 the thing that people forget. I love a Southern meal 766 00:43:06.039 --> 00:43:09.519 at any moment, but I cannot eat that every week, 767 00:43:10.079 --> 00:43:12.920 maybe even once a month is really a lot if 768 00:43:12.960 --> 00:43:15.719 I'm not if I'm being realistic, like, these are things 769 00:43:15.760 --> 00:43:21.400 that we can have sometimes, So really understanding what you're consuming, 770 00:43:21.599 --> 00:43:25.360 where you're buying your food because that's a big issue too. 771 00:43:25.960 --> 00:43:28.800 Where you're getting your foods from is going to determine 772 00:43:28.800 --> 00:43:33.360 the quality too. So I have switched completely where I shop, 773 00:43:33.960 --> 00:43:36.880 Like Trader Joe's

is my girl. I'm in Trader Joe's 774 00:43:36.920 --> 00:43:40.800 every single week, okay all the time. But even like 775 00:43:40.880 --> 00:43:44.199 where I'm getting my meats from is going to a butcher, 776 00:43:44.320 --> 00:43:47.360 It's going to places that I know for sure they 777 00:43:47.400 --> 00:43:51.320 are farm raised these things. My eggs come from my 778 00:43:51.360 --> 00:43:55.039 aunt's neighbor has a chicken across the street, So guess 779 00:43:55.079 --> 00:43:59.519 what we get fresh eggs Like it's great. And so 780 00:43:59.760 --> 00:44:04.360 it really had to come down to what ultimately do 781 00:44:04.400 --> 00:44:08.320 I want for my body. So high inflammatory foods for 782 00:44:08.360 --> 00:44:11.559 a lot of women is sugaring, and so I had 783 00:44:11.559 --> 00:44:13.000 to decide that I had to go on a low 784 00:44:13.039 --> 00:44:17.159 inflammatory diet. So dairy. I'm a little mildly lactose anyway, 785 00:44:17.360 --> 00:44:20.960 but like dairy products, it'd be swelling us up our gut. 786 00:44:21.159 --> 00:44:24.960 Don't love it. So there are things like that. My 787 00:44:25.000 --> 00:44:27.760 acupuncture is the one who told me, like, you gotta aliviate, 788 00:44:27.800 --> 00:44:32.320 alleviate the three whites. So that's white, sugar, white flour, 789 00:44:32.679 --> 00:44:37.519 and dairy. So if you look at those three things alone. 790 00:44:37.599 --> 00:44:40.639 It's in everything we eat. It is every single thing. 791 00:44:41.000 --> 00:44:44.719 So I had to switch from white sugar to a 792 00:44:44.760 --> 00:44:47.880 sugar alternative. So now I do a monk fruit sweetener, 793 00:44:48.519 --> 00:44:52.320 super simple. It works the same. People feel like it 794 00:44:52.360 --> 00:44:54.760 tastes different, but to me, it tastes the same. So 795 00:44:55.000 --> 00:44:58.280 I've completely I have no white sugar in my house, 796 00:44:58.400 --> 00:45:00.559 I have no white flour in my house, and I 797 00:45:00.559 --> 00:45:03.880 don't do a lot of dairy. If I do, I 798 00:45:04.000 --> 00:45:06.039 have to go out and get it, or like, like, 799 00:45:06.079 --> 00:45:07.920 I love Mexican food, so I'm definitely gonna have cheese 800 00:45:07.920 --> 00:45:11.800 on my anchelatis. But in my house, I've now switched 801 00:45:11.840 --> 00:45:15.079 to like a coconut yogurt things like that. It's like 802 00:45:15.239 --> 00:45:19.559 small changes that you have to make because ultimately I 803 00:45:19.599 --> 00:45:22.920 want this cortisol good go. So they're just things I 804 00:45:22.960 --> 00:45:25.159 have to do that I didn't do before. 805 00:45:25.320 --> 00:45:27.239 I think this is why you say you and your 806 00:45:27.239 --> 00:45:31.239 regulator like you, you look good, you taga you you 807 00:45:31.920 --> 00:45:34.039 didn't already you know, dissect it like I'm going to 808 00:45:34.079 --> 00:45:36.239 shop here, and that's what that's what it takes. 809 00:45:36.280 --> 00:45:38.679 But at the time, it did take Oh yes, it 810 00:45:38.719 --> 00:45:40.960 took some. It took some time to get to who 811 00:45:41.079 --> 00:45:44.639 this is right now? Yes, and that's the part nobody 812 00:45:44.679 --> 00:45:47.119 wants to do. Nobody want to look in the mirror 813 00:45:47.119 --> 00:45:50.679 and say, Jenisia here the issue. Okay, Jenisha, You're the 814 00:45:50.719 --> 00:45:53.000 reason why you are the way you are. You're the 815 00:45:53.039 --> 00:45:56.159 reason you're overweight. You're the reason why things keep happening 816 00:45:56.159 --> 00:45:59.239 to you. You are the problem. Who want to sit 817 00:45:59.280 --> 00:45:59.960 there and tell themselves? 818 00:46:01.159 --> 00:46:06.679 Yeah self denial? Yeah, oh well tell us one how 819 00:46:06.679 --> 00:46:09.639 people can get involved with you and then you know, give, 820 00:46:09.760 --> 00:46:11.880 give the audience, be real with there's some advice in 821 00:46:11.920 --> 00:46:15.119 this season because you said so much that was probably 822 00:46:15.239 --> 00:46:17.119 like what do I need to do right now? 823 00:46:18.760 --> 00:46:22.480 So the one thing that I will say for anyone 824 00:46:22.639 --> 00:46:26.159 listening is you have to make the decision that you 825 00:46:26.360 --> 00:46:30.239 want to do something different. Once you decide that you 826 00:46:30.280 --> 00:46:34.039 want to do something different, it starts there. Making the 827 00:46:34.199 --> 00:46:39.159 decision is often the hardest part that people run away from. 828 00:46:39.719 --> 00:46:43.119 And like Sarah said, it took some time for me 829 00:46:43.199 --> 00:46:46.159 to become this woman that I am right now. But 830 00:46:46.239 --> 00:46:48.159 the first thing I had to do was decide who 831 00:46:48.159 --> 00:46:51.480 I wanted to be and the woman that I looked 832 00:46:51.519 --> 00:46:53.519 in the mirror and saw every day, I wasn't happy 833 00:46:53.519 --> 00:46:56.199 with her, so I had to decide that I wanted 834 00:46:56.280 --> 00:46:59.960 to be and do something different. So that's the first thing, 835 00:47:00.360 --> 00:47:02.360 and then I need y'all to get to those labs done. 836 00:47:02.360 --> 00:47:04.719 That's if you don't do nothing else, you take nothing 837 00:47:04.760 --> 00:47:07.760 else away. You need to evaluate and say when is 838 00:47:07.800 --> 00:47:09.960 the last time I had my blood work drawn? And 839 00:47:10.000 --> 00:47:13.599 if it has been six months or or more, then 840 00:47:13.639 --> 00:47:16.599 it's time for you to go ahead and come on in. Okay, 841 00:47:16.679 --> 00:47:18.920 for you to get your bowwork done. So we can 842 00:47:18.960 --> 00:47:22.440 be found on all social platforms you Pneumonia, Wellness, Dot 843 00:47:22.480 --> 00:47:26.360 Beauty and the Regulated Woman. And I hope that you 844 00:47:27.559 --> 00:47:30.440 found some information that is very good today. If you 845 00:47:30.519 --> 00:47:33.159 have questions, I am an open book. You can always 846 00:47:33.199 --> 00:47:37.119 send me a DM email us because we're happy to 847 00:47:37.239 --> 00:47:38.719 answer whatever questions you may have. 848 00:47:39.079 --> 00:47:43.039 Who girl, Okay, it's a lot of information. You're gonna 849 00:47:43.039 --> 00:47:44.400 have to talk about this. No sleep with me, and 850 00:47:44.400 --> 00:47:47.880 we're gonna talk about that like author camera, because what's 851 00:47:47.880 --> 00:47:52.760 going on, y'all. I mean, honestly, you know, I liked it. 852 00:47:52.880 --> 00:47:55.920 Like I said, I always bring great company in the hive, 853 00:47:56.039 --> 00:47:59.239 all right, But if you didn't take anything from her, 854 00:47:59.679 --> 00:48:01.440 just no that we got to get on track, like 855 00:48:01.519 --> 00:48:04.119 we got half of the rest of the year, and 856 00:48:04.400 --> 00:48:07.239 we need to literally get regulated. Like all of the 857 00:48:07.679 --> 00:48:09.840 medical terms and all the things that she said. Y'all, 858 00:48:10.320 --> 00:48:11.679 it went over your head, but she told you what 859 00:48:11.719 --> 00:48:13.440 to do, all right, So listen, y'all know what I 860 00:48:13.440 --> 00:48:16.079 tell y'all to do here is to always be real, 861 00:48:16.400 --> 00:48:20.039 spread the honey, and just be you until next time. 862 00:48:20.199 --> 00:48:20.400 By