Full Transcript for Legacy That Lasts

tell you which one of my kids is going to be the sneezer in our house. 00:01:56.000 --> 00:02:00.879 And so it's funny, you know, thinking about these things that we get from our parents. 00:02:01.359 --> 00:02:06.239 And that kind of leads a little bit as we're talking about these things into what we're gonna talk about today. 00:02:06.319 --> 00:02:13.759 And that's the legacy that we're leaving for our kids, our families, for the next generation of those that we're discipling. 00:02:13.919 --> 00:02:14.879 So let's jump in. 00:02:14.960 --> 00:02:16.159 Paul, why don't you take it away? 00:02:16.400 --> 00:02:16.639 Sure. 00:02:16.800 --> 00:02:24.319 Yeah, I'm sure we've talked about legacy before in different ways, but I don't know that we've had a podcast just on legacy, at least in a while. 00:02:24.479 --> 00:02:30.879 So, you know, I'm married, been married coming up on you know 28 years, so we could just say 30. 00:02:31.039 --> 00:02:33.439 My kids are getting grown and getting married. 00:02:33.680 --> 00:02:35.280 My parents are getting older. 00:02:35.360 --> 00:02:38.719 I have my both my parents are doing well with their health, uh, but they're aging. 00:02:38.800 --> 00:02:41.840 We just celebrated my dad's 87th birthday a few days ago. 00:02:41.919 --> 00:02:44.080 So that's kind of what got me thinking about legacy. 00:02:44.800 --> 00:02:47.199 Dawson is younger by a bit. 00:02:47.280 --> 00:02:52.479 Uh he's not married yet, but I'm sure he has hopes in that direction and praying and looking. 00:02:52.560 --> 00:02:55.280 And so thinking about legacy is a big thing for him. 00:02:55.360 --> 00:03:09.759 You know, so whether you're 16 listening to this, it's time to start contemplating, praying about, looking at legacy, or whether you're 90 and listening to this, that legacy probably means a whole lot to you at that age. 00:03:10.240 --> 00:03:16.800 So, yeah, we were talking about prayer, and that did get me thinking, wow, you want to talk about legacy, right? 00:03:17.039 --> 00:03:28.319 And so my dad, being 87, maybe we'll get into the history a little bit of our families, uh, some, but he's very good professional, great provider, great dad. 00:03:28.560 --> 00:03:33.280 But it wasn't until later in his life that he began to grow more spiritually. 00:03:33.439 --> 00:03:45.360 And my mom always was kind of the more church family spiritual stuff, and we would have good conversations, but it was when my dad got older that he really began taking that legacy more serious. 00:03:45.439 --> 00:03:50.400 And so he's done a lot for us the last decade or two that has made a big impact on our family. 00:03:50.479 --> 00:03:51.599 So we'll talk more about that. 00:03:51.680 --> 00:03:52.639 But what about you guys? 00:03:52.719 --> 00:03:54.240 What comes to mind when you think legacy? 00:03:54.479 --> 00:03:55.039 It's funny. 00:03:55.280 --> 00:04:01.599 I was sitting with a friend that I grew up with in the church I grew up with in, and he's still there. 00:04:01.759 --> 00:04:06.080 He leads music there, and we were talking about the name of the church. 00:04:06.240 --> 00:04:10.000 And, you know, it's not a first Baptist or anything, it was named after a man. 00:04:10.240 --> 00:04:13.199 And so we were talking about who this man was. 00:04:13.360 --> 00:04:14.879 Like, why is the church named this? 00:04:15.120 --> 00:04:15.919 Like, what was so special? 00:04:16.160 --> 00:04:17.680 No, he was the first pastor. 00:04:17.839 --> 00:04:22.079 Uh, the church was birthed from a first Baptist church, it was a mission plant. 00:04:22.319 --> 00:04:27.279 And so we talked about this man, and he had been one of the founders at Samford. 00:04:27.439 --> 00:04:32.800 And I know all of these things, and I'm like, huh, that is a legacy right there. 00:04:32.879 --> 00:04:37.519 And I didn't, I knew his last name was devotee, but I didn't know much about him. 00:04:37.600 --> 00:04:40.399 And so yeah, it's funny that I just had that conversation this week. 00:04:40.480 --> 00:04:45.040 But yeah, I definitely think about my parents, my dad, and both my parents are still living as well. 00:04:45.199 --> 00:04:47.839 And I've got three kids at home, but they're all still at home. 00:04:47.920 --> 00:04:49.839 We're gonna keep them there for a little while longer. 00:04:50.000 --> 00:04:57.519 And they're a little younger than Paul's, but Tim's parents and my parents, you know, we grew up in church, but it wasn't just a going to church. 00:04:57.600 --> 00:05:02.959 It was also the life that was lived and the examples given of all of our parents. 00:05:03.279 --> 00:05:06.399 Tim's parents and my parents, like Bibles were constantly open. 00:05:06.720 --> 00:05:13.839 Still, you know, when we go to family, the Lord is part of the conversation at some point in every holiday. 00:05:13.920 --> 00:05:15.279 It's not just a getting together. 00:05:15.360 --> 00:05:17.360 I mean, there's purpose behind it. 00:05:17.439 --> 00:05:22.560 And I can remember going down at all ages from when I was little to when I was in high school. 00:05:22.639 --> 00:05:26.959 And then even when I moved back home for a little while before we got married, my dad always had his Bible out. 00:05:27.120 --> 00:05:28.240 It was on the dining room table. 00:05:28.399 --> 00:05:34.079 And it didn't matter what time of day I got there, if that light was on in the dining room, we didn't need it at the dining room. 00:05:34.160 --> 00:05:35.600 You know, we ate at the kitchen table. 00:05:35.759 --> 00:05:38.720 But the dining room, if that light was on, I knew exactly what it meant. 00:05:38.879 --> 00:05:41.439 And still to this day, I can go in the afternoon. 00:05:41.519 --> 00:05:45.199 And if the dining room light is on, my dad is right there studying his Bible. 00:05:45.439 --> 00:05:47.360 And like I want my kids to see that. 00:05:47.439 --> 00:06:00.319 I want them to know that church isn't, yes, church is

vital, it's important, and we need to be connected to a body of believers, but it's what you're doing at home too, and the legacy that my dad has left. 00:06:00.480 --> 00:06:03.439 I'm sure that he got that from his parents. 00:06:03.839 --> 00:06:06.000 I'm a big fan of uh genealogy research. 00:06:06.079 --> 00:06:16.079 I know we've gone back and forth and talked about it before, but there's one thing that I see over and over and over again as I do genealogy research, is that it's just one individual who changes the entire course for their family. 00:06:16.240 --> 00:06:21.600 And like the way that my family is today is because just this individual did this and this individual did that. 00:06:21.759 --> 00:06:30.319 And if it wasn't for the fact that they either for good or bad, if it wasn't for the fact that they did that, my family wouldn't be where it is today in the shape it is today. 00:06:30.399 --> 00:06:35.199 And God's been good and he's used that to bring about to where I have a godly family and I've been raised in a godly family. 00:06:35.360 --> 00:06:41.040 But it's all just because this individual did this, or this individual was faithful here, or they sacrificed this for their family. 00:06:41.279 --> 00:06:44.319 And probably things that they didn't even realize they were doing in that moment. 00:06:44.480 --> 00:06:44.639 Right. 00:06:44.800 --> 00:06:52.399 You know, this happened and we pushed through it, or we did this because of it, but they may not have known that this was vital to getting you where you are today. 00:06:52.639 --> 00:06:52.959 Right. 00:06:53.199 --> 00:06:54.079 That's cool. 00:06:54.399 --> 00:06:59.920 The stuff we do when the kids are little or your marriage is new, it's exciting. 00:07:00.079 --> 00:07:05.680 You know, you got a lot going on, and it's easy to lose sight of the legacy. 00:07:05.839 --> 00:07:11.680 You know, you're just trying to survive from one day to the next, pay bills, navigate life. 00:07:11.839 --> 00:07:14.240 It feels like it's coming on you so fast. 00:07:14.480 --> 00:07:18.319 And I think as you get older, things do tend to slow down. 00:07:18.639 --> 00:07:21.680 You start to consider other things that are bigger. 00:07:21.839 --> 00:07:46.160 And so I think it's important to talk to people that are right in the middle of that mix and say the things that you're doing, if you're listening to this podcast, good for you, because that's exactly the kind of stuff that you need to keep you focused on the bigger picture and to be reminded that even though it just feels like maybe a big blur in your day, the things you're doing really, for the Lord's glory, really do begin to pay off. 00:07:46.240 --> 00:07:47.759 And it may not be till your kids are older. 00:07:47.839 --> 00:07:51.839 I'm surprised now with my kids that they look at me expectantly all the time. 00:07:52.000 --> 00:07:53.199 Like, Dad, aren't you gonna do this? 00:07:53.360 --> 00:07:54.480 Dad, aren't we gonna

pray? 00:07:54.639 --> 00:07:55.839 Dad, what do you think about this? 00:07:55.920 --> 00:07:58.399 And I'm like, where was this when y'all were like in middle school and high school? 00:07:58.480 --> 00:07:59.680 Well, no, of course not. 00:07:59.839 --> 00:08:00.800 Occasionally, yeah. 00:08:00.959 --> 00:08:08.079 We had some cool talks, but as they get older, it's like, okay, you're starting to see the legacy bear fruit. 00:08:08.240 --> 00:08:08.639 Yeah. 00:08:08.879 --> 00:08:12.639 And even start to surpass you, which is really cool. 00:08:12.800 --> 00:08:14.319 And that's what we want, right? 00:08:14.480 --> 00:08:27.040 Is from generation to generation for that next generation to surpass us and be further ahead than we were, not just obviously financially or with material stuff, but with spiritual. 00:08:27.600 --> 00:08:35.440 Let's chat about that for a little bit, the difference between some of these I hate to say it, but worldly goals that we all have to deal with that are important. 00:08:35.600 --> 00:08:37.440 I mean, your your occupation is huge. 00:08:37.759 --> 00:08:50.480 Your finances are are very important for the work of the kids, obviously, in your community, but how do you keep a balance in all of that and yet still make your relationship with Christ the most important? 00:08:50.799 --> 00:08:54.240 Well, I think when your kids are little, you can even talk about grades. 00:08:54.480 --> 00:08:59.919 We had a conversation this morning, you know, even on the way to school, that I got an whatever on a test. 00:09:00.000 --> 00:09:02.240 And I'm like, okay, what did you understand? 00:09:02.320 --> 00:09:03.600 What did you learn from this? 00:09:03.679 --> 00:09:10.080 And so even just those simple things that everybody's getting a grade when they're little, but to see that there is a bigger picture even there. 00:09:10.159 --> 00:09:11.440 Now that's a tangible thing. 00:09:11.600 --> 00:09:14.000 They have to take a test, they have to be graded. 00:09:14.399 --> 00:09:21.200 They're gonna get, you know, an A or B or whatever to get through to the next grade, but also to talk about the giftings. 00:09:21.360 --> 00:09:21.679 Yeah. 00:09:22.000 --> 00:09:25.519 You're not gonna be great at everything, and that's okay because God made you that way. 00:09:25.679 --> 00:09:28.320 He wants to focus you in a certain direction. 00:09:28.639 --> 00:09:34.000 So that doesn't mean we don't work hard at everything, but we do keep that bigger picture. 00:09:34.159 --> 00:09:34.399 Yeah. 00:09:34.720 --> 00:09:35.120 I don't know. 00:09:35.279 --> 00:09:37.200 That was just a conversation on the way to school this morning. 00:09:37.279 --> 00:09:38.240 So it kind of goes along. 00:09:38.320 --> 00:09:52.960 But I think what you were saying in the rush and the busyness, sometimes we don't think about the legacy, yes, but our reactions to what comes along during those busy seasons is setting the groundwork for right. 00:09:53.440 --> 00:09:59.759 I think an easy way to remind yourself or help yourself is to remember what you remember about your parents growing up. 00:10:00.080 --> 00:10:00.480 Yeah. 00:10:00.879 --> 00:10:02.159 Good and bad, right? 00:10:02.559 --> 00:10:08.240 You remember the times they were irritated, anxious, frustrated with you some. 00:10:08.720 --> 00:10:19.759 Hopefully, though, you also remember the good, the grace they gave, the time they sat and taught you, the little things they did that made you feel special, right? 00:10:20.159 --> 00:10:31.600 That should encourage us to remember that when we do those things, when we pray with our kids before they jump out of the car and run into the class, it may just seem like, man, I've done this a thousand times and they don't even care. 00:10:31.840 --> 00:10:38.639 That's probably the stuff they're gonna remember when they're older and say, Man, my mom and or dad, you know, prayed with me every time I went to school. 00:10:38.720 --> 00:10:44.480 And that's gonna be what stands out more than you were a little stressed that morning or hey, you got angry or whatever, you know? 00:10:44.799 --> 00:10:50.000 Yeah, and like you have two girls taking them on dates and making them a priority. 00:10:50.320 --> 00:10:51.039 Opening their door. 00:10:51.440 --> 00:10:51.759 Yes. 00:10:51.919 --> 00:10:55.120 Those kind of things like makes the a big impact. 00:10:55.519 --> 00:10:58.000 Love covers a multitude, right, of sins. 00:10:58.240 --> 00:11:15.519 And so, yeah, as parents, when we are walking in the word and walking in the spirit and growing, it's going to help us to have those conversations about grades that take it from performance to who you are in Christ, right? 00:11:15.679 --> 00:11:16.720 And it just happens naturally. 00:11:16.799 --> 00:11:23.519 I love what Jennifer was saying earlier, like how no matter what they did, it seems like the conversation came back to Christ and in our homes. 00:11:23.600 --> 00:11:24.720 So that's what we want. 00:11:24.960 --> 00:11:32.639 Sometimes with movies, books, shows, whatever we're watching that are just like, hey, this is like right on the edge of me saying no, we shouldn't watch this. 00:11:32.720 --> 00:11:39.440 This is a little too much for your age or whatever, but to use that for the Lord and say that some of the words they use, we don't use those, right? 00:11:39.519 --> 00:11:42.960 Why don't we use those words and talk about it with the kids? 00:11:43.200 --> 00:11:44.879 Always having a teaching moment. 00:11:45.360 --> 00:11:46.000 Yeah. 00:11:46.320 --> 00:11:53.440 My daughter is at an age where I feel like every conversation is important because she's a preteen. 00:11:53.600 --> 00:11:57.679 I've got her a little bit longer where she doesn't mind to hang out with me and go do stuff with me. 00:11:57.759 --> 00:12:00.639 And hopefully she won't ever want to not be with me. 00:12:00.799 --> 00:12:02.559 But like she's still listening to me.

00:12:02.639 --> 00:12:04.000 She's still asking me questions. 00:12:04.080 --> 00:12:10.720 And so I do like right now, while she's a little bit younger, want to turn every conversation into those teachable moments. 00:12:10.879 --> 00:12:15.759 Like it's not just uh, hey, let's go run to Starbucks, because that's a huge thing, right? 00:12:15.840 --> 00:12:18.399 For a 12-year-old, that's a really big deal to get to go to Starbucks. 00:12:18.720 --> 00:12:20.480 But what are we gonna talk about in the car as we go? 00:12:20.559 --> 00:12:22.240 What music are we gonna listen to? 00:12:22.799 --> 00:12:24.320 And to see her make choices. 00:12:24.720 --> 00:12:31.039 She has an artist that she really likes, and she said, I added three and add the other two. 00:12:31.120 --> 00:12:34.960 And so we were able to talk about why she didn't, and she had made the choice. 00:12:35.120 --> 00:12:36.480 They say words we don't say. 00:12:37.279 --> 00:12:42.320 That's amazing to see those little things that they've been listening to here and there. 00:12:42.559 --> 00:12:54.000 I think uh a huge point in that uh that both of you touched on is the fact that part of that is you have to actually have the hearts of your kids because if they just don't care about you or care what you say, you're not gonna accomplish anything. 00:12:54.480 --> 00:13:01.120 And you see that like in Second Kings, when the people are turning away from David, it's because Absalom stole away their hearts. 00:13:01.279 --> 00:13:10.559 And so their hearts were stolen away by Absalom, so they were willing to turn away to a usurper, somebody who was taking the rightful place of the king because the king had lost their heart. 00:13:10.720 --> 00:13:13.039 They did not have any affection towards him anymore. 00:13:13.519 --> 00:13:21.600 So you have to have in everything, whether teaching, in families, pastoring, anything, you have to have the hearts of your people so that they'll listen to you in the first place. 00:13:21.759 --> 00:13:31.200 They have to know that you care so much for them, that you love them so much, you seek their good so much that they're willing to listen to you, and that they seek your good and they care for you in return. 00:13:31.440 --> 00:13:47.039 I think that a big part of that, and I appreciate you bringing that up, Dawson, is holding to the truth as the leader, you know, in the home, mom and dad, grandparents, the older in the family, uh, to hold to truth at all cost. 00:13:47.200 --> 00:13:52.320 But you can do it in a way that shows people that you love them, right? 00:13:52.559 --> 00:13:54.320 And that you want what's best for them. 00:13:54.559 --> 00:14:02.639 There's been a little bit of a you know, like a social media thing about this family where the granddad recorded the entire Bible for his grandkids. 00:14:02.720 --> 00:14:03.679 I don't know if you've seen that. 00:14:03.919 --> 00:14:04.240 No. 00:14:04.480 --> 00:14:30.159 Yeah, and it's really neat because, you know, he's got these grandkids, obviously that range and all sorts of ages, but a lot of them are teenagers, and they, you know, just at first, I think when that video came out, showed them at Christmas, they each unwrapped a little uh, you know, I think it might have been a jump drive or something that had him reading the whole Bible to them, uh recorded it in a different color for each one, and they're kind of like, oh, well, thanks, granddad, you know, that's cool. 00:14:30.399 --> 00:14:37.440 But then it's gotten popular because so many people saw that and liked it, and so you know, it caught on, and now they're like super proud. 00:14:37.840 --> 00:14:38.879 This is my granddad. 00:14:39.200 --> 00:14:42.639 We're the family that granddad read the whole Bible or recorded the whole Bible. 00:14:42.799 --> 00:14:48.000 But man, what a legacy to pass down in a loving way the truth. 00:14:48.159 --> 00:14:55.279 And so one thing my dad started doing about I don't know how many years ago, maybe five, six years ago. 00:14:55.600 --> 00:15:04.559 He started doing devotions that he would uh text out to each family, each of his kids' families and grandkids. 00:15:04.799 --> 00:15:06.559 He does probably about two or three a week. 00:15:06.639 --> 00:15:07.840 I think there's usually three a week. 00:15:08.000 --> 00:15:10.480 He's an electrical engineer, so he does a hundred words exactly. 00:15:10.559 --> 00:15:11.919 I don't know how he does it, but it's gonna be fun. 00:15:12.000 --> 00:15:14.960 I think we'll probably be able to publish these and hundred-word devotions. 00:15:15.120 --> 00:15:17.519 But they're about him, you know, he walks on the beach every morning. 00:15:17.600 --> 00:15:19.360 He's retired, of course, and walks on the beach. 00:15:19.440 --> 00:15:29.519 He still does some work, and so he talks about he and mom and what they see, and just how he sees God working in nature sometimes and other things. 00:15:29.840 --> 00:15:32.639 But it's really cool because the grandkids love it. 00:15:32.799 --> 00:15:36.960 I mean, the grandkids feel so special to get these and like them. 00:15:37.200 --> 00:15:47.440 And he stands for some pretty bold truths, but it's in a very loving, unconfrontational way, where if there's some of his family that doesn't love that right now, they still appreciate getting that. 00:15:47.679 --> 00:15:49.440 Yeah, my dad did the story worth. 00:15:49.679 --> 00:15:50.000 Yeah. 00:15:50.240 --> 00:15:51.440 We gave him that for Christmas. 00:15:51.519 --> 00:15:58.720 He didn't stop with one year, he went to, so we have two very thick books on our shelf, but it's fun to look at them. 00:15:58.799 --> 00:16:02.159 Like we'll be talking, and he'll say, Well, I wrote about it in your book. 00:16:02.240 --> 00:16:04.639 And I'm like, Oh, probably haven't got to that chapter yet. 00:16:04.720 --> 00:16:06.159 There are a lot of chapters, y'all. 00:16:06.320 --> 00:16:06.720 A lot.

00:16:06.960 --> 00:16:23.279 He looked up pictures to go with each of them, but it's fun to look at some of the questions and how he does turn them into pointing to the Lord, whatever it is, if it's a a story about a cousin or or whatever that, you know, on Sundays though, we knew, you know, whatever it is, that he turns it back to the Lord. 00:16:23.440 --> 00:16:25.039 So yeah, I love that. 00:16:25.519 --> 00:16:30.639 One thing I was thinking about from what Dawson said about each kid, this made me laugh. 00:16:30.720 --> 00:16:31.519 I'll share this real quick. 00:16:31.600 --> 00:16:32.559 And then I've got another thing. 00:16:32.799 --> 00:16:36.480 Each of my kids this morning in the car was talking about how the other ones were our favorite. 00:16:36.639 --> 00:16:38.960 I'm like, well, yeah, that means you're all our favorite. 00:16:39.039 --> 00:16:41.679 And they're like, no, you do this for them and you do this for them. 00:16:41.759 --> 00:16:49.679 But knowing them each, they wouldn't feel like that one was our favorite or that one was our favorite because it would be obvious, you know. 00:16:49.919 --> 00:16:51.200 Anyway, it just made me think of that. 00:16:51.279 --> 00:16:51.840 It was funny. 00:16:52.080 --> 00:17:01.519 But talk a little bit about the importance of the relationship with mom and dad, the legacy that you're leaving for your kids watching um, your kids watching you. 00:17:01.840 --> 00:17:04.559 Like the relationship between you and Mandy. 00:17:04.799 --> 00:17:05.599 Oh, yeah. 00:17:05.839 --> 00:17:08.079 That's been amazing to watch. 00:17:08.240 --> 00:17:25.519 And I will say too that I would think of Mandy's mom who passed about a year ago, went through a difficult divorce, but she served the Lord, was faithful in her church, was a prayer warrior, loved the grandkids, was hanging out with us all the time. 00:17:25.680 --> 00:17:34.079 So I, you know, I hate to say it, but it's just so obvious that when you love the Lord, it's gonna impact big time the next generation. 00:17:34.240 --> 00:17:42.400 Now, if you're married, you know, grandma and grandpa, and we get to watch them as a married couple, that's really sweet too, in that they love the Lord. 00:17:43.200 --> 00:17:51.519 And so with me and Mandy, I know that's the only real valuable thing we're passing on to our kids is our love of the Lord. 00:17:51.759 --> 00:17:53.119 And hopefully a decent marriage. 00:17:53.279 --> 00:17:56.400 Well, yeah, and hopefully some land and hopefully some money and all that. 00:17:56.720 --> 00:17:58.079 That's what we were talking about earlier. 00:17:58.160 --> 00:18:12.160 It's like, man, you could pass down pass down incredible scientific discoveries, you could pass down tons of money, and it is all forgotten in a generation or less, or squandered, maybe even. 00:18:12.240 --> 00:18:12.960 Who knows? 00:18:13.119 --> 00:18:30.000 Not that those things aren't good, but it's only the things done for the Lord that seem to last for generations and impact things where we look back in our our heritage and like, oh, there was a preacher back, you know, six centuries ago, but look, now we're following the Lord again, you know? 00:18:30.240 --> 00:18:34.319 Yeah, we were watching the Olympics and it was every race had a new record. 00:18:34.640 --> 00:18:35.839 Well, yeah. 00:18:36.640 --> 00:18:44.400 Okay, you were the record for what, a minute and a half until the next guy on the next round did something quicker. 00:18:44.559 --> 00:18:52.000 And so, yeah, that legacy that you're leaving, these are things that aren't gonna go away that somebody can't outlive because it's not about us. 00:18:52.160 --> 00:18:53.759 Yeah, it's about him. 00:18:54.319 --> 00:19:00.000 As much as I enjoy holidays, you know, it's like I remember some of that when I was little, but no. 00:19:00.079 --> 00:19:04.799 I mean, what I really remember is my parents' love of the Lord. 00:19:05.200 --> 00:19:07.119 We always made a birthday cake for Jesus. 00:19:07.279 --> 00:19:07.599 Yeah. 00:19:07.839 --> 00:19:09.680 I remember other things about Christmas. 00:19:09.759 --> 00:19:11.039 I mean, I'm sure we did other things. 00:19:11.200 --> 00:19:12.880 We had a Christmas Eve service at church. 00:19:12.960 --> 00:19:14.720 We made a birthday cake for Jesus. 00:19:15.039 --> 00:19:16.799 Those are the big things I remember. 00:19:17.039 --> 00:19:24.240 Like I know we went to our extended family for some I I know that those things happened, but those were the two meaningful moments of what we did at home. 00:19:24.720 --> 00:19:29.200 Two things that my mom and dad have done that have meant the world to me. 00:19:29.279 --> 00:19:38.720 My dad, especially, often he stops me or saying bye, or sometimes just out of blue, he'll say, you know, I just want you to know I'm very proud of you. 00:19:39.039 --> 00:19:41.599 You know, when you hear that from your dad, it's huge. 00:19:41.680 --> 00:19:45.599 And so I try to remember that with my kids to take time to say, Hey, I am so proud of you. 00:19:45.759 --> 00:19:47.039 Keep up the good work. 00:19:47.920 --> 00:19:52.640 The other thing, too, is the times he has prayed God's blessings over me. 00:19:52.799 --> 00:19:56.400 And that happens pretty regularly, but then there's been times where it's just been unusual. 00:19:56.799 --> 00:20:00.000 Made me think of it when you're talking about the birthday party for Jesus and that cake. 00:20:00.160 --> 00:20:12.640 But like at a birthday party, why not do that for your kids and say, We're gonna do all the fun stuff, we're gonna celebrate, have the you know, parties and food and cake, but we are gonna stop and pray God's blessings over you and lay hands on you or something. 00:20:12.720 --> 00:20:14.000 Just make it where your kids are like, wow. 00:20:14.160 --> 00:20:17.599 Yeah, we do that at family birthdays or family dinners for a birthday. 00:20:17.920 --> 00:20:19.440 My dad, we

call him Chief. 00:20:19.680 --> 00:20:22.720 And everybody knows if it's your birthday, Chief's praying for you. 00:20:23.839 --> 00:20:27.599 And he's like, Don't you want, you know, don't you want Tim to pray for you? 00:20:27.680 --> 00:20:28.000 Nope. 00:20:28.160 --> 00:20:29.440 I would like for you to pray for me. 00:20:29.519 --> 00:20:30.319 This is my birthday. 00:20:30.559 --> 00:20:31.839 So this is what happens. 00:20:31.920 --> 00:20:32.880 You know, it's a big thing. 00:20:33.039 --> 00:20:35.440 But this isn't just our family members. 00:20:35.759 --> 00:20:38.240 There was a kid at church last night, had a hard time going in. 00:20:38.319 --> 00:20:39.119 This is so great. 00:20:39.279 --> 00:20:43.359 And we were able to tell his friend who was in the class after class, thank you. 00:20:43.519 --> 00:20:46.160 I am so proud of you for welcoming him in. 00:20:46.799 --> 00:20:59.759 And that makes a big, big impact on kids of all ages, adults of all ages, to hear that you're proud of them and for godly reasons that hopefully they want to have those outstretched arms again, bringing more kids with them next week. 00:21:00.400 --> 00:21:01.359 Any other thoughts? 00:21:02.480 --> 00:21:05.599 Like in all of this, none of this is extra special. 00:21:06.400 --> 00:21:06.799 Yeah. 00:21:07.200 --> 00:21:15.039 Sometimes we want to do the big things and the grand things, and our kids are so gonna remember this, and this is what we're working on for our grandkids. 00:21:15.200 --> 00:21:17.920 None of these things have been that that we've talked about today. 00:21:18.400 --> 00:21:25.519 At the conference we just got back from I remember one of the speakers saying that he reads through the Bible like each year. 00:21:25.680 --> 00:21:27.759 He's a pastor, and and that's understandable. 00:21:27.920 --> 00:21:33.839 Some people it might take him two years or or more to read through the Bible, but he does it in one of the Bibles that has room for notes. 00:21:34.000 --> 00:21:34.319 Yes. 00:21:34.480 --> 00:21:45.759 And so what he does is with that Bible, he makes notes, his study notes about what he's learning and what God's teaching him and puts us all in the um in the margins, and then gives that to a different kid each year. 00:21:45.839 --> 00:21:54.400 And so by the time he's done, each kid's gonna have a stack of Bibles that they could pass on to their grandkids or his grandkids. 00:21:54.480 --> 00:21:58.880 And I think he said he was doing it for his grandkids as well, and so that's why he could just keep on doing that. 00:21:58.960 --> 00:21:59.759 And I said, Wow. 00:22:00.160 --> 00:22:04.000 That would be more valuable than any stack of money, believe it or not. 00:22:04.160 --> 00:22:05.440 Yeah, it really would. 00:22:05.759 --> 00:22:11.599 So every now and then we get formed by like big events, like big explosive, huge events, and that shapes us and that changes things. 00:22:11.759 --> 00:22:16.319 But the biggest thing, you're right, that shapes us is like, what do I do when I wake up first thing in the morning? 00:22:16.480 --> 00:22:19.200 What am I thinking about when I'm sitting there eating lunch? 00:22:19.440 --> 00:22:20.799 What is my evening routine? 00:22:20.880 --> 00:22:22.079 Like the day-to-day things. 00:22:22.160 --> 00:22:23.680 How what's my attitude towards work? 00:22:23.839 --> 00:22:27.440 How do I feel when I have to show love to my neighbor? 00:22:27.680 --> 00:22:35.920 And you see, like in Ephesians 2, it says we are his workmanship created in Christ Jesus for good works, which he has prepared beforehand for us. 00:22:36.079 --> 00:22:39.440 So we're created for those good works, and those good works are created for us. 00:22:39.599 --> 00:22:42.240 So we're designed to fit together with good works. 00:22:42.400 --> 00:22:50.319 And if God beforehand has created us for good works and prepared those good works beforehand, then he's not going to forget those good works. 00:22:50.640 --> 00:22:56.319 Hebrews says that he is not unjust so as to forgive or to forget your service, which you have done for the saints. 00:22:56.559 --> 00:23:03.519 So God remembers because in eternity past he prepared works for us to do, good works for us to do, small good works for us to do. 00:23:03.839 --> 00:23:08.559 He's not going to forget them because in eternity past he cared, okay, they're going to encourage this person today. 00:23:08.640 --> 00:23:13.039 They're going to be faithful today, they're going to help their kids today with this. 00:23:13.200 --> 00:23:14.480 God doesn't forget our good works. 00:23:14.559 --> 00:23:27.119 And so the most lasting legacy ultimately, of course, passing on through the generations, but also the fact that the Lord remembers and the Lord is written down and the Lord recalls and is not unjust so as to forget our good works, which we have done in his name. 00:23:27.440 --> 00:23:31.920 That makes me think that we can get bored, depressed as we get older. 00:23:32.160 --> 00:23:34.240 Not bored from the standpoint of just sitting around doing nothing. 00:23:34.400 --> 00:23:36.079 It's like, what's the purpose of life? 00:23:36.160 --> 00:23:44.960 You know, even Christians get that way sometimes because you go to church, you're busy, you're doing all these things, but are you doing the works God has created for you beforehand? 00:23:45.119 --> 00:23:51.759 And so when you do, if you're bored or you're looking for how to do legacy with your kids, it's not the hard things. 00:23:51.839 --> 00:24:02.160 It's the more simple things that we know the Lord would have us invest in praying for our kids, teaching them the word, being an example, having conversations with them. 00:24:02.319 --> 00:24:04.480 Those things, don't let those be a burden, like another thing. 00:24:04.559 --> 00:24:05.599 Oh, I gotta do this. 00:24:05.759 --> 00:24:09.200 Let that be the main work that you're doing. 00:24:09.359 --> 00:24:18.640 And I think you'll find joy and excitement and let the other things fall as they might, whether you know how many sports you're in, how long you do homework, all this sort of stuff. 00:24:18.799 --> 00:24:19.839 It's those sort of things. 00:24:19.920 --> 00:24:25.599 And so, yeah, my dad, again, going back to him, he said, I asked him, What do you do on your walk? 00:24:25.759 --> 00:24:26.960 How do you pray for specifically? 00:24:27.359 --> 00:24:28.319 I know he prays a lot. 00:24:28.480 --> 00:24:30.880 He does like a three-mile walk on the beach every day. 00:24:31.039 --> 00:24:36.559 And so he says, on one way, I'm memorizing scripture. 00:24:36.880 --> 00:24:41.759 On the way back, I always pray for family, just pretty much just pray for family for 30 minutes. 00:24:41.920 --> 00:24:44.640 I'm like, wow, thank you. 00:24:45.039 --> 00:24:47.039 He shared some of the specifics he prays. 00:24:47.119 --> 00:24:48.400 I'm thinking, wow. 00:24:48.640 --> 00:24:55.519 You know, and that your kids may never know what you've prayed for, but if they know you're praying for them, that makes a huge difference. 00:24:55.680 --> 00:25:04.079 And those are the works I'm sure that we're called to that actually will be way more profitable than we could ever imagine. 00:25:06.079 --> 00:25:06.480 All right. 00:25:06.559 --> 00:25:20.799 Well, we hope you have got some new things to think about when it comes to the legacy that you're leaving for those around you, whether it's your kids, grandkids, or a class that you might be teaching, whoever it is that God has them there for a reason and has you there for a reason in their lives. 00:25:21.039 --> 00:25:22.400 We'd love to hear from you. 00:25:22.640 --> 00:25:32.559 If you want to call or text, you can call 629-888-3056, or you can always email at anchored at harpscrossing.com. 00:25:32.640 --> 00:25:36.240 And we are so thankful that you joined in with us today. 00:25:36.319 --> 00:25:38.960 And until next time, stay anchored.