Pełna transkrypcja odcinka When the Story You Believed Isn’t the Whole Story | Yvonne F. Conte

and it was wrong, 100% wrong. 00:05:57.360 --> 00:06:02.720 But so, so as a little child, I knew that oh, I can get her attention if I laugh. 00:06:02.720 --> 00:06:07.759 And she used to say, Oh, Bonnie, you are my little comedian, you know. 00:06:07.759 --> 00:06:10.720 She used to say that, which made me feel good. 00:06:10.959 --> 00:06:11.360 Sure. 00:06:11.600 --> 00:06:21.120 Um, I will say, you know, my father was a hundred percent disabled veteran, so she had to dress him, she had to do his hair, she had to, you know, tie his tie. 00:06:21.120 --> 00:06:24.399 But he worked every day, never ever did not work. 00:06:24.399 --> 00:06:33.120 And then my elder sister was a diabetic at the age of five, so she had to learn how to give her insulin and learn all about the the food and all of that. 00:06:33.120 --> 00:06:39.199 So, as a healthy kid with no real problems, I kind of thought, well, what can I do? 00:06:39.199 --> 00:06:42.319 In fact, one time, Beverly gonna crack up over this. 00:06:42.319 --> 00:06:53.360 One time I noticed that the radiator in my bedroom was hot, and I thought, oh, I can get a fever if I if I can stay close to it. 00:06:53.360 --> 00:06:59.920 So I went over to that radiator and I stuck my forehead on the radiator until I could not stand it anymore. 00:06:59.920 --> 00:07:02.480 And then I thought, oh, it's nice and hot. 00:07:02.480 --> 00:07:10.079 So I went down the stairs, and my mother was sitting in the living room with a cup of coffee, and I went, Mommy, I don't feel good. 00:07:10.079 --> 00:07:12.720 And she goes, Oh my goodness, get over here. 00:07:12.720 --> 00:07:16.399 So I came over and she looked at me and she said, What in the world? 00:07:16.399 --> 00:07:18.800 And then she started laughing. 00:07:18.800 --> 00:07:20.959 And I was like, Why are you laughing? 00:07:20.959 --> 00:07:22.079 I'm I'm sick. 00:07:22.079 --> 00:07:24.160 She goes, You're not sick, my dear. 00:07:24.160 --> 00:07:28.879 And then she put me in front of a mirror and she said, Why in the world would you do such a thing? 00:07:28.879 --> 00:07:32.720 Because I had radiator mouth all my forehead. 00:07:32.720 --> 00:07:36.720 Yeah. 00:07:36.720 --> 00:07:43.120 And then thing about that is I wasn't able to say, you know, I wasn't able to vocalize. 00:07:43.120 --> 00:07:45.120 I just want you to pay attention to me. 00:07:45.120 --> 00:07:45.600 Yeah. 00:07:45.759 --> 00:07:46.079 Yes 00:07:46.319 --> 00:07:48.879 I wasn't able to say why I did that. 00:07:49.439 --> 00:07:53.120 And and that led you to become a rebellious teenager. 00:07:53.439 --> 00:07:54.319 It sure did. 00:07:54.319 --> 00:07:55.519 You got that right. 00:07:55.519 --> 00:08:04.079 I uh, first of all, I went to 12 different schools in my lifetime from first grade, uh, from kindergarten until um 12th grade. 00:08:04.079 --> 00:08:06.000 So that's like a new school every year. 00:08:06.160 --> 00:08:06.399 Yes 00:08:06.560 --> 00:08:11.759 And it was because I kept getting expelled or getting in trouble, and then my father would move me. 00:08:11.759 --> 00:08:15.040 Uh, I failed first grade, fifth grade, ninth grade. 00:08:15.040 --> 00:08:17.759 Um, I ran away from home three times. 00:08:17.759 --> 00:08:21.279 At one point, I stayed away for three solid months. 00:08:21.279 --> 00:08:30.079 Can you imagine a mother dealing with all that she had to deal with, and then this kid being so rebellious? 00:08:30.079 --> 00:08:34.720 And I always say, you know, people say, Why did you run away from home? 00:08:34.720 --> 00:08:41.120 I don't think I was running away from home, I was running towards something exciting. 00:08:41.120 --> 00:08:43.200 Like I wanted to see things. 00:08:43.200 --> 00:08:47.519 I um I remember that I used to love Look magazine. 00:08:47.519 --> 00:08:49.279 Remember the big look magazine? 00:08:49.279 --> 00:08:59.440 So many wonderful pictures in it, and I saw pictures of New York City in the 60s, uh, the East Village with all the hippies and all the music. 00:08:59.440 --> 00:09:01.519 And oh my gosh, I wanted to be part of that. 00:09:01.519 --> 00:09:04.799 So I just got on a gray homed Greyhound bus and went. 00:09:04.799 --> 00:09:07.360 I was 13 years old. 00:09:07.360 --> 00:09:09.759 I can't even imagine doing that now. 00:09:09.759 --> 00:09:13.600 I mean, I wouldn't get on a bus now and go to New York City at one. 00:09:13.600 --> 00:09:19.440 So, anyway, um, we stayed three months. 00:09:19.440 --> 00:09:25.360 It's uh I went with one of my girlfriends, it started getting cold, and I thought, well, we need to go somewhere warm. 00:09:25.360 --> 00:09:29.200 So let's hitchhike to California and go to Haight Ashbury. 00:09:29.200 --> 00:09:50.720 It's California, that's where all the hippies are, that's where you know, uh all the really great folk singers are, and so we were hitchhiking and we hitchhiked, we got all the way to Terre Holt, Indiana, where I got arrested for hitchhiking and put in jail, and eventually they sent they called my dad and he came to get me. 00:09:51.360 --> 00:09:53.840 And so here's this runaway kid. 00:09:53.840 --> 00:10:04.240 Okay, how did this kid now become a successful salesperson and create a career in sales? 00:10:04.240 --> 00:10:07.759 How did that transition happen from there? 00:10:08.080 --> 00:10:13.039 Okay, it was never my goal to be a working woman, it just wasn't. 00:10:13.039 --> 00:10:19.360 I wanted to be married and have children, that's all I wanted, and I did get married very young, I was 18. 00:10:19.360 --> 00:10:22.399 I married a singer-songwriter, of course. 00:10:22.399 --> 00:10:28.000 And we had a band and we played music and it was fun. 00:10:28.000 --> 00:10:34.960 But after about well, after seven years and two children, it just wasn't fun anymore. 00:10:34.960 --> 00:10:37.440 And so I divorced. 00:10:37.440 --> 00:10:42.320 I didn't want to be divorced, I would have rather been a widow, but he

fought me on that too. 00:10:42.320 --> 00:10:45.519 So my favorite joke. 00:10:45.519 --> 00:10:50.879 Um, so we ended up divorced, and I ended up with two little children, and they were infants at the time. 00:10:50.879 --> 00:10:55.039 I mean, Aubrey, Aubrey was three, and Johnny was two, or something like that. 00:10:55.039 --> 00:10:58.080 They were babies, and so I had to work. 00:10:58.080 --> 00:11:02.159 It wasn't something I wanted to do, I just wanted to be home and be a mom. 00:11:02.159 --> 00:11:09.840 And we were in Tennessee because we went there in order to pursue the musical career, which never happened. 00:11:09.840 --> 00:11:14.399 And I was working four different jobs to support these children. 00:11:14.399 --> 00:11:38.000 I was um, I worked, I first of all, I made Italian pastries in the morning and I sold those on the way to work to a uh a golf course club, and on, you know, and then I went from there to uh Swiss Colony Cheese at the mall, and I made the cheese and meat trays in the back from six in the morning until 10 o'clock. 00:11:38.000 --> 00:11:47.600 And then I washed my hands, went next door, and was a makeup artist at the Merrill Norman cosmetic store from 10 until four. 00:11:47.600 --> 00:11:54.639 And then after that, uh on Saturdays I swept hair in a hair salon, and that's how I supported these two children. 00:11:54.639 --> 00:11:59.519 It was all wage, and it was I barely made it. 00:11:59.519 --> 00:12:17.360 And uh there's a lot that went on, and of course, I I've written all about that, but when I came back to Syracuse, when I finally got enough money to come back to Syracuse where I'm from and where my family was, um, I wanted a better job for my children. 00:12:17.360 --> 00:12:23.440 I wanted something better, I wanted insurance, I wanted, you know, to be able to have a home and all those things. 00:12:23.440 --> 00:12:32.559 So I started working uh as a salesperson because I was uneducated, I had no college education, and that's all I really knew how to do. 00:12:32.559 --> 00:12:35.120 My father was a salesman and he taught me well. 00:12:35.120 --> 00:12:41.200 And I became, you know, the number one salesperson for several different companies that I worked for. 00:12:41.200 --> 00:12:53.840 Um, so I did it out of necessity, not out of not out of a desire to be successful or a desire to do that particular job. 00:12:53.840 --> 00:13:01.519 But then um I I did notice that all through my life, even as a child, I always had a journal. 00:13:01.519 --> 00:13:04.240 Back then we called them uh uh what do we call them? 00:13:04.240 --> 00:13:06.159 Uh with the diary. 00:13:06.159 --> 00:13:07.519 The diaries, yeah. 00:13:07.519 --> 00:13:12.799 I have tons of diaries I wrote as a kid and all of my journals throughout my life. 00:13:12.799 --> 00:13:19.679 So I noticed, you know, you you like to write, Yvonne, and some of these things you've written could help other people. 00:13:19.679 --> 00:13:29.120 So

then I started, you know, like sending things to magazines and different things like that, just for fun, and they got published, they got printed, and I was like, wow, this is cool. 00:13:29.120 --> 00:13:42.399 Well, the company I was working for was purchased by Siemens Corporation, and they let everybody go here in Syracuse and moved the operation to Bulka Raton, Florida. 00:13:42.399 --> 00:13:49.440 And I was in tears one day, and my son John, he was 16 at the time, and he said, Mommy, what are you crying about? 00:13:49.440 --> 00:13:52.399 And I said, Oh, John, I I I don't have a job. 00:13:52.399 --> 00:13:58.000 I have this big house because by then I was successful, so I bought all the things we'd buy when we're successful. 00:13:58.000 --> 00:13:58.720 Sure. 00:13:58.720 --> 00:14:04.639 And I said, I don't I don't know what I want to do with my life, I want it to be something that I enjoy. 00:14:04.639 --> 00:14:08.960 I I've worked as a salesperson, it's never been my desire to be that. 00:14:08.960 --> 00:14:11.200 But because you're successful, you keep going. 00:14:11.200 --> 00:14:13.200 And he said, Mom, you should be a comedian. 00:14:13.200 --> 00:14:14.080 You're really funny. 00:14:14.080 --> 00:14:18.399 And I'm like, Oh, John, please can't make a living as a comedian. 00:14:18.399 --> 00:14:20.159 So I kind of dismissed him. 00:14:20.159 --> 00:14:26.000 But that same week, I went to my accountants to kind of find out how much money do I have left? 00:14:26.000 --> 00:14:27.200 What should I do? 00:14:27.200 --> 00:14:30.720 And he said, You got a lot of money going out and no money coming in. 00:14:30.720 --> 00:14:32.559 You need to get a job. 00:14:32.559 --> 00:14:36.399 And he said, Did you ever think about being a comedian? 00:14:36.399 --> 00:14:39.759 And I said, Seriously? 00:14:39.759 --> 00:14:42.879 My son said that to me the same week, you know? 00:14:42.879 --> 00:14:51.120 And he turned around and he called the owner of a comedy club in Syracuse, which at the time I'd never been in a comedy club in my life. 00:14:51.120 --> 00:14:54.080 I had no information about it at all. 00:14:54.080 --> 00:14:57.519 And long story short, he made me an appointment to go down there. 00:14:57.519 --> 00:14:59.840 I thought I didn't know what it was about. 00:14:59.840 --> 00:15:03.440 He explained, You got you're gonna go on stage and you're gonna do stand-up. 00:15:03.440 --> 00:15:04.960 I said, I don't know anything about it. 00:15:04.960 --> 00:15:06.159 What are you talking about? 00:15:06.159 --> 00:15:12.000 So I just wrote down some of my stories that were true, that always made people laugh. 00:15:12.000 --> 00:15:35.600 I went there, I did my five minutes, and Beverly, I can only explain it by saying when that audience they stood up for me and they clapped and they laughed, and all of that was somehow a warm hug that reminded me so much of my mom. 00:15:35.600 --> 00:15:41.919 And I thought this is something I want to do for the rest of my life, this is what I was born to do. 00:15:41.919 --> 00:15:48.399 I'm sorry, I don't know if I got a no, um of course. 00:15:48.399 --> 00:15:52.559 So for seven years I did stand-up comedy, that's all I did. 00:15:52.559 --> 00:15:56.559 And how did that become a 30-year career? 00:15:56.559 --> 00:16:01.519 By accident, as everything in my life does. 00:16:01.519 --> 00:16:07.360 Um, I had uh uh a phone, the phone rang and I answered it. 00:16:07.360 --> 00:16:10.480 I was working exclusively as a stand-up comic. 00:16:10.480 --> 00:16:18.559 And this woman, her name was Bobby Dylan, and she was from Rochester area fundraising executives in Rochester, New York. 00:16:18.559 --> 00:16:20.399 She said, We heard you're hysterical. 00:16:20.399 --> 00:16:22.399 We want you to come and talk to our group. 00:16:22.399 --> 00:16:25.440 We're having a meeting at the Rochester Club at noon. 00:16:25.440 --> 00:16:27.840 And I thought, oh, at noon, they're not drinking. 00:16:27.840 --> 00:16:29.120 How am I gonna make them laugh? 00:16:29.120 --> 00:16:37.039 And in the conversation, I realized she thought I was a motivational speaker, and that my topic was humor. 00:16:37.039 --> 00:16:39.279 So I just agreed with her. 00:16:39.279 --> 00:16:41.279 I said, now what else do you want me to talk about? 00:16:41.279 --> 00:16:44.240 I like to I like to tailor all my talks to every group. 00:16:44.240 --> 00:16:46.159 So she just told me what she wanted. 00:16:46.159 --> 00:16:57.200 I went to the library, I took out every book I could find on humor and laughter and joy and how it affects our body and our mind and how it helps us to connect and how it affects our health. 00:16:57.200 --> 00:16:59.759 And I put together a 20-minute talk. 00:16:59.759 --> 00:17:02.799 Beverly, it was like a miracle. 00:17:02.799 --> 00:17:11.279 My job as a motivational speaker was born in that room at 12 noon at the Rochester Club. 00:17:11.279 --> 00:17:22.559 It was 100 or 150 people from 150 different hospitals, colleges in the area that were fundraisers. 00:17:22.559 --> 00:17:26.720 So they all had to have a speaker at their fundraiser, right? 00:17:26.720 --> 00:17:40.480 And they they just liked me, and so I started getting hired right away as a speaker, and I knew nothing about the industry, didn't know what to charge, didn't know anything, and it just worked out. 00:17:40.480 --> 00:18:19.200 I had a customer in Chicago, I'd been doing it maybe maybe two years, and uh it was a women's financial association, and I went out there and I did it for her, and then she called me and she said, Yvonne, I I I know this is inappropriate, but I've got to tell you, I just really think the world of you, and I've told so many people about you, but when I tell them you only charge $1,500 to speak, they say, Oh, we wanted a professional, and the more I tell them, you gotta get this girl, she's wonderful, they said, No, we wanted somebody bigger.

00:18:19.200 --> 00:18:22.240 So she said, You need to increase your fee. 00:18:22.240 --> 00:18:24.400 Can you imagine a customer telling you that? 00:18:24.400 --> 00:18:32.799 And I said, Well, I feel like I'm stealing money, I'm talking for one hour, and she said, Yes, you should be charging ten thousand dollars for that one hour. 00:18:32.799 --> 00:18:34.559 I was floored. 00:18:34.559 --> 00:18:40.400 Can I tell you the minute I raised my price, I started getting bookings all over the country. 00:18:40.400 --> 00:18:44.720 Just was crazy, fantastic, yeah. 00:18:44.720 --> 00:18:48.880 And so you were doing this for 30 years, 31 years, yeah. 00:18:48.880 --> 00:18:51.680 And yeah, and then you decided to retire. 00:18:51.680 --> 00:18:53.920 How did that go for you, Yvonne? 00:18:53.920 --> 00:18:55.839 Well, you know, it's weird. 00:18:55.839 --> 00:19:01.599 We get these ideas in our head that okay, I I did enough, I'm not crazy about the travel anymore. 00:19:01.599 --> 00:19:03.759 It's not as fun as it used to be. 00:19:03.759 --> 00:19:12.559 And my audiences are much younger now, and so I thought, well, they don't want an old grandmother up there talking to them about laughter and humor. 00:19:12.559 --> 00:19:21.200 So I started turning down bookings, and I thought, maybe it's time, you know, it's 75, maybe 75 in December. 00:19:21.200 --> 00:19:31.599 Maybe it's time for me to re just pull it back a little bit and just um, you know, relax a little bit, enjoy the kids, blah, blah, blah. 00:19:31.599 --> 00:19:39.519 Well, then I was writing the memoir because when you retire, you write a memoir and you document your whole life. 00:19:39.519 --> 00:19:54.160 But writing that memoir uh beneath her smile opened my eyes to so much that had happened in my life that I didn't think about, I didn't realize, and I didn't realize what it meant. 00:19:54.160 --> 00:20:09.839 And so I've been traveling all over giving talks about the book and realizing that in the process I'm teaching people about the importance of compassion over judgment. 00:20:09.839 --> 00:20:15.519 Because, of course, I judged my mother my whole life without really realizing it. 00:20:15.519 --> 00:20:19.759 I was dead wrong, and then I had to learn to be compassionate. 00:20:19.759 --> 00:20:32.079 It was such a lesson for me, and it was such a gratifying thing to do because it taught me about my past and why things happened as they did. 00:20:32.079 --> 00:20:43.359 I will say, I've always been the kind of girl that if I fall down and break my leg, it's because God wants to teach me that I can't be going so fast on that scooter or whatever it might be. 00:20:43.359 --> 00:20:45.599 I never complain, I never whine. 00:20:45.599 --> 00:20:51.839 Even when I was going through difficulties as a child, I never said nobody loves me, you know. 00:20:51.839 --> 00:20:52.480 Never. 00:20:52.480 --> 00:20:57.519 It's never been my personality to look at the negative. 00:20:57.519

--> 00:21:00.960 It's always been, let's look at the positive. 00:21:00.960 --> 00:21:02.720 What can I learn out of this? 00:21:02.720 --> 00:21:05.119 What how can I grow from this? 00:21:05.119 --> 00:21:17.680 And um I think in the process, everyone around me just thinks I have this wonderful life and never had a problem in my world, you know, never, never, never. 00:21:17.680 --> 00:21:25.200 I've had people that have known me for 30 years read this book and go, my God, Yvonne, I never realized this, this, and this. 00:21:25.200 --> 00:21:30.000 I never realized what you went through as a young person or you know. 00:21:30.240 --> 00:21:35.359 And at 60, you came out and found that family story. 00:21:35.359 --> 00:21:38.880 How did you find that when you were 60 years old? 00:21:38.880 --> 00:21:40.480 How did you discover that? 00:21:40.799 --> 00:21:52.319 My Aunt Frances, whom I adored, passed away, and she left me a big box full of family pictures and documents and all because she knows I'm the family historian. 00:21:52.319 --> 00:21:54.559 Okay, we have a huge family. 00:21:54.559 --> 00:22:01.759 And I put it in the cellar because I was busy traveling around, you know, when I was in my I was working like crazy. 00:22:01.759 --> 00:22:07.200 So I took it out one day and I started looking through all the pictures and laughing at some of them and so forth. 00:22:07.200 --> 00:22:11.039 And there was a picture of my father in his navy uniform. 00:22:11.039 --> 00:22:12.960 And it was a beautiful picture. 00:22:12.960 --> 00:22:15.839 And I wanted it, but the frame was cracked. 00:22:15.839 --> 00:22:19.200 So I took it apart in order to get that picture. 00:22:19.200 --> 00:22:24.720 And two things fell out of the back of that frame. 00:22:24.720 --> 00:22:34.960 And it destroyed me because I'm reluctant to say exactly what it was because it'll ruin it for people that are reading the book. 00:22:34.960 --> 00:22:50.880 But um it did two things, it explained what happened in 1958 that that just destroyed my mother, but it also destroyed my thoughts of what our family was about. 00:22:50.880 --> 00:23:06.240 It destroyed my feelings for my mother, for my father, for why all these secrets, you know, and so in the in the beginning, I first found out I was angry, I was I was in denial, I didn't want to believe it. 00:23:06.240 --> 00:23:39.039 I did a ton of research and then went back to some of my aunts and uncles that were still with us and found oh my gosh, this actually was a beautiful love story between my mother and father, and how they got through the most difficult thing uh a husband and wife can get through to try to get through, but they stayed with one another and they tried all with all their might to rekindle the love that they had for one another, and they stayed with each other until death. 00:23:39.039 --> 00:23:41.599 That to me is a beautiful story. 00:23:41.599 --> 00:23:48.160 So I don't look at this as oh, this horrible

secret about the family, huh? 00:23:48.160 --> 00:23:49.119 What a disgrace. 00:23:49.119 --> 00:23:49.920 Blah blah blah. 00:23:49.920 --> 00:23:55.440 No, I look at it and I think, how amazing was my mother? 00:23:55.440 --> 00:23:58.079 Because I would have left them in two seconds. 00:23:58.319 --> 00:23:58.960 You know what I mean? 00:24:00.240 --> 00:24:02.559 I could never have done what she did. 00:24:02.559 --> 00:24:04.720 She was an amazing woman. 00:24:04.720 --> 00:24:07.039 Uh, she died in 2019. 00:24:07.039 --> 00:24:14.240 What's beautiful is that I found this out and was able to just love my mother for the rest of her life. 00:24:14.240 --> 00:24:20.160 I took her on trips, we did amazing things together, we we laughed a lot together. 00:24:20.160 --> 00:24:20.880 Wonderful. 00:24:20.880 --> 00:24:35.359 And Beverly, when she passed away, I got another big box of things of hers, and in there was a file with every single article that was ever written about me, every place I ever played. 00:24:35.359 --> 00:24:51.200 She somehow had the the little uh book that the program uh she she collected everything there was about me, she was so proud of me, and yet she wasn't the type of woman that would shower you with that kind of praise. 00:24:51.440 --> 00:24:59.920 Yes, now my eyes are teary as you speak, and so there's no stopping you even today. 00:24:59.920 --> 00:25:07.599 You were in retirement, you've come out of retirement, and you're almost 80, and there is no stopping you now. 00:25:07.599 --> 00:25:09.119 What advice? 00:25:09.119 --> 00:25:10.640 Why should we stop? 00:25:10.880 --> 00:25:19.200 If you have something to say, if you have something to give, if you have something to teach, get off your butt and do it. 00:25:19.200 --> 00:25:21.599 It doesn't matter how old you are. 00:25:21.599 --> 00:25:25.359 I mean, it's just an age, it's just a number. 00:25:25.359 --> 00:25:33.359 If you are, if you if you exercise, you stay healthy, you you can if you can get out there and do things, oh my goodness, do them. 00:25:33.359 --> 00:25:36.480 I don't think I'm ever gonna stop. 00:25:36.480 --> 00:25:41.359 They're gonna have to put me in the grave and zip me my mouth shut because I'm not gonna stop talking. 00:25:42.720 --> 00:25:45.359 You and me both Yvonne Right, right. 00:25:45.359 --> 00:25:46.880 Thank you. 00:25:46.880 --> 00:25:48.160 Yvonne F. 00:25:48.160 --> 00:26:01.119 Conte is a nationally recognized keynote speaker and best-selling author who has spent more than 30 years bringing humor, heart, and insight to audiences across the country. 00:26:01.119 --> 00:26:06.559 She has spoken to organizations like Merck, Time Warner, and ATT. 00:26:06.559 --> 00:26:20.799 And her newest book, Beneath Her Smile, tells a deeply personal story about family, resilience, forgiveness, and how little we know about the pressure someone else is carrying. 00:26:20.799 --> 00:26:23.680 Here are a few takeaways from this episode. 00:26:23.680 --> 00:26:31.680 Humor can be more than entertainment, it can be a way to survive, connect, and make sense of the world. 00:26:31.680 --> 00:26:36.000 What we believe about someone may not be the whole truth. 00:26:36.000 --> 00:26:39.920 And retirement is not always the answer. 00:26:39.920 --> 00:26:44.079 Many need more challenge in their next chapter. 00:26:44.079 --> 00:26:49.440 If you've been relating to this episode, here's some things that you could do for yourself right now. 00:26:49.440 --> 00:26:51.759 Stop judging so quickly. 00:26:51.759 --> 00:26:56.000 You have no idea what someone else is going through. 00:26:56.000 --> 00:26:59.920 Allow yourself to see your own past a little differently. 00:26:59.920 --> 00:27:03.519 It may not be exactly what you believed. 00:27:03.519 --> 00:27:08.400 And question that old story that you've been carrying. 00:27:08.400 --> 00:27:12.240 Perhaps there's another way to understand why. 00:27:12.240 --> 00:27:16.640 For similar episodes, check out retirement after 50. 00:27:16.640 --> 00:27:18.480 Your best work is not done. 00:27:18.480 --> 00:27:20.640 That's episode 185. 00:27:20.640 --> 00:27:23.920 And who are you without the career? 00:27:23.920 --> 00:27:28.160 That's episode 181 of Aging with Purpose and Passion. 00:27:28.160 --> 00:27:44.319 And if you're looking for a podcast that goes beyond money and traditional retirement advice, Beyond Retirement with Jackie Duset explores how to build retirement that feels meaningful, intentional, and truly your own. 00:27:44.319 --> 00:27:48.559 That's beyondretirement.ca slash reset. 00:27:48.559 --> 00:27:51.200 And so, Yvonne, where can people find you? 00:27:51.200 --> 00:27:52.960 Please share your links. 00:27:53.839 --> 00:27:55.039 Just go to my webpage. 00:27:55.039 --> 00:28:01.599 It's Yvonne, Y-V-O-N-N-E-C-O-N-T-E county.com. 00:28:01.599 --> 00:28:02.799 Perfect. 00:28:02.799 --> 00:28:04.400 And this is the book. 00:28:04.400 --> 00:28:05.599 So hopefully. 00:28:05.599 --> 00:28:07.839 Yeah, perfectly. 00:28:07.839 --> 00:28:10.400 I think I'd say this though, if I could. 00:28:10.400 --> 00:28:15.680 Um, anybody that has a book club, you get a 10% discount when you buy in bulk. 00:28:15.680 --> 00:28:22.079 And I will either come to your house or do a zoom when everybody's read the book and we can have a nice chat about it. 00:28:22.079 --> 00:28:22.720 How about that? 00:28:23.039 --> 00:28:23.839 No charge. 00:28:23.839 --> 00:28:25.680 Very, very cool. 00:28:25.680 --> 00:28:29.519 And that link, by the way, that's in the show notes. 00:28:29.519 --> 00:28:31.119 And it's on my site too. 00:28:31.119 --> 00:28:33.920 That's reinventimpossible.com. 00:28:33.920 --> 00:28:36.720 And so, my friends, what's next for you? 00:28:36.720 --> 00:28:41.839 If you're wondering what's possible for yourself too, let's map that out together. 00:28:41.839 --> 00:28:47.200 You'll find the link in the show notes, and that's on reInventimpossible.com. 00:28:47.200 --> 00:28:57.839 And if this conversation spoke to you, please add us to your playlist, share it with a friend, and remember, you only have one life. 00:28:57.839 --> 00:29:01.440 So live it with purpose and passion. 00:29:07.200 --> 00:29:08.880 Thank you for joining us. 00:29:08.880 --> 00:29:14.160 You can connect with Bev on her website, reInventimpossible.com. 00:29:14.160 --> 00:29:16.960 And while you're there, join our newsletter. 00:29:16.960 --> 00:29:19.680 Subscribe so you don't miss an episode. 00:29:19.680 --> 00:29:24.000 Until next time, keep aging with purpose and passion. 00:29:24.000 --> 00:29:26.160 And celebrate life.