Volledige transcriptie van The Self-Improvement Trap: Why More Learning Isn’t the Answer With Corbin Bruckshaw

you're living it. 00:01:58.640 --> 00:02:00.079 You're living it every day. 00:02:00.079 --> 00:02:06.319 Sometimes we just don't realize it, or maybe it's not the why that you think you should be living, and that's a whole nother topic of conversation. 00:02:06.319 --> 00:02:08.240 So let's back up a little bit. 00:02:08.240 --> 00:02:19.599 Um, I was born born and raised in Kansas City, Missouri, and at the ripe age of about seven or eight, my mom got diagnosed with stage three breast cancer. 00:02:19.599 --> 00:02:25.199 And so had had a very big life event happen really early. 00:02:25.199 --> 00:02:27.919 And so I'm just a little boy, man, right? 00:02:27.919 --> 00:02:29.919 I'm just running around doing my thing. 00:02:29.919 --> 00:02:33.840 And, you know, my parents ended up separating around the same time. 00:02:33.840 --> 00:02:35.840 So that was a double whammy. 00:02:35.840 --> 00:02:43.919 Um, and all I remember was my mom had the most positive attitude ever, and we were gonna make it through it. 00:02:43.919 --> 00:02:47.199 Didn't know how we were gonna make it make it through it, but we knew we were. 00:02:47.199 --> 00:02:50.400 And there was one night that her and I were hanging out. 00:02:50.400 --> 00:02:57.039 She had just shaved her head because she was losing her hair due to the chemotherapy, and she's like, you know what? 00:02:57.039 --> 00:02:58.240 Screw it. 00:02:58.240 --> 00:03:03.199 You know, I'm not I'm not gonna be one of these people that's, you know, half baked. 00:03:03.199 --> 00:03:08.800 So she she was courageous enough to shave her head and we accepted it, and we decided to move through it as a family. 00:03:08.800 --> 00:03:12.000 And, you know, by the grace of God, she's still here and she's thriving. 00:03:12.000 --> 00:03:18.560 But the reason this is relevant is that night we sat down and we watched The Secret together. 00:03:18.560 --> 00:03:33.840 And that was my first ever exposure to this world of thoughts become things, of mindset, of creating destiny, not just accepting what you know, the cards you've been given, but playing the hand like it's the one that you wanted. 00:03:33.840 --> 00:03:38.719 And all I remembered from that, Jack, was thoughts become things. 00:03:38.719 --> 00:03:42.159 That was the only thing that I remembered as a seven-year-old boy. 00:03:42.560 --> 00:03:43.520 A seven, okay. 00:03:43.759 --> 00:03:44.960 So, yeah, so seven. 00:03:44.960 --> 00:03:47.919 So we moved down to Dallas, Texas. 00:03:47.919 --> 00:03:50.000 We've been here for a while now. 00:03:50.000 --> 00:03:54.400 And I man, I was never really like the popular kid. 00:03:54.400 --> 00:03:56.879 I was an outsider because I was from the Midwest. 00:03:56.879 --> 00:04:01.280 And down here in Texas, man, if you're not from Texas, we don't really want you, right? 00:04:01.280 --> 00:04:04.240 Now, obviously that's changed a little bit. 00:04:04.240 --> 00:04:08.319 Uh, Texas has has grown and and its outreach has grown as well. 00:04:08.319 --> 00:04:11.280 But back in the day, it's like, man, who's this guy? 00:04:11.280 --> 00:04:11.520 Right? 00:04:11.520 --> 00:04:14.719 It would be just like if you moved uh from out of state from anywhere else. 00:04:14.719 --> 00:04:17.199 Like, man, we we we know each other. 00:04:17.199 --> 00:04:24.000 We went to elementary school together, then middle school, then high school, and and I'm just an outsider trying to wiggle my way in. 00:04:24.000 --> 00:04:34.240 And ri so so it was the the first event was my mom having stage three breast cancer, and that opened up this sphere of conscious thinking to me. 00:04:34.240 --> 00:04:34.560 Okay. 00:04:34.560 --> 00:04:41.759 The second thing was I was not popular at all, and I had no friends. 00:04:41.759 --> 00:04:43.839 And I'm like, well, this sucks, right? 00:04:43.839 --> 00:04:46.000 So how do I get friends? 00:04:46.000 --> 00:04:51.199 Well, I I I saw an ad of a guy that was like, you know what? 00:04:51.199 --> 00:04:53.279 You should start to read books. 00:04:53.279 --> 00:04:55.759 And this was at like 14, 15, right? 00:04:55.759 --> 00:04:56.800 So still really young. 00:04:56.800 --> 00:04:57.839 And I'm like, you know what? 00:04:57.839 --> 00:05:00.319 I should start start to read books. 00:05:00.319 --> 00:05:01.120 Why not? 00:05:01.120 --> 00:05:07.279 So, very first book, one of the very first books that I ever picked up was How to Win Friends and Influence People. 00:05:07.279 --> 00:05:12.160 And man, the rest is absolutely history. 00:05:12.160 --> 00:05:26.560 Like, picked up how to win friends and influence people, that led to Tony Robbins books, that led to body language books, psychology books, finance books, health and wellness books, negotiation books, money books. 00:05:26.560 --> 00:05:31.920 And I'm and I'm about 300 books deep on this topic at this point. 00:05:31.920 --> 00:05:35.360 So that that is that's where it started. 00:05:35.360 --> 00:05:39.600 And then I go, okay, I can only get so much knowledge out of books. 00:05:39.600 --> 00:05:40.879 What's the next step here? 00:05:40.879 --> 00:05:43.439 Well, then I started getting into the seminar world. 00:05:43.439 --> 00:05:54.000 And one of the first seminars that I had ever attended was a seminar with Rod Harrison, who was one of Tony Robbins' right hand guys for like a decade. 00:05:54.000 --> 00:05:54.480 Right. 00:05:54.480 --> 00:05:59.439 So I walk into this thing bright-eyed and bushy-tailed, you know, I'm still a teenager. 00:05:59.439 --> 00:06:02.959 And he's like, Okay, like, hi, welcome, man. 00:06:02.959 --> 00:06:04.000 Like, how are you? 00:06:04.000 --> 00:06:06.720 So that was another moment. 00:06:06.720 --> 00:06:12.800 There's all of these are moments, maybe not necessarily in chronological order, but as I'm remembering them. 00:06:12.800 --> 00:06:18.319 And as he taught Jack, I was absolutely obsessed. 00:06:18.319 --> 00:06:19.839 I'm like,

this is so cool. 00:06:19.839 --> 00:06:22.639 I'm learning about the human personality archetypes. 00:06:22.639 --> 00:06:26.959 I'm learning about motivation factors, I'm learning about introversion and extroversion. 00:06:26.959 --> 00:06:30.079 I'm learning why some people win and some people think about winning. 00:06:30.079 --> 00:06:31.839 I'm learning all of this stuff. 00:06:31.839 --> 00:06:36.240 And then the the that was one of the formal education things that I did. 00:06:36.240 --> 00:06:42.160 And that turned into almost a year-long learning through that, through the institutions at that time. 00:06:42.160 --> 00:06:54.639 And the most defining moment that I had that told me that this is what I wanted to commit my life to was I watched Tony Robbins' I Am Not Your Guru on Netflix when it came out. 00:06:54.639 --> 00:06:58.399 And man, I was freaking obsessed. 00:06:58.399 --> 00:07:01.920 I'm like, I don't know what this is called. 00:07:01.920 --> 00:07:09.439 I don't know what this is that Tony's doing, but I have to figure it out because this is exactly what I want to do with my life. 00:07:09.439 --> 00:07:12.879 And that was at 16, 17 years old. 00:07:12.879 --> 00:07:18.000 So I've had this inspired vision for for a long time now. 00:07:18.000 --> 00:07:20.319 And I've I never gave up, right? 00:07:20.319 --> 00:07:22.160 Like people, how how do you do it, man? 00:07:22.160 --> 00:07:29.600 You just you find out what you absolutely love to do, what you're sent on this earth to do, and then you freaking go for it. 00:07:31.040 --> 00:07:34.639 I'm actually very jealous that you've picked that up at 15, 16. 00:07:34.639 --> 00:07:41.360 I was only about 30 when I started reading those books and understanding it and going, oh wow, this is different. 00:07:41.360 --> 00:07:43.040 That's that's amazing. 00:07:43.199 --> 00:07:51.360 So well, that is uh that's the that's the benefits of what I perceived to have be disadvantageous at the time, right? 00:07:51.360 --> 00:07:58.480 Nobody liked me, nobody wanted me around, I didn't get invited out to anything, I wasn't cool, I wasn't popular, leave us the hell alone. 00:07:58.480 --> 00:08:01.839 All right, well, I guess I better learn a little bit about people then, right? 00:08:01.839 --> 00:08:10.720 Because unless I want that to be the rest of my life experience, which I didn't, then it was advantageous to me to be the nerd that stayed home and studied what made people tick. 00:08:10.720 --> 00:08:23.439 And now, you know, that that's just gone absolutely amazing, and I'm so unbelievably grateful for all of the support and the friends and the family and the everything that I've had to get to this point because nobody does it alone. 00:08:23.439 --> 00:08:25.360 Nobody does this alone. 00:08:25.360 --> 00:08:25.759 Right. 00:08:25.759 --> 00:08:30.639 And I think that's that's one of my core factors is I've had a remarkable support group. 00:08:30.639 --> 00:08:34.960 Uh have the best family ever, and I've found the right mentors. 00:08:34.960 --> 00:08:37.919 You can't learn this stuff in school. 00:08:37.919 --> 00:08:38.799 You just can't. 00:08:38.799 --> 00:08:47.600 Like you, you don't, you can maybe learn a little bit of it, Jack, but this is this is a curated Corbin Brookshaw degree, right? 00:08:47.600 --> 00:08:55.679 I've I've got the degree that I chose to have based off of the pieces of the puzzle that I chose to put together for the specific skill sets that I wanted. 00:08:55.679 --> 00:08:58.639 So saw the Tony Robbins thing. 00:08:58.639 --> 00:09:01.360 I did the uh the Rod Harrison stuff for a while. 00:09:01.360 --> 00:09:06.399 I did go to uh Erickson Coaching International, and that's I I I think it's called ICF. 00:09:06.399 --> 00:09:12.320 It's been a while since I've done it, but that's a that's an accredited, basically life coaching school to learn a bunch of skills. 00:09:12.320 --> 00:09:26.720 Um I went and studied with one of the best hypnotists, you know, in North America and learned all about the subconscious mind and integrative hypnosis and NLP and submodalities and you know how to access the unconscious. 00:09:26.720 --> 00:09:35.440 And then my one of the main influencers in my world specifically that has moved the needle for me the most was Dr. 00:09:35.440 --> 00:09:38.480 John Di Martini and the Di Martini Institute. 00:09:38.480 --> 00:09:47.039 That absolutely expanded my own awareness and my skill sets and my ability to actually help clients break through like never before. 00:09:47.039 --> 00:09:54.720 And that's primarily the Di Martini method, is primarily what my coaching program perceptual design is based off of. 00:09:55.440 --> 00:10:00.399 Can you I've heard the name before, but I just cannot remember for the life of me what it's all about. 00:10:00.720 --> 00:10:01.360 Certainly. 00:10:01.360 --> 00:10:02.399 So Dr. 00:10:02.399 --> 00:10:08.559 John is a polymath, he's been the leading human behavioral specialist for 50 plus years. 00:10:08.559 --> 00:10:11.840 He was in the secret, he's been in all sorts of different movies. 00:10:11.840 --> 00:10:18.799 But the Di Martini method specifically focuses in on perceptions and how you can change your perception. 00:10:18.799 --> 00:10:23.679 You might not be able to change the past, but you can change the story you have of it, right? 00:10:23.679 --> 00:10:40.799 So, and and I learned a tremendous amount of value from them, and I owe them a tremendous gratitude for teaching me about the single most important factor in human behavior, which is values, and then learning how to dissolve subconscious baggage, which is running the show and holding us back. 00:10:40.799 --> 00:10:53.919 Because no matter how hard you try consciously, if the subconscious is out of alignment, you're going to run yourself in circles and you're going to do what we all like to do is called self-sabotage. 00:10:53.919 --> 00:10:59.120 But realistically,

self-sabotage isn't really what we think it is, right? 00:10:59.120 --> 00:11:03.200 Because you don't sabotage yourself when you do things that are intrinsically important to you. 00:11:03.200 --> 00:11:05.279 They actually seem to work out quite well. 00:11:05.279 --> 00:11:13.519 But whenever you're doing things that are not actually necessarily higher on your values, that's when we start to have quote unquote self-sabotage. 00:11:13.519 --> 00:11:20.559 But is it actually self-sabotage, or do we just not really actually care about the thing that we're supposed to or ought to or need to care about? 00:11:20.559 --> 00:11:26.799 So we figure out ways to procrastinate, hesitate, and frustrate it to where it just, you know, doesn't work, right? 00:11:26.799 --> 00:11:29.200 So I I have a bit of an unorthodox perspective. 00:11:30.399 --> 00:11:32.080 Let let's double click on that. 00:11:32.080 --> 00:11:40.080 I about 10 episodes ago, I re- recorded the 300th episode and it was lessons learnt from over three hundred episodes interviewing people like you. 00:11:40.080 --> 00:11:42.320 And one of the lessons was exactly that. 00:11:42.320 --> 00:11:54.080 If you don't feel like you have the energy or you're putting in half effort into something, it's a good indication that you don't actually want to achieve or it's not for you what you're trying to do. 00:11:54.080 --> 00:12:03.679 But uh the big thing is trying to get people aware of that because a lot of people are just doing these things thinking that they have to because of external forces or external pressures. 00:12:03.679 --> 00:12:12.559 So how do we get people a bit more aware of what they should actually be doing and what they want to do, not what everybody outside them thinks they should be doing? 00:12:12.960 --> 00:12:13.440 Yes. 00:12:13.440 --> 00:12:15.519 Wonderful question. 00:12:15.519 --> 00:12:22.000 So every human being lives and operates by a unique set of values. 00:12:22.000 --> 00:12:25.919 What's most to least important to them at any given moment at any given time? 00:12:25.919 --> 00:12:28.399 And these are not all equal to each other. 00:12:28.399 --> 00:12:36.399 It's called a hierarchy of values because it lives in the subconscious and you have a highest value, and then you do have lower values. 00:12:36.399 --> 00:12:38.159 They just keep going, going, going, going, right? 00:12:38.159 --> 00:12:45.200 So there's no such thing, Jack, is a lowest value, but there is such a thing as a highest value, and we it's called the telos, right? 00:12:45.200 --> 00:12:47.039 The purpose of life, the meaning in life. 00:12:47.039 --> 00:12:56.000 So when you look at this value structure, you're you are demonstrating with your life what is most important to you. 00:12:56.000 --> 00:13:01.440 Nobody has, I guarantee you, Jack, nobody has to remind you to do your podcast, right? 00:13:01.440 --> 00:13:05.519 Nobody has to remind you to do what's most intrinsically important to you. 00:13:05.519 --> 00:13:09.039 And no one has to remind a child to play their video games. 00:13:09.039 --> 00:13:13.440 No one has to remind a child to go outside and and and hang out with their buddies, right? 00:13:13.440 --> 00:13:18.799 So we all intrinsically move on things that are highest on our values. 00:13:18.799 --> 00:13:25.279 So when someone comes to me and man, they've just been struggling and they don't, and they just don't know why they can't stay motivated. 00:13:25.279 --> 00:13:28.000 And I'm talking about the psychological aspect of it right now. 00:13:28.000 --> 00:13:31.519 We can dip into a little bit of the neurological aspect too. 00:13:31.519 --> 00:13:59.039 But most people, and me included, and I'm sure you at some time, we we all oscillate between outer authorities injected values into our life that we should live by, ought to live by, need to live by, all those things versus the values that are intrinsically meaningful to me, to you, and to the listeners that we automatically, autonomously, independently move on without the need of any external motivation. 00:13:59.039 --> 00:14:08.000 External motivation is a symptom that you are living in accordance to lower values because you do not need motivation when you're living in accordance to your highest values. 00:14:08.000 --> 00:14:20.080 You're already disciplined, reliable, and focused in your highest values, and you automatically, unconsciously operate out of frustration, procrastination, and hesitation in your lowest values. 00:14:20.080 --> 00:14:22.399 So it's it's a human design. 00:14:22.399 --> 00:14:31.279 Hesitation, procrastination, and frustration is designed to wake you up and make you realize you're moving in a way that's not actually important to you. 00:14:31.279 --> 00:14:36.000 So when people come to me and they're like, man, I'm just so I just procrastinate. 00:14:36.000 --> 00:14:38.960 That that's not a that's not a flaw, Jack. 00:14:38.960 --> 00:14:40.559 It's designed that way. 00:14:40.559 --> 00:14:45.840 So what specifically are you doing and what and you and and how are you perceiving it? 00:14:45.840 --> 00:14:49.120 And when you and now here's the thing, these can be changed, right? 00:14:49.120 --> 00:14:56.240 So you can change something and link it to your higher values to make the probability of you intrinsically doing it go up. 00:14:56.240 --> 00:14:58.480 But that that's a further conversation. 00:14:58.480 --> 00:15:05.840 So higher values, this is where your identity, your knowledge, and your purpose live around. 00:15:05.840 --> 00:15:15.519 And the fastest way to fill the most amount of voids is to increase the high, go to the highest value and live in accordance with that highest value. 00:15:15.519 --> 00:15:20.080 And this is also the way to feel the most fulfillment and purpose out of life. 00:15:20.080 --> 00:15:25.840 Because when you are living in accordance to your highest values, your space and time horizons

expand. 00:15:25.840 --> 00:15:30.399 You're not worried about today, right now, we gotta have make it happen right now. 00:15:30.399 --> 00:15:38.799 You allow yourself to actually see and give yourself the time to accomplish what you actually want to accomplish. 00:15:38.799 --> 00:15:50.080 When you live in accordance to your highest values, the blood, glucose, and oxygen go up into the forebrain, the medial prefrontal cortex, and this is called the executive center in neurology. 00:15:50.080 --> 00:16:00.799 This is where planning happens, this is where strategic thought happens, this is where you can kind of see the future a little bit and visualize out before you start making those decisions. 00:16:00.799 --> 00:16:08.720 When you live in accordance with lower values, the blood glucose and oxygen goes into the subcortical region of the brain called the amygdala. 00:16:08.720 --> 00:16:11.039 This is the fear center of the brain. 00:16:11.039 --> 00:16:14.159 This is the immediate gratification center of the brain. 00:16:14.159 --> 00:16:27.759 This is the side of the brain that assigns valency and only wants one side of a two-sided world, only wants good, not bad, only wants pleasure, not pain, only wants happiness, not sadness, only wants this, not that. 00:16:27.759 --> 00:16:34.159 And that's when you have polarized perceptions, and that's when you start to have a one, a one-sided world. 00:16:34.159 --> 00:16:37.840 And the problem with that is nothing is ever one-sided. 00:16:37.840 --> 00:16:45.279 There's always advantages and disadvantages, and there's always disadvantages and advantages to everything and everyone, no matter what. 00:16:45.279 --> 00:16:54.399 So when you move up into that higher level of thinking, that that medial prefrontal cortex, you allow yourself to start to see both sides of an event. 00:16:54.399 --> 00:16:59.600 So, from a values perspective, we're healthier autonomically. 00:16:59.600 --> 00:17:05.359 Our our nervous system is more in balance whenever we're living in accordance to our highest values. 00:17:05.359 --> 00:17:14.559 We give ourselves permission to actually go achieve what we want to set out to achieve within a reasonable time frame and we don't beat ourselves up when it doesn't go right. 00:17:14.559 --> 00:17:18.480 We we go, okay, we know that there's support and challenge equally. 00:17:18.480 --> 00:17:23.279 And by the way, sorry if I'm rambling, that's how you know you've got a real goal. 00:17:23.279 --> 00:17:39.440 When you we uh when you got a real goal, you have a real time frame for it that you can write down and you can actually see yourself committing to that and doing, and you're willing to embrace support and challenge equally to the same degree. 00:17:39.440 --> 00:17:44.319 You're willing to embrace the hero and the villain equally to the same degree. 00:17:44.319 --> 00:17:50.480 And you know that you're you're not blind and you're not trying to go into it going, okay, I know nothing bad's gonna happen. 00:17:50.480 --> 00:17:52.240 I know no challenges are gonna come up. 00:17:52.240 --> 00:17:55.599 I know that I, you know, I think I can, I think I can, I think I can. 00:17:55.599 --> 00:17:58.960 No, you go, I know that I'm going somewhere I've never been. 00:17:58.960 --> 00:18:05.200 I know that there's going to be boundaries and that there's going to be things that I have to do, think, be, and do to have that. 00:18:05.200 --> 00:18:12.240 And I'm going to sit down and preemptively strategize out those things because it's only a challenge if you haven't prepared for it. 00:18:12.240 --> 00:18:12.640 Right. 00:18:12.640 --> 00:18:18.880 It's all it's only, it's only a block, it's only a wall if you didn't expect it to come. 00:18:18.880 --> 00:18:37.200 If you expected it to be there and you strategized around it to the best of your ability, now you have the support, you actively mitigated the risks, you have a timeline, there's different neuromechanisms in the brain that are going to help you move forward, and you're probably going to increase the likeness of actually achieving what you set out to achieve. 00:18:39.599 --> 00:18:41.519 There's a lot in there we need to unpack. 00:18:41.519 --> 00:18:50.960 If you care about your health, wellness, and you want to live a long, healthy, happy life, then you're eventually gonna come across red light therapy. 00:18:50.960 --> 00:18:55.519 It is a massive trend at the moment, and there is a lot of information out there. 00:18:55.519 --> 00:19:05.599 And before you go taking some YouTuber, podcaster, or influencer's advice on whether it actually works or if it's gonna benefit you, there are three things you need to know. 00:19:05.599 --> 00:19:09.039 First, you need to do your own research. 00:19:09.039 --> 00:19:27.359 But before you start Googling red light therapy and whatever you're trying to use it for, whether it's recovery, pain reduction, beauty, or fat loss, make sure you use the word photobiomodulation because that's what's actually happening when you're using the red light therapy on your skin or close to. 00:19:27.359 --> 00:19:32.480 Second is all about the specs of the device that you are looking at. 00:19:32.480 --> 00:19:37.839 Make sure the wavelength of the red light therapy device matches what you are using it for. 00:19:37.839 --> 00:19:43.519 As you've just seen in your research, the wavelengths affect your body in different ways. 00:19:43.519 --> 00:19:48.640 So if you're using it for beauty, it's gonna be a different wavelength for muscle recovery or fat loss. 00:19:48.640 --> 00:19:54.240 Also, while we're on specs, double check the distance that the red light therapy device goes from your body. 00:19:54.240 --> 00:19:59.279 Some devices have a set distance from the body part that it needs to sit at. 00:19:59.279 --> 00:20:05.680 And if it's too far away, you're just basically holding a red light near your body and you're not gonna get any

of the benefits. 00:20:05.680 --> 00:20:14.960 But as you've seen in the research you've just done, most of the researchers use a device that will actually sit on the skin because you can't stuff that up. 00:20:14.960 --> 00:20:23.839 And third, like anything to do with your overall health, wellness, and longevity, consistency is the key to you getting results. 00:20:23.839 --> 00:20:31.119 So make sure that you have consistent exposure to your red light therapy device so it maximizes your results. 00:20:31.119 --> 00:20:35.039 And that is why I'm such a big fan of the Lumiflex products. 00:20:35.039 --> 00:20:36.480 They tick all the boxes. 00:20:36.480 --> 00:20:41.839 It is very easy to be consistent with your red light therapy when you have one of these products. 00:20:41.839 --> 00:20:54.640 Unlike other devices that still work, but when you when it's a big panel and you have to spend 20 minutes in the morning, 20 minutes in the evening sitting in front of them, it's there's a lot of resistance there and it takes up a lot of time. 00:20:54.640 --> 00:20:59.200 These little silicon panels go with me everywhere. 00:20:59.200 --> 00:21:02.400 They go on me everywhere, and there's no excuse not to do it. 00:21:02.400 --> 00:21:07.359 When I'm sitting here working, I can be getting red light therapy device when I'm in the gym with clients. 00:21:07.359 --> 00:21:08.720 I've got it on me somewhere. 00:21:08.720 --> 00:21:12.240 So I'm always getting some sort of red light therapy throughout the day. 00:21:12.240 --> 00:21:19.279 And I know the specs on these Lumiflex products are what they say they are because they are FDA cleared. 00:21:19.279 --> 00:21:24.960 And you don't need to go out and buy a bunch of different red light therapy devices that have different wavelengths. 00:21:24.960 --> 00:21:32.960 All the Lumiflex products have a wide range of wavelengths that you can control with your phone. 00:21:32.960 --> 00:21:41.599 So no matter what I'm trying to do, I can use my phone to set the wavelength, set the duration, and make sure that I'm getting the most out of this device. 00:21:41.599 --> 00:21:50.319 So after you have done all your research on red light therapy and the devices, I'd strongly recommend you check out the Lumaflex products. 00:21:50.319 --> 00:21:56.640 And when you're ready to purchase, use the code TrueForm at checkout and you'll get 10% off. 00:21:56.640 --> 00:21:59.839 Again, that is true form at checkout to get 10% off. 00:21:59.839 --> 00:22:02.319 Oh, there's a lot in there we need to unpack. 00:22:02.319 --> 00:22:06.160 I was I was smiling and nodding, agreeing as you went along. 00:22:06.160 --> 00:22:12.160 At the start of this year, I ha I had a lot of health issues going on, and my blood pressure was just through the roof. 00:22:12.160 --> 00:22:16.160 And like going to the doctor, getting all these different tests done, and I could not figure out why. 00:22:16.160 --> 00:22:24.480 But at the start of the year, I just what you were saying just resonated with me so much because it was I I had all these things in my head. 00:22:24.480 --> 00:22:37.519 I was trying to achieve all these things, do all these things, and I had so much pre external pressure on trying to achieve these things, like numbers on the podcast, like business, personal training, everything was just building up, building up, building up. 00:22:37.519 --> 00:22:42.319 There's all these external pressures, and that was sort of, I think, was was raising the blood pressure. 00:22:42.319 --> 00:22:52.400 And when I stopped, reset, and like you said, just didn't force anything and just went through and just started doing the things I wanted to do. 00:22:52.400 --> 00:23:00.880 My blood pressure dropped, everything got better, I dropped body fat, I was looking better, feeling better, my body felt the best it's ever felt and I was almost forty. 00:23:00.880 --> 00:23:07.680 So it was amazing how just a mind shift can change the body as well, not just the body changing the external. 00:23:07.680 --> 00:23:08.000 Yes. 00:23:08.000 --> 00:23:12.880 And sort of that's I want to sort of break that down for a lot of people as well. 00:23:12.880 --> 00:23:14.400 Like everything you just said. 00:23:14.400 --> 00:23:20.480 A lot of people listening are probably just starting out their health, wellness, mindset, identity journey. 00:23:20.480 --> 00:23:28.799 So let's just say they want to start working on themselves, they're motivated to get started, they want to start exercising, working on their mindset. 00:23:28.799 --> 00:23:35.359 What should they be thinking about when they're stepping into that new identity identity that they want to start achieving? 00:23:36.720 --> 00:23:42.640 The most powerful force in human nature is to stay consistent with the identity we hold of ourselves. 00:23:44.480 --> 00:23:45.920 Let me break that down a little bit. 00:23:46.160 --> 00:23:48.720 Because this feeds directly into values. 00:23:48.720 --> 00:23:51.519 And we see this often around the New Year's, right? 00:23:51.519 --> 00:24:01.440 People have their exciting new goals that they want to do, they have a temporary value system in place, they're excited for 30, 60, 90 days, and then it falls off because it was never truly meaningful to them. 00:24:01.440 --> 00:24:02.799 It's what sounded good. 00:24:02.799 --> 00:24:12.960 Now, when it comes to values and kind of what you said about like, man, I was doing the things that kind of stressed me out, my blood pressure was high, all of those different things. 00:24:12.960 --> 00:24:15.440 Again, we're designed that way, right? 00:24:15.440 --> 00:24:22.880 We're designed to have autonomic dysregulation when we're living outside of our own truest, highest values, right? 00:24:22.880 --> 00:24:26.880 So there's only two stressors in human nature, Jack. 00:24:26.880 --> 00:24:27.599 Only two. 00:24:27.599 --> 00:24:30.559 And there's a lot of things that

fall under this, but there's only two. 00:24:30.559 --> 00:24:38.799 The perception of loss of that which you wish to gain, or the perception of gain of that which you wish to avoid. 00:24:38.799 --> 00:24:41.759 Can you just repeat that? 00:24:41.759 --> 00:24:49.920 The perception of loss of that which you seek, or the perception of gain of that which you wish to avoid. 00:24:53.359 --> 00:24:54.640 Let's get into that. 00:24:54.960 --> 00:25:02.960 So the perception uh the perception of loss, and by the way, right, the uh most people live in the illusion of loss and gain. 00:25:02.960 --> 00:25:12.240 The master lives in the reality of transformation, where there's never anything lost or gained, it's just transforming and changing form, and that's that's a universal law. 00:25:12.240 --> 00:25:16.720 It's what one of the laws is called uh one the one to the many, right? 00:25:16.880 --> 00:25:20.799 So um ask me your question again. 00:25:22.319 --> 00:25:28.079 Just somebody, I guess, realizing that let's go back to that new Z New Year's Eve example. 00:25:28.079 --> 00:25:43.440 Somebody's excited to get started, they've they've got some motivation, they want to start building these new habits, transform, like start understanding their values, become something else, or achieve a body weight or what business, whatever it is. 00:25:43.440 --> 00:25:45.599 But what should they be thinking about along the way? 00:25:45.599 --> 00:25:57.519 So you said value, so maybe we could tie in how to how can that person understand what's actually value to them and keep it going rather than getting two weeks in and going, oh, that didn't work. 00:25:58.240 --> 00:26:00.799 So and and and and we can unpack that a lot. 00:26:00.799 --> 00:26:05.200 I'll I'll answer your question, then I've got a little bit of a of an example to give too. 00:26:05.200 --> 00:26:20.480 So human beings will always do what we believe will give us the most advantage over disadvantage at any given point in time in accordance to our highest values. 00:26:20.480 --> 00:26:30.480 With that being said, the advantage to disadvantage metric can be completely unconscious, and most of the time is. 00:26:30.480 --> 00:26:48.640 So if you are if your values are set, right, and the first step in this to answer your question is to bring the subconscious values to the conscious awareness and go, okay, and so there's a series of questions that I take my clients through in my consultations. 00:26:48.640 --> 00:26:51.680 I'll share a couple of them with you right now for sake of time. 00:26:51.680 --> 00:26:56.880 Um, but one of them, it's space, time, energy, and money are the first four. 00:26:56.880 --> 00:27:03.279 So in the study of proximics, we fill our space, Jack, with what's most important to us, right? 00:27:03.279 --> 00:27:09.200 So uh we we keep things that are important to us six inches to a foot away from us at all times. 00:27:09.200 --> 00:27:09.599 Right. 00:27:09.599 --> 00:27:14.559 Now, the caveat to this is if you tell me, well, you know, I have a lamp on my desk and I never interact with it, okay. 00:27:14.559 --> 00:27:17.519 Well, that duh, that's not, that's just an inanimate object, right? 00:27:17.519 --> 00:27:24.160 It's not, it's not meaningful to you unless you interact with it, then maybe it might mean something to you, but that's that's not what we're talking about here. 00:27:24.160 --> 00:27:30.480 I'm talking about your phone, your keys, your wallet, your laptop, and what do they represent to you? 00:27:30.480 --> 00:27:33.519 What do you do with them most of the time, right? 00:27:33.519 --> 00:27:37.200 How do you, what do you use your vehicle for most of the time? 00:27:37.200 --> 00:27:39.359 Who do you text most of the time? 00:27:39.359 --> 00:27:42.880 If I looked at your emails, who are you emailing most of the time? 00:27:42.880 --> 00:27:44.960 Because that's showing me what's valuable to you. 00:27:44.960 --> 00:27:46.240 So that's space, right? 00:27:46.240 --> 00:27:47.519 The study of proximics. 00:27:47.519 --> 00:27:53.920 We like to keep people that are meaningful to us close and we like people that we don't like at all as far away as possible, right? 00:27:53.920 --> 00:27:57.279 So you can stay away from me if you don't support my values. 00:27:57.279 --> 00:27:59.359 Um, secondly, is time. 00:27:59.359 --> 00:28:09.920 We intrinsically make time for what is important to us, and we intentionally don't make time for things that are not. 00:28:09.920 --> 00:28:13.759 And this is one thing that I that I really want to drive home for people. 00:28:13.759 --> 00:28:20.799 If you're making time for it intrinsically, that's a really big indicator that it's actually important to you. 00:28:20.799 --> 00:28:25.200 If no one's having to tell you to do it, you just automatically make time to do that, right? 00:28:25.200 --> 00:28:33.359 So you invest your time and you spend your time where it's most important to you and you take time away from things that are not. 00:28:33.359 --> 00:28:37.359 And now here's the thing: people go, well, Corbin, it should be important to me. 00:28:37.359 --> 00:28:40.160 It's supposed to be important to me, it needs to be important to me. 00:28:40.400 --> 00:28:41.680 According to who? 00:28:41.680 --> 00:28:45.759 According to who. 00:28:45.759 --> 00:28:48.000 Right? 00:28:48.160 --> 00:28:53.359 And now we can all universally agree that health and well-being is is a super important thing. 00:28:53.359 --> 00:29:00.640 However, if you're not intrinsically inspired to do it, let's look under the hood and see what advantages you're getting out of that, Jack. 00:29:00.640 --> 00:29:07.599 Because nobody will ever be able to convince me that there's not advantages to to something that you say you need to be doing, but you're not. 00:29:07.599 --> 00:29:08.000 Right. 00:29:08.000 --> 00:29:18.240 And if you're if you're not doing it, that's because there's

more advantages right now, somewhere in your subconscious mind, to not do it than there is to do it. 00:29:18.240 --> 00:29:23.440 And the moment that you begin to perceive more advantages to doing it, you'll do it. 00:29:23.440 --> 00:29:28.559 Like this is this is a very, it's it's simple, but it's not easy, right? 00:29:28.559 --> 00:29:42.559 It's a simple concept to grasp our heads around, but this is where someone has to be willing to do the work and go, okay, we have to be willing to get extremely honest with ourselves and go, man, it's not important to me, but I need it to be important to me. 00:29:42.559 --> 00:29:43.839 Okay, I can work with that. 00:29:43.839 --> 00:29:48.319 So let's look at your current values hierarchy and see how that's being fulfilled, right? 00:29:48.319 --> 00:29:52.160 Because everybody's got one and you're intrinsically doing things to fulfill it. 00:29:52.160 --> 00:29:54.799 So space-time, that leads us into energy. 00:29:54.799 --> 00:30:03.440 When you're doing something that's most fulfilling to you, your energy levels go up and you have more energy after doing it than before doing it. 00:30:03.440 --> 00:30:18.480 And if you have less energy after doing it, or you feel like your energy is being sucked out of you, it's simply not important to you and it's not higher on your values because energy, you have basically unlimited sources of energy for things that are important to you, right? 00:30:18.480 --> 00:30:23.680 I can sit here and study human behavior, Jack, uninterrupted for hours. 00:30:23.680 --> 00:30:24.720 I love it. 00:30:24.720 --> 00:30:25.759 I love it. 00:30:25.759 --> 00:30:28.640 And so, where's your energy going? 00:30:28.640 --> 00:30:33.200 And what gives you more energy after you're done doing it than what you had before? 00:30:33.200 --> 00:30:35.440 And then fourth is money. 00:30:35.440 --> 00:30:37.599 Where do you spend your money at? 00:30:37.599 --> 00:30:44.720 We spend our money and invest our money in direct proportion to our hierarchy of values. 00:30:44.720 --> 00:30:46.960 So this is a really interesting one, right? 00:30:46.960 --> 00:30:50.640 Because most people say they want to be financially free. 00:30:50.640 --> 00:30:54.160 And at a conscious level, maybe they do. 00:30:54.160 --> 00:30:56.960 But what does financial freedom actually mean to them? 00:30:56.960 --> 00:31:01.680 Does it mean cars and boats and houses and travel and luxury items? 00:31:01.680 --> 00:31:04.240 Or does it mean I want to learn to invest? 00:31:04.240 --> 00:31:12.960 I want to learn to preserve my wealth, I want to learn how to make more money so I can steward it into the right places to grow my income, grow my net worth. 00:31:12.960 --> 00:31:19.200 If you ask a room of hundreds of people, almost every hand will go up that they want to be financially free. 00:31:19.200 --> 00:31:26.160 However, how many people in that room are actually financially free, at least in America, not that many, right? 00:31:26.160 --> 00:31:41.839 So when we look at that hierarchy of values, you're spending your money in accordance to what you actually value, and whether that's consumable depreciating assets or whether that's actual investments that are gonna grow over time into something of value. 00:31:41.839 --> 00:31:53.119 But you can look at someone's values hierarchy and tell with pretty high degree of certainty whether this individual is ever actually gonna achieve financial freedom or not. 00:31:53.119 --> 00:31:56.799 Because if it's not on their values, they might start investing, Jack. 00:31:56.799 --> 00:32:03.119 They might start allocating funds, they might start doing that, but it's not gonna last because it's not inherently valuable to them. 00:32:03.119 --> 00:32:07.839 So to the fitness question, back to the fitness question. 00:32:07.839 --> 00:32:16.960 Linking our fitness goals to our highest values is a phenomenal way to increase the probability that we're actually gonna stick it through. 00:32:16.960 --> 00:32:20.960 And now I want to open up another can of worms here with you, real quick. 00:32:20.960 --> 00:32:28.319 I know that we've only got so much time, but there's also three ways out that this is outside of the values conversation. 00:32:28.319 --> 00:32:34.000 There's also three ways that human beings change and how identity changes. 00:32:34.000 --> 00:32:40.720 Those three ways are conditioning, significant emotional events, and environment. 00:32:40.720 --> 00:32:46.240 So the values can be shifted that way too, right? 00:32:46.240 --> 00:32:53.599 We can condition through questions new neural pathways to increase and decrease values for individuals. 00:32:53.599 --> 00:32:56.799 That can be conditioned, and that's part of what we do at Let's Get Human. 00:32:56.799 --> 00:33:04.880 The other part of this is when you have had a significant emotional event, that can shift your priorities, right? 00:33:04.880 --> 00:33:05.759 We all know that. 00:33:05.759 --> 00:33:13.759 If you've had something positive like a child come into your life, that's a phenomenal thing that immediately shifts most people's priorities. 00:33:13.759 --> 00:33:19.839 If you've had something bad like a car crash, that can be something that shifts your priorities and your values. 00:33:19.839 --> 00:33:21.359 If you've had a health scare. 00:33:21.359 --> 00:33:28.400 So those are three common things throughout life that can shift identity, shift values, and make your priorities different. 00:33:28.400 --> 00:33:44.960 But if you want to do this consciously, that's where the work comes into going, okay, we know what our values hierarchy is, we know what our value structure is, and now we're gonna go to work to do the to to consciously shift these around to make sure that we're actually achieving our goals, our dreams, and our aspirations. 00:33:47.519 --> 00:33:54.240 Like I said before, I've recorded just over 300 episodes now, and no one's

really put it like that, finding your values. 00:33:54.240 --> 00:33:56.880 And I appreciate how you just explained that. 00:33:56.880 --> 00:33:58.640 And I think people are just gonna skip over that. 00:33:58.640 --> 00:34:10.079 So I'm gonna timestamp that for everybody listening and watching to go back and listen to that again because what you just did, you just took your environment like you said, your space, time, money energy. 00:34:10.079 --> 00:34:14.000 Energy, but you stopped and looked at it to find your values. 00:34:14.000 --> 00:34:29.119 Where most people, like you said, will just sit down and go, Oh, I want to be financially free, I want this, this, and this, and they just again they're just thinking about things that they want, not actually taking the time to s to stop, look around their actual life and figure out what their values are now. 00:34:29.119 --> 00:34:35.760 So that that's uh that's a great I I'm gonna do that for myself and I'm gonna start getting it my clients to do it. 00:34:35.760 --> 00:34:45.519 Because as you were talking, I was coming up with a couple of scenarios where like what you're saying and what people do just don't add up. 00:34:45.519 --> 00:34:45.840 Yes. 00:34:45.840 --> 00:35:04.559 And people know that I'm a personal trainer, and when I'm walking past a massage chair, they'll start justifying why they're in the massage chair instead of the gym to me. 00:35:04.559 --> 00:35:07.920 And like they're not my clients, but they just start doing it. 00:35:07.920 --> 00:35:16.719 And I know that that's them trying to justify why they're sitting down, getting a massage rather than exercising to themselves, and I try to explain that to them. 00:35:16.719 --> 00:35:25.440 So like not all the time people will like people like to tell themselves stories that this is better for me than the actual thing that is better for them. 00:35:25.440 --> 00:35:34.800 And I think what you just explained is a good way of trying to catch that because it's way more beneficial going into the gym and exercising than sitting in a massage chair for 60 minutes. 00:35:34.800 --> 00:35:35.679 We all know that. 00:35:35.679 --> 00:35:43.599 But again, it's the story we tell ourselves that the massage chair is health and fitness, so I'm gonna sit there for 60 minutes and do that. 00:35:45.360 --> 00:35:53.360 And at that moment, in that exact moment of time, there's more advantage than disadvantage to sitting in the massage chair than there is to go get a workout in. 00:35:53.360 --> 00:35:55.360 And and their perception, right? 00:35:55.360 --> 00:36:01.519 All of this is perception, and that and that's what I want to lead to into the next kind of segment of our conversation. 00:36:01.519 --> 00:36:09.039 So your your hierarchy of values determines how you perceive, how you decide, and how you act within the world. 00:36:09.039 --> 00:36:20.559 So, what that means, if a single mom or just a mom goes into a shopping mall, she's going

to perceive that mall through the lens of being a mother. 00:36:20.559 --> 00:36:32.639 She's gonna see backpacks, she's gonna see children's books, she's gonna see toys, she's gonna see all sorts of things that help her fulfill her highest value of being a mom and the kiddos, right? 00:36:32.639 --> 00:36:40.880 If a businessman walks into the exact same mall, they're not going to even remotely perceive the same things. 00:36:40.880 --> 00:36:43.519 They're going to perceive laptops, right? 00:36:43.519 --> 00:36:50.000 They're gonna perceive business books, they're gonna perceive whatever's there that's going to help them fulfill their mission. 00:36:50.000 --> 00:37:01.679 And this is where the conscious and the subconscious split, Jack, because we're all we all have the same five senses, and we're all bringing in the same information all the time. 00:37:01.679 --> 00:37:07.440 But what determines what goes subconscious versus conscious is your values hierarchy. 00:37:07.440 --> 00:37:11.920 So you actually have an area in the brain called the pulvanar nuclei in the thalamus. 00:37:11.920 --> 00:37:18.239 It's a filtering mechanism in the brain that determines what comes to conscious awareness and stays subconscious. 00:37:18.239 --> 00:37:23.360 So when you're walking in, this is not only psychological, this is very neurological as well. 00:37:23.360 --> 00:37:30.000 So I walk in, I perceive the things that are going to help me fulfill what I'm valuing at that time, and I walk out, right? 00:37:30.000 --> 00:37:36.719 And all of the other other other information, it's still there, but it's not consciously accessible right now. 00:37:39.360 --> 00:37:48.480 And I think the issue that a lot of people get frustrated is because they're seeing it through their perception and they just assume everybody else is seeing it through their perception. 00:37:48.480 --> 00:37:51.760 Like you said, we're all different, we have all influenced in different ways. 00:37:51.840 --> 00:37:54.320 So we see the world as we are, not as it is, right? 00:37:54.320 --> 00:37:57.119 That's that's the difference between reality and actuality. 00:37:57.119 --> 00:38:15.440 Reality is the is the subconsciously biased perception that I have from my own stories, my own experiences, my own beliefs, and my my own upbringing that I have, you know, basically put a filter on reality versus actuality is just simply what's really there, right? 00:38:15.440 --> 00:38:22.880 And that that filters into the Di Martini method that I've been formerly trained in and is just absolutely phenomenal and life-changing. 00:38:22.880 --> 00:38:30.880 So I'm not asking people when they come to me to make something, to make something positive that wasn't positive. 00:38:30.880 --> 00:38:41.119 I'm simply asking them to take accountability and look at the other side of the event because everything is only an event until we assign meaning to it. 00:38:41.119 --> 00:38:43.440 And that's what the amygdala does. 00:38:43.440 --> 00:38:51.119 Information comes in, something happens, past and past previous experiences influence how we think and feel about today. 00:38:51.119 --> 00:38:54.559 We label things and we make associations in the brain. 00:38:54.559 --> 00:39:05.440 We you know, tuck them away as good, bad, right or wrong, you know, negative or positive, and then we move in accordance to the subconscious associations, not necessarily the conscious awareness. 00:39:05.440 --> 00:39:21.199 So that's what the Di Martini method allows in my in my program that I take people through is sitting down and going, okay, what specific trait, action or inaction am I displaying or demonstrating that I like or despise the most? 00:39:21.199 --> 00:39:22.880 That's where we start, right? 00:39:22.880 --> 00:39:25.199 So I'm not interested in the story, Jack. 00:39:25.199 --> 00:39:28.960 There's a lot of people that are interested in the narratives and the beliefs and the story. 00:39:28.960 --> 00:39:51.360 I'm interested in actually helping people break free from their subconscious baggage so they can live in alignment with their life, align their values with what's actually meaningful to them, get rid of the subconscious crap that they're carrying around for however many years, months, days, and explode out of it so that they can see the benefits to what they thought was disadvantageous and go for it. 00:39:51.360 --> 00:39:55.440 Give them pers give themselves permission to live life to the fullest. 00:39:56.800 --> 00:39:57.840 Again, love that. 00:39:57.840 --> 00:40:07.199 A lot of people spend a lot of time thinking about the past and thinking about the future, like where they've been and where they want to go, but they don't take the time to sit and where they are now and what they're actually doing now. 00:40:07.199 --> 00:40:09.119 So again, super powerful. 00:40:09.119 --> 00:40:11.199 And I think that'll go into my next question. 00:40:11.199 --> 00:40:16.719 At the start, you talked about you learnt how some people win and some people think about winning. 00:40:16.960 --> 00:40:17.360 Yes. 00:40:17.599 --> 00:40:19.519 Can you dive into that a little bit more? 00:40:20.159 --> 00:40:27.280 And that's been one of the things that has driven me for the past 10 years to become phenomenal in this field. 00:40:27.280 --> 00:40:32.639 Is why do some of us walk our talk and some of us limp through life? 00:40:32.639 --> 00:40:40.159 And that comes down directly to living in accordance with what you value the most, right? 00:40:40.159 --> 00:40:53.840 So we we have we have terms like, you know, and and I'm not a clinician, I'm not a doctor, I'm not a therapist, I'm just a guy that knows a little something about something, but we have terms like ADHD and attention deficit disorder and all of these things. 00:40:53.840 --> 00:40:59.119 Well, what about attention or what about retention order, right? 00:40:59.119 --> 00:41:08.239 What about going

in and having the ability to retain something to a degree that you're so freaking good at it and you know it like the back of your hand? 00:41:08.239 --> 00:41:18.960 Well, that's what happens when you're fulfilling your highest values is you your retention goes up, your inspiration goes up, your your willingness to learn it goes up because it's actually meaningful to you. 00:41:18.960 --> 00:41:25.440 So how do we actually make progress or at least increase the probability of making progress? 00:41:25.440 --> 00:41:36.880 The very first thing is to go through the values assessment and understand what's really the driving force underneath every perception, perception, decision, and action you're making, because that's what's driving everything. 00:41:36.880 --> 00:41:43.519 And if I if we don't have that, none of the other stuff really matters because I we don't know the blueprint that we're operating out of, right? 00:41:43.519 --> 00:41:49.039 Like we I'm not here to tell anybody, Jack, what they should do or ought to do or need to do or could do or might do. 00:41:49.039 --> 00:42:06.719 I'm here to discover what's intrinsically meaningful to them, what their telos is, what their inspiration is, what they aspire to be, and what they intend to do, and then help them align the action steps to actually doing that so that they increase the probability of achievement. 00:42:06.719 --> 00:42:12.320 So when no one has to remind you to do something, you're gonna rock and roll and you're gonna wake up every day. 00:42:12.320 --> 00:42:22.719 And now most people, most people highly underestimate what they can do in a certain amount of time and they try to crunch all of it into a super small amount of time. 00:42:22.719 --> 00:42:32.480 They give themselves no strategy, they don't, they, they don't have the they don't have the belief, they don't have the capability, they don't have the strategy, and they're sure as hell not gonna get the result, right? 00:42:32.480 --> 00:42:35.599 So I can be here and I love positive thinking, right? 00:42:35.599 --> 00:42:38.480 I I I absolutely love positive thinking and positive self-talk. 00:42:38.480 --> 00:42:39.519 It's necessary. 00:42:39.519 --> 00:42:47.199 But saying I think I can, I think I can, I think I can, I think I can, it's not gonna move the needle if you don't feel if you don't have the capabilities. 00:42:47.199 --> 00:42:54.320 And if you don't, if you have the belief and the capability, but you don't have a strategy, it's gonna be really hard to land where you want to go. 00:42:54.320 --> 00:42:59.280 If you have the belief and you have the strategy, but you don't have the capability, you're gonna be in limbo. 00:42:59.280 --> 00:43:04.400 If you have the capability and the strategy, but you don't have the belief, you're gonna self-sabotage, right? 00:43:04.400 --> 00:43:15.280 So you you need you need all four of those things in order to actually increase the level of achievement to getting to the the probability of getting what you want. 00:43:15.280 --> 00:43:24.400 And if you do have all four of those things and then you're still not achieving it, then either the belief is wrong or the strategy is flawed, right? 00:43:24.400 --> 00:43:25.519 It's one of the two. 00:43:25.519 --> 00:43:34.239 And and that's and that's where most people fall, and that's where most people fall is they go, okay, I had the strategy. 00:43:34.239 --> 00:43:41.920 It's I'm sure everybody's heard, you know, you can give the two two people the same business plan, one of them will go make a million dollars and the other one will go broke. 00:43:41.920 --> 00:43:44.239 Well, the belief wasn't there, right? 00:43:44.239 --> 00:43:49.039 So if I if I don't believe, Jack, that I can do it, I'm not even gonna try. 00:43:49.039 --> 00:43:49.840 Why would I? 00:43:49.840 --> 00:43:51.360 I don't believe I can, right? 00:43:51.360 --> 00:43:59.760 But if I do believe I can do it, the very first step in this is to believe you can do it and align your values with and discover what your values are. 00:43:59.760 --> 00:44:04.079 Values are and then begin to align them with the life that you say you want to have. 00:44:04.079 --> 00:44:07.679 And now here's the thing values can change over time, and that's great. 00:44:07.679 --> 00:44:25.119 That's why it's good to reassess your values every 90 days or so because life happens, things happen, situations change, and you want to have that conscious awareness of where your values are at today so that you can make sure that you're living in alignment with that because your health is exponentially better. 00:44:25.119 --> 00:44:37.920 Your physical health and your mental health are exponentially better when you are waking up inspired and in a jovial mood and you're happy and you can see a future that's compelling enough to you to want to move forward. 00:44:39.599 --> 00:44:41.440 100% agree with that. 00:44:42.639 --> 00:44:44.159 Am I answering your questions? 00:44:44.159 --> 00:44:47.360 I I know I'm I know I'm talking a lot, but am I answering the questions? 00:44:47.840 --> 00:44:51.519 And it's going into like into my next question. 00:44:51.519 --> 00:44:58.239 I think it might sort of double up, but I think it's going to tie into what you just answered as well, really well. 00:44:58.239 --> 00:45:10.559 One of the things I've noticed with you is yes, you went to all these talks, you read all the books, you've probably listened to all the podcasts, you took all the inform this information in, but you also took action. 00:45:10.559 --> 00:45:18.719 And I think that's what a lot of people are missing, that execution of taking action on on the information they're absorbing. 00:45:18.719 --> 00:45:28.639 Like The Secret was a great movie, but I think it sort of stuffed a lot of people up because they thought that they could just sit there and think and absorb more and absorb more and eventually it'll just happen.

00:45:28.639 --> 00:45:30.719 But they also need to take action. 00:45:30.719 --> 00:45:50.880 So I I was just trying to figure out how maybe I'll ask you, do you know like why you actually took action rather than just sitting there absorbing and what can people take away from that so they don't get caught in the trap of just next podcast, next book, next talk, just keep going through the circle without actually breaking out of the circle and taking action. 00:45:51.599 --> 00:45:54.320 Jack, this one hits home for me so hard. 00:45:54.320 --> 00:46:02.320 Um, and I'm and I'm honestly about to get emotional with this because it I I've I've as simple as that question is, it's very meaningful. 00:46:02.320 --> 00:46:06.239 Um I've been doing this since I was 17. 00:46:06.239 --> 00:46:22.639 And and I have I made the commitment to myself that until I knew that I knew that I knew what I was talking about, I was not gonna be a talking head. 00:46:22.639 --> 00:46:23.119 Right? 00:46:23.119 --> 00:46:34.880 I was not gonna take stages, I was not gonna be on panels, I was not, I wasn't gonna do it because there's so many people out there that read a book or take a weekend class and think that they freaking know it all. 00:46:34.880 --> 00:46:40.159 And next thing you know, they're on stage spewing a bunch of crap, and then you're like, what are you talking about? 00:46:40.159 --> 00:46:45.199 That that no, that that's not that's not how it works even remotely. 00:46:45.199 --> 00:47:03.199 And so what inspired me, I've been taking action because this has inherently been important to me for a long time, but I was fearful personally that I would get out there and that I would misinform someone. 00:47:03.199 --> 00:47:06.800 And that held me back, Jack, for years. 00:47:06.800 --> 00:47:10.639 And now that was my form of self-sabotage, right? 00:47:10.639 --> 00:47:19.599 Going, okay, I I I know all these things, I'm educated, I've I've spent my you know, a thousand hours on this topic, I've read 300 books, but what if I get it wrong? 00:47:19.599 --> 00:47:24.079 Man, newsflash, I'm gonna, I'm gonna, right? 00:47:24.079 --> 00:47:28.320 I'm gonna give people the absolute best information that I have. 00:47:28.320 --> 00:47:32.480 I'm gonna deliver to the absolute highest quality that I can deliver to. 00:47:32.480 --> 00:47:39.760 And when I find out that there's a better way or there's a different way that that could help someone achieve their results, I will be the first one to tell you. 00:47:39.760 --> 00:47:53.199 But what finally inspired me to take action was getting to the point in my knowledge enough and in my experience enough where I intrinsically knew what I was doing. 00:47:53.199 --> 00:47:55.199 It gave me the confidence, right? 00:47:55.199 --> 00:47:57.679 So, and it took me, it took me a long time to get there. 00:47:57.679 --> 00:48:03.599 And to be completely honest, I probably went way overboard in the amount of education that I have. 00:48:03.599 --> 00:48:13.840 But now that I've done that and I did it that way, now the credibility factor is there and the ability to actually move in confidence and competence, right? 00:48:13.840 --> 00:48:16.079 Confidence comes from competence. 00:48:16.079 --> 00:48:22.000 Confidence comes from knowing what the hell you're doing and doing it really, really, really well over and over and over and over and over. 00:48:22.000 --> 00:48:28.800 So that's what inspired me was going, okay, I finally got to the crux of knowing enough. 00:48:28.800 --> 00:48:37.199 And this is a trap in the personal development industry, by the way, where people think that that they need more information, they need more, another talk, another seminar. 00:48:37.199 --> 00:48:39.920 I'm telling you right now, no, you don't. 00:48:39.920 --> 00:48:47.679 You need to take what you got, you need to run with it and go serve people with it to the highest capacity that you have available to you right now. 00:48:47.679 --> 00:48:51.039 And when you are ready for more, more will be presented to you. 00:48:51.039 --> 00:48:58.559 But if there's if there's anything that I wish I did different, Jack, it's that I got out there and started doing this sooner. 00:48:58.559 --> 00:49:05.360 Because I'm sitting here freaking 10 feet tall and ready to rock, but it could this this could have been way sooner. 00:49:05.360 --> 00:49:10.800 But I had my own biases against my own self that told me, Corbin, you're not ready. 00:49:10.800 --> 00:49:13.440 Corbin, that's that that might not be right. 00:49:13.440 --> 00:49:16.719 That might not be the latest neuroscience, that might not be this. 00:49:16.719 --> 00:49:18.880 And to be honest, you're probably right. 00:49:18.880 --> 00:49:24.719 Maybe it's not, but it's what I know, and it's what I know to be true, and that's the gift that I'm gonna share to the world. 00:49:24.719 --> 00:49:34.559 And when I get, when I get better, more updated information, I'll be the first one to know it, and I'll be the first one to say, hey man, that was that was great back then, but the more updated stuff is now, right? 00:49:34.559 --> 00:49:47.760 And that that's that's what I would encourage people with is if they're if they're scared, that is a self-sabotage mechanism that is sitting there and it's going, oh man, you know, what are we gonna do? 00:49:47.760 --> 00:49:48.800 But guess what, Jack? 00:49:48.800 --> 00:49:51.280 Anything worth doing is gonna scare the hell out of you. 00:49:51.280 --> 00:49:56.079 If it ain't scary, like you, you don't, it's not forcing you to grow, right? 00:49:56.079 --> 00:50:00.559 If something doesn't scare you, at least initially, it's not forcing you to grow. 00:50:00.559 --> 00:50:03.119 So what how is that fear serving you? 00:50:03.119 --> 00:50:06.079 Is that fear telling you to go get more competent? 00:50:06.079 --> 00:50:10.719 Is that fear telling you to go, you know, what's that fear guiding you to?

00:50:10.719 --> 00:50:17.039 Because fear is not meant to hold us back, it's meant to guide us in intuitively into something that we need to go do. 00:50:17.039 --> 00:50:19.119 So that's why I'm here now, right? 00:50:19.119 --> 00:50:24.079 I went, okay, I held me back for right or for wrong, for better or for worse. 00:50:24.079 --> 00:50:39.840 But man, I can tell you, we can sure help people break through and we can sure help people have one hell of an aligned life if they're willing to do the work, and we can come to the table with absolute certainty that what we're doing is is a phenomenal strategy to help people live in alignment. 00:50:41.599 --> 00:50:42.320 Uh 100%. 00:50:42.320 --> 00:50:43.119 I'll have to be asked. 00:50:43.119 --> 00:50:44.639 Yeah, yeah. 00:50:44.639 --> 00:50:56.639 I had a guest on a couple of weeks ago, and we'll have a discussion, and she was explaining how uh fear, anxiety, whatever you want to call it, is very similar to excitement, but we always get it mixed up. 00:50:56.639 --> 00:51:05.920 And we always lean towards fear or anxiety because it's just our safety mechanism instead of leaning into that excitement and chasing whatever it is. 00:51:05.920 --> 00:51:08.000 So a hundred percent agree. 00:51:08.480 --> 00:51:09.440 I love it, man. 00:51:09.440 --> 00:51:10.400 I love it. 00:51:10.800 --> 00:51:11.199 All right. 00:51:11.199 --> 00:51:15.360 I know we haven't got long, so bet I've got a long list of things I want to talk about. 00:51:15.599 --> 00:51:16.719 Yeah, have you got the time, man? 00:51:16.719 --> 00:51:17.840 I I'm all yours. 00:51:17.840 --> 00:51:18.960 We can keep rocking. 00:51:18.960 --> 00:51:28.239 I I Jack, you're giving you're giving me the opportunity to share my heart and share my mind and what I've been committed to for a lot of years, and I really appreciate that. 00:51:28.239 --> 00:51:44.079 So I I hope that the val that the listeners are getting a tremendous value out of this, and I'm very excited for those for those select few that are ready to take action and want to see something different in 2027 and want to live more in alignment. 00:51:44.079 --> 00:51:49.440 I'm so excited for your for your listeners to reach out and for us to have a a healthy conversation. 00:51:49.760 --> 00:51:50.159 100%. 00:51:50.159 --> 00:51:56.880 And let's dive into that uh taking action, initiating that excitement into something. 00:51:56.880 --> 00:52:01.679 Because I like I said, I think that's a l a place where a lot of people struggle because they do get scared. 00:52:01.679 --> 00:52:03.760 They have a bit of anxiety about starting. 00:52:03.760 --> 00:52:08.400 I'm just obviously I'm per like I'm a personal trainer, so I'm just gonna use health and fitness as an example. 00:52:08.400 --> 00:52:22.320 They get excited, they get all their clothes out for the morning and they got their water bottle, their gym bag packed, they get dressed and then they don't go because that fear or anxiety of going to the gym just stops them. 00:52:22.320 --> 00:52:34.800 So in that moment of wanting to take action, but they're leaning more towards the fear or the anxiety anxiety instead of that excitement, how can we get them to sort of lean towards excitement and take action? 00:52:37.679 --> 00:52:39.599 What are they doing it for? 00:52:39.599 --> 00:52:44.000 Why why are why right? 00:52:44.000 --> 00:52:45.519 Why are we here? 00:52:46.239 --> 00:52:51.039 Because if the why is big enough, the how figures itself out. 00:52:51.039 --> 00:53:00.320 So if someone wants to lose 10 pounds, give me a give me 200 reasons why. 00:53:00.320 --> 00:53:05.039 And I guarantee you it ain't gonna be a heavy door anymore, Jack. 00:53:05.039 --> 00:53:17.280 If you if you can come up with benefit after benefit after benefit after benefit after benefit after benefit after benefit, we begin to rewire the brain, right? 00:53:17.280 --> 00:53:23.119 We begin to go, okay, I begin to see that there's that there's advantage to doing this. 00:53:23.119 --> 00:53:26.320 And man, sometimes things are just uncomfortable, right? 00:53:26.320 --> 00:53:31.119 Like there's there, this is all of the work side to this that we can do, Jack. 00:53:31.119 --> 00:53:39.360 Like well, you you can sit down with me and spend a couple hours with me and have breakthroughs and and rewire the rewire the neurons and all of that. 00:53:39.360 --> 00:53:46.880 And sometimes you just gotta go, okay, sometimes things just suck and you do them anyway, right? 00:53:46.880 --> 00:53:52.559 I've been there, you've been there, and working out probably will never be fun, right? 00:53:52.559 --> 00:53:55.920 Get it get losing the weight will probably never be fun. 00:53:55.920 --> 00:53:59.440 But let's take a look at it and go, okay, what's the benefit? 00:53:59.440 --> 00:54:00.480 What's the benefit here? 00:54:00.480 --> 00:54:01.920 Because there's a ton of them. 00:54:01.920 --> 00:54:06.400 Um, and I and and you know, they deserve it. 00:54:06.400 --> 00:54:08.000 They deserve it. 00:54:08.000 --> 00:54:19.920 People deserve to feel happy, people deserve to feel healthy, people deserve to be abundant, people's families deserve to have them abundant, people's uh people freaking deserve it, man. 00:54:19.920 --> 00:54:21.440 And that's the biggest thing. 00:54:21.440 --> 00:54:25.119 And and that was one thing that that I worked on with myself too. 00:54:25.119 --> 00:54:32.960 I'm like, I deserve to be in the articles, in the publications, on the stages, coaching people. 00:54:32.960 --> 00:54:34.719 I I deserve this. 00:54:34.719 --> 00:54:39.280 And so that positive self-talk, it's important. 00:54:39.280 --> 00:54:48.880 It's really important because uh we know it sucks, but man, it all uh the new the new scientific evidence, it only takes 66 days to form the new habit. 00:54:48.880 --> 00:54:53.280 You get up and and you only you only have to do simple things, right?

00:54:53.280 --> 00:55:05.760 So, like let's let's move out of the out of the values conversation, kind of more into some tactical stuff for people to actually do be do and have what they want today, not and see how we can move the needle. 00:55:05.760 --> 00:55:14.159 So if I want to begin to change a habit, let's just say my room's messy, okay? 00:55:14.159 --> 00:55:23.119 Well, there's there's going to be an underhaul of things that I have to do to get my room clean as a whistle. 00:55:23.119 --> 00:55:27.440 And this, these might sound silly, but I promise you they work. 00:55:27.440 --> 00:55:31.760 So maybe what I do is tell myself I'm gonna pick up a sock. 00:55:31.760 --> 00:55:32.719 And I do it. 00:55:32.719 --> 00:55:35.760 And Jack, that's all I did, but I did it. 00:55:35.760 --> 00:55:36.800 And guess what? 00:55:36.800 --> 00:55:38.480 I got a hit of dopamine. 00:55:38.480 --> 00:55:39.280 Okay. 00:55:39.280 --> 00:55:43.039 I proved myself that I was gonna do what I said I was gonna do. 00:55:43.039 --> 00:55:44.239 Boom. 00:55:44.239 --> 00:55:45.039 Moving on. 00:55:45.039 --> 00:55:45.920 Next day. 00:55:45.920 --> 00:55:49.119 Okay, maybe I can pick up the pants and the shirt next. 00:55:49.119 --> 00:55:50.239 I did it. 00:55:50.239 --> 00:55:56.239 I proved myself that I was gonna do it, and I got the dopamine hit again from doing it, from from moving towards the goal. 00:55:56.239 --> 00:55:59.519 Next thing you know, your entire room's clean. 00:56:00.800 --> 00:56:01.199 Right? 00:56:01.199 --> 00:56:05.119 So, in terms of the working out, let's let's go back to that. 00:56:05.360 --> 00:56:08.159 I I put my workout clothes on. 00:56:08.159 --> 00:56:09.760 Good job. 00:56:09.760 --> 00:56:15.920 Like, this might sound so elementary to people and be like, man, what is this Corbin guy talking about? 00:56:15.920 --> 00:56:29.199 But it's true because you're starting to create a new identity of the person that does what they say they're gonna do, the person that does make money, the person that does work out, the person that does have what they say they want. 00:56:29.199 --> 00:56:32.480 And it does not matter how small you start. 00:56:32.480 --> 00:56:33.920 It doesn't matter at all. 00:56:33.920 --> 00:56:36.719 What matters is that you habituate it. 00:56:36.719 --> 00:56:40.000 So I put on my workout clothes and I drove to the gym. 00:56:40.000 --> 00:56:44.320 And let's just be honest, if you drive all the way to the gym, you're probably gonna get out. 00:56:44.320 --> 00:56:49.840 So you got out at the gym, and man, you hit a good 10-minute workout. 00:56:49.840 --> 00:56:50.719 Great. 00:56:50.719 --> 00:56:52.639 You did what you said you were gonna do. 00:56:52.639 --> 00:56:59.840 The dopaminergic system is being activated, and you're starting to prove to not only the world, but also yourself that you're gonna do it. 00:56:59.840 --> 00:57:05.840 Next thing you know, you increased it by another two minutes, another five minutes, another seven minutes, and now you work out. 00:57:05.840 --> 00:57:06.559 Ta-da. 00:57:06.559 --> 00:57:08.079 Right? 00:57:08.079 --> 00:57:28.239 So most people are trying to undertake this big ass goal that they are not ready for, they don't have the identity for, and they have no strategy in place to achieve it, versus going, okay, let's start as simple and as elementary as possible. 00:57:28.239 --> 00:57:36.800 And I'm gonna do one thing every single day to build up my belief in myself and to build up the confidence that I'm actually gonna do it. 00:57:36.800 --> 00:57:40.639 And then once I do that enough, now it's habituated. 00:57:40.639 --> 00:57:42.960 So now you just go. 00:57:42.960 --> 00:57:44.159 Ta-da. 00:57:45.760 --> 00:57:49.199 And I'm I I'm glad you put it like that, and I 100% agree. 00:57:49.199 --> 00:57:57.840 I I've got a few I know a few people at the gyms, like sometimes when they're building that habit, they'd literally get to the gym, walk in, look around, and turn around and go out. 00:57:57.840 --> 00:57:59.440 But when I said, like, what are you doing? 00:57:59.440 --> 00:58:02.320 It's like I'm just building that habit of just going to the gym. 00:58:02.320 --> 00:58:02.719 Yes. 00:58:02.719 --> 00:58:09.440 Once you build that habit, eventually you just start doing stuff, and then now they spend a couple of hours there exercising and doing what they need to. 00:58:09.440 --> 00:58:10.159 Yes. 00:58:10.159 --> 00:58:17.199 I think it's a big trap, again, that personal development trap of just social media probably has a big role to play in this as well. 00:58:17.199 --> 00:58:40.320 Like people are too scared of starting because they think they need to start up here with the biggest goals, the biggest achievements, uh absolutely smashing everything, but it really starts down here with small little steps, doing the easy stuff that just snowballs like like we're saying at the start before we hit record, but you've been doing this for ten years, and those that little bit, little bit, little bit is now that big snowball of just what you're doing now. 00:58:40.320 --> 00:58:47.039 But it takes ten years to build it, where people just think that they need to start at that ten-year point on day one. 00:58:47.519 --> 00:58:51.039 There's there's something called the licensing effect. 00:58:51.039 --> 00:58:56.719 And what the licensing effect is, is if I give so we all have an equilibrium, right? 00:58:56.719 --> 00:59:00.079 We all we all have a a place where we sit. 00:59:00.079 --> 00:59:18.000 And if I give myself permission, if I go do something, Jack, that I'm proud of, I will automatically, unconsciously give myself permission to do something that I'm ashamed of to bring myself back into equilibrium. 00:59:18.000 --> 00:59:29.679 And if I go do something that I'm ashamed of, I'll go unconsciously, automatically give myself permission to do something that I'm proud of to bring myself back

into equilibrium. 00:59:29.679 --> 00:59:44.800 So when it comes to fitness and mindset, if someone goes and crushes an hour and a half workout with you, and man, they drank their protein and they did their thing, well, don't be surprised if they go be gluttonous the next day. 00:59:44.800 --> 00:59:52.719 Don't be surprised if they go drink a little too much or if they give themselves permission, they earned their day off, right? 00:59:52.719 --> 01:00:10.079 Because that that's the licensing effect completely at play where that's where do it making someone, you know, ha having someone shoot all the way up here, it's like, okay, if that's not their identity, then they're gonna do something to self-sabotage it because that is how the human operating system works. 01:00:10.079 --> 01:00:18.320 So now if we if we stay, if we stay in equilibrium, then that licensing effect doesn't necessarily need to kick in. 01:00:18.320 --> 01:00:24.880 Like if if I if I'm not over here feeling puffed up and proud, I don't have to be humbled. 01:00:24.880 --> 01:00:29.440 I don't have to do something to make me feel more shame to be back in equilibrium. 01:00:29.440 --> 01:00:33.760 If I am just simply, I set out to do what I wanted to do and I achieved it. 01:00:33.760 --> 01:00:38.960 See, this is where I don't really look as success and failure in the in the bubbles that most people look at. 01:00:38.960 --> 01:00:43.599 I look at the mission, I look at the vision, and I look at what I need to do to achieve that. 01:00:43.599 --> 01:00:47.199 Because mission does not have success or fail. 01:00:47.199 --> 01:00:54.719 Or well, I mean, there's yes, you can succeed or fail with a mission, but it does not have pride or shame associated to it, right? 01:00:54.719 --> 01:00:58.559 Success and failure have pride and shame associated. 01:00:58.559 --> 01:01:04.239 Those are two counterbalancing states of being that have to equalize each other out. 01:01:04.239 --> 01:01:11.039 So if I just stay on mission and I take the pride and the shame out of it, now I'm just moving in accordance to my values. 01:01:11.039 --> 01:01:21.199 The licensing effect doesn't necessarily have to slap me upside the head, and I get to achieve what I want, how I wanted to do it, that's in accordance with my values, and I still feel good about it. 01:01:24.719 --> 01:01:26.400 Two different directions I want to go with that. 01:01:26.400 --> 01:01:31.119 I'm gonna go with my personal get a little bit more out of this for myself. 01:01:31.119 --> 01:01:39.679 So when you're say talking about equilibrium, I I come from a health and fitness sporting performance background. 01:01:39.679 --> 01:01:43.280 So it's alm always like you're chasing that performance goal. 01:01:43.280 --> 01:01:47.119 You've got to push, work hard, achieve, achieve, achieve. 01:01:47.119 --> 01:01:55.280 And recently I've started realizing, like you said, if you just come down, instead of like doing absolutely nothing on

the other end, you you hit that equilibrium. 01:01:55.280 --> 01:02:07.599 But in business, in life, try trying to find that purpose of why I'm doing this, I find it very hard sometimes when I hit that equilibrium, I just haven't got that drive to move forwards. 01:02:07.599 --> 01:02:10.719 And I know but when I get there, things are great. 01:02:10.719 --> 01:02:14.880 I achieve more, I make more, I help more people, uh it's absolutely amazing. 01:02:14.880 --> 01:02:29.119 But I also drop out of it because I haven't got that pull to pull me forwards and I haven't got that performance side of things that obviously, you know, as I'm talking about this, it's that like previous thing where I need to be working hard and perform to actually achieve. 01:02:29.119 --> 01:02:37.599 And I know that's not true, but I lose that, I guess I don't want to call it ego, but that something that drives me forwards to achieve something. 01:02:37.599 --> 01:02:39.599 And you could use a health and fitness goal as well. 01:02:39.599 --> 01:02:40.639 I see this all the time. 01:02:40.639 --> 01:03:01.440 So people come in and they're excited and they want to see those numbers going down on the scales, numbers going up in the lifts, but if I just get them to maintain and slowly, progressively overload, it's very hard to keep them entertained because the progress is so slow, but it is so good, and they get way better results in that equilibrium where they're not going too hard or not too soft. 01:03:02.000 --> 01:03:24.159 I don't know if that was a question in there or just a ramble, but so yeah, so so in terms of motivation, um again, like somebody somebody might hit that goal, and that goal will feel good, but is that now their new set point, or are they gonna drop back down to where their current identity is, right? 01:03:24.159 --> 01:03:27.599 And that that's a whole nother topic of conversation that we could get into. 01:03:27.599 --> 01:03:32.880 But um that that is a very good point. 01:03:32.880 --> 01:03:34.960 And this is the thing about dopamine. 01:03:34.960 --> 01:03:42.079 People think that the dopamine is that that the dopamine reward is the achievement. 01:03:42.079 --> 01:03:46.079 What you what you get that hippo that hit of dopamine when you achieve it. 01:03:46.079 --> 01:03:54.000 Dopamine, the dopaminergic system is what moves you forward towards a meaningful goal. 01:03:54.000 --> 01:04:02.719 That's what the dopamine dopaminergic system actually does is moves you towards something that's meaningful, right? 01:04:02.719 --> 01:04:17.519 So, and again, like if if you talk about social media or scrolling, that's why those things rob us of our dopaminergic, you know, systems, because you automatically get a hit without having to have done anything. 01:04:17.519 --> 01:04:26.559 So you're training your neurochemical system in an advantageous way to where it's like, okay, why am I not motivated now? 01:04:26.559 --> 01:04:32.639 Well, man, you can

only get so much instant hits of dopamine until the dopaminergic system's out of order. 01:04:32.639 --> 01:04:33.920 And now you're like, what the hell? 01:04:33.920 --> 01:04:36.079 Why do I not, why do I not want anything? 01:04:36.079 --> 01:04:44.400 It's like, well, again, let's come back to our values and see what you actually value and see how to get you back in alignment with that to something that you're willing to put in the work long term. 01:04:44.400 --> 01:04:56.559 Because if somebody's if somebody's going for the number, then we need to assess the values deeper and go, okay, the the the number is a representation of the why, Jack. 01:04:56.559 --> 01:04:57.760 It's not the why. 01:04:57.760 --> 01:05:00.719 The money is a representation of the why. 01:05:00.719 --> 01:05:02.000 It's not the why. 01:05:02.000 --> 01:05:05.840 The boat is the representation of the thing, it's not the thing. 01:05:05.840 --> 01:05:21.679 So what we're what what I'm very good at doing, and what you're clearly very good at doing, is going underneath the surface, and it's the seven layers of the onion being peeled back times a thousand, right? 01:05:21.679 --> 01:05:26.880 So what's the core of the human motivating driving factors here? 01:05:26.880 --> 01:05:32.239 And again, if somebody's say they're in alignment with their values and they're still not doing it, okay. 01:05:32.239 --> 01:05:40.639 Well, there's a subconscious reason now that we need to go deep down inside into the subconscious mind and see what's really holding you back. 01:05:40.639 --> 01:05:48.639 Because man, it it'd blow your mind how how the brain and the mind actually works and how and how people sabotage themselves. 01:05:48.639 --> 01:05:58.559 Like for instance, in in business, let's say you're having a phenomenal month, but you just don't know how to break past $50,000 a month, right? 01:05:58.559 --> 01:06:06.880 You've ran the ads, you have the funnels, the VSLs, you got you got everything, but you can't crack over 50 consistently. 01:06:06.880 --> 01:06:15.840 Maybe, and this is purely hypothetical, but it does, but it but it does it makes sense and it could be true for somebody. 01:06:15.840 --> 01:06:50.800 If someone that you admire a family member, your mommy dad never made over a certain amount of money and you have hit that threshold that you're super proud of, but you've never seen them make that money and you respect them and you admire them, somewhere in your subconscious mind, there might be a reason not to go over fifty thousand dollars a month that has absolutely nothing to do with the business at all. 01:06:54.480 --> 01:06:58.800 So that being said, that's where the work comes into play, right? 01:06:58.960 --> 01:07:11.360 So you might unconsciously perceive that you making more money would be a jab to your family, a jab to your parents that that this would never consciously make sense, Jack. 01:07:11.360 --> 01:07:15.840 This doesn't make sense at a conscious level, but subconsciously that's how people sabotage themselves. 01:07:15.840 --> 01:07:30.880 Well that would be dishonorable to out-earn my parents nobody ever told you that nobody ever consciously said hey I don't want you to make more than that but there's a there's a a factor there that you're throttling yourself. 01:07:30.880 --> 01:07:43.280 It has nothing to do with the business and when you see the advantages consciously to your family of you making more money, ta human mind's a lovely funny thing. 01:07:43.679 --> 01:07:44.800 Oh and I love it. 01:07:44.800 --> 01:07:45.360 It's so good. 01:07:45.360 --> 01:07:53.039 I love what I do because I get to see all sides and experience everything he's saying with not just myself but other people as well. 01:07:54.960 --> 01:08:02.559 Well and when your clients are in alignment with their values then that that's going to make your job substantially easier. 01:08:02.559 --> 01:08:14.400 Because you're not going to have to prick and improd and motivate people they're going to be intrinsically inspired to wake up and do it and your job is is to coach and teach and keep them and keep them going you know? 01:08:14.719 --> 01:08:18.319 Yeah 100% and I always say that like I'm just here to guide you. 01:08:18.319 --> 01:08:19.920 I'm not here to do all that for you. 01:08:19.920 --> 01:08:28.960 You need to find that and that's that's the hard part and a lot of people aren't willing to put in the hard work but those that are work with me and they get great results and I'm sure it's the same with you. 01:08:29.520 --> 01:08:35.760 And that's the thing man is is I I want people to know you don't need fixed. 01:08:35.760 --> 01:08:37.439 You're not broken. 01:08:37.439 --> 01:09:07.279 You are simply operating out of a value system and you're operating out of an unconscious blueprint that is running the show and you will continue to do the same things that you've always done until you go into the subconscious mind, you dissolve the subconscious baggage and you're living intentionally moving towards your destiny versus being a master you can either be a victim of history or a master of destiny. 01:09:10.800 --> 01:09:20.960 100% and that's the thing like everybody's you know they think they're broken but everybody has that your experiences your the way you see things like that is your power. 01:09:20.960 --> 01:09:24.079 It's not your it's not the thing that's broken in you. 01:09:24.079 --> 01:09:26.800 It's the power that you have over everybody else. 01:09:26.800 --> 01:09:31.520 And yeah like you said when people start realizing that they can do amazing things. 01:09:32.159 --> 01:09:36.880 At a human level things appear to be missing at a soul level nothing is missing. 01:09:36.880 --> 01:09:38.159 And Dr. 01:09:38.159 --> 01:09:57.119 John likes to say there's nothing that your there's nothing that your mortal body can go through that your immortal soul can't learn to love that we'll see

how we go for time but there's two more topics dive into I'm just trying to decide which one. 01:09:58.560 --> 01:10:16.239 You've spoken about trying to find mentors and finding the right mentors which is very hard and I think you know you gotta do a bit of work in that because if you take on the right wrong mentor, not saying they're the wrong like they're a bad person or there's anything wrong with them, but they just might be wrong for you. 01:10:16.239 --> 01:10:27.279 It's very hard but I think it's very important like using the gym for analogy like we're just talking about people can't really visualize them doing it until they see other people doing it. 01:10:27.279 --> 01:10:42.880 Like whether it's money, exercising I since moving to Melbourne here in Australi here in Australia, I've surrounded myself with people that are doing amazing things and earning a lot more money that I thought was impossible to make but I'm seeing it and I'm friends with them and being around them. 01:10:42.880 --> 01:10:45.359 So I'm like oh you can't actually make that much money. 01:10:45.359 --> 01:10:46.720 And it's the same for the gym. 01:10:46.720 --> 01:10:52.239 If you go to the gym and you've never done a push up before or you've never seen somebody do a push up you're going to think it's impossible. 01:10:52.239 --> 01:10:55.520 You go to the gym you see people doing push-ups you're like oh wow that is possible. 01:10:55.520 --> 01:11:03.039 Yeah so so finding that environment where people are doing what you want to do and getting the right mentors is very important. 01:11:03.039 --> 01:11:14.560 So can you just maybe just go back to your story and your experiences in finding those moments where you're like oh yeah this is where I need to be this is where I can learn and what you got from it. 01:11:14.960 --> 01:11:34.880 Yeah yeah oh my gosh thank you so much for asking that um man you you you don't you don't start at the top and that's P that's the biggest thing Jack I didn't I didn't start with seminars that were thousands of dollars to invest and I had to travel and stay in hotels and lock in for 12 hours. 01:11:34.880 --> 01:11:36.560 I I didn't start there. 01:11:36.560 --> 01:12:08.560 I started with books right the the the greatest some of the greatest mentors are hanging out in Barnes and Noble for $30 right so so that that's my that depending on where someone's at their their you know social connections their financial acuity all those different things um but I I networked my face off I knew that I was going to have to meet a thousand talkers to meet the one person that could actually teach me something of value. 01:12:08.560 --> 01:12:19.760 Everybody teaches you lessons throughout life that's not the point I'm trying to make the point I'm trying to make is you sometimes you have to sift you have to kiss some frogs to get to the one that you know can actually move the needle for you. 01:12:19.760 --> 01:12:49.840 And and I did my research

I researched the hell out of people and and I had to number one going back to the to the uh Tony Robbins thing I didn't know what it was so the first thing that I had to do was find out what the hell it was called right that's the first thing that I had to do is this integrative hypnosis is this neurolinguistic programming is this emotive journeying is this cognitive behavioral thing what what what is it even called right like how how do I how do I get there? 01:12:49.840 --> 01:12:55.600 Because if I don't if I don't know where I'm at and I don't know where I want to go I'm never going to get there. 01:12:55.600 --> 01:13:20.159 So being dead honest with where I'm starting at today and then moving forward to where I actually want to go and why and then the universe will get out your way man like you if you I have a saying that God meets me halfway and I genuinely believe that if I put in my time my effort my work all of that I genuinely believe that God will meet me halfway and I have not been proven wrong yet. 01:13:20.159 --> 01:13:32.000 So in terms of mentorship in terms of all that start where you start where you're at go as far as you can see and when you get where you are you're gonna be able to see further guaranteed. 01:13:33.199 --> 01:13:35.039 What about like reaching out to those people? 01:13:35.039 --> 01:13:47.600 I had a young person approach me the other day and wanting to start some sort of film and I guess visual company but she just didn't know where to start in reaching out to people. 01:13:47.600 --> 01:13:57.840 What what advice have you got for you know the younger people like I I I think the best example is the book you said at start, like How to win friends and influence people. 01:13:57.840 --> 01:14:13.119 That's a great book to start how to learn how to actually just talk to people and it might be a bit of a cover that sort of turns people off but it's just about being a nice person and talking to people and seeing how you can help them and how they can help you but without forcing it? 01:14:13.119 --> 01:14:16.000 That's the best way I can explain it. 01:14:16.000 --> 01:14:29.199 Um so what what was the what was the question how should people yeah how should you think about networking and reaching out to people that you want to be your mentors or help you in some certain way to achieve what you want to achieve? 01:14:29.600 --> 01:14:37.600 When it comes to mentorship what value are you able to provide to them? 01:14:37.600 --> 01:14:38.319 Right? 01:14:38.319 --> 01:14:50.159 So man, especially for younger people I have found that that people are very very very willing to help but they also are being asked by a million and one people to be mentored. 01:14:50.159 --> 01:14:57.039 So the thing that I did right Jack is I got as far as I could possibly see on my own. 01:14:57.039 --> 01:15:05.279 I picked up the books I did the seminars I put my money where my where my I I did as much as humanly possible. 01:15:05.279 --> 01:15:22.239 So when I was going to seek mentorship it was not a handout this is hey I've done everything in my power to do every I I've gotten Corbin as far as I can get Corbin and I'm now at a point here and sometimes mentorship's gonna cost you money. 01:15:22.239 --> 01:16:07.279 Sometimes mentorships there there's all sorts of different things that you can do but I was okay with either doing fair trade fair equitable exchange or I was okay with figuring out how to pay the thousands of dollars it costs right so that like that that those are your two options is figure out figure out how to be valuable and then go go pitch that value something truly valuable to that person care enough about them to do research on their values their business their life their family and provide something that's actually valuable to them and you'll be very surprised people are actually very much open and willing to help those that have already helped themselves but nobody wants to help someone that just wants it to be done for them. 01:16:07.279 --> 01:16:09.439 That that nobody wants to help that person. 01:16:09.680 --> 01:16:15.279 So I think that's the best advice yeah 100% well it's what worked for me. 01:16:15.439 --> 01:16:28.399 Like you know and and man I I I was young and and was able to crack into some of the right rooms but like and be bold man don't be afraid to go for what you want because the absolute worst thing that can happen Jack is they say no. 01:16:28.640 --> 01:16:29.600 Yeah that's what I said. 01:16:29.600 --> 01:16:31.039 Like what's the worst that can happen? 01:16:31.279 --> 01:16:36.319 Right they told me no but the absolute best thing that could happen is you make a lifelong friend. 01:16:36.319 --> 01:16:46.079 You learn something you never knew you have your own values expanded you have your own mind expanded you get to do things you would have never gotten to do before and you get to grow as a person. 01:16:46.079 --> 01:16:53.760 And that's the biggest thing man is is that if if I was talking to somebody it's worth going up and saying hi. 01:16:53.760 --> 01:17:06.319 Go and and this is one of my tricks to networking too show up show up because you never know who you'll meet or what it'll turn into or what'll happen. 01:17:06.319 --> 01:17:24.640 But if you don't show up God does not have the space to move and you don't have anything to go do right like it's it's it's my job to take action on the plan and it's God's job to move the pieces of the chessboard in the way that needs to be moved for the right things to happen. 01:17:24.640 --> 01:17:33.279 So when the right people align the right things align the right opportunities align that's when luck happens and then all of a sudden you're a lucky person. 01:17:33.279 --> 01:17:58.399 Well I mean yeah I guess or you just came prepared you knew your shit and you showed up 2026 people don't show up anymore they they they don't show up for themselves they don't show

up at work people people go through life on auto and it's like man you can freaking win at this thing easier now than ever and like you said just put in that hard work. 01:17:58.479 --> 01:18:10.880 Like if you put in that hard work and turn up and have a conversation with that person they're gonna want to have that conversation back because you know about them you know their interests you know what they want to talk about where if you just turn up and say hey how's it going? 01:18:10.880 --> 01:18:12.640 And like where do you go from there? 01:18:12.640 --> 01:18:21.119 Obviously if you do good conversation it you can make it roll but putting in the work and actually understanding what you need to be talking about, no one does that. 01:18:21.119 --> 01:18:24.560 And if you can do that you stand out way more than everybody else. 01:18:24.880 --> 01:18:38.000 Yes and and also too um and I know that we got to wrap up here soon but anything that you perceive that someone else has you have it too in your own form. 01:18:38.000 --> 01:18:42.560 And that's why intimidation goes away when you own when you own traits. 01:18:42.560 --> 01:18:45.680 There's over 4,000 traits in human behavior. 01:18:45.680 --> 01:18:55.119 Every single one of us has every single one of them we display and demonstrate them differently based off of our own values but if the trait wasn't beneficial it would go extinct. 01:18:55.119 --> 01:19:12.640 So those traits are there for a reason and they are brought to the surface when in accordance to your values but you know Jack I've never I've never perceived well I'm not gonna say never that's not accurate I don't perceive people as better than me or worse than me. 01:19:12.640 --> 01:19:24.399 They might be richer they might be poorer they might be more famous they might be less famous but at the end of the day they're a human being with a hierarchy of values and their life is demonstrating those values just like mine is. 01:19:24.399 --> 01:19:30.479 And so where do I have that same thing being demonstrated in my own form? 01:19:30.479 --> 01:19:30.880 Right? 01:19:30.880 --> 01:19:33.920 Because you might be intimidated by someone's knowledge. 01:19:33.920 --> 01:19:38.079 Man Jack has an incredible knowledge of health and fitness and life. 01:19:38.079 --> 01:19:50.720 Jack I guarantee you every single person in your audience has the same level of knowledge that you have and the same level experience that you have in their own form and their own values in their own life. 01:19:50.720 --> 01:19:54.079 Everybody's got a PhD in their own life story. 01:19:54.079 --> 01:20:05.520 So and so they're comparing their values to yours versus honoring the form that they're expressing it in and owning it and going, man, I sure know a lot about this particular topic. 01:20:05.520 --> 01:20:08.399 I sure know a lot about that particular thing. 01:20:08.399 --> 01:20:14.000 So we're just we're just biased and we're we're making someone else's form better or worse than ours. 01:20:14.000 --> 01:20:15.279 It's not better or worse. 01:20:15.279 --> 01:20:18.560 It's just a different expression of their own unique values. 01:20:19.119 --> 01:20:22.960 A hundred percent and you've got to go into each conversation like that. 01:20:22.960 --> 01:20:29.039 That's why I love like the podcast doing what I'm doing because I get to talk to and experience so many different people. 01:20:29.039 --> 01:20:42.720 And if you just go into that conversation and want to understand that person on a deeper level and what they know like you said everybody knows things about they you might have the same knowledge but how they view that knowledge is completely different as well. 01:20:42.880 --> 01:21:23.199 So absolutely yeah all right man thank you so much for a wonderful conversation um if you're if your audience has felt compelled by my story my journey or the the services that can be provided and they're ready for a break through to the next level they can visit let'sgethuman.com that's let's with a uh S at the end let's gethuman.com apply to work with me it's through the perceptual design pot spot on my website and make sure that you mention Jack that's very important that you mentioned that you came from Jack's show and um as long as I feel like we're in alignment and I can actually help help them move the needle then I would be delighted to to work with your audience. 01:21:23.439 --> 01:21:25.359 Yeah Corbin I appreciate your time. 01:21:25.359 --> 01:21:35.359 I'll put all the links in the show notes so people can find you well it's been just an over an hour and I've learned a lot so I know people are going to learn a lot from this episode and yeah they'll get even more if they work with you. 01:21:35.359 --> 01:21:40.399 So appreciate you and I appreciate you now taking the time to come out on the podcast and put yourself out there. 01:21:40.399 --> 01:21:42.000 I think it's gonna help a lot of people. 01:21:42.319 --> 01:21:50.960 Jack I appreciate it thanks for the platform and to all the listeners um I appreciate everybody that that valued this conversation enough to stay around till the end. 01:21:51.439 --> 01:21:52.720 What is up? 01:21:52.720 --> 01:22:02.720 Thanks for being here at the end of the episode obviously you've enjoyed it and it's helped you find your true form and I'll bet you know somebody that's gonna help find their true form as well. 01:22:02.720 --> 01:22:11.119 So I'd appreciate it if you could copy this show link, send it to one friend or family member and say hey have a listen to this it's gonna help you find your true form. 01:22:11.119 --> 01:22:16.960 They'll probably have no idea what you're talking about but it will help them and I'd appreciate if you could do that. 01:22:16.960 --> 01:22:41.199 Also all podcast platforms these days have some sort of algorithm so the more you interact with this episode the better it's going to perform and help reach more people and help them find their true form as well so five star review positive comment like share comment however you can interact with the episode I'd appreciate that and everybody listening that hasn't heard of the true form podcast is going to appreciate it as well.