Volledige transcriptie van The 4 Survival Patterns Keeping You Stuck in Burnout

of me doing more of the creative work, it just became just very overwhelming. 00:02:18.960 --> 00:02:21.520 And so during that time, it became And what were you doing? 00:02:21.599 --> 00:02:22.639 Tell everybody what you were doing. 00:02:22.719 --> 00:02:24.319 Sorry, video production. 00:02:24.400 --> 00:02:36.400 Um, but then my role changed from video producer to video producer and social media manager and content creator and all the other things that come with each job. 00:02:36.719 --> 00:02:40.400 And so in that, I was like, you know what? 00:02:40.719 --> 00:02:43.360 Maybe I can start to work for myself. 00:02:43.599 --> 00:02:49.360 And so entrepreneurship was like kind of booming around this time, like 2022. 00:02:49.520 --> 00:02:52.960 People were like, I'm making$10,000,$20,000 a month. 00:02:53.039 --> 00:02:55.199 And I'm like, man, what am I doing? 00:02:55.520 --> 00:02:58.080 So um with that, you know what? 00:02:58.159 --> 00:03:04.159 I've got this big audience uh with my podcast that I've poured the last four years into. 00:03:04.400 --> 00:03:07.439 Surely I can make this into a business. 00:03:08.560 --> 00:03:09.199 Yeah. 00:03:09.680 --> 00:03:15.280 So started to do the whole business thing, but I was still working. 00:03:15.599 --> 00:03:23.680 So a lot of the time that I would have to recharge and um kind of come back to myself, that time was getting smaller and smaller. 00:03:23.919 --> 00:03:27.439 On top of that, life is still lifing, it's still happening. 00:03:27.599 --> 00:03:35.120 And so challenges, family, new relationships, just a lot of different changes all happening at once. 00:03:35.439 --> 00:03:47.520 And it just started to become really, really overwhelming where I would normally maybe take a little day trip or pamper myself or do certain things that would kind of keep me balanced. 00:03:47.759 --> 00:03:49.759 That was just not happening anymore. 00:03:49.919 --> 00:03:53.120 And so then it got to a point where I was like, you know what? 00:03:53.199 --> 00:03:54.639 I just need to work remotely. 00:03:54.800 --> 00:03:57.120 So I got a new job, left that job. 00:03:57.280 --> 00:04:00.319 I was with, I was there for like six years. 00:04:00.560 --> 00:04:04.639 So got a new job, was there for nine months, got laid off. 00:04:06.479 --> 00:04:16.560 There goes more of the burnout because now I'm in very much like a fight mode of trying to like get my business going, but I still don't know what I'm doing. 00:04:16.800 --> 00:04:20.079 And then family members are are falling sick. 00:04:20.160 --> 00:04:25.279 And so it just became this storm of what is going on? 00:04:25.439 --> 00:04:27.120 Am I ever gonna get out of this? 00:04:27.279 --> 00:04:34.800 And so my sleep started to get disrupted, and I noticed my body wasn't responding the way that it used to. 00:04:35.040 --> 00:04:42.639 I was used to having like a really high metabolism, and within like a just a few months, I gained like almost 30 pounds and I couldn't get it off. 00:04:42.800 --> 00:04:49.680 I was like trying to work out like crazy, cutting back what I was eating, and I I just felt miserable. 00:04:49.920 --> 00:04:53.759 I didn't know what to do as I'd never experienced that before. 00:04:53.920 --> 00:04:55.839 That just felt very odd. 00:04:56.000 --> 00:05:04.399 So it got to a point where I was spending close to about$700 a month on my health just to try to get my body back. 00:05:04.560 --> 00:05:06.399 And that made like a slight dent. 00:05:06.480 --> 00:05:11.839 And if I missed some appointments for all the different things I was doing, I would fall right back into it. 00:05:12.079 --> 00:05:15.839 So with that, I've been going to the doctors. 00:05:16.000 --> 00:05:17.439 They can't really help me. 00:05:17.519 --> 00:05:20.160 The most they can do is like, hey, you could try birth control. 00:05:20.240 --> 00:05:25.439 I'm like, yeah, no, that's not, that's not gonna fix any of the problems that I'm having right now. 00:05:25.920 --> 00:05:27.040 Um, but okay, thanks. 00:05:27.120 --> 00:05:28.240 I'll figure it out myself. 00:05:28.319 --> 00:05:38.240 And so I just started to pour a lot of energy into research and learning how the body actually works, and then slowly but surely started to heal myself. 00:05:38.319 --> 00:05:50.000 But the number one way I was really able to do that was by turning towards more intentional, pleasurable experiences, just making sure that I'm actually feeling good. 00:05:50.399 --> 00:05:59.040 So most of the time we try to fight our way out of burnout with cutting out more food and exercising more excessively. 00:05:59.199 --> 00:06:00.319 And so I was like, you know what? 00:06:00.399 --> 00:06:02.560 What if we just have fun with our workouts? 00:06:02.720 --> 00:06:11.199 What if we just do some hula hooping or some dancing or just do things that just feel nice instead of trying to go to the gym? 00:06:11.439 --> 00:06:12.399 And that's what I did. 00:06:12.480 --> 00:06:16.959 And I noticed that my body was actually reacting to that a lot easier. 00:06:17.120 --> 00:06:23.360 And I started eating foods that were nourishing my body, but also giving me that little high at the same time. 00:06:23.519 --> 00:06:28.079 And um, so I noticed that was actually what worked, and it got me to relax. 00:06:28.319 --> 00:06:37.680 I no longer have heart palpitations in the middle of the night where I felt like on edge, and like that whole thing was just so weird. 00:06:37.759 --> 00:06:45.839 I never experienced that before, but I was there for like three years, and it was really scary because I didn't know what to do. 00:06:46.160 --> 00:06:56.319 So now I'm back, and so I'm happy to share everything that I've learned and then some with women that could be in the same position. 00:06:56.639 --> 00:06:57.120 Wow. 00:06:57.279 --> 00:06:59.040 Thank you for sharing that, sweetheart. 00:06:59.279 --> 00:07:01.279 And it's so interesting.

00:07:01.600 --> 00:07:11.759 The answer was there the whole time because in your story, you said I was working full time and then I started building my business. 00:07:11.920 --> 00:07:18.079 So all the things I used to do for fun, I stopped doing because I was building this business. 00:07:18.560 --> 00:07:18.720 Right. 00:07:18.800 --> 00:07:23.279 So the second you stopped the pleasurable activities, you stopped having fun, right? 00:07:23.360 --> 00:07:26.240 Your cortisol levels are spiking, it's messing with your hormones. 00:07:26.319 --> 00:07:30.480 You know more about that than I do, and we'll talk a little bit more about that on today's show, too. 00:07:30.879 --> 00:07:32.800 But it was there the whole time, right? 00:07:32.879 --> 00:07:39.040 You just abandoned this one thing that's so critical, not just in our mental health, but in our physical health. 00:07:39.759 --> 00:07:42.240 And if you, honey, if you could have done it better, you would have. 00:07:42.319 --> 00:07:44.079 And and you know what? 00:07:44.399 --> 00:07:51.519 Now you get to be here and be so grateful and give yourself peace and joy and inspire others to do the same. 00:07:51.680 --> 00:07:52.959 So I'm sorry you went through that. 00:07:53.040 --> 00:07:56.000 And I'm so grateful that you're using it as a teaching platform. 00:07:56.240 --> 00:07:57.120 Absolutely. 00:07:57.279 --> 00:07:59.839 Well, thank you for holding space to share. 00:08:00.000 --> 00:08:04.240 Hopefully, it was not too overwhelming, but I'm I'm definitely happy to be here. 00:08:04.560 --> 00:08:05.839 I'm so glad. 00:08:06.079 --> 00:08:29.199 You know, with everything that you've been through, and so many of my listeners and patrons are in the entertainment industry or in creative industries or even in the coaching industry, they think, I know you guys are thinking this, that I don't have time to put myself first or go play or any of that stuff. 00:08:29.360 --> 00:08:41.120 In fact, I was on a coaching call yesterday, and my client was saying, well, she wants to create a podcast and she wants to do these other, she wants to do a YouTube channel and all this stuff. 00:08:41.360 --> 00:08:44.639 And she goes, but all that feels really fun. 00:08:45.759 --> 00:08:51.840 So I can't do that until I set up my website and start getting clients and da-da-da-da-da. 00:08:52.000 --> 00:08:53.360 I have to do all this stuff first. 00:08:53.519 --> 00:08:55.600 And I was like, record scratch, right? 00:08:55.759 --> 00:08:57.840 Like, er, what did you do? 00:08:58.080 --> 00:08:58.559 Like, what? 00:08:58.960 --> 00:08:59.919 She's like, I need to make money. 00:09:00.080 --> 00:09:01.200 And I'm like, whoa. 00:09:01.360 --> 00:09:09.600 I'm like, the universe has a secret, which is the more fun you have, the more money you make. 00:09:09.919 --> 00:09:10.559 Yes. 00:09:11.360 --> 00:09:13.279 Can you talk to us about that? 00:09:14.159 --> 00:09:15.039 Absolutely. 00:09:15.360 --> 00:09:19.279

There is science behind it for those that are pretty skeptical. 00:09:19.679 --> 00:09:26.559 But when you're in states of chronic stress, your nervous system tenses up, right? 00:09:26.720 --> 00:09:31.200 So you're you don't even realize it, but you're in a state of bracing. 00:09:31.519 --> 00:09:36.720 So when you're in the state of bracing and you're really tight, your energy is also tight. 00:09:36.960 --> 00:09:51.279 And so if you ever notice, sometimes if you're just relaxed and you're like not focused on the thing that you're stressed out, sometimes you notice things just suddenly magically happen. 00:09:51.600 --> 00:09:59.039 Where something comes through, or a new client comes in, or you get a magic little payment. 00:09:59.200 --> 00:10:01.039 Something just comes through. 00:10:01.200 --> 00:10:05.120 And that's because our nervous system is now in a relaxed state. 00:10:05.200 --> 00:10:10.720 It's not in survival mode, and we're actually aligned with our true selves. 00:10:10.799 --> 00:10:14.879 And that is always built for openness and receiving. 00:10:16.480 --> 00:10:18.960 So we're in a receiving state. 00:10:19.279 --> 00:10:28.240 And sometimes when we've been holding a lot in and we put ourselves in a receiving state, everything also gets released. 00:10:28.320 --> 00:10:33.200 So you may notice more emotions come up when you're in an open state as well. 00:10:33.279 --> 00:10:35.840 And sometimes we're like, oh, I don't have time to feel. 00:10:36.000 --> 00:10:37.200 I got to get this thing done. 00:10:37.360 --> 00:10:38.720 So you tense up more. 00:10:38.799 --> 00:10:44.480 And so it kind of creates this vicious cycle that you're like, ah, forget it. 00:10:44.639 --> 00:10:48.960 And then you get to surrender eventually because you just can't continue like that anymore. 00:10:49.279 --> 00:10:49.759 That's right. 00:10:49.840 --> 00:10:50.000 Yeah. 00:10:50.159 --> 00:10:52.320 And what you said about receiving is key. 00:10:52.559 --> 00:10:57.200 And especially for women, we don't realize that we are divine receivers. 00:10:57.759 --> 00:11:00.720 And I learned this from Andrea Quinn, who I think I connected you with. 00:11:00.799 --> 00:11:04.559 I was like, I think you guys need to be friends because she talks so much about receiving. 00:11:04.639 --> 00:11:07.279 Like when you think of Brene Brown and you think of vulnerability, right? 00:11:08.080 --> 00:11:12.399 And there's so many people you think of a what gay Hendricks, you think of Zone of Genius. 00:11:12.480 --> 00:11:14.240 Andrea Quinn, you think of receiving. 00:11:14.639 --> 00:11:16.320 And you guys are gonna be great friends. 00:11:16.399 --> 00:11:17.200 I just know it. 00:11:17.440 --> 00:11:28.399 And something I learned from her is as the divine feminine, as a as you know, someone who is chosen to be born into this body or or you know, you're here as a female. 00:11:29.039 --> 00:11:32.559 Your job is to receive in order to create, even if you

don't have children. 00:11:33.200 --> 00:11:33.440 Right. 00:11:33.519 --> 00:11:36.799 And Andre always says, if you can't receive it, it's not coming. 00:11:37.039 --> 00:11:48.559 And so much of what you just said is connected to that allowingness of receiving that helps you to create your life with joy and peace and purpose. 00:11:49.840 --> 00:12:06.720 I just hope everybody is taking copious notes and you listen to this over and over again, and you go to She Sacral and you get involved in what Lindsay is doing and offering, and you listen to her podcast because this is this is like urgent for women right now. 00:12:07.120 --> 00:12:12.559 And look, we're the ones who are gonna help take over this world and save this world. 00:12:12.720 --> 00:12:14.080 Like we're trying, right? 00:12:14.159 --> 00:12:17.519 But we're not gonna do it from burning out and marching and fighting. 00:12:17.840 --> 00:12:22.000 We're gonna do it by allowing and receiving and enjoying. 00:12:22.240 --> 00:12:35.519 It's like anybody who's been in production, anybody who has kids, any, any, any woman has to get involved in this conversation and just accept that it's the truth. 00:12:36.320 --> 00:12:36.960 Yes. 00:12:37.919 --> 00:12:39.360 Absolutely. 00:12:39.759 --> 00:12:41.360 And preaching to the choir. 00:12:41.679 --> 00:12:49.919 There, and sometimes we have uh old wounds that we don't realize that are blocking us from receiving, you know. 00:12:50.080 --> 00:13:05.200 Um, sometimes we've had some tricks that came with receiving that taught our bodies that it's not safe to receive, that came with some obligation or some strings attached, or something bad happened when I received or allowed someone in. 00:13:05.600 --> 00:13:08.879 And that's the part that we have to work with. 00:13:09.120 --> 00:13:19.360 But when we learn how to give to ourselves and prioritize ourselves, that will teach our nervous system that it is okay to start receiving. 00:13:19.600 --> 00:13:24.559 For a lot of women, receiving is one of the hardest things that they ever learn. 00:13:25.120 --> 00:13:31.600 And, you know, even this morning I met someone and I was like just so in awe of how beautiful she was. 00:13:31.759 --> 00:13:36.240 I've talked to her on the phone, and she's my friend who passed away, it's his sister. 00:13:36.399 --> 00:13:40.399 And I was sitting next to her, she came over this morning, and I'd never met her before. 00:13:40.559 --> 00:13:43.279 And I just couldn't stop looking at how beautiful she was. 00:13:43.919 --> 00:13:46.559 And I was like, You're so beautiful. 00:13:46.720 --> 00:13:50.080 And she just went, Thank you. 00:13:50.960 --> 00:13:53.519 And I laughed and I was like, Did somebody teach you that? 00:13:53.679 --> 00:13:54.720 She goes, Yes. 00:13:55.840 --> 00:13:57.039 Like, you did really well. 00:13:57.200 --> 00:13:58.240 And she goes, Thank you. 00:14:01.039 --> 00:14:02.399 It was so cute. 00:14:02.720 --> 00:14:07.279 Can you help us to get into a practice of receiving a little bit? 00:14:07.440 --> 00:14:08.320 What do we start to do? 00:14:08.480 --> 00:14:14.960 Because you just mentioned sometimes we've been traumatized or we've been hurt or we don't trust ourselves or we think it's not okay to let it land. 00:14:15.360 --> 00:14:17.440 What can we do to start shifting that? 00:14:18.000 --> 00:14:23.519 Well, first we want to kind of recognize when those opportunities come up. 00:14:23.759 --> 00:14:36.399 And to start with the small stuff, I think that's most important because I learned this a few years back, which is like if you can't even receive a compliment, which is the simplest form of a gift, how do you expect to receive the big stuff? 00:14:36.559 --> 00:14:43.039 And so the first step is like when you receive something small, and we receive all the time, we just don't recognize it. 00:14:43.200 --> 00:14:55.440 Rather, someone holds the door open for you or they give you a compliment or whatever, not pushing it away or deflecting, or like, yeah, well, this thing is old, or no, just say thank you. 00:14:55.679 --> 00:15:02.000 And sometimes it's like, well, maybe I don't go out or I'm not, you know, interacting with a lot of people. 00:15:02.240 --> 00:15:03.600 Focus on nature. 00:15:03.840 --> 00:15:09.440 The sun is always the source for helping us and supporting us. 00:15:09.600 --> 00:15:18.080 And so just sitting out there and sitting out there with the intention of, I'm receiving the energy that the sun is giving me right now. 00:15:18.960 --> 00:15:28.480 Just starting to activate, okay, let me start to see what is already here and receive from what's already here. 00:15:28.720 --> 00:15:34.639 Because sometimes we'll start thinking, oh, do I need to demand for people to give me stuff? 00:15:34.720 --> 00:15:40.240 Or like our brains will kind of go there to try to justify why we shouldn't receive. 00:15:40.720 --> 00:15:45.840 So start really small or wherever you feel most comfortable with what you already have. 00:15:46.080 --> 00:15:49.679 Um, so if you have pets, allow for them to love on you. 00:15:49.919 --> 00:15:53.360 If you have a partner, let them help you out. 00:15:53.600 --> 00:15:56.960 Sometimes we kind of get trapped in hyper independence. 00:15:57.039 --> 00:15:59.759 For many, I was one of those, like for the longest time. 00:15:59.840 --> 00:16:01.679 I'm like, nope, I got it, I got it. 00:16:02.000 --> 00:16:07.600 Because I experience having the rug pulled out from underneath me when I was dependent on other people. 00:16:07.840 --> 00:16:11.600 And so those things happen and it teaches the body like that's not safe. 00:16:11.759 --> 00:16:17.279 So we have to start retraining our system on what is safe. 00:16:17.759 --> 00:16:22.399 So that's one small, I like to start small first and then grow from there. 00:16:22.720 --> 00:16:23.440 I love that. 00:16:23.600 --> 00:16:25.759 Yeah, I don't I don't think about the sun as much.

00:16:25.840 --> 00:16:27.120 I always think about the moon. 00:16:27.279 --> 00:16:30.080 Oh you know, what can I receive from the moon? 00:16:30.240 --> 00:16:31.519 I swim a lot at night. 00:16:31.759 --> 00:16:32.720 Oh, nice. 00:16:32.960 --> 00:16:35.360 And I look up at the moon, I'm like, is it a new moon? 00:16:35.519 --> 00:16:37.120 Are we birthing new creations? 00:16:37.279 --> 00:16:38.240 Is it a full moon? 00:16:38.320 --> 00:16:40.559 Are we gonna start letting go soon? 00:16:40.879 --> 00:16:45.200 But I love the idea of receiving from the sun. 00:16:46.320 --> 00:16:49.200 Yes, it's like the whole earth is receiving from the sun. 00:16:49.440 --> 00:16:50.480 It's right there. 00:16:50.720 --> 00:16:53.200 We get to just receive a breath right now. 00:16:56.399 --> 00:16:56.960 Yeah. 00:16:57.919 --> 00:17:00.960 Everyone listening just took a nice deep breath with us. 00:17:01.440 --> 00:17:02.399 I know it. 00:17:02.559 --> 00:17:06.319 I mentioned before that some people don't realize they're on the brink of burnout. 00:17:06.400 --> 00:17:09.680 Cause, like you said, like this, you know, I'm just gonna get through it. 00:17:09.759 --> 00:17:10.160 I'm strong. 00:17:10.240 --> 00:17:10.799 This isn't hard. 00:17:10.880 --> 00:17:11.519 This isn't a problem. 00:17:11.599 --> 00:17:12.640 I'm just gonna go, go, go. 00:17:12.720 --> 00:17:15.680 We've trained our minds and bodies to just get through it. 00:17:16.960 --> 00:17:18.480 So, how do we even know? 00:17:18.640 --> 00:17:24.000 Are there signs that show us we're on the brink of burnout that we can start to pay attention to? 00:17:24.400 --> 00:17:25.200 Absolutely. 00:17:25.519 --> 00:17:42.319 So I've actually designed kind of a group of about eight different types of burnout patterns, but essentially they are a combination of your fears, your motivations, what's driving you, and then also your coping mechanism. 00:17:42.480 --> 00:17:45.920 So I'll focus on the coping mechanisms, which we all have. 00:17:46.000 --> 00:17:47.680 It's built into every living being. 00:17:47.839 --> 00:17:55.039 We all have a survival coping mechanism, which is gonna be freeze, fight, flight, or fawn. 00:17:55.680 --> 00:18:08.000 So you'll notice that at times when you're experiencing stress, sometimes you may not notice because you're so used to it, but you'll notice in times of stress, you'll react in one of those ways. 00:18:08.160 --> 00:18:16.559 You're either gonna freeze, I'm a big freezer, I literally even get cold, or I'll just kind of like it's annoying. 00:18:16.720 --> 00:18:57.359 But you'll freeze, or you'll fight where you're trying to prove, or you're trying to push through, or you might start little arguments or being overly sarcastic, or you'll fawn where you'll people please your way out of the situation, or try to smooth things over, or overgive and undercharge, things like that, or you'll flight where you are trying to get away from the situation, but you might do

it by trying to distract yourself, procrastinating, or you can even do it by over-planning or over-analyzing a situation where you kind of become more disconnected from your body because you're living in your head so much. 00:18:57.599 --> 00:19:15.440 So if you can start recognizing what that pattern is, you can start recognizing when you start utilizing those stress patterns, that's gonna be your cue to let you know, okay, we can either stay in survival or we can start to shift things. 00:19:15.599 --> 00:19:17.279 So the first step is awareness. 00:19:17.440 --> 00:19:20.559 And I really figure out what your unique pattern is. 00:19:20.720 --> 00:19:22.079 I've created like a whole quiz. 00:19:22.160 --> 00:19:36.960 It's really short, it's only like a couple minutes, but that will help you just kind of figure out where that burnout loop comes from, especially if you notice that you've changed jobs, you've changed relationships, you've changed a whole bunch, but the outcome stays the same. 00:19:37.200 --> 00:19:45.759 There's an unconscious pattern that's in your nervous system that you don't realize is there that's driving that burnout cycle. 00:19:46.960 --> 00:19:50.400 So those are some of the patterns that can come up. 00:19:50.720 --> 00:20:08.000 And a lot of times it's hard to recognize, especially if you grew up in like really chaotic environments or survival modes at home or a lot of instability where your stress system was kicked in at an early age. 00:20:08.079 --> 00:20:16.640 And so over time, if you can had to continuously activate that survival pattern, it can actually reshape your personality. 00:20:16.880 --> 00:20:25.680 So some of us have it so ingrained that we don't realize that we are activating or acting out from our survival version of ourselves. 00:20:25.839 --> 00:20:30.400 We don't realize that there's like a whole different version of who we're really designed to be. 00:20:30.559 --> 00:20:38.640 And that's that version is the one that allows for you to receive all of the abundance and the things that you desire. 00:20:38.799 --> 00:20:45.680 But many of us have been so wrapped up in survival mode, we can't, it's hard to overcome that at times. 00:20:45.920 --> 00:20:54.960 Gosh, and isn't it incredible to think that that true version of us, who we were always meant to be, who maybe we used to be. 00:20:55.920 --> 00:21:09.359 There were glimpses of who we used to be, is still there and is ready to play and explore and be seen and fall in love and go on adventures and write and create and enjoy your life. 00:21:09.680 --> 00:21:13.839 And you guys, it doesn't have to be so hard. 00:21:14.720 --> 00:21:18.640 I know we just want to take everyone in love. 00:21:22.160 --> 00:21:23.759 I know, I know. 00:21:24.160 --> 00:21:35.119 But when you're like so wrapped up in it and your body's like, we gotta survive, I mean, it's like you it's so hard to even think differently because you can't relax. 00:21:35.519 --> 00:21:41.599 So that's why it's so important to at least have the awareness, so then you can start to shift it. 00:21:41.759 --> 00:21:47.039 Because if you're not aware, you're just gonna keep creating these loops and not know why it's happening. 00:21:47.359 --> 00:21:48.160 That's right. 00:21:48.400 --> 00:21:51.680 And all of us have been through unbelievable stuff. 00:21:51.839 --> 00:21:56.160 And I've had people say to me, you know, I don't think I I've actually had a really blessed life. 00:21:56.319 --> 00:21:59.759 I haven't, you know, nobody abused me or I wasn't cheated on. 00:22:00.319 --> 00:22:03.279 Or, you know, I didn't have this disorder or this disorder. 00:22:03.359 --> 00:22:05.039 Like I've got a pretty blessed life. 00:22:05.119 --> 00:22:28.640 And it's like nine times out of ten, or like nine and a half times, nine point nine times out of ten, they're just really good at coping and not realizing that something really hurt them or affected them, even if it was like getting bullied or you know, things that we tend to just think, oh, this is just normal because kids are jerks or or whatnot. 00:22:28.799 --> 00:22:36.880 It's like actually, we're all sensitive beings and our our pain threshold is all different. 00:22:36.960 --> 00:22:48.079 And depending on who raised you or who your dominant parent was, or what maybe you watched or read, you think that you just are supposed to grin and bear it, and this is normal. 00:22:48.240 --> 00:22:59.039 And, you know, I'm not going towards like that everyone gets a trophy type of mentality, but we are all sensitive and unique and lovely and brilliant. 00:22:59.119 --> 00:23:02.640 And we do deserve to be loved and held, especially by ourselves. 00:23:03.759 --> 00:23:21.519 So I encourage everyone to be willing to look at their stuff and go, yeah, actually, you know what, you know when I noticed it, Lindsay, is when the other day I was playing back a reading that I had with my astrologer. 00:23:22.480 --> 00:23:25.759 And we got into a conversation about cults. 00:23:26.640 --> 00:23:29.200 And I said, Oh yeah, my dad was in a cult. 00:23:29.440 --> 00:23:32.240 And my mother protected us from that, and I wasn't in it. 00:23:32.319 --> 00:23:40.000 But the cult used to try to kidnap me, and they would show up at my house, they would break into my house, they tried to kidnap me twice. 00:23:40.160 --> 00:23:46.160 When they found out I was a vegetarian, they would leave dead animals on my doorstep, like that face, right? 00:23:46.319 --> 00:23:50.240 And so I'm just telling this story, like, oh yeah, that was just like my upbringing. 00:23:50.319 --> 00:23:56.559 Like, but I think of so many other awful things that I had been through that, like at this point in life, like that's not a big deal. 00:23:56.640 --> 00:24:06.640 And anyhow, I was listening to this replay of this recording because I was trying to find certain astrological dates from their astrology reading, and we just had

this sidebar conversation. 00:24:06.799 --> 00:24:08.960 His name's Jade Luna, he's amazing, by the way. 00:24:09.119 --> 00:24:11.920 And he's been on this show twice, if you want to go back and look. 00:24:12.240 --> 00:24:19.680 And my friend was in the kitchen and she goes, Alicia, pause your computer. 00:24:20.240 --> 00:24:20.960 I was like, What? 00:24:21.039 --> 00:24:27.039 And she goes, Oh my gosh, like you went, I thought I knew all the terrible things you you went through. 00:24:27.119 --> 00:24:29.359 That and I was like, Yeah. 00:24:29.599 --> 00:24:37.359 And then I had this moment, Lindsay, that we're talking about right now of like, yeah, it was just some like awful thing that I went through, but like I got through it. 00:24:37.440 --> 00:24:38.319 And it's like, did you? 00:24:38.480 --> 00:24:44.480 Like, you also got breast cancer, you had an eating disorder, you were in terrible relationships. 00:24:44.640 --> 00:24:49.039 Like, Alicia, did you really like how well did you just smooth through that one? 00:24:49.119 --> 00:24:57.440 No, it was like years of undoing, years of telling myself I'm safe in my own home and my body, I'm safe to have pets. 00:24:57.599 --> 00:25:02.480 Like, even now, the my husband and I fight more than anything about our pets, of the safety of our pets. 00:25:03.200 --> 00:25:07.039 I'm like, oh my gosh, like I think I'm even realizing this as I'm talking to you now, Lindsay. 00:25:07.119 --> 00:25:08.960 This is how safe of a space she is, you guys. 00:25:09.519 --> 00:25:12.319 Like that comes from that, right? 00:25:13.039 --> 00:25:19.119 Like we have all this stuff that we just think, oh, I just got like this is just life, and you just get through it. 00:25:19.359 --> 00:25:24.319 And if life made you hard, you can make yourself soft again. 00:25:24.400 --> 00:25:26.000 And that's what Lindsay helps you do. 00:25:26.240 --> 00:25:26.960 That's right. 00:25:27.119 --> 00:25:27.839 Absolutely. 00:25:28.079 --> 00:25:37.680 So, another thing that you do, sweetheart, that's so connected to what I just talked about is healing burnout through pleasure and redefining recovery through nervous system repair. 00:25:37.759 --> 00:25:40.160 Cause that that's a big part of it, right? 00:25:40.240 --> 00:25:42.400 And a lot of people are talking about the nervous system right now. 00:25:42.480 --> 00:25:44.960 And I think it's there's a time to talk about it. 00:25:45.680 --> 00:25:46.720 And pleasure. 00:25:46.960 --> 00:25:48.559 Sacred pleasure. 00:25:49.680 --> 00:25:51.359 I'm just gonna hand you the mic. 00:25:51.680 --> 00:25:52.000 Okay. 00:25:53.519 --> 00:26:10.640 Well, I definitely want to make a distinction on what sacred pleasure is and what that means, because a lot of times we already have a kind of a belief of what we think pleasure is, and sometimes we think, oh, just immoderation, or it's overindulgent, or it's bad, or whatever. 00:26:10.880 --> 00:26:22.960 And we can have shadow pleasure, which is, you know, the drinking, the binging on whatever, the sugar, whatever it is that's gonna deteriorate your body, right? 00:26:23.200 --> 00:26:25.759 So those would be shadowy forms of pleasure. 00:26:25.839 --> 00:26:28.880 There's always a shadow and a light in everything. 00:26:29.039 --> 00:26:36.000 But the sacred pleasure is really about being intentional about how you want to feel good. 00:26:36.480 --> 00:26:38.880 And so I'll give you an example the other day. 00:26:39.039 --> 00:26:44.240 And this is gonna take a little time if you've been disconnected from yourself for a while. 00:26:44.400 --> 00:26:51.279 But if you can just pay attention a little bit more, you'll be able to actually work with your body's natural system. 00:26:51.519 --> 00:26:57.759 So your your body's design, your nervous system is designed to either get away from pain and move towards pleasure. 00:26:57.839 --> 00:26:58.960 So it's got two modes. 00:26:59.119 --> 00:27:02.079 So it activates pleasure regardless. 00:27:02.319 --> 00:27:07.279 So when you feel angry or you feel upset, your body releases endorphins when you feel pain. 00:27:07.440 --> 00:27:11.039 So it's the body's natural way of healing itself. 00:27:11.200 --> 00:27:20.319 But if we can be intentional about the way we use pleasure, that's gonna put you in a state of healing instead of this like loop pattern. 00:27:20.960 --> 00:27:32.559 So, an example I have is a couple of uh weeks ago, I just felt this craving of I wanted to go somewhere old. 00:27:32.960 --> 00:27:36.720 Like I wanted to smell old smells. 00:27:37.039 --> 00:27:41.839 And I was like, but I want to go somewhere where I actually know someone. 00:27:42.000 --> 00:27:49.440 Like in my mind, I'm like, I wish I could go to like a friend's old mom and pop store, but that didn't exist. 00:27:49.759 --> 00:27:52.640 So, but that was like a craving I had. 00:27:52.720 --> 00:27:54.559 I was like, why am I craving that right now? 00:27:54.720 --> 00:28:00.960 So I actually just decided to go visit my dad, who's actually he's um going through chemo right now. 00:28:01.119 --> 00:28:12.079 So I went to go see my dad, and that was a space that has all those old smells and reminders of childhood memories and all of that good stuff. 00:28:12.400 --> 00:28:14.799 And after I left, I felt great. 00:28:14.960 --> 00:28:16.559 What was the science behind that? 00:28:16.799 --> 00:28:30.319 It that like nostalgia or even trying new things can boost dopamine, and so I didn't realize it, but that part of my pleasure chemistry was low. 00:28:30.799 --> 00:28:36.000 But a lot of times we'll just override our thoughts and be, oh, that's weird. 00:28:36.160 --> 00:28:38.000 I don't know, why would I think that? 00:28:38.160 --> 00:28:45.119 And we'll just kind of go right back into whatever we're doing that's not helping our bodies heal. 00:28:45.279 --> 00:28:57.359 And so it really starts from taking time to listen to yourself and

just kind of exploring those ideas or hunches or thoughts that come up versus shutting them down. 00:28:57.599 --> 00:28:58.960 So that's kind of the first step. 00:28:59.119 --> 00:29:18.880 Like if we have cravings for something or we're just kind of having this desire to do a certain thing, it's probably a clue that your body is really trying to regulate itself and not to overthink it too much or like get stuck in your head that it's weird or it doesn't make sense or it doesn't fit in your day. 00:29:19.599 --> 00:29:19.839 Yeah. 00:29:20.000 --> 00:29:26.160 And people tend to think intuition has to be psychic stuff or, you know, woo-woo. 00:29:26.319 --> 00:29:31.759 And truly, it's our sense that our body is telling us what we need. 00:29:31.920 --> 00:29:37.359 You know, it's like even if you're craving, you might be craving an orange, and it's like, oh, you just need some vitamin C. 00:29:37.440 --> 00:29:40.640 Like your vitamin C might be low, or you're craving going outside. 00:29:40.799 --> 00:29:44.880 Okay, well, you know, you need that hit from the sun, like you're talking about. 00:29:45.119 --> 00:29:54.480 So it's just about listening to ourselves and knowing we're safe to do that, choosing to do it, remembering that we have the choice to do it. 00:29:54.559 --> 00:29:56.319 Like we keep backing it up, backing it up. 00:29:56.400 --> 00:29:59.200 It's like, oh, wait, I have another choice. 00:29:59.359 --> 00:30:06.559 I can pause, you know, unless you are literally like hosing water on a burning fire, you have a second. 00:30:07.119 --> 00:30:08.960 Yes, absolutely. 00:30:09.359 --> 00:30:19.680 So that's that's kind of the first step that I would take in in whatever situation, because it could be different for maybe there's not a stressful trigger, but you just have a craving for something. 00:30:19.920 --> 00:30:22.079 I just have a couple little practices. 00:30:22.240 --> 00:30:27.599 I jot it down in case if you find yourself into some of those survival patterns. 00:30:27.759 --> 00:30:37.119 So if you notice that you're ready to like pick a fight, you're feeling really annoyed, or you're feeling super irritable, or you're not even maybe, maybe you're not angry. 00:30:37.279 --> 00:30:43.039 Maybe you're just trying to like push really hard for something, you're most likely in the fight mode. 00:30:43.279 --> 00:30:52.240 And so that is kind of like the default survival mode, but it does have some power behind it, which is going to be like setting boundaries and leadership. 00:30:52.319 --> 00:31:06.079 And sometimes there is a time and place for fight, but some things that you can do, rage rituals where you kind of just scream into like a towel or just kind of get that energy out. 00:31:06.160 --> 00:31:10.000 It's an abundance of fiery energy that you may be having. 00:31:10.240 --> 00:31:18.000 Sometimes what I like to do is if I feel really angry about something, I'll write it all out and then I'll burn it and just kind of watch it burn. 00:31:18.079 --> 00:31:25.039 And even smelling the smoke of the fire can actually be very soothing for the nervous system during that time as well. 00:31:25.200 --> 00:31:29.599 Of course, if it's not too smoky, like please don't like smoke yourself out, please. 00:31:29.839 --> 00:31:31.359 Nobody burn your house down, okay? 00:31:32.480 --> 00:31:34.160 Let's not like come on, guys. 00:31:34.240 --> 00:31:34.799 Let's right. 00:31:34.880 --> 00:31:37.680 And you know, some safe ways that's one of my favorite ways, too. 00:31:37.759 --> 00:31:39.519 I'm very, you know, kind of witchy about it. 00:31:39.680 --> 00:31:53.359 But I'll even just I have a metal sink, so I'll even just like have the water going really slow on one end of the sink at front of the faucet, and then just like burnt that should burn it, and then like as it's burning, the flame gets a little high, just bring this faucet over. 00:31:53.680 --> 00:31:55.440 Okay, so do this mindfully. 00:31:55.519 --> 00:31:56.480 But yeah, those are great. 00:31:56.559 --> 00:31:57.359 What else you got? 00:31:57.519 --> 00:32:04.000 Yeah, or you can also do some more cardio or some good higher energy dancing exercises as well. 00:32:04.079 --> 00:32:08.319 So if you want to just like get some energy out, that's really good if you're in that flight mode. 00:32:08.559 --> 00:32:15.839 If you find yourself kind of overthinking or rushing or getting really panicky, then you're likely in flight mode. 00:32:16.079 --> 00:32:26.720 Power behind flight mode is that it can help you with movement, it can help you with innovation, it can help you with kind of creating some future thoughts and preparing for the future. 00:32:26.799 --> 00:32:35.440 So it has some advantages, but if you notice that it's in response to like stress, some things you can do is um just some more grounding rituals. 00:32:35.680 --> 00:32:40.400 So getting your feet on the ground outside, that can help. 00:32:40.559 --> 00:32:44.000 I'm using a weighted blanket, just kind of weighing the body down. 00:32:44.160 --> 00:32:48.480 That's gonna help bring you back to center as much as possible. 00:32:48.720 --> 00:32:52.160 You can even just kind of ask yourself, what am I avoiding right now? 00:32:52.319 --> 00:32:54.319 Like what am I trying to get away from? 00:32:54.480 --> 00:33:00.480 And just be honest and recognize what that feeling is trying to tell you. 00:33:01.519 --> 00:33:11.039 If you notice that you're going into people-pleasing and over-accommodating and approval seeking, then you're likely in fawn mode. 00:33:11.279 --> 00:33:18.799 Of course, the light side of fawn is like compassion and empathy and you know, sacred service, things like that. 00:33:18.960 --> 00:33:21.359 So it has some good strengths as well. 00:33:21.440 --> 00:33:26.000 But if we find that we're in fawn, some things we could do. 00:33:27.599 --> 00:33:29.759 Um, covering my face right now. 00:33:29.839 --> 00:33:30.400

That's my thing. 00:33:30.720 --> 00:33:34.079 That was my thing, and that actually led me into burnout as well. 00:33:34.240 --> 00:33:47.279 Because I was like times where I probably could have charged appropriately and made more money so I didn't have to work as hard and stay stuck in burnout, I was stuck in fawn mode because I was in a space of survival. 00:33:47.519 --> 00:33:49.279 So it happens, it's okay. 00:33:49.440 --> 00:33:49.839 Yeah, yeah. 00:33:49.920 --> 00:33:52.000 I'm good, I'm pretty good at charging my worth. 00:33:52.160 --> 00:33:58.319 I just sometimes, if I think I've upset someone, and this goes back to a trauma response. 00:33:58.480 --> 00:34:02.319 If I think anyone's upset with me, like my whole world shuts down. 00:34:02.640 --> 00:34:04.559 And it's all I can focus on. 00:34:04.720 --> 00:34:05.599 I want to make things better. 00:34:05.680 --> 00:34:07.599 And like I just might be even in my head about it. 00:34:07.759 --> 00:34:09.440 So, like, the are you okay? 00:34:09.760 --> 00:34:10.960 Is everyone else okay? 00:34:11.119 --> 00:34:11.920 It's what is it? 00:34:12.000 --> 00:34:15.199 It's a distraction of no, Alicia, you know who's not okay? 00:34:15.519 --> 00:34:16.880 Look in the mirror. 00:34:17.199 --> 00:34:19.039 Let's ask you, are you okay? 00:34:19.679 --> 00:34:20.960 All right, back to the expert. 00:34:21.199 --> 00:34:26.880 No, no, and what we don't realize a lot of times is we actually end up doing self-abandonment. 00:34:27.039 --> 00:34:35.519 So we're so focused on being there for everyone else, but like the irony is that we're losing low loyalty towards ourselves. 00:34:35.679 --> 00:34:41.840 So you can't be loyal to everything and be loyal to yourself at the same time when they're not aligned. 00:34:42.000 --> 00:34:43.519 So do remember that. 00:34:45.119 --> 00:34:56.639 So mirror work is really powerful, just taking a moment to really look at yourself and recognize that you matter and affirm your worth on a regular basis. 00:34:56.800 --> 00:35:02.000 And I did that during a time where I needed to heal and it did actually start shifting things for me. 00:35:02.079 --> 00:35:03.199 It's hard to do at first. 00:35:03.280 --> 00:35:06.000 Like the very first time I did it, I was like, this feels weird. 00:35:06.239 --> 00:35:09.679 Or man, I never really took the time to really look at myself. 00:35:09.920 --> 00:35:11.679 So that's something that you could do. 00:35:11.840 --> 00:35:15.920 You can also practice a lot of times we hold a lot in, we don't speak. 00:35:16.559 --> 00:35:28.559 So you can even do some humming, and that will reset your vagus nerve, which is kind of like the biggest nerve of a nervous system, which starts here, and that will actually reset your digestion. 00:35:28.719 --> 00:35:30.480 So I do it right now, yeah. 00:35:30.639 --> 00:35:40.000 So you can just and you can actually just feel the vibration too. 00:35:40.079 --> 00:35:50.880 Just I know I'm trying

to make a song out of it. 00:35:51.360 --> 00:35:52.639 Come with us, everybody. 00:35:52.960 --> 00:35:53.920 Come with us. 00:35:57.360 --> 00:35:59.119 So, what's happening with the vagus nerve? 00:35:59.199 --> 00:36:00.320 What is the vagus nerve? 00:36:00.559 --> 00:36:09.039 The vagus nerve is the largest nerve in your nervous system, and it starts all the way from your throat and goes all the way down to your digestive system. 00:36:09.280 --> 00:36:17.519 So sometimes if you notice, if you feel really anxious, your stomach kind of gets up in knots and it gets really um flippy or something like that. 00:36:17.840 --> 00:36:19.840 That will actually reset that. 00:36:20.480 --> 00:36:30.480 And so sometimes you may notice, even unconsciously, if you feel a little stressed, you might hum a little song or you might do that and not realize that you're doing it. 00:36:30.639 --> 00:36:36.480 Or you can do some deep breathing that also reactivates or resets the vagus nerve as well. 00:36:36.960 --> 00:36:47.360 So a lot of times when people have trouble with speaking out and activating that throat chakra, they'll notice they'll have digestive issues too. 00:36:47.440 --> 00:36:49.199 So it's all connected. 00:36:49.519 --> 00:36:50.079 I love that. 00:36:50.239 --> 00:36:54.960 So whenever I do a coaching container, I focus on the chakra. 00:36:55.039 --> 00:37:00.480 And I just wrapped up the Emerald Collective on the heart chakra, and now we're doing the sapphire collective for the throat chakra. 00:37:00.719 --> 00:37:01.039 Nice. 00:37:01.519 --> 00:37:03.519 Yeah, to just like expand, get that out. 00:37:03.599 --> 00:37:06.400 So I didn't even know that it was connected to the vagus nerve. 00:37:06.480 --> 00:37:13.199 And even when knowing the name of your rebrand of she sacral, I was like, yes, this makes so much sense with our sacral chakra. 00:37:13.280 --> 00:37:13.920 And that's right. 00:37:14.079 --> 00:37:16.960 I know you know a lot about chakras, and my audience loves them. 00:37:17.199 --> 00:37:19.039 So, or at least they're learning too. 00:37:19.280 --> 00:37:19.440 Yeah. 00:37:19.679 --> 00:37:20.639 Good, good, good. 00:37:21.280 --> 00:37:25.360 So that's what they could do if you notice yourself kind of over pleasing. 00:37:25.440 --> 00:37:29.840 Just come back to yourself and really ask, what do I need right now? 00:37:30.079 --> 00:37:34.400 What is something that is going to take care of me in this moment? 00:37:34.719 --> 00:37:37.920 And also pausing before you react. 00:37:38.320 --> 00:37:40.320 Pausing before you ask, are you okay? 00:37:40.480 --> 00:37:42.000 Really ask, what did I do? 00:37:42.079 --> 00:37:43.920 Like, did I really do something wrong? 00:37:44.159 --> 00:37:49.280 Or if somebody asks you for something, don't react and say yes right away. 00:37:49.440 --> 00:37:51.119 Take a moment and look at my schedule. 00:37:51.199 --> 00:37:51.840 I'll get back to you. 00:37:52.000 --> 00:37:53.840 So it just depends on the situation. 00:37:54.000 --> 00:37:56.000 But those are things you could do. 00:37:56.239 --> 00:38:00.159 That that last thing you said, that's been a big one in my life that's helped me so much. 00:38:00.400 --> 00:38:00.719 Really? 00:38:00.960 --> 00:38:07.840 Especially in yeah, in knowing like when someone is upset or if I think they're upset, I pause and I go, are they actually upset? 00:38:07.920 --> 00:38:14.639 And the amount that I'm reacting to it, go, how much of this is real and how much of this is like 12-year-old Alicia that was traumatized. 00:38:15.199 --> 00:38:15.599 Right. 00:38:15.920 --> 00:38:17.199 So that's key. 00:38:17.360 --> 00:38:18.400 Just pause and sit. 00:38:18.480 --> 00:38:22.079 There's a Pearl Jam song called Don't React, Respond. 00:38:22.480 --> 00:38:22.960 Yes. 00:38:23.199 --> 00:38:24.320 And I love that song. 00:38:24.559 --> 00:38:35.360 It's so helpful, especially when you have tried to learn how to navigate chaos through keeping the waters calm as much as possible. 00:38:35.519 --> 00:38:42.320 Even though you're holding all this fire in and you're just taking it all and it's eating away at you, it is affecting you. 00:38:42.559 --> 00:38:44.559 We want to make sure that we're keeping balance. 00:38:44.880 --> 00:38:46.559 So that's important. 00:38:46.800 --> 00:38:50.079 And then freeze for my freezers out there. 00:38:50.320 --> 00:38:53.039 You literally want to warm up your body as much as possible. 00:38:53.119 --> 00:39:00.239 So even just like warming up your hands, you'll oftentimes dissociate from your body when you are in freeze mode. 00:39:00.480 --> 00:39:07.360 So you might live in your mind a whole lot more, but your body is still here, or you might just feel like just stuck. 00:39:07.599 --> 00:39:19.440 Sometimes timers are really helpful just to create a little bit of urgency to snap you out of those moments, getting your hands in some like warm water as well, and just kind of waking the body up. 00:39:19.599 --> 00:39:34.800 So we want to get into kind of wake mode, wake up mode, and then kind of shaking the body a little bit, just kind of do a little, a little shake, a little shoulder shake that can also help reset the body because what we don't realize is all animals in the wild go through these survival patterns. 00:39:35.119 --> 00:39:36.159 I was thinking that. 00:39:36.960 --> 00:39:41.280 Yeah, so many times I'm like, wait, my dog, everything you've said of like my dog naturally does that. 00:39:41.519 --> 00:39:42.159 Yeah. 00:39:42.480 --> 00:39:42.800 Yeah. 00:39:43.039 --> 00:39:44.719 So animals already do this. 00:39:44.800 --> 00:39:58.239 And so they kind of the advantage of their primal state knows how to regulate itself, but because our minds are so active, we can literally keep reactivating that stress cycle and stay in it. 00:39:58.480 --> 00:40:05.519 And so that creates that chronic stress loop where it can completely redefine you.

00:40:05.760 --> 00:40:12.079 So we're all we're all beings, we all have this survival system, which is awesome. 00:40:12.320 --> 00:40:15.679 I love that, but a lot of times we just don't know how to work with it. 00:40:15.920 --> 00:40:20.159 So we get in our heads and we say, like, oh, I don't know why, why would I do that? 00:40:20.239 --> 00:40:21.920 Or I don't, I need proof. 00:40:22.079 --> 00:40:26.559 You know, we kind of get stuck in this, and that keeps us from healing properly. 00:40:26.880 --> 00:40:27.280 Wow. 00:40:27.440 --> 00:40:34.960 Well, I hope everyone looks at the links and takes this burnout pattern quiz and reaches out to Lindsay to get it. 00:40:35.039 --> 00:40:36.960 She offers a 30-day pleasure reset. 00:40:37.039 --> 00:40:39.119 There's so many different ways to work with her one-on-one. 00:40:39.360 --> 00:40:45.039 And depending on when you find this episode in the future, just go to her website, shacral.com. 00:40:45.119 --> 00:40:49.360 There's gonna be more, more in there than we've even covered today. 00:40:49.760 --> 00:40:53.920 And was there anything else you wanted to say about that before I tell you my quiz results? 00:40:54.159 --> 00:40:55.199 Um, no, no, we're good. 00:40:55.280 --> 00:40:56.400 I want to hear what'd you get? 00:40:56.719 --> 00:40:58.000 So I took the quiz. 00:40:58.159 --> 00:40:58.400 Yes. 00:40:58.639 --> 00:41:00.719 No surprise, I'm a harmonizer. 00:41:01.599 --> 00:41:02.239 Wow. 00:41:03.280 --> 00:41:03.599 Okay. 00:41:04.159 --> 00:41:05.199 That makes sense. 00:41:05.679 --> 00:41:08.639 So that aligns with what you're just saying, right? 00:41:08.880 --> 00:41:09.440 It does. 00:41:09.599 --> 00:41:10.000 It does. 00:41:10.079 --> 00:41:11.920 And obviously, there's more in the email. 00:41:12.000 --> 00:41:15.199 So make sure you put in your email to get the full details of your results. 00:41:15.360 --> 00:41:23.199 But the first page just says you're warm and connective, bringing people together in harmony, but in burnout, constant peacemaking drains your body and spirit. 00:41:23.360 --> 00:41:27.039 Your recovery begins with boundaries that protect your glow. 00:41:27.199 --> 00:41:30.159 Look at this neon sign behind me, and you've got one too. 00:41:30.239 --> 00:41:32.559 And we both have the same response. 00:41:32.639 --> 00:41:35.199 And I'm sure many people listening and watching do too. 00:41:35.360 --> 00:41:36.880 So tell me a little bit more about this. 00:41:36.960 --> 00:41:40.719 And I'm going to return the gift by pulling some cards for you and our audience after this. 00:41:40.960 --> 00:41:42.159 Oh, beautiful. 00:41:42.400 --> 00:41:43.360 And I just had a moment. 00:41:43.440 --> 00:41:46.719 So I paused for a second to tell Lindsay I had to go pee real quick. 00:41:47.039 --> 00:41:59.840 And I came back and I thought, wow, I've come so far because I remember being five years old in karate practice, and I was so nervous to disrupt the class. 00:41:59.920 --> 00:42:07.039 I held my pee as long as I could, and I wound up peeing and standing in my own pee in class, hoping everybody. 00:42:07.679 --> 00:42:09.679 I know, sweet little Alicia. 00:42:10.639 --> 00:42:20.320 She was so scared to be disruptive and to be upset anyone or get you know extra attention or miss anything, right? 00:42:20.400 --> 00:42:22.239 And now I'm like, hey, I gotta pee out right back. 00:42:22.400 --> 00:42:27.760 I'm like, go you, like almost 40 years later, I'm like, I got this job. 00:42:28.639 --> 00:42:29.840 Good job, little Lily. 00:42:30.480 --> 00:42:34.239 That reminds me, I had an experience like that, similar. 00:42:34.400 --> 00:42:39.280 I remember I was like six, six, six, five or six years old. 00:42:39.440 --> 00:42:41.280 And my mom's like, Do you have to go to the bathroom? 00:42:41.360 --> 00:42:47.199 I was for a Halloween costume party or or a contest at the mall. 00:42:47.679 --> 00:42:48.480 So cool. 00:42:48.719 --> 00:42:50.960 And my mom said, Do you have to go to the bathroom? 00:42:51.280 --> 00:42:54.800 And I was like, No, but I was so nervous. 00:42:54.960 --> 00:42:55.840 I just said, No. 00:42:56.000 --> 00:42:57.360 And she said, Okay. 00:42:58.400 --> 00:43:03.440 So then we got to the stage and I was like two kids away, and I just peed on myself. 00:43:06.719 --> 00:43:07.760 What was your costume? 00:43:08.400 --> 00:43:11.199 I was an angel all white. 00:43:13.039 --> 00:43:24.239 So now I'm like thinking back, like I I didn't even know I was probably peeing because I I just my body, I was so nervous that I just peed and mommed me up. 00:43:24.559 --> 00:43:26.480 Like I like I got it. 00:43:26.639 --> 00:43:28.239 She's like, you embarrassed me. 00:43:28.320 --> 00:43:29.920 I can't believe you did this. 00:43:31.199 --> 00:43:32.719 I think I deleted that memory. 00:43:32.800 --> 00:43:34.079 Thanks a lot for bringing it back. 00:43:36.400 --> 00:43:41.519 You're welcome because now, oh my gosh. 00:43:41.840 --> 00:43:52.559 That I never realized it because I always have like kind of this a fear, not a fear, but a hesitation with really fully being visible. 00:43:52.719 --> 00:43:54.559 I've noticed I'm working on it. 00:43:54.800 --> 00:43:57.840 And that might actually play a role. 00:43:58.000 --> 00:43:59.599 I always thought it was because I was bullied. 00:44:00.159 --> 00:44:05.679 Growing up, like in middle school, but now I'm like, oh my gosh, that's probably a subconscious thing. 00:44:06.559 --> 00:44:09.760 Oh that's crazy. 00:44:10.079 --> 00:44:10.960 Anyway. 00:44:12.079 --> 00:44:14.719 Look at us having breakthroughs on this show. 00:44:16.639 --> 00:44:18.079 That's crazy. 00:44:18.639 --> 00:44:19.280 I love it. 00:44:19.360 --> 00:44:23.840 I love how the universe just put us together so we both could expand from that memory. 00:44:23.920 --> 00:44:29.119 And everyone listening and watching right now is thinking back to when they were little and

like something like that, right? 00:44:29.280 --> 00:44:32.480 Where they didn't speak up for themselves or they got scared. 00:44:32.639 --> 00:44:45.519 And it's true when I went to hypnotherapy college, they taught us most of our responses as adults come from patterns that are developed, you know, and synapses in our brain that are created when we're between the ages of two and nine. 00:44:45.679 --> 00:44:49.519 We think like that's the truth and how we're supposed to respond for the rest of our lives. 00:44:49.599 --> 00:44:57.360 And we have to do all this deprogramming and changing and work to like unlearn all this stuff as adults. 00:44:57.519 --> 00:45:02.079 It's like no wonder, like, you know, parents are always so scared they're gonna mess up their kids. 00:45:02.159 --> 00:45:04.800 And it's like, you will, it's okay. 00:45:05.199 --> 00:45:09.039 Like you bounce, you'll bounce back and they'll they'll make a great podcast. 00:45:12.239 --> 00:45:14.159 Oh my god, I love you. 00:45:14.320 --> 00:45:15.199 Oh gosh. 00:45:15.360 --> 00:45:20.800 Okay, so I'm gonna share a little deeper into you being the harmonizer. 00:45:21.039 --> 00:45:24.320 So if this isn't right, then let me know. 00:45:24.480 --> 00:45:35.440 But it is it sounds like you're likely to be an extrovert and that you crave security and that you lead from your heart. 00:45:36.159 --> 00:45:40.960 So it sounds like you need emotional and relational safety. 00:45:41.119 --> 00:45:43.679 So you need to feel safe in your relationships. 00:45:43.920 --> 00:45:50.000 You may burn out when you're surrounded by a lot of conflict or instability or unreliable people. 00:45:50.880 --> 00:46:00.000 You may thrive in community, expression, and connection, but you may burn out when you feel silenced, ignored, or disconnected from others. 00:46:00.239 --> 00:46:10.559 You lead with empathy, warmth, and care, but you can burn out from people pleasing, emotional overextending, and carrying the group's harmony on your shoulders. 00:46:10.800 --> 00:46:13.760 Does that sound in alignment? 00:46:14.000 --> 00:46:20.000 Yeah, you know, the introvert-extrovert thing is always back and forth with me when I'm day, right? 00:46:20.239 --> 00:46:24.079 Yeah, when I took my Myers Briggs a couple of times, and I'm always an INFJ. 00:46:24.159 --> 00:46:30.239 So I always start with the introvert side and I love these intimate conversations, but I love public speaking. 00:46:30.400 --> 00:46:33.440 I love officiating weddings, I love leading group coaching calls. 00:46:33.599 --> 00:46:37.440 And in the quiz, there was a question about being alone versus being with people. 00:46:37.840 --> 00:46:43.519 And I do find, although I crave alone time and I need alone time and I do recharge on alone time. 00:46:44.000 --> 00:46:51.519 When I have my people, like my people around me and happiness and joy and laughter and friends around me, I snap back better. 00:46:51.599 --> 00:46:54.159 I'm more inspired, I love going to concerts. 00:46:54.400 --> 00:47:00.880 So there is something in my healing that's connected with people, but I can be quite shy. 00:47:01.360 --> 00:47:09.760 And I don't know if extrovertedness and shyness, what the connection is there, but I'm a wallflower at a party. 00:47:09.920 --> 00:47:11.360 I'm not the center of attention. 00:47:11.519 --> 00:47:15.440 And when I get attention, I start getting nervous, but then I start to like it. 00:47:15.679 --> 00:47:16.000 Right? 00:47:16.559 --> 00:47:17.039 Yeah. 00:47:17.440 --> 00:47:19.039 I'm also an INFJ. 00:47:19.440 --> 00:47:20.559 You are, yeah. 00:47:20.719 --> 00:47:24.639 But there, you know, there's a spectrum for each of those traits. 00:47:24.719 --> 00:47:31.119 And I actually did a full podcast series on the burnout archetypes for every personality uh type. 00:47:31.280 --> 00:47:32.559 So we just wrap that up. 00:47:32.719 --> 00:47:38.079 If you want to check that out, I will so there's a that spectrum between like introvert and extrovert. 00:47:38.239 --> 00:47:44.960 So sometimes I listen to like multiples of the different episodes because I might be higher in one over the other. 00:47:45.039 --> 00:47:56.800 So they all overlap, you know, we can't like totally box ourselves in completely, but it's just like a little guide in a way to see where we also end up burning. 00:47:57.199 --> 00:48:00.400 The last thing here, read the last couple sentences you said again. 00:48:00.800 --> 00:48:11.199 You lead with warmth, empathy, and care, but you may burn out from people pleasing, emotional overextending, and carrying the group's harmony on your shoulders. 00:48:11.440 --> 00:48:12.000 That's what it was. 00:48:12.079 --> 00:48:16.000 Okay, so in 2024, I paused my Sapphire Collective. 00:48:16.079 --> 00:48:17.519 It was a different version than I'm doing now. 00:48:17.599 --> 00:48:19.119 Right now I'm doing a 90-day pop-up. 00:48:19.599 --> 00:48:22.639 And depending on when people find this episode, that pop-up might be over. 00:48:22.719 --> 00:48:24.000 I might be doing a different one. 00:48:24.159 --> 00:48:26.400 But there's always fun ways to work with me. 00:48:26.719 --> 00:48:28.880 And I think that was it. 00:48:29.039 --> 00:48:33.280 And I couldn't quite put it into words, but what you said now really resonates. 00:48:33.920 --> 00:48:36.159 I love leading group calls. 00:48:36.400 --> 00:48:39.440 I love teaching, I love guiding, I love channeling. 00:48:39.679 --> 00:48:47.440 But there were some things happening in the group dynamic where like some people were mad at each other, and like I couldn't fix that or help that. 00:48:47.519 --> 00:48:51.519 You know, people started collaborating, it didn't go well, and like I can't fix that or control that. 00:48:51.679 --> 00:48:55.360 Like you bring people together in a group, some people are gonna make friends, some people aren't. 00:48:55.599 --> 00:49:03.360 Some people wanted to leave

because they didn't like how some people were just so open on the group and other people left because they felt like they couldn't express themselves enough. 00:49:03.519 --> 00:49:08.159 It's like, oh my gosh, like I can't make everybody happy all the time. 00:49:08.400 --> 00:49:10.320 And I wanted to launch my podcast. 00:49:10.400 --> 00:49:12.559 And I'm like, I need energy to launch my podcast. 00:49:12.639 --> 00:49:19.519 I'm like, I think I need to pause because I'm channeling teaching every week and I want to move that channeled energy into leading the podcast. 00:49:20.400 --> 00:49:23.519 What we're talking about today, Lindsay, makes so much sense. 00:49:23.760 --> 00:49:36.639 And I think I actually really needed to pause it because I was burned out on carrying the group, even though I was like, I'm not burned out of teaching, I'm never gonna run out of shit to say. 00:49:36.960 --> 00:49:37.599 Same. 00:49:39.119 --> 00:49:41.280 I just couldn't put my finger on it. 00:49:41.679 --> 00:49:42.000 Yeah. 00:49:42.239 --> 00:49:43.760 Wow, this is eye-opening. 00:49:43.840 --> 00:49:45.039 I couldn't put my finger on it. 00:49:45.119 --> 00:49:47.119 It was carrying the group. 00:49:47.199 --> 00:49:49.920 And I think I didn't want to admit that that got hard for me. 00:49:50.880 --> 00:49:54.559 And I'm doing a pop-up group now, and it feels really easy, and the harmony feels there. 00:49:54.639 --> 00:50:02.000 And it doesn't mean everybody likes each other and some people are working together again, and like, you know, same thing, but like I just have a different approach to it now. 00:50:02.159 --> 00:50:02.639 Mm-hmm. 00:50:02.880 --> 00:50:05.599 Yeah, you can flow a lot better. 00:50:06.000 --> 00:50:07.920 But I took the year to work on myself. 00:50:08.320 --> 00:50:08.719 Good. 00:50:08.960 --> 00:50:09.679 Really good. 00:50:09.920 --> 00:50:10.960 That's so important. 00:50:11.119 --> 00:50:25.760 Because then you'll feel you'll notice that you feel like you can't like break through certain things, and I think that's why understanding your pattern is so important because you can keep changing all of these different things. 00:50:26.079 --> 00:50:31.280 And if you still um end up with the same result, it's like, what's the problem? 00:50:31.440 --> 00:50:32.719 Am I cursed? 00:50:34.480 --> 00:50:36.719 Um, but recognizing those patterns. 00:50:36.880 --> 00:50:45.519 So for me, mine was was similar, but I'm a little bit more introverted to where mine was the devoted anchor. 00:50:45.679 --> 00:50:46.800 That's my pattern. 00:50:46.960 --> 00:51:02.320 And my problem was basically loyalty burning me out, but it it's more like when I overly commit to something, if I walk away from it, it feels like failure, even if it's not serving me. 00:51:02.480 --> 00:51:04.960 So that's something that I have to be aware of. 00:51:05.039 --> 00:51:09.519 And sometimes that's not even just people, that could even be your diet. 00:51:09.679

--> 00:51:26.880 If you, if you're you eat a certain diet and you're like, it's not really working, but I've committed myself to and I've told everyone else about and I've put this, I bought this t-shirt for it, but then you're like, your body's suffering, but you don't want to let it like though like burnout can show up in so many different ways. 00:51:26.960 --> 00:51:31.360 And so that's why I say it's not from working too hard or any of those things. 00:51:31.519 --> 00:51:47.119 It really comes down to your patterns, but also learning how to create a system that works with you, not just kind of like organizing and like doing all these like basic things that people share, like, oh, rest more or organize. 00:51:47.760 --> 00:51:49.760 It's not gonna heal my burnout. 00:51:49.920 --> 00:51:51.360 No, organizing stresses me out. 00:51:51.519 --> 00:51:52.960 I'm starting to get better. 00:51:56.320 --> 00:52:00.480 I spent three hours organizing my pantry and now I I didn't get anything else done. 00:52:00.639 --> 00:52:04.719 So it shows up different for everyone, but that's interesting. 00:52:04.880 --> 00:52:06.000 Wow, it's amazing. 00:52:06.079 --> 00:52:11.679 Well, like, look at the breakthrough I had just from taking this quiz and you reading the results to me, right? 00:52:12.159 --> 00:52:18.960 So everybody go take this quiz and book a call with Lindsay and go over your results and talk about this. 00:52:19.119 --> 00:52:21.440 And like we all need you. 00:52:22.320 --> 00:52:23.119 Thank you. 00:52:23.360 --> 00:52:24.000 You're welcome. 00:52:24.079 --> 00:52:25.599 And corporate needs you. 00:52:26.000 --> 00:52:26.719 Thank you. 00:52:27.039 --> 00:52:28.320 And we need you. 00:52:30.400 --> 00:52:31.119 Thank you. 00:52:31.360 --> 00:52:32.000 I know. 00:52:33.039 --> 00:52:34.960 I love that amazing. 00:52:35.119 --> 00:52:39.679 Okay, well, I would love you to receive and set an intention. 00:52:39.840 --> 00:52:51.440 So everybody, not just Lindsay, you, my love, my darling, the sacred person who has their headphones on or might be driving or listening to this at work, hoping nobody notices. 00:52:52.480 --> 00:52:54.239 Set an intention right now. 00:52:55.280 --> 00:52:56.480 Set an intention. 00:52:57.119 --> 00:52:58.800 And these cards are here to guide you. 00:52:58.960 --> 00:53:04.320 I am making my own Oracle deck, but right now I'm using the work your light Rebecca Campbell deck. 00:53:04.719 --> 00:53:05.679 She's so brilliant. 00:53:06.079 --> 00:53:11.760 So, Lindsay, you're gonna pull the first card, and when you're ready, when you feel it, say now. 00:53:26.320 --> 00:53:27.119 Pleiades. 00:53:27.519 --> 00:53:29.199 Ooh, we'll talk about this. 00:53:29.360 --> 00:53:32.639 Okay, and then second card, I'm gonna pull. 00:53:38.400 --> 00:53:39.199 So perfect. 00:53:39.440 --> 00:53:48.639 Okay, so this first card, Penny Pleiades, double mission, channeling and uplifting humanity. 00:53:50.559 --> 00:53:51.199 Wow. 00:53:52.800 --> 00:53:54.320 Tell me about that reaction. 00:53:57.599 --> 00:54:01.199 Man, I'm feeling that for sure. 00:54:01.280 --> 00:54:03.920 I'm definitely feeling drawn to the collective. 00:54:04.079 --> 00:54:15.360 Like, I I can't just I want I even said to myself the other day, I was like, you just need to make a bigger goal of helping one million women get out of burnout. 00:54:15.519 --> 00:54:21.519 Like, so I was like, I just need to set this because if I strive for that, then I'll get like one percent. 00:54:21.679 --> 00:54:27.360 So they said how about a billion, billion, billion, a billion, ten billion. 00:54:27.679 --> 00:54:28.880 There's not even ten billion people. 00:54:29.039 --> 00:54:38.800 Okay, so the Pleiadians are a beautiful race of beings who are a planet of peace. 00:54:40.159 --> 00:54:46.079 They are so peaceful, and they love to study us because we are a planet of love. 00:54:47.119 --> 00:54:51.599 And the human race has such a great capacity for love. 00:54:52.239 --> 00:55:03.039 Maybe other planets and races, if you are open to these ideas, I think our universe is only one of many universes, so there must be life somewhere else, and all these beautiful suns creating energy and life. 00:55:03.920 --> 00:55:09.840 And there's other planets or uh communities that are so good at technology or peace, right? 00:55:10.000 --> 00:55:13.280 And and we're really good at love, even though we destroy each other all the time. 00:55:13.360 --> 00:55:16.719 We're not so good at peace, and technology has blown us up in the past. 00:55:16.960 --> 00:55:18.079 Sorry, Atlantis. 00:55:18.320 --> 00:55:20.400 All right, but the Pleiadians are here for peace. 00:55:20.480 --> 00:55:25.760 So peace and this inner peace, this inner harmony is part of your mission, Lindsay. 00:55:25.920 --> 00:55:29.760 And for everyone who's listening right now, this is part of your mission too. 00:55:29.920 --> 00:55:35.280 You've chosen to be a participant in this episode today because you crave more peace for yourself. 00:55:36.000 --> 00:55:37.920 And Lindsay is a teacher of peace. 00:55:38.079 --> 00:55:39.599 So let's impact a billion. 00:55:39.760 --> 00:55:41.440 Hopefully, we'll get a million. 00:55:41.760 --> 00:55:43.440 So I love seeing your face. 00:55:43.599 --> 00:55:46.320 I hope everyone who's listening is also watching the show. 00:55:46.480 --> 00:55:53.039 You can watch it on Apple and Spotify when you're logged in and on YouTube too, uh, and on my Patreon. 00:55:53.199 --> 00:55:56.000 So the second card is take a break. 00:55:57.199 --> 00:56:01.280 Oh, if that's not a she sacral card, I don't know what is. 00:56:01.679 --> 00:56:04.400 It says a life's work, not a season. 00:56:05.119 --> 00:56:07.119 Get off the treadmill. 00:56:08.159 --> 00:56:08.480 Okay. 00:56:09.119 --> 00:56:10.800 This is your life's work. 00:56:11.280 --> 00:56:11.679 All right. 00:56:12.079 --> 00:56:13.199 It's a marathon. 00:56:13.440

--> 00:56:15.360 You get to rest. 00:56:17.280 --> 00:56:21.119 So I think our mess is our message. 00:56:22.000 --> 00:56:31.440 And the work that we do, we're doing it because we also need to keep hearing it so that we can be a step ahead of everyone else. 00:56:31.519 --> 00:56:32.960 We're leading up the mountain. 00:56:33.679 --> 00:56:34.239 Yes. 00:56:34.480 --> 00:56:40.880 So as you go impact a billion, rest, do your own program, Lindsay, over and over and over. 00:56:41.119 --> 00:56:41.760 Me too. 00:56:41.920 --> 00:56:44.880 I'm going to start implementing what I've learned from you too. 00:56:45.199 --> 00:56:50.559 And I hope whoever is watching this right now or listening, go play. 00:56:50.719 --> 00:56:52.320 Go when you hang this up. 00:56:52.480 --> 00:56:56.880 If you don't have to go back to work, and there's a choice. 00:56:57.119 --> 00:57:02.079 Now, if you're if you have a regular job and you gotta stay there till a certain time, fine. 00:57:02.480 --> 00:57:14.800 But if you can go outside, like she said, and receive from the sun, or if it's nighttime, go receive from the moon or the stars or your own ancestors, people who have crossed over, family, go hug them. 00:57:14.960 --> 00:57:20.400 Go hug and cuddle your pets, go get your energy out, like my dog does all the time when he's being crazy. 00:57:21.280 --> 00:57:22.800 Get some zoomies in. 00:57:23.519 --> 00:57:26.480 Go get your zoomies and take a break, right? 00:57:26.559 --> 00:57:29.679 We think, oh, take a break always means like, oh, I need to go take a nap. 00:57:29.840 --> 00:57:33.920 It's like, no, sometimes it means like go for a walk, like move your body. 00:57:34.159 --> 00:57:35.679 So I love these cards. 00:57:35.760 --> 00:57:36.800 It's so perfect. 00:57:36.960 --> 00:57:38.400 They're so perfect, aren't they? 00:57:38.559 --> 00:57:39.760 For what we talked about today. 00:57:40.559 --> 00:57:41.599 Beautiful. 00:57:42.159 --> 00:57:42.639 Yeah. 00:57:42.880 --> 00:57:45.119 Thank you for sharing your energy today. 00:57:45.440 --> 00:57:46.800 Oh my little baby. 00:57:47.440 --> 00:57:48.239 You're welcome. 00:57:48.400 --> 00:57:50.000 It was so great to be on your show. 00:57:50.079 --> 00:57:52.719 I can't wait to come and be on your new show. 00:57:52.880 --> 00:57:53.119 Yeah. 00:57:53.280 --> 00:57:55.920 It's not even new at this point, but um, your newer show. 00:57:56.480 --> 00:57:57.840 It's a baby. 00:57:58.800 --> 00:57:59.599 It's a baby. 00:57:59.679 --> 00:58:02.159 Well, it will continue to be wildly successful. 00:58:02.320 --> 00:58:08.480 So everybody go to shesacral.com, take your burnout pattern quiz and follow the She Sacral podcast. 00:58:08.800 --> 00:58:09.920 Rate it five stars. 00:58:10.000 --> 00:58:11.920 Help her boost this new beautiful show. 00:58:12.079 --> 00:58:14.639 And I want to send so much love to your father. 00:58:14.960 --> 00:58:16.400 Oh, thank you so much. 00:58:16.719 --> 00:58:17.199 Thank you.

00:58:17.599 --> 00:58:18.079 You're welcome. 00:58:18.400 --> 00:58:19.199 It's been a journey. 00:58:19.280 --> 00:58:21.199 That's what's his first name? 00:58:21.440 --> 00:58:22.880 His name is Grady. 00:58:23.440 --> 00:58:23.920 Grady. 00:58:24.159 --> 00:58:35.519 So everyone who's listening and watching, I encourage you to light a candle for this magnificent man for healing, recovery, energy, just to feel good each day in whatever way that he can. 00:58:35.679 --> 00:58:38.719 So thank you, Lindsay, for allowing me to invite that. 00:58:38.880 --> 00:58:45.519 If anyone is involved in prayer circles, healing circles, just see Grady's energy illuminated. 00:58:45.840 --> 00:58:46.719 Absolutely. 00:58:46.960 --> 00:58:47.840 Thank you so much. 00:58:48.159 --> 00:58:48.639 You're welcome. 00:58:48.880 --> 00:58:50.239 I so appreciate you. 00:58:51.199 --> 00:58:55.199 Is there anything else you want to leave us with or guide us into connecting with you further? 00:58:55.599 --> 00:59:01.519 If you want to connect, just click wherever links are available there, and I'd be happy to meet with you. 00:59:01.760 --> 00:59:02.719 How wonderful. 00:59:02.960 --> 00:59:04.159 And isn't that fantastic? 00:59:04.320 --> 00:59:16.719 You know, we think that people who come on the show don't have time to spend time or aren't prioritizing one-on-one time with people because they've created this amazing brand and these products and these services and they have their own shows. 00:59:16.880 --> 00:59:19.119 And we are all still human beings. 00:59:19.519 --> 00:59:23.280 And I tell people, if you email me, I'm the one responding to you. 00:59:23.440 --> 00:59:26.159 Like, yes, I have a team, but it's me. 00:59:26.320 --> 00:59:28.719 If you're emailing Alicia, it's me. 00:59:29.039 --> 00:59:30.480 So we're human beings. 00:59:30.559 --> 00:59:31.039 We love you. 00:59:31.199 --> 00:59:32.239 We want to spend time with you. 00:59:32.320 --> 00:59:32.960 We want to help you. 00:59:33.039 --> 00:59:33.679 We want to support you. 00:59:33.760 --> 00:59:34.960 We want to shine a light on you. 00:59:35.119 --> 00:59:42.400 If you come to our calendars and they're full or turned off temporarily, come back again in the future or reach out and say, What can I get involved in now? 00:59:42.559 --> 00:59:45.519 Maybe in a group container or a replay of something. 00:59:45.679 --> 00:59:51.039 So empower yourself to reach out and connect and receive. 00:59:51.920 --> 00:59:53.440 Yes, receive. 00:59:53.599 --> 00:59:55.519 Allow, allow, allow. 00:59:56.880 --> 00:59:57.840 All right, my angel. 00:59:57.920 --> 00:59:58.880 This was so fun. 00:59:59.039 --> 00:59:59.760 We will do it again. 00:59:59.840 --> 01:00:06.559 I want to talk about cycle tracking and how that can help the budding and blooming entrepreneur next time you come back. 01:00:06.880 --> 01:00:08.000 Absolutely, for sure. 01:00:08.320 --> 01:00:08.880 How fun. 01:00:09.519 --> 01:00:10.800 This or something greater. 01:00:11.039 --> 01:00:11.519 Bye. 01:00:11.840 --> 01:00:12.400 Bye. 01:00:12.719 --> 01:00:16.960 Be sure to connect with me at patreon.com forward slash the brilliance method. 01:00:17.119 --> 01:00:22.719 The only way I'll know if you're loving the show is if you leave a comment, five stars, and subscribe.