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Welcome to Grown Plants, Grown People, the podcast where we discover that the principles which help our gardens flourish are often the very same principles that help people grow.
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And together we're exploring one of the most fascinating gardens of all.
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The human mind.
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But those beliefs that seem to have been there for so long that you rarely even notice them or even question them.
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I'm not very good at that.
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I've never been a confident person.
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I always struggle with things like this.
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Or perhaps that's just the way I am.
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And when you've believed something about yourself for long enough, it can stop feeling like a belief.
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It starts feeling like a fact.
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But what if it isn't?
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What if some of the things you've believed about yourself for years aren't actually facts at all?
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What if there are things you've learned to believe?
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Because that raises a fascinating question.
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If something was learned, does it have to stay that way?
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And that's why today's conversation matters.
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Because we're going to start exploring one of the most important connections in understanding the way we're programmed.
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Programming creates beliefs.
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And by the end of the conversation today, we want to help you begin to recognize where some of those beliefs you've carried may have come from.
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How something you hear, experience, or are repeatedly exposed to can gradually become something you accept as true.
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And why understanding that completely change the way you look at some of the things that you believed about yourself?
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Because perhaps the question isn't simply, what do I believe?
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Perhaps we need to keep asking or start to ask, how did I learn to believe it?
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I'm Christian, and after more than 40 years in horticulture and over two decades of helping people build confidence, develop skills, and overcome limitations, I'm now also a certified self-talk trainer with the Life Self-Talk Institute and a certified life coach with the Life Coach Institute.
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And across those very different areas of my life and work, I've discovered one factor that influences almost everything else, the way we talk to ourselves.
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And I'm Daniel.
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As a certified self-talk trainer with the Self-Talk Institute and a certified life coach with the Life Coach Institute, I've seen firsthand how changing our internal dialogue can transform the way we think, feel, act, and ultimately the results we create in our lives.
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So although we've come from self-talk and from very different backgrounds and experiences.
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We now bring a shared professional foundation to the conversations we're having here.
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And we arrived exactly at the same conclusion.
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The most important conversation you'll ever have is the one that you have with yourself.
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Now, if you've been following this journey with us, you'll notice that something special or rather special happened between our foundation series and today's episode.
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We had the opportunity to sit down with Dr.
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Shad Helmstedder.
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And also hear directly from the person whose pioneering work in self-talk has influenced so much of what we've been exploring.
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We talked about where these ideas came from.
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What he learned across his life's work.
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And how he sees self-talk today.
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And there's there was something from that conversation that connects particularly well with where we're going to next.
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And an easy way to picture that is like this.
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Imagine watching someone painting a painting.
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We've all seen pictures of, or we've seen people painting a watercolor painting or an oil painting.
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And we watch them take the brush and they'll dip it in the either put it oil paint on it or dip it in the watercoloring, and then they'll they'll dab here and they'll make a line there.
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And and and you watch them, and sometimes it takes a long time.
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But over a period of time, that painting, imagine a watercolor painting that goes just from a series of small points and dots and colors here and there.
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But over time, that painting gets filled in.
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And once it's filled in, it becomes this this reality.
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We can see it.
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It looks like it's real.
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And and if you stop then and think, what did it take for that reality to happen?
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It was brushstroke by breaststroke.
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It's word by word.
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It's thought by thought.
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And that brings us right back to the question we asked at the beginning of today's episode.
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How does something we hear something we experience or something
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we're repeatedly exposed to eventually become something we believe?
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Because that's where this stage of our journey begins.
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Understanding your programming.
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And today we're going to take that first connection in the process of beginning to unpack it.
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Programming creates beliefs.
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Which brings us back to one very important question.
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How did I learn to believe it?
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And sometimes that positive programming came from somebody seeing something in us before we see it in ourselves.
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Daniel, I had an experience quite early in my horticultural career that really brings that home to me.
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So this was at Powiss Castle?
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Yes, yes, it was.
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We were in magazines and newspapers, and the gardens actually had more than 120,000 visitors coming through it from March through till the end of October.
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Then there was a certain amount of pressure to get things right.
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Absolutely.
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It was a big, big job.
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And you know, between every uh every year, between the permanent plants, the herbaceous perennials in the borders, we would plant tender perennials.
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And they would add more interest and help extend the flowering season from spring right the way until the frosts in November.
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And because every border was different, we were working with a very diverse range of plants as well.
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And who decided where all of those plants went?
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Well, that was down to the head gardener, Jimmy.
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He'd been doing it for 20 years.
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So he would go out through the borders every spring.
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He would place every plant exactly where he wanted it to be planted.
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And it was the gardener's responsibility, that was my responsibility for the area that I had to follow behind him with my team, and we would plant them.
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And then came year three.
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Yes, year three.
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And how did you feel?
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How did you feel when he said that?
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Well, a few mixed emotions.
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I was taken aback because this had never happened to any previous gardener in my role during those 20 years.
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And then suddenly I'm thinking, me?
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These are world-renowned gardens.
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Thousands of people are going to walk through those borders, well, walk past those borders, should I say, and see these displays.
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And now I'm responsible for deciding where all these tender perennials go and how it's going to evolve through the summer period.
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So what did you say?
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I said with a pretty terrified voice, if I remember rightly.
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I said, Jimmy, what if I what if I get it wrong?
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And what did he say?
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He said, Well, Christian, we'll observe.
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We can always make changes next year.
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I'm sure you'll do a great job.
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Oh, that's quite a message.
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It was.
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It was because I wasn't completely sure that I could do it.
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Um, I really didn't think I could pull it off, and I was in a panic.
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But Jimmy was.
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He thought he was, yes.
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Ah, because he'd watched you for two years.
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Yeah, he'd been he'd be he'd seen me and what I'd been learning because I was always asking questions, and by handing me that responsibility, he was effectively saying, You're ready.
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And were you?
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Well, in that moment, I didn't feel ready, but yes, it was a great success.
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So Jimmy's belief in you came before you had quite developed the same level of belief in yourself.
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Exactly.
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And that's why I think this this matters.
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When we're talking about programs, because some because sometimes the messages we receive don't tell us what we can't do.
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Sometimes they tell us what we might be capable of.
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Yeah, and those messages are reinforced by our experiences.
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Something that began with somebody else's belief in us can begin becoming a belief we hold about ourselves.
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Absolutely, and of course, you know, messages don't only come through words.
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Sometimes they're communicated through the opportunities we're given.
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Absolutely, and the responsibility that someone trusts us with it.
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Or simply somebody saying, I believe you're ready.
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Yes.
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But that actually, Daniel, it does raise another interesting question.
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Because whether the message is helpful or unhelpful, how does that information actually get into our programming in the first place?
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Yeah.
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And that's where my computer
keyboard story comes in.
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I've heard you tell this before, Daniel, and I think this is one of the simplest of ways of making the idea of programming easier to understand.
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Because if you think about a computer, it can only work with the information that's been entered into it.
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So, Daniel, I really want you to tell us this story again.
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Take us through it.
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Take us through your computer keyboard story.
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Will do, Christian.
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So let's say that you have a computer and you interact with your computer via a keyboard.
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Can you imagine that a keyboard right here is a prop, Christian, just waiting in case you would ask me?
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That is incredible.
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Brilliant, excellent prop.
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Let's get typing on that keyboard.
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Indeed.
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Yes.
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So with your personal computer, you interact with it with your keyboard.
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And your computer is waiting for your input.
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Whatever it is that you type on that keyboard is what goes into the computer, is what the computer processes, and is what the computer displays back out to you.
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So if you're thinking about sitting down at your keyboard and typing in whatever message you want to, the computer itself isn't evaluating whatever it is you're typing on the keyboard.
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The computer doesn't pause to think, oh, that was a wonderful message.
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I'm going to record that and I want more like it.
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Or I don't know if that was such a helpful message.
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Maybe I just won't record it at all.
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Or, oh, that was an okay message.
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That's fine.
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It can sit here for a while.
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The computer doesn't evaluate a message that's helpful or unhelpful.
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It doesn't evaluate if a message is accurate or inaccurate.
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It doesn't evaluate if the message is true or not.
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The computer is just waiting for whatever it is you're typing on your keyboard.
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And when you type those messages on your keyboard, your computer now has something to act on.
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No matter what those messages are, it's waiting for you to give it the directions.
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It's waiting for you to tell it what to do.
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And whatever you type on your keyboard into your computer in one form or another is always what the
computer will display back out to you.
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It's always what your computer is going to act on.
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Because after you've typed in on your keyboard, your computer now knows what to do, and it has messages from which it can take and process what it's going to do next.
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Indeed.
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The information went in.
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Exactly.
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And particularly when we're very young, we don't necessarily we don't necessarily stop at every message that comes in and asks, is this true?
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Or is this person's judgment of me accurate?
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We're just receiving information.
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From the people around us?
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From what happens to us?
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From what we're repeatedly told.
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And from the conclusions where we begin to draw from those experiences.
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And some of that information may eventually become part of our programming.
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Programming creates beliefs.
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But there's an important distinction here.
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The information going in isn't automatically a belief.
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Something has to happen between receiving a message.
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And eventually accepting that message as something that's true about ourselves.
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And Daniel, there's a gardening analogy that I'd like to make that distinction particularly easy to see, if that's okay with you.
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Well, Christian, I had a feeling we might be heading back into the garden here.
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We certainly are.
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And not every seed you plant becomes an established plant.
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Exactly.
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And there's a very simple way I think about it.
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I think about this as a gardener.
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The seed.
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Exactly.
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When you sow a seed, you put something into the soil.
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But what you've put in isn't yet an established plant.
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It has to germinate.
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It has to take some roots.
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And begin to grow.
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Yeah, and I think that that's a useful way of looking at programming.
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A message goes in.
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Perhaps someone says, You're really good at that.
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Or you'll never be able to do that.
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Maybe we hear it once.
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Maybe we hear it repeatedly.
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Perhaps expect.
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Experiences come along that we that seem to reinforce it.
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And gradually that message can begin to take root.
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Until eventually, we're no longer saying, someone told me I'm not good at this.
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We're saying I'm not good at this.
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And something important has changed.
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It has.
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The message came from outside.
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But the belief is now being repeated from inside.
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So if we keep the gardening picture really simple.
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The seed is the programming.
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Yep.
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And the belief is what takes root.
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But there's something important about seeds.
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There is.
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Not every seed actually grows.
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And that's an important point.
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Because we're not suggesting that everything anybody has ever said to us automatically becomes something that we believe.
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Some messages actually barely register.
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Some messages we forget entirely.
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Some we question.
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And some we reject completely.
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It's a little like sowing seeds.
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You can sow several seeds into exactly the same patch of soil.
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And they won't necessarily all establish.
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Exactly, but some do.
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So what might make one message more likely to take root than another?
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Sometimes it might be repetition.
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We hear the same thing again and again.
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And sometimes it might be who the message actually came from or comes from.
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A parent, a teacher, a coach, a manager, someone we respect or whose opinion carries weight.
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And sometimes our experiences seem to reinforce what we've already been told.
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Someone tells you you're not very good at this, then something doesn't go particularly well.
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And instead of seeing that as one experience, we might be seeing it as evidence.
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And think maybe they were right.
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And the more evidence we think we're finding, the easier it can become for the message to take root.
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But there's something else we need to remember here, Daniel.
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Good point, Christian, because we've used a limiting example.
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Yeah, and programming isn't only about the
seeds that hold us back.
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Some of the most important seeds planted in us can help us grow.
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And I think that's something that's something that we really need to emphasize here.
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Yes, because when we start talking about programming, it's very easy to focus on everything that might have gone wrong.
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The criticism.
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The limiting messages.
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The things that somebody said that have perhaps stayed with us.
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But what about the other messages?
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You've got this.
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I believe in you.
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Give it a go.
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I think you're ready.
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That last one takes me straight back to Jimmy at Power's Castle.
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Because before you were completely convinced that you were ready.
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He was.
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He was.
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And sometimes another person's confidence in us gives us the opportunity to discover something about ourselves.
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We try.
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We learn.
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And we actually succeed.
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And perhaps we begin thinking, maybe I can do this.
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And that can take root too.
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Absolutely.
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Think about the people who have encouraged you during your life.
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The teacher who spotted something you were good at.
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The friend who encouraged you to try something.
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The manager who trusted you with more responsibility.
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The parent or the grandparent who kept reminding you that they believed in you.
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Those messages matter too.
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And perhaps they're the things you believe about yourself today, because somewhere along the way, somebody helped you to see that they were possible.
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So understanding our programming isn't about searching through our past, looking for everything that went wrong.
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Or even finding people to blame.
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And the messages that limited us.
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And the messages that helped us grow.
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Because if we're going to understand our programming, we need to recognize both.
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And we also need to recognize something else.
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Our programming didn't stop when we grew up.
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And I think that's really important.
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Yeah, because when people hear the word programming, it's very easy to think that we're only talking about our childhood.
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Parents?
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Teachers?
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School?
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Those early years of experiences that helped shape the way that we began seeing ourselves.
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And of course, those things can be important.
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But we haven't stopped receiving information.
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We still have people around us.
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We certainly do.
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Family, friends, colleagues.
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We have workplaces and the expectations that come with them.
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We have advertising, social media, and culture.
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And experiences that can continue influencing the conclusions we draw about ourselves and the world around us.
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But there's another source of programming that becomes increasingly important.
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And this one is much closer to home.
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The conversations we have with ourselves.
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Our self-talk.
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Because think about some of those messages we've been talking about.
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Perhaps years ago, somebody said, You're no good at that.
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But that person may no longer be in your life.
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They may not have said those words for twenty or thirty years.
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And yet the messages can still be there.
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Only now.
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You might be the person that's saying it.
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I'm no good at that.
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I've never been able to do things like this.
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I'm just not that sort of person.
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And it's quite a moment when you really think about it.
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Because the original voice may have disappeared years ago.
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But the message can continue.
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Because we've learned to repeat it for ourselves.
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So over time we can actually become one of the people doing the programming.
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Through our own repeated self-talk.
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And of course, that doesn't only apply to the limiting messages.
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No, we can repeat the good ones too.
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I learned to do this.
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I've handled difficult things before.
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I don't know how to do it yet.
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But I can find out.
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So perhaps the question isn't only what was planted in the years ago.
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Perhaps we also need to ask, what
am I continuing to plant today?
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And maybe the first step isn't trying to change any of it.
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Maybe the first step is simply beginning to notice it.
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So over the next few days, listen, for some of the things you say about yourself.
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Particularly those statements that begin with things like I'm not very good at.
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I always I never.
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I've just never been that sort of person.
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Or the one we've already heard today.
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I'm just the way I am.
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That's just the way I am.
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And when you notice one, don't immediately try to correct it.
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And don't criticize yourself for saying it.
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And don't assume that because you've been saying it for years, it must be true.
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Just become curious.
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And ask yourself one question.
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How did I learn to believe that?
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Was it something somebody once said?
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Or something I heard repeatedly?
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Or an experience I interpreted in a particular way?
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Or is it something I've repeated to myself for so long that I've stopped questioning where it came from?
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But let's notice the positive beliefs too.
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Perhaps you hear yourself saying, I'll work it out.
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I can learn.
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I've done difficult things before.
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Or simply, I can do this.
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Where did those beliefs come from?
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Who encouraged you?
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Who believed in you?
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What experiences helped you discover something about yourself that perhaps you hadn't recognized before?
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Those are the part of your those are part of your story too.
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And perhaps understanding our programming isn't about deciding that everything we've learned needs to change.
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Perhaps it's about beginning to recognize what's already growing.
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What we want to keep nurturing.
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And what we might eventually decide no longer deserves quite such as much space.
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Because once we begin to understand that some of our beliefs were learned, we arrive at something rather hopeful.
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If I've learned to believe this about myself, does that belief have to stay exactly the same for the rest of my life?
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And that's where this understanding
can give us something really important.
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Not going back through our lives trying to find somebody to blame.
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And not judging the people who influenced us.
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And not judging ourselves for the things we've come to believe.
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It's really about understanding.
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Because once we understand that some of what we believe was learned, something rather important becomes possible.
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We begin questioning what we've always assumed to be true.
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We can begin noticing the messages we're continuing to repeat.
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And perhaps we can begin becoming more deliberate about the messages we give ourselves in the future.
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So let's think back to the seed that we've been talking about, Daniel.
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Yes.
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The seed is the programming.
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And the belief is what takes root.
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But as any gardener knows, what is growing in a garden today doesn't necessarily determine what has to grow there forever.
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No.
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We can observe what's growing, decide what we want to nurture, and begin thinking differently about what we want to cultivate in the future.
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And perhaps that's the most hopeful part of today's conversation.
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Your beliefs may influence the way you see yourself today.
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But that doesn't necessarily mean every belief you currently hold has to define who you become tomorrow.
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New programming can be introduced.
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Different messages can be repeated.
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Old assumptions can actually be questioned.
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And different beliefs can begin to take root.
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So when you're catching yourself saying, I'm just the way that I am, or it's just the way that it is.
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Perhaps add one more question.
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Does it have to be?
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Because programming creates beliefs.
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And understanding that gives us something enormously important.
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Choice.
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If today's conversation has got you thinking about some of the things you believe about yourself, you may also want to go back and explore some of the foundations we've been building throughout this podcast.
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And we've now made it much easier for you to.
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Throughout our first six episodes, we created a reflection worksheet to accompany each conversation.
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And we brought all six of those worksheets together in one place.
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The Growing Plants, Growing People, Foundation Workbook.
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And it's designed to help you work through those first six conversations at your own pace.
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To reflect on what you're discovering.
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And to begin connecting some of the ideas that we've been exploring to your own life.
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So whether you've been with us from episode one, or you've just only discovered growing plants, grown people.
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The workbook gives you a place to begin.
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And you'll find those details on how to get your free copy in the notes, in the episode notes.
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And we have something else we'd like to offer you.
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Something a little more personal.
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Let us ask you a question.
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On who you are.
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What you want to be.
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What you want to do.
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Or what you want to have in your life.
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Someone who listened deeply.
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Without judgment.
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And gave you the space to explore where you want to go.
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Even if you're not quite sure what that looks like yet.
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That's the experience we'd like to invite you to have.
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We'd like to offer you a free coaching call with one of us.
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No obligation.
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No pressure.
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Just a conversation focused on you.
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Where you are now.
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Where you'd like to be.
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And perhaps what's standing between the two.
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Because sometimes having someone really listen and ask the right questions can help you begin seeing things differently.
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If you'd like to take us up on that invitation, you'll find the details in the episode notes.
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And if you'd like to take what we've been exploring in the podcast and putting self-talk into practice for yourself, we've got another way to help you get started.
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We'd like to invite you to try the self-talk app.
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And as a listener to Growing Plants, Growing People, you can try it free for 30 days.
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But we also know that downloading an app and knowing how to make the best use of it are two different things.
00:43:56.480 --> 00:43:59.760
So we've created something specifically for.
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Our listeners.
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The Grown Plant, Grown People Listener's Guide to the Self-Talk App.
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It's there to help you get started.
00:44:12.079 --> 00:44:15.519
Understand how to begin using Self-Talk.
00:44:16.079 --> 00:44:24.960
And make those first 30 days something you can actually explore and experience for yourself.
00:44:26.639 --> 00:44:34.880
Because throughout the podcast, we're going to continue exploring why conversations we have with ourselves actually matter.
00:44:35.679 --> 00:44:42.159
But the app gives you an opportunity to begin experiencing self-talk for yourself.
00:44:43.840 --> 00:44:55.599
So if you'd like to give it a try, you'll find the listener's guide and details of your free 30-day trial in the episode notes.
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Today we've explored one of the most important connections in this whole journey.
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Programming creates beliefs.
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We've looked at how messages and information can enter our lives.
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And how some of those messages can begin to take root.
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Some may come from the people around us.
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And some from our own experiences.
00:45:31.360 --> 00:45:39.840
And some can eventually be reinforced by the conversations we continue having with ourselves.
00:45:42.079 --> 00:45:50.800
And perhaps one of the most important things we've discovered today is that a belief can feel like a fact.
00:45:52.079 --> 00:45:55.599
Without necessarily beginning as one.
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Something that may once have been somebody else's message can eventually become something we say about ourselves.
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But we've also seen on the other side of that the people who encourage us.
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The people who believe in us.
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The experiences that help us discover what we're capable of.
00:46:25.599 --> 00:46:29.199
And those seeds can take root too.
00:46:31.920 --> 00:46:40.480
And that's why understanding our programming isn't about looking backwards for someone to blame.
00:46:41.679 --> 00:46:44.079
It's about becoming curious.
00:46:45.360 --> 00:46:49.039
About what we've learned to believe.
00:46:50.480 --> 00:46:53.039
What we're continuing to reinforce.
00:46:53.760 --> 00:47:00.159
And perhaps what we might choose to nurture differently in the future.
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But all of this leaves us with another question.
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A really important one.
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If programming can have this much influence over what we eventually come to believe.
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How does our brain actually get programmed in the first place?
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And that's where we're going to next.
00:47:32.800 --> 00:47:37.840
In episode eight of understanding your programming.
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How your brain gets programmed.
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We're going to look more closely at how information is received.
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How it can be stored.
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And how over time we're able to build upon what we've already learned.
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And I'm going to take you back to something that began for me when I was studying my horticulture.
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Plant identification.
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Every week we had twenty plants to learn, Daniel.
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And then you were tested on them.
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Yes, before we were then given another twenty.
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Week after week.
00:48:29.360 --> 00:48:31.039
Year after year.
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Until something rather interesting had started to develop.
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A mental filing cabinet, would you believe it?
00:48:42.960 --> 00:48:50.320
And the more you learned, the more draw drawers there were to put things into.
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And that's going to help us understand something much bigger than plant identification.
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Because whether we're learning plants, learning about the world.
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Or learning about things about ourselves.
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Our brains are continually receiving information and finding somewhere to put it.
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And in the next episode, we're going to open the filing cabinet.
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So perhaps there's one thought worth taking away from today's conversation.
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Something you believed about yourself for a very long time can feel like a fact.
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But perhaps it isn't.
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Perhaps somewhere along the way it was something you learned to believe.
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And if it was learned, perhaps it doesn't have to define what's possible for you in the future.
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Until next time.
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Remember, you weren't born believing the things that now hold you back.
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The most important conversation you'll ever have is the one you have with yourself.
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Make it count.