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We're Emily and Kyle.
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We started as coworkers in late night television and now we're best friends exploring NYC and our FYPs.
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This is an interview show about obsessions.
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Ours, theirs, and maybe yours too.
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Welcome to We're Obsessed With You.
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Hello everyone.
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Welcome to We're Obsessed With You.
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I am Kyle O'Donnell, and this is the show where we talk to the people we're obsessed with.
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Oh.
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The things they're obsessed with.
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I'm so happy to join you.
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Wow.
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Flip that, reverse it.
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Which actually comes in mind with my obsession later.
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You know what?
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This brain, sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn't.
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These are my obsessions of the week: my highbrow, lowbrow, and raise a brow.
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My highbrow is The Unknown by Riley Sager.
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And it is fitting because we are now currently in Halloween season.
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I love Halloween.
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I'm obsessed with Halloween.
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I'm from the Salem area, so like Halloween is so important to me.
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It's just like in me, I probably was a witch in a past life.
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I am obsessed with Riley Sager in general.
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He is a thriller writer.
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He did Final Girls, he did The Only One Left.
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He's so good at writing thrillers.
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And this one that I'm currently obsessed with is his most recent one called The Unknown.
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It is about an unknown actress who gets the opportunity of a lifetime to film a movie about the mysterious disappearance of five women on an island in Vermont in like the 1920s.
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And there's some supernatural, there's some occult, there's all this fantastic stuff in the book.
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But uh what I love about the book and Riley's book specifically is that he's dealing with these really big issues in a very focused way.
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So I'm not going to spoil what this book is about, but uh it is about generational trauma, it is about grief, it is about what it means to be a woman, and it's also about Hollywood and what the Me Too movement has kind of done to Hollywood.
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I loved this book so much.
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If you're an audiobook person, I highly recommend the audiobook of this.
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Sometimes I find with split narratives or like dual timelines, it can be incredibly confusing.
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My coworker just listened to yesteryear and she's like, I was so confused the entire time.
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I cannot imagine listening to that audiobook.
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But this is such a good audiobook.
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The performers are so, so, so good.
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I was, it's really, really gripping.
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It is a fantastic book.
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The Unknown by Riley Sager.
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You can get it on our Shop My.
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My lowbrow obsession, which I'm I uh I have a complicated relationship with this obsession.
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I had the screeners for Willy Wonka's Golden Ticket on Netflix, which is a reality competition show inspired by the original film Charlie and the Chocolate Factory.
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Or was it Willy Wonka in the Chocolate Factory?
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I don't remember what the 70s one was.
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I think it's Charlie in the Chocolate Factory.
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And Johnny Depp is Wonka in the Chocolate Factory?
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Who cares?
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Not important for the story.
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Yeah, it's Charlie.
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Oh, it is Charlie.
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Okay, great.
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Charlie and Chocolate Factory.
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The concept of the show is that 12 golden ticket winners bring a plus one to compete for a lifetime amount of money.
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I'm just gonna say this survivor,$1 million.
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Traders,$250,000.
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Plus, you have to split it potentially four ways, and you may not be getting all that money.
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I don't know what Big Brother is.
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And on Dancing with the Stars, you win no money.
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Wonka's golden ticket, the prize money, is three million dollars.
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$100,000 for 30 years.
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Is that crazy?
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I think that's nuts.
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Netflix, you must have so much money.
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But this show is basically like if Charlie and the Chocolate Factory was a reality show.
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There are these competitions.
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There's the Chocolate River, there's Wonka Vision.
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It's all the stuff you love about Charlie and the Chocolate Factory come to life.
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Here's where it gets complicated.
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Gene Wilder's estate sold his voice-likeness to the show for AI.
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So there is a very weird Gene Wilder voice narrating the show.
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And when I watched, because I was probably stoned or needlepointing or something, I missed that, or because I was a screener, maybe it wasn't even included on the screeners, that this voice was AI.
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So I'm watching it.
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I'm like, wow, they got a really fantastic voice actor to do Gene Wilder.
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No, no, no.
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It was literally Gene Wilder's voice put through an AI thing.
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It's that part is upsetting to me, but the show is very fascinating to watch.
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There's some of the dumbest gameplay you've ever seen, ever, ever, ever, ever seen, and I'm obsessed with it.
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The contestants, most of them are so unlikable, and the ones that are likable, you're really rooting for, which is like Charlie and the Chocolate Factory.
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You know, the casting department did a really great job.
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I recommend you watch it.
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It's nine episodes.
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Get absolutely blasted, zoo-detooted, and go watch this show.
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My raise a brow, and this is where I need your help.
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I am on a journey to eliminate microplastics as much as I can.
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So I've replaced a lot of my water bottles, my utensils for glass, metal, stuff like that.
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But I'm having a real, real issue finding plates.
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And I know people are going to be like, oh, you can just go to another thrift store, whatever, get plates.
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A lot of them still are plastic.
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Like, I am looking for a very good, affordable non-plastic plateware company.
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If you know it, please, please, please let me know.
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I just don't want to be putting bull like hot food in these plastic things that I got from Target like 15 years ago.
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Please, please, please let me know.
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And so keep tuning in.
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I'm so obsessed with our guests today.
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Her name is Melissa Lehman.
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She is an actress, but she's also a stylist.
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Um, I became obsessed with her because she does Matt Rogers clothes.
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And one day when he was on the Today show doing Jenna and Friends, he was wearing a Casa Grace jacket, which Casa Grace, I'm obsessed with.
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We've had him on the show.
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And I was like, oh, who styles him?
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I must know.
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It's this woman, Melissa Lehman.
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I've met her at Watch Happens Live a bunch.
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She is so, so, so, so cool.
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She specializes in thrifted clothes, environmentally friendly thrifting and styling.
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I love her.
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We're gonna talk fashion.
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We're gonna talk the best places to shop in New York and abroad.
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I'm so excited for you, Lyson.
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We'll be right back.
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Melissa Lehman, we're obsessed with you.
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Welcome.
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I think it's actually Lehman.
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Oh, it is?
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Oh my god, I'm so sorry.
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No, you're fine.
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Everyone says it.
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Lehman.
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Okay.
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Melissa Lehman.
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We're obsessed with you.
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Welcome to the show.
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I'm I've peripherally seen your work because of Watch What Happens Live and Matt Rogers being a frequent guest, and he's always dressed by you.
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Thank you.
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And he always looks stunning.
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But I really became obsessed with you because of the legally blonde anniversary outfit you put him in.
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Oh my god, thanks.
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That was one of my favorite outfits of the past, like probably year in styling.
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It was like, it was just so perfect for him and the event.
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And then I was like, I really want to talk to her about her styling gig.
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I think it's amazing.
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Thank you.
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So, as you were, you did musical theater and you are a trained theater performer, but you have the styling gig on the side.
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How did that pivot happen
for you?
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So basically, I was during the pandemic, my husband and I were both living in New Orleans, actually.
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Fabulous.
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And we were auditioning there a lot, and I was working a lot as an actor.
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And I mostly do film and TV.
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So I do, it's like ironic because my husband's like the most introverted person, and I'm a very extroverted person, but for some reason he works more in theater and I work more in film, film and TV.
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We're both always like, what?
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Like makes no sense.
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Theater?
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Hire me.
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Um she's tech of all.
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Um slate, slate for the camera.
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Hi, I'm Melissa Lehman.
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I'm 5'8, and I'm based in New York.
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Do the show the hands.
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Oh, that's commercials.
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Thank you.
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Sides of the face.
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Sides of the face.
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Um, so we were living in New Orleans.
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I was working a bit as an actor there, and then the strike happened.
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And we we were back and forth a lot between my parents' house and his parents' house in New York.
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My parents live in California, his parents live in New York.
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We were going back and forth between.
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And while we were staying with my parents, I was like, I have so much shit here.
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Like, what is here?
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And we started cleaning everything out.
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And I was like, oh my God, I have so much thrifted stuff that I've been collecting.
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I'm a hoarder.
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And then I started being like, wait, this is actually like so deeply in my soul.
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I feel like I should start making this part of my life and my business.
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And so I just kind of started being like, okay, I'm just gonna post stuff online that I have because I had things in all sizes because I'm a psychopath.
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Yeah.
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So I was like, let me just posting it.
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Yeah, let me just start posting it online.
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So then I was doing kind of like thrifted bundles for people while I would shop for people and buy them basically thrifted clothes, um, and then style them in thrifted clothes.
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Amazing.
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Yeah, and it all kind of started because I, you know, the strike
happened.
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It was like, what are we doing?
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I need a different side gig, basically.
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And I had been like, I was like number one fast fashion queen.
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Like I loved fast fashion.
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HM was like my jam.
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Like I felt like it was my safe space.
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Someone said to me yesterday, HM is my safe space, and I was like, no, I used to feel that way.
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Yes.
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And then I watched The HM on fifths uh fifth halves should be considered a third space.
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Oh my god.
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You just like you're in Midtown, you find yourself in theater.
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You gotta go in there.
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Yeah.
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But I watched a documentary about fast fashion called The True Cost.
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If you want to watch it, it's really devastating.
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I've watched it.
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It is a real eye opener.
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Real eye opener, and it just made me like, wait, I'm actually contributing to this in a way that I don't agree with.
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So I kind of like looked into it and was like, wait, actually, secondhand, when you shop secondhand, you reduce the actual item that you're wearing's carbon footprint by 86% minimum.
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So, like, I was like, oh, this thing that I do already, I'm already a thrifter and a hoarder.
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Like this actually could be useful in helping people understand that thrifting isn't just like I mean, it's it's a skill, but it's not just like gross clothes.
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Yes.
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I can curate it and wash them and give them to people and style them in thrifted clothing and show them that secondhand is actually the better way to go.
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And it can be just as cool as fast fashion.
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Like I think the fast fashion thing is just like an instant gratification.
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Yes.
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And thrifting is also that, but is much more sustainable.
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Yes.
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You know how to do it.
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Absolutely.
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Well, I think there's the difference between being trend driven and being style driven.
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Yes.
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And I think specifically there's a Bravo Leb that I think is very trend driven.
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I don't want to say her name.
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Um, and I wouldn't know.
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It's fine.
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Matt Rogers wouldn't know.
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Um of course he would.
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It's just like that's where you get the fast fashion.
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Like Zara has to put out this mesh shirt because like Connor Story wore something like it.
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You know what I mean?
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They have like 80 drops a year or whatever.
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Yeah.
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When I was going through your website, there are the different tiers of styling you do.
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And I really want to talk about this thrifting bundle one because I think it is so accessible for people.
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And I think it's brilliant.
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Because thrifting can be like Sisyphian.
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Like it's daunting to go into L Street vintage or L Train vintage and see everything.
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So, how does that process work if people were interested?
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Yeah.
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So, like basically what I started doing was the thrifted bundles, and I like as I mentioned, I had a bunch of stuff.
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So what I started doing was like collecting a bunch and just like shopping for myself.
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And then it does take a lot of work.
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Like people love to shit on like resellers because you know, they're like, you're taking clothes and whatever.
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That's it, just is what it is.
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But what I do is I go in, I thrift, I clean, get all the stains out, I mend.
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My mom is an amazing tailor, so my mom does on my tough.
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Yes.
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But I like that um the mending you can see.
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I think that's really cool.
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I love that.
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Yes.
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So for I used to have a huge collection of stuff, so now I don't anymore.
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But I basically just thrift for you.
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I clean the stuff, I mend it, I send it to you.
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You keep what you like and you send back what you don't.
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That's so cool.
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I think that's really, really great.
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Do you talk to the person beforehand about like their general vibe?
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Yeah.
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So I just did one for a big celebrity.
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He sent me a really cool Pinterest board.
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He has like amazing style.
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Yeah.
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So it's really fun to do him because he just sent me this like the best board ever.
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And I just like looked
through it and I went shopping and sent him a huge box of 44 pieces.
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And he kept all of it.
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I love it.
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Yeah.
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How do you think one should go about finding like their signature style?
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Because I have like a real problem trying to like hone in on what mine is.
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You know, it's really interesting because I actually struggle with my own personal style a lot.
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Um, I think personal style and styling someone else is very different.
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Totally.
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And I don't really love to talk about that.
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I struggle with my personal style because I don't want people to think that I don't know what I'm talking about.
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But I do think they're separate concepts.
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A hundred percent.
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And I help people find their personal style.
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But when it comes to myself, I'm always like, I don't know.
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Because I personally like fabric.
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Like fabric is like the most important part of me.
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Like what I wear.
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Fabric is the most important part of what I like to wear.
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I think it's probably my like neurodivergence or whatever.
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Like I just like it needs to be comfortable.
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Sensory experience.
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Yeah, like like if I'm sweating, if I'm hot, if I'm cold, like I feel like my temperature changes a lot.
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So, like that is like my number one.
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This is why I think underwear you should be able to try on underwear.
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That's a different story.
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I love that.
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Yeah.
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Um, but I think, you know, getting to know someone, there's definitely like a psychology element to what I do.
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I would say, like, very high on the list, honestly.
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And getting to know someone and like really what they're looking for and like how they want to feel and how clothes make them feel.
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Everyone has a different relationship to clothing.
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And I think that finding your personal style is finding like what makes you feel like you and makes you feel good.
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Yeah.
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And like, I definitely think, you know, there's styling for your body type and things like that and trends and stuff like that.
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But I think the number one thing about style is what makes you feel like yourself and makes you feel good and confident.
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Yeah.
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You know, if you feel good in something, like that is style.
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Yes.
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Like this could be hideous if I didn't feel good in it.
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Yeah.
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You know what I mean?
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Like objectively, like you can look at anything and be like, oh, that's ugly or that's cute.
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And I always find that really tough when people are like ripping something apart.
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Yes.
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Because I'm just like, they felt good in it and they took a swing.
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Like, why does it matter so much?
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People are too precious about they're so precious.
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And like ripping people apart.
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Like, you don't understand how difficult it is to get people in something like that that works, that fits, that's the right design, that's the right vibe, and then they feel good in it.
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And then they go on the carpet and everyone's like, that's hideous.
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I can't believe they picked that.
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And it's like, yeah, that was like something they wanted to, they felt good in.
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And now you're just like shitting on it.
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It's just like, what?
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I don't know.
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I just find it really icky.
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Yes.
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In the hotel room, they were like, I feel like me.
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You know what I mean?
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Yeah.
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Yeah.
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And I mean, I it's always not, it's not always that situation.
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But I just feel like it's like, I don't know.
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People take swings and like we should be able to do that.
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Absolutely.
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You know, I feel like they'll say, like, oh, you can't say anything anymore.
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It's like you can't wear anything anymore.
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It's like ripping it to shreds.
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It's like all online.
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You can't do anything anymore.
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And we had um I mean you can.
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Yeah, yes, you can.
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You'll just get ripped apart.
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Yeah.
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Um, we had Von Vreland on the show recently, and he was talking about like um Valjaanism.
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No, Javierism.
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Uh-huh.
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I always miss those two.
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It's okay.
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And it's like the idea of people go on the online and they do something, and then the reaction is so disproportionate to what they did.
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100%.
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And I truly am thinking of the Shailen Woodley outfit.
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Just about to say the Shailen Woodley outfit.
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It was a crazy outfit, but she loved it.
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Also, it was Balenciaga.
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Like at the end of the day, like, isn't it Balenciaga's fault?
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Yes.
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Absolutely.
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Like, I like if you're gonna blame someone, I would say, like, Balenciaga made this and she wore it.
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Right.
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Like, just be like, oh yeah, Balenciaga made an ugly outfit in your opinion.
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But it wasn't even ugly.
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I didn't even think it was that bad.
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I just didn't like her hairstyle with it.
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Yes.
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That was my personal opinion.
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I was like, oh, she could have just done a different hairstyle.
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Yeah.
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And then, or I don't know.
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And then she changed.
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I was like, come on.
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That outfit also it's talking about like the personal style of it.
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Like, yeah, on someone like a Sarah Paulson, yeah, everyone would be eating it up.
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Eating it up.
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Eating it up.
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It's just that people don't like Shanley Woodley.
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100%.
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That's simply it.
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Yeah.
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Um moving on.
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Yeah.
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Do you have a holy grail vintage find that you have come across?
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Or some like is there something that's gotten away?
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The one that got away.
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Oh man, there's so many that got away.
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You really have to make decisions in a, you know, specific way.
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I also like, as I said, people, there are a lot of resellers out there.
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And like I always make sure to donate a ton to the places that I'm pulling from or buying from, and not to take things that I don't need, because I just think that's like an important concept that we all should really be living by.
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Yes.
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Um, so if it's not something I necessarily need, I don't really buy it.
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Um and then I don't need anything.
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You know what I mean?
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So then it becomes like this conversation I have with myself.
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I feel like it's new every day.
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Like what I'm like, do I need this for myself?
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Um I there was this white Jill Sander puffer jacket at Crossroads that was like a hundred dollars that someone had on hold.
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And I couldn't get it, and that really haunts me.
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It was so beautiful, and I could not find it on a resale website.
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It sucks.
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Yeah, it was torture.
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But I did find my, I would say my number one dream that I got.
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I got two pairs of Chanel flats.
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Emily, Emily's obsessed with Chanel flats.
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I just like it was crazy.
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I found the Buffalo Exchange.
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Shut up.
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I also actually have a pair of Prada shoes that I found in New Orleans Buffalo Exchange that were$100 that are like so stunning.
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Wow.
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I would say like, yeah.
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But that's not really like a thrift find.
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Right.
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That's I mean, yeah, but I've definitely found things like that.
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Does what is the New Orleans New Orleans thrifting scene look like?
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Um, you know, I feel like all thrifting scenes are like your run-of-the-mill thrifts, or there's like tiers, you know what I mean?
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So like at I wouldn't say like the bottom, but it just like I think it goes by curation.
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Yes.
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So like bottom of curation is like the goodwill bins, which is like, you know, you dig through and there's a lot of warehouses like that that people go to.
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And then above that is like Goodwill, Salvation Army, red, white, and blue.
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They're different chains kind of throughout the country.
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Sabres.
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Yes.
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And then above that is like Buffalo Exchange, Crossroads, Second Street.
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Yes.
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Above that would be like consignment stores.
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Yeah, like a real reel or something.
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Yeah.
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Yeah.
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So New Orleans has a lot of consignment stores.
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--> 00:19:14.000
Interesting.
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They have a really good Buffalo Exchange, but now Buffalo Exchange is filled with fast fashion, which really tortures me.
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What are your favorite NYC vintage thrift stores?
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Um, I actually sell out of a place called the Brooklyn Vintage Club.
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One of them check it out.
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Check it out in Williamsburg, the Brooklyn Vintage Club.
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They have like Y2K and 90s pieces.
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They have men's and women's.
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Love.
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Um and everything in between.
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Um, yeah, they I really love my friend Julie's store there.
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Um I I love L Train.
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L Train is the best place if you want to just, if you want like a true thrift.
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Yep.
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There are many L Train locations.
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The prices are always amazing.
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Yeah.
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If you want to like actually thrift, Beacon's Closet is also amazing.
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I love a Buffalo change.
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I love a crossroads.
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It just depends on the mood you're in.
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Do you want to dig?
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Right.
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Do you not like I there's a second street near me in Carol Garden.
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Love Second Street.
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And sometimes I'll just go in and it's like they have the nicest, like really top brands, obviously.
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Yes.
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But then you hit that t-shirt wall in the back.
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Yeah.
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And it's just like, this is great.
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This is great.
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They have such great things there.
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That's the thing.
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I have a lot of places like to buy at or sell at.
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Second Street is a place to buy at, not sell at.
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Correct.
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Because they'll give you two dollars for a short.
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They give you 50 cents for a shirt.
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They told me 25 cents.
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I one time went there and they were like, we don't take fast fashion.
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And I was so offended.
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They didn't even look at what I had.
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They were just like, we don't take fast fashion.
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And I was like, and I walked out my husband and was like, you were so nasty to them.
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And I was like, they told me I had fast fashion.
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I was like so mad.
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It's just like some random child.
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I was like, but I was so irritated because they were like, it's 25 cents for all fast fashion.
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And I was like, I don't have fast fashion.
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I was so mad.
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I was so offended.
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Um, lol.
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But most humbling experience.
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Yeah, tough to sell there.
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Yeah.
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Great to buy there.
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Yeah.
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Crossroads, great place to sell.
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Buffalo Exchange, good place to sell.
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Yes.
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But the only thing about it that's tough is that it's by um season.
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Yes.
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And I always like right now, summer's over, I want to sell all my summer stuff.
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Right.
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I just can't.
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It's fall.
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No.
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They don't want what I have.
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I just did a closet clean out, and that is like my favorite feeling in the world.
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Oh, it's the best.
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Put it all in a bag and get rid of it.
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How do you feel about your own personal style?
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Like, what's your mine is kind of all over the place.
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I'm definitely so I'm from New England and I went to a prep school, so I'm definitely like prep school pills.
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Love.
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Like my uniform in life is like a really nice worn in polo that I've had for like 10 years.
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Love.
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And a pair of jeans.
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But it took me a long time to have become like comfortable in jeans.
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Yeah.
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Like I've had weight issues, and I think that's a whole other part of my like style thing.
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Yeah.
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It's everyone's.
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Yeah, totally.
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And I like was so anti jeans for the longest time because I could not find a pair of jeans that I thought like helped me look.
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Everything was just like so baggy or like skin tight.
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Yeah.
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And then I got these off Poshmark.
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They're my like favorite pair of jeans in the entire world.
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Kind of you kind of need to find your own capsule collection for yourself.
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Yes.
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And it's like well, I got my colors done, which I I love.
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The best thing I've ever done.
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Ever.
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What are you?
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I'm a cool winter.
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Same.
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Oh my god! I think.
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Jewel tones?
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Yes.
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Yes.
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Cool winter!
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Love.
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I think we have the same coloring.
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I believe it.
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Yeah, like red undertones, mousy brown hair.
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Exactly.
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Yes, absolutely.
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The woman was like pulling all it was just also a humbling experience.
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Oh, it is.
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She would put things up and I'd be terrible.
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And I was like, oh, that's my favorite shirt I own.
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What are you talking about?
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You know what I mean?
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But it really did, it helped this with my the psychology of dressing because I realized that some of the clothes that I wasn't connecting to, mostly things I bought fast fashion, because I was like, I need a t-shirt or I need this button down.
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I wasn't liking on me and I couldn't figure out why.
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Yeah.
00:23:01.839 --> 00:23:02.799
And then I got my colors done.
00:23:02.960 --> 00:23:06.160
I was like, oh, that's why, because it's not actually highlighting other parts of me.
00:23:06.400 --> 00:23:06.480
Yeah.
00:23:06.720 --> 00:23:07.359
You know what I mean?
00:23:07.680 --> 00:23:15.599
I think that like that kind of goes into buying less buying things that are better made.
00:23:15.839 --> 00:23:16.079
Yes.
00:23:16.319 --> 00:23:17.920
Fewer better things.
00:23:18.079 --> 00:23:18.319
Yes.
00:23:18.559 --> 00:23:22.960
But I also like it's it's kind of a myth that clothes can be recycled.
00:23:23.359 --> 00:23:25.279
Um, a lot of them are just thrown away or burnt.
00:23:25.680 --> 00:23:31.519
Like we send them to other countries or we burn them or we put them in the trash in the ocean.
00:23:31.680 --> 00:23:33.519
Like it's like kind of a really tough thing.
00:23:33.680 --> 00:23:44.240
So once I started realizing that it's like not really that uh sustainable to give things away in the way you think it is, it kind of makes you buy things less that you're gonna be like, I want to give this away immediately.
00:23:44.319 --> 00:23:48.000
Because if someone else isn't gonna want it, why would you buy it?
00:23:48.240
--> 00:23:48.559
Yes.
00:23:48.799 --> 00:23:52.240
I think about the person after me and I'm like, okay.
00:23:52.960 --> 00:23:55.279
I mean, it's not really our responsibility at the end of the day.
00:23:55.359 --> 00:23:56.799
That's something that I also struggle with.
00:23:56.880 --> 00:23:59.359
It's like it's corporations fault.
00:23:59.440 --> 00:23:59.920
You know what I mean?
00:24:00.000 --> 00:24:04.720
It's like, but I try to do my due diligence of like, would someone else want this after me?
00:24:04.880 --> 00:24:07.440
And would it stay a piece of clothing?
00:24:07.519 --> 00:24:08.720
A lot of things just like fall apart.
00:24:09.119 --> 00:24:12.880
I mean, that's the intention of fast fashion, is that it falls apart and then you need to buy more.
00:24:13.039 --> 00:24:14.640
Obviously, it's all greed, you know what I mean?
00:24:14.720 --> 00:24:15.680
It's all corporate greed.
00:24:15.920 --> 00:24:19.119
So they want you to buy more.
00:24:19.279 --> 00:24:19.599
Yep.
00:24:19.839 --> 00:24:21.599
And then they don't care what you do with it.
00:24:21.759 --> 00:24:21.839
Right.
00:24:22.000 --> 00:24:23.039
But like we have to care.
00:24:23.279 --> 00:24:28.240
And they have these advertising budgets of a cajillion dollars.
00:24:28.400 --> 00:24:35.200
So now you're seeing like oh yeah, the Zara ads every single time you open Instagram, and you're like, oh, now you start to think I do need that spot.
00:24:35.519 --> 00:24:39.119
I just can't go in because I if I go in, I want it all.
00:24:39.279 --> 00:24:42.079
Like people will always say to me, like, Oh my god, this it's Zara, sorry.
00:24:42.160 --> 00:24:44.079
And I'm like, I love Zara.
00:24:44.559 --> 00:24:48.079
I just like don't align with the principles of the concept of it.
00:24:48.240 --> 00:24:50.319
So I just like that's a boundary I have.
00:24:50.559 --> 00:24:52.079
You know, that's just my personal thing.
00:24:52.319 --> 00:24:57.039
Well, when you say, like, yes, it is on the part of the um the corporation should be held accountable, of course.
00:24:57.519 --> 00:24:58.079
Yes.
00:24:58.720 --> 00:25:02.960
But at the end of the day, you have to be comfortable with what you're doing yourself.
00:25:03.119 --> 00:25:03.359
Exactly.
00:25:03.519 --> 00:25:04.079
You know what I mean?
00:25:04.160 --> 00:25:11.440
Like you have to lay your head at night and think, did I do is everything I did today in line with my actual principles?
00:25:11.680 --> 00:25:11.759
Yeah.
00:25:12.000 --> 00:25:13.920
Some days they're not, like because life happens.
00:25:14.000 --> 00:25:14.160
Yeah.
00:25:14.480 --> 00:25:16.240
But you should try to most of the time.
00:25:16.480 --> 00:25:16.640
Yeah.
00:25:16.720 --> 00:25:24.160
And I think that like if you have something like that that you're really impassioned about and like you can share with other people, it's, I don't know, I like talking about it.
00:25:24.240 --> 00:25:27.680
I like sharing it with people, but I don't try to like judge people or make them feel bad about it.
00:25:27.839 --> 00:25:31.200
I think people think that I do sometimes and they'll be like, I got this here.
00:25:31.440 --> 00:25:32.319
Like, please don't be mad at me.
00:25:32.400 --> 00:25:33.519
I'm like, what am I gonna do?
00:25:33.680 --> 00:25:34.079
Punish you?
00:25:34.240 --> 00:25:42.880
Like, it's not your fault that you were pitched this amazing thing and it comes tomorrow and it's like gorgeous and perfect and gonna make you feel like you.
00:25:43.039 --> 00:25:46.000
Like, I don't want you to feel bad for feeling good about yourself.
00:25:46.160 --> 00:25:49.839
Like, if you want to buy something at Zara because you think it's amazing, go for it.
00:25:50.079 --> 00:25:51.839
Just as long as you're gonna wear it over and over.
00:25:52.000 --> 00:25:53.920
Like, there's no, there's no problem there.
00:25:54.160 --> 00:25:57.359
Well, it's also like going to your trainer and being like, I had cake last night.
00:25:57.440 --> 00:25:58.000
It was my birthday.
00:25:58.079 --> 00:26:02.160
And it's like you are allowed to have intuitive eating.
00:26:02.400 --> 00:26:03.039
You know what I mean?
00:26:03.119 --> 00:26:04.799
Like everywhere, maybe not.
00:26:04.960 --> 00:26:05.119
Yeah.
00:26:05.279 --> 00:26:05.519
Yeah.
00:26:05.759 --> 00:26:06.640
A hundred percent.
00:26:06.799 --> 00:26:09.119
Um, steering clear, steering away from fashion.
00:26:09.279 --> 00:26:10.559
I want to talk about gay guy travel.
00:26:10.640 --> 00:26:11.759
Oh my god, gay guy travel.
00:26:11.839 --> 00:26:19.519
Because you are part of the reason why I also came across is that you're always on a gay guy vacation with I know.
00:26:19.599 --> 00:26:21.279
I kind of am always on a gay guy vacation.
00:26:21.759 --> 00:26:22.000
You are.
00:26:22.079 --> 00:26:22.240
I know.
00:26:22.400 --> 00:26:24.160
I want to be on one of those gay guy vacations so badly.
00:26:24.799 --> 00:26:26.000
All my best friends are gay guys.
00:26:26.160 --> 00:26:29.039
So it's like if I'm on a vacation, I'm gonna be with gay guys on a vacation.
00:26:29.519 --> 00:26:31.759
What role do you play on a gay guy vacation?
00:26:32.079 --> 00:26:33.759
Sort of the woman, I would say.
00:26:34.160 --> 00:26:34.880
Just a stretch.
00:26:35.359 --> 00:26:37.839
Number one role I play is the woman.
00:26:38.000 --> 00:26:39.440
Um, what role do I play?
00:26:39.519 --> 00:26:39.920
I don't know.
00:26:40.000 --> 00:26:41.359
I'm just kind of there for the vibes.
00:26:41.599 --> 00:26:44.240
Like, I'm not really, I'm sort of along for the ride.
00:26:44.319 --> 00:26:44.400
Yeah.
00:26:44.559 --> 00:26:46.559
It's sort of their vacation I'm around.
00:26:46.799 --> 00:26:47.599
I mean, it just depends.
00:26:47.680 --> 00:26:53.039
Like, I just went to Italy with my husband and my two best friends, and they are gay guys.
00:26:53.200 --> 00:26:54.640
So I don't know if it was a gay guy
vacation.
00:26:54.799 --> 00:26:55.279
It was a gay game.
00:26:55.440 --> 00:26:55.839
But it kind of was.
00:26:56.000 --> 00:26:56.640
It looked like a gay guy.
00:26:56.880 --> 00:27:02.480
We like did ultimately go viral for a video that stars my husband that everyone is commenting.
00:27:02.559 --> 00:27:08.240
And I think it went out to the perfect gay audience that like are all in love with my straight husband, but they don't know he's straight.
00:27:08.319 --> 00:27:08.559
Yep.
00:27:08.720 --> 00:27:13.440
And um, every comment is who's the first guy, who's the first guy, love the first guy, want to date the first guy.
00:27:13.599 --> 00:27:14.319
So many followers.
00:27:14.400 --> 00:27:15.920
He's like, I'm getting so many followers.
00:27:16.079 --> 00:27:16.880
I'm like, Wow.
00:27:17.039 --> 00:27:17.279
Yeah.
00:27:17.440 --> 00:27:22.000
So he is ultimately huge for the theater career for the community.
00:27:22.160 --> 00:27:29.359
Uh, I just think it went out to the right algorithm um for him and his uh gay fame.
00:27:29.599 --> 00:27:36.400
When you travel, yeah, are you a shopper or are you like I am traveling?
00:27:36.640 --> 00:27:37.680
Oh, I'm shopping.
00:27:38.000 --> 00:27:43.599
My way of traveling is finding thrift stores within the city.
00:27:43.759 --> 00:27:43.920
Yeah.
00:27:44.079 --> 00:27:46.079
And then, like my husband and I love to do that.
00:27:46.240 --> 00:27:51.839
We go, uh, I'm just I keep saying my husband, but my friend just called me out and was like, you always say my husband.
00:27:51.920 --> 00:27:54.000
And I'm like, well, because his name is Michael and everyone's named Michael.
00:27:54.079 --> 00:27:54.160
Yes.
00:27:54.319 --> 00:27:56.880
So if they start saying Michael, then it's like, who could I be talking about?
00:27:56.960 --> 00:27:57.279
Yes.
00:27:57.519 --> 00:28:01.119
I my friends make fun of me because I call everyone by first and last name.
00:28:01.359 --> 00:28:03.200
Love and Michael Taconi.
00:28:03.440 --> 00:28:03.839
Okay, great.
00:28:04.079 --> 00:28:05.440
That's a great first and last name.
00:28:05.599 --> 00:28:06.960
Perfect first and last name, Michael Taconi.
00:28:07.119 --> 00:28:09.200
Okay, so Tacone, we we do call him Taconi too.
00:28:09.359 --> 00:28:13.599
But Taconi and I love to travel because because we love each other.
00:28:14.480 --> 00:28:20.799
No, because um, one of our favorite ways to travel is thrifting while traveling because you get to see different parts of the city.
00:28:20.880 --> 00:28:33.599
So, like, I usually just go on TikTok or Google Maps, honestly, and just search thrift, and then it like takes us different parts of the city, and I save a bunch of things, and I have like each city has a Google Maps uh what are those called?
00:28:33.759 --> 00:28:34.880
You know what I mean when you save things?
00:28:36.319 --> 00:28:37.039
Yeah, Google Maps list.
00:28:37.279 --> 00:28:38.799
It's such an unoriginal name now that we're gonna be like, I know.
00:28:38.880 --> 00:28:39.759
I'm like, what is it called?
00:28:40.079 --> 00:28:40.240
Yeah.
00:28:40.400 --> 00:28:47.039
So I have like we just went to Milan, Milan, Milano Vintage, and like throughout that, I just have like a ton of saved vintage stores in Milan.
00:28:47.200 --> 00:28:47.839
Just got this in Milan.
00:28:48.319 --> 00:28:49.039
I love it so much.
00:28:49.200 --> 00:28:50.799
I have some questions from Emily who's not here.
00:28:50.960 --> 00:28:51.279
Okay.
00:28:51.519 --> 00:28:52.480
Well, where'd you get it?
00:28:52.559 --> 00:28:53.359
How many people were in your house?
00:28:53.440 --> 00:28:54.000
How long did that jack?
00:28:54.400 --> 00:28:54.880
But was she hot?
00:28:57.359 --> 00:28:58.160
What are you obsessed with?
00:28:58.480 --> 00:29:00.960
What are some sustainable brands we should all be shopping?
00:29:01.359 --> 00:29:02.240
Oh man.
00:29:02.640 --> 00:29:07.519
We had our shared BFF, Sandro Maureen of Cossack Race.
00:29:07.839 --> 00:29:08.480
Absolutely love him.
00:29:08.720 --> 00:29:09.279
My king.
00:29:09.440 --> 00:29:10.400
He is so amazing.
00:29:10.640 --> 00:29:11.039
The best.
00:29:11.200 --> 00:29:12.640
I'm obsessed with his clothes.
00:29:12.799 --> 00:29:16.480
I think I found him through the um, what is that called?
00:29:16.799 --> 00:29:17.440
The Fort Green.
00:29:17.680 --> 00:29:18.079
The Bazaar.
00:29:18.319 --> 00:29:18.880
The Grand Bazaar.
00:29:19.279 --> 00:29:19.599
Oh yes.
00:29:19.680 --> 00:29:19.839
Yeah.
00:29:20.079 --> 00:29:22.000
I saw him at the Grand Bazaar and met him there.
00:29:22.720 --> 00:29:27.519
I mean, personally, I just like going around and like meeting people at like a flea market or something like that.
00:29:27.680 --> 00:29:29.839
Someone that's like actually making clothing, like Sandro.
00:29:29.920 --> 00:29:30.240
Yeah.
00:29:30.480 --> 00:29:33.039
Um, that's like my favorite way to find someone.
00:29:33.200 --> 00:29:33.440
Yeah.
00:29:33.839 --> 00:29:41.599
I it's I I have this conundrum when it comes to sustainable brands because they're they're expensive.
00:29:42.160 --> 00:29:46.079
And like the gap between fast fashion and sustainable brands is like pretty big.
00:29:46.319 --> 00:29:49.920
That's why I like to shop secondhand because it kind of bridges that gap a lot of the time.
00:29:50.240 --> 00:29:51.200
That's a great philosophy.
00:29:51.279 --> 00:29:55.279
I think that's a really important like look at it.
00:29:55.759 --> 00:30:01.440
Yeah, I just like I think if you have the money, you better be shopping sustainable small brands.
00:30:01.759 --> 00:30:02.400
You better be.
00:30:02.720 --> 00:30:02.880
Yes.
00:30:03.200 --> 00:30:07.759
You know, I don't have the money, but when I do, you know what I mean?
00:30:07.839 --> 00:30:08.960
Like, I say this all the time.
00:30:09.599 --> 00:30:10.960
The wrong people are rich.
00:30:11.680 --> 00:30:12.720
People like us should be rich.
00:30:12.960 --> 00:30:13.200
Literally.
00:30:13.359 --> 00:30:14.160
We'd be so good at it.
00:30:14.240 --> 00:30:16.400
I'm so I like hire me to be rich.
00:30:16.559 --> 00:30:16.960
Yes.
00:30:17.359 --> 00:30:19.920
I don't know what that that means, but yeah, hire me to be rich.
00:30:20.079 --> 00:30:20.319
100%.
00:30:20.559 --> 00:30:20.960
I love that.
00:30:21.119 --> 00:30:27.599
I'm trying to think, but I I love finding like cool, sustainable brands.
00:30:27.759 --> 00:30:32.720
Like if you go to Beacon's Closet, you can find a lot of cool smaller brands there.
00:30:33.119 --> 00:30:34.880
Um, but a lot of them are closing.
00:30:34.960 --> 00:30:38.720
I mean, like Mara Hoffman was a really cool sustainable brand that closed.
00:30:39.519 --> 00:30:39.920
It sucks.
00:30:40.400 --> 00:30:40.640
I know.
00:30:40.799 --> 00:30:47.440
It's it's really it's really difficult to be a small batch brand when you're competing with fast fashion.
00:30:47.680 --> 00:30:47.839
Right.
00:30:48.720 --> 00:30:49.759
You just cannot compete.
00:30:50.000 --> 00:30:50.240
Yeah.
00:30:50.400 --> 00:30:52.640
I really love this store, Wife, on the lower east side.
00:30:52.799 --> 00:30:53.759
Oh, I love that store.
00:30:54.000 --> 00:30:55.519
Yeah, they have really amazing stuff in there.
00:30:55.599 --> 00:30:56.960
I'm trying to think of other ones I love.
00:30:57.279 --> 00:30:58.880
I love Rachel Comey.
00:30:59.359 --> 00:31:04.079
Um, Never Fully Dressed is a really cool store on the Lower East Side.
00:31:04.640 --> 00:31:06.319
Um, let me think of it.
00:31:06.559 --> 00:31:08.160
Great things are happening on the Lower East side when it comes to.
00:31:08.480 --> 00:31:10.319
Oh, I honestly just walk around the Lower East Side.
00:31:10.400 --> 00:31:10.640
Yeah.
00:31:10.720 --> 00:31:10.960
Yeah.
00:31:11.119 --> 00:31:11.359
Totally.
00:31:11.599 --> 00:31:11.759
Yeah.
00:31:11.920 --> 00:31:16.559
Um, you're in the process of detoxifying your life and you're doing the series on Instagram, which we love.
00:31:16.799 --> 00:31:16.960
Yes.
00:31:17.119 --> 00:31:21.519
With what is one swap you made that you notice a difference with immediately?
00:31:23.119 --> 00:31:24.319
That's what's hard about that.
00:31:24.400 --> 00:31:26.400
You know, you don't really necessarily notice a difference.
00:31:26.480 --> 00:31:33.200
I I would say my number one thing that I'm really passionate about right now is a toothbrush because it's like microplastics are going in your gums and going in, like, I don't know.
00:31:33.279 --> 00:31:35.200
I'm like your brain, is it getting close to your brain?
00:31:35.359 --> 00:31:35.680
Yes.
00:31:35.839 --> 00:31:37.279
Um have you found a substitute?
00:31:37.359 --> 00:31:40.559
Because I'm trying to eliminate micro as I can.
00:31:40.720 --> 00:31:40.960
Yeah.
00:31:41.119 --> 00:31:41.599
As much as I can.
00:31:41.839 --> 00:31:43.200
And the toothbrush one is the hardest.
00:31:43.359 --> 00:31:43.519
Yes.
00:31:43.599 --> 00:31:45.200
There's a toothbrush called Surrey.
00:31:45.359 --> 00:31:47.119
It is an electric toothbrush.
00:31:47.200 --> 00:31:48.480
You can get it at Target.
00:31:48.720 --> 00:31:50.799
Um, probably fuck Target.
00:31:50.880 --> 00:31:51.279
I don't know.
00:31:51.440 --> 00:31:54.559
But yes, but also sometimes you have to shop at Target.
00:31:54.799 --> 00:31:55.119
You know what I mean?
00:31:55.359 --> 00:31:55.759
It's really hard.
00:31:55.839 --> 00:31:56.960
It's the conundrum of our life, right?
00:31:57.119 --> 00:31:58.559
Like if you're going to get so trapped.
00:31:58.799 --> 00:32:07.440
If you're going to get something that is going to reduce microplastics at a reasonable price, I know, and you have to go to Target for that one thing, just do it.
00:32:07.680 --> 00:32:12.000
It's so hard because there aren't stores that carry things anymore, too.
00:32:12.160 --> 00:32:16.960
Like because of Amazon, I can't get anything at a normal store.
00:32:17.119 --> 00:32:20.079
Like you go to a small store and you're like, oh, I'm hoping.
00:32:20.240 --> 00:32:22.319
Like I I was looking for OxyClean recently.
00:32:22.400 --> 00:32:25.519
OxyClean is something that I have to use because I get stains out of things.
00:32:25.920 --> 00:32:27.759
Don't love to use it, probably extremely toxic.
00:32:28.000 --> 00:32:30.799
Looking for OxyClean, I could not find it in New York City.
00:32:31.119 --> 00:32:31.519
Really?
00:32:31.680 --> 00:32:31.920
No.
00:32:32.160 --> 00:32:34.880
And so I had to order it online, and I'm just like, okay.
00:32:35.759 --> 00:32:36.319
It's just tough.
00:32:36.480 --> 00:32:39.680
Like I it's not it's not our fault.
00:32:40.240 --> 00:32:41.440
It's our responsibility.
00:32:41.599 --> 00:32:42.000
I don't know.
00:32:42.319 --> 00:32:50.720
I tried to buy a pillow the other day, and by the other day, I mean a year ago, and I could not find I wanted a certain brand because someone was like, this is best for this kind of sleeper.
00:32:50.799 --> 00:32:51.200
Yes.
00:32:51.680 --> 00:32:53.839
Could not try it in New York City.
00:32:54.240 --> 00:32:55.680
They have three showrooms.
00:32:56.400 --> 00:32:57.519
You had to buy the pillow online.
00:32:57.759 --> 00:32:58.079
What is it?
00:32:58.160 --> 00:32:58.559
What was it?
00:32:58.720 --> 00:33:00.000
Sattva S-A-A-P.
00:33:00.079 --> 00:33:00.480
Oh, I know that.
00:33:01.359 --> 00:33:03.920
And Wire Cutter was like, this is the best pillow for back sleepers.
00:33:04.079 --> 00:33:06.000
It's like, great, I'll go and I'll just buy it and I'll try it out.
00:33:06.079 --> 00:33:07.200
They're like, I go to the store.
00:33:07.279 --> 00:33:07.759
No, we don't care.
00:33:08.000 --> 00:33:08.240
It's not true.
00:33:08.400 --> 00:33:08.640
I know.
00:33:08.960 --> 00:33:09.440
What do you mean?
00:33:09.519 --> 00:33:09.839
Your store.
00:33:10.880 --> 00:33:11.039
I know.
00:33:11.200 --> 00:33:12.000
In-person is dying.
00:33:12.079 --> 00:33:12.799
It doesn't make sense.
00:33:12.960 --> 00:33:13.440
And don't you?
00:33:13.599 --> 00:33:15.920
Emily and I always talk about like going into a Bloomingdale's.
00:33:16.000 --> 00:33:17.039
Don't you feel amazing in there?
00:33:17.200 --> 00:33:17.920
I feel amazing in there.
00:33:18.079 --> 00:33:19.440
Nordstrom is my safe space.
00:33:19.599 --> 00:33:20.480
Oh my God.
00:33:20.720 --> 00:33:21.119
It really is.
00:33:21.759 --> 00:33:22.720
Remember the piano back in the day?
00:33:22.799 --> 00:33:23.119
I don't know.
00:33:23.359 --> 00:33:23.759
Of course.
00:33:24.240 --> 00:33:27.119
Southern California girl, like Nordstrom, the piano.
00:33:27.759 --> 00:33:29.039
Well, the Nordstrom lunch.
00:33:29.200 --> 00:33:30.799
I was gonna say a Nordstrom cafe, honey.
00:33:31.039 --> 00:33:32.480
Diet Coke in a salad, please.
00:33:32.720 --> 00:33:33.279
Absolutely.
00:33:33.519 --> 00:33:35.119
The French fries that came in that thing.
00:33:35.359 --> 00:33:36.000
Oh my god.
00:33:36.160 --> 00:33:38.240
Oh yeah, me and my girls, we would it's not a salad.
00:33:38.319 --> 00:33:41.839
It's like like just like a chicken with lettuce.
00:33:42.079 --> 00:33:47.440
We would go after school sometimes and just sit in that Nordstrom cafe, feel like real bitches.
00:33:47.519 --> 00:33:47.920
You know what I mean?
00:33:48.160 --> 00:33:49.200
Real bitches, real rich too.
00:33:49.440 --> 00:33:49.680
Yes.
00:33:49.759 --> 00:33:50.559
Oh, heaven on earth.
00:33:50.640 --> 00:33:50.880
I know.
00:33:50.960 --> 00:33:54.240
Um, we'll be right back with your obsession obsession, but can you tease me with one word?
00:33:54.559 --> 00:33:54.880
Travel.
00:33:55.119 --> 00:33:56.240
Oh my god, I'm so excited.
00:33:56.799 --> 00:33:57.279
Fabulous.
00:33:57.440 --> 00:33:58.559
We'll be right back.
00:34:02.720 --> 00:34:03.839
All right, Melissa.
00:34:04.079 --> 00:34:05.359
You tease me with travel.
00:34:05.839 --> 00:34:07.039
Tell me what you're obsessed with right now.
00:34:07.119 --> 00:34:08.159
I'm obsessed with Japan.
00:34:08.320 --> 00:34:09.599
I want to go so badly.
00:34:09.679 --> 00:34:10.480
Tell me everything.
00:34:10.639 --> 00:34:15.360
I like I'm horny for people talking about Japan because I it's just the end all be all for me.
00:34:15.519 --> 00:34:17.840
I know it's like another millennial white woman obsessed with Japan.
00:34:18.000 --> 00:34:21.840
And like the T is it's just it's it lives up to the hype.
00:34:22.239 --> 00:34:28.320
One of my best friends from growing up was living in Japan for three years, and I went to visit her and she took me around.
00:34:28.480 --> 00:34:35.519
Having a local take you around, I mean, local, having someone that lives there take you around was truly life-changing.
00:34:35.760 --> 00:34:48.320
Um, I just like the way they take care of everything, the culture, everything is thoughtful, like down to every single thing.
00:34:48.400 --> 00:35:00.079
They're like it's just like they give you something, like they give you a cookie and it's like perfectly wrapped and like decorated in like in the most gorgeous kawaii cute way, and they're just like, and they present it with like such honor.
00:35:00.159 --> 00:35:00.719
You know what I mean?
00:35:00.800 --> 00:35:03.199
It's just such a beautiful culture, yeah.
00:35:03.440 --> 00:35:05.280
Um, yeah, I spent a bunch of time.
00:35:05.360 --> 00:35:07.760
I went three times um in the last two years.
00:35:08.000 --> 00:35:08.960
Absolutely surprised.
00:35:09.280 --> 00:35:09.599
I know.
00:35:09.679 --> 00:35:12.880
I flew on miles and I stayed with my friend, which was so silly.
00:35:13.039 --> 00:35:15.920
Yeah, but um, yeah, the thrifting there is insane.
00:35:16.159 --> 00:35:18.719
It's a lot of like Americana, they actually love Americans.
00:35:20.320 --> 00:35:22.559
There's just like very like the thrifting is very like Ralph Lauren.
00:35:22.719 --> 00:35:24.719
They love Ralph Lauren, um Americana stuff.
00:35:24.800 --> 00:35:29.840
But if you can find the Japanese local spots, uh-huh, that's where the real stuff is.
00:35:30.079 --> 00:35:33.840
Is there like a chain or yeah, definitely.
00:35:34.000 --> 00:35:35.440
They have Second Street, that's where it started.
00:35:35.519 --> 00:35:36.320
Oh, duh, of course.
00:35:36.480 --> 00:35:40.960
So Second Street is like amazing because there's a lot of like local, it's like their fast fashion Japanese brands.
00:35:41.119 --> 00:35:43.519
I'm like absolutely like the cuts are amazing.
00:35:43.679 --> 00:35:45.920
I was gonna say they're probably significantly better made.
00:35:46.079 --> 00:35:46.639
Oh, of course.
00:35:46.960 --> 00:35:47.280
Nature.
00:35:47.840 --> 00:35:48.239
Everything.
00:35:48.880 --> 00:35:49.440
Yeah.
00:35:49.760 --> 00:35:51.920
Um, yeah, so I love going to Second Street there.
00:35:52.000 --> 00:35:54.719
There's another one called Book Off and Mode Off, which are really awesome.
00:35:54.880 --> 00:35:55.199
Okay.
00:35:55.440 --> 00:35:59.599
Um, yeah, and just like discovering, walking through, shopping.
00:35:59.840 --> 00:36:01.679
I mean, it's so clean.
00:36:01.760 --> 00:36:03.679
The food is so amazing.
00:36:03.920 --> 00:36:05.199
I'm just like obsessed with the culture.
00:36:05.280 --> 00:36:06.000
I'm obsessed with the people.
00:36:06.079 --> 00:36:07.280
They're all so kind.
00:36:07.920 --> 00:36:09.360
Um, probably because we're tourists.
00:36:09.440 --> 00:36:09.920
Like, I don't know.
00:36:10.000 --> 00:36:12.639
I don't know the details there, but love being a tourist there.
00:36:12.719 --> 00:36:12.960
Yeah.
00:36:13.119 --> 00:36:14.239
Um I love that.
00:36:14.320 --> 00:36:14.480
Yeah.
00:36:14.719 --> 00:36:19.920
Why why do you think everything is done with such care there?
00:36:20.480 --> 00:36:22.400
I just like think that it's like intention.
00:36:22.800 --> 00:36:26.239
I think
like it's a cultural thing, you know?
00:36:26.400 --> 00:36:28.800
I don't think that we have that same culture.
00:36:29.199 --> 00:36:32.559
There's a there's a work hard, play hard culture there.
00:36:32.719 --> 00:36:32.960
Yes.
00:36:33.119 --> 00:36:38.239
But there's also like a pride in your work and what you output in this world.
00:36:38.559 --> 00:36:39.920
A lot of other countries are like that.
00:36:40.159 --> 00:36:40.880
We certainly are not.
00:36:41.119 --> 00:36:41.920
We are certainly not.
00:36:42.159 --> 00:36:43.360
Or we've lost it.
00:36:43.599 --> 00:36:46.960
Yeah, we because we are a we're a work-driven society.
00:36:47.039 --> 00:36:47.360
Yeah.
00:36:47.519 --> 00:36:53.360
But when it comes to like maximizing output as opposed to the quality of the output.
00:36:53.760 --> 00:36:54.000
Yeah.
00:36:54.159 --> 00:36:59.519
I think there's still a lot of intention behind a lot of people that work in a lot of different industries here.
00:36:59.679 --> 00:37:10.079
But like when you're a person that's like a work from home on a computer every day, closing your laptop, like I don't know if you're as impassioned about your job than it is like working on making a watch.
00:37:10.320 --> 00:37:10.559
Right.
00:37:10.719 --> 00:37:11.199
You know what I mean?
00:37:11.280 --> 00:37:15.280
Like a watchmaker is probably a little more passionate about someone just like click clacking about.
00:37:15.360 --> 00:37:15.599
Yeah.
00:37:15.760 --> 00:37:20.480
Like, I don't know, maybe that's a generalization, but I just feel like we've lost intention.
00:37:20.639 --> 00:37:22.880
I was just in Italy too, and there's so much intention.
00:37:23.199 --> 00:37:33.519
Like, we just we went to a Parmesan cheese factory, Parmigiano Reggiano, you know, it's like they just they're they're so proud of what they're making.
00:37:33.679 --> 00:37:35.119
And like down to the cows.
00:37:35.199 --> 00:37:36.559
Look at our cows, you know what I mean?
00:37:36.639 --> 00:37:38.960
And it's like, can you tour a farm here?
00:37:39.280 --> 00:37:40.480
I'm sure I'm sure you can.
00:37:40.719 --> 00:37:42.800
Yeah, but like, do you want to?
00:37:42.960 --> 00:37:43.280
I don't know.
00:37:43.360 --> 00:37:45.360
Like, I don't know if I want to go to the Tyson chicken factory.
00:37:45.840 --> 00:37:46.400
Certainly not.
00:37:46.559 --> 00:37:47.840
You know, per don't.
00:37:49.119 --> 00:37:53.519
Um, what was the I'm like a foodie through and through.
00:37:53.599 --> 00:37:55.360
What was the best thing you ate in Japan?
00:37:55.519 --> 00:37:57.519
I absolutely love tonkatsu pork.
00:37:57.840 --> 00:38:02.000
Just like love, it's like the panko breaded tonkatsu.
00:38:02.159 --> 00:38:02.320
Yeah.
00:38:02.559 --> 00:38:03.280
Absolutely obsessed.
00:38:03.440 --> 00:38:05.039
Did you get the egg salad sandwich at 7-Eleven?
00:38:05.199 --> 00:38:05.920
Of course, a million times.
00:38:06.079 --> 00:38:06.559
Was it worth it?
00:38:06.639 --> 00:38:08.159
It's like not even real egg, I don't think.
00:38:09.760 --> 00:38:14.239
I'm pretty sure it's like a like, I don't even know what it is, but it's not real egg.
00:38:14.880 --> 00:38:15.920
Indescribable, really.
00:38:16.079 --> 00:38:16.960
But yeah, it's unbelievable.
00:38:17.039 --> 00:38:18.000
It's so creamy, it's so good.
00:38:18.079 --> 00:38:19.599
Everything at 7-Eleven is amazing.
00:38:19.920 --> 00:38:21.360
Did you do the vending machines?
00:38:21.599 --> 00:38:22.079
Of course.
00:38:22.239 --> 00:38:22.719
Oh my god.
00:38:22.880 --> 00:38:24.880
Love the vending machines, love a trinket.
00:38:25.119 --> 00:38:27.119
Um, yeah, I just love everything there.
00:38:27.440 --> 00:38:30.960
Did you go where which cities did you have you done?
00:38:31.119 --> 00:38:33.840
We I mostly did Tokyo, which is my favorite.
00:38:34.000 --> 00:38:36.800
And then we did Kyoto and Osaka the last two times we were there.
00:38:36.960 --> 00:38:38.159
I mean, the last time I was there.
00:38:38.239 --> 00:38:38.559
Yeah.
00:38:38.800 --> 00:38:40.880
Um loved Osaka.
00:38:41.199 --> 00:38:45.119
Also in Japan, there's a lot of men's thrifting, which is not as common here.
00:38:45.280 --> 00:38:48.159
A lot of like men's specific stores, especially in Osaka.
00:38:48.320 --> 00:38:53.280
We walk around this one area, um, and just like a ton of men's stores, which is really cool.
00:38:53.360 --> 00:38:56.159
And I, and they just like, you know, they have such pride in their stores.
00:38:56.400 --> 00:38:59.039
Like, this is what I have, this is what I you know.
00:38:59.599 --> 00:39:00.800
Did you read that book less?
00:39:00.960 --> 00:39:01.119
No.
00:39:01.280 --> 00:39:04.000
I won the Pulitzer a few, probably like 10 years ago now, actually.
00:39:04.159 --> 00:39:11.360
And it's about a gay guy that um travels across the world and whatever, and he goes to Japan and he gets a suit made, and he basically wears that suit the whole time.
00:39:11.519 --> 00:39:13.679
And it's like it's a symbol, yada yada yada.
00:39:14.079 --> 00:39:15.679
But I want to go to Japan to get a suit made.
00:39:15.840 --> 00:39:16.159
Oh, yeah.
00:39:16.480 --> 00:39:19.360
Because it's allegedly it's like the best suiting in the world.
00:39:19.599 --> 00:39:20.000
Oh, yeah.
00:39:20.079 --> 00:39:25.360
The best price, the best, like seamstress, like everything is supposed to be incredible.
00:39:25.599 --> 00:39:27.360
I mean, I know that with Vietnam too.
00:39:27.440 --> 00:39:32.320
Vietnam has you can go and get like shoes made, custom shoes made, you can get a bunch of clothes made.
00:39:32.400 --> 00:39:37.679
You there are like these places all over Vietnam that you can go in and just get custom things made for you, and it's really inexpensive.
00:39:37.760 --> 00:39:39.199
And they'll like ship them to you.
00:39:39.440 --> 00:39:40.159
How do we have that here?
00:39:40.239 --> 00:39:40.880
It's so fucked up.
00:39:41.119 --> 00:39:41.840
I think we do.
00:39:42.000 --> 00:39:43.119
I think we just miss it.
00:39:43.280 --> 00:39:45.119
Like, I'm saying, like, oh, we shouldn't tour farm.
00:39:45.199 --> 00:39:45.920
We should tour farm.
00:39:46.000 --> 00:39:47.119
Like, why aren't we thinking about it?
00:39:47.199 --> 00:39:47.760
You know what I mean?
00:39:47.840 --> 00:39:50.800
Like, I don't think we have the it's just such a big country.
00:39:50.880 --> 00:39:52.719
Like, we can't really blame ourselves for not knowing.
00:39:52.880 --> 00:39:53.119
Right.
00:39:53.280 --> 00:39:59.519
But like, I feel like we should just like look into things that are a little more yes, but it's also things are inaccessible.
00:39:59.599 --> 00:40:00.800
Like completely sure.
00:40:00.880 --> 00:40:03.280
I could get it made of custom, I could get custom shoes.
00:40:03.360 --> 00:40:04.800
Yeah, they're probably gonna be over a thousand dollars.
00:40:05.039 --> 00:40:05.280
100%.
00:40:05.519 --> 00:40:06.000
You know what I mean?
00:40:06.159 --> 00:40:06.639
Because the cost.
00:40:06.800 --> 00:40:07.039
Yeah.
00:40:07.199 --> 00:40:08.159
It's crazy cost here.
00:40:08.320 --> 00:40:12.400
And I want to, like, I want to pay craftsmen fairly.
00:40:12.559 --> 00:40:12.719
I know.
00:40:12.880 --> 00:40:13.360
You know what I mean?
00:40:13.519 --> 00:40:14.559
That's the conundrum of it all.
00:40:14.639 --> 00:40:16.079
That's what I was saying with sustainable brands.
00:40:16.159 --> 00:40:16.639
You know what I mean?
00:40:16.719 --> 00:40:19.679
It's like it's expensive, but I want something that's gonna last.
00:40:19.840 --> 00:40:23.039
So I actually think, oh, Rudy Jude is another really good brand.
00:40:23.119 --> 00:40:24.079
Um Rudy Jude.
00:40:24.320 --> 00:40:24.719
Rudy Jude.
00:40:24.960 --> 00:40:25.119
Great.
00:40:25.280 --> 00:40:31.280
Um, I think saving up for something and like spending the money is gonna be the better way to do it.
00:40:31.360 --> 00:40:34.559
But it's like, how do I know where to go and what to do?
00:40:34.639 --> 00:40:36.159
It's like you need the information.
00:40:36.400 --> 00:40:36.880
Totally.
00:40:37.039 --> 00:40:40.800
What was the greatest cultural difference you noticed?
00:40:40.960 --> 00:40:45.119
Like that was really like no eating in the streets, no trash cans.
00:40:45.360 --> 00:40:45.760
Whoa.
00:40:45.920 --> 00:40:46.800
Yeah, there's no trash cans.
00:40:46.960 --> 00:40:49.039
I'm always eating in the street, always eating in the street.
00:40:49.199 --> 00:40:51.440
It's like very considered very rude to be eating on the street.
00:40:51.679 --> 00:40:53.039
And you can't talk on the subway, right?
00:40:53.280 --> 00:40:54.719
There, yeah, there's like a silent car.
00:40:54.800 --> 00:40:55.920
There's a women-only car, too.
00:40:56.079 --> 00:40:56.559
Love that.
00:40:56.719 --> 00:40:59.199
I kind of like think I did speak on the subway and didn't really know.
00:40:59.280 -->
00:41:00.719
But like, of course, we're whispering.
00:41:00.800 --> 00:41:01.039
Yes.
00:41:01.199 --> 00:41:02.880
When you're talking, you're whispering.
00:41:02.960 --> 00:41:03.280
Yep.
00:41:03.440 --> 00:41:04.880
I mean, uh, we were.
00:41:05.280 --> 00:41:07.760
I'm not, we're like, like, you know what I mean?
00:41:07.840 --> 00:41:10.000
I'm not trying to like speak like Americans on the street.
00:41:10.159 --> 00:41:12.159
It's just, but there aren't trash cans and there's no trash.
00:41:12.239 --> 00:41:12.960
It makes no sense.
00:41:13.119 --> 00:41:18.320
There are trash cans near the um vending machines, if you ever desperately need a trash can.
00:41:18.400 --> 00:41:20.000
Um, or near the 7Es.
00:41:20.239 --> 00:41:23.679
Sometimes in the 7-Elevens, but not in like the touristy areas because they don't want you to throw anything away.
00:41:23.840 --> 00:41:25.519
I'm so curious about like cultural ethos.
00:41:25.679 --> 00:41:29.119
So now I really want to like see why Japan has it all right.
00:41:29.679 --> 00:41:30.320
You know what I mean?
00:41:30.559 --> 00:41:32.719
Some of it Oh yeah, like you can't be gay there.
00:41:32.960 --> 00:41:40.719
I was just gonna say, like there's definitely some, you know, underbellies, like every place that it's a little bit just like present a certain way.
00:41:40.880 --> 00:41:41.280
Yep.
00:41:41.519 --> 00:41:47.119
Um but I think as a tourist and just on your like day-to-day operation, you know what I mean?
00:41:47.360 --> 00:41:48.719
Like they have it really down.
00:41:49.039 --> 00:41:49.280
Yeah.
00:41:49.920 --> 00:41:50.320
100%.
00:41:50.639 --> 00:41:54.079
And I think I think it is just an interesting thing to be a tourist anywhere.
00:41:54.239 --> 00:42:01.679
Like I don't necessarily know the ethos of most places you go and you're trying to learn and trying to figure it out.
00:42:01.840 --> 00:42:05.360
But being a tourist, you're like, oh I love this.
00:42:05.440 --> 00:42:05.760
I see this.
00:42:06.000 --> 00:42:07.280
Yes, and you have to adapt to that ethos.
00:42:07.519 --> 00:42:07.920
You know what I mean?
00:42:09.199 --> 00:42:11.599
When I'm in Europe, like I can't be like, all right, where's my nice coffee?
00:42:11.679 --> 00:42:12.239
Come on, let's go.
00:42:12.559 --> 00:42:12.800
100%.
00:42:13.119 --> 00:42:15.039
You know, like you just have to go with the flow.
00:42:15.280 --> 00:42:15.440
Yeah.
00:42:15.840 --> 00:42:17.440
You're you're playing their game, yeah.
00:42:17.760 --> 00:42:18.079
Their rules.
00:42:18.480 --> 00:42:23.760
And I think it's fun to be in a place where you're, you know, I I don't love when I travel to be around a bunch of Americans.
00:42:23.840 --> 00:42:28.000
I like to be like immersed as much as you can just to kind of just see what the culture is like.
00:42:28.159 --> 00:42:32.639
But we just went to Florence and it was just like, whoa, there's so many Americans there.
00:42:32.719 --> 00:42:35.840
And I was
like, not what I want.
00:42:36.159 --> 00:42:36.320
Yeah.
00:42:36.480 --> 00:42:38.639
I try to do cultural immersion, not a field trip.
00:42:38.880 --> 00:42:40.239
Yeah, like it just, I don't know.
00:42:40.480 --> 00:42:48.239
It's just like I just want to be in the place, experiencing the thing as much as you possibly can and be as respectful as you can, because Americans are not known for that.
00:42:48.400 --> 00:42:49.199
No, unfortunately.
00:42:49.519 --> 00:42:50.239
I have to go to Japan.
00:42:50.400 --> 00:42:51.519
I have to, I have to.
00:42:51.760 --> 00:42:53.039
All right, that'll be my next big track.
00:42:53.119 --> 00:42:53.280
Yes.
00:42:53.440 --> 00:42:56.639
Um, we're running out of time, but I want to do a lightning round to get your takes on some more hot topics.
00:42:57.039 --> 00:42:57.360
Okay, well.
00:42:57.599 --> 00:42:59.039
Tell me if you're obsessed or over it.
00:42:59.119 --> 00:42:59.199
Okay.
00:42:59.440 --> 00:43:00.079
Speed round.
00:43:00.320 --> 00:43:00.480
Okay.
00:43:01.039 --> 00:43:02.239
Monochrome.
00:43:02.719 --> 00:43:03.599
Monochrome.
00:43:03.679 --> 00:43:03.760
Yes.
00:43:04.079 --> 00:43:04.639
Over it.
00:43:04.960 --> 00:43:07.199
The concept of spooky season.
00:43:07.599 --> 00:43:08.239
Over it.
00:43:08.480 --> 00:43:10.400
Time blindness as an excuse.
00:43:10.719 --> 00:43:11.519
I've never heard of that.
00:43:11.679 --> 00:43:13.519
Oh, it's when people are late and they're like, I have time blindness.
00:43:13.679 --> 00:43:14.800
That's the craziest thing I've ever heard.
00:43:14.960 --> 00:43:15.199
Over it.
00:43:15.599 --> 00:43:16.159
Your sisters.
00:43:16.800 --> 00:43:18.960
A modern take on a classic silhouette.
00:43:20.480 --> 00:43:20.880
What?
00:43:21.039 --> 00:43:21.280
No.
00:43:21.519 --> 00:43:23.519
That's what everyone was saying on the red carpet for the Emmy.
00:43:23.760 --> 00:43:23.920
Is it?
00:43:24.000 --> 00:43:25.360
This is a modern take on a classic silhouette.
00:43:25.440 --> 00:43:26.239
It's a little black dress.
00:43:26.400 --> 00:43:26.800
I hate that.
00:43:26.880 --> 00:43:27.199
Over it.
00:43:27.360 --> 00:43:28.320
Cowboy boots.
00:43:28.559 --> 00:43:28.880
Love.
00:43:29.039 --> 00:43:29.280
Always.
00:43:29.440 --> 00:43:29.840
Obsessed.
00:43:30.079 --> 00:43:30.559
Uggs.
00:43:30.960 --> 00:43:31.920
Always obsessed with this.
00:43:32.480 --> 00:43:32.800
Why not?
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Voicemails.
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Sure.
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If you want to leave one, go for it.
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Obsessed with this.
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Camping.
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Never.
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Respectful confrontation.
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Always.
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High ponies.
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Sure.
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Final question.
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Are you obsessed with me?
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Absolutely obsessed with you.
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Melissa, thank you so much.
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Thank you.
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Tell our listeners and watchers where they can follow you.
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Oh, you can follow me at Mulcy Mouse, my nickname, M-U-L-S-Y-M-O-U-S-E.
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And guys, she does the best styling.
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If you're ever in need of anything, like please check her out.
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I love everything you do.
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I love everything you do.
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Thank you so much, Melissa.
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So nice to hang.
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If you like this episode, highly recommend our episode with Sandra Maureen, the creator of Casa Grace, who specializes in sustainable fashion.
00:44:12.719 --> 00:44:17.840
And if you want to know more about travel, I highly recommend the Eddie Massey episode.
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His obsession was the vacation mentality.
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And I think if you like this conversation about travel in Japan, it's a natural fit.
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Thanks for tuning in.
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Are you obsessed with us?
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Please like, comment, and subscribe.
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Bye.
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You will test my factory.
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What is it?
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Or is my factory testing you?