ကူးယူချက် 🔗
WEBVTT
00:00:00.000 --> 00:00:05.120
Welcome to Two Hypotherapist Talking with me, Denise Bill and Mahia in Delaware, USA.
00:00:05.839 --> 00:00:07.919
And me, Larry Roberts, in St.
00:00:08.000 --> 00:00:09.919
Helens, United Kingdom.
00:00:10.240 --> 00:00:18.640
This weekly podcast was for anyone and everyone who would like to know more about the fascinating world of hypnosis and the benefits that it offers.
00:00:19.199 --> 00:00:24.079
I'm a clinical hypnotherapist and specialist in working with children.
00:00:24.399 --> 00:00:28.719
And I'm a retired medical doctor and consultant hypnotist.
00:00:29.839 --> 00:00:32.960
We are two hypnotherapists talking.
00:00:33.200 --> 00:00:35.280
So let's get on with the episode.
00:00:37.759 --> 00:00:39.439
Hi, welcome again.
00:00:39.759 --> 00:00:50.880
And today we're going to talk to Cheryl Ellman, which some of you may remember from before when uh Marta was recording with, but Cheryl has been a hypnotist for some time.
00:00:51.039 --> 00:00:55.520
And this time she's been talking about another favorite subject that she likes.
00:00:55.759 --> 00:00:56.079
Okay.
00:00:56.320 --> 00:00:57.840
Take it away, Cheryl.
00:00:59.280 --> 00:01:00.399
Hi, everybody.
00:01:00.640 --> 00:01:04.799
It's such a pleasure, a pleasure to be with the two of you here.
00:01:05.280 --> 00:01:08.239
A lot's been going on in the last year or two.
00:01:08.480 --> 00:01:21.439
But I wanted to say that back in 2011, I was at Shelly Stockwell Nicholas's conference in California, and I met a woman named Joan Goulding.
00:01:21.920 --> 00:01:27.280
And Joan, we got to talking, and she had been married to her husband.
00:01:27.519 --> 00:01:36.159
He had passed away, and they had a school in Victoria, Australia, and they taught hypnosis.
00:01:36.319 --> 00:01:40.640
Interestingly enough, it was illegal to do hypnosis in Victoria.
00:01:40.879 --> 00:01:45.680
But what they did was they could teach it, but you couldn't hypnotize anybody.
00:01:45.920 --> 00:01:49.680
So the interesting thing of what they did is they went through the coursework.
00:01:49.920 --> 00:01:51.760
It was like, I think a two-year course.
00:01:51.920 --> 00:02:10.479
And then they took a bus to another province, another state, and went into like a couple of weeks, a couple of weeks of really like hypnotizing each other and going through all the uh the practice stuff and came back and and they and they graduated.
00:02:10.800 --> 00:02:16.080
So she fought for years to get to get it legalized in Victoria.
00:02:16.400 --> 00:02:18.800
But uh so she had a daughter.
00:02:19.520 --> 00:02:21.199
Do you happen to know why it wasn't?
00:02:22.800 --> 00:02:24.000
Do you know why it wasn't?
00:02:24.400 --> 00:02:29.039
Do you know why it wasn't when it was allowed in the rest of Australia?
00:02:29.439 --> 00:02:29.759
Okay.
00:02:31.039 --> 00:02:44.240
No, but again, there are state there are states in the United States that you you know that Israel, you're you have to be a certain doctor to take a certain licensure to do hypnosis, uh to do hypnosis.
00:02:44.479 --> 00:02:52.400
So there's different things in different also the whole the whole country of Israel requires you to be licensed, you have to be a physician.
00:02:53.120 --> 00:02:53.840
Yeah, yeah.
00:02:54.159 --> 00:02:56.319
Anyway, let's get back to Australia.
00:02:56.560 --> 00:03:09.840
So what was so she so Joan had a daughter, and and she and her husband, her first husband, had moved, they were what do you call them, palms?
00:03:10.400 --> 00:03:13.759
They had moved from England, a 10 10-pound palm, I think it was.
00:03:13.840 --> 00:03:14.719
They paid 10 palms.
00:03:15.039 --> 00:03:15.520
Yeah, yeah.
00:03:15.759 --> 00:03:16.159
Right.
00:03:16.319 --> 00:03:19.120
And and and they moved to Australia.
00:03:19.680 --> 00:03:34.560
And uh, so she had one daughter, and she always felt like you know, she was a little clumsy, she wasn't really speaking, and then she had another daughter, almost like Irish twins, you know, they were pretty close in age.
00:03:34.879 --> 00:03:49.199
And what she started to notice is Teresa was doing all of the she was following instead of following her older sister, Michelle, Michelle was always following and imitating what Teresa was doing.
00:03:50.159 --> 00:04:12.719
So she and her husband had separated, and meanwhile, you know, Joan had gone to, you know, speak to psychologists, to schools, you know, she had she had them in different schools, and Michelle, she'd come in and she saw Michelle in this corner, you know, and she really didn't have language.
00:04:13.039 --> 00:04:23.759
And so all this was going on, and then one time her ex-husband had come to take the girls for the weekend and never returned them.
00:04:24.000 --> 00:04:28.560
And she was looking for them, and and he so he could basically kidnapped them.
00:04:28.879 --> 00:04:46.000
And so it was nine months later he returned Michelle, who was difficult to deal with because there wasn't much communication and there was a lot going on, and but she never saw Teresa again until Teresa's 18th birthday when she knocked on her door.
00:04:46.560 --> 00:04:50.319
So that wouldn't uh to go through that.
00:04:50.480 --> 00:04:57.600
Meanwhile, she had met John Goulding and who had was doing the hypnosis, so she learned that.
00:04:58.079 --> 00:05:18.319
And they finally, you know, she'd go to professionals, and one professional said, you know, you really ought to, you know, put put the your daughter in the hands of professionals and go to work, you know, and then she'd go to somebody else and they'd say, you know, you really should be taking care of your daughter yourself and not leave it to others.
00:05:18.560 --> 00:05:27.600
So they were constantly being told different things, less I'm sure when I know you work with children, I'm sure you hear stories of all the different stories they're all told, right?
Load full transcript
00:05:27.839 --> 00:05:29.120
Yeah, yeah, yeah.
00:05:29.600 --> 00:05:37.600
So they went ahead and when they were in Australia, so some of that was going on in England before they moved.
00:05:37.920 --> 00:05:46.879
And when finally they were in a school when she got Michelle back, and the teacher said, You know, I think there's wrong, something wrong with Michelle.
00:05:47.279 --> 00:05:49.839
And and Joan said, You think?
00:05:50.000 --> 00:05:58.480
So they tested her, and what they found is she had cerebral palsy, which was part of the clumsiness.
00:05:59.120 --> 00:06:08.879
She had an IQ of about 45, and she had dyslexia and dyspraxia.
00:06:09.040 --> 00:06:09.439
Yeah.
00:06:09.680 --> 00:06:12.079
So that was part of the communication.
00:06:12.560 --> 00:06:17.199
So now by now she was married to John and they couldn't do hypnosis on her.
00:06:17.279 --> 00:06:19.519
They were trying to figure out how they can help.
00:06:19.759 --> 00:06:29.600
And one day they were driving down this road, and all of a sudden, Michelle was in the back, and basically she knew the word no.
00:06:29.759 --> 00:06:32.720
And there she was in the back, and she started getting all excited.
00:06:32.800 --> 00:06:37.199
She goes, Ooh, ah, ooh, ooh, ooh, and she was just so excited.
00:06:37.439 --> 00:06:41.600
And so, in trying to figure out what they were excited about, they just looked.
00:06:41.680 --> 00:06:47.360
She was looking at an empty paddock, or what we call a pasture here in the States, and it was empty.
00:06:47.600 --> 00:06:51.199
And so when they got home, and they just looked at her and says, Very good, Michelle.
00:06:51.279 --> 00:06:52.560
And she was so proud of herself.
00:06:52.639 --> 00:06:56.720
She was just sitting in the back there, you know, feeling so good about herself.
00:06:56.959 --> 00:07:03.439
So they were sitting and talking that evening and going, What is it that she was reacting to?
00:07:03.600 --> 00:07:13.680
And then they remembered it had been whether it was weeks earlier or a month earlier, but they had gone down that same road and there had been a circus.
00:07:13.920 --> 00:07:16.800
And what was Michelle saying when she was looking?
00:07:16.879 --> 00:07:23.759
She's going, Uk, erk, look, erk, you know, so she was actually trying to bring out those words.
00:07:24.240 --> 00:07:28.000
And they started to think, yeah, she was remembering it.
00:07:28.079 --> 00:07:41.120
And and so they started to think about it and go, Well, you know, she has a lot more knowledge and words and language underneath all that, you know.
00:07:41.360 --> 00:07:44.560
And so they started to think, how could they work with her?
00:07:44.720 --> 00:08:00.240
So they started talking to her in her sleep, you know, and they started to, and over the course of the time, they started building up this foundation, and it started and it worked with her, and she ended up, she's still alive today.
00:08:00.319 --> 00:08:03.360
She's in
her late 50s, I think, now.
00:08:03.759 --> 00:08:12.480
And she actually she went to school, she she learned how there was a teacher there that was so so taken with her.
00:08:12.639 --> 00:08:16.639
She taught her how to ride the bus, you know, the different routes.
00:08:16.879 --> 00:08:18.639
She, you know, she was real clever.
00:08:18.800 --> 00:08:27.040
The class went one day, they went to a cavern, and so she called Joan from the from the cavern.
00:08:27.279 --> 00:08:30.399
And and and she's talking to her and telling her things.
00:08:30.480 --> 00:08:32.159
And Joan's going, very good, dear.
00:08:32.320 --> 00:08:34.000
This is costing a lot of money, though.
00:08:34.159 --> 00:08:35.120
And she goes, No.
00:08:35.600 --> 00:08:38.480
And I she goes, and she goes, why not?
00:08:38.639 --> 00:08:40.879
And she goes, uh, collect.
00:08:41.120 --> 00:08:42.879
She called her collect.
00:08:45.120 --> 00:08:51.039
So so she, you know, so she really had a whole different life be based on it.
00:08:51.120 --> 00:08:56.320
And she met a guy who also had special needs, but he was very high functioning.
00:08:56.480 --> 00:08:58.080
And they'd been married all these years.
00:08:58.240 --> 00:09:15.360
And I remember it was years ago they went on a cruise for their 25th anniversary, and he got so frustrated with himself because he he forgot, I think they were going to Singapore, and they had friends, family friends in Singapore, and and he forgot the paper.
00:09:15.600 --> 00:09:18.799
He couldn't find the paper with the hotel and the people's names.
00:09:19.039 --> 00:09:27.360
So I said, would you please just tell him, would you please tell him that I'm travel all over the world and I always forget that stuff too.
00:09:27.679 --> 00:09:29.440
Don't beat yourself up.
00:09:30.000 --> 00:09:34.240
And so and so that's how sleep talk came about.
00:09:34.480 --> 00:09:39.679
And it's been used in groups, it was used during the fires in in Australia.
00:09:39.919 --> 00:09:51.360
You know, it's great whether you're working with parents, it's great for hypnotists, social workers, teachers, you know, to learn it to teach parents.
00:09:51.600 --> 00:09:59.039
Because if you think about it, so many parents never felt unconditionally loved.
00:09:59.279 --> 00:10:07.919
And if you don't feel unconditionally loved, then you don't know how to give it to the next generation.
00:10:08.080 --> 00:10:16.320
Uh, it's similar to sexual abuse, physical or emotional abuse, you know, this lack of having somebody feel.
00:10:16.720 --> 00:10:22.559
Right, but but not necessarily because from from a cruel point of view, but for because those people also are not loved.
00:10:22.720 --> 00:10:40.080
So it was brought down the generations, and so this also, so if you could stop the stop it by teaching the parents sleep talk foundation and sleep talk and the process, and it teaches them communication.
00:10:40.320 --> 00:10:46.080
The thing I love about it
is we sneak in the education on parents, you know.
00:10:46.320 --> 00:10:49.519
I mean, they they end up growing so much for it.
00:10:49.600 --> 00:10:56.159
And it changes when they're working with people at work, changes their communication skills too.
00:10:56.559 --> 00:11:02.159
I like I like the thought that what we can do is I know we educate our parents, don't we?
00:11:02.399 --> 00:11:22.480
We educate our clients that come in to see us, but I like I like it more, even more, because what we're doing is we're putting the onus back onto the parents to continue to do it at home rather than just spend the hour with us in you know in the therapy movement.
00:11:22.720 --> 00:11:25.039
And it's great, and they can see that shift.
00:11:25.120 --> 00:11:28.799
It might be a subtle shift at first, but they can see that.
00:11:28.960 --> 00:11:34.720
And the minute they see that, that's when they think, oh yeah, this works, you know, like let's go for it even more.
00:11:34.879 --> 00:11:35.519
Yeah.
00:11:36.480 --> 00:11:41.840
You know, and I've had parents say to me, Oh, I talk to my children this sleep, and I said, Really?
00:11:41.919 --> 00:11:42.559
What do you say?
00:11:42.720 --> 00:11:47.840
My son, the doctor, my daughter, the lawyer, you're gonna get 100 on the exam tomorrow.
00:11:48.000 --> 00:11:52.240
You're the most beautiful girl in the world, and no pressure there, right?
00:11:52.639 --> 00:12:03.759
So the whole concept is to give them emotional hugs, yeah, to give them and build this self-esteem and also emotional resilience.
00:12:04.240 --> 00:12:11.360
And you're right, it gives that parent the fact that the child is sleeping, and you're giving them the words initially.
00:12:11.519 --> 00:12:20.639
You're giving them, you know, because my husband, my my father-in-law is famous for teaching hypnosis to doctors and dentists and his book, hypnotherapy.
00:12:20.879 --> 00:12:37.759
And my my husband, who just passed in August, but he was the little boy in the book that was the little boy that Dave did hypnosis attached to sleep with to help him with allergies, which actually came from a trauma, you know.
00:12:37.840 --> 00:12:40.720
So he was able to really work with that.
00:12:41.039 --> 00:12:46.240
And uh Larry was about 12 at the time, and then he said, Dad, don't do that anymore.
00:12:46.399 --> 00:12:49.039
So he stopped, but it really did help.
00:12:49.279 --> 00:13:02.799
Uh so, but you know, here he was also talking to Larry in his sleep, and actually had Larry responding to him, but he was a hypnotist, he knew you know about how to use it.
00:13:03.120 --> 00:13:04.879
So the parents are not hypnotized.
00:13:05.039 --> 00:13:07.679
But the parents who come to you, exactly.
00:13:07.840 --> 00:13:12.399
They don't need it isn't necessary to be able to have that kind of thing.
00:13:12.559 --> 00:13:17.200
Correct, because there's a foundation that they start with, right?
00:13:17.360 --> 00:13:22.559
You
know, that that that moves it along, and then there's also assessments.
00:13:22.720 --> 00:13:30.240
So you get to see where the the they're they're taking a snapshot of where that child is at that point.
00:13:30.399 --> 00:13:45.679
Or is it really is it fact, or is it it's that parents, what you're getting that snapshot is that parents' emotional thoughts of those questions that day, that time, and how they how they respond to it.
00:13:46.000 --> 00:13:52.080
But how do children and of course the parents feel so much more confident in being parents, right?
00:13:52.399 --> 00:14:16.000
Because somebody can so they see where the children are starting at, and then you know, we do this assessment about three times over a period of six months, and you see the growth, and then you build statements with the parents built on what what things still need to be worked on, and at the same time, you're also teaching parents how to build those statements.
00:14:16.159 --> 00:14:20.720
So these are things that will last a lifetime for the parents and for the children.
00:14:20.960 --> 00:14:22.000
Yeah, exactly.
00:14:22.159 --> 00:14:23.679
I totally agree with you.
00:14:23.919 --> 00:14:34.559
When I was training, before I actually did my hypnosis training, when I was training to be an LP practitioner, that's the first thing that I did.
00:14:34.960 --> 00:14:38.320
My youngest grandson came to stay with us.
00:14:38.480 --> 00:14:43.039
He has an older brother who's two and a bit years older than him.
00:14:43.279 --> 00:14:55.840
And of course, the older brother was my oldest grandson wasn't in nappies, pull-ups, or anything like that, whereas my youngest one was, and he's he wanted to be like his brother.
00:14:56.080 --> 00:15:01.039
He really wanted not to wear his pull-up or his diaper at night time.
00:15:01.600 --> 00:15:16.320
So I did what I didn't know it was sleep talk, but I did that so it would have been 12, 13 years ago, and I went into the room, spoke very, very gently, and it was all positive.
00:15:16.399 --> 00:15:22.960
It was like an affirmation, really, positive things, you know, like nana loves you, pops loves you, mummy loves you, dad loves you.
00:15:23.120 --> 00:15:43.200
Exactly what sleep talk teaches us to do at the foundation level, but also said to him, when you wake up tomorrow morning, imagine how it would be to stay in bed, yeah, that little bit longer because you're dry and you can cuddle woo-woo, which was his toy.
00:15:43.519 --> 00:15:46.720
And we did it, I did it for three nights.
00:15:46.960 --> 00:15:50.879
The first night, not really, but the second and third, yeah.
00:15:51.200 --> 00:16:03.279
And it was just, and I and I thought, well, if you think about it, what we do is years and years ago, you would go out and buy a recording that you could listen to while she sleep.
00:16:03.440 --> 00:16:09.519
So, what's the best time for it to sink straight into the subconscious mind without question?
00:16:09.679
--> 00:16:11.279
Is when they're asleep.
00:16:11.840 --> 00:16:18.960
Yeah, you're bringing them up slightly and so that they're hearing you, and then you're putting them back down and you're telling them to stay asleep.
00:16:19.279 --> 00:16:21.039
So it's it's really lovely.
00:16:21.120 --> 00:16:21.600
Yeah.
00:16:21.919 --> 00:16:24.559
And yeah, it's it's great.
00:16:24.799 --> 00:16:34.320
So, and that uh I think a lot of families have sibling rivalry, and it's really good for working with sibling rivalry in the family.
00:16:34.559 --> 00:16:52.399
Oh, do you yeah, have you ever had Les when you you have a c a client that comes in and they have one child that they feel has all the issues, but they also have other children, and then because we tell them that if you're gonna do it with one, do it with all of them, right?
00:16:53.440 --> 00:16:55.679
And so it was so interesting.
00:16:55.840 --> 00:17:04.720
One of the first ones I did, there were three kids, and one of them had meltdowns all the time, and they didn't feel there was really any issues with the other two.
00:17:04.960 --> 00:17:24.720
Well, it was as the one that they had it uh with was improving and not having the all those meltdowns, all of a sudden they started to see behaviors in the other two children, you know, it which were just they didn't notice before.
00:17:24.960 --> 00:17:26.480
That was interesting.
00:17:26.880 --> 00:17:27.279
Yeah.
00:17:27.519 --> 00:17:34.559
Well, I'm I'm what percentage of your clients are sleep talk and what are more traditional hypnosis, do you think?
00:17:35.039 --> 00:17:42.000
Is it something you you see people for a few times a year, or or is it a large portion of what you do?
00:17:42.799 --> 00:17:44.960
It is part of what I do.
00:17:45.200 --> 00:17:50.880
As far as my training, I probably train I train in both.
00:17:51.119 --> 00:18:00.799
So a lot of a lot of my stuff that I do is training, because when I came into this, it was like Dave Ellman is not known everywhere in the world.
00:18:01.119 --> 00:18:11.839
My goal was to keep the legacy and build the legacy of Dave Ellman and his and his protocols, which are very, very good.
00:18:12.319 --> 00:18:14.480
I mean, he taught doctors and dentists.
00:18:14.559 --> 00:18:17.440
So I do a lot of training and I do training with both.
00:18:17.519 --> 00:18:19.920
Like I have a sleep talk class coming up.
00:18:20.160 --> 00:18:24.880
I'm one of class that Larry and I did uh before.
00:18:25.039 --> 00:18:28.559
We have coming up through Allie Campbell's school.
00:18:28.720 --> 00:18:35.200
We worked a lot with Allie over the years since COVID, taught I think five classes for him.
00:18:35.440 --> 00:18:38.000
Larry and I, they were like three-month classes.
00:18:38.319 --> 00:18:47.839
So I would say I do more hypnosis and and and teaching, I probably teach, I teach both.
00:18:48.160 --> 00:18:52.000
So I I can't give you a percentage, Lisa, actually.
00:18:52.559 --> 00:19:01.279
So the course is I think Jody and I are gonna be doing a talk about it on the 19th of April.
00:19:01.519 --> 00:19:10.720
Okay, and then but the class is gonna be the last weekend in May and the last weekend in June.
00:19:11.119 --> 00:19:12.960
And I will hold it.
00:19:13.039 --> 00:19:17.759
I actually it is it's a very good tool to use, and all three of us use it, don't we?
00:19:17.839 --> 00:19:18.559
It's a very good tool.
00:19:18.799 --> 00:19:20.240
Yeah, it's excellent.
00:19:20.799 --> 00:19:21.680
And you know what?
00:19:21.759 --> 00:19:33.759
Uh it's also opens up there are you know, especially beginning hypnotists when they go and try to get like talks or go into schools or churches, a lot of them, you know.
00:19:33.839 --> 00:19:43.599
I I'm in I'm in Southern Baptist area down here, and it's like hypnosis, but the the sleep talk is interesting.
00:19:43.680 --> 00:19:49.440
You know, in fact, my license plate says sleep talk, and the other car says D E hypno.
00:19:50.480 --> 00:20:04.880
So um uh so the fact is that that they will that they you they could go in and talk to groups, you know, parent groups, schools, teachers.
00:20:05.440 --> 00:20:09.839
You know, think about think about uh Les, do you do things with corporations?
00:20:10.079 --> 00:20:10.799
No, I don't.
00:20:10.960 --> 00:20:16.880
It's mine's mostly with schools and uh and children and parents and social services.
00:20:17.759 --> 00:20:18.160
Right.
00:20:18.400 --> 00:20:33.599
And then if you think about it, if you think about when parents are having issues with the kids at home, whether it be sibling rivalry, whether it be, you know, different issues that the children have, they're what what happens?
00:20:33.759 --> 00:20:42.240
They go to work and they're talking about their kids to their workers, they're stressed, they're getting phone calls, they're not concentrating.
00:20:42.559 --> 00:20:58.640
So it could also become a benefit to uh for a human resource benefit to teach their you know parents, get give it as an option for them, and that will help them be more focused in work.
00:20:58.880 --> 00:21:07.279
And remember, we snuck in that education, so they're learning what's good statements to say, you know, what's effective communication.
00:21:07.599 --> 00:21:11.039
So all of a sudden they have better teamwork also.
00:21:11.440 --> 00:21:12.079
Yeah.
00:21:12.400 --> 00:21:18.160
So you you mentioned before about you said that not everybody knows about Dave, Dave Elman.
00:21:18.640 --> 00:21:30.000
Today I was talking to one of my clients' mum's, who she's an NLP, she uh studied NLP, so she knows Ali Campbell.
00:21:30.319 --> 00:21:35.440
And I said I was doing the podcast tonight, recording the podcast tonight with yourself.
00:21:35.680 --> 00:21:40.240
I said, and we're talking about sleep talk and we're talking about you know other things.
00:21:40.480 --> 00:21:43.759
And and she said, Oh, she said that sounds
fantastic.
00:21:43.920 --> 00:21:47.200
So I said, Well, I said, let me tell you who Cheryl is.
00:21:47.359 --> 00:21:52.480
So I told her who she you were, and she went, Oh, she said, I've got Dave's book.
00:21:52.559 --> 00:21:55.359
She said it was amazing, absolutely amazing.
00:21:55.599 --> 00:21:59.680
So, so this is this is a lady who who brought her toad.
00:22:00.160 --> 00:22:02.480
In to see me, and she's got your book.
00:22:02.559 --> 00:22:08.480
But she she did some and I think it was NLP training with Ali, so she knows Ali as well.
00:22:08.640 --> 00:22:09.680
So yeah, right.
00:22:09.920 --> 00:22:12.079
That was and Allie mentions us a bunch.
00:22:12.319 --> 00:22:13.119
Yeah, yeah, yeah.
00:22:13.200 --> 00:22:13.359
Yeah.
00:22:13.599 --> 00:22:16.640
Do you remember when that book was first published?
00:22:17.359 --> 00:22:20.720
Yes, it was first published, and it had three different titles.
00:22:20.960 --> 00:22:22.319
It had three different titles.
00:22:22.480 --> 00:22:27.839
The first title was let me think, Findings in Hypnosis.
00:22:28.079 --> 00:22:29.519
And Dave published it.
00:22:30.079 --> 00:22:32.480
And then that was in 1964.
00:22:32.799 --> 00:22:45.200
When he passed away in 1967, my mother-in-law, Pauline, gave it over to a publishing company called Nash Publishing.
00:22:45.519 --> 00:22:52.000
And you know, she still had the copyright and stuff, but you know, they were going to distribute and and you, you know, the use.
00:22:52.480 --> 00:22:56.240
And but they she didn't feel that they were really marketing it.
00:22:56.319 --> 00:23:00.480
So and they had changed it to explorations of a hypnosis.
00:23:01.200 --> 00:23:13.359
And then in 1977, Gil Boyne from Westwood Publishing contacted my mother-in-law and asked if he could uh publish it.
00:23:13.519 --> 00:23:18.799
And so he has the use, Westwood Publishing has the use and distribution.
00:23:19.359 --> 00:23:30.079
And so he and and so he was originally, it was supposed to be that it was going to be called hypnoanalysis and hypnotherapy, right?
00:23:30.640 --> 00:23:33.279
But he only called it hypnotherapy.
00:23:33.519 --> 00:23:37.039
And so, and it got shortened, it never got the dust cover.
00:23:37.200 --> 00:23:41.839
So basically, the inside of that was all the same.
00:23:41.920 --> 00:23:44.240
Back then they used metal plates, you know.
00:23:44.319 --> 00:23:51.519
So when so those metal plates from went from 300 some odd pages, went from this publisher to this publisher to that publisher.
00:23:51.839 --> 00:23:56.319
I was in printing years ago in New York in the 80s.
00:23:56.559 --> 00:24:01.759
And then so the thing that changed was the forward, you know.
00:24:01.920 --> 00:24:04.400
So the first one was by Dave.
00:24:04.799 --> 00:24:09.839
I don't remember who who wrote the second one, and the third one was Gil Boyne.
00:24:10.319 --> 00:24:13.119
Gil added an index.
00:24:13.440 --> 00:24:18.640
Dave never put in
an index because he wanted people to read it cover to cover.
00:24:18.880 --> 00:24:23.759
But it makes it so much easier as a reference to be able to look things up.
00:24:24.000 --> 00:24:26.400
So he added the index at the end.
00:24:26.559 --> 00:24:32.240
And so there were little changes, but the the bulk of it stayed the same.
00:24:32.319 --> 00:24:35.440
And it's funny, you know, what came up yesterday, Jason Lynette.
00:24:35.599 --> 00:24:40.559
I was working, and I don't stay on Facebook very often, but he says, Cheryl, are you here?
00:24:40.720 --> 00:24:43.279
And so I went to look at my attention.
00:24:43.519 --> 00:24:44.000
I told you.
00:24:44.720 --> 00:24:45.519
Oh, you did see that?
00:24:45.759 --> 00:24:46.319
Yeah, I did.
00:24:46.480 --> 00:24:52.000
And so what happened was they were discussing who started hypnosis for smoking.
00:24:52.160 --> 00:24:54.400
And so several people said Dave Elman.
00:24:54.640 --> 00:24:56.640
That's why he said, Cheryl, are you here?
00:24:56.880 --> 00:24:58.640
So I told the story.
00:24:58.880 --> 00:25:02.880
Dave Elman was an avid smoker, heavy smoker.
00:25:03.279 --> 00:25:05.279
And he was also really good.
00:25:07.200 --> 00:25:11.839
Well, the 40s and 50s, that nobody considered it a strange thing to do.
00:25:12.000 --> 00:25:18.319
You could so when you listen to the recordings, when you listen to the recordings, you're hearing who was he teaching?
00:25:18.480 --> 00:25:23.839
Doctors and dentists, and you hear them all they're all smokers, you know.
00:25:24.079 --> 00:25:40.400
And so what happened was that Dave tried using self-hypnosis to stop, you know, it's a habit, so he was trying to get rid of it, but he really didn't want to stop smoking, you know, so he said, This doesn't work.
00:25:40.640 --> 00:25:50.160
So we went in when he was teaching his classes and told the doctors, you know, the the one thing that does you can't get rid of, the one habit you can't get rid of is smoking.
00:25:50.400 --> 00:25:53.519
And so and so he had them too.
00:25:54.160 --> 00:25:54.480
Right.
00:25:54.640 --> 00:26:01.039
So so he then had some of his students, the doctors, work on him to stop smoking.
00:26:01.519 --> 00:26:02.880
And did it work?
00:26:03.119 --> 00:26:07.519
No, because here we had Dave not wanting to stop smoking.
00:26:07.680 --> 00:26:16.319
We he already gave the doctors the expectation that it's not gonna work, so they didn't have confidence in the process either.
00:26:16.640 --> 00:26:25.119
And you know, they didn't come up with the the post-hypnotics that would really do it, and so it just didn't work.
00:26:25.200 --> 00:26:26.559
So I put that out there.
00:26:26.720 --> 00:26:39.839
And so, you know how many times we've been at conferences and people come running over to Larry, your dad made a mistake, your dad made a mistake, and whenever we would talk and we would say, How many people here make a living working with smokers?
00:26:40.000 --> 00:26:53.200
You know, and people will laugh, you know, raise their hand, I said, Well, you know, and then we bring up that story that so that's the one thing he wrote right in his book, the one habit that it does not cure is smoking.
00:26:54.079 --> 00:27:03.920
Uh now, how did I get into hypnosis 16 years before Sean Michael Andrews stuck my hand to the table in my head when he was coming to interview Larry?
00:27:04.160 --> 00:27:12.640
16 years earlier, I went to somebody in New York, and I don't know who it was, I don't remember who it was, and got hypnotized to stop smoking.
00:27:12.799 --> 00:27:16.000
And I never smoked again, and I was two to three packs a day.
00:27:16.240 --> 00:27:17.200
Never smoked again.
00:27:17.279 --> 00:27:18.240
So I knew it worked.
00:27:18.559 --> 00:27:19.359
Yeah, me too.
00:27:19.519 --> 00:27:19.920
Yeah.
00:27:20.079 --> 00:27:25.440
I gave up smoking through hypnosis, but mine, Cheryl, mine was completely different.
00:27:25.599 --> 00:27:30.000
I uh I was a model when I was a student.
00:27:30.480 --> 00:27:38.640
So when we were learning hypnosis, I was a smoker, not a very heavy smoker, but a smoker still.
00:27:39.119 --> 00:27:44.880
And one of the students said to me, It's smoking cessation weekend next weekend.
00:27:45.039 --> 00:27:46.240
Can I practice on you?
00:27:46.559 --> 00:27:49.680
And I went, Yeah, thinking, well, let's see.
00:27:49.920 --> 00:27:51.920
Never thought about wanting to give up smoking.
00:27:52.079 --> 00:27:54.960
Well, I have tried before, but it's never worked.
00:27:55.279 --> 00:27:57.440
And I've never smoked since.
00:27:58.160 --> 00:27:59.359
Never, never smoked.
00:27:59.519 --> 00:28:04.720
Don't it there's nothing at all, it doesn't interest me or anything.
00:28:04.880 --> 00:28:06.720
So I know it works.
00:28:07.200 --> 00:28:07.599
Yeah.
00:28:07.839 --> 00:28:08.880
So it was interesting.
00:28:08.960 --> 00:28:20.000
It was one of the first classes Larry was teaching, and uh, my friend Stephanie and I did had my friend, another friend of mine who was taking the class.
00:28:20.240 --> 00:28:24.559
She did not really want to stop smoking, but that I knew of, she was the only smoker.
00:28:24.640 --> 00:28:26.160
I said, Well, let us demo on you.
00:28:26.319 --> 00:28:31.119
And the two of us did a double induction and and sort of did a double thing on her.
00:28:31.279 --> 00:28:36.880
She was very ex uh Ericksonian and I was very hypnot Al Manian in our approaches.
00:28:37.279 --> 00:28:50.559
She, of course, did not stop smoking, but it was like a year or two later, one of the other students in the class said, By the way, since you and Stephanie did that thing for Jan, he goes, I've never smoked since.
00:28:50.799 --> 00:28:52.880
I must have wanted to deep down inside.
00:28:53.440 --> 00:28:56.720
Yeah, deep down inside, I must have wanted to give up.
00:28:56.880 --> 00:29:00.079
I've had no inclination whatsoever.
00:29:00.160 -->
00:29:10.960
And it's one of the furnace, the furthest things from my mind, and it's probably one of the best things that that particular student, and then with any that particular student did for me, definitely.
00:29:11.839 --> 00:29:16.640
But just before, in case does anybody brand new to the idea of hypnosis who's listening here?
00:29:16.960 --> 00:29:24.960
Generally speaking, people that want to make change, it has to be the client's wish to change, strong wish to change.
00:29:25.200 --> 00:29:29.279
Yeah, otherwise we don't have magic ones, they'll be saying something else.
00:29:31.680 --> 00:29:32.799
I do, Cheryl.
00:29:33.039 --> 00:29:33.680
I do.
00:29:34.160 --> 00:29:35.599
Oh, you're cute.
00:29:36.000 --> 00:29:39.440
Oh, when you work with children, you work with children too.
00:29:40.400 --> 00:29:43.039
And so the toys at the back as well.
00:29:43.599 --> 00:29:45.200
It's very consensual.
00:29:45.359 --> 00:29:50.960
You know, also people will say, Oh, you do hypnosis, are you gonna make me bark like a dog and cluck like a chicken?
00:29:51.039 --> 00:29:53.440
And I look at them and go, I don't know, do you want to?
00:29:53.599 --> 00:30:00.559
You know, and and I mean, because if you want to, we could do that, but you know, but no, that's not my thing.
00:30:00.799 --> 00:30:06.640
Yeah, is that what you come in here for to cluck like a chicken and not stop a fear or a phobia?
00:30:06.720 --> 00:30:07.839
Yeah, yeah.
00:30:08.319 --> 00:30:08.640
Yeah.
00:30:08.960 --> 00:30:14.000
But but how do you how do you how do you advertise your business?
00:30:14.240 --> 00:30:16.000
It's another thing.
00:30:16.559 --> 00:30:18.319
I've completely dropped off of Google.
00:30:18.400 --> 00:30:21.519
I checked today, and uh, used to be number one in the area.
00:30:21.759 --> 00:30:25.920
So if I look for something near me, I was not first not there anymore.
00:30:26.160 --> 00:30:28.640
People I've never heard of who are in Delaware.
00:30:29.599 --> 00:30:30.720
I'm I'm interested.
00:30:30.880 --> 00:30:32.720
How do you publicize your work?
00:30:33.039 --> 00:30:46.799
For a while, I I was doing something with keywords at one point, and I was paying a company to do keywords, and then also, you know, my my website got switched, so uh it's still being built.
00:30:47.039 --> 00:30:52.400
Jason Lynette is building and changing it, and I'm learning click funnels, which is wonderful.
00:30:52.559 --> 00:31:04.240
I mean, it's hard, it is hard, but but when uh but I'm learning, and so I chose, so I chose somebody because I've had my website worked on but over the years.
00:31:04.480 --> 00:31:10.319
I built the original, and then when I went to WordPress, I had I think four or five different people do it.
00:31:10.480 --> 00:31:27.920
But if you get somebody who knows websites but doesn't know hypnosis and the jargon in hypnosis and keywords, and then if they don't know marketing and all they're doing is putting a sign up basically, and you know, put it up and they will come is not necessarily it.
00:31:28.240 --> 00:31:35.920
So one of the reasons I started working with Jason Lynette was because he does all three and he's very good at click funnels.
00:31:36.240 --> 00:31:43.119
And we know we definitely know yeah, not only does he know hypnosis, Larry and I talked with him jointly several times.
00:31:43.599 --> 00:32:12.319
So he knows Al Manian and he knows us, although he loves to tell the story that the first year I was had a booth at NGH, my first conference, and I had a booth there, and I he came by and I was trying to sell him this video DVD set that Sean Michael Andrews had produced, and it had some it had Sean doing some hypnosis on the second disc, and the first one was an interview between Larry and and Sean Michael Andrews.
00:32:12.480 --> 00:32:18.160
And so I was sitting there and he looked at me and he goes, and and I kept saying, Well, this is a really good set, etc.
00:32:18.400 --> 00:32:20.880
And he goes, Have you watched it?
00:32:21.119 --> 00:32:23.519
And he kept saying, But have you watched it?
00:32:23.759 --> 00:32:28.720
He was a key person as as as a volunteer in the in it.
00:32:28.799 --> 00:32:36.640
So he loves to tell that story, but so since then, you know, um we and he used to be close, so I had the key to his office.
00:32:36.799 --> 00:32:55.200
So when I was going through Washington, DC, or Northern Virginia, and I had the dog in the car, and Larry and I wanted to go to a restaurant, and it whether he was at his office or not, I'd let Rosie, my little poodle, who would go traveling with us, she was the one I used to hypnotize, sleep.
00:32:55.519 --> 00:33:03.920
And so I would put him her in the office, and she had been there many times for us teaching there and meetups and stuff.
00:33:04.079 --> 00:33:12.400
And and so, because there were times that he came in and he'd see Rosie up on the back of the couch going, Oh, the Elmonds must be in town.
00:33:12.720 --> 00:33:15.359
So I had the uh key to his house.
00:33:15.440 --> 00:33:18.319
Uh I mean to his office, which is funny.
00:33:18.400 --> 00:33:22.640
He told me I could throw it away now because his newer office he he sold the building.
00:33:22.799 --> 00:33:24.000
So uh something.
00:33:24.640 --> 00:33:31.839
I had the pleasure, I had the pleasure of meeting him at the UK hypnosis convention last uh November.
00:33:32.079 --> 00:33:33.279
What a gentleman.
00:33:33.519 --> 00:33:35.279
He's got a lot of energy.
00:33:35.599 --> 00:33:36.240
Yeah.
00:33:38.799 --> 00:33:39.200
Yeah.
00:33:39.680 --> 00:33:48.400
So and so I'm now building it, and and the goal, my goal is that we are going to, in fact, I've thought of it.
00:33:48.559 --> 00:33:57.920
I think in building this, and we're gonna do some online courses, and we're having a you're out there and you're a hypnotist and you want to attend April 21st.
00:33:58.160 --> 00:34:05.759
We're going to have it's
my anniversary, it's our anniversary, and my husband passed away August 26th.
00:34:05.920 --> 00:34:15.199
We're still waiting, it's about a 15-month wait to have him have a military funeral up at Arlington Cemetery.
00:34:15.360 --> 00:34:24.159
So, so we're gonna do a we had a little neighborhood thing originally here, and we're gonna do a celebration of life.
00:34:24.400 --> 00:34:30.639
And Larry used to love telling stories, and I think that's something people really loved about him.
00:34:30.800 --> 00:34:40.239
If you got to meet him, and he and during his teaching, he loved telling stories, and he was a retired Air Force Colonel and aeronautical engineer.
00:34:40.320 --> 00:34:59.679
If anybody wants aviation and history books, I have 23 bookcases, so I am working on selling some, giving some, and you know, so it's it's a good thing we I I we were never gonna downsize because we have 23 bookcases and that would break his heart.
00:34:59.920 --> 00:35:24.239
I forgot where oh, so I'm going to have people from all different walks of life, like Allie, Sean Michael Andrews, probably Jason, and I'm going through some relatives, some people from the military, and so to do each of them like maybe five to seven minute stories, a story of a story with them and Larry in some way.
00:35:24.880 --> 00:35:27.360
And so we're gonna be doing that.
00:35:27.760 --> 00:35:35.920
I'm not sure if it's gonna start at 3 or 3:30 to 5:30 on the 21st of April, which would have been our 24th.
00:35:36.320 --> 00:35:37.199
24th.
00:35:37.360 --> 00:35:44.239
We got married in 2002, our 24th, and online also, and that will be on Zoom online.
00:35:44.639 --> 00:35:53.840
Wow, so and that will actually become part of a legacy, and it'll be a landing page, and there'll be cutouts, and so that'll be there.
00:35:54.000 --> 00:36:01.199
So, my goal is even past my lifetime to have this website stay, leave, leave some money to keep it.
00:36:01.360 --> 00:36:03.360
The Alma legacy continues, yeah.
00:36:03.599 --> 00:36:22.559
And I also want to let you know that I had done three, you spoke at you each spoke at one of the conferences that I did online Zoom conferences with 86 speakers each year, and I did three of them, and so one of them is already on the website, and we're gonna figure out what you know how to do it.
00:36:22.639 --> 00:36:26.079
And well, it's time consuming to put all that on there.
00:36:26.480 --> 00:36:45.199
But instead of doing that now, every month, I'm doing I have the Elmond Cafe, which is we had three rooms, and then we had the Elm Cafe, which was like going to the alligator bar or the coffee shop when you're at conferences, because that was really where you got to meet people and network.
00:36:46.320 --> 00:36:50.639
That was what we all missed from yeah, but we missed from going to live once.
00:36:50.800 --> 00:36:53.360
That was how you got connected with people.
00:36:54.159 --> 00:36:54.480
Right.
00:36:54.880 --> 00:36:58.239
So
so people should go and visit with each other and a cup of coffee.
00:36:58.480 --> 00:36:59.119
Yeah, yeah.
00:36:59.360 --> 00:36:59.679
Right.
00:37:00.239 --> 00:37:06.880
So so now I have uh now working on two to three a month that will be in there.
00:37:07.039 --> 00:37:14.880
So and it's free, and you guys should it's cafe.elmanhypnosis.com.
00:37:15.360 --> 00:37:16.000
Yeah.
00:37:16.320 --> 00:37:31.840
Is it only hypnotists, or is this also a means of no there are things, there are things like Victoria Gallagher did something on you know getting rid of money blocks, so that could really be with anybody if you do the session.
00:37:32.320 --> 00:37:51.920
Adam Cox from the UK spoke last month, uh, this past month also, and he spoke about he did two, he did a double feature, and he he did one on his induction, and that's and then the second one he did was using podcasts, yeah.
00:37:52.079 --> 00:37:57.599
Whether you attend them, speak at them, uh create them, and so he did two.
00:37:57.920 --> 00:38:01.519
There are talks, Karen Hann did one that was more L N LP.
00:38:01.599 --> 00:38:03.920
So there's 14 of them already available.
00:38:04.320 --> 00:38:09.039
So when you join, there's many as recordings.
00:38:09.360 --> 00:38:09.679
Okay.
00:38:10.400 --> 00:38:11.760
They're available as recordings.
00:38:11.920 --> 00:38:14.000
There's not a oh you missed it, sorry.
00:38:14.159 --> 00:38:24.320
You can see so once you join the cafe, you get the you get access to the cafe, the cafe replay vault.
00:38:24.880 --> 00:38:34.559
And so, and right now there's 14, some from last year, you know, and some from this year, and we and continuing to go forward.
00:38:34.719 --> 00:38:38.960
So there'll be, and so it's a it's a library that keeps continuing.
00:38:39.280 --> 00:38:40.239
Oh, that's lovely.
00:38:40.639 --> 00:38:41.280
Yeah, that's lovely.
00:38:42.800 --> 00:38:44.320
Check out the show notes, people.
00:38:44.559 --> 00:38:45.519
Yeah, yeah.
00:38:45.840 --> 00:38:46.559
Absolutely.
00:38:46.880 --> 00:39:01.920
So for the sake of uh our listeners who are not hypnotherapists, sleep talk is isn't done you like we we did mention before that you don't need to be a hypnotherapist in order to deliver sleep talk.
00:39:02.639 --> 00:39:09.679
So can you just within a few sentences, can you just explain what sleep talk is for our listeners?
00:39:11.360 --> 00:39:15.519
So sleep talk, I uh I do two things.
00:39:15.599 --> 00:39:31.679
I work with parents, okay, and we teach parents to talk to their children two to three minutes a night during their sleep to build their uh uh the child's emotional resilience and and to ego strengthening.
00:39:31.920 --> 00:39:40.239
And we also do assessments with the parents and see where what areas the child needs growth in.
00:39:40.320 --> 00:39:42.639
And it's like 41, you know that assessment.
00:39:42.719 --> 00:39:48.000
I know a lot of psychologists that started using it because it was
such a good assessment.
00:39:48.159 --> 00:39:58.960
It's like 41 different aspects that your the parent is giving you a a score of how they think and feel about their child on that issue.
00:39:59.199 --> 00:40:00.480
So that's very helpful.
00:40:00.639 --> 00:40:24.239
And then they you teach them the foundation and you teach them about sleep talk and about communication, and there's a variety of things that you're they're learning, and then there's a feedback where you're going back and forth with them and finding out what's changed, you know, what's improved, what's different, you know, and and we always say if you're gonna do with one child, do it with all.
00:40:24.400 --> 00:40:25.920
And I have a story about that.
00:40:26.159 --> 00:40:31.920
There was a nurse, and and the woman said she only wanted to do it with her younger son.
00:40:32.320 --> 00:40:39.360
And then she called, the mother called and said, My son is being uh the 12-year-old was getting suicidal.
00:40:39.599 --> 00:40:55.920
And and so, and and I think she had done hypnosis on him before, so she brought him in, and what she found out that the kid was so upset with is my parents tell my brother that every night that they love him, but they don't tell me.
00:40:57.760 --> 00:40:58.159
Right?
00:40:58.480 --> 00:40:58.960
Oh, yeah.
00:40:59.119 --> 00:41:06.559
So if you're gonna do it with one, do it with all of them, and it's only gonna improve everybody's relations and make it a happier family.
00:41:06.800 --> 00:41:08.400
So that's one aspect.
00:41:08.559 --> 00:41:18.239
So I do parent programs, I could put together groups, I can put together or do it singly, and then I teach the sleep talk.
00:41:18.400 --> 00:41:20.960
I now call it sleep talk specialist.
00:41:21.280 --> 00:41:23.280
I train professionals.
00:41:23.440 --> 00:41:39.920
I mean, I it could be a somebody in school, a teacher, a social worker, somebody that wants to work with with doesn't want to necessarily work with children, but wants to help families.
00:41:40.079 --> 00:41:51.199
But then again, you know, if you're working with if you're working with adults and the adults have issues with the kids, you know, nothing's changing there.
00:41:51.760 --> 00:41:53.280
So it's still gonna be.
00:41:53.440 --> 00:42:03.760
And if you're working with kids and there's no changes in the environment from the parents, then you can work and and and help them keep going as long as you like.
00:42:05.039 --> 00:42:08.800
What you can keep going as long as you like, nothing's gonna change.
00:42:08.880 --> 00:42:11.039
The people they're living with need to change.
00:42:11.440 --> 00:42:12.159
Exactly.
00:42:12.400 --> 00:42:17.360
So so this way there's you know, a change.
00:42:17.679 --> 00:42:21.920
So there have been parents that have then become consultants or specialists.
00:42:22.239 --> 00:42:34.880
There are people, it's great for hypnotists and psychologists, psychiatrists, teachers, anybody, church, uh, people within the church, camp directors.
00:42:35.039 --> 00:42:37.199
I mean, it could be done in so many different ways.
00:42:37.360 --> 00:42:45.519
Uh, nurses, hospitals, it could be done from with foster kids, you know, it could be uh that would be great to help.
00:42:45.760 --> 00:42:46.000
Yeah.
00:42:46.320 --> 00:42:52.639
The only thing you need, you need to have a prolonged, they're gonna be working with them for months.
00:42:53.440 --> 00:42:56.960
No, it's not come in, we'll do this thing and then it's all over.
00:42:57.199 --> 00:43:01.039
This is a pro progressive thing that happens.
00:43:01.440 --> 00:43:01.679
Right.
00:43:01.840 --> 00:43:07.920
So so let's say it's a foster kid and and they're in this foster family and they're going to another foster family.
00:43:08.159 --> 00:43:14.960
Wouldn't it be nice if the foster, the foster social worker then teaches it to the next family?
00:43:15.199 --> 00:43:22.559
And then sometimes there has to be adjustments in what's being said because you know, families have different structures.
00:43:22.880 --> 00:43:30.159
Beryl Comar had a family when she was in Dubai that had several mommies, and they all wanted to do it.
00:43:30.239 --> 00:43:35.280
So was mommy one, mommy two, mommy three, you know, everybody wanted to do it.
00:43:35.440 --> 00:43:36.639
Who do you mention?
00:43:36.800 --> 00:43:45.280
You know, you you don't want a child to feel just because let's say one of their parents is not there, that that parent doesn't love them.
00:43:45.440 --> 00:43:49.199
Yeah, because then they feel like there's this hole in their heart.
00:43:49.360 --> 00:43:57.119
So for so there's all different ways and uh of of working with the child and with the family.
00:43:57.440 --> 00:43:57.760
Yeah.
00:43:57.920 --> 00:44:21.280
I um I have a I Young boy at the moment, but parents are delivering uh foundation sleep talk, and the but the parents are divorced, but mum delivers exactly the same as dad, and dad is mentioned in mum's, and mum is mentioned in dads, so that's no dad, yeah, there's no difference whatsoever.
00:44:22.000 --> 00:44:25.199
And that they're quite happy to do that, right?
00:44:25.440 --> 00:44:29.199
And then they're not necessarily a so-called broken home.
00:44:29.920 --> 00:44:37.039
It's not necessarily a broken home situation, but there's there's a lot of reasons that parents may not be in the house every night.
00:44:37.199 --> 00:44:39.519
Yeah, so it does it dad works.
00:44:39.599 --> 00:44:48.559
If dad if dad works long hours, or like you said, if dad works away, or even mum works away, and you know, it's it's it's about that give and take, isn't it?
00:44:48.639 --> 00:44:50.480
And I think delivered.
00:44:51.280 --> 00:44:55.679
Have you ever worked with anybody who's used it at nap time with little children?
00:44:57.199 --> 00:44:58.719
I I I suggest that.
00:44:58.880 --> 00:44:59.920
I do suggest that.
00:45:00.079 --> 00:45:05.280
I
have suggested that to some people when their child that they're afraid to wake them up at night.
00:45:05.360 --> 00:45:06.639
So I said, do it during nap.
00:45:06.800 --> 00:45:06.880
Yeah.
00:45:07.199 --> 00:45:11.760
They're afraid they're afraid they're gonna fall asleep halfway through because they're so tired themselves.
00:45:12.400 --> 00:45:17.760
No, no, or that they're afraid that you know the child wakes up and then doesn't go back to sleep.
00:45:17.920 --> 00:45:21.280
And, you know, so that could be it.
00:45:21.440 --> 00:45:31.760
And you know, going back to also when when it's parents, you know, I've had it where I know originally when I learned it, somebody had said, Oh, you got to do it every night.
00:45:32.000 --> 00:45:42.880
And then I've told parents where it was only one parent doing it, the other one was not doing it and didn't would didn't want it, and or you know, there was not enough communication there.
00:45:43.039 --> 00:45:52.960
And I said, you know, if if that child is hearing that three times a week, you know, nothing, four times a week, it's better than nothing, you know.
00:45:53.440 --> 00:45:58.400
And and also, you know, you start saying some of the same vocabulary during the day.
00:45:58.639 --> 00:46:09.599
So going back to when they first started doing it with Michelle, one day Michelle came down for breakfast and Joan said to her, Good morning, darling.
00:46:09.679 --> 00:46:10.159
How are you?
00:46:10.320 --> 00:46:14.320
And she just looked and cocked her head like this and went, Happy.
00:46:15.039 --> 00:46:19.440
So it was one of the words she heard during her foundation statement.
00:46:19.920 --> 00:46:30.239
And and it was, you know, so her vocabulary was growing and into more, and she was eight years old when they finally got the diagnosis of what was going on with her.
00:46:30.639 --> 00:46:34.320
You know, and so it's it's a great process.
00:46:34.559 --> 00:46:42.400
It's great for building families and for building character and communication in adults and children.
00:46:42.719 --> 00:46:43.360
Yeah, yeah.
00:46:43.519 --> 00:46:49.760
I think another place to tell about this are pediatricians' officers.
00:46:50.880 --> 00:46:55.599
Pediatricians have all sorts of mothers in telling them, I can't get any sleeping bunch of them.
00:46:55.679 --> 00:46:56.239
We're gonna sleep.
00:46:56.400 --> 00:46:57.360
My kids are up all night.
00:46:57.519 --> 00:46:59.280
That's all sorts of reasons, don't they?
00:46:59.920 --> 00:47:00.239
Yeah.
00:47:00.800 --> 00:47:12.480
Another good thing is going to going to daycares and preschools and doing a little program, a free program for the parents about, you know, a little talk for 20 minutes or so.
00:47:12.639 --> 00:47:17.039
And that's also a way, maybe even putting that into a group situation.
00:47:17.280 --> 00:47:22.400
So if they can't afford, you know, one-on-one that they could afford as a group.
00:47:22.559 --> 00:47:22.719
Yeah.
00:47:23.199 --> 00:47:24.400
What did Sheila say?
00:47:24.800 --> 00:47:36.960
Liz and I have we're in a group with Sheila Granger, and did she say she does for groups about 25% of her fee for private individuals?
00:47:37.360 --> 00:47:40.480
So there's a way of doing it that we've been taught.
00:47:41.280 --> 00:47:43.280
And we teach how to do it as a group.
00:47:43.360 --> 00:47:43.679
Yeah.
00:47:43.920 --> 00:47:45.360
So that's also good.
00:47:45.679 --> 00:47:48.079
Another thing is going to schools.
00:47:48.239 --> 00:47:57.360
You know, the school guidance counselor, they're the ones that, you know, that they would love to have families that those kids are always in.
00:47:57.519 --> 00:48:05.360
You know, I was a director of Sylvan Learning Center programs back in the No Child Left Behind era.
00:48:05.840 --> 00:48:12.400
And so I used to tell the kids if they were misbehaving, they'd be sent out to me and they'd be walking the halls with me.
00:48:12.559 --> 00:48:17.199
And I said, you know, if I know your name, that's not necessarily a good thing.
00:48:17.519 --> 00:48:17.840
Yeah.
00:48:20.159 --> 00:48:23.119
Well, thank you so much, Hara, for coming on.
00:48:23.199 --> 00:48:25.920
It's just been I've I've written loads of things down again.
00:48:26.000 --> 00:48:27.840
Every day's a school day, isn't it?
00:48:27.920 --> 00:48:30.880
And it's just so nice to to talk to you.
00:48:31.199 --> 00:48:32.320
It's so nice to see you.
00:48:33.039 --> 00:48:33.760
Thank you very much.
00:48:33.920 --> 00:48:34.159
Yeah.
00:48:34.960 --> 00:48:36.079
Thank you all very much.
00:48:36.239 --> 00:48:39.280
I'm very happy to talk to you.
00:48:39.360 --> 00:48:40.960
So good to see you again.
00:48:41.280 --> 00:48:42.800
Yeah, it's lovely to see you.
00:48:43.039 --> 00:48:43.760
Really lovely to you.
00:48:44.000 --> 00:48:45.119
Great to see you guys.
00:48:45.280 --> 00:48:47.599
And will I see you tomorrow morning?
00:48:47.840 --> 00:48:49.679
You will, yeah, you will.
00:48:49.920 --> 00:48:51.199
What are you speaking about?
00:48:51.360 --> 00:48:57.039
Uh I'm talking about metaphors and storytelling with children.
00:48:57.199 --> 00:48:57.840
Yeah.
00:48:58.320 --> 00:49:01.519
So and we have to schedule you in the cafe.
00:49:02.239 --> 00:49:02.880
I'd love to.
00:49:02.960 --> 00:49:04.719
That would be wonderful, yeah.
00:49:04.880 --> 00:49:05.519
Yeah.
00:49:05.920 --> 00:49:06.239
Yeah.
00:49:06.480 --> 00:49:06.719
Okay.
00:49:06.800 --> 00:49:08.960
So connecting again with you.
00:49:09.280 --> 00:49:11.679
So thank you, Cheryl, and goodbye.
00:49:11.920 --> 00:49:14.719
And hopefully, we'll see each other soon.
00:49:15.039 --> 00:49:15.360
Okay.
00:49:15.679 --> 00:49:17.119
Yes, and thank you all.
00:49:17.280 --> 00:49:18.400
And it was a pleasure.
00:49:18.559 --> 00:49:20.000
It was a pleasure talking with you.
00:49:20.159 --> 00:49:20.559
Thank you.
00:49:20.800 --> 00:49:21.199
Thank you.
00:49:22.400 --> 00:49:24.320
We hope you've enjoyed listening.
00:49:24.480 --> 00:49:33.679
Please remember this podcast is designed to give you an insight into therapeutic hypnosis and is for educational purposes only.
00:49:33.840 --> 00:49:41.920
So remember, consult with your own healthcare professional if you think something you've heard may apply to you or a loved one.