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I thought, sure, you were going to come back
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with a lyric or something. We're going to play
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Don't Say the Same Thing. Yeah. So there's not
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a winner or loser in this game. No, it's more
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of like a teamwork or maybe like an anti -teamwork.
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Teamwork makes the dream work. Sure. Yeah. So.
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So what were you going to say? I interrupted
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you, maybe? There's six different categories.
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Say, I was going to say like the first one that
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pops into your head, but not necessarily if you
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think that's what I'm going to say. Yeah. I don't
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know what strategy is. Strategery. All right.
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So first one is color. Black. Hold on. Oh, you
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got to count to three? We got to go one, two,
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three, and then we both say it. Okay. Sorry.
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Okay. One, two, three. Brown. I almost said black
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because... I almost said black again. You wouldn't
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say it again. Okay. We suck. So fruit. Got it?
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Yep. You ready? Yep. One, two, three. Pineapple.
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It was close, but not the same. Okay. I was actually
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going to say something else, but I couldn't remember
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what it was called. Okay. It was a lot of pressure
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to have to say it really fast like that. All
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right. Ready? Day of the week. One, two, three.
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Monday. Yes. All right. Season. Monday is the
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best day of the week. Season. Season. Okay. One,
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two, three. Summer. Yes. I think we both wanted
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to say fall. Yes, because I can't wait for fall.
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Oh, my gosh. But I figured you would say fall
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because you wouldn't think I would say fall because
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it would be too obvious. Yeah. Anyway. I said
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summer because it's your least favorite season.
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True. Yeah. All right. Card suit. Ready? Yep.
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One, two, three. Cards. I said cards because
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I heart you. I really thought you were going
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to say spades. All right. Coin flip. It's gotten
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progressively harder because there's less and
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less options. And we missed the first one. I
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know. We could have said lavender or like, I
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don't know. Chartreuse. So many different colors.
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We said brown. We're boring. I think it's because
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we've both been wearing brown so much. Yeah,
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we have. Yeah. I'm the desert king, by the way.
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Somebody called me that the other day. It was
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pretty funny. She calls me that. Ooh, you look
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like a desert king. You call me that. I called
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you that this morning. I was like, ooh, you look
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like a desert king again. Yeah. All right. Coin
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flip. Yep. Ready? Yep. One, two, three. Tails.
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Never fails. All right. That's why I said it,
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because tails never fails. We just can't help
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it that we're sort of in sync. Yep. In sync.
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I thought for sure you were going to come back
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with a lyric or something. Hey, what's up, guys?
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Thanks for joining us today. I hope you enjoyed
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that game. It was kind of ridiculous, and we
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weren't real good at it. But anyway, yeah, it
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is what it is. I'm not used to trying to do something
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opposite to you. I know, yeah. It's kind of weird.
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It's because we're so connected. Yeah. Yesterday
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was our 24 -year anniversary, which is absolutely
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crazy. It's crazy. And but today we're jumping
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in to this podcast and this one is kind of special
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to us because it's with Jerry Negrotto. Yeah.
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And I didn't really tell the story on our interview
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with him of where Jerry and I met, but I don't
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think I did anyway. But. Jerry and I met in Wyoming
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on a retreat and it's a retreat that I almost
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didn't go on. So this is 2021. Yeah. And as many
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of you know, 2019 is when I really had my breakdown
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and reached out to Blaine Bartell and Blaine
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had helped me get back on the road. But Blaine
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really doesn't do like. I mean, he's my friend
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and we talk all the time, but he doesn't do like
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maintenance counseling. He mostly does crisis
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counseling. And so I needed to have a coach.
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I needed to have a marriage counselor. We needed
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a marriage counselor. And we were just really
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praying and looking at someone to step into that
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role. We needed somebody we could trust. And
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so I had asked around, but we really just hadn't
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found anybody. And so I'm going to this retreat
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in Wyoming. I'm driving and my truck just outside
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of Pueblo, Colorado. broke a piston rod and shot
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it through the engine block and the truck did
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not go anymore. And so I really, you know, I
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was kind of fragile as I was going. I didn't
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want to go on the trip. She had to talk to me.
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Yeah. Tiffany had to talk me into going on the
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trip. And so anyway, I, I said, well, I'm, I
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really wasn't doing bad. I mean, I had pretty
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high spirits, but it was like, I'm just going
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to come home. I don't. I don't have anything
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else to do. And, you know, we got my truck towed
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to Pueblo and I was stuck in Pueblo, Colorado
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for like two days. And Tiffany said, well, why
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don't you just rent a car and go on to Wyoming?
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I'm like, but that's ridiculous. Like, how am
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I going to get home? Am I going to drive the
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car home? I don't know. My truck's going to be
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done. I don't really know what's wrong with it.
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At that point, I didn't. So anyway, rented a
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car. I drove it all the way to Wyoming, like
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another 10 or 12 hours or something. I was. Two
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days late for the retreat and had to leave a
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day early because of how the flights worked out
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and everything. So I was just there for like
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a day and a half. While I was there, I met Jerry
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Negrotto. And I just knew that we needed to keep
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that connection. And so it was a little bit later,
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a few months later. Reached out to him. We had
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our first marriage counseling session with him.
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And he kicked our butt, to be honest. And now
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he does it on the regular. But I consider him
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one of my closest friends. And I know that he's
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helped out many of our podcast audience already.
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And you guys are going to absolutely love him.
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So enjoy this conversation with our dear friend,
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Jerry Negrotto. For us, making the decision to
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be healthy was not just a choice, but really
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it was a necessity. Not only were our bodies
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breaking down, but we were mentally exhausted,
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our marriage was rocky, our spirit was drained.
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And though to many we appeared like we were fine,
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we were deeply broken and really on the verge
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of crumbling. In John 10 .10, it says the thief
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comes to steal, to kill. and to destroy, but
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I, Jesus, have come that you might have life
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and have it more abundantly. See, that's not
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just a physical thing. It's not just a mental
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thing. It's not just a relational thing or even
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a spiritual thing, but it's a total health thing.
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At the beginning of 2025, we invited our church
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to come along our health journey, and we issued
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a total health challenge. A monthly goal of health
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in our diet, our exercise, our mental, spiritual,
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emotional, and relational life. And many of you
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rose to that challenge. On October 9th, we were
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meeting with our marriage counselor, and Holy
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Spirit dropped in my heart to bring a first -of
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-its -kind health conference. A weekend dedicated
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to total health. And now I can't do anything
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halfway, and so we've got to bring something
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that's special. something that's memorable, life
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-changing, but not only that, we have to do it
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with excellence. So we've got, in my opinion,
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some of the best speakers in the country who
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I'm also privileged to call my familia. And they're
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going to bring a transformative perspective on
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health. Church, this isn't just for some, it's
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for everyone. Let me give you a few stats. 20
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% of Americans battle with anxiety. 18 % are
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being treated for depression. 40 % struggle with
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weight and obesity, and 45 % of marriages end
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in divorce. This is not
the way of our Father.
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This is not the abundant life that Jesus came
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to give us. In fact, Romans 14, 17 says, The
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kingdom of God is life, peace, and joy in the
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Holy Spirit. So we're doing something about it.
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Now this isn't just a conference where we're
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going to eat kale and do jazzercise and shame
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you for how unhealthy your choices are. We're
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giving real practical solutions from the Word
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of God for you to get off the cycle of struggle
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and to bring you to a place where you thrive
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in this life. We're going to have powerful worship.
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We're going to have messages from world -renowned
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speakers, but we're also going to have five -star
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catered meals, impactful breakouts, and even
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a unique time of worship workout that you don't
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want to miss and so much more. So would you join
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us September 11th through the 13th right here
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at Word of Life for our first Thrive Health Conference.
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Mark your calendars now, and I know that you'll
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be blessed. Well, hey, what's up, everybody?
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We are here today with a very, very dear friend.
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And as you'll know, as we continue to talk about
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this, I would say more than a friend, Jerry Negrotto.
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Jerry knows. More about us than just about anybody.
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And I wouldn't say he's seen the real bad because
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we didn't know him when it was real bad. But
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Jerry knows a lot of the dirty secrets and he
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helps us through stuff and counsels us in our
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marriage. And we're very thankful to him. So,
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Jerry, hello. Hey, guys. Gosh, so excited to
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be here with you. And, you know, Jason, Tiffany,
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I kind of a privilege that I get to. Walk through
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some tough stuff with you at times. You guys
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are awesome. Everybody watching this, if this
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is your pastors, they are awesome, wonderful,
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beautiful people. We didn't pay him to say that,
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but we appreciate it. The SPACs are not without
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issues, but they're very good at working through
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their issues. And I get the privilege of doing
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that with them as I have my own personal coach.
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As well. Yeah. Right. Absolutely. So, Jerry,
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maybe jump right in. Tell us a little bit about
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yourself, who you are, what you do, how you got
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here. Yeah. I was ordained a pastor about 25
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years ago, did some church planting, worked in
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the Calvary Chapel movement for a long period
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of time. And last 15, 18 years, just been a life
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coach, soul transformational coach, if I can
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be a little more specific, just helping people
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work through the hard stuff. You know, I'm a
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guy who's experienced a lot of trauma, great
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amounts of trauma in his lifetime. As I saw God
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heal me and put me through a journey, I just
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wanted to be able to be there for others as well.
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When I say a lot of trauma, I think it'd be good
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for a little bit of background. I mean, when
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I was a kid in school, I was dyslexic. So, you
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know, in special classes, I got beat up and bullied
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and called all kinds of names, you know, in sixth,
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seventh, eighth grade. You know, so if there's
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any parents that are listening, if your kids
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are being bullied, I really want you to connect
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with that with your kids, because that's traumatic
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for a kid that age. So I didn't like I didn't
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like who I was. You know, I listened to the words
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of the bullies over time. It caused me to think
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of who am I? What's my identity? I didn't like
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who I was. So I started to self -medicate 14
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years old. And with that came a lot of really
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bad decisions. A young adult tried to get into
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the music industry in New Orleans. And I don't
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want to get into that story. I'll just say we
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had our own version of the Motley Crue lifestyle.
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With that, I ended up getting shot, ended up
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getting arrested a couple times and ended up
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getting stabbed. And so that's just more trauma
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was piling on top of each other. So I just kept
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self -medicating, going deeper into that world
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and that journey. Then I came to Christ at 30.
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He healed me of drugs, alcohol, sex addiction,
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but he didn't heal me of PTSD. Actually, I didn't
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even know I had PTSD. I mean, I was still self
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-medicating as a corporate businessman literally
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three days before I came to Jesus and surrendered.
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And so my poor wife married me as a guy that
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loved well, but also was, I'm just going to say,
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pretty jacked up emotionally. And then I lost
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my daughter in 2019 traumatically, and that was
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when my whole world changed. i basically lost
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my mind i was diagnosed with complex ptsd so
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that what that is is when all your traumas lock
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hands lock arms and become one huge catastrophic
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experience and i mean seven years ago i didn't
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know my my address for for months so i had a
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choice to make i could um believe the psychiatrist
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and the therapist who said, look, you're chronically
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depressed. You have high anxiety. I was on four
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medications. For me, it just made me even worse.
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I stayed on some of them for a period of time
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because I needed to. But I made a choice that
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I was going to get better. God is able to do
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anything. And I didn't care what the medical
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reports said. The doctor said, i made a choice
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that i was going to find a path of healing and
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it was god first and then it was therapy it was
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doing the work it was facing and feeling the
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pain coming to an understanding of my emotions
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and how my thoughts were connected and doing
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some deep deep deep work literally To this day,
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I've moved from counseling and a psychiatrist
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now to coaching. I have a coach to this day,
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but I'm really healthy. And I get to help other
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people with the experience I went through. And
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you know Pastor Darren, he's on your board still,
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right? He asked me one day, he says, do you think
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everybody can get healed of
PTSD? I said, that's
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a big stretch to say everybody. but i believe
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a lot of people can yeah but the biggest challenge
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in front of them is will they do the work and
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what it takes and do they have the resources
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to do that and i had all of that um at my access
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so yeah yeah you know i think that's really important
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to say you have to do the work um i think in
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our in I hate this phrase that I'm getting ready
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to use in our Western Christianity. And the reason
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why I hate that phrase is because I think it's
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thrown around way too much. And, you know, people
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are people all over the world. I've been all
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over the world and people are people. But I think
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even more so uniquely Western, we want things
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instantaneously. it's the microwave culture the
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the netflix culture the doordash culture i mean
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whatever you want to call it um streaming music
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at our fingertips you know we we want all of
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these things instantaneously but that's that's
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not the jesus way The Jesus way is finding the
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root of something. And, you know, many times,
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and I've been criticized for this some over the
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years, that there's a lot of things that I don't
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pray for in a healing line. Because I just don't
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think that there are, maybe let me backtrack,
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there are many, many cases where the problem
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is not solved. through the laying on of hands.
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You know, I'm not saying it's not solved through
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prayer, but it's solved in consistent praying,
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in walking through life with someone, in digging
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deep and doing the work and finding the root
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of the problem. When I was a mess in 2019, I
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didn't know what needed to be fixed and what
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needed to be healed. You know, can't God do it
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in an instant? Well, maybe. Maybe God can do
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it. I'm not limiting God. But if I don't know
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what the problem is, if I didn't do the work
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to correct the mind, to correct the triggers,
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to correct the relationships, then I'm going
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to go right back to that place where I was. But
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it's the root of that issue that's causing the
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problems. When we get down to that root, then
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that's where healing begins. Yeah, absolutely.
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Meaning you'll even look at the book of James.
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It says if you're sick, call the elders. They'll
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lay hands on you. Their faith will make you well.
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But it also then goes on to say that you confess
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your sins to one another so that you may be healed.
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And so there's work. It's right. Am I willing
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to confess what sin? But I take that even further.
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Am I willing to do the work? It starts with the
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confession. It starts with taking ownership for
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your part of what's going on in your life, the
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pain that you're facing, and the suffering that
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you're going through. What part is yours? Are
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you going to talk about that? Confess. Say it
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out loud. Do the work. i wish i wish there were
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more uh healings that just bam happened like
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that but yeah usually not the case um we have
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to make the choices to to do the hard work i
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like to call it face and feel yes we need to
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be willing to face the pain in front of us we
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need to be willing to face the consequences in
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front of us we need to be willing to face whatever's
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put before us so that we can we can do the work
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and if it's painful we got to be willing to feel
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the pain yeah yeah i think that's the biggest
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part of our human condition is we we don't we
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don't want to be in pain and we book of lamentations
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right god invites us into suffering that's right
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that's right That's not something that's talked
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about a lot in the church because I think we're
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afraid of the topic in some ways. And then we
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talk about this a lot on this podcast. We're
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from a Word of Faith background and still believe
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very much in the Word of Faith. But I think that
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one thing that we fell short on maybe in traditional
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Word of Faith teaching is that we're constantly
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Um, we, we feel like we, to use your phrase,
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not your phrase, but you say it a lot. Um, we
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constantly feel like we have to faith it till
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we make it. Um, and we, we negate things like,
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like therapy, like having a coach, like, because
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we, we, we think if we were to say what our problems
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really are, rather than I'm blessed and highly
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favored of God, this is the third straight pocket.
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I talked about this. We then negate the thing
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that God is trying to do in us. I'm not saying
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that God is the source of your pain, but there's
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an enemy in the world that has brought pain into
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your life. But when we come to the realization
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that, hey, I've got this issue, I've got this
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problem, and I want to walk through it with someone
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and be honest. Talk about the spiritual side
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of therapy, and then we'll talk about the physical
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side in a minute. Yeah, the spiritual side. That
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was a very interesting question. First thing
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I want to say is that we have to be real careful
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that we don't spiritually bypass what God is
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doing and why we're suffering and why we're...
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have experienced the things we've experienced
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right you're saying like faith until we make
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it to me that's almost like wow that could be
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spiritual bypassing i don't know if you've heard
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that term before it's good determine in the coaching
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world um and it can kind of wreck some people
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and make some people kind of pissed about that
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but yeah What are we bypassing? We're just going
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to pray. Well, God's going to make me better.
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I'm going to pray. Yes, I've been diagnosed with
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PTSD. I have chronic depression. I'm on medications.
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But I'm just going to keep praying. It's like,
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well, how long have you been praying for? Well,
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for five years. Okay, well, maybe you need to
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go do the work. Yeah, yeah. Stop spiritually
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bypassing. Keep
praying and do the work and pray
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while you're doing the work. We got to do the
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work. But the spiritual side of... You know,
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that's a really, that's a deep question. It's
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almost a Pandora's box, man. Because therapy,
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right, and counseling, and then just biblical
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counseling, but therapeutic tools, how do you
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combine the two? Where's the spirit? Where's
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the work? The first thing that comes to mind
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is... Spiritual part of therapy, this is my personal
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experience, and my clients embrace this. I see
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huge changes, is meditation. The Bible is very
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clear about meditation. Now, the problem is in
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the Western world, we don't really understand
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what that is at all. You go to the Eastern world,
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and they meditate. They know how to meditate.
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Even Jewish people, when they pray, I mean, it's
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different. And so what, what do I mean by that?
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We just, we had to learn how to slow our minds
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down. Yes. We have to, we have to learn to calm
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ourselves, slow our minds down so that we can
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connect with God because we need, we need his
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presence. We need to be able to hear from God.
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So for me, the spiritual part of therapy is teaching
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people how to meditate, how to slow down, how
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to listen for God. I mean, I have a lot of clients
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that will tell me, their first uh session where
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we just do a discovery call is i just i just
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need to be closer to god my life's wrecked i've
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done this i've made these choices but i need
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god in the equation yeah and um so meditation
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and so what do we meditate on i mean we we meditate
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on truth on god word that's totally biblical
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old testament new testament right because we're
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believing all these stories right of our past
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i mean think about me i mean Beat up, bullied,
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shot, stabbed, lose a daughter traumatically.
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How could God love me? Right? So if I'm not meditating
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on truth, God's truth about who I am, who he
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says I am, right? If I'm not believing those
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things, then what am I believing? I'm believing
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the other side. And the other side is dark. The
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other side is lies. And so meditating on truth,
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the promises of God. who he says i am i'm loved
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i'm accepted i am enough you know i think of
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giving this is this is huge i did a teaching
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on this gideon 6 11 you know and gideon um the
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angel of the lord comes to him and he's calling
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he says he's a mighty man of our vower you know
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this mighty man this warrior and gideon's like
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well how can i be do you know the history of
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our clan And then he speaks forth truth and encouragement
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to him again. But you don't know. We're like
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the least of these. Our clan is the least of
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these. Gideon didn't have like self -worth. Right.
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He was he was like, I'm not enough. I'm not good
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enough. I can't I can't be this mighty warrior.
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And that that kind of curse is on us as humans.
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yeah so we need to meditate we need to meditate
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on truth it says in proverbs as a man thinks
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about himself that's what he believes he becomes
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so our thoughts what we're thinking so i work
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with clients another spiritual element of the
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work that i do is working with our thoughts yes
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why are you thinking thoughts what is your past
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story um let's let's it's cbt in the therapeutic
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world but in the coaching world they just call
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it this we have to notice our thoughts second
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corinthians 10 5 notice our thoughts take everything
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captive right yes right number two it's romans
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12. we need to renew our minds with god's word
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because that's what transforms us a renewed mind
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thinking differently thoughts again number three
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uh we choose to Choose what we think about, what
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we dwell on. It needs to be truth, God -honoring,
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life -giving, beautiful, good things, Philippians
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4 .8. Choose what you think about. So for me,
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spiritual therapy is those two components
is
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where we start with the meditation, calming the
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mind, hearing God, understanding your thoughts,
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and moving from there. It's really interesting
00:27:57.720 --> 00:28:02.059
as you say those things because so many practices,
00:28:02.180 --> 00:28:08.079
as I'm learning, in the therapy world, when we're
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talking about mental illness, mental anguish,
00:28:11.660 --> 00:28:14.980
PTSD, trauma, all of those things, addiction,
00:28:15.240 --> 00:28:22.140
many of those things are biblical, even though
00:28:22.140 --> 00:28:28.130
many times they're attributed. to um to science
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and and i think i said that really poorly but
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um but they are scientific but science is is
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proving the scripture um you know things like
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meditation um my um my pastor pastor david emi
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um who's gone to to be with jesus but david might
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always say that meditation is incubation As we're
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meditating, it's things that are growing on the
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inside of us that are not incubated on the inside
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of us. When we talk about Romans 12 .1 and renewing
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our mind, you know, science and neuroscience
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would call that. Oh, and I lost the word. Tell
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me what that word is. You know that. Neuroplasticity.
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Oh, neuroplasticity. That's the word I was looking
00:29:12.980 --> 00:29:18.720
for. But it's amazing to think, we talked about
00:29:18.720 --> 00:29:21.079
this a few weeks ago on the podcast, how when
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we do things like pray the Lord's Prayer, how
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every one of those elements of the Lord's Prayer,
00:29:26.359 --> 00:29:28.480
they light up different parts of our brain. And
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as they light up different parts of our brain,
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then it's brain function and brain activity and
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God is healing us. There's so many different
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aspects that we tend to just shove it aside as,
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oh, you know, we don't need this because we're
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people of prayer and people of faith. And to
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me, it's operating by God's design. We're coming
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together in community. We're confessing our sins
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to one another that we may yield. I told somebody
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this the other day as we were discussing the
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whole, should I go to therapy? Should I not go
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to therapy? And is it a lack of faith if I do?
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And I said, why is it that we can go up in a
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prayer line? And believe that if somebody lays
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hands on us, that we'll be healed, that God works
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through them and the laying on of hands heals
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the sick. We believe it because it's biblical,
00:30:25.220 --> 00:30:28.539
right? But we don't have any problem with that.
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But I have a problem with the fact that I can
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go and talk to somebody and God can use a conversation
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that I have with somebody to bring healing to
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me. Why is that? It doesn't make any sense. I
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believe that God has placed these tools and this
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science and all of these things in our lives
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to bring healing to us. Well, think about it.
00:30:52.359 --> 00:30:57.759
We got to Romans 12, right? So we're transformed
00:30:57.759 --> 00:31:00.599
when our mind is renewed, which means we're thinking
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differently. Yes. Thinking more like God. We're
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thinking in a way that's aligned to the word.
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So when you go for counseling or coaching. And
00:31:08.369 --> 00:31:11.430
those are two different worlds. I did counseling
00:31:11.430 --> 00:31:14.529
for trauma counseling for three years, over 150
00:31:14.529 --> 00:31:17.990
sessions because I needed to. And then I moved
00:31:17.990 --> 00:31:22.130
to coaching. But that person's helping you do
00:31:22.130 --> 00:31:24.809
what? Think differently about your situation.
00:31:25.170 --> 00:31:28.029
Think differently about who you are and who God
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created you to be. So that is a renewal of the
00:31:30.730 --> 00:31:34.589
mind. And the byproduct is transformation. I'm
00:31:34.589 --> 00:31:36.609
going to think differently. I'm going to behave
00:31:36.609 --> 00:31:38.529
differently. I'm going to become differently.
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And something really cool, neuroscience, neurobiology.
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I love neurobiology because it's the brain -body
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connection. Dr. Andrew Huberman. There's Dr.
00:31:48.390 --> 00:31:52.089
Daniel Ammon out there. There's Dr. Lee Warren.
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Great podcast as well. Everybody should listen
00:31:55.289 --> 00:31:57.769
to Dr. Lee Warren. He's a Christian neurosurgeon.
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And the newest thing that has really blown my
00:32:04.009 --> 00:32:06.529
mind when it comes to science lining with God's
00:32:06.529 --> 00:32:10.170
word in Romans 12, they're saying that now the
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primary influencer of our emotions are our
thoughts.
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The thoughts we think have a huge, huge impact
00:32:20.890 --> 00:32:25.279
on our neurochemistry. So the thoughts we think
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are responsible for the chemicals that are released
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that create the emotions we experience. Think
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about that. So we got to almost like reverse
00:32:38.380 --> 00:32:40.880
engineer sometimes. A lot of times with my clients,
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I'll ask them, hey, I show them the emotions
00:32:43.019 --> 00:32:45.079
chart. What are the two strongest emotions you're
00:32:45.079 --> 00:32:47.980
experiencing today? Okay, great. What is causing
00:32:47.980 --> 00:32:52.359
that? Why? And we reverse engineer because usually
00:32:52.359 --> 00:32:54.960
if you keep going underneath your emotions, there's
00:32:54.960 --> 00:32:57.339
a thought that's driving that emotion. Yeah.
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Because science is telling us the thoughts release
00:32:59.839 --> 00:33:03.559
the emotions that create. I'm sorry. Science
00:33:03.559 --> 00:33:06.720
is saying that the thoughts create the chemicals
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that create and cause to have emotions or experience.
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Right. If we're living according to our emotions,
00:33:14.440 --> 00:33:16.599
we're going to make a lot of bad decisions. We're
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going to be just drama wrecks, drama queen. Drama
00:33:20.240 --> 00:33:22.740
kings, whatever the heck you want to call it.
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I think in talking about that, you know, identifying,
00:33:28.079 --> 00:33:33.019
being able to identify emotions, being able to
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identify triggers, being able to reverse engineer
00:33:35.880 --> 00:33:45.039
is a really vital part of our walking through
00:33:45.039 --> 00:33:49.420
this journey of healing. There's so many times,
00:33:49.599 --> 00:33:53.319
I know that, and you and I have talked about
00:33:53.319 --> 00:33:57.259
this, but there'll be times when an anxiety attack
00:33:57.259 --> 00:34:03.259
will come on me. And for the longest time, I
00:34:03.259 --> 00:34:06.880
had absolutely no idea why that came. I just
00:34:06.880 --> 00:34:10.880
know, hold on, I'm going to sneeze. Nope. Orange.
00:34:11.119 --> 00:34:13.059
All I needed to do was say it. Have you ever
00:34:13.059 --> 00:34:15.369
heard that if you say the word orange? That it
00:34:15.369 --> 00:34:19.949
goes away. I don't know. I don't know. Say orange.
00:34:20.050 --> 00:34:26.230
Come on. Yeah, I know. Okay. Yeah. So, yeah.
00:34:28.170 --> 00:34:31.250
But, but I had no idea why that came. And so
00:34:31.250 --> 00:34:34.050
I began to kind of, you know, reverse engineer
00:34:34.050 --> 00:34:39.780
that and say, okay. You know, maybe that there's
00:34:39.780 --> 00:34:41.760
there's this situation or that's it or I've dwelt
00:34:41.760
--> 00:34:43.940
on this or I've dwelt on that. And I think that
00:34:43.940 --> 00:34:46.159
that helps us, first of all, to recognize where
00:34:46.159 --> 00:34:51.460
it came from or when it's coming. And secondly,
00:34:51.860 --> 00:34:55.280
as we do that, then we can begin once again to
00:34:55.280 --> 00:34:59.780
start dealing with the root of that issue. And
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I'm far from an expert on on these things. This
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is just, you know, my experience and some of
00:35:06.280 --> 00:35:10.639
my study. Do you have anything to maybe give
00:35:10.639 --> 00:35:12.900
us a little more insight on that? Maybe I'm putting
00:35:12.900 --> 00:35:19.219
you on the spot. Yeah, no. So first thing I say
00:35:19.219 --> 00:35:24.239
is anxiety and fear are Siamese twins. Yes. Because
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fear is typical. We're fearful of something.
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We're ruminating over it. We're looping in our
00:35:30.300 --> 00:35:34.039
thoughts. Now we become anxious over it. Right.
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And now we say we have anxiety and we're really
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fearful about something because we can't control
00:35:40.760 --> 00:35:44.500
the outcome or we're projecting ourself out into
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the future and trying to figure out an outcome
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or manipulate an outcome. And so either way,
00:35:50.280 --> 00:35:54.420
fear and anxiety are Siamese twins. Just one
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kind of shows up. But it's important to remember
00:35:57.340 --> 00:36:01.710
that I call that future tripping. Right. myself,
00:36:01.730 --> 00:36:04.510
when I'm anxious, right? And it shows up in my
00:36:04.510 --> 00:36:08.630
body and my breath is off and I'm feeling that
00:36:08.630 --> 00:36:11.269
swirling in my chest or some people it's in their
00:36:11.269 --> 00:36:14.489
gut, they feel nauseous. They're typically future
00:36:14.489 --> 00:36:17.750
tripping, okay? Future tripping. Jesus talks
00:36:17.750 --> 00:36:20.070
about that. He tells us not to worry about tomorrow
00:36:20.070 --> 00:36:22.630
if it has enough worries of its own. So when
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we start worrying about tomorrow, next week,
00:36:25.250 --> 00:36:29.059
you know, a month out from now, that's... And
00:36:29.059 --> 00:36:32.800
when when those thoughts start to lock in and
00:36:32.800 --> 00:36:37.800
loop through our heads and we'll get just exhausted.
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And that's that's just the best, purest form
00:36:41.559 --> 00:36:47.960
of anxiety. Right. Yeah. Mm hmm. So Jerry, in
00:36:47.960 --> 00:36:52.019
action over the over the upcoming what's coming
00:36:52.019 --> 00:36:54.320
up and what's in front of you, and sometimes
00:36:54.320 --> 00:36:58.519
it's simple things and sometimes it's. big things.
00:36:58.780 --> 00:37:01.019
But here's another thing. They say that like
00:37:01.019 --> 00:37:04.539
literally only 15 % of what we worry about actually
00:37:04.539 --> 00:37:07.539
ever happens. And that number actually dropped
00:37:07.539 --> 00:37:11.519
to about 12%. Right. So why are we giving all
00:37:11.519 --> 00:37:15.900
this energy and all of mental and emotional energy?
00:37:17.179 --> 00:37:20.300
to future tripping because we'll we wear ourselves
00:37:20.300 --> 00:37:22.900
out and now we're so anxious we wear ourselves
00:37:22.900 --> 00:37:26.460
out guess what happens now now your anxiety morphs
00:37:26.460 --> 00:37:30.139
and shows up as depression yep yep because anxiety
00:37:30.139 --> 00:37:32.500
and depression can run in tandem with one another
00:37:32.500 --> 00:37:35.219
yes because you're not sleeping you're not and
00:37:35.219 --> 00:37:37.980
you just you're putting all this energy into
00:37:37.980 --> 00:37:40.699
it now you're you're depressed and you're thinking
00:37:40.699 --> 00:37:43.880
all these Other things are now that you're depressed
00:37:43.880 --> 00:37:45.900
and I'm not worthy. Nothing good is going to
00:37:45.900 --> 00:37:47.599
happen. The outcome is going to be terrible.
00:37:47.860 --> 00:37:50.500
Then you get go back in anxiety again because
00:37:50.500 --> 00:37:53.739
now I'm fearful. And so it kind of goes back
00:37:53.739 --> 00:37:56.719
to what do you do? You meditate, you pray, you
00:37:56.719 --> 00:37:59.039
go into the word of God and see what he has to
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say about your situation. But breath work also
00:38:02.460 --> 00:38:07.800
is very important when you're in a state of anxiety.
00:38:07.960 --> 00:38:11.769
That just means your nervous system. is revved
00:38:11.769 --> 00:38:14.289
up. Your nervous system has moved from baseline
00:38:14.289 --> 00:38:19.309
now to an elevated, vigilant, hypervigilant.
00:38:19.349 --> 00:38:22.269
Now you're going into hypervigilant. You're going
00:38:22.269 --> 00:38:28.289
into panic attacks. So the nervous system is
00:38:28.289 --> 00:38:30.449
revving and going higher and higher. And a lot
00:38:30.449 --> 00:38:32.070
of you guys know what I'm talking about as I
00:38:32.070 --> 00:38:35.750
say this. You cannot logic or talk yourself out
00:38:35.750 --> 00:38:40.579
of an anxiety attack or a panic attack. You can
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breathe yourself out of it. You need breath.
00:38:45.539 --> 00:38:47.920
How do you calm your nervous system? This is,
00:38:47.940 --> 00:38:51.920
again, neurobiology. Breath work is the newest
00:38:51.920 --> 00:38:56.000
thing across all modalities in the Christian
00:38:56.000 --> 00:38:59.320
therapeutic world. It's been there in the secular.
00:38:59.519 --> 00:39:02.219
It's in the integration, people who integrate.
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I would be considered an integrationist. I bring
00:39:05.440 --> 00:39:08.219
everything back to the Word of God. I seek the
00:39:08.219 -->
00:39:11.699
science. I make sure it's clean with what God
00:39:11.699 --> 00:39:14.099
would say about it. I take those therapeutic
00:39:14.099 --> 00:39:16.800
tools and I bring those into what I do with my
00:39:16.800 --> 00:39:22.039
clients. But breath, a breath work is so easy
00:39:22.039 --> 00:39:26.000
to get yourself out of a state of anxiety. Before
00:39:26.000 --> 00:39:28.880
you even go into the anxiety attack, you feel
00:39:28.880 --> 00:39:32.239
anxious. And when you breathe, think of breath.
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Breath is the language between your body and
00:39:36.940 --> 00:39:41.199
your brain. It's like a language. And so you're
00:39:41.199 --> 00:39:45.159
telling your body as you breathe, slower and
00:39:45.159 --> 00:39:49.199
deeper, I'm safe. I'm going to be okay. What
00:39:49.199 --> 00:39:51.519
you're scared about or afraid or future tripping
00:39:51.519 --> 00:39:55.139
over, we're not even there yet. Just calm down.
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And as you calm yourself down, your nervous system
00:39:57.820 --> 00:40:04.820
down, this slows down. And so breathwork is super,
00:40:04.920 --> 00:40:08.559
super important in the whole meditation. practice
00:40:08.559 --> 00:40:12.599
and some breath work breathing and saying things
00:40:12.599 --> 00:40:15.980
out loud that are true about you and true about
00:40:15.980 --> 00:40:19.400
god and who he says you are as a practice i do
00:40:19.400 --> 00:40:22.420
i call it call it meditation prayer breath work
00:40:22.420 --> 00:40:26.420
yeah you know um so i don't know if that answered
00:40:26.420 --> 00:40:29.719
your question no 100 and just as you were talking
00:40:29.719 --> 00:40:32.500
i had this thought um i believe by the holy spirit
00:40:32.500 --> 00:40:38.719
that whenever whenever adam in the garden was
00:40:38.719 --> 00:40:42.500
brought to life um what happened god breathed
00:40:42.500 --> 00:40:46.639
into him the breath of life right and so breath
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is very it's very biblical um in the upper room
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where i believe we i believe that we were restored
00:41:00.780 --> 00:41:06.400
we were restored to to god at at the cross we
00:41:06.400 --> 00:41:10.389
were restored to our divine purpose at Pentecost.
00:41:10.690 --> 00:41:13.369
And those of you who listened to the podcast,
00:41:13.610 --> 00:41:17.369
you've heard me talk about that. And if you go
00:41:17.369 --> 00:41:19.769
back and listen to, we have one on Pentecost
00:41:19.769 --> 00:41:22.469
that was a few months ago where we talked about
00:41:22.469 --> 00:41:27.949
this in detail. But when Holy Spirit came into
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the upper room as a rushing mighty wind, he filled
00:41:30.769 --> 00:41:33.619
the room with what? With air. i believe that
00:41:33.619 --> 00:41:36.179
as they were breathing they were breathing in
00:41:36.179 --> 00:41:38.400
once again the original breath that they were
00:41:38.400 --> 00:41:43.099
meant to breathe um as the breath of god and
00:41:43.099 --> 00:41:46.860
so as you're talking about that we can visualize
00:41:46.860 --> 00:41:50.260
in those moments that you know what i've got
00:41:50.260 --> 00:41:54.099
anxiety is anxiety of god no anxiety fear is
00:41:54.099 --> 00:41:56.440
not of god perfect love cast out faith that's
00:41:56.440 --> 00:41:59.579
what the scripture says so in those moments i
00:41:59.579 --> 00:42:04.170
stop And I say, what air am I breathing? I'm
00:42:04.170 --> 00:42:06.730
breathing the air of fear, but I'm supposed to
00:42:06.730 --> 00:42:08.849
be breathing the life of God. So I'm going to
00:42:08.849 --> 00:42:10.750
stop and I'm going to breathe in the life of
00:42:10.750 --> 00:42:13.469
God. And as my lungs are filled, it's not just
00:42:13.469 --> 00:42:15.570
filled with physical air and it's slowing down.
00:42:15.769 --> 00:42:19.230
My mental state and my nervous system is resetting.
00:42:19.429 --> 00:42:21.710
But that's happening because I'm allowing the
00:42:21.710 --> 00:42:25.269
life of God to come back in me where there was
00:42:25.269 --> 00:42:30.519
a void because I'm fearful and not in love. Yeah,
00:42:30.559 --> 00:42:32.739
I like that. I mean, breath is sacred, right?
00:42:32.920 --> 00:42:37.960
We don't have breath. We're not alive. There's
00:42:37.960 --> 00:42:43.539
sacredness to that. And fear is not of God. We
00:42:43.539 --> 00:42:45.539
know that Bible says that, right? But when we're
00:42:45.539 --> 00:42:49.000
in fear and we're in anxiety, why does our breath
00:42:49.000 --> 00:42:53.460
start to change? Our physiology, it changes.
00:42:53.599 --> 00:43:00.780
So how do we get back our breath? calm peaceful
00:43:00.780 --> 00:43:03.940
and feel safe and our nervous system is regulated
00:43:03.940 --> 00:43:07.119
it's like we got to take it back yeah right and
00:43:07.119 --> 00:43:09.579
we can regulate that i mean there's you can go
00:43:09.579 --> 00:43:12.079
on youtube and just put in breath work for anxiety
00:43:12.079 --> 00:43:16.460
breath work for for um nervous system regulation
00:43:16.460 --> 00:43:19.659
nervous system reset and when you do some weird
00:43:19.659 --> 00:43:22.280
stuff's gonna come up you know so you gotta you
00:43:22.280 --> 00:43:24.420
gotta filter through it you know if you see the
00:43:24.420 --> 00:43:26.460
person in the background there's like statues
00:43:26.460 --> 00:43:30.280
of idols and gods and stuff like that find somebody
00:43:30.280 --> 00:43:34.000
else okay yeah there's a lot of them that just
00:43:34.000 --> 00:43:36.739
take the science out of what they did in the
00:43:36.739 --> 00:43:39.400
eastern world and eastern religions and take
00:43:39.400 --> 00:43:42.940
the science out of it bring it forward and keep
00:43:42.940 --> 00:43:47.920
it pure you know and um amen One of the things
00:43:47.920 --> 00:43:50.920
that I love
just to maybe shift gears as we're
00:43:50.920 --> 00:43:54.320
kind of wrapping up the conversation, which I
00:43:54.320 --> 00:43:55.980
hate because I feel like we just got started.
00:43:57.960 --> 00:44:04.000
But one of the things that I love in our times
00:44:04.000 --> 00:44:08.780
of counseling with you is anytime we talk about
00:44:08.780 --> 00:44:12.599
a situation where we've had conflict or if we
00:44:12.599 --> 00:44:17.110
have a situation where we had. you know, moments
00:44:17.110 --> 00:44:19.929
of anxiety or, you know, depression coming on
00:44:19.929 --> 00:44:24.449
or anything like that, that you always bring
00:44:24.449 --> 00:44:27.769
out is discovering the things that you can learn
00:44:27.769 --> 00:44:31.110
in those moments. You know, how did that make
00:44:31.110 --> 00:44:33.570
you take a step forward? How is this productive?
00:44:35.530 --> 00:44:38.889
I'd like you maybe to talk about what we can
00:44:38.889 --> 00:44:41.610
learn. I know everyone is a little bit specific.
00:44:42.519 --> 00:44:45.119
But in general terms, what can we learn from
00:44:45.119 --> 00:44:50.519
a moment of breakdown? That's a deep question,
00:44:50.679 --> 00:45:01.300
but I do have an answer. In the moment of breakdown,
00:45:01.739 --> 00:45:06.920
it's so important that we keep perspective, right?
00:45:07.139 --> 00:45:09.679
Because when we're breaking down, we're kind
00:45:09.679 --> 00:45:13.840
of unraveling. We're emotionally undone. We're
00:45:13.840 --> 00:45:18.539
probably suffering in some kind of a way. Actually,
00:45:18.940 --> 00:45:21.400
I'm speaking at a men's group on Friday, and
00:45:21.400 --> 00:45:24.179
the topic is suffering. One of the most common
00:45:24.179 --> 00:45:27.239
topics in the church today, right? It's suffering.
00:45:28.699 --> 00:45:31.400
So when we're in pain, when we're in suffering,
00:45:31.619 --> 00:45:36.519
when we're having a breakdown, I always tell
00:45:36.519 --> 00:45:38.679
people, you need to stay curious about what's
00:45:38.679 --> 00:45:43.079
going on. OK, it's like, why? You ask a lot of
00:45:43.079 --> 00:45:46.019
why questions, but stay curious about it. Don't
00:45:46.019 --> 00:45:49.840
be solid on what you think. I'm having this breakdown
00:45:49.840 --> 00:45:52.780
because I did this and because this I did this.
00:45:52.880 --> 00:45:55.639
The outcome is this. And now these are the consequences.
00:45:55.659 --> 00:45:59.340
Or you got to you got to stay open and curious
00:45:59.340 --> 00:46:04.219
about all things involved in whatever your situation
00:46:04.219 --> 00:46:07.250
that broke you down. Right. You have to trust
00:46:07.250 --> 00:46:11.610
God. If it happened, God's not surprised. You
00:46:11.610 --> 00:46:15.309
got to keep the faith in there and stay in faith.
00:46:15.809 --> 00:46:18.829
But I would say this to that question. What do
00:46:18.829 --> 00:46:21.630
we discover in a breakdown? It's an opportunity.
00:46:22.369 --> 00:46:26.460
Yeah. And again, that just kind of goes against
00:46:26.460 --> 00:46:28.719
when we're hurting, we're suffering, we're in
00:46:28.719 --> 00:46:31.480
pain. We're not thinking, stay open and curious.
00:46:31.559 --> 00:46:35.460
We're not thinking, what an opportunity. Are
00:46:35.460 --> 00:46:37.059
you out of your mind? What do you mean it's an
00:46:37.059 --> 00:46:40.440
opportunity? And it is because in Psalm 34, 18,
00:46:40.559 --> 00:46:42.900
it says, the Lord is close to the brokenhearted
00:46:42.900 --> 00:46:45.579
and he saves those who are crushed in spirit.
00:46:46.260 --> 00:46:48.820
Some verse God gave to me when we lost Bella,
00:46:48.920 --> 00:46:52.739
that word crushed means to annihilate. Think
00:46:52.739 --> 00:46:55.139
of a piece of pottery and you drop it on the
00:46:55.139 --> 00:46:58.960
ground. It breaks into pieces, right? This word
00:46:58.960 --> 00:47:01.800
is now to take maybe something and crush that,
00:47:01.820 --> 00:47:05.159
those pieces of that pottery down into powder
00:47:05.159 --> 00:47:10.219
and annihilate. So if God's near to the brokenhearted,
00:47:10.280 --> 00:47:12.920
I would say the first opportunity you have during
00:47:12.920 --> 00:47:17.099
the breakdown is to draw near. It's to draw near
00:47:17.099 --> 00:47:22.639
to him, right? And then it's... to invite him
00:47:22.639 --> 00:47:26.920
into your suffering. Again, the book of Lamentations,
00:47:26.920 --> 00:47:32.420
to invite him in. And the next is, and this gets
00:47:32.420 --> 00:47:37.000
crazy, but this journey really, really can happen
00:47:37.000 --> 00:47:40.739
if you invite God in. And when you invite him
00:47:40.739 --> 00:47:43.519
in, it's okay to be pissed. It's okay to yell
00:47:43.519 --> 00:47:46.559
at him. It's okay to tell him that you're disappointed.
00:47:46.639 --> 00:47:48.820
He knows all these thoughts are in your head
00:47:48.820 --> 00:47:50.480
anyway, so you might as well just say it out
00:47:50.480 --> 00:47:53.789
loud. And sometimes I'll pray and yell out loud
00:47:53.789 --> 00:47:55.590
at God when I needed to, because there's something
00:47:55.590 --> 00:47:59.670
therapeutic about it being said out loud as well.
00:47:59.869 --> 00:48:03.510
And it's biblical. We invite him in. And when
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you start to do that, I believe at some point,
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at some point, now that timeline, I can't give
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you any timeline, but it took me five and a half
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years to find the gift. or let's call it the
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positive or good thing over the loss of my daughter.
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I don't know anybody listening right now. It's
00:48:26.019 --> 00:48:29.340
like this guy's out of his mind. How can there
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be any gift or good thing out of losing your
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daughter?
Well, here's the thing. If you don't
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look at a breakdown, a hardship, just life bottoming
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out, opportunity to draw near to god and to invite
00:48:50.590 --> 00:48:55.070
him in and let him minister to you and and bring
00:48:55.070 --> 00:48:57.210
you through a journey of healing you will become
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a victim to that circumstance because the devil's
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now got a foothold in those thoughts yes right
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so if you don't invite god into it then the devil's
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going to show up The enemy of your soul is showing
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up with all kinds of lies because he's the father
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of lies. And now you're believing all these stories.
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And as you believe these stories in a compound,
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you become a victim to your suffering, a victim
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to your pain, a victim to your circumstances,
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and you will be stuck. You will be a miserable
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believer in Jesus Christ, and you will not be
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able to live the abundant life. But when you
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invite him in, and that's going to look different
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for everybody, you, I believe, can eventually
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find the gift in it. Like James Wong, right,
00:49:47.460 --> 00:49:50.400
says, consider it pure joy when you're faced
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with trials of all kinds. Pure joy sounds like
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there's got to be some kind of a gift here, right?
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Why am I being called by the Spirit in the writing
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of God's Word to have pure joy? Because it says
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faith produces perseverance. So you're going
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to be stronger in your faith. That's a gift.
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And then when it's complete, I become more mature
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and complete, not lacking anything. I become
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stronger as a person. I become more. Like Christ,
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and then it goes on in verse 5, it's attached
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to that. It's talking about needing wisdom. So
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you're praying for wisdom. You have increased
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wisdom as a human being on the other side of
00:50:27.389 --> 00:50:30.230
the suffering, the other side of the pain, the
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situation. You have more wisdom. You're a different
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person. And so what would I say? What is the
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gift in losing my daughter? Man, it took me five
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and a half years to realize in that pain and
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in that struggle with God. And I wrestled with
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him for a couple years. I mean, so much so, I
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didn't even know if I would pray for people to
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be healed again for the rest of my life. My theology
00:50:58.340 --> 00:51:02.179
got crushed down into powder. I didn't deconstruct
00:51:02.179 --> 00:51:05.639
to reconstruct. I got broken down, so I reconstructed.
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And guess what? Everything I believed before
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I lost my daughter, I believe after. And I believe
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even stronger with their faith. But I am not
00:51:15.719 --> 00:51:19.500
the same person. The pain I had to go through,
00:51:19.659 --> 00:51:22.719
the faith, the little bit of faith I had when
00:51:22.719 --> 00:51:24.840
I said, Lord, I got nothing. And he's like, well,
00:51:24.880 --> 00:51:28.000
you're in my hand. I want to take you out. I
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got you. That's good. There came a point where
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I just went, you know what? The gift is I am
00:51:34.340 --> 00:51:37.420
a different person. No circumstance, no situation
00:51:37.420 --> 00:51:39.980
like that could have ever created an opportunity
00:51:39.980 --> 00:51:44.679
for me to press into God. To be real with him.
00:51:44.940 --> 00:51:50.840
Yeah. And that's a gift. That can sound crazy.
00:51:51.699 --> 00:51:54.099
But if you don't find the gift and the pain,
00:51:54.280 --> 00:51:59.920
the gift is from the enemy to live as a victim
00:51:59.920 --> 00:52:03.420
mindset, a victim of your circumstances. And
00:52:03.420 --> 00:52:06.820
that's a miserable place to be. I was there for
00:52:06.820 --> 00:52:10.340
about. Four years. It was just three years ago
00:52:10.340 --> 00:52:14.019
I got set free from that victim mindset. And
00:52:14.019 --> 00:52:16.559
then when I discovered the gift, I got totally
00:52:16.559 --> 00:52:22.400
freed from the pain of the trauma. And I can
00:52:22.400 --> 00:52:24.539
look back at all my stuff now, all these traumatic
00:52:24.539 --> 00:52:27.880
experiences I had over the years, and find gifts
00:52:27.880 --> 00:52:31.260
in them. Because now they don't have me caged
00:52:31.260 --> 00:52:33.960
in. I'm not locked in by it anymore. I've been
00:52:33.960 --> 00:52:37.480
freed. I've been freed up. Truth sets us free,
00:52:37.579 --> 00:52:39.780
right? And sometimes the truth is just the truth
00:52:39.780 --> 00:52:44.820
of a situation. Yeah. And so that's my encouragement
00:52:44.820 --> 00:52:47.519
to anybody just really struggling because they've
00:52:47.519 --> 00:52:51.559
had a situation that's traumatic. And you just
00:52:51.559 --> 00:52:56.559
don't know how God, why God. When you start saying
00:52:56.559 --> 00:53:00.110
why God, just God help me. Just help me. Help
00:53:00.110 --> 00:53:03.150
me get
through. And you drop the why out. That's
00:53:03.150 --> 00:53:06.510
the start of moving from victim mindset to a
00:53:06.510 --> 00:53:10.050
free mindset to experience the Lord again and
00:53:10.050 --> 00:53:13.250
living your life. Yeah. Living your life again,
00:53:13.409 --> 00:53:17.349
man. Praise God. We have a very distinctive choice
00:53:17.349 --> 00:53:19.949
when we face things like that because staying
00:53:19.949 --> 00:53:24.610
constant isn't a reality. So you are either going
00:53:24.610 --> 00:53:26.889
to follow the path of destruction and continue
00:53:26.889 --> 00:53:29.230
to get worse, or you are going to make the decision
00:53:29.230 --> 00:53:31.909
to follow truth and continue to get better. And
00:53:31.909 --> 00:53:34.710
so if your decision is to follow truth, of course
00:53:34.710 --> 00:53:36.750
you're going to come out of that stronger, closer
00:53:36.750 --> 00:53:39.309
to God, because those are the benefits of that
00:53:39.309 --> 00:53:41.869
relationship with God. But the only other option
00:53:41.869 --> 00:53:45.409
is to continue to be destroyed, because that's
00:53:45.409 --> 00:53:46.769
what the enemy comes for, is our destruction,
00:53:46.949 --> 00:53:50.130
right? And so I think a lot of times we get in
00:53:50.130 --> 00:53:51.929
those situations and we feel like, well, I just...
00:53:52.380 --> 00:53:54.480
I can't do anything. Like I can't make a choice.
00:53:54.539 --> 00:53:57.000
I can't. Well, yeah, you're making a choice by
00:53:57.000 --> 00:53:59.559
making a choice. So we have to be intentional
00:53:59.559 --> 00:54:01.619
to say, I'm going to do something to fight against
00:54:01.619 --> 00:54:04.039
this because the enemy is going to stop fighting.
00:54:04.219 --> 00:54:06.900
And so we have to stand up and say, no, I'm going
00:54:06.900 --> 00:54:09.239
to do something about this. And even if it's
00:54:09.239 --> 00:54:12.639
the smallest step, it's a step in the right direction
00:54:12.639 --> 00:54:16.780
and it's not a step backwards. Yeah. It's the
00:54:16.780 --> 00:54:19.000
devil. The devil loves to be in all our story.
00:54:22.379 --> 00:54:25.079
In the therapeutic world and even in the coaching
00:54:25.079 --> 00:54:26.760
world right now, the big thing is, you know,
00:54:26.760 --> 00:54:29.159
what is your story? What is your past story?
00:54:29.320 --> 00:54:31.380
What is your story now? What are your limiting
00:54:31.380 --> 00:54:35.420
beliefs based off your past story? And I do some
00:54:35.420 --> 00:54:38.079
of that work, too. You know, I do parts work.
00:54:38.139 --> 00:54:40.199
You know, parts of me are broken. Parts of me
00:54:40.199 --> 00:54:43.380
are healed. Parts of me have joy. Parts of me
00:54:43.380 --> 00:54:47.250
are angry. And it's getting with. all of that.
00:54:47.510 --> 00:54:50.309
But as we get freed up, right? I mean, Jesus
00:54:50.309 --> 00:54:52.690
came to set us free. The Spirit of the Lord is
00:54:52.690 --> 00:54:55.570
there's liberty, there's freedom. And we also
00:54:55.570 --> 00:54:58.230
got to get free from our past story. That's got
00:54:58.230 --> 00:55:01.289
a lot to do with that whole victim mindset, right?
00:55:01.449 --> 00:55:03.989
And then so as you grow and get freed from that,
00:55:04.150 --> 00:55:07.030
there's freedom in our mindset. So think about
00:55:07.030 --> 00:55:10.730
this. So if our thoughts are responsible for
00:55:10.730 --> 00:55:13.449
primarily creating the chemicals that make us
00:55:13.449 --> 00:55:16.610
feel a certain way, If we're caught up in old
00:55:16.610 --> 00:55:20.989
story, right? And the victim mindset, I'm not
00:55:20.989 --> 00:55:24.250
good enough. I'm not lovable. You know, I'll
00:55:24.250 --> 00:55:26.730
never get it right. Like all of these things,
00:55:26.929 --> 00:55:30.630
then you just continue to create the same chemicals
00:55:30.630 --> 00:55:33.630
over and over to make you stay in depression.
00:55:33.750 --> 00:55:37.010
You're lacking dopamine, serotonin, you know?
00:55:38.030 --> 00:55:42.190
And so, gosh, it goes right back to Romans 12
00:55:42.190 --> 00:55:44.849
again. That's right. When we think differently,
00:55:45.090 --> 00:55:48.590
we become differently. We've transformed into
00:55:48.590 --> 00:55:52.769
a different person. Our thoughts. As a matter
00:55:52.769 --> 00:55:55.789
of fact, man, I'm hoping to have them for the
00:55:55.789 --> 00:56:00.030
conference, but I just put together a 90 -day
00:56:00.030 --> 00:56:04.030
transformational journal experience that we'll
00:56:04.030 --> 00:56:07.340
work with. our neuroplasticity work with our
00:56:07.340 --> 00:56:10.159
mind it has the ability to be changed and it's
00:56:10.159 --> 00:56:12.079
a journey that i believe people if they do it
00:56:12.079 --> 00:56:15.400
for 90 days you can change your your brain wiring
00:56:15.400 --> 00:56:18.559
you can change the way you think you can have
00:56:18.559 --> 00:56:22.239
different chemicals released um because it goes
00:56:22.239 --> 00:56:24.719
back to that proverb as a man thinks about himself
00:56:24.719 --> 00:56:28.139
that's what he becomes amen praise god praise
00:56:28.139 --> 00:56:33.239
god You know, you were telling me as we talked
00:56:33.239 --> 00:56:36.480
on the phone the other day about this, about
00:56:36.480 --> 00:56:39.719
the journal that you've put together. And I'm
00:56:39.719 --> 00:56:41.940
so excited for that because, again, we want to
00:56:41.940 --> 00:56:43.780
go back to doing the work, right? You think,
00:56:43.780 --> 00:56:47.400
oh, I can't do this for 90 days. Well. Maybe
00:56:47.400 --> 00:56:49.380
it's going to be a challenge for you for 90 days,
00:56:49.460 --> 00:56:51.360
but so is staying the way you are for the rest
00:56:51.360 --> 00:56:55.360
of your life. I'm not trying to be harsh today,
00:56:55.559 --> 00:56:58.920
but it's the reality. We have to buckle down
00:56:58.920 --> 00:57:01.300
and take control, take authority of these things.
00:57:01.760 --> 00:57:06.440
And a lot of it, yes, it's a spiritual battle,
00:57:06.539 --> 00:57:09.619
but a lot of it is a disciplinary battle. Am
00:57:09.619 --> 00:57:12.039
I going to discipline myself to do the things
00:57:12.039 --> 00:57:16.449
that I've got to do? Yeah, that's good. But anyway,
00:57:16.570 --> 00:57:20.550
I could talk about that forever. You had mentioned
00:57:20.550 --> 00:57:22.829
that you hope to have those ready for the conference.
00:57:22.949 --> 00:57:25.250
And I will say that Jerry is going to be with
00:57:25.250 --> 00:57:28.789
us at Thrive Health Conference, September 11th,
00:57:28.809 --> 00:57:33.170
12th. And we are just so excited. We keep having
00:57:33.170 --> 00:57:36.869
guests here on the podcast. And I hope that that
00:57:36.869 --> 00:57:42.829
is making you build your anticipation about.
00:57:43.260 --> 00:57:45.360
the conference of what God is going to do that
00:57:45.360 --> 00:57:49.559
weekend. And Jerry's going to talk about, I'm
00:57:49.559 --> 00:57:52.440
sure some of these things and so much more. And
00:57:52.440 --> 00:57:55.659
I just, I know it's going to bless your life.
00:57:56.519 --> 00:57:59.079
You can sign up at thrivehealthconference .com.
00:58:00.019 --> 00:58:03.360
Registration is $130. That includes all your
00:58:03.360 --> 00:58:06.460
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00:58:07.300 --> 00:58:11.380
So get online and get signed up for Thrive Health
00:58:11.380 --> 00:58:16.269
Conference. Jerry, I'm sorry. I totally lost
00:58:16.269 --> 00:58:18.429
my train of thought. How can they get in touch
00:58:18.429 --> 00:58:25.809
with you? Yes. Soul, S -O -U -L, care, C -A -R
00:58:25.809 --> 00:58:32.110
-E, Nashville .com. Soulcarenashville .com. Okay.
00:58:32.969 --> 00:58:36.150
That's where I do my soul coaching, transformational
00:58:36.150 --> 00:58:39.170
coaching. If anybody wants to talk, I do a free
00:58:39.170 --> 00:58:41.309
discovery call to see if I'm the right person
00:58:41.309 --> 00:58:47.840
to work with them. Yeah. Yeah. Very good. We'll
00:58:47.840 --> 00:58:51.780
jump on that. You know, as many of you who are
00:58:51.780 --> 00:58:56.000
listening to this, I've recommended Jared too.
00:58:56.219 --> 00:59:00.159
And I know that some of you, you know, have probably
00:59:00.159 --> 00:59:05.119
set up sessions and things like that. And he's
00:59:05.119 --> 00:59:10.659
just, you know, super, I don't know how to say
00:59:10.659 --> 00:59:15.190
it. I run out of words when I get emotional.
00:59:16.329 --> 00:59:20.809
But it's such a blessing to us, such a blessing
00:59:20.809 --> 00:59:24.789
to the body of Christ. And we're grateful to
00:59:24.789 --> 00:59:28.730
have you. I want to say just a couple more things.
00:59:28.929 --> 00:59:31.489
They're housekeeping items and they're much less
00:59:31.489 --> 00:59:36.369
emotional and serious. But I failed to do this
00:59:36.369 --> 00:59:38.909
at the beginning. But for all of our guests.
00:59:39.769 --> 00:59:45.289
We do on our podcast, we do fist bumps. And normally
00:59:45.289 --> 00:59:47.829
we have and I don't even know how it started,
00:59:47.889 --> 00:59:51.929
but it just kind of became a thing. And normally
00:59:51.929 --> 00:59:53.969
we have a sound effect. We haven't worked those
00:59:53.969 --> 00:59:56.670
into zooms yet. But Jerry, we would like to do
00:59:56.670 --> 01:00:00.230
a fist bump around the world. And so I'm in Nashville.
01:00:00.449 --> 01:00:04.010
We're in Carlsbad, New Mexico. But we'd like
01:00:04.010 --> 01:00:05.429
to do a fist bump around the world. So we're
01:00:05.429 --> 01:00:06.750
going to do a fist bump and then we're going
01:00:06.750 --> 01:00:08.389
to do a fist bump on the camera. Does that work?
01:00:09.269 --> 01:00:11.409
All right. All right. So there's our fist bump.
01:00:11.510 --> 01:00:15.789
And boom, right there. So that's a fist bump
01:00:15.789 --> 01:00:21.389
around the world. We're excited. And then I would
01:00:21.389 --> 01:00:25.550
be remiss if I didn't mention. Remiss. Remiss.
01:00:25.550 --> 01:00:28.530
I would be remiss. I tell you, my vocabulary
01:00:28.530 --> 01:00:31.650
goes at the end of the day, too. If we didn't
01:00:31.650 --> 01:00:33.670
shout out Topo Chico, we're trying to get a sponsorship.
01:00:33.929 --> 01:00:36.719
Topo Chico's not picking up the phone. For giving
01:00:36.719 --> 01:00:40.159
energy. Well, for giving energy too. So total
01:00:40.159 --> 01:00:42.820
health challenge, all this stuff, right? Enough
01:00:42.820 --> 01:00:47.059
nonsense. Jerry, thank you most of all for being
01:00:47.059 --> 01:00:51.500
our friend. Yes. Thank you for coming on the
01:00:51.500 --> 01:00:53.360
Doing Life Together podcast, guys. I hope this
01:00:53.360 --> 01:00:56.340
was a blessing to you. It was a blessing for
01:00:56.340 --> 01:00:59.059
us. Again, make sure you sign up for Thrive Health
01:00:59.059 --> 01:01:04.840
Conference to hear more from Jerry. We want you
01:01:04.840 --> 01:01:07.460
all to have a great week. We love you. Thanks
01:01:07.460 --> 01:01:08.400
for doing life with us.