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Welcome to Attention Talk Radio, your ADHD information station where
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we help those with ADHD pay attention to attention. With
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your host, ADHD and Attention Coach, Jeff Copper.
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Welcome everybody to this edition of Attention Talk Radio. I'm
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your host, ADHD, Attention Coach, and Cognitive Engineer, Jeff Copper.
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Our topic, Beyond Physical Fitness, Building Mental Fitness with ADHD.
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We're going to get to the content in a moment.
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Before we do, we'd like to thank children and adults
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with attention deficit hyperactivity disorder for bringing this program to you.
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and we'll get into the show.
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When you have ADHD, putting in an eight-hour workday while
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maintaining maximum concentration can be a challenge. Here are some
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strategies to help. Make your physical environment less distracting. Use
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your laptop, smartphone, or alarm to track appointments and deadlines.
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Break up long tasks into shorter ones. Take breaks and
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walk around. Before you leave work, take five minutes to
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organize your work area for the next day. To learn
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more about workplace issues, visit chad.org.
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Thank you so much, Chad, for your continued support. For
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those that are not aware, CHAD is the largest not-for-profit
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organization that advocates on behalf of those with ADHD. We
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members to support CHAD. Financial stability is really important for
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Capitol Hill for the ADHD community and working with different
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regulatory agencies on wording to make sure that those with
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ADHD get the accommodations that they need in order to thrive. Again,
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for more information to donate or to become a member,
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go to chadd.org.
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It's ADHD Awareness Month 2026. We've dug back into our
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archives to find some really good show content for you.
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It was good then, it's good now, so we're going
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to repurpose it right now.
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So let's roll the tape. So, Jan, can you introduce
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our guest?
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Jeff, our guest today is best-selling author and international speaker,
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Brooke Schnitman. Brooke is founder of Coaching with Brooke, offering
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20 years of expertise in ADHD and executive function coaching,
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transforming chaos and frustration into.
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Focused success for thousands. She offers tools to help you
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thrive despite ADHD overwhelm and activate your ADHD potential. Contact
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Brooke at coachingwithbrooke.com. Jeff, we're glad to have Brooke with
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us today.
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Brooke, welcome to the show.
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Thank you for having me again, Jeff.
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Our topic, oh my God, managing ADHD in the workplace.
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That's the question.
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This is.
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This is one of those things I think a lot
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of people would like, like the simple solution stuff. Like
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give me those two little tips and tricks that will
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do that. I'm not so sure it's as simple as that,
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but there are some concepts that I think that are
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really important that people kind of take into consideration so
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that they can make their workplace a little better. And
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before the show, one of them you said that never
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occurred to me that I think is brilliant, and that
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was opportunity for
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growth. Talk, what do you, how did you,
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where did that come from? What are your thoughts on that?
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And why is that so important?
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Yeah, so I've been in, I've climbed the ladder from
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special education teacher to administrator. And then I got bored and,
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you know, started my own company, right? So I've been
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working with 88 Sears for 20 years. And if I
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stayed a special education teacher this whole time, I would
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be bored and burned out. I was getting bored and
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burned out. Not that I don't love working with kids.
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It's just it was the same thing over and over.
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So with ADHD, we need career advancement. We need professional development.
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It's within us that we're lifelong learners and we want new,
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exciting and shiny opportunities to pursue. So if we're within
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an organization that provides us that, we're going to thrive.
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That's going to be one thing that's going to help
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us thrive. If we have projects and roles that also
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align with our interests and strengths, we are going to
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do better. We are going to work harder. We are
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going to be more interested. So let us do that.
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If we're doing the same thing over and over again,
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I can tell you 99% of the time the ADHD-er
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is probably going to leave or quit.
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And again, when she said this to me, it's a
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brilliant statement that she made. And people with ADHD, they
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are learners. And I've actually had a number of people
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that I've coached that really had learning addictions. Um, like I've,
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I've coached people before they had like three, three master's degree.
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They were certified every form of yoga is instructor dance,
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et cetera, but they hadn't held a job for more
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than 90 days.
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You just met another one.
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But, but there's a few things that I, here's where
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I think you've got to change your belief system a
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little bit around this because there's this notion of a
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career and I'll never forget. I
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one guy from a guy who was in Canada and, um,
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he had ADHD and he was calling me wanting some help.
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And he's like, He was frustrated at work because he
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was kind of bored. And I'm like, well, tell me
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about it. And it took a while for me to
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ask some questions. But basically, he had been at this
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company that he was hired when they were kind of
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almost out of business. And he kind of turned them around.
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And I'm like, wow. He said, yeah, I'm that type
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of person where I don't get really that emotionally caught up.
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I mean, I'm OK to fire people. And I've turned
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these things around. So then all of a sudden, I
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started hearing he'd never been at a company for more
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than two or three years. But the characteristics of it
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was all that he was basically turning around. So once
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he turned around, he was really bored at that point
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in time. And I flippantly said, like, I don't know
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why you're looking for a career. I would just say
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that you're a turnaround artist and just go find your
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next gig. And he's like, what? I go, if you
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take a look, that's what you do. And to Brooke's point,
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when he goes in and has a whole new company,
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he's got to figure out and kind of turn that.
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He's got some expertise in that area, but everything's differently.
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And he's like, oh, my God, I got to send
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you money. I'm like, yeah, that would be great. He
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never did. But this notion of having something to learn
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and opportunities of growth, if you don't have those, you're
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going to get bored. And I've done some shows before
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where I talk about boredom is you're physically uncomfortable. And
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when I say that, I'm like talking about it's painful.
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Like if you ever go to the zoo, you see
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the tiger pacing back and forth. They're so bored that
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they're pacing to rid themselves of the anxiety. And I
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say people with ADHD– It's physically painful when they're bored
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and they're going to escape it. And a lot of
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times they'll lose it at work. So I'm beating a
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dead horse here. But what you said is just absolutely brilliant.
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Find a work environment that's got an opportunity growth or
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you're going to learn something there that you're going to
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take to another opportunity.
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Right.
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You know that there's a limit, but you're taking that
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as the next step to what you're going to go to.
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Correct. And you're spot on. So many of us ADHDers
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jump every two to three years or get fired because
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of that. And that's why we're 300% more likely to
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be an entrepreneur because then we have the control of
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learning and growing. Not to say that that's always the
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best thing for ADHDers, but there's a push and a
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movement to move in that direction for the reasons that
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we're talking about.
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And one of the things that I– again, this is
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a personal– this is Jeffism. This doesn't mean that it
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signs out there, but I did an interview years ago
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with Wilma Feldman, and we were talking about there's a
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lot of like what are ADD-friendly jobs that are out there.
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I've been on this quest since I talked to Wilma,
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and she said if somebody gives you a list of
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ADD-friendly jobs, run, Forrest, run, because there is no such thing.
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I don't know.
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Sales is supposedly good for people with ADHD, but I've
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coached a lot of people that were in sales and
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they talk so much they talk themselves out of sales.
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And the point really is, is you've got to understand
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who you are and really what works. I mean, I've
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coached FAA flight investigators and tax accountants and stuff like that.
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So when you're looking for a place to work. Again,
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it's based off of you. It's something you can learn,
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an opportunity to grow or an opportunity to grow in that,
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but know where you'd like to go after this. I
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can't emphasize that enough.
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Absolutely.
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Next, you talk about communication. That's a big topic. Tell
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me about it.
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Yeah. So when you're looking for a job, of course,
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we get excited sometimes by being wanted. But if we
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can take the time to think about asking questions to
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the people who work there and to the people who
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are interviewing about, does the workplace communicate expectations? Do they
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provide you feedback? Are they open to communication between the
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supervisors and employees? Are there channels for seeking clarification or
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assistance when needed? It's really important that there is that
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open communication with clear expectations as well with deadlines and
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due dates and priorities and where the employee can feel
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like they are an individual, their voice is heard, and
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also if they have an idea, you know, does it
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get listened to as well or does it get, you know,
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shoved or, you know, thrown down? Yeah.
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I think we're very often black and white when it
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comes to expectations. Even though we don't think that way vision-wise,
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we need to know when is this due, how important
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is this, or else we're going to miss things. And
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also with that communication, too, I'm sorry to cut you off,
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but there's one other thing. Like, we want good feedback, too.
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I mean, I think everyone does well when they hear
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what they're doing well. But, you know, Dr. Avala talked
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about that euphoric feeling that we get when we're told
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that even if it's the smallest thing, that we're doing
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a good job or, you know, they're proud of you
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or well done, you know, that kind of thing. So.
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I don't know if this is the appropriate part, but
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I'm going to put it in here now because you're
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making a really good point. But one of the things
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that I've learned over the years is you've got to
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be careful asking people questions because we all interpret things
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a little bit differently. And I say that because back
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in the late 90s, I had gotten my MBA and
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I'd gotten out of the insurance business, and I was
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getting involved with an upstart. And people told me that
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there was a very collaborative workplace. And for me, collaboration
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is the ability to interact, like talk to somebody in
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their presence about what's going on in a meeting. I
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know we're going to cover some of that stuff a
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little bit after break. But what was interesting to me
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is they described it as very collaborative. Well, I show up,
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and look, there's a room full of cubicles. You follow
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what I'm saying? And everybody's at their thing because when
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you're an upstart, you're not– we're growing really, really quick.
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And it was frustrating to me because– The guy next
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to me, right next to me, wouldn't stand up and
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talk to me. He would instant message me. I'm like,
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for me, typing, it's a lot easier for me to
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have a conversation than it is for my stupid fat
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fingers to type it all out. And while they said
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it was collaborative, it wasn't my type of collaborative. So
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one of the things that I have always encouraged is
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if you can get to the workplace, go and see it.
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Go spend a day or a half a day shadowing
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somebody because there's a real difference between what people say.
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and how it actually is. I also remember I was
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in college. I got an interview with Procter & Gamble,
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and I had to go back to second. I had
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to follow a guy around for half a day, and
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I had heard a lot of great things about the company.
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I'm like, there's no way I can do this job.
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They build it one way, but it turned out something
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completely different. So my emphasis is if you're looking for jobs,
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go on site. Spend the time shadowing somebody a day
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because what really happens is often very different from what
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they say on the brochure.
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Well, wouldn't it save the company money? Not having to
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train someone, not having to spend the time and the
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energy and then fire them or them quit. If they
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could do that, think about those little adjustments that, yeah,
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it might take you an extra day to know if
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this is the right person or not, but at least
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you know it's the right person.
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100%. 100%. Let's go to a break, everybody. Brooke's brilliant.
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I'm a big fan of hers. She's got a lot
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of stuff that's going on.
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Thank you.
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You need to go check out her website. It's coachingwithbrooke.com,
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and Brooke is spelt with an E. I always have
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to remember that because if it was me, I would
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forget that part of it. And can you tell us
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about the book that they can buy on your website?
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Sure. It's Activate Your ADHD Potential. And it's on the website.
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It's on Amazon. And it's for adults with ADHD who
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are looking to do the work to overcome overwhelm and
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underwhelm in 12 simple steps to build momentum and maintain
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it over time. So I've used these principles repeatedly. for
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years with thousands of people, and I've had amazing feedback.
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So I put it all into a book for you
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so you don't have to necessarily pay for coaching. You
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can use these tools and implement the strategies that have
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worked for thousands.
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Wow.
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In another interview, we were talking about a neurodivergent household
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with other things going on, and she wrote a book. Oh,
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my God. Anyway, we're going to go to break.
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Welcome back, everybody. We're having a conversation with Brooke about
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managing ADHD in the workplace. easy comment, statement, sometimes a
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bit challenging. We've covered some things that I think that
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are real important, growth opportunities, open communication, et cetera. Before
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we got on the phone, we just talked a little
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bit about having a buddy and being able to talk
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to people in the workplace, and that's as far as
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our conversation got. That said, if you've been listening to
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Attention Talk Radio for a period of time. You know
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I'm a big fan of Dr. Russell Barkley and his
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construct of ADHD. And over the years in studying, I've
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really become to realize that ADHD is far more of
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a problem-solving impairment than most people realize. When you've got
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to solve problems in your head, it's incredibly difficult. There's
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an urge, emotional urge to escape. So people say I'm
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attracted to things that are bright and shiny. That's the
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symptomatic outcome. It's basically when thinking is really difficult, it's
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an escape to go to something that's more comfortable. And
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the idea is not just remove the bright and shiny things,
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but you've got to make the thinking side easier. And
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I'm doing a lot on some developing programs to validate
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this to get accommodations for it. But without going into that,
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one of the things that you're advocating for is having
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people to go to at work, buddies, that type of stuff.
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Tell us about, from your perspective, why that's so important.
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Well, first of all, it eliminates the need for an
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employee to ask their boss for little things here and there, right?
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Mm-hmm.
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Helps the relationship, and it makes them able to verbally
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process what's going on with their buddies. So perhaps they
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miss a detail on something or they need to, like
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you said, problem solve what's going on to execute. It gives.
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An accountability.
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First of all, it gives the space to problem solve
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and just make sure that everybody They're being accountable to
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the right thing. And it is accountability as well because
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both people can work together and say, okay, this is
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coming up. Let's do this. In the workspace and just
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in life in general, there are so many messages that
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we get and it's really hard to keep up with it.
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So to have that extra human to kind of rely
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on and it works both ways is so helpful.
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So You use the word verbally process. So going back
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to what I said, because we're kind of talking about
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the same thing. I just want to kind of help
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everybody understand the executive function reason. And I want to
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give an example how this plays out is part of
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executive function is working memory. And part of that is
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what we call nonverbal working memory. It's basically self-talk. Because
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it's impaired, many people talk a lot with ADHD. They
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don't realize a lot of times they're talking out loud
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to themselves. There's somebody standing in front of them. They
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don't realize it. What I tell people is it's interesting
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nobody taught you how to do it. Instinctively, you do
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it because you're rewarded with higher levels of performance. And
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so what we're talking about is the ability to go
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talk to somebody because somebody with ADHD, sometimes we'll talk
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to somebody, and they get to the end. The other
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person didn't say anything, but the person with ADHD actually
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solved their own problem. Sometimes the other person will help them,
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or sometimes the other person might say a word, which
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would be a trigger. But the point really is, is
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having that ability to talk through things and remove ambiguity
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is very helpful. Another story I'd like to tell, as
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it took a hard time to articulate this, because I
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always say a lot of procrastination is rooted in ambiguity.
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And before the pandemic, I was coaching a woman and
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I said, I want you to go out and notice
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everything that you're not, you're putting off because it's ambiguous.
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And she was arguing with me. And that's not that
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it's not that just fear, like, you know, whatever. So
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the pandemic, lockdown happens, and I get this text. Oh,
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my God. What had happened was she was at work,
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and there was some type of thing that she needed
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to do procedurally, and she forgot a step.
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she realized at work she would lean over to a
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coworker and ask, hey, what is, probably get the help
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and be back to work within two seconds. Happens so fast,
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it's hardly worth doing it. Not today. There's no coworker.
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So she instant messages the coworker because she can't tell
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if the coworker is at her desk or not, or
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even she's looking at instant messaging. So she sat there
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for a minute or two, went up to go get
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a cup of coffee, and never went back. Now, we
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talked about it and said, you know, they're probably somewhere
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on the company's intranet. There was some information about what
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that procedure was, but she had no idea where it
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was and where to find it. And so bringing some
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validity to what Brooke's talking about is having the ability
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to lean over and ask a question sometimes can be
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the difference between getting something done and taking a half
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a day off, which was interesting because when the pandemic hit,
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everybody was sent home. to think and solve problems by themselves.
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I don't know about you, Brooke, but my phone lit
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up like a Christmas tree. I've got productivity issues. I've
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got motivation issues. I'm like, no, it's not that. You
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don't have the thinking partner that you had before. You're
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having to do this on your own. It's impaired. So environmentally,
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and I'm hoping that these stories, I'm helping legitimize this,
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are understanding and reinforcing exactly what Brooke is talking about
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and why these are so important. They really are accommodations
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to a certain extent. Does that make sense, Brooke?
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Yeah, and they're low-cost accommodations. They don't cost the company anything, right?
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You don't have to ask for a legal accommodation. This
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should be for anyone, neurotypical or not. And speaking of which,
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75% of people in the workplace have an invisible disability.
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It's just not spoken about.
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Wow. I've never heard that before. Interesting.
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Isn't that amazing?
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Yeah.
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Wow.
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Tell you what, let's get a break, come back, we'll
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pull this thing together. Everybody, again, Brooke's website, coachingwithbrooke.com, and
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check out her book, Activate Your ADHD Potential. I got
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that right, Brooke, right?
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Yeah. You got it right. Excellent.
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I always have to make sure because of my dyslexia
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and sometimes I can't read my writing. Brooke's book is right.
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There you go. Our secret word is fitness. With that,
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Welcome back, everybody. We're having a conversation about managing ADHD
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in the workplace with Brooke. So far, a lot of
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really important concepts to kind of keep in mind. A
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lot of times,
Brooke, about managing ADHD in the workplace
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is really about making the right decision for the right
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job as opposed to just taking any job. What are
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your thoughts on that? Yeah.
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Going back to what we were saying, sometimes with ADHD,
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we can get excited by just being accepted to a job.
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And then two or three months later, we're like, why
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did we pick this, right? It's that impulsivity and also
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that euphoric feeling of, yay, they want me, but do
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we want them? So knowing that we have a supportive environment,
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that the job meets our strengths, our interests, it's the
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right boss it's neurodivergent friendly there's structure there's organization there's
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clear communication all those things and there's flexibility too if
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all those things align with individual then i say go
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for it but if it doesn't you're just going to
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continue to jump from job to job to job and
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it's going to make you frustrated and it's going to
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make you feel like you're the failure rather than no
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this isn't the right environment for.
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Me And we didn't talk about this before the interview,
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but one of the things that I find a lot
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of times people with ADHD, they get lost in the
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glamour of what they think the job is about, and
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they don't really think about what they do day-to-day. And
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I want to share some very– these are generalizations, everybody.
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There's exceptions to all these rules, but I've learned to
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be a lawyer is basically you read a bunch of crap,
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and then you write an opinion. Read a bunch of
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crap and write an opinion over and over and over,
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or– Nursing, you think a lot about patient interaction, but
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it's a lot of times applying a set of protocol,
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like a series of steps, and then documenting it. More protocol, document.
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And I think a lot of times people actually don't
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think about the day-to-day activities of a job. They think
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about the outcomes. And I think it's really important that
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you stop and begin to think about what does a
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day in a life look like you? Because if you
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don't do that, you're apt to make a bad mistake.
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get into a job where there's no growth opportunity, there's
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no learning, it's not really kind of what you were
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looking for, where you're kind of put in a closet somewhere,
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you don't do anything, that's kind of the opposite of
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everything that we talked about. And sometimes it takes a
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lot of pausing and actually thinking about what are my
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daily activities, how would this really work, and it goes
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back to sometimes visiting the workplace and watching somebody.
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Yes, yes, yes. And I like what you said about,
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you know, we get so caught up in the job
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title or we get caught up in the company name.
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I mean, yeah, I've been there, done that, you know,
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wanting to be tapped on the shoulder saying, hey, you
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should be an administrator. And then I jumped. to be
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an administrator, and then I realize it's a bunch of hassle,
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a bunch of pushing papers and fighting, unfortunately, with the
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teachers or the parents because they're not getting the services
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that they need or want. So, yeah, it's not always
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as glamorous as we think it is. So I love
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what you say about being able to shadow.
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Yes. Kind of reminded me of a story of a
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woman that I was coaching. She made it high up
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to a level of, a company as an innovator and
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I remember she wanted to go to the next level
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and I said why do you want to do that
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and one of the things that I knew is that
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you know she was an innovator and And she worked
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in small groups of teams, but she didn't deal with
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managing people. And she was really chasing this. I said,
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have you ever thought about that job? And she said, what?
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It's like, no, you're managing people. You're leaving your current,
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like what
you do now. You're changing your role to
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really you're managing people. It's in the same, like it's
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under the same title, but functionally the job is completely different.
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And you're actually going to be miscast when you do that.
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And again, not to dwell into that, but I've always
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said before is that You could be a sales guy,
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which requires a lot of creativity. When you move to
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be in sales management, you have to mainstream people. Managing people.
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Where sales is sales, making that discernment is really important
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so that you get yourself in the right situation. So
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having to manage your ADHD is not so. Any other
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thoughts or things to share as we bring this to
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a close?
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Yeah, well, to your point, a lot of people, when
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we move from contractor, quote unquote, to leader, it's a
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huge jump, right? You have to have those other skills
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that you haven't been taught yet. So sometimes we think
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that maybe being an entrepreneur is the best thing for
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us because it didn't work out in the workplace. But
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I happen to know a lot of people who become
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an entrepreneur who Because it didn't work out in the
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workplace and the entrepreneur piece is too many unstructured activities
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and not being accountable.
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Right.
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So just because it's not working out for you in
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the current workplace doesn't mean that it won't work out
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for you. And one other thing is. And just because
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Jeff and I said we should be doing all of
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these things before finding a job, sometimes you can find
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that job, but it's still not the right job for
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us because over time we realize we need something different.
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So you need to actually experience jobs to know what
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you want over time too.
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Yep. This is a Jeffism. I haven't read any research
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on it, but something I've learned out there, and that
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is I think apprenticeships used to be really good for
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people with ADHD many years ago because it's like monkey see,
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monkey do. If you're an apprentice, there's a template that
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you're going and you learn it from somebody and then
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you go off and you do your own thing and
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you kind of make it your own. And I mentor
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coach a fair amount of people that are starting coaching
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business and I've coached people that are becoming entrepreneurs. And
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I've always said is when you get out and you're
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starting a business, it's really, really helpful if you can
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find somebody else who's in that business and go work
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alongside them or in them and watch them. Don't try
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to go invent systems and stuff yourself. Go get lessons
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learned from them so that you don't have to create
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that in your world, in your mind. It's a lot
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easier if you can go through and watch somebody else
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do that, watch their ways. It doesn't mean you have
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to do a lot, do it exactly like them, but
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you can do what you like not, and that can
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bypass a lot of understanding it. And then when you
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get it set up, you can get other people to
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run it. So that's just a.
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Exactly. And then you, with that, learn what you don't
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want to be like, too, and what you don't want
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to bring to the next job. And I agree with
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you in the sense, like, not only getting that experience,
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but having someone like you, Jeff, or me to mentor
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you as well and think the future stuff. Think about
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the things you don't know you don't know. Absolutely.
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One last tidbit on my side is I learned this
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from Wilma Feldman years ago, who's retired, but she was great.
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If your job, if more, do not take the job
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if more than 25% is ADHD unfriendly. Don't do it
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because you're setting yourself up. You really want to be
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down on that 10%, 15%. Actually, zero would be good.
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But when you take a look at it as a
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litmus
test, it needs to be south of 25%. You're
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going to find yourself that really struggles. Now, it's a generalization.
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But I throw that out there so people are like
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thinking about that before they get into that type of thing.
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So any other thoughts before we go?
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Yeah.
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Yeah.
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I've actually I've spoken to the sleep doctor on my podcast,
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Successful with ADHD, and he was saying that he was
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working with someone in a business that she was having
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trouble with. being productive at the time that the job started.
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And the boss is ready to fire her in a week,
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but the sleep doctor went on and said, hey, I'm
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just going to work with her. Is it okay if
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she starts at 10 instead of 7 and then she
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works later? He's like, yeah, but we're going to fire
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her anyway. But yeah, do your thing, whatever. In that week,
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the woman became so much more productive that he got
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hired by the company to figure out everyone else's productivity time.
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So That's another thing to consider. Just because a job says, okay,
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you know, it's from X to X time, right, doesn't
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mean that it works with your schedule. We all have
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different productivity schedules. So really think about that as well.
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When are you the most productive and how can you
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figure that out when it comes to work?
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To echo this, I remember my mom growing up, she
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called it her peak times and her non-peak times. And
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then years ago, I was interviewing Wilma Feldman. She was
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talking about the energy levels and stuff like that. You
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need to know where your circadian rhythm is and where
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that is and manage that work. So I'm really glad
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you brought that up, Brooke. Thank you. As always, thank
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you so much for coming on the show.
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Thank you again for having me. Love our conversation. Thank you.
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Everybody, go to our website, coachingwithbrooke.com. Buy your book. Activate
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your ADHD potential. With that, we hope you've enjoyed this edition.
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Of Attention Talk Radio.
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Take care.
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We'll be right back.