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Hello, I'm Rob Beckett.
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And I'm Josh Willicombe.
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Welcome to Parenting Hell, the show in which Josh and
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I discuss what it's really like to be a parent,
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which I would say can be a little tricky.
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So, to make ourselves, and hopefully you, feel better about
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the trials and tribulations of modern day parenting, each week
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we'll be chatting to a famous parent about how they're coping.
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Or hopefully how they're not coping.
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And we'll also be hearing from you, the listener, with
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your tips, advice and, of course, tales of parenting woe.
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Because, let's be honest, there are plenty of times when
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none of us know what we're doing. Hello, you're listening
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to Parenting Hell with.
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Elena, say Rob Beckett.
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Rob Beckett.
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And now say Josh Whittacombe.
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Josh Whittacombe.
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Delia, thank you so much.
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Don't know about that. Don't know about that, Rob.
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Not happy with that one.
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No.
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Shall we listen to the Widdicam again? Because it was
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going so well.
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There you think. Josh Jinkin... Jinkinarn. Jinkinarn.
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Josh Jinkinarn. Hello, Rob and Josh. Congratulations on the wonderful podcast,
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which keeps me laughing to myself during my lunchtime walks.
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I do not have children myself, but I am the
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proud aunt to Eleanor, who is nearly four, and newborn Iris.
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I know that Rob loves his wild guesses, so I
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am originally from, but I'm living in... And Eleanor and
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Iris are growing up in with their blank father and
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blank mother. Can you fill in the gaps, Rob?
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Oh, it feels like I'm about to be cancelled.
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Shall I fill you in?
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I'm going to go.
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I'm going to go. I'm going to go. I'm going
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to go. South Africa now living in Bristol. Bristol. And
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the dad's Dutch.
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Living in the Netherlands.
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Oh, nearly.
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Yeah.
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Originally Greek, living in the Netherlands. And Eleanor and Iris
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are growing up in York with their Greek father and
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Brazilian mother.
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Fucking hell.
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Love.
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I can't do the maths on that. Imagine what they have.
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I wonder what they have for Christmas Day. I wonder
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what they have for Christmas dinner. There's Greek there, there's Brazilian,
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there's Dutch. It's all sorts.
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Yeah, there's York.
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I reckon they're just Chinese takeaway. Keep it simple.
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Yeah, exactly.
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It's fine. Let's get something else to do.
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Get it in. Do you know what they should have, Rob? Lasagna.
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Why not?
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No.
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Right. How are you, Josh? You good?
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Yeah, I'm all right, Rob. So, last Sunday.
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Yep.
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Went down to Torquay for a gig. Of course. On
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the train down. I was getting off the train. Walked past.
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Who was sat there? Bloody Faye Ripley.
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Oh, lovely Faye Ripley from Cold Feet.
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Yeah, lovely Faye Ripley.
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Yeah.
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She was looking through the script because she was off
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to do Doc Martin. Lovely. Then... Went to Cornwall for
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a couple of days.
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Yeah.
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Following Friday night, come back. It was on my train.
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It's only bloody Faye Ripley coming back from Doc Martin.
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Couldn't believe it.
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I mean, this is... If she's become your stalker, what
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a turn of events, and she's using Doc Martin.
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Went to New York, Faye Ripley's only there filming Doc Martin.
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Talking of that, remember, if you've got any of your
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underwhelming celebrities in amazing places... Oh, that's a.
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Bad link, Rob. That doesn't sound fair.
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Yeah.
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No, New York's an amazing place. Yeah, it's unfair on Favourite. Okay,
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you've panicked me now. No, I wouldn't say
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Favourite is
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an underwhelming celeb spot, which is a great celeb spot,
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but Torquay's an underwhelming place to have spotted Favourite. Do
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you know what I mean?
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Yeah, yeah, exactly. Totally good work. But yeah, big celebrities
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in tiny places or small celebrities. in very impressive places.
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That's what we're looking for. In profile, not height.
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Yeah, in profile. We don't want Richard Osman in a
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model village. That's not what we're looking for.
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Greg Davies in Tinkerton. Is Tinkerton a place? I imagine
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it is near you, isn't it?
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It probably is, yeah. Susan Calman at the Burj Khalifa.
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LAUGHTER Anyway, anyway, moving on.
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Yes. Moving on.
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Do you want an Instagram message?
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Yeah.
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Here we go. Hello, I'm a long-time fan of the
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podcast and everything you say.
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I'm still thinking about celebrities.
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It's impossible not to think of celebrities in big places
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or vice versa.
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Yeah.
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Pudgy the dog up the millennium eye.
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Oh, my God. Pudgy the dog up the millennium eye.
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That is the most naughtiest reference. Patsy the dog's been
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dead ten years. The London Eye. The Millennium Eye, did
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you call it?
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Yeah, I know.
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It's the Millennium Wheel. It's the London Eye. oh my
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god anyway to make josh feel better here's a tired
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story from my husband when our first time when my
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first child was a few months old i took him
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to stay at my mum's for the weekend to give
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my husband a child free night out of his mates
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in crystal palace where we lived at the time and
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occasionally would see josh at the sangebury's Where's this?
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Crystal Palace? Why would I be in Sainsbury's in Crystal Palace?
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That's definitely not me, is it?
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Yeah, it's a big Sainsbury's as well. So, Josh Whittaker
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in Sainsbury's, Crystal Palace. LAUGHTER So anyway, they're out and
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about in Crystal Palace. Went out with his mates for
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the first time since becoming a dad. He was so
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tired that he fell asleep in the pub early on
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in the night just after a couple of drinks. The
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bar staff told his friends that he had to leave
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as he was too drunk. But they managed to persuade
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them that he was merely the dad of a newborn.
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And please, could they leave him for a bit to
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have a sleep, which they kindly did. hanging their josh
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owls sleep soundly for 11 hours every night and under
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and the sleep training is now a distant memory rebecca
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and russ evans well i'm all.
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Right now i'm not one to be complaining at the
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moment no.
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But your issue now is the movement of the child
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isn't it.
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Yeah it's actually the awaking time is the problem.
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Um it was quite a good one to come off
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the back of tom crane last week the sleep one
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if anyone's feeling tom crane's pain i've got another sleep
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one here we love your podcast listen every week the
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more tired than josh feature always gives us a giggle
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we have a two and a half year old who's
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never slept my husband is a police dog handler and
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his working dog lives at home with us i came
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down early one morning after ian had left for work
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to find a very baffled looking dog quick phone call
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later which went a little something like have you forgotten
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something him no it's liver and wire and as a
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waggy tail oh shit i'm on my way so he'd
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gone on a shift as a police dog handler without
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a police dog.
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Oh, my God.
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That is incredible.
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But he took the two-year-old who actually got let loose
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on a drug dealer and bit his arm and contained
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him until backup arrived. Thanks for the laughs and making
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us feel a bit more sane. Heather,
Ian and police
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dog Joe. No child, though. Didn't say.
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That's weird.
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So, Heather, Ian... And Police Dog Joe. No kid's name.
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No kid's name. But the dog got name checked.
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Well, maybe there's no kid.
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I don't know. I think we're getting bogged down by
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this for no reason, aren't we?
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Yeah, we don't need to get into it.
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Right.
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Should we get into James Bay?
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Yes.
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Really good interview, this. He's a very nice bloke, James Bay,
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isn't he?
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A lovely bloke. What a nice guy.
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Very, very open and very... He's very, like, tender, isn't he?
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Very emotional, like, really loves.
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Musicians are more emotionally open than comedians, aren't they, right? Yeah,
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they are.
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And I remember I'm sort of like on one side
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of the sort of comedian fence and all my mates
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have grew up with. So like when you speak to
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somebody who's like really in touch with their emotions. But yeah,
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he loves his kid so much. And it's really sort
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of heartwarming to hear, isn't it, really? He's a nice bloke,
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old babe. James Bay. Oh, Jay Bay. Anyway, here's James Bay.
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James Bay, welcome to the podcast. How's it going?
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Good?
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Good.
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Thank you for having me. I don't listen to an
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awful lot of podcasts, but I've become... bit obsessed with
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this so i'm.
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I'm nervous oh oh thank you i thought i was
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just gonna say uh thank you for having me i
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don't listen.
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I'd have respected that as well maybe more maybe more
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what's this.
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About i haven't got kids but um no speaking.
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I've seen a guitar in in the background of josh's picture.
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So i'm ready yeah i've got an album out don't
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listen but let's plug let's let's.
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Do this here's the name of the album see you later.
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And what's the kid set up? You've got one child, James?
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I have one child. I'm six months into being a dad.
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Me and Lucy, my partner, are six months into life
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with little Ada, our daughter.
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Oh, that's a nice name.
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Thank you very much. It's lovely and wonderful and terrifying
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all at once.
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James, James, you sound quite broken.
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OK, all right.
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Is that fair? What a great start. LAUGHTER It's fun.
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It's the long list. It's always the list is the giveaway.
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How is the sleep though? Are you broken or not?
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Or is it just early?
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The sleep's okay. Um, actually we've been on a bit
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of a rollercoaster ride with sleep in the last six months. Um,
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and actually one of the most sort of normal scenarios
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is that we're all kind of up around about 7am,
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which feels pretty good in truth. A lot of the time, um,
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Ada's awake from sort of 5.30 and we're just sort
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of trying to make her wake at about 7 a.m. Yeah, yeah, yeah.
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But then yesterday, completely unexplained, I got up ready to
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go because I'm usually changing her nappy at like 7 a.m.
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And I went and I peeped in her eyes were
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shut and she just slept in till quarter past eight don't.
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Know why whoa I lay there wide awake yeah of
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course you can never take advantage of that situation.
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No not at all basically but um no it was
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so so sleep is okay um I think obviously you
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know at this point we've both just resigned to it
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being sometimes all over the place and just being able
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to roll with that we also had like We had
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that thing, I feel like it's actually kind of common
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that about eight weeks, lots of people's babies sometimes are
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sort of chilling out and getting into a little bit
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of their own little sort of sleep routine. And life
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goes from, especially I suppose with your first baby, it
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goes
from madness, complete madness, and like everything's brand new,
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to like a little bit of settling. And we thought
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by sort of Christmas, we'd like absolutely smashed it.
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You completed it.
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The naivety is through the roof.
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Yeah, I know.
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And then mid-January, first signs of teething, first bits of
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sleep aggression, Actually, and this is something I wanted to
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ask you about briefly. She's been going through, she's all
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right at the moment. She's all right now, but eczema arrived.
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Oh, really? Yeah, we're big on the eczema scene. We're
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big names on the eczema scene.
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You're a bit of a player on the eczema scene.
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Yeah, I'm big on the eczema scene.
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I'm a dairy intolerant guy. If you want anything on that,
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which can.
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Lead to eczema. It can be the same thing. Josh
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is your eczema guy.
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Can I just say, so we went through a bit
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of a rollercoaster with all of that and it threw
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sleep out the window from January till March.
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Have you been to the doctor about it?
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We've been the whole sort of gambit and we're in
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a much better place now. But can I sort of
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just say... that for all the wonderful things that libwives
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and everybody tell you to sort of help try and
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prepare you as your baby arrives, no one says a
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word about the potential of eczema. And it's like, I
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had no idea. I've just said it to you guys.
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And Josh particularly.
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It hasn't even come up on this podcast before. It's unspoken.
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You know, I've scoured your episodes looking for eczema.
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I'm an eczema virgin. I used to have eczema as
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a kid, but my kids don't really suffer with eczema.
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What's the eczema game? Talk me through it. What's going on?
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It just.
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sort of i suppose kind of just maybe you'll agree
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like it randomly reveals itself if it wants to yeah
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and then you've got the problem of sort of dealing
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with like a for us it was a tiny baby
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who you know she had she needed to sort of
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itch and this and that the other yeah actually um
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obviously you've got to keep baby's nails really short that's
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its own help Yeah.
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What's your technique? The clippers, or some people say bite them,
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which I think is madness.
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let Lucy do it.
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Okay, fair enough.
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She's got brilliant little fingers that are just perfect and
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mine are like big sausage disaster.
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You do play guitar for a living, so there must
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be like.
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Big sausage disaster.
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I'm just not very intricate with my fingers, if I'm
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honest with you.
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Never been good with my hands.
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Lucy does a fantastic job of that. We heard about
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the biting thing. That was never going to happen. And
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I will say, because I've heard all sorts of different
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stories about people trying to cut their baby's nails. And
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Ada is typically... she sort of lies back like she's
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at the salon on Lucy's lap. And Lucy was originally
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sort of doing, like, clipping her nails while she was asleep.
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And she'll just gently come round and be like, oh,
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you all right?
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Nice, yeah, thank you.
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Yeah, just doing my nails.
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That's lovely.
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And there's no sort of big trouble with it. But
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it's still, they seem to grow back, like, in the
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next hour.
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Well, that is the thing with nails. They will grow back.
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Which is intense in itself.
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So you must have noticed that about your own nails, right?
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LAUGHTER Have you got that weird guitarist nails thing? When
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you meet someone who plays guitar where they've got one
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hand of long nails and one hand of short nails?
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No, I don't go for it, personally.
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Oh, OK.
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I feel like, especially on electric guitar, you'll just snap
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your nails off.
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Right, yeah, yeah. It's creepy as well, isn't it?
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Yeah, I think it's just a pervert trying to... You know,
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like when cyclists shave their legs? You're like, you're only
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cycling so you can shave your legs. The legs was
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the first thought. That you wanted the nails so you
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got a guitar.
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Before you know it, you're boosting your way to seven
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Tour de France.
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You're having a blood transfusion just because you wanted smooth legs.
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No one's going faster with the shape of the leg.
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No one's playing better guitar with a longer nail. Are
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they not?
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Is that right?
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Not really. But she's so, around this sort of extra
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time that, you know, lots of baby clothes in the
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early days have got the mitts on the end of
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the sleeve. Actually, that was all still too, like, abrasive.
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Oh, really?
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Oh, wow.
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You've had it worse than me. Well, than my daughter
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and me.
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As someone who's not experienced this. So where is the eczema?
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Is it all over the body or just the hands?
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I mean, when the doctor we talked to said it
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spreads like wildfire.
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Yeah, he's not done a great job there, has he?
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That was a slightly difficult moment. Otherwise, actually, I have
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to give it to him. He's done a fantastic job
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in sort of guiding us, but that was a low moment.
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What have you got? What are you putting on it?
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There's all various.
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We did WD-40 in the end. That was a weird one.
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Did you do that?
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No. What?
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I feel like I'm not hanging out with the bigger boys.
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We're talking about drugs and I'm like, yeah, yeah. I've
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done a big zoo. Yeah, mate. Love bifters.
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One of the really handy things was going, we had
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to find these, they were these silk mitts, which sounds well,
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it sounds really sort of bougie, but she, they've worked.
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In fact, we found this like an independent, you know what?
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There'd be a great small business shout out. They're called
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scratch sleeves. Scratch sleeves.
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Scratch sleeves. Okay.
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For us, they've been brilliant.
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Also, basically, the X-Men was the baby would feel uncomfortable
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all the time, scratch it and make it worse and
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not sleep and whine and moan.
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Exactly. Worst case scenario, round the clock, we had to
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keep our hands out of her face.
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Oh, because she had it on her face?
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How do you keep our hands out of her face?
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By staying awake.
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Pad them away oh man alive.
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What the closest we've sort of had to that is
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um uh chicken pox my youngest got chicken pox really
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bad so again it's loads of like itchy lumps so
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that they're scratching all the time and you can't tell
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like a six one fold not to scratch and they're
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on their back if you had chicken pox the last
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thing you want to do is lay down.
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All day When yours had chicken pox, how young?
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Really young, actually. I can't quite remember, but she was
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like not, she was a baby, like probably six, seven
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months laying down. She wasn't walking or crying, but she,
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because my eldest, who was about three, got it and
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she had a couple, but she was honestly covered. She's
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still got little chicken pox scars that are slowly fading away,
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but it was really brutal. She was absolutely covered head
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to toe. It was disgusting.
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We had to get my daughter jabbed for chicken pox
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because me and my mum couldn't agree on whether I'd
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had it. And it's very dangerous for an adult.
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That's so mufty, Plymouth.
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I heard that it's dangerous for an adult.
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Yeah, so it's bad for an adult. So me and
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my daughter went for his and hers, his and hers.
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Daddy and daughter kind of chicken pox shots.
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We're having to have an injection because your nan is
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bad at admin. I hope that's what you told her.
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This is your nan's fault. When you cry, think of
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your nan.
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Well, she thought I hadn't, but I thought I had.
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So there we go.
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I don't know where measles and shingles come into this.
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Don't talk to me about mumps, mate. Don't talk to
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me about mumps. Have you had mumps?
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No, I haven't, no. My dad had mumps when he
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was tiny. So there's a picture of him, a little
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black and white picture from 100 years ago, pretty much.
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And he's this tiny little baby standing in the garden
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with a massive face. And he looks like one of
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those little... You know the footballers with.
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The big heads? The Corinthian figures?
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He's in a nappy and he looks exactly like one
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of those. LAUGHTER He's got a little smile on his face,
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but he says his memories of it were, it was
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absolutely horrible. So fingers crossed. We had, so sleep was
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sort of all over the place for a while. And
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I think that four month, five month regression thing was
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not great. But the teething thing was actually, she seemed
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to be, have like teething symptoms for. Oh mate.
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It takes forever to get those teeth out.
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Literally about five or six days ago, two have come through.
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Well, I don't want to pull rank here, but try
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teething with thoroughbreds when they've got these teeth. With your
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little normal-sized teeth, these big old chompers ploughing through their head.
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How big are the first set of a Beckett?
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Oh, absolute heavy duty. Well, the thing is, when a
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Beckett kid's teeth come out, you're basically going, are they
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going to get them or not? Do you know what
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I mean? You know, like some families got the ears
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or the nose or the chin or the dimples. It's
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all you ever get. And if you've got the Beckett teeth,
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you know, you've got them. They just never don't stop.
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Keep coming.
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Have your parents got the Beckett teeth? Well, not both
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of them. They're not Milhouse.
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No, my dad, they're from my dad's side. The Beckett's,
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the Beckett teeth. Yeah, he's got big Beckett teeth. My
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mum's got some more normal sized teeth.
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What about your brothers?
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Yeah, they've all got big Beckett teeth. But see, my
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brother Joe's got like a bigger mouth than me because
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he's like six foot two and he's bigger, but mine
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looks bigger because of the proportions. Yeah.
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Do they come through... So, A, this first teeth have
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come through so sharp. So, your girl has come through
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like razors.
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Yeah, the little ones do. And then when they're about
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six or seven, they get the bigger ones. So, my
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six-year-old's getting like the... It's just mad when they come through.
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You've got little silk gloves for your teeth. Yeah, little silk,
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little teeth scratcher mitts to go on. But yeah, hers
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have come through. But she knocked her teeth out when
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she was two. She had no front two teeth for
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four years. How did she knock them out? She was
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on a scooter at a preschool and she fell over
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and one went a bit brown and a bit wobbly
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and then they both just fell out. So she had
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no front teeth. She still eats on the side of her...
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She doesn't use her front teeth. She just eats on
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the side of her mouth still. She's not used to
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having teeth at the front.
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What, like Popeye? Yeah. Oh, that is... Yeah, that's my front. But,
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you know, we're first-timers, so it all seems very intense.
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So have you been back working?
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I have been back working, and it's... You know, I'm
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getting a much better sense at the moment of what
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the rest of the year will be. And actually, when
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I first discovered this brilliant podcast, I was isolating. I
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have a writing, I have like a place around the
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corner from our house, like a writing room where I
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was going to work and it sort of doubles up
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as a flat. There's like a little sort of house
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set up and a bed and all that.
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Have you moved out, James? Is that what you're trying
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to tell us?
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Have we got the divorce scoop? On the sidebar of
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shame next week.
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It was really convenient because I got COVID at the
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end of, I started this year in January, I was
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doing a two week Just a little sort of refresher tour.
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It was really fun. Just like me, solo acoustic.
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I bet it was, mate. You've got a kid at
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home that's not sleeping. I'll just head out on a
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refresher tour. Thank you very much.
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Bash out the greatest hits of an acoustic. No other
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band members to pay.
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It was also when, while I was away, thinking, okay,
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all right, a little bit of sleep, not bad. Yeah.
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But it was when the X-Men was starting, so it
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was very stressful being away because Lucy was a dealmaker. Because,
494
00:20:05.680 --> 00:20:09.069
you know, ultimately, Lucy's smashing it, and I'm trying to
495
00:20:09.109 --> 00:20:10.130
sort of come up behind.
496
00:20:10.250 --> 00:20:12.529
Paul McCartney used to take his kids on tour, didn't he?
497
00:20:12.789 --> 00:20:13.730
What a madman.
498
00:20:13.829 --> 00:20:16.029
Well, look, I'm not ruling it out. It's just when
499
00:20:16.049 --> 00:20:19.470
you've got such a tiny baby, it's not quite feel
500
00:20:20.089 --> 00:20:23.779
possible yet. No, we would ultimately like a sort of
501
00:20:23.799 --> 00:20:26.920
a future, especially before she sort of starts school proper.
502
00:20:26.960 --> 00:20:28.759
And I don't know. This is where I'm very naive.
503
00:20:28.880 --> 00:20:30.819
I'm going to put you in this position. She's kicking
504
00:20:30.980 --> 00:20:36.130
off because... She doesn't like her dinner. It's 8.04 p.m.
505
00:20:36.170 --> 00:20:40.869
You're due on stage, 10 past eight. She's backstage. She's
506
00:20:40.910 --> 00:20:42.220
kicking off. Disaster.
507
00:20:42.279 --> 00:20:43.980
I don't think, if you take them on tour, they
508
00:20:44.000 --> 00:20:44.960
just stay in the hotel room.
509
00:20:45.019 --> 00:20:45.880
It's a bit of that.
510
00:20:45.940 --> 00:20:46.619
That's the thing, isn't it?
511
00:20:46.619 --> 00:20:48.220
The other thing slightly different to you guys on tour
512
00:20:48.279 --> 00:20:51.190
is the volume of my show.
513
00:20:51.369 --> 00:20:51.609
Yeah.
514
00:20:51.930 --> 00:20:53.150
Well, I get some laughs, mate.
515
00:20:53.230 --> 00:20:53.349
Yeah.
516
00:20:57.690 --> 00:21:00.009
Do you know what i mean you know anyone under
517
00:21:00.009 --> 00:21:01.410
14 that goes to beckett's show has to wear those
518
00:21:01.490 --> 00:21:03.200
ear defenders you see kids.
519
00:21:02.990 --> 00:21:05.539
In festivals it's gonna get it's gonna get crazy stick
520
00:21:05.579 --> 00:21:08.099
them on kid you'll be all right don't damage your
521
00:21:08.180 --> 00:21:10.180
ears with all the laughs is there.
522
00:21:10.039 --> 00:21:13.140
In music because i'd say comedians are kind of people
523
00:21:13.180 --> 00:21:16.700
that often have kids late they're kind of in a
524
00:21:16.759 --> 00:21:20.460
kind of state of like suspended being young maybe through
525
00:21:20.480 --> 00:21:22.180
their 30s a lot of comedians No.
526
00:21:22.200 --> 00:21:24.400
No, it's not that. What it is is all comedians
527
00:21:24.420 --> 00:21:27.769
are awkward little virgin nerds till about 25, get a
528
00:21:27.789 --> 00:21:30.509
bit of confidence in their first job being funny, start
529
00:21:30.549 --> 00:21:33.190
the circuit at 30, meet someone at 40, have a kid.
530
00:21:33.390 --> 00:21:35.710
That's what happens. It's hard to have a kid when
531
00:21:35.750 --> 00:21:37.369
you haven't had sex for 25 years.
532
00:21:38.819 --> 00:21:43.460
No, in music, I think it's similar or even more so. Like,
533
00:21:43.500 --> 00:21:45.880
people are trying to... I don't know, it feels like
534
00:21:45.900 --> 00:21:48.339
a lot of people are sort of... Touring is a.
535
00:21:48.259 --> 00:21:49.339
Mad way of life, so.
536
00:21:50.740 --> 00:21:53.279
But maybe... I feel like I'm speaking for everybody here
537
00:21:53.299 --> 00:21:54.319
and I don't want to speak for anybody.
538
00:21:54.559 --> 00:21:55.460
Could you just speak for everyone?
539
00:21:55.480 --> 00:21:56.740
James Bay, speak for everyone. Fuck them.
540
00:21:56.759 --> 00:21:59.460
Just speak for everyone. Put it on record. This is
541
00:21:59.480 --> 00:22:00.559
the voice of the music industry.
542
00:22:00.579 --> 00:22:00.720
Yeah.
543
00:22:01.000 --> 00:22:03.019
Put it in the article. James Bay has left his
544
00:22:03.059 --> 00:22:04.819
wife and lives in a flat around the corner. Sleeps
545
00:22:04.940 --> 00:22:06.779
what he calls a bed. We know it's just some
546
00:22:06.839 --> 00:22:10.579
duvet on the floor. He talks for everyone and he
547
00:22:10.640 --> 00:22:13.660
is the ambassador of eczema in children. They're the three takeaways.
548
00:22:13.859 --> 00:22:16.140
It seems at least sort of 50-50 like a lot
549
00:22:16.180 --> 00:22:18.319
of people aren't. Touring is a sort of unique way
550
00:22:18.339 --> 00:22:22.220
of life and some people... kids don't fold into it
551
00:22:22.279 --> 00:22:24.480
very easily. And then other people are like, I want
552
00:22:24.660 --> 00:22:27.299
my personal sort of family life to be on the road.
553
00:22:28.000 --> 00:22:28.289
Yeah.
554
00:22:28.349 --> 00:22:30.029
We know there's people out there who sort of grew
555
00:22:30.130 --> 00:22:31.210
up on tour.
556
00:22:31.529 --> 00:22:32.349
Yeah.
557
00:22:32.490 --> 00:22:34.470
Kids of musicians from death.
558
00:22:34.609 --> 00:22:36.430
Normally always a bit weird in my experience.
559
00:22:37.119 --> 00:22:38.460
Or they become....
560
00:22:40.480 --> 00:22:43.059
That's me speaking for me, not everyone. Well, it's difficult because,
561
00:22:43.200 --> 00:22:44.700
you know, I don't really take the kids on tour
562
00:22:44.740 --> 00:22:47.029
because it's different for you, though. If you go to, like,
563
00:22:47.069 --> 00:22:49.609
America or Europe, you'll be away for three months.
564
00:22:49.670 --> 00:22:53.190
Yeah, you actually go properly on tour, whereas me and Rob.
565
00:22:53.210 --> 00:22:54.670
We just pop off for a couple of nights when
566
00:22:54.690 --> 00:22:56.849
Lou's quite happy at the break, I think. But I've
567
00:22:56.890 --> 00:22:58.289
got a gig in Southend and I'm going to let
568
00:22:58.329 --> 00:23:00.329
the kids come. And I've got one in Bromley, which
569
00:23:00.349 --> 00:23:01.390
I'm going to get them to come and see the
570
00:23:01.430 --> 00:23:03.390
stage and maybe watch the opening ten minutes of the
571
00:23:03.410 --> 00:23:04.769
show to see what I do because they're old enough
572
00:23:04.789 --> 00:23:05.710
to know what's going on now.
573
00:23:05.730 --> 00:23:05.869
Right.
574
00:23:06.089 --> 00:23:09.009
Obviously, I'll swear and it'll be inappropriate, but who cares, really?
575
00:23:09.170 --> 00:23:11.750
Awful chat the next morning when you go to... Normally,
576
00:23:11.789 --> 00:23:13.859
it goes better than that. That was a tough crowd.
577
00:23:14.380 --> 00:23:17.279
Do come to a different night because you didn't need
578
00:23:17.319 --> 00:23:19.299
the ear defenders, it turns out, after all.
579
00:23:19.400 --> 00:23:24.920
Daddy, what does dirty nonces mean?
580
00:23:24.940 --> 00:23:26.960
I think with the, like you say, like the America,
581
00:23:26.980 --> 00:23:29.369
like all this sort of transatlantic and going all around
582
00:23:29.380 --> 00:23:32.170
the world. I go to Australia at some point in
583
00:23:32.210 -->
00:23:34.859
a touring year. I go to Australia for a bit.
584
00:23:35.990 --> 00:23:36.670
And it's far.
585
00:23:37.049 --> 00:23:40.660
Yeah. And in a year, this year, 2022, when we're
586
00:23:41.500 --> 00:23:43.960
gearing ourselves up, me and Lucy, for like, right, I'm
587
00:23:43.980 --> 00:23:47.920
going to be away working sometimes. Ada's very young. And
588
00:23:47.980 --> 00:23:50.910
we do want to explore taking her away with me,
589
00:23:50.970 --> 00:23:52.779
with us, at some point.
590
00:23:53.230 --> 00:23:55.579
In my experience, I'd say you're better off traveling with
591
00:23:55.599 --> 00:23:57.180
them when they're younger, because when they get to point
592
00:23:57.259 --> 00:23:59.740
they're in nursery and school, they can't just come away
593
00:23:59.759 --> 00:24:00.019
with you.
594
00:24:00.380 --> 00:24:00.819
Exactly.
595
00:24:00.839 --> 00:24:04.339
And they're actually easier when they're like under a year
596
00:24:04.779 --> 00:24:08.099
to take because you're up and they're crying anyway. What's
597
00:24:08.160 --> 00:24:09.759
it matter if you're in a hotel, you're somewhere else.
598
00:24:09.799 --> 00:24:11.980
And then once they get in a buggy and they
599
00:24:12.000 --> 00:24:14.069
can sit upright, we went to Copenhagen with a six
600
00:24:14.109 --> 00:24:15.890
month old. And it was amazing because you just push
601
00:24:15.910 --> 00:24:18.369
them around and it's when they're like toddlers and running around,
602
00:24:18.390 --> 00:24:20.670
it's a bit of a nightmare. But you know, I
603
00:24:20.710 --> 00:24:22.890
think it's not as difficult as you probably think it
604
00:24:22.910 --> 00:24:24.369
will be because you sort of build it up once
605
00:24:24.390 --> 00:24:25.619
you get in the routine of it, but you just
606
00:24:25.630 --> 00:24:27.059
have to take the plunge to do it initially.
607
00:24:27.640 --> 00:24:30.420
Yeah. Mostly I'm thinking about Lucy. She's the one who's
608
00:24:30.440 --> 00:24:31.420
going to be like, she's.
609
00:24:31.279 --> 00:24:33.119
Not a fan of these songs. Not at all.
610
00:24:33.680 --> 00:24:35.819
The kid's fine. I can't listen through that set again.
611
00:24:35.839 --> 00:24:44.059
Yeah. Ada will be still, like you say, sort of
612
00:24:44.079 --> 00:24:45.819
young enough later this year, later in the summer, I'm
613
00:24:45.839 --> 00:24:47.849
going to, I know already I'm in America for a month.
614
00:24:47.920 --> 00:24:48.119
Yeah.
615
00:24:48.369 --> 00:24:51.049
There's a bit between now and then where I'm there
616
00:24:51.069 --> 00:24:53.069
for about two weeks. And then there's bits of Europe
617
00:24:53.089 --> 00:24:54.750
that I'm going to go to where, yeah, I'm not
618
00:24:54.769 --> 00:24:57.009
going to sort of be coming back like every other day.
619
00:24:57.029 --> 00:24:58.549
I'm going to be there for a week or more.
620
00:24:58.910 --> 00:25:01.089
I'm awful as well. Like it's, I've been with Lucy
621
00:25:01.109 --> 00:25:03.730
for a long time. We've been together for, for since
622
00:25:03.769 --> 00:25:07.269
we were teenagers. And in the early days of me
623
00:25:07.289 --> 00:25:12.480
going away, she was like brilliant at saying, basically, chin up,
624
00:25:12.640 --> 00:25:14.700
get out there and give it your best shot. I'll
625
00:25:14.720 --> 00:25:17.299
be here when you get back sort of thing. And
626
00:25:17.359 --> 00:25:19.180
I was rubbing, I was like, Oh no, I'm going
627
00:25:19.200 --> 00:25:21.230
to miss you so much, all this stuff. And, um,
628
00:25:21.470 --> 00:25:23.470
I've sort of built up a, we both built up
629
00:25:23.529 --> 00:25:25.970
like a sort of strength to be able to deal
630
00:25:26.009 --> 00:25:28.380
with it over the years that I've, I've been doing
631
00:25:28.390 --> 00:25:30.660
this now. Now we've had this little baby and I just,
632
00:25:30.960 --> 00:25:33.380
I just, Sounds well soppy, but I'm just going to
633
00:25:33.400 --> 00:25:34.539
miss her like crazy.
634
00:25:34.799 --> 00:25:37.910
Yeah, that is hard. Because it's the guilt as well
635
00:25:38.029 --> 00:25:40.369
as the missing. You feel bad that you're not there
636
00:25:40.410 --> 00:25:42.950
to help, but then you've got to earn the money,
637
00:25:43.069 --> 00:25:43.410
haven't you?
638
00:25:43.589 --> 00:25:46.430
That's exactly it. Recently, last couple of nights, yesterday, I
639
00:25:46.509 --> 00:25:50.859
was only out for... sort of the afternoon and the evening,
640
00:25:51.000 --> 00:25:53.259
I was making a music video and I was away
641
00:25:53.539 --> 00:25:55.220
and I was just in little breaks. I'm looking at
642
00:25:55.240 --> 00:25:57.609
videos on my phone of Ada.
643
00:25:58.009 --> 00:26:00.150
That's what my wife does. She goes, I can't wait
644
00:26:00.170 --> 00:26:02.970
till they're in bed. I can't wait till they're in bed.
645
00:26:02.990 --> 00:26:05.369
Then we get, they go to bed and she'll just
646
00:26:05.410 --> 00:26:07.839
watch videos of them from the day. And you're like, mate,
647
00:26:08.480 --> 00:26:09.519
this is our hour.
648
00:26:09.880 --> 00:26:10.700
This is our one hour.
649
00:26:10.720 --> 00:26:12.140
This is our succession.
650
00:26:13.009 --> 00:26:16.750
Yeah, between watching those and squeezing in at this point,
651
00:26:16.910 --> 00:26:20.000
three episodes of Peaky Blinders. I feel like no matter
652
00:26:20.059 --> 00:26:22.259
how we've managed that in the last, what feels like
653
00:26:22.279 --> 00:26:24.799
the last three months, we've got three episodes in and
654
00:26:24.839 --> 00:26:27.960
we're like, such a luxury.
655
00:26:28.000 --> 00:26:31.470
Yeah. Have you started writing, has it affected your songs?
656
00:26:31.509 --> 00:26:34.430
Have you started writing about her? And would you shy
657
00:26:34.490 --> 00:26:35.269
away from that?
658
00:26:35.430 --> 00:26:39.809
I would, honestly, I don't know how many
songs my
659
00:26:39.849 --> 00:26:42.109
fans want to hear about. Oh, my beautiful baby, how
660
00:26:42.170 --> 00:26:45.609
I love you. I've brought life into the world. Like, yeah,
661
00:26:45.750 --> 00:26:48.490
it'll find its way in like one way or another
662
00:26:48.549 --> 00:26:50.559
into my writing. It will sort of find its way
663
00:26:50.579 --> 00:26:54.210
because it's been a huge... emotional sort of transition for
664
00:26:54.259 --> 00:26:56.039
me yeah I'll just I'll just try not to be
665
00:26:56.099 --> 00:26:57.339
too on the nose about it.
666
00:26:57.500 --> 00:26:59.680
So is she Lucy on maternity leave then is she
667
00:26:59.720 --> 00:27:01.880
due to go back at some point or no.
668
00:27:01.859 --> 00:27:04.349
She actually she finished working and she this has been
669
00:27:04.420 --> 00:27:06.910
very much a sort of I suppose like a dream
670
00:27:06.970 --> 00:27:08.250
of hers to be able to just be.
671
00:27:08.170 --> 00:27:10.210
A mum full-time mum yeah that kind of thing so
672
00:27:10.230 --> 00:27:11.930
there's well as you say because then that that brings
673
00:27:11.970 --> 00:27:13.950
an extra pressure if she's going back to work then
674
00:27:14.470 --> 00:27:17.339
you've got to find someone to cover that you're both
675
00:27:17.400 --> 00:27:18.759
shifts and stuff so so.
676
00:27:18.599 --> 00:27:20.640
I'm lucky in that respect and we're lucky of course
677
00:27:20.660 --> 00:27:22.319
that she we're in a position that she can do
678
00:27:22.359 --> 00:27:25.480
that and she um yeah it was it was a
679
00:27:25.619 --> 00:27:27.079
it was a big kind of dream for her to
680
00:27:27.180 --> 00:27:29.619
to be able to do that and that's well which
681
00:27:29.680 --> 00:27:31.819
is gorgeous it's a really we feel very sort of
682
00:27:31.839 --> 00:27:32.799
lucky that we can do that.
683
00:27:32.700 --> 00:27:33.819
Does it make you want to have more then do
684
00:27:34.559 --> 00:27:36.420
you reckon you're you're loving you it seems like you're
685
00:27:36.440 --> 00:27:37.839
absolutely besotted.
686
00:27:37.599 --> 00:27:40.519
We both we both come from like siblings as well
687
00:27:40.680 --> 00:27:42.579
like we neither so do i but that put me
688
00:27:42.700 --> 00:27:52.250
off Our personal is we'd love her to have mates,
689
00:27:52.470 --> 00:27:55.089
you know, actual mates in the house to run around
690
00:27:55.109 --> 00:27:56.849
with and all of that sort of thing. So yeah,
691
00:27:56.910 --> 00:28:00.210
that's definitely the sort of dream going forward because it's
692
00:28:00.230 --> 00:28:02.349
also just sort of what we know. And I think
693
00:28:02.369 --> 00:28:03.869
growing up, it made complete sense to us.
694
00:28:04.319 --> 00:28:06.059
I think as well, I didn't really, I was always like, yeah,
695
00:28:06.119 --> 00:28:07.599
it'd be nice to have a couple of kids. I
696
00:28:07.619 --> 00:28:10.339
always wanted two kids, like at least. And then like,
697
00:28:10.359 --> 00:28:12.160
it's only now, like, cause there's only a two year gap.
698
00:28:12.200 --> 00:28:14.980
They play so well. it's such a blessing when they've
699
00:28:15.000 --> 00:28:17.000
got that because like you don't have to do anything
700
00:28:17.180 --> 00:28:18.930
if you go on holiday and there's a pool that's
701
00:28:18.970 --> 00:28:21.109
sort of safe enough for them just to swim in
702
00:28:21.170 --> 00:28:23.329
or you know walk wade in if it's like a
703
00:28:23.390 --> 00:28:25.390
small one you just you literally just sit there and
704
00:28:25.430 --> 00:28:27.410
they play with each other again.
705
00:28:26.859 --> 00:28:30.180
Like me and my brother are like he's only about
706
00:28:30.180 --> 00:28:32.799
15 months older than me or something and and lucy's
707
00:28:32.880 --> 00:28:35.750
brothers are It's all like no more than 18 months.
708
00:28:35.769 --> 00:28:37.509
Yeah, I think it's really, I think it makes a
709
00:28:37.529 --> 00:28:39.910
massive difference where I think sometimes people, if you have
710
00:28:39.930 --> 00:28:42.420
a sibling, obviously, you know, sometimes you can't have one
711
00:28:42.720 --> 00:28:45.079
straight away after. But I think if you can, I'd
712
00:28:45.099 --> 00:28:46.720
really recommend it because it is a bit of a
713
00:28:46.740 --> 00:28:49.119
nightmare the first year if you've got like two under
714
00:28:49.160 --> 00:28:51.359
two or two under 18 months. But then once, if
715
00:28:51.380 --> 00:28:55.019
they're the same age, they just play. Because if there's
716
00:28:55.039 --> 00:28:57.640
a big gap, sometimes it's like a 10-year-old trying to
717
00:28:57.680 --> 00:28:59.940
play with a two-year-old. They're on two different wavelengths, aren't they,
718
00:28:59.960 --> 00:29:00.559
if there's a big gap?
719
00:29:00.839 --> 00:29:03.809
Yeah, is it mad, just like one thing you said there,
720
00:29:03.869 --> 00:29:06.049
like when you've got, well, yeah, two under two, is
721
00:29:06.089 --> 00:29:06.569
it mental?
722
00:29:07.089 --> 00:29:10.329
Well, it's not mental, but the worst part is you go,
723
00:29:11.150 --> 00:29:13.470
I can't believe how easy it was just having one
724
00:29:13.509 --> 00:29:16.150
kid in the house. But then you can't even, saying
725
00:29:16.170 --> 00:29:18.109
that to you now is like you can't imagine it.
726
00:29:18.470 --> 00:29:21.319
You know how you look back on when you said, like,
727
00:29:21.380 --> 00:29:23.420
I was so naive at Christmas? You're going to look
728
00:29:23.440 --> 00:29:25.319
back on this interview in two or three years and
729
00:29:25.339 --> 00:29:28.220
you're going to go, what was I complaining about?
730
00:29:29.369 --> 00:29:31.369
They just don't move. But that's it when they start
731
00:29:31.410 --> 00:29:32.430
removing is the problem.
732
00:29:32.630 --> 00:29:36.180
This is it. And she still isn't actually, she's dead keen,
733
00:29:36.480 --> 00:29:39.650
but she's not actually going anywhere yet. There's been a paranoia.
734
00:29:39.720 --> 00:29:41.910
that I've just about got over now, but the first
735
00:29:41.950 --> 00:29:44.230
sort of three or so months, I was like, God, quick,
736
00:29:44.250 --> 00:29:44.730
get on a tummy.
737
00:29:45.210 --> 00:29:47.680
Yeah, because you're like, if I don't do tummy time,
738
00:29:47.720 --> 00:29:50.799
what's going to happen? I know no one that was
739
00:29:50.900 --> 00:29:54.259
adversely affected by a lack of tummy time. But I'm
740
00:29:54.299 --> 00:29:57.089
just saying now, obviously, it's great, do it, et cetera,
741
00:29:57.109 --> 00:29:59.289
et cetera. I'm not part of the anti-tummy time group.
742
00:29:59.309 --> 00:30:01.609
Certain people obviously do have problems with their neck, and
743
00:30:01.829 --> 00:30:03.789
it's at a different angle, whatever, and that's like... Hello,
744
00:30:03.849 --> 00:30:04.529
here I am.
745
00:30:05.670 --> 00:30:07.430
Maybe that's why I've got a bad neck. I didn't
746
00:30:07.450 --> 00:30:08.430
do any tummy time.
747
00:30:09.329 --> 00:30:11.839
But I think that's either going to happen or not.
748
00:30:11.890 --> 00:30:13.640
I don't think you need to train it or test it.
749
00:30:13.779 --> 00:30:15.299
You're either going to have that bad neck or not.
750
00:30:15.519 --> 00:30:18.740
And it's too easy as well, I find. When ultimately
751
00:30:18.799 --> 00:30:20.819
she's going to sort of find her way, it's still
752
00:30:20.859 --> 00:30:24.019
too easy to sort of get paranoid about like, we
753
00:30:24.039 --> 00:30:25.759
got one of the things that what they call you
754
00:30:25.880 --> 00:30:27.839
hang it over the door and she can sort of bounce. Yeah.
755
00:30:27.880 --> 00:30:28.180
Yeah.
756
00:30:28.200 --> 00:30:28.759
The bouncer.
757
00:30:28.779 --> 00:30:30.480
Yeah. We did that the first time of the day
758
00:30:30.500 --> 00:30:33.759
because we were curious, you know, you sort of lift
759
00:30:33.779 --> 00:30:35.940
the baby up on your lap, like holding her under
760
00:30:36.009 --> 00:30:40.009
her armpits. And she often, you know, their legs will
761
00:30:40.049 --> 00:30:42.410
go straight and they'll want to sort of almost without
762
00:30:42.430 --> 00:30:45.380
kind of use their legs. Yeah. she's got no interest
763
00:30:45.440 --> 00:30:48.119
in using her legs. She just don't know what you're
764
00:30:48.140 --> 00:30:49.799
trying to do. And she's like sitting back down on
765
00:30:49.819 --> 00:30:52.200
my bum, I was fine like that. But on her tummy,
766
00:30:52.769 --> 00:30:55.630
hopefully with a view to crawling, she's like after it,
767
00:30:56.049 --> 00:30:59.470
she's into that. So, and immediately I'm like, but the
768
00:30:59.509 --> 00:31:03.549
legs aren't working. is she ever gonna walk.
769
00:31:03.609 --> 00:31:07.069
Yeah imagine at six months you're panicking she's not walking that.
770
00:31:06.990 --> 00:31:09.529
Is my daughter's walked to nine months so she's way
771
00:31:09.569 --> 00:31:11.210
too early and i didn't realize how early that was
772
00:31:11.470 --> 00:31:14.250
but she it looks so weird because she was so
773
00:31:14.349 --> 00:31:16.869
because my first born was really little um she's about
774
00:31:16.930 --> 00:31:18.730
normal size now but she was tiny she's only five
775
00:31:18.750 --> 00:31:21.339
pound eleven and quite small and diddy very narrow and
776
00:31:21.380 --> 00:31:23.150
she could walk at nine months but in like we
777
00:31:23.190 --> 00:31:24.400
dressed up in like a coat and a pair of
778
00:31:24.420 --> 00:31:27.240
shoes And she walked with me through the shopping centre
779
00:31:27.279 --> 00:31:29.299
on her own without holding her hand. And everyone was
780
00:31:29.319 --> 00:31:32.240
just like, it was stopping shoppers. Because they were like,
781
00:31:32.400 --> 00:31:34.599
they thought it was a Hasbulla, you know Hasbulla? You know,
782
00:31:34.619 --> 00:31:37.700
the little fella. It was like, they couldn't believe that
783
00:31:37.720 --> 00:31:39.720
a baby could walk at that age and stuff. But
784
00:31:39.759 --> 00:31:41.759
when it's your kid, you don't sort of realise.
785
00:31:41.819 --> 00:31:43.539
And is she now brilliant at walking? Is she going
786
00:31:43.559 --> 00:31:45.579
to be one of those walkers at the Olympics, Rob?
787
00:31:45.680 --> 00:31:47.640
Is she like the world's best walker?
788
00:31:47.869 --> 00:31:49.930
I'll tell you what, though. My second one, though, is
789
00:31:50.190 --> 00:31:55.730
so fast. She's, like, really fast. On holiday, she was
790
00:31:55.809 --> 00:31:58.269
running so fast. And there was, like, a seven-year-old that
791
00:31:58.309 --> 00:32:00.339
was there. And he's, like, quite tall for his age.
792
00:32:00.599 --> 00:32:02.720
She was keeping up with him. And they started calling
793
00:32:02.740 --> 00:32:06.000
her Dash at the end. She's so quick. It's actually
794
00:32:06.019 --> 00:32:07.559
like comedy how fast she is.
795
00:32:07.799 --> 00:32:10.859
I would love it if your daughter became an international athlete.
796
00:32:10.960 --> 00:32:12.880
That would be one of the great... It would be
797
00:32:12.980 --> 00:32:14.039
perfect for the podcast.
798
00:32:14.059 --> 00:32:15.559
Oh, it would be brilliant if she was a sprinter.
799
00:32:15.660 --> 00:32:17.119
I think she might be. She's really... I don't know.
800
00:32:17.140 --> 00:32:19.490
God knows what's happening. But all I'm saying is she's
801
00:32:19.509 --> 00:32:22.190
fucking quick. She's rapid. I can't get her. If she
802
00:32:22.250 --> 00:32:23.670
puts the burners on, I can't catch her.
803
00:32:23.829 --> 00:32:26.730
And both of them are walking at nine months. Yeah, both, yeah.
804
00:32:26.849 --> 00:32:29.329
Don't say that. If you get to nine months, they're not, though, James.
805
00:32:29.390 -->
00:32:29.589
Panicky.
806
00:32:29.609 --> 00:32:30.299
You've only got three months.
807
00:32:30.319 --> 00:32:32.299
Yeah, and I was told that was quite late, actually, James.
808
00:32:32.339 --> 00:32:37.299
It's quite late, developers. At least at five months, everyone's walking.
809
00:32:37.480 --> 00:32:40.329
I'm going to be holding her over a treadmill. Yeah.
810
00:32:42.039 --> 00:32:44.000
So have you got, what are your other little paranoias
811
00:32:44.019 --> 00:32:47.460
that you're aware of mental, but you can't help yourself thinking,
812
00:32:47.539 --> 00:32:49.920
you know, like I used to, if they slept in,
813
00:32:50.400 --> 00:32:52.079
I'd wake them up to check if they're still all right.
814
00:32:52.319 --> 00:32:54.420
Because I assumed something awful had happened because they slept in.
815
00:32:54.579 --> 00:32:55.500
Oh yeah, every time.
816
00:32:55.819 --> 00:33:00.440
On a better night's sleep. when she's so still, breathing
817
00:33:00.549 --> 00:33:03.710
so soft, all throughout this first six months, I've crept
818
00:33:03.769 --> 00:33:04.369
in quietly.
819
00:33:04.630 --> 00:33:06.089
Just to see if the chest is going up and
820
00:33:06.170 --> 00:33:06.450
all that.
821
00:33:06.470 --> 00:33:09.329
Yeah, it's horrible, isn't it? Trying in pitch black, essentially,
822
00:33:09.369 --> 00:33:09.910
to see that.
823
00:33:10.470 --> 00:33:11.390
And you're half asleep.
824
00:33:11.890 --> 00:33:15.960
It's just ridiculous when you're half asleep. Recently, so we've
825
00:33:15.980 --> 00:33:18.960
been sort of getting on to like solids, but of
826
00:33:19.000 --> 00:33:21.599
course they're like mushed down, so they're not solid.
827
00:33:21.680 --> 00:33:22.599
She's not on solids yet.
828
00:33:23.539 --> 00:33:24.839
I'm joking. I'm joking.
829
00:33:25.299 --> 00:33:30.750
I'm sorry, Jay. I wonder who you are. Sorry, I'm messing.
830
00:33:30.769 --> 00:33:35.059
We've been getting on. Initially, she was so up for it.
831
00:33:35.109 --> 00:33:37.890
I'm trying to think now. I don't know, maybe it's
832
00:33:37.910 --> 00:33:40.849
been like six weeks of that. And she was well
833
00:33:40.910 --> 00:33:42.190
up for it. And it was all going in and
834
00:33:42.210 --> 00:33:45.269
it was all pureed, this and that. And as soon
835
00:33:45.309 --> 00:33:48.549
as the tea came through, she's just clamping her mouth shut.
836
00:33:48.630 --> 00:33:50.869
She loves... She's sitting up in the high chair and
837
00:33:50.890 --> 00:33:52.309
the food's all in front of her sort of thing.
838
00:33:52.329 --> 00:33:54.490
And we're coming in with the spoon and it's loaded
839
00:33:54.910 --> 00:33:58.549
and we're ready. She's just... suddenly got no interest. And
840
00:33:58.589 --> 00:34:01.630
it's been quite funny actually how quickly Lucy and I
841
00:34:01.650 --> 00:34:03.859
both go, oh God, well now she's never going to eat.
842
00:34:05.720 --> 00:34:07.000
She's on milk forever.
843
00:34:07.119 --> 00:34:09.880
That's it. What happened to the like few weeks where
844
00:34:09.900 --> 00:34:12.920
she was loving, she was absolutely loving eating something off
845
00:34:12.980 --> 00:34:16.139
a spoon, holding the spoon, taking it off the mouth herself,
846
00:34:16.239 --> 00:34:19.420
the whole bit, mouth wide open, like clamping down, chewing it. Yeah.
847
00:34:19.440 --> 00:34:21.909
So it's very easy to sort of suddenly go, well,
848
00:34:22.480 --> 00:34:23.780
It's all, now we're going backwards.
849
00:34:23.940 --> 00:34:26.699
Everything, everything's a panic. Everything is a panic. Well, it
850
00:34:26.719 --> 00:34:28.530
certainly is in my life. I think that's the thing
851
00:34:28.570 --> 00:34:29.809
is like, she will eat.
852
00:34:30.190 --> 00:34:30.349
Yeah.
853
00:34:30.489 --> 00:34:33.050
And also with kids eating, get ready for them to
854
00:34:33.090 --> 00:34:35.829
refuse food at every opportunity for the next four years
855
00:34:35.869 --> 00:34:36.289
of your life.
856
00:34:36.769 --> 00:34:38.090
I've got a six and four year old. All they
857
00:34:38.170 --> 00:34:38.869
eat is plain pasta.
858
00:34:39.090 --> 00:34:39.269
Yeah.
859
00:34:39.789 --> 00:34:41.889
She's carb loading, isn't she Rob? She's carb loading.
860
00:34:41.969 --> 00:34:46.659
I just give them three heels a day now. I
861
00:34:47.590 --> 00:34:48.130
don't do that.
862
00:34:48.630 --> 00:34:51.949
The funny thing is that Ada is like seemingly loving
863
00:34:51.989 --> 00:34:54.090
the sort of general experience of, like I say, being
864
00:34:54.110 --> 00:34:55.469
sort of sat up in a high chair and sort
865
00:34:55.489 --> 00:34:56.949
of at the table with us. And we usually have
866
00:34:56.989 --> 00:34:58.550
our lunch at the same time and sort of feeding
867
00:34:58.590 --> 00:35:01.269
her and trying to make it all quite obvious. Uh,
868
00:35:01.289 --> 00:35:02.829
but she doesn't want to actually do the eating bit
869
00:35:02.889 --> 00:35:05.570
lately at all, which is, I dunno, like, you know,
870
00:35:05.590 --> 00:35:07.110
there's a good and a bad side to this as well.
871
00:35:07.150 --> 00:35:09.110
Lucy will sort of, we've got all sorts of great
872
00:35:09.159 --> 00:35:12.800
books and she'll read a lot more than me. Granted.
873
00:35:13.679 --> 00:35:16.139
she'll go and sort of seek out information.
874
00:35:15.780 --> 00:35:17.719
So she's doing the reading she's doing the nails and
875
00:35:17.739 --> 00:35:19.760
you're just sort of general overseeing the panic.
876
00:35:21.880 --> 00:35:24.380
Um yeah and she just found she just read something
877
00:35:24.599 --> 00:35:27.360
the other day that obviously says you know your baby
878
00:35:27.380 --> 00:35:29.639
will sort of be into eating and not into eating
879
00:35:29.679 --> 00:35:32.309
and always just sort of let them explore it uh
880
00:35:32.369 --> 00:35:34.190
regardless of whether they're actually sort of
doing an awful
881
00:35:34.210 --> 00:35:36.070
lot of eating especially when they're only six months old
882
00:35:36.869 --> 00:35:39.429
And that was obviously reassuring.
883
00:35:39.510 --> 00:35:41.860
Well, yeah, I find my kids will not eat anything
884
00:35:41.929 --> 00:35:44.480
for three days, like literally pick at stuff. And then
885
00:35:44.760 --> 00:35:47.119
they'll eat like a monster for four days. They go
886
00:35:47.159 --> 00:35:49.940
through like waves of being hungry and into food and
887
00:35:49.960 --> 00:35:51.739
then just like not eating much, but then literally go,
888
00:35:51.800 --> 00:35:53.960
I want another bowl of pasta. It's weird.
889
00:35:54.099 --> 00:35:55.519
They're doing five too, aren't they?
890
00:35:55.539 --> 00:36:00.480
They're doing five too.
891
00:36:00.500 --> 00:36:02.280
We were already at this point with me, like, so
892
00:36:02.320 --> 00:36:05.960
the first three months of Ada's life, I was just
893
00:36:06.000 --> 00:36:07.360
around all the time and that was sort of the
894
00:36:07.400 --> 00:36:11.119
agreed thing between me and my managers. But, um, already
895
00:36:11.570 --> 00:36:14.320
now that I'm back to doing stuff all the time, there's,
896
00:36:14.820 --> 00:36:17.250
you know, I've been around the last couple of weeks
897
00:36:17.329 --> 00:36:19.750
for some, she's doing like mum, mum, mum, mum, mum, mum,
898
00:36:19.809 --> 00:36:22.329
and like a bit of, she only whispers dad, dad, dad.
899
00:36:22.530 --> 00:36:25.769
It's because you're so much noisy at your.
900
00:36:27.730 --> 00:36:30.369
Gigs. You can't hear her. But it wasn't really like
901
00:36:31.170 --> 00:36:34.610
first word territory. Like we weren't really sort of there yet, but,
902
00:36:35.219 --> 00:36:37.539
you know, I think I wasn't around quite for the
903
00:36:37.559 --> 00:36:40.010
sort of first times of all of that stuff. It
904
00:36:40.030 --> 00:36:41.969
catches me off guard all the time. It's the only
905
00:36:41.989 --> 00:36:44.280
thing that makes me worry about going away later in
906
00:36:44.300 --> 00:36:46.280
the year. And like I said, we are looking at
907
00:36:46.969 --> 00:36:49.449
flying them out for a few days which.
908
00:36:49.369 --> 00:36:53.090
Will help oh that's all right for you that is
909
00:36:53.159 --> 00:36:55.269
an absolutely brutal.
910
00:36:54.800 --> 00:36:57.800
One for the but i'll say lucy has dealt with
911
00:36:57.940 --> 00:36:59.880
all manner of jet lag over the last 10 years
912
00:36:59.980 --> 00:37:02.780
and ada i'm just saying like she'll still be young
913
00:37:02.800 --> 00:37:03.920
enough that she'll just roll with it.
914
00:37:04.039 --> 00:37:06.199
What's interesting is even if you go away for a
915
00:37:06.340 --> 00:37:11.849
week you do notice the difference josh like How old
916
00:37:11.869 --> 00:37:14.360
will she be in August and September?
917
00:37:14.360 --> 00:37:15.440
10 and 11 months.
918
00:37:15.900 --> 00:37:18.360
Oh, that's the best month.
919
00:37:18.420 --> 00:37:19.559
We can't get his head like.
920
00:37:19.440 --> 00:37:19.780
This, John.
921
00:37:20.000 --> 00:37:23.239
He's wondering, you aren't... What I'd recommend, what I reckon
922
00:37:23.260 --> 00:37:25.699
would be a best shout is if Lucy came over
923
00:37:25.719 --> 00:37:28.119
and had a holiday or in New York or Boston
924
00:37:28.139 --> 00:37:30.409
or wherever it was and was based somewhere for a week,
925
00:37:30.989 --> 00:37:33.250
you know that you can pop in and out there
926
00:37:33.269 --> 00:37:36.489
and she's not following you about. She's got this hotel
927
00:37:36.570 --> 00:37:41.030
room or Airbnb, somewhere nice that's nice and chilled in
928
00:37:41.070 --> 00:37:42.550
New York and then you can pop in whenever you
929
00:37:42.590 --> 00:37:45.079
can and she has a nice time there because at 10,
930
00:37:45.079 --> 00:37:46.699
11 months, the baby can be in the buggy, they
931
00:37:46.719 --> 00:37:49.320
can walk around New York or maybe go upstate a
932
00:37:49.320 --> 00:37:51.119
little bit where it's a bit greener or something. thing
933
00:37:51.179 --> 00:37:52.679
absolutely and do it that way right in the middle
934
00:37:52.719 --> 00:37:53.639
i think it's the best but.
935
00:37:53.519 --> 00:37:55.360
I think after a plane ride as well we were
936
00:37:55.380 --> 00:37:56.980
never i don't think first time we were going to
937
00:37:57.000 --> 00:37:58.320
put them on a tour bus that feels like a
938
00:37:58.340 --> 00:37:59.000
step too far.
939
00:37:59.039 --> 00:38:01.300
Well because i've got to go i'm going to australia
940
00:38:01.400 --> 00:38:03.920
and i will miss the girls but i'm also thinking
941
00:38:04.599 --> 00:38:06.059
i'm going to australia for three and a half weeks
942
00:38:06.099 --> 00:38:09.699
to it's quite so it's like i will desperately miss
943
00:38:09.719 --> 00:38:12.800
lou and the girls when i'm there but what i
944
00:38:12.820 --> 00:38:15.829
try and do is me if i'm there right in
945
00:38:15.889 --> 00:38:17.889
australia and i've always wanted to do shows in australia
946
00:38:17.929 --> 00:38:19.329
so from a selfish point of view it's a real
947
00:38:19.369 --> 00:38:20.849
career hire for me to go to australia and do
948
00:38:20.889 --> 00:38:26.030
shows and it's amazing me moping around australia feeling guilty
949
00:38:26.469 --> 00:38:28.650
feeling like i'm missing out all i'm doing is torturing
950
00:38:28.670 --> 00:38:31.570
myself me being upset is not going to help lou
951
00:38:31.840 --> 00:38:34.579
and the kids Absolutely right. What's going to help them
952
00:38:34.619 --> 00:38:36.579
the best. She don't want me when she's had a
953
00:38:36.960 --> 00:38:38.800
terrible day with the kids go, Oh, but I just
954
00:38:38.840 --> 00:38:41.179
miss you. Fuck off. You're by the beach in Australia.
955
00:38:41.440 --> 00:38:43.440
So you need to
sort of, sort of be in
956
00:38:43.460 --> 00:38:44.920
that moment or be in that place. Go right. I'm
957
00:38:44.980 --> 00:38:48.210
here doing my shows in Australia to a crowd. And
958
00:38:48.250 --> 00:38:51.449
I'm loving this guilt free because feeling guilt is not
959
00:38:51.469 --> 00:38:53.250
going to help anyone. All it's going to do is
960
00:38:53.289 --> 00:38:54.750
torture you and annoy them.
961
00:38:54.929 --> 00:38:58.409
You're absolutely right. And Lucy is right. Sorry. Lucy says
962
00:38:58.449 --> 00:39:01.559
that same stuff to me. She's absolutely right. And so,
963
00:39:02.579 --> 00:39:04.820
don't get me wrong like you know the shows that
964
00:39:04.840 --> 00:39:06.679
i did just in january just now like being on
965
00:39:06.719 --> 00:39:08.320
stage every night and playing to those people was a
966
00:39:08.719 --> 00:39:09.340
time in my life.
967
00:39:09.260 --> 00:39:11.409
But how but what's it like the day times before
968
00:39:11.590 --> 00:39:13.389
if you can't see the kids that's when that on
969
00:39:13.429 --> 00:39:15.889
the stage because you're fully engaged that's the fine bit
970
00:39:16.130 --> 00:39:17.690
what it is is sat in the hotel room that's
971
00:39:17.710 --> 00:39:20.210
when you can go mental and you start beating yourself
972
00:39:20.329 --> 00:39:21.989
up but you've just got to try and make sure
973
00:39:22.010 --> 00:39:23.550
that you go i'm doing the best thing for me
974
00:39:23.590 --> 00:39:25.369
and my family otherwise i'll be at home there's no
975
00:39:25.409 --> 00:39:27.730
money coming in my career's not progressing i'm not selling
976
00:39:27.750 --> 00:39:30.929
any albums but when you're there you've beat yourself up
977
00:39:30.969 --> 00:39:33.550
because it just it's horrible to yourself just.
978
00:39:33.380 --> 00:39:35.280
Keep on top of like the pictures of you having
979
00:39:35.300 --> 00:39:37.980
a great time on instagram that's all you got just
980
00:39:38.039 --> 00:39:39.300
keep on top of that.
981
00:39:40.260 --> 00:39:43.750
It really like turns you over having a, having a baby.
982
00:39:43.949 --> 00:39:46.969
It's a big head fuck massively, like emotionally as the.
983
00:39:46.969 --> 00:39:50.650
Best and the maddest way that is all the cliches.
984
00:39:51.340 --> 00:39:53.320
I was saying this on this tour, like, uh, to
985
00:39:53.340 --> 00:39:55.159
the crowd every night, I was, I was, I was
986
00:39:55.179 --> 00:39:57.420
saying like, you know, it's nice to see you all again.
987
00:39:57.460 --> 00:39:58.920
It's been so long. Cause it's the first time I've
988
00:39:58.940 --> 00:40:02.030
been doing any of it since COVID began. Uh, you know,
989
00:40:02.050 --> 00:40:03.730
and I said, I've been up to all sorts. I
990
00:40:03.769 --> 00:40:07.110
had a baby. And I said, it is all the
991
00:40:07.150 --> 00:40:09.820
cliches are true. It is the greatest thing ever. I
992
00:40:09.860 --> 00:40:11.760
also
said all the cliches are true. My baby is
993
00:40:11.780 --> 00:40:12.960
the most beautiful baby in the world.
994
00:40:13.099 --> 00:40:14.380
Yeah, that's true.
995
00:40:14.500 --> 00:40:15.760
I said, all of you will think, you know, some
996
00:40:15.780 --> 00:40:17.619
of you in here got babies. I said, no, no, no, mine.
997
00:40:17.699 --> 00:40:19.039
If I was in the crowd, I would shout, but
998
00:40:19.059 --> 00:40:24.849
she can't walk yet. No. My kid, your kid at
999
00:40:24.869 --> 00:40:27.309
a race. Let's do this. But that's the weird thing is,
1000
00:40:27.369 --> 00:40:29.610
it's so important, but no one really gives a shit
1001
00:40:29.630 --> 00:40:31.969
if you've had a kid, do they? No. Because it's so, like,
1002
00:40:32.030 --> 00:40:35.860
for me, it's such a mad thing. But the man
1003
00:40:35.880 --> 00:40:37.460
in the street goes, oh, have you? And no one
1004
00:40:37.480 --> 00:40:40.239
gives a shit, you know, if you're doing the right thing.
1005
00:40:40.380 --> 00:40:42.059
Because you'll be like going, oh, should I do that?
1006
00:40:42.099 --> 00:40:44.139
What will people think if I've left Lucy or Lou
1007
00:40:44.429 --> 00:40:46.750
to do this gig or left, no one gives a fuck.
1008
00:40:46.969 --> 00:40:47.309
No, no, no.
1009
00:40:47.369 --> 00:40:48.389
It's only your own head.
1010
00:40:48.590 --> 00:40:51.989
I show... I am terrible with, like, if I'm seeing...
1011
00:40:51.949 --> 00:40:53.789
As I've, like, got back into, like, going to do
1012
00:40:53.809 --> 00:40:55.230
a bit of promo or something and seeing all the
1013
00:40:55.269 --> 00:40:57.530
people from the record label that I've known now for
1014
00:40:57.570 --> 00:40:59.530
such a long time, and I just, like, put them
1015
00:40:59.559 --> 00:41:00.940
into a corner and get my phone out and show
1016
00:41:00.960 --> 00:41:01.860
them loads of photos of A-Dub.
1017
00:41:02.760 --> 00:41:02.920
Yeah.
1018
00:41:03.039 --> 00:41:06.019
I am that guy. I know. I am that guy.
1019
00:41:06.780 --> 00:41:07.000
Yeah.
1020
00:41:07.099 --> 00:41:10.500
And I'm, like, if they've got kids, then I'm straight
1021
00:41:10.539 --> 00:41:12.920
into all the... What is to everybody else really mundane.
1022
00:41:13.199 --> 00:41:16.480
I remember when she was tiny... one of the easiest
1023
00:41:16.539 --> 00:41:19.550
ways for her to fall asleep was like on my shoulder,
1024
00:41:19.809 --> 00:41:23.250
but it was like, she was so far over my shoulder.
1025
00:41:23.349 --> 00:41:25.090
I was basically holding her by the ankles.
1026
00:41:26.409 --> 00:41:27.789
Like a kind of fireman's lift.
1027
00:41:27.909 --> 00:41:35.199
Yeah. Like a proper, like she's like, or roadkill. I'd
1028
00:41:35.219 --> 00:41:37.519
be like, like, I mean, so many times in a day,
1029
00:41:37.559 --> 00:41:40.210
I'd be like, this is, Is she all right? Look
1030
00:41:40.489 --> 00:41:42.289
at this position. Take a picture.
1031
00:41:42.530 --> 00:41:43.230
Take a picture.
1032
00:41:43.730 --> 00:41:47.659
And then I remember showing people, friends again who already
1033
00:41:47.679 --> 00:41:49.800
had babies. I'd be going, is this normal? It's okay.
1034
00:41:49.900 --> 00:41:51.900
I feel like my shoulder is just cracking her ribs.
1035
00:41:53.260 --> 00:41:56.380
Well, you do find, I could get my second baby.
1036
00:41:56.900 --> 00:41:59.400
off to sleep so like really well like it was
1037
00:41:59.420 --> 00:42:01.599
just a thing like if she's struggling i used to
1038
00:42:01.619 --> 00:42:03.219
put her arm under there and i had this technique
1039
00:42:03.239 --> 00:42:04.800
and did that and i could get her asleep like
1040
00:42:04.860 --> 00:42:06.519
really quickly and it was actually a bit weird it
1041
00:42:06.559 --> 00:42:08.579
was like a superpower where i'd go i'll give it
1042
00:42:08.599 --> 00:42:10.659
to me bang asleep and i could never do it
1043
00:42:10.679 --> 00:42:12.829
with the first one i've never done it to have
1044
00:42:12.889 --> 00:42:15.110
another kid like but for this baby i could just
1045
00:42:15.130 --> 00:42:17.190
do that and then um i remember it was on
1046
00:42:17.210 --> 00:42:18.769
when i was in holiday with they had a nine
1047
00:42:18.809 --> 00:42:21.130
month old and i tried to do i was like
1048
00:42:21.769 --> 00:42:23.570
give her i'd get her to sleep thinking that i'll
1049
00:42:23.610 --> 00:42:27.170
still have the skills awful started crying kid I felt like,
1050
00:42:27.190 --> 00:42:29.489
you know, like an old boxer in the pub when
1051
00:42:29.510 --> 00:42:31.679
he's 50, he goes, let's go outside. He just gets
1052
00:42:31.760 --> 00:42:35.739
absolutely battered. This kid was like, I was scratching my face.
1053
00:42:35.900 --> 00:42:37.039
It was awful.
1054
00:42:37.179 --> 00:42:40.159
That change happened so quickly. I felt like, yeah, I
1055
00:42:40.179 --> 00:42:42.980
felt like I had these superpowers literally the same as
1056
00:42:43.019 --> 00:42:45.039
you to get Ada to go to sleep. I'd hold
1057
00:42:45.059 --> 00:42:47.940
her in a certain way and she's gone. I rock
1058
00:42:47.980 --> 00:42:50.670
her like four times and she's gone. Or like hum
1059
00:42:50.690 --> 00:42:54.409
some completely random made up tune and just like gently
1060
00:42:54.449 --> 00:42:57.679
and she's gone. And then suddenly, all these things just slightly,
1061
00:42:57.719 --> 00:43:01.420
as she wakes up and grows up and wakes up
1062
00:43:01.500 --> 00:43:05.260
to the world, every day a little bit more, my
1063
00:43:05.320 --> 00:43:07.389
powers just disappear. Yeah.
1064
00:43:07.670 --> 00:43:11.030
And soon, soon, mate, she'll be at university and she
1065
00:43:11.070 --> 00:43:11.809
won't even phone.
1066
00:43:11.849 --> 00:43:16.530
Josh, I love that you're saying that. You're not even
1067
00:43:16.590 --> 00:43:17.190
there yet.
1068
00:43:17.289 --> 00:43:25.130
LAUGHTER Well, I mean, my daughter's only six, but she
1069
00:43:25.150 --> 00:43:27.590
already writes notes saying, I don't like you, you make
1070
00:43:27.630 --> 00:43:28.690
me sad, and leave them.
1071
00:43:28.659 --> 00:43:31.480
On my pillow. Oh, how are you going to deal
1072
00:43:31.500 --> 00:43:31.730
with it?
1073
00:43:31.739 --> 00:43:33.320
Well, I find it quite funny. She's only doing it
1074
00:43:33.360 --> 00:43:34.119
for a reaction.
1075
00:43:34.159 --> 00:43:35.139
Oh, no, I meant James.
1076
00:43:35.179 --> 00:43:37.780
Oh, James, James. He can detect how weak I am
1077
00:43:37.800 --> 00:43:38.219
at this point.
1078
00:43:38.239 --> 00:43:41.139
How are you going to deal with that? You know
1079
00:43:41.199 --> 00:43:44.829
I don't give a fuck, Josh, about that. But no,
1080
00:43:44.949 --> 00:43:47.929
you are incredibly vulnerable when you've got your newborn because
1081
00:43:47.969 --> 00:43:50.630
it is so precious and they're so small. And you
1082
00:43:50.650 --> 00:43:52.530
have this huge... What it is, is this huge weight
1083
00:43:52.570 --> 00:43:55.269
of a responsibility of, I've got this now, I've got
1084
00:43:55.309 --> 00:43:56.809
to provide for this child, I've got to help this
1085
00:43:56.849 --> 00:43:59.679
child navigate through the world. But it's like anyone, that's
1086
00:43:59.699 --> 00:44:01.000
the first couple of weeks of a new job.
1087
00:44:01.079 --> 00:44:04.099
You are just excited to... say to like you know
1088
00:44:04.320 --> 00:44:06.199
calling around mates and saying look we've had a baby
1089
00:44:06.239 --> 00:44:08.179
and she's all well and everything lucy's well and everybody's
1090
00:44:08.219 --> 00:44:11.340
fine like that that is the first five days five
1091
00:44:11.400 --> 00:44:13.630
weeks even when you're going through all that mad sort
1092
00:44:13.650 --> 00:44:14.889
of you know no sleep and.
1093
00:44:14.869 --> 00:44:17.210
Everything yeah did you get annoyed with visitors was that
1094
00:44:17.230 --> 00:44:18.369
annoying loads of visitors.
1095
00:44:18.250 --> 00:44:21.210
Definitely it was it was like it was brilliant but
1096
00:44:21.289 --> 00:44:23.329
it's that thing of you say okay come around at
1097
00:44:23.389 --> 00:44:26.139
two and they're like sort of knocking on the door
1098
00:44:26.179 --> 00:44:31.030
about sort of 25 past two yeah A friend of ours,
1099
00:44:31.150 --> 00:44:32.969
a great old friend of ours the other day said
1100
00:44:33.409 --> 00:44:34.880
he was supposed to come out at two and he
1101
00:44:35.110 --> 00:44:37.719
actually had an emergency thing he had to deal with.
1102
00:44:37.960 --> 00:44:41.119
And then later, about 4.30, he said, I could still
1103
00:44:41.179 --> 00:44:46.829
come in. thinking about dinner and bed at five 30. Yeah.
1104
00:44:46.909 --> 00:44:50.030
I was like, I'm really sorry, man. But like our
1105
00:44:50.050 --> 00:44:53.219
day starts to wrap up quick. Yeah. Actually, that's a really,
1106
00:44:53.260 --> 00:44:54.760
that's a big thing. I think I've been starting to
1107
00:44:54.780 --> 00:44:56.800
think to myself lately, we're getting up at seven and
1108
00:44:57.079 --> 00:44:59.719
I'm thinking in 12 hours, we're literally shutting down and like,
1109
00:44:59.800 --> 00:45:00.539
everybody's going to bed.
1110
00:45:00.880 --> 00:45:03.099
Yeah, in lockdown, our kids were going to bed at
1111
00:45:03.159 --> 00:45:05.519
five o'clock at night because they were waking up at
1112
00:45:05.559 --> 00:45:08.019
five a.m. anyway. So we used to put them to
1113
00:45:08.039 --> 00:45:10.519
bed at five o'clock. They'd sleep 12 hours, wake up
1114
00:45:10.559 --> 00:45:13.139
at five. And then we just shifted back a few
1115
00:45:13.159 --> 00:45:14.880
hours because if you put them to bed late, they'd
1116
00:45:14.900 --> 00:45:16.320
always wake up at five. So then me and Lou
1117
00:45:16.340 --> 00:45:18.389
had a really long evening together, even though the days
1118
00:45:18.429 --> 00:45:20.469
were long. But yeah, people, when they come around and go,
1119
00:45:20.489 --> 00:45:22.730
I don't know why someone came around. We used to
1120
00:45:22.750 --> 00:45:25.329
have a parking permit and they came around at 10.
1121
00:45:25.309 --> 00:45:27.269
I went, oh yeah, I put two hours on the parking.
1122
00:45:27.789 --> 00:45:28.030
Why?
1123
00:45:28.050 --> 00:45:32.480
Why? Where are you going after this? You're going next
1124
00:45:32.500 --> 00:45:33.139
door for an hour.
1125
00:45:35.530 --> 00:45:36.809
What time are you going to bed, James?
1126
00:45:37.389 --> 00:45:41.250
We are like nine. What are you wearing? Sorry.
1127
00:45:43.090 --> 00:45:44.860
Don't say that out loud.
1128
00:45:44.880 --> 00:45:47.480
Just the silk gloves, Rob. Just a pair of silk gloves.
1129
00:45:48.539 --> 00:45:51.539
Yeah, we're going to bed at nine. I mean, I'm
1130
00:45:51.559 --> 00:45:53.519
just more than ever. I'm sort of at 8.30. I'm
1131
00:45:53.559 --> 00:45:56.909
like shattered half the time. And like, well, that's the
1132
00:45:56.929 --> 00:45:59.110
maddest thing about 9pm. And maybe it's the same for
1133
00:45:59.150 --> 00:46:00.969
you guys. That's stage time. Yeah.
1134
00:46:01.050 --> 00:46:03.710
I get a burst of energy about 10 o'clock at
1135
00:46:03.750 --> 00:46:06.389
night when I've normally finished my show. So I'll get
1136
00:46:06.449 --> 00:46:08.510
all tired about 7, 8 and then I'll watch a
1137
00:46:08.510 --> 00:46:11.429
bit of telly. Then I'm eyes wide awake at 10
1138
00:46:11.429 --> 00:46:11.820
at night.
1139
00:46:11.860 --> 00:46:14.119
The difference as well, like last night I was out
1140
00:46:14.139 --> 00:46:17.679
a bit later doing this music video and I got
1141
00:46:17.820 --> 00:46:22.260
home at about 9pm. And like pre-baby, I would have
1142
00:46:22.280 --> 00:46:24.519
got home at nine. We would have been texting as
1143
00:46:24.539 --> 00:46:25.659
I was on my way home about what we were
1144
00:46:25.679 --> 00:46:26.369
going to watch on TV.
1145
00:46:26.409 --> 00:46:26.849
Yeah.
1146
00:46:27.030 --> 00:46:28.710
Should we order something in, some food?
1147
00:46:28.769 --> 00:46:28.949
Yeah.
1148
00:46:29.090 --> 00:46:30.829
Get a bottle of red. Yeah.
1149
00:46:30.949 --> 00:46:33.030
It would always be like what dinner I can sort
1150
00:46:33.050 --> 00:46:35.489
of put together or whatever. And last night I got home,
1151
00:46:35.510 --> 00:46:37.230
had a bowl of porridge and went up. Yeah.
1152
00:46:38.699 --> 00:46:39.840
Who are you? The three bears?
1153
00:46:40.300 --> 00:46:41.099
Literally.
1154
00:46:41.179 --> 00:46:43.460
I was like, something that won't wake me up later
1155
00:46:43.480 --> 00:46:45.000
in the night. Something that will fill me up. I
1156
00:46:45.019 --> 00:46:46.539
can put it together quick when I get in.
1157
00:46:46.880 --> 00:46:48.769
Rock and roll isn't where it used to be, is it?
1158
00:46:48.820 --> 00:46:52.349
Josh, mate, it's not. Weirdly, I suppose it's like, once
1159
00:46:52.389 --> 00:46:55.010
you accept it, it's all very welcome. It's not rock
1160
00:46:55.030 --> 00:46:55.630
and roll to say it.
1161
00:46:55.769 --> 00:46:58.639
No, but yeah, totally. It's about going, this is me now.
1162
00:46:58.739 --> 00:47:01.780
Yeah, absolutely. And like... so many mates of mine that
1163
00:47:01.800 --> 00:47:03.260
have got, I've got a good few mates who've got
1164
00:47:03.280 --> 00:47:05.599
like a two-year-old, three-year-old and they're like, that first year
1165
00:47:05.659 --> 00:47:07.840
is crazy. Just get your head down. Get your head
1166
00:47:07.860 --> 00:47:09.440
down literally and just sort of get your head down
1167
00:47:09.460 --> 00:47:10.920
and sort of get through it. But, and it's got,
1168
00:47:10.940 --> 00:47:14.050
don't get me wrong also, like, again, all the cliches
1169
00:47:14.110 --> 00:47:16.420
are true. I can't deal with just, I just look
1170
00:47:16.440 --> 00:47:18.179
at her and I see a bit of Lucy and
1171
00:47:18.199 --> 00:47:19.239
I see a bit of me and I see all
1172
00:47:19.300 --> 00:47:21.400
of Ada, all myself. And it just, all of it
1173
00:47:21.440 --> 00:47:22.079
melts my heart.
1174
00:47:22.280 --> 00:47:24.039
It's so funny. I like, cause we've had a few
1175
00:47:24.059 --> 00:47:28.070
musicians on and stuff, like how musicians and artists are so,
1176
00:47:28.150 --> 00:47:31.469
so deep and deep thinking and comedians, just such horrible
1177
00:47:31.489 --> 00:47:32.309
little bastards.
1178
00:47:32.650 --> 00:47:33.329
We're horrible.
1179
00:47:33.349 --> 00:47:37.329
Yeah. I mean, there's such a deeper sort of like,
1180
00:47:37.349 --> 00:47:40.869
I don't know, purity to musicians I find sometimes. It's
1181
00:47:40.889 --> 00:47:42.679
so sweet. I think it's sweet as well to, you know,
1182
00:47:42.719 --> 00:47:46.360
you don't normally hear dads traditionally being this sort of involved,
1183
00:47:46.460 --> 00:47:48.679
which is, I think, but most dads do feel like this,
1184
00:47:48.699 --> 00:47:50.800
but don't really express it. So it's good to be expressed.
1185
00:47:51.000 --> 00:47:53.119
Well, I can't help it in many respects, but, and
1186
00:47:53.139 --> 00:47:54.789
also don't get me wrong. So much of it sort
1187
00:47:54.809 --> 00:47:57.429
of completely like confuses me. Like there's all manner of
1188
00:47:57.449 --> 00:48:00.730
different things. Like I can't, still can't quite deal with
1189
00:48:00.769 --> 00:48:03.690
the fact that like I did genuinely, it sounds cliche
1190
00:48:03.730 --> 00:48:05.809
or stereotypical. I listened to a lot of music before
1191
00:48:05.829 --> 00:48:08.030
I had a baby. I was listening to different records.
1192
00:48:08.349 --> 00:48:10.630
Now all I've got is nursery rhymes in my head. Yeah.
1193
00:48:10.949 --> 00:48:13.829
Your Spotify wrapped is going to be an absolute disaster
1194
00:48:13.949 --> 00:48:14.550
at the end of the year.
1195
00:48:15.230 --> 00:48:19.590
I can't post that. And, and like things blow my mind.
1196
00:48:19.630 --> 00:48:22.329
Like she's got all sorts of different, like fun little
1197
00:48:22.349 --> 00:48:24.739
sort of chew toys and things. She just goes for
1198
00:48:24.760 --> 00:48:25.260
the label.
1199
00:48:25.440 --> 00:48:27.599
You know, the little black and white.
1200
00:48:27.440 --> 00:48:29.739
Label on the end of a soft toy that's just
1201
00:48:29.800 --> 00:48:32.619
as soft as the toy. And she's just desperate for that.
1202
00:48:32.639 --> 00:48:34.670
There's this whole, like, fluffy dragon.
1203
00:48:34.710 --> 00:48:36.730
Yeah, they don't like anything you think they're going to like.
1204
00:48:36.909 --> 00:48:37.110
No.
1205
00:48:37.210 --> 00:48:39.309
You know, they never like the cool sort of toy.
1206
00:48:39.349 --> 00:48:41.250
You know, there's people that are in, like, I hate plastic.
1207
00:48:41.269 --> 00:48:43.070
I'd only get wooden toys for my kid. Fair enough,
1208
00:48:43.090 --> 00:48:45.219
but a kid's going to hate all those toys. They
1209
00:48:45.260 --> 00:48:46.900
want some shiny, horrible plastic shit.
1210
00:48:47.340 --> 00:48:49.219
We always end on the same question, James, which I
1211
00:48:49.239 --> 00:48:50.699
think you're going to find a struggle.
1212
00:48:51.260 --> 00:48:52.599
You know I'm going to find it a struggle.
1213
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You're a fan of the podcast, so you know the question,
1214
00:48:55.340 --> 00:48:58.659
which is which thing that your partner does that you
1215
00:48:58.719 --> 00:49:01.159
haven't said to them that annoys you?
1216
00:49:01.760 --> 00:49:04.320
It's a difficult one because she does such a fantastic job.
1217
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But you've definitely thought about it and got one lined up.
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--> 00:49:09.869
He's got one lined up, Josh. Look at you. Hang on,
1219
00:49:09.889 --> 00:49:12.409
why have you got that notepad out? We only need one.
1220
00:49:14.329 --> 00:49:18.090
Put the whiteboard away. What's this big spider diagram?
1221
00:49:18.409 --> 00:49:20.460
There's a little one which is like, I think we
1222
00:49:20.500 --> 00:49:23.019
all wish that we all would sort of stop Googling
1223
00:49:23.079 --> 00:49:23.679
quite so much.
1224
00:49:24.159 --> 00:49:25.400
Yeah, Googling.
1225
00:49:25.840 --> 00:49:27.539
Have you tried Ask Jeeves?
1226
00:49:30.320 --> 00:49:34.920
Yeah. This hasn't actually happened for a while, but it
1227
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certainly has always sort of stuck in my mind. For
1228
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a time early on, Ada was in the bed with
1229
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us for like early on when she was little. And
1230
00:49:42.309 --> 00:49:44.130
we were sort of up every hour or whatever, every
1231
00:49:44.170 --> 00:49:47.219
other hour. And Lucy particularly, we were changing her and
1232
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Lucy was feeding her. And I remember if I like
1233
00:49:51.420 --> 00:49:53.699
changed her and then put Ada in the bed and
1234
00:49:53.900 --> 00:49:55.360
then I went to the toilet to sort of wash
1235
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my hands. I just, this always riled me. I would
1236
00:49:58.699 --> 00:50:00.480
come back in the bed and in the dark, Lucy
1237
00:50:00.500 --> 00:50:05.670
would go, do you wash your hands? I would say, yeah.
1238
00:50:06.519 --> 00:50:08.820
And there's a little silence and she'd go, with soap.
1239
00:50:09.179 --> 00:50:12.760
It was the.
1240
00:50:11.760 --> 00:50:15.320
Hard time thinking about Ada. Why do you think I am?
1241
00:50:15.800 --> 00:50:18.420
Yes, I have washed my hands.
1242
00:50:18.480 --> 00:50:19.550
Yeah, I've washed my hands with soap.
1243
00:50:20.570 --> 00:50:21.690
And he washed your hands.
1244
00:50:21.769 --> 00:50:23.789
No, I've wiped the shit out of my arse with
1245
00:50:23.809 --> 00:50:24.550
my bare hands.
1246
00:50:25.590 --> 00:50:27.610
So, yeah, no, it doesn't really happen anymore, but that
1247
00:50:27.650 --> 00:50:29.869
one did get me up. She's stopped now. She trusts me.
1248
00:50:30.150 --> 00:50:31.820
Oh, wait, I hope she listens to this and then
1249
00:50:31.960 --> 00:50:32.539
asks you again.
1250
00:50:32.599 --> 00:50:34.780
The thing is she will, but the fact is she will.
1251
00:50:34.800 --> 00:50:36.159
She's a massive fan as well of the podcast.
1252
00:50:36.179 --> 00:50:39.300
And also, if you do bump into James Bay in
1253
00:50:39.320 --> 00:50:41.389
the street or go to his gigs, please ask him
1254
00:50:41.409 --> 00:50:44.050
if he's washed his hands. And when he says yes, say,
1255
00:50:44.150 --> 00:50:47.750
with soap. If someone could hold a sign saying, have
1256
00:50:47.769 --> 00:50:49.489
you washed your hands, that
is next gig.
1257
00:50:49.530 --> 00:50:53.019
You've done it now. It's done. It's happening. Lads, this
1258
00:50:53.099 --> 00:50:55.380
is genuinely, though, can I just say, for me and Lucy,
1259
00:50:55.400 --> 00:50:58.420
and obviously for so many parents, your podcast is incredible
1260
00:50:58.539 --> 00:50:59.679
and helpful and brilliant.
1261
00:50:59.880 --> 00:51:00.519
Oh, thank you.
1262
00:51:00.599 --> 00:51:01.300
Oh, thanks, mate.
1263
00:51:01.469 --> 00:51:04.250
I'd have to dispute helpful, but I'll accept the other one.
1264
00:51:05.500 --> 00:51:07.159
I mean, you've been brilliant. Thanks for coming on. It's
1265
00:51:07.179 --> 00:51:08.639
just so good as well, listening to people that have
1266
00:51:08.659 --> 00:51:11.090
got the newborn babies because it is such a mad
1267
00:51:11.369 --> 00:51:13.409
life experience at that point. And also, have you got
1268
00:51:13.449 --> 00:51:15.530
your new album and stuff like that? Let's plug that. Look,
1269
00:51:15.769 --> 00:51:18.210
you're too pure. You've not even mentioned your plug-in.
1270
00:51:18.289 --> 00:51:18.789
We didn't.
1271
00:51:19.130 --> 00:51:21.070
Because we were meant to have you on before, which
1272
00:51:21.130 --> 00:51:23.300
was just before the single came out, right?
1273
00:51:23.340 --> 00:51:25.579
Lads, I sent you the song and then we cancelled
1274
00:51:25.599 --> 00:51:26.780
the podcast. I know.
1275
00:51:26.960 --> 00:51:30.400
Yeah, that was awkward. But my wife did have appendicitis.
1276
00:51:30.639 --> 00:51:31.519
Is she all right?
1277
00:51:31.539 --> 00:51:33.199
Yeah, but she didn't have it until she listened to
1278
00:51:33.239 --> 00:51:35.559
the song, though. So I don't know if that's... give me.
1279
00:51:35.469 --> 00:51:39.110
The reason yeah that's the single at the moment there'll
1280
00:51:39.130 --> 00:51:40.869
be another one and then the album we haven't got
1281
00:51:40.889 --> 00:51:42.269
a date for the album but it's coming later in
1282
00:51:42.309 --> 00:51:44.929
the year and there's all sorts of touring I'm actually
1283
00:51:44.949 --> 00:51:47.710
just about to do like my first UK tour my
1284
00:51:47.730 --> 00:51:51.059
first tour with a band since 2019 oh wow but
1285
00:51:51.099 --> 00:51:53.860
yeah so all of that's happening music's happening but yeah
1286
00:51:54.079 --> 00:51:56.260
I'm trying to be a dad now as well it's mental.
1287
00:51:56.519 --> 00:51:58.380
Well you're doing a good job mate keep it up
1288
00:51:58.480 --> 00:51:58.880
thank you.
1289
00:51:58.800 --> 00:52:01.280
Guys cheers bro cheers James thanks mate bye.
1290
00:52:03.429 --> 00:52:05.969
James Bay, what a lovely bloke James Bay is.
1291
00:52:06.349 --> 00:52:08.309
Very nice man, Rob.
1292
00:52:08.889 --> 00:52:10.590
Oh, what, he loves his kid, doesn't he? Bless him.
1293
00:52:10.750 --> 00:52:12.239
Yeah, bless that, please.
1294
00:52:12.260 --> 00:52:15.519
Do you know what's funny was, normally I'm the one
1295
00:52:15.559 --> 00:52:18.199
people expect to wind someone up when I was saying, oh, what,
1296
00:52:18.219 --> 00:52:19.739
your kid can't walk yet? But then you went in
1297
00:52:19.840 --> 00:52:21.159
hard with the university stuff.
1298
00:52:21.179 --> 00:52:21.579
Yeah, I love it.
1299
00:52:21.579 --> 00:52:23.780
I think let's go in. Let's show him who's boss here.
1300
00:52:24.130 --> 00:52:25.670
This is pretty alpha podcast.
1301
00:52:25.829 --> 00:52:27.510
You two-footed James Bay.
1302
00:52:27.550 --> 00:52:30.869
It's very rare that I'm the alpha male of the group, Rob.
1303
00:52:30.909 --> 00:52:31.389
I enjoyed that.
1304
00:52:31.449 --> 00:52:31.710
It is.
1305
00:52:31.929 --> 00:52:33.769
Do you know what? I think that's the first time
1306
00:52:33.809 --> 00:52:34.730
I've seen you be alpha.
1307
00:52:35.010 --> 00:52:37.590
Thanks, mate. Went in studs up, early doors.
1308
00:52:37.610 --> 00:52:40.409
Balls out, squeezed his nuts, Gazza and Vinnie Jones.
1309
00:52:40.710 --> 00:52:42.429
Exactly. Rob, can I be honest?
1310
00:52:42.679 --> 00:52:42.800
Yeah.
1311
00:52:43.179 --> 00:52:44.940
Last ten minutes I've really needed a piss and I
1312
00:52:44.960 --> 00:52:46.539
still need it. Can I go to the toilet?
1313
00:52:46.900 --> 00:52:48.019
Yeah, go and have a piss.
1314
00:52:48.059 --> 00:52:48.800
I will wash my hands.
1315
00:52:48.840 --> 00:52:49.880
Yeah, wash your hands. With soap?
1316
00:52:50.099 --> 00:52:50.579
With soap.
1317
00:52:50.820 --> 00:52:52.960
Perfect. James Bay, everyone. What a lovely fella. Go and
1318
00:52:52.980 --> 00:52:54.840
see him on tour and listen to his new song.
1319
00:52:54.880 --> 00:52:55.199
Cheers. Bye.
1320
00:52:55.380 --> 00:52:55.579
Bye.