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What is up?
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I'm Grace Beverley and welcome back to Working Hard, the
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podcast-shaped guidebook on how to improve your own life and
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achieve what you actually dreamed of doing, because life's too
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short for boring podcasts and bad advice. What is up
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and welcome back to Working Hard. I am joined by
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Zara MacDonald and Michelle Andrews, the founders of Shameless Media
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and the hosts of the Shameless Podcasts. which has been
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one of my go-to podcasts for absolutely years. And since
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starting the podcast as a side hustle back in 2018,
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they've built Shameless Media into a podcast network that accounts
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for 10% of Australia's podcast wealth and was reported to
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be on track to make over 10 million AUD in
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revenue in 2025. So if you want to turn your
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passion into a multi-million dollar business or you want to
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hear more about exactly how they've done that while staying
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true to their values and building a life that they
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actually want, love and want to live every day, this
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episode is very much for you. Before we get into it,
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could you please do yourselves and me a favor and
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follow the podcast wherever you're listening to it on right now?
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I really want to keep this podcast completely free for
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everyone like it always has been and I want to
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keep making it even better and doing bonus episodes and
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ready to help you improve your life every single Monday
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completely free. Zara McDonald and Michelle Andrews, are you currently
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more working hard or hardly working?
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We're working hard. Yeah, it's funny. I think we're working
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slightly less than we ever had. Yeah. Do you think that?
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Time spent working down.
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Good.
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Intensity of working way up. Inspiring. Yeah.
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And I want
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to come on to talk about that
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because I think I've heard you speak about that, particularly
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when you were like setting your intentions for this year.
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And I thought that was very, I don't think we
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hear that being talked about enough.
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Our intention for the year is destroy. Destroy, but also worthless,
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which means they shouldn't usually work together. Yeah. It can.
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It can. We're trying to prove to ourselves that it can.
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And do you find that the increased productivity but lower
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time spent working, is it working for you?
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Well, yeah. We've both gone part-time this year.
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I had a baby in May last year, so I'm
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working three days a week.
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Zaz is down to four. I would say it is.
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I think the thing and the great benefit of having
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a co-founder is And the unique thing about how Michelle
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and I work together is I probably won't work with
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anyone as well as I do, Michelle. I mean, not
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I think. I know that for a fact. And I
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think we work incredibly efficiently together and very productively together.
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And we always knew this, but I think last year
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when Michelle had so much on her plate, caring for
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a baby, caring for her mom, and I was kind
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of working in the business by myself, I realized how
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much slower I was working and how much longer everything
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was taking me. Because I think when it's the two
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of us together, it's not just Oh, we're twice as fast.
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I would say when the two of us are together,
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it's like. 10 times. Yeah. That like exponential. Yeah.
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But I feel like that's really important. And I feel
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like working out those inflection points. whatever that might be
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for you. Like there might be someone listening to this
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who has a co-founder and that's true for them, but
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lots of people are obviously doing their solo careers. I
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think that even just working out like how you work
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best and like what conditions you work best in and
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what's actually conducive to like a better overall work environment.
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Because I think that what I got wrong that I
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only really noticed over the last two years is is
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that I've just clearly always aspired to work the most possible,
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not actually because that's what I want to do, but
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because that's to me was like equated with success.
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and more and increasing that overall capacity and input as
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well as output.
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And it just did not end up well for me.
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It's really interesting. I actually think, I wonder if you
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agree with this, having a baby... and my time looking different,
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and also caring for a terminally ill mum last year,
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about what our priorities were, how we actually needed to
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serve the business, where we wanted to go with it all.
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we realised when we looked across our week... We were
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actually spending a lot of time in things that did
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not require us. And we were creating like a big
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bottleneck because we were across every single thing. We were
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holding some of the team back, I think.
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think that's definitely true. And I think it's the most
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like unoriginal experience for any founder where you have to
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relinquish some level of control. And that is like incredibly
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hard when you feel like you are actually the one
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that needs to be responsible for every decision. But I
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actually think we've always been relatively boundaried with work. Like
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even when we started this, we worked so much, but
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I think we always knew we never wanted to work
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that much. We knew we needed to work that much
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to get this thing off the ground. But the minute
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we didn't have to, I was going to stop. My
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life outside of work has always meant so much to me.
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we had that balance. And I think we always had
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that balance. It was then getting to the point where
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it's like, okay, we have balance Monday to Friday, nine
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to five. How do we get this to a three
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day a week and a four day a week job? Yeah.
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And so that's been really interesting for us in the
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last couple of months.
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because I think that's both interesting and I think really
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important that you've been public about that. Because I think
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particularly with female founders who have to prove themselves over
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and over and over in a way that we don't
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necessarily see from other founders, I think that there's an
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aspect of needing to prove that you are doing the
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maximum output at all times. in order to prove that
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you're even working hard towards your goal, which just actually
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isn't true because if the most effective and productive way
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of running the company is to change that, then great,
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let's do that. But I think that I definitely have
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like treaded water for years because I've been like, if
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at any point, like for Tala, for example, I've been like,
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full time on Tala, despite the fact that I also
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have multiple other jobs. And so it's been crazy, but
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that's purely because I've been like wanting to prove to everyone,
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investors in particular, like, well, I'm a.
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Hundred percent on this.
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other businesses, like, you couldn't get someone more on this.
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Is that to say, like, I deserve it? If I
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put all these hours in, I deserve the success that.
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Comes from it. Exactly. Oh, it's 100% an insecurity thing. Yeah. Well,
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I mean, at least we got to the bottom of it.
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But I'd love to know.
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When you were younger what were your
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Careers I was that young kid who created magazines like
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I had a magazine called lipstick that I charged my
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that's so family for I don't.
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Be in a rom-com yeah when they were like oh
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children with all these magazines which that was me.
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I love that and I'd love writing movie scripts for
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my family and I'd like force them all to participate
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and I'd film them. That was me as a young
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kid and then I think the older I got. In
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high school, I really didn't think that you could go
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into the media and actually, I didn't really know what
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media jobs looked like.
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I didn't think you could make money at all.
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going to be a physiotherapist for a long time.
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blogging as a teenager and then pretty quickly found my
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way Yeah, I think not dissimilarly, I was quite obsessive
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about women's magazines when I was a kid. You loved writing.
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I loved writing and I loved magazines. And it is
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really interesting what those initial goals you have when you're
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younger because I think by the time you get to
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high school, a lot of people started warning me off
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going to journalism and going into the media. Yeah. And
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you start to lose the gusto and motivation for it
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because everyone's like, there are no jobs and it's very,
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very hard to crack into. And I also didn't know
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anyone in media. I didn't know how to do it.
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You hear all the fear. You hear all the fear.
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And my siblings were all going into like a very
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stable career in the law. And so I was kind
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of like, well, I guess it's not that dissimilar. So
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I spent a lot of time thinking about that. But
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at the 11th hour, still decided to pursue journalism, knowing
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full well I had no idea what I was going
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to do with it. But I think the core of
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what we wanted was the same. I think Over the years,
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we just got scared off a little bit. Yeah. And
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so having been scared off it, you then.
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Is that kind of what happened? And that's how you
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two met. Is that right?
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We met at our first career jobs. We were both
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interns at a publication called Mamma Mia. It's huge here
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in Australia. We were both at the satellite office in Melbourne.
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It's based in Sydney. We were at this Melbourne office.
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first job was like editorial coordinator or assistant or.
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a lot of time. Big editorial work. Yeah, yeah, yeah.
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the editors to read them.
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All the serious writers would like send you their stuff
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and you just had to like format it. That was
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basically the job. So everyone would throw you things. And
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met across the.
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Room and we fell in love as a world. Yeah, yeah, yeah.
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a slow burn.
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just the two of us in the office, and we
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slowly realized how much we had in common and also
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the way we liked seeing content was so neatly aligned.
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we have a very specific taste in content and how–
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We think it sticks. And I think we always just
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agree with that from the start. And we've never disagreed
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on that. Like, we have never disagreed on what good
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content is.
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And what year was that approximately? Because I'm trying to
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think of the, like, social media landscape. 2015.
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Okay, so super early social media landscape. Very early.
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big on the kind of.
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parenting, personal story, blogging. Facebook. The Facebook algorithm was huge.
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were around media at this time, but in Australia, what
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the biggest thing was, was all these digital publications were
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starting to struggle because the Facebook algorithm changed and then
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all these business models started to collapse. Right. I wasn't
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actually around media.
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That was the year that I started my dedicated K-9
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fitness account.
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So you understand part of it. I was in media.
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Hair fit. Hair fit. I was a publication. You were
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a mobile.
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If you're thinking about it.
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And what I'm really interested in, because I think that,
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said that so many of the people in my office, like,
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massive shameless fans and I was talking to them about
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like okay if you're not going to hear shameless in
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the format that it comes in what do you actually
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want to know about you guys and the behind the
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scenes and more about you as people because I think
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that we hear a lot about you as people in
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a really clever way through the existing formats that you
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do but I think there's so much that comes up
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from that because it's not the focus it's like so
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much more interest in the wider like what you've been
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able to do The big thing that came through when
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started as writers and then decided to start a podcast.
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we've got a podcast. This can take off like we're
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in early days of podcasting and it's actually doing really well.
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Let's try to do the biggest podcast possible.
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Instead, you were like, we're going to do a podcast
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network and like start this company, which I don't think
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is a natural way of thinking.
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a company. Yeah.
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So what gave you that like think bigger kind of mindset?
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the start was fact we had a surplus of ideas.
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just got so many ideas and we can't shove them
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all into Shameless. No, you're so right. And so it
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started with that to say, okay, well, we had the
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surplus of ideas. What do we do with them? We
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could make 20 shows, maybe not 20, that's probably an exaggeration,
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but I think we could make five or six shows
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tomorrow if we wanted to, because we've got ideas sitting
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in our back pockets and that we've been speaking about.
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pressure that we And this is the thing. I'm sure
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every podcaster feels this. We just wanted to do something
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about it and rid ourselves of this pressure. But so
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much of our income and our revenue was tied to
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the two of us just sitting down every day talking.
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a founder. I wouldn't say like as a person, I'm
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like the most risk averse. But I think in comparison
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to other founders, I'm pretty averse. I think we were
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definitely like, well, what happens if something happens here? If
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life gets in the way? We definitely spent a lot
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of time thinking about, well, what if we want kids?
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to just go straight at one show with one product
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dependent on the two of us always turning up. And
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so we needed to diversify how we were bringing in money.
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I think it also was born out of us just
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genuinely having a bit of fun doing it. Yeah. Kind
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of funny because I don't think we sat down and
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were like, and here's the vision for like this huge
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podcast network. We really like creating shit together. We have
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a really, really good time.
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Zara had this incredible idea four years ago.
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between us that this idea gets put up and it's
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like we have to do that. And so a lot
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of it has been born out of just genuine passion
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for creating shows that we wish were out there. And
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the fun of the idea to actual existence process. And
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so sometimes I think we look back, like we do
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this all the time, probably at least a few times
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a year where we're like, oh God, was this the
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right path to take? We could have easily just taken
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and been far less stressed.
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But it wouldn't have been as fulfilling.
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We find it so fulfilling to create the things we
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want to see out there.
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Well, because I also think that there's a very specific
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place for creators to in the wider business world. I
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say that not necessarily in terms of that being the
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right thing. I just think, for example, when you just
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said that, like you could sell it to a network
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essentially and work for them and probably get a big
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payout and and go into work essentially as um contracted
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you know podcasters I think the reality is then the
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creativity is really stripped from that role it's like we've
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signed you as the people who are
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rather than necessarily like I think the one person who's
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really broken out of that who's been sold to a
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network would be Alex Cooper and like who quite clearly
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has some involvement in like the wider creation of ideas
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and like all of this but I think that that's
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such a smart thing to recognize early because I think
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had I been in your position I would naturally think
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like what is the fastest path to most prestigious success
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which in my mind would have been like oh well
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when I'm co-signed by a bigger company that to me
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is like again.
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Oh, come on, I'm talking to security babes. Like, you know, fine.
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Most things for all of us, too.
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smart thing of you to have worked out so early on.
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We enjoy the curation and creation and ideation. And actually,
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we only get that if we have pretty full on ownership,
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or at least it's carved out as like, this.
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Is our role. To be really self-aware, though, because that
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is a nice thing to recognise, but I don't think
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it was that smart at the start because we did
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want to go to a network. No one wanted us.
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And I think that's important to know. No one would
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pick us up for the first year.
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It wasn't like we rejected this beautiful offer of amazing
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money and if we could go back in time and
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that offer was on the table, could I guarantee we
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would have said no?
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It just wasn't there. But by the time it came
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was when we were able to have– I think the
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sense of pragmatism. The wherewithal. And the wherewithal to say, actually,
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what they're offering right now is not better than what
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we've got for ourselves. I also don't know how we'd
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go having someone now tell us how to make our show.
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Because you've proved yourself over and over and over.
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naivety of being an early founder, you're often also able
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to be, like, pushed around quite a lot because you
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do think, like, oh, well, all of these people who've
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done this for a job for longer know much better,
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which I was susceptible to a lot and made a
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lot of bad decisions based on just being like, oh,
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a big important person walks into a room, I must
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like shut up. And actually just you've now over and
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over and over been able to see your ideas come
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to fruition and the results of those in a way
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that I don't think anyone could come to you and
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be like, even from a massive network and be like,
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you guys actually aren't very good at ideation.
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I think you'd be like, You actually just can't say that. Like,
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that's just not true.
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It is interesting having meetings with the kind of big
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network heads because they've obviously achieved incredible things, but the
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path that Shameless Media has taken has been so different.
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So it's kind of funny sitting in those rooms sometimes
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because it almost feels like you're talking about two completely
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different things just because their strategy and our internal strategy
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has been so, sometimes so completely divorced from each other.
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Yeah, at the moment... I'm trying to work out how
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to say this without like, I don't know, let's see
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how I go without giving too much away. But, you know,
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you're obviously constantly talking to networks because you want to
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make sure that you're not as a business on an island,
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just doing your own thing without any sense of what's
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going on in the industry at large. And we constantly
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hear bigger networks and their strategies and we look at
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our own and we think, okay, ours is pretty wildly
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different to everybody else. And so 80% of the time
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I'm like, I think this is a good thing because
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this has always been the way for us and that's
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what's worked. But I also never want to not be
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humble enough to be like, well, are we missing something?
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Sure.
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You don't want to be too arrogant about it. I
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think that's like a surefire way to sink your business too.
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So you have to, I think there is like an
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important level of doubt you need to hold on to
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as well. A hundred percent. A very important part of business.
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And I think that actually that's probably the reason why
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so many entrepreneurs do have a little bit of a
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chip on their shoulder because like that actually enables you
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to be able to like look to other people.
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You can't go into everything thinking that you're like, The shit.
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Hot shit.
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I think the feedback loop is so quick when it
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comes to entrepreneurship. Like, you learn what's not working all
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the time that you really just need to know how
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many mistakes you're making a day. And as long as
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you can, like, move forward from that, like, that is
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how you succeed.
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We're also, to.
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This day, still really naive about certain things.
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Like, we.
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We started this at 23.
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We had never had any aspirations before to run a business.
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Like it was kind of like the content stuff was self-fulfilling.
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That was our passion.
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And then off the back of that passion, we grew
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a business. And so we found ourselves, when did we
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have a team? We would have been 24, 25.
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You know, knowing nothing about that. so it's kind of
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funny balancing that naivety and that ignorance which was powerful
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in getting us here but also being able to turn
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around and go we do not know so much to
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this day yeah and so how practically did that work
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you decide that you've you've obviously started this podcast and
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you decide that you want to start a bigger network
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how did you.
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Start to identify like the revenue number you even need
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to get to to be able to like hire some
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people or like whether it's going to be like the
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smart margins business or like.
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Grace you would shut up or you didn't.
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Well I yeah we didn't I mean but to that
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end a lot of people have asked us you know
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did you ever you know it's you guys are bootstrapped
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and all of these kinds of things and we've been
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profitable since the start. And a lot of people are like,
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and when did you decide that? And I think for
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us from the start, it was just that we didn't
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think that there was another option. I think we're pretty
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good with money. And we were like, we have to
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run this at a profit and we have to make
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sure we've got enough cash to constantly reinvest. And so
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if anything, I think we were slightly conservative with what
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we could, you know, invest in and who we could
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hire because a lot of it was very much on
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gut feel to be like, again, the sense we can
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afford this. And we were always right because we were
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very conservative with money. So it was like stupid but
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not stupid at the same time.
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No, and I actually– I don't think– like when I
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say that, I– I didn't think about that even at
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the beginning either. And I feel like mine was probably
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more straightforward in terms of like, I sell legging, I
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get money, I put money into this, you know.
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We're in a totally different business, right? Like a media business.
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We don't have to buy product. We didn't have to
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be so strict with figures early on because... People were
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our overheads and still are.
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Yeah. The only cost was... people.
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And we really just had to focus on getting more
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and more advertising revenue and building our audience.
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I think one thing from the start that I really wish,
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I mean, there's not much I wish we could go
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back and change, but there is one thing that I
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think about a lot. And it was this, that we
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had accountants who were good at our job, but were
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never interested in empowering us to understand our own information.
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So they didn't give us access to our own P
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& L. They would tell us about our results at
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the end of sort of every six months. And so
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we were operating very reactively. Like once we knew how
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much money we were making, then we're investing in decisions.
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And once we changed that over and someone said, here's
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access to all your reports, here's your budget, and here's
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how to actually understand the numbers and see them in
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real time. I think I didn't know to ask for
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it because I didn't know it was there because unless
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someone's telling you it's there and this is what you
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should be looking at, how are you ever to know?
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And so I'm assuming the majority of your revenue comes
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from ad revenue.
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Yes.
491
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Okay. And I have no idea about how a podcast
492
00:21:44.490 --> 00:21:48.299
network would work. Purely my estimation.
493
00:21:48.630 --> 00:21:52.119
And so naturally, obviously, that's been something that's quite important
494
00:21:52.160 --> 00:21:54.579
since the beginning of the business, because that's obviously, I mean,
495
00:21:54.700 --> 00:21:57.740
that's the equivalent to customer revenue from the type of
496
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business that I might run, for example. So how did
497
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you start to, I guess, notice that pretty quickly at
498
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the beginning and ensure that you were getting ads on
499
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something that maybe was smaller? then you'd necessarily get ads. Like,
500
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I don't know actually how early people would get ads
501
00:22:15.619 --> 00:22:16.599
now on podcasts.
502
00:22:16.640 --> 00:22:19.099
We, again, just went by gut feel.
503
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I think it was from the moment our episodes had
504
00:22:21.160 --> 00:22:24.700
more than 10,000 listeners. We were like, okay, 10,000 listens
505
00:22:24.769 --> 00:22:28.569
feels like something you could ask for money for. And, uh,
506
00:22:28.730 --> 00:22:30.869
I think our first ever podcast
ad cost.
507
00:22:31.410 --> 00:22:33.029
Is it $ 80? I think it was 90. Yeah.
508
00:22:33.230 --> 00:22:37.599
We made $ 90 off that first episode, probably 15 weeks
509
00:22:37.660 --> 00:22:42.690
into doing it. Uh, But again, it was also tricky
510
00:22:42.710 --> 00:22:45.720
because Shameless podcast was growing so quickly early on. You
511
00:22:45.759 --> 00:22:48.579
would sell in a certain rate for an episode and
512
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be like, okay, this will get 10,000 listeners. But by
513
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the time that episode went live, we were up to 50,000
514
00:22:52.539 --> 00:22:54.819
by that point. So we were kind of chasing our
515
00:22:54.839 --> 00:22:58.099
tail for a long time. And metrics are so slow
516
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in podcasting as well.
517
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Like I, I don't know, maybe it goes up out
518
00:23:01.549 --> 00:23:04.329
of dashboards and obviously like I use a network as well.
519
00:23:04.369 --> 00:23:06.269
So that's different from it being like direct, but I
520
00:23:06.309 --> 00:23:06.950
find it really hard.
521
00:23:06.970 --> 00:23:08.829
Back then they were really slow. This was back in
522
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like 2018.
523
00:23:09.170 --> 00:23:11.849
Yeah. Yeah. It was a different landscape.
524
00:23:11.869 --> 00:23:13.710
So you're not getting that live data to really like
525
00:23:13.809 --> 00:23:15.089
make the decisions you need to make.
526
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No.
527
00:23:15.950 --> 00:23:18.430
And what would you say have been since that point
528
00:23:18.549 --> 00:23:22.009
to now having grown a massive business with how many
529
00:23:22.029 --> 00:23:22.529
people are in the team?
530
00:23:23.119 --> 00:23:26.559
Oh, including podcast hosts, I think we're up to 25 plus.
531
00:23:26.980 --> 00:23:30.279
And so with significant revenue as well, what would you
532
00:23:30.319 --> 00:23:34.089
say have been the biggest learning curves for you two
533
00:23:34.309 --> 00:23:37.769
as founders? Because you're podcast hosts of the biggest podcast,
534
00:23:37.809 --> 00:23:40.470
I'm assuming, that Shameless has.
535
00:23:40.630 --> 00:23:40.849
Yeah.
536
00:23:41.190 --> 00:23:44.670
You're also the founders. You're wearing many different hats. Like
537
00:23:44.849 --> 00:23:47.009
what have been those big learning curves?
538
00:23:47.369 --> 00:23:47.529
So many.
539
00:23:47.549 --> 00:23:50.980
So many. Um, I think early on, we were never
540
00:23:51.039 --> 00:23:53.180
embarrassed to admit we didn't know something. So in a
541
00:23:53.240 --> 00:23:55.640
room with anybody, we would say, we just simply don't
542
00:23:55.660 --> 00:23:57.769
know what that is. Um, and I think that was
543
00:23:57.809 --> 00:24:00.029
really important for us because I was like, there's just
544
00:24:00.069 --> 00:24:02.950
simply no way for us to learn without asking. I
545
00:24:03.450 --> 00:24:05.190
think second to that, I put a lot of pressure
546
00:24:05.269 --> 00:24:08.630
on myself in particular in the early days to be
547
00:24:08.690 --> 00:24:11.680
able to jump between the creative and the business very quickly.
548
00:24:11.799 --> 00:24:13.539
So we would be like plotting a show and then
549
00:24:13.559 --> 00:24:16.549
we'd have to go into like business strategy and I
550
00:24:16.670 --> 00:24:18.869
found that very, very difficult in the early days. And
551
00:24:18.890 --> 00:24:20.549
I kept saying to Michelle, I can't work out why
552
00:24:20.589 --> 00:24:23.710
I can't jump between this very quickly before I realized
553
00:24:23.759 --> 00:24:26.759
I don't think it's that natural to be going full creative.
554
00:24:26.819 --> 00:24:27.720
Different sides of your brain.
555
00:24:27.859 --> 00:24:28.039
Yeah.
556
00:24:28.180 --> 00:24:30.519
Yeah. And so going easy on myself with that and
557
00:24:30.559 --> 00:24:32.799
also like blocking out the time in very specific ways
558
00:24:32.819 --> 00:24:34.579
to say either you've got a show day and maybe
559
00:24:34.619 --> 00:24:36.940
the afternoon you'll do some business stuff. But having to
560
00:24:36.980 --> 00:24:38.740
be really specific about that time has been huge for
561
00:24:38.759 --> 00:24:40.680
me in particular. Yeah. Because you spend more time in
562
00:24:40.700 --> 00:24:43.059
the creative. I would probably spend more time in the business. Yeah.
563
00:24:43.079 --> 00:24:43.160
Yeah.
564
00:24:43.579 --> 00:24:46.019
Zaz was like so instrumental in actually building out a
565
00:24:46.039 --> 00:24:48.460
business strategy and getting us to where we are now.
566
00:24:48.579 --> 00:24:51.470
I think one of the huge lessons for me growing
567
00:24:51.490 --> 00:24:53.049
this thing has been.
568
00:24:53.369 --> 00:24:54.349
Explain the why.
569
00:24:54.369 --> 00:24:59.109
Like first of all understand the why as co-founders and
570
00:24:59.150 --> 00:25:01.759
then make sure you communicate that to your team. I
571
00:25:01.799 --> 00:25:04.240
remember there was a maybe some ruffled feathers in the
572
00:25:04.299 --> 00:25:06.740
team a few years ago when Zara and I had
573
00:25:06.759 --> 00:25:09.299
these grand plans for the business. We were so excited
574
00:25:09.319 --> 00:25:12.369
about all this content we were rolling out. We've told
575
00:25:12.390 --> 00:25:13.950
the team about it, but we did not set it
576
00:25:13.990 --> 00:25:16.460
up with like, here's why, here's why we want to grow.
577
00:25:16.500 --> 00:25:18.119
Here's why we want to do all these cool things.
578
00:25:18.160 --> 00:25:19.970
Here's why we think you should be excited about it.
579
00:25:20.400 --> 00:25:22.400
And so then when the team, you know, digested that
580
00:25:22.440 --> 00:25:26.019
information and instead of matching our excitement came to us
581
00:25:26.039 --> 00:25:28.839
with heaps of concern and anxiety, it was
just such
582
00:25:28.880 --> 00:25:31.240
a huge lesson for us. And now when we sit
583
00:25:31.349 --> 00:25:36.240
in meetings or strategy days or team retreats, the why
584
00:25:36.339 --> 00:25:39.339
is actually our favorite thing to anchor everything. It's like,
585
00:25:39.440 --> 00:25:41.720
here is why we're here today. Here's why this meeting
586
00:25:41.759 --> 00:25:44.269
is happening. Here's why we need to change X, Y,
587
00:25:44.289 --> 00:25:45.109
Z about the business.
588
00:25:45.529 --> 00:25:46.609
I think that's such a good point.
589
00:25:46.650 --> 00:25:48.250
And I think that was one of my big learning
590
00:25:48.269 --> 00:25:50.730
curves as well. When you're thinking about like, I think
591
00:25:51.289 --> 00:25:55.039
what I'd seen happen again and again, again, particularly from
592
00:25:55.079 --> 00:25:59.000
people who'd come from big businesses was the trying to
593
00:25:59.059 --> 00:26:01.920
inspire the team by being like, we're going to get
594
00:26:01.940 --> 00:26:03.859
to like this revenue and we're going to get to
595
00:26:03.900 --> 00:26:07.480
like this exit and all of that. And like objectively
596
00:26:07.559 --> 00:26:10.700
for a lot of people, that's terrifying and confusing. Like
597
00:26:11.079 --> 00:26:12.940
even though that might be your company goal, what you're
598
00:26:12.960 --> 00:26:16.240
going to invest is saying. Like, that's not that inspiring
599
00:26:16.299 --> 00:26:17.880
to a wider group of people.
600
00:26:17.900 --> 00:26:21.460
It's terrifying. It's really demotivating. It actually raises far more questions,
601
00:26:21.519 --> 00:26:22.019
as you say.
602
00:26:22.039 --> 00:26:25.059
I remember, like, this randomly, like, waking up in the
603
00:26:25.079 --> 00:26:26.460
middle of the night and being like, why are we
604
00:26:26.519 --> 00:26:28.000
even saying this?
605
00:26:28.039 --> 00:26:29.460
Like, it's not about lack of transparency.
606
00:26:29.500 --> 00:26:32.359
It's about, like, that doesn't, you know, like, one plus
607
00:26:32.400 --> 00:26:34.079
one doesn't equal two in that way for, like, this
608
00:26:34.640 --> 00:26:35.380
group of people.
609
00:26:35.779 --> 00:26:38.059
So, like, I remember I changed the way that.
610
00:26:38.000 --> 00:26:40.609
I spoke about, like, when we were trying to inspire
611
00:26:40.619 --> 00:26:42.730
the team and motivate and get towards that, like, North
612
00:26:42.750 --> 00:26:43.809
Star that you talk about.
613
00:26:43.829 --> 00:26:43.950
Mm-hmm.
614
00:26:44.359 --> 00:26:47.220
It was really changing that to be like, we want
615
00:26:47.240 --> 00:26:50.589
to get to here. And acknowledging that you might be
616
00:26:50.630 --> 00:26:53.569
here because you love the company. Yes, that's going to
617
00:26:53.589 --> 00:26:56.390
be a small proportion of people. You might be here
618
00:26:56.509 --> 00:26:58.750
because you want it to look great on your CV.
619
00:26:59.079
--> 00:27:00.839
Like you want this company to grow really fast and
620
00:27:00.859 --> 00:27:01.980
you want it to look great on your CV.
621
00:27:02.319 --> 00:27:05.039
You might be here because... that was the only job
622
00:27:05.059 --> 00:27:06.440
that you could get at the time or whatever.
623
00:27:06.980 --> 00:27:09.839
All of those three outcomes look better if we achieve
624
00:27:10.759 --> 00:27:11.279
this goal.
625
00:27:11.640 --> 00:27:13.559
So I don't care. Obviously, I do care.
626
00:27:13.619 --> 00:27:15.599
I'd love for you to love the company. But realistically,
627
00:27:15.640 --> 00:27:17.319
people go to work because they need to go to work.
628
00:27:17.380 --> 00:27:19.359
I'm not going to kid myself that this is your
629
00:27:19.400 --> 00:27:22.920
lifelong dream to work for my company. It's like about
630
00:27:23.220 --> 00:27:27.089
understanding those motivations and being like, even if you just
631
00:27:27.109 --> 00:27:30.470
want your CV to look fucking great, this company doing
632
00:27:30.529 --> 00:27:33.940
this makes... 10 times more difference in terms of your
633
00:27:33.980 --> 00:27:36.500
next job if that was the company that really took
634
00:27:36.579 --> 00:27:40.089
off during that time. And it's about like understanding those motivations.
635
00:27:40.150 --> 00:27:41.990
And I think that naturally that's not one of those
636
00:27:42.029 --> 00:27:44.849
things that you learn right at the beginning when you
637
00:27:44.930 --> 00:27:45.990
are inspired.
638
00:27:45.569 --> 00:27:49.069
By something that maybe other people aren't. Completely. And like
639
00:27:49.529 --> 00:27:51.839
no one will care as much about your business as
640
00:27:51.900 --> 00:27:55.720
you do. And don't expect them to. Absolutely not. That's
641
00:27:55.759 --> 00:27:59.509
the thing. We talk a lot to ourselves about, You know,
642
00:27:59.609 --> 00:28:02.589
when people talk about this as a family and it's
643
00:28:02.609 --> 00:28:04.730
like it's not in the best way possible. I care
644
00:28:04.849 --> 00:28:07.289
so deeply about the people we work with. They are
645
00:28:07.410 --> 00:28:11.000
such an incredible collection of people. We're incredibly lucky in
646
00:28:11.039 --> 00:28:14.940
that sense. But I don't expect them to consider us...
647
00:28:15.500 --> 00:28:16.880
their family like yeah.
648
00:28:16.700 --> 00:28:19.880
It's that's not how i actually want that necessarily like
649
00:28:19.920 --> 00:28:22.119
i want you to have your family yeah and your
650
00:28:22.180 --> 00:28:24.700
friends and whatever that family quote unquote looks like to
651
00:28:24.769 --> 00:28:26.910
you and for that to be an important part of
652
00:28:26.950 --> 00:28:30.190
your life totally agree like you will never see me
653
00:28:30.250 --> 00:28:33.890
referring to my companies as a family because that might
654
00:28:33.910 --> 00:28:35.750
be the way I think of you because I'm able
655
00:28:35.789 --> 00:28:37.319
to think of you in all of these ways because
656
00:28:37.359 --> 00:28:39.519
I'm like, you're so amazing and you're doing all of
657
00:28:39.559 --> 00:28:40.400
these things for me.
658
00:28:41.519 --> 00:28:43.599
Like, how much is that like a 360 interruption?
659
00:28:43.859 --> 00:28:47.720
Pretending that it's totally reciprocal is just a fallacy. Yeah.
660
00:28:47.900 --> 00:28:51.009
We really try to instill that in the team as well,
661
00:28:51.069 --> 00:28:54.309
that like we value them so much. We value their
662
00:28:54.329 --> 00:28:57.950
time with us, but equally... We try to have very
663
00:28:58.029 --> 00:29:00.450
firm boundaries with when they're not at work, they are
664
00:29:00.529 --> 00:29:01.170
not at work.
665
00:29:01.769 --> 00:29:04.130
Yeah. I mean, because it's important to me. That's hard
666
00:29:04.150 --> 00:29:06.630
in media too. And I want to live a life
667
00:29:06.670 --> 00:29:09.720
where I have balance. And I also want to lead
668
00:29:09.759 --> 00:29:11.680
a team where I'm not a hypocrite, that if I
669
00:29:11.740 --> 00:29:14.740
want something myself, I expect they probably want the same
670
00:29:14.799 --> 00:29:17.859
thing so that that flows down. No, I totally get that.
671
00:29:17.880 --> 00:29:19.819
And what I also really appreciate about the way that
672
00:29:19.859 --> 00:29:22.960
you speak about what you aspire to in your lives too.
673
00:29:23.480 --> 00:29:26.819
And this past year... You spoke, I think, for the.
674
00:29:26.799 --> 00:29:31.799
First time about financials behind the podcast, behind the company
675
00:29:31.839 --> 00:29:34.589
as a whole in a Forbes article. You spoke about
676
00:29:34.630 --> 00:29:37.009
how you were very excitingly on track to have an
677
00:29:37.109 --> 00:29:38.329
eight-figure AUD year.
678
00:29:38.369 --> 00:29:41.400
Yeah. um and doing.
679
00:29:41.160 --> 00:29:46.099
The maths I read it first and then I like
680
00:29:46.160 --> 00:29:48.230
read the number and I was like perfect six-figure and
681
00:29:48.250 --> 00:29:49.029
then I was like.
682
00:29:49.049 --> 00:29:51.630
Wait a second you've said in the past that you've
683
00:29:51.650 --> 00:29:55.569
always been resisted to share those yeah yeah why do
684
00:29:55.609 --> 00:29:58.529
you think that's been I think probably two pronged. I
685
00:29:58.549 --> 00:30:01.549
think in the early days, people would say shameless media
686
00:30:01.589 --> 00:30:03.869
revenue and think that's going straight into Michelle and Zara's pockets.
687
00:30:04.769 --> 00:30:06.769
And I was always troubled by that because as much
688
00:30:06.809 --> 00:30:10.230
as you own the company, it never quite worked like that.
689
00:30:10.289 --> 00:30:13.509
Like everything was constantly being reinvested because we've been bootstrapped
690
00:30:13.529 --> 00:30:15.470
from the start to kind of grow the company. And
691
00:30:15.509 --> 00:30:17.529
so that was always a concern for both of us.
692
00:30:18.589 --> 00:30:20.509
And then we got to a certain size where I
693
00:30:21.400 --> 00:30:23.640
we really felt people can see how many people we
694
00:30:23.700 --> 00:30:25.980
employ here. They understand there has to be significant revenue
695
00:30:26.000 --> 00:30:27.019
coming in the door to be able to pay all
696
00:30:27.039 --> 00:30:31.440
these people. But second to that, I just think being
697
00:30:31.460 --> 00:30:37.309
a public podcast host and being a business owner are
698
00:30:37.509 --> 00:30:42.150
not great jobs that kind of align very well. And
699
00:30:42.349 --> 00:30:44.390
we always really struggled with the person that we are
700
00:30:44.490 --> 00:30:47.109
on the podcast is absolutely 100% who we are, but
701
00:30:47.130 --> 00:30:48.589
the person we are running the business is also 100%
702
00:30:48.589 --> 00:30:51.309
who we are. They just You might see different versions
703
00:30:51.349 --> 00:30:54.309
of us in those two contexts. And it was really
704
00:30:54.329 --> 00:30:56.569
the podcast that we were worried about, which was like,
705
00:30:56.890 --> 00:30:59.509
this podcast is so important to us. It's the best
706
00:30:59.549 --> 00:31:01.690
part of our job. But I just didn't know how
707
00:31:01.730 --> 00:31:02.349
it was going to last.
708
00:31:02.450 --> 00:31:04.970
Well, it's like, how likable are we if we're seen
709
00:31:05.109 --> 00:31:10.970
to be doing well financially? I think last year, we
710
00:31:11.009 --> 00:31:13.089
really made the decision to get out of our own way.
711
00:31:13.130 --> 00:31:14.930
And I think this is something we've really embraced in
712
00:31:14.950 --> 00:31:17.700
our 30s. In our 20s, I think we got in
713
00:31:17.740 --> 00:31:20.700
our own way a lot. And we put a lot
714
00:31:20.740 --> 00:31:24.670
of ceilings on ourselves. I think we've been through some
715
00:31:24.730 --> 00:31:27.569
life shit. Like I lost my mum last year. Zara
716
00:31:28.029 --> 00:31:30.250
went through a period where her family member was very,
717
00:31:30.269 --> 00:31:32.930
very unwell in the ICU. Like we've dealt with some shit.
718
00:31:32.970 --> 00:31:35.259
And I think we kind of through all of that
719
00:31:35.279 --> 00:31:38.180
were like, well, if we can't celebrate the things that
720
00:31:38.200 --> 00:31:41.740
are going well and we can't celebrate our successes, Like why,
721
00:31:41.839 --> 00:31:44.990
like who for and why would we try and cover
722
00:31:45.009 --> 00:31:46.730
that up? I think we're at a place now where
723
00:31:46.769 --> 00:31:49.589
we are proud of ourselves and we have built something
724
00:31:49.609 --> 00:31:51.109
that we're pretty excited by.
725
00:31:51.509 --> 00:31:53.789
And I think we've been able to own the idea,
726
00:31:54.029 --> 00:31:57.319
confidently own the idea that it's not super common in
727
00:31:57.519 --> 00:32:00.339
Australian media in particular to do this independently by yourself
728
00:32:00.380 --> 00:32:03.019
with no experience or no backing. Like that's not an
729
00:32:03.079 --> 00:32:06.380
easy thing to do and it is not the hardest
730
00:32:06.420 --> 00:32:08.309
job in the world, but there are some pretty hard
731
00:32:08.349 --> 00:32:12.059
days doing it. And it's important for us. I think
732
00:32:12.160 --> 00:32:14.519
so often people say, are you celebrating your wins? And
733
00:32:15.059 --> 00:32:17.000
so often I'm like, what does this even mean? Does
734
00:32:17.019 --> 00:32:18.579
it just mean like going out and getting drunk every
735
00:32:18.599 --> 00:32:20.779
time something happens? But I think celebrating your wins is
736
00:32:20.819 --> 00:32:23.660
also being loud about that. This was celebrating our win.
737
00:32:23.700 --> 00:32:25.400
I think that's what it is. Also, it all might
738
00:32:25.720 --> 00:32:27.660
fall apart one day. I think we're looking at each other.
739
00:32:27.680 --> 00:32:31.509
That was a huge part. This might fall apart. Anxiety.
740
00:32:31.769 --> 00:32:34.450
Anxiety and insecurity is the title of the episode. But
741
00:32:34.490 --> 00:32:35.829
I think if we looked at each other, we're like,
742
00:32:36.269 --> 00:32:40.299
if this falls apart, because a lot of businesses– you know, fizzle.
743
00:32:40.359 --> 00:32:41.680
They go out with a fizzle instead of a bang.
744
00:32:41.799 --> 00:32:42.799
Especially in media.
745
00:32:43.000 --> 00:32:43.099
Yeah.
746
00:32:43.119 --> 00:32:44.700
Things can change like that. Say we fizzle.
747
00:32:45.250 --> 00:32:46.930
We would kind of like people to know that this
748
00:32:46.970 --> 00:32:48.529
was a roaring success for a time.
749
00:32:48.730 --> 00:32:50.549
It might not be a roaring success forever. I would
750
00:32:50.589 --> 00:32:51.289
love it to be.
751
00:32:51.769 --> 00:32:53.730
But I would love for people to look back. I'd
752
00:32:53.750 --> 00:32:55.470
love for my daughter to look back. It was also
753
00:32:55.490 --> 00:32:57.930
having a child. I was like, I want Sadie to
754
00:32:57.970 --> 00:33:00.539
look back at this thing her mum did and went, whoa,
755
00:33:00.799 --> 00:33:03.359
like my mum did that. That's so cool. And if
756
00:33:03.420 --> 00:33:05.099
we don't have headlines like the one we did in
757
00:33:05.119 --> 00:33:06.460
the Australian Financial Review.
758
00:33:07.140 --> 00:33:11.390
We don't have proof. No one will believe us. I'm
759
00:33:11.430 --> 00:33:15.609
just like saying we don't believe you. Yeah, literally. But
760
00:33:15.630 --> 00:33:16.690
I think it's really interesting.
761
00:33:16.710 --> 00:33:18.970
And I think it's such a predicament that we're not
762
00:33:19.009 --> 00:33:22.069
necessarily prepared to think of because it's not something that's
763
00:33:22.109 --> 00:33:25.380
been necessarily had to be thought of in the past.
764
00:33:25.400 --> 00:33:27.519
And I say that for two reasons. First of all,
765
00:33:28.400 --> 00:33:30.779
social media and like being the face of things is
766
00:33:30.819 --> 00:33:33.819
quite new. So needing to think about your perception on
767
00:33:33.880 --> 00:33:36.119
all different fronts in terms of like how you then
768
00:33:36.339 --> 00:33:40.000
earn when your perception is changed is important. On the
769
00:33:40.140 --> 00:33:44.109
other side, since women have started to become more successful,
770
00:33:44.789 --> 00:33:49.390
like you saying there, for example, there's a perhaps when
771
00:33:49.430 --> 00:33:52.109
we would talk about how successful we are, it's not
772
00:33:52.150 --> 00:33:53.869
going to help what we're actually doing.
773
00:33:54.329 --> 00:33:55.210
Whereas that is a.
774
00:33:55.210 --> 00:33:59.099
Completely inverse correlation to how it is for I'm thinking
775
00:33:59.130 --> 00:34:02.000
of like big male influencers or male podcasters.
776
00:34:02.380 --> 00:34:05.259
Like it is purely celebrated. It's better for Stephen Bartlett's
777
00:34:05.279 --> 00:34:07.900
show that he, his business is fine. Exactly.
778
00:34:07.960 --> 00:34:09.820
Like if it's earning a certain amount a year, it
779
00:34:10.340 --> 00:34:10.940
must be good.
780
00:34:11.079 --> 00:34:15.000
It's been co-signed. People must like you. Well, it's legitimate. Exactly.
781
00:34:15.820 --> 00:34:20.449
Whereas that we know success and likability have an inverse
782
00:34:20.469 --> 00:34:21.469
correlation for women.
783
00:34:21.550 --> 00:34:23.110
Like it's literally been proven.
784
00:34:23.630 --> 00:34:27.190
So naturally it's a little bit, bit tough that when
785
00:34:27.210 --> 00:34:29.949
you get to that stage like tiny violin is obviously
786
00:34:29.989 --> 00:34:31.900
not the biggest problem in the world but like when
787
00:34:31.920 --> 00:34:33.679
you get to that stage when it's kind of like
788
00:34:34.380 --> 00:34:38.940
okay in order to celebrate the success even by not
789
00:34:38.980 --> 00:34:43.010
even celebrating just talking about it I have to potentially
790
00:34:43.090 --> 00:34:46.170
compromise how much people like me because the thing that
791
00:34:46.210 --> 00:34:49.170
they already liked me for other people also like me
792
00:34:49.250 --> 00:34:52.250
for and is therefore doing well like it's it's a
793
00:34:52.309 --> 00:34:54.869
massive mindfuck And you have to have a pretty innate
794
00:34:54.989 --> 00:34:57.400
ability to like understand and process it.
795
00:34:57.440 --> 00:34:59.960
Well, we had a back and forth last year about this.
796
00:35:00.079 --> 00:35:04.360
Zara was more pro sharing the number and I was
797
00:35:04.380 --> 00:35:05.320
reticent for a time.
798
00:35:05.340 --> 00:35:08.179
Do you remember this? Yeah, I'm pretty sure we recorded.
799
00:35:08.429 --> 00:35:10.510
We did a voice memo of it because we were
800
00:35:10.550 --> 00:35:12.630
halfway through this conversation. We're like, this might make for
801
00:35:12.670 --> 00:35:15.110
interesting content one day if we ever do more about this.
802
00:35:15.150 --> 00:35:17.750
So maybe that voice memo will one day... See the
803
00:35:17.769 --> 00:35:22.130
latter day. But I was really anxious. And I said
804
00:35:22.150 --> 00:35:23.889
to Zaz, I was like, this is going to make
805
00:35:23.949 --> 00:35:27.739
life harder for us. But I'm so glad that she
806
00:35:27.840 --> 00:35:32.739
talked to me around because I have decided it's unfortunate
807
00:35:32.800 --> 00:35:36.679
that women have to give up some likability score as
808
00:35:36.739 --> 00:35:37.690
part of showing the success.
809
00:35:37.750 --> 00:35:39.570
Very small target on your back. I don't want to
810
00:35:39.610 --> 00:35:43.309
infestate it. And I don't, again, tiny violin. But it's
811
00:35:43.530 --> 00:35:46.809
definitely in a... There's a maths equation you have to
812
00:35:46.849 --> 00:35:49.389
look at and say, okay, we do this. You'll probably
813
00:35:49.429 --> 00:35:53.510
experience X and Y. Some, like, criticism will probably be
814
00:35:53.989 --> 00:35:58.710
a little strongly, more strongly worded. It'll be pricklier. You
815
00:35:58.730 --> 00:36:01.489
won't be able to kind of– it's impossible to qualify,
816
00:36:01.530 --> 00:36:03.579
I think, as it's all happening, what that criticism looks like.
817
00:36:03.679 --> 00:36:05.340
It probably won't happen in the short term. But you
818
00:36:05.360 --> 00:36:07.380
have to acknowledge that that's the payoff. And we were like,
819
00:36:07.400 --> 00:36:07.780
that's fine.
820
00:36:08.139 --> 00:36:10.360
I'm really happy we did it. I'm so happy we
821
00:36:10.380 --> 00:36:11.440
did it. I think it was one of the best
822
00:36:11.460 --> 00:36:13.320
decisions we've actually made. And it was off the back
823
00:36:13.360 --> 00:36:18.909
of Zara motivating– me to want to do it as well. Um, I, yeah,
824
00:36:18.989 --> 00:36:22.510
I sew back that decision, but I think it does
825
00:36:22.610 --> 00:36:23.630
come with a small cost.
826
00:36:23.750 --> 00:36:26.219
But I have to say as much as that conversation
827
00:36:26.280 --> 00:36:28.260
is interesting, I should go find that voice note after
828
00:36:28.280 --> 00:36:30.599
we leave here. Um, it was like probably a year
829
00:36:30.619 --> 00:36:32.480
ago now, but I do think what was huge for
830
00:36:32.519 --> 00:36:35.880
me is when you spoke about having Sadie and being like,
831
00:36:36.579 --> 00:36:38.840
I now, I really want her to see this. That
832
00:36:38.889 --> 00:36:41.070
was like very impactful for me. I don't have kids.
833
00:36:41.480 --> 00:36:43.280
but I think being able to have that framing, I
834
00:36:43.300 --> 00:36:46.219
could piggyback off her being a parent and be like, yeah,
835
00:36:46.719 --> 00:36:49.039
that is like, I do want her to see you
836
00:36:49.059 --> 00:36:51.500
do that and me too. And I think that's like
837
00:36:51.539 --> 00:36:53.840
a really nice framing that kind of centers everything to
838
00:36:53.860 --> 00:36:55.880
be like, we're not on a mission to change the
839
00:36:55.920 --> 00:36:58.360
world by any stretch, but it is nice to be like, well,
840
00:36:58.389 --> 00:36:59.389
we're trying to do something.
841
00:36:59.650 --> 00:36:59.829
Yeah.
842
00:37:00.190 --> 00:37:03.710
I think it's one of those tangible ways.
843
00:37:03.750 --> 00:37:05.730
I think you hear women speak about having children and
844
00:37:05.769 --> 00:37:08.250
how it maybe brings things into sharper focus. And that
845
00:37:08.289 --> 00:37:11.489
always felt amorphous for me until I've became a mum myself.
846
00:37:11.929 --> 00:37:15.079
It's been really helpful having a child to have that perspective.
847
00:37:15.360 --> 00:37:18.099
I think it helps you put your big girl pants
848
00:37:18.159 --> 00:37:20.079
on a little bit to be like, okay, yeah, we
849
00:37:20.119 --> 00:37:22.880
might cop it a little bit or people might have
850
00:37:22.900 --> 00:37:25.059
a slight target on our back if we share this.
851
00:37:25.159 --> 00:37:28.110
But the bigger picture of it all is my child
852
00:37:28.119 --> 00:37:31.090
will one day see it and I want it out
853
00:37:31.130 --> 00:37:31.829
there for me.
854
00:37:32.110 --> 00:37:32.929
Like I want it out there.
855
00:37:33.010 --> 00:37:34.909
I want to be able to feel like all of
856
00:37:34.989 --> 00:37:38.190
the weekends we worked eight years ago and All of
857
00:37:38.269 --> 00:37:41.309
the tears that have been cried behind closed doors.
858
00:37:41.949 --> 00:37:44.869
Which has not even been in building it. Even all
859
00:37:44.909 --> 00:37:47.849
of the fun times, it's led to something amazing. And
860
00:37:47.869 --> 00:37:49.929
that's incredible.
861
00:37:50.170 --> 00:37:52.489
That's not fucking easy. It's not done all the time.
862
00:37:52.909 --> 00:37:58.550
It hasn't been easy. It's been quite difficult. More tears.
863
00:37:58.710 --> 00:38:01.769
Let it all out. Come on. But to the point
864
00:38:01.789 --> 00:38:04.030
that Michelle made really early in this chat, it's like,
865
00:38:04.860 --> 00:38:07.210
I wouldn't go back and change it. I think it's
866
00:38:07.269 --> 00:38:10.960
fundamentally changed who we are and how I present to
867
00:38:11.000 --> 00:38:13.380
the world. I am so much tougher. I think we
868
00:38:13.420 --> 00:38:17.130
both have a really strong ability to compartmentalize. emotion from
869
00:38:17.170 --> 00:38:20.090
pragmatism when we're making decisions. We also really know ourselves,
870
00:38:20.190 --> 00:38:22.610
I would say. Yeah, we have a very strong sense
871
00:38:22.650 --> 00:38:25.269
of self and a sense of self together. I don't
872
00:38:25.289 --> 00:38:27.670
know what that is. We have been told we're a
873
00:38:27.690 --> 00:38:30.389
little
collective self. Yeah, a sense of collective self. We
874
00:38:30.429 --> 00:38:32.730
really know who we are as well and have any value.
875
00:38:32.750 --> 00:38:34.429
And I think, like, I wouldn't change that in the
876
00:38:34.449 --> 00:38:37.250
same way I imagine you wouldn't either. It really depends
877
00:38:37.289 --> 00:38:40.289
on the day you ask someone. Honestly, ask me yesterday. Yeah,
878
00:38:40.309 --> 00:38:41.449
ask me today. It's fine.
879
00:38:41.469 --> 00:38:43.949
Yeah. And I guess along with that, I mean, it's
880
00:38:44.050 --> 00:38:47.719
definitely a wider... worldwide problem I think especially with all
881
00:38:47.739 --> 00:38:50.159
the barriers being broken down through social media like you're
882
00:38:50.179 --> 00:38:53.989
gonna face this wherever but I've heard a lot about
883
00:38:54.050 --> 00:38:57.650
Australia and tall poppy syndrome oh do you think that's
884
00:38:57.789 --> 00:39:02.030
been exacerbated here as like a homegrown talent because in
885
00:39:02.070 --> 00:39:04.469
the US I don't think a lot of the things
886
00:39:04.489 --> 00:39:06.869
that we've spoken about are actually the same and I
887
00:39:06.909 --> 00:39:09.500
think the UK and Australia might have some parallels here
888
00:39:09.519 --> 00:39:11.519
that is so interesting.
889
00:39:11.530 --> 00:39:14.760
I think the UK and Australia are not dissimilar for
890
00:39:14.840 --> 00:39:17.039
sure because I think a lot of people talk about
891
00:39:17.139 --> 00:39:19.219
quote unquote tall poppy, which is the idea that when
892
00:39:19.280 --> 00:39:22.519
someone does really well, people support them until they get
893
00:39:22.559 --> 00:39:23.860
to a certain point and then they want to rip
894
00:39:23.909 --> 00:39:24.329
them down.
895
00:39:24.530 --> 00:39:26.130
Well, it's definitely an attitude of don't get too big
896
00:39:26.150 --> 00:39:26.590
for your boots.
897
00:39:26.710 --> 00:39:30.570
Yeah, like stay humble. Yeah. Which I think humility is important.
898
00:39:30.969 --> 00:39:33.349
And also leads to better humour, I would say. Yeah.
899
00:39:33.469 --> 00:39:37.530
I mean, as well, like we could complain about being
900
00:39:37.570 --> 00:39:39.409
victims of tall puppy here and there, but I think
901
00:39:39.429 --> 00:39:41.949
we're also perpetrators of tall puppy when we were younger.
902
00:39:41.969 --> 00:39:44.210
I agree. I remember we did a whole podcast episode
903
00:39:44.230 --> 00:39:47.789
where we said the worst thing a person could.
904
00:39:47.690 --> 00:39:48.510
Be is arrogance.
905
00:39:49.110 --> 00:39:51.690
Right. Which I'm like, that is so interesting looking back
906
00:39:51.750 --> 00:39:54.389
on 24-year-old us to be like, why is that the
907
00:39:54.409 --> 00:39:55.389
worst thing someone can be?
908
00:39:55.429 --> 00:39:57.690
Don't get me wrong. Like, I love arrogance.
909
00:39:58.070 --> 00:40:00.190
But I think that was maybe tall poppy syndrome coming
910
00:40:00.250 --> 00:40:00.769
out in us.
911
00:40:00.809 --> 00:40:05.690
I would prefer someone not to be mean. Yeah, just malicious. Yeah,
912
00:40:05.789 --> 00:40:10.050
I definitely. No, arrogance was. Arrogance, murder. Yeah. I think
913
00:40:10.070 --> 00:40:11.780
you're right. I think when we were in our early 20s,
914
00:40:11.769 --> 00:40:16.150
we definitely, definitely were perpetrators of it. I think, yes,
915
00:40:16.210 --> 00:40:19.309
to some degree. It is slightly different. But then you
916
00:40:19.369 --> 00:40:20.909
have to look at, I mean, I even look at
917
00:40:20.949 --> 00:40:23.909
Alex Cooper and I would say she still does experience
918
00:40:23.949 --> 00:40:25.289
some of those things as well.
919
00:40:25.849 --> 00:40:27.889
Oh, the amount of commentary out there that Alex Cooper
920
00:40:27.909 --> 00:40:30.070
actually isn't good at her job despite her being one
921
00:40:30.110 --> 00:40:31.929
of the biggest podcasters in the entire world.
922
00:40:31.949 --> 00:40:34.489
It's quite physically impossible that she wouldn't be. Yeah, it's
923
00:40:34.510 --> 00:40:36.719
kind of a ridiculous. No one's paying her. But that's
924
00:40:36.739 --> 00:40:37.010
the thing.
925
00:40:37.050 --> 00:40:38.659
Like if someone was behind the scenes doing that and
926
00:40:38.679 --> 00:40:40.300
said that other person would be getting that.
927
00:40:40.900 --> 00:40:43.280
Well, no one's forcing hundreds of millions of people to
928
00:40:43.320 --> 00:40:45.800
listen to that show. So it's like an interesting conversation
929
00:40:45.840 --> 00:40:47.199
to even see out there, to be like, well, she's
930
00:40:47.239 --> 00:40:48.809
terrible at it. I'm like, well, I guess she's not
931
00:40:48.849 --> 00:40:50.809
for you. She doesn't need to be for everyone.
932
00:40:50.909 --> 00:40:53.409
But she is for most people at this point in time,
933
00:40:53.429 --> 00:40:57.289
no matter how many listeners she has. So it's funny.
934
00:40:57.329 --> 00:40:59.309
I wonder if tall puppy syndrome is spreading to the
935
00:40:59.429 --> 00:41:00.949
US with that information.
936
00:41:01.030 --> 00:41:01.690
Is it everywhere?
937
00:41:01.730 --> 00:41:04.309
I think it's with something like that, I think when
938
00:41:04.349 --> 00:41:08.230
you reach certain heights, when you're like tall poppy becomes
939
00:41:08.269 --> 00:41:11.539
a thing because the the arena becomes smaller if that
940
00:41:11.579 --> 00:41:14.340
makes sense like we I think particularly when we see
941
00:41:14.420 --> 00:41:18.489
women or anyone actually traverse or kind of like go
942
00:41:18.550 --> 00:41:22.090
beyond a certain boundary that we'd maybe internally put in
943
00:41:22.139 --> 00:41:24.539
place for them. And it starts to feel a little
944
00:41:24.559 --> 00:41:27.639
bit uncomfortable. It's like our imposter syndrome for them. It's like, well,
945
00:41:27.659 --> 00:41:30.300
they must be
an imposter because I can't, I couldn't
946
00:41:30.320 --> 00:41:31.119
originally envision them.
947
00:41:31.139 --> 00:41:33.559
We've never seen that before. Yeah. The other part of
948
00:41:33.619 --> 00:41:37.599
this though is I don't think it's that interesting to
949
00:41:37.699 --> 00:41:39.760
people because I think, and that is to your point
950
00:41:39.800 --> 00:41:42.159
earlier when we were like, we probably, you know, perpetrated
951
00:41:42.179 --> 00:41:44.679
some tall poppy stuff when we were younger. Yeah. Because
952
00:41:44.739 --> 00:41:46.119
I think if I heard people talk about it, I'd
953
00:41:46.139 --> 00:41:48.420
be like, okay, Do you know what I mean? Yeah,
954
00:41:48.480 --> 00:41:51.219
tiniest violin. Yeah, like I don't know. And it doesn't
955
00:41:51.260 --> 00:41:54.570
make it right or that generally people should have to
956
00:41:54.610 --> 00:41:58.570
just like withstand it. But it is interesting to consider
957
00:41:58.590 --> 00:42:00.329
that to the average person they might be like, well,
958
00:42:00.349 --> 00:42:03.050
isn't that just, you know, you see that classic line
959
00:42:03.710 --> 00:42:05.849
thrown around on social media all the time. I guess
960
00:42:05.909 --> 00:42:07.730
if you're looking at like a famous actor who's complaining
961
00:42:07.750 --> 00:42:09.170
about the paparazzi and they're like, well, they signed up
962
00:42:09.190 --> 00:42:11.349
for this. You'll see that all the time. They signed
963
00:42:11.369 --> 00:42:13.010
up for this. And as much as I don't know
964
00:42:13.070 --> 00:42:15.840
if I necessarily believe that I understand where that ethos
965
00:42:15.880 --> 00:42:16.590
comes from. Yeah.
966
00:42:17.090 --> 00:42:20.489
I mean, it's similar to the imposter syndrome conversation when
967
00:42:20.889 --> 00:42:22.710
I feel like I get asked a lot, particularly in
968
00:42:22.750 --> 00:42:26.489
like corporate settings, like how do you deal with imposter syndrome?
969
00:42:26.550 --> 00:42:28.219
Like if you are in a role and you're feeling
970
00:42:28.260 --> 00:42:29.920
it strongly, I'm kind of.
971
00:42:29.860 --> 00:42:31.780
Like, well, I think there are two sides of things.
972
00:42:32.039 --> 00:42:34.099
I think the first side is that most of the.
973
00:42:34.059 --> 00:42:37.159
Time people have imposter syndrome when the workplace doesn't reflect that.
974
00:42:37.460 --> 00:42:40.489
themselves so naturally like when things haven't been so diverse
975
00:42:40.699 --> 00:42:42.969
or you know there haven't been so many women in
976
00:42:43.030 --> 00:42:44.679
a space or whatever you're naturally going to feel it
977
00:42:44.699 --> 00:42:46.809
and that's probably on the workplace rather than on you
978
00:42:46.829 --> 00:42:49.630
I think the second half of that is like well
979
00:42:49.650 --> 00:42:52.510
realistically that's probably a good thermostat for the fact that
980
00:42:52.530 --> 00:42:55.070
you're out of your comfort zone and actually if you're
981
00:42:55.130 --> 00:42:58.210
not having imposter syndrome then maybe you should be pushing
982
00:42:58.250 --> 00:43:00.849
yourself a bit harder or maybe you feel too comfortable
983
00:43:00.889 --> 00:43:04.030
for too long and maybe then it's like as you're
984
00:43:04.050 --> 00:43:05.889
kind of saying it's like yeah maybe tall poppy is
985
00:43:05.929 --> 00:43:09.989
a thing But realistically, I'd rather be here being able
986
00:43:10.050 --> 00:43:12.380
to shout about things and maybe be brought down for them.
987
00:43:12.429 --> 00:43:12.760
Exactly.
988
00:43:12.800 --> 00:43:14.519
If you give me the option to be like, hey,
989
00:43:15.320 --> 00:43:17.519
this thing will do well enough that you might experience
990
00:43:17.539 --> 00:43:20.099
tall puppy or it won't do well enough and you'll
991
00:43:20.119 --> 00:43:21.090
never experience tall puppy.
992
00:43:21.130 --> 00:43:23.130
I know which one I'm picking. Exactly. It's fine. Exactly.
993
00:43:23.150 --> 00:43:24.989
You can't really, you cannot have your cake and eat
994
00:43:25.010 --> 00:43:26.110
it too. Like it's, it's.
995
00:43:27.429 --> 00:43:28.929
We also have a very thick skin by this point.
996
00:43:29.170 --> 00:43:32.489
Like we know the number of perks we get being
997
00:43:32.530 --> 00:43:36.500
in our position. You cannot redeem those perks without also
998
00:43:36.639 --> 00:43:37.760
taking certain downsides.
999
00:43:37.780 --> 00:43:39.590
What is it like the price of admission? Mm-hmm.
1000
00:43:40.000 --> 00:43:42.760
Is that Brené Brown saying embarrassment is the price of admission?
1001
00:43:42.860 --> 00:43:44.949
Don't know. But I think it worked. I saw it.
1002
00:43:44.980 --> 00:43:46.500
To be honest, I actually did think it worked. It
1003
00:43:46.519 --> 00:43:49.179
computed well in my head actually immediately. It's like the
1004
00:43:49.199 --> 00:43:50.440
price of doing business, baby.
1005
00:43:50.800 --> 00:43:53.659
Yeah, it is. It is the price of being public-facing.
1006
00:43:53.679 --> 00:43:56.329
And if you want, you cannot sit around crying about it,
1007
00:43:56.340 --> 00:44:00.440
even though maybe lots of you are. But you cannot
1008
00:44:00.460 --> 00:44:01.179
complain about that.
1009
00:44:01.340 --> 00:44:03.659
Okay, so I think that an added layer that you
1010
00:44:03.699 --> 00:44:05.860
guys have on top of this that maybe is why
1011
00:44:05.880 --> 00:44:07.940
you've had to face it so head-on over and over
1012
00:44:07.960 --> 00:44:09.260
is that.
1013
00:44:09.780 --> 00:44:12.960
Your day-to-day job is about... You've got to give a
1014
00:44:12.960 --> 00:44:15.500
lot of opinions. Yeah. Like, I hear your opinions on
1015
00:44:15.519 --> 00:44:17.840
a lot of things all the time. Yeah. Likely more
1016
00:44:17.860 --> 00:44:20.019
than most people who actually subscribe to me.
1017
00:44:20.079 --> 00:44:23.489
So if
that's the case, like, you can't actually concentrate
1018
00:44:23.610 --> 00:44:25.210
too much on being palatable.
1019
00:44:25.230 --> 00:44:25.289
No.
1020
00:44:25.710 --> 00:44:28.989
Like, if you concentrated too much on being palatable... you
1021
00:44:29.070 --> 00:44:31.070
probably wouldn't be that enjoyable to listen to. And I'm
1022
00:44:31.130 --> 00:44:34.079
not saying that as like, I don't think you're very controversial.
1023
00:44:34.159 --> 00:44:36.960
Like I think that generally like you, I agree with
1024
00:44:37.000 --> 00:44:39.199
your opinions and I'm never like, whoa, like that was
1025
00:44:39.219 --> 00:44:39.880
shaking the boat.
1026
00:44:40.059 --> 00:44:43.159
If we said the thing that everybody expected us to
1027
00:44:43.219 --> 00:44:45.260
always say or what the internet was saying, it would
1028
00:44:45.300 --> 00:44:46.519
be a very boring show.
1029
00:44:46.619 --> 00:44:50.559
And it was between the years of 2020 and 2022.
1030
00:44:50.539 --> 00:44:52.679
I think it did become a more boring show because
1031
00:44:52.699 --> 00:44:55.289
we felt we felt like we had to say the
1032
00:44:55.309 --> 00:44:57.630
thing people wanted us to say, which was just getting
1033
00:44:57.650 --> 00:44:58.989
the job so backwards.
1034
00:44:59.010 --> 00:44:59.389
Yeah.
1035
00:44:59.889 --> 00:45:02.429
I really want someone to listen now and to hear
1036
00:45:02.510 --> 00:45:05.409
either of us say something and think, huh, that's really surprising.
1037
00:45:05.949 --> 00:45:09.929
Not offensive or controversial. I'm just like, oh, that is surprising. Yes.
1038
00:45:09.949 --> 00:45:12.300
I'm fine with being controversial if I genuinely think it.
1039
00:45:12.400 --> 00:45:14.960
I think sometimes we'll be controversial because sometimes we see
1040
00:45:14.980 --> 00:45:17.920
an algorithm take off where we watch on and we're like,
1041
00:45:18.199 --> 00:45:20.659
holy shit, like there's such group think.
1042
00:45:20.500 --> 00:45:22.440
Going on here and we just totally disagree.
1043
00:45:22.480 --> 00:45:25.449
So if that's an opportunity for us to be quote
1044
00:45:25.489 --> 00:45:29.849
unquote controversial, I'll 100% take it. But I think by
1045
00:45:29.869 --> 00:45:33.389
this point, we've just so removed a lot of the
1046
00:45:33.469 --> 00:45:35.829
emotion out of it. Like I just don't, I think
1047
00:45:35.889 --> 00:45:37.880
I used to move through the world and I wanted
1048
00:45:37.929 --> 00:45:40.800
people to really, really like me. And if they didn't
1049
00:45:40.860 --> 00:45:44.340
like me, that really affected how I go about my day.
1050
00:45:44.900 --> 00:45:46.599
It doesn't really anymore.
1051
00:45:46.719 --> 00:45:50.000
Like it's important to me that people respect us and,
1052
00:45:50.059 --> 00:45:53.079
you know, some people like us. Yeah. But the idea
1053
00:45:53.139 --> 00:45:55.820
that everyone would think I'm their cup of tea is
1054
00:45:55.860 --> 00:45:57.380
just like a ridiculous standard.
1055
00:45:57.639 --> 00:46:00.099
Also pretty self-indulgent when you think about it because I
1056
00:46:00.119 --> 00:46:02.519
think I was more of that than you. I think
1057
00:46:02.679 --> 00:46:04.679
I was like more like, oh, my God, I really
1058
00:46:04.699 --> 00:46:06.449
need to be like– and I must be doing something
1059
00:46:06.469 --> 00:46:08.320
wrong if I'm not– But the more time that went on,
1060
00:46:08.340 --> 00:46:10.230
I was like, just get the fuck over yourself.
1061
00:46:10.289 --> 00:46:10.630
Yeah.
1062
00:46:10.989 --> 00:46:12.269
It's like you're thinking of it. It's that thing where
1063
00:46:12.289 --> 00:46:13.550
it's like, I think you guys are thinking about yourself
1064
00:46:13.570 --> 00:46:15.769
too much. I feel that.
1065
00:46:15.789 --> 00:46:19.050
And I honestly, I feel like maybe everyone in this
1066
00:46:19.090 --> 00:46:21.349
position has like felt it lifting over a period of
1067
00:46:21.409 --> 00:46:23.650
time when you've realized like either I could be the
1068
00:46:23.710 --> 00:46:27.090
most palatable version of myself and also be like boring
1069
00:46:27.150 --> 00:46:30.780
as fuck and like not enjoyable to consume any content of.
1070
00:46:30.820 --> 00:46:32.360
Like I'm not saying you need to be super controversial,
1071
00:46:32.380 --> 00:46:35.599
but like owning what you actually believe Like, I strongly
1072
00:46:35.619 --> 00:46:37.559
believe now, if I say something, as you said, and
1073
00:46:37.579 --> 00:46:40.400
I strongly believe it and you disagree with me, that's fine.
1074
00:46:40.480 --> 00:46:42.519
Just as if we were at dinner and you disagreed,
1075
00:46:42.820 --> 00:46:44.699
we could have a conversation about it. You're not going
1076
00:46:44.719 --> 00:46:46.800
to fucking shoot me in the face.
1077
00:46:46.820 --> 00:46:48.409
Like, no one's crying.
1078
00:46:48.610 --> 00:46:50.530
But I think the internet is very bad at having
1079
00:46:50.550 --> 00:46:53.289
these nuanced conversations, which is why I respect so much
1080
00:46:53.730 --> 00:46:58.269
that actually your entire platform is based on nuanced conversations
1081
00:46:58.710 --> 00:47:01.619
because actually that's what long form is for. Like, you're
1082
00:47:01.739 --> 00:47:03.960
able to, every single week, on a number.
1083
00:47:03.719 --> 00:47:04.659
Of different topics.
1084
00:47:04.949 --> 00:47:08.929
have conversations where the answer, like the objective isn't, you
1085
00:47:08.949 --> 00:47:11.630
should listen to this podcast and agree with us on everything.
1086
00:47:12.010 --> 00:47:13.909
It's you can listen to this podcast and listen to
1087
00:47:13.929 --> 00:47:14.969
people having a discussion.
1088
00:47:14.989 --> 00:47:17.889
Well, it's the unpacking, right? Like I really enjoy is
1089
00:47:18.110 --> 00:47:21.039
actually more than arriving at an opinion. It's like teasing
1090
00:47:21.099 --> 00:47:23.719
something out and figuring out where I stand on it.
1091
00:47:24.119 --> 00:47:28.480
Yes. And also it always surprised me how often, and
1092
00:47:28.500 --> 00:47:31.199
I think this still happens, we get the feedback, which is,
1093
00:47:32.050 --> 00:47:34.670
I love how often you disagree with each other or
1094
00:47:34.710 --> 00:47:37.909
it's like unique that we spend time disagreeing with each
1095
00:47:37.949 --> 00:47:41.190
other on mic. And I was always like, we do
1096
00:47:41.230 --> 00:47:43.239
this all the time with people in our lives, that
1097
00:47:43.280 --> 00:47:45.940
just having conversations about things, it is like really natural
1098
00:47:45.980 --> 00:47:48.619
to disagree. It's to your point, Grace, like it's not
1099
00:47:48.659 --> 00:47:50.590
always natural. It's ever very personal.
1100
00:47:50.630 --> 00:47:51.030
No.
1101
00:47:51.190 --> 00:47:53.780
It's not personal. Like, to have different opinions on things
1102
00:47:53.860 --> 00:47:55.510
is genuinely very interesting to me.
1103
00:47:55.519 --> 00:47:58.079
But that's exactly why, I mean, obviously there's many reasons
1104
00:47:58.119 --> 00:47:59.579
you guys have done well, but I think that's one
1105
00:47:59.599 --> 00:48:03.480
of the, like, the crux of the reason why Shameless
1106
00:48:03.519 --> 00:48:06.039
has done so well. is because it creates a forum
1107
00:48:06.059 --> 00:48:07.780
where you can do that, where it doesn't make it
1108
00:48:07.800 --> 00:48:08.429
a big deal.
1109
00:48:08.449 --> 00:48:10.309
Well, it's not that deep.
1110
00:48:10.449 --> 00:48:11.690
No, but that's the thing.
1111
00:48:11.730 --> 00:48:14.230
And I think that that's what we've actually lost through
1112
00:48:14.269 --> 00:48:19.010
social media, through most short form, because you disagree with
1113
00:48:19.050 --> 00:48:21.230
something in a second and suddenly it's the worst fucking
1114
00:48:21.250 --> 00:48:21.909
thing in the world.
1115
00:48:22.130 --> 00:48:24.889
Social media, like if you disagree with someone or like
1116
00:48:24.909 --> 00:48:27.050
you disagree with the pack, all of a sudden it's
1117
00:48:27.090 --> 00:48:30.389
an immediate moral failing, which is so hard to watch
1118
00:48:30.469 --> 00:48:32.829
play out. And I think that's why we love podcasting
1119
00:48:32.909 --> 00:48:34.130
so much that you actually.
1120
00:48:34.670 --> 00:48:36.110
can remove.
1121
00:48:35.670 --> 00:48:38.269
That like hot take culture out of it a bit
1122
00:48:38.289 --> 00:48:40.550
that you don't all have to agree a hundred percent
1123
00:48:40.590 --> 00:48:43.210
of the time and you can be an intelligent person
1124
00:48:43.269 --> 00:48:45.210
and have a different take to the pack yeah you.
1125
00:48:45.190 --> 00:48:47.449
Can also change your opinion in real time yeah like
1126
00:48:47.469 --> 00:48:49.119
the amount of times you sit there and still say
1127
00:48:49.159 -->
00:48:52.480
something that's so much smarter than anything i'm like i'll
1128
00:48:52.519 --> 00:48:54.719
just jump on that thank you yeah i mean.
1129
00:48:54.539 --> 00:48:57.500
While i'm there having my walk being like yeah me
1130
00:48:57.559 --> 00:49:00.550
too but also like I think on social media, we've
1131
00:49:00.590 --> 00:49:03.199
lost the ability for someone to change their mind over time.
1132
00:49:03.760 --> 00:49:06.719
I hate more than anything this idea that because.
1133
00:49:06.440 --> 00:49:09.599
Someone said something five years ago, that is exactly how
1134
00:49:09.639 --> 00:49:13.730
they think and feel today. Like we are all so
1135
00:49:14.530 --> 00:49:18.349
fallible and the idea on social media that that's not
1136
00:49:18.409 --> 00:49:20.920
the case. And if you say something, once, that's who
1137
00:49:20.940 --> 00:49:24.760
you are forever. I just so disagree with that. And
1138
00:49:24.780 --> 00:49:26.340
I think that's why Zara and I really love on
1139
00:49:26.380 --> 00:49:30.710
Shameless acknowledging to be like, oh, I really, really, really
1140
00:49:30.769 --> 00:49:31.929
disagree with my former self.
1141
00:49:33.199 --> 00:49:33.960
I disagree with it.
1142
00:49:34.000 --> 00:49:38.880
Like, the shit I said at fucking 23, I had ridiculous.
1143
00:49:38.199 --> 00:49:41.300
Takes on something. We both had absurd takes. Ridiculous takes.
1144
00:49:41.320 --> 00:49:45.960
But even last year, like, if I'm hormonal, grumpy, having
1145
00:49:46.000 --> 00:49:48.500
a bad day with endometriosis, whatever it is, when I
1146
00:49:48.519 --> 00:49:49.519
was on IVF.
1147
00:49:49.179 --> 00:49:51.239
Hormones, I was, like, coming out with some stuff. Oh,
1148
00:49:51.239 --> 00:49:53.300
I can't fucking imagine. Like, I was having some takes
1149
00:49:53.320 --> 00:49:55.619
where I'm like, what the fuck? You did pregnancy without repeating.
1150
00:49:55.360 --> 00:49:57.320
It for a very fucking long time. I can't imagine
1151
00:49:57.340 --> 00:49:59.559
you did shit. Yeah, 30 weeks of recording without people
1152
00:49:59.579 --> 00:50:00.380
knowing I was pregnant.
1153
00:50:00.800 --> 00:50:02.900
I look back like even sometimes a week later.
1154
00:50:02.659 --> 00:50:04.539
In a better mood. I'm like, what was wrong with her?
1155
00:50:04.559 --> 00:50:07.179
What's wrong with her? But we don't do that on social. Oh,
1156
00:50:07.199 --> 00:50:08.650
I think that about myself yesterday. So it's a good
1157
00:50:08.670 --> 00:50:10.190
thing I wasn't online.
1158
00:50:10.750 --> 00:50:12.889
I want to kind of talk a little bit more
1159
00:50:12.929 --> 00:50:15.369
about the work kind of aspect that we talked about earlier,
1160
00:50:15.389 --> 00:50:18.210
because I think that that's really important and something that
1161
00:50:18.469 --> 00:50:22.179
I selfishly am very, very interested in. I noticed when
1162
00:50:22.219 --> 00:50:25.789
we were organizing the
podcast that in your email signatures,
1163
00:50:25.829 --> 00:50:28.170
you said specifically the days that you work and don't work.
1164
00:50:28.690 --> 00:50:32.530
And that to me, I was like, incredibly inspired by that.
1165
00:50:32.630 --> 00:50:34.690
I was like, because obviously you said at the beginning
1166
00:50:34.710 --> 00:50:37.889
of this year, you wanted to destroy. You also wanted
1167
00:50:37.929 --> 00:50:42.280
to go more part time and have more life around
1168
00:50:42.320 --> 00:50:44.300
work and be more productive when you were in work
1169
00:50:44.340 --> 00:50:46.650
and all of these different things. As I've said, I
1170
00:50:47.110 --> 00:50:50.059
think that's a luxury that we don't necessarily afford ourselves.
1171
00:50:50.119 --> 00:50:52.639
And it is, I will also say, a luxury full stop. Like,
1172
00:50:52.800 --> 00:50:54.900
of course, the large majority of people have to work
1173
00:50:54.960 --> 00:50:57.920
full time. I think, though, that, like, even when you
1174
00:50:57.960 --> 00:51:00.719
don't have to, as I alluded to before, if you're
1175
00:51:00.739 --> 00:51:03.960
in a certain space maybe trying to prove yourself, one of.
1176
00:51:04.000 --> 00:51:06.900
The biggest ways that most people try and prove themselves
1177
00:51:07.039 --> 00:51:08.480
is this hustle culture.
1178
00:51:08.820 --> 00:51:11.000
Like, working all the time, being seen to work all
1179
00:51:11.039 --> 00:51:14.699
the time, aspiring to work all the time. How has
1180
00:51:14.760 --> 00:51:16.920
that changed for you in terms of like how you've
1181
00:51:16.940 --> 00:51:19.420
been thinking about it? And what kind of gave you
1182
00:51:19.440 --> 00:51:22.219
the confidence, I guess, to just be like, no, actually,
1183
00:51:22.739 --> 00:51:25.900
this is what I want. And therefore, as the owner
1184
00:51:25.940 --> 00:51:27.679
of this company, this is what.
1185
00:51:27.599 --> 00:51:29.409
I am going to go for. And it can be
1186
00:51:29.449 --> 00:51:31.190
both good for me and good for the company. I
1187
00:51:31.869 --> 00:51:34.969
think we both needed to fall back in love with
1188
00:51:35.030 --> 00:51:38.230
running the business again, to be totally candid. I think
1189
00:51:38.730 --> 00:51:41.349
after doing something for eight years, you get to a
1190
00:51:41.409 --> 00:51:44.800
point where... It takes a lot of you, as you
1191
00:51:44.840 --> 00:51:47.960
would know. And part of us going part time now
1192
00:51:48.059 --> 00:51:49.519
is like, I want to take some of the time
1193
00:51:49.559 --> 00:51:52.849
back that I gave in my 20s. So there was that.
1194
00:51:52.869 --> 00:51:57.349
I also just think I definitely feel better at my
1195
00:51:57.429 --> 00:52:00.369
job when I have space, like particularly the show. I
1196
00:52:00.869 --> 00:52:03.099
feel so much better at my job when I am
1197
00:52:03.179 --> 00:52:06.110
not the center of my world. And I think our
1198
00:52:06.150 --> 00:52:08.889
industry in particular can make us feel like we have
1199
00:52:08.929 --> 00:52:10.760
to be the center of everything and we're constantly thinking
1200
00:52:10.800 --> 00:52:12.559
about ourselves or whatever it might be and spending time
1201
00:52:12.599 --> 00:52:14.880
outside of that where none of my friends, family work
1202
00:52:14.920 --> 00:52:17.980
in media. Day to day, like they may listen to
1203
00:52:18.000 --> 00:52:20.360
the show. I don't know how many of them do,
1204
00:52:20.699 --> 00:52:24.250
but it's not that important. It's like it is important
1205
00:52:24.289 --> 00:52:25.690
to them, but it's like I think you can kind
1206
00:52:25.710 --> 00:52:27.630
of get into a bit of a bubble. Yeah. Spending
1207
00:52:27.650 --> 00:52:31.690
more time outside that bubble is much better for my
1208
00:52:31.730 --> 00:52:32.690
day to day in the show as well.
1209
00:52:32.929 --> 00:52:33.110
Yeah.
1210
00:52:33.469 --> 00:52:34.590
I think we're the exact same.
1211
00:52:34.630 --> 00:52:36.489
It's actually been Zaz as well who's brought in a
1212
00:52:36.510 --> 00:52:38.510
lot of those boundaries because I think I can be
1213
00:52:38.550 --> 00:52:41.170
similar to you, Grace. I just want to tip so
1214
00:52:41.250 --> 00:52:44.510
far in. Have you done the Enneagram? Oh, yeah.
1215
00:52:44.550 --> 00:52:47.239
I actually think we're the same. Are you a three? Yeah. Yeah. Okay.
1216
00:52:47.260 --> 00:52:50.440
There we go. Which, what should we call it? 16 personalities,
1217
00:52:50.519 --> 00:52:54.099
are you? Yes. Oh, so 16 personalities. I am an ENFJ.
1218
00:52:54.559 --> 00:52:55.400
Same. Okay, great.
1219
00:52:55.599 --> 00:52:58.190
I haven't done that one yet. My experience for those
1220
00:52:58.269 --> 00:52:59.809
of you who are recording, we ever do.
1221
00:52:59.909 --> 00:53:01.650
So for those who have no idea what we're talking about,
1222
00:53:01.670 --> 00:53:05.179
the Enneagram is almost like your working style. So Grace
1223
00:53:05.239 --> 00:53:07.280
and I are three. We're competitive achievers.
1224
00:53:07.440 --> 00:53:10.480
Zara's an eight. She's an active controller. It's not hot.
1225
00:53:11.750 --> 00:53:14.090
It sounds like you, like, make sure trains go where
1226
00:53:14.110 --> 00:53:14.789
they're meant to go.
1227
00:53:14.809 --> 00:53:18.480
Oh, yeah. That and just, like, the dictator.
1228
00:53:18.719 --> 00:53:22.579
But VAR is amazing to work with because I have
1229
00:53:22.619 --> 00:53:26.320
that competitive achiever side of myself where so much of
1230
00:53:26.389 --> 00:53:28.670
my life, I mean, it doesn't sound very sexy or...
1231
00:53:29.369 --> 00:53:32.389
progressive I'm obsessed with metrics in my own life like
1232
00:53:32.510 --> 00:53:34.809
optics of success are a big thing to me as
1233
00:53:34.949 --> 00:53:38.400
hideous as that is working with Zaz is so amazing
1234
00:53:38.440 --> 00:53:43.440
because Zara really prioritizes process and boundaries and am I
1235
00:53:43.500 --> 00:53:47.739
missing a time time and efficiency and I think the
1236
00:53:47.820 --> 00:53:50.539
reason we work so well together is we balance each
1237
00:53:50.579 --> 00:53:54.199
other out and bringing those boundaries in has been really
1238
00:53:54.260 --> 00:53:56.599
really amazing like not working all the time not having
1239
00:53:56.639 --> 00:53:58.469
it bleed out to all hours of the day has
1240
00:53:58.510 --> 00:54:00.969
been Excellent, particularly now that I'm a mum.
1241
00:54:01.190 --> 00:54:05.269
And on that, I hate when women go on podcasts
1242
00:54:05.329 --> 00:54:07.239
and are specifically asked about their children.
1243
00:54:07.260 --> 00:54:07.610
No, no, no, ask away.
1244
00:54:07.639 --> 00:54:09.119
Because I don't think it necessarily happens the other way around.
1245
00:54:09.940 --> 00:54:14.599
But given you brought it up, I am really interested
1246
00:54:14.639 --> 00:54:17.780
in the transition, obviously for obvious reasons, as I barely
1247
00:54:17.820 --> 00:54:22.500
read here, like how you found that transition to becoming
1248
00:54:22.519 --> 00:54:25.840
a mum, still being a business owner, still having certain
1249
00:54:25.860 --> 00:54:27.900
standards for yourself. I can imagine some of them even
1250
00:54:27.940 --> 00:54:30.780
going up in terms of like, what you're, I don't know,
1251
00:54:30.880 --> 00:54:33.099
I already feel so torn between different things. I'm like,
1252
00:54:33.119 --> 00:54:34.960
I'm trying not to compromise this, that and the other.
1253
00:54:35.400 --> 00:54:37.639
How have you found that transition, both in terms of
1254
00:54:37.679 --> 00:54:40.400
like practical, but also emotional?
1255
00:54:41.639 --> 00:54:44.500
It's been really amazing. I won't lie and say every
1256
00:54:44.539 --> 00:54:45.340
day is amazing.
1257
00:54:45.519 --> 00:54:48.889
I think little things can kind of throw you off
1258
00:54:49.010 --> 00:54:52.469
kilter slightly. Sadie's been quite sick the last week. So
1259
00:54:52.510 --> 00:54:55.639
when that kind of pops up that can really, you
1260
00:54:55.800 --> 00:54:59.159
can go from 0% stress to 100% stress quite quickly.
1261
00:54:59.179 --> 00:55:02.059
And I think Those are the moments when she has
1262
00:55:02.099 --> 00:55:05.420
been unwell, which is like sporadic. This was just something
1263
00:55:05.460 --> 00:55:07.710
where she caught a virus and ended up in hospital
1264
00:55:07.750 --> 00:55:09.989
for a little bit. And those kind of moments mean
1265
00:55:10.010 --> 00:55:12.409
that you're split in two. That's when I really understand
1266
00:55:12.429 --> 00:55:14.650
when mothers speak about like 50% of you is in
1267
00:55:14.710 --> 00:55:17.289
another room, you're in another space because your child needs you.
1268
00:55:17.309 --> 00:55:21.000
Aside from those moments, though, I feel like the
transition
1269
00:55:21.019 --> 00:55:23.440
has been really incredible. And I credit that to having
1270
00:55:23.659 --> 00:55:27.780
an incredibly supportive partner. Zara and I speak a lot
1271
00:55:27.800 --> 00:55:29.860
between ourselves that this is a piece of the puzzle
1272
00:55:29.880 --> 00:55:31.980
that is so rarely spoken about. I hear a lot
1273
00:55:32.050 --> 00:55:37.269
of People talk about workplaces being progressive and allowing amazing
1274
00:55:37.429 --> 00:55:41.110
return-to-work policies and all those kind of things for mothers.
1275
00:55:41.329 --> 00:55:43.409
And those are important. I'm not saying they're not. Like,
1276
00:55:43.449 --> 00:55:46.170
workplaces need to do their part. For parents, though, not
1277
00:55:46.210 --> 00:55:46.769
just mothers.
1278
00:55:47.789 --> 00:55:51.199
Like, that's what enables a better share and, like, less
1279
00:55:51.340 --> 00:55:53.219
kind of misogynistic views of women in work.
1280
00:55:53.280 --> 00:55:57.380
Yeah. Flexible work for men. Exactly. It's the balanced approach. Yeah.
1281
00:55:57.460 --> 00:56:00.840
And it's also a conversation around what are men doing.
1282
00:56:00.539 --> 00:56:02.980
Differently who have kids like when a man chooses to
1283
00:56:03.019 --> 00:56:05.300
have a child i think it's imperative that he asks
1284
00:56:05.320 --> 00:56:10.329
himself okay and how am i balancing work and child
1285
00:56:10.369 --> 00:56:13.269
rearing like that is a conversation we so rarely hear
1286
00:56:13.309 --> 00:56:17.750
my husband at the moment isn't working because last year
1287
00:56:17.789 --> 00:56:20.820
i was you know raising a baby uh trying to
1288
00:56:20.860 --> 00:56:23.260
run the business i was doing the vast vast bulk
1289
00:56:23.300 --> 00:56:25.480
of it but trying to do the business stuff where
1290
00:56:25.519 --> 00:56:27.099
i could and then i was also caring for a
1291
00:56:27.139 --> 00:56:30.429
terminally sick mom with brain cancer So it became a
1292
00:56:30.469 --> 00:56:33.260
conversation where Mitch had to stop work simply to allow
1293
00:56:33.380 --> 00:56:36.679
all of that to be possible. And I think it's
1294
00:56:36.719 --> 00:56:40.539
something I wish more women would really actively think about
1295
00:56:40.639 --> 00:56:43.889
quite young. Who are you having children with? Because if
1296
00:56:43.909 --> 00:56:46.710
you're having children with a man who doesn't ask himself equally,
1297
00:56:46.789 --> 00:56:49.889
and what am I sacrificing for my career? What time
1298
00:56:49.929 --> 00:56:53.599
am I taking out? How am I making this all work?
1299
00:56:54.239 --> 00:56:57.480
think that's the biggest tragedy a woman uh can have
1300
00:56:57.500 --> 00:56:59.360
in her life that she has kids with the wrong
1301
00:56:59.400 --> 00:57:00.679
man who doesn't support her.
1302
00:57:00.619 --> 00:57:03.480
Career ambitions I mean I totally agree I think that
1303
00:57:03.519 -->
00:57:06.940
that like obviously when you get pregnant you get like
1304
00:57:06.980 --> 00:57:08.820
there are so many of these thoughts that become pretty
1305
00:57:08.969 --> 00:57:10.929
urgent like I've I was about to say I've.
1306
00:57:10.849 --> 00:57:13.170
Been pretty lucky I've been in two first trimesters this
1307
00:57:13.210 --> 00:57:14.110
year obviously.
1308
00:57:13.889 --> 00:57:16.070
Not that lucky but actually it's going to be a
1309
00:57:16.130 --> 00:57:18.449
very long time to be able to think about like
1310
00:57:18.889 --> 00:57:22.670
okay how This point, I'm going to need to at
1311
00:57:22.710 --> 00:57:24.210
least take some time off work.
1312
00:57:24.269 --> 00:57:25.250
What does that look like?
1313
00:57:25.690 --> 00:57:28.949
My husband's self-employed, so he's not going to get any
1314
00:57:28.989 --> 00:57:31.619
paternity leave. At the same time, we're very lucky to
1315
00:57:31.639 --> 00:57:34.739
be in a position where either of us could fully
1316
00:57:34.780 --> 00:57:38.099
support the other. And I totally appreciate that that's not
1317
00:57:38.559 --> 00:57:42.059
the norm. But when we've been thinking about that, I've
1318
00:57:42.179 --> 00:57:44.090
been looking at it and I've been like, actually, the
1319
00:57:44.239 --> 00:57:45.909
only way I as a woman can.
1320
00:57:47.599 --> 00:57:50.530
Continue to do the things that I already do and
1321
00:57:50.610 --> 00:57:55.090
reach the heights that I aspire to is by having
1322
00:57:55.110 --> 00:57:57.269
this conversation that we very naturally have on the other
1323
00:57:57.309 --> 00:57:59.309
side where it's kind of like.
1324
00:57:59.329 --> 00:58:01.829
How do we split this?
1325
00:58:02.030 --> 00:58:05.269
How do we make sure that we both feel capable
1326
00:58:05.329 --> 00:58:08.159
of reaching our goals because neither of us want to
1327
00:58:08.659 --> 00:58:11.909
stop work? And just, like, it's very, very complex. But
1328
00:58:11.949 --> 00:58:13.949
you're right, we don't have that conversation the other way around.
1329
00:58:14.010 --> 00:58:15.610
And I think all the time when you hear about
1330
00:58:15.650 --> 00:58:18.289
these men who've done all of these amazing things, and, like,
1331
00:58:18.750 --> 00:58:21.050
the question is never, like, where were your kids throughout this?
1332
00:58:21.110 --> 00:58:23.630
The question is never, like, okay, well, what help do
1333
00:58:23.670 --> 00:58:26.369
you have at home? When you see these morning routine
1334
00:58:26.389 --> 00:58:28.809
videos online that they're doing something at 5am, they're doing
1335
00:58:28.829 --> 00:58:30.909
something at 7am, then the kids suddenly appear and get
1336
00:58:30.969 --> 00:58:31.650
whisked away.
1337
00:58:31.750 --> 00:58:33.889
And it's like, well, the only.
1338
00:58:33.670 --> 00:58:38.570
Way this can happen is by having literal, like, free
1339
00:58:38.590 --> 00:58:40.480
time work at home.
1340
00:58:40.340 --> 00:58:44.849
Yeah yeah I think also it's something that obviously I
1341
00:58:44.849 --> 00:58:47.010
have far less experience in it than I mean I
1342
00:58:47.030 --> 00:58:51.420
have no experience in it because but to that end
1343
00:58:51.539 --> 00:58:54.210
like my partner is a lawyer I'm He wanted to
1344
00:58:54.230 --> 00:58:55.710
become a barrister. I don't know how it works in
1345
00:58:55.730 --> 00:58:57.860
the UK, but in Australia, it's like a long process. Yes.
1346
00:58:57.880 --> 00:58:59.840
Is it like you don't get sponsored? Like all of that.
1347
00:58:59.860 --> 00:59:01.340
You have to go. Like there was a long period
1348
00:59:01.360 --> 00:59:04.420
of him having to study and not work. And, you know,
1349
00:59:04.440 --> 00:59:05.670
you have to have a partner that will support that.
1350
00:59:05.690 --> 00:59:07.769
But this is a conversation we had to have, what,
1351
00:59:07.869 --> 00:59:08.730
three to four years ago.
1352
00:59:08.949 --> 00:59:09.210
Right.
1353
00:59:09.489 --> 00:59:11.900
And plan. for in the context of having kids where
1354
00:59:11.920 --> 00:59:13.260
it was like, okay, well, what are you doing about
1355
00:59:13.300 --> 00:59:15.099
your career to get yourself to a point that this
1356
00:59:15.119 --> 00:59:16.900
doesn't just come up in four years and say, and
1357
00:59:16.940 --> 00:59:18.639
then I want to get there because we've got, which
1358
00:59:18.659 --> 00:59:22.239
I think happens a lot. Women restructure their entire careers
1359
00:59:22.280 --> 00:59:24.500
to make sure it's manageable for themselves by the time
1360
00:59:24.539 --> 00:59:26.320
kids come along. They're out of mental input, women.
1361
00:59:26.360 --> 00:59:26.599
Yeah.
1362
00:59:26.679 --> 00:59:28.940
And it was like, for me, a huge expectation. And
1363
00:59:29.199 --> 00:59:31.519
for him too, to be like, well, how are you
1364
00:59:31.579 --> 00:59:34.179
restructuring things years and years and years out to make
1365
00:59:34.239 --> 00:59:37.300
sure that we're both in a manageable spot by the
1366
00:59:37.340 --> 00:59:40.099
time we choose to do this? Zara had an amazing analogy.
1367
00:59:40.139 --> 00:59:42.750
I hope you don't mind me sharing this. She spoke
1368
00:59:42.769 --> 00:59:44.349
to me last year. I was pregnant and we were
1369
00:59:44.389 --> 00:59:44.809
in an Uber.
1370
00:59:44.849 --> 00:59:46.769
Oh, this was my sister's, by the way. She's going
1371
00:59:46.789 --> 00:59:49.150
to kill me for how often I steal her shit. Okay,
1372
00:59:49.210 --> 00:59:51.139
I'm going to credit me at a McDonald's with this analogy.
1373
00:59:51.179 --> 00:59:54.159
But it's like if you weren't at home and your
1374
00:59:54.199 --> 00:59:56.659
husband was with your child, could he pack the baby
1375
00:59:56.699 --> 01:00:01.000
bag without asking you a single question? And I think
1376
01:00:01.059 --> 01:00:04.760
the number of women who
maybe would say, no, he can't.
1377
01:00:04.840 --> 01:00:07.030
I'd constantly be texted. I'd constantly be on the phone
1378
01:00:07.050 --> 01:00:08.980
with him. telling him everything that needs to go in
1379
01:00:09.000 --> 01:00:11.360
the baby bag I think that shows already that the
1380
01:00:12.219 --> 01:00:17.139
division of labor as far as child rearing is concerned.
1381
01:00:16.880 --> 01:00:20.179
Is not equitable is not equal yeah and I think
1382
01:00:20.380 --> 01:00:23.110
one of the best pieces of advice I think I
1383
01:00:23.139 --> 01:00:25.070
haven't put any advice into play yet as my baby
1384
01:00:25.110 --> 01:00:27.590
is still in my tummy but like was one of
1385
01:00:27.630 --> 01:00:30.530
my friends she said at the beginning when you've just
1386
01:00:30.570 --> 01:00:33.260
had the baby Neither of you should correct each other
1387
01:00:33.320 --> 01:00:33.860
on anything.
1388
01:00:33.960 --> 01:00:34.219
Yes.
1389
01:00:34.300 --> 01:00:38.179
Like, don't be like, oh, you're holding her wrong or
1390
01:00:38.219 --> 01:00:39.800
you're doing this or this is how you should do
1391
01:00:39.820 --> 01:00:42.460
this because then one of you becomes the primary parent.
1392
01:00:42.559 --> 01:00:44.619
And naturally, that's going to be the woman because the
1393
01:00:44.659 --> 01:00:46.380
amount of time they spend with the baby, particularly if
1394
01:00:46.400 --> 01:00:50.369
you're breastfeeding, particularly naturally in terms of, like, research around
1395
01:00:50.409 --> 01:00:50.869
certain things.
1396
01:00:50.889 --> 01:00:52.030
Also, the baby is so much.
1397
01:00:51.929 --> 01:00:55.329
More comfortable with you instinctively because they recognize your smell,
1398
01:00:55.369 --> 01:00:56.289
your voice, everything.
1399
01:00:56.369 --> 01:00:57.550
I think that's a huge one, Grace.
1400
01:00:57.590 --> 01:01:00.269
Like, I remember my sister said that to me.
1401
01:01:00.289 --> 01:01:00.789
No corrections.
1402
01:01:01.349 --> 01:01:03.969
I'll now credit Claire Andrews.
1403
01:01:03.989 --> 01:01:04.949
We love sibling.
1404
01:01:05.179 --> 01:01:07.119
She's like, one of my biggest lessons is make sure
1405
01:01:07.159 --> 01:01:10.780
you do not make your partner feel like they are
1406
01:01:10.820 --> 01:01:13.480
not competent and they need to doubt themselves and therefore
1407
01:01:13.500 --> 01:01:14.260
that they need to.
1408
01:01:14.239 --> 01:01:16.719
Turn to you for approval and how to do it.
1409
01:01:16.760 --> 01:01:18.699
Because as soon as you set that dynamic up, you're
1410
01:01:18.719 --> 01:01:21.750
the expert, they're the novice, and that's what continues. And
1411
01:01:21.809 --> 01:01:23.989
so she's a maternal child health nurse. She was also
1412
01:01:24.030 --> 01:01:26.849
a midwife before that. And I think that's amazing advice
1413
01:01:26.889 --> 01:01:30.880
for women. Even if you feel like you know better,
1414
01:01:31.239 -->
01:01:33.840
you need to let your husband, in the case of
1415
01:01:33.880 --> 01:01:36.659
heterosexual relationships, you need to let them feel empowered. As
1416
01:01:36.739 --> 01:01:39.489
soon as you disempower them early on, That dynamic can
1417
01:01:39.530 --> 01:01:41.269
actually be the worst case for both of you.
1418
01:01:41.469 --> 01:01:43.260
So after I heard that advice, I actually thought, how
1419
01:01:43.280 --> 01:01:45.400
can we put that into action as soon as possible?
1420
01:01:46.139 --> 01:01:51.409
And what we've introduced in my pregnancy, which I received my.
1421
01:01:51.349 --> 01:01:52.250
Bulletin on this morning.
1422
01:01:52.739 --> 01:01:56.289
Is that my husband is in charge of symptom watch
1423
01:01:56.469 --> 01:01:58.929
and knowing what's happening to the baby each week. So
1424
01:01:59.150 --> 01:02:01.409
I like, as in, because I think, and again, naturally,
1425
01:02:01.530 --> 01:02:04.739
it's like, you're the one setting up the appointments. You're
1426
01:02:04.780 --> 01:02:07.119
the one like downloading the apps. You're the one doing
1427
01:02:07.139 --> 01:02:08.800
all of this because of course it's happening to your body.
1428
01:02:09.179 --> 01:02:11.320
Whereas like my thing was like, well, there's not much
1429
01:02:11.380 --> 01:02:13.519
you can do at the moment. What you can do
1430
01:02:13.539 --> 01:02:15.789
is like, obviously fully look after me and like make
1431
01:02:15.829 --> 01:02:18.210
me all my food and rub my feet and But, like,
1432
01:02:18.289 --> 01:02:20.110
other than that, like, you should be the one telling
1433
01:02:20.170 --> 01:02:21.949
me every week, like, what I'm about to have happen.
1434
01:02:21.969 --> 01:02:23.349
Yeah. Because I'm going to know it as soon as
1435
01:02:23.389 --> 01:02:25.630
it starts happening. Like, he can do the research. Exactly. Like,
1436
01:02:25.690 --> 01:02:28.659
that's not gatecapped. One for Mitch and I early on. No,
1437
01:02:28.880 --> 01:02:31.659
that's not gatecapped. Google's rapid. Yeah, literally so free as well.
1438
01:02:32.079 --> 01:02:33.219
One for Mitch and I early.
1439
01:02:33.079 --> 01:02:35.860
On was I was breastfeeding for the first six months.
1440
01:02:35.920 --> 01:02:36.800
He would do every nap.
1441
01:02:37.099 --> 01:02:38.889
And I know that for some couples they'd be like, well,
1442
01:02:38.909 --> 01:02:42.090
that's so inconvenient. You're both awake at the same time.
1443
01:02:42.130 --> 01:02:43.690
Shouldn't one of you be sleeping? I'm like, but if
1444
01:02:43.730 --> 01:02:46.809
you're a breastfeeding mom. You're a wakeful stop. And it
1445
01:02:46.829 --> 01:02:48.710
was like for us, it's like, well, that's an equal
1446
01:02:48.730 --> 01:02:51.440
division of labor that I breastfeed and then straight after
1447
01:02:51.480 --> 01:02:53.480
that or before or whatever, you change to the nappy
1448
01:02:53.500 --> 01:02:57.599
and that's how we do things. It can be very,
1449
01:02:57.639 --> 01:02:59.880
very tricky, particularly if you're breastfeeding early on, that all
1450
01:02:59.900 --> 01:03:02.650
of a sudden you are the go-to for everything. And
1451
01:03:02.690 --> 01:03:04.949
I think it's important that women start thinking about, okay, well,
1452
01:03:04.989 --> 01:03:07.679
what are the– the little rules that we even bring
1453
01:03:07.719 --> 01:03:09.900
in between us to make sure we both feel as
1454
01:03:09.980 --> 01:03:11.559
comfortable with this dynamic as possible.
1455
01:03:11.699 --> 01:03:14.940
Yeah. And in terms of, like, your being at work.
1456
01:03:14.739 --> 01:03:17.469
Every day and your approach towards work and, like, your
1457
01:03:17.679 --> 01:03:20.510
aspirations overall, have there been any significant shifts?
1458
01:03:21.170 --> 01:03:24.570
If anything, I think I'm more ambitious now, but I
1459
01:03:24.590 --> 01:03:27.389
think that's part of losing mum as well. Mum was such,
1460
01:03:27.489 --> 01:03:30.530
and Zara's mum, Trish, is the exact same. They were
1461
01:03:30.570 --> 01:03:31.610
our biggest supporters.
1462
01:03:32.030 --> 01:03:32.309
Sorry.
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01:03:33.840 --> 01:03:37.539
And so losing mum, it's... I think she always said
1464
01:03:37.579 --> 01:03:39.679
to us, like, oh, my God, just go for it. Like,
1465
01:03:39.699 --> 01:03:43.820
she always believed in Shameless so deeply and Shameless Media.
1466
01:03:44.400 --> 01:03:48.329
So I think losing her galvanized me that she would
1467
01:03:48.369 --> 01:03:50.110
want us to just shoot for the stars.
1468
01:03:50.510 --> 01:03:54.329
Yeah. She was, like, competitive on your behalf. She was
1469
01:03:54.409 --> 01:03:59.389
a 3-0. Yeah, like an absolute 3. She loved optics. Yeah,
1470
01:03:59.670 --> 01:04:03.409
she was, like, she used to ride us to make
1471
01:04:03.469 --> 01:04:06.559
sure that we were hitting those milestones. Yeah. I think
1472
01:04:07.500 --> 01:04:10.949
to your question to Michelle about your ambition and stuff
1473
01:04:10.989 --> 01:04:13.360
like that, I think it's interesting because before Michelle had kids,
1474
01:04:13.630 --> 01:04:18.030
a kid, sorry, there's my secret child anyway. A couple
1475
01:04:18.090 --> 01:04:20.690
of my girlfriends asked me that, like, are you guys,
1476
01:04:21.150 --> 01:04:24.110
are you worried about your dynamic changing or that like
1477
01:04:24.250 --> 01:04:25.889
one of you will be running the business and what
1478
01:04:25.949 --> 01:04:30.050
if like she fundamentally changes in her motivation? And I
1479
01:04:30.110 --> 01:04:33.230
literally looked at them and I was like, I don't
1480
01:04:33.289 --> 01:04:36.119
mean to sound naive right now, but like, when you
1481
01:04:36.139 --> 01:04:38.039
understand the core of who someone is when you run
1482
01:04:38.059 --> 01:04:39.840
a business with them, this is just simply not a
1483
01:04:39.880 --> 01:04:40.539
concern
for me.
1484
01:04:40.699 --> 01:04:42.639
Well, it's so interesting that you just said that because
1485
01:04:42.719 --> 01:04:45.179
when I was telling the company that I was pregnant,
1486
01:04:45.840 --> 01:04:47.860
I had a freak out the night before and I
1487
01:04:47.900 --> 01:04:49.909
was like, oh my God, I should tell the senior
1488
01:04:49.929 --> 01:04:52.469
leadership team before and give them a full like hour
1489
01:04:52.550 --> 01:04:55.030
forum to ask me questions. And then I was like
1490
01:04:55.070 --> 01:04:56.289
setting that up and I was doing that. And then
1491
01:04:56.309 --> 01:04:57.369
I was just talking to one of my friends and
1492
01:04:57.389 --> 01:04:59.949
I was like, how many... men do you think when
1493
01:04:59.969 --> 01:05:02.519
they're about to have a baby also i'm six months
1494
01:05:02.539 --> 01:05:03.840
away do you not think i've thought about this for
1495
01:05:03.860 --> 01:05:05.360
the part like as in like i've spent the past
1496
01:05:05.480 --> 01:05:06.760
three years planning.
1497
01:05:06.480 --> 01:05:09.719
For this business owner it's truthfully what you start thinking
1498
01:05:09.739 --> 01:05:12.570
when you're probably 25 exactly you started planning for this then.
1499
01:05:12.550 --> 01:05:15.050
And so i'm like how many male business owners would
1500
01:05:15.070 --> 01:05:16.889
have had to think like oh i'll sit down and
1501
01:05:16.909 --> 01:05:18.750
see if they have any questions because they're scared that
1502
01:05:19.130 --> 01:05:21.889
i won't care about my own business after i have
1503
01:05:21.929 --> 01:05:23.820
a baby because how could i ever care about anything
1504
01:05:23.860 --> 01:05:27.219
else because of course women don't only care about children
1505
01:05:27.260 --> 01:05:29.739
once they have children like it's such a fallacy but
1506
01:05:29.760 --> 01:05:33.579
it's so it's so true like even I see people
1507
01:05:33.599 --> 01:05:35.670
I mean I listened to your episode the other day
1508
01:05:35.730 --> 01:05:37.510
on like the mass unfollowing of pregnant women and I
1509
01:05:37.510 --> 01:05:39.670
was listening to this and I was just like it
1510
01:05:39.730 --> 01:05:43.269
is so interesting because like I'm already naturally trying to
1511
01:05:43.429 --> 01:05:47.579
fight against this assumption that all my content's going to
1512
01:05:47.599 --> 01:05:50.579
be about pregnancy and being a mom and like that's
1513
01:05:50.639 --> 01:05:53.079
all I'm going to care about. It's like, guys, I mean,
1514
01:05:53.119 --> 01:05:54.579
no one's even said this to me. So like, I'm
1515
01:05:55.059 --> 01:05:57.469
taking a bridge with it. No, they've checked it on me.
1516
01:05:57.750 --> 01:06:01.610
But like, I've cared about my businesses like so much
1517
01:06:01.690 --> 01:06:03.989
for the past 10 years. Like, Do you not see
1518
01:06:04.030 --> 01:06:06.070
how much... Like, that's not just because I've had
them
1519
01:06:06.139 --> 01:06:08.599
instead of a baby. Like, that's not just, like, that
1520
01:06:08.699 --> 01:06:09.980
that was the only option there. It's part of the
1521
01:06:10.000 --> 01:06:10.510
DNA of who you are.
1522
01:06:10.519 --> 01:06:12.199
Exactly. Like, that is literally, like.
1523
01:06:12.539 --> 01:06:14.199
If you've met me for one day, you know that
1524
01:06:14.239 --> 01:06:16.219
I fully planned my maternity leave. You know that I
1525
01:06:16.239 --> 01:06:18.760
fully planned, like, every single approach to the business and
1526
01:06:18.780 --> 01:06:20.800
all of that. And I do think it's so interesting that, like,
1527
01:06:20.949 --> 01:06:24.190
we do see women who become mums as women who
1528
01:06:24.230 --> 01:06:28.190
become exclusively mums, despite the fact that that is disproved
1529
01:06:28.789 --> 01:06:30.010
everywhere now. Yeah.
1530
01:06:30.349 --> 01:06:31.010
I think, um.
1531
01:06:31.690 --> 01:06:34.309
It comes with some sacrifice. It's not like you can
1532
01:06:34.349 --> 01:06:38.309
have a baby and life looks exactly the same. But
1533
01:06:39.010 --> 01:06:42.280
I think provided you have, I mean, a supportive family
1534
01:06:42.320 --> 01:06:45.099
is such a privilege as well when you have a baby.
1535
01:06:45.139 --> 01:06:46.860
I think if you have a good village around you
1536
01:06:46.880 --> 01:06:49.500
and a good community around you, a lot is possible.
1537
01:06:49.519 --> 01:06:52.820
And I mean, I would have wanted to hear that.
1538
01:06:53.309 --> 01:06:55.329
Five years ago when I was anxious about running a
1539
01:06:55.369 --> 01:06:59.349
business alongside Zaz and one day having kids, I think, uh,
1540
01:06:59.389 --> 01:07:01.250
being 10 and a half months into it now, I
1541
01:07:01.289 --> 01:07:03.599
can say that it's not always easy, but it is
1542
01:07:03.860 --> 01:07:07.739
absolutely possible. And it does take a village to raise
1543
01:07:07.760 --> 01:07:09.719
a child. And one thing I'm really happy about, I mean,
1544
01:07:09.760 --> 01:07:11.480
I have four days out of the week with Sadie
1545
01:07:11.559 --> 01:07:14.059
and I really soak them up and I, I love
1546
01:07:14.079 --> 01:07:16.579
those moments with her when I'm not with her and
1547
01:07:16.599 --> 01:07:19.750
she's at daycare or with family or with Mitch. I
1548
01:07:19.829 --> 01:07:24.679
know that she's also, uh, boosting her social skills and
1549
01:07:24.960 --> 01:07:28.079
building her independence and like she's already such an independent
1550
01:07:28.119 --> 01:07:31.219
little girl who is so confident with different adults and
1551
01:07:31.260 --> 01:07:33.880
people I think you just need to kind of go
1552
01:07:33.940 --> 01:07:36.900
into it with a plan you need to think about
1553
01:07:36.940 --> 01:07:39.280
this stuff uh rather than starting to think about it
1554
01:07:39.340 --> 01:07:41.860
the moment you go on maternity leave yeah.
1555
01:07:42.099 --> 01:07:46.360
Yeah and also like for some people work can be
1556
01:07:46.380 --> 01:07:49.940
joyful not everyone but like and fulfilling watching you come
1557
01:07:49.980 --> 01:07:53.969
back to work was lovely Because you seem, I mean,
1558
01:07:53.989 --> 01:07:56.030
I don't want to put what, you seemed incredibly happy.
1559
01:07:56.289 --> 01:07:58.369
Yeah, I think I am so happy with the balance.
1560
01:07:58.570 --> 01:08:01.650
Feeling like when I'm with my daughter, I can be
1561
01:08:01.750 --> 01:08:04.949
fully present. And then when I'm not with her, I'm
1562
01:08:05.030 --> 01:08:07.730
working on something that brings me an incredible sense of fulfillment.
1563
01:08:08.030 --> 01:08:10.449
I totally understand why some mothers wouldn't feel that way.
1564
01:08:10.489 --> 01:08:11.929
I think it is a privilege to be in a
1565
01:08:11.949 --> 01:08:13.489
job where you do feel that fulfillment.
1566
01:08:13.530 --> 01:08:14.219
Job specific.
1567
01:08:14.280 --> 01:08:17.539
A lot of people don't. A lot of women feel fulfilled.
1568
01:08:18.029 --> 01:08:19.670
a little empty when they're at work so I can
1569
01:08:19.770 --> 01:08:22.109
totally understand why they would want to spend more time
1570
01:08:22.130 --> 01:08:25.670
at home and maybe not be at work but for
1571
01:08:25.750 --> 01:08:28.149
me at the moment the balance is incredible and I'm
1572
01:08:28.260 --> 01:08:29.420
really enjoying.
1573
01:08:29.029 --> 01:08:30.960
It I love that and I'll be definitely asking you
1574
01:08:30.979 --> 01:08:35.079
some follow-up oh please via your dms and to wrap
1575
01:08:35.180 --> 01:08:36.859
up I'd love to know from each of you what
1576
01:08:36.880 --> 01:08:38.920
the best piece of advice is that you've ever been given.
1577
01:08:38.859 --> 01:08:40.500
I'm trying to work out if this is advice that's
1578
01:08:40.520 --> 01:08:42.539
been given to us or if it's something that we've
1579
01:08:42.560 --> 01:08:46.359
learned over time and there is no snappy one-liner for
1580
01:08:46.399 --> 01:08:48.420
it so just like hear me out but I often
1581
01:08:48.460 --> 01:08:50.619
sense when you, particularly in the context of running a business,
1582
01:08:50.640 --> 01:08:52.439
when you say something is going wrong or you need
1583
01:08:52.460 --> 01:08:54.890
to fix something, it's very, very tempting to say, okay,
1584
01:08:55.210 --> 01:08:57.510
everything about it needs to change. And the pendulum just
1585
01:08:57.529 --> 01:09:00.319
swings so far one way and you change everything. single
1586
01:09:00.340 --> 01:09:02.279
thing about it and it's not going to work. What
1587
01:09:02.300 --> 01:09:04.510
we genuinely try really hard to do is if we
1588
01:09:04.569 --> 01:09:07.750
see something not working, we make very small changes here
1589
01:09:07.810 --> 01:09:10.189
and there rather than let the pendulum swing too far.
1590
01:09:10.609 --> 01:09:12.229
And let your emotion get the better of you to
1591
01:09:12.289 --> 01:09:14.560
say every single thing about this needs to change. Because
1592
01:09:14.569 --> 01:09:16.500
I think that's how you make more mistakes. Yeah. I
1593
01:09:16.520 --> 01:09:17.060
think that's right.
1594
01:09:17.119 --> 01:09:19.899
It's like a tweak and tweak and replicate rather than
1595
01:09:19.939 --> 01:09:21.489
like a throw it all in the bin.
1596
01:09:21.510 --> 01:09:22.970
Scrap it all and start again. Yeah, scrap it all
1597
01:09:23.010 --> 01:09:26.060
and start again. Yeah. I would say one of mine
1598
01:09:26.100 --> 01:09:27.680
is from my little sister, Evelyn.
1599
01:09:27.779 --> 01:09:30.479
She's a– God, family's had a big role in this.
1600
01:09:30.520 --> 01:09:33.090
Yeah. We'll bring them next time. Yeah, they can come.
1601
01:09:33.109 --> 01:09:34.050
There's a lot of them.
1602
01:09:34.149 --> 01:09:37.109
Yeah, we're very, very close with our families. And they're
1603
01:09:37.170 --> 01:09:40.149
kind of our brains trust in many ways. So when
1604
01:09:40.189 --> 01:09:42.500
we have a dilemma, Zara often turns to me and
1605
01:09:42.520 --> 01:09:44.000
I often turn to Evelyn and Claire.
1606
01:09:45.239 --> 01:09:46.279
Evelyn's very pragmatic.
1607
01:09:46.340 --> 01:09:48.029
She's a doctor and she deals with a lot of,
1608
01:09:48.060 --> 01:09:52.359
you know– emergency kind of situations in her job day
1609
01:09:52.380 --> 01:09:54.260
to day. And she always says to be a rock
1610
01:09:54.300 --> 01:09:57.380
in the river and that there can be absolute chaos
1611
01:09:57.439 --> 01:09:59.479
swirling above you and moving above you.
1612
01:09:59.579 --> 01:10:01.850
You just need to kind of stay grounded, put your
1613
01:10:01.890 --> 01:10:03.149
head down, do the work.
1614
01:10:03.789 --> 01:10:06.050
I think that's been huge for us to just in
1615
01:10:06.149 --> 01:10:08.909
moments of chaos, find that inner sense of calm and
1616
01:10:08.970 --> 01:10:11.460
that inner confidence to be like, we will just be
1617
01:10:11.520 --> 01:10:13.300
rocks in the river and we will get through this.
1618
01:10:13.479 --> 01:10:15.420
I think another part of that is just put out
1619
01:10:15.460 --> 01:10:18.819
good content. Like if you put out good work that
1620
01:10:18.859 --> 01:10:21.880
you back and you love, everything will be okay in
1621
01:10:21.920 --> 01:10:25.260
the end. And always returning to that as our North Star,
1622
01:10:25.300 --> 01:10:28.060
I think let's put out the best possible shows that
1623
01:10:28.100 --> 01:10:30.420
we can that will get us through anything.
1624
01:10:30.760 --> 01:10:31.619
Yeah, I love that.
1625
01:10:31.659 --> 01:10:33.800
I think that lots of North Stars can be very lofty,
1626
01:10:33.899 --> 01:10:37.500
like obviously, but I think that actually that's what it,
1627
01:10:37.899 --> 01:10:40.060
Like knowing that that's what it comes back to day in,
1628
01:10:40.100 --> 01:10:42.760
day out for you as a business, I feel like
1629
01:10:43.340 --> 01:10:45.960
very much shows in terms of all of your output.
1630
01:10:46.159 --> 01:10:48.310
Thank you. Yeah, you guys have done so incredibly well
1631
01:10:48.359 --> 01:10:50.789
and it's so amazing to watch. And I can't wait
1632
01:10:50.810 --> 01:10:53.329
to watch you go from strength to strength. Thank you.
1633
01:10:53.390 --> 01:10:55.270
Thank you for having us. Not at all. Thanks for
1634
01:10:55.289 --> 01:10:58.470
being in Australia and giving Australia your time. Blessing Australia
1635
01:10:58.489 --> 01:10:59.090
with your presence.
1636
01:10:59.130 --> 01:11:00.170
Australia gets blessed.
1637
01:11:00.229 --> 01:11:01.479
Australia didn't like me.