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And I remember I was having this day where I
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was feeling kind of, you know, I don't want to
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go to practice. I'm so tired. And then I finally
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thought, you know, I need to go. I'll feel better
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when I go. And it was that day where my seatmate
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next to me, who is older, she's actually in her
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early 70s, was paddling full power. And then
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we stopped for a break and she's talking to me
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about how she had chemo yesterday. There's a
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moment in every hard thing, a race, a climb,
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a training block, a season of life where you
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hit the edge of what you thought you could do.
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Most people stop there, but some don't. And this
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show is all about the ones who didn't. What they
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found on the other side, what they learned about
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themselves and how those lessons Follow them
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into every hard thing they came after. I'm Nathan
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Baumeister and I'm Matt Carlson. This is What
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Remains in Okafe Podcast. Brooke, I can't tell
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you how excited that I am to have you on this
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episode of What Remains. Thanks for having me.
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I'm excited to be here. I'm always excited when
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any of my good friends that just have... Amazing
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stories in their lives have inspired me for decades
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Actually say yes when I call them up and say
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hey you want to talk about that publicly on our
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podcast when You know, I've I've had the opportunity
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to know you and be a friend of yours for a long
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long time But for those who are listening would
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you mind just providing just super high -level
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introduction and You know just for context of
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what we talked about on the podcast like what?
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What is your chosen physical pursuit, kind of
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the way that you push yourself physically to
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grow? Wow. Well, I would say that that's evolved
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throughout my life. I was always active as a
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kid. I was never... the best at any sport. I
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tried all of them, but I knew that being active
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felt really good for me.
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And in different stages
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of my life, whether it be mentally, connecting
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through being outdoors and just having space
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and feeling present, to in my mid -20s getting
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crazy into work, starting to feel anxiety, I
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learned that pushing myself physically in different
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ways really helped out in that. And then in the
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past several years, I know you know, but going
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through a breast cancer journey, that was its
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own challenge in itself. But from the physical
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aspect, I went from being the most active I had
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been in my life to kind of starting over and
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navigating what that felt like mentally and physically
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and really redefining, you know, what Challenges
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meant for me they got a little bit smaller, but
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they got a little bit more important and more
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frequent and Yeah, so it's evolved over time
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That's just a good lesson for everyone to take
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away with because I think lots of times people
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actually start to identify Who they are like
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as their identity based off of what they do whether
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it's their physical pursuit or or their job But
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the truth of the matter is we're always evolving
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and it might be different based off of our current
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circumstances in life. Yeah, absolutely. So when
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you say that you're active as a kid, like, what,
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what, what, what'd you do? Oh, well, you know,
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rode my bike everywhere back in the day when
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we could. Um, and, uh, was always exploring the
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woods. Uh, didn't call it hiking, but was doing
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that all of the time. Um, I played a little basketball.
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I was on the dance team. I did swimming. So,
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you know, pretty much all of it. It just, to
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your point, I never identified as I am a runner.
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I am a marathoner. I am, you know, one sport.
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It was just staying active. And then As I got
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older, maybe when some of those organized sports
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disappear a little bit, you're re -figuring out
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how to weave that back into your life, what is
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meaningful. And for me, it was also things that
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I hadn't tried that I wanted to put some dedication
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into. And staying active for me became trying
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a lot of different things, whether it was kickboxing
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or, you know, boot camps. I think you and I did,
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what was it? The Warrior? The Warrior Dash, yeah.
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Warrior Dash, yeah. So, you know, those were
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all challenges to me of, I've never done that.
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That seems interesting. I think I could do that.
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And yeah, so I've just kind of hopped around
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with being active, but have had some real moments
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in life where I've had to be intentional about
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that and choose how to maintain that in my life.
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When you, you know, start growing a family, when
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you get into a career that consumes all of your
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time. And some of it has also been, how do I
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make this part of my lifestyle something that
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can be social and not just, you know, a check
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of the box of making sure I get a certain activity.
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I love that this idea of experimentation. And
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I think you also touched on on this as well,
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like this idea of play. Like, yeah, there's there's
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there's no reason to not try. all of these things
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and if there's something that grabs your interest
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give it a shot because you don't know what it
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is that like where it's going to take you like
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the people that you meet or what what actually
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intrigues you and and gets you excited i will
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say on that note though i did i think it was
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in seventh or eighth grade i decided to try synchronized
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swimming that is hard tell tell us about that
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That is really hard. It's something that, you
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know, I think maybe watching it in the Olympics,
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it's like, that looks so pretty. That's really
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neat. And also having some dance in my life,
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I saw something and signed up for it with a friend
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and realized, oh my God, that is really hard
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and I might drown. So anyway, lots of respect
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to people who do
synchronized swimming. Oh yeah,
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absolutely. What is like, what is your, like,
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your motto when it comes to just your life. It
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sounds like physical activities, like is a must,
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like I have to have different activities and
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be curious and lots of different things. And
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why is that important to you? Like it just seems
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like you're very like, I'm gonna try lots of
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different things and it's important to move my
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body. But why? Yeah, well, yeah, lots of different
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reasons. I feel better. But also my I guess motto
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is, I think this is on one of my social media
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handles, but it's it's staying active in all
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things. Like that's that's very meaningful to
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me. I can get bored doing the same thing all
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the time. So to me, again, the variety, trying
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new things, challenging myself with them, finding
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things I don't like, but I tried it. To me, that's
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important in staying active and then also being
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a mom. I want to be an active parent. I want
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to be a good role model for my son and for how
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he engages in life, how he experiences life.
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And a lot of that is through, you know, keeping
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that curiosity and exploration top of mind when
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you're doing things. I love that. Is that like
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a double meeting? Seeing actively engaged in
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all things. Is there like a double meeting there
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as well with that? I just, I feel like that's
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kind of describes my approach to life, whether
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it's Been work whether it's in community whether
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it's in activity whether it's in being a parent
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or a family member or friend You know when you
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pick kind of a short snippet to sum it up that
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that's what came to my mind Has there been anything
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in your life that you've done it in this like
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realm of being you know physical pursuit or physical
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activities that yours like wow that was So much
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fun. I want to do more of this when I travel,
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you know I'll look at different hikes and that
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is something where it's like wow This this brought
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me to a whole new experience and I would have
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ever seen or been a part of had I not wanted
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to just Step out into kind of the unknown But
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I think that happens in a lot of different ways,
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you know, I'm I'm on a breast cancer survivor
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dragon boat team and that's something that was
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totally out of my comfort zone. I had actually,
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I was in physical therapy for, gosh, probably
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a year and a half, getting mobility back, healing.
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And I was in a restorative class, a Pilates class,
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actually at Ballet Austin. And somebody in that
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class who was also a breast cancer survivor had
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mentioned this dragon boat team. I was like,
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what is dragon? It says dragon. I'm in. That
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sounds cool, right? And so it piqued my interest
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because that's my thing. It's like, I've never
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heard of that. I feel like I should know about
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that. I should try it. And so she said, you know,
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we do guest paddle, paddling sessions. And do
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you want, do you want to come? And I said, of
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course. And so I went and that is something,
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you know, to your point where I was in the boat.
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It was a very emotional day for me. But I was
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like, I have to do more of this. And, you know,
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I've been on that team for two and a half years
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now. And that has opened up all kinds of experiences
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being on the water. I had never really been a
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water sport person. Was it the synchronized swimming?
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Like after that experience, you're like, I'm
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out. Just like not only is it no synchronized
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swimming, anything with water. Right. Yeah. That
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or maybe, you know, wakeboarding a few times
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my life, taking some nosedives. But This was
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totally different because here I had just been
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through a really traumatic, scary experience
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in my life. And then I was now on a boat where
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every breast cancer survivor has a very different
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journey, right? But one thing I can say
pretty
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confidently is they've all had upper body trauma.
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And to be in a boat, that is, it's 22 people.
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on what is basically a giant Camille and there
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there's two people to a rail and you're you're
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paddling in sync um with you know the mobility
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that you probably thought you were never going
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to get back at some point at least that's how
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I felt because for quite a while I couldn't lift
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my arms over 45 degrees and here I am full stroke
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you know paddling in sync Um, in quiet really,
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it's very kind of a meditative feel as well.
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Um, with, with these women who have all powered
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through their own journey. So it was, it was
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very powerful. It was very emotional for me that,
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that day to see, um, a group of women who've
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chose to get stronger, who've chosen to push
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their bodies to a different level. Um, and so,
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yeah, that, that is something that I. Instantly
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was like I have to do more of this. Okay, I had
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more questions about the so many questions We're
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gonna go into we're gonna get into this now the
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nitty -gritty So you mentioned two people to
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an or is that what you like or to a row? What
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does that look like? So you got one side the
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other person has the other side and there's ten
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rows and then you have a Drummer at the front
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who's the person who is you know making the calls?
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Keeping everybody in sync telling us when to
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accelerate pull back push harder and then you
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have someone steering the boat like an actual
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drum, like boof, boof. In races, yes. In races,
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the drum comes out. I've actually, that was a
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new thing this past year. I was the drummer,
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which I had never been as well. Last year I was
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re -diagnosed with breast cancer in January and
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I navigated through that part of it. I went through
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30 rounds of radiation. And it was during a time
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where we were preparing for a race in Vancouver.
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It was our first international race that we were
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going to be a part of. So I had planned the trip.
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I had plans to get my son with me. And because
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of the radiation, I couldn't train. And I was
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not going to be able to compete in that race.
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And that was hard. But I decided, you know what?
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I'm still going. and also wanted that to be an
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example for my son of, you know what, if you're
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injured, if you're hurt, you still show up for
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your team. I love that. You know, this is your
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tribe. This is your community. And so we still
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went to Vancouver and it was right before that
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race, actually somebody had to drop last minute.
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And so they knew I could not paddle, but they
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said, you know what, will you be the drummer?
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We want you to be on the boat. So it was very
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special. Some of them didn't think, Nathan, you
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might find this funny, but some of them weren't
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sure if I could, you know, find my big voice.
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And so as soon as, you know, I had to learn how
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to be a drummer and what calls to make, you know,
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within a couple of weeks. And sure enough, you
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know, I brought out the Big Brook voice and now
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they're all like, what? What an asset we had
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no idea and they've asked me to be a drummer
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multiple times now What a great story though
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you being like, hey, you know what my son and
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I were still gonna go out we're gonna be there
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for the team but then the team like reciprocating
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that and being like Hey, she's gonna be there.
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How can she participate and they extend that
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invitation to you to continue to be part of that
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community Man, it's so cool. That is so cool
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now I know that this journey with the Dragon
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Boat team, it still continues to this day. And
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Vancouver wasn't the last international competition
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that y 'all went to, was it? Right. So this summer,
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we went to France. And that was something that
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we've been working toward for two years. So right
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after Vancouver, France was on the docket for
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us to be a part of. So amazing because it was
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an international race. So there were about almost
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200 breast cancer survivor teams from all over
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the globe. It's a very, you know, very powerful
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event to be a part of, but it was exciting because
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we, out of that 150 teams, we came in 18th. You
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have heats, right? So a heat of five teams, five
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or six teams that'll race. And we came in second
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in our first one, then got first place in the
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following two heats. And that was a new challenge
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too, because our first day got rained out. So
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they gave us this bonus day at the end. But instead
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of doing our standard 500 meter race, they made
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it a thousand meter race. Oh. We had not. Well,
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I mean, we do endurance practicing all the time,
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but we had not practiced to race. Race at full
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power. Double the length, right? For a thousand
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meters. Yeah. And we came in first place in that
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heat. It was pretty exciting, but it showed us,
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you know, again, coming together and the trust
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that we have in the boat and what we've put into
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it that we could, you know, we're going to make
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this happen. Yeah. What does it feel like to
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row? I just don't know. Is it physically exhausting?
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Is it more mentally exhausting? Are you just
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like, it's just you can't train for it? Tell
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us about what that feels like. It is a full body
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workout. You don't think about it. You think
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about it being your arms. But really, your leg
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is driving. So your leg is up against almost
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the seat in front of you. And there's a movement
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with your leg where you you know, bend your knee,
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push forward, bend your knee, push forward. So
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you're really doing a leg drive and you're planting
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the paddle and then pulling it back. But it's
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not like a bicep, you know, movement like this.
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It's a straight arm pull. Yeah. You're using
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a lot of your torso, right?
Yes. Yeah. It is
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exhausting. We, but it feels great, you know,
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and we race in kind of sprints. So, um, 200 meter
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races, those will take, um, we, we just, Fine.
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We just finished in our first sub one minute
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race time for the 200 meter, but that's around
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a minute ish and the 500 meters are, um, you
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know, somewhere around a couple of minutes. We
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practice two to three times a week for an hour
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and a half. So obviously you take breaks during
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that hour and a half, but, um, it is definitely
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a very good workout. Your first story of showing
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up. to practice. It was kind of emotional for
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you. It was different. It was a new experience.
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It was super meaningful. You shared a quick story
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about Vancouver and how they kind of invited
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you to still participate, even though you couldn't
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because you were back going through treatment
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as your breast cancer came back. When you think
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about France, do you have any specific moments
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that come to mind that really stand out? Yeah,
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I mean, I think for me, it was It was kind of
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a culmination of getting my strength back. You
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know, it was this big event that there had been
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a couple of years leading up to this, the Vancouver
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one I wasn't able to participate in, and then
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being part of such a big, important race and
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being part of this community now that, again,
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I feel like is my tribe. I mean, the whole thing
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felt just like a big moment. But I think when
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we outpaced ourselves and had our own personal
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records at such a big venue and such a big event,
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that was just, you know, really showing you that
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you can come back and you can push harder. And,
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you know, there's there's women on our boat that
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are still intrigued. There are women on our boat
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who are living with cancer indefinitely. And
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that is something that you know, I look around
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and I'm so inspired by the the people around
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me and one of the things with this group of women
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that I a moment that I just found really Really
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hit me hard and well was really inspiring was
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so with with breast cancer, any cancer probably,
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the journey doesn't just have an end date. A
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lot of people are like, oh, I'm glad that you're
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through it. It is quite the marathon that can
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be everlasting that people don't recognize. One
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of the things I've experienced is after my recurrence,
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I've now had five surgeries and I'm currently,
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I'm doing great, but I'm on two... medications
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daily for five years. So that's a new challenge
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for me that I'm facing because they give you
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crazy fatigue. They make your joints hurt to
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where in the morning sometimes I get up and like
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can barely walk for quite a while until I can
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get moving again. And so there's things like
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that where it can, you know, mentally really
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take you down a bit. And I remember I was having
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this day where I was feeling kind of, you know,
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I don't want to go to practice. I'm so tired.
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And then I finally thought, you know, I need
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to go. I'll feel better when I go. And it was
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that day where my seatmate next to me, who is
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older, she's actually in her early seventies,
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was paddling full, full power. And then we stopped
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for a break and she's talking to me about, oh,
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how she had chemo yesterday. And I was sitting
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here feeling like, oh, I'm having fatigue and
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maybe I'm not going to go. And it's things like
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that where it's just, wow, you can, you know,
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I think about that every single day of I'm making
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a choice. I may feel less energy. I may feel
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weaker. I may feel like I'm rebuilding strength
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from, you know, what I used to have, but I could
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choose to not show up or you can and you can
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push through. And so, yeah, that was a very inspiring
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kind of moment for me on the boat with my team
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as well. Oh, so amazing. It's like inspiring
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to hear that. Thank you for sharing. What dawned
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upon me, you know, as you're sharing this, you
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know, you're a two -time cancer survivor, right?
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And I do want to ask some more questions about
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that in a moment. But what's so amazing is so
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often I think we all think that physical pursuit
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is just like, you're pushing your past, your
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physical limits, you know, physically type stuff.
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But what if those limits are because of other
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things outside of your control, like cancer,
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right? And so then what does that look like?
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And so it's just really dawned upon me that just
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that, like hearing that story about, you know,
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the lady in the early 70s who had chemo the day
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before and was peddling her best, then what strength
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and willpower it took to just perform and do
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that. How did that shift your perspective and
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just viewpoint going forward after hearing that
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from her? I think, you know, people say this,
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but so much of it is mental as far as how far
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you can go, you know? And that's something that
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I remind myself of all the time. And again, with
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my son, something that I want him to see and,
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you know, he's been at our races. He's our biggest
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fan. This past year in France, we decided maybe
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he's a mascot as well. I don't know, because
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it's just me and him all the time and he's going
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to be there. So it was a good reminder in that
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moment that I could have just let myself feel
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weak and not want to you know, push myself to
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be involved. And, you know, when I do move through
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those things, and everybody does, we all have
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those days or times or points in our life. And
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outside of the cancer, I've had a lot of loss
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in my life. I went through a divorce. And so
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I've been through like cycles of big challenges
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that get you emotionally and can have an impact
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physically, too. And it really is just taking
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that moment to decide. you know, what you want
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to do and how you want to challenge yourself,
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whether that be physically at certain levels
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or just stay active. How do you find the strength?
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How do you find the moment to keep going? For
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example, like after you experience like feeling
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so, as you mentioned right before you and Larisha,
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like I'm tired, I'm exhausted, like, you know,
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there's real physical limitations happening within
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your own body that like normal people don't have
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to, people on a daily basis don't have to experience,
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you know. And yet from the strength to go on,
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like, how do you be like, no, I'm going to do
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this. I think for most people, it's a really
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good excuse to, you know, very valid reason.
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People be like, no, you should take some time
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off. But you're like, no, I'm going to go. Where
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does that come from? Where do you find that?
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I don't know. I think, I think where it comes
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from is I have done it enough times to now I
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go back in my mind and think about how much better
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I felt afterward. And so just being able to remind
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myself that I felt better. and I could do it.
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I've done, you know, I showed even small increments,
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right? So after I had a double mastectomy and
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after that, all I could do was walk. That was
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like the first thing I could do is like, okay,
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I'll get to walking around the block. Okay, now
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I'll go a little bit further. And this came to
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mind because the other day I was looking through
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photos and a photo popped up. from 2022 and I
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was walking the lip strong race here in Austin
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and I looked at the date and it was two months
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after my surgery which was a significant surgery
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where I had you know had surgical drains in for
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quite a long time I was you know it was a lot
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of healing. And I was like, Oh my God, I can't
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believe I walked that race two months after my
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surgery. So again, it was like one of those reminders
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of, I felt
very beat down. And I felt like I
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know activity is something that makes me feel
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better. And again, the challenge was very different
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at that point than it was years before when I
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was doing boot camps and doing kickboxing. And,
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you know, and I had to just kind of reframe it
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and take the small steps and recognize those
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as progress and as an achievement. Your hard
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right now is different than what your hard was
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10 years ago. Yeah. But because you did hard
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things 10 years ago, you'd be like, I could still
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do hard things now. It might be a little bit
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different, but I could do it. I could take that
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next step. What a beautiful, beautiful message.
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It's so beautiful. And I think you're like, you
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know, Nathan always talks about this is like
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everyone's heart is different, but like the feeling
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is the exact same. The fear in your mind, the
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feeling in your body is the exact same. Heart
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is hard. And some, some days we can have, we
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can handle more hard, less hard, but it doesn't
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really matter. It's just the same feeling and
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overcoming is huge. You shared a little bit about
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the role of having practice doing hard things
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all throughout your life and kind of being able
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to look back on that, say, Hey, I can, I could
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do this too. Right. I can, I can do this too.
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Um, but then you also shared that story about
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your seatmate and how she was going through something
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and still showed up for practice and you're like,
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Oh, I could do it as well. How many, how many
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boats did you say were in France? Was it 150?
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18. Yeah. Yeah, we came in 18th, but there were
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150. They came in 18th. But there was 150 boats.
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And every single one of these boats had 22 women
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who were, was it specifically breast cancer survivors?
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Yes, this one was specifically breast cancer.
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I mean, I can't help but think the power of that
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gathering. Oh, yeah, it was just, I mean, I just
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love to hear like even to get like a glimpse
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of what that's like to have all of these amazing
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women who have gone through what arguably could
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be considered like the hardest thing that a human
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can go through in life, having cancer and surviving
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it. And they're all out there competing, rowing
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their hearts out, competing in a worldwide competition,
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but you're all there together kind of in that
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and have that same story. Just if there's anything
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you could do to help us kind of like feel what
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that felt like. It is hard to like share that
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feeling, but it was overwhelming. And one thing
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that we do when it is breast cancer only, Dragon
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Boat. races is we do a ceremony, it's called
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a flower ceremony, where in the middle of all
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these races, in the middle of the day, we pause
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and we stop and there will be women on the boats.
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We normally blend the boats with different teams
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being on each one and you go out and we take
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a moment and we honor those that we've lost that
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are still fighting the fight and the ones that
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have survived. And you know, you throw a flower
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out to the water. So in this instance, you see
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all of the power, the energy, there are hugs,
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like from women, from different teams, people
00:29:07.690 --> 00:29:10.990
who can't speak the same language, but high -fiving,
00:29:11.269 --> 00:29:13.930
exchanging our team, like we've got our logo
00:29:13.930 --> 00:29:16.289
on pins, little metal pins, and we're exchanging
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jerseys and pins with other competitors. But
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it is this community where everybody is cheering
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each other on and supporting each other because
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it's more than about the race. It's the fact
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that the women there have showed up and they've
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chosen to be there and to push through so much.
00:29:40.119 --> 00:29:45.680
And a lot of it too, I hope that the team and
00:29:45.680 --> 00:29:50.460
events like that drive awareness around being
00:29:50.460 --> 00:29:56.059
able to be confident about having physical challenges
00:29:56.059 --> 00:30:00.059
and activity back in your life. in a positive
00:30:00.059 --> 00:30:04.440
way, even through
such a difficult journey. That
00:30:04.440 --> 00:30:08.960
flower ceremony sounds amazing. Yeah. Not a dry
00:30:08.960 --> 00:30:13.400
eye. Like it is, I'll send you, I've got aerial
00:30:13.400 --> 00:30:17.140
shots. They had drones, of course, and you can
00:30:17.140 --> 00:30:19.819
see all the boats and you can see thousands of
00:30:19.819 --> 00:30:23.240
people wearing pink, you know, the flowers in
00:30:23.240 --> 00:30:28.700
the water and it just, it's very impactful. understanding
00:30:28.700 --> 00:30:31.759
this whole journey that you've been on post breast
00:30:31.759 --> 00:30:35.940
cancer and doing these dragon boat races and
00:30:35.940 --> 00:30:39.299
everything. I'd love to like backtrack a little
00:30:39.299 --> 00:30:43.319
bit as that, as the journey started, right? Cause
00:30:43.319 --> 00:30:46.539
I'm sure like most people, well, you were super
00:30:46.539 --> 00:30:50.039
active. You said you did kickboxing, you did
00:30:50.039 --> 00:30:52.680
boot camps. You haven't mentioned this, but you
00:30:52.680 --> 00:30:54.720
actually led a bunch of boot camps, right? Like
00:30:54.720 --> 00:30:57.039
you are actually like the teacher and that was
00:30:57.039 --> 00:31:00.980
helping other people with their physical activity.
00:31:01.279 --> 00:31:02.720
And if I remember correctly - That has an interesting
00:31:02.720 --> 00:31:05.740
story to it as well. Oh, well, I would love to
00:31:05.740 --> 00:31:08.359
hear that story. We would love to hear this story.
00:31:09.119 --> 00:31:13.779
Yeah, so I mentioned early on that another kind
00:31:13.779 --> 00:31:16.140
of meaningful time in my life where I realized
00:31:16.140 --> 00:31:20.539
that physical challenge was Felt good and was
00:31:20.539 --> 00:31:23.220
very healthy for me was when I started experiencing
00:31:23.220 --> 00:31:27.599
anxiety, which is pretty normal for Early professionals
00:31:27.599 --> 00:31:30.220
in the mid -20s, you know, you always hear like
00:31:30.220 --> 00:31:33.140
go out and exercise well I really did find that
00:31:33.140 --> 00:31:38.950
it it helped me and so flash forward if you years
00:31:38.950 --> 00:31:42.329
later, after working at, you know, a very intense,
00:31:42.650 --> 00:31:46.470
high energy startup, I had quit that job. And
00:31:46.470 --> 00:31:51.309
I decided to take some time off to figure out
00:31:51.309 --> 00:31:54.789
what I wanted to do next. And in that time off,
00:31:55.170 --> 00:31:57.450
and I had just gotten married too. So I was like,
00:31:57.529 --> 00:32:00.369
okay, this is kind of like a pause. I made like
00:32:00.369 --> 00:32:03.109
a little bucket list of things. And one of them
00:32:03.109 --> 00:32:05.849
was I want to get certified as a personal trainer.
00:32:07.059 --> 00:32:11.900
And I signed up to go through the certification,
00:32:13.079 --> 00:32:16.200
and I kind of forgot about it. Like, you could
00:32:16.200 --> 00:32:21.420
start the classes and,
you know, the certification
00:32:21.420 --> 00:32:23.799
piece of it really at any point within like six
00:32:23.799 --> 00:32:28.279
months, right? And in that time, I got pregnant.
00:32:28.720 --> 00:32:31.700
And then they were contacting me saying like,
00:32:31.839 --> 00:32:33.460
hey, you already signed up for this. You said
00:32:33.460 --> 00:32:35.759
you were going to do it. You only have a couple
00:32:35.759 --> 00:32:39.559
more months, you still want to do it. So I ended
00:32:39.559 --> 00:32:41.799
up getting certified as a personal trainer when
00:32:41.799 --> 00:32:46.650
I was six months pregnant. And that was an interesting
00:32:46.650 --> 00:32:51.950
journey. And people thought it was crazy. After
00:32:51.950 --> 00:32:56.009
I had my son, I discovered a group called Stroller
00:32:56.009 --> 00:32:59.750
Strides. And it's a larger organization called
00:32:59.750 --> 00:33:03.430
Fit for Mom. They teach these exercise classes
00:33:03.430 --> 00:33:06.950
and parks all around the town where you can bring
00:33:06.950 --> 00:33:11.210
your child and get your physical exercise done.
00:33:11.650 --> 00:33:13.710
So I went to a couple of them and they found
00:33:13.710 --> 00:33:15.910
out I was actually certified. So they asked me
00:33:15.910 --> 00:33:19.789
to start training them. So I did those. I signed
00:33:19.789 --> 00:33:21.809
up to be a sub. I was like, I'm not going to
00:33:21.809 --> 00:33:25.069
fully commit. I'll be a sub. But then when you
00:33:25.069 --> 00:33:30.170
have a group of women who are the trainers, there
00:33:30.170 --> 00:33:34.250
were a lot out for getting pregnant again. They,
00:33:34.589 --> 00:33:37.349
you know, family stuff comes up. So I was, I
00:33:37.349 --> 00:33:40.869
was doing these classes like six days a week
00:33:40.869 --> 00:33:44.529
for quite a while. But then I started, yeah,
00:33:44.609 --> 00:33:48.829
teaching my own boot camps that were just with,
00:33:48.829 --> 00:33:53.200
you know, anybody. Yeah. Funny story, how I got
00:33:53.200 --> 00:33:55.660
the certification. It was not the ideal time.
00:33:56.440 --> 00:33:57.859
Yeah. You're like, and that escalated quickly.
00:33:58.180 --> 00:34:01.160
I think a common theme that I keep hearing around
00:34:01.160 --> 00:34:04.859
your story, Brooke, is as your life has evolved
00:34:04.859 --> 00:34:09.079
and as you've had different experiences, whether
00:34:09.079 --> 00:34:12.500
it was intentional or not, you find community
00:34:12.500 --> 00:34:16.119
to support you kind of in that time period. And
00:34:16.119 --> 00:34:20.019
I love that. Right? You're a new mom. I'm also
00:34:20.019 --> 00:34:21.780
a certified personal trainer. How can I bring
00:34:21.780 --> 00:34:24.239
these things together? Oh, look, I can work out
00:34:24.239 --> 00:34:26.179
with a bunch of other moms who have their kids
00:34:26.179 --> 00:34:28.760
with them as if I have a newborn. And now I can
00:34:28.760 --> 00:34:32.639
be part of that community. You're a breast cancer
00:34:32.639 --> 00:34:36.119
survivor. You were invited. Well, you were invited
00:34:36.119 --> 00:34:39.420
while you were at a restorative class at Ballet
00:34:39.420 --> 00:34:42.340
Austin, right? Another community that was specifically
00:34:42.340 --> 00:34:45.519
around breast cancer survivorship. And then we're
00:34:45.519 --> 00:34:50.300
part of the Dragon Boat team. There's a powerful
00:34:50.300 --> 00:34:54.739
lesson, I think, for all of us to really make
00:34:54.739 --> 00:34:57.699
sure that we are finding our tribes, that we
00:34:57.699 --> 00:35:00.699
are finding those communities that can be there
00:35:00.699 --> 00:35:04.460
for us, but then we can also be there for them
00:35:04.460 --> 00:35:08.050
in times of difficulty and hardship. Mm -hmm.
00:35:08.389 --> 00:35:11.170
And I will say, too, I mean, outside of just
00:35:11.170 --> 00:35:13.309
the times of difficulty and hardship, I mean,
00:35:13.429 --> 00:35:17.360
those are... obviously times where it is very
00:35:17.360 --> 00:35:20.920
important, but just in normal day life. So in
00:35:20.920 --> 00:35:24.900
my normal life of just being an adult and getting
00:35:24.900 --> 00:35:28.679
older or different chapters of your life, I,
00:35:29.059 --> 00:35:32.000
outside of a breast cancer group or a mom's group,
00:35:32.409 --> 00:35:34.989
Um, you know tennis is something that I plan
00:35:34.989 --> 00:35:38.690
on doing one as a physical challenge for me Um,
00:35:38.750 --> 00:35:41.130
it's a whole different upper body movement that
00:35:41.130 --> 00:35:43.750
I I wanted to start tennis to just have a new
00:35:43.750 --> 00:35:46.969
outlet and and again kind of a social outlet
00:35:46.969 --> 00:35:52.510
but a hobby and a sport As I got older and and
00:35:52.510 --> 00:35:54.769
then with breast cancer delayed it. So that's
00:35:54.769 --> 00:35:58.110
something that it's You know, so on my list that
00:35:58.110 --> 00:36:01.150
i'm getting back to and getting into and I think
00:36:01.150 --> 00:36:03.820
that You know, finding those things, whether
00:36:03.820 --> 00:36:07.940
a challenge led you there or not, but it is,
00:36:08.099 --> 00:36:10.119
there are those communities that come together
00:36:10.119 --> 00:36:12.480
through different activities that's great on
00:36:12.480 --> 00:36:16.099
a social level as well as physical. It's not
00:36:16.099 --> 00:36:18.659
surprising at all that your exploration continues,
00:36:19.480 --> 00:36:22.159
right? This idea of questing and trying things
00:36:22.159 --> 00:36:24.519
and finding play in life and finding challenge
00:36:24.519 --> 00:36:27.559
in life. Is this something that you have continuously
00:36:27.559 --> 00:36:31.360
been drawn towards and pulled towards? And I'm
00:36:31.360 --> 00:36:34.000
not surprised that that still continues for you.
00:36:34.539 --> 00:36:36.639
And if I may throw out some
suggestions, tennis
00:36:36.639 --> 00:36:38.980
is amazing. Love it. Paddle is awesome. Pick
00:36:38.980 --> 00:36:41.960
a ball. It's, I'm telling you, it's great. I'm
00:36:41.960 --> 00:36:44.619
sure you've done it. So this is brought to you
00:36:44.619 --> 00:36:49.119
by the national. I know. So when did you find
00:36:49.119 --> 00:36:53.579
out about your cancer that happened? Do you mind
00:36:53.579 --> 00:36:55.280
sharing that story? Because I think it's just
00:36:55.280 --> 00:36:57.059
helpful for the listeners to understand just
00:36:57.059 --> 00:36:59.400
how that impacted your life and how you got through
00:36:59.400 --> 00:37:02.380
that story. If you wouldn't mind sharing. Well,
00:37:02.599 --> 00:37:07.039
it's an interesting time in life because I think,
00:37:07.099 --> 00:37:09.940
you know, we had all just gone through a pandemic.
00:37:10.639 --> 00:37:14.199
I had just gone through a divorce and I was starting
00:37:14.199 --> 00:37:18.530
a startup company of my own. Um, and my mom's
00:37:18.530 --> 00:37:21.449
health went downhill, so I was, uh, in a position
00:37:21.449 --> 00:37:25.250
of being a senior caretaker. So all of these
00:37:25.250 --> 00:37:27.730
things kind of happened. I finally like settled
00:37:27.730 --> 00:37:30.989
all of this in my mind. And I remember, you know,
00:37:31.190 --> 00:37:33.789
the 2022, the new year, I was like, okay, not
00:37:33.789 --> 00:37:36.210
where I thought I was going to be, but moving
00:37:36.210 --> 00:37:39.809
forward, you know, like things are where they
00:37:39.809 --> 00:37:43.110
need to be and moving forward. And it was five
00:37:43.110 --> 00:37:46.150
months later where I found I had a breast cancer.
00:37:46.250 --> 00:37:53.349
And so it was shocking. It was scary. It was
00:37:53.349 --> 00:37:59.840
a month after I had turned 38. And, you know,
00:37:59.840 --> 00:38:04.469
I hit the floor. I will say I picked up the phone
00:38:04.469 --> 00:38:06.909
when I shouldn't have for results that were quite
00:38:06.909 --> 00:38:09.210
important. And it was before a couple of investor
00:38:09.210 --> 00:38:11.730
meetings and sales meetings I had for my startup.
00:38:12.250 --> 00:38:14.730
So I put the phone down first and said, I'm going
00:38:14.730 --> 00:38:17.170
to have to set that aside for a moment, like
00:38:17.170 --> 00:38:19.510
in my head, I got through that and then I hit
00:38:19.510 --> 00:38:24.329
the floor. And it was, it was devastating. It
00:38:24.329 --> 00:38:28.989
was, you know, I had just been through several
00:38:28.989 --> 00:38:31.210
challenges and this is where you're trying not
00:38:31.210 --> 00:38:34.010
to choke up, but I had just been through several
00:38:34.010 --> 00:38:37.190
- We're criers here, it's okay. Yeah, big things
00:38:37.190 --> 00:38:41.489
and been like, okay. I got through that. I did
00:38:41.489 --> 00:38:44.250
it. I'm moving forward. And then when I got the
00:38:44.250 --> 00:38:46.110
news of breast cancer, it was the moment where
00:38:46.110 --> 00:38:50.809
I felt like, this is the challenge. This was,
00:38:50.809 --> 00:38:54.210
this was the big punch that knocked me over,
00:38:54.210 --> 00:38:56.530
you know, and am I going to get through this?
00:38:58.300 --> 00:39:00.659
And I think it's hard to a lot of people with
00:39:00.659 --> 00:39:02.460
people going through cancer will say, you got
00:39:02.460 --> 00:39:04.420
this, you got this. And sometimes you feel like,
00:39:04.599 --> 00:39:06.780
but what if I don't? I don't know. People ask
00:39:06.780 --> 00:39:08.780
me, how'd you get through all of that? I didn't
00:39:08.780 --> 00:39:14.679
see any other I didn't see any other way, but
00:39:14.679 --> 00:39:19.360
to take it head on and just move through it.
00:39:20.840 --> 00:39:23.900
And so you, you know, big, big things like that,
00:39:23.920 --> 00:39:26.760
you start breaking up into, okay, like small
00:39:26.760 --> 00:39:29.440
steps of, I'm going to do this first. So I'm
00:39:29.440 --> 00:39:31.940
going to, you know, get through this. And again,
00:39:31.980 --> 00:39:33.860
in that moment too, I looked at, okay, I just
00:39:33.860 --> 00:39:35.559
got through these things that I thought were
00:39:35.559 --> 00:39:38.599
the hardest thing I've been through in my life.
00:39:38.889 --> 00:39:41.289
At the time, they were that mountain. Now they're
00:39:41.289 --> 00:39:44.690
the mole hill. And this too is going to be in
00:39:44.690 --> 00:39:48.949
the rear view. I just need to, you know, move
00:39:48.949 --> 00:39:52.099
through it in the best way that I can. And for
00:39:52.099 --> 00:39:56.880
whether it's getting that call that you have
00:39:56.880 --> 00:40:01.710
breast cancer or any other thing that could have
00:40:01.710 --> 00:40:03.750
that type of impact on people's lives. I think
00:40:03.750 --> 00:40:05.550
that it's a guarantee that all of us are going
00:40:05.550 --> 00:40:07.789
to have something like that at least once in
00:40:07.789 --> 00:40:11.030
our life happen. If you wouldn't mind sharing,
00:40:11.150 --> 00:40:13.329
I mean, first you said you hit the floor. What,
00:40:13.429 --> 00:40:16.230
what did that actually look like? Like what,
00:40:16.349 --> 00:40:20.010
what was that? And then what was it that allowed
00:40:20.010 --> 00:40:22.849
you to like transition from that to then get
00:40:22.849 --> 00:40:24.869
to that mindset that you just described, which
00:40:24.869 --> 00:40:27.900
is, well, I'm going to step forward. I'm going
00:40:27.900 --> 00:40:29.559
to move forward. I've gone through hard things
00:40:29.559 --> 00:40:31.360
before. I'm going to make through hard things
00:40:31.360 --> 00:40:36.139
here. But just for you, can you think of what.
00:40:36.230 --> 00:40:38.969
what it was that actually kind of helped you
00:40:38.969 --> 00:40:42.570
to make that transition from just being on the
00:40:42.570 -->
00:40:45.920
floor to being like, I still might be on the
00:40:45.920 --> 00:40:47.840
floor, but I know I'm going to be able to get
00:40:47.840 --> 00:40:49.739
up and I am going to be able to take the step
00:40:49.739 --> 00:40:53.960
forward. Well, and I think, you know, I let myself
00:40:53.960 --> 00:40:57.219
be on the floor for a moment because it's like,
00:40:57.219 --> 00:41:01.579
uh, okay, like this is that you let yourself
00:41:01.579 --> 00:41:06.909
feel and react and be human. Um, but you can't,
00:41:06.929 --> 00:41:09.570
I couldn't stay there, right? I mean, honestly,
00:41:09.750 --> 00:41:13.530
a big thing for me was my son. Um, and not everybody
00:41:13.530 --> 00:41:17.090
has that. Um, but for me, that was in the forefront
00:41:17.090 --> 00:41:21.769
of, in my mind of, you know, I will get up, I'm
00:41:21.769 --> 00:41:24.969
going to move forward. We're going to navigate
00:41:24.969 --> 00:41:28.429
through this. And, um, and I, and I did with
00:41:28.429 --> 00:41:30.889
him when he was, you know, he was six years old
00:41:30.889 --> 00:41:34.809
at that point. Um, and again, my mother, needed
00:41:34.809 --> 00:41:40.050
a lot of care. And so it was really hard to figure
00:41:40.050 --> 00:41:43.130
out how do I take care of myself while I'm taking
00:41:43.130 --> 00:41:52.619
care of other people. And that led me back to,
00:41:52.619 --> 00:41:59.010
again, more like finding the time to stay active
00:41:59.010 --> 00:42:03.690
in my life, take long walks, kind of figure out
00:42:04.329 --> 00:42:08.389
what this was going to look like step by step.
00:42:08.570 --> 00:42:13.090
And I realized along, you know, along that time
00:42:13.090 --> 00:42:17.989
that a lot of community showed up for me. I think
00:42:17.989 --> 00:42:21.090
that experience for me, the biggest like life
00:42:21.090 --> 00:42:25.590
lesson that I was, I feel like meant to learn
00:42:25.590 --> 00:42:29.550
at that time was it's okay to ask for help and
00:42:29.550 --> 00:42:33.969
to accept help. And I'm very bad at that. And
00:42:33.969 --> 00:42:37.269
this was, whatever you call it, the world, God
00:42:37.269 --> 00:42:43.590
telling me, no, you will learn this lesson to
00:42:43.590 --> 00:42:47.150
ask for help and to have people offer that to
00:42:47.150 --> 00:42:51.570
you. And so that was something that I had to
00:42:51.570 --> 00:42:55.150
accept and to let people walk side by side with
00:42:55.150 --> 00:43:01.369
me and navigate the journey with me. So what
00:43:01.369 --> 00:43:04.989
I heard was, It sounds like one of the first
00:43:04.989 --> 00:43:10.940
things is center on what that reason why to continue
00:43:10.940 --> 00:43:13.860
is. It sounds like your son was a big reason
00:43:13.860 --> 00:43:19.159
for you, but for everybody, there is a why. Why
00:43:19.159 --> 00:43:22.980
should you continue to move forward? Then focus
00:43:22.980 --> 00:43:26.960
on a plan. It helps to start to understand, okay,
00:43:27.179 --> 00:43:29.760
so what is the next step? Can I figure out what
00:43:29.760 --> 00:43:32.210
that next step is? What is that plan? But then
00:43:32.210 --> 00:43:35.489
that third one, and boy is it hard for especially
00:43:35.489 --> 00:43:37.710
if you're a high achieving individual that's
00:43:37.710 --> 00:43:40.469
extraordinarily capable in so many different
00:43:40.469 --> 00:43:44.789
facets of life to actually not only ask for help,
00:43:44.789 --> 00:43:47.809
but accept it. Yeah. What's so amazing too is
00:43:47.809 --> 00:43:50.010
just like any one of those things by itself would
00:43:50.010 --> 00:43:52.670
be enough to knock someone on the floor, you
00:43:52.670 --> 00:43:54.110
know, like any one of them just by it, but to
00:43:54.110 --> 00:43:58.059
have it all happen at once, just to your point,
00:43:58.079 --> 00:44:01.489
you're like, no, you will get help, right? It's
00:44:01.489 --> 00:44:03.690
like you don't have an option here, which is
00:44:03.690 --> 00:44:07.429
amazing. The big thing I've always kept in my
00:44:07.429 --> 00:44:12.280
mind too Is that you know, don't It's weird to
00:44:12.280 --> 00:44:14.679
say this out. Don't worry and until you need
00:44:14.679 --> 00:44:19.500
to worry and that's that's hard to Think about
00:44:19.500 --> 00:44:21.260
when you just got news that you have cancer.
00:44:21.260 --> 00:44:25.820
It's like Now's the time to worry Right now I'm
00:44:25.820 --> 00:44:29.179
worried. You also I had to you have I had to
00:44:29.179 --> 00:44:32.559
catch myself from going to Worst -case scenario.
00:44:32.559 --> 00:44:35.789
Yeah catastrophizing right? Right. It's like
00:44:35.789 --> 00:44:39.349
there's time between Where I am right now to
00:44:39.349 --> 00:44:45.349
that and let me take that first next step and
00:44:45.349 --> 00:44:50.889
You know, I think really Giving yourself grace
00:44:50.889 --> 00:44:54.090
to I mean that was something that I had to learn
00:44:54.090 --> 00:44:58.849
of it's okay to not Be able to do this activity.
00:44:58.849 --> 00:45:01.690
It's not it's okay to not be as strong It's okay
00:45:01.690 --> 00:45:04.949
to need to take a moment for yourself or to take
00:45:04.949 --> 00:45:08.389
a notch down on something, you know to be able
00:45:08.389 --> 00:45:12.849
to focus on getting That strength back whether
00:45:12.849 --> 00:45:15.170
it's mental at the time physical at the time
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and so that's the big thing that I've learned
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over all these years is how to Like adjust but
00:45:21.730 --> 00:45:26.099
not give up or not let something go out of my
00:45:26.099 --> 00:45:29.599
life for forever. Like I said, the activities
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I do now are completely different. My lifestyle
00:45:32.019 --> 00:45:33.960
is completely different than it used to be, but
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it's still where I feel good
and where I'm pushing
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myself to do the things that make sense for me
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in this moment. Was that that day that you found
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out with your cancer journey, was that the lowest
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of the low? Um, that's hard to say. Um, I mean,
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I would say, yeah, probably pretty close because
00:46:04.269 --> 00:46:09.250
just the initial shock, you know, you, you get
00:46:09.250 --> 00:46:12.050
nervous when you're getting tests done and there's
00:46:12.050 --> 00:46:16.309
a concern, but then you in the back of your mind,
00:46:16.329 --> 00:46:18.690
you do go to the bad place, but you also go to
00:46:18.690 --> 00:46:20.409
the place of it's going to be fine. We're going
00:46:20.409 --> 00:46:22.590
to call it's going to be fine. I'm healthy. I'm
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young. I'm doing what I'm supposed to be doing.
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Right. And then they called and it was not fine.
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And so that was something I just could not comprehend
00:46:35.849 --> 00:46:42.090
at all. And it was probably the lowest moment
00:46:42.090 --> 00:46:46.170
in it just because I had finally felt like I
00:46:46.170 --> 00:46:50.510
just got through these other big milestones and
00:46:50.510 --> 00:46:53.989
challenges and now's my time. That's what I felt
00:46:53.989 --> 00:46:59.300
like. the time for me. This is the time of rebuilding.
00:47:00.719 --> 00:47:03.639
I mentally got myself there. And then it was
00:47:03.639 --> 00:47:08.019
like, you know, this is what you're going to
00:47:08.019 --> 00:47:13.760
do now. So, you know, I think after the double
00:47:13.760 --> 00:47:19.519
mastectomy was pretty low. But also at the same
00:47:19.519 --> 00:47:23.500
time, it was low. But then I quickly got to a
00:47:23.500 --> 00:47:26.449
moment of me and I got through that. All right,
00:47:26.650 --> 00:47:33.199
now I know how I feel. Now I know what I can
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do tomorrow. I don't know. It's hard to explain.
00:47:36.820 --> 00:47:40.340
But like I said, it's an ongoing journey. And
00:47:40.340 --> 00:47:43.940
I had five surgeries in all. I think I counted
00:47:43.940 --> 00:47:46.840
at one point. I've been cut in like 25 different
00:47:46.840 --> 00:47:54.639
places through those surgeries. a lot more than
00:47:54.639 --> 00:47:57.619
upper body when they're cutting into your legs
00:47:57.619 --> 00:48:01.260
and, you know, it's just, it's a lot. And after
00:48:01.260 --> 00:48:04.300
each thing, I would feel like, okay, I'm recovering.
00:48:04.440 --> 00:48:07.159
I'm getting mobility back. I can now lift a five
00:48:07.159 --> 00:48:09.019
pound weight. And then it's like, oh, you've
00:48:09.019 --> 00:48:11.639
got to have surgery again. So it became kind
00:48:11.639 --> 00:48:17.760
of this really painful, challenging yo -yo a
00:48:17.760 --> 00:48:22.420
little bit, but also I learned after each thing,
00:48:22.420 --> 00:48:25.730
well, I did I did get my strengths back and I
00:48:25.730 --> 00:48:28.849
did make it to this point and I'm just going
00:48:28.849 --> 00:48:32.670
to do it again. One of the big lessons that I've
00:48:32.670 --> 00:48:35.750
learned that you touched on is that it's not
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the people who can keep going that make it the
00:48:39.719 --> 00:48:43.219
farthest. It's the person that can keep starting.
00:48:44.920 --> 00:48:47.619
Because you're always going to get a reset. There's
00:48:47.619 --> 00:48:50.460
going to be a time when you fail. Things aren't
00:48:50.460 --> 00:48:54.630
going to go the way that you want to go. that
00:48:54.630 --> 00:48:56.909
after that failure after that fall down or after
00:48:56.909 --> 00:48:59.750
that other surgery are you willing to get up
00:48:59.750 --> 00:49:02.949
and start again even if it's back at zero yeah
00:49:03.110 --> 00:49:06.829
and yeah that's you know I thank you for sharing
00:49:06.829 --> 00:49:10.219
that story yeah and I think that getting back
00:49:10.219 --> 00:49:13.420
up probably takes the the most strength absolutely
00:49:13.650 --> 00:49:15.849
Well, I have something I like to call floor time
00:49:15.849 --> 00:49:17.989
where I just lay on the floor and just lay there
00:49:17.989 --> 00:49:19.670
and just give up on live for a few minutes. And
00:49:19.670 --> 00:49:21.630
that's wonderful. But, you know, for just those
00:49:21.630 --> 00:49:24.889
listeners, I need that. But to Bruce's point,
00:49:25.070 --> 00:49:27.530
you gotta get up. That's one of the most effective
00:49:27.530 --> 00:49:29.730
things, though, if you're feeling totally overwhelmed,
00:49:29.909 --> 00:49:34.030
is just lay like you just on the ground, on the
00:49:34.030 --> 00:49:35.909
earth, lay there for a few moments. It's supposed
00:49:35.909 --> 00:49:41.099
to be very helpful. Practice to lift it. I'm
00:49:41.099 --> 00:49:43.039
in the second night. It's wonderful. Getting
00:49:43.039 --> 00:49:45.940
up part though, that's so hard and so inspiring
00:49:45.940 --> 00:49:47.960
to hear what you're doing. Just hearing that
00:49:47.960 --> 00:49:51.300
you had been cut 25 different places, right?
00:49:51.460 --> 00:49:56.079
I'm just like, it's just amazing to hear what
00:49:56.079 --> 00:49:57.739
you've been through and just the strength to
00:49:57.739 --> 00:49:59.880
keep going, to start again, to mention, right?
00:50:00.119 --> 00:50:02.300
And so I think for so many people, especially
00:50:02.300 --> 00:50:04.460
nowadays, like there's such a focus on this.
00:50:05.099 --> 00:50:07.059
external lotus of control where people, it's
00:50:07.059 --> 00:50:08.639
just like things happen to us all the time. It's
00:50:08.639 --> 00:50:11.199
just like, well, why try anymore? Because just
00:50:11.199 --> 00:50:13.159
bad things are gonna happen, you
know? And so
00:50:13.159 --> 00:50:14.579
it's just, but hearing you, it's just like, no,
00:50:14.659 --> 00:50:18.139
you gotta find something inside to keep going
00:50:18.139 --> 00:50:19.619
and going and going. It's just that the amount
00:50:19.619 --> 00:50:21.579
of strength that you've built to do that, it's
00:50:21.579 --> 00:50:24.579
just, it's needed, it's inspiring. So, oh, thank
00:50:24.579 --> 00:50:28.010
you for sharing that. I have a question for you,
00:50:28.010 --> 00:50:30.110
and this is not to ask you to be the spokesperson
00:50:30.110 --> 00:50:33.829
for every breast cancer survivor, because everybody
00:50:33.829 --> 00:50:36.230
has their own personality. Everyone has their
00:50:36.230 --> 00:50:38.789
own journey and all those things. But there is
00:50:38.789 --> 00:50:42.809
no doubt that all of us know at least a person,
00:50:42.829 --> 00:50:45.010
but probably multiple people who have gone through
00:50:45.010 --> 00:50:46.969
breast cancer and who are going to go through
00:50:46.969 --> 00:50:50.550
breast cancer. So if you could just share, at
00:50:50.550 --> 00:50:53.789
least for you, what was the best way for people
00:50:53.789 --> 00:50:57.099
to show up for you? while you're in that journey.
00:50:57.619 --> 00:51:00.780
And it's not that whoever else this happens to,
00:51:00.780 --> 00:51:02.179
they would need the same thing, but at least
00:51:02.179 --> 00:51:04.519
it might be able to help to be somewhat instructive.
00:51:05.820 --> 00:51:09.559
Yeah, I will say it is so important to show up
00:51:09.559 --> 00:51:13.559
for people going through it. That is what, you
00:51:13.559 --> 00:51:15.639
know, in low moment, it keeps you going and just
00:51:15.639 --> 00:51:18.300
knowing people are thinking about you, that they're
00:51:18.300 --> 00:51:21.980
rooting you on. It is hard and it can become
00:51:21.980 --> 00:51:26.400
overwhelming when they reach out with good intentions
00:51:26.400 --> 00:51:29.940
but ask, what's the prognosis? What's going on
00:51:29.940 --> 00:51:32.360
next? How do you feel? Like asking questions
00:51:32.360 --> 00:51:34.920
because you feel like now you need to answer.
00:51:35.019 --> 00:51:37.360
So I think the best way that you can support
00:51:37.360 --> 00:51:42.280
is to say things like, I'm thinking of you, let
00:51:42.280 --> 00:51:44.679
me know if you'd like me to come take you to
00:51:44.679 --> 00:51:48.019
an appointment, to come do some like cleaning
00:51:48.019 --> 00:51:51.679
around your house. Is there a day that's good
00:51:51.679 --> 00:51:54.659
this week to drop off food, but make it very
00:51:54.659 --> 00:51:58.900
specific in how they can help? Because the how
00:51:58.900 --> 00:52:01.820
can I help question was really hard for me to
00:52:01.820 --> 00:52:04.559
answer. And also, I don't like asking for help.
00:52:04.739 --> 00:52:07.340
So then it was really hard to answer of coming
00:52:07.340 --> 00:52:09.539
up with things that I felt would be appropriate.
00:52:10.980 --> 00:52:14.340
But even just sending a message of I'm thinking
00:52:14.340 --> 00:52:18.050
of you don't feel like you need to respond. you
00:52:18.050 --> 00:52:20.909
know, that kind of thing of just showing up and
00:52:20.909 --> 00:52:23.829
sharing that you're there is really helpful.
00:52:24.510 --> 00:52:26.170
Awesome. Well, thank you for sharing that. And
00:52:26.170 --> 00:52:29.570
I have to ask, since we have you here, is there
00:52:29.570 --> 00:52:32.130
any, like, I'd love to hear a story and a shout
00:52:32.130 --> 00:52:35.050
out to someone who really did that for you. Gosh,
00:52:35.170 --> 00:52:39.909
I can think about so many people actually. And
00:52:39.909 --> 00:52:44.539
it was, you know... very surprising to me because
00:52:44.539 --> 00:52:47.780
I kind of felt like in my own little silo for
00:52:47.780 --> 00:52:52.639
a while. And then, you know, I had coworkers
00:52:52.639 --> 00:52:55.440
reach out to me. I had neighbors reach out to
00:52:55.440 --> 00:53:00.440
me. I had family members that were that were
00:53:00.440 --> 00:53:03.699
helping. But I will say, you know, there were
00:53:03.699 --> 00:53:08.409
people that sent me like little surprises along
00:53:08.409 --> 00:53:10.630
the way, like with not surprises, but things
00:53:10.630 --> 00:53:14.940
without you know, contacting me too much would
00:53:14.940 --> 00:53:17.719
send me like fuzzy socks to just like feel comfortable.
00:53:17.860 --> 00:53:19.900
But I don't know if there's one person I could
00:53:19.900 --> 00:53:23.000
shout out because it really was like this huge
00:53:23.000 --> 00:53:27.019
community of people. All right. So Brooke, I
00:53:27.019 --> 00:53:31.539
mean, I would love to sit here for longer and
00:53:31.539 --> 00:53:34.219
longer to hear all these stories. And I mean,
00:53:34.400 --> 00:53:38.079
the wisdom that you brought and the strength
00:53:38.079 --> 00:53:41.579
that you've shown and the inspiration was super
00:53:41.579 --> 00:53:45.619
powerful. But we do have to end the podcast at
00:53:45.619 --> 00:53:49.099
some point. And with that, we always like asking
00:53:49.099 --> 00:53:53.829
our guests the same question. After everything
00:53:53.829 --> 00:53:56.389
you've been through and everything that you've
00:53:56.389 --> 00:54:01.050
pushed past, what remains? What remains? I hope
00:54:01.050 --> 00:54:06.030
a lot remains. Life remains. I don't have one
00:54:06.030 --> 00:54:10.110
specific goal. I think I've mentioned my son
00:54:10.110 --> 00:54:17.889
a lot. And my big focus now is really investing
00:54:18.980 --> 00:54:25.579
my time and energy and being an example for him
00:54:25.579 --> 00:54:30.539
of how to live life, stay active. And so that,
00:54:30.619 --> 00:54:32.980
for me, is kind of the chapter that I'm in right
00:54:32.980 --> 00:54:37.460
now that remains is to just embrace that. And
00:54:37.460 --> 00:54:40.300
I'm excited. He's in soccer now, and he actually
00:54:40.300 --> 00:54:42.719
just asked me if I would train him on the side.
00:54:44.340 --> 00:54:47.840
And so I felt very flattered that this little
00:54:47.840 --> 00:54:51.320
guy who saw me go through all of that, who...
00:54:51.880 --> 00:54:54.340
You know, has seen me lay on the couch, who has
00:54:54.340 --> 00:54:58.699
seen me get back up, is now asking for me to
00:54:58.699 --> 00:55:01.900
share that strength and train them in the gym
00:55:01.900 --> 00:55:05.860
too. So that remains as being a part of history.
00:55:08.250 --> 00:55:12.440
Well, that's Brooke's story. And like every story
00:55:12.440 --> 00:55:15.500
on this show, the finish line wasn't the point.
00:55:16.079 --> 00:55:18.480
If something in this episode stayed with you,
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write it down. Sit with it. and then go do something
00:55:22.639 --> 00:55:25.860
with it. If you're not on your path yet, this
00:55:25.860 --> 00:55:27.920
is your sign to start. It doesn't have to be
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