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My experience has been women who look fearless, who move fast, never seem to need permission from anybody or worry too much about consequences.
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They're not actually unafraid.
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They've just figured out what to do with fear as a motivator and a signal, not an override.
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And the woman I'm speaking with today has had 20 years to get very specific about how that works.
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Rebecca Minkoff moved to New York at 18 and built a $100 million brand with her name on it.
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She's also raised four children while running it, survived a Real Housewives season, and has weathered brand deals and company transactions, some good, some a very expensive education.
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And through it all, she's maintained what she calls her signature delusional optimism.
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It has carried her through some genuinely dark moments and helped her reach incredible highs.
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Today, she tells us how.
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I'm Daphne Oz.
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This is The Mothership.
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Let's start with the idea that like you've built a hundred million dollar empire with your name on it and you've done it while raising four beautiful children and you've done it while staying married to someone you deeply enjoy.
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So I would love through the course of this hour for us to get to the bottom of how can someone who's out there thinking like, could this be the time?
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Could I make this leap?
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Is this the moment?
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Am I prepared enough?
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Because I also think we as women like want to get it all ready, get it all our ducks in a row.
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Is now the time and how can I take that first step?
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So can you start us off talking about the child you were?
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I mean, I think you were like literally 18 who moved to New York and decided you were going to bite off a huge chunk of life and try to get into fashion.
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You know, were you sick of being at home?
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Were you just dying to make a name for yourself?
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Like what drove you?
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What pushed you out of the nest and what began that fearless journey?
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So I think it starts with my parents' lack of traditional upbringing in terms of if you want to go to college, go to college.
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You have to pay for it.
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If you want to start working right away, start working right away.
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Like there was no you have to's growing up.
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And I knew that from the age of eight that anything I wanted, my mom was never like, yes, you can have it.
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It was always work, work for it, figure it out.
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And so at 18, I had already been obsessed with fashion.
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I would watch fashion television every Saturday morning when I would wake up.
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And we would get one subscription for Hanukkah.
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You know, that was like my big gift.
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And I was like either subscribing to Vogue or W. And I was just obsessed with fashion.
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And I was like, I have got to move there, like come hell or high water.
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And the thing that made that possible was my brother happened to meet a designer at a party.
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Back then, I think things were a little more simple.
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He came home with the designer's phone number.
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And said, call him.
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And I called him and he's like, yeah, when do you want to come up?
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And that was the interview.
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Wow.
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Yeah, it wasn't how it is today, like Devil Wears Prada style.
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But I do remember when I got here, the CEO, you know, she walked in.
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She's like, oh, you're just another pretty girl he let work here.
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And I was like, oh, I'm going to show you.
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That made me go, I'm going to prove her wrong.
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Just the interaction that precipitated you meeting this designer, your brother going out, meeting people.
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And even, by the way, going back further, the fact that you had learning television to watch and things that actually taught you, I miss those things.
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I miss those like late 90s, early 2000s, the rip out makeup tutorials in the back of Allure.
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The perfume samples, the sex advice in Cosmo.
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We needed that.
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My 14-year-old self, deeply unsexed person, needed those tips.
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Oh, my God.
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Getting the Abercrombie & Fitch quarterly magazine was like, it was out of control.
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It was.
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I couldn't afford Abercrombie, so I just had to go to American Eagle as my backup.
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Right, right, of course.
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And Hollister.
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I feel like that came in to fill the void.
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But I think that the going out in the world, meeting people, networking, like that is still how business gets done.
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That is still how connections and relationships get made.
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But it's harder and harder now.
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If you were trying to do that now, what would be the path or like what would your recommendation be to people trying to break into the industry, trying to meet people?
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So I had an innate sense of that.
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So when I got here, I was like, I got to meet people and I have to network.
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And to me, I joke, I counted business cards like it was cash.
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Like at night I'd get home and I still have them.
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I never got rid of the cards, but I had binders of all the people I'd met just because I just knew that that was the most valuable thing within an industry outside of like my talent.
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And I would say if I was starting now, it'd be networking.
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It's six degrees of separation.
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And it's really just being bold enough to ask for the intro, for the connection, and knowing when to.
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Like, when is it appropriate to do that?
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And I think that you have to have a sense of people and, you know, you can't just outright ask for something without a little bit of foreplay.
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What do you think was the season of building Rebecca Minkoff, the brand, that taught you the most?
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I think that there were two pivotal time periods where I doubted myself the most.
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It's when I had the least confidence and when I just didn't think I had whatever it is anymore.
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And allowing what then happened, right, a creative director to walk all over me, to disconnect me from my team, and then later on a CMO to also, like, make me completely powerless within my own company.
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I don't blame them.
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I allowed it to happen because I was so lost within myself personally.
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But what came from that was when I bounced back, like a strength and an unwavering certainty, like that'll never happen again.
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When you go through something like that, I think when you finally get out of it, you're just like, I might not know it all, but I know way more than these two losers.
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And I'll never let anyone take that away from me again.
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Yeah, expertise is funny because I...
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Obviously, I think hiring good people, people who culturally mesh with the business and who elevate you and make it possible for you to focus on the things you're excellent at.
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You're a very tricky person for this because you're so identifiably you.
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And you really, I mean, I credit you with like romantic grunge, like New York City, downtown hot girl.
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Like that was you.
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I mean, you really, the leather jackets with the mini skirts, with the chic boots, like it was a whole vibe.
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Where did that come from?
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Was that just the ether like speaking to you?
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I think I've always loved like the little bohemian sort of softer side mixed with rock and roll and like that, that harder edge.
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And it's not so hard.
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We're not, we're not in like Alexander Wang's neck of the woods.
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We're like a little bit north.
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I've always loved that combo.
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And that was where we as a brand also identified like the aesthetic.
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That there's a girl who lives in Nolita, Soho, or aspires to, and she's just starting out in her career.
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And, like, she can throw on the inside leather jacket and a cool pair of shoes and, you know, go to a concert or go to her cool office.
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I'm going to ask a personal question.
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We're both, you know, 40 now.
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Just 40?
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Just 40.
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We're just 40.
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I think I'm a bit older than you.
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We're in our 40s.
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How does that style evolve?
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Because you do it flawlessly.
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Like, how do women at our age get to have some of that, like, sexy downtown vibe going on in a way that feels still, like, elegant and elevated?
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So I know that women love to have their boobs out.
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I am not that person.
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You have great boobs.
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I mean, you could be that person.
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No.
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Exactly.
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My daughter literally told me to get me out of the shower.
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She's like, Mom, your boobs have
the consistency of queso that's been left out too long.
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And I was like, you're totally right.
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Outrageous.
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Bowie.
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But she was right.
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I was like, how can I be upset?
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They do have that consistency after breastfeeding for like 12 years.
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Well, you are a, you know, committed breastfeeder.
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Oh, my God.
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But, you know.
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There's upgrades for that.
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There's upgrades.
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I'm debating it.
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But I think that for me, tastefully, like the boobs aren't really ever on or out to perform.
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And I'm like, OK, I'm a leg girl, you know, shoulders.
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And I think that as we age, like I'm just trying to find the best parts of me.
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And like, that's what gets shown.
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Yeah, pick the feature.
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Pick the feature, yeah.
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And I think at 40, I feel a lot more comfortable and confident to your point of just in anything.
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Like, I know who the experts are in these features of my life.
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And like in aesthetics, in what I want to display, I feel confidently the expert of my own identity.
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Since you brought up Bowie, let's talk about kids and business for a second.
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So I think women are really fast to talk about trade-offs.
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And I think there is a lot of conversation about...
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the difficulty and the struggle of being a mother and trying to build something in the world and doing all the, you know, just juggling the 45 plates we're always juggling because that is universal and it is so hard and you, and you should feel super proud of what you've been able to do because, you know, give a busy person something to do.
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It'll be done like this.
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Like we're so busy.
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But I don't think nearly enough airtime is given to like the pleasure and joy of motherhood.
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And I think that it's held more privately.
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Can you tell us like the highest joy of motherhood?
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I think when they're playing with each other and like the giggles or like yesterday I caught Bowie and Leo singing an Ariana Grande song to each other.
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I don't know, or when Bowie's quite the entrepreneur.
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So she came up with a business idea and she pitched me like an investor.
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How old is she?
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She's 11.
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And so like that's a moment that like you're so proud, you know?
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I think it's just it's fun watching them change.
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I have a 14-year-old and it's like he's turning into a man.
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That's its whole own thing.
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There are all these fun moments.
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But I will say, like, the growth phase of the business, like, I thought I was present, but it wasn't until I had my fourth and the business was in a different time in its life where I had a lot more attention freed up for my children that I was like, oh, I wasn't present.
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Like, my body was there.
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But bath time wasn't just me sitting there or laying next to them to get them to fall asleep was not—I was—
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Like this, you know, and I can't take it back.
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It's hard to tell another woman, just don't do that.
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Because like, that's like telling a girl to break up with the bad guy that she doesn't want to stop seeing.
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But thank God I had my fourth because I was like, oh, now I understand what truly being present is.
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You're not hoping they fall asleep faster or hurrying them to get done and ready for bed.
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I think that's so true.
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I mean, that's countless experiences where you're physically present, but you're mentally rewriting the email, mentally replying to the person who's bothering you.
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you know, humans generally, but kids especially, their EQ is so high, so much higher even than IQ or what they're really aware of.
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And they feel that pull away.
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They feel that distraction.
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They feel that rushed in that hurry because you're human.
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What would you say is the tradeoff you had to make?
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Like, where were you succeeding the most at work, but being the worst at home and vice versa?
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Was there a time when you were being incredible at home, but you feel like your business suffered as a result?
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Well, when you look back pre-COVID, like getting home at 645 was normal.
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Now I'm like, oh, my God, the abhorrence of that.
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This is late.
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This is very, this is like bedtime for me.
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How did we get home like that every night?
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And that was normal.
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And then go out to dinner.
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Put the kids to bed and then be like, I have a work dinner I have to get to at 830 at night.
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I remember we would push their bedtimes to 930 so I could see them when I got home.
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So I would say I was the worst.
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A notable example is like there was a fashion week that I was getting ready for.
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It was really stressful.
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A lot of pressure was put on me to achieve certain things and get certain celebrities to wear stuff.
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And I had tried to be on vacation probably the wrong week to pick.
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And my daughter...
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It was just like, mommy, like you're not here right now.
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You know, you're not being a good mom because you're just not mentally here.
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And that felt horrible.
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Or even when a couple of Mother's Days ago, Nico did this cute little presentation.
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It's like my mom's favorite thing is to work.
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And it slaughtered me.
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Those questionnaires are the most singularly evil things that has ever been put in the because they do.
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I mean, I do think the acknowledgement that you're only human and you have 24 hours in the day and no one gets more done than a busy mom.
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But I think that because we know that to be true, because that standard has been said, it's also a really unfair expectation that you should be able to be perfect and happy and on and engaged all the time in all the roles.
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And that's.
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I, you know, I talk about this concept of joy stealing.
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And I felt that when I was hosting The Chew and I just had my first, this was 2014, I went back to work after eight weeks.
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And I remember that feeling of like I was pumping in my dressing room, crying, like wasting water coming out of my eyes that needed to be coming into the pump.
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And I remember feeling like I'm miserable.
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I'm really unhappy here at a job that I love trying to perform because I worry that I'm missing key moments with Philomena at home.
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And then when I would get home, finally, you know, we were done taping at two or three in the afternoon.
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I would go home.
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would be like stressed and anxious because I wasn't available for the field shoots and I couldn't be a part of the aftermath, like, you know, rundowns and postmortems.
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And I would just I felt like I was constantly being ripped and stretched and just, you know, you're already in a very delicate hormonal place.
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But what I would say again to people who are on the fence of just like either you have children and you're trying to get your mental headspace better or you're on the fence about whether you can have children and have the career and the life that you want.
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I would say that like
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everybody figures it out.
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In some way, you find the place where, and I told myself, I was like, you have to get comfortable with the fact that the choice that you made is the choice that you made.
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So something about it is making you happy.
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If I've chosen to be in this job, in this working position, showing up today, I have to let this be what fuels my joy.
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I feel like we have to get more comfortable feeling okay in our decision-making.
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feeling like we're making good choices for ourselves and then allowing the joy to flow through that agency.
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And I really felt the shift once I acknowledged that, that like I could go home and feel really happy and thrilled to be there and not worry about the eight hours that I'd been at studio, you know, a couple of days a week.
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I feel like I've only just been able to start doing that.
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So like for women that are like, will it ever happen?
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Yeah.
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Like you might need a little you have to put your blinders on.
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It's not what all the other women on Instagram are doing or posting.
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And it's like I always tell women experiment with your boundaries, you know, and figure out what works for you.
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Like for me, yes, I brought the kids internationally when I traveled, not all of them, but one one at a time.
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The nanny came.
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But that was what I needed to continue
like my breastfeeding journey.
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Right.
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Was for them to be with me.
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So did I sleep?
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No.
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Was I with the one on the plane with them?
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Yes.
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You know, but I was like, that's the trade-off I'm going to make to do this.
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And I think there's always going to be trade-offs.
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Do I go on a lot of date nights?
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No, I do not.
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Do I go on those fun girls trips?
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No, I don't.
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And I want to, but like, that's what I've established is like, okay, this is how this can be a little bit.
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Yeah.
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And then now I'm truly starting to be like, if I'm two weeks alone while Gavin's on the road, I'm like really drown in every aspect of like everything with the kids.
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And just remember that, what that feels like when you leave for three days.
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And then when you're gone, you'll be like, ah, I don't feel bad at all.
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Totally.
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Well, OK, let's talk about Gavin for a second, because, you know, I do think you guys have such a great balancing act that you do.
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And and I mean, he's a massively capable father.
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Like I do.
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He really I think this is something that's really cool to see also is he's not a babysitter.
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He's a dad.
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Totally.
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And it can be very tempting to be like, I'll just do it all.
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I'll just fix everything.
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I'll fix every meal before I leave.
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I'll like make all the plans before I leave.
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And then ultimately you still have the responsibility.
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You're not there, but you're, oh, it's almost worse because you're not there.
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You can't fix everything, but you're like mentally trying to make sure this is the schedule being set.
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I do think giving husbands or partners an opportunity to feel fully alone.
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in their journey.
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I mean, look, it's how you teach children responsibility.
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It's how you teach anyone responsibility.
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You have to give them enough rope to hang themselves with.
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But like, you know, an opportunity to test their mettle, an opportunity to feel really deeply capable.
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If what we want is more confident, capable, happier people, we can't mother them all the time.
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No.
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Yeah.
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I never had to teach him, though.
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I will say that.
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And there are men that need to be taught.
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Like I had a friend, she was coming up here to do for one day and the kid vomited on the way to the airport and the dad called and was like, what do I do?
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And I was like, OK, sounds like you need to have a little bit of a reset because he should know what to do if the kid vomits.
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You know, like there are some men that have to be taught.
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Yeah, yeah, totally.
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And then you teach them and then you leave them to hang themselves.
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You know, I am curious what Gavin would say is the cost of being married to Rebecca.
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Oh, God.
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Oh, God.
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What would he say?
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Tell us.
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Tell us, Gavin.
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Gavin, he deeply appreciates that I he says I'm binary.
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It's either a one or a zero.
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One or zero, like happy, sad, mad, easy.
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Like good restaurant, bad restaurant.
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There's a hair in my soup, zero.
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There's like, like she did me dirty, zero.
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Oh, I can't wait to talk about grudges.
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This is the end of being juicy.
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Okay, go on.
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What else would he say?
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I think he wishes I would be a little bit more apologetic when I'm wrong.
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I do apologize now.
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I'm getting better at it.
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And he's, he's usually very grateful when that happens.
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What do you think he's taught you the most of?
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He says sorry all the time when he's wrong.
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And he just says it and there's no like, I'm sorry.
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Yeah.
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You know?
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And I think it's really nice and refreshing.
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And I'm
really trying to mirror that.
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And he's also taught me that, I don't know, like he just takes joy in things that I think is drudgery sometimes.
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And I think I'm trying to also find that.
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What do you think he feels like, well, let's just talk about it, for kids in?
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Like, how do you...
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keep him feeling like it's romantic.
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Someone said this.
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I thought it was so cool.
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Like, we're not just married.
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We're dating all the time.
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And it's feeling like there's you're keeping that spark alive.
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You're keeping that intrigue.
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And what do you think about the idea of like holding any part of yourself back for like continued discovery?
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That ship has sailed.
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That ship has sailed.
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There is nothing held back, okay?
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I think he wishes there was probably more.
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Like, we went through a time period after I had Leo, where with my hormones and my age, like, I just didn't have it, you know?
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And I didn't have anything left to give.
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And I knew it was me, not him.
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And I just said, like, listen, I'm going to—I am going to figure this out.
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And it wasn't a quick fix.
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It was, like, months of—
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pelvic floor therapy and hormones and, you know, and then I was like, oh, good.
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I like you again, you know, and then I remember this happening.
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I remember us going to dinner and this and like being a part of this.
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Yes.
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And I felt terrible.
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But he was just like, I appreciate that you're working so hard at it.
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And thank you for being honest and upfront.
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About what you're going through.
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And I'm sure he was annoyed, right?
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What man wouldn't be.
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I could definitely do a better job of keeping the romance, but I'm just, I don't know.
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It's not, it's not my strong suit.
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Are you a romantic?
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Like, do you like, what's your love language?
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Do you like when he's romantic with you?
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Is that a...
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I like, yeah, I like surprises and I like gifts or like dinners or even when he's like, hey, how do you want your Saturday to go?
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Like, even that question's nice.
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That's another thing I need to get better at too, of being like, how do you want your Saturday to go?
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Yeah.
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There's a lot of questions, a lot of answers there.
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But even that willingness to see that like it was something that you were dealing with personally, individually, hormonally, chemically, like, you know, physically and to do the hard work to fix it.
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And I mean, you've you've pushed yourself really hard listening to some of the travel trajectory and the meetings you'd be in with like a literal breastfeed nursing infant with you in the room or in the next room.
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You have really weathered.
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structurally and emotionally challenging dynamics and found and charted a path that worked for you, which I do think is fearless.
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And I do think is like, you know, willing to be very brave about prioritizing what are what are non-negotiables for you and what defines the kind of mother and the kind of businesswoman and the kind of person you want to be.
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Was it always easy for you to find that true north?
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Was that something that you felt like was just part of your chemistry or where do you think it came from?
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I have no idea, but I knew that after I watched The Business of Being Born that I was like, oh boy.
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Thank you, Rikki Lake.
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I began to get a sense of the kind of mother I wanted to be.
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And then I read Ina Gaskin's books on giving birth and breastfeeding.
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And then I just decided like, okay, if I'm going to do this, I'm going to commit and it's going to suck.
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Because it's a lot of, as you know, it's a lot of extra work and you're in the middle of a board meeting.
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You're like, guys, I got to pump.
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Like we can take a break or we can keep going.
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And I think a lot of women also are scared in those scenarios to like say what they have to do.
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And I was like, this will only work if I'm not scared.
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Yeah.
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So I get my little cloth and I keep on going, you know, and I think that was how I could deal with it so that I wasn't, I'll be back in 30 minutes.
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And I urged women in my office to the point of them probably being like, stop it already, you crazy lady.
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I'm like, if you want to breastfeed on a conference call, great.
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If you want to pump, you know, don't go hide in the room.
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Do it out in the open.
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Yeah.
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But I don't know.
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I just was like, I couldn't I couldn't have the career I had if it was without the family.
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You know, the satisfaction, I think, wouldn't have been there, even though it was tense.
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Well, I think, I mean, obviously your name was on the door and, you know, you set that tone, but you set that tone for the entire working group.
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And I think in some ways being flexible to that and realizing that there were humans working in this office, not just cogs in a machine, putting things together and selling them probably made people more efficient and more creative and more willing to show you their full selves.
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That very much infused and is why Rebecca Minkoff has had success.
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the longevity and the duration, durability that it's had.
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You guys have weathered COVID.
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I mean, we're going to talk some of the business metrics in a second because I love picking your business brain because I feel like you bring this groundedness, this settledness to every decision-making process that you have and can reflect in a very unselfconscious way on the places where you f***ed up and the places where you really soared.
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Can you talk a little bit about that confidence and being that person?
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Yeah.
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I think it comes down to sort of what Gavin refers to as my binary.
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Like, I think once I try and make a decision, I try and, like, fulfill it to the point of, like, I think I called it, like, delusional optimism.
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You know, it's like you have to be delusional to do this.
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And you have to be optimistic about it.
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Like, when I tell you, like, there have been some bleak moments in the last couple years with my business that,
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I remember last year on my birthday, the CEO was like, are you sure you want me to deliver this news to you like on your birthday?
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I was like, give it to me.
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And I felt like hearing what he had to tell me about some stuff that went wrong was going to crush my day and ruin it.
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And then I literally was like, it's going to be great.
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And I don't know where that comes from, but thank God.
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Because –
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I mean, it carries me through those moments.
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And it hasn't always been like that.
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There's definitely been days where I've been like down forever, you know, or feeling like it's forever.
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I just try and make a decision, stick with it and be delusionally optimistic about the outcome.
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Yeah.
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And lately I've also been trying to, there's like a term like to waste something.
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Like you just don't need it in the end.
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Just waste it.
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And I've also been trying to be a little bit more like, I don't need to do this and this and this and this.
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Like, fuck it.
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If those people aren't interested in my proposal, fuck it.
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They're stupid, you know?
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And when I get turned down, I'm just like, eh, whatever, they lost.
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And I'm trying to get better at that too.
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I like that.
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I mean, that whole, you know, what's meant for you can't be denied from you.
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That whole like, you know, cosmic energy thing, I think is true actually.
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And I mostly, because I think your core is pulling you towards the things that you deeply want, even before you're ready to acknowledge them, even before maybe you could put voice to them.
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Let's talk about...
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selling your brand and bringing on partners, which you did in 2023, and what that process was like, and what did you learn that you would do differently?
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Were you to do it again?
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Oh, gosh.
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Okay.
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So just to give people perspective, we sold a small chunk of the business in 2011 and 2012.
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So we had business partners from that point on.
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So it was never just then my brother and mine.
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2020 was a decimating year for the brand.
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We were at like 115 million.
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No, we were at 70 million.
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And the business went down to 30.
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And all that existed was our e-com business during COVID.
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So whatever we did on
e-com, that was all we could do to pay the bills.
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00:25:31.684 --> 00:25:31.784
Yeah.
442
00:25:32.525 --> 00:25:38.867
So we actually, it forced us as a company to figure out and prioritize our customer, what was selling most.
443
00:25:39.087 --> 00:25:44.068
The conversation started every morning with, what do we do on our site today instead of what did Nordstrom do?
444
00:25:44.088 --> 00:25:44.888
What did Bloomingdale's do?
445
00:25:44.928 --> 00:25:45.808
How is Saks doing?
446
00:25:45.868 --> 00:25:46.908
How is Neiman Marcus doing?
447
00:25:46.928 --> 00:25:49.149
Like it just focused us on our own backyard.
448
00:25:49.789 --> 00:25:50.669
So that was positive.
449
00:25:51.109 --> 00:25:54.050
We were going to end 2021 with a profit.
450
00:25:54.130 --> 00:25:56.071
We were like, yes, we're pulling through.
451
00:25:57.091 --> 00:26:00.972
Then the quarantines hit our Indonesian supply chain.
452
00:26:01.952 --> 00:26:02.672
We couldn't get goods.
453
00:26:03.273 --> 00:26:07.715
So of 300,000 units at the end of 2021, we got 3,000 units.
454
00:26:08.015 --> 00:26:09.076
So cash flow stopped.
455
00:26:09.876 --> 00:26:14.078
Our bank was like, hmm, holy, I'm not comfortable with this situation.
456
00:26:14.098 --> 00:26:14.758
Gosh.
457
00:26:15.599 --> 00:26:19.281
Now that you're really fucked, we're going to tell you we want our loan paid back.
458
00:26:19.921 --> 00:26:21.223
in a very short amount of time.
459
00:26:21.503 --> 00:26:24.327
And this was also COVID, so people were hesitant to give loans.
460
00:26:24.968 --> 00:26:30.856
And we had been talking to a company for quite some time, about a year, about a transaction.
461
00:26:31.497 --> 00:26:36.744
And we called and we said, this is a little bit more time compressed than we would like, but...
462
00:26:37.565 --> 00:26:39.127
If we want to do this, we got to move now.
463
00:26:39.387 --> 00:26:41.369
And he was a strategic partner in that.
464
00:26:41.389 --> 00:26:42.310
He had supply chain.
465
00:26:42.850 --> 00:26:44.552
He had people in Hong Kong.
466
00:26:44.592 --> 00:26:45.653
He had sourcing teams.
467
00:26:45.773 --> 00:26:49.496
He could get us our goods and he could find us more factories to help us.
468
00:26:50.117 --> 00:26:53.220
So for us, it was, I guess, happy and sad.
469
00:26:53.260 --> 00:26:54.681
It wasn't on the timeline we wanted.
470
00:26:54.721 --> 00:26:56.203
It wasn't the valuation we wanted.
471
00:26:56.843 --> 00:26:57.904
But it saved the business.
472
00:26:58.905 --> 00:26:59.966
And so it was...
473
00:27:01.165 --> 00:27:04.026
very weird the day when we announced it to the team.
474
00:27:04.326 --> 00:27:05.606
We kept almost everybody.
475
00:27:05.686 --> 00:27:07.126
But then the next day my brother left.
476
00:27:07.406 --> 00:27:09.167
You know, he was like, okay, bye, everybody.
477
00:27:09.187 --> 00:27:09.807
I'm out.
478
00:27:10.407 --> 00:27:11.227
And that was weird.
479
00:27:11.267 --> 00:27:18.389
The person that I sat with every day that I fought and made up with and worked with for 17 years was like gone.
480
00:27:18.409 --> 00:27:20.309
And now I have a boss.
481
00:27:21.330 --> 00:27:22.550
And now I have like...
482
00:27:23.523 --> 00:27:24.424
This new company.
483
00:27:24.624 --> 00:27:29.647
And I would say that because we stayed in our office for another year, it felt somewhat normal.
484
00:27:30.227 --> 00:27:34.870
But the day we moved into their offices, I had a panic attack and I like left.
485
00:27:34.951 --> 00:27:41.195
I walked from 39th all the way to Dumbo to my apartment because I was just like, okay, I can do this.
486
00:27:41.355 --> 00:27:43.776
Because then it really felt like it's not mine anymore.
487
00:27:43.936 --> 00:27:44.357
It's theirs.
488
00:27:45.322 --> 00:27:49.825
And then I got over it and I was like, this is actually really great.
489
00:27:50.345 --> 00:27:55.748
Because a lot of the things that, again, kept me from being a present mother were no longer my problems.
490
00:27:56.649 --> 00:28:05.314
So if you're having inventory, supply chain, like logistical issues, not that I didn't care, but it wasn't for me to worry about or figure out.
491
00:28:06.255 --> 00:28:14.725
And I think it freed up so much Mindshare to be a mom, but also to be creative again, because that stuff sucks the life out of you.
492
00:28:14.986 --> 00:28:20.853
So I could like pour myself into the design and the PR and like, you know, how I wanted to make the brand show up.
493
00:28:21.373 --> 00:28:30.657
I'd like to have a conversation about visibility, about as a founder, as a entrepreneur, as a influencer, as someone who, you know, it is your name on this brand.
494
00:28:30.677 --> 00:28:34.078
It is your purportedly your aesthetic that is being sold.
495
00:28:34.498 --> 00:28:35.419
How do you stay fresh?
496
00:28:35.439 --> 00:28:36.319
How do you stay current?
497
00:28:36.359 --> 00:28:41.041
And like, do you think the visibility is the most important piece of the puzzle?
498
00:28:41.527 --> 00:28:48.231
I think it is a key piece of the puzzle if people are like, oh God, you know, you going on Housewives, that must have really hurt business.
499
00:28:48.271 --> 00:28:49.932
I'm like, brand awareness is up 40%.
500
00:28:49.972 --> 00:28:50.753
Massively.
501
00:28:51.453 --> 00:28:53.435
I told you at the time, I was like, first of all, you never looked better.
502
00:28:53.615 --> 00:28:54.835
You looked so hot.
503
00:28:55.056 --> 00:29:00.199
And you, like you, it was also, sometimes you just need an excuse to like do all that stuff.
504
00:29:00.259 --> 00:29:00.519
100%.
505
00:29:00.539 --> 00:29:04.582
You know, if anything, like I got into the best shape of my life because I was like, I'm going to be on TV.
506
00:29:04.602 --> 00:29:05.362
I better look good.
507
00:29:05.402 --> 00:29:06.503
Yeah, you got in the best shape of your life.
508
00:29:06.883 --> 00:29:08.004
Hair was
fabulous.
509
00:29:08.044 --> 00:29:09.105
You taught me about extensions.
510
00:29:09.145 --> 00:29:10.325
And I never knew.
511
00:29:10.445 --> 00:29:11.166
My little clip-ins.
512
00:29:11.186 --> 00:29:11.386
Sure.
513
00:29:12.748 --> 00:29:21.158
And I think it forced you to like have a renovated sense of I'm going to promote this this brand that I've been talking about for 17 years now.
514
00:29:21.178 --> 00:29:28.567
I'm going to promote it in a new way and more about me than about the clothing or the bags or the things that I've been known for.
515
00:29:29.208 --> 00:29:33.889
I think that good or bad, people need a reason to pay attention to you.
516
00:29:34.069 --> 00:29:42.211
And if you don't have anything new to talk about or new to say or a new way to show up, and then you have this platform where it's like, I can change my look.
517
00:29:42.391 --> 00:29:43.111
I can show up.
518
00:29:43.211 --> 00:29:44.151
I can be seen.
519
00:29:44.671 --> 00:29:46.712
People were suddenly interested again, you know?
520
00:29:46.772 --> 00:29:49.412
And so I was like, let me take this and squeeze it for all that's worth.
521
00:29:49.472 --> 00:29:51.132
Yes, it came with a lot of pain.
522
00:29:52.373 --> 00:29:53.113
But it was short-lived.
523
00:29:53.153 --> 00:29:53.893
Everyone forgot.
524
00:29:53.973 --> 00:29:55.713
All the goldfish, they reset.
525
00:29:57.374 --> 00:29:58.094
Would you do it again?
526
00:29:59.199 --> 00:30:05.326
I wouldn't do that show again, but I would do a show where I had control, where the storyline was what I thought.
527
00:30:05.386 --> 00:30:12.213
It would be when I say storyline, I mean, I was told this was about successful women in New York City having a great time.
528
00:30:12.274 --> 00:30:12.494
Right.
529
00:30:13.135 --> 00:30:15.637
I still think there needs to be a show about that.
530
00:30:15.717 --> 00:30:16.018
Yeah.
531
00:30:16.298 --> 00:30:18.981
Because we have you and I, let's just say we did this show.
532
00:30:19.001 --> 00:30:19.161
Okay.
533
00:30:19.201 --> 00:30:19.301
Okay.
534
00:30:19.922 --> 00:30:20.462
Talk me through it.
535
00:30:20.583 --> 00:30:23.845
We have enough inherent drama in our lives already.
536
00:30:23.985 --> 00:30:25.847
We don't need to make it up and be close to each other.
537
00:30:26.387 --> 00:30:35.194
So for me, I still think there's a great way to showcase incredible women that just have stuff going on and you see all sides of it.
538
00:30:35.474 --> 00:30:35.714
Yeah.
539
00:30:35.774 --> 00:30:39.717
I mean, if the goal were learning, I think that's very true.
540
00:30:40.298 --> 00:30:46.183
If the goal is just to be like massively entertained, but like in the most schadenfreude way possible.
541
00:30:46.923 --> 00:30:48.806
You might need some cultivated trauma.
542
00:30:49.227 --> 00:30:56.337
But I, you know, again, I think and I we talked about it a lot, like as you were beginning the process there and thinking through
it and whatever.
543
00:30:56.778 --> 00:30:59.502
I think that like it's good to be able to learn what you'd be like in any given situation.
544
00:30:59.522 --> 00:31:01.745
And I do think you have to be able to learn what you'd be like in any given situation.
545
00:31:01.785 --> 00:31:02.306
held your own.
546
00:31:02.326 --> 00:31:09.953
And I do think you stayed true to yourself and you can't control what editors and things happen in the background, et cetera.
547
00:31:10.013 --> 00:31:10.834
And there were hard parts.
548
00:31:10.854 --> 00:31:13.256
I mean, look, you also, I think you're a deeply optimistic person.
549
00:31:13.276 --> 00:31:15.038
You've said you're also a trusting person.
550
00:31:15.078 --> 00:31:16.019
You're a good person.
551
00:31:16.059 --> 00:31:19.042
And I think you trust people to do right by you.
552
00:31:19.082 --> 00:31:19.583
And, you know,
553
00:31:20.123 --> 00:31:21.604
It's not always going to be.
554
00:31:21.704 --> 00:31:22.445
Not always.
555
00:31:22.465 --> 00:31:23.965
I didn't trust the right people.
556
00:31:23.985 --> 00:31:25.306
But Gavin also warned me.
557
00:31:25.346 --> 00:31:30.089
He was like, because he, as a director, knows how these things can be sliced and diced.
558
00:31:30.129 --> 00:31:39.295
And he's like, just get ready for you to not even be recognizable on TV if they have a certain storyline or agenda that you need to hit.
559
00:31:39.435 --> 00:31:41.536
And I was like, nah.
560
00:31:42.794 --> 00:31:43.274
You're wrong.
561
00:31:43.334 --> 00:31:45.496
You don't know what you're talking about, Mr. Director.
562
00:31:46.616 --> 00:31:48.957
Did they have you have some like an affair on the episode?
563
00:31:48.997 --> 00:31:50.138
No, that was all my fault.
564
00:31:50.338 --> 00:31:51.098
That was all my fault.
565
00:31:51.259 --> 00:31:51.839
Okay.
566
00:31:52.019 --> 00:31:52.299
Yeah.
567
00:31:52.339 --> 00:32:01.604
It was supposed to be a rumor, a salacious rumor that we started to just prove to the one rumor monger of the group because all these girls would believe her bullshit all day.
568
00:32:01.624 --> 00:32:05.606
I was like, here's an easy way to show everyone that she's a liar.
569
00:32:05.686 --> 00:32:06.927
Just start a rumor about me.
570
00:32:07.707 --> 00:32:09.488
And it backfired on me.
571
00:32:10.128 --> 00:32:10.248
Ugh.
572
00:32:10.488 --> 00:32:10.848
Whatever.
573
00:32:11.608 --> 00:32:12.488
It's fine.
574
00:32:12.589 --> 00:32:14.549
It's a self-inflicted wound.
575
00:32:15.069 --> 00:32:15.509
It was.
576
00:32:15.709 --> 00:32:16.009
It was.
577
00:32:16.329 --> 00:32:17.669
But again, a learning experience.
578
00:32:17.689 --> 00:32:24.511
And I do think that like in all your lifetimes and you're like a cat, you know, you've had all these amazing experiences.
579
00:32:24.691 --> 00:32:36.993
And honestly, through like the highest points of each of these eras, like the highest point of getting to be a part of fashion and just create a vision and have it come to life, you know, building a huge social media presence.
580
00:32:37.373 --> 00:32:42.598
having children, being able to be nimble and travel the world and have the flexibility to do those things.
581
00:32:42.918 --> 00:32:45.020
Can we talk about the Brooks Nader thing?
582
00:32:45.080 --> 00:32:45.320
Yes.
583
00:32:45.380 --> 00:32:46.421
Grace Ann Nader, her sister.
584
00:32:46.782 --> 00:32:47.903
Grace Ann Nader.
585
00:32:47.983 --> 00:32:48.223
Yes.
586
00:32:48.463 --> 00:32:48.904
Okay.
587
00:32:48.944 --> 00:32:49.404
Little sis.
588
00:32:49.584 --> 00:32:50.205
Little sis.
589
00:32:50.365 --> 00:32:50.545
Okay.
590
00:32:50.565 --> 00:32:51.506
Tell us about the collaboration.
591
00:32:51.686 --> 00:32:52.006
Okay.
592
00:32:52.046 --> 00:32:55.269
So I met Grace Ann when I was looking for a CFDA date.
593
00:32:55.289 --> 00:32:59.813
And as people in fashion know, like it matters who you bring to this event.
594
00:32:59.913 --> 00:33:01.175
It's a very publicized event.
595
00:33:01.635 --> 00:33:07.599
You know, so my PR agency was able to get me in touch with Grace and I was like, I hope she's not stupid and boring.
596
00:33:07.619 --> 00:33:09.941
And she was phenomenal.
597
00:33:10.401 --> 00:33:11.202
Phenomenal.
598
00:33:11.222 --> 00:33:12.263
We had a great time.
599
00:33:12.283 --> 00:33:12.923
So fun.
600
00:33:12.983 --> 00:33:13.184
Yeah.
601
00:33:13.244 --> 00:33:16.086
And then I cast her for my spring campaign and she was great there.
602
00:33:16.106 --> 00:33:19.788
And then we were talking about doing a fun collab.
603
00:33:20.449 --> 00:33:23.011
So we have a jacket, a shoe and a bag.
604
00:33:23.411 --> 00:33:25.373
The bag's named after her mom, Holland.
605
00:33:25.393 --> 00:33:25.493
Yeah.
606
00:33:26.493 --> 00:33:27.894
And I don't know.
607
00:33:28.114 --> 00:33:30.496
We just had fun designing and bringing the collection to life.
608
00:33:30.596 --> 00:33:35.099
And it's going to be the episode, I believe, airs way after the collab comes out.
609
00:33:35.119 --> 00:33:37.981
I think it airs in like... Oh, you'll be on Love Thy Nater, their show.
610
00:33:38.222 --> 00:33:39.543
I went back on reality TV.
611
00:33:39.683 --> 00:33:40.323
This is cool.
612
00:33:40.403 --> 00:33:41.144
But as myself...
613
00:33:42.418 --> 00:33:45.559
The artist formerly known as Rebecca Winkoff.
614
00:33:45.719 --> 00:33:47.320
I also love that it's really deeply full.
615
00:33:47.340 --> 00:33:52.801
I mean, you know, people who were around and aware of watching, you know, the OC and Laguna Beach, etc.
616
00:33:52.841 --> 00:33:53.822
And the early aughts.
617
00:33:53.842 --> 00:33:54.402
My big debut.
618
00:33:54.922 --> 00:33:58.163
When you gifted a bag to LC, it was the biggest deal.
619
00:33:58.383 --> 00:33:58.683
I mean.
620
00:33:58.703 --> 00:33:59.023
Huge.
621
00:33:59.283 --> 00:34:00.083
Her and Kristen.
622
00:34:00.283 -->
00:34:00.564
Does it?
623
00:34:00.984 --> 00:34:01.584
Amazing.
624
00:34:01.624 --> 00:34:01.884
Yeah.
625
00:34:02.104 --> 00:34:08.427
Does it feel like a return, like a full circle moment of just the, you know, life repeating itself in a funny way?
626
00:34:10.327 --> 00:34:10.687
No.
627
00:34:10.707 --> 00:34:12.068
Are you different?
628
00:34:12.108 --> 00:34:13.188
Are you very different now?
629
00:34:13.308 --> 00:34:14.069
Than I was then?
630
00:34:14.089 --> 00:34:14.289
Yeah.
631
00:34:14.489 --> 00:34:14.749
Oh, my God.
632
00:34:14.769 --> 00:34:15.429
What have you shed?
633
00:34:15.449 --> 00:34:16.690
What have you gotten more of?
634
00:34:17.190 --> 00:34:21.812
I was really hoping and always wishing that I would be like...
635
00:34:22.552 --> 00:34:27.315
anointed by Vogue, that I would be one of Anna's people, you know?
636
00:34:27.736 --> 00:34:32.119
And then once you're in that, there's like a propulsion within fashion.
637
00:34:33.119 --> 00:34:38.003
And I felt like I was always trying to be in those circles and those parties and in that blah.
638
00:34:38.283 --> 00:34:45.628
And like, thank God I wasn't because it only worked for us when we went the other way and we went on our own path.
639
00:34:46.269 --> 00:34:50.031
So I wasted a lot of energy and like, why aren't I good enough for Vogue?
640
00:34:50.231 --> 00:34:50.652
Why?
641
00:34:50.672 --> 00:34:50.752
Why?
642
00:34:51.598 --> 00:34:52.979
Now I'm like, I don't give a shit.
643
00:34:54.721 --> 00:34:57.463
Well, my next question was going to be, are you a grudge holder?
644
00:34:58.184 --> 00:34:59.004
So elaborate.
645
00:34:59.064 --> 00:34:59.645
Just a little.
646
00:34:59.965 --> 00:35:00.646
Just a little.
647
00:35:01.606 --> 00:35:03.208
I'm definitely a grudge holder.
648
00:35:03.308 --> 00:35:03.528
Yeah.
649
00:35:03.768 --> 00:35:03.968
Yeah.
650
00:35:04.389 --> 00:35:09.013
If you do me dirty or you betray me after I've trusted you, the grudge is held.
651
00:35:09.682 --> 00:35:11.524
Has there ever been a rehabilitation?
652
00:35:11.565 --> 00:35:13.527
Has anyone ever been brought back into the fold?
653
00:35:14.008 --> 00:35:19.755
Yeah, I think what like friends apologize or like, you know, you have an honest conversation, you see each other's perspective.
654
00:35:20.416 --> 00:35:22.739
But there are definitely people I'm holding grudges against.
655
00:35:23.420 --> 00:35:23.921
Yeah.
656
00:35:25.742 --> 00:35:26.743
The grudge list.
657
00:35:26.983 --> 00:35:27.883
The grudge list.
658
00:35:28.443 --> 00:35:32.825
I mean, how like how serious was the transgression that would like land you on the grudge list?
659
00:35:33.145 --> 00:35:34.186
Public humiliation.
660
00:35:34.266 --> 00:35:34.526
OK.
661
00:35:35.066 --> 00:35:35.346
I know.
662
00:35:35.566 --> 00:35:37.307
Yeah.
663
00:35:37.547 --> 00:35:38.427
That suits the belt.
664
00:35:38.527 --> 00:35:39.608
Just like a little grudge there.
665
00:35:40.008
--> 00:35:44.990
Have you ever designed something that you didn't like, but you knew it would sell?
666
00:35:46.151 --> 00:35:50.272
So, yes, there was a time period in 2005.
667
00:35:50.512 --> 00:35:51.733
And this has happened many times.
668
00:35:52.886 --> 00:35:56.367
I just, going back to what I love, wanted a brand of neutrals.
669
00:35:56.487 --> 00:36:00.728
I wanted blacks, shades of brown, white, like no color.
670
00:36:01.208 --> 00:36:03.729
To me, a colored handbag was like, ew.
671
00:36:04.949 --> 00:36:06.769
And I guess I'll just say it doesn't matter.
672
00:36:07.069 --> 00:36:12.031
Neiman Marcus came in and they were like, we want coral and tangerine and turquoise.
673
00:36:12.791 --> 00:36:15.711
And I remember sitting there and I had a sea of leather swatches.
674
00:36:15.751 --> 00:36:19.332
I was like, I'm going to put every color on this card that I hate.
675
00:36:20.132 --> 00:36:22.153
And then we're going to see what they order, right?
676
00:36:22.953 --> 00:36:23.794
And they loved it.
677
00:36:24.214 --> 00:36:26.116
Why would you do that?
678
00:36:26.536 --> 00:36:29.519
That is like the worst thing.
679
00:36:29.799 --> 00:36:34.623
It's always if you like, OK, a photo from a photo shoot, you're just like just to be I'll just be nice.
680
00:36:34.643 --> 00:36:35.204
Fine, fine, fine.
681
00:36:35.584 --> 00:36:36.825
It's always the one they're going to pick.
682
00:36:36.845 --> 00:36:39.607
The one they picked every like they loved it.
683
00:36:39.627 --> 00:36:43.411
They're like, this is the most gorgeous, colorful thing I've ever seen in the bag sold well.
684
00:36:43.451 --> 00:36:44.972
And I was like, what do I know?
685
00:36:45.252 --> 00:36:46.213
Guess women want color.
686
00:36:46.233 --> 00:36:46.974
So I'll give them color.
687
00:36:47.614 --> 00:36:49.794
So I've handled my relationship with color.
688
00:36:50.234 --> 00:36:50.575
I have.
689
00:36:50.915 --> 00:36:54.395
But that was a moment where I was like, every ugly color, you go on the card.
690
00:36:55.095 --> 00:36:57.176
Look at you expanding into color.
691
00:36:58.116 --> 00:36:58.656
That's so funny.
692
00:36:58.736 --> 00:37:03.137
And I mean, look, it's, I think, you know, you found ways to keep it very chic and very on brand.
693
00:37:03.157 --> 00:37:11.838
But I think people have this fantasy of like, I'll make a restaurant, I'll make a brand, I'll make a clothing line, I'll make whatever, and it'll just be the things that I love.
694
00:37:12.098 --> 00:37:14.539
And getting really in tune with color
695
00:37:15.039 --> 00:37:26.606
what the people that you serve and the people who love you and want to support you actually need and crave and want in their lives is, you know, it's probably the hardest but most important piece of the puzzle.
696
00:37:27.006 --> 00:37:31.809
I was given really good advice by two people, Cindy Krupp and Leander Medin.
697
00:37:31.889 --> 00:37:32.149
Okay.
698
00:37:32.630
--> 00:37:40.034
I was holding on to that artistic, this was probably 2008, that artistic, like only everything I think is great should be out there.
699
00:37:40.114 --> 00:37:40.875
No dilution.
700
00:37:40.895 --> 00:37:40.995
Yeah.
701
00:37:41.775 --> 00:37:47.100
And Cindy said, do you want to have like an artisanal brand that's very tiny and niche?
702
00:37:47.300 --> 00:37:50.763
Do you want to sell your watches to go on vacation like my other client?
703
00:37:51.223 --> 00:37:52.965
Or would you like to have like a big brand?
704
00:37:53.686 --> 00:37:59.871
And for that, you have to expand beyond New York and L.A. as your like primary customer.
705
00:37:59.951 --> 00:38:02.493
And what is the middle of America love and want?
706
00:38:02.513 --> 00:38:02.614
Yeah.
707
00:38:03.254 --> 00:38:04.756
And Leandra said something very similar.
708
00:38:04.796 --> 00:38:07.478
She said, at the pinnacle, Rebecca, that's you.
709
00:38:07.498 --> 00:38:09.160
And then there's a triangle.
710
00:38:09.581 --> 00:38:13.044
And the most deluded version of your brand, it might just be a stud on a flip-flop.
711
00:38:13.204 --> 00:38:16.948
But that makes a woman in Kentucky feel like she is the coolest of the cool.
712
00:38:17.409 --> 00:38:20.171
And as long as, like, that stud ladder is back up to your brand –
713
00:38:20.832 --> 00:38:21.392
then great.
714
00:38:21.473 --> 00:38:22.894
Then that's her version of that.
715
00:38:22.914 --> 00:38:30.980
It's like, you know, a woman buying Chanel lipstick because she can't afford the bag or, you know, a Burberry slipper because, you know, you might not buy the trench coat.
716
00:38:31.080 --> 00:38:33.061
And so to me, after I...
717
00:38:34.098 --> 00:38:37.361
listeners say that to me, I've always just been like, okay, it's a triangle.
718
00:38:37.441 --> 00:38:46.628
And as long as everything fits what you think that brand should be, and we don't start looking like another company, then yeah, like fashion should be accessible.
719
00:38:46.688 --> 00:38:49.590
And some women want it more extreme than others.
720
00:38:49.710 --> 00:38:52.913
But as long as it speaks to that, then that's where I sort of play.
721
00:38:53.593 --> 00:38:54.134
I love that.
722
00:38:54.654 --> 00:39:01.319
What's something you know to be true about yourself and your next chapter, but you're not willing to admit yet?
723
00:39:01.639 --> 00:39:02.340
Oh, God.
724
00:39:03.292 --> 00:39:07.118
Okay, I know it to be true, so I have admitted it to myself.
725
00:39:08.019 --> 00:39:13.467
But I think that we get stuck on our name and who we are and our personas.
726
00:39:14.408 --> 00:39:17.392
And being attached to that is the only reason for...
727
00:39:19.132 --> 00:39:20.713
succeeding or finding pleasure.
728
00:39:20.853 --> 00:39:26.957
And I had a moment probably five months ago where I was like, I can detach if I want.
729
00:39:27.177 --> 00:39:42.006
I'm not planning to anytime soon, but I can detach from that and from the doors it opens and from the experiences I get and all the joy that comes with being, you know, in this company that built something big.
730
00:39:42.286 --> 00:39:44.528
And for the first time, I was like, oh, I could let that go.
731
00:39:45.568 --> 00:39:47.510
And I, again, no plans to leave.
732
00:39:47.650 --> 00:39:49.071
And I still love what I do.
733
00:39:49.131 --> 00:39:52.814
But it was just the first moment that I didn't feel like I have to be doing this forever.
734
00:39:53.995 --> 00:39:54.455
I love that.
735
00:39:54.776 --> 00:39:55.016
Yeah.
736
00:39:55.596 --> 00:39:57.438
Because it's been an amazing arc.
737
00:39:57.898 --> 00:39:59.059
And there's many more arcs to come.
738
00:39:59.079 --> 00:39:59.940
There's more arcs coming.
739
00:40:00.000 --> 00:40:00.601
I love it.
740
00:40:00.901 --> 00:40:01.281
Thank you.