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You are the sum of the stories you believe about
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your past, your present and your future. So that's who
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you are right now. The person you show up as
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today is the sum of the stories you believe about
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your past, your present and your future.
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Friends, I am so excited to have Nick Nanton with
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me today. Hello, Nick, and welcome.
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Thanks. Glad to be here. Yay.
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So guys, I could introduce you to Nick as a
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fellow that's won 24 Emmys, and he's produced over 75 documentaries.
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He's talked with some pretty incredible people like Dolly Parton,
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Bruce Springsteen, Post Malone. You could list them all. They're
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not going to do that. I'm going to focus on
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Nick the human who has this thread in all of
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these incredible things he's done. And the thread is hope.
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The thread is this opportunity, not an obstacle. And I'd
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like to start there because there's this, there's this little
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Nick that I picture all these years ago who embraced
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the idea, this crazy idea that creativity could help you
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find opportunity instead of obstacles. So let's start there, Nick.
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Are you good with that?
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Yeah, it's great. Yeah. Happy to start there. You know,
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I don't, um, obviously I'm, lots of life feels like
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therapy and that's good for everybody probably. But like, you know,
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I never realized until recently I'm, I'm writing a new
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book almost done called creativity protects you. And it's how
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to find options where everyone else sees obstacles. And I
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didn't realize that was a superpower in a way. I mean,
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I sort of hate that word because it's overused, but
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it's sort of a, I didn't realize it was a
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skillset that I had honed over the years because most
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of the time when I had to do it other
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than inside of my business, uh, I was made to
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feel guilty about it because I wasn't operating like all
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of the other little ducklings in school or whatever it was, right?
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So we're born with these amazing skill sets, like God
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gives us these gifts. And I'm not knocking the school system.
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I think it's a little outdated, but I don't have
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a better solution at the moment. So I'm not gonna
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go there. But I understand how from kindergarten to 18,
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there's someone in charge of a classroom and it's usually
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15 to 30 something children. And I understand that like,
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that system is made, it's a factory system. It's made
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that like the cogs and the wheels and the toothpaste
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caps got it. And like it is created for the average, right?
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It's not created for the superb or on either side
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of that sort of bell curve, right? And so the
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first thing I think I want to acknowledge, I'm sure
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there's many people who are watching and listening to this
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who probably haven't gone back and reprocessed these things, which again,
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I really hadn't. Until I had to start thinking through
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this process and it was like, oh, you know what?
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Like I'm as, it won't be a shock as anyone
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listens to me. Like I have ADHD. Great. I mean,
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I think a lot of people do anyway, but whatever,
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but I have lots of energy. Uh, yeah, I have all,
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all the things. And you know, so when I, number one,
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sometimes people feel like I'm rushing them through a conversation.
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I'm not, I'm hanging on like a cat on a wire.
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And I'll sort of interrupt and say like, so you mean,
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and I'll just blah, blah, blah. And they're like, yeah,
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I'm like, okay, I got it. And keep going. But
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so like, but like, and if you ask me to
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do something, I'll be like, awesome. No problem. Talk to
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you later. And like basically hang up people. I think
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some people like, wait, the conversation's over. Like if you
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want me to do it, if I don't do it now,
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it's not going to happen. So like, I'm going to
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hang up and I'm going to go do it. So
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I mean, those are sort of like some quirks with
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me that people who work with me have learned that like, it's,
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I'm friendly about it. I'm not mean to be rude
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and I'm not trying to cut you off or hurt you.
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I'm just like, can I make it?
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You know?
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And so, so when I, like, I can only hyper
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focus on things and I can only do it for
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so long. And so, you know, like when I get
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a math test in any schooling or some tests like that,
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I would go to it and like, I would finish
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my test in like 11 minutes or whatever. And we
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might have an hour and a half or I finished
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my first law school exam, uh, I think in 29
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minutes and we had three and a half hours. And
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so like, I would get sent back to my desk,
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you know, I'm at your school, middle school, high school, like, Hey,
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you can't be done with this test yet. Like you
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got it. You need to check your answers. And part
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of what they were saying is like, part of them
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was trying to help me. Like, there's no way you
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could do this as fast when no one else is
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this fast. And number two, um, I can't have you
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done with this yet because I don't have anything for
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you to do. And you got to be quiet and
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all the things that ADHD people don't like to, you
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got to be quiet, sit still, like whatever. And so
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I would go, when I did it, I would go
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back and I would redo it. And I changed my answer.
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I get most of them wrong because my brain was
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done with that. Now I didn't always get them a
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hundred percent correct, but like I got A's in school
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and I did well in school. It's funny. I tell
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that story in my new book, that law school exam
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was my first law school exam. My friend was like, dude,
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are you quitting? Like, he's like, I'm like, no, no,
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I just finished. Like, how'd you, he's like on page
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one or whatever. I'm like, I just, it's all, it's
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what I did. So the professor, I
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plus in that class. And I know it is because
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the professor was not happy that I finished that quickly,
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but it's just my hyper focus. But so I took
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him again because I wasn't going to let him beat me.
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And I took on the exam. I got to the
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open book. A lot of law schools open book. I
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opened the book. And I'm like, I don't know what
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this question is. So I'm like, it sort of sounds
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like this. I go to the back. I find a case.
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I read the case. I read his question. I read
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the case. I read his case. I'm like, oh, he
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put the same exact case on there with different names.
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So I took the rest of the time and I
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copied the entire judge's opinion and just changed the names
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and I got an A. And so I ended up
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winning with that professor. But my whole point being, like
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I was made to feel guilty about the fact that
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that was something, it was just the way my brain worked.
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And again, I didn't, it wasn't perfect. Sometimes I'd finish
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in 12 minutes and I didn't know anything and whatever.
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But my point being, I really never realized I felt
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guilty about it in a way until like maybe a
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year ago when I was like, man, that was weird.
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You know, it was just sort of a, you know,
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that was a weird time, but it was, you know,
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we have these gifts we've been given and because of
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the way the system is set up, we often can't
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exercise those or, and we're often not encouraged in them. Now,
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Like everybody else, I had a few people on the way,
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a few teachers in an enrichment class here or an
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acting class or whatever who were like, keep going, Nick. Yeah,
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that's really cool. Be you. But that was few and
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far between compared to the other feedback I would get. Wow.
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I love your energy so much because same. ADHD, yes. Also,
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just all of the things. Yes, I wrote down so
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many notes because–
you have spent your life learning from
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other people, but it sounds like this book has taken
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you inside you. Like it sounds like you have had
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a chance to kind of learn about you. So given,
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given that and like out of respect for that, because
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that's important and you know, you're getting to the heart
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and soul of everything that you've done with your life,
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which is super impressive, amazing, like check, check, checks all
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the boxes kind of life. And yeah, you're like learning
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about your own story through this book process, which is
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so stinking cool to me. So like you, knowing that
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you've spent your life learning and growing from all these
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other people's stories, what have these stories taught you about
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your own?
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Yeah. So first of all, I thought I hated learning.
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I really did. Cause I, cause it meant that to me,
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it meant sitting at a desk for eight hours a
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day and shut up, you know? And that's like what
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most learning is, but I realized like I'm addicted to learning, but,
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but now I get to learn on a weekly basis,
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at least like from the best in the world. And
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I'm like super curious about that stuff. And so, first
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of all, I was able to reframe, you know, a
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paradigm for myself. And I think it's important that all
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of us, like, again, it doesn't just, I mean, it
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hit me like a brick probably 40 years later than
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I wish it had, because I'm not very smart, but
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it's like, you know, I think it's really important that
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people sort of like start questioning, like, Why do I
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feel that way about something? Because we have, I will
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say this, we are all today, right now, you sitting there,
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everyone listening, and this may be the most important thing
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I say, you are the sum of the stories you
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believe about your past, your present, and your future. So
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that's who you are right now. The person you show
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up as today is the sum of the stories you
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believe about your past, your present, and your future. And
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a big problem with this is that most of us,
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because we've all failed, that's part of life. And part
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of it is because we're not good at it. Part
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of it is we should never have tried to do it, maybe.
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I mean, not that you shouldn't try things, but part
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of it is like, oh, I know I'd be bad
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at that. Why did I do that? Or why did
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I put myself in that situation to promise this to
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somebody when I can't do that? Or whatever, right? Or
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why didn't I seek out a partner to help me
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with that? I mean, all the things I think we're
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supposed to learn in life, and thankfully, most of them
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are not catastrophic. Right. But so I think it's really
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important that we go back and it's not that we,
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I don't want you to rewrite your past because to me,
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that's like, um, that's a whole other level of like oppression. Right.
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But like, I want you to reprocess your past because clearly, um,
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when you make a big mistake, most of us learn
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from it. And so the question is like, are you
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feeling guilty about it? Or are you giving yourself grace
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to like, man, I made that decision. Wasn't the best decision,
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but I'm never going to do it again. And here's
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what I learned from it. Like, what a way to
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stop feeling, because if we don't process that stuff, and
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I know my brother's a psychiatrist, he could tell you
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way more about this, but I do understand the fact
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that if we don't process these things and we just constantly,
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when we just leave a negative feeling in our minds
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about it, it really sort of does, it's sort of
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like if you're born with this really bright light, and
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think of like every negative experience you don't reprocess sounds
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like another screen that's put in front of it. And
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sometimes by the time we get to our 30s or
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or 50s, our lights really dim because we haven't
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taken the opportunity to reprocess these and go, oh, I
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learned from that I can remove that screen now. I
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don't have to protect myself from that anymore because I
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now I got the lesson I was supposed to get. Now, also,
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every time I do a podcast, they decide to do
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my lawn. So you may hear a lawn blower outside.
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control it. So that's that.
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Adding to the ambiance of the show is the lawnmower.
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We're here for it.
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It was funny.
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I actually wondered if it was a guitar for a second,
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because guys, if you're not watching, you got to go
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to YouTube and watch this video because first of all,
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Nick's energy is flying off the screen, but also the
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background and the setup with the guitars is kind of everything.
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and it made me get curious because You talked about
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how the past, present, and future are the sum and
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add up to who you are right now. So we
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can reframe and work through together the past and a
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little bit of the present. But how do you do
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that with something that you can't see in the future?
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the same thing. When he says, when you run out
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of purpose before you run out of money, you have
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a real problem. And so we see that a lot
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break through and make a lot of money and they
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can find themselves in a world of trouble because if
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money is not your biggest problem, the other ones are
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usually way worse, right? So there's that. And then he
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feel like your future is brighter than your past, it
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can cause depression and all sorts of other things. Again,
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veterans and my documentary and stuff like that. I could
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understand that if a veteran, because a lot of times
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the military unceremoniously decides that you're done. Like you don't
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get to decide. They're just like, oh, we're done with you.
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to spend my life serving and now you're not letting me.
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excited about tomorrow. You know, like me, I'm a really
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simple person. So still today, my favorite subjects are basically
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with drinks and stuff. Right. But it's like I go
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through I enjoy every day. But like I like schedule
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you know, I'm gonna do the interviews. I'm a, but
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have with my friends or my crew or my family, whatever.
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I'm gonna do what I got to do in the afternoon.
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excited about next? And like, that's like how my lizard
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brain works. So like, you know, I'm going through this
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week and like one of my rules is one adventure
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a week. I need one adventure a week to be happy.
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turns out like this week I'm speaking at, I went
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to University of Florida and I'm speaking at the homecoming
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banquet tomorrow night for leadership organization with some politicians. I'm
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not a politician, but it should be interesting. And it's
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a big deal. So I'm going to go there and
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back tomorrow. Next week, my adventure is my bourbon company,
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the Chris Voss, we're hosting a big event for our
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members in Austin. So like I do, I only travel
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seven nights a month because that's a rule my wife
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and I made over a decade ago to keep our
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relationship with her and my kids healthy. It makes me
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make better decisions. But like I, so I've got, I've
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got some guardrails. You can't win a game that you
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don't know the rules to, right? And most of us
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are playing a game that we're uncertain how you win.
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they sound funny and no one else gets them. So
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seven nights a month and I need one adventure a week.
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adventure a week? So I always have something to look
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forward to. And that's just how I operate to make
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sure my future is brighter than my past. If I
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looked at it from a macro level in the last
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two years, you mentioned some names, but they're, they're fun.
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And like, Dolly Parton, Kris Jenner, Post Malone, Mariah Carey,
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Jon Bon Jovi, Bruce Springsteen, Paul Simon, Keith Richards. Like,
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I don't know that I can ever beat that. Like,
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I really don't. Like, I mean, like, number one, I
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will never beat a Dolly Parton interview. Like, as a songwriter,
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number one of all time, she wrote Jolene and I
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Will Always Love You by herself on the same day. Like,
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I cannot beat this. However, like, there are other things
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I can look forward to. There are other things that
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are exciting. And, okay, maybe I'm never going to have
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one more documentary that has that many musicians and songwriters
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in it. But I'm now working on a documentary on
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veterans of post-traumatic stress, troubled youth, and foster kids, and
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equine therapy. Like, what could I learn about horses? I
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don't know a lot about horses, but they're fascinating animals. Like, oh,
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we're going to go to film at a ranch, or
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we're going to do some horseback riding. That sounds fun.
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excited about? And if it's nothing, again, I do not understand.
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I'm just saying this honestly. I don't understand clinical depression,
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clinical anxiety. It's not I don't, I'm not a doctor.
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I don't know what I'm doing. So, but I would
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think just with general feelings of, you know, of non-clinical
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sadness or whatever, like I would imagine you could probably
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find a way to find something to be excited about.
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and go serve someone. It will change your brain chemistry overnight.
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your life, in your business, find somewhere and go serve
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and your brain will
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keep showing up and serving, someone will be like, man, like,
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how can I help you? And the opportunity that will
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come from that and the joy you will get from it,
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because I believe we were created to serve other people.
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to be excited about. And by the way, you may
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be in a job, you may be in a relationship
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or something that's not healthy, that's not serving you. I don't,
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you know, I personally don't believe in, you know, cutting
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the cord on a marriage because, you know, just because
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you're not happy. I think there's a lot of things
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you got to go through first. Again, abusive relationships, different story.
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what could I be doing better and different? I think
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is the most important question we got to ask and
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maybe get some other people's feedback, including the person who,
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you know, who is maybe unhappy with you. But from there, like, okay, great.
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So let me get an honest assessment. Let me assess
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it myself and see if I completely agree or disagree.
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If you're completely wrong, your life will continue to go
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wrong over and over again because you don't have any self-awareness.
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Great skill. We all need it, but you'll hopefully eventually learn.
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figure out like, okay, if I'm in a job that
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is just not serving me and my family right now,
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because you probably need income and some other things. But like,
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what could I do on a daily basis to start
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moving towards the thing that I really am called to do? And,
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you know, I speak at a lot of universities and
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stuff over the years and people are like, what's your
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best piece of advice? I'm like, Well, most of the time,
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it's like whatever you want to do the rest of
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your life, if
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else who's, I think in education is massively important, but
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there's a lot of other people who just skipped that
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and went to the thing. And if you just sat
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here and waited for this education to be over, and
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then you're going to start the thing, you're going to
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be way behind and you're probably not going to know
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what to do. So while you have the most unrealistic,
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most of us have the most unrealistic income expectations of
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our life when we're in like college or whatever. And
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there's student loans available. I'm not saying to overuse them,
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but like that's available. It's like, you're probably going to
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have to make the least amount of money that you're
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ever going to have to make in your life. Like
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you should be experimenting. You should be volunteering. You should
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be interning. Like, yeah, there's never a time in your
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life you're not going to feel busy. So, but just
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do it because every day you wait, you're behind. And
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so that's one of the ways that if you feel
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trapped right now, like start taking, you cannot convince me
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you don't have 20 minutes here, 10 minutes there. to
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start exploring what your future might be like if you
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were to start making a change.
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play a huge role in building yourself a bigger life.
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Curiosity and courage, both of those.
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And courage, by the way, never feels fun. Again, Dan
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Sullivan said, courage is when you pee your pants and
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you do it anyway. So it's not fun. Courage is
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never fun. Courage is like... should I do this? And
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your body will often tell you, like, you know, when
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you sign your first mortgage, when you buy a car,
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like a lot, there's a lot of other things, but
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like financial and like your body will tell you like, oh,
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this is a big deal. Like you should listen to it.
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clinical anxiety, but we all get anxious about things.
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And we do. And sometimes I'll like, I'll be like,
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I am, I'm, I am a emotional neophyte still. Like
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I'm learning my emotions.
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I think we all are in a lot of ways,
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but I've learned now, like if I'm like, sometimes we're like, man,
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why do I feel this way? Like I feel all
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of a sudden I feel anxious or off or not
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happy or like what? And I'll, cause I have ADHD.
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Like I could have read an email or a text
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or something 30 seconds ago and just completely forgotten about it.
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My mind remembers like, but I, but it's not in
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my consciousness. So like I go back and like most
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of the time I'm like, I don't remember what it was,
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but let me retrace my steps. Let me go re-scroll
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that page. And I'm like, Oh, I'll see an ad
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that has nothing to do like, oh, that, okay. Oh,
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this person sent me a text that was a little
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bit like, I don't know what to do with it. Okay.
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deal with this, and realize, like, did I do something wrong? Oh,
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is it not me? It's just them? Okay, now I
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can move on. But I've started to realize, like, if
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I feel off, let me stop and figure out, like,
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what is causing this? Oh, did I make a bad decision?
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Did I not give someone the time of day that
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they deserve? Did I, you know, did I, interrupt someone
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too quick. Did I get off the phone with my
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wife too fast? Like, what did I do? Let me go,
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let me go re-deal with that real quick and come back.
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than just, again, stacking these things on top of each
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other and not realizing, like, if I keep operating like
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short or my, you know, or I might not make
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a call about something I've been dreaming about because I
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feel in a state of scarcity. I don't feel in
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a state of abundance and creativity. So I'm never going
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to call someone, cold call someone or cold email someone
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like about, This thing I've been thinking about that could
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be really cool. So I don't know. Those are just
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a few things I think about.
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Just a few things that are super in line and
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everything I practice here on the show. One of the
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things I talk about a lot, Nick, is how our
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body keeps the score, right? Like Bessel van der Kolk
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wrote that amazing book. And it's so true. Your body
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was remembering that your tech, that text message came in
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and you needed to do something with it. You needed
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to process it to move on with your day. Just
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like I believe that chemically, that feeling that we have,
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that nervousness, that anxiety, that butterfly feeling. I have it
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right now, by the way, talking to you because I'm
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so energized and I'm so nervous is the wrong word,
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but I'm doing it anyway. And I'm excited to be
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doing it and grateful to be doing it and feeling
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the feeling that I practice on roller coasters. I don't
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know if you follow or know anything about my roller
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coaster videos, but I've been posting roller coaster videos, synced
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fairly well. Taylor Swift bridges for the last few months.
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And we're talking about 10 million views over the course
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of the last 90 days. And I've embodied this emo
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rollercoaster gal persona, because I believe that the world could
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be better off. We could all do better because I
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believe in the healing power of music, first of all,
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but also understanding and leaning in to what you're saying
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about feeling the fear and recognizing that your body is
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trying to protect you from something, right? Like my body's saying,
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do not go on that roller coaster. You are about
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to die dead, right? And then my mind goes, nope,
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but I can be excited about it. I can enjoy it.
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I can heal from things that I don't talk about
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on this dang roller coaster. So I'm going to do
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it and I'm going to inspire other people to do
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the same. So by showing up and by choosing to be,
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to feel those feelings, you are choosing that icky courage
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that we talked about, which is just really cool. And
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something I want to lean into further because curiosity and
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courage we talk about, but also creativity is a huge
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part of how you've built your life. And it's the
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book that you're working on. And it's so fundamental to
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seeing obstacles as opportunities. So I'm guessing there's a lot
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and I'm sure that it's fairly fresh probably because you're
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working on this book, but can you talk us through
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an example of a time that's maybe relatable or could
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help other people of a time that you actively chose
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to have something be an opportunity that felt in the
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moment like an obstacle?
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Yeah, I can absolutely go through one. I'd also say
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one of the things I'm trying to do with this
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book is to slightly change the conversation on creativity because
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I think so many people just, creativity think, so the
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amount of times I've heard people who hear what I
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do and say, oh, I'm not creative like you. I'm like, well,
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you might not be like me, but that doesn't mean
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you're not creative. Like creativity isn't just painting or drawing
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or making movies or writing music or like, to me,
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I think creativity is finding options where everyone else finds obstacles.
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So there's creativity in math in the right way. There's
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creativity in science. I mean, people who make breakthroughs and
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win the Nobel Prize, that's, it's create, it's creative. And
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it could have just been doing the next
thing that
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hasn't been done before, has been done before, but it's like, well,
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that's an option. Okay. Well, that's an option. Well, that's
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an option. And so whenever you hit a dead end,
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the question is like, okay, what are my options? And
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so I think due to all the deficiencies that I have,
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it happened a lot for me in life. So now
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I don't really, there's very few things I see as
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a true dead end or a no to me. No
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means not now. In most of the cases, like So, okay,
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so like, what are my other options? Because part of
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it is like, I'm so driven and determined and I
539
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so much wanted to succeed in life and prove to
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the world I could be somebody and all the things
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that we all struggle with in our own, whatever your
542
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struggles are with yourself, the one universal struggle we all
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have is with ourselves, right? So what are we trying
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to prove to ourselves? And so, you know, some of
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that was mine. And so, you know, for instance, I
546
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was working with a very famous person and they told me,
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I said, well, what do you wanna do next? And
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they made a joke because they were not the youngest
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spring chicken. And other than wanting to wake up the
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next day, they said, they said, well, I want to,
551
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I really would love to do a one, one man
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show on Broadway. So I was like, okay, just check.
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Let me put that in the back of my mind.
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And so I knew some people who had done some
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Broadway things. And so I sort of explored and I
556
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figured out a way that I could put this person
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on Broadway one night only. I had some friends willing
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to support it. We could pull it off. And I
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went to the person. I said, okay, awesome. Speak with
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my family member who's done Broadway before and And just,
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you know, sort of like he was having his family
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member like vet it for him. And I'm like, well,
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I don't know
if this is going to go well
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because like, I'm sure. And this person happened to work
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on Broadway and like a very big show. And like,
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I'm like a bootstrap strap scrappy dude trying to make
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your family member's dream come true. Who's famous. And you're
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this like story Broadway producer with unlimited funds and you
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don't know me from Adam. So your only job really
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in this conversation is to make sure you don't screw
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your family member. And you don't know me from Adam.
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And so basically I told him, here's how I raise
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the money, here's how I do it. And I don't
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remember exactly what this person said, but this is what
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I heard and I know it's very close. It basically said,
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you know, Nick, you're either one of the smartest people
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I've ever met or one of the biggest hucksters I've
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ever heard. And I've met an awful lot of smart people.
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I mean, it's something very, very close to that. So like,
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first of all, I'm like, well, this person is not
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a nice person. There are many other ways one might
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have phrased this. However, let me No, he did not. Yeah, right.
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I could not help but feel like a loser in
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the moment, right? Like, oh my God, am I a
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terrible human being? Just because first thing you should do
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is ask. And then over the course of a little
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while after we hung up, I'm like, well, okay, it's
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not me. I'm not here to rip anybody off. I've
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done this way of funding and financing and had lots
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of success with it. This guy's probably just trying to
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protect his family members. So now what? Now that I've
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figured this out, I want to try it. So I
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called this person back and said, hey, look, um, it
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was going to be, uh, I was going to put
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it on, raise the money, do it and, and, and
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split profits. If there were any with this person said,
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but number one is making your dream come true. You
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told me that's what
you wanted to do left in
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your life and you've done everything. And, um, if we
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make money, we'll just split it. And so I just
601
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called him and said, Hey, look, um, I am friends
602
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with Rudy Ruediger of the movie Rudy. I did his documentary.
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And I think Rudy would be great at this too.
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So how about I put Rudy on Broadway and then
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I'll just show you. I said, I think your family
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was trying to protect you. I respect that. How about
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I just do it and just show you the numbers
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and you can decide if you want to do it
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or not. I can show you the output, the product.
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You can come to the show, whatever. And so we
611
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did with Rudy. We sold it out. We got nominated
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for an Emmy because we filmed it. We had a
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great time. A lot of my clients became Broadway producers
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because they wanted to support it. And we sold out
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in that night, like 13 minutes or something like that.
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And we had a blast. Unfortunately, the other person ended
617
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up passing away not too long after that. But I
618
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was able to say, OK, let me find an option.
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Then since then, I put Rudy on Broadway. I put
620
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Lisa Nichols on Broadway. I put Chris Voss on Broadway.
621
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I don't know that I'm going to do it again.
622
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It will almost take your life from you. But I
623
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was able to process that and go, OK, this is
624
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a dead end. Like at least for this is definitely
625
00:27:54.049 --> 00:27:57.609
a not now. Like for sure not now. So what
626
00:27:58.089 --> 00:28:00.109
are my options? They go, you know what? I bet
627
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you Rudy would love to do this. Let's go to Rudy.
628
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Let's talk about doing that. And we did it. We
629
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had a blast and you can watch it on Amazon
630
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Prime today. And so, you know, that's one instance where
631
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not only was it a no from the family member,
632
00:28:12.400 --> 00:28:15.319
it was like a rude no. It was like a
633
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jerk no, like an a-hole no, you know? And it
634
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was like, oh, that doesn't feel good. But so what
635
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00:28:25.509
are my options? Like, And one of the questions is,
636
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should I be doing this at all? Should I be
637
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doing this right now? Is this feedback that this is
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a terrible idea or that I am doing something wrong
639
00:28:36.140 --> 00:28:39.319
I didn't realize? And the answer was no. I was
640
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doing things differently. He didn't know me, to be fair.
641
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And you have to remember, too, in a place like Broadway,
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like a storied institution like They don't really, the people
643
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who are established don't really love new people coming in
644
00:28:52.859 --> 00:28:54.839
and doing things in a different way that could disrupt
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what they're doing. But I had to try to non-emotionally,
646
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I did not emotionally try to process that. Of course,
647
00:29:02.839 --> 00:29:04.920
it was emotional at first. I mean, I remember where
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I was, what I was working on, when I got
649
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the call. I mean, I remember it. And clearly, I
650
00:29:09.180 --> 00:29:11.140
remember basically what the guy said to me. And so
651
00:29:11.559 --> 00:29:13.769
in any event, that's one example of that for you.
652
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You have worked with and interviewed some incredible humans, and
653
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I'm unwell with the not now thing because I've done
654
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some hard work on my own being more self-aware with
655
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the no not being a no, like being a not
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now or not yet. Particularly, I feel like God's responding, right?
657
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Like God is saying not yet, and you need to like,
658
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listen to that response.
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And I need you. And sometimes you have to become
660
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a bigger, better version of yourself to be prepared to
661
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do that. And so thankfully, those are the times when
662
00:29:46.359 --> 00:29:48.410
we didn't make the mistake. that we have to go
663
00:29:48.430 --> 00:29:51.390
back and reprocess that God's protecting us from ourselves. Right.
664
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God's protection, redirection. There's a quote about that too, but
665
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based on all these people, these humans, these, these interesting
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humans that you've spent time with, I'm curious because a
667
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lot of them are successful at such a level. Like
668
00:30:07.000 --> 00:30:09.380
this guy wanted to do Broadway, but like, that was it. Like,
669
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where else can you go
from there? You're already up here.
670
00:30:11.980 --> 00:30:12.609
Right. Yeah.
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What are people getting wrong about success? looking and talking
672
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with all these other people, like what are people not
673
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understanding right now about what it takes to be at,
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to operate and be successful?
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So I'll give it to you in, in the weirdest
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way possible, but I don't think, I don't think I
677
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can beat it. Um, I, uh, I wrote a song
678
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with a friend of mine who is Grammy nominated. Uh, he,
679
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he wrote the song girl going nowhere for Ashley McBride,
680
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which if you, if you have not listened to that,
681
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stop everything after you finish this podcast and go to
682
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YouTube and watch Ashley McBride, singing Girl Goin' Nowhere on
683
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the Opry stage for the first time. And so it's
684
00:30:50.519 --> 00:30:52.539
one of the most incredible songs ever written. He also
685
00:30:52.559 --> 00:30:54.920
just had his first number one with Scotty McCurry called
686
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Bottle Rockets and Hootie and the Bullfish and my friend
687
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Jeremy Bussey. And I write with him a lot. He's incredible.
688
00:31:00.829 --> 00:31:02.349
And so I had this idea for the song called
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Beautiful Hell because to me, that's what life is. Life
690
00:31:05.069 --> 00:31:08.019
is like this beautiful, like there's this torturous moments of
691
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like heartbreak and like, but it's beautiful, right? And in
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the end, ideally the journey is beautiful. And so the...
693
00:31:14.930 --> 00:31:17.009
One of the lines in that song, I think will
694
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represent this the best. Basically, it's talking to your younger self, right?
695
00:31:25.440 --> 00:31:27.539
It's sort of how the song is framed. And the
696
00:31:27.559 --> 00:31:31.720
line is, I tell him when he makes it, he'll
697
00:31:31.759 --> 00:31:34.380
still wonder if he will. And that hole inside him
698
00:31:34.420 --> 00:31:38.220
never will get filled. And so to me, that is
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the biggest thing about success. Because you never make it.
700
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There is no number. There's no number in your bank account.
701
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There's no number of awards. Like if you're keeping track
702
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by numbers, there is no number. There is no day
703
00:31:51.329 --> 00:31:53.609
where you wake up. There's days you can wake up proud.
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There's moments you can wake up proud. But most of us,
705
00:31:55.529 --> 00:31:58.089
when I interviewed Tony Robbins, I asked him for like,
706
00:31:58.410 --> 00:32:00.019
I asked him a question and he said something profound.
707
00:32:00.039 --> 00:32:02.759
He goes, you know, Nick, the thing human beings desire,
708
00:32:03.400 --> 00:32:05.380
one of the things they desire the most is progress.
709
00:32:05.920 --> 00:32:08.240
Like we all, no matter until the day you die,
710
00:32:08.259 --> 00:32:12.529
you will be ideally desiring progress. That's what gives you hope.
711
00:32:12.829 --> 00:32:15.509
We get frustrated when we can't progress into something, right?
712
00:32:15.529 --> 00:32:18.049
Like we can't make that breakthrough. We can't learn that
713
00:32:18.130 --> 00:32:20.210
extra chord on the guitar. We can't sing that note
714
00:32:20.250 --> 00:32:22.589
we want to sing, or we can't write that paragraph
715
00:32:22.630 --> 00:32:24.210
the way we want to write it, whatever it is, right?
716
00:32:24.589 --> 00:32:27.480
And so the whole idea that we will ever make
717
00:32:27.539 --> 00:32:31.220
it is silly. And so part of the deal is like, yes, ideally,
718
00:32:31.240 --> 00:32:33.900
like I eat better dinners than I used to, but
719
00:32:33.920 --> 00:32:36.940
there's other better dinners out there. I travel better than
720
00:32:36.980 --> 00:32:40.529
I used to, but There's private jets still. And then
721
00:32:40.549 --> 00:32:42.069
when you have a private jet, like, oh, that guy
722
00:32:42.089 --> 00:32:43.690
has a bigger one. I would love to take more
723
00:32:43.750 --> 00:32:45.529
friends on my private jet. I wish I had that one, right?
724
00:32:45.910 --> 00:32:48.730
And so that hole inside you never does get filled.
725
00:32:48.809 --> 00:32:51.960
So to think that success is that is the most
726
00:32:52.859 --> 00:32:57.200
hollowing thing possible. That's why people are genuinely unhappy when
727
00:32:57.220 --> 00:33:00.259
they spend all their time, they spend and waste all
728
00:33:00.279 --> 00:33:03.269
their relationships, and they get to where they thought was
729
00:33:03.289 --> 00:33:06.569
going to fulfill them. And they realize that they ruined
730
00:33:06.650 --> 00:33:09.819
everything That would have made this fun. Right. And so
731
00:33:10.200 --> 00:33:12.119
the idea that we're ever going to make it is
732
00:33:12.160 --> 00:33:14.759
not going to happen there. Like you can be successful,
733
00:33:14.799 --> 00:33:17.920
which is great. And I think you should you should
734
00:33:17.980 --> 00:33:21.980
celebrate your success regularly. That's the secret. It's like so look,
735
00:33:22.009 --> 00:33:23.690
we've all gotten the point where like, oh, if I
736
00:33:23.710 --> 00:33:26.789
could just make. six figures whatever it is if i
737
00:33:26.829 --> 00:33:30.009
could just sing that way if i and basically it
738
00:33:30.069 --> 00:33:33.130
never
happens overnight like a lottery it never happens you
739
00:33:33.150 --> 00:33:35.170
basically do all this work and by the time you
740
00:33:35.230 --> 00:33:37.390
get to that goal you're like oh yeah anybody could
741
00:33:37.430 --> 00:33:38.670
do that you just got to do this this and
742
00:33:38.690 --> 00:33:40.670
this and so right before we get to that goal
743
00:33:40.690 --> 00:33:43.210
when we see it's about to happen it's inevitable you
744
00:33:43.250 --> 00:33:45.730
move the goal post so we continually move the goal
745
00:33:45.769 --> 00:33:48.950
post on ourselves to where we never make it to
746
00:33:48.970 --> 00:33:51.769
the because we keep moving the finish line right and
747
00:33:51.809 --> 00:33:53.890
so what i tell people at our bourbon events and
748
00:33:53.910 --> 00:33:56.819
my film is like hey look I love the fact
749
00:33:56.859 --> 00:33:58.240
that me and you are both out there in the
750
00:33:58.259 --> 00:34:01.799
world chasing excellence. We're out there chasing greatness. We're out
751
00:34:01.839 --> 00:34:03.819
there trying to live an amazing life. We're out there
752
00:34:03.839 --> 00:34:06.710
trying to serve people. And let's just call it what
753
00:34:06.750 --> 00:34:09.690
it is. We keep moving the goalposts on ourselves because
754
00:34:09.730 --> 00:34:11.929
we know we've got more in ourselves. Like, I love that.
755
00:34:12.269 --> 00:34:13.969
And I want you to do that again when you
756
00:34:14.030 --> 00:34:16.670
leave here. But for right now, you got in this room,
757
00:34:16.969 --> 00:34:19.969
you flew to this event because you're successful enough to
758
00:34:20.030 --> 00:34:22.980
do it. And so while you're with me, forget about
759
00:34:23.019 --> 00:34:25.559
that goalpost and just enjoy the fact that like, just
760
00:34:25.579 --> 00:34:27.559
take a deep breath and go, man, I made it here.
761
00:34:27.860 --> 00:34:29.239
And I'm with some really great people and I'm going
762
00:34:29.260 --> 00:34:31.980
to enjoy what's in front of me right now. That's
763
00:34:32.019 --> 00:34:33.679
what we need to do to feel successful. And we
764
00:34:33.699 --> 00:34:35.780
need to do it at home with our families. We
765
00:34:35.800 --> 00:34:38.809
need to do it on vacation, even though sometimes we're stressed,
766
00:34:38.849 --> 00:34:40.610
like where's this money going to come from? Cause I'm
767
00:34:40.630 --> 00:34:43.090
not making any money. I'm just spending it, whatever. Right.
768
00:34:43.389 --> 00:34:48.489
And then also professionally, like we, we, we often don't
769
00:34:48.550 --> 00:34:51.179
take time to stop and enjoy the wins. And I
770
00:34:51.219 --> 00:34:53.820
believe I'm not great at, I'm not perfect at it either.
771
00:34:53.860 --> 00:34:55.510
I'm getting better, but like, if we could do that
772
00:34:55.550 --> 00:34:57.570
every day and just celebrate what the win is for today,
773
00:34:57.610 --> 00:34:59.739
like you
will reprogram your brain and be a much
774
00:34:59.780 --> 00:35:02.440
happier person. I mean, that's, that's scientifically proven. I don't
775
00:35:02.460 --> 00:35:04.000
know where the science is, but I've heard it from
776
00:35:04.019 --> 00:35:06.420
a bunch of people I believe. Um, so I think
777
00:35:06.460 --> 00:35:11.289
that the biggest, um, the biggest misnomer, the biggest fallacy
778
00:35:11.329 --> 00:35:13.690
about success is that you reach it at some point.
779
00:35:16.230 --> 00:35:21.820
You have an energy that feels very familiar to me, Nick.
780
00:35:22.900 --> 00:35:25.949
I am that person who is like, you need to
781
00:35:26.010 --> 00:35:28.489
hear this song. Like you need to stop what you're
782
00:35:28.530 --> 00:35:31.329
doing and you need to go to YouTube. Like literally
783
00:35:31.369 --> 00:35:33.190
that is me. And so I'm going to do it
784
00:35:33.329 --> 00:35:36.929
back to you because understanding what you just said, I
785
00:35:37.230 --> 00:35:42.159
had literal full body chills the entire time you were
786
00:35:42.199 --> 00:35:44.480
just speaking this. And this is why, and you will
787
00:35:44.519 --> 00:35:47.079
feel it too when you listen to this song, Nick
788
00:35:47.579 --> 00:35:51.239
and friends. Okay. So I am a huge, I'm a
789
00:35:51.280 --> 00:35:56.019
huge Swiftie. Andrew McMahon released a new song today called
790
00:35:56.679 --> 00:35:59.429
She Paints Me Blue Strings Attached, which is a remix
791
00:35:59.590 --> 00:36:02.050
of a song from 20 years ago that adds violin.
792
00:36:02.170 --> 00:36:04.909
And I felt it with my body. And I know
793
00:36:04.969 --> 00:36:08.510
that not everybody feels music that way, but Nick and
794
00:36:08.739 --> 00:36:13.559
I do. And there's this song that embodies everything you
795
00:36:13.579 --> 00:36:16.690
just said. in different words from a different musician named
796
00:36:16.750 --> 00:36:19.329
Max McNown, who is this newer up and coming.
797
00:36:19.449 --> 00:36:21.230
Yeah. My friend plays guitar for Max. Yeah. Yeah.
798
00:36:21.309 --> 00:36:23.929
Oh goodness gracious. Well then of course, then you know,
799
00:36:24.210 --> 00:36:26.219
maybe you know the song, but the song is called
800
00:36:26.260 --> 00:36:29.619
the room and it ends. You need to listen. You
801
00:36:29.659 --> 00:36:32.099
need to listen because it's, it's everything you just said.
802
00:36:32.519 --> 00:36:33.789
I'll take another. I won't do it.
803
00:36:34.019 --> 00:36:35.380
Okay. Yes. Write it down.
804
00:36:35.860 --> 00:36:36.000
Yeah.
805
00:36:36.340 --> 00:36:39.019
The room by Max McNown. It's an on his new album,
806
00:36:39.059 --> 00:36:43.090
leave on a light. And it's, it's a body tingle
807
00:36:43.260 --> 00:36:44.139
brain tingle song.
808
00:36:44.159 --> 00:36:45.300
All right. I'll check it out. Thank you.
809
00:36:45.489 --> 00:36:48.349
Um, because it ends with the line, sorry to spoiler alert,
810
00:36:48.650 --> 00:36:50.949
but it ends with the line or will I have
811
00:36:50.989 --> 00:36:54.650
built a life worth dying for? And when you said
812
00:36:54.730 --> 00:36:58.389
what you said, I was transported to that song. And
813
00:36:58.510 --> 00:37:03.590
isn't that cool? Like music is so cool and collective
814
00:37:03.929 --> 00:37:08.010
and emotional. And like, I, I, you're talking my language
815
00:37:09.070 --> 00:37:11.900
and it's like your roots and, Like we talked about
816
00:37:11.920 --> 00:37:13.960
a lot of the stuff that we've done since, but
817
00:37:14.000 --> 00:37:16.980
you've done music this whole time. Like you've been in
818
00:37:17.360 --> 00:37:21.059
music and working in music and songwriting for a long time.
819
00:37:21.400 --> 00:37:23.179
Yeah, I started playing guitar at six, started writing at
820
00:37:23.179 --> 00:37:26.099
15 or 16 and still do it, thankfully. Yeah, I
821
00:37:26.119 --> 00:37:26.409
love it.
822
00:37:26.679 --> 00:37:29.800
We love the music around here. So what has that,
823
00:37:30.260 --> 00:37:35.199
you know, that space of creativity done for your development
824
00:37:35.280 --> 00:37:38.679
as a human? And like, how do you translate all
825
00:37:38.699 --> 00:37:40.949
of these feelings and stuff into your songwriting?
826
00:37:42.199 --> 00:37:46.079
Oh man, hard to answer because I've just, you know,
827
00:37:46.179 --> 00:37:48.480
in a lot of ways, I just kept taking, just
828
00:37:48.579 --> 00:37:51.079
kept walking through the next door that got an open
829
00:37:51.099 --> 00:37:53.199
door that I beat down and God allowed me to open.
830
00:37:53.900 --> 00:37:55.659
And so I've just been able to progress in it
831
00:37:55.699 --> 00:37:58.320
now for, I mean, been playing guitar now for 40
832
00:37:58.320 --> 00:38:02.349
years and been writing for 25, almost 30, whatever. Yeah,
833
00:38:02.349 --> 00:38:06.329
30 plus. So number one, I think it's the thing
834
00:38:06.530 --> 00:38:09.889
I love the most about songwriting is that you're trying
835
00:38:09.909 --> 00:38:13.179
to make someone feel at least what I do with
836
00:38:13.199 --> 00:38:15.340
my writers, like no matter whose point of view you're
837
00:38:15.360 --> 00:38:17.179
writing from, trying to make someone feel the things the
838
00:38:17.199 --> 00:38:19.909
way we feel them, right? And so in order to
839
00:38:19.969 --> 00:38:22.789
do that, you usually, that's right, I write a lot
840
00:38:22.809 --> 00:38:25.530
of country, you usually have to put someone in a
841
00:38:25.570 --> 00:38:28.269
scenario that they've either been in or they've been in
842
00:38:28.309 --> 00:38:33.130
a similar scenario and they understand it. So like, how
843
00:38:33.210 --> 00:38:39.159
would that feel? Like again, that same song, the first,
844
00:38:39.909 --> 00:38:41.480
a couple of lines, if I could tune this old
845
00:38:41.500 --> 00:38:44.739
guitar back to 17 to a dreamer on
my mama's drive,
846
00:38:44.780 --> 00:38:47.809
about to turn that key, you know, it's like, oh, I, like, I,
847
00:38:48.539 --> 00:38:51.320
I remember being 17 in my parents' driveway and trying
848
00:38:51.340 --> 00:38:53.440
to figure out what to do next. Or should I
849
00:38:53.480 --> 00:38:56.199
call the girl? Should I go break up with her?
850
00:38:56.239 --> 00:38:58.280
Should I make up with her? Should I, you know, what,
851
00:38:58.320 --> 00:39:00.460
should I go to this thing? I don't want to
852
00:39:00.500 --> 00:39:02.320
go to, should I, you know, like whatever, right? We,
853
00:39:02.360 --> 00:39:05.119
we like, it's visceral. We, we all feel that. And
854
00:39:05.159 --> 00:39:09.409
so I love that. I also like, again, I, the guy,
855
00:39:10.250 --> 00:39:13.550
The guys and gals that I write with are all
856
00:39:14.949 --> 00:39:16.800
some of the most talented people I have ever met
857
00:39:16.880 --> 00:39:19.960
in my life. They are world class. I only get
858
00:39:20.039 --> 00:39:24.519
those rights because I would I guess because of what
859
00:39:24.550 --> 00:39:27.650
I because I enrich their lives in some way, because
860
00:39:27.710 --> 00:39:29.570
I'm not good enough to write with these people as
861
00:39:29.650 --> 00:39:32.280
a writer. like they write every day twice a day
862
00:39:32.360 --> 00:39:34.539
for 30 years and like they can run I mean
863
00:39:34.559 --> 00:39:36.980
they can run rings around me like I'll often be
864
00:39:37.000 --> 00:39:38.539
like man I got this idea like we often write
865
00:39:38.579 --> 00:39:41.010
my ideas because one of the things that I bring
866
00:39:41.030 --> 00:39:43.750
to the table is they write every day I'm I
867
00:39:43.769 --> 00:39:46.150
write once or twice a month so like I'm I'm
868
00:39:46.170 --> 00:39:48.190
bringing in fresh ideas all the time because I've got
869
00:39:48.269 --> 00:39:50.650
another 28 days to come up with them where they've just,
870
00:39:50.730 --> 00:39:52.429
they got to write two today, two tomorrow, two the
871
00:39:52.469 --> 00:39:54.829
next day, two the next day. And that's, so sometimes
872
00:39:54.869 --> 00:39:57.110
they're like, sometimes the beauty is like, they got to
873
00:39:57.150 --> 00:39:59.230
get down to a micro to figure something new to
874
00:39:59.269 --> 00:40:01.570
write about. But I'm like going through, like we just,
875
00:40:02.199 --> 00:40:03.880
just wrote a song. I think it's going to come
876
00:40:03.920 --> 00:40:05.800
out with an artist. We'll see. But the title has
877
00:40:05.820 --> 00:40:08.199
better off broken. And this whole idea was like, you know,
878
00:40:08.460 --> 00:40:11.000
I had this sort of relationship when I say whatever, like,
879
00:40:11.019 --> 00:40:13.699
and I realized like, I realized that the only person
880
00:40:13.719 --> 00:40:15.699
who can fix me is myself. So I was better
881
00:40:15.739 --> 00:40:17.650
off broken than
trying to have this person fix me.
882
00:40:17.690 --> 00:40:19.599
It's like the kinds of right. And like the writers are,
883
00:40:19.610 --> 00:40:22.869
they're like, Yeah, let's do that. So, but like, I'll
884
00:40:22.889 --> 00:40:24.590
be like, how about this? And they're like, oh, do
885
00:40:24.610 --> 00:40:26.750
you mean like this? And they'll spit it out in
886
00:40:26.789 --> 00:40:29.789
a way that's like, yes, I wish I could have
887
00:40:29.809 --> 00:40:31.789
said it that way. But, you know, and I'll get
888
00:40:31.909 --> 00:40:35.480
lines in the song. But I realize, and it's okay
889
00:40:35.519 --> 00:40:38.099
to me, that like they do it way more than
890
00:40:38.139 --> 00:40:40.440
I do. They're way more proficient than I am. But
891
00:40:40.480 --> 00:40:42.940
I still have value in the room. I could, you know,
892
00:40:43.039 --> 00:40:44.400
my friend Jeremy, who I write with a lot, like
893
00:40:44.440 --> 00:40:47.579
Jeremy writes hits at his kitchen table by himself. He
894
00:40:47.619 --> 00:40:50.769
needs nobody at any time to help him. And he's like, man,
895
00:40:50.809 --> 00:40:53.610
you know, and I feel like sometimes I don't get,
896
00:40:54.780 --> 00:40:58.119
I get like the least amount of lines that I
897
00:40:58.159 --> 00:41:01.199
would write without him rewriting them better of like anyone else.
898
00:41:01.239 --> 00:41:03.400
And it's intimidating. We've been writing almost 10 years now.
899
00:41:03.739 --> 00:41:06.239
And he's like, dude, so I'm always like sometimes feeling
900
00:41:06.260 --> 00:41:10.239
a little bit self-conscious about it, right? Like, man, why
901
00:41:10.300 --> 00:41:12.619
is this dude still writing this? And he's like, dude,
902
00:41:12.639 --> 00:41:14.219
you know how many people I write with? And then
903
00:41:14.420 --> 00:41:16.409
by the second or third write. They know we're going
904
00:41:16.429 --> 00:41:18.409
to write a good song, but they stop even trying
905
00:41:18.469 --> 00:41:20.590
to write lines. He goes, I don't ever write those
906
00:41:20.610 --> 00:41:22.010
people again because I'm not here to write a song
907
00:41:22.070 --> 00:41:23.699
for you. I'm going to write a song with you.
908
00:41:23.710 --> 00:41:25.530
He goes, and by the way, everything that comes out
909
00:41:25.550 --> 00:41:27.690
of your mouth spins around in my brain somehow to
910
00:41:27.750 --> 00:41:29.750
help me write that next line. But you got to
911
00:41:29.789 --> 00:41:32.869
be willing to like, and he writes a lot in
912
00:41:32.929 --> 00:41:35.110
his brain. And then I'm like, what is he thinking?
913
00:41:35.250 --> 00:41:37.550
Am I interrupting him? Like, but you know, but so
914
00:41:37.840 --> 00:41:39.820
I've learned we were great friends and we write a lot,
915
00:41:40.179 --> 00:41:44.360
but I have learned, I've learned a lot about collaboration
916
00:41:44.400 --> 00:41:46.659
in songwriting and I've learned a lot about when I
917
00:41:46.699 --> 00:41:49.639
first started writing, when I first got invited to Nashville
918
00:41:49.659 --> 00:41:51.699
to write, and it was when I was like 20,
919
00:41:51.699 --> 00:41:54.780
this legendary songwriter named Charlie Craig, who is getting on
920
00:41:54.820 --> 00:41:57.150
in years, really great human, became a mentor to me.
921
00:41:57.429 --> 00:41:59.329
He had over 300 album cuts had written for Dolly
922
00:41:59.349 --> 00:42:01.670
Parton and Randy Travis. And he wrote Just Between You
923
00:42:01.690 --> 00:42:03.489
and All Memory and Me, that Keith Whitley and Travis
924
00:42:03.510 --> 00:42:06.889
Tritt sang, like a really nice man. And he said, hey, Nick,
925
00:42:07.030 --> 00:42:08.699
I could tell you got talent. You've been writing these
926
00:42:08.739 --> 00:42:11.300
songs in your bedroom that are, they're decent. They're not
927
00:42:11.340 --> 00:42:12.800
great songs, hate to break it to you, but you
928
00:42:12.840 --> 00:42:14.590
got talent, you got ambition. why don't you come ride
929
00:42:14.610 --> 00:42:16.769
with me and some of my friends? I'd love to.
930
00:42:17.050 --> 00:42:18.849
He goes, but what I'm going to tell you is
931
00:42:18.889 --> 00:42:20.929
that I want you to come with ideas because nobody
932
00:42:20.969 --> 00:42:23.070
wants a wet noodle coming in the room, basically. Come
933
00:42:23.090 --> 00:42:24.630
with ideas. But what I don't want you to do
934
00:42:24.989 --> 00:42:26.869
is I don't want you to fight for your idea.
935
00:42:27.190 --> 00:42:28.710
I want you to fight for the best song in
936
00:42:28.730 --> 00:42:30.769
the room that day because that song could only be
937
00:42:30.829 --> 00:42:33.599
brought together by the thought processes, the energy, and the
938
00:42:33.619 --> 00:42:35.360
people who are in the room that day. So fight
939
00:42:35.380 --> 00:42:37.460
for the best song. Don't fight for your song. And
940
00:42:37.519 --> 00:42:39.119
so I now have learned to do that in business
941
00:42:39.159 --> 00:42:41.840
and interviews too. It's like, don't, I just need to
942
00:42:41.880 --> 00:42:44.280
be prepared for the best conversation in the room that day.
943
00:42:44.800 --> 00:42:47.460
If I came to this interview knowing here's what I,
944
00:42:47.510 --> 00:42:49.789
here's my agenda. Here's what I got to get across
945
00:42:49.829 --> 00:42:52.849
with Tyler. Like there's a totally different conversation. Like, Hey,
946
00:42:52.889 --> 00:42:54.670
let me show up prepared by the way. Let me
947
00:42:54.690 --> 00:42:56.750
be prepared to talk about whatever I need to talk about,
948
00:42:57.090 --> 00:43:00.420
but let me be prepared to speak on the topics
949
00:43:00.440 --> 00:43:02.820
that are interesting to her. And when I, so when
950
00:43:02.860 --> 00:43:05.980
I first started interviewing famous people, first of all, I
951
00:43:06.019 --> 00:43:07.800
used to like, I'm pretty
good at winging things I've
952
00:43:07.820 --> 00:43:09.159
done in my whole life. Like I just used to
953
00:43:09.179 --> 00:43:11.460
show up and wing it. And like, And it would
954
00:43:11.480 --> 00:43:13.920
work out, but I'm like, you know, there'd be, sometimes
955
00:43:13.940 --> 00:43:15.440
there'd be things I didn't even know they were working
956
00:43:15.599 --> 00:43:17.400
on or it was like, and I felt like I
957
00:43:17.440 --> 00:43:20.090
wasn't as prepared as I should be. And then I'm like,
958
00:43:20.409 --> 00:43:22.510
but I don't like to prepare. But then I realized, oh,
959
00:43:22.530 --> 00:43:25.429
wait a minute, I can outsource preparation. So I started
960
00:43:25.469 --> 00:43:27.550
getting one of my producers to make, I was like,
961
00:43:27.570 --> 00:43:29.289
the way I want to be prepared is write me
962
00:43:29.309 --> 00:43:31.090
an article as if this person were on the cover
963
00:43:31.110 --> 00:43:34.030
of People Magazine this week, no more than 1500 words.
964
00:43:34.349 --> 00:43:36.329
Let me know what I need to know about their past, present, future,
965
00:43:36.349 --> 00:43:38.349
what they're excited about and give it to me on paper.
966
00:43:38.710 --> 00:43:41.460
And so 10 minutes before the interview, read it, make
967
00:43:41.519 --> 00:43:43.940
notes on it, and I'm ready to have the interview. Now,
968
00:43:44.019 --> 00:43:45.840
the first mistake I made then was I tried to
969
00:43:45.880 --> 00:43:48.070
make them say everything that was on the paper because
970
00:43:48.110 --> 00:43:49.739
this in my brain was like, oh, this is what
971
00:43:49.780 --> 00:43:52.690
we need to talk about. Once I realized, oh, I
972
00:43:52.730 --> 00:43:55.130
don't need to do that. That's just me preparing. That's
973
00:43:55.170 --> 00:43:57.690
me always having something to go back to as a foundation.
974
00:43:58.010 --> 00:43:59.829
But my real job here is to see when they
975
00:43:59.869 --> 00:44:02.429
light up in their eyes and follow the trail unless
976
00:44:02.469 --> 00:44:04.130
it gets lost and I can point it back to this.
977
00:44:04.510 --> 00:44:07.269
But then, so the amount of times now, because I've
978
00:44:07.289 --> 00:44:09.050
been prepared to have the best conversation in the room
979
00:44:09.070 --> 00:44:11.340
that day, the conversation they want to have The amount
980
00:44:11.360 --> 00:44:13.420
of times people have said, Larry King said to me,
981
00:44:13.420 --> 00:44:15.480
he said, Nick, I never talked about this on camera before.
982
00:44:15.559 --> 00:44:17.460
And I'm like, sort of like, why are you telling me?
983
00:44:17.480 --> 00:44:19.679
You know, like, you know, are we going to get arrested? No,
984
00:44:19.719 --> 00:44:22.409
but like it's, but when you prepare for the best
985
00:44:22.449 --> 00:44:24.730
conversation in the room that day, which I learned from songwriting,
986
00:44:25.150 --> 00:44:27.989
it allows you
to have a much richer dialogue and
987
00:44:28.010 --> 00:44:31.329
a much richer experience because you're not trying to maneuver or,
988
00:44:31.510 --> 00:44:35.570
or commandeer something in a way that's not natural. Thank you. Yeah,
989
00:44:35.610 --> 00:44:35.869
of course.
990
00:44:36.230 --> 00:44:40.579
Thank you. I am blown away. I was, I am,
991
00:44:40.800 --> 00:44:46.420
I was prepared. I am prepared. And I am absolutely hoodwinked,
992
00:44:46.480 --> 00:44:50.860
blown away by the, the messages that I needed to hear. And,
993
00:44:51.099 --> 00:44:53.050
you know, I say, I talk about this a lot
994
00:44:53.489 --> 00:44:56.789
with my solo episodes, but God is good. Like I,
995
00:44:56.969 --> 00:44:59.489
I believe in, in timing and I believe in things
996
00:44:59.530 --> 00:45:02.889
happening for a reason when they happen and you and
997
00:45:02.989 --> 00:45:07.010
your energy and your messages are spot on for what
998
00:45:07.110 --> 00:45:11.590
my bandaged soul needed. Right now today in this mo
999
00:45:11.670 --> 00:45:15.050
in this moment in time, like not just past, present, future,
1000
00:45:15.070 --> 00:45:18.329
but right now. So thank you. Not just for, because
1001
00:45:18.389 --> 00:45:20.849
here's the thing that I know and thank you, but like,
1002
00:45:21.010 --> 00:45:23.800
I know that I'm not alone, right? Like I know
1003
00:45:24.139 --> 00:45:26.420
that the messages and the things that you're sharing with
1004
00:45:26.559 --> 00:45:30.139
me are things that my people, my friends, my family,
1005
00:45:30.179 --> 00:45:32.760
the people that watch and listen, they need this too,
1006
00:45:32.880 --> 00:45:35.440
because we're all in this together. Like the way I
1007
00:45:35.500 --> 00:45:38.659
see it, I am a conduit of information. And I
1008
00:45:38.739 --> 00:45:41.840
am so grateful for the opportunity to get to hear
1009
00:45:42.260 --> 00:45:47.090
and feel and experience this conversation because it's very, very
1010
00:45:47.150 --> 00:45:50.110
personal for me in ways that probably don't even really
1011
00:45:50.150 --> 00:45:52.889
make sense that we can, we can talk about it
1012
00:45:52.929 --> 00:45:56.550
later because one thing I will share is I have
1013
00:45:56.590 --> 00:45:59.789
gotten that too from the people that I've talked with.
1014
00:45:59.869 --> 00:46:02.639
And I'm so grateful because, you know, we talk about
1015
00:46:02.659 --> 00:46:04.719
maybe it not being a superpower, it's a skillset.
1016
00:46:04.840 --> 00:46:05.480
Sure. Okay.
1017
00:46:05.519 --> 00:46:07.590
Yes. I kind of, I err on the side of
1018
00:46:07.670 --> 00:46:10.889
glitter and sparkle. So I like the superpower mindset, right?
1019
00:46:10.929 --> 00:46:14.409
But the superpower idea that you, I can sit down
1020
00:46:14.449 --> 00:46:18.719
with a human who I, in theory, don't even, there's really,
1021
00:46:19.019 --> 00:46:23.000
how does Ty know Nick? Like, how did that happen?
1022
00:46:23.340 --> 00:46:25.599
And that's curious. That might be curious for some people,
1023
00:46:25.900 --> 00:46:28.039
but I can sit down with a person and we
1024
00:46:28.079 --> 00:46:30.679
can have a conversation like this that has impact and
1025
00:46:30.719 --> 00:46:35.679
has heart and soul and feelings and helps people. at
1026
00:46:35.719 --> 00:46:39.340
a level that is just really, really stinking cool. And
1027
00:46:39.800 --> 00:46:41.889
it's happened to me before where I too have had
1028
00:46:41.909 --> 00:46:44.190
the people say, I don't know why I'm telling you this.
1029
00:46:44.309 --> 00:46:47.530
Like it happens with, with celebrities like you, Nick, but
1030
00:46:47.570 --> 00:46:49.789
it also happens with the lady at the Dollar Tree
1031
00:46:50.070 --> 00:46:52.550
who randomly had, I randomly had a conversation with her
1032
00:46:52.590 --> 00:46:55.570
about self-love the other day. You know, like it's, it's,
1033
00:46:55.730 --> 00:46:58.510
it happens everywhere. And I'm very grateful for this gift
1034
00:46:58.530 --> 00:47:02.119
of superpower that I have. And thank you for sharing
1035
00:47:02.159 --> 00:47:03.980
it and kind of like reflecting it back at me
1036
00:47:04.039 --> 00:47:06.679
in a way that's just honestly visceral. And I'm feeling
1037
00:47:06.719 --> 00:47:09.409
with all of, all of my heart. So I am
1038
00:47:09.630 --> 00:47:11.289
glad to hear that. So grateful.
1039
00:47:11.710 --> 00:47:14.610
It's interesting because, you know, when I first started working
1040
00:47:14.670 --> 00:47:16.949
on this book, like, first of all, I was trying
1041
00:47:16.969 --> 00:47:19.760
to figure out like, basically whenever I direct a film
1042
00:47:19.820 --> 00:47:23.199
for somebody, I will often get like, especially if it's
1043
00:47:23.219 --> 00:47:26.199
a company, someone who owns a company or whatever, like they,
1044
00:47:26.599 --> 00:47:30.900
they will somehow or the other say, Like, oh my gosh,
1045
00:47:30.920 --> 00:47:32.900
I got a lot more than I bargained for. I
1046
00:47:32.920 --> 00:47:35.789
just thought you were just a film director. Like, sometimes
1047
00:47:35.809 --> 00:47:38.349
they'll call their whole marketing team. Like, Nick just gave
1048
00:47:38.369 --> 00:47:40.570
me these hundred ideas. And part of it is because
1049
00:47:40.650 --> 00:47:42.869
my brain works that way. But I've seen from the
1050
00:47:42.969 --> 00:47:47.210
inside of a thousand different organizations and ways people operate
1051
00:47:47.230 --> 00:47:49.530
and stuff. And so what I really want to do
1052
00:47:49.550 --> 00:47:51.539
with the book is just, like, share the things I
1053
00:47:51.579 --> 00:47:54.760
had learned. But also, from a selfish point of view,
1054
00:47:54.860 --> 00:47:58.369
I wanted people to understand that. basically who I am,
1055
00:47:58.429 --> 00:48:00.630
like what makes me who I am. But then you,
1056
00:48:00.809 --> 00:48:04.190
I get the, you know, the, the imposter syndrome of like, well,
1057
00:48:04.210 --> 00:48:06.639
why would anyone care what Nick has to say? Cause
1058
00:48:07.000 --> 00:48:09.380
that is a natural response. And then I, but I
1059
00:48:09.460 --> 00:48:11.159
had to take my own advice that I give other people.
1060
00:48:11.500 --> 00:48:13.260
When your message is more important than your ego, your
1061
00:48:13.300 --> 00:48:14.360
ego gets out of the way and you just start
1062
00:48:14.380 --> 00:48:16.460
sharing it and it will reach the people it's supposed
1063
00:48:16.480 --> 00:48:19.039
to reach. I think the big difference is if you're
1064
00:48:19.059 --> 00:48:22.210
sharing the message for your ego, it's not the right message.
1065
00:48:22.469 --> 00:48:24.349
If you're sharing the message to help and serve other people,
1066
00:48:25.030 --> 00:48:27.309
doors will open because it's obvious. We talked about serving.
1067
00:48:28.139 --> 00:48:31.019
You're doing this podcast to serve an audience. It's not
1068
00:48:31.039 --> 00:48:34.679
going to hurt you, but it's not intended to be self-serving.
1069
00:48:35.480 --> 00:48:37.099
And when you see things, I see people all the
1070
00:48:37.139 --> 00:48:39.929
time who post things online over and over and over
1071
00:48:39.969 --> 00:48:41.789
and over again, which is how you feed the algorithm.
1072
00:48:42.210 --> 00:48:44.489
And they get two likes here, three likes there. And
1073
00:48:44.530 --> 00:48:48.050
it's because they are not serving themselves or they're not
1074
00:48:48.070 --> 00:48:50.769
serving others. They're doing it for their ego. And once
1075
00:48:50.809 --> 00:48:52.760
people start to realize that, so it's been an interesting
1076
00:48:52.820 --> 00:48:56.409
process And I'm really glad to hear that it resonates
1077
00:48:56.449 --> 00:48:59.949
with you because it's newer material for me. But I
1078
00:48:59.989 --> 00:49:02.789
have noticed every time I'll mention it off the cuff
1079
00:49:02.829 --> 00:49:04.849
or from a keynote, like these are the things that
1080
00:49:04.889 --> 00:49:07.530
people come up to me and like want to revisit.
1081
00:49:07.550 --> 00:49:09.349
Like tell me again about– honestly, the question I get
1082
00:49:09.389 --> 00:49:10.849
asked the most is like tell me about the seven
1083
00:49:10.869 --> 00:49:12.969
nights a month again. Like how does that work? And
1084
00:49:13.010 --> 00:49:15.349
it's like because it's just like real and it's practical.
1085
00:49:15.670 --> 00:49:17.329
It doesn't have to be seven nights for anybody else.
1086
00:49:17.369 --> 00:49:19.320
But like this is a way I put guardrails in
1087
00:49:19.340 --> 00:49:22.079
my life. so that I know my children, they like me.
1088
00:49:22.099 --> 00:49:24.000
I've been married almost 25 years. My wife still likes me,
1089
00:49:24.039 --> 00:49:26.110
I think. And so, you know, but, but if I,
1090
00:49:26.440 --> 00:49:30.420
but if I let success run from me and run
1091
00:49:30.579 --> 00:49:32.880
and run, which I was, once we, I started having success,
1092
00:49:33.260 --> 00:49:35.280
you know, my wife sat me down, Christina, and she's like, look,
1093
00:49:36.159 --> 00:49:37.940
I'm really glad like we can eat now. I'm really
1094
00:49:37.960 --> 00:49:39.380
glad that we can afford a house. Like I'm like,
1095
00:49:39.849 --> 00:49:42.449
But I didn't sign up to do this life without you.
1096
00:49:42.530 --> 00:49:44.599
I need your help. And the kids need you. So like,
1097
00:49:44.960 --> 00:49:47.079
what are we going to do? And so I was like,
1098
00:49:47.239 --> 00:49:48.820
I don't know. Let's talk about it. And so we
1099
00:49:48.860 --> 00:49:52.719
just had a healthy conversation. She understood that I couldn't
1100
00:49:52.780 --> 00:49:55.280
do what I was doing without some level of travel.
1101
00:49:56.280 --> 00:49:59.010
But I understood that she couldn't do it. I couldn't
1102
00:49:59.050 --> 00:50:03.349
be a helpful, healthy husband, father if I wasn't ever there.
1103
00:50:03.630 --> 00:50:06.389
So like, what are we going to do? My travel
1104
00:50:06.449 --> 00:50:09.150
is still disruptive. Don't get me wrong. I'm gone like
1105
00:50:09.190 --> 00:50:13.559
a night and a half a week. But we've learned
1106
00:50:13.579 --> 00:50:15.940
to live with it. It works for us. I get
1107
00:50:15.980 --> 00:50:18.019
my adventures. I think I come back more prepared to
1108
00:50:18.039 --> 00:50:19.380
be a better dad because I've gotten it out of
1109
00:50:19.420 --> 00:50:23.380
my system. People always ask, how do you do those things?
1110
00:50:23.400 --> 00:50:26.829
How do you take those risks? Number one, my family
1111
00:50:26.849 --> 00:50:30.369
is my baseline. They're my floor. Because I poured into them,
1112
00:50:30.429 --> 00:50:34.710
they're there for me. As long as I don't dishonor them,
1113
00:50:35.230 --> 00:50:38.469
or embarrass them by making a really bad public decision
1114
00:50:38.530 --> 00:50:42.150
or cheat somebody or whatever. Like they don't, they don't
1115
00:50:42.210 --> 00:50:43.389
care when I get home, they're just going to make
1116
00:50:43.449 --> 00:50:45.550
fun of me. They don't care who I've interviewed. And like,
1117
00:50:45.909 --> 00:50:48.449
I say, if your children aren't respectfully making fun of you,
1118
00:50:48.469 --> 00:50:50.250
I'm not sure you did it right. Cause like, it
1119
00:50:50.289 --> 00:50:53.489
shouldn't be that serious respectfully, but like, you know, and
1120
00:50:53.550 --> 00:50:56.150
so we have a real relationship. So I can't wait
1121
00:50:56.489 --> 00:50:59.050
to get home. No matter what I just experienced success
1122
00:50:59.090 --> 00:51:00.690
or failure, I just got, I just want to go
1123
00:51:00.730 --> 00:51:02.730
home and see my family and hang out. And so
1124
00:51:03.190 --> 00:51:04.469
it makes
for a rich life. It's a lot of fun.
1125
00:51:05.059 --> 00:51:08.599
Oh my gosh. To that end, you, you spend your
1126
00:51:08.639 --> 00:51:12.860
career making other people feel seen. What makes you feel seen?
1127
00:51:12.880 --> 00:51:17.519
Uh, man, uh, spending time with people, you know, just
1128
00:51:17.599 --> 00:51:21.690
getting like, I don't, I don't want any shallow relationships
1129
00:51:21.750 --> 00:51:23.510
in my life. I don't, I don't, I don't need them.
1130
00:51:23.530 --> 00:51:25.849
I don't desire them. Um, not that I don't sit
1131
00:51:25.889 --> 00:51:27.869
next to probably some really great people on airplanes, but
1132
00:51:27.889 --> 00:51:29.989
I basically just go to sleep because I'm not, I don't,
1133
00:51:30.309 --> 00:51:32.530
I don't care what the weather is. I'm like, what?
1134
00:51:32.829 --> 00:51:35.670
Like small talk, hate it. Like I want, you know,
1135
00:51:35.750 --> 00:51:37.989
I want to spend time with people who are, you know,
1136
00:51:38.130 --> 00:51:40.889
trying to serve others, trying to, trying to make whatever
1137
00:51:41.010 --> 00:51:43.329
world or part of the world that they are in
1138
00:51:43.349 --> 00:51:45.570
a better place, whether that's number one, by the way,
1139
00:51:45.590 --> 00:51:48.360
I think from like, if you are a parent, I
1140
00:51:48.400 --> 00:51:50.659
think if you fail at that job, like you, you
1141
00:51:50.679 --> 00:51:52.619
failed the world, like, you know, I don't mean to
1142
00:51:52.639 --> 00:51:54.400
be harsh about it, but like, so to me, that's,
1143
00:51:54.519 --> 00:51:57.000
that's how seriously I take it. I can't control my
1144
00:51:57.079 --> 00:52:00.239
kids' decisions. You know, they're going to make mistakes because
1145
00:52:00.280 --> 00:52:02.099
I still make mistakes. So I tell them that I'm like, Hey,
1146
00:52:02.530 --> 00:52:04.150
You're going to make mistakes because I still do. But
1147
00:52:04.190 --> 00:52:06.610
when you do, me and your mom can probably help
1148
00:52:06.650 --> 00:52:08.449
you more than your friend who doesn't know what they're doing.
1149
00:52:08.469 --> 00:52:10.869
So if you make mistakes, probably call me. Anyway, but
1150
00:52:10.909 --> 00:52:15.050
so I want, I desire deep relationships and that makes
1151
00:52:15.090 --> 00:52:17.690
me feel seen because I can actually have a real
1152
00:52:17.750 --> 00:52:20.650
conversation with someone that means something because to me, you know,
1153
00:52:21.449 --> 00:52:23.889
I find the meaning of life through community and community
1154
00:52:23.929 --> 00:52:27.909
to me is people you have relationships with and I
1155
00:52:27.949 --> 00:52:30.469
have been given the gift of, because I care about people,
1156
00:52:30.590 --> 00:52:34.090
I can usually develop pretty deep relationships pretty quickly. And
1157
00:52:34.170 --> 00:52:37.320
so if I interview, not with every celebrity, you may
1158
00:52:37.340 --> 00:52:39.199
never get a call back, but if I interview someone
1159
00:52:39.239 --> 00:52:40.900
and they like it and they seem like I can,
1160
00:52:40.920 --> 00:52:44.719
I mean, I just got invited. This is cool. Just
1161
00:52:44.760 --> 00:52:47.480
because my first big concert I went to was the
1162
00:52:47.619 --> 00:52:51.110
Eagles' Hell Freezes Over. Well, through filming the Blind Boys
1163
00:52:51.130 --> 00:52:53.710
of Alabama documentary that I just did, I interviewed Timothy B.
1164
00:52:53.730 --> 00:52:56.460
Schmidt from the Eagles. And Timothy B. Schmidt invited me
1165
00:52:56.719 --> 00:52:59.420
to the sphere as his guest to the Eagles show. Like,
1166
00:53:00.440 --> 00:53:02.780
but like, you know, like, and he doesn't know me well,
1167
00:53:02.800 --> 00:53:05.099
but I tried to develop a relationship, try to serve
1168
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him well. He saw how well I served his friends,
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the blind boys. I'm not his friend, the blind boys
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are his friends, but he saw how I served them.
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He's like, he obviously thinks I'm a good enough dude
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and I'm an Eagles fan. And he's like, oh, cool.
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And so I told him, I said, my uncle took me,
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I had to babysit my cousin in exchange for the ticket.
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And so he's like, well, bring your uncle with you.
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So me and my uncle, who took me to see
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the Eagles are going to see the Eagles again. It
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should be pretty cool.
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Oh my gosh. That's amazing. That story is so good.
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That's so good. Um, I have like 75 more questions,
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but it's fine. I want to ask one quick before
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you forget question. Cause I, I'm normally, I have like
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00:53:40.829 --> 00:53:43.230
a whole list of questions that I ask everybody and
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I didn't get to any of them, but this one
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is important to me. If you have, like if I
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handed you a megaphone right now and the world was
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strongly encouraged to please, please tune in and listen to
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Nick Nanton for the next 30 to 60 seconds. What
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would you say?
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Well, that's a big question. I would say find a
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way to serve others well slash add value to others'
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lives slash just show up for others and you will
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achieve everything you desired in life and more that
you're
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supposed to. It doesn't mean you're supposed to be rich.
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It doesn't mean And the other part of that is like,
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I believe faith is so important because everything is bigger
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than you. And so, and when you realize like even the,
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you will enjoy your life much more, not always in
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the moment, but if you realize, you know, it's a bit,
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it's a bit trite to say this has been said
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so many times, but that life happens for you, not
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to you. If you can believe that and own that
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and you can say, okay, yeah, how can I show
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up today and just take what comes and process it
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in a way that that is positive and say, what
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am I supposed to take from this? Jack Canfield, act
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as if you are responsible for everything in your life,
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whether you are or not. You can't be responsible for everything,
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but if you learn to act as if you're responsible,
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you can find joy a lot more in situations that
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sort of suck. And I think that those are, it
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depends how long they gave me the megaphone for. As
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you can see, I have many messages, but I would
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start with something like that.
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I feel like you should have the megaphone all the time.
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Like you should just walk around with a megaphone because I,
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you have filled my soul with so much good things
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and we have barely scratched the surface. So my question
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is like, what, what have you not mentioned or not
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shared that you're working on or you're excited about that
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00:55:36.400 --> 00:55:38.739
you want to, to, to shine some light on today?
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Uh, there's a bunch I'm working on. I really can't
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talk about what's fun, but I would say the thing
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that'd be the most, like I am working on the book. I'm,
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If people are interested, if they want to go to nicknanton.com
1226
00:55:50.539 --> 00:55:52.550
and just sort of sign up to keep up with
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00:55:52.590 --> 00:55:54.489
me or if they want to go follow me on Instagram,
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00:55:54.510 --> 00:55:55.969
as long as you spell my name correctly, you'll find
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me pretty much anywhere. I have a nephew with the
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same name and I told his dad, as long as
1231
00:56:00.289 --> 00:56:03.610
you're willing for him to be buried on Google, that's fine. No,
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00:56:03.889 --> 00:56:06.239
but it would be the most helpful thing to me
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00:56:06.300 --> 00:56:08.739
is if people are interested that they find a way
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to keep up because not that I just want you
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to buy my new book when it comes out, but
1236
00:56:13.780 --> 00:56:16.070
we can hopefully develop a relationship of some sort If
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I serve you well, I'd love to know you and
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00:56:18.949 --> 00:56:19.530
hear from you as well.
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00:56:20.230 --> 00:56:22.050
I would love to have you back to talk more
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about your book. Would you be willing?
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00:56:24.289 --> 00:56:25.250
Yeah, let's do it. Yeah, for sure.
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00:56:25.409 --> 00:56:26.849
Beautiful. When is it coming out?
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00:56:27.550 --> 00:56:30.360
I don't know yet, so I'll let you know. Okay.
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00:56:30.400 --> 00:56:31.280
We'll be in touch.
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00:56:31.659 --> 00:56:35.099
First or second quarter of next year, ideally.
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00:56:35.260 --> 00:56:37.920
Because you and I on an airplane would not be
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00:56:37.960 --> 00:56:40.550
a superficial conversation. We would get off the airplane and
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00:56:40.570 --> 00:56:43.820
then we'd have to go get mocktails or something after. Um,
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00:56:43.929 --> 00:56:46.420
so I am so grateful for you, sir. Thank you.
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00:56:46.460 --> 00:56:49.000
Thank you for your time, your energy, all of the things.
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00:56:49.519 --> 00:56:51.519
And we will see you next time on quick before
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00:56:51.539 --> 00:56:56.449
you forget. That was so much fun. Thank you for
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00:56:56.489 --> 00:57:00.829
investing your time, energy, and thought into spending some time
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00:57:00.849 --> 00:57:03.889
with me today. I really appreciate you. And I really
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00:57:03.909 --> 00:57:07.480
appreciate when you talk back. So please, if you're here still,
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00:57:07.559 --> 00:57:10.829
thank you so much. Please tell me what you thought.
1257
00:57:11.309 --> 00:57:14.190
Tell me what other questions you have. Tell me how
1258
00:57:14.489 --> 00:57:17.449
this episode affected you and how it resonated with you
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00:57:17.510 --> 00:57:19.489
and all of the things. Tell me all the things
1260
00:57:20.070 --> 00:57:22.829
in the comments. And please know that I'm reading every
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00:57:22.869 --> 00:57:27.699
single comment, responding to every single comment. And I appreciate you.
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00:57:28.099 --> 00:57:31.719
Thank you for being here with me today. Please also like, share,
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00:57:31.760 --> 00:57:34.340
subscribe if this if this episode was fun for you.
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00:57:34.829 --> 00:57:36.699
It'll be fun for a friend, so send it to
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a friend that might enjoy a little laughter, a little joy,
1266
00:57:39.820 --> 00:57:45.639
and a little more time investing in themselves. And today,
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I am proudly sponsored, not sponsored, by Zeke's Village Market
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in Door County, Wisconsin, which provided this fantastic shirt, which
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Ephraim is a really cute town in Door County. If
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you haven't been there, it's beautiful. It's very much Cape
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00:58:02.760 --> 00:58:05.960
Cod town. It's the Cape Cod of the Midwest. So
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I just have to show you the design because the
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design is what makes it a souvenir with soul. So
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00:58:12.030 --> 00:58:24.579
we're going to stand up. Every single design from Zeke's
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00:58:25.059 --> 00:58:28.280
has heart and soul put into it. And it's designed
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00:58:28.440 --> 00:58:33.159
and they partner with Guilty Apparel. And the two together
1277
00:58:33.360 --> 00:58:37.150
are a dynamic duo of awesomeness. So I am so
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00:58:37.190 --> 00:58:41.590
grateful for their belief in me and their beautiful designs
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00:58:41.750 --> 00:58:44.289
and their souvenirs with soul. And I will see you
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next time on Quick Before You Forget.