התמלול המלא של The Differences in Raising Boys and Girls in the Lord S3 E3

amazing. 00:03:52.879 --> 00:04:06.639 We found this awesome family in central Virginia that we got mugs from, and they are all they do pottery on their farm, and they're called Acorn Acorn Pottery and Farm, and they are by far favorite mug. 00:04:07.199 --> 00:04:08.240 They're so unique. 00:04:08.400 --> 00:04:12.159 Yes, everyone's yeah, and I don't know, they're just yeah. 00:04:12.319 --> 00:04:19.920 We did a pour over today, me and Colleen did, and we were drinking our dark, our dark, our new dark Sumatra. 00:04:20.160 --> 00:04:20.879 We're tasting it. 00:04:21.120 --> 00:04:34.959 Yeah, and the Sumatra, it's always like it's a it's a really good, it's a it's an earthy coffee, so it has a really good to us, it tastes like what an espresso would taste like at a dark roast level. 00:04:35.199 --> 00:04:38.480 So like espresso is obviously you're very, very you know old. 00:04:38.720 --> 00:04:45.120 Well, it's you know it's extremely small amount of coffee because it's so what's the word I'm looking for? 00:04:45.360 --> 00:04:48.639 Um compressed, concentrated. 00:04:48.879 --> 00:04:49.920 Yeah, concentrated. 00:04:50.319 --> 00:04:51.680 So thank you. 00:04:51.839 --> 00:04:53.120 We're tired Christian parents. 00:04:53.360 --> 00:04:54.079 I know goodness. 00:04:54.560 --> 00:04:55.519 As we always are. 00:04:55.680 --> 00:05:00.000 That's the whole point of this podcast is get tired and see what happens. 00:05:00.160 --> 00:05:00.639 Yes. 00:05:00.959 --> 00:05:07.439 We had a pretty big storm blow through last night, so we've been outside like picking up branches and chainsawing. 00:05:08.000 --> 00:05:09.680 And I just got cattails out of the pond. 00:05:09.920 --> 00:05:10.160 Yep. 00:05:10.240 --> 00:05:19.040 So I I put on my waders and not my waders, I actually borrowed my dad's waders and and his his wading shoes, and I waded out in the pond. 00:05:19.279 --> 00:05:21.040 We've got a cattail it problem. 00:05:21.120 --> 00:05:26.000 The cattails have just they're they're they're um suffocating the pond. 00:05:26.160 --> 00:05:27.600 This year they just came out of nowhere. 00:05:27.680 --> 00:05:31.680 So I got in there and started pulling them out, and boy, it is a full body workout. 00:05:31.839 --> 00:05:41.040 And so I probably pulled, I don't know, 30 or 40 of those things, and I was like, man, I'm barely putting a dent into this. 00:05:41.279 --> 00:05:51.839 And so I told my sons, if y'all can get out here once a day and just pull 30 of these things, that I think by the end of the summer we'll put enough of a dent that we can pull all of them. 00:05:52.160 --> 00:05:53.279 We gotta get rid of all of them. 00:05:53.360 --> 00:05:55.040 They're just an infestation. 00:05:55.279 --> 00:06:07.040 Some it, you know, like when they're when they're on the corner and they kind of like give the fish a little bit of what you know, the fish need a little protection and all that stuff, and that's where they it's getting into the middle of the pond right now. 00:06:07.279 --> 00:06:17.920 But it's yeah, it the pond is getting stagnant, and so I got out there and I was it's just like, man, it's it's just it's a good workout, but it wore me out pretty good. 00:06:18.079 --> 00:06:19.519 Can I share my Bible verse now? 00:06:19.759 --> 00:06:20.319 Yes, please. 00:06:20.560 --> 00:06:22.639 Okay, so Oh, one more thing. 00:06:22.800 --> 00:06:23.199 Oh, yeah. 00:06:23.439 --> 00:06:24.160 Not really. 00:06:25.279 --> 00:06:26.079 See how it's going on. 00:06:26.399 --> 00:06:27.439 You're so sweet though. 00:06:27.759 --> 00:06:29.920 Um so I wanted to just share this one. 00:06:30.079 --> 00:06:35.040 Job 38, verses one through four. 00:06:36.079 --> 00:06:39.920 This says, then the Lord answered Job out of the whirlwind. 00:06:40.160 --> 00:06:59.519 This is after uh for the for the listener, you know, this is after Job and his his his friends are have been telling him that he's hey he has must have been unrighteous in order to have this punishment come upon him, this terrible punishment and all of these diseases and bodily injuries and all this stuff. 00:06:59.839 --> 00:07:05.120 And Job is trying to tell them all along, I I there's no unrighteousness in me. 00:07:05.199 --> 00:07:06.720 I just I don't know what I've done. 00:07:06.879 --> 00:07:19.199 And then the Lord comes out and answers Job and he says, Then the Lord answered Job out of the whirlwind and said, Who is this that darkens counsel by words without knowledge? 00:07:19.519 --> 00:07:21.600 Dress for action like a man. 00:07:22.079 --> 00:07:26.000 I will question you and you make it known to me. 00:07:26.319 --> 00:07:29.279 Where were you when I laid the foundation of the earth? 00:07:29.439 --> 00:07:31.920 Tell me if you have understanding. 00:07:32.079 --> 00:07:36.240 And I'll tell you what, I don't have we don't have understanding. 00:07:36.399 --> 00:07:49.680 We we we believe as human beings, and the more the more we want to believe as human beings that we understand have understanding, the more we become our own gods, and the more we lose our focus in Christ. 00:07:49.920 --> 00:08:01.040 And you know, there have been times in my life, and I know that many who listen to this, there are times in your lives where you it you you turn to the Lord and you say, Why? 00:08:01.360 --> 00:08:03.439 Why is this happening to me? 00:08:03.600 --> 00:08:04.879 Why do I have to suffer this long? 00:08:04.959 --> 00:08:10.639 Why is you know, whatever, whatever it is, why is this why you know what what did I do to deserve this? 00:08:10.800 --> 00:08:12.480 And then I always think about Job. 00:08:12.639 --> 00:08:17.920 And I think about it's okay to go to the Lord, even in anger, and say, Lord, why me? 00:08:18.399 --> 00:08:34.080 Well, the Lord has a plan for us, the Lord, through correction or discipline or just testing, just to in in order to make us stronger, I think we can look at this and say, Why don't

you tell God says, why don't you just tell me where you get the understanding? 00:08:34.240 --> 00:08:42.960 I this is you know, and I look back on all these things that I went through and questioned God and then found out on the other side of it, man, I'm glad he did that to me. 00:08:43.360 --> 00:08:46.559 You know, I I didn't like it. 00:08:47.039 --> 00:08:57.919 I didn't like it at all, but I'm glad now because if he didn't do that to me now, we wouldn't have had at least the minutest understanding of what we have now. 00:08:58.159 --> 00:08:58.960 It's very little. 00:08:59.039 --> 00:09:00.480 We have very little understanding. 00:09:00.720 --> 00:09:04.799 But as long as we stay in the word of God, we have a chance, right? 00:09:04.960 --> 00:09:12.799 We have a chance of uh garnering uh discernment that we would not get otherwise. 00:09:13.039 --> 00:09:18.399 And so that's I'm I'm really enjoying, I'm I'm doing a deep dive study through the book of Job. 00:09:19.039 --> 00:09:21.759 And then and and I'm doing a deep dive study. 00:09:21.840 --> 00:09:25.519 So I'm doing Job and and John right now, Job and the Gospel of John. 00:09:25.600 --> 00:09:32.399 But then outside of that, I'm doing I'm actually going through the Bible um chronologically. 00:09:32.799 --> 00:09:33.039 Okay. 00:09:33.279 --> 00:09:33.919 And that's cool. 00:09:34.080 --> 00:09:36.159 So I yeah, I've always read the Bible through. 00:09:36.320 --> 00:09:42.320 Like if I with without deep dive study, if you just read the Bible, you can do it in a year with 15 minutes a day. 00:09:42.399 --> 00:09:43.519 It's not that long. 00:09:44.080 --> 00:09:46.879 Um but chronologically I'm doing it now. 00:09:46.960 --> 00:09:49.440 So and a lot of it I'm doing through audio. 00:09:49.519 --> 00:09:57.279 So I'm playing it and I'm trying to, and I see how my mind retains it via um audio. 00:09:57.360 --> 00:10:07.600 And I I was listening to this lady talk about how that's how she does it, and a lot of people are like, Well, you you're cheating because you're not reading it, you're not looking at it with your eyes. 00:10:07.759 --> 00:10:09.440 And she's like, That's just not true. 00:10:09.519 --> 00:10:17.440 It's not until recently did people read the Bible, it's not until the past few hundred years did we even did humanity have the book in front of them. 00:10:17.679 --> 00:10:20.240 Before they had the book, they had to listen to it. 00:10:20.399 --> 00:10:27.440 You know, you think about it in Jesus' day, they had to listen to it being read to them, and that's how people retained the word of God. 00:10:27.679 --> 00:10:29.200 And so I thought that was really interesting. 00:10:29.360 --> 00:10:35.519 So I'm trying mainly to do chronologically by listening to uh somebody read it to me. 00:10:35.679 --> 00:10:38.399 And it's really easy to do like when you're driving. 00:10:38.639 --> 00:10:40.559 Think about all the things that we do when we're driving. 00:10:40.639 -->

00:10:48.399 If it's if you listen to stuff, you listen to podcasts, you're listening to you know, the radio or whatever it is that you're that you're listening to. 00:10:48.639 --> 00:10:50.000 A lot of things can be good, right? 00:10:50.159 --> 00:10:50.960 A lot of good books. 00:10:51.039 --> 00:10:57.759 But what if you started your day just with a chronological, you know, way of reading and listening to the Bible? 00:10:57.919 --> 00:10:59.200 So I'm a little bit ahead. 00:10:59.279 --> 00:11:02.879 I got a little bit ahead, so I'm trying to like slow myself down because I really like the Bible. 00:11:02.960 --> 00:11:05.039 But slowing yourself down, that's funny. 00:11:05.519 --> 00:11:08.080 You're cheating somehow. 00:11:08.399 --> 00:11:14.080 Um, so this week, I we're, you know, we all like to make notes of of what we want to talk about. 00:11:14.320 --> 00:11:19.120 I have here a note I made earlier that we were gonna talk about gab from earlier episodes. 00:11:19.200 --> 00:11:22.639 I think that's because we had a listener reach out and ask what gab was. 00:11:22.879 --> 00:11:23.200 Oh. 00:11:23.840 --> 00:11:32.559 And so gab is not something we've mentioned in this season, I think, but it is gab is a social media website. 00:11:32.639 --> 00:11:33.519 They just hit 10 years. 00:11:33.759 --> 00:11:34.159 That's crazy. 00:11:34.240 --> 00:11:35.679 I've realized they're out for that one. 00:11:36.320 --> 00:11:36.879 Open for 10 years. 00:11:36.960 --> 00:11:39.919 They are not allowed on social media apps. 00:11:40.720 --> 00:11:43.679 They're not allowed an app because they're too free speech. 00:11:43.919 --> 00:11:48.000 But it's led by a Christian, a couple of Christian guys, I think, pretty much. 00:11:48.080 --> 00:11:51.279 It's a handful of guys that help out in a family business. 00:11:51.440 --> 00:12:00.960 And their rule is they allow any speech that is allowed under under the First Amendment, uh, that is legal under the First Amendment. 00:12:01.360 --> 00:12:03.519 And you would be surprised how much there is. 00:12:03.679 --> 00:12:05.120 They don't limit any of it. 00:12:05.200 --> 00:12:08.159 There's no algorithms, so it's not algorithm-based. 00:12:08.320 --> 00:12:14.000 Uh, you see what you see, and you see who you follow, or you see whatever groups you follow, that kind of thing. 00:12:14.159 --> 00:12:19.519 They do not allow pornography, which is uh you can't say uh much about you. 00:12:19.600 --> 00:12:24.720 I mean, there's so much pornography on all the other social media sites that are allowed on the app store, you know. 00:12:24.879 --> 00:12:26.559 There's no porn, so that's great. 00:12:26.799 --> 00:12:28.480 And uh that's about it, right? 00:12:28.639 --> 00:12:28.799 Yeah. 00:12:28.960 --> 00:12:32.799 So, anyways, hardcore free speech, which is funny because it's just free speech. 00:12:32.960 --> 00:12:33.360 Yeah. 00:12:33.679 --> 00:12:36.320 Americans get offended and they go, why do we allow that? 00:12:36.480 --> 00:12:37.360 Whatever it is, you know. 00:12:37.600 --> 00:12:43.120 Imagine Israel or something like that, and all of a sudden, a bunch of crybabies in Congress. 00:12:45.200 --> 00:12:46.639 So what that's Gab. 00:12:47.279 --> 00:12:47.919 So that's Gab. 00:12:48.080 --> 00:12:48.399 Yeah. 00:12:48.559 --> 00:12:50.240 It's just another platform. 00:12:51.120 --> 00:12:51.759 Never mind. 00:12:51.840 --> 00:12:53.440 I was gonna That's it. 00:12:53.600 --> 00:12:53.919 Yeah. 00:12:54.159 --> 00:13:02.480 So uh the other night, Colleen walked in from the outside and I was about to fall asleep, and she smashed something on the wall with her hand. 00:13:02.639 --> 00:13:03.200 Was it your hand? 00:13:03.360 --> 00:13:04.159 Yes, my hand. 00:13:04.399 --> 00:13:05.759 And I was like, what are you doing? 00:13:06.000 --> 00:13:08.799 She goes, I just wanted to catch that fly. 00:13:09.200 --> 00:13:12.720 And she caught fly, and I have to talk about it. 00:13:12.879 --> 00:13:14.159 It's so weird that you want to talk about it. 00:13:14.240 --> 00:13:14.559 It's nothing. 00:13:14.720 --> 00:13:15.600 It's so impressive. 00:13:15.759 --> 00:13:18.080 Like, I don't know if I've ever been able to do that. 00:13:18.240 --> 00:13:19.120 Yeah, it was bothering me. 00:13:19.679 --> 00:13:22.080 It bothered, I just like so I married a frog. 00:13:22.240 --> 00:13:24.159 Yep, ribbet, ribbit. 00:13:24.960 --> 00:13:26.879 It's not easy being green. 00:13:27.120 --> 00:13:32.000 It's not so I just had to brag on Caroline for doing that. 00:13:32.240 --> 00:13:33.840 Yeah, the one fly that I've caught with my hand. 00:13:34.159 --> 00:13:34.960 Kind of scared me. 00:13:35.200 --> 00:13:37.039 Yeah, yeah, it was so impressive. 00:13:37.279 --> 00:13:37.679 Thank you. 00:13:37.840 --> 00:13:39.279 Yeah, I haven't done it since. 00:13:39.679 --> 00:13:42.399 But no, it was just that one time, yeah. 00:13:42.960 --> 00:13:45.759 Somehow caught the one time I actually succeeded in killing a fly. 00:13:46.240 --> 00:13:49.279 All that pent up anger from just they're everywhere. 00:13:49.600 --> 00:13:50.480 It's just the season. 00:13:50.720 --> 00:13:51.679 It is the season. 00:13:52.240 --> 00:13:52.799 Yuck. 00:13:53.279 --> 00:13:56.000 And uh yeah, so that was really cool. 00:13:56.159 --> 00:13:57.840 And then I saw this funny meme. 00:13:57.919 --> 00:14:02.799 So to move on, um, I saw this funny meme that we have more to say about the me catching a fly. 00:14:03.759 --> 00:14:05.120 Um I'm done with that now. 00:14:05.279 --> 00:14:06.720 Um be impressed. 00:14:07.360 --> 00:14:08.159 I am impressed. 00:14:08.240 --> 00:14:09.919 I had to tell everybody. 00:14:10.399 --> 00:14:18.000 But uh did you know, so you know how I have a little bit of I don't think it's a condition. 00:14:19.120 --> 00:14:24.639 But I think, okay, so you know how like it bothers me to hear people chewing. 00:14:24.879 --> 00:14:25.679 Oh, yeah.

00:14:25.919 --> 00:14:32.240 And you know, so so Colleen, she will be very careful, like if she is really hungry, like chewing. 00:14:32.399 --> 00:14:34.960 Every now and then we'll have a little sushi date night. 00:14:35.279 --> 00:14:35.840 Yum. 00:14:36.080 --> 00:14:40.879 And if the room is like too quiet, she'll turn the fan on or something. 00:14:41.120 --> 00:14:44.720 So cucumbers sometimes in the sushi will be crunched. 00:14:44.960 --> 00:14:46.639 But it doesn't, that doesn't really bother me. 00:14:46.720 --> 00:14:55.519 What bothers me, I think, more is people who make noises with their mouths, like the smacking unnecessarily, even without chewing. 00:14:55.919 --> 00:15:07.039 Like somebody who just doesn't like okay, if you're in a room with somebody and there's silence and they like click or something with their tongue, or they you know, they'll do something just to clear it. 00:15:07.279 --> 00:15:07.679 Yeah, yeah, yeah. 00:15:07.840 --> 00:15:10.799 There's like this or they like trying to clear their sinuses or something. 00:15:10.960 --> 00:15:15.919 No, it's just it's like an innate sense that they can't stand silence. 00:15:16.879 --> 00:15:27.759 So when you when they when you can't stand silence, it's either a a mouth thing, or and I I don't want to so I don't I'm sure this person will never listen to our podcast. 00:15:28.000 --> 00:15:39.919 So I don't want to be too, but this person that I'm thinking of that I deal with a lot will make this like now you're gonna give everybody a complex like, oh, is he talking about me? 00:15:40.159 --> 00:15:41.519 Don't worry, guys, he's not talking about this. 00:15:41.840 --> 00:15:42.720 Nobody that listens to this. 00:15:42.960 --> 00:15:43.279 Promise. 00:15:43.519 --> 00:15:44.000 It ain't you. 00:15:44.320 --> 00:15:44.960 It's you're fine. 00:15:45.120 --> 00:15:57.519 When like if you're in the room with the person, it's just you and and this person, and there's any silence, he's oh well, I revealed he's a he, but he starts making this sucking noise. 00:15:57.759 --> 00:15:58.559 It's so weird. 00:15:58.720 --> 00:16:01.600 Like well, don't do it for the listeners. 00:16:01.919 --> 00:16:04.000 I can't even make it, I can't make this, yeah. 00:16:04.320 --> 00:16:05.120 Please don't. 00:16:05.360 --> 00:16:14.960 So I have this, I think it's a condition, and I was thinking about it, you know, where and there is there's some people who are like, and I can't, I really can't stand people with chew with their mouth open. 00:16:15.120 --> 00:16:18.159 But I think that's just because it's rude, right? 00:16:18.480 --> 00:16:25.279 That's I mean, so like I will correct a child that's not mine if I have to. 00:16:25.600 --> 00:16:27.120 Be like, hey, chew chew with your mouth closed. 00:16:27.360 --> 00:16:32.639 Yeah, he's like gone clear across restaurants before and been like, No, well, I want to. 00:16:33.039 --> 00:16:35.360 I know, I want to, but it's not that bad. 00:16:35.519 --> 00:16:38.879 You know, some children have just not been told. 00:16:39.120 --> 00:16:42.240 Well, I think it kind of fades in the background too, and you're around it a lot. 00:16:42.480 --> 00:16:44.879 You know, like you might not recognize that your kid's doing it. 00:16:45.120 --> 00:16:51.519 Well, I some I know some adults that I still will eat with that have a problem with chewing with smacking. 00:16:51.759 --> 00:16:56.320 And so it like it's like it's like uh making you angry right now, thinking about it. 00:16:57.039 --> 00:16:57.919 No, not really. 00:16:58.240 --> 00:16:59.600 But it does bother me. 00:16:59.759 --> 00:17:16.079 But anyways, I found out about this condition that people supposedly have where they can't stand hearing um uh like people it bothers them to hear people breathing or chewing. 00:17:16.400 --> 00:17:16.559 Okay. 00:17:17.119 --> 00:17:17.440 Okay? 00:17:17.599 --> 00:17:18.400 Or mouth notes. 00:17:18.640 --> 00:17:19.519 I'm like holding my breath. 00:17:20.000 --> 00:17:22.799 And it's I I don't think breathing bothers me. 00:17:22.960 --> 00:17:26.079 I think there's maybe no, I don't think that bothers me. 00:17:26.240 --> 00:17:28.079 But it's called misophonia. 00:17:28.559 --> 00:17:36.160 It's actually a condition that where people get so enraged over people who breathe or chew loudly, it's called misophonia. 00:17:36.240 --> 00:17:39.519 So I had to kind of examine myself and say, do I have this? 00:17:39.759 --> 00:17:40.880 You have misophonia. 00:17:41.039 --> 00:17:47.440 I think I just have normal aphonia because like if you're chewing with your mouth open, bro, shut your mouth. 00:17:47.599 --> 00:17:47.759 Sure. 00:17:47.839 --> 00:17:51.440 When you're chewing like we are not to call it fish, Mary Poppins said that. 00:17:52.319 --> 00:17:53.039 I like that. 00:17:53.200 --> 00:17:53.759 Thank you. 00:17:54.240 --> 00:17:56.559 And um, breathing. 00:17:56.640 --> 00:18:07.119 Maybe if you had like a uh like a whistle, a nose whistle, and you kept breathing and just didn't fix you know how some people will breathe and the no the nose will whistle. 00:18:07.279 --> 00:18:09.599 Oh no when they breathe. 00:18:10.880 --> 00:18:12.319 Like fix your nose, bro. 00:18:12.400 --> 00:18:13.279 Like fix your nose. 00:18:13.440 --> 00:18:14.880 I don't know, mess with your nostril. 00:18:15.119 --> 00:18:15.599 Oh my goodness. 00:18:16.000 --> 00:18:16.480 Nostril hole. 00:18:16.720 --> 00:18:20.160 Okay, like pull it or something, get rid of that maybe it's nose hair. 00:18:20.960 --> 00:18:29.359 So tired Christian parents would like everybody to know that you should be socially aware of noises. 00:18:30.480 --> 00:18:31.119 Yeah? 00:18:31.440 --> 00:18:33.599 Is that is that our public service announcement? 00:18:33.839 --> 00:18:34.640 I guess. 00:18:34.880 --> 00:18:35.440 I guess. 00:18:35.599 --> 00:18:36.960 What else happened this week? 00:18:37.200 --> 00:18:39.920 I don't

know, but I just learned about your misophonia. 00:18:40.319 --> 00:18:41.359 Misophonia. 00:18:41.680 --> 00:18:42.880 Misophonia. 00:18:43.119 --> 00:18:44.240 I'm a I'm a misophonia. 00:18:44.400 --> 00:18:46.240 Is that all your notes that you that you had? 00:18:46.480 --> 00:18:47.920 That was that's pretty much all the notes. 00:18:48.319 --> 00:18:49.039 Those are pretty good. 00:18:49.119 --> 00:18:49.359 Yeah. 00:18:49.519 --> 00:18:50.400 You learn new things. 00:18:50.720 --> 00:18:52.319 You learn different things than I learn. 00:18:52.640 --> 00:18:54.799 Are we ready to get to Colleen's question corner? 00:18:54.960 --> 00:18:55.440 Oh, yeah. 00:18:55.519 --> 00:18:56.160 I could do that. 00:18:56.400 --> 00:18:56.880 Let's do it. 00:18:57.039 --> 00:18:58.799 I'm just looking at you because you're so handsome. 00:18:59.279 --> 00:19:00.160 All right, what was my question? 00:19:00.640 --> 00:19:02.319 Misophoniac handsomeness. 00:19:04.480 --> 00:19:05.839 All right, get serious now. 00:19:06.000 --> 00:19:08.319 Okay, all right, all right, Colleen's question corner. 00:19:09.680 --> 00:19:16.799 This question does need one tiny little lead up either on the back or the front. 00:19:16.880 --> 00:19:17.039 Okay. 00:19:17.759 --> 00:19:24.799 Because one thing that we did last night was we went to Oh, pottery class. 00:19:25.039 --> 00:19:25.519 Pottery class. 00:19:25.759 --> 00:19:26.319 That was so fun. 00:19:26.720 --> 00:19:28.880 Can we talk about that real quick before I get to my question? 00:19:29.119 --> 00:19:30.079 Is that gonna mess you up? 00:19:30.319 --> 00:19:30.480 No. 00:19:30.799 --> 00:19:31.119 Okay. 00:19:31.519 --> 00:19:35.519 So we wanted we mentioned our mugs at the beginning of the episode. 00:19:35.599 --> 00:19:35.759 Yeah. 00:19:35.920 --> 00:19:37.440 And we thought, how hard could it be? 00:19:37.519 --> 00:19:39.839 We'll just make our own mugs, we'll take a class. 00:19:40.000 --> 00:19:40.319 Yeah. 00:19:40.480 --> 00:19:42.160 And then we'll just learn how to do it. 00:19:42.319 --> 00:19:44.799 And so we went into the class and y'all. 00:19:45.119 --> 00:19:46.000 So it's a date night class. 00:19:46.160 --> 00:19:46.880 It was a date night class. 00:19:47.039 --> 00:19:49.680 And it was at this really cool pottery studio. 00:19:50.319 --> 00:19:55.279 And the reason that we did is like Colleen said, I want, I was like, how hard could it be to make our own coffee? 00:19:55.599 --> 00:20:00.720 We knew it was gonna be hard, but like we'll just teach take a class and then we'll I didn't know it was gonna be hard. 00:20:00.799 --> 00:20:03.440 I started YouTubing thinking, surely I can figure this out. 00:20:04.319 --> 00:20:09.359 And then as I was really getting into it, you know, the guy, there's 10 steps to making your own coffee mug. 00:20:09.440 --> 00:20:13.920 And then by the time you get to eight, step eight, you're like, I was just so overwhelmed. 00:20:14.000 --> 00:20:15.839 I'm like,

there's no way this is easy. 00:20:16.079 --> 00:20:20.559 It's one of those things you really do have to feel yeah, and you have to have somebody guide you. 00:20:20.799 --> 00:20:25.599 Like you can't be guided by the YouTube person on a recording. 00:20:25.759 --> 00:20:26.960 So I looked it up. 00:20:27.039 --> 00:20:29.920 I looked up like, is there pottery classes near us? 00:20:30.000 --> 00:20:31.039 And I found a date night. 00:20:31.359 --> 00:20:32.480 It was so fun. 00:20:32.880 --> 00:20:41.039 So yeah, we we went and there there was an instructor, duh, and what, seven other couples or something? 00:20:41.279 --> 00:20:42.000 Yeah, yeah. 00:20:42.480 --> 00:20:49.279 And so she would walk you through now step one, this, and step two, and it's probably ten steps, I don't know. 00:20:49.519 --> 00:20:55.119 But for each step, you're you can hold your hands differently to make it do different things. 00:20:56.000 --> 00:21:08.799 And um we all had the same amount of clay, and everybody had something unique that that they either struggled with, we like one of the steps, they were like, What? 00:21:09.200 --> 00:21:18.640 Um, or um their pieces were more like uh they were taller or wider. 00:21:18.960 --> 00:21:21.839 And it was really interesting because everybody was making the exact same thing. 00:21:21.920 --> 00:21:33.839 And it made me think about um Romans, where it talks about has the potter no right over the clay to make out of the same lump one vessel for honorable use and another for dishonorable use. 00:21:34.079 --> 00:21:59.759 And some people were a little bit embarrassed about their clay, and not that they were dishonorable, but you know, we're sitting there and it was tough on the potter, and it was tough on the clay, and sometimes you know there's we don't think about when we are going through trials and we're being molded and shaped into whatever vessel. 00:22:00.559 --> 00:22:03.839 We are supposed to be that it's tough on God too. 00:22:03.920 --> 00:22:15.920 And I think that you know, God hurts along with us, but he understands the necessariness of the molding and the the tough part. 00:22:16.079 --> 00:22:22.240 And everybody made these really beautiful pieces, and we're so excited we have to wait two weeks for ours because it has to like dry and all that stuff. 00:22:22.319 --> 00:22:25.200 But so they let us keep two of the pieces. 00:22:25.440 --> 00:22:32.160 We both Colleen and I both made a cut, well, I made one good one, not good one, but more decent one. 00:22:32.319 --> 00:22:36.720 And then Colleen, because Colleen went first, she made two that were really good. 00:22:37.519 --> 00:22:44.240 And um and then the second time up, I just wanted to kind of I wanted to see how clay develops under my hand. 00:22:44.319 --> 00:22:45.839 So I was just kind of rushing. 00:22:45.920 --> 00:22:50.079 And but the two pieces we got to keep were Colleen's. 00:22:50.400 --> 00:22:51.279 That would be so fun. 00:22:51.359

--> 00:22:52.079 I'm so excited. 00:22:52.240 --> 00:22:52.799 Yeah. 00:22:53.039 --> 00:22:54.720 So then that brings me to my question. 00:22:54.880 --> 00:22:55.920 Can I do the question now? 00:22:56.079 --> 00:23:12.160 Yeah, can I just bring up real quick in John 11, you're talking about how God, you know, hurts along with us, and in John 11 is the story of the death of Lazarus, and we we wonder like, does the Lord really care about us as we go through trials? 00:23:12.559 --> 00:23:32.400 And so um so when Jesus is told that Lazarus is ill, um, and he's very so he's very ill, and they want him to come to help and heal Lazarus, it says in verse 5, now Jesus loved Martha and her sister and Lazarus. 00:23:32.799 --> 00:23:45.759 So when he heard, so you would think that when it when it says when Jesus loved them, it would the following verse would say, so he rushed off to make sure Lazarus could be healed, or something like that, right? 00:23:46.000 --> 00:23:47.839 But it doesn't say that in verse six. 00:23:48.640 --> 00:23:48.960 Yeah. 00:23:49.200 --> 00:23:58.000 In verse six, it says, So when he heard that Lazarus was ill, he stayed two days longer in the place where he was. 00:23:58.720 --> 00:24:22.319 And I think the obvious lesson is Jesus was going to allow the trial of Martha and Mary seeing their brother die and being devastated by that, and for Lazarus to die, and for others that loved him and loved them to go through mourning for a few days before he showed up. 00:24:22.559 --> 00:24:38.319 And so I think that that's goes along with the Potter, you know, lesson is some so why are we being, you know, we we ask God all the time, why do we it goes back to my beginning in the Job lesson is why are we having to wait? 00:24:38.480 --> 00:24:41.599 Why are we having to why God, why aren't you fixing this now? 00:24:41.920 --> 00:24:49.920 And this lesson here says Jesus loves us so much that he lets us go through these trials sometimes. 00:24:50.079 --> 00:24:51.920 And so we just have to trust in him. 00:24:52.079 --> 00:24:52.799 We have to have faith. 00:24:52.880 --> 00:24:56.640 But, anyways, uh maybe that helps lead into what your question is. 00:24:57.119 --> 00:24:58.079 Maybe, maybe not. 00:24:58.400 --> 00:24:58.880 Maybe not. 00:24:59.039 --> 00:24:59.519 I don't know. 00:24:59.599 --> 00:25:00.000 Let's see. 00:25:00.240 --> 00:25:00.400 Okay. 00:25:03.279 --> 00:25:06.559 All right, so this is well, I don't want to say so. 00:25:06.640 --> 00:25:07.440 I'm trying not to say so. 00:25:07.519 --> 00:25:08.880 So, so, so, so, so. 00:25:09.359 --> 00:25:16.240 Um, what is the difference between how we raise our boys and our girls? 00:25:16.319 --> 00:25:18.400 If there is a difference, that's the question. 00:25:18.559 --> 00:25:21.039 Yeah, what's the difference between how you raise boys and girls? 00:25:21.279 --> 00:25:21.519 Yeah. 00:25:21.680 --> 00:25:24.319 Or have you seen big time difference? 00:25:24.640 --> 00:25:25.680 Big time difference. 00:25:26.000 --> 00:25:29.440 Boys are uh Or hold on. 00:25:29.839 --> 00:25:30.480 Sorry. 00:25:30.799 --> 00:25:32.640 Or is there a difference? 00:25:32.799 --> 00:25:48.319 I mean, like when it's totally different raising boys as opposed to girls, and is it like very clear, like, oh yeah, it's categorical, like boys over here, girls over here, and it's just totally different because they're boys and girls. 00:25:48.559 --> 00:25:50.960 Is it is that maybe I didn't need to clarify that. 00:25:51.440 --> 00:25:56.000 Are you saying like there's complete differences, or is there or is there some similarities? 00:25:56.240 --> 00:25:57.119 Yeah, that too. 00:25:57.359 --> 00:26:02.720 Okay, yeah, no, there are some similarities, but there are obvious differences, right? 00:26:02.880 --> 00:26:12.400 So one of the biggest differences, so we had three boys, and then five five years after our last boy, we had a girl. 00:26:12.960 --> 00:26:13.920 Uh surprise. 00:26:14.079 --> 00:26:19.039 Uh the one of the most wonderful surprises um that we've ever had. 00:26:19.599 --> 00:26:32.160 And so when so boys, like even the boys are every one of them's different, but they're also masculine and and and you know boy, boyish. 00:26:32.480 --> 00:26:34.720 I, you know, that that's obvious to state. 00:26:34.880 --> 00:26:40.240 They're they have an energy that is um just very boy-like. 00:26:40.400 --> 00:26:43.680 They also have an emotionality that's boy-like. 00:26:43.759 --> 00:26:47.759 Now, we raise have always raised our kids in the home, homeschooled and and all that stuff. 00:26:47.920 --> 00:27:00.240 So there are gonna be some differences if your child, if your boy or girl is is being raised in government schools or or stuff like that, because there's gonna be some issues with instability there. 00:27:00.480 --> 00:27:13.440 So we were able to kind of see the differences in our boys with very little difference as to how the outside environment was manipulating their emotional state. 00:27:14.319 --> 00:27:32.400 But um, for us, like, you know, our oldest is very um he's very uh what's the word on what he he's very stoic and um a somewhat unemotional seeming. 00:27:32.720 --> 00:27:33.119 Confident. 00:27:33.519 --> 00:27:39.920 He's confident, um, he's he doesn't get very, you know, excitable about stuff. 00:27:40.240 --> 00:27:50.640 Our second was much more, he's he was he's quiet, he's very, he's a little bit more sensitive to certain things. 00:27:50.799 --> 00:27:55.759 Like he's he's sensitive more to I would call it like the sinful nature. 00:27:56.079 --> 00:27:58.400 He's a very in a good way, like honorable. 00:27:59.200 --> 00:28:01.920 Yes, he wants to not that the other ones aren't. 00:28:02.079 --> 00:28:02.960 No, no, no. 00:28:03.200 --> 00:28:06.799 But there's a there's an emotional sensitivity to him. 00:28:07.039 --> 00:28:19.039 And then the third one is a little bit like his older brother, but

he's very he because he has older brothers, I think that he's also just competitive in his nature. 00:28:19.279 --> 00:28:34.559 I think God made him uh very competitive, and so he's always wanted to be as good as his oldest brother, which is five years older than him, and so that's led him to a very interesting uh personality, you know. 00:28:34.799 --> 00:28:36.319 And he is a force. 00:28:36.400 --> 00:28:39.839 We've always said he's a force, they're all a force to be reckoned with. 00:28:40.160 --> 00:28:48.319 And the thing is, like raising them, we could, when it was appropriate, we would be able to spank them, and they were fine with that. 00:28:48.480 --> 00:28:50.400 They knew when they'd been bad. 00:28:50.640 --> 00:28:59.039 Um, there was you know punishments outside of spanking, you know, which is funny because like one of them was like you can't read books today or something. 00:28:59.119 --> 00:29:06.160 Yeah, and that was terrible for them, and or they had to, you know, sit in the bed, but you know, not a not a whole lot of punishment because we started very early. 00:29:06.240 --> 00:29:10.799 So there's less punishment when you start earlier and are consistent, especially as a married couple. 00:29:11.039 --> 00:29:22.799 But that little boyish nature is just so e almost easy, especially when they're when that's kind of it's it's it's controlled scripturally, it's controlled chaos with boys. 00:29:23.359 --> 00:29:29.680 And so I was so used to almost this unemotional discipline with boys. 00:29:29.839 --> 00:29:42.720 And then five years later, we have this little girl, and she is beautifully emotional, but so much so that it's like, well, how do I deal with these emotions? 00:29:42.799 --> 00:29:47.680 Like, and me as a father, um, you know, she is my princess. 00:29:48.000 --> 00:29:54.880 I mean, I love her so much, and because she is lit a literal blessing from prayer from God. 00:29:55.599 --> 00:30:10.319 And and she and I have this really neat relationship where we're very close, but there will be things that every now and then that will emotionally affect her that I just don't understand. 00:30:10.640 --> 00:30:12.240 Can you think of an example? 00:30:12.400 --> 00:30:25.359 I haven't thought of one recently, but like she'll get emotionally emotional, like she'll cry over um what I think is a small thing, or what the boys would be like, Why is why is she crying? 00:30:25.599 --> 00:30:34.319 Yeah, but it's not like a bad cry, it's like uh she cares so deeply kind of cry about something. 00:30:34.480 --> 00:30:36.960 Maybe she hurt somebody's feelings accidentally. 00:30:37.279 --> 00:30:38.799 Yeah, I think that would be a good example. 00:30:39.039 --> 00:30:47.039 There's like when the boys sometimes when you've spoken to her, quote, harshly, which or I have, quote, harshly, which it wasn't. 00:30:47.200 --> 00:30:51.599 It was just we were so used to speaking to the boys at this directly age. 00:30:51.920 --> 00:30:53.759 Directly, not harshly, directly. 00:30:54.079 --> 00:30:55.039 That's a good word, yeah. 00:30:55.200 --> 00:30:55.599 Directly. 00:30:55.920 --> 00:31:13.119 Well, she would consider it harsh, maybe, but it's more like very direct, whereas like she doesn't need it that direct, or I mean it's direct, we're still direct with her, but a little bit more like not explaining the discipline. 00:31:13.359 --> 00:31:19.599 Whereas the boys were just like they accepted the discipline without explanation, where she was like, Did I do something wrong? 00:31:19.839 --> 00:31:22.000 And it may not have been anything she did wrong. 00:31:22.079 --> 00:31:23.599 It was just, hey, do this. 00:31:23.839 --> 00:31:27.119 And so, anyways, there's it's been really neat. 00:31:27.279 --> 00:31:32.160 So there's that clear distinction between boys and girls. 00:31:32.400 --> 00:31:36.000 Um, there's the physical attribute of the boy and the girl. 00:31:36.079 --> 00:31:39.440 Like, she's obviously very girly, but she's also very tough. 00:31:40.000 --> 00:31:42.480 She's she, you know, she's she's very tough. 00:31:42.559 --> 00:31:45.519 Uh, she's a farm, we always call her a farm girl. 00:31:45.680 --> 00:31:51.440 Um, she's strong, obviously, not as strong as her brothers, and that's good. 00:31:51.599 --> 00:32:08.480 Her brothers are there to protect her for that purpose, but mentally and like emotionally, she is extremely stable, like enormously stable to the point where she notices things about people. 00:32:08.720 --> 00:32:16.960 She, you know, she is she is more, I think she notices about like she wants to go care on a person more. 00:32:17.279 --> 00:32:19.599 She wants to care, she wants to write a person a letter. 00:32:19.839 --> 00:32:24.559 And that's not something the boys I don't think about, and I don't think about as often. 00:32:25.359 --> 00:32:33.519 But the similarities are that the intelligence levels, I think, for all of them are equal, you know. 00:32:33.680 --> 00:32:36.799 They're all very intelligent, they all know where their strengths are. 00:32:36.960 --> 00:32:47.119 We're very direct about their feminine and their masculine strengths, and what you know the world will tell them and what the lies that they will hear as they grow up. 00:32:47.440 --> 00:33:02.240 And so she, you know, she is excited about eventually becoming a mom like her mother is, and having kids and raising her kids like we do, and that Colleen does. 00:33:02.400 --> 00:33:26.960 Whereas the boys, you know, they are excited about becoming Christian husbands first, and then hopefully finding a great wife like you, and then become you know, becoming parents to and then raising them, but they are really hard workers, like they are outside hard workers, and they're looking forward to you know being the the man, the the man portion of the family. 00:33:27.119 --> 00:33:30.240 And I don't know, is that a good enough answer? 00:33:30.799 --> 00:33:32.240 I

mean, is that your answer? 00:33:32.640 --> 00:33:35.359 I I I almost forgot the question as I was talking. 00:33:35.519 --> 00:33:35.759 Yeah. 00:33:36.000 --> 00:33:37.759 Is there differences between boys and girls? 00:33:37.839 --> 00:33:39.279 Is that basically the question? 00:33:39.759 --> 00:33:42.720 No, just on how we chose to raise them. 00:33:42.960 --> 00:33:58.400 And I think when we talk about um are there differences, I think that while you were talking, it's not really like, oh yeah, they're different, like the of course they're different, but I mean I think their needs are different. 00:33:58.799 --> 00:34:07.599 You know, like when you were talking about discipline, that's not like the only need that they had, you know, that was different. 00:34:07.839 --> 00:34:20.960 You know, they they have different purposes, and to raise them in the Lord to help them understand what their purpose is, you know, it's like, okay, we're a Christian and we need to obey the Lord. 00:34:21.119 --> 00:34:22.800 Okay, you know, we talked about this last week. 00:34:22.880 --> 00:34:28.960 It's like, okay, get up and like, I'm in obedience, but like, what does that mean in action? 00:34:29.119 --> 00:34:40.719 And for a boy and a girl, their need to understand what that purpose is ultimately helps them obey God. 00:34:41.039 --> 00:34:57.679 And so I think when we're trying to help them grow in the Lord and mature in the Lord and find their purpose, I think we are learning that the guidance is a little bit different, right? 00:34:58.400 --> 00:35:28.159 Um, and so I'm I mean I'm still learning how to do that because I've never raised a girl before, you know, and so I I think that that is also something that should be understood that just because we have um older children and um you know, some obviously still in the home, still growing here, you and I are still learning very much on how to parent each child individually. 00:35:28.480 --> 00:36:04.480 You know, we talked about their personalities and going back to why I was talking about the potter and the clay, you know, everybody had the same amount of clay, and and we're all designed as clay, but each one is so unique, you know, and each time we are forming that that child, we're still getting to know that child and their personality and their needs, and there's a lot of times where we goofed because we one child needed us, you know, this way and another one needed us that way. 00:36:04.559 --> 00:36:11.280 And so sometimes there are moments where we have to go to our child and and say, please forgive me. 00:36:11.360 --> 00:36:15.679 I handled that poorly, and so that's where the similarities are. 00:36:16.000 --> 00:36:21.599 But um, you know, I I am so in prayer for our children. 00:36:21.760 --> 00:36:29.360 I've got um some Bible verses that I have on my kitchen cabinet right by my sink because that's where I spend a lot of my time doing dishes and cooking and all that. 00:36:29.599 --> 00:36:55.119 But I I try to pray for them and and pray for guidance for each one of their personalities, not just because they're a boy or a girl, but because they're an individual, you know, made by God, and then trying to find out how do I learn their personality and their purpose, you know, and guide into what God into what God wants it. 00:36:55.920 --> 00:37:15.519 And there's a really good quote that I'm not remembering right now by um Elizabeth Googe about uh the the job of an educator is to find that personality of that child and then to give it back, give them back to God better than you know better than you found. 00:37:15.760 --> 00:37:16.320 Better than you found. 00:37:16.480 --> 00:38:10.000 But I and I can't remember, and maybe I'll post it on the social, the actual one, but uh that's another thing that's on my post it all these quotes because you want to try to meditate on these things, but you know, as you are raising children or thinking about raising children, or if you are a child dealing with some maybe misunderstandings with your parents, just try to realize that you know it takes a lifetime sometimes to understand little nuances of personality, and there's got to be communication there of hey, I messed up here, or I would really like it if you talked less directly to me, maybe, or you know, and and just knowing that in a Christian home, the environment that you're creating is one of understanding and hey, I am really trying to look out for you. 00:38:10.079 --> 00:38:17.519 I'm I'm I want the best for you, and you want the best for you, and so we're working together to find out what that is. 00:38:18.079 --> 00:38:25.039 And so I think that that has been something that's been consistent in the parenting relationship. 00:38:25.360 --> 00:38:26.159 Do you agree? 00:38:26.400 --> 00:38:27.679 I agree, absolutely. 00:38:28.719 --> 00:38:30.320 You answered better than I did. 00:38:30.559 --> 00:38:31.760 Well, it was my question. 00:38:32.000 --> 00:38:33.599 I cheated, cheated. 00:38:33.840 --> 00:38:41.119 No, it's really good, and it all kind of circles back around to the pottery class and the potter and the and Joe. 00:38:41.199 --> 00:38:41.360 Yeah. 00:38:41.599 --> 00:38:42.159 Still a little bit. 00:38:42.400 --> 00:38:42.719 Yeah. 00:38:42.960 --> 00:38:43.920 Anyways, yeah. 00:38:44.079 --> 00:38:44.960 Good question, babe. 00:38:45.119 --> 00:38:45.519 Thanks. 00:38:45.679 --> 00:38:46.000 Okay. 00:38:46.239 --> 00:38:47.840 Well, we are you done? 00:38:48.159 --> 00:38:48.800 Um, yeah. 00:38:48.960 --> 00:38:49.119 Okay. 00:38:49.280 --> 00:38:49.519 Yeah. 00:38:49.679 --> 00:38:52.800 I don't you didn't kill any flies this week, so I did. 00:38:53.039 --> 00:38:53.519 I won't. 00:38:53.599 --> 00:38:55.280 I'm not as impressive as you. 00:38:56.480 --> 00:38:56.960 All right. 00:38:57.119 --> 00:38:57.440 All right. 00:38:57.519 --> 00:38:59.440 Well, we see everybody next week. 00:38:59.679 --> 00:39:00.719 Have a good week.