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There must be lights burning brighter somewhere. Good morning.
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Welcome to Right Thinking with Steve Copeland. I'm your host,
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Steve Copeland, and thank you for tuning in. Let's have
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a great day.
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Good morning, everybody. Let's have a great day is what
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I say when I come home with my pre-recorded hello there,
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and that's how I feel every day. Let's have a
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great day. Let's make... Let's make today better than yesterday.
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I was talking with one of the friends of mine
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that I've mentioned a couple times, my buddy Gary, my
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racquetball player at the Y. And Gary's got a lot
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of wisdom. And I'm just going to share this with you.
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The definition of success is the continual pursuit of a
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worthwhile goal. Success is the continual pursuit of of a
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worthwhile goal. And the reason that I'm starting off today's
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show with that is that a lot of us, especially myself,
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sometimes we feel like we've got a long way to
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go and we might not ever get there. And we
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judge ourselves on how well we've achieved something. But I'll
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tell you what, a journey of a thousand miles starts
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with the first step. And so what we want to
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do is just always be moving forward. And, you know,
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we've been forgiven, so let's not dwell on the past
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too much. Let's just go forward. And before I start
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on today's show, I've got a blockbuster show today. That's
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the word that I've described this as, a blockbuster. A
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blockbuster show. And in a second, you'll know why. But
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last week, Don Green, the executive director of the Napoleon
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Hill Foundation... I was honored to have him be my guest.
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And I want to say right now, Don, you are
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just an absolutely wonderful human being. You've done so much
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for so many people. And I'm just thankful that I
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can call you my friend. And thanks for honoring me
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with your presence last week. Right after the show, Don
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reached out to me and he sent me copies
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of
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a book called One Season of Hope. And it's written
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by Jim Stovall. And Jim Stovall is an absolutely phenomenal person.
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He's lifetime blind. And he's written books, and he's done
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so many things. And if you want to be motivated,
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get a hold of One Season of Hope by Jim Stovall.
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And also, I was talking last week about Don Green's book,
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Everything I Know About Success I Learned from Napoleon Hill.
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I got a copy of that right away, and I've
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been reading it, and Don is an incredible communicator. I
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love the style that he writes in, and I recommend
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that book highly. Okay, so let me tell you what
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today's show is going to be. I'm at the Norfolk YMCA,
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and I play racquetball about four days a week, and
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I'm in the locker room, and this young man, he
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overhears my conversation, and And he introduces himself to me.
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And today we're going to have a conversation with Johnny Thomas.
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And Johnny is 25 years old. And he's like the
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rest of us. He's trying to figure out how to
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navigate through the treacherous waters of the world that we
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live in, of this life. And so Johnny is just
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a remarkable young man. I've known him for three weeks now.
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But I think that When you hear today's show, you're
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going to understand why I got Johnny on the air.
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So it's all going to come out as we start
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to talk here.
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Johnny, are you there? Yes, Steve, I'm here. Okay, Johnny.
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Well, Johnny, one of the things that you've told me
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in our conversations is that nobody listens. And so I
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want you to know something, Johnny. You got my ear.
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I'm listening to you. And not only am I listening
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to you, I love listening to you. Because one of
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the expressions that I gave you at the Y is,
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we're all in the same boat, but it's really of
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biblical proportions. We're all in the same boat. So, Johnny,
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why don't you just take it from there and you
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say anything you want to say to get this started.
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Well, I'm just like you said, 45, young dad trying
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to navigate through the waters of life but even though
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when I navigate you come with obstacles that until I
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met you you kind of gave me clarity on it
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with Napoleon Hill outwitting the devil and the words that
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speak kind of open my mind up a little bit
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more and give me a boost of how you say
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morale some value start to.
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Think you know Yeah, you know, what I want to
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tell you right now before it goes any further is
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when I tell Johnny that I'm getting probably more out
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of our friendship than he may be able to get
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from me, that's true. I've been trying for a long,
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long time with the mentoring that I try to do,
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the trying to help other people, but the program that
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White Thinking Foundation has It's called a financial education program,
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but it's unique. And on Jeff Heiser's show this morning
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when he gave a rundown of his one-year anniversary and
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talked about all the shows that are on his network,
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and I'm very, very proud to be part of that
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network of all these positive forces that he's got out
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there on the air. When he talked about my show,
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he said that Steve is trying to help people have
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financial freedoms. And he said a nice thing about Steve
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knows everything about helping people have financial freedom, how to
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get them out of budget and stay out of debt
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and things like that. And he said today's show is
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going to have this 25-year-old young man on there that
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he thinks has been through my program. And let me
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clarify that. And this is what's so wonderful. My program
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is not a simple financial education program. If you go
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to the website rightthink.org, R-I-G-H-T-H, rightthink.org, R-I-G-H-T-H-I-N-K dot O-R-G, and
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go to the learn more perseverance quotes, it's going to
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tell you that even though the program is a financial
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education program, it's only 25% about money. It's 75% about persevering,
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not quitting, not giving up, surrounding yourself with the right people,
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making better decisions. And there's six steps to the program.
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It starts off, the persons that you're trying to communicate with,
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they got to know you're there for them. They got
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to know you love them. Second thing is, you have
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to establish trust. Without establishing trust, nobody's going to be
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able to share and learn from each other. And the
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third thing is, once you've established a certain kind of
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a trust in the relationship, perhaps the person that you're
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trying to help along will have some respect for you.
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And when they develop respect, they then might start to listen.
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And if they start listening and they can listen, make
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the decision that they have a desire to change, then
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you can provide the tools. And the tools are the
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easiest part. So the reason I went through that detail
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just now is Johnny and I have established a friendship. Johnny,
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thanks for being my friend.
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You too. You too, Steve.
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Johnny, I respect you because... The conversations I've been having
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with you have all been very, very good. Johnny, I
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know that maybe on the air you want me to
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ask you some leading questions, and I will, but let
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me say a couple things here, Johnny. Johnny, you're 25
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years old. Your father passed away when you were in
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high school. Is that right?
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Yes, that's correct.
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So which age were you in when you were dead, Johnny?
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Would you say that a little louder, please?
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He passed away June 16, 2010. That's a little bit
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before my junior year ended. So for the rest of
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my junior year, I missed school.
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So you were in high school your junior year when
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your dad passed away. Okay. And at the time that
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your dad passed away, were your parents together? No.
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No, they were separated, but I stayed with my dad,
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and I still visit my mom, so... Basically, when I
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was veered or he was in a hospital, I was
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either with my mom or I was with my aunt.
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So, Johnny, do you have any brothers and sisters?
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Actually, I'm the oldest of four boys.
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And you've told me, Johnny, I know a little bit.
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If you want to share some more. One of your brothers,
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he died early, correct?
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Yes. How about it? I think he was dead when
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he was seven years old, because I was 14. Actually,
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that was my seventh grade year.
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You have another brother that's 24 years old?
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Yeah.
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You want to tell us about your brother that's 24?
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Give me a.
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Favor, Johnny. Johnny, let me interrupt you. I'm having a
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hard time hearing you. Can you speak a whole lot louder?
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Is this clear?
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Yeah, that's very good. Thanks.
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Yeah, so just the whole thing. We was the two oldest,
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so basically it was me and him. We were kind
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of like Bonnie and Clyde. So as time progressed, when
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things got hectic with the parents, it kind of was
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starting to split up, but we always would still be together.
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That until when he moved to foster care. And when
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he came from foster care, when he was 16 and
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I was 17, he kind of changed numbers. And over time, progress, time, progress,
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he was out there. I tried to pull him back in,
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and he don't want to listen. So to each his own. Eventually,
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it got him to become incarcerated.
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How long has your brother been incarcerated?
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Let me think. Let me think. Probably three or four
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years now. Okay.
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So your brother that's closest in your age has been
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incarcerated for three or four years. Okay, you got another
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brother also. I think you told me he's 21 years old.
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Is that correct?
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Yes.
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Okay, speak a little louder now.
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No, that's correct. That's correct, Steve.
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Your brother that's 21, tell me about him a little bit.
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Now, that's where I'm going to keep it real with you.
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That's my rock right there. He gave me hope. He
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gave me hope. I got three beautiful nieces with him.
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But over the time that was him, that's the one. Actually,
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I was the first one who held him besides my mom.
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I was like the very first one who got to
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hold him besides the parents. That's the one we still
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stuck together through all the, losing the youngest and, uh,
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all the way going to folks. Again, we were somewhat
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still together over time. Our fathers made a little pact
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to try to keep the brothers together. So basically it
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was kind of two of us left out of four.
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So wherever we get, I'll go. I was real protective
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when it came to my brothers, you know? So. Okay.
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So, so Johnny, um, I'm having a hard time hearing you,
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but what I know is this. You got one brother
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that's 24 years old, and he's incarcerated. You got another
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brother that's 21 years old, and he has three beautiful daughters, correct?
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Yes, Steve, that's correct.
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And he's got two different mothers to his children. And
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at present, he's not married to either one of the
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mothers of his children. Is that correct?
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Yeah, that's correct.
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Okay. So, Johnny, what is it that you're different, Johnny?
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You're different in a beautiful way. And when I mentioned
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the why, what I don't want to cut you off.
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Your love is different? Because I'm the oldest. I'm the
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oldest out of all the grandmothers.
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Louder, Johnny. Real loud. Real loud, please.
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I'm the oldest out of all the children and my
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grandmother's grandchildren. So I got the mind frame in. I
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got to try to read by example. Hello?
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I'm listening, Johnny. Okay, so you got to lead by example. Johnny,
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can you hear me okay?
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Yeah, I can hear you okay, Steve. I'm here.
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When you talk like you did just now, I hear
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you perfectly, so keep talking at that volume. So, Johnny,
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what it is is this. You are doing the very
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best you can to try to figure out what it
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is that you're supposed to do with your life. Is
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that correct?
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That is correct. Every person must have the purpose in life.
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I'm just trying to find my purpose in life. My purpose.
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And tell me what it's like out there on the streets, Johnny.
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I mean, I'm very impressed with all the things that
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go on in your life that you've never been in
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trouble yourself. You handle yourself beautifully. You're articulate. So what's
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it like out there in the world that you live in, Johnny?
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What's going on out there?
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Where do I begin, Steve? Where do I begin? Well,
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the violence, the hustle and bustle, the things we've got
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to go through, the obstacles out here struggling day to day,
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wondering how we're going to get it, how it That
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is really hectic in inner city. But at the same time,
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my dad said you can't have struggle without progress.
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That's a beautiful line. You can't have struggle without progress.
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So, Johnny, what is it that you want to do
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with yourself right now?
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Right now, I can see myself going to school for
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software development. That always kind of got me intrigued. Like,
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when I see these apps like Facebook, iHeartRadio, and all that,
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I wonder, how do they make simple software that can
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become so big? The capabilities, the gist, the programming, the firewall,
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and all that. I want to learn how to do that.
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That would kind of interest me, but The question was,
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how do I see myself right now? That's how I
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see myself. But like you said in the beginning of
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your show, it's a journey of a thousand miles, but
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that big step is the hardest step, and that's getting
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up and dusting your cell phones after they done pushed
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you down so many times.
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Johnny, tell me about your education. Have you been to college?
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I've been into college twice.
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How far did you get?
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The most, a year and a half. And then something
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just happened after a year.
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Okay, so you went to college and dropped out twice.
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How far have you got? How many credits do you
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have right now?
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Probably like seven. Okay.
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So, Johnny, the other day I was talking to you
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and I made the comment, man, I bet you made
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good grades in high school. Do you remember what you
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said to me?
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No, what did I say, Steve?
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You said, of course. You said, of course.
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So, Johnny, Johnny, listen.
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You're into your mind And that's the reason that you
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connected with me, because you heard me talking about things
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like Napoleon Hill. And then I gave you a copy.
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of Outwitting the Devil. So what is it about Napoleon
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Hill that attracts you?
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It's kind of where we're all unique. People are not
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going to understand that thing because it's too... controversial and
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you gotta be that rare type of breed like yourself
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and I you gotta be ahead of your time and
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that book for it to be written in the 1930s
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and the 20s when all the great depression and all
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that came about it speaks about stuff today but they
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must have figured things were gonna get worse after the
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depression go back to.
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Talking louder Johnny Johnny you gotta talk louder I can't
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hardly hear you okay talk loud.
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Oh, I thought you heard me. No. You heard me.
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Just talk real loud. I'll tell you to quiet down
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if I need to.
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But, Johnny, what I'm.
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Trying to get to, and I
know that you're almost
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ready to share it with me, is we're going to
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come back to Napoleon Hill. But, Johnny, you gave me
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one of the nicest compliments I've had in a long time.
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I gave you a copy of that book, and in
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the jacket of that book, I thanked you for honoring me,
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because I wrote in there that you were my friend,
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and you said something to me about that. I'd like
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you to talk about that serious, about who are your
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friends and who listens to you.
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Who listens to me?
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Who listens to me?
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That's the question you're asking? Yeah, yeah.
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Are people listening to you, Johnny?
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Not for real. Not for real.
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Not at all.
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They pretty much, what's the word in the urban terms
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they use today? They sleep on me.
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They doubt me.
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But Napoleon Hill says that's how the devil works. Once
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you start fearing, it turns into doubt. Then you got
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to control who you be. But you listen to me.
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You give me a voice. And I speak up for
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myself now. I tell things how it should be, how
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it shouldn't be, and how it is. But what you
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gave me here was a realized piece. Out with the devil.
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It kind of moved me in many ways because every
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time it talks, it comments, it always had its turn. Like,
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thank you. You ever pictured a predicament that was similar
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to this predicament? Yes. to tell you how to move
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through things. And I would like to say this without
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getting emotional. You are an inspiration to me.
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Johnny, I told you in the beginning of the show
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that you're more of an inspiration to me than I
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probably am to you. Because the same thing that you're
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trying to tell people right now, that people don't listen
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to you, I've got something that I've moved I've got
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something that I've known for years that's different, and it
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starts with just giving of yourself to other people. You
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can't try. You can't try to expect anybody to listen
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to you unless they know you care about them. You
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and I have established that so quickly. What I'm here
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to try to do right now, Johnny, is I've established
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something that you're going through a life that's not really
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easy right now. You're 25 years old. You're exposed to
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a lot of things that are out there. And there's
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a lot more that I'm going to bring out in
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a minute about some of the things that you have
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to go through. But you just said something very, very important.
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You said that nobody's listening to you and that you
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do have a voice and that I listen to you
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and that I give.
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You that voice.
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And I do, Johnny. Johnny, You share a telephone with
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your mother. Your cell phone has been misplaced or something.
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And so whenever I call you, I have to get
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your mother to get you to call me back or something.
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So I've been getting to know your mother. And what's
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very interesting here is this. Your mother is very appreciative
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that you and I have met. And she told me
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that she prayed for somebody to come into your life
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that you could listen to because many of the things
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that she's trying to tell you, for whatever reason, you're
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not able to hear it from your mother. And so
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I know what that means. I know what that means.
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And some of the stuff that your mother's trying to
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tell you is exactly the same thing that I'm trying
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to tell you. For example, let me ask you this, Johnny.
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Are you working right now? Do you work?
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No, I do not work.
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Say again?
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No, I do not work. Okay.
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Hey, Johnny, you've got a voice, but I want you
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to shout it out from the rooftops on this phone
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call because I'm still having a hard time hearing everything
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that
you're saying. You just got to get that phone
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close to you and speak really loud the whole time here. So, Johnny,
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how long? Has it been since you've worked?
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Almost a year. Okay.
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Johnny, you told me something about the problem that got
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you is the big P. The big P. Will you
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explain that, please?
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I'll explain it. No, it's not women. No, it's not pregnancy.
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It's procrastination. Over time, I started, man, I said, well,
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I put off, put something off while I can do tomorrow. So,
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it led to a lot of procrastination, and I got lazy,
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and man, I said, I just lost my spark. This
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happened real quickly after, pretty much after I graduated high school.
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That's when Napoleon Hill comes back into play. Schools do
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give you knowledge, but they don't give you how to
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go out there.
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And use it.
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So you're pretty much kind of, what's the term you use,
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a drifter, a person who's going on without a purpose.
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I can't do that. Oh, too much time to pass.
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Let me interrupt you for a second, Johnny. Let me
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interrupt you. I'm going to talk about Napoleon Hill's definition
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of a drifter for a minute to get everybody that's
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listening up to speed. But please do me a favor
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and just try to talk way, way louder. I apologize
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for saying that over and over again, but I'm worried
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that everybody's not going to be able to hear you
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very clearly. So just talk a lot louder. Napoleon Hill's
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definition of a drifter that describes a lot of people
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is a person who is traveling fast. aimlessly through life
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without any sense of purpose.
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Okay.
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Now, Johnny, you've been to college a couple times. You
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haven't worked in a year. You live with your aunt.
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Your mother's trying to encourage you to get employed. We
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haven't talked about what you asked me that you want
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to talk about. Johnny, this will bring back some of
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the things I'm trying to describe today. so that we
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can get it on the table so that I can
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maybe help you move forward. But, Johnny, talk about health care.
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Talk about the health care problem that you have. The
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fact that I.
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Don't have any health care? Yeah, I've been without health
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care for like three years now. That's the whole purpose
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because I'm trying to work so I can try to
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get the health care. to get to the minor eyesight
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problem that I have.
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Can you hear me, Steve? Yeah. Go louder, though, Johnny.
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Go louder. I hear you, but I can't hear you
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very well.
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Well, I'm trying to get the health care back because
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of a little eye problem that I had. I was
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trying to get it fixed, and I found out in
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2014 that The doctor said he found a lot of
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scarring around the corneas and the retinas and around the
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eye area. So they said it was an infection. It
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came from an infection. So they said if he ever
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progressed or came back, this is one chance I could
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probably lose my eyesight permanently. Now I have this band
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on my plate with this possibility that it can Me
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trying to get back health care so I can try
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to do this, and me trying to find a job.
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Now we got to try to juggle these three things
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all at one time. But other than that, I try
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to keep a positive man because like you always tell
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me at the end of every talk we have as
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long as you have the Lord in your life there's
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nothing to fear or worry about.
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Johnny you you're amazing Johnny you're amazing And what I
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see in you, Johnny, is I see a very, very
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good person that doesn't want to fall into all the
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things that are around you. And you're looking and you're
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trying to stay away from things that are out there. Johnny,
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you said something to me about drugs all around you,
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the drugs that are all around you every day. Tell
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me about that.
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These guys are like a little... The drug problem has
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gotten way out of hand. Everywhere from the needles to
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the cats to people on the street. Everybody's pretty much
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like dogs out there, most of the part. That's one
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problem I try not to get into. Because if you're
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leading to other things and bad habits, eventually it's going
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to put you in jail for the rest of your life.
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Or it's going to mess around and kill you. I've
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seen what drugs do to people. It takes a good
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person who doesn't think about it. It's not even discriminatory.
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They don't care what race you are. They got one
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thing in common. Your money and messing up your life.
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I've seen big people do nice things for themselves.
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Johnny, you're about the same age I was when Bill
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the Plant Man gave me a copy of Think and
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Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill. And it just... It's been
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the most positive influence in my life for the last
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45 years. Because... Napoleon Hill is such a, he says
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it like it is. And when I gave you Outwitting
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the Devil, you've just been talking to me about that
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book for the last week. And I think that what's
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going to happen here is that over the next five
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years of your life, you're probably going to get more
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and more and more focused on and get a better
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handle on what it is that you want to do,
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and you'll get up and get motivated, and all of
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a sudden, you're going to separate yourself from the pack, Johnny.
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You're going to be out there just giving of yourself
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to other people in a way that helps other people,
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and you know that you've got a purpose. Let me
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ask you a question, Johnny. What would you see yourself
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doing If I told you, I want you to look
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five years into the future, and if you were to
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daydream and almost fantasize, and if you could be anything,
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do anything with your life in five years without having
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any obstacles stop you, no physical obstacle, no financial obstacle, nothing.
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If you could be the person that you would just
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dream about being, What would you see yourself being in
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five years?
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Well, I got to be realistic with me being fantasizing
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about it since you asked that hypothetical question. Five years,
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let me see, two years. A bachelor's degree in software
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00:33:48.619 --> 00:33:55.329
development and at least a nice apartment with a car
485
00:33:55.789 --> 00:33:59.490
in the next five years. Basically, me getting the ball
486
00:33:59.529 --> 00:34:02.809
rolling and me living out life. That's where I see
487
00:34:02.829 --> 00:34:04.210
myself in the next five years.
488
00:34:06.799 --> 00:34:10.920
That's beautiful, Johnny. That's beautiful. So you want an education,
489
00:34:11.460 --> 00:34:15.440
a degree in software development, and you want an apartment,
490
00:34:15.860 --> 00:34:18.869
and you want a car, okay? That's three parts of it, okay?
491
00:34:18.989 --> 00:34:21.909
Did I say those right? Yes, sir.
492
00:34:21.969 --> 00:34:26.710
Yeah, Steve. You pretty much put the nail on the head. Okay. Okay.
493
00:34:27.550 --> 00:34:30.059
And let me ask you this, too. How about how
494
00:34:30.079 --> 00:34:35.460
you sort of feel about stress and pressure in your life?
495
00:34:35.559 --> 00:34:39.659
Talk about that part of your life in five years, obviously,
496
00:34:40.039 --> 00:34:43.119
if this is a dream come true where I want
497
00:34:43.199 --> 00:34:47.039
to be in five years. Tell me what your life
498
00:34:47.079 --> 00:34:48.239
would feel like.
499
00:34:51.639 --> 00:34:58.059
The constant doubt, the obstacle, that's one thing. One thing,
500
00:34:58.119 --> 00:35:01.070
like I said, I'm going to mention Napoleon Hill again because,
501
00:35:01.090 --> 00:35:04.150
like you said, I've been talking about it for a whole, like,
502
00:35:04.289 --> 00:35:07.670
the last week since you gave me the book. It
503
00:35:07.690 --> 00:35:12.710
pretty much, the book gets inside your head. I'm going
504
00:35:12.750 --> 00:35:15.070
to tell you that. The book gets inside your head.
505
00:35:16.070 --> 00:35:18.590
And when it gets inside your head, it knows how,
506
00:35:18.610 --> 00:35:22.079
because it tells you how the devil operates when he
507
00:35:22.199 --> 00:35:25.900
interviews the devil. It talks about it. If he knocks
508
00:35:25.960 --> 00:35:28.280
you down a couple of times, you know after a
509
00:35:28.280 --> 00:35:30.909
while you're going to just give up and just be like,
510
00:35:30.929 --> 00:35:35.469
forget about it. And as
slowly your determination goes down,
511
00:35:36.409 --> 00:35:39.769
it takes it away and it gets control of you.
512
00:35:40.449 --> 00:35:42.809
He always used the big P word to hell, which
513
00:35:42.849 --> 00:35:49.610
was poverty. Poverty. Yeah. Being broke, no job? No. That's
514
00:35:49.650 --> 00:35:53.190
how it gets you down. It gets worse, I know,
515
00:35:53.269 --> 00:35:57.239
but at the same time, It gets, like, it kind
516
00:35:57.280 --> 00:36:02.079
of questions you, you know? Like, I know I'm not
517
00:36:02.099 --> 00:36:05.500
supposed to be in this position with the potential I have,
518
00:36:06.099 --> 00:36:09.719
but I'm in it. But, like, Napoleon Hill said, the
519
00:36:09.760 --> 00:36:14.460
people that he interviewed, they were part of that 2%.
520
00:36:14.460 --> 00:36:18.679
They were the ones who were down like me and yourself.
521
00:36:18.739 --> 00:36:20.900
They were the ones starting from the bottom, working their
522
00:36:20.940 --> 00:36:26.739
way up. They also mentioned, like, perseverance. I always thought
523
00:36:26.780 --> 00:36:31.179
that was a pretty word, though, perseverance, to persevere. Yeah,
524
00:36:31.599 --> 00:36:34.619
it means to keep striving, to keep going. Don't let
525
00:36:34.659 --> 00:36:37.360
it knock you down. Just keep gushing.
526
00:36:37.380 --> 00:36:38.619
It's going to get better.
527
00:36:39.699 --> 00:36:42.280
That's what my mom tried to teach me. Every time
528
00:36:42.360 --> 00:36:43.860
I try to go out there and get a job,
529
00:36:44.340 --> 00:36:46.909
you don't have the experience. You don't have the experience.
530
00:36:47.630 --> 00:36:50.429
I need somewhere to start. I need a stepping stone.
531
00:36:51.110 --> 00:36:52.250
That's why I'm out there trying.
532
00:36:52.090 --> 00:36:53.030
To get a stepping stone.
533
00:36:53.090 --> 00:36:56.099
It's hard to get that stepping stone. But she always
534
00:36:56.139 --> 00:36:59.469
keeps telling me to keep faith. But it's hard, you know?
535
00:36:59.550 --> 00:37:02.429
It's like, okay, I'm going to try to keep the faith,
536
00:37:02.489 --> 00:37:06.769
but I know what I need to do. But it's
537
00:37:07.090 --> 00:37:11.400
right here. It's like somebody dangling a piece of candy
538
00:37:11.440 --> 00:37:13.860
to a baby, and they reach and try to hide
539
00:37:13.880 --> 00:37:16.679
and get it. Eventually, they're going to start crying, and
540
00:37:16.699 --> 00:37:17.659
they don't want it no more.
541
00:37:18.519 --> 00:37:22.320
You know? Yeah, I do know. That's a pretty good
542
00:37:22.360 --> 00:37:23.110
description there.
543
00:37:23.130 --> 00:37:23.269
So....
544
00:37:25.389 --> 00:37:30.099
You're out there, and the world you live in is
545
00:37:30.139 --> 00:37:32.559
a pretty hard world with a whole lot of things
546
00:37:32.599 --> 00:37:35.019
that are trying to grab you and pull you off
547
00:37:35.079 --> 00:37:40.460
the straight and narrow. And so, Johnny, let me throw
548
00:37:40.500 --> 00:37:44.789
this at you for a minute. When you're out there,
549
00:37:45.409 --> 00:37:48.829
the last job you had, where was the last job
550
00:37:48.869 --> 00:37:49.250
you had?
551
00:37:52.309 --> 00:37:59.179
It was a recycling plant called TFC in Chesapeake. Okay.
552
00:37:59.860 --> 00:38:04.440
And when you were working, it obviously wasn't something that
553
00:38:04.480 --> 00:38:06.760
you want to do for the rest of your life, correct?
554
00:38:08.519 --> 00:38:11.340
That is correct. Yes.
555
00:38:12.780 --> 00:38:15.340
Well, tell me, you've already told me that you see
556
00:38:15.380 --> 00:38:21.809
yourself as being a college degree software development person. making
557
00:38:22.090 --> 00:38:25.449
decent money so you can afford the basic things in life.
558
00:38:25.510 --> 00:38:26.949
We got that part straight, okay?
559
00:38:28.250 --> 00:38:28.570
Yes.
560
00:38:29.389 --> 00:38:32.550
Now, I want to come back to that, Johnny. Why
561
00:38:32.670 --> 00:38:35.630
have you, well, I kind of know the answer you
562
00:38:35.650 --> 00:38:38.349
just said. The reason that you haven't got a job
563
00:38:38.989 --> 00:38:43.519
and you've been interviewing a lot is because people want
564
00:38:43.860 --> 00:38:47.340
you to show that you've had experience. And you told me,
565
00:38:47.949 --> 00:38:49.989
How are you going to get experience if they won't
566
00:38:50.130 --> 00:38:50.690
hire you?
567
00:38:50.809 --> 00:38:53.309
You told me that, correct? Yeah.
568
00:38:54.610 --> 00:38:58.349
Well, let me ask you this, though, Johnny. Have you
569
00:38:58.409 --> 00:39:02.610
ever thought about taking a job that's not what you
570
00:39:02.670 --> 00:39:06.639
want as a means to an end? And if you
571
00:39:06.659 --> 00:39:09.539
can set your goals, like where you really want to
572
00:39:09.579 --> 00:39:13.500
be in five years, and then pull back and say, okay,
573
00:39:14.550 --> 00:39:17.219
I'm not going to get where I want to be
574
00:39:17.360 --> 00:39:21.179
in five years unless I have a plan and I
575
00:39:21.219 --> 00:39:26.989
go step by step by step by step toward that plan. Correct?
576
00:39:30.469 --> 00:39:32.699
That is correct. I hear that a lot.
577
00:39:34.360 --> 00:39:36.860
Okay, so... Now.
578
00:39:36.579 --> 00:39:38.539
I'm going home with them, too.
579
00:39:40.760 --> 00:39:42.440
Repeat that, Johnny. I could not hear that.
580
00:39:43.880 --> 00:39:47.880
I said that is correct. With the whole plan that
581
00:39:47.920 --> 00:39:51.469
you said... I would do it, but they put me
582
00:39:51.550 --> 00:39:55.150
on hold too. That's what I'm waiting for now. There's
583
00:39:55.230 --> 00:39:58.909
a couple of jobs that I've been looking at, and
584
00:39:58.929 --> 00:40:02.389
that's one of them. And they keep telling me the
585
00:40:02.409 --> 00:40:05.159
same thing, with the candy dangling over, like the baby
586
00:40:05.539 --> 00:40:09.199
dangling the candy over me again. We don't have a
587
00:40:09.260 --> 00:40:12.699
position open yet, but we'll give you a call. I've
588
00:40:12.719 --> 00:40:15.820
been getting that for like the past two weeks now.
589
00:40:17.780 --> 00:40:22.440
Okay, Johnny, let me ask you a question. When would
590
00:40:22.480 --> 00:40:26.719
you think is the best time to get a job
591
00:40:26.900 --> 00:40:30.599
if you're looking for a job? It's a trick question, Johnny.
592
00:40:31.000 --> 00:40:32.000
It's a trick question.
593
00:40:36.019 --> 00:40:37.619
Can you repeat the question again?
594
00:40:37.639 --> 00:40:41.780
Yeah, and when you answer, keep talking like you just did,
595
00:40:41.840 --> 00:40:46.579
nice and clear. Johnny, when do you think is the
596
00:40:46.659 --> 00:40:49.349
best time to get hired by somebody?
597
00:40:53.250 --> 00:40:54.929
As soon as possible to me.
598
00:40:56.300 --> 00:40:58.860
That's a great answer. That's a better answer than what
599
00:40:58.900 --> 00:41:01.940
I'm going to give you, but here's my answer. The
600
00:41:02.000 --> 00:41:06.059
best time to get a job is when you already
601
00:41:06.360 --> 00:41:11.199
have a job. Let's play with that for a minute, Johnny.
602
00:41:12.099 --> 00:41:14.480
Think about what I just said. If you're out there
603
00:41:14.519 --> 00:41:18.510
looking for a job, and you already have a job,
604
00:41:19.369 --> 00:41:21.219
tell me what the interview is going to look like.
605
00:41:25.320 --> 00:41:28.500
Okay, okay. You made the light bulb go off now.
606
00:41:28.880 --> 00:41:30.760
You made the light bulb go off, Steve.
607
00:41:31.500 --> 00:41:34.739
Go really loud, Johnny. Talk like five times as loud
608
00:41:34.760 --> 00:41:38.130
because you're talking good now. The light bulb just went off, Johnny.
609
00:41:38.449 --> 00:41:40.630
Tell me why. Tell me why the light bulb just
610
00:41:40.690 --> 00:41:41.030
went off.
611
00:41:42.329 --> 00:41:49.349
Okay. Yeah, the conversation is going to go like this. So, Mr. Thomas, what,
612
00:41:49.909 --> 00:41:53.940
are you currently employed? Yeah, I'm working at such and such.
613
00:41:54.739 --> 00:41:55.380
Oh, you do?
614
00:41:56.300 --> 00:41:59.599
Yeah, it's one thing to lead to another, and then
615
00:41:59.659 --> 00:42:05.530
I can get that job. Yeah, that sounds like a
616
00:42:05.590 --> 00:42:06.309
nice place.
617
00:42:08.849 --> 00:42:12.090
Let me show you this, Johnny. Let's say that you
618
00:42:12.130 --> 00:42:15.719
want a job. as a, uh, a person in a,
619
00:42:15.860 --> 00:42:19.090
in an environment where you're going to be making like
620
00:42:19.090 --> 00:42:22.190
$ 22 an hour doing some kind of a middle management
621
00:42:22.250 --> 00:42:23.610
supervisory kind of job.
622
00:42:23.849 --> 00:42:24.190
Okay.
623
00:42:25.530 --> 00:42:29.630
It doesn't matter. And, and you're working flipping burgers at
624
00:42:29.670
--> 00:42:32.409
the Burger King around the corner from your house. Okay.
625
00:42:34.250 --> 00:42:39.730
And when you interview and they see on your resume, well, Mr. Thomas, uh,
626
00:42:40.510 --> 00:42:45.559
You're over here at Burger King making minimum wage. And
627
00:42:45.599 --> 00:42:50.940
then your answer could be this simple. Yes, sir, I am,
628
00:42:51.000 --> 00:42:53.159
but that's not what I want to do for very long,
629
00:42:53.199 --> 00:42:56.860
but I've got responsibility. I'm just trying to take care
630
00:42:56.880 --> 00:43:00.219
of some of my bills, and I'm looking for another
631
00:43:00.260 --> 00:43:04.719
job because I want to better myself. You see where
632
00:43:04.739 --> 00:43:08.570
I'm going, Johnny? Yes.
633
00:43:09.070 --> 00:43:09.889
Yes, I do, Steve.
634
00:43:10.889 --> 00:43:15.250
In other words, Johnny, you would be better off taking
635
00:43:15.590 --> 00:43:18.789
any kind of a job because the next time you
636
00:43:18.829 --> 00:43:23.150
have an interview, you're already employed. They know you're trying.
637
00:43:23.510 --> 00:43:27.099
They know you're facing some responsibility. But when you're out
638
00:43:27.159 --> 00:43:31.239
there not working for a year and they look at you,
639
00:43:31.900 --> 00:43:35.139
they're not sure that your work ethic and the way
640
00:43:35.159 --> 00:43:37.780
that you approach life is going to be something that
641
00:43:37.820 --> 00:43:43.809
they want to bring into their companies. Now, there's a million,
642
00:43:44.309 --> 00:43:48.050
literally a million minimum wage jobs out there if you
643
00:43:48.090 --> 00:43:50.570
want to get... Johnny, my wife told me to tell
644
00:43:50.590 --> 00:43:53.489
you this, and by the way, my wife and her
645
00:43:53.550 --> 00:43:56.289
sister are traveling to North Carolina today, and I pray
646
00:43:56.309 --> 00:43:58.909
that they have a nice, safe trip, and it's a
647
00:43:58.949 --> 00:44:01.489
nice vacation couple days for my wife to be with
648
00:44:01.530 --> 00:44:04.199
her daughter and her grandkids, and I just thank the
649
00:44:04.239 --> 00:44:06.739
Lord for blessing her with the chance to have this
650
00:44:06.820 --> 00:44:09.280
beautiful weather and take a trip with her sister and
651
00:44:09.639 --> 00:44:12.610
go see her daughter and her grandkids, and And let's
652
00:44:12.650 --> 00:44:16.579
just pray that they're safe. Johnny, she told me to
653
00:44:16.619 --> 00:44:19.960
make sure that I told you that they're having a
654
00:44:20.019 --> 00:44:24.239
job fair at Waterside and that they got hundreds of
655
00:44:24.280 --> 00:44:26.960
jobs that they're going to be hiring people for when
656
00:44:26.980 --> 00:44:29.940
they open up the new Waterside. And she said that
657
00:44:29.960 --> 00:44:32.659
would be good for Johnny because that's in walking distance
658
00:44:32.719 --> 00:44:36.210
from his house. Johnny, what we're trying to say here
659
00:44:36.329 --> 00:44:39.550
is it's what Jeff Iser says on his show. You've
660
00:44:39.570 --> 00:44:42.900
got to take that first step. If you start bringing
661
00:44:42.940 --> 00:44:47.269
a little bit of money, then you feel better about yourself,
662
00:44:48.250 --> 00:44:51.769
and it's just a means to an end. Now, Johnny,
663
00:44:51.789 --> 00:44:53.889
I'm going to tell you one more thing that's important here.
664
00:44:56.010 --> 00:44:59.230
If you take a job, like so many people do,
665
00:44:59.929 --> 00:45:05.380
that's just a low-skill, close to minimum wage type of
666
00:45:05.440 --> 00:45:09.449
a job, You don't feel very good about yourself if
667
00:45:09.489 --> 00:45:10.409
that's all you're doing.
668
00:45:10.610 --> 00:45:11.190
I got that.
669
00:45:11.429 --> 00:45:15.710
I got that. But what if, Johnny, instead of taking
670
00:45:15.769 --> 00:45:19.409
a job where you feel like you're a failure because
671
00:45:19.449 --> 00:45:22.539
it's not very much.
672
00:45:23.179 --> 00:45:25.559
That's what I'm trying to do. I'm trying to take
673
00:45:25.739 --> 00:45:29.460
anything right now. That's the whole point I'm trying to make.
674
00:45:29.599 --> 00:45:34.119
Beggars can't be choosers. That's my theory. I'm not being choosy.
675
00:45:34.159 --> 00:45:36.360
I'm just like, throw me a mic, throw me something.
676
00:45:37.510 --> 00:45:41.210
I need something. I'll take the job that I had.
677
00:45:41.230 --> 00:45:44.699
It was paying every week, and it was steady. I
678
00:45:44.719 --> 00:45:47.860
just need something to put this plan that you told
679
00:45:47.900 --> 00:45:50.920
me in action. That's the whole thing.
680
00:45:52.099 --> 00:45:53.739
But it's not happening.
681
00:45:54.360 --> 00:45:58.599
I have a master plan, but it's the part where
682
00:45:58.659 --> 00:46:00.860
it helps to get the ball rolling. I need to
683
00:46:00.880 --> 00:46:01.900
get the ball rolling.
684
00:46:02.000 --> 00:46:03.139
It was rolling, like my.
685
00:46:03.099 --> 00:46:06.969
Mom told you. It was rolling. I'm trying to get
686
00:46:06.989 --> 00:46:07.809
it back rolling.
687
00:46:10.610 --> 00:46:15.119
Johnny, we got three minutes to go here, so I'm
688
00:46:15.139 --> 00:46:17.119
going to say something for a few seconds here, then
689
00:46:17.139 --> 00:46:18.599
you can talk for a minute or two, and then
690
00:46:18.639 --> 00:46:21.900
I'll close it out. Johnny, if I'm going to help
691
00:46:21.960 --> 00:46:25.679
somebody with their life plan, and it's teaching them how
692
00:46:25.699 --> 00:46:29.150
to budget and manage their money and get rid of stress,
693
00:46:30.530 --> 00:46:33.750
you can't manage money very well that you don't have.
694
00:46:34.469 --> 00:46:37.150
And so... So we're going to find a way, Johnny.
695
00:46:37.849 --> 00:46:39.630
Now that I know that you want to work and
696
00:46:39.650 --> 00:46:42.550
that you've gone one year without working, within
the next
697
00:46:42.630 --> 00:46:46.869
couple weeks, you're going to be working somewhere, Johnny. And
698
00:46:47.050 --> 00:46:50.469
I'll help you connect and find somebody that will give
699
00:46:50.510 --> 00:46:52.150
you a job because you're going to be the most
700
00:46:52.210 --> 00:46:54.949
conscientious person there is. But the point that I was
701
00:46:55.010 --> 00:46:57.760
trying to say is this. If you go into any
702
00:46:57.800 --> 00:47:00.780
kind of job and it's just a you're like a
703
00:47:01.000 --> 00:47:04.840
future entrepreneur, own your own business kind of mentality and training,
704
00:47:05.309 --> 00:47:08.050
and you become the best employee that that company has
705
00:47:08.130 --> 00:47:11.690
ever seen, you will be able to move up the
706
00:47:11.730 --> 00:47:15.289
ladder either at that company or take that experience and
707
00:47:15.349 --> 00:47:18.789
take it to somebody else. You're going to be okay. So, Johnny,
708
00:47:19.570 --> 00:47:24.519
I just want to tell you, I love being your friend.
709
00:47:25.000 --> 00:47:27.260
I love you, and I'm so glad that you and
710
00:47:27.300 --> 00:47:29.880
I are starting to hang out together. And so would
711
00:47:29.920 --> 00:47:32.059
you like to say something for about a minute or so?
712
00:47:32.099 --> 00:47:34.800
We've got exactly two minutes to go. You take a minute,
713
00:47:34.820 --> 00:47:36.400
then I'll close it out on the last minute.
714
00:47:37.719 --> 00:47:41.699
All right. Yeah, but when I mentioned you the night
715
00:47:41.760 --> 00:47:43.980
you got off the bed, I didn't mean to put
716
00:47:44.019 --> 00:47:47.219
in your conversation, but what you were talking about, you
717
00:47:47.260 --> 00:47:50.960
kind of intrigued my mind. You were like, you were
718
00:47:50.980 --> 00:47:54.280
talking about, yeah, Napoleon Hill. I'm like, you talked about
719
00:47:54.320 --> 00:47:58.070
your show. I figured your website, did a little research
720
00:47:58.090 --> 00:48:01.030
on you. You came for the moment. You worked your
721
00:48:01.070 --> 00:48:07.460
way up. And now you're dedicating yourself to help people.
722
00:48:08.760 --> 00:48:11.179
And people like me in situations, I'm able to help
723
00:48:11.380 --> 00:48:14.500
boost their, like, morale, like give them a new man
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for what you were thinking, try to stay positive. That's
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the thing. I'm very smart and intelligent, but I can't,
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my self-esteem, I need to get that spark back.
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And me and you.
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You gave me that spark.
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Johnny, I appreciate that you said that to me, and
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you've encouraged me unbelievable. And so I'm making a commitment
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to you right now, Johnny, and that commitment is that
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we're going to give you a job. You're going to
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get a job. I'm going to help you because I'm
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proud to introduce you to people because I know that
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you've got everything right. You're a man of integrity. You've
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got good values. You're trying your very best to stay
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out of trouble despite the fact that it's all around you.
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And so you are a success, Johnny. You are a success.
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And you're almost there, and I'm glad that I can
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help you. I just want to say this. Next week,
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we're going to bring Dave Richards back, and we're going
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to talk about it. exactly what Johnny and I are
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talking about. Last time Dave was on the show, we
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talked about the importance of being connected and getting that job.
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But we're going to really have a seminar next week
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on how to get that job. So thank you very much,
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and have a great week.
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Thanks for listening to Right Thinking with Steve Copeland. I
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look forward to being with you again next week. And remember,
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don't quit.
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Plan ahead.
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It will get better. God bless you and have a
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great week.