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Challenge myself to be more real and more human. I
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think in a world of AI and big tech, like humanity, authenticity,
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vulnerability are differentiators, even in the marketplace. But whether or
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not it sells anything, I think we are all craving
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for something more real, you know?
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What if the real purpose of living a healthier, longer
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life isn't simply to add more years, but to make
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the years we have truly matter? Today, I sit down
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with longtime friend, bestselling author, and Food Revolution Network co-founder
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Ocean Robbins for a deeply personal conversation about grief, resilience, love,
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and what it means to live a meaningful life. Ocean
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shares how losing his father, legendary food advocate John Robbins,
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transformed his understanding of mortality, purpose, and the legacy we
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leave behind. We explore why true resilience isn't about avoiding
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pain or shutting down in the face of suffering, but
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about keeping our hearts open even when life feels overwhelming.
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Ocean also challenges the perfectionism that often surrounds health and nutrition,
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revealing why lasting lifestyle changes are more sustainable when motivated
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by love rather than fear. From the surprising relationship between food, pleasure,
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and human connection, to the importance of community and learning
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to accept what we cannot control, this conversation invites us
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to reconsider what it means to live well, love deeply,
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and make the most of the time we're given. And
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I'm thrilled to be here today with longtime friend and colleague,
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Ocean Robbins. Welcome, Ocean.
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Thank you, Fleet. So glad to be with you.
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I really always enjoy our conversations. So I'm going to
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share your bio and then we'll jump right in. Sound good?
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Okay.
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Great. Ocean Robbins, co-founder and CEO of the million-member Food
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Revolution Network, best-selling author, speaker, and food systems advocate, is
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a leading voice for healthy and sustainable living. Ocean founded
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Youth for Environmental Safety, or YES, at the age of
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16 and directed it for 20 years. He has spoken
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in person to more than 250,000 people. and organized online
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events reaching more than a million and facilitated probably a
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couple million by now, I would think.
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Yeah, over three million, actually. That number's a little out
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of date.
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Yeah, yeah, yeah. So, yeah, which is an amazing in
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and of itself. and facilitated leadership development programs for leaders
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from 65 nations. He's also served as an adjunct professor
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at Chapman University and received honors, including the National Jefferson
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Award for Outstanding Public Service, the Freedom's Flame Award, and
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the Harmon Wilkinson Award. Ocean is the author of the
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bestsellers 31 Day Food Revolution, Real Superfoods, and Powered by Plants.
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His TEDx talk, eating our way to happiness has been
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viewed by, has been viewed more than 1 million times. Wow.
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Yeah.
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And really, um, you have created not just an organization,
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but a movement, a huge community, and really a movement
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for healthy living, plant-based living, and, and really transformation through that. And, um,
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I'm always just incredibly impressed by your work and happy
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to be part of it. So, um, You know, you
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and really all of us lost your dad over a
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year ago, I believe in June of last year, 2025.
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Your dad, John Robbins, author of Diet for a New America,
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was not only your dad, but also your partner in
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co-creating Food Revolution Network, this worldwide movement. And so I'm
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sure you've been on.
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Quite a journey over this past year and a few months,
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and you've shared that a bit. So I'm wondering if
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you'd be willing to share a little bit of that
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journey and perhaps how, you know, this loss and that
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journey has changed your understanding of how we can best
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live our lives with no regret. We'll get into the
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health and all the other aspects of it, but maybe
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we could just start there. Sure.
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Thanks for asking. So my dad was an inspiration to
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a lot of people, including me. His books about food
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and health sold millions of copies, and some people would
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say helped awaken the conscience of a nation. Diet for
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a New America came out in 1987, and really got
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a lot of people thinking about food not just as
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a health choice but also as a political choice that
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what we eat impacts the welfare of animals whether they
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live and die in factory farms or graze on pasture
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or whether we can just subsist on plants whether our
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food choices are fueling desertification and topsoil erosion and biodiversity
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loss or whether they are contributing to a more vibrant
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healthy future for humanity and so Helping people think about
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food in that way was, I think, pretty revolutionary in
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its time. And I was deeply inspired by my dad's life, work,
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and legacy in many ways and launched Food Revolution Network
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with him in 2012 to try to help bring that
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message out to a wider audience using what to him
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was a fairly novel technology known as the internet.
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And.
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We've had a good deal of success in that. I
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worked side by side with him for years, and then
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as his health was failing, he had post-polio syndrome. I
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was the CEO all along, but I became really the
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leader of Food Revolution Network as he kind of moved
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more towards the backdrop, and then in 2011, he passed away.
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There are so many dimensions to my relationship with my dad,
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and from, of course... him as my primary role model,
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the person along with my mom from whom I learned
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how to speak, so many other formative things that our
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parents provide to us, but then also his leadership in
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the world and his thought leadership and the way that
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helped shape my own worldviews. When he passed away, I
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felt as if a part of me went with him.
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And I actually had a dream a couple days before
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he died in which I was standing on the edge
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of this vast ocean, and there was this pod, a vessel,
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taking off out to sea fast. And it's hard to describe.
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It looked a little bit like a space pod or something,
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and it had eyes in every direction, so it could
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see in every direction. And it was also glass, so
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hard to describe, but I could see into it. And
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through it, I could see everything it could see. And
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it was taking off into the vast infinite. And the
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reason I'm sharing that dream is that it felt like
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an expression of something that happened, which is that as
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my dad made his transition, I felt as if I
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had a different consciousness around life, around It was theoretically
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true for me before that we are spiritual beings having
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a human experience. But now I felt so clearly that
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we are so much more than these bodies. And that
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our souls, if you will, participate in an incarnational cycle.
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We come to earth to learn certain things, to do
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certain things, to perhaps contribute in certain ways. And You know,
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one bright morning when our work is over, we're going
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to fly away home. And so then from that perspective,
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the purpose of health isn't so much to preserve eternal
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life as to give our gifts, to make our contributions.
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You know, there's an old saying, a person with their
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health has a thousand dreams. A person without it's only
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got one dream, which is to get it back. When
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we're in chronic pain, when we're in suffering, it can
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be very hard to be mobilized or to contribute or
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to learn or grow other than whatever that pain is
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teaching us. So I see my work in that light.
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Not so much I want to help people just be healthy,
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but I want to help people give their gifts and
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live their lives to the fullest. I used to really
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believe that there was this gap between what I saw
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as the way the earth was and the way it
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could be. And I wanted to make earth a little
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more like heaven, a little more beautiful, a little more loving,
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a little more sacred. I still do, of course, but
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my perspective on it has changed a bit. See, I
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used to have a lot of arguments with God about
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how messed up the world was. I really thought I
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knew better how it should be, if I'm being honest
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about it. I don't really think that anymore. And part
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of what shifted is, I think maybe this earth is
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doing exactly what it was designed to do. It's giving
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us a practice space, a classroom, if you will, for
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learning about love. Not because we're here to make it perfect,
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but we're here to grow through the imperfection in a
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way that makes us stronger. And when you're working out
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with weights, you're not just trying to get the weight
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from here to here, you're trying to grow your muscles.
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And it may be that there's muscle that we grow
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as souls through learning about love and integrity and values
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that are more critical to the human experience than just
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the product of changing the world. And at least for me,
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that's given me a sense of peace. that maybe all
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the things I don't like about the world are actually
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as it's intended to be. And so too is my response.
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My courageous, bold response is also part of what God, Creator,
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brought into this world. And therefore I get to be
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a part of healing and transformation, but not because God erred,
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but because God created all of us, including me.
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Absolutely. And I think you pointed to such an important
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spiritual truth there, one that can be confusing for people
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at times, because from a certain perspective, in any given moment,
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the world is as it is. And there's a certain
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perfection in that, and certain spiritual traditions point to the
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perfection of that. And it's there to teach us and
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the challenge that we can learn and grow from. And
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at the same time, There are many spiritual ideas and
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many great exemplars who've worked to try to change the
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world and transform the world and have it be a
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better place. And it's both and. One's maybe more of
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an ultimate one, a relative perspective, but it's both and.
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And you brought them together in such a beautiful way.
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And I know your father did as well. And I'm
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wondering what, you know, your father, despite being a leader
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in the healthy living movement and the food movement, suffered from...
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post-polio adult syndrome, is that what it's called?
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time that people have polio, they later develop post-polio syndrome,
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and it can show up often 15 to 30 years later.
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In his case, it was 60 plus years later, and
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it can be all varying levels of severity. In his case,
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it came on pretty intensely and hit him really hard,
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so He lived vibrant and strong and healthy right up
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to almost the end and then kind of went off
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a cliff. And, you know, I mean, his spirit was
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right there for it. There was an amazing equanimity to
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him as he went down that path. It was like
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he wasn't fearing death. He was actually kind of embracing
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the dissolution of the body. And he read dozens and
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dozens of books about death and near-death experiences. And, I mean,
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he was just so curious about about what was coming.
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go on that journey with him. He was sharing his
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favorite books with us and we had so many conversations.
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And I would say in the last two years of
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his life, literally every time I saw him, we talked
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about death. And so in some ways that prepared me,
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you know, and, and it shifted my, my perspective on life.
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I guess we all believe we're going to live forever
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until the day we realize we won't. And for some
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of us, that day doesn't come for quite a while. Um,
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father go through this, that literally every living thing is
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going to die. And how we relate to that really
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does shape our lives.
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Yeah, at some other time, maybe you can share that
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book list with me. I'm in Death and Dying in
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the Hospice, and I've been involved in the hospice for many,
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many years, very deeply. So I've read a lot of
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that literature. I'd be curious as to what your dad
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was reading. So up until that time, I wonder what
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your dad taught you or what you learned from your dad,
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what we could learn from your dad about making the
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best of our life, whatever time we have, right? Especially
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the second half, the later stages of life, which he
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contributed on such a high level. And then he got
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to that point where he got hit with the post-polio
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And then it sounds like, you know, there was a
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lot he taught us about how to face that as well.
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So I wonder what you learned from your dad and
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what we can learn about healthy aging, about contributing throughout
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our lifespan, especially later stages of our lifespan, and then
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dealing with challenges like he had to deal with.
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I think so much comes back to the serenity prayer.
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Grant me the serenity to accept the things I can't change,
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the courage to change the things I can and the
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wisdom to know the difference. And honestly, for a lot
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of his life, my dad's version was kind of like
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grant me the courage to change the things I can't accept.
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I mean, he really wanted to be a fighter and
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push back against status quos. And that was beautiful and
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bold and courageous and at times brought him a lot
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of suffering because his heart ached with things that were
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utterly beyond his ability to control. you know, things in
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the world that just
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to do what he could. But he cared about a
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lot of things he couldn't directly impact. And I both
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admire that about him. And I also saw how much
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he suffered with it. And so personally, I'm interested most
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of all in, you know, in finding the wisdom and
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to know the difference so that I make a difference
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with what I can and don't sweat the small stuff
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and don't focus too much on the things that, that
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I can't affect. I mean, of course I care as
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a human about things that I don't directly affect because
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I'm part of our species, right? And so I take
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an interest in what happens, but, but I want to
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put most of my attention on things that are in
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my file of control, you know, things that I get
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a say in. You know, if I'm in a, learn
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about a company that's doing some bad thing I don't like,
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I'd like to stop buying from that company and then
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move my attention elsewhere, you know, but I'm not going
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to like, just, I'd rather not live with guilt. I'd
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rather take action. Um, so my dad was always a
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man of action and he did a lot of bold
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and courageous things. Um, I respect that profoundly. And I
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think in his later life, he was learning about serenity too,
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about acceptance and, You know, we had this moment where
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he and I were having a pretty deep sharing. He
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was in a lot of pain. He said, oh, my
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legs are dying. And I'm dying with them. This was
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about two years before he actually died. And it was
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our first moment of really facing this. My first moment
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of really facing it in a deep way. So we
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were in tears together. And I was just taking in
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the reality of that. I knew he wasn't bluffing here.
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there's a dimension of consciousness from which it's all okay
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the legs the pain the dying all the pain all
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the dying everywhere and he just kind of looked at
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me and almost smirked a little and he said I'm
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glad you can see that and and then you know
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what he was really saying was like he couldn't access
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that dimension of consciousness but he genuinely did appreciate that
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I could And then I said, maybe you've suffered so
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I could have peace. Maybe you have built a trail
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through brambles with your bare hands and gotten scratched up
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along the way. And then I come along and pave it.
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ease or some opportunity because I built on, on his
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shoulders in a sense, right? And and he made a
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lot of mistakes along the way, and he suffered a lot,
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and he at times caused real harm to people he loved,
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including me. So I don't want to paint him as
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some kind of a lifelong saint, because he wasn't. And
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I also have empathy and compassion for what he struggled with,
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and what a trailblazer he was for so many people,
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including me. So I think that in some ways my
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capacity for acceptance of the world the way it is
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grows out of a certain innate peace that's partly a
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reflection of the ways that I did feel loved and
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cherished growing up.
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pretty steep cost for being in that stage of of
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whatever the transformation is, right? The early stages. Yeah. And
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I think you shared that after your dad died, you
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kind of wondered about this world you had co-created with
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him and Food Revolution Network and where, you know, whether
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that was coming to an end or, and so, you know, I,
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you're roughly probably in the second half of your life
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at this point.
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I wonder, you know, yeah, maybe at least 30% of
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the way through it, right? Yeah. I'm 52.
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Yeah, who knows, you know. I have no idea how
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old you are. You're in your 40s. I'm 52, yeah.
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Oh, you're 52, yeah. Well, yeah, maybe 30%.
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We'll see. My friend Dave Asprey talks of living to 180.
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That's pretty out there.
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A lot of people in their 30s, 40s, and 50s
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talk that way. I've noticed.
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So anyway, I'm wondering, you know, I know you have
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decided to continue, thank goodness, with this movement, Food Revolution Network,
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and your contribution to life. But I'm curious as to how,
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you know, both the process of grief you've been through
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and losing your dad and that's your relationship to healthy
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living and grief and resilience and all that, how this
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has been for you, as well as maybe how that's
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informing you as to what you want to do with
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the rest of your life.
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After my dad died, I took a solid month off,
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about five weeks. And honestly, I'd been working for 13 years,
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a good 60 hours a week most weeks. And I
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loved my work. But I couldn't conceive of... I mean,
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if I ever took a full week off, that was revolutionary.
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so much going on in our community, was grieving and processing,
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would have seemed unthinkable. But I absolutely knew that I
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needed to take the time from my own spiritual reflection
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to honor my dad, to be with my family, all
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the things. And when I came back, what was remarkable was...
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that our organization had survived and thrived while I was gone.
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Systems had been built while I was gone that enabled
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the company to continue without depending on me day to
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day in quite the same ways. And so I got
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to come back in a different way. But I also
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let go of a lot. Not only my dad, but
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I think that there's some ways that I started Food
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Revolution Network to make him proud, to support him, to
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carry on his legacy, He had done something beautiful and
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I wanted it to expand and grow in the world.
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is this meant to continue? And it occurred at a
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time when a lot of economic forces were challenging for
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online business and our organization was not immune and we
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were having, in 2025, significant drops in revenues and sales
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of all of our different products. And it was a
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clicks on emails were down and it was a tough moment.
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can we, should we continue? Like, just because something's been
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beautiful doesn't mean it should go on forever. And one
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day I was pondering this and I heard my dad's
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voice say, own it first. And I thought, oh, that's interesting.
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I've never actually owned this company on my own. We
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owned it together. So if I own it, what does
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that mean? And suddenly I realized I've got a million
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people I can write to every other day. There's a
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media engine here. I can share anything that's in my
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heart and have an enormous platform of people that trust
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me and respect me. Why would I walk away from that?
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Just because I couldn't make the metrics work? Like, figure
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it out. So, you know, so then I like have
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been on this journey of discovering how to make our
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organization sustainable. And we've come a long way since then.
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Had to make some tough choices along the way. But
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it's been a beautiful, rich journey. And I'm still exploring
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how does the messaging change? You know, one thing I
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will say, my dad was fairly cautious about being vulnerable
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or truthful even fully about some of his health challenges
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he didn't he wanted to be a icon he wanted
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to be a hero to people he didn't want them
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to see that what he where he struggled and I
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kind of want to play that differently I think that
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in this world people are crying out for authenticity and
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humanity more than for you know impervious heroes
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you know I want to be more vulnerable and more
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quirky you know I've got my own sense of humor.
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I'm just kind of leaning into that. I'm willing to
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cry on videos. I want to challenge myself to be
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more real and more human. I think in a world
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of AI and big tech, humanity, authenticity, vulnerability are differentiators,
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even in the marketplace. But whether or not it sells anything,
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I think we all are craving for something more real.
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And so That's what I'm noticing I want to bring.
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In terms of messaging, my dad was super passionate about
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making a more plant-based world. I love that. I also
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want to make sure that we're deeply rooted in scientific
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integrity in the messages that we bring out and the
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facts that we share. If something is inconvenient to our
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core like outcomes, then maybe the outcomes need to evolve,
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or maybe we just need to share some nuance. So
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those are all things that are alive in me as
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I'm exploring how to move Food Revolution 2.0, if you will,
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forward to the next era. And I know none of
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this would have been possible without John Robbins. But also
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none of it's possible without not only Ocean Robbins, but
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our team, and the whole global community that makes it possible.
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So I'm in service to that really at this point.
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start your journey today. Wow. So kind of in that light, uh, Ocean, you've,
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you've spent decades, um, bringing people together around a vision
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for a healthier, more sustainable future. And today we're, we're,
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we're focused a lot on grieving and the process of
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grief and its relationship to resilience and health and healthy living.
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So I think for a lot of people these days,
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their sense of that future is kind of, um, it
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feels like it's often shifting under our feet. You know,
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even as a young man, I was tuned into the environment,
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concerned about the environment, but I never imagined climate change
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being an existential risk in my lifetime. You know, I
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never envisioned AI as an existential risk in our lifetime, right?
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These kind of things. The level of I mean, there's
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a lot of wonderful things happening in the world. The
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news gives us a very skewed vision of what's happening
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in the world. So there's a lot of amazing things
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happening in the world, but there are real challenges and
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there's a lot of divisiveness and a lot of breakdown
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in our political systems and our culture. And so, you know,
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that can bring up a sense of grieving for people,
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a sense of, you know, I thought I knew who
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I was in the world I live in and what
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the future might look like for myself and my kids.
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And now it all seems so uncertain. So they're,
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we experience grief around not only losing our loved ones,
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but changes in our own identity, changes in our world,
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you know, any kind of really change and loss. So
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I'm wondering, you know, what that brings up for you
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and how we can become more resilient to be able
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to deal with that uncertain future and embrace the natural grieving,
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not some kind of bypassing, but be able to embrace that,
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the pain and grieving while at the same time, you know,
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sort of accepting the challenge like you have in some
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ways and find a way to move forward.
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It's my perspective that in some ways the hippies were right.
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It's all about love. That really, at a really basic level,
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I think the human purpose on this earth has a
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lot to do with how we give and receive love.
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And how does love show up through our actions? And
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sometimes through our witness. I think that even just the
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act of bearing witness to pain with an open heart,
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with love, maybe with some prayers, I think it matters.
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And sometimes we will be mobilized to take action and
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do things. There's a lot of suffering in our world
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and in our own communities. Many of us have loved
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ones who are in pain chronically or dying right now.
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Do we turn away? Or do we turn towards with
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our hearts open? And there's a difference between turning towards
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in a way that's sort of depressing and mesmerized, you know,
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people who just read bad news all day and talk
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about how terrible the world is. I don't think that's
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an open heart. I think that's cynicism. An open heart
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is quite different from a cynical heart. Um, A cynical
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heart looks for confirmation that the world sucks and then
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uses that confirmation to suffer and drag others down more
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and be proven right. An open heart meets the world
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and is willing to grieve. It's willing to take action,
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is willing to bear witness and keeps on loving. So it,
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It's really a simple question. I mean, if you're reading
483
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a news article, you're watching a YouTube video, you're talking
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to a friend about politics, check in with your heart.
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Is it open or closed? Is it getting more open
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or closed through the interaction? And do you have the
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capacity to expand your resilience to have a heart open
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regardless of what you face? And this shows up globally,
489
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but it's also super personal. If you have a child,
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a spouse, a friend who's in pain, do you turn away?
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Do you ignore them? Do you get on with your
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busy day? Do you reach out and turn towards them?
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Do you go on with your life but think about
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them with genuine love? We talk about thoughts and prayers
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all the time, but do we really mean it? And
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I think that there's a world of difference between hallmark
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hard thoughts and prayers and the real thing. Like you
498
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actually sit in meditation. You actually visualize your loved one well.
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You actually let their tears flow as you feel their suffering. Like,
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are we willing to have that sensation? You know, I've
501
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spent time working with young leaders all over the world.
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In my previous era, I ran a nonprofit called I
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worked with young people living in war zones, including in Israel,
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who were having to, you know, a young woman who
505
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had lost family members to terrorist violence, talking about the
506
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pain and the fear she was living in. A Palestinian
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young woman in the West Bank who had lost, whose
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house had been hit by bombs and flying trap nails
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seven times. Her boyfriend was killed in the violence and
510
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she'd been shot. She was a journalist. She'd been shot
511
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with a microphone in hand while trying to cover tanks
512
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in the streets. they became best friends, by the way,
513
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because they both knew about pain, fear, and loss, and
514
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they shared their stories, and they knew what it was
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like to live in terror and violence,
and they both
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wanted something better for their kids. And seeing their friendship
517
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and seeing their stories was really moving for me, and
518
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I also felt so impotent, like I couldn't solve the problems.
519
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So part of me really wanted to turn away and
520
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think it can't be that bad. They're over-dramatizing. But then
521
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I realized, like, it was a real question. Was my
522
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heart going to get big enough to hold this or
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smaller and shrink away? And I decided I just had
524
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to let it get bigger. Let it hold it even
525
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though I couldn't fix it. And I think we get
526
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those choices all the time. And, you know, that saying
527
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from the prophet, the deeper that sorrow is carved into
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the canyon of your heart, the more joy it can contain.
529
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I think it's true. So are we willing to let
530
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the canyon of our heart get carved deeper, even when
531
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it hurts?
532
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I would imagine you're very, as you were speaking, Joanna
533
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Macy came to mind. I would imagine you're very familiar
534
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with her work.
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She officiated at our wedding when my wife and I
536
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were married.
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Oh, I didn't realize that connection. That's beautiful. Yeah, so
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she focused a lot on the existential risk of nuclear
539
00:34:24.500 --> 00:34:27.719
war and nuclear waste, even from nuclear energy, from peaceful
540
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nuclear energy. We still have the issue of all this
541
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nuclear waste all over the place. And a lot of
542
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her work was seeing how transformation was really on the
543
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other side of both bearing witness and grieving. And she
544
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had that process, the counsel of all beings. And so
545
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she was really very much that we have to be
546
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willing to bear witness to things as they are, be
547
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willing to go through the grief that any insight and
548
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wisdom about where we need to go, a real transformation
549
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is going to arise on the other side of that,
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not by avoiding it. So, yeah, that really came up
551
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as I was listening to you. So
what you're describing... disability,
552
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you know, things get so challenging, it's not hard to
553
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get kind of pushed back on our heels, whether it's
554
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what's happening in the world or in our personal lives,
555
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or the intersection between all that, whatever histories of trauma
556
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we may each have. It's easy to kind of get
557
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pushed back on our heels and just go into coping mode, right? And,
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you know, that's completely understandable. We want to have a
559
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lot of compassion for ourselves and others when that's what's happening.
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But somehow we need to find our way back onto
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the balls of our feet to engage life, to move forward.
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And what you're describing actually requires a lot of different things,
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but on a physical level, it requires a certain level
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of vitality and resilience and energy to be able to
565
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do that. So I wonder if you could connect that
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you know, what Food Revolution Network's all about, about healthy
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living and, you know, healthy diet and food and healthy
568
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life practices and our ability to face an ever more
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challenging world with our hearts open.
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Absolutely. I mean, it all comes back to, like, how
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do you cultivate resilience? A lot of it is very biological.
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I mean, if you're in pain... It's a lot harder
573
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to be resilient. If you're in chronic inflammation, it's hard
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to immobilize an immune response to a new attack. And
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a lot of us are in pain. So I don't
576
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mean to say if you're in pain or suffering that
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you're doomed. I want to say, like, have so much
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compassion for yourself. Realize that it's a lot harder with
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that suffering. And then do what you can to make
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less of it. Because there's these positive feedback loops that
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can unfold. You know, when you eat better, you're likely
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to lose excess weight, which makes it easier to exercise
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because you've got less weight to carry, which then has
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benefits to your sleep, which in turn will impact how
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you feel and how smart you are and how resourceful
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you are in responding to challenges and probably, enable you
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to create healthier relationships, which will create more love in
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your life, which in turn will help you feel better
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about yourself, which in turn will help you eat better.
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00:37:30.489 --> 00:37:34.909
So all of these things intersect. And so the pillars
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of lifestyle medicine are eat better, stress less, love more,
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and move more. And all of these things are critical.
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And they all interweave. And so I'm really interested in
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helping people get positive momentum that creates positive feedback loops,
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that grow and build over time. We've got all these
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fad diets, and a lot of times I think they
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fail partly because they're based in reactivity and fear, whereas
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I think a more sustainable fuel source is love. If
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you are moving from love for yourself, your cells are
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going to get that, and you're far more likely to
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sustain something You know, pain pushes and vision pulls, so
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a lot of people are motivated to make big changes
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in their diet or lifestyle by suffering their pain. But
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I've seen so many people who successfully reversed diabetes, reversed
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heart disease, got off a bunch of drugs, lost a
606
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bunch of weight with diet, and then, after a little while,
607
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they slipped right back again.
608
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Why?
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Because we live in a toxic food culture today. And
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because they didn't know how to make the pivot from
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being pushed by pain to being pulled by love. So
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I think that to be truly sustainable, you need a
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fuel source rooted in your vision and what you're going towards,
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not just what you're trying to get away from. Now,
615
00:39:01.920 --> 00:39:04.380
running away from a tiger can be a great motivator
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for running really fast and paying a lot of attention.
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But if you spend your life running away from tigers,
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you're probably not going to get anywhere worth going to.
619
00:39:17.659 --> 00:39:19.820
So that points to
a distinction I know you've made
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in the past between nourishment and perfection. And, you know,
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so often I think when we get information about how
622
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we could do better, live better, eat better, all these
623
00:39:28.750 --> 00:39:32.579
things become... of our conditioning, we tend to internalize that
624
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as shoulds. And then it becomes another way we beat
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up on ourselves or strive for perfection, which is really
626
00:39:39.010 --> 00:39:41.309
counterproductive to what we're trying to do in the first place.
627
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Could you repeat those four things you said before?
628
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You said, I think you said, Eat better, stress less,
629
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love more, and move more. And if we want to
630
00:39:50.739 --> 00:39:53.679
add two more, it's avoid risky substances and sleep better.
631
00:39:53.699 --> 00:39:57.760
Yeah, great. So how do we do that in a
632
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way that really is grounded in self-compassion and is actually
633
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nourishing rather than turning it into another project and another should?
634
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And I got to somehow... whip myself into doing this
635
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right and exceeding at it. And, you know, it's so,
636
00:40:13.369 --> 00:40:15.929
because we have so much that conditioning in our society
637
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and in ourselves from our childhoods. I mean, you grew
638
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up in a hippie household out in the mountains, so
639
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you may not be the best before and after case
640
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for us to look at, but a lot of us
641
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didn't grow up in that world. And so, you know,
642
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we get this information and it just turns into another
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should and another project and another form of stress.
644
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Absolutely. I mean, To paraphrase Mark Bronstein, the person who
645
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eats beer and franks with cheer and thanks will probably
646
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be healthier in the long run than the person who
647
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eats sprouts and bread with doubts and dread. And there's
648
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fascinating research on ice cream. My grandpa started Baskin Robbins.
649
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My dad followed his own rocky road, took a very
650
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different path. I do not consider ice cream a health food.
651
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But recently I was writing an article on... plant-based ice
652
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creams that are sugar-free and recipes. And I tried to
653
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look up, you know, why is ice... I wanted to
654
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have a scintillating paragraph about how terrible ice cream was
655
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for our health. I didn't think it would be hard
656
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to find the research to back it up, but I couldn't.
657
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I discovered something called the ice cream paradox. Harvard researchers
658
00:41:30.710 --> 00:41:36.010
have pored over studies, and it seems that... that ice
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cream is actually associated with a neutral or even slightly
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positive effect on type 2 diabetes risk and a neutral
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effect or even slightly positive on cardiovascular disease risk. And
662
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it performs better, by the way, than dairy products in general,
663
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like significantly. So how is that possible, that taking dairy
664
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and adding, which is high in saturated fat, and then
665
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adding sugar to it and flavorings, is going to turn
666
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into something that has potentially health benefits. There's no easy
667
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way to explain this, but I think there's a couple
668
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of factors and actually there's a lot to it. We
669
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could get into a whole academic research discussion here. It's
670
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easy to lie with statistics, even if you don't mean to,
671
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instead of what is the big factor. So if somebody
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is eating ice cream, they may not be eating donuts.
673
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Maybe ice cream is healthier than donuts. It's certainly lower
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on the glycemic index. But I'm just using that as
675
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an example, right? But there is something else going on here.
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I think that out of all the desserts that we
677
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tend to eat, ice cream is one that is eaten
678
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more slowly because it's cold and therefore savored more. It
679
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probably has more pleasure bang for the buck than just
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about any other sweet out there. And it's associated with celebrations,
681
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with social connection, with little league wins, with parties, with birthdays,
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with going out together with a friend, going out on dates,
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all sorts of fun things. And I think that pleasure
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and loving human connection are really good for our health.
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So I'm not going to assert that ice cream is
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itself a health food. I am going to assert that love, pleasure, connection...
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our healthy practices may be enough so to outweigh the
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negative effects of a little drunk food here or there. So,
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you know, when I talk about a food revolution, I
690
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want to be really clear. You don't have to sign
691
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a purity pact. You don't have to open your kitchen
692
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to regular inspections from the food police to look at
693
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how you can bring your food choices into integrity with
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your values. And I'm going to assert that one of
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those values should be love. One of those values should
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be pleasure. And can you learn to love foods that
697
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love you back? Can you learn to share healthy foods
698
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with loved ones in ways that uplift everybody's sense of
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social connection? If you can do that, I think you
700
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get a win-win.
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Yeah, as you were speaking about ice cream, as you
702
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brought that up, I was saying I enjoy a little
703
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coconut ice cream every now and then.
704
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It's a treat.
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It's not very frequent, but But what came up for
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me is it's associated with joy. You know? I mean,
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do you ever see anybody eat ice cream with a
708
00:44:32.739 --> 00:44:34.570
frown on their face? Right?
709
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No. I mean, I think there are some people who
710
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will down a pint or two while binge-watching, doing scrolling
711
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on Facebook late at night. There is that.
712
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There is that. Yes, there is that.
713
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But in general, one cone is probably linked to a
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lot of joy and pleasure, you know, for a lot
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of people. Yeah. How do we cultivate that? Now, I
716
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think we don't have to choose between, you know, joy
717
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and with junk food and like doubts and dread with
718
00:45:02.849 --> 00:45:06.510
sprouts and bread. Like, why don't we learn to actually
719
00:45:06.550 --> 00:45:08.769
have as much joy and pleasure as possible with things
720
00:45:08.789 --> 00:45:12.500
that are also nourishing for ourselves and help us have
721
00:45:12.539 --> 00:45:16.619
better blood flow and better blood sugar balance and better
722
00:45:16.679 --> 00:45:20.219
metabolic health? There are certain foods that are clearly healthy.
723
00:45:20.760 --> 00:45:23.659
linked to better health outcomes. And, you know, most of
724
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them aren't high in saturated fat and sugar, but let's
725
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not forget about the value of peace, joy, and connection.
726
00:45:34.369 --> 00:45:36.369
Yeah. Could I get that same smile to come on
727
00:45:36.409 --> 00:45:38.369
my face with kale that I can with an ice
728
00:45:38.789 --> 00:45:40.630
cream cone?
729
00:45:41.409 --> 00:45:44.230
Well, just remember this. My parents almost named me kale
730
00:45:46.389 --> 00:45:49.329
way before kale was cool. Maybe that'll make you smile
731
00:45:49.349 --> 00:45:50.070
when you think about it.
732
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It will. So, um, you know, I'm sure you're familiar
733
00:45:55.090 --> 00:45:57.269
with Robert Walden. He's a friend and colleague of mine.
734
00:45:57.289 --> 00:45:59.800
He's also a Zen teacher like myself, and he happens
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to lead the Harvard study of adult development. He's the
736
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fourth director of the longest longitudinal study of health development
737
00:46:07.960 --> 00:46:11.860
of adult development. That's at Harvard started with a group of, uh,
738
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male underclassmen, a very patriarchal world over 90 years ago.
739
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And then a group of, um, young men from a
740
00:46:18.929 --> 00:46:22.349
very poor neighborhood in Boston and following them for over
741
00:46:22.349 --> 00:46:24.050
90 years. Most of them, I think a few are
742
00:46:24.090 --> 00:46:27.230
still alive, but eventually they started tracking the spouses and
743
00:46:27.250 --> 00:46:30.050
the children as well. So they enlarged the study. But
744
00:46:30.090 --> 00:46:34.909
that study demonstrates that bar none, the leading contributor to
745
00:46:34.969 --> 00:46:39.389
longevity and health span is the health of our relationships,
746
00:46:40.210 --> 00:46:42.710
quality relationships. And they don't have to be perfect. it
747
00:46:42.730 --> 00:46:44.630
can be, you know, there can be a little bit
748
00:46:44.670 --> 00:46:46.510
of bickering in this or that, but you know that
749
00:46:46.550 --> 00:46:48.960
there's somebody that has your back and you have their back.
750
00:46:49.019 --> 00:46:53.219
The existence of this, you know, the sense of connectedness
751
00:46:53.280 --> 00:46:55.360
in our life. And I know a big part of
752
00:46:55.400 --> 00:46:58.800
your movement at Food Revolution Network has really been about community.
753
00:46:59.469 --> 00:47:01.809
So I wonder if you could talk about the community
754
00:47:01.949 --> 00:47:06.150
aspect of this and perhaps how even community has played
755
00:47:06.190 --> 00:47:09.550
a role in your own grieving and loss process over
756
00:47:09.590 -->
00:47:13.590
the last number of months. And, uh, and how you
757
00:47:13.610 --> 00:47:19.570
see community contributing to the world we all aspire to
758
00:47:19.650 --> 00:47:22.110
and to that same resilience we were just talking about.
759
00:47:23.510 --> 00:47:27.460
There's an old saying that among friends, sorrow shared is
760
00:47:27.559 --> 00:47:34.599
halved and joy shared is doubled. That we can make
761
00:47:34.639 --> 00:47:40.519
each other's burdens lighter and each other's celebrations more vast.
762
00:47:42.920 --> 00:47:46.699
I think it's true. And I think we do get
763
00:47:46.739 --> 00:47:49.070
by with a little help from our friends, sometimes a
764
00:47:49.110 --> 00:47:53.550
lot of help from our friends. And one thing that's
765
00:47:53.590 --> 00:47:56.869
been really clear to me since my dad passed in
766
00:47:56.909 --> 00:48:01.150
particular is how critically important our web of relationships is.
767
00:48:02.829 --> 00:48:05.730
And every day of our lives, we're either building it
768
00:48:05.889 --> 00:48:12.539
or shredding it. Now, there are some people that probably
769
00:48:13.070 --> 00:48:15.710
don't deserve a central starring role in our life story.
770
00:48:17.809 --> 00:48:22.550
Like being able to disengage from unhealthy relationships is as
771
00:48:22.610 --> 00:48:28.210
important as being able to reach for healthy ones. But
772
00:48:28.250 --> 00:48:31.510
there are moments when being able to work through something
773
00:48:32.469 --> 00:48:39.190
builds a friendship, builds a partnership. My wife and I
774
00:48:39.210 --> 00:48:43.710
have had more tough conversations than any two people than
775
00:48:43.769 --> 00:48:49.190
anyone else in my life. And, um, somehow each time
776
00:48:49.230 --> 00:48:51.469
we go through a tough spot and we come out
777
00:48:51.510 --> 00:48:54.630
the other side more connected and, and with more, it
778
00:48:54.670 --> 00:48:58.329
builds more trust, you know, it builds more kinship and
779
00:48:58.369 --> 00:49:01.469
what builds more sense of belonging. And that's another part
780
00:49:01.489 --> 00:49:04.159
of resilience is having a web of relationships that we
781
00:49:04.199 --> 00:49:07.179
can fall into that people that will catch us, people
782
00:49:07.219 --> 00:49:12.739
that will give us honest feedback, tell us the truth. Um,
783
00:49:13.840 --> 00:49:17.269
and that will take us to the doctor's office when
784
00:49:17.289 --> 00:49:22.150
we're sick, that will, um, help us not need to
785
00:49:22.170 --> 00:49:25.210
go to the hospital because they can take care of
786
00:49:25.269 --> 00:49:28.349
us at home. Like all the things that loved ones
787
00:49:28.389 --> 00:49:31.409
do for each other that can make such a difference
788
00:49:31.469 --> 00:49:35.550
in moments of need and vulnerability. So I want friends
789
00:49:35.610 --> 00:49:39.309
that are comfortable with my tears, that are comfortable with
790
00:49:39.349 --> 00:49:46.539
my laughter, And that encourage my positive choices and habits.
791
00:49:47.679 --> 00:49:49.260
I want friends that are willing to tell the truth,
792
00:49:50.159 --> 00:49:54.019
that are willing to take risks and be vulnerable, and
793
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that love me. I live in a small eco-village community,
794
00:49:58.610 --> 00:50:00.670
so my wife and I started this, and there's about
795
00:50:00.670 --> 00:50:03.469
15 of us now living as best we can in
796
00:50:03.510 --> 00:50:05.369
a good way, in a good place with good people.
797
00:50:06.269 --> 00:50:10.420
Growing a big permaculture garden and orchard and now 10
798
00:50:10.420 --> 00:50:13.590
avocado trees coming along. There's a lot of guacamole in
799
00:50:13.619 --> 00:50:19.309
our future and composting and, you know, having human who
800
00:50:19.349 --> 00:50:23.199
are buckets. We're trying to, trying to live in the,
801
00:50:23.329 --> 00:50:26.309
in right relation with the earth. We're solar powered and,
802
00:50:27.389 --> 00:50:30.230
you know, we're not, we're not survivalists. We're just trying
803
00:50:30.269 --> 00:50:32.190
to live in this world in a good way. Um,
804
00:50:33.869 --> 00:50:37.480
and it's beautiful to come home after a long day
805
00:50:37.539 --> 00:50:40.340
of work, trying to change the world and live with
806
00:50:40.400 --> 00:50:43.519
people in a world that is somehow a little bit
807
00:50:43.559 --> 00:50:48.139
closer to that change we're working towards. And I love
808
00:50:48.380 --> 00:50:50.789
the love that we share. I love camaraderie of sharing
809
00:50:50.849 --> 00:50:53.630
meals and always having someone to pick me up at
810
00:50:53.650 --> 00:50:59.329
the airport and sharing washing machines and, you know, electric
811
00:50:59.369 --> 00:51:03.579
cars and just being able to to do things cooperatively.
812
00:51:03.619 --> 00:51:06.000
I think the nuclear family is, for many of us,
813
00:51:06.039 --> 00:51:11.300
a really lonely affair. And so more and more we're discovering,
814
00:51:11.340 --> 00:51:13.059
I think, how much we need each other to feel
815
00:51:13.099 --> 00:51:13.900
truly resilient.
816
00:51:15.920 --> 00:51:18.659
Yeah, that's really, it's beautiful you're doing that. Many of
817
00:51:18.719 --> 00:51:22.289
my contemporaries engaged in similar pursuits back in the 60s
818
00:51:22.369 --> 00:51:25.489
and 70s. And I have dear friends here, and we
819
00:51:25.530 --> 00:51:27.849
live in western Massachusetts now, and I have some dear
820
00:51:27.889 --> 00:51:31.170
friends a little further up in the Berkshires. And they
821
00:51:31.190 --> 00:51:33.690
created a community like that way back in the 70s
822
00:51:33.849 --> 00:51:37.389
and everything you were just talking about. And unfortunately, with
823
00:51:37.409 --> 00:51:41.510
the vicissitudes of life and people getting older, it's, you know,
824
00:51:41.570 --> 00:51:44.929
the communal aspect of it is lessened a little bit
825
00:51:45.030 --> 00:51:47.949
and more of a co-housing thing. And, you know, just
826
00:51:47.989 --> 00:51:50.429
because they've all gotten quite old, but it's great to
827
00:51:50.469 --> 00:51:56.480
see there's generation after generation exploring these ways of being. And,
828
00:51:57.000 --> 00:52:00.869
you know, we're hearing from social researchers today that there's
829
00:52:00.909 --> 00:52:05.449
an end, you know, that loneliness is becoming endemic and isolation.
830
00:52:05.570 --> 00:52:09.000
And the research says that on average, people have fewer
831
00:52:09.039 --> 00:52:14.360
and fewer close friends and best friends. And, you know,
832
00:52:14.400 --> 00:52:17.659
so I think it's a really serious social issue. And
833
00:52:17.679 --> 00:52:20.780
we're raising a young generation that perhaps because of social
834
00:52:20.800 --> 00:52:24.329
media has fewer social skills and ability to create those
835
00:52:24.389 --> 00:52:28.349
lasting relationships. So this just seems to be a really
836
00:52:28.409 --> 00:52:31.610
important thing for us to focus on and great to
837
00:52:31.670 --> 00:52:37.389
focus on it around, like in your case, healthy living,
838
00:52:37.489 --> 00:52:41.619
plant-based eating, food, right? You're creating a huge community around that,
839
00:52:41.679 --> 00:52:45.940
no shared values. At HeartMind, we're very similar, a little
840
00:52:45.980 --> 00:52:50.000
just broader on global transformation in various dimensions, but very
841
00:52:50.059 --> 00:52:55.300
similar ethic and focus and So I really encourage people,
842
00:52:55.340 --> 00:52:59.280
if you're feeling lonely, join Food Revolution Network, join HeartMiner,
843
00:52:59.300 --> 00:53:02.860
join both, or find communities that you can be part
844
00:53:02.900 --> 00:53:05.639
of in that way. I'd like to, with the time left,
845
00:53:05.699 --> 00:53:11.309
we have Ocean. We touched on this before a little bit,
846
00:53:11.329 --> 00:53:14.250
but I just think it's so important. It kind of
847
00:53:14.289 --> 00:53:19.760
weaves together all these different aspects of dealing with life's challenges, resilience,
848
00:53:20.260 --> 00:53:23.179
being willing to grieve, to keep our hearts open instead
849
00:53:23.199 --> 00:53:28.199
of getting into that closed-heart cynicism and negativity, and being
850
00:53:28.460 --> 00:53:31.630
able to, you know, coming back to what you brought up,
851
00:53:31.659 --> 00:53:35.949
the serenity prayer before. So, you know, I mean, things
852
00:53:36.090 --> 00:53:40.510
are daunting now in many ways, and there is a
853
00:53:40.550 --> 00:53:44.809
lot of loneliness and uncertainty, and the pace of change
854
00:53:44.869 --> 00:53:48.849
seems to be accelerating rapidly. And so it seems all
855
00:53:48.909 --> 00:53:52.210
the more important to have good friends, to have family,
856
00:53:52.230 --> 00:53:57.320
to have community, to have connections, and to be able
857
00:53:57.380 --> 00:54:02.619
to take action in a way that, you know, kind
858
00:54:02.639 --> 00:54:05.219
of from that perspective of the serenity prayer, that we
859
00:54:05.260 --> 00:54:08.500
don't give up, and yet we're not out there, you know,
860
00:54:08.619 --> 00:54:12.820
tilting at windmills and exhausting ourselves either, but find that
861
00:54:12.900 --> 00:54:15.559
way in a healthy way to stay engaged in the world,
862
00:54:15.619 --> 00:54:19.530
to try to keep working together, to try to create
863
00:54:19.550 --> 00:54:21.170
the world that we want to hand over to our
864
00:54:21.389 --> 00:54:23.909
children and grandchildren and so forth. So I wonder if
865
00:54:23.929 --> 00:54:25.789
you could just talk a little bit more about maybe
866
00:54:25.809 --> 00:54:28.110
on a personal level, how you do that, how you
867
00:54:28.150 --> 00:54:29.949
keep your head in the game, your body, your heart
868
00:54:29.989 --> 00:54:35.679
in the game, and imagine a future we can step into.
869
00:54:39.619 --> 00:54:44.469
Well, on a personal level, I really do orient around
870
00:54:44.550 --> 00:54:52.269
love as the central organizing principle of my life. In
871
00:54:52.309 --> 00:54:55.750
other words, I want to ask with every action, will
872
00:54:55.769 --> 00:54:59.929
this contribute to more or less love in me and
873
00:54:59.989 --> 00:55:06.170
in my world? And love for me, love for my
874
00:55:06.230 --> 00:55:13.429
loved ones, love for my planet. And I find that,
875
00:55:15.489 --> 00:55:19.980
for me at least, being a human on Earth in
876
00:55:20.019 --> 00:55:23.389
a body There's a lot of wisdom in this body.
877
00:55:24.570 --> 00:55:28.730
And my mind can think it's in charge, can try
878
00:55:28.750 --> 00:55:34.809
to shape the world to my will, can think, recycle
879
00:55:34.849 --> 00:55:37.989
thoughts over and over and over again, each with slightly
880
00:55:38.030 --> 00:55:42.489
different packaging to seduce itself into thinking that it's original.
881
00:55:44.130 --> 00:55:46.329
But my body is sort of here in real time,
882
00:55:47.889 --> 00:55:51.280
all the time. So I do a lot of body
883
00:55:51.320 --> 00:55:57.860
scanning where I'm looking for sensation. And I don't make
884
00:55:57.900 --> 00:56:00.079
it wrong. If there's some tightness in my gut, I
885
00:56:00.119 --> 00:56:03.119
don't think, oh, what's wrong with me? I get curious.
886
00:56:04.969 --> 00:56:07.829
What's happening here? And it's amazing how things become more
887
00:56:07.849 --> 00:56:11.530
beautiful when we love them. They become a better version
888
00:56:11.570 --> 00:56:14.789
of themselves. We know this in internal family systems where
889
00:56:15.309 --> 00:56:18.309
when you love a part... the part that's been doing
890
00:56:18.349 --> 00:56:20.389
the same thing for a very long time that other
891
00:56:20.429 --> 00:56:24.349
parts
might be judging as being very dysfunctional can actually
892
00:56:24.449 --> 00:56:26.730
open and you suddenly realize, oh, you're just trying to
893
00:56:26.769 --> 00:56:30.300
help in the way that you know how. Thank you.
894
00:56:31.380 --> 00:56:33.619
And then in the presence of that feel, that part
895
00:56:34.079 --> 00:56:39.880
softens and sometimes can reassign. Sensations to me are similar.
896
00:56:39.920 --> 00:56:42.539
There might be a tightness in my gut and I think, oh,
897
00:56:42.579 --> 00:56:45.960
what's wrong? Why am I And then I listen and
898
00:56:45.980 --> 00:56:49.280
I get curious and often it just softens and there's
899
00:56:49.320 --> 00:56:52.179
this rush of energy that becomes available to me. But
900
00:56:52.219 --> 00:56:55.840
also sometimes there's a certain wisdom. Like I may be
901
00:56:56.179 --> 00:56:58.920
about to send a charged or complicated email and I
902
00:56:58.960 --> 00:57:04.610
will scan it after writing it while listening for my
903
00:57:04.929 --> 00:57:08.929
gut's response. And there might be one spot where I
904
00:57:08.989 --> 00:57:11.230
notice a little tightness. And then I just hone in
905
00:57:11.269 --> 00:57:12.929
on that and I realize, oh, that sentence is off.
906
00:57:13.929 --> 00:57:17.130
I change it and then that tightness disappears. So this
907
00:57:17.210 --> 00:57:19.809
is just kind of my own little process, if you will.
908
00:57:19.909 --> 00:57:23.610
But I'm constantly looking for feedback loops for my own
909
00:57:23.679 --> 00:57:26.320
body sensation. And they have so much wisdom for me
910
00:57:26.360 --> 00:57:28.760
that my mind can be a student of at best.
911
00:57:30.039 --> 00:57:33.679
It can't define or shape or certainly fully understand.
912
00:57:33.699 --> 00:57:36.579
That's beautiful. I was about to ask you.
913
00:57:36.599 --> 00:57:38.199
I find that really enriching.
914
00:57:38.219 --> 00:57:39.289
Mm-hmm.
915
00:57:41.050 --> 00:57:41.969
Yeah, I was about to ask.
916
00:57:41.849 --> 00:57:45.389
You if you had a go-to practice that you could offer.
917
00:57:45.409 --> 00:57:50.469
And I think that practice of scanning embodiment and trusting
918
00:57:50.510 --> 00:57:53.190
the wisdom of the body, wow, that's such a powerful
919
00:57:53.230 --> 00:57:54.090
practice to offer.
920
00:57:54.269 --> 00:57:58.309
Yeah, and the other big one is breathing. And there's
921
00:57:58.349 --> 00:58:01.849
research on this. I mean, box breathing or so many
922
00:58:01.889 --> 00:58:06.409
different forms where you're intentional, you're deep, you're slow, and
923
00:58:06.429 --> 00:58:11.840
you're tracking, right? And just that can change us. our
924
00:58:11.889 --> 00:58:18.210
nervous system radically from reaction to presence. Sometimes in as
925
00:58:18.250 --> 00:58:22.489
little as 30 seconds or a minute. So I have
926
00:58:22.530 --> 00:58:25.760
a lot of little, I guess you could say, meditation
927
00:58:25.820 --> 00:58:31.519
snacks that bring me back to self and presence woven
928
00:58:31.539 --> 00:58:35.110
through my days. And then the other one is dancing. Like,
929
00:58:35.489 --> 00:58:37.829
I just love to dance. And so sometimes I just
930
00:58:37.869 --> 00:58:40.980
put on a song And just dance. And it's like
931
00:58:41.179 --> 00:58:44.300
life to me isn't just about survival. It's also about ecstasy.
932
00:58:45.059 --> 00:58:47.900
And dancing is my, like one of my favorite paths
933
00:58:47.940 --> 00:58:48.559
to ecstasy.
934
00:58:49.440 --> 00:58:52.480
That's so great. That's so great. Yeah, really a through
935
00:58:52.519 --> 00:58:54.760
line to our work at HeartMind is really coming home
936
00:58:54.840 --> 00:58:59.489
to the body. And then recognizing that we can state shift.
937
00:58:59.570 --> 00:59:01.590
If we're in a state that's not really serving us
938
00:59:01.690 --> 00:59:03.710
at the moment, we can shift our state. And dancing
939
00:59:03.750 --> 00:59:07.130
is one of the most powerful state shift practices there is, right?
940
00:59:07.610 --> 00:59:09.730
It's hard, just like eating ice cream, it's hard unless
941
00:59:09.750 --> 00:59:13.699
you're you know really doing a late night um self-destructive
942
00:59:13.739 --> 00:59:16.159
thing but if you're just enjoying the the ice cream
943
00:59:16.199 --> 00:59:18.300
cone with family and friends you know it's hard you
944
00:59:18.460 --> 00:59:20.699
rarely see somebody doing that with a frown you almost
945
00:59:20.739 --> 00:59:22.940
never see anybody dancing with a frown either.
946
00:59:22.739 --> 00:59:26.159
Right no unless it's part of what you can dance
947
00:59:26.219 --> 00:59:28.300
like you know sometimes it's actually fun to dance out
948
00:59:28.340 --> 00:59:31.679
a character you know like cranky just try it sometime
949
00:59:31.900 --> 00:59:33.900
you might find it incredibly fun.
950
00:59:35.519 --> 00:59:42.119
Shadow dancing yeah Oh, cool. Well, this has been really enriching, Ocean,
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and thank you so much for your work. Many thanks
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and honor to your father for his many, many decades
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of service to our world. And thank you for deciding
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to continue the work of Food Revolution Network and all
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you bring to the world.
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Well, Fleet, it's been a joy to share this time
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with you. And for everybody watching, thank you for your
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your curiosity, your presence and your attention in this conversation.
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I hope it's been of some value to you and
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that you're able to use whatever you've gotten from this
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in ways that make your life better and hopefully help
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some other people's lives get better too.
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Wonderful. So where can people find out more about Food
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Revolution Network and your work?
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Yeah, go to foodrevolution.org. We've got hundreds of articles and
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recipes and resources for free right on our website. We
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have summits and masterclasses and courses and films and a
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membership community we call Whole Life Club and a coaching certificate.
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If you're interested in being a leader in the nutrition
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and lifestyle movement and gaining skills to coach and understanding
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behavior change and building a really powerful community with kindred spirits,
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consider joining our coaching certificate. It's a really sweet community there.
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And thanks so much for being a part of the
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Food Revolution. Every time you choose real food over processed junk,
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every time you choose love over cynicism, you're with us.
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Thank you for that.
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OceanRobbinsFoodRevolution.org. Thank you so much. And yeah, just a blessing
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to share this with you. So thank you. And thank
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you to everybody. Thank you for joining me on the
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Radical Responsibility Podcast. Remember, real change happens when we commit
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to our growth, face our challenges with compassion, and stay
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open to transformation. If you found this episode helpful, I
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encourage you to subscribe and help us spread the message
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of healing and personal empowerment. Until next time, stay grounded,
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stay present, and stay true to yourself. Take care.