התמלול המלא של Why You Can’t Change - Until You Learn About the Quantum Gap

00:06:22.720 --> 00:06:28.639 To change your circumstances, you must understand what creates your state. 00:06:28.959 --> 00:06:36.399 Because your state comes from your nervous system, your brain, your emotional body. 00:06:36.959 --> 00:06:43.519 And a lot of your emotional body is connected to your brain and your nervous system. 00:06:44.079 --> 00:06:56.399 And also your identity architecture, who you believe you are right now, what you think is possible for you right now, your belief grid, your internal energy economy. 00:06:56.560 --> 00:07:03.199 Like how much energy are you spending maybe on somebody else trying to make them happy? 00:07:03.519 --> 00:07:08.399 Do you have enough energy for yourself to make that quantum leap? 00:07:08.720 --> 00:07:19.360 Most of the spiritual community talks about quantum leaps like their magic, but identity evolution, the real kind, is deeply biological. 00:07:19.839 --> 00:07:23.279 You don't leap because you visualize harder. 00:07:23.680 --> 00:07:30.240 You leap because your system becomes unavailable for your old identity. 00:07:31.600 --> 00:07:39.839 You leap because your system can hold the energy of a new identity. 00:07:40.319 --> 00:07:47.040 Your energy changes, your decisions shift, and your actions then align. 00:07:47.519 --> 00:07:51.360 The shift has a name, it's the quantum gap. 00:07:51.680 --> 00:07:55.600 And let's talk about this gap because this is really important. 00:07:56.079 --> 00:07:59.839 Because this is where the transformation actually happens. 00:08:00.160 --> 00:08:06.319 Transformation doesn't happen in the story that we tell ourselves, like I had a really bad life. 00:08:06.639 --> 00:08:08.959 It happens in the space. 00:08:09.759 --> 00:08:17.120 There's a microsecond, a biological pause between a trigger and your response. 00:08:17.439 --> 00:08:22.319 When someone's trying to upset you, there's a space between that. 00:08:22.800 --> 00:08:32.240 And what we want to do is create that space to be bigger and bigger, so that you can have more choice in how you respond. 00:08:33.759 --> 00:08:44.240 If you have trauma, that trigger becomes shorter, where you don't have space to be able to respond in the way that you want to. 00:08:55.440 --> 00:09:03.279 Someone does something, then you think, oh well, that's bad, what they did, and then you might think, oh, it must mean that I'm not good enough. 00:09:03.519 --> 00:09:05.279 They don't love me enough. 00:09:06.080 --> 00:09:20.639 Or the fear and the choice you make, whether you choose love over fear, whether you choose to have the courage to walk through the door of love rather than be fearful. 00:09:21.120 --> 00:09:27.200 The old identity and the new identity that's emerging for you. 00:09:27.919 --> 00:09:34.159 This microsecond is a moment where the field of possibilities open up for you. 00:09:34.399 --> 00:09:44.639 And in neuroscience we call this the synaptic pause or the pre-frontal override window or the introsceptive shift moment. 00:09:45.200 --> 00:09:51.679 It's a part where you can then access your what's going on inside of you. 00:09:51.840 --> 00:09:54.240 It's like a self-awareness. 00:09:54.799 --> 00:10:06.960 In the human evolution architecture, I call it the quantum gap, the micro moment where identity becomes something you can edit. 00:10:07.679 --> 00:10:25.679 In this gap, your old pattern loses dominance, and a new pattern becomes possible for you no matter where you are and what your situation, and your nervous system softens, and your consciousness widens. 00:10:26.559 --> 00:10:38.639 Your identity loosens of where you are right now, and your future self can influence what you do next to get to where you want to be. 00:10:39.200 --> 00:10:46.639 This gap is not conceptual, it's not woo-woo, it's not a dream, it is physical. 00:10:47.759 --> 00:10:51.039 And here's a second deep insight. 00:10:52.240 --> 00:10:55.360 Identity isn't who you think you are. 00:10:55.919 --> 00:10:59.440 Identity is a biological state that you're in. 00:10:59.919 --> 00:11:03.440 When you're low, your story drops with it. 00:11:03.759 --> 00:11:21.120 Like, for instance, something happens and you start spiraling into thoughts like, I can't do this, someone does something to upset you, and you are on a high and all of a sudden it all comes crashing down, and you think, I'm not ready for this, it won't work for me, nothing works for me. 00:11:21.360 --> 00:11:35.360 But when you're in a state where you feel strong and you feel like you're in your creative zone and you really feel confident and you trust yourself, those same events might happen, but it doesn't impact you. 00:11:35.519 --> 00:11:38.879 But it's like that saying, water off a duck's back. 00:11:39.279 --> 00:11:45.759 Because whatever story you're telling yourself actually follows the state that you're in. 00:11:45.919 --> 00:11:55.200 So first there's a state, and then you start telling yourself this story, like, oh, and then they did this, and then that happened, and then that happened. 00:11:55.440 --> 00:11:58.799 And then action follows the story. 00:11:58.960 --> 00:12:08.720 So if I'm thinking about what my ex, for instance, did to me, then I'll be going on about that in my head, and then my actions change. 00:12:08.960 --> 00:12:17.039 I might feel like I don't do as much, and then my reality follows what I'm doing in terms of the actions that I'm taking. 00:12:17.360 --> 00:12:24.320 This means you can't mindset your way out of a dysregulated identity. 00:12:25.360 --> 00:12:33.120 It's really about being honest with ourselves, and you can't journal your way into a regulated nervous system. 00:12:33.519 --> 00:12:43.200 It's not about thinking, it's about really allowing yourself to regulate your nervous system in a way that works for you. 00:12:43.440 --> 00:12:52.240 And you can't affirm your way into a new identity either if you have trauma or triggers or your nervous system

isn't aligned. 00:12:52.960 --> 00:12:58.399 Ultimately, it all comes down to: are you still anchored in survival? 00:12:58.720 --> 00:13:06.960 And if you are, and sometimes we can think we're not in survival when we actually are, then you aren't able to make that shift. 00:13:07.120 --> 00:13:09.360 You can't do that quantum leap. 00:13:09.919 --> 00:13:15.600 This is why so many people say, I know what to do, why can't I do it? 00:13:15.840 --> 00:13:26.480 Why is it that I keep procrastinating or I'm in freeze or I don't really believe that it's possible for me and I'm hesitant or it doesn't work? 00:13:27.120 --> 00:13:28.960 Because the goal changes. 00:13:29.120 --> 00:13:34.000 You have a desire for something new, but your state hasn't. 00:13:34.320 --> 00:13:36.240 It hasn't shifted. 00:13:36.960 --> 00:13:49.279 Inside the evolution of self, when we're actually evolving yourself, we work with your identity, not as a concept, but as a system, the whole system. 00:13:49.840 --> 00:13:54.320 Looking at your brain, your body, the whole system as a whole. 00:13:54.639 --> 00:13:58.080 You have subconscious predictive codes. 00:13:58.159 --> 00:14:00.000 It's wired into your brain. 00:14:00.240 --> 00:14:06.080 You will do things without thinking, and afterwards you'll be questioning yourself, why did I do what I did? 00:14:06.320 --> 00:14:12.879 They're like tiny internal scripts that determine what you do by default, it just happens. 00:14:13.200 --> 00:14:20.399 And we call these like micro-identity like algorithms, if we want to think about it as in social media. 00:14:20.639 --> 00:14:42.559 They decide how you set your boundaries, how you tolerate conflict, how you receive your money, how you hold visibility, how you are in relationships, how you interpret feedback, how you process emotions, how you even ask for what you want, and how you relate to the world. 00:14:42.799 --> 00:14:49.360 They are fast, it's automatic, and sometimes it's invisible, you don't even know you're doing it. 00:14:49.679 --> 00:14:57.600 But when we're inside that quantum gap, for a fraction of a second, they can loosen. 00:14:57.759 --> 00:15:17.519 It's like doors open, and in that moment you can choose differently, not by force, but by accessing a regulated state where your future identity can take over and help you make the right decisions about the right next move. 00:15:17.840 --> 00:15:20.720 This is the real quantum leap. 00:15:21.360 --> 00:15:24.000 And here's the part that no one really talks about. 00:15:24.240 --> 00:15:31.360 After every quantum leap, there's always a gap or a latency window. 00:15:31.600 --> 00:15:42.960 The delay between your internal shift of who you're now and allowing the external world to catch up with you. 00:15:50.320 --> 00:15:51.200 I really want to do this. 00:15:51.279 --> 00:16:02.639 So your state changes and you're like, yeah, I really want this, and all of a sudden you have clarity, and then your behavior evolves, and you want to take different actions, and then your results shift. 00:16:02.879 --> 00:16:06.240 But most people collapse during this gap. 00:16:06.399 --> 00:16:12.399 You're changed inside, but the external world hasn't reflected your new identity. 00:16:12.720 --> 00:16:28.879 And so then what we can do is we can assume that all this work I've done, all this sh leap I've done just didn't work, and then they slide back into old patterns, and then the old state takes over, so nothing actually even changes. 00:16:29.200 --> 00:16:38.240 But if you really look at how human evolution occurs and the architecture for it, the delay is not a failure. 00:16:38.399 --> 00:16:41.679 The delay is proof that it is happening. 00:16:41.919 --> 00:16:57.519 Your system has to rewire, your brain has to update, your algorithms of what you're focusing on has to shift, and your biology has to stabilize at that new level before it can be seen in a new space. 00:16:57.679 --> 00:17:03.519 Just like the atom disappears and reappears in a new space, there's this time lag. 00:17:04.400 --> 00:17:06.799 This is identity evolution. 00:17:06.960 --> 00:17:10.559 This is the leap, this is the gap doing its work. 00:17:10.960 --> 00:17:31.519 And the only reason people can't access this state is because sometimes we're tied to the old emotional identity, the old identity, the old emotions, way of thinking, and it keeps pulling us back into the state that we've always been. 00:17:31.680 --> 00:17:42.720 Not because you're broken, not because there's something wrong with you, but because you're still biologically unidentified with the old way of being. 00:17:42.880 --> 00:17:51.200 And this happens a lot when people have had trauma, they've got old trauma that they just get re-triggered over and over again. 00:17:51.839 --> 00:18:01.440 So let's just practice what entering the gap could look like, where you create some stillness and space for yourself. 00:18:01.680 --> 00:18:09.119 And really, the reason why I'm doing this podcast today is that we're coming up to Christmas and a lot of people will start doing more. 00:18:09.519 --> 00:18:19.920 But really, we should be taking some time to really think about where you want to be in 2026, the new you, the new year. 00:18:20.480 --> 00:18:47.759 So let's take a moment together if you are able to close your eyes and just for a few minutes, just relax and inhale gently and hold for two, sip in a little bit more breath, and excel slowly so you tell your nervous system it's safe for you to relax. 00:18:49.759 --> 00:19:04.400 And right at the end of that exhibit, notice the stillness, the empty space, the nothing, the spaciousness. 00:19:06.720 --> 00:19:10.160 This moment mirrors the quantum gap. 00:19:11.359 --> 00:19:21.279 Now bring your awareness into your heart center and just ask yourself, who am I? 00:19:23.440 --> 00:19:25.599 Allow whatever arises. 00:19:27.359 --> 00:19:30.880 Don't worry about the thoughts or the feelings. 00:19:31.359 --> 00:19:33.599 Allow whatever arises. 00:19:35.519 --> 00:19:38.880 Then ask, what do I want? 00:19:41.119 --> 00:19:43.599 What are my deepest desires? 00:19:45.519 --> 00:19:49.279 Let the thoughts, images, or sensations come. 00:19:52.000 --> 00:19:56.480 And then finally, what am I grateful for? 00:19:59.440 --> 00:20:06.880 And just return to your breath pure awareness, pure being. 00:20:08.640 --> 00:20:18.160 This right here is the state where evolution begins in the quantum gap. 00:20:18.880 --> 00:20:21.519 This is where you can choose differently. 00:20:22.079 --> 00:20:25.039 You can override old patterns. 00:20:26.960 --> 00:20:32.720 You can anchor in your future self, and you can regulate your biology. 00:20:33.519 --> 00:20:38.720 You can initiate quantum level evolution for yourself. 00:20:39.519 --> 00:20:52.640 Because evolving yourself or evolution isn't dramatic, it's actually microscopic, it's architectural, it's what's happening inside your body. 00:20:52.960 --> 00:21:01.200 It's a system, and the system upgrades one gap at a time. 00:21:02.640 --> 00:21:24.960 If this episode has expanded something inside of you, and if you can feel the next version of yourself forming or calling or asking you and telling you I'm meant for something more, then I invite you to a free masterclass that I have. 00:21:25.119 --> 00:21:27.680 It's to reset for success. 00:21:28.000 --> 00:21:32.160 It's like the identity architecture masterclass. 00:21:32.319 --> 00:21:47.359 You'll have an introduction to the three internal system upgrades every high achiever or ambitious person must master to evolve beyond survival and to activate their future self. 00:21:47.680 --> 00:21:49.839 The link is in the show notes. 00:21:50.079 --> 00:21:53.119 And if you haven't already subscribed, please do. 00:21:53.279 --> 00:21:59.119 And if you want to rate this podcast as well, I really deeply appreciate you. 00:22:00.000 --> 00:22:12.160 Until next time, please do stay regulated, stay receptive, and stay devoted to who you're becoming, not who you are right now, or your past. 00:22:12.640 --> 00:22:18.240 No matter what has happened in your past, I want you to know that you can change your life. 00:22:18.480 --> 00:22:21.759 It's science, and it starts with love. 00:22:23.200 --> 00:22:26.240 Love that creates the space. 00:22:26.720 --> 00:22:38.960 Love that allows you to say, it's okay for me to take up some space, to have some stillness, to create a gap. 00:22:39.279 --> 00:22:44.799 A gap that becomes an opportunity for you for your next quantum leap. 00:22:45.039 --> 00:22:47.359 I'm sending you so much love. 00:22:47.680 --> 00:22:54.240 Until next time, and remember, you can become who you were always meant to be.