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Are you a coach who's tired of drowning in complex
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marketing strategies? Welcome to Simple Client
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Attraction for Coaches, the bite -sized podcast
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that transforms how women coaches attract their
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ideal clients without the complicated systems
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or endless marketing tasks. I'm your host, Sandra
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Fidelis, and each episode I bring you straight
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talking conversations with successful coaches
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and industry experts who share their most effective
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now and discover how to fill your practice with
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dream clients and less time than it takes to
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enjoy your morning coffee. And today we have
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Jelinda Freeman, who is a certified life and
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relationship coach with over three decades of
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transformative experience spanning healthcare
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and personal development. 32 years of dedicated
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service helping others navigate their most challenging
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moments. Jelinda has witnessed firsthand the
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incredible resilience of the human spirit and
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the power of purposeful guidance. She has an
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unparalleled understanding of how stress, transitions,
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and life obstacles impact both professional performance,
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and personal fulfillment. And her mission is
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to empower others to move beyond surviving to
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truly thriving. Whether you're navigating career
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transitions, seeking work -life balance, or ready
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to overcome the obstacles holding you back, Jelinda
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provides the clarity, tools, and unwavering support
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needed to create lasting change. And today, Jelinda
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and I are going to be talking about What if you
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didn't have to prove yourself anymore? The truth
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about being seen, valued, and grounded in a world
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that runs on overwork. So welcome, Jelinda. Thank
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you, Sandra. It's a pleasure to be here. So,
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Jelinda, you've had quite a successful career
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in the healthcare industry. You've gotten to
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high heights in terms of your level in these
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organizations. And you've seen, I mean, I'm sure
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you've been this woman, right yourself. I'm sure
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you've seen a lot of women in the corporate space
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who are high achieving women, but they feel like
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they're always having to prove themselves, even
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after years of success. So why do you think that
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happens to us women? Oh, goodness. Well, the
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center so many of us grow up and with the belief
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that, you know, our worth and who we are is tied
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into just that we get praised for, you know,
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our achievements for pushing through getting
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through no matter what we have on our plate.
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and that becomes our identity. Even when we're
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already successful, there's that inner voice
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that's saying, don't slow down. They're not going
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to notice you. You got to keep moving. You got
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to keep doing more. It's 100 % exhausting. And
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because of constantly running for validation,
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that doesn't actually make us feel fulfilled
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at all. So when somebody stops chasing that validation
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and really starts um standing grounded in their
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own worth what shifts or rather what needs to
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shift in order for this woman to get there instead
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of asking yourself you know what i call the chatter
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in your head is am i enough i'm doubting i'm
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questioning and then that light switch gets turned
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on and you say i am enough And here's how I want
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to contribute. You make the decision differently
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and you say yes, because it aligns and people
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respond to you differently. They actually respect
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you more when you stop over proving and start
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owning your true value. Yep. Yeah. And it's a
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really scary thing to do if this is something
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that you've done your whole life or maybe career.
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Yes. What do you say to women who are like, you
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know, feeling like, hey, if I, if I make this
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shift, if I start to pull back from over giving
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or make myself a priority more, right? Uh, what
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if the things that I have worked so hard for,
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I, I start to lose them, right? Like that. I
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think that that is the main, um, Question in
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the minds of a woman who's over giving right?
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Like I've worked so hard for this and Now that
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I'm at this level whether it's you know financially
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or Professionally, I can't stop right? This is
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this is the only speed I know this is the only
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Way, I know how to show up. So what do you say
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to that? Start by asking yourself a simple question
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And that would be, if I wasn't trying to prove
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myself right now, how would I handle this? It
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changes everything. Maybe you delegate more.
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Maybe you learn to say no. Maybe you do the project
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in a simpler way. You find a different technique,
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a different avenue. That one pause creates space.
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For you to act from a sense of confidence Not
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from fear not from fear being not recognized
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or if I say no something's gonna happen And then
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when you consistently show up grounded like that
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people see you differently they start responding
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to you differently not because you did more but
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because you owned your place in the room and
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you have a better understanding of your true
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value and your worth. So is there one example
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that you can give us about yourself, you know,
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in your career where you were able to make this
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shift? In the one area that I was in for over
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17 years, I found myself being that woman that
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was on an executive level, but feeling that I
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had to continue putting the 16 to 18 hour days
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in. and not questioning anything else that I
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had to do in my mind that if I didn't do those
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things, I wouldn't be recognized or let me rephrase
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that. I would go back and say to myself, Jolinda,
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there's 20 other people in line waiting for your
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job. You must do more continuously. But when
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I did that, Sandra, I started to lose who I was.
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I started to lose my own identity. I started
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to lose
my purpose. And what drove me to do what
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I was doing? What was the reasoning behind or
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the rationale behind it? So the mantra that I
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always go off of is, you know, do more, be more
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and have more. But you do all that without losing
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yourself. And what does that really mean? And
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it's being able to make sure things are aligned
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with you. And that just keeps you busy and be
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more grounded on who you really are and what
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truly reflects your values. And are you saying
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the things that you live bigger and fuller without
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sacrificing yourself? In the process, you don't
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have to disappear under the weight of your own
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success. And I always go back to the word of
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dignity. Your dignity will always be intact.
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So always in the back of your mind, there are
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people waiting for my job, right? I have to be
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the best or I have to overwork or I have to over
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give and losing yourself, like losing the reason
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why you even loved the work that you're doing
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anyway, right? So when you lose that, when you
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lose the why, that's when I think things start
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to You know you start to see things happen on
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a physical level maybe even like the you know
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emotional or spiritual level and Yeah, and and
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I think that's one of the reasons why there are
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so many women struggling with you know and on
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those levels So thank you for sharing that I
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know that You know the corporate woman you've
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been her you've been at every level and in corporate
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So if you could give us one little nugget to
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take away, what would that be? Find your true
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authentic self. So when I say to you here right
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now, what are you going to do? What are you going
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to do today that truly is going to impact and
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truly is going to matter in the world? So if
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there's a woman listening who is wanting some
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guidance, wanting, you know, some handholding,
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wanting some clarity, whether she's a business
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woman, you know, has her own business or is a
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professional and is feeling overworked and maybe
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underappreciated, how can she connect with you?
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Going on the website and jelindafreeman .com
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And that's J -I -L -L -I -N -D -A F -R -E -E
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-M -A -N dot com. And go ahead and click on schedule
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a free consultation and we can get started. Yeah,
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you can go to Delinda's website and click on
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the top right. There's a button there where you
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can book a discovery call with her. We're also
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going to have the link directly to her calendar.
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So if this resonates with you, I would definitely
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reach out and speak to her about helping you
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to really align with what it is that is your
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why. Because once you do that, then you know,
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things start to align in multiple ways in multiple
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areas of your life. So thank you so much, Jelinda,
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for sharing this. Sandra, thank you for having
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me today. It was truly a pleasure and I'm grateful.
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Thank you. Thank you so much for joining us on
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