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If you're not a big on journaling daily or weekly, what about at the end of the month and doing a reflection, turning it into a meditation and doing some rewriting?
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All the people, the experiences, maybe the energies that you felt, opportunities that may have come up, and patterns that you have identified.
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It can be really revealing and inspiring.
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But we're gonna talk a little bit about it on today's episode.
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Stay tuned.
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You never know how or when you might be inspired.
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Love Hello ladies of gratitude.
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Welcome back to another episode of the High Vibes Lifestyle Podcast.
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How are you all doing?
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First and foremost, wherever you are in this huge world, every nook and cranny, wherever you are, you are feeling good, you're in good health, and things are going well for you.
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If things aren't so great, well, we would like to take a moment to send you an extra boost of love and light and know that we are sending that to you, sending you some extra high vibes and healing, if that's what is needed.
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All of us can do this.
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We've discussed this before, where it can take under a minute.
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Put your hand up, one hand over your heart, and with intention, send out that love to certain individuals, maybe places that you know need that extra healing, that extra good vibes.
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And it's so important because it's not always gonna be good everywhere at all times.
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That's just how it goes.
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That's what we can do for each other.
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We can do it from our homes, from our spaces, from our tree top, wherever we are, take a moment and do that.
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And you can also send it to yourself.
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It's all about the intention and sending it out.
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If you have been feeling a little, you know, funky, not that great, or whenever you get down, remember, shift to gratitude as quickly as you can.
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Just that tiny little bit.
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Think of something that you are grateful for having in your life, or a person that you are grateful for having in your life.
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Maybe it's being grateful that you have your eyesight, you have your ears, you're breathing well, you're in good health, you've got clean water, whatever it is, one thing can really change that frequency.
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You know, it's not always gonna be perfect.
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You're not always gonna feel wonderful, and life is not always going to be super sulky smooth, but we can do our best to find find a light somewhere in there.
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Know that we always have you in our thoughts.
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We hope that this this platform helps you and the good days, the bad days, the neutral days, all of it.
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So we appreciate you for tuning in.
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Thank you, thank you, thank you.
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So today we want to talk a little bit about journaling, reflecting, taking some time for retrospection.
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Really, it's important.
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Some people are so wonderful at doing a daily journal, writing everything down.
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Maybe they write something down first thing in the morning, or at the end of the day, these are things that happened, or this is how I was feeling.
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That's a wonderful practice.
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It's okay if you got away from it a little bit.
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It's alright.
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You can jump back on track.
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Sometimes, you know, if you've found that you didn't do it for a little bit, take a moment to maybe reflect on the last 30 days, or the end of a month, you know, maybe just do it at the last day of a month.
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Pull out your journal or s or diary or something that you have where it's your thoughts and insights about life and phases that you've gone through.
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Set up your space or set up a place where it's quiet.
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You're not gonna have any distractions by the phone or other people talking to you or anything for at least 30 minutes, maybe 40 minutes, however long you'd like to do and be comfortable and just start writing.
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Write to your guides, write to the universe, write to whoever it is that you like to speak to.
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Ask for their support during that time.
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Maybe they join these uh entities during a meditation or during this this journaling, and just start writing.
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You may know exactly what you want to write down.
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There may be some people that you want to write about, or you want to write to, or you want to forgive, whatever it is.
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Often when you take time to write, there's so much that can come up on that page that you'll be amazed more often than not, you'll be amazed what comes up.
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And it is, it's really great practice.
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I remember about 20 years ago somebody told me that you might have a lot of things that you remember in your head, you know, every day, gratitude or you know, things that happened, but when you just or something about writing stuff down, just a pen
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or pencil, write it down, write on good old-fashioned paper.
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It's it's amazing once you get going, what can come out.
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Uh when I did this, I came up with I've done it a few times, but there was one time where I just I was writing at the end of a month and I said, Oh, okay, I had three things that I wanted to really just get my my thoughts out on paper.
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It just was important of me to kinda emote on the page, let it go.
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That was how I'm trying to release.
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I had some some resentment towards someone, and this is not healthy for me, and so it's not bothering them.
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And I wrote down all the why was it bothering me so much?
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I mean, it'd been in my mind this I had this conversation.
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It doesn't know me that well, he's known me for about six or seven years, but he just knew me as a person that helped out.
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Some some conversations with the family and whatnot.
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He went one-on-one, it started out, we had a wonderful conversation, and then at one point the man just kind of you know pointed out that any this is coming from a person who I would categorize as as bitter, they're close to 80.
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Maybe these are things that they're reflecting on.
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They have adult children, so not to make any excuses, but they were definitely projecting.
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One of the things that he asked was about my family.
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Did I have brothers, sisters, this and that?
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I said no.
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And then he said, Okay, so parents are dead, and the way he just said the word, it was so so cold, so heartless, it was like, okay, yeah, I'm I'm aware they passed away.
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Now I believe their energies are always with me.
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Many souls have passed in my life and also in other people's lives.
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Everybody has their beliefs, but I'm never going to think that they're completely dead.
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Yes, I know the body, the corpse was there, but I believe that their souls do go on and their energies are around.
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So that's how I like to see it.
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I feel it.
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I know it in my my heart of hearts, and that was okay.
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I didn't need to share that with this person or really anybody.
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The point was the way that he had presented it and just, we don't really have anybody then.
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Nobody cares, nobody's got your back.
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That was cold.
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I said, Well, goodness, I
mean that's I thought I was just going to have a piece of a piece of fruit with this person and have a nice conversation, maybe a little bit of intellectual stimulation, but I guess he decided to go into this whole thing.
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Anyway, so I was glad that and grateful that I have the mind to reflect upon conversations rather than be super reactive in the moment.
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This is something that a lot of people do, they'll just spit out the mouth and probably would have called them names or said something nasty back.
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Not that he was intending to be nasty, it's just I think it's just his nature to kind of maybe detach from you know loved ones that had passed in his life and that was just how he was delivering it.
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To me, however it was, it came out in a in a cold, bitter manner.
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I understand people are are are projecting their different parts of their lives, they're taking on things that are maybe are people who have passed in their life and the way that they handle those emotions and they probably didn't want to get be emotional at that moment.
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So it's what it is, but me being a person who really appreciates compassion, sensitivity, and understanding.
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Some people might say, Well, you're you're too sensitive.
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I don't think that's an issue to be sensitive person.
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I think it's a wonderful thing for those of us who can be com empathetic and deliver deliver things with kindness, deliver words, sentiments with kindness.
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Some people, you know, it just it's just not their their strong suit.
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And I guess something, someone, one of my guides, universe source, want me to sit with this man and receive some sort of this message, and I just feel he was the vessel.
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So part of me says, Thank you, because yeah, it inspired me to go work on my will and check, make sure I've got life insurance and different things like that in order.
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It's important for everybody.
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Something I'd been wanting to do for a while, several years ago.
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Okay, I'm gonna get my will done, I'm gonna work on this.
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And I started it, but it's just I'm sure many people think, well, you know, it's okay, it's not an emergency.
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Emergencies happen.
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None of us fortunately know when something could happen.
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So I'll thank him for that and take some of the conversation for what it was and discard the rest.
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Yeah, I know he has a heart somewhere there.
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I appreciated that actually that he and his family do look
after me and have looked after me and been kind people, so we'll say that.
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So then I continued to do some more writing and things came up and I realized, oh, I had heard from somebody who I hadn't talked to in probably about three or four years, and it was just wow, it was just random.
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Had a cool conversation, that person, someone I'd worked with in corporate America.
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Then something popped up on a social media feed of about a a man who I would say, you know, maybe about eight years ago was he was yeah, he was downright just mean.
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I remember I was working, I was helping on a woman with a project in my spare time, yeah, some major creative things, and he didn't have the budget to pay.
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So I looked at it as, okay, well, I'm getting some some great experience here.
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I felt like, yeah, I was allowing him to take advantage of me.
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At times I just it just seemed there's a person that was a very angry man, angry with women, angry with a few exes that he had.
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He had some issues with with his son and he's gonna go through a divorce and child support and all these different things.
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And I don't know what the background was.
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He certainly had a thing saying all women are drama and all women are this and all that.
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Why I had to have those conversations while we were meant to be working, well, we spent a lot of time together, so sometimes some of that stuff came up.
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But one day he wanted some one of the photos, and I was almost done with an edit, but I got an emergency call.
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My mom was in ICU and she was not doing well, and I needed to travel about two and a half hours to go see her.
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And I of course I rushed, got to the hospital, got to hold her hand, but she was she was not stable, and they weren't even sure she was gonna make it.
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I remember telling him, you know, can I get these to you later?
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I told him this situation about my mother, and he said, I don't care.
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Fashion is is fashion and I need I need the photos.
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And I thought, wow, that's not even in the industry as a paid employee here, and it's just I'm trying to help somebody with some photography, and that I couldn't even sh say sure or how is she?
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Not one thing.
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Well, first of all, that that hospital did a great job, and that particular time my mom was okay and she had a short hospitalization and was able to return home, fortunately.
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When I got back to town during that time, I saw him I had
sent him his photos, and he not one mention of how is she or how are things or I'm sorry I spoke to you like that, nothing.
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Couldn't deal with it, but yeah, he when he wanted to talk about his family or he wanted empathy and understanding, you better be all ears and be there.
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I think I'd helped him about a year and a half, probably a year and a half too long.
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I walked away.
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He had been he had was really spiraling, it was just super, super negative, calling people names, starting fights and his business, and it just was off.
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But he had said that someday he was going to be on billboards and all this stuff, right?
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Well, I saw that he has done that and is doing quite well, and I was really happy to see I don't I'm happy for him.
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And it was just amazing when that came up, I said, wow.
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And I immediately was happy for him, but then when I thought about what how he what he had said during the time I had this emergency, you know, he evoked tears and I realized, wow, I've got this resentment.
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So if it needs to still heal.
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So I wrote about it, asked for help to release that off my heart, and send him the parts of him that still need you know to mature, that need healing, that need love.
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And I sent it from afar.
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I have never I haven't spoken to the person since that time that I parted ways.
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I know that he'll never forget.
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At that time, he's even said, You helped me in so many ways.
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So I I po focused on the positives.
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What did I learn?
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And I met so many people through that one person and all of the projects that we did together.
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And I decided to forgive him for that side of him that that came out.
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A lot of people would told me, nope, he's very disrespectful, he talks down to people, he he says these mean things, he doesn't care, he's all about himself.
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Okay.
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Well, that seemed to be true.
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I mean, he really was all about however I'm gonna make money and I'm gonna use whoever steps up.
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I mean, I had gotten him a bunch of models, we did a huge uh campaign, and they all did it for free, knowing though that he didn't have the budget.
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They got exposure.
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I just looked at it as you know what, no one can take that experience and some of the things that I learned during that time away.
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So I am grateful for that, and that's what I did.
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I shifted on the page to what are the positives?
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Yeah, it was just interesting that his face popped up.
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Normally don't see on a regular basis.
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And then there were just several other conversations or epiphanies or things that came up and went at the end to the page.
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It was like 16 things, and there were four new opportunities, four new people who had kind of shown up very much aligned with my energy with some projects that I had been working on.
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It was so amazing and beneficial, and always has been to write stuff down.
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But it was one time where it was just like, wow, that all that came out.
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I didn't even realize all that had uh transpired.
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I probably realized it, but when you write it down, it's like, oh, that's amazing.
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But not only was it amazing, it was fun, it was healing, I had some epiphanies, and it evoked emotions that obviously need to be released, thought-provoking and inspiring.
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Inspired me to take care of things and focus on some things that had as goals and the past and just get back to them.
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So all things to be grateful for.
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One other thing I forgot to mention earlier was that I wrote down some things, some characters, people that came up in some of my dreams.
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Some crossed my mind in daydreams, but some were in my subconscious during some dreaming, and they were on my mind as soon as I woke up.
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And it was one friend, a person I had known for I'd worked with for a few years, and we were we became really close, good friends, and after he had resigned, we were still remained in touch and we just had a really great friendship, and it was it was wonderful to just have deep conversations.
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He confided in me about a lot of things that had happened in his life and some battles he was dealing with internally, and it was just I just thought, wow, that's really it was just really sweet.
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And we had really deep, long conversations.
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We would have meals and it felt like, are we dating?
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Like what's what's happening here?
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For a few years I had always had deep, deep feelings for him, but I knew that he wasn't ready.
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I just knew that he was, you know, going on a on a path of personal development and seeking out a therapist, and that was very important.
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And I knew that he just wasn't probably wouldn't have been able to hear exactly what I was saying, uh, and maybe would have
dismissed some of my emotions just because, you know, he wasn't in a space to be able to to handle what was on my heart.
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And I said, No, I can't put myself in that situation.
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We show up as just as a friend.
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Don't even think romantically that was that.
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So I think it'd been maybe a good five years, maybe since we'd had some of our deep discussions may be four.
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And when someone pops up in your dreams like that, they say you're you're telepathically communicating, right?
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Your souls are are communicating.
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And I know I have always have a place in his heart, he'll always have a place in my heart.
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I'll never forget all the beautiful conversations we had, moments that we had.
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And even though I think the we probably both didn't speak up because, you know, we had such a great friendship and so many other factors.
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But yeah, he popped up during that particular month with all this amongst the the list of sixteen different energies and conversations and whatnot, and it was like, wow, okay.
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So I left it alone.
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I said to myself, should I reach out?
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What does this mean reach out, say hello?
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Let him know that you know I still think of him.
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But then I said, No, let's just leave it alone and maybe organically, if life wants to bring us back together someday, life will do that.
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So I left it alone.
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Sometimes, you know, someone will cross your mind or is heavily in your dreams and you know, someone from the past that you know that the energy is is present and you have this, your hearts are speaking, you know, miles away.
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That's okay.
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It doesn't always mean that something has to be done or that's a call to to reach out, but they are reaching out from soul to soul.
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So I took that as a gift.
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I say all of that to say you can take that the time to reflect upon maybe you know, dreams as well.
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So moving on, let's get to the nitty-gritty.
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I want to share a few questions.
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We got uh eleven to share.
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Well it's ten.
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plus a bonus if you want a round number ten.
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These are for people if you're not sure of what to write about, or maybe these can just kind of cue you to what what to focus on?
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Ask yourself.
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And of course these don't have to be done and at the end of a month or your every thirty days it can be, you know, you can ask yourself whenever you'd like.
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So looking back, what moments stand out most vividly and why?
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What surprised you in regards to growth?
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Where did you make progress?
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Regarding relationships of the conversations that you had either internally with yourself or with others?
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Were there any things that you wish that you had said better or had just had said in those moments?
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Did you set healthy boundaries?
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Regarding well-being, did you intentionally get enough rest?
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Did you make sure you got enough rest, hydration, exercise if that's something that you were trying to work on?
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What situations or people activated or caused feelings of stress, frustration, anger, sadness?
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Did you allow yourself to feel the tears, feel the emotion, and let it pass through you, dance it out, cry it out, just sit with it, say thank you, and let it go?
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If the next 30 days lived up to your expectations, what would be different if you didn't feel that you had a successful month or 30 days?
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Did you spend time with someone or have any conversations that left you feeling nourished on multiple levels?
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And maybe you jot down some of the ways that you you felt you got off that conversation you're smiling you're beaming you glowing and you said wow I really appreciate that person those moments what is a goal that you'd like to work on over the next 30 days and here's our bonus if there is someone that you need to forgive and this can be yourself as well but if there's someone other than yourself how do you intend to work on releasing the resentment and here are a few suggestions or ways that may help you forgiveness is a huge thing and depending on what some people are dealing with could be someone abused them, their sexual trauma or emotional trauma you may need to see a professional depending on where you however you feel aligned if you like going to therapy you know do your research on different therapists.
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Ask some of your friends or family if you're comfortable or maybe you just know some people who have referred therapists that you think would be good programs that may help you.
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And of course everyone has a different experience and they're looking for different for different types of they're gonna relate to different types of therapy in different ways.
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So definitely you know if therapy's not for you maybe you try healing sessions energy work.
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Do your research again with energy work
practitioners you know often if you go to your local you know great yoga place or a meditation center they may have a list of or people may have posted what they do and have their websites listed or maybe they have somebody to recommend.
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Take advantage and see if you can have a a 15 minute complimentary call with them and ask them how they help do they specialize in what you need help with.
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Another thing you might want to try is writing a letter to the the person who you'd like to forgive during a your own you know private meditative ceremony you know maybe you write down the things that you want to let go how they made you feel for what whatever they did on rice paper and then burn it or drop the the note in a large bottle of water like an ocean or a lake and send the energy off with love and light.
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If the person is still alive and you're feeling courageous perhaps you decide to arrange a video call or a phone call.
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Tell them right to their face or to their ear what you've lived with because of whatever they did.
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Tell them you're working on forgiving them you won't forget but it's important to forgive and you'd like to begin this healing journey.
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This is something that you may do with a practitioner or a therapist you may want to create a sacred space for yourself with a candle and invite your spiritual team and ask them to help you while you release this emotional pain and finally let it go despite this being difficult.
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But again you want to let it go with love and light in the best way that you can let that love that vibration of love know it's difficult but just send that love to the situation to that energy and ask for the love to transmute all that pain and that that angst and sadness and hurt into something more powerful in a higher frequency and to leave your body leave your heart leave your life doesn't mean that you won't forget it, but you need to forgive it for all the cells in your body for your mind peace of mind for your health you're doing it for yourself not necessarily for them.
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And you may want to join an in-person or online group that focuses on forgiveness where you'll feel supported there's many virtual groups and it's amazing you know with the technology zoom or video call services that groups can get together.
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Some people do it on Facebook some people do it you know maybe do it on Instagram or just you know through all these different platforms it can be incredibly helpful and you're meeting people from all over the world all walks of life and normally it's facilitated by somebody who is a healer or a therapist has dealt with some of the same things that you're dealing with.
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Often it's judgment free and supportive so if you don't have that in your everyday life don't want to go to family don't want to go to you know your friend group you don't want to necessarily just want to sit with a one-on-one therapist it is great to have these groups that share exercises maybe listen maybe all you need is to share your story and have people who who send you love and compassion back.
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These are a few a few suggestions if you're dealing with the release of resentment heavy resentment and it's a process.
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We're not saying that it's magic all of a sudden it's gonna release.
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When I did it with for myself the ceremony for the the gentleman that I saw on social media that I had done the photography for for a long time my little ceremony really I felt so much later almost immediately it was so helpful.
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But don't beat yourself up if you still feel little you know remnants of those that prickly energy you know days later.
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Take your time but set the intention and work with your spiritual team to help you release that pain.
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It's so important something for us to do for ourselves self-compassion self-love well thank you so much we appreciate you for tuning in listening we hope this platform and these exercises are helpful if you try them send us a note you tried it or you do it and how it made you feel yeah sending you lots and lots of love peace love and lots of gratitude lots of gratitude