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By now, you've heard me talk about patterns for a few episodes, those deep emotional patterns.
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And today I want to actually show you how I work with them, the real framework, not just the concept of it.
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You're listening to The Emotional Truth, somatic healing and nervous system regulation for the midlife woman who's done everything right and still feels stuck.
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I'm Leslie Turner, somatic practitioner and intuitive coach.
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I work in the body, I work intuitively, and I have a pretty uncanny ability to see what's actually running underneath.
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The stuff that therapy touched but never quite moved.
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Because understanding why you do something and actually stopping it are two completely different things, and that's exactly where we work.
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We cover people pleasing, mom burnout, perimenopause, relationships, money, and what it actually costs the woman who's always been the responsible one.
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Short episodes, real stories, specific enough to stop you in your tracks.
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Let's get into it.
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I want to tell you where this came from because it was not a branding exercise with a business coach.
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It happened in my son's bedroom.
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I was putting him to bed.
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He was two and a half, maybe, and I was lying next to him while he fell asleep.
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I was listening to his breathing, and my mind was wandering, thinking about my business and what I actually loved doing with my clients.
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Now, this was before I dropped my naturopathic license.
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So I was still a naturopathic doctor.
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And I was kind of going, What do I love and do I need a license for this?
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So this was well before that April decision.
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I realized what I loved was the hands-on bod, the somatic training I was just starting to integrate, which combined with the body work so well.
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The energetic medicine, learning to trust my intuition without second guessing it and seeing the cool things that I could pick up on, and getting underneath the stories that people were holding on to, to those deep patterned emotions, the ones we were kind of born with and certainly developed in childhood.
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I thought, this needs a name.
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How can I explain this to people?
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So I was like, body work, energy work, emotional release, B-E-E-R.
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The beer method?
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No, absolutely not.
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What in the world kind of clients would that attract?
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And then right after that was like, oh, somatic, energetic, emotional release, seer method.
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And as an intuitive, I'm basically a seer.
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So I remember thinking, holy shit, this is it.
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And I registered it.
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It actually came into the full registration and trademarked just this past spring.
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And I'm so effing proud of what it's become.
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Now, if part of you is thinking, las, this sounds pretty woo, stay with me for a second because there's real research behind why the body knows things before the mind does.
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There is a neuroscientist named Antonio Damasio who calls it the somatic marker hypothesis.
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Your past experiences will leave body-based markers, and those markers fire before your conscious thought catches up.
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So that tight chest, that stomach drop, that's not random.
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That is data.
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And there's a name for how you actually sense that data.
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It's called interoception.
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It's your nervous system constantly reading your internal signals, your heart rate, the tension in your stomach, your breath, before your conscious mind has words for any of it.
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This is the thing I'm always asking people to tune into in every single session.
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When I say, place your hand on your chest, what's happening here?
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I'm not making this stuff up.
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I'm pointing you towards a sense that you already have and probably haven't been taught to trust.
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That is basically the whole first move of the Seer method.
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Now I actually had this ability, this intuitive ability as a kid, and I shut it down real fast when it wasn't received well.
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I forgot I could sense things ahead of time, and I leaned into being more empathetic instead because it was easier to explain as I'm feeling what that person's feeling.
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It also took me years and a lot of client work to learn that I can support someone without absorbing what's theirs.
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I had a lot of headaches along the way.
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So let me actually walk you through what happens when someone's sitting across from me, whether that's virtually or in person.
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Before you come in, I do an intuitive read and I write out in a paragraph what I think or what I feel, what I intuit that your highest priority is to work on right now.
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Sometimes it's very
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Like I'll hear ask them about their left knee.
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And it turns out that that knee is connected to a conversation that you had months ago.
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And I'll tell you up front, you can tell me I'm full of shit on this, but here's what came through.
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And so far, nobody has.
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When you sit down and get settled, I tell you the intuitive blurb.
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I say this is what came through.
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And then I ask you, what's going on?
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What feels heavy or intense, triggering?
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What needs our attention today?
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Now, sometimes people didn't even know what they were coming in for.
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Um, they just know they need to be here, and then it all pours out.
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So it could be as simple as a conversation with mom that kind of spooked them, a wave of overwhelm that they can't name.
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I hear one from a lot of moms that they're just so overwhelmed, I don't know what to do about it, and we talk through that story first.
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And then when I feel like something needs to be seen on a deeper level, we do a somatic check-in, a couple of deep breaths, a hand over your heart or your stomach, and we find where in the body this story is actually being held.
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Are your shoulders tight?
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Is your stomach clenched?
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Is there pressure on your chest?
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One butt cheek that won't let go, whatever it is, we go there and we say, You are allowed to be here.
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This tension is allowed to be in my body.
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I see you, you're welcome.
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And then we ask what it's holding.
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Is it a memory, an image, a shape, a color, an emotion?
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Sometimes someone says sadness, sometimes it's I remember something that my childhood friend said to me.
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Sometimes it's just I'm seeing pink swirly lines, and sometimes it's I feel nothing.
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And that's information.
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If it's nothing, we just sit with it longer and allow it to be there.
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If there's an emotion, we welcome that too.
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And we say something along the lines of fear is allowed here, sadness is allowed here.
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Anxiety is allowed in my body.
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And sometimes something shifts.
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There's a movement, a lightning of the tension, it doesn't feel as intense.
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It shows us another layer.
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There's usually something else, a pattern, an image, a memory, and we follow it.
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We follow it until it wants to stop, until the tension eases or it moves position, or sometimes it gets more intense, and we follow that too.
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We're not judging it.
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We're not trying to get rid of it.
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If it's trying to tell us something, we're just there to listen.
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And this is where the real content usually surfaces.
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The actual memory or the belief underneath the sensation, who you had to become to survive something.
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If we're in person, this is where we move onto the table for body work.
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And I tune into what the tissue and the nervous system are holding.
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Often I will get an image, a phrase, a memory that comes through that I know is not mine, and I'll ask about it directly.
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What happened with your dad when you were five?
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What just happened with your mom?
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Did something happen on a girl's retreat?
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Sometimes I'll get an image of a dog or a teddy bear or it doesn't matter.
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It could be anything.
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And nine times out of ten, that's exactly where we need to go next.
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And the story underneath it comes forward on its own.
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Now, if we're virtual, this is where we go into visualizations or going deeper into the somatic patterning that we're talking through.
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We track what's shifting as we go.
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We follow the same thread we follow on the table.
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It's all connected.
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Every session ends with a little bit of homework, a phrase to say repeatedly, a remedy, time in nature, mindful movement, a conversation that needs to happen.
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Sometimes it's a meditation, sometimes it's one of my audios, and I'll hand it over to them and be like, listen to this a couple times.
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There's always a next step because the work doesn't end when the session does.
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And what happens after depends on the person.
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If old patterns start creeping back in, then we do a follow-up.
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If someone's deep in a pattern and getting triggered regularly, we space our sessions closer together so they're not being run by fear or anger.
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And for people who want more regular support, tuning into what's heavy or tense, that's often where I point them towards the membership, where we meet every two weeks virtually starting the week on a somatically rested note.
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That's the seer in a nutshell.
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Somatic, energetic, emotional release.
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It's not a theory, it's what actually happens in the room with each one of my clients.
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So if you've been circling the same issues for months, going over the same conversations, the same patterns without anything actually shifting, this might be your sign to try something from the bottom up instead of the top down.
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Something that starts in the body instead of the mind.
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If you've never actually asked your body what it's holding, try it right now.
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Put a hand on your chest or your stomach and just say, Is there anything here that I need to know?
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See what comes up.
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If you don't get anything, that's completely okay.
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It's just information.
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If you do get something, stay with it for a second and let it be there.
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Now, if you can't get a read on it, that's normal.
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It's easier with someone guiding you, honestly.
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I get help with this myself because doing this alone can feel a little silly at first, like you're making it up.
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And that's exactly what I'm here for.
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And if you're here and listening to this, paying attention to what your body is telling you, you're already doing this work.
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We'll see you next time.
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If this episode landed somewhere, don't just let it sit there.
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That feeling you have right now, that's not a coincidence.
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That's your nervous system telling you something is ready to move.
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I have a free pattern discovery call where we do exactly that.
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We find the pattern that's actually been running the show, and I give you one tangible next step to start integrating it.
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You can book yours at Leslie Turner.ca.
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And if this was the episode that made you pull over and think, wait, is she talking about me?
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Please subscribe.
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You know exactly who I'm talking about.
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Find me on Instagram at the Leslie Turner.
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And until next time, the fact that you're here and listening means you're already doing this work.